1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,800 Speaker 1: I recorded my wife cheating on me, but I don't 2 00:00:02,840 --> 00:00:03,920 Speaker 1: know how to tell her. 3 00:00:03,960 --> 00:00:06,360 Speaker 2: I know, that's just scratching my head. I'm like, I know, 4 00:00:06,400 --> 00:00:08,080 Speaker 2: you're cheating on me. Yeah, that's it. 5 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 1: That's it. That's A couple weeks ago, I decided I 6 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 1: wanted to surprise my wife with a kid free night out. 7 00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:17,000 Speaker 1: My parents live about an hour and a half away 8 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:19,520 Speaker 1: from us, and I arranged for the kids to stay 9 00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:21,840 Speaker 1: with them for the weekend. By the way, this comes 10 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 1: from Lost and Cheated on eight on the first reredit 11 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 1: or updates ever nutes. Usually when I go to my parents, 12 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: I am gone until later in the evening. We spend 13 00:00:30,560 --> 00:00:33,680 Speaker 1: all day there and leave around dinner time. This time, 14 00:00:33,800 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 1: I was dropping the kids off and immediately going home 15 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 1: so I could surprise my wife and we could go 16 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: out as soon as possible. I had made reservations at 17 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:44,120 Speaker 1: a nice restaurant and was hoping to go to a 18 00:00:44,159 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 1: few places for some drinks first. I left at eight 19 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:50,680 Speaker 1: thirty and was back in our housing plan before twelve thirty. 20 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:53,280 Speaker 1: As I pulled onto my street, I saw a truck 21 00:00:53,320 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 1: parked in front of my house. I did not recognize it. 22 00:00:56,600 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 1: I assumed it was someone seeing the neighbors, though, because 23 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:01,080 Speaker 1: it's not that on you usual for someone to park 24 00:01:01,120 --> 00:01:03,640 Speaker 1: in front of her house. I parked a few houses away, 25 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:06,760 Speaker 1: thinking I would sneak into the house and surprise my wife. 26 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:10,920 Speaker 1: Instead of pulling in the dryway and going in the garage, 27 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 1: I went in through a basement door. I was as 28 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:16,759 Speaker 1: quiet as possible, but as soon as I walked in, 29 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:19,960 Speaker 1: I heard her making sounds from the floor above. When 30 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: I first heard it, I thought she was just by herself, 31 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:25,000 Speaker 1: maybe having some personal time. I didn't want to interrupt 32 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: her privacy and embarrass her, so I was going to 33 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: go back to my car and just go in the 34 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 1: garage so she would know I was home. Then I 35 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:36,080 Speaker 1: heard a man's voice. I immediately felt sick. My heart 36 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:38,480 Speaker 1: felt like it was going to explode out of my chest. 37 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 1: It is hard to describe how I felt in this moment. 38 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:45,120 Speaker 1: I decided to go upstairs. I had no desire to 39 00:01:45,160 --> 00:01:47,400 Speaker 1: confront them. I just wanted to see what was going on. 40 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 1: I moved slowly and quietly and went up the stairs. 41 00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:53,559 Speaker 1: It's like a horror movie. The door was halfway open, 42 00:01:54,040 --> 00:01:56,440 Speaker 1: the kitchen was empty, but I could tell they were 43 00:01:56,480 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 1: in the living room. It was obvious what was going on. 44 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:01,400 Speaker 1: At this point. By the set, there was no way 45 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: for me to look in the living room without them 46 00:02:03,440 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 1: seeing me. I pulled out my phone and opened my 47 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:09,920 Speaker 1: camera app. I put my phone just around the corner 48 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:11,839 Speaker 1: of a wall. Why are you recording them? 49 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:13,080 Speaker 2: That's so weird. 50 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:16,240 Speaker 1: This part is so hard to write. I could see 51 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:18,840 Speaker 1: my wife with a man I didn't recognize. I won't 52 00:02:18,840 --> 00:02:21,000 Speaker 1: go into detail on what they were doing, but I 53 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:24,640 Speaker 1: think you can figure it out. I started recording it. 54 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:27,000 Speaker 1: I was thinking that I needed a record of it 55 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 1: for whatever I decided to do in the future. I 56 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:31,519 Speaker 1: don't think so. I just stood there in my kitchen 57 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: watching this all unfold on my phone screen. I felt 58 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 1: like I could just scream at any moment. For some reason, 59 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: I just froze completely. This went on for several minutes. 