1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,320 Speaker 1: Welcome to Can'tfully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio and 2 00:00:03,360 --> 00:00:17,440 Speaker 1: the Black Effects. Oh Shit, we on a air. Welcome 3 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:21,640 Speaker 1: back to yat another cafully Reckless episode with your girl Jess. Hilarious. Listen. 4 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,159 Speaker 1: I'm just now getting my voice back as I have 5 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: been recovering from all the karaoke I've been doing over 6 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:30,639 Speaker 1: the holidays. Y'all, It's been a lot of fun. You know, 7 00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 1: everything from eating to karaoke to man. Me and my 8 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 1: family know how to partty. We know how to have 9 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:43,839 Speaker 1: fun on the holidays, and we like to set our 10 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:47,920 Speaker 1: own trends. I hope all is well with everybody. I 11 00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 1: wish everybody the best of times, as we are in 12 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 1: a very trying season right now, a lot of people 13 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:57,320 Speaker 1: are going through things. Before I start the episode, I 14 00:00:57,400 --> 00:01:01,920 Speaker 1: want to take the time and just tell everybody you know, 15 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:06,720 Speaker 1: you are not alone in your season of need. You 16 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:09,480 Speaker 1: are not alone in your season of trial and tribulation. 17 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:12,920 Speaker 1: You are not alone in your season of loneliness. You 18 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:16,480 Speaker 1: are not alone in your season of anti like You're 19 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 1: not alone. You guys are not alone. I don't want 20 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: anybody to ever make the mistake of thinking that they 21 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:25,760 Speaker 1: are alone. Right now, I'm even going through shit. You 22 00:01:25,840 --> 00:01:30,920 Speaker 1: understand what I'm saying. And while everybody's problems are not financial, 23 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 1: people are still having problems. Everybody's problem is not mental illness. 24 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:39,319 Speaker 1: You know your mental health depleting. Everybody doesn't have the 25 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: same issues. However, we're all struggling with something and that's 26 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 1: what we have in common. And that's where we can 27 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 1: kind of look at each other and say, I got you. 28 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:52,920 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Even if I can't give 29 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 1: you exactly what you need to help you sore or flourish. 30 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:02,240 Speaker 1: We're all going through something, so we can all meet 31 00:02:02,240 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: each other at that level of humility, you know what 32 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:08,959 Speaker 1: I mean, and strive for greatness together, you know what 33 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:12,960 Speaker 1: I'm saying, because that's where we all can relate. Love you, guys. 34 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:15,399 Speaker 1: Hope all is well, man, just I really really do 35 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:20,760 Speaker 1: hope all is well, or hope all gets better. Let's 36 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: just say that, because I know all isn't well with everyone. 37 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:28,560 Speaker 1: You know, I hope all gets better, man, prayerfully all 38 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:31,839 Speaker 1: gets better. All right, we're gonna jump right in. This 39 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 1: is a long, long, long, long PDF, but they actually 40 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:40,680 Speaker 1: took the time to compose this message the right way. 41 00:02:40,720 --> 00:02:44,440 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm seeing punctuation marks and everything. Look somebody 42 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 1: passed English with flying colors. All right, here we go. Okay, 43 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:51,200 Speaker 1: this is long. Please fix my mask or I'm going 44 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 1: to jail. Bitch, Do you want me in prison? The fuck? Uh? No, 45 00:02:55,160 --> 00:02:58,520 Speaker 1: I don't. I got into an argument with my son's 46 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 1: father's girlfriend on Facebook. Okay, so you baby for have 47 00:03:01,760 --> 00:03:04,920 Speaker 1: a girlfriend? All right? Cool? Within the argument, she said 48 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:08,200 Speaker 1: that's why she spends more time with my son's father 49 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 1: than he does with his son. Also, her friend chimed 50 00:03:13,040 --> 00:03:15,120 Speaker 1: in and said, what he don't do for my son? 51 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:19,200 Speaker 1: Who flexes about a man not taking care of his son? Right, 52 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:21,320 Speaker 1: especially if you're the friend of the bitch that he with. 53 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:25,840 Speaker 1: That'll make sense unless that girlfriend is doing some talking, 54 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:30,640 Speaker 1: because how else would her homegirl know that? Right? Let's 55 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:33,240 Speaker 1: fast forward to the fourth of July. I popped up 56 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:35,920 Speaker 1: to get my son and the girl was there. I 57 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:38,720 Speaker 1: never said anything to her directly, but I was disrespectful, 58 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: saying things like why do you have this bitch around 59 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 1: my son? Etc. I met up with my son's father 60 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 1: after that. He apologized and said he was wrong. So 61 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 1: from July ninth to August twenty sixth, never heard from 62 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 1: the man again. He called me August twenty sixth. Okay, 63 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:59,840 Speaker 1: so that was about six weeks all right. He called 64 00:03:59,840 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 1: me August twenty sixth and asked if he can get 65 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:05,760 Speaker 1: my son. I said no because he hadn't reached out 66 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 1: in over six weeks. Listen, I'm a mathematician. Okay, I 67 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:11,600 Speaker 1: said six weeks and she goes. She followed up in 68 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:14,440 Speaker 1: the next progres she said it was six weeks okay. 69 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:18,080 Speaker 1: Now here is September. The girlfriend kicked him out. Oh, 70 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:20,839 Speaker 1: so he was living with her. He's asking me for 71 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 1: money and to sleep on my couch. I said no 72 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: and try to be cool with him. My son had 73 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:29,279 Speaker 1: a party September thirtieth. He didn't come to the party, 74 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:30,920 Speaker 1: nor did he get him a gift. Okay, so I'm 75 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:34,080 Speaker 1: guessing it was his birthday, and yes he was invited. 76 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:37,120 Speaker 1: I cussed his ball headed ass out again. Now Here 77 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 1: is October seventeenth. He texted, I want to see my son. 78 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 1: I told him take me to court. Now November seventeenth comes. 79 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:48,960 Speaker 1: I got a new job. It'll be working every other weekend. 80 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 1: So I reached out and asked if he can babysit 81 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:56,880 Speaker 1: for me. He said, yes, babysitting his own son. It 82 00:04:56,880 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 1: ain't babysitting if it's a child booth. I asked him 83 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:02,480 Speaker 1: where he will have the baby. Then he replied, where 84 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:05,840 Speaker 1: I fucking pay bills. Mind y'all, he ain't done shit 85 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: for my son since April, but you're paying big bills 86 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:12,880 Speaker 1: child support. Ho. M okay, I know you talking shit. 87 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:14,960 Speaker 1: I'm getting to the point now. I ain't talk my 88 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:17,320 Speaker 1: shit yet. I got some shit to talk to you, though. 89 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:19,479 Speaker 1: So I told him I really need him to start 90 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:22,400 Speaker 1: getting the baby. All I need from him is to 91 00:05:22,480 --> 00:05:25,960 Speaker 1: introduce me to his girlfriend the correct way. He said no, 92 00:05:26,640 --> 00:05:29,120 Speaker 1: because he's still mad I violated her in front of 93 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:31,599 Speaker 1: his old family. Okay, so it's the same girlfriend. Okay, 94 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 1: he went back to her. Mind you I am one 95 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:38,000 Speaker 1: hundred pounds soaking wet, that's why you so goddamn angry 96 00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: little self, and she's about five hundred pounds. Damn. Hold up, 97 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:48,000 Speaker 1: and that's me being nice. Hey Yo. Anyways, So I said, 98 00:05:48,040 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 1: my baby not going over there until we can have 99 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 1: a conversation. He said that I just wanted to have 100 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 1: control over the situation and that our time to have 101 00:05:56,960 --> 00:05:59,719 Speaker 1: a convo will come so should I let the baby 102 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:03,920 Speaker 1: go without me having a conversation with the girl, because 103 00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:06,760 Speaker 1: I feel any bitch that mentioned a kid in an 104 00:06:06,920 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 1: argument don't need to be around the kid. Okay, I 105 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 1: can see how you feel like that. Also, if she 106 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: feels the way toward me, why the fuck that she 107 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 1: needs to be around my kid because she's his father's girlfriend. 108 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:23,360 Speaker 1: Fix my fucking messages. Whatever you say, I'm gonna listen. 109 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:26,599 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for reading, and sorry for the 110 00:06:26,640 --> 00:06:29,760 Speaker 1: grammar errors I didn't proofread. Shaking my head, I know 111 00:06:29,839 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 1: it's long. Sorry well for you not to have proof read. 112 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:36,479 Speaker 1: You did better than half the motherfuckers that write me. Girl. 113 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:39,160 Speaker 1: I love that you broke up your sentences and shit, 114 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:41,560 Speaker 1: you broke up the little paragraphs and all of that, 115 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: and you did well, and there weren't many grammatical errors. 116 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:48,040 Speaker 1: I must say, all right, let's get into your mess 117 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:50,000 Speaker 1: Hold up, hold up, I know the shit getting good, 118 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:52,320 Speaker 1: But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. 119 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:56,159 Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen. Girl. Since she said 120 00:06:56,160 --> 00:07:00,200 Speaker 1: you're gonna listen to everything, I will tell you you 121 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: do sound better. You do. I'm not gonna call you 122 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:05,320 Speaker 1: better because I don't know you I don't know every 123 00:07:05,360 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 1: little thing that you guys go through. Again, you're just 124 00:07:07,920 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 1: giving me the basics of the story and all the 125 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 1: key components, which is all I needed to help fix 126 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:17,640 Speaker 1: your mess. I will say, you do sound better. You 127 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 1: know if I can repeat that, whether his girlfriend it's 128 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:25,640 Speaker 1: six hundred, seven hundred a thousand pounds, that's who he's with, 129 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 1: and that is the woman that you will have to 130 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 1: respect him for. You know what I'm saying. I'm not 131 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:36,080 Speaker 1: gonna go so far as to say, oh, you have 132 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 1: to respect her, because listen, I sit down with Laverne 133 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: Cox a long time ago, right, and she did say 134 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: one thing to me that I can honestly say I 135 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: took from her, and I took it with grace, and 136 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 1: I apply it now to my life. We have to 137 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:56,679 Speaker 1: stop thinking people, oh us respect You understand what I'm saying. 