Speaker 1: Ready' all.
Speaker 2: M h yeah.
Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Tilly and Tanya rap an iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 3: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 2: So much to talk about. I'm back from VAK, back
Speaker 2: from Bak Taytay t t and tay.
Speaker 4: All the days, uh what else? So much to talk about, just.
Speaker 2: So much talk about. I'm not engaged.
Speaker 4: Oh okay, waita.
Speaker 2: Just like to just put it out there. There's an
Speaker 2: elephant in the room. I'm just gonna bring that elephant
Speaker 2: right onto the front here.
Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you for doing that, because I've been getting
Speaker 3: people were like, Becca, tell us, do.
Speaker 2: You know I'm like searching me, like I'm hiding in
Speaker 2: I'm gonna and I'm like I'm like, God, that thing
Speaker 2: would be on my hand and I'd be talking.
Speaker 4: I'd be doing a live from the scene.
Speaker 2: So no, I'm not hiding anything.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Somebody messaged me last night because I was doing a
Speaker 2: video about Love Island and I had like the sheets
Speaker 2: over me and they're like, there's a rock under your finger.
Speaker 2: I was like, no, all right, got that out of
Speaker 2: the way. We should tease that.
Speaker 4: That could have been a teaser. Sorry, we'll be back again.
Speaker 1: Get the answer is no, but can we start with
Speaker 1: hilarious story?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Well there, I mean, there's so much to like.
Speaker 1: The story on me and it's really funny.
Speaker 4: Oh great.
Speaker 2: So it's our last night in Paris and we had
Speaker 2: an early flight the next morning to go back home,
Speaker 2: and uh, we stayed out late. We stayed up till
Speaker 2: like two o'clock in the morning, and I like woke
Speaker 2: up and I like smell like I was in like
Speaker 2: Willy Wonk and the chocolate factory. I literally was like,
Speaker 2: I smell like the deepest smell of chocolate I've ever
Speaker 2: smelled in my life. I thought I was dreaming it,
Speaker 2: Like it was so weird. And Robbie woke up in
Speaker 2: the middle of night. We were both like awake because
Speaker 2: we were like scared we're gonna miss our flight. You
Speaker 2: just like didn't really sleep all. So I like rolled
Speaker 2: over to like cuddle with him, and I like felt
Speaker 2: stuff kind of like crumble on me, and I was like, like, oh,
Speaker 2: do you smell that chocolate? He's like, what are you
Speaker 2: talking about? So he grabs his phone and he puts
Speaker 2: the flash line on me and they're just literally chocolate
Speaker 2: all over my face and like my back and my
Speaker 2: body and then we put it on the bed next
Speaker 2: to me, and this is the scene. This is the
Speaker 2: scene at which, so this is a podcast, you can't
Speaker 2: really see about the to the camera right here.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, what is that?
Speaker 2: So you know how they leave the little chocolates on
Speaker 2: your I didn't know we had one of those, and
Speaker 2: so I slept in the chocolate, like my head was
Speaker 2: buried deep in this mile of you chocolate.
Speaker 1: Or look a pillow before you put your hand on it.
Speaker 2: Maive me the details of what I myself in there.
Speaker 4: We're all gonna think of doing some freaky chocolate things,
Speaker 4: not at all.
Speaker 2: And I was actually piss because once I was like,
Speaker 2: does this smells so good? And he goes, yeah, I
Speaker 2: ate mine. It was like hazel chocolate was my favorite.
Speaker 2: So it was a piss that I couldn't even try it,
Speaker 2: and then I like felt bad. So this was like
Speaker 2: the middle that was like three am, and he's like,
Speaker 2: just go, grab like a towel over it so that
Speaker 2: you can, like we can go back to sleep. So
Speaker 2: I just put a towel over it, and then I
Speaker 2: didn't want to like move the wrapper from the chocolate
Speaker 2: because I didn't want the like cleaning ladies to think
Speaker 2: that I like pooped the bed or something. I was like,
Speaker 2: I don't anybody think.
Speaker 4: I pooped the bed.
Speaker 2: So I tried to like pick it up. Then I
Speaker 2: like left the wrapper on there. It was just a mess.
Speaker 3: You don't think that they'd be able to smell if
Speaker 3: that was poop versus chocolate.
Speaker 2: I don't know, Like Robbie can't smell anything.
Speaker 4: He took me that checked out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's the sinest thing is just because you just
Speaker 2: come back backa.
Speaker 4: Yes, But like sometimes I don't.
Speaker 3: Like we were on the plane back and I was
Speaker 3: in the middle seat and then the girl next to
Speaker 3: me and Haley both had their shirt over their nose
Speaker 3: and Haley's like, baby, don't smell that. And I was like, no,
Speaker 3: like is my do I have COVID or something? Because
Speaker 3: I can't smell this And she's like that's the worst smell.
Speaker 3: And I look over and the girl next to me
Speaker 3: on her notes covered. But then on the way there,
Speaker 3: I got some you know how people just fart on planes.
Speaker 3: It pisses me off. No, Like seriously, I get that.
Speaker 3: You can't help it. It's like not healthy to hold
Speaker 3: it in, but like please just excuse yourselfing it's so trude.
Speaker 3: We cannot breathe fresh air or stuff. It's gross and
Speaker 3: you're filth. It's gross. Also, I was, okay, you know
Speaker 3: how I talked about how I have to shower before
Speaker 3: I get on the plane to wash.
Speaker 4: The sleep off.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So yesterday Haley said that she she had a she like,
Speaker 3: met with someone and she was like, yeah, they smelled
Speaker 3: like sleep. And I was like, do you see what
Speaker 3: I'm saying? So now she understands.
Speaker 2: Still, never, once you smell sleep on someone, you will
Speaker 2: never unsmell it ever.
Speaker 4: Again, it's so recognizable one to want to do.
Speaker 2: It, especially like my dating life in college was that scent?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I am devastated by this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know I'm not going to say any names,
Speaker 2: but you know who you are if good listening.
Speaker 4: Your whole dating life in college was that sense?
Speaker 2: Yes, sinky college boys in a frat house, like rolling
Speaker 2: out of bed and going to class like that is
Speaker 2: the epitome of.
Speaker 4: Full body chills. Now my spines so.
Speaker 2: On all it's a blessing that Robbie can't smell for me.
Speaker 4: Wait, why you know?
Speaker 2: It's just nice? I feel very secure and uh if
Speaker 2: I am gassy or anything like that is always a
Speaker 2: silent He's like totally oblivio.
Speaker 4: So if he can smell it, then it's like.
Speaker 2: That he could the chocolate that was all over me,
Speaker 2: and he's like right next to me and just goes
Speaker 2: to show you that he has no sense of smell.
Speaker 4: Wow, how was the trip?
Speaker 3: Aside from you did you got the lead right out
Speaker 3: the gate not engaged?
Speaker 4: But how is the rest of the trip?
Speaker 2: Truly one of the like the most magical experiences. I'll
Speaker 2: never forget this trip. I cry probably like three or
Speaker 2: four times when we got to Paris because I've always
Speaker 2: wanted to see the Eiffel Tower, and so I cried
Speaker 2: on our way into Paris, when I saw it and
Speaker 2: we were landing, I cried on the plane, and then
Speaker 2: I cried when we saw it for the first time
Speaker 2: in real life like during the day, and then I
Speaker 2: cried and I saw it light up at night. So
Speaker 2: it was like really emotional, and it was really fun
Speaker 2: because like my friends came. We had like friends meet
Speaker 2: us at the earlier part of the trip, so we
Speaker 2: got to like have fun and party and like do
Speaker 2: all that kind of stuff. I ate everything under the sun.