60 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 1: She finally jumped off of him and made a comment 61 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 1: about going to the bedroom, and they went upstairs. She 62 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:49,640 Speaker 1: even made a comment about how much time they had left. 63 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:50,120 Speaker 2: Yikes. 64 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:52,800 Speaker 1: I walked into the living room and found the guy's pants. 65 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:54,639 Speaker 1: I took his wallet out and took a picture of 66 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:57,639 Speaker 1: his driver's license. I know his name and his address. 67 00:02:57,680 --> 00:03:00,440 Speaker 1: Now I've never met him. I have no idea how 68 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:02,919 Speaker 1: my wife knows him. I left the house the same 69 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:05,480 Speaker 1: way I entered. I went back to my car and cried, 70 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:07,880 Speaker 1: like the pathetic man I am. I decided to watch 71 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:10,399 Speaker 1: the video to make sure it recorded. I watched it all. 72 00:03:10,639 --> 00:03:14,679 Speaker 2: Dude, dude, dud, you're kind of like abusing yourself. 73 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:18,279 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're putting yourself through it over and over. Oh, 74 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:20,640 Speaker 1: I'll spare the details, but I sat in my car 75 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 1: for at least half an hour. I couldn't drive to 76 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:25,800 Speaker 1: my parents and get the kids, as I would have 77 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 1: to explain why. I decided that I would pull into 78 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:31,240 Speaker 1: the driveway, open the garage, and just pretend like I 79 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 1: was there to surprise her. I took my time getting 80 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 1: into the house. I made a lot of noise. When 81 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 1: I saw her, she was very flustered, asking me why 82 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 1: I was home, et cetera. She was in a robe 83 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 1: and said she was just getting ready for a bath. 84 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:47,680 Speaker 1: I told her about my plans, and she seemed excited. 85 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:49,840 Speaker 1: She poured us both a glass of wine and said 86 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 1: we should pregame before getting ready. I don't think I 87 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 1: talked much really. She took me into the living room. 88 00:03:55,360 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 1: I'm not proud of what I let happen. I could 89 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: faintly see the guy sneaking down stare and going to 90 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: the basement stairs, but I didn't say or do anything. 91 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:06,960 Speaker 1: I just let my wife continue doing what she was 92 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: doing to me. Since that day, I have watched the 93 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 1: video of her repeatedly. I can't bring myself to make 94 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,880 Speaker 1: any decisions on what I should do next. She seems 95 00:04:14,920 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 1: to know something is wrong with me, because she's asked 96 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:20,080 Speaker 1: a few times if I'm okay. I feel worthless, and 97 00:04:20,240 --> 00:04:22,560 Speaker 1: every time I hit a low point, I watched that 98 00:04:22,680 --> 00:04:25,679 Speaker 1: video again. I feel like I've watched it at least 99 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 1: ten times a day since I caught them. 100 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:30,919 Speaker 2: Dude, why are you doing that to yourself? 101 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:33,240 Speaker 1: Stop? Stop? 102 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 2: Just call her out, call her. 103 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:37,720 Speaker 1: Out, please for yourself. 104 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 2: I don't know why you're putting. 105 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 1: Yourself through this. Yeah, there is an update, but divorce 106 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:44,799 Speaker 1: her like you have the proof. 107 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:47,799 Speaker 2: You have the proof, But maybe he doesn't want to divorce. 108 00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:48,360 Speaker 2: I don't know. 109 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:50,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. They have kids. Oh, this is 110 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:53,280 Speaker 1: an update. I stopped watching the video after reading all 111 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:55,640 Speaker 1: the comments on my first post. It has helped clear 112 00:04:55,680 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 1: my mind and allowed me to focus on next steps. 