WEBVTT - Foolish Ones

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<v Speaker 1>Ready' all.

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<v Speaker 2>M h yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Scrubbing In with Tilly and Tanya rap an iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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<v Speaker 2>So much to talk about. I'm back from VAK, back

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<v Speaker 2>from Bak Taytay t t and tay.

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<v Speaker 4>All the days, uh what else? So much to talk about, just.

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<v Speaker 2>So much talk about. I'm not engaged.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh okay, waita.

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<v Speaker 2>Just like to just put it out there. There's an

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<v Speaker 2>elephant in the room. I'm just gonna bring that elephant

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<v Speaker 2>right onto the front here.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, thank you for doing that, because I've been getting

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<v Speaker 3>people were like, Becca, tell us, do.

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<v Speaker 2>You know I'm like searching me, like I'm hiding in

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna and I'm like I'm like, God, that thing

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<v Speaker 2>would be on my hand and I'd be talking.

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<v Speaker 4>I'd be doing a live from the scene.

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<v Speaker 2>So no, I'm not hiding anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Somebody messaged me last night because I was doing a

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<v Speaker 2>video about Love Island and I had like the sheets

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<v Speaker 2>over me and they're like, there's a rock under your finger.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, no, all right, got that out of

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<v Speaker 2>the way. We should tease that.

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<v Speaker 4>That could have been a teaser. Sorry, we'll be back again.

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<v Speaker 1>Get the answer is no, but can we start with

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<v Speaker 1>hilarious story?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Well there, I mean, there's so much to like.

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<v Speaker 1>The story on me and it's really funny.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh great.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's our last night in Paris and we had

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<v Speaker 2>an early flight the next morning to go back home,

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<v Speaker 2>and uh, we stayed out late. We stayed up till

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<v Speaker 2>like two o'clock in the morning, and I like woke

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<v Speaker 2>up and I like smell like I was in like

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<v Speaker 2>Willy Wonk and the chocolate factory. I literally was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I smell like the deepest smell of chocolate I've ever

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<v Speaker 2>smelled in my life. I thought I was dreaming it,

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<v Speaker 2>Like it was so weird. And Robbie woke up in

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<v Speaker 2>the middle of night. We were both like awake because

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<v Speaker 2>we were like scared we're gonna miss our flight. You

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<v Speaker 2>just like didn't really sleep all. So I like rolled

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<v Speaker 2>over to like cuddle with him, and I like felt

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<v Speaker 2>stuff kind of like crumble on me, and I was like, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>do you smell that chocolate? He's like, what are you

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<v Speaker 2>talking about? So he grabs his phone and he puts

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<v Speaker 2>the flash line on me and they're just literally chocolate

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<v Speaker 2>all over my face and like my back and my

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<v Speaker 2>body and then we put it on the bed next

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<v Speaker 2>to me, and this is the scene. This is the

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<v Speaker 2>scene at which, so this is a podcast, you can't

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<v Speaker 2>really see about the to the camera right here.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my god, what is that?

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<v Speaker 2>So you know how they leave the little chocolates on

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<v Speaker 2>your I didn't know we had one of those, and

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<v Speaker 2>so I slept in the chocolate, like my head was

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<v Speaker 2>buried deep in this mile of you chocolate.

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<v Speaker 1>Or look a pillow before you put your hand on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Maive me the details of what I myself in there.

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<v Speaker 4>We're all gonna think of doing some freaky chocolate things,

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<v Speaker 4>not at all.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was actually piss because once I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>does this smells so good? And he goes, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>ate mine. It was like hazel chocolate was my favorite.

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<v Speaker 2>So it was a piss that I couldn't even try it,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I like felt bad. So this was like

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<v Speaker 2>the middle that was like three am, and he's like,

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<v Speaker 2>just go, grab like a towel over it so that

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<v Speaker 2>you can, like we can go back to sleep. So

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<v Speaker 2>I just put a towel over it, and then I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't want to like move the wrapper from the chocolate

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<v Speaker 2>because I didn't want the like cleaning ladies to think

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<v Speaker 2>that I like pooped the bed or something. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't anybody think.