138 00:07:57,080 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 1: We have to stop thinking that. Because I remember having 139 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 1: a conversation with her. It was about a previous argument 140 00:08:03,520 --> 00:08:08,240 Speaker 1: I had had with the trans woman, right, and I 141 00:08:08,440 --> 00:08:11,600 Speaker 1: was telling her, I don't give a fuck what you do. 142 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 1: You will respect me. You have to respect me, and 143 00:08:14,120 --> 00:08:17,840 Speaker 1: you're gonna respect me. And she said, very very calmly, 144 00:08:18,080 --> 00:08:20,560 Speaker 1: you know, what makes you think they have to respect 145 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 1: you like they don't. They actually don't have to, you 146 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:26,720 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. You know, you can't control what 147 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 1: somebody else feels. You can't control how somebody else act 148 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 1: towards you. You can't. You can only control yourself. So 149 00:08:34,040 --> 00:08:37,280 Speaker 1: whether you're doing something to be respected or not, that 150 00:08:37,360 --> 00:08:40,360 Speaker 1: doesn't mean the opposing person is going to respect you, 151 00:08:40,640 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 1: or or even has to. So to that point, I 152 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:47,360 Speaker 1: don't want to say you have to respect her. I 153 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 1: don't want to say you have to respect her, but 154 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 1: there needs to be a level of respect as it 155 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:57,839 Speaker 1: involves your child, you know, because whether you want to 156 00:08:57,880 --> 00:09:00,679 Speaker 1: admit it or not, you do need his dead. You 157 00:09:00,679 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 1: need his dad. You need his dad for numerous reasons. 158 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 1: You know, you just got a new job. Congratulations, a 159 00:09:05,480 --> 00:09:09,480 Speaker 1: better job, and I love that, working mom, I love that. 160 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:13,080 Speaker 1: But you're gonna need help. And instead of spending money 161 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:18,880 Speaker 1: on someone to babysit him, he can get his own son, 162 00:09:19,240 --> 00:09:23,520 Speaker 1: you know, because apparently he was doing bad. You know, 163 00:09:23,640 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 1: there was a season where he wasn't as financially stable 164 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:29,959 Speaker 1: as you were, or even as his girlfriend was. I 165 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:33,400 Speaker 1: don't know why he got put out, but apparently he 166 00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:36,439 Speaker 1: went through a rough time. Now, that's not your business, 167 00:09:36,480 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 1: neither your concern. You know, you're not obligated to feel 168 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:42,679 Speaker 1: sorry about that or to fill any type of concern 169 00:09:42,760 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 1: for him, you know what I mean when it comes 170 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:48,640 Speaker 1: to that, But as a co parent to your child, 171 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:53,440 Speaker 1: I do think it's very important that you at least 172 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:57,880 Speaker 1: acknowledge that he is doing something. He's paying bills in 173 00:09:57,920 --> 00:09:59,960 Speaker 1: the house that he lives in. I mean, he couldn't 174 00:10:00,040 --> 00:10:02,560 Speaker 1: comes down your couch until he got itself together, you 175 00:10:02,559 --> 00:10:05,520 Speaker 1: know what I mean. So the fact that he's in 176 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:08,200 Speaker 1: a position now to be able to pay bills in 177 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:12,480 Speaker 1: the house that he sleeps in, which he is supposed 178 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 1: to do, you know, I think that's commendable on his part, 179 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:20,760 Speaker 1: and it actually sets a great example of what a 180 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 1: man is to your son, you know what I'm saying. 181 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:26,120 Speaker 1: I don't know how old the baby is, but it's 182 00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:30,320 Speaker 1: never too early to teach or to show that you 183 00:10:30,360 --> 00:10:32,520 Speaker 1: can be a role model to your child, especially as 184 00:10:32,559 --> 00:10:35,080 Speaker 1: a father. You understand what I'm saying, So let's just 185 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:38,960 Speaker 1: commend him on that. Moving forward, you got into an 186 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 1: argument with your son's father's girlfriend on Facebook. Typical, very 187 00:10:45,440 --> 00:10:49,560 Speaker 1: fucking typical. Yeah, I'm saying it. I don't care that's typical, 188 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:55,280 Speaker 1: and that it's assnine and idiotic and it's immature. And 189 00:10:55,840 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 1: we can lead that to the goddamn kids, that's what 190 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:00,000 Speaker 1: we can do. We can lead that to the high school, 191 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:02,840 Speaker 1: middle school kids. We can lead that to the TikTokers 192 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:06,559 Speaker 1: and shit like that. Okay, we ain't doing that, And 193 00:11:07,520 --> 00:11:10,600 Speaker 1: by we, I mean you and me. I can't control 194 00:11:11,280 --> 00:11:14,960 Speaker 1: his girlfriend. I can't control his girlfriend's friend. You know 195 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:19,040 Speaker 1: I'm talking to you. You're my client. You know I 196 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:21,320 Speaker 1: love saying that. You know what I mean, But no, 197 00:11:21,640 --> 00:11:23,760 Speaker 1: you know you're the one that I'm helping. So I'm 198 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:27,360 Speaker 1: going to talk to you. I don't really cared to 199 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:30,600 Speaker 1: give a damn too much about the girlfriend and the 200 00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:34,080 Speaker 1: friend fussing with you online. You're too mature for that, 201 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:37,240 Speaker 1: or are you? You got to turn the mirror on yourself. 