Speaker 1: Welcome to Can'tfully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and
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Speaker 1: back to yat another cafully Reckless episode with your girl Jess. Hilarious. Listen.
Speaker 1: I'm just now getting my voice back as I have
Speaker 1: been recovering from all the karaoke I've been doing over
Speaker 1: the holidays. Y'all, It's been a lot of fun. You know,
Speaker 1: everything from eating to karaoke to man. Me and my
Speaker 1: family know how to partty. We know how to have
Speaker 1: fun on the holidays, and we like to set our
Speaker 1: own trends. I hope all is well with everybody. I
Speaker 1: wish everybody the best of times, as we are in
Speaker 1: a very trying season right now, a lot of people
Speaker 1: are going through things. Before I start the episode, I
Speaker 1: want to take the time and just tell everybody you know,
Speaker 1: you are not alone in your season of need. You
Speaker 1: are not alone in your season of trial and tribulation.
Speaker 1: You are not alone in your season of loneliness. You
Speaker 1: are not alone in your season of anti like You're
Speaker 1: not alone. You guys are not alone. I don't want
Speaker 1: anybody to ever make the mistake of thinking that they
Speaker 1: are alone. Right now, I'm even going through shit. You
Speaker 1: understand what I'm saying. And while everybody's problems are not financial,
Speaker 1: people are still having problems. Everybody's problem is not mental illness.
Speaker 1: You know your mental health depleting. Everybody doesn't have the
Speaker 1: same issues. However, we're all struggling with something and that's
Speaker 1: what we have in common. And that's where we can
Speaker 1: kind of look at each other and say, I got you.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Even if I can't give
Speaker 1: you exactly what you need to help you sore or flourish.
Speaker 1: We're all going through something, so we can all meet
Speaker 1: each other at that level of humility, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, and strive for greatness together, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, because that's where we all can relate. Love you, guys.
Speaker 1: Hope all is well, man, just I really really do
Speaker 1: hope all is well, or hope all gets better. Let's
Speaker 1: just say that, because I know all isn't well with everyone.
Speaker 1: You know, I hope all gets better, man, prayerfully all
Speaker 1: gets better. All right, we're gonna jump right in. This
Speaker 1: is a long, long, long, long PDF, but they actually
Speaker 1: took the time to compose this message the right way.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm seeing punctuation marks and everything. Look somebody
Speaker 1: passed English with flying colors. All right, here we go. Okay,
Speaker 1: this is long. Please fix my mask or I'm going
Speaker 1: to jail. Bitch, Do you want me in prison? The fuck? Uh? No,
Speaker 1: I don't. I got into an argument with my son's
Speaker 1: father's girlfriend on Facebook. Okay, so you baby for have
Speaker 1: a girlfriend? All right? Cool? Within the argument, she said
Speaker 1: that's why she spends more time with my son's father
Speaker 1: than he does with his son. Also, her friend chimed
Speaker 1: in and said, what he don't do for my son?
Speaker 1: Who flexes about a man not taking care of his son? Right,
Speaker 1: especially if you're the friend of the bitch that he with.
Speaker 1: That'll make sense unless that girlfriend is doing some talking,
Speaker 1: because how else would her homegirl know that? Right? Let's
Speaker 1: fast forward to the fourth of July. I popped up
Speaker 1: to get my son and the girl was there. I
Speaker 1: never said anything to her directly, but I was disrespectful,
Speaker 1: saying things like why do you have this bitch around
Speaker 1: my son? Etc. I met up with my son's father
Speaker 1: after that. He apologized and said he was wrong. So
Speaker 1: from July ninth to August twenty sixth, never heard from
Speaker 1: the man again. He called me August twenty sixth. Okay,
Speaker 1: so that was about six weeks all right. He called
Speaker 1: me August twenty sixth and asked if he can get
Speaker 1: my son. I said no because he hadn't reached out
Speaker 1: in over six weeks. Listen, I'm a mathematician. Okay, I
Speaker 1: said six weeks and she goes. She followed up in
Speaker 1: the next progres she said it was six weeks okay.