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<v Speaker 4>I pooped the bed.

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<v Speaker 2>So I tried to like pick it up. Then I

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<v Speaker 2>like left the wrapper on there. It was just a mess.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't think that they'd be able to smell if

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<v Speaker 3>that was poop versus chocolate.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, Like Robbie can't smell anything.

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<v Speaker 4>He took me that checked out.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's the sinest thing is just because you just

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<v Speaker 2>come back backa.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, But like sometimes I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Like we were on the plane back and I was

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<v Speaker 3>in the middle seat and then the girl next to

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<v Speaker 3>me and Haley both had their shirt over their nose

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<v Speaker 3>and Haley's like, baby, don't smell that. And I was like, no,

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<v Speaker 3>like is my do I have COVID or something? Because

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<v Speaker 3>I can't smell this And she's like that's the worst smell.

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<v Speaker 3>And I look over and the girl next to me

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<v Speaker 3>on her notes covered. But then on the way there,

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<v Speaker 3>I got some you know how people just fart on planes.

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<v Speaker 3>It pisses me off. No, Like seriously, I get that.

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<v Speaker 3>You can't help it. It's like not healthy to hold

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<v Speaker 3>it in, but like please just excuse yourselfing it's so trude.

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<v Speaker 3>We cannot breathe fresh air or stuff. It's gross and

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<v Speaker 3>you're filth. It's gross. Also, I was, okay, you know

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<v Speaker 3>how I talked about how I have to shower before

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<v Speaker 3>I get on the plane to wash.

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<v Speaker 4>The sleep off.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So yesterday Haley said that she she had a she like,

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<v Speaker 3>met with someone and she was like, yeah, they smelled

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<v Speaker 3>like sleep. And I was like, do you see what

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<v Speaker 3>I'm saying? So now she understands.

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<v Speaker 2>Still, never, once you smell sleep on someone, you will

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<v Speaker 2>never unsmell it ever.

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<v Speaker 4>Again, it's so recognizable one to want to do.

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<v Speaker 2>It, especially like my dating life in college was that scent?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I am devastated by this.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I know I'm not going to say any names,

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<v Speaker 2>but you know who you are if good listening.

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<v Speaker 4>Your whole dating life in college was that sense?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, sinky college boys in a frat house, like rolling

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<v Speaker 2>out of bed and going to class like that is

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<v Speaker 2>the epitome of.

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<v Speaker 4>Full body chills. Now my spines so.

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<v Speaker 2>On all it's a blessing that Robbie can't smell for me.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait, why you know?

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<v Speaker 2>It's just nice? I feel very secure and uh if

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<v Speaker 2>I am gassy or anything like that is always a

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<v Speaker 2>silent He's like totally oblivio.

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<v Speaker 4>So if he can smell it, then it's like.

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<v Speaker 2>That he could the chocolate that was all over me,

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<v Speaker 2>and he's like right next to me and just goes

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<v Speaker 2>to show you that he has no sense of smell.

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<v Speaker 4>Wow, how was the trip?

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<v Speaker 3>Aside from you did you got the lead right out

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<v Speaker 3>the gate not engaged?

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<v Speaker 4>But how is the rest of the trip?

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<v Speaker 2>Truly one of the like the most magical experiences. I'll

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<v Speaker 2>never forget this trip. I cry probably like three or

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<v Speaker 2>four times when we got to Paris because I've always

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to see the Eiffel Tower, and so I cried

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<v Speaker 2>on our way into Paris, when I saw it and

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<v Speaker 2>we were landing, I cried on the plane, and then

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<v Speaker 2>I cried when we saw it for the first time

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<v Speaker 2>in real life like during the day, and then I

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<v Speaker 2>cried and I saw it light up at night. So

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<v Speaker 2>it was like really emotional, and it was really fun

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<v Speaker 2>because like my friends came. We had like friends meet

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<v Speaker 2>us at the earlier part of the trip, so we

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<v Speaker 2>got to like have fun and party and like do

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<v Speaker 2>all that kind of stuff. I ate everything under the sun.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I just really was like living. I brought a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of white just in case things happened.