Speaker 2: Like I just really was like living. I brought a
Speaker 2: lot of white just in case things happened.
Speaker 4: I'll be honest.
Speaker 3: When I saw the pink dress come out, I was like, well, dang,
Speaker 3: it's not happening quick because yeah, everything else, everything else,
Speaker 3: It was like.
Speaker 4: Dude, the pink dress came out.
Speaker 2: To be honest, I'm packing for a trip. I always
Speaker 2: packed like a specific color just because I only did
Speaker 2: a carry on.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I only was impressive.
Speaker 2: I only wanted to have shoes that matched like that,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. Like I didn't bring a
Speaker 2: black pair of heel right or anything. So everything was
Speaker 2: like white was the vibe. Sometimes black is the vibe.
Speaker 2: This was white was the vibe, and uh a more
Speaker 2: practically every day. Wow.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just just to be ready to be ready
Speaker 3: in case.
Speaker 2: But alas we're here.
Speaker 4: Songs a ring songs.
Speaker 2: Yeah I didn't. Here's the thing I joke about it.
Speaker 2: I was like sad a little bit, but it doesn't
Speaker 2: take away from the trip. Like I really know, I
Speaker 2: didn't have expectations going in, and I really really had
Speaker 2: the best time ever.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I think everyone else had the expectations. But
Speaker 3: you were even like No, we're just like going on
Speaker 3: the trip. Yeah, but you can. You are always prepared.
Speaker 3: It's never bad to be prepared, That's what I say.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, like just when.
Speaker 1: You're there, there's gonna be a moment where you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: this would be nice.
Speaker 2: But when the Eiffel Towers let playing right behind us
Speaker 2: at midnight, you know, I was like the saxophonist is
Speaker 2: playing love songs on his saxophone. You know, it's like.
Speaker 4: Glancing like maybe he'll go on the knee. When I
Speaker 4: turned my head this way.
Speaker 2: Do you want me to go pick something up down
Speaker 2: the street? We want to go get a bottle of
Speaker 2: wine at the vendor right there something.
Speaker 4: Wait, did you like Paris better than the south of France?
Speaker 2: So different?
Speaker 4: I mean yeah, very different.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like beach vibes versus city vibes. We like, we
Speaker 2: took those vests because it was so fun. We saw
Speaker 2: so much of the city in like a day because
Speaker 2: we had these little our uber to Like the restaurant
Speaker 2: was like forty five minutes and I was like, this
Speaker 2: is this Traffic is wild? So yeah, found these little
Speaker 2: lime scooters and just limed around the whole town. I know,
Speaker 2: I saw so much of Paris.
Speaker 4: I was like, that was really smart. Yeah, smart way
Speaker 4: to do things.
Speaker 2: And then I tried to convince him to get two
Speaker 2: of us on one. I was like, beck, can I
Speaker 2: do this all the time. It's possible.
Speaker 3: I don't know if we did it all the time.
Speaker 3: We did it desperation one time. It's not my choice.
Speaker 2: Stole scooters and I was like, I guess we're gonna
Speaker 2: go on one together.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's hard to balance, so we got to activate
Speaker 4: the core.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeaheah, how was your trip?
Speaker 4: It was amazing.
Speaker 3: And you know what's so funny is I was like
Speaker 3: I could have also brought a carry on, but I didn't,
Speaker 3: but it could happen because.
Speaker 2: Look back at it, because I'm like, I still had
Speaker 2: two outfits to burn. Really yeah, wow.
Speaker 4: I just I packed.
Speaker 3: I worked so hard to put que outfits together, and
Speaker 3: I think I wore two of them because.
Speaker 2: You don't wear a lot of cute stuff, so like, yeah,
Speaker 2: we justsked a couple of cute things and then lounge stuff.
Speaker 3: But like we would we would just like go from
Speaker 3: the beach to dinner, so I'd just like wear my
Speaker 3: cover up in my bathing suit and that's like why
Speaker 3: it's so fun to go there because there's no expectation
Speaker 3: of needing to look a certain way.
Speaker 2: But exactly, we did.
Speaker 3: A resort for the first three four days, and that
Speaker 3: was amazing because it was just like sleep. Well, we
Speaker 3: didn't really I will say, I get on a really
Speaker 3: healthy schedule in Hawaii. I wake up with like seven,
Speaker 3: go to bed at like nine.
Speaker 2: Nice. I was the opposite. We were going about like three,
Speaker 2: sleeping till noon.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well it's different when that time changed. But and
Speaker 4: so we go to sleep. It's a lot of sleep
Speaker 4: nine seven.
Speaker 2: This sounds like heaven to me. Beautiful, beautiful. Look at
Speaker 2: that fresh face over there. Some well slept skin.
Speaker 4: I got a lot of rest.
Speaker 3: And and so it was like we'd go into the
Speaker 3: ocean and just like float in the ocean and like
Speaker 3: the water there is just magical.
Speaker 2: Was it warm?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was like warm, but like refreshing, you know,
Speaker 3: like you'd get in you're like, oh, it feels good.
Speaker 3: And then we go the pool, go under the cabana
Speaker 3: play cards.
Speaker 4: It was just like perfect.
Speaker 3: And then we went to an airbnb, which also is
Speaker 3: really fun because it's like we went got our groceries,
Speaker 3: had like our little home base, made sandwiches for the beach,
Speaker 3: went on you know, adventures.
Speaker 4: It was so fun.
Speaker 2: But let me just tell everybody about this sandwich paste
Speaker 2: that I learned about in France. Taste taste. Okay, you
Speaker 2: take pistachios and you crumble them up like into like
Speaker 2: fine powder, not powder, but like crunched up pistachio olive oil. Okay,
Speaker 2: parmesan cheese.
Speaker 4: Mmm.
Speaker 2: You put that as like a like a little paste
Speaker 2: on your sandwich. Spread a spread, get paste on so
Speaker 2: so gross. It was like a spread and that is
Speaker 2: heaven in your mouth. Wow, try and recreate it here.
Speaker 2: Because we went to this like sandwich place and ate
Speaker 2: it and I was like, this is the most fantastic.
Speaker 2: Sounds so good. Robbie's like I can make that.
Speaker 4: I was gonna say, I feel like YA could make
Speaker 4: that if you do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we will for sure.
Speaker 4: We put some fresh sandwiches and bread from Italy.
Speaker 2: Yes exactly, yeah, exactly, exactly exactly.
Speaker 3: So one of the nights Haley and I we she
Speaker 3: was like, I found this really this really popular burger
Speaker 3: spot and it's on like top five best places in Maui.
Speaker 3: So we look it up. And we we drive to it.
Speaker 3: By the way, we rented a jeep and like took
Speaker 3: the Uh.
Speaker 2: It's fun.
Speaker 4: It's so fun. We had the best time.
Speaker 2: In Brocco, now, don't you no, Okay.
Speaker 3: But it was really fun on vacation. And so we
Speaker 3: go we pull up this burger place and it's in
Speaker 3: a gas station. It's like adjacent to a gas station,
Speaker 3: and we're like, I'm like.
Speaker 4: Is this it?