Speaker 1: Now here is September. The girlfriend kicked him out. Oh,
Speaker 1: so he was living with her. He's asking me for
Speaker 1: money and to sleep on my couch. I said no
Speaker 1: and try to be cool with him. My son had
Speaker 1: a party September thirtieth. He didn't come to the party,
Speaker 1: nor did he get him a gift. Okay, so I'm
Speaker 1: guessing it was his birthday, and yes he was invited.
Speaker 1: I cussed his ball headed ass out again. Now Here
Speaker 1: is October seventeenth. He texted, I want to see my son.
Speaker 1: I told him take me to court. Now November seventeenth comes.
Speaker 1: I got a new job. It'll be working every other weekend.
Speaker 1: So I reached out and asked if he can babysit
Speaker 1: for me. He said, yes, babysitting his own son. It
Speaker 1: ain't babysitting if it's a child booth. I asked him
Speaker 1: where he will have the baby. Then he replied, where
Speaker 1: I fucking pay bills. Mind y'all, he ain't done shit
Speaker 1: for my son since April, but you're paying big bills
Speaker 1: child support. Ho. M okay, I know you talking shit.
Speaker 1: I'm getting to the point now. I ain't talk my
Speaker 1: shit yet. I got some shit to talk to you, though.
Speaker 1: So I told him I really need him to start
Speaker 1: getting the baby. All I need from him is to
Speaker 1: introduce me to his girlfriend the correct way. He said no,
Speaker 1: because he's still mad I violated her in front of
Speaker 1: his old family. Okay, so it's the same girlfriend. Okay,
Speaker 1: he went back to her. Mind you I am one
Speaker 1: hundred pounds soaking wet, that's why you so goddamn angry
Speaker 1: little self, and she's about five hundred pounds. Damn. Hold up,
Speaker 1: and that's me being nice. Hey Yo. Anyways, So I said,
Speaker 1: my baby not going over there until we can have
Speaker 1: a conversation. He said that I just wanted to have
Speaker 1: control over the situation and that our time to have
Speaker 1: a convo will come so should I let the baby
Speaker 1: go without me having a conversation with the girl, because
Speaker 1: I feel any bitch that mentioned a kid in an
Speaker 1: argument don't need to be around the kid. Okay, I
Speaker 1: can see how you feel like that. Also, if she
Speaker 1: feels the way toward me, why the fuck that she
Speaker 1: needs to be around my kid because she's his father's girlfriend.
Speaker 1: Fix my fucking messages. Whatever you say, I'm gonna listen.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for reading, and sorry for the
Speaker 1: grammar errors I didn't proofread. Shaking my head, I know
Speaker 1: it's long. Sorry well for you not to have proof read.
Speaker 1: You did better than half the motherfuckers that write me. Girl.
Speaker 1: I love that you broke up your sentences and shit,
Speaker 1: you broke up the little paragraphs and all of that,
Speaker 1: and you did well, and there weren't many grammatical errors.
Speaker 1: I must say, all right, let's get into your mess
Speaker 1: Hold up, hold up, I know the shit getting good,
Speaker 1: But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.
Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen. Girl. Since she said
Speaker 1: you're gonna listen to everything, I will tell you you
Speaker 1: do sound better. You do. I'm not gonna call you
Speaker 1: better because I don't know you I don't know every
Speaker 1: little thing that you guys go through. Again, you're just
Speaker 1: giving me the basics of the story and all the
Speaker 1: key components, which is all I needed to help fix
Speaker 1: your mess. I will say, you do sound better. You
Speaker 1: know if I can repeat that, whether his girlfriend it's
Speaker 1: six hundred, seven hundred a thousand pounds, that's who he's with,
Speaker 1: and that is the woman that you will have to
Speaker 1: respect him for. You know what I'm saying. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna go so far as to say, oh, you have
Speaker 1: to respect her, because listen, I sit down with Laverne
Speaker 1: Cox a long time ago, right, and she did say
Speaker 1: one thing to me that I can honestly say I
Speaker 1: took from her, and I took it with grace, and
Speaker 1: I apply it now to my life. We have to
Speaker 1: stop thinking people, oh us respect You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: We have to stop thinking that. Because I remember having
Speaker 1: a conversation with her. It was about a previous argument
Speaker 1: I had had with the trans woman, right, and I
Speaker 1: was telling her, I don't give a fuck what you do.
Speaker 1: You will respect me. You have to respect me, and
Speaker 1: you're gonna respect me. And she said, very very calmly,
Speaker 1: you know, what makes you think they have to respect
Speaker 1: you like they don't. They actually don't have to, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. You know, you can't control what
Speaker 1: somebody else feels. You can't control how somebody else act
Speaker 1: towards you. You can't. You can only control yourself. So
Speaker 1: whether you're doing something to be respected or not, that
Speaker 1: doesn't mean the opposing person is going to respect you,
Speaker 1: or or even has to. So to that point, I
Speaker 1: don't want to say you have to respect her. I
Speaker 1: don't want to say you have to respect her, but
Speaker 1: there needs to be a level of respect as it
Speaker 1: involves your child, you know, because whether you want to
Speaker 1: admit it or not, you do need his dead. You
Speaker 1: need his dad. You need his dad for numerous reasons.
Speaker 1: You know, you just got a new job. Congratulations, a
Speaker 1: better job, and I love that, working mom, I love that.
Speaker 1: But you're gonna need help. And instead of spending money
Speaker 1: on someone to babysit him, he can get his own son,
Speaker 1: you know, because apparently he was doing bad. You know,
Speaker 1: there was a season where he wasn't as financially stable
Speaker 1: as you were, or even as his girlfriend was. I
Speaker 1: don't know why he got put out, but apparently he
Speaker 1: went through a rough time. Now, that's not your business,
Speaker 1: neither your concern. You know, you're not obligated to feel
Speaker 1: sorry about that or to fill any type of concern
Speaker 1: for him, you know what I mean when it comes
Speaker 1: to that, But as a co parent to your child,
Speaker 1: I do think it's very important that you at least
Speaker 1: acknowledge that he is doing something. He's paying bills in
Speaker 1: the house that he lives in. I mean, he couldn't
Speaker 1: comes down your couch until he got itself together, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. So the fact that he's in
Speaker 1: a position now to be able to pay bills in
Speaker 1: the house that he sleeps in, which he is supposed
Speaker 1: to do, you know, I think that's commendable on his part,
Speaker 1: and it actually sets a great example of what a
Speaker 1: man is to your son, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I don't know how old the baby is, but it's
Speaker 1: never too early to teach or to show that you
Speaker 1: can be a role model to your child, especially as
Speaker 1: a father. You understand what I'm saying, So let's just
Speaker 1: commend him on that. Moving forward, you got into an
Speaker 1: argument with your son's father's girlfriend on Facebook. Typical, very
Speaker 1: fucking typical. Yeah, I'm saying it. I don't care that's typical,
Speaker 1: and that it's assnine and idiotic and it's immature. And
Speaker 1: we can lead that to the goddamn kids, that's what
Speaker 1: we can do. We can lead that to the high school,
Speaker 1: middle school kids. We can lead that to the TikTokers
Speaker 1: and shit like that. Okay, we ain't doing that, And
Speaker 1: by we, I mean you and me. I can't control
Speaker 1: his girlfriend. I can't control his girlfriend's friend. You know
Speaker 1: I'm talking to you. You're my client. You know I
Speaker 1: love saying that. You know what I mean, But no,
Speaker 1: you know you're the one that I'm helping. So I'm
Speaker 1: going to talk to you. I don't really cared to
Speaker 1: give a damn too much about the girlfriend and the
Speaker 1: friend fussing with you online. You're too mature for that,
Speaker 1: or are you? You got to turn the mirror on yourself.