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<v Speaker 4>I'll be honest.

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<v Speaker 3>When I saw the pink dress come out, I was like, well, dang,

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<v Speaker 3>it's not happening quick because yeah, everything else, everything else,

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<v Speaker 3>It was like.

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<v Speaker 4>Dude, the pink dress came out.

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<v Speaker 2>To be honest, I'm packing for a trip. I always

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<v Speaker 2>packed like a specific color just because I only did

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<v Speaker 2>a carry on.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so I only was impressive.

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<v Speaker 2>I only wanted to have shoes that matched like that,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean. Like I didn't bring a

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<v Speaker 2>black pair of heel right or anything. So everything was

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<v Speaker 2>like white was the vibe. Sometimes black is the vibe.

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<v Speaker 2>This was white was the vibe, and uh a more

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<v Speaker 2>practically every day. Wow.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I just just to be ready to be ready

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<v Speaker 3>in case.

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<v Speaker 2>But alas we're here.

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<v Speaker 4>Songs a ring songs.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah I didn't. Here's the thing I joke about it.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like sad a little bit, but it doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>take away from the trip. Like I really know, I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't have expectations going in, and I really really had

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<v Speaker 2>the best time ever.

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, I think everyone else had the expectations. But

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<v Speaker 3>you were even like No, we're just like going on

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<v Speaker 3>the trip. Yeah, but you can. You are always prepared.

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<v Speaker 3>It's never bad to be prepared, That's what I say.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I know, like just when.

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<v Speaker 1>You're there, there's gonna be a moment where you're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this would be nice.

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<v Speaker 2>But when the Eiffel Towers let playing right behind us

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<v Speaker 2>at midnight, you know, I was like the saxophonist is

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<v Speaker 2>playing love songs on his saxophone. You know, it's like.

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<v Speaker 4>Glancing like maybe he'll go on the knee. When I

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<v Speaker 4>turned my head this way.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you want me to go pick something up down

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<v Speaker 2>the street? We want to go get a bottle of

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<v Speaker 2>wine at the vendor right there something.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait, did you like Paris better than the south of France?

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<v Speaker 2>So different?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean yeah, very different.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like beach vibes versus city vibes. We like, we

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<v Speaker 2>took those vests because it was so fun. We saw

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<v Speaker 2>so much of the city in like a day because

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<v Speaker 2>we had these little our uber to Like the restaurant

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<v Speaker 2>was like forty five minutes and I was like, this

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<v Speaker 2>is this Traffic is wild? So yeah, found these little

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<v Speaker 2>lime scooters and just limed around the whole town. I know,

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<v Speaker 2>I saw so much of Paris.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, that was really smart. Yeah, smart way

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<v Speaker 4>to do things.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I tried to convince him to get two

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<v Speaker 2>of us on one. I was like, beck, can I

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<v Speaker 2>do this all the time. It's possible.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if we did it all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>We did it desperation one time. It's not my choice.

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<v Speaker 2>Stole scooters and I was like, I guess we're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>go on one together.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's hard to balance, so we got to activate

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<v Speaker 4>the core.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeaheah, how was your trip?

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<v Speaker 4>It was amazing.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know what's so funny is I was like

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<v Speaker 3>I could have also brought a carry on, but I didn't,

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<v Speaker 3>but it could happen because.

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<v Speaker 2>Look back at it, because I'm like, I still had

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<v Speaker 2>two outfits to burn. Really yeah, wow.

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<v Speaker 4>I just I packed.

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<v Speaker 3>I worked so hard to put que outfits together, and

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<v Speaker 3>I think I wore two of them because.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't wear a lot of cute stuff, so like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>we justsked a couple of cute things and then lounge stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>But like we would we would just like go from

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<v Speaker 3>the beach to dinner, so I'd just like wear my

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<v Speaker 3>cover up in my bathing suit and that's like why

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<v Speaker 3>it's so fun to go there because there's no expectation

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<v Speaker 3>of needing to look a certain way.

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<v Speaker 2>But exactly, we did.