202 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:40,040 Speaker 1: And you know, because I'm sure just as dumb as 203 00:11:40,080 --> 00:11:43,800 Speaker 1: you thought she looked arguing with the baby mother, who 204 00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:48,080 Speaker 1: is you? You looked just as dumb arguing with the 205 00:11:48,160 --> 00:11:51,959 Speaker 1: girlfriend of the baby father. You understand what I'm saying, 206 00:11:52,679 --> 00:11:56,160 Speaker 1: because arguing for what? Ask yourself that question, because if 207 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 1: you would have never gotten into that argument. You wouldn't 208 00:11:58,760 --> 00:12:02,720 Speaker 1: have never given her the chance to even tell you, Oh, 209 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:06,680 Speaker 1: I spend more time with your baby father and his 210 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:12,040 Speaker 1: own son. She's already stupid to even say that, Like 211 00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 1: for that to be a rebuttal like what? Okay, clap 212 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:18,840 Speaker 1: it up for being with a nigga who don't want 213 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:22,360 Speaker 1: to be I'm sorry, I'm going way to ghetto being 214 00:12:22,559 --> 00:12:25,680 Speaker 1: with a man who rather spend more time with his 215 00:12:25,760 --> 00:12:29,400 Speaker 1: girlfriend than his fucking child. You understand what I'm saying. Yeah, 216 00:12:29,440 --> 00:12:31,839 Speaker 1: clap it up for that. I just would have just 217 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 1: laughed at her and repeated everything back to her that 218 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:39,280 Speaker 1: she said to me, just in a more in a 219 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:44,960 Speaker 1: more sarcastic way to make her feel stupid, you know 220 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:47,800 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Instead, you went along with it and 221 00:12:47,840 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 1: you got upset, and then our friend chimed in and 222 00:12:51,960 --> 00:12:53,760 Speaker 1: said what he don't do for your son? Now, I 223 00:12:54,160 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 1: said this briefly in reading your story, but I didn't 224 00:12:56,200 --> 00:12:58,160 Speaker 1: want to stray too far away from reading his story. 225 00:12:58,240 --> 00:13:00,559 Speaker 1: I wanted to get it all out. You know, her 226 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:04,520 Speaker 1: friend is only getting that information from her right like that, 227 00:13:04,600 --> 00:13:10,280 Speaker 1: the friend is constantly listening to her friend vent about 228 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:15,040 Speaker 1: her man and about you and about your child. So 229 00:13:15,280 --> 00:13:18,480 Speaker 1: the friend is just she. She ain't even nobody to 230 00:13:18,520 --> 00:13:22,000 Speaker 1: be worried about. That's just somebody on her side, just 231 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 1: like if you had somebody on your side. The chiming 232 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:26,720 Speaker 1: and go at the girlfriend. You understand what I'm saying, 233 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:30,319 Speaker 1: Fuck them for the time being. Now, you said on 234 00:13:30,400 --> 00:13:31,880 Speaker 1: the fourth of July when you popped up to get 235 00:13:31,920 --> 00:13:34,400 Speaker 1: your son and the girl was dead, you said you 236 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:37,400 Speaker 1: never said anything directly to her, but she was disrespectful, 237 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:40,520 Speaker 1: saying shit like why do you have this bitch around 238 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:43,080 Speaker 1: my son? Et cetera. Now, if she was right there 239 00:13:43,120 --> 00:13:45,880 Speaker 1: in the room, she should have got up and smacked 240 00:13:45,920 --> 00:13:49,480 Speaker 1: shit out you. I'm just not even gonna hold you, 241 00:13:49,480 --> 00:13:51,520 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, because how would you feel? 242 00:13:52,559 --> 00:13:54,520 Speaker 1: How would you feel if you're dating a man and 243 00:13:54,640 --> 00:13:57,280 Speaker 1: his baby mother come in the house. Don't even look 244 00:13:57,320 --> 00:13:59,760 Speaker 1: at you, don't. You ain't got to say hi. She 245 00:13:59,760 --> 00:14:03,080 Speaker 1: ain't got to say hi to you, don't. But the 246 00:14:03,200 --> 00:14:07,480 Speaker 1: first thing she said to the baby father is why 247 00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:10,120 Speaker 1: do you have this bitch around my son? And then 248 00:14:10,160 --> 00:14:12,160 Speaker 1: you said, et cetera, you ain't even tell me everything 249 00:14:12,200 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 1: you said. So I know your loys got smart real bad, 250 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:19,080 Speaker 1: real disrespectful, and in this woman's house you popped up 251 00:14:19,200 --> 00:14:21,120 Speaker 1: that ain't that ain't his house, or he wouldn't have 252 00:14:21,120 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 1: got put out of it to begin with. You popped 253 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:26,920 Speaker 1: up in her house. I know your child is there. 254 00:14:27,640 --> 00:14:31,680 Speaker 1: I know that, and you are by right as a 255 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:34,960 Speaker 1: mother go get your child from any fucking where he is. 256 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:39,840 Speaker 1: But the disrespect in her house was crazy just because 257 00:14:39,880 --> 00:14:42,520 Speaker 1: you don't like her. I also want to know how 258 00:14:42,640 --> 00:14:45,640 Speaker 1: y'all ended like you know, all y'all over each other 259 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:49,840 Speaker 1: because he apologized to you and said he was wrong 260 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:52,560 Speaker 1: for having her around. Why would he be wrong for 261 00:14:52,600 --> 00:14:55,880 Speaker 1: having his girlfriend around his girlfriend that he lives with, 262 00:14:56,520 --> 00:14:59,280 Speaker 1: around his son. She gotta be around your baby bull 263 00:15:00,040 --> 00:15:02,800 Speaker 1: because he lives there. But you would want to slap 264 00:15:02,800 --> 00:15:05,720 Speaker 1: the shit out of your boyfriend's baby mother if she 265 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:10,040 Speaker 1: came up in your house asking, not even directly to you, 266 00:15:10,440 --> 00:15:14,000 Speaker 1: to your baby dad, I mean to your boyfriend, why 267 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:16,880 Speaker 1: is this bitch around my son? Uh? Because bitch, this 268 00:15:16,920 --> 00:15:18,760 Speaker 1: is