Speaker 1: And you know, because I'm sure just as dumb as
Speaker 1: you thought she looked arguing with the baby mother, who
Speaker 1: is you? You looked just as dumb arguing with the
Speaker 1: girlfriend of the baby father. You understand what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: because arguing for what? Ask yourself that question, because if
Speaker 1: you would have never gotten into that argument. You wouldn't
Speaker 1: have never given her the chance to even tell you, Oh,
Speaker 1: I spend more time with your baby father and his
Speaker 1: own son. She's already stupid to even say that, Like
Speaker 1: for that to be a rebuttal like what? Okay, clap
Speaker 1: it up for being with a nigga who don't want
Speaker 1: to be I'm sorry, I'm going way to ghetto being
Speaker 1: with a man who rather spend more time with his
Speaker 1: girlfriend than his fucking child. You understand what I'm saying. Yeah,
Speaker 1: clap it up for that. I just would have just
Speaker 1: laughed at her and repeated everything back to her that
Speaker 1: she said to me, just in a more in a
Speaker 1: more sarcastic way to make her feel stupid, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Instead, you went along with it and
Speaker 1: you got upset, and then our friend chimed in and
Speaker 1: said what he don't do for your son? Now, I
Speaker 1: said this briefly in reading your story, but I didn't
Speaker 1: want to stray too far away from reading his story.
Speaker 1: I wanted to get it all out. You know, her
Speaker 1: friend is only getting that information from her right like that,
Speaker 1: the friend is constantly listening to her friend vent about
Speaker 1: her man and about you and about your child. So
Speaker 1: the friend is just she. She ain't even nobody to
Speaker 1: be worried about. That's just somebody on her side, just
Speaker 1: like if you had somebody on your side. The chiming
Speaker 1: and go at the girlfriend. You understand what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Fuck them for the time being. Now, you said on
Speaker 1: the fourth of July when you popped up to get
Speaker 1: your son and the girl was dead, you said you
Speaker 1: never said anything directly to her, but she was disrespectful,
Speaker 1: saying shit like why do you have this bitch around
Speaker 1: my son? Et cetera. Now, if she was right there
Speaker 1: in the room, she should have got up and smacked
Speaker 1: shit out you. I'm just not even gonna hold you,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, because how would you feel?
Speaker 1: How would you feel if you're dating a man and
Speaker 1: his baby mother come in the house. Don't even look
Speaker 1: at you, don't. You ain't got to say hi. She
Speaker 1: ain't got to say hi to you, don't. But the
Speaker 1: first thing she said to the baby father is why
Speaker 1: do you have this bitch around my son? And then
Speaker 1: you said, et cetera, you ain't even tell me everything
Speaker 1: you said. So I know your loys got smart real bad,
Speaker 1: real disrespectful, and in this woman's house you popped up
Speaker 1: that ain't that ain't his house, or he wouldn't have
Speaker 1: got put out of it to begin with. You popped
Speaker 1: up in her house. I know your child is there.
Speaker 1: I know that, and you are by right as a
Speaker 1: mother go get your child from any fucking where he is.
Speaker 1: But the disrespect in her house was crazy just because
Speaker 1: you don't like her. I also want to know how
Speaker 1: y'all ended like you know, all y'all over each other
Speaker 1: because he apologized to you and said he was wrong
Speaker 1: for having her around. Why would he be wrong for
Speaker 1: having his girlfriend around his girlfriend that he lives with,
Speaker 1: around his son. She gotta be around your baby bull
Speaker 1: because he lives there. But you would want to slap
Speaker 1: the shit out of your boyfriend's baby mother if she
Speaker 1: came up in your house asking, not even directly to you,
Speaker 1: to your baby dad, I mean to your boyfriend, why
Speaker 1: is this bitch around my son? Uh? Because bitch, this
Speaker 1: is my house and both of y'all can get the
Speaker 1: fuck out. You know what I'm saying. If I ain't
Speaker 1: slap you, I would have said that. And I know
Speaker 1: I know even though you're a hundred pounds soaking wet,
Speaker 1: your little ass a jumping somebody's face. I can just
Speaker 1: tell you will, and you'll put your hands on somebody
Speaker 1: if you have to. I can tell that as well.