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<v Speaker 3>A resort for the first three four days, and that

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<v Speaker 3>was amazing because it was just like sleep. Well, we

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<v Speaker 3>didn't really I will say, I get on a really

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<v Speaker 3>healthy schedule in Hawaii. I wake up with like seven,

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<v Speaker 3>go to bed at like nine.

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<v Speaker 2>Nice. I was the opposite. We were going about like three,

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<v Speaker 2>sleeping till noon.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, well it's different when that time changed. But and

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<v Speaker 4>so we go to sleep. It's a lot of sleep

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<v Speaker 4>nine seven.

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<v Speaker 2>This sounds like heaven to me. Beautiful, beautiful. Look at

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<v Speaker 2>that fresh face over there. Some well slept skin.

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<v Speaker 4>I got a lot of rest.

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<v Speaker 3>And and so it was like we'd go into the

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<v Speaker 3>ocean and just like float in the ocean and like

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<v Speaker 3>the water there is just magical.

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<v Speaker 2>Was it warm?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it was like warm, but like refreshing, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>like you'd get in you're like, oh, it feels good.

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<v Speaker 3>And then we go the pool, go under the cabana

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<v Speaker 3>play cards.

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<v Speaker 4>It was just like perfect.

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<v Speaker 3>And then we went to an airbnb, which also is

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<v Speaker 3>really fun because it's like we went got our groceries,

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<v Speaker 3>had like our little home base, made sandwiches for the beach,

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<v Speaker 3>went on you know, adventures.

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<v Speaker 4>It was so fun.

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<v Speaker 2>But let me just tell everybody about this sandwich paste

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<v Speaker 2>that I learned about in France. Taste taste. Okay, you

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<v Speaker 2>take pistachios and you crumble them up like into like

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<v Speaker 2>fine powder, not powder, but like crunched up pistachio olive oil. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>parmesan cheese.

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<v Speaker 4>Mmm.

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<v Speaker 2>You put that as like a like a little paste

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<v Speaker 2>on your sandwich. Spread a spread, get paste on so

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<v Speaker 2>so gross. It was like a spread and that is

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<v Speaker 2>heaven in your mouth. Wow, try and recreate it here.

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<v Speaker 2>Because we went to this like sandwich place and ate

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<v Speaker 2>it and I was like, this is the most fantastic.

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<v Speaker 2>Sounds so good. Robbie's like I can make that.

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<v Speaker 4>I was gonna say, I feel like YA could make

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<v Speaker 4>that if you do.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, we will for sure.

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<v Speaker 4>We put some fresh sandwiches and bread from Italy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes exactly, yeah, exactly, exactly exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>So one of the nights Haley and I we she

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<v Speaker 3>was like, I found this really this really popular burger

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<v Speaker 3>spot and it's on like top five best places in Maui.

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<v Speaker 3>So we look it up. And we we drive to it.

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<v Speaker 3>By the way, we rented a jeep and like took

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<v Speaker 3>the Uh.

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<v Speaker 2>It's fun.

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<v Speaker 4>It's so fun. We had the best time.

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<v Speaker 2>In Brocco, now, don't you no, Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>But it was really fun on vacation. And so we

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<v Speaker 3>go we pull up this burger place and it's in

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<v Speaker 3>a gas station. It's like adjacent to a gas station,

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<v Speaker 3>and we're like, I'm like.

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<v Speaker 4>Is this it?

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<v Speaker 3>And she goes, I promise it's on this list of

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<v Speaker 3>like best places in Mali.

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<v Speaker 4>It was the.

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<v Speaker 3>Best burger I have ever had in my entire life. Really,

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<v Speaker 3>it's called Haven's if you're in Mali. It was incredible.

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<v Speaker 2>So we actually went to like the best burger place

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<v Speaker 2>in Paris. She has her quotes U s it's like

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<v Speaker 2>Kim Kardashian said, it was like the best burger place.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's actually a really cute little place, like it's

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<v Speaker 2>like a little maybe like ten tables, very very French, like, okay.

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<v Speaker 4>It's fine.

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<v Speaker 2>It was fine.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like I would get down on an in

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<v Speaker 2>and out burger over this, to be honest.