113 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:00,640 Speaker 1: This has allowed me to most be back to my 114 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 1: normal self for both my kids and my job. I've 115 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:06,480 Speaker 1: gone through my wife's phone and found nothing. I've searched 116 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:09,040 Speaker 1: the guy's name from the driver's license. I've figured out 117 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:11,800 Speaker 1: how they met. He's a landscaper. She was calling some 118 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 1: a few months ago to clean up our yard and 119 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 1: ended up getting some mulching and clean up done. 120 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:17,480 Speaker 2: Uh huh, Yeah that's what it was. 121 00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:20,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why she was gone. I've driven past his 122 00:05:20,800 --> 00:05:24,040 Speaker 1: house many times. I think he is single, as I 123 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:26,520 Speaker 1: couldn't find any records of other people living at that address. 124 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:29,200 Speaker 1: I've only seen a truck parked in the driveway when 125 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:31,480 Speaker 1: I have driven by. I've been avoiding my wife after 126 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:33,320 Speaker 1: the kids are in bed to try to limit one 127 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 1: on one time. I don't want any awkward conversations, and 128 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:38,159 Speaker 1: I also don't want to have spicy sleep. I have 129 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:41,160 Speaker 1: mostly been successful with this, but did slip up one 130 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:43,279 Speaker 1: night when I had a little too much to drink. 131 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 1: I hated myself for it the next day. I don't 132 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 1: believe she has seen him since the day I caught them. 133 00:05:48,400 --> 00:05:52,280 Speaker 1: I've been paying attention anytime she's gone. I obviously can't 134 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:55,360 Speaker 1: track her one hundred percent. I've read about Apple air tags, 135 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:56,360 Speaker 1: but I use Android. 136 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:59,080 Speaker 2: What is he doing? You're making this so much harder. 137 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:01,320 Speaker 2: You already have the you already know the facts, but 138 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 2: you're just like if she does it again. 139 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't understand what you're waiting for. 140 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:07,760 Speaker 2: You kind of like defending her. 141 00:06:07,880 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 1: It feels like, Oh, he's just in this state of 142 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:13,120 Speaker 1: shock and he's just gotta keep cruising until something kind 143 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:13,839 Speaker 1: of pulls him out. 144 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:15,920 Speaker 2: He's making it very obvious that something has happening. 145 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:17,920 Speaker 1: Yes, I'm guessing any app I would put on her 146 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:21,000 Speaker 1: phone maybe discovered. I have installed a doorbell camera on 147 00:06:21,040 --> 00:06:22,960 Speaker 1: her house, though, so I can always see the street. 148 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 1: When I did this, my wife didn't say anything. We 149 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 1: continue to do things as a family as we normally would. 150 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 1: I have done my best to not let her know 151 00:06:31,040 --> 00:06:32,920 Speaker 1: what I know and to continue to be a good 152 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:34,840 Speaker 1: dad to my kids. So the weird thing I'm dealing 153 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:36,599 Speaker 1: with now is that she's planned a night out with 154 00:06:36,640 --> 00:06:38,919 Speaker 1: a friend for drinks. It's a friend from work, so 155 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:41,040 Speaker 1: I don't know her at all, and I'm not connected 156 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:43,479 Speaker 1: with this person on social media. When she told me, 157 00:06:43,600 --> 00:06:45,560 Speaker 1: I made up some excuse about work and said I 158 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: couldn't watch the kids. She ended up getting our neighbor 159 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:51,000 Speaker 1: to agree to babysit. Now I'm debating if I should 160 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:53,159 Speaker 1: follow her to really see if she's meeting her friend 161 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 1: or a guy. It seems like I'm heading towards a 162 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 1: confrontation either way when I just want everything to go back. 163 00:06:58,640 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 1: I'm going to leave my house soon and pretend to 164 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 1: be going to work. I'll probably just go to a 165 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 1: bar to kill time until I can drive by the 166 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:07,320 Speaker 1: place she's supposed to be going to. I'm filled with 167 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 1: effing dread about all of this. I just don't understand why. Ope, 168 00:07:10,520 --> 00:07:12,679 Speaker 1: He's like, I need to get more proof. You already 169 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 1: know she cheated on you. Why do you need to 170 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 1: track her. 171 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:18,240 Speaker 2: Here's also the thing he's making it worse for the 172 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 2: relationship and the family. 