Speaker 1: I was one hundred pounds as well before soaking wet,
Speaker 1: just as mad as I wanted to be, because I
Speaker 1: kept getting tried because everybody thought I was little and
Speaker 1: I couldn't fight. So every chance I got, I proved
Speaker 1: that I could fight. But now that I'm older and
Speaker 1: I'm looking back, it's like, Mmm, what the fuck that
Speaker 1: I have to prove that for it? You understand what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So I went a little left with that.
Speaker 1: That was off topic, but you know you needed that,
Speaker 1: You needed me to say that. Moving forward, So, from
Speaker 1: July ninth to August twenty sixth, those six weeks you
Speaker 1: said you haven't heard from you didn't hear from him
Speaker 1: at all. Then he called you on the twenty six
Speaker 1: accent if he could see his son. Why say no, babe?
Speaker 1: Why say no? Well, you told me why. Your reason
Speaker 1: to that is he hadn't reached out in over six weeks. Okay,
Speaker 1: So does he not reach out for the rest of
Speaker 1: his life or does he reach out after the six weeks?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, because if he wouldn't have
Speaker 1: reached out at all, still right now to this day,
Speaker 1: that would be an even bigger problem. But the fact
Speaker 1: it took it took him six weeks. If it had
Speaker 1: took him three weeks, you still would have had a
Speaker 1: problem with it, because it's not really about how long
Speaker 1: it took for him to hit you back or to
Speaker 1: even inquire about his son. It's not about that, and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna wait for your update to tell
Speaker 1: me what else it's really about. Now. A couple months ago,
Speaker 1: the girlfriend kicked him out and he started asking you
Speaker 1: for money in a sleep on the couch. You said no,
Speaker 1: but you did say you try to be cool with him.
Speaker 1: I commend you on that. That was very mature of you.
Speaker 1: But it's the only reason that you tried to be
Speaker 1: cool with him is because he got kicked out and
Speaker 1: he wasn't with the girlfriend no more. Because girl, I'm
Speaker 1: onto your ass, or at least I think I am,
Speaker 1: and I'm almost never wrong in these instances. Okay, then
Speaker 1: you said just son at a birthday party. Now listen,
Speaker 1: you never confirmed whether it was his birthday or not,
Speaker 1: but I'm just gonna automatically assume it was until you
Speaker 1: tell me otherwise. He didn't come, Yes, that was fucking wrong.
Speaker 1: And you said he was invited. That was wrong. I
Speaker 1: don't care what you're going through unless you laid up
Speaker 1: in a motherfucker hospital, or unless somebody wanted you know,
Speaker 1: your mom, your dad, somebody in your immediate family laid
Speaker 1: up in a hospital or something. If you physically could
Speaker 1: not make it. You were supposed to be at that
Speaker 1: boy's party October seventeen. If he texted you and said
Speaker 1: he wanted to see his son, his son, I'm sorry, y'all. Son,
Speaker 1: you told him to take you to court? Why bitter
Speaker 1: as hell? Bitter as hell? Why would you rather go
Speaker 1: to girl? Let me tell you something. You know how
Speaker 1: many men actually needs to be taken to court? Do
Speaker 1: you know that to see their son? Do you know
Speaker 1: how many men actually have to fight the courts to
Speaker 1: see their child because the mom is a bitter bitch?