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<v Speaker 4>We that was our first place when we got back.

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<v Speaker 2>In and out.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's always our like go to when we return

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<v Speaker 3>from a travel. It was just so nice to go.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know, Hayley's been gone and had tour and

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<v Speaker 3>then she got back from tour and it was still

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<v Speaker 3>like NonStop work for her basically all of June. So

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<v Speaker 3>it was so so nice to just go and like

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<v Speaker 3>be together with no distractions and just like spend time together.

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<v Speaker 3>And it was just such a nice relaxing trip and

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<v Speaker 3>we did not want to come home.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I felt that.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it was.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so crazy because a week, like when you're on vacation,

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<v Speaker 2>feels like such a long time, but then it also

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<v Speaker 2>feels quick.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 3>I felt like we were there for like three days.

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<v Speaker 3>It went by so fast.

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<v Speaker 2>But then when you think about everything that you did,

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<v Speaker 2>I know, yeah, back, I'm like, oh my gosh, Like

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<v Speaker 2>that was felt like so long ago. Like, Okay, we

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<v Speaker 2>went to the hotel. Did you watch Sofia Richie's wedding

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<v Speaker 2>closely at all?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think as closely as you did.

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<v Speaker 2>But I didn't watch it that close to but Paulina,

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<v Speaker 2>it like was like very invested in it. And so

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<v Speaker 2>we went to the hotel that like she rented out

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<v Speaker 2>and like got married at and that was crazy because

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<v Speaker 2>I was like looking at the pictures from her wedding

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<v Speaker 2>and like seeing it in real life and like realizing

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<v Speaker 2>that the aisle she went down took her seven and

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<v Speaker 2>a half minutes to walk down. So we like walked

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<v Speaker 2>down and I was like, yeah, I'm tired, Like I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a half minutes its long long.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah that feels a little excessive. Yeah, but was it stunning?

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<v Speaker 2>Stunning? And so I was going through all of her

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<v Speaker 2>photos that I saw what I'm.

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<v Speaker 4>Trying to recreate Robbie.

0:14:19.640 --> 0:14:23.320
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Robbie so romantic. Here. I look at this backdrop,

0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:28.080
<v Speaker 2>perfect place for a wedding, people get married here, So

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<v Speaker 2>weird that we're here. Yeah, but that was like beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I don't know, I just I did a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of things. I ate a lot of things. I

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<v Speaker 2>drank a lot. But I feel I'm very happy.

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<v Speaker 4>Great, I'm glad. I felt.

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<v Speaker 3>I had this moment like multiple times on the trip

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<v Speaker 3>where I was like, I feel so grateful that we

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<v Speaker 3>get to do this. Yeah, you know, like to go

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<v Speaker 3>on a trip like this and like have this time

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<v Speaker 3>together and like get to experience what we get to experience.

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<v Speaker 4>I had a lot of those moments.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's what was hitting me in Paris. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I've had Paris on my vision board for so many years,

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<v Speaker 2>Like truly, I've had Paris on my vision board. I'll

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<v Speaker 2>go back and check, but it's been what oh yeah, yeah, well,

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<v Speaker 2>like Paris was opposite, like not like what's the word

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<v Speaker 2>tanging gentile, tangential and gentile to like anything else. But

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<v Speaker 2>I always wanted to go to Paris, Like I've just

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<v Speaker 2>always wanted to go, And so the fact that I

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<v Speaker 2>was actually there, it was like, I don't know, it's

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<v Speaker 2>really crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's really cool to get to go somewhere that evil, like,

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<v Speaker 3>especially somewhere like that, because it's so iconic.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was always like, I want to be in

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<v Speaker 2>love when I go there, you know what I mean. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like that was like a whole different element

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<v Speaker 2>to being in Paris, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you didn't want to be like Tanya in Paris,

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<v Speaker 3>like living your single life in Paris. You wanted to

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<v Speaker 3>go like, yeah, ea, croissants with the love of your life.

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<v Speaker 2>In Paris, you know, oh my god, I take Paris.

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<v Speaker 4>That's fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it was not that and didn't want it to

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<v Speaker 2>be that vibe. I wanted to be like in love

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<v Speaker 2>in Paris.