Speaker 3: And she goes, I promise it's on this list of
Speaker 3: like best places in Mali.
Speaker 4: It was the.
Speaker 3: Best burger I have ever had in my entire life. Really,
Speaker 3: it's called Haven's if you're in Mali. It was incredible.
Speaker 2: So we actually went to like the best burger place
Speaker 2: in Paris. She has her quotes U s it's like
Speaker 2: Kim Kardashian said, it was like the best burger place.
Speaker 2: And it's actually a really cute little place, like it's
Speaker 2: like a little maybe like ten tables, very very French, like, okay.
Speaker 4: It's fine.
Speaker 2: It was fine.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I was like I would get down on an in
Speaker 2: and out burger over this, to be honest.
Speaker 4: We that was our first place when we got back.
Speaker 2: In and out.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's always our like go to when we return
Speaker 3: from a travel. It was just so nice to go.
Speaker 3: And you know, Hayley's been gone and had tour and
Speaker 3: then she got back from tour and it was still
Speaker 3: like NonStop work for her basically all of June. So
Speaker 3: it was so so nice to just go and like
Speaker 3: be together with no distractions and just like spend time together.
Speaker 3: And it was just such a nice relaxing trip and
Speaker 3: we did not want to come home.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I felt that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was.
Speaker 2: It's so crazy because a week, like when you're on vacation,
Speaker 2: feels like such a long time, but then it also
Speaker 2: feels quick.
Speaker 4: Oh my god.
Speaker 3: I felt like we were there for like three days.
Speaker 3: It went by so fast.
Speaker 2: But then when you think about everything that you did,
Speaker 2: I know, yeah, back, I'm like, oh my gosh, Like
Speaker 2: that was felt like so long ago. Like, Okay, we
Speaker 2: went to the hotel. Did you watch Sofia Richie's wedding
Speaker 2: closely at all?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 4: I don't think as closely as you did.
Speaker 2: But I didn't watch it that close to but Paulina,
Speaker 2: it like was like very invested in it. And so
Speaker 2: we went to the hotel that like she rented out
Speaker 2: and like got married at and that was crazy because
Speaker 2: I was like looking at the pictures from her wedding
Speaker 2: and like seeing it in real life and like realizing
Speaker 2: that the aisle she went down took her seven and
Speaker 2: a half minutes to walk down. So we like walked
Speaker 2: down and I was like, yeah, I'm tired, Like I'm
Speaker 2: a half minutes its long long.
Speaker 4: Yeah that feels a little excessive. Yeah, but was it stunning?
Speaker 2: Stunning? And so I was going through all of her
Speaker 2: photos that I saw what I'm.
Speaker 4: Trying to recreate Robbie.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Robbie so romantic. Here. I look at this backdrop,
Speaker 2: perfect place for a wedding, people get married here, So
Speaker 2: weird that we're here. Yeah, but that was like beautiful.
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know, I just I did a
Speaker 2: lot of things. I ate a lot of things. I
Speaker 2: drank a lot. But I feel I'm very happy.
Speaker 4: Great, I'm glad. I felt.
Speaker 3: I had this moment like multiple times on the trip
Speaker 3: where I was like, I feel so grateful that we
Speaker 3: get to do this. Yeah, you know, like to go
Speaker 3: on a trip like this and like have this time
Speaker 3: together and like get to experience what we get to experience.
Speaker 4: I had a lot of those moments.
Speaker 2: I think that's what was hitting me in Paris. I'm like,
Speaker 2: I've had Paris on my vision board for so many years,
Speaker 2: Like truly, I've had Paris on my vision board. I'll
Speaker 2: go back and check, but it's been what oh yeah, yeah, well,
Speaker 2: like Paris was opposite, like not like what's the word
Speaker 2: tanging gentile, tangential and gentile to like anything else. But
Speaker 2: I always wanted to go to Paris, Like I've just
Speaker 2: always wanted to go, And so the fact that I
Speaker 2: was actually there, it was like, I don't know, it's
Speaker 2: really crazy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's really cool to get to go somewhere that evil, like,
Speaker 3: especially somewhere like that, because it's so iconic.
Speaker 2: And I was always like, I want to be in
Speaker 2: love when I go there, you know what I mean. Like,
Speaker 2: I feel like that was like a whole different element
Speaker 2: to being in Paris, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you didn't want to be like Tanya in Paris,
Speaker 3: like living your single life in Paris. You wanted to
Speaker 3: go like, yeah, ea, croissants with the love of your life.
Speaker 2: In Paris, you know, oh my god, I take Paris.
Speaker 4: That's fun.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was not that and didn't want it to
Speaker 2: be that vibe. I wanted to be like in love
Speaker 2: in Paris.
Speaker 3: I will say though, I'd subscribe to Tatiana in Paris.
Speaker 2: Really yeah, there's no okay you're single and you want
Speaker 2: a hot hook up. The French Riviera is where it's at.
Speaker 2: It was dripping in hot eyes, Like I was like,
Speaker 2: what is going on? Yeah on.
Speaker 3: It, we found your next destination, next destination.
Speaker 2: Like it was so crazy.
Speaker 3: It's a it's a hot spot right now that Spain.
Speaker 3: I feel like everyone's kind of like over there just
Speaker 3: living me.
Speaker 2: I saw a dog. French love dogs. I saw a
Speaker 2: dog every single day that yeah about and I would
Speaker 2: like go and like grab the dog and like hug
Speaker 2: the dog, and like I really missed Sunny.
Speaker 3: We had a funny moment where there were these There
Speaker 3: was this like really really southern couple next to us
Speaker 3: laying on the loungers. This is right when we got
Speaker 3: to our hotel and the woman walked by and I.
Speaker 4: Was like, oh, I love your some suit topic where
Speaker 4: is that from?
Speaker 3: And she was just kind of like it was on
Speaker 3: Instagram and like was a little bit like kind of rude,
Speaker 3: and I didn't think anything of it. I was just
Speaker 3: like all right whatever, And later on Haley's like, I
Speaker 3: got really upset at how that lady responded to you.
Speaker 4: And I was like, what do you mean?
Speaker 3: And she was like, well, because like you went out
Speaker 3: of your way to compliment her, and she was she
Speaker 3: was just like not nice back, and I got I
Speaker 3: felt like really defensive for you, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: I was like that's okay, And so like every time
Speaker 3: we see this lady, we'd be like.
Speaker 4: There she is.
Speaker 3: But it was cute that Haley got like riled up
Speaker 3: because in the passing moment, I didn't think anything of it.
Speaker 2: And she was like, I just always feel.
Speaker 3: Like Southern people are just supposed to be so sweet
Speaker 3: and like I always imagine them being like really like
Speaker 3: overly friendly, and I was like, well, it's just like anywhere,
Speaker 3: just it's just an accent. It's not People are still
Speaker 3: gonna be people.
Speaker 2: Ain't that the truth? People are gonna be people.
Speaker 4: We gotta take a break with these.
Speaker 2: Birthday coming up. So bossy with the breaks.
Speaker 3: He tries to give us a hand symbol and then
Speaker 3: we always announced that Mark's giving us.
Speaker 4: It's fun.
Speaker 2: It's fun, but like an air airplane guy like on
Speaker 2: the tarmac. Land right here, take a break and be
Speaker 2: right back.
Speaker 3: We'll be back to talk about all things tailors. All right,
Speaker 3: we're back, We're back. I just have to say, tell me,
Speaker 3: am I glowing.