Speaker 1: Do you no? No, no, seriously, that's a real question
Speaker 1: I'm asking you. Do you know I got a couple
Speaker 1: of them in my family, A couple bitter ass cousins
Speaker 1: who still want their baby father, and because he didn't
Speaker 1: want to be with them but he was still a
Speaker 1: good dad, they took his ass downtown. They took him
Speaker 1: to put him on child's supple or I'm gonna fix you. Nah,
Speaker 1: you're not really fixing anything. You're you're not fixing anything.
Speaker 1: You're fucking everything up. To be honest with you, you're
Speaker 1: fucking up this man's life, to be honest, and you
Speaker 1: honestly not doing a good deed by your child, especially
Speaker 1: if you don't need to take the father to court.
Speaker 1: I think that was very fucking wrong of you. And
Speaker 1: mind you, you said you listening to everything I'm saying,
Speaker 1: and I'm being hard on your main ass, because why
Speaker 1: take him to court if you're still gonna need him,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? That's his father forever. That
Speaker 1: doesn't stop being his father ever, just you know, just
Speaker 1: because you're upset, that's his dad. And after all those
Speaker 1: times you told him no, I come in to begin
Speaker 1: on still not giving up completely. He hits you. He
Speaker 1: gives you time. I see there's a pattern. He knows
Speaker 1: how angry and mad and aggressive his baby mother can get,
Speaker 1: so he likes to give you time because you're taking
Speaker 1: time bomb. I see that he gives you time to
Speaker 1: cool the fuck off, whether that be days or weeks
Speaker 1: or whatever, and then he hits you up again to
Speaker 1: see the baby. Now, a man that you take the
Speaker 1: court is a mother the fucker that gives up or
Speaker 1: never wanted to see the child from the beginning. Those
Speaker 1: are the men that you take the court because you
Speaker 1: only use the courts when you need them, when you
Speaker 1: have exhausted all options. If you love me, you'll listen
Speaker 1: to this commercial and then we'll be right back. Now
Speaker 1: you said November seventeenth, congratulations, you got a new job, boo,
Speaker 1: and you will be working every other weekend. You reached
Speaker 1: out to him. You reached out and next, if you
Speaker 1: can babysit for you. First of all, it ain't babysitting
Speaker 1: if it's my fucking son. Letting you know that now,
Speaker 1: we ain't doing that shit. And don't ever call him
Speaker 1: a babysitter. And because you ain't paying that nigga, you
Speaker 1: will never pay him to keep his son, and he
Speaker 1: ain't sitting on your baby. I got that from my
Speaker 1: mother because my mom works in childcare administration. She's a
Speaker 1: licensed daycare provider professional right. She has a preschool and
Speaker 1: people used to get fucked up. She hates the term babysitter.
Speaker 1: She said, I do not sit on nobody's babies. I
Speaker 1: love that, and I'm passing it on you. So shit,
Speaker 1: pass the torch to whoever you can late in life,
Speaker 1: all right. And when you ask him if he can babysit,
Speaker 1: if he can have his baby, if he can keep
Speaker 1: your baby for you, he said yes, what he would you.
Speaker 1: He wasn't bitter about it at all. He said yes,
Speaker 1: even after you gave him a hard fucking time. Take
Speaker 1: me to court. No, you can't say him, y'all. Ain't
Speaker 1: hear from you in six weeks. I hate you Da
Speaker 1: da da da da da da da da, your girlfriend
Speaker 1: of fat bitch. All that I know. He got all
Speaker 1: that shit, He got all them words and some more
Speaker 1: from you, and he simply said yes, why because he
Speaker 1: probably missed his fucking son. That's not a guy. You
Speaker 1: take the court bow again, and I'm gonna keep saying it,
Speaker 1: hard head. So then you get in his business. I
Speaker 1: ask him where he will have the baby? No has
Speaker 1: a mother. You have the right to answer that question,
Speaker 1: and as the dad, he has the right not to
Speaker 1: fucking tell you, because when my son is in my care,
Speaker 1: I take care of him the way I see fit.
