WEBVTT - Baby's Mom vs. Daddy's Girlfriend 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.320 Welcome to Can'tfully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and 0:00:03.360 --> 0:00:17.440 the Black Effects. Oh Shit, we on a air. Welcome 0:00:17.480 --> 0:00:21.640 back to yat another cafully Reckless episode with your girl Jess. Hilarious. Listen. 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:24.159 I'm just now getting my voice back as I have 0:00:24.280 --> 0:00:27.160 been recovering from all the karaoke I've been doing over 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:30.639 the holidays. Y'all, It's been a lot of fun. You know, 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:38.000 everything from eating to karaoke to man. Me and my 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:40.040 family know how to partty. We know how to have 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:43.839 fun on the holidays, and we like to set our 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:47.920 own trends. I hope all is well with everybody. I 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:51.320 wish everybody the best of times, as we are in 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:54.280 a very trying season right now, a lot of people 0:00:54.280 --> 0:00:57.320 are going through things. Before I start the episode, I 0:00:57.400 --> 0:01:01.920 want to take the time and just tell everybody you know, 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:06.720 you are not alone in your season of need. You 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:09.480 are not alone in your season of trial and tribulation. 0:01:09.640 --> 0:01:12.920 You are not alone in your season of loneliness. You 0:01:13.000 --> 0:01:16.480 are not alone in your season of anti like You're 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:19.640 not alone. You guys are not alone. I don't want 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:22.720 anybody to ever make the mistake of thinking that they 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:25.760 are alone. Right now, I'm even going through shit. You 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:30.920 understand what I'm saying. And while everybody's problems are not financial, 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:35.600 people are still having problems. Everybody's problem is not mental illness. 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:39.319 You know your mental health depleting. Everybody doesn't have the 0:01:39.360 --> 0:01:43.920 same issues. However, we're all struggling with something and that's 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:46.600 what we have in common. And that's where we can 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:50.840 kind of look at each other and say, I got you. 0:01:50.840 --> 0:01:52.920 You know what I'm saying. Even if I can't give 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:58.800 you exactly what you need to help you sore or flourish. 0:01:59.160 --> 0:02:02.240 We're all going through something, so we can all meet 0:02:02.240 --> 0:02:05.920 each other at that level of humility, you know what 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:08.959 I mean, and strive for greatness together, you know what 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:12.960 I'm saying, because that's where we all can relate. Love you, guys. 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:15.399 Hope all is well, man, just I really really do 0:02:15.639 --> 0:02:20.760 hope all is well, or hope all gets better. Let's 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:24.480 just say that, because I know all isn't well with everyone. 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:28.560 You know, I hope all gets better, man, prayerfully all 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:31.839 gets better. All right, we're gonna jump right in. This 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:35.480 is a long, long, long, long PDF, but they actually 0:02:36.400 --> 0:02:40.680 took the time to compose this message the right way. 0:02:40.720 --> 0:02:44.440 I'm sorry, I'm seeing punctuation marks and everything. Look somebody 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:48.320 passed English with flying colors. All right, here we go. Okay, 0:02:48.320 --> 0:02:51.200 this is long. Please fix my mask or I'm going 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:55.120 to jail. Bitch, Do you want me in prison? The fuck? Uh? No, 0:02:55.160 --> 0:02:58.520 I don't. I got into an argument with my son's 0:02:58.560 --> 0:03:01.720 father's girlfriend on Facebook. Okay, so you baby for have 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:04.920 a girlfriend? All right? Cool? Within the argument, she said 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:08.200 that's why she spends more time with my son's father 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:13.040 than he does with his son. Also, her friend chimed 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:15.120 in and said, what he don't do for my son? 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:19.200 Who flexes about a man not taking care of his son? Right, 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:21.320 especially if you're the friend of the bitch that he with. 