Speaker 4: You are glowing, You're so tan.
Speaker 2: Okay, thank you. I don't tan, like I just don't tan.
Speaker 2: And I was putting like fifty SPF every day. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but as our workout every day, we would like swim,
Speaker 2: so we would like swim out to the buoies and
Speaker 2: so I got I was like in the sun, but
Speaker 2: I never I just get red. And I feel like
Speaker 2: this is the first time that like I actually got
Speaker 2: a little color.
Speaker 4: You look like you got a spray tan.
Speaker 2: No, and I'm not even in Bronza right now. I
Speaker 2: know I'm just saying or too fresh face. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: thank you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so congrats, thank you, thank you to gettamin d.
Speaker 2: Yeah, finally got a tan, natural tan.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: You just need the French sun, south of France sun. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it is different. Like even we were saying in Hawaii,
Speaker 3: like Halen and I both got tan, and I was
Speaker 3: like I haven't been tanned like naturally and forever it.
Speaker 2: Stays light until ten pm over there. Oh, whoa. I
Speaker 2: was having dinner at nine o'clock, nine thirty and like
Speaker 2: the sun is still out, and I realized that I
Speaker 2: am a woman of the sun. You are I am.
Speaker 4: You're the sunshine mine and body I.
Speaker 2: Am the sunshine mine in body form because like this,
Speaker 2: when the sun's out, I thriving. I could be out.
Speaker 2: I was having dinner at ten pm and then the
Speaker 2: sun goes down and I'm like, I got to hit
Speaker 2: the bed. I think that's why I'm such a homebody
Speaker 2: when I'm at home, because when it's dark out, I
Speaker 2: don't like to be outside. I think the economy would
Speaker 2: like really boost it if we stayed light out till
Speaker 2: late because everybody will be out warm.
Speaker 4: What do we do for this?
Speaker 2: I don't know me as president?
Speaker 3: Oh hell, we just can't do that to whatever.
Speaker 2: The next election is.
Speaker 4: Your sun out, tonya? Do you not know when the
Speaker 4: next election is?
Speaker 2: That the next year job?
Speaker 4: So while we were gone, it.
Speaker 2: Feels too soon for me, but maybe the next one.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, we got to work on some other things.
Speaker 3: First things happen when.
Speaker 4: We were gone.
Speaker 2: So much happened.
Speaker 3: Well speak now Taylor's version came out. Yes, I need
Speaker 3: your opinions on vault.
Speaker 4: Do you have any favorites?
Speaker 2: Yes, I do have favorites. Let me, I don't want
Speaker 2: to mess up this.
Speaker 1: Well, if she looks them up, I will tell you
Speaker 1: that When Emma falls in Love is a favorite of mine,
Speaker 1: and the idea that it may be about Emma Stone
Speaker 1: makes it more a favorite of mine.
Speaker 3: Oh, it's about It's potentially about Emma Stone.
Speaker 1: The rumors, that's what the Swifties are saying is when
Speaker 1: they were really close back then and they speak now
Speaker 1: era that's when she wrote the song, and that's what
Speaker 1: they think, and I think that makes it even sweeter song.
Speaker 1: I also really like Timeless, and they like Castle's Crumbling.
Speaker 1: There I've spoken.
Speaker 2: Castle's Crumbling is one of my favorites. I can see
Speaker 2: you as one of my favorites. And Electric Touch.
Speaker 3: How is no one talking about the How is no
Speaker 3: one saying foolish one?
Speaker 4: It's so good? Like don't you like You're not the exception?
Speaker 4: Like that? Is? That is Tanya? Pretty? Robbie? Really?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 4: Do you want me to read lyrics?
Speaker 2: So, if I'm being honest, you didn't listen? No, No,
Speaker 2: I did. I listened, but like normally I would have
Speaker 2: listened to this all the Bald Songs fifteen thousand times
Speaker 2: by now. Yeah, but I didn't really start listening to
Speaker 2: like I got home on Sunday, so I've only had
Speaker 2: like a day to listen.
Speaker 3: Foolish one, stop checking your mailbox for confessions of love.
Speaker 3: They ain't ever gonna come. You will take the long way,
Speaker 3: you will get the long way down. You know how
Speaker 3: to keep me waiting. I know how to act like
Speaker 3: I'm fine. Don't know what to call the situation, but
Speaker 3: I know I can't call you mine, and it's delicate,
Speaker 3: but I will do my best to see bulletproof. It's
Speaker 3: basically like uh, Gigi from He's not that.
Speaker 4: Into, He's just got that into you listen to this song.
Speaker 3: I was like, I know Tanya is gonna love this one.
Speaker 3: I'm so shook that you didn't.
Speaker 2: I'm going to give it another chance because I watched
Speaker 2: He's Just Got That Indie on my flight home on
Speaker 2: whatever day. Yes today, I didn't get the ring and
Speaker 2: so watching he's just.
Speaker 3: Looking to see if he's looking over to see what
Speaker 3: she's watching.
Speaker 2: But I love her characters so much, and like every
Speaker 2: time I watch that movie, I'm so reminded of how
Speaker 2: much I am Gigi in that movie, because like she's
Speaker 2: so naive and so oblivious and like doesn't care because
Speaker 2: she just has like such a hopeful heart. You know,
Speaker 2: She's like, I don't care how many rejections I get.
Speaker 2: I don't care how many doors are slimed on my face,
Speaker 2: Like I'm still going to show up and I'm still
Speaker 2: I still believe in love. And I was like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 3: So. People put this song Foolish one on TikTok and
Speaker 3: the sound like the sound name is called Delulu girls
Speaker 3: like delusional girls, so like they'll be doing no because
Speaker 3: they're saying they're like delusion.
Speaker 4: Okay, your word for no, your word for naive is
Speaker 4: the gen z Delulu. Well, Delulu is so rude.
Speaker 2: No, I hope gen z get a little it.
Speaker 3: No, it's being like it's being like, oh, he just
Speaker 3: hasn't texted me because he's probably he probably lost his
Speaker 3: phone and he probably.
Speaker 2: Fine because he wasn't your person. It's okay, Okay, it's
Speaker 2: called hope gen Z.
Speaker 3: No. I think more like your word of being like
Speaker 3: I'm so naive. Like there that's them saying like I'm delusional.
Speaker 3: I can be delusional.
Speaker 1: Moments. You've had your moments called I love that, like
Speaker 1: he wol have lost the phone, like maybe he left
Speaker 1: dropped in the ocean, like maybe It's like he had
Speaker 1: so many different reasons why something wasn't happening.
Speaker 2: And look where I am today.
Speaker 3: It's well, look worse she has to say, people, where
Speaker 3: I am now?
Speaker 4: Sleeping on her chocolates?
Speaker 2: Chocolates on my pillow?
Speaker 4: Oh man?
Speaker 2: So okay, So anyways, so anyways, back to Taylor, there
Speaker 2: was also.
Speaker 4: A lyric change and better than revenge.
Speaker 1: I found that really interesting.
Speaker 3: I couldn't understand what she's saying. But go ahead, no,
Speaker 3: because I someone posts it. But I can't hear what
Speaker 3: the lyrics are.
Speaker 1: Okay, what the old lyrics were. Uh, she's better known
Speaker 1: for the maker she does on the mattress, which you
Speaker 1: could say is luck shaming.