my house and both of y'all can get the 269 00:15:18,800 --> 00:15:22,680 Speaker 1: fuck out. You know what I'm saying. If I ain't 270 00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 1: slap you, I would have said that. And I know 271 00:15:25,440 --> 00:15:28,120 Speaker 1: I know even though you're a hundred pounds soaking wet, 272 00:15:28,360 --> 00:15:31,200 Speaker 1: your little ass a jumping somebody's face. I can just 273 00:15:31,240 --> 00:15:34,080 Speaker 1: tell you will, and you'll put your hands on somebody 274 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:36,240 Speaker 1: if you have to. I can tell that as well. 275 00:15:36,520 --> 00:15:39,760 Speaker 1: I was one hundred pounds as well before soaking wet, 276 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:41,680 Speaker 1: just as mad as I wanted to be, because I 277 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:44,600 Speaker 1: kept getting tried because everybody thought I was little and 278 00:15:44,680 --> 00:15:47,840 Speaker 1: I couldn't fight. So every chance I got, I proved 279 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:50,600 Speaker 1: that I could fight. But now that I'm older and 280 00:15:50,600 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: I'm looking back, it's like, Mmm, what the fuck that 281 00:15:53,600 --> 00:15:55,120 Speaker 1: I have to prove that for it? You understand what 282 00:15:55,160 --> 00:15:57,920 Speaker 1: I'm saying. So I went a little left with that. 283 00:15:57,920 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 1: That was off topic, but you know you needed that, 284 00:16:01,480 --> 00:16:04,760 Speaker 1: You needed me to say that. Moving forward, So, from 285 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:08,640 Speaker 1: July ninth to August twenty sixth, those six weeks you 286 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:10,920 Speaker 1: said you haven't heard from you didn't hear from him 287 00:16:10,920 --> 00:16:12,640 Speaker 1: at all. Then he called you on the twenty six 288 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:15,200 Speaker 1: accent if he could see his son. Why say no, babe? 289 00:16:15,640 --> 00:16:19,880 Speaker 1: Why say no? Well, you told me why. Your reason 290 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 1: to that is he hadn't reached out in over six weeks. Okay, 291 00:16:24,080 --> 00:16:25,760 Speaker 1: So does he not reach out for the rest of 292 00:16:25,800 --> 00:16:30,280 Speaker 1: his life or does he reach out after the six weeks? 293 00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:32,560 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, because if he wouldn't have 294 00:16:32,760 --> 00:16:36,560 Speaker 1: reached out at all, still right now to this day, 295 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:39,320 Speaker 1: that would be an even bigger problem. But the fact 296 00:16:39,320 --> 00:16:41,320 Speaker 1: it took it took him six weeks. If it had 297 00:16:41,320 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 1: took him three weeks, you still would have had a 298 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:46,240 Speaker 1: problem with it, because it's not really about how long 299 00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:48,800 Speaker 1: it took for him to hit you back or to 300 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:51,840 Speaker 1: even inquire about his son. It's not about that, and 301 00:16:51,880 --> 00:16:54,480 Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna wait for your update to tell 302 00:16:54,480 --> 00:16:57,560 Speaker 1: me what else it's really about. Now. A couple months ago, 303 00:16:57,560 --> 00:16:59,600 Speaker 1: the girlfriend kicked him out and he started asking you 304 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:01,720 Speaker 1: for money in a sleep on the couch. You said no, 305 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:04,080 Speaker 1: but you did say you try to be cool with him. 306 00:17:04,119 --> 00:17:06,720 Speaker 1: I commend you on that. That was very mature of you. 307 00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:11,720 Speaker 1: But it's the only reason that you tried to be 308 00:17:11,840 --> 00:17:15,119 Speaker 1: cool with him is because he got kicked out and 309 00:17:15,160 --> 00:17:17,600 Speaker 1: he wasn't with the girlfriend no more. Because girl, I'm 310 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:20,000 Speaker 1: onto your ass, or at least I think I am, 311 00:17:20,040 --> 00:17:25,320 Speaker 1: and I'm almost never wrong in these instances. Okay, then 312 00:17:25,400 --> 00:17:27,679 Speaker 1: you said just son at a birthday party. Now listen, 313 00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:30,679 Speaker 1: you never confirmed whether it was his birthday or not, 314 00:17:30,720 --> 00:17:34,760 Speaker 1: but I'm just gonna automatically assume it was until you 315 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: tell me otherwise. He didn't come, Yes, that was fucking wrong. 316 00:17:39,840 --> 00:17:42,479 Speaker 1: And you said he was invited. That was wrong. I 317 00:17:42,760 --> 00:17:45,840 Speaker 1: don't care what you're going through unless you laid up 318 00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:49,960 Speaker 1: in a motherfucker hospital, or unless somebody wanted you know, 319 00:17:50,080 --> 00:17:52,440 Speaker 1: your mom, your dad, somebody in your immediate family laid 320 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:54,520 Speaker 1: up in a hospital or something. If you physically could 321 00:17:54,520 --> 00:17:56,800 Speaker 1: not make it. You were supposed to be at that 322 00:17:56,880 --> 00:17:59,880 Speaker 1: boy's party October seventeen. If he texted you and said 323 00:17:59,880 --> 00:18:02,960 Speaker 1: he wanted to see his son, his son, I'm sorry, y'all. Son, 324 00:18:03,200 --> 00:18:05,480 Speaker 1: you told him to take you to court? Why bitter 325 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:08,680 Speaker 1: as hell? Bitter as hell? Why would you rather go 326 00:18:08,760 --> 00:18:11,400 Speaker 1: to girl? Let me tell you something. You know how 327 00:18:11,400 --> 00:18:15,439 Speaker 1: many men actually needs to be taken to court? Do 328 00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:18,600 Speaker 1: you know that to see their son? Do you know 329 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:26,359 Speaker 1: how many men actually have to fight the courts to 330 00:18:26,480 --> 00:18:30,080 Speaker 1: see their child because the mom is a bitter bitch? 331 00:18:31,560 --> 00:18:33,840 Speaker 1: Do you no? No, no, seriously, that's a real question 332 00:18:33,920 --> 00:18:37,119 Speaker 1: I'm asking you. Do you know I got a couple 333 00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:39,600 Speaker 1: of them in my family, A couple bitter ass cousins 334 00:18:40,040 --> 00:18:43,480 Speaker 1: who still want their baby father, and because he didn't 335 00:18:43,520 --> 00:18:46,040 Speaker 1: want to be with them but he was still a 336 00:18:46,040 --> 00:18:48,680 Speaker 1: good dad, they took his ass downtown. They took him 337 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:51,080 Speaker 1: to put him on child's supple or I'm gonna fix you. Nah, 338 00:18:51,080 --> 00:18:55,480 Speaker 1: you're not really fixing anything. You're you're not fixing anything. 