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<v Speaker 3>I will say though, I'd subscribe to Tatiana in Paris.

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<v Speaker 2>Really yeah, there's no okay you're single and you want

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<v Speaker 2>a hot hook up. The French Riviera is where it's at.

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<v Speaker 2>It was dripping in hot eyes, Like I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>what is going on? Yeah on.

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<v Speaker 3>It, we found your next destination, next destination.

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<v Speaker 2>Like it was so crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a it's a hot spot right now that Spain.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like everyone's kind of like over there just

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<v Speaker 3>living me.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw a dog. French love dogs. I saw a

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<v Speaker 2>dog every single day that yeah about and I would

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<v Speaker 2>like go and like grab the dog and like hug

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<v Speaker 2>the dog, and like I really missed Sunny.

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<v Speaker 3>We had a funny moment where there were these There

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<v Speaker 3>was this like really really southern couple next to us

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<v Speaker 3>laying on the loungers. This is right when we got

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<v Speaker 3>to our hotel and the woman walked by and I.

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<v Speaker 4>Was like, oh, I love your some suit topic where

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<v Speaker 4>is that from?

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<v Speaker 3>And she was just kind of like it was on

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<v Speaker 3>Instagram and like was a little bit like kind of rude,

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<v Speaker 3>and I didn't think anything of it. I was just

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<v Speaker 3>like all right whatever, And later on Haley's like, I

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<v Speaker 3>got really upset at how that lady responded to you.

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<v Speaker 4>And I was like, what do you mean?

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<v Speaker 3>And she was like, well, because like you went out

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<v Speaker 3>of your way to compliment her, and she was she

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<v Speaker 3>was just like not nice back, and I got I

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<v Speaker 3>felt like really defensive for you, and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>I was like that's okay, And so like every time

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<v Speaker 3>we see this lady, we'd be like.

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<v Speaker 4>There she is.

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<v Speaker 3>But it was cute that Haley got like riled up

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<v Speaker 3>because in the passing moment, I didn't think anything of it.

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<v Speaker 2>And she was like, I just always feel.

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<v Speaker 3>Like Southern people are just supposed to be so sweet

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<v Speaker 3>and like I always imagine them being like really like

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<v Speaker 3>overly friendly, and I was like, well, it's just like anywhere,

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<v Speaker 3>just it's just an accent. It's not People are still

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<v Speaker 3>gonna be people.

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<v Speaker 2>Ain't that the truth? People are gonna be people.

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<v Speaker 4>We gotta take a break with these.

0:18:05.160 --> 0:18:11.560
<v Speaker 2>Birthday coming up. So bossy with the breaks.

0:18:12.520 --> 0:18:14.199
<v Speaker 3>He tries to give us a hand symbol and then

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<v Speaker 3>we always announced that Mark's giving us.

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<v Speaker 4>It's fun.

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<v Speaker 2>It's fun, but like an air airplane guy like on

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<v Speaker 2>the tarmac. Land right here, take a break and be

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<v Speaker 2>right back.

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<v Speaker 3>We'll be back to talk about all things tailors. All right,

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<v Speaker 3>we're back, We're back. I just have to say, tell me,

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<v Speaker 3>am I glowing.

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<v Speaker 4>You are glowing, You're so tan.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, thank you. I don't tan, like I just don't tan.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was putting like fifty SPF every day. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but as our workout every day, we would like swim,

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<v Speaker 2>so we would like swim out to the buoies and

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<v Speaker 2>so I got I was like in the sun, but

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<v Speaker 2>I never I just get red. And I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>this is the first time that like I actually got

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<v Speaker 2>a little color.

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<v Speaker 4>You look like you got a spray tan.

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<v Speaker 2>No, and I'm not even in Bronza right now. I

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<v Speaker 2>know I'm just saying or too fresh face. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so congrats, thank you, thank you to gettamin d.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, finally got a tan, natural tan.

0:19:28.080 --> 0:19:28.399
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>You just need the French sun, south of France sun. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>it is different. Like even we were saying in Hawaii,

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<v Speaker 3>like Halen and I both got tan, and I was

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<v Speaker 3>like I haven't been tanned like naturally and forever it.