Speaker 2: Right, That's why she changed it.
Speaker 1: That's why she changed I mean, she hasn't said so,
Speaker 1: but I think that is why she changed it, because
Speaker 1: now she says, uh, she is okay, original lyrics. She's
Speaker 1: better known for the things that she does on the mattress. Well,
Speaker 1: the new one is he was a moth to the flames,
Speaker 1: she was holding the mattress.
Speaker 2: Whoa, which is pretty good.
Speaker 1: It's pretty Oh you're making a face back up. I
Speaker 1: think it's a pretty solid lyric change if you're going
Speaker 1: to needed I love.
Speaker 2: A moth to a Flame comparison.
Speaker 4: I love the lyrics.
Speaker 3: I think the lyrics great, like she's such a genius songwriter,
Speaker 3: but I liked the bitterness and better than revenge. Oh yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: so Ashley, I posted, I don't know. I don't just
Speaker 3: I just don't know if I'm into the maturity.
Speaker 1: But that's the thing is she was what nineteen twenty
Speaker 1: when she wrote these songs.
Speaker 4: Yeaheah.
Speaker 1: I feel like thirty three you're gonna have some recross,
Speaker 1: Like isn't there a song where she says you're gay?
Speaker 2: Like she took cut out thought which song?
Speaker 3: That's fine, I'll tell man you're gay by the way
Speaker 3: get out. Yeah, that's fine, I'll tell mine.
Speaker 1: I don't know what she's say the Picture to Burn
Speaker 1: original lyrics of.
Speaker 2: Picture to Burn, what she changed it to that's fine.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure I'll find out. The point is the
Speaker 1: point is that I think she's evolving, yes, but also
Speaker 1: I think it's her.
Speaker 3: Oh art, she said that's fine. You won't mind if
Speaker 3: I say that's the change.
Speaker 1: Okay, We're all on board with her re recording her
Speaker 1: albums right one hundred percent into the Taylor's versions. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I think we all have to be on board
Speaker 1: with her making a little tweaks on the way.
Speaker 2: About the weird stuff I probably wrote in my journal
Speaker 2: when I was nineteen years old. It's totally embarrassing. Oh
Speaker 2: my gosh.
Speaker 4: No, I think she's a genius.
Speaker 3: I just I loved the I loved the pettiness of
Speaker 3: Better Than Revenge.
Speaker 4: It was fun. It's a revenge song.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Anyway, being honest, if I'm being honest now, it
Speaker 2: was never one of my favorite albums.
Speaker 3: I will say I have some favorite songs from the album,
Speaker 3: but as a whole.
Speaker 2: Whole, it was not like I'm with you up on
Speaker 2: the mantle, I'm with you.
Speaker 1: My daughters, who are Swifties to the nth degree, especially
Speaker 1: over the past year, they love speaking now and they're
Speaker 1: very excited for Taylor's version. A couple so they felt
Speaker 1: like Dear John didn't have the passion and anger in
Speaker 1: it from the original, especially the line I'm shining like
Speaker 1: fireworks over your sad empty town. She felt like it
Speaker 1: was angry in the first version, where it was just
Speaker 1: kind of a lyric. In the second, yeah, because.
Speaker 2: She's in a difference int of mind, She's like whatever,
Speaker 2: John Mayer, Yeah.
Speaker 4: I do, I do like that.
Speaker 3: At her concert, she was like, we talked about this,
Speaker 3: but she was like, hey, no need to verbally attack.
Speaker 2: The uh the but yeah, I mean, no need to
Speaker 2: verbally attack the Tamy Ones because she really brought that
Speaker 2: guy back.
Speaker 3: I mean, but everyone loves Taylor. He was a good
Speaker 3: boy for he was a good ex.
Speaker 2: He was the good ex. But man, she do it
Speaker 2: cool with.
Speaker 3: That he is so I will just say, when I
Speaker 3: watched the video, I was like, Taylor is so talented. Yeah,
Speaker 3: like he is him doing those stunts and stuff, like,
Speaker 3: he is just so talented, and I just I'm so
Speaker 3: happy for him.
Speaker 2: I am too. I love that he's like having a
Speaker 2: big moment right now because he is like one of
Speaker 2: the nicest guys ever.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and his wife Taylor is also one of the
Speaker 3: coolest girls ever. Because someone was saying, like, to be
Speaker 3: that secure to have everyone being like, well, I want
Speaker 3: to be mad if Taylor and Taylor Swift got back together,
Speaker 3: you know, and she was just like all along for
Speaker 3: the ride, like this is awesome.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're both cool. I'm so happy for them.
Speaker 1: So interesting to have the name Taylor and then date
Speaker 1: multiple tailors in your life. That's so weird, so weird.
Speaker 2: If I dated a Tanya, that would be so weird.
Speaker 2: Come here, Tanya, I guess why dog?
Speaker 4: Yeah, you talk to And then when she brought him
Speaker 4: out on stage in Kansas City, he did the fly.
Speaker 2: I know, it's just cool. Yeah, it was cool. I
Speaker 2: was happy to see that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, me too. There was something else I was gonna
Speaker 4: talk about.
Speaker 2: Were about frand Maria getting engaged.
Speaker 4: I was going to bring that up there as girls.
Speaker 2: So that you gonna bring up.
Speaker 4: I'll bring that up after chick.
Speaker 2: Don't forget it.
Speaker 4: The chicks are engaged. Congratulations.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so okay. So so I saw Frank Who's
Speaker 2: it first as she got engaged, and oh my gosh,
Speaker 2: look at this podcast. Hast engaged on her European vacation. Babe,
Speaker 2: how cool is that? And then and then Sunday, I
Speaker 2: think it was Sunday, I was definitely back from vacation
Speaker 2: and Rhea posted that she got engaged, and I was like, babe,
Speaker 2: remember that podcast girl that I was telling you got
Speaker 2: engaged on her European vacation. Her podcast host co host
Speaker 2: also got engaged this last week. Look at this podcast
Speaker 2: to engage, you know, and then he goes, aren't you
Speaker 2: so glad that you're not lumped into that?
Speaker 4: I love that spin?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, but it got me thinking, like, if
Speaker 2: you and I were to get engaged in the same week,
Speaker 2: how crazy is that?
Speaker 3: Crazy? You're really itching for it a little more than
Speaker 3: than I am over here. So I don't know if
Speaker 3: that's gonna happen, but it'd be very right.
Speaker 2: You never know.
Speaker 1: They're gonna ask when they're gonna ask.
Speaker 3: So right, yeah, I know that's true. That's true. It
Speaker 3: would be crazy, but that is ironic because friend has
Speaker 3: been with her guy for years and then Ria and
Speaker 3: her guy have not been together as long. But it
Speaker 3: was kind of like when you know, you know type thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So, like, how crazy is that?
Speaker 4: I'm so excited for?
Speaker 2: How crazy is that in the same week.
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 2: I'm going to listen to their podcast to hear their
Speaker 2: sides of the story.
Speaker 3: I know, I was thinking I just sld their posts. Oh,
Speaker 3: I was going to bring up the Jonah Hill in
Speaker 3: his ex girlfriend post.
Speaker 2: So I'm a little behind on pop culture. Pop culture thing. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it was very like I really did unplug like from
Speaker 2: just pop culture stuff. And then when I got back,
Speaker 2: I was just in taylor Land. I'm like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: really focus on, like there's just a lot going on
Speaker 2: in Taylorland. Was what what's going on? John Hill?