339 00:18:55,680 --> 00:18:59,440 Speaker 1: You're fucking everything up. To be honest with you, you're 340 00:18:59,480 --> 00:19:03,000 Speaker 1: fucking up this man's life, to be honest, and you 341 00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:07,159 Speaker 1: honestly not doing a good deed by your child, especially 342 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:12,280 Speaker 1: if you don't need to take the father to court. 343 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:15,719 Speaker 1: I think that was very fucking wrong of you. And 344 00:19:15,960 --> 00:19:19,000 Speaker 1: mind you, you said you listening to everything I'm saying, 345 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 1: and I'm being hard on your main ass, because why 346 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:24,840 Speaker 1: take him to court if you're still gonna need him, 347 00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:28,200 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? That's his father forever. That 348 00:19:28,280 --> 00:19:31,159 Speaker 1: doesn't stop being his father ever, just you know, just 349 00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:34,680 Speaker 1: because you're upset, that's his dad. And after all those 350 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 1: times you told him no, I come in to begin 351 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:39,879 Speaker 1: on still not giving up completely. He hits you. He 352 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:42,400 Speaker 1: gives you time. I see there's a pattern. He knows 353 00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:46,080 Speaker 1: how angry and mad and aggressive his baby mother can get, 354 00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:48,440 Speaker 1: so he likes to give you time because you're taking 355 00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:51,280 Speaker 1: time bomb. I see that he gives you time to 356 00:19:51,359 --> 00:19:53,879 Speaker 1: cool the fuck off, whether that be days or weeks 357 00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:56,600 Speaker 1: or whatever, and then he hits you up again to 358 00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 1: see the baby. Now, a man that you take the 359 00:19:59,320 --> 00:20:01,720 Speaker 1: court is a mother the fucker that gives up or 360 00:20:01,960 --> 00:20:04,640 Speaker 1: never wanted to see the child from the beginning. Those 361 00:20:04,760 --> 00:20:07,000 Speaker 1: are the men that you take the court because you 362 00:20:07,200 --> 00:20:11,000 Speaker 1: only use the courts when you need them, when you 363 00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:14,399 Speaker 1: have exhausted all options. If you love me, you'll listen 364 00:20:14,440 --> 00:20:18,240 Speaker 1: to this commercial and then we'll be right back. Now 365 00:20:18,280 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 1: you said November seventeenth, congratulations, you got a new job, boo, 366 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:25,560 Speaker 1: and you will be working every other weekend. You reached 367 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:27,840 Speaker 1: out to him. You reached out and next, if you 368 00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:30,760 Speaker 1: can babysit for you. First of all, it ain't babysitting 369 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:33,400 Speaker 1: if it's my fucking son. Letting you know that now, 370 00:20:34,200 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 1: we ain't doing that shit. And don't ever call him 371 00:20:37,520 --> 00:20:40,600 Speaker 1: a babysitter. And because you ain't paying that nigga, you 372 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:43,080 Speaker 1: will never pay him to keep his son, and he 373 00:20:43,119 --> 00:20:45,119 Speaker 1: ain't sitting on your baby. I got that from my 374 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:47,879 Speaker 1: mother because my mom works in childcare administration. She's a 375 00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:51,960 Speaker 1: licensed daycare provider professional right. She has a preschool and 376 00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:55,200 Speaker 1: people used to get fucked up. She hates the term babysitter. 377 00:20:55,400 --> 00:20:57,920 Speaker 1: She said, I do not sit on nobody's babies. I 378 00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:00,840 Speaker 1: love that, and I'm passing it on you. So shit, 379 00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:03,119 Speaker 1: pass the torch to whoever you can late in life, 380 00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:06,000 Speaker 1: all right. And when you ask him if he can babysit, 381 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:08,800 Speaker 1: if he can have his baby, if he can keep 382 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 1: your baby for you, he said yes, what he would you. 383 00:21:13,480 --> 00:21:17,040 Speaker 1: He wasn't bitter about it at all. He said yes, 384 00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:19,640 Speaker 1: even after you gave him a hard fucking time. Take 385 00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:21,720 Speaker 1: me to court. No, you can't say him, y'all. Ain't 386 00:21:21,720 --> 00:21:23,919 Speaker 1: hear from you in six weeks. I hate you Da 387 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:25,680 Speaker 1: da da da da da da da da, your girlfriend 388 00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:27,960 Speaker 1: of fat bitch. All that I know. He got all 389 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:30,400 Speaker 1: that shit, He got all them words and some more 390 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:35,080 Speaker 1: from you, and he simply said yes, why because he 391 00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:39,040 Speaker 1: probably missed his fucking son. That's not a guy. You 392 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,240 Speaker 1: take the court bow again, and I'm gonna keep saying it, 393 00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:43,919 Speaker 1: hard head. So then you get in his business. I 394 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:45,800 Speaker 1: ask him where he will have the baby? No has 395 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:47,800 Speaker 1: a mother. You have the right to answer that question, 396 00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:50,159 Speaker 1: and as the dad, he has the right not to 397 00:21:50,200 --> 00:21:52,720 Speaker 1: fucking tell you, because when my son is in my care, 398 00:21:53,119 --> 00:21:54,920 Speaker 1: I take care of him the way I see fit. 399 00:21:55,240 --> 00:21:57,399 Speaker 1: When he's in your care, I don't ask where he is. 400 00:21:57,920 --> 00:21:59,760 Speaker 1: You take care of him the way you see fit. 401 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:04,440 Speaker 1: But giving his previous situation to understand why you wanted 402 00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:07,439 Speaker 1: to know, because he had just got put out, you 403 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:09,960 Speaker 1: didn't know he got back with the girl. I can 404 00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:13,479 Speaker 1: clearly see that he replied to you, where I fucking 405 00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:15,400 Speaker 1: pay bills? That means he's had it and he fed 406 00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:17,480 Speaker 1: up with your ass. He had enough for your