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:25.840 That'll make sense unless that girlfriend is doing some talking, 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:30.640 because how else would her homegirl know that? Right? Let's 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:33.240 fast forward to the fourth of July. I popped up 0:03:33.600 --> 0:03:35.920 to get my son and the girl was there. I 0:03:35.960 --> 0:03:38.720 never said anything to her directly, but I was disrespectful, 0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:40.920 saying things like why do you have this bitch around 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:44.640 my son? Etc. I met up with my son's father 0:03:44.800 --> 0:03:47.520 after that. He apologized and said he was wrong. So 0:03:47.600 --> 0:03:51.080 from July ninth to August twenty sixth, never heard from 0:03:51.080 --> 0:03:56.200 the man again. He called me August twenty sixth. Okay, 0:03:57.000 --> 0:03:59.840 so that was about six weeks all right. He called 0:03:59.840 --> 0:04:02.640 me August twenty sixth and asked if he can get 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:05.760 my son. I said no because he hadn't reached out 0:04:05.760 --> 0:04:09.280 in over six weeks. Listen, I'm a mathematician. Okay, I 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:11.600 said six weeks and she goes. She followed up in 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:14.440 the next progres she said it was six weeks okay. 0:04:15.240 --> 0:04:18.080 Now here is September. The girlfriend kicked him out. Oh, 0:04:18.120 --> 0:04:20.839 so he was living with her. He's asking me for 0:04:20.920 --> 0:04:23.680 money and to sleep on my couch. I said no 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:26.520 and try to be cool with him. My son had 0:04:26.520 --> 0:04:29.279 a party September thirtieth. He didn't come to the party, 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:30.920 nor did he get him a gift. Okay, so I'm 0:04:30.920 --> 0:04:34.080 guessing it was his birthday, and yes he was invited. 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:37.120 I cussed his ball headed ass out again. Now Here 0:04:37.240 --> 0:04:40.880 is October seventeenth. He texted, I want to see my son. 0:04:41.080 --> 0:04:45.400 I told him take me to court. Now November seventeenth comes. 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:48.960 I got a new job. It'll be working every other weekend. 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:51.400 So I reached out and asked if he can babysit 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:56.880 for me. He said, yes, babysitting his own son. It 0:04:56.880 --> 0:04:59.880 ain't babysitting if it's a child booth. I asked him 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:02.480 where he will have the baby. Then he replied, where 0:05:02.480 --> 0:05:05.840 I fucking pay bills. Mind y'all, he ain't done shit 0:05:05.920 --> 0:05:08.240 for my son since April, but you're paying big bills 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:12.880 child support. Ho. M okay, I know you talking shit. 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:14.960 I'm getting to the point now. I ain't talk my 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:17.320 shit yet. I got some shit to talk to you, though. 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:19.479 So I told him I really need him to start 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:22.400 getting the baby. All I need from him is to 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:25.960 introduce me to his girlfriend the correct way. He said no, 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:29.120 because he's still mad I violated her in front of 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:31.599 his old family. Okay, so it's the same girlfriend. Okay, 0:05:31.800 --> 0:05:34.280 he went back to her. Mind you I am one 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:38.000 hundred pounds soaking wet, that's why you so goddamn angry 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:42.520 little self, and she's about five hundred pounds. Damn. Hold up, 0:05:43.839 --> 0:05:48.000 and that's me being nice. Hey Yo. Anyways, So I said, 0:05:48.040 --> 0:05:50.080 my baby not going over there until we can have 0:05:50.120 --> 0:05:53.080 a conversation. He said that I just wanted to have 0:05:53.120 --> 0:05:56.920 control over the situation and that our time to have 0:05:56.960 --> 0:05:59.719 a convo will come so should I let the baby 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:03.920 go without me having a conversation with the girl, because 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:06.760 I feel any bitch that mentioned a kid in an 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:10.560 argument don't need to be around the kid. Okay, I 0:06:10.560 --> 0:06:13.080 can see how you feel like that. Also, if she 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:15.200 feels the way toward me, why the fuck that she 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:19.400 needs to be around my kid because she's his father's girlfriend. 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:23.360 Fix my fucking messages. Whatever you say, I'm gonna listen. 