Speaker 4: So basically his ex I don't know the details of.
Speaker 2: Howls of an old conversation, right.
Speaker 4: Yes, but I don't know how long they've been broken up,
Speaker 4: Like I don't.
Speaker 2: Know when he's married. Now is he married?
Speaker 1: He had a baby with his girlfriend Olivia, He's not married. Ah,
Speaker 1: but he's being accused of being emotionally abusive by his
Speaker 1: ex girlfriend, whose name is Sarah.
Speaker 3: This is it's interesting because it's taken. There's two sides.
Speaker 3: People have taken two sides of this because people are
Speaker 3: like she, uh so she posted the text where he's
Speaker 3: basically like, I don't want you posting these photos where
Speaker 3: you're a bikini. She's a professional surfer, she models. She's
Speaker 3: like the photos of her are like surfing in swimsuits.
Speaker 3: It's not like she's like sexually post I don't know
Speaker 3: if she had any of this, but he had asked
Speaker 3: her to take those down, so I guess she took
Speaker 3: a lot of the photos down and he would be like,
Speaker 3: here's some other ones that you still haven't He was like,
Speaker 3: good start.
Speaker 4: He was like, that's a good start.
Speaker 3: Very it felt very controlling, and then he was like,
Speaker 3: here are my boundaries, and he listed all of his boundaries.
Speaker 3: But the boundaries kind of sounded like this is like
Speaker 3: almost like I need to control what you do in post.
Speaker 2: So it's interesting because like, I think everybody has boundaries,
Speaker 2: right I.
Speaker 3: Think it's healthy to have boundaries in conversation, like conversations.
Speaker 2: About like you're never going to find someone that's one
Speaker 2: hundred percent on the same page of everything as you.
Speaker 2: But like I would never be with someone that told
Speaker 2: me what I can wear or not wear, or like
Speaker 2: not to post bikini photos or you know. I mean,
Speaker 2: like I just would not be with somebody that was
Speaker 2: like that. But if you're choosing to be with somebody
Speaker 2: like that, then you're choosing to be with somebody like that, right.
Speaker 3: Well, I think it was kind of like one of
Speaker 3: those things when you're in it, and especially when you're
Speaker 3: using language from therapy, which is like I'm setting my boundaries,
Speaker 3: like here are my intentions. It's almost like you're using
Speaker 3: this like therapy language to control And so I think
Speaker 3: when you're in it, you're feeling like you don't recognize
Speaker 3: it as like someone trying to control you. Yeah, you
Speaker 3: just think, oh, they're just this is the compromise of
Speaker 3: a relationship, you know. And then maybe once you're out
Speaker 3: of it, you see like this is not healthy because
Speaker 3: a lot of people who have been in emotionally abusive
Speaker 3: or controlling relationships.
Speaker 2: You don't see it when you're in it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And when they were like those messages were triggering
Speaker 3: to read because I was with an abuser and this
Speaker 3: is like this happens, you know, like this is this
Speaker 3: is get out basically.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And then there's people man trying to tell me
Speaker 2: what to post or like what to wear.
Speaker 3: And then there's people who are saying he's setting his
Speaker 3: boundaries and he's being clear about what he expects out
Speaker 3: of a relationship with a woman. But the problem is
Speaker 3: that how he slid into her DMS was hard eyes
Speaker 3: on one of the photos that he wanted her to
Speaker 3: take down, and it's like so you're all about this.
Speaker 2: To get hooked on, to get hooked onto the rod.
Speaker 2: Now that you're on the rod, be reeled in.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Sure.
Speaker 1: My other issue with it, and by the way I
Speaker 1: think he comes across is very condescending. It just kind
Speaker 1: of a dick in these texts. But here's my other
Speaker 1: thought is why is this conversation happening via text? This
Speaker 1: is a face to face conversation you guys should be
Speaker 1: happy having because he's coming off awfully and maybe if
Speaker 1: it was in person, maybe he wouldn't. I don't know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's a long discussion all on text. Just call
Speaker 1: each other or go to each other.
Speaker 4: Yeah, work it out.
Speaker 3: To me, it felt like he had a lot of
Speaker 3: insecurities and they were projected in these texts.
Speaker 4: Doesn't It doesn't make it right.
Speaker 3: But I also and then people are like, well, it's
Speaker 3: toxic that she posted these photos, and I'm like, sure, maybe.
Speaker 2: It did in her bikini.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, I'm sorry the photos of the text
Speaker 3: all right, And I'm like, sure, maybe it is, maybe,
Speaker 3: but it doesn't negate what he's.
Speaker 2: Wonder what her intention of posting those was.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Actually, like, did you are you familiar with Keky Palmer story.
Speaker 2: It's similar. So like her friend basically like posted something
Speaker 2: tweeted like her outfit, saying like but you're a mom, though,
Speaker 2: like she shouldn't be wearing what she was wearing, and
Speaker 2: it turned into a whole thing, and she was wearing
Speaker 2: like a it's like a body sew with like a
Speaker 2: sheer dress over it. To me, it did not look
Speaker 2: very provocative. But I wear some weird stuff. So not
Speaker 2: one to talk. But people were like up in arms
Speaker 2: about the fact that he's like basically he's like mom shaming,
Speaker 2: you know, like because you're a mom, you have to
Speaker 2: like cover up your body. And again it's like she
Speaker 2: can do whatever she wants with her body, Like why
Speaker 2: is he doing it publicly? Like again, it's like so weird,
Speaker 2: Like I'm like, why would you tweet that about your girlfriend?
Speaker 2: Why woul't you just text her and be like hey, babe,
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. It's just so weird to
Speaker 2: me when people do this stuff publicly.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, I think it's having a conversation. I
Speaker 3: think if he was like, hey, I'm it makes me
Speaker 3: feel insecure when I see like these other men commenting
Speaker 3: on you, and maybe it's my own insecurity, Like I
Speaker 3: think there's a conversation around yeah, having a conversation about
Speaker 3: what you post. But I still I just have a
Speaker 3: hard time being like, I don't know. Yeah, the fact
Speaker 3: that he slid into her DMS on one of this
Speaker 3: photo and the photos and then turned it around on
Speaker 3: her feels yikes, yikes, We're.
Speaker 4: Gonna take a break.
Speaker 2: And yeah, yeah, there was something else that I wanted
Speaker 2: to mention.
Speaker 4: All right, we'll ponder that on the bike.
Speaker 3: Yeah, right, and we'll be back with emails.
Speaker 2: By the way, everybody was messaging me about the pink
Speaker 2: dress and they're like, is that Becca's pink dress? I
Speaker 2: was like, yes, this is the one saved her for
Speaker 2: my final night.
Speaker 4: I gave up, she gave up on the white saved
Speaker 4: her for the night.
Speaker 2: No, but I found this was like before we left
Speaker 2: for vacation, I found my dear future husband journal and
Speaker 2: I read the entry from the first night that I
Speaker 2: went out with Robbie and it was very funny.
Speaker 4: Fine, why didn't you bring it or take a photo
Speaker 4: to read it?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 4: So good.
Speaker 2: It's kind of embarrassing. Like now, like I think about
Speaker 2: like Taylor Swift putting out songs in twenty ten. This
Speaker 2: was just from twenty nineteen, and it was like, oh,
Speaker 2: please please share. It was like, I'm so glad Sierra
Speaker 2: forced me to go out with this guy. He is
Speaker 2: so cute and it's like, so like, what is I
Speaker 2: fifteen years old? It was two years ago, three years ago.