Speaker 1: When he's in your care, I don't ask where he is.
Speaker 1: You take care of him the way you see fit.
Speaker 1: But giving his previous situation to understand why you wanted
Speaker 1: to know, because he had just got put out, you
Speaker 1: didn't know he got back with the girl. I can
Speaker 1: clearly see that he replied to you, where I fucking
Speaker 1: pay bills? That means he's had it and he fed
Speaker 1: up with your ass. He had enough for your smart
Speaker 1: ass mouth. You say, mind you, he ain't done shit
Speaker 1: for my son since April, but you paying big bills
Speaker 1: child support. HO say, look at your bitter ass again,
Speaker 1: bitter bitter? What you doing? He ain't done shit for
Speaker 1: your son, probably because he can't even fucking see him.
Speaker 1: You mean to tell me you want me to send
Speaker 1: you money. You want me to jump when you say
Speaker 1: jump to get the little baby whatever you need. But
Speaker 1: I can't even fucking lay my eyes on him. I
Speaker 1: can't see him. I can't come get him. You ought
Speaker 1: to be ashamed of yourself for that bullshit. I'm serious now,
Speaker 1: Later on in your passage, I do see that you.
Speaker 1: You know, you said, okay, cool, I want to just
Speaker 1: be able to have a conversation with the girl I did.
Speaker 1: He told you no, you know he was still mad,
Speaker 1: you know, over what y'all previously had went through. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And then I doubt, highly doubt
Speaker 1: that that was only his decision. His girlfriend probably said, nah,
Speaker 1: fuck her. The way she disrespects me, she'll never get
Speaker 1: a conversation out of me, and by right, she's correct
Speaker 1: about that. However, she has to be around your child,
Speaker 1: has to be around your child, so something has to give.
Speaker 1: Something has to give, either y'all buried or hatchet. You apologize.
Speaker 1: I don't care what you're saying. I don't care if
Speaker 1: you cuss me out. I don't give a fuck. You
Speaker 1: have to apologize, that's the only way, and then she
Speaker 1: has to apologize. The reason why I say you have
Speaker 1: to apologize to her is because you disrespected the fuck
Speaker 1: out of her in her house, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And if she's six hundred pounds, man, she'd probably took
Speaker 1: all day to get up and slap the shit out you.
Speaker 1: I told you, you know what I mean, you'd have
Speaker 1: been halfway home by the time she stood up. Fully
Speaker 1: you understand I'm saying, if she's that size, you know,
Speaker 1: But that's why I say you need to apologize to her.
Speaker 1: But y'all too, furthermore, need to meet up, you know,
Speaker 1: and just talk outside of him. No homegirls, no nothing,
Speaker 1: just talk between y'all. You lay out on the table
Speaker 1: the issues you had with her. Hopefully she can do
Speaker 1: the same. If you don't want to do that, fuck it,
Speaker 1: don't do it. But what you asked me, well, should
Speaker 1: you let the baby go without you and the girl
Speaker 1: having a conversation? I believe so. I believe it wouldn't
Speaker 1: be Listen, your son's dad is not gonna let anybody
Speaker 1: harm him. And if you think that, you need to
Speaker 1: let me know that too, because then that's the bigger issue.
Speaker 1: But from what it sounds like he would never put
Speaker 1: his son in any harm or danger, whether it's the
Speaker 1: fucking girlfriend or not. It seems like you know he
Speaker 1: wouldn't do that from just you know, just from what
Speaker 1: I'm gathering here, Man, answer to this last question, and
Speaker 1: then I'm gonna need you to update me. You need
Speaker 1: to write me back. You said, I feel any bitch
Speaker 1: that mentioned a kid in an argument don't need to
Speaker 1: be around a kid. I agree with you to a
Speaker 1: certain extent. And then you said, also, if she feel
Speaker 1: away towards me, why the fuck she need to be
Speaker 1: around my kid. I already answered that because she's with
Speaker 1: his dad. She don't owe you nothing. I want you
Speaker 1: to understand that she don't owe you shit, just like
Speaker 1: you don't owe her shit. Y'all don't owe each other
Speaker 1: nothing unless y'all want to move forward amicably and be
Speaker 1: at least mutual, be at least neutral for this kid.