0:06:24.320 --> 0:06:26.599 Thank you so much for reading, and sorry for the 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:29.760 grammar errors I didn't proofread. Shaking my head, I know 0:06:29.839 --> 0:06:33.680 it's long. Sorry well for you not to have proof read. 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:36.479 You did better than half the motherfuckers that write me. Girl. 0:06:36.920 --> 0:06:39.160 I love that you broke up your sentences and shit, 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:41.560 you broke up the little paragraphs and all of that, 0:06:41.920 --> 0:06:45.200 and you did well, and there weren't many grammatical errors. 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:48.040 I must say, all right, let's get into your mess 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:50.000 Hold up, hold up, I know the shit getting good, 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:52.320 But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. 0:06:52.360 --> 0:06:56.159 If you love me, you'll listen. Girl. Since she said 0:06:56.160 --> 0:07:00.200 you're gonna listen to everything, I will tell you you 0:07:00.240 --> 0:07:02.960 do sound better. You do. I'm not gonna call you 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:05.320 better because I don't know you I don't know every 0:07:05.360 --> 0:07:07.920 little thing that you guys go through. Again, you're just 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:11.080 giving me the basics of the story and all the 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:13.720 key components, which is all I needed to help fix 0:07:13.800 --> 0:07:17.640 your mess. I will say, you do sound better. You 0:07:17.640 --> 0:07:21.240 know if I can repeat that, whether his girlfriend it's 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:25.640 six hundred, seven hundred a thousand pounds, that's who he's with, 0:07:26.320 --> 0:07:29.240 and that is the woman that you will have to 0:07:29.400 --> 0:07:33.360 respect him for. You know what I'm saying. I'm not 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:36.080 gonna go so far as to say, oh, you have 0:07:36.160 --> 0:07:38.920 to respect her, because listen, I sit down with Laverne 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:41.960 Cox a long time ago, right, and she did say 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:46.680 one thing to me that I can honestly say I 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:49.440 took from her, and I took it with grace, and 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:52.560 I apply it now to my life. We have to 0:07:52.760 --> 0:07:56.679 stop thinking people, oh us respect You understand what I'm saying. 0:07:57.080 --> 0:07:59.800 We have to stop thinking that. Because I remember having 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:03.440 a conversation with her. It was about a previous argument 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:08.240 I had had with the trans woman, right, and I 0:08:08.440 --> 0:08:11.600 was telling her, I don't give a fuck what you do. 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:13.920 You will respect me. You have to respect me, and 0:08:14.120 --> 0:08:17.840 you're gonna respect me. And she said, very very calmly, 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:20.560 you know, what makes you think they have to respect 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:24.320 you like they don't. They actually don't have to, you 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:26.720 know what I'm saying. You know, you can't control what 0:08:26.880 --> 0:08:30.920 somebody else feels. You can't control how somebody else act 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:33.880 towards you. You can't. You can only control yourself. So 0:08:34.040 --> 0:08:37.280 whether you're doing something to be respected or not, that 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:40.360 doesn't mean the opposing person is going to respect you, 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:43.640 or or even has to. So to that point, I 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:47.360 don't want to say you have to respect her. I 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:49.840 don't want to say you have to respect her, but 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:53.240 there needs to be a level of respect as it 0:08:53.280 --> 0:08:57.839 involves your child, you know, because whether you want to 0:08:57.880 --> 0:09:00.679 admit it or not, you do need his dead. You 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:02.800 need his dad. You need his dad for numerous reasons. 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:05.480 You know, you just got a new job. Congratulations, a 0:09:05.480 --> 0:09:09.480 better job, and I love that, working mom, I love that. 