Speaker 2: It's just like ah night and they dropped me off.
Speaker 2: He kissed me and I can't even explain to you
Speaker 2: what I felt in my vagina, Like it's so crazy.
Speaker 3: I feel like.
Speaker 4: That's what you'd write now. Yeah, track track.
Speaker 3: I think you're reading it from like a youthful perspective, but.
Speaker 2: I think that's how I wonder if Sierra is going
Speaker 2: to speak at our wedding.
Speaker 1: Oh, I know she should.
Speaker 4: You should ask her about that.
Speaker 2: I know I wanted to, but she's like having a baby,
Speaker 2: so I didn't want to bother her with my dear
Speaker 2: future husband update. But uh yeah, it was so crazy.
Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe you can bring that in and read something.
Speaker 2: And I read a chapter when I met Mark Wahlberg
Speaker 2: in Hawaii, and I was like, I mean I wrote
Speaker 2: three pages about meeting him, Like wow, he really like
Speaker 2: struck a chord with me or like.
Speaker 3: I remember I was drunk, taking like vodka shots or something,
Speaker 3: and y'all were just the rum and y'all were just
Speaker 3: having a deep heart and my eyes are glazed over
Speaker 3: and I'm like, m Yeah.
Speaker 2: I wrote three pages in my Dear future Husband journal
Speaker 2: about that interaction.
Speaker 4: We love Mark Wahlberg.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Shall we get into emails?
Speaker 1: Yes? By the way, I want to thank the scrubbers.
Speaker 1: I mentioned a few weeks ago that I was a
Speaker 1: baseball fan because somebody had been a scrubber was dating
Speaker 1: a baseball player and she wanted some advice and I
Speaker 1: don't know who it was. I've gotten so many nice
Speaker 1: dms from people who are married to were dating baseball players. Whoa,
Speaker 1: and this one's in the minor league and this one
Speaker 1: pitched for the Pirates and my stepdad used to manage
Speaker 1: the Astros like it's a really it's great, wow.
Speaker 2: Baseball community.
Speaker 1: We have Facebook, you know subgroup who were dating an
Speaker 1: athlete or married to an athlete? Wo Lauren says Hi,
Speaker 1: Tanya and Becka and market Easton. I've been stuck in
Speaker 1: limbo with my boyfriend for four months and need help.
Speaker 1: I'm thirty, he's thirty four. Together a year and a half,
Speaker 1: most serious, longest relationship I've been in. We're ready to
Speaker 1: live together and I brought the topic up in marsh
Speaker 1: and he said he wasn't ready. Well, now it comes
Speaker 1: up a lot and knows leads to a big fight.
Speaker 1: I own my house, he rents, so he'd be moving
Speaker 1: in with me. He doesn't want to move into my
Speaker 1: house because he's had bad experiences with xes. He says
Speaker 1: he wants to live with me, but he wants it
Speaker 1: to be our space. We've looked into buying a house
Speaker 1: together and it's not a good decision financially right now,
Speaker 1: and that is interest rates through the roof rain.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: I've come up with so many ideas on how we
Speaker 1: can and we decorate together. We can get rid of
Speaker 1: everything and the guest room, it can be his office,
Speaker 1: et cetera. But he will not budge. We're in couple's
Speaker 1: therapy because this topic has led to so much tension.
Speaker 1: This is their only issue, and I'm at a loss.
Speaker 1: How do I make him comfortable with moving into my house?
Speaker 4: This is tricky.
Speaker 3: I don't really know, Like I almost feel like if
Speaker 3: he's not comfortable moving in and then y'all should just
Speaker 3: stay separate until you feel financially ready to buy a
Speaker 3: home together.
Speaker 2: That's where I'm at, Sister, What what?
Speaker 1: Why? Why can't he just move into her house?
Speaker 2: He doesn't want to? Then he doesn't want to.
Speaker 4: I just don't.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think it's like if there's fighting and
Speaker 3: it leads to fights. I think if there, I don't
Speaker 3: know if it's like an ego thing of like he
Speaker 3: wants it.
Speaker 4: To be his.
Speaker 1: I think it's an ego thing, and I think he
Speaker 1: has some issues he needs to work through it.
Speaker 2: Well, let me speak to you as someone with these
Speaker 2: issues that will not move into her boyfriend's home. Tonya
Speaker 2: the same, It is the same thing. You're there, you're there,
Speaker 2: you're there.
Speaker 1: You're there, you have an empty apartment studio that you
Speaker 1: haven't seen in six months.
Speaker 2: I'm saying it's an ego thing. It's not an ego thing,
Speaker 2: but it's like a it's like a promise I made
Speaker 2: to myself. Different.
Speaker 1: I think it's a different thing. He didn't make a
Speaker 1: promise to himself.
Speaker 2: I think it's that that's not in the email. You're assuming.
Speaker 2: You know what happens when you assume, you make an
Speaker 2: ass out of you and me.
Speaker 1: I just know how guys think, and this is not
Speaker 1: how he's thinking. He's not thinking. I made a promise
Speaker 1: to myself that I won't get my heart spoken by
Speaker 1: moving in too soon to somebody else's house.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's like he wants to he wants
Speaker 3: to feel like he owns or like it's not just
Speaker 3: her place, or like she could dispose of him if
Speaker 3: you know she wants, and then he's out on the street.
Speaker 4: But I also think there.
Speaker 3: May be is a conversation of like hey, or and
Speaker 3: maybe it has something to do with rent where he's like,
Speaker 3: I'm not going to pay half your mortgage if it's
Speaker 3: under your name, like because then it's just going towards you,
Speaker 3: it doesn't you know.
Speaker 1: If she didn't mention that. But that's that's interesting. How
Speaker 1: they're going to divide that up is interesting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So if that's an issue, then maybe it can
Speaker 3: be like he contributes to the what are the utilities
Speaker 3: and groceries and stuff, or where he's pulling his weight
Speaker 3: and can make the house feel like his without feeling
Speaker 3: like he's putting money into your mortgage, because that might
Speaker 3: be it too, Like financially, it's not a smart decision
Speaker 3: for him, because he's not getting he's he's literally would
Speaker 3: be contributing to her home, yeah, without getting anything out
Speaker 3: of it, because they're not married, they're not legally.
Speaker 1: It's only about a year and a half. So I
Speaker 1: wonder if this is a sign that he's not as
Speaker 1: all in on this as she is.
Speaker 3: I would just stay separate. I don't think it's a
Speaker 3: negative thing to not live together. I think our society
Speaker 3: really pushes, like move in together, merge your lives. But
Speaker 3: like I don't know that that's like a like a
Speaker 3: necessary thing to have a healthy, thriving relationship.
Speaker 1: Perhaps not, but I do think that Tanya has been
Speaker 1: wasting thousands and thousands of dollars right down the toilet.
Speaker 4: She's there and now the studio is not there. But
Speaker 4: I'm saying, it's so sisk.
Speaker 1: Guy, and so is this guy.
Speaker 2: A waste to you? Is not a waste to me.
Speaker 2: That's the thing. Like if this guy, if it's really
Speaker 2: important to him, he doesn't want to move into your home,
Speaker 2: he says he can't make it our place, then like
Speaker 2: that's his prerogative, and like he just he's gonna unders
Speaker 2: need time time, heals a lot of things.