Speaker 1: Because right now it's a little village. It's not just
Speaker 1: you and his dad raising him. It's you, his dad,
Speaker 1: and the girlfriend. Because that's a household. You understand what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So she be there every time he there,
Speaker 1: and she's going to have a help and assisting his
Speaker 1: father with him because she lives there. I don't care
Speaker 1: if it's making dinner, if it's checking homework, if it's
Speaker 1: whatever it is. Bull you have to be okay with that.
Speaker 1: And in order for you to be okay with that,
Speaker 1: you got to get over that man fully. And just
Speaker 1: like that, we've come to the end of yet another
Speaker 1: carefully reckless episode. Listen, I'm fixing mess up and down,
Speaker 1: left and right. And I actually love this story. And
Speaker 1: I'm actually curious as to know what she will say,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, what she will update me with.
Speaker 1: You know, it just seems like I know she loves
Speaker 1: her baby, and I know she's a good mother, and
Speaker 1: I know that she don't really want to take that
Speaker 1: niggative court. She don't want to take him to court.
Speaker 1: I just feel like she's very hurt. She's tired of
Speaker 1: feeling like he puts the girlfriend before her son. I
Speaker 1: understand that, but that is his girlfriend, and it don't
Speaker 1: look like she going nowhere, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: And neither is the baby. He's not going anywhere, and
Speaker 1: neither is she the mother. She's not going anywhere. Neither
Speaker 1: one of them are going anywhere, right, So they have
Speaker 1: to figure out a way that they can all at
Speaker 1: least be neutral. It's no way. It's no way, because
Speaker 1: then that will affect the fucking child. And that is
Speaker 1: the last thing that you want for the baby to
Speaker 1: see some unhealthy co parents and shit going on. That's
Speaker 1: why me and my son's dad we do it, and
Speaker 1: we do it the best. I still haven't seen another
Speaker 1: co parents in bond like me and my son's dads.
Speaker 1: Man Jerome crystal clear on every decision. That man, don't
Speaker 1: make a decision for my son unless you run it
Speaker 1: past me and vice versa, even with my boyfriend. Listen,
Speaker 1: it's a village. My son is being raised not only
Speaker 1: by me and my son's dad. It's me, Rome, which
Speaker 1: is his dad, my boyfriend, Chris, Jerome's girlfriend. You know
Speaker 1: my mom, my boyfriend's mom, you know my dad. So
Speaker 1: it's a village. My sister, his aunt, you know my
Speaker 1: son's aunt, Rome's brother, which is Ashton's uncle. It's a village.
Speaker 1: And it takes that. You understand what I'm saying. You
Speaker 1: can't do it by yourself. You can't. Well, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: change that now. You can do it by yourself. Mother's
Speaker 1: out here, do it every day. I I know mother's
Speaker 1: you can. But why when you don't have to, Why
Speaker 1: would you? Because that shit ain't easy. It's not easy
Speaker 1: raising a boy by yourself, even with the help of
Speaker 1: the fucking courts. It's better when you have a parent
Speaker 1: that wants to be present, and that is his father, right,
Speaker 1: So update me, girl, and I already concluded the episode,
Speaker 1: I just went back into it. I really really liked
Speaker 1: this story. This shit touched me, It really really did
Speaker 1: touch me, and I got a little soft spot for
Speaker 1: the mean girl, hit me, bad girl, love y'all, and
Speaker 1: then my deepest pan boys. Peace Can't Fully Reckless is
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