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:13.080 But you're gonna need help. And instead of spending money 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:18.880 on someone to babysit him, he can get his own son, 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:23.520 you know, because apparently he was doing bad. You know, 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:27.480 there was a season where he wasn't as financially stable 0:09:27.520 --> 0:09:29.959 as you were, or even as his girlfriend was. I 0:09:30.040 --> 0:09:33.400 don't know why he got put out, but apparently he 0:09:33.440 --> 0:09:36.439 went through a rough time. Now, that's not your business, 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:39.600 neither your concern. You know, you're not obligated to feel 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:42.679 sorry about that or to fill any type of concern 0:09:42.760 --> 0:09:44.760 for him, you know what I mean when it comes 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:48.640 to that, But as a co parent to your child, 0:09:49.160 --> 0:09:53.440 I do think it's very important that you at least 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:57.880 acknowledge that he is doing something. He's paying bills in 0:09:57.920 --> 0:09:59.960 the house that he lives in. I mean, he couldn't 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:02.560 comes down your couch until he got itself together, you 0:10:02.559 --> 0:10:05.520 know what I mean. So the fact that he's in 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:08.200 a position now to be able to pay bills in 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:12.480 the house that he sleeps in, which he is supposed 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:17.040 to do, you know, I think that's commendable on his part, 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:20.760 and it actually sets a great example of what a 0:10:20.800 --> 0:10:23.480 man is to your son, you know what I'm saying. 0:10:23.640 --> 0:10:26.120 I don't know how old the baby is, but it's 0:10:26.160 --> 0:10:30.320 never too early to teach or to show that you 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:32.520 can be a role model to your child, especially as 0:10:32.559 --> 0:10:35.080 a father. You understand what I'm saying, So let's just 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:38.960 commend him on that. Moving forward, you got into an 0:10:39.040 --> 0:10:45.360 argument with your son's father's girlfriend on Facebook. Typical, very 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:49.560 fucking typical. Yeah, I'm saying it. I don't care that's typical, 0:10:50.000 --> 0:10:55.280 and that it's assnine and idiotic and it's immature. And 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:58.280 we can lead that to the goddamn kids, that's what 0:10:58.320 --> 0:11:00.000 we can do. We can lead that to the high school, 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.840 middle school kids. We can lead that to the TikTokers 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:06.559 and shit like that. Okay, we ain't doing that, And 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:10.600 by we, I mean you and me. I can't control 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:14.960 his girlfriend. I can't control his girlfriend's friend. You know 0:11:15.040 --> 0:11:19.040 I'm talking to you. You're my client. You know I 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:21.320 love saying that. You know what I mean, But no, 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:23.760 you know you're the one that I'm helping. So I'm 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:27.360 going to talk to you. I don't really cared to 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:30.600 give a damn too much about the girlfriend and the 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:34.080 friend fussing with you online. You're too mature for that, 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:37.240 or are you? You got to turn the mirror on yourself. 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:40.040 And you know, because I'm sure just as dumb as 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:43.800 you thought she looked arguing with the baby mother, who 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:48.080 is you? You looked just as dumb arguing with the 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:51.959 girlfriend of the baby father. You understand what I'm saying, 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:56.160 because arguing for what? Ask yourself that question, because if 0:11:56.160 --> 0:11:58.760 you would have never gotten into that argument. You wouldn't 0:11:58.760 --> 0:12:02.720 have never given her the chance to even tell you, Oh, 0:12:02.960 --> 0:12:06.680 I spend more time with your baby father and his 0:12:06.760 --> 0:12:12.040 own son. She's already stupid to even say that, Like 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:16.040 for that to be a rebuttal like what? Okay, clap 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:18.840 it up for being with a nigga who don't want 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:22.360 to be I'm sorry, I'm going way to ghetto being 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:25.680 with a man who rather spend more time with his 0:12:25.760 --> 0:12:29.400 girlfriend than his fucking child. You understand what I'm saying. Yeah, 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:31.839 clap it up for that. I just would have just 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:36.240 laughed at her and repeated everything back to her that 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:39.280 she said to me, just in a more in a 0:12:39.360 --> 0:12:44.960 more sarcastic way to make her feel stupid, you know 0:12:45.000 --> 0:12:47.800 what I'm saying. Instead, you went along with it and 0:12:47.840 --> 0:12:51.920 you got upset, and then our friend chimed in and 0:12:51.960 --> 0:12:53.760 said what he don't do for your son? Now, I 0:12:54.160 --> 0:12:56.200 said this briefly in reading your story, but I didn't 0:12:56.200 --> 0:12:58.160 want to stray too far away from reading his story. 