Speaker 1: True. I'm worried that he's not as all in on.
Speaker 4: This issue is and maybe he's not.
Speaker 3: Maybe he's I think is a great idea because I
Speaker 3: think this is an issue that feels like you should
Speaker 3: eventually come to a place where you can make it work.
Speaker 3: This doesn't feel like there's no chance you can make
Speaker 3: this work, because.
Speaker 2: I do think there is, like there is a lot
Speaker 2: more to it, like Mark, like, it's not just yet,
Speaker 2: it's moving into somebody's house, it's making your own space.
Speaker 2: It's wanting to like maybe they want to like do
Speaker 2: all these makeovers. And he's like, I don't want to
Speaker 2: invest my money into this home when we're not married,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. Like, there's a lot that
Speaker 2: goes into it. It's very complicated. And so because if.
Speaker 1: They do break up and he's paying the mortgan, he's
Speaker 1: paying for the remodeling. Yeah, it's ugly.
Speaker 2: It's ugly. So I'm kind of with him on this one,
Speaker 2: not with him, but like just give him time and
Speaker 2: don't try to force the issue.
Speaker 3: I'm with you too, I'm navigating couples therapy. I don't
Speaker 3: think it's like a make Yeah, that's what I was
Speaker 3: thinking I've been trying, frantically searching the rolodex.
Speaker 4: In my mind.
Speaker 2: It's not making I think it's.
Speaker 4: To make it break.
Speaker 3: I think it's just figuring out a way that works
Speaker 3: for both of you, that you both feel comfortable with it.
Speaker 2: It might be make or break in a few years.
Speaker 2: I don't think it's make or break right now.
Speaker 1: No. Anonymous is hoping for some advice. She's been in
Speaker 1: a long distance relationship with her girlfriend for a year now.
Speaker 1: They met in college and were roommates senior year. Several
Speaker 1: intimate moments were had, but mostly after drunken nights, and
Speaker 1: we kept them very secret. Side notes she had a
Speaker 1: boyfriend the first three years of college. I had many
Speaker 1: random flings with various guys. After college, I moved to California.
Speaker 1: She stayed in the Midwest, but we visited whenever we could,
Speaker 1: and last August we decided we wanted to make it
Speaker 1: official and I have to be my girlfriend. Yay, that's
Speaker 1: in there. I didn't add that shit with them. We've
Speaker 1: told all our close friends and family. We've received in
Speaker 1: ardible support from most of them. I feel like we've
Speaker 1: come such a long way in being proud of our
Speaker 1: relationship and I'm so happy for it. However, I've started
Speaker 1: to get nervous because we're about to attend three different
Speaker 1: weddings this fall with all of our old college acquaintances.
Speaker 1: Many of them don't know about our relationships since we
Speaker 1: haven't shared it on social media, and if we haven't
Speaker 1: seen them in person, we haven't felt the need to
Speaker 1: call and share. I love my girlfriend. I can't imagine
Speaker 1: hiding that anymore. But we're not used to being around
Speaker 1: a lot of people as a couple, and the feeling
Speaker 1: of basically coming out to one hundred plus people at
Speaker 1: once scares me. I want to be there to celebrate
Speaker 1: my friends getting married, not worry about anyone else. Do
Speaker 1: you have any advice for maintaining confidence?
Speaker 3: Hailey and I had a few of these moments before
Speaker 3: we came out publicly, where we went to front like
Speaker 3: a friend's wedding, and it was kind of like people
Speaker 3: would one of them people came up to me because
Speaker 3: they recognized me from the Bachelor, and then I would
Speaker 3: be like, oh, this is my girlfriend, Haley, and I was.
Speaker 2: Gonna remember that, but it wasn't even. It wasn't even
Speaker 2: at weddings. I feel like somebody came up to you,
Speaker 2: like at the beach one time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean that would happen all the time, but
Speaker 3: that was the one where it was like it was
Speaker 3: a lot of people.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it was a you know, industry event.
Speaker 3: No, it was like a wedding for my friend. And
Speaker 3: it was like a Christian you know, it's like very Christian.
Speaker 3: And I was very nervous, and I told Haley before
Speaker 3: we went to the wedding, I was like, I'm feeling
Speaker 3: a little bit anxious, like this is the first time
Speaker 3: we're going somewhere where, like I don't really know a
Speaker 3: lot of people, and they will probably know me from
Speaker 3: Bachelor World, not Bachelor contestants, but like people who watch
Speaker 3: The Bachelor. And she was like okay, she was like, well,
Speaker 3: I'm here for me, like here for you do whatever
Speaker 3: you're comfortable with, Like I'm I'm here whatever you need.
Speaker 3: So I felt like I had her support. And I
Speaker 3: also was like, you know what, it was our friends
Speaker 3: Jesse and Connor, and I was like, they want to
Speaker 3: have invited us, both of us if they felt like
Speaker 3: we wouldn't be comfortable or that we want it that
Speaker 3: we would feel uncomfortable. So I had to trust that,
Speaker 3: and uh, I think it's just having a conversation with
Speaker 3: each other and also being proud and giving people the
Speaker 3: chance to surprise you becau because that was one of
Speaker 3: the things that I've realized throughout this our whole relationship,
Speaker 3: was like giving people the chance to surprise you and
Speaker 3: be supportive, because I think we go into it thinking like, oh, no,
Speaker 3: we're going to get judged or people are going to
Speaker 3: have opinions, and it's like maybe they will, but who cares.
Speaker 3: And also going a lot of people will be like.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, what I had no idea.
Speaker 3: I'm so happy for you guys, Like that's kind of
Speaker 3: the general reaction that most people will give. And know
Speaker 3: that you have each other and that you're there to
Speaker 3: celebrate love and your friend's relationship.
Speaker 4: But I think it's just being upfront with.
Speaker 3: Each other and talking about what you're comfortable with and
Speaker 3: communicating throughout the night so that one of you doesn't
Speaker 3: feel like hidden or that you're ashamed to be there with.
Speaker 4: Each other, because you should be proud.
Speaker 3: Like being able to be in love and go to
Speaker 3: an event celebrating love with the person you love is
Speaker 3: a really special thing and life is short. Don't feel
Speaker 3: like you don't get to celebrate because maybe it looks different.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm with back on that one. Was pretty solid advice.
Speaker 4: Great.
Speaker 2: Well, I'm so sad. I feel like I have more
Speaker 2: stories to share.
Speaker 1: But I guess you guys.
Speaker 2: Threads.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've got two threads up.
Speaker 2: I have one up. Good morning.
Speaker 4: Original.
Speaker 3: You really thought about you thought about that one? I
Speaker 3: think that's all for No, No, it's not all. Do
Speaker 3: we have a Thursday episode? That's right, we do.
Speaker 2: That's so Raven.
Speaker 3: We're talking to Raven Simone and her wife, Miranda Pureman
Speaker 3: and may Day and they are so fun and they
Speaker 3: have a new podcast coming out.
Speaker 2: That's right.
Speaker 3: So we will be chatting with them on Thursday's episode.
Speaker 4: And we hope you have a wonderful week.
Speaker 2: Happy that we're both back from I'm so happy that
Speaker 2: we're both back. I missed you.
Speaker 4: I missed you too. Have a wonderful week. We love you.
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