173 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:22,400 Speaker 1: Yes, for the kids. There are kids involved in this. 174 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:26,120 Speaker 2: You're lying to yourself, you're lying to her, You're lying 175 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 2: to the kids. This should have been resolved or at 176 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:30,600 Speaker 2: least confronted in the beginning. 177 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:33,160 Speaker 1: In the beginning, it's just you're making it so much harder. 178 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 1: Update too, I've had so many messages asking how I 179 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: am doing that. I felt I should probably post an 180 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:41,520 Speaker 1: update on the night when she was going out with 181 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 1: her friend. I still pretended I had work and left 182 00:07:44,160 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 1: the house after the babysitter arrived. I went to a 183 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 1: bar and had a few drinks. Then I drove over 184 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:51,280 Speaker 1: to the restaurant she said she was going to. I 185 00:07:51,320 --> 00:07:54,040 Speaker 1: saw her car in the parking lot. I'm not gonna lie. 186 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:58,120 Speaker 1: I was on edge and incredibly nervous, despite the drinks earlier. 187 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 1: I was so worse I would walk in and see 188 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 1: her with that guy. 189 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 2: I think he's into this. I think he likes to 190 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:07,480 Speaker 2: like the detective. I think he likes like kind of 191 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:09,640 Speaker 2: like the the trauma detective. Right here. 192 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:11,600 Speaker 1: I was hoping to sneak in and get a look 193 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:14,960 Speaker 1: without being seen, but that failed miserably. She saw me 194 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:16,840 Speaker 1: as soon as I walked in the door. She was 195 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:19,120 Speaker 1: with her friend and not the guy we had that 196 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 1: what are you doing here? I thought you were working? 197 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 1: Expected conversation. I told her work ended early, so I 198 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 1: wanted to stop by to say hi since we had 199 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 1: a babysitter. I left after a couple drinks and went 200 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:31,200 Speaker 1: home to relieve the sitter. So many of you have 201 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 1: commented on my last posts that I need to confront her. Yes, 202 00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:36,600 Speaker 1: and I decided in that moment that I would. I 203 00:08:36,640 --> 00:08:39,240 Speaker 1: couldn't hold it in any longer. I got the kids 204 00:08:39,240 --> 00:08:41,280 Speaker 1: to bed and waited for her to come home. I 205 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:45,880 Speaker 1: watched the video again. Dude, just stop to remind myself 206 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:49,200 Speaker 1: of what happened. You already know what happened. When she 207 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:51,920 Speaker 1: got home, she was surprised I was still up and 208 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:54,520 Speaker 1: apparently could tell from the way I looked that something 209 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:57,240 Speaker 1: was wrong. I poured it all out on her. It 210 00:08:57,320 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 1: probably wasn't fair of me. I didn't even let her 211 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 1: sit down. I told her everything. I played part of 212 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 1: the video to show her what I saw. I called 213 00:09:05,080 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 1: her some harsh names, said she ruined our lives. In 214 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 1: that moment, I was incredibly angry. She was very upset, 215 00:09:12,520 --> 00:09:15,440 Speaker 1: heavily crying and shaking. She told me how terrible she 216 00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:18,320 Speaker 1: felt about everything that happened. I told her she had 217 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 1: to tell me everything that happened with that guy, and 218 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 1: she laid it all out. She cheated on me twice 219 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 1: with him after the time I saw them. She cut 220 00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 1: things off because she knew it was wrong and she 221 00:09:28,280 --> 00:09:31,040 Speaker 1: loves me. That's not how love works. I asked her 222 00:09:31,080 --> 00:09:33,360 Speaker 1: for proof, but she said she had already deleted and 223 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:36,560 Speaker 1: blocked him on her phone, Facebook and Instagram. She did 224 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:39,720 Speaker 1: tell me that he's single and knew she was married. 