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:00.559 I wanted to get it all out. You know, her 0:13:00.600 --> 0:13:04.520 friend is only getting that information from her right like that, 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:10.280 the friend is constantly listening to her friend vent about 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:15.040 her man and about you and about your child. So 0:13:15.280 --> 0:13:18.480 the friend is just she. She ain't even nobody to 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:22.000 be worried about. That's just somebody on her side, just 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:24.000 like if you had somebody on your side. The chiming 0:13:24.400 --> 0:13:26.720 and go at the girlfriend. You understand what I'm saying, 0:13:27.440 --> 0:13:30.319 Fuck them for the time being. Now, you said on 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:31.880 the fourth of July when you popped up to get 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:34.400 your son and the girl was dead, you said you 0:13:34.520 --> 0:13:37.400 never said anything directly to her, but she was disrespectful, 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:40.520 saying shit like why do you have this bitch around 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:43.080 my son? Et cetera. Now, if she was right there 0:13:43.120 --> 0:13:45.880 in the room, she should have got up and smacked 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:49.480 shit out you. I'm just not even gonna hold you, 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:51.520 you know what I'm saying, because how would you feel? 0:13:52.559 --> 0:13:54.520 How would you feel if you're dating a man and 0:13:54.640 --> 0:13:57.280 his baby mother come in the house. Don't even look 0:13:57.320 --> 0:13:59.760 at you, don't. You ain't got to say hi. She 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:03.080 ain't got to say hi to you, don't. But the 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:07.480 first thing she said to the baby father is why 0:14:07.480 --> 0:14:10.120 do you have this bitch around my son? And then 0:14:10.160 --> 0:14:12.160 you said, et cetera, you ain't even tell me everything 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:14.800 you said. So I know your loys got smart real bad, 0:14:14.880 --> 0:14:19.080 real disrespectful, and in this woman's house you popped up 0:14:19.200 --> 0:14:21.120 that ain't that ain't his house, or he wouldn't have 0:14:21.120 --> 0:14:24.040 got put out of it to begin with. You popped 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:26.920 up in her house. I know your child is there. 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:31.680 I know that, and you are by right as a 0:14:31.760 --> 0:14:34.960 mother go get your child from any fucking where he is. 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:39.840 But the disrespect in her house was crazy just because 0:14:39.880 --> 0:14:42.520 you don't like her. I also want to know how 0:14:42.640 --> 0:14:45.640 y'all ended like you know, all y'all over each other 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:49.840 because he apologized to you and said he was wrong 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:52.560 for having her around. Why would he be wrong for 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:55.880 having his girlfriend around his girlfriend that he lives with, 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:59.280 around his son. She gotta be around your baby bull 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:02.800 because he lives there. But you would want to slap 0:15:02.800 --> 0:15:05.720 the shit out of your boyfriend's baby mother if she 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:10.040 came up in your house asking, not even directly to you, 0:15:10.440 --> 0:15:14.000 to your baby dad, I mean to your boyfriend, why 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:16.880 is this bitch around my son? Uh? Because bitch, this 0:15:16.920 --> 0:15:18.760 is my house and both of y'all can get the 0:15:18.800 --> 0:15:22.680 fuck out. You know what I'm saying. If I ain't 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:25.160 slap you, I would have said that. And I know 0:15:25.440 --> 0:15:28.120 I know even though you're a hundred pounds soaking wet, 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:31.200 your little ass a jumping somebody's face. I can just 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:34.080 tell you will, and you'll put your hands on somebody 0:15:34.120 --> 0:15:36.240 if you have to. I can tell that as well. 0:15:36.520 --> 0:15:39.760 I was one