smart 407 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:20,480 Speaker 1: ass mouth. You say, mind you, he ain't done shit 408 00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:23,680 Speaker 1: for my son since April, but you paying big bills 409 00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:27,439 Speaker 1: child support. HO say, look at your bitter ass again, 410 00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:33,560 Speaker 1: bitter bitter? What you doing? He ain't done shit for 411 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:37,000 Speaker 1: your son, probably because he can't even fucking see him. 412 00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:38,800 Speaker 1: You mean to tell me you want me to send 413 00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:42,080 Speaker 1: you money. You want me to jump when you say 414 00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:44,320 Speaker 1: jump to get the little baby whatever you need. But 415 00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:46,760 Speaker 1: I can't even fucking lay my eyes on him. I 416 00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:49,120 Speaker 1: can't see him. I can't come get him. You ought 417 00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:53,000 Speaker 1: to be ashamed of yourself for that bullshit. I'm serious now, 418 00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:55,560 Speaker 1: Later on in your passage, I do see that you. 419 00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:58,399 Speaker 1: You know, you said, okay, cool, I want to just 420 00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:00,720 Speaker 1: be able to have a conversation with the girl I did. 421 00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:03,200 Speaker 1: He told you no, you know he was still mad, 422 00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:07,520 Speaker 1: you know, over what y'all previously had went through. You 423 00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:10,920 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And then I doubt, highly doubt 424 00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:14,359 Speaker 1: that that was only his decision. His girlfriend probably said, nah, 425 00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:18,600 Speaker 1: fuck her. The way she disrespects me, she'll never get 426 00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:21,320 Speaker 1: a conversation out of me, and by right, she's correct 427 00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:24,320 Speaker 1: about that. However, she has to be around your child, 428 00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:29,280 Speaker 1: has to be around your child, so something has to give. 429 00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:34,000 Speaker 1: Something has to give, either y'all buried or hatchet. You apologize. 430 00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:37,000 Speaker 1: I don't care what you're saying. I don't care if 431 00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:39,479 Speaker 1: you cuss me out. I don't give a fuck. You 432 00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:43,760 Speaker 1: have to apologize, that's the only way, and then she 433 00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:47,159 Speaker 1: has to apologize. The reason why I say you have 434 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:50,200 Speaker 1: to apologize to her is because you disrespected the fuck 435 00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:53,560 Speaker 1: out of her in her house, you know what I'm saying. 436 00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:57,920 Speaker 1: And if she's six hundred pounds, man, she'd probably took 437 00:23:57,920 --> 00:23:59,560 Speaker 1: all day to get up and slap the shit out you. 438 00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:01,040 Speaker 1: I told you, you know what I mean, you'd have 439 00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:03,960 Speaker 1: been halfway home by the time she stood up. Fully 440 00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:07,800 Speaker 1: you understand I'm saying, if she's that size, you know, 441 00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:11,880 Speaker 1: But that's why I say you need to apologize to her. 442 00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:15,879 Speaker 1: But y'all too, furthermore, need to meet up, you know, 443 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:21,600 Speaker 1: and just talk outside of him. No homegirls, no nothing, 444 00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:26,200 Speaker 1: just talk between y'all. You lay out on the table 445 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:28,840 Speaker 1: the issues you had with her. Hopefully she can do 446 00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:30,800 Speaker 1: the same. If you don't want to do that, fuck it, 447 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:34,120 Speaker 1: don't do it. But what you asked me, well, should 448 00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:36,080 Speaker 1: you let the baby go without you and the girl 449 00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:40,240 Speaker 1: having a conversation? I believe so. I believe it wouldn't 450 00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:45,280 Speaker 1: be Listen, your son's dad is not gonna let anybody 451 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:47,960 Speaker 1: harm him. And if you think that, you need to 452 00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:50,520 Speaker 1: let me know that too, because then that's the bigger issue. 453 00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:54,520 Speaker 1: But from what it sounds like he would never put 454 00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:58,760 Speaker 1: his son in any harm or danger, whether it's the 455 00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:02,879 Speaker 1: fucking girlfriend or not. It seems like you know he 456 00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:06,399 Speaker 1: wouldn't do that from just you know, just from what 457 00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:10,040 Speaker 1: I'm gathering here, Man, answer to this last question, and 458 00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:11,720 Speaker 1: then I'm gonna need you to update me. You need 459 00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:14,720 Speaker 1: to write me back. You said, I feel any bitch 460 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:16,879 Speaker 1: that mentioned a kid in an argument don't need to 461 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,919 Speaker 1: be around a kid. I agree with you to a 462 00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:22,920 Speaker 1: certain extent. And then you said, also, if she feel 463 00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:25,639 Speaker 1: away towards me, why the fuck she need to be 464 00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:28,000 Speaker 1: around my kid. I already answered that because she's with 465 00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:31,320 Speaker 1: his dad. She don't owe you nothing. I want you 466 00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:34,439 Speaker 1: to understand that she don't owe you shit, just like 467 00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:37,359 Speaker 1: you don't owe her shit. Y'all don't owe