225 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 1: She asked me to delete the video, but I refused. 226 00:09:42,520 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 1: She asked me why, and I really didn't have any 227 00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:46,880 Speaker 1: other reason other than I felt I needed to hold 228 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:48,960 Speaker 1: onto it for now. She got a little angry at 229 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:51,120 Speaker 1: that and asked if I was keeping it to watch 230 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:51,480 Speaker 1: it again? 231 00:09:51,679 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 2: Probably, bro, you've been watching it. 232 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:56,320 Speaker 1: She's been watching it. He's been binge watching it. 233 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:57,679 Speaker 2: It's just hell man. 234 00:09:57,840 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 1: It was very late at this point, so we decided 235 00:09:59,880 --> 00:10:02,080 Speaker 1: to go to bed and talk more the next day, 236 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 1: when we had more time to think. She continued to 237 00:10:04,679 --> 00:10:09,240 Speaker 1: apologize repeatedly for what she did. We slept separately that night. 238 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:13,120 Speaker 1: Over the next few days, things between us seemed better. 239 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:15,160 Speaker 1: I felt some relief that it was all out in 240 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:17,880 Speaker 1: the open, and we continue to talk and it feels 241 00:10:17,880 --> 00:10:20,200 Speaker 1: like we're on the path to staying together and moving 242 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:21,439 Speaker 1: past this out. 243 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:22,760 Speaker 2: I don't understand this. 244 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 1: I don't get this relationship. He just wants to put 245 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:26,560 Speaker 1: himself through pain. 246 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:28,960 Speaker 2: And I think, yeah, mast masochist. 247 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:31,320 Speaker 1: I have made it clear that she is never to 248 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 1: see or talk to that guy again. While things feel 249 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:36,800 Speaker 1: like they are improving, I am still struggling to trust her. 250 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:39,200 Speaker 1: Worse yet is that I have a trip coming up 251 00:10:39,240 --> 00:10:41,679 Speaker 1: from work and I will be gone for a few days. 252 00:10:41,880 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 1: I told her that I'm not comfortable with leaving right now, 253 00:10:44,160 --> 00:10:46,680 Speaker 1: but I can't skip this trip. My boss made it 254 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 1: clear that I needed. She said I could put cameras 255 00:10:49,160 --> 00:10:50,400 Speaker 1: up in the house to keep an eye on her 256 00:10:50,440 --> 00:10:53,040 Speaker 1: if it would make me feel better. Sadly, I may 257 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:55,560 Speaker 1: do that. I'll be gone for at least three days. 258 00:10:55,640 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 1: And by the way, you can join us live every 259 00:10:58,280 --> 00:11:02,720 Speaker 1: weekday at three PMPST. Just tap her. Overall, things are okay. 260 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:05,480 Speaker 1: Kids are oblivious that anything is going on, and it 261 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 1: seems that slowly my wife and I will eventually get 262 00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:10,959 Speaker 1: back to normal. I hope so at least. I'm a 263 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:13,240 Speaker 1: little ashamed to admit that I have watched the video 264 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:15,480 Speaker 1: a few times since all of this. 265 00:11:15,760 --> 00:11:17,959 Speaker 2: A few that's what he calls a few times. 266 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:20,280 Speaker 1: I'm thinking that I should probably delete it so it's 267 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:22,400 Speaker 1: gone for my life. I don't know what's wrong with me. 268 00:11:22,920 --> 00:11:26,160 Speaker 1: You're just like reliving the pain and okay. The thing 269 00:11:26,200 --> 00:11:28,040 Speaker 1: is that he doesn't even have the excuse of, oh, 270 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 1: I want to keep it in case we divorced, or 271 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 1: because I want a divorce. He's just keeping it to 272 00:11:32,280 --> 00:11:33,880 Speaker 1: put it like he just wants to go through it 273 00:11:33,880 --> 00:11:34,720 Speaker 1: over and over and over again. 274 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 2: It seems like he's not even angry at his wife. 275 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 1: It's weird. It's a very weird dynamic.