hundred pounds as well before soaking wet, 0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:41.680 just as mad as I wanted to be, because I 0:15:41.760 --> 0:15:44.600 kept getting tried because everybody thought I was little and 0:15:44.680 --> 0:15:47.840 I couldn't fight. So every chance I got, I proved 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:50.600 that I could fight. But now that I'm older and 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:53.560 I'm looking back, it's like, Mmm, what the fuck that 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:55.120 I have to prove that for it? You understand what 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:57.920 I'm saying. So I went a little left with that. 0:15:57.920 --> 0:16:01.360 That was off topic, but you know you needed that, 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:04.760 You needed me to say that. Moving forward, So, from 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:08.640 July ninth to August twenty sixth, those six weeks you 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:10.920 said you haven't heard from you didn't hear from him 0:16:10.920 --> 0:16:12.640 at all. Then he called you on the twenty six 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:15.200 accent if he could see his son. Why say no, babe? 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:19.880 Why say no? Well, you told me why. Your reason 0:16:20.000 --> 0:16:23.600 to that is he hadn't reached out in over six weeks. Okay, 0:16:24.080 --> 0:16:25.760 So does he not reach out for the rest of 0:16:25.800 --> 0:16:30.280 his life or does he reach out after the six weeks? 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:32.560 You know what I'm saying, because if he wouldn't have 0:16:32.760 --> 0:16:36.560 reached out at all, still right now to this day, 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:39.320 that would be an even bigger problem. But the fact 0:16:39.320 --> 0:16:41.320 it took it took him six weeks. If it had 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:43.080 took him three weeks, you still would have had a 0:16:43.120 --> 0:16:46.240 problem with it, because it's not really about how long 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:48.800 it took for him to hit you back or to 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:51.840 even inquire about his son. It's not about that, and 0:16:51.880 --> 0:16:54.480 I'm gonna I'm gonna wait for your update to tell 0:16:54.480 --> 0:16:57.560 me what else it's really about. Now. A couple months ago, 0:16:57.560 --> 0:16:59.600 the girlfriend kicked him out and he started asking you 0:16:59.640 --> 0:17:01.720 for money in a sleep on the couch. You said no, 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:04.080 but you did say you try to be cool with him. 0:17:04.119 --> 0:17:06.720 I commend you on that. That was very mature of you. 0:17:07.480 --> 0:17:11.720 But it's the only reason that you tried to be 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:15.119 cool with him is because he got kicked out and 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:17.600 he wasn't with the girlfriend no more. Because girl, I'm 0:17:17.640 --> 0:17:20.000 onto your ass, or at least I think I am, 0:17:20.040 --> 0:17:25.320 and I'm almost never wrong in these instances. Okay, then 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:27.679 you said just son at a birthday party. Now listen, 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:30.679 you never confirmed whether it was his birthday or not, 0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:34.760 but I'm just gonna automatically assume it was until you 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:39.520 tell me otherwise. He didn't come, Yes, that was fucking wrong. 0:17:39.840 --> 0:17:42.479 And you said he was invited. That was wrong. I 0:17:42.760 --> 0:17:45.840 don't care what you're going through unless you laid up 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:49.960 in a motherfucker hospital, or unless somebody wanted you know, 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:52.440 your mom, your dad, somebody in your immediate family laid 0:17:52.480 --> 0:17:54.520 up in a hospital or something. If you physically could 0:17:54.520 --> 0:17:56.800 not make it. You were supposed to be at that 0:17:56.880 --> 0:17:59.880 boy's party October seventeen. If he texted you and said 0:17:59.880 --> 0:18:02.960 he wanted to see his son, his son, I'm sorry, y'all. Son, 0:18:03.200 --> 0:18:05.480 you told him to take you to court? Why bitter 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:08.680 as hell? Bitter as hell? Why would you rather go 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:11.400 to girl? Let me tell you something. You know how 0:18:11.400 --> 0:18:15.439 many men actually needs to be taken to court? Do 0:18:15.560 --> 0:18:18.600 you know that to see their son? Do you know 0:18:18.680 --> 0:18:26.359 how many men actually have to fight the courts to 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:30.080 see their child because the mom is a bitter bitch? 