each other 468 00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:41,879 Speaker 1: nothing unless y'all want to move forward amicably and be 469 00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:47,240 Speaker 1: at least mutual, be at least neutral for this kid. 470 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,840 Speaker 1: Because right now it's a little village. It's not just 471 00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:55,119 Speaker 1: you and his dad raising him. It's you, his dad, 472 00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:59,040 Speaker 1: and the girlfriend. Because that's a household. You understand what 473 00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:01,400 Speaker 1: I'm saying. So she be there every time he there, 474 00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:06,680 Speaker 1: and she's going to have a help and assisting his 475 00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:11,359 Speaker 1: father with him because she lives there. I don't care 476 00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:14,680 Speaker 1: if it's making dinner, if it's checking homework, if it's 477 00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:18,920 Speaker 1: whatever it is. Bull you have to be okay with that. 478 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:21,119 Speaker 1: And in order for you to be okay with that, 479 00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:25,000 Speaker 1: you got to get over that man fully. And just 480 00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:27,440 Speaker 1: like that, we've come to the end of yet another 481 00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:32,200 Speaker 1: carefully reckless episode. Listen, I'm fixing mess up and down, 482 00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:36,320 Speaker 1: left and right. And I actually love this story. And 483 00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:39,359 Speaker 1: I'm actually curious as to know what she will say, 484 00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:43,720 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, what she will update me with. 485 00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:47,760 Speaker 1: You know, it just seems like I know she loves 486 00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:51,760 Speaker 1: her baby, and I know she's a good mother, and 487 00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:53,600 Speaker 1: I know that she don't really want to take that 488 00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:56,120 Speaker 1: niggative court. She don't want to take him to court. 489 00:26:56,320 --> 00:27:01,160 Speaker 1: I just feel like she's very hurt. She's tired of 490 00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:05,920 Speaker 1: feeling like he puts the girlfriend before her son. I 491 00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:10,880 Speaker 1: understand that, but that is his girlfriend, and it don't 492 00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:13,240 Speaker 1: look like she going nowhere, you know what I mean. 493 00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:19,920 Speaker 1: And neither is the baby. He's not going anywhere, and 494 00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:26,040 Speaker 1: neither is she the mother. She's not going anywhere. Neither 495 00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:30,160 Speaker 1: one of them are going anywhere, right, So they have 496 00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:33,440 Speaker 1: to figure out a way that they can all at 497 00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:38,359 Speaker 1: least be neutral. It's no way. It's no way, because 498 00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:41,679 Speaker 1: then that will affect the fucking child. And that is 499 00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:46,280 Speaker 1: the last thing that you want for the baby to 500 00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 1: see some unhealthy co parents and shit going on. That's 501 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:51,159 Speaker 1: why me and my son's dad we do it, and 502 00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:55,040 Speaker 1: we do it the best. I still haven't seen another 503 00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:58,040 Speaker 1: co parents in bond like me and my son's dads. 504 00:27:58,520 --> 00:28:03,560 Speaker 1: Man Jerome crystal clear on every decision. That man, don't 505 00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:05,600 Speaker 1: make a decision for my son unless you run it 506 00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:09,439 Speaker 1: past me and vice versa, even with my boyfriend. Listen, 507 00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:14,040 Speaker 1: it's a village. My son is being raised not only 508 00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:18,760 Speaker 1: by me and my son's dad. It's me, Rome, which 509 00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:24,600 Speaker 1: is his dad, my boyfriend, Chris, Jerome's girlfriend. You know 510 00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:32,080 Speaker 1: my mom, my boyfriend's mom, you know my dad. So 511 00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:35,040 Speaker 1: it's a village. My sister, his aunt, you know my 512 00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:40,920 Speaker 1: son's aunt, Rome's brother, which is Ashton's uncle. It's a village. 513 00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:43,360 Speaker 1: And it takes that. You understand what I'm saying. You 514 00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:47,800 Speaker 1: can't do it by yourself. You can't. Well, I'm gonna 515 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:51,640 Speaker 1: change that now. You can do it by yourself. Mother's 516 00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:55,360 Speaker 1: out here, do it every day. I I know mother's 517 00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:59,360 Speaker 1: you can. But why when you don't have to, Why 518 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 1: would you? Because that shit ain't easy. It's not easy 519 00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:07,760 Speaker 1: raising a boy by yourself, even with the help of 520 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:12,280 Speaker 1: the fucking courts. It's better when you have a parent 521 00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:16,640 Speaker 1: that wants to be present, and that is his father, right, 522 00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:20,960 Speaker 1: So update me, girl, and I already concluded the episode, 523 00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:22,920 Speaker 1: I just went back into it. I really really liked 524 00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:25,280 Speaker 1: this story. This shit touched me, It really really did 525 00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:27,600 Speaker 1: touch me, and I got a little soft spot for 526 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:31,040 Speaker 1: the mean girl, hit me, bad girl, love y'all, and 527 00:29:31,080 --> 00:30:45,640 Speaker 1: then my deepest pan boys. Peace Can't Fully Reckless is 528 00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:48,680 Speaker 1: a production of iHeart Radio and The Black Effect. 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