0:18:31.560 --> 0:18:33.840 Do you no? No, no, seriously, that's a real question 0:18:33.920 --> 0:18:37.119 I'm asking you. Do you know I got a couple 0:18:37.160 --> 0:18:39.600 of them in my family, A couple bitter ass cousins 0:18:40.040 --> 0:18:43.480 who still want their baby father, and because he didn't 0:18:43.520 --> 0:18:46.040 want to be with them but he was still a 0:18:46.040 --> 0:18:48.680 good dad, they took his ass downtown. They took him 0:18:48.680 --> 0:18:51.080 to put him on child's supple or I'm gonna fix you. Nah, 0:18:51.080 --> 0:18:55.480 you're not really fixing anything. You're you're not fixing anything. 0:18:55.680 --> 0:18:59.440 You're fucking everything up. To be honest with you, you're 0:18:59.480 --> 0:19:03.000 fucking up this man's life, to be honest, and you 0:19:03.160 --> 0:19:07.159 honestly not doing a good deed by your child, especially 0:19:07.560 --> 0:19:12.280 if you don't need to take the father to court. 0:19:12.800 --> 0:19:15.719 I think that was very fucking wrong of you. And 0:19:15.960 --> 0:19:19.000 mind you, you said you listening to everything I'm saying, 0:19:19.520 --> 0:19:22.600 and I'm being hard on your main ass, because why 0:19:22.680 --> 0:19:24.840 take him to court if you're still gonna need him, 0:19:25.080 --> 0:19:28.200 you know what I mean? That's his father forever. That 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:31.159 doesn't stop being his father ever, just you know, just 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:34.680 because you're upset, that's his dad. And after all those 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:37.040 times you told him no, I come in to begin 0:19:37.119 --> 0:19:39.879 on still not giving up completely. He hits you. He 0:19:39.880 --> 0:19:42.400 gives you time. I see there's a pattern. He knows 0:19:42.440 --> 0:19:46.080 how angry and mad and aggressive his baby mother can get, 0:19:46.560 --> 0:19:48.440 so he likes to give you time because you're taking 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:51.280 time bomb. I see that he gives you time to 0:19:51.359 --> 0:19:53.879 cool the fuck off, whether that be days or weeks 0:19:53.960 --> 0:19:56.600 or whatever, and then he hits you up again to 0:19:56.640 --> 0:19:59.320 see the baby. Now, a man that you take the 0:19:59.320 --> 0:20:01.720 court is a mother the fucker that gives up or 0:20:01.960 --> 0:20:04.640 never wanted to see the child from the beginning. Those 0:20:04.760 --> 0:20:07.000 are the men that you take the court because you 0:20:07.200 --> 0:20:11.000 only use the courts when you need them, when you 0:20:11.040 --> 0:20:14.399 have exhausted all options. If you love me, you'll listen 0:20:14.440 --> 0:20:18.240 to this commercial and then we'll be right back. Now 0:20:18.280 --> 0:20:21.240 you said November seventeenth, congratulations, you got a new job, boo, 0:20:21.600 --> 0:20:25.560 and you will be working every other weekend. You reached 0:20:25.560 --> 0:20:27.840 out to him. You reached out and next, if you 0:20:27.880 --> 0:20:30.760 can babysit for you. First of all, it ain't babysitting 0:20:30.800 --> 0:20:33.400 if it's my fucking son. Letting you know that now, 0:20:34.200 --> 0:20:37.520 we ain't doing that shit. And don't ever call him 0:20:37.520 --> 0:20:40.600 a babysitter. And because you ain't paying that nigga, you 0:20:40.720 --> 0:20:43.080 will never pay him to keep his son, and he 0:20:43.119 --> 0:20:45.119 ain't sitting on your baby. I got that from my 0:20:45.160 --> 0:20:47.879 mother because my mom works in childcare administration. She's a 0:20:47.960 --> 0:20:51.960 licensed daycare provider professional right. She has a preschool and 0:20:52.320 --> 0:20:55.200 people used to get fucked up. She hates the term babysitter. 0:20:55.400 --> 0:20:57.920 She said, I do not sit on nobody's babies. I 0:20:57.960 --> 0:21:00.840 love that, and I'm passing it on you. So shit, 0:21:00.960 --> 0:21:03.119 pass the torch to whoever you can late in life, 0:21:03.400 --> 0:21:06.000 all right. And when you ask him if he can babysit, 0:21:06.600 --> 0:21:08.800 if he can have his baby, if he can keep 0:21:08.880 --> 0:21:12.600 your baby for you, he said yes, what he would you. 0:21:13.480 --> 0:21:17.040 He wasn't bitter about it at all. He said yes, 0:21:17.160 --> 0:21:19.640 even after you gave him a hard fucking time. Take 0:21:19.680 --> 0:21:21.720 me to court. No, you can't say him, y'all. Ain't 0:21:21.720 --> 0:21:23.919 hear from you in six weeks. I hate you Da 0:21:24.000 --> 0:21:25.680 da da da da da da da da, your girlfriend 0:21:25.680 --> 0:21:27.960 of fat bitch. All that I know. He got all 0:21:28.000 --> 0:21:30.400 that shit, He got all them words and some more 0:21:30.480 --> 0:21:35.080 from you, and he simply said yes, why because he 0:21:35.160 --> 0:21:39.040 probably missed his fucking son. That's not a guy. You 0:21:39.080 --> 0:21:41.240 take the court bow again, and I'm gonna keep saying it, 0:21:41.320 --> 0:21:43.919 hard head. So then you get in his business. I 0:21:44.000 --> 0:21:45.800 ask him where he will have the baby? No has 0:21:45.840 --> 0:21:47.800 a mother. You have the right to answer that question, 0:21:48.080 --> 0:21:50.159 and as the dad, he has the right not to 0:21:50.200 --> 0:21:52.720 fucking tell you, because when my son is in my care, 0:21:53.119 --> 0:21:54.920 I take care of him the way I see fit. 0:21:55.240 --> 0:21:57.399 When he's in your care, I don't ask where he is. 0:21:57.920 --> 0:21:59.760 You take care of him the way you see fit. 0:22:00.400 --> 0:22:04.440