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<v Speaker 2>Stays light until ten pm over there. Oh, whoa. I

0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:47.159
<v Speaker 2>was having dinner at nine o'clock, nine thirty and like

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<v Speaker 2>the sun is still out, and I realized that I

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<v Speaker 2>am a woman of the sun. You are I am.

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<v Speaker 4>You're the sunshine mine and body I.

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<v Speaker 2>Am the sunshine mine in body form because like this,

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<v Speaker 2>when the sun's out, I thriving. I could be out.

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<v Speaker 2>I was having dinner at ten pm and then the

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<v Speaker 2>sun goes down and I'm like, I got to hit

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<v Speaker 2>the bed. I think that's why I'm such a homebody

0:20:07.760 --> 0:20:09.920
<v Speaker 2>when I'm at home, because when it's dark out, I

0:20:09.920 --> 0:20:13.040
<v Speaker 2>don't like to be outside. I think the economy would

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<v Speaker 2>like really boost it if we stayed light out till

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<v Speaker 2>late because everybody will be out warm.

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<v Speaker 4>What do we do for this?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know me as president?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh hell, we just can't do that to whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>The next election is.

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<v Speaker 4>Your sun out, tonya? Do you not know when the

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<v Speaker 4>next election is?

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<v Speaker 2>That the next year job?

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<v Speaker 4>So while we were gone, it.

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<v Speaker 2>Feels too soon for me, but maybe the next one.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, yeah, we got to work on some other things.

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<v Speaker 3>First things happen when.

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<v Speaker 4>We were gone.

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<v Speaker 2>So much happened.

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<v Speaker 3>Well speak now Taylor's version came out. Yes, I need

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<v Speaker 3>your opinions on vault.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you have any favorites?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I do have favorites. Let me, I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to mess up this.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, if she looks them up, I will tell you

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<v Speaker 1>that When Emma falls in Love is a favorite of mine,

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<v Speaker 1>and the idea that it may be about Emma Stone

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<v Speaker 1>makes it more a favorite of mine.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, it's about It's potentially about Emma Stone.

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<v Speaker 1>The rumors, that's what the Swifties are saying is when

0:21:19.720 --> 0:21:21.680
<v Speaker 1>they were really close back then and they speak now

0:21:21.720 --> 0:21:24.919
<v Speaker 1>era that's when she wrote the song, and that's what

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<v Speaker 1>they think, and I think that makes it even sweeter song.

0:21:27.920 --> 0:21:30.440
<v Speaker 1>I also really like Timeless, and they like Castle's Crumbling.

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<v Speaker 1>There I've spoken.

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<v Speaker 2>Castle's Crumbling is one of my favorites. I can see

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<v Speaker 2>you as one of my favorites. And Electric Touch.

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<v Speaker 3>How is no one talking about the How is no

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<v Speaker 3>one saying foolish one?

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<v Speaker 4>It's so good? Like don't you like You're not the exception?

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<v Speaker 4>Like that? Is? That is Tanya? Pretty? Robbie? Really?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes?

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<v Speaker 4>Do you want me to read lyrics?

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<v Speaker 2>So, if I'm being honest, you didn't listen? No, No,

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<v Speaker 2>I did. I listened, but like normally I would have

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<v Speaker 2>listened to this all the Bald Songs fifteen thousand times

0:22:07.280 --> 0:22:09.399
<v Speaker 2>by now. Yeah, but I didn't really start listening to

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<v Speaker 2>like I got home on Sunday, so I've only had

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<v Speaker 2>like a day to listen.

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<v Speaker 3>Foolish one, stop checking your mailbox for confessions of love.

0:22:16.480 --> 0:22:18.640
<v Speaker 3>They ain't ever gonna come. You will take the long way,

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<v Speaker 3>you will get the long way down. You know how

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<v Speaker 3>to keep me waiting. I know how to act like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm fine. Don't know what to call the situation, but

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<v Speaker 3>I know I can't call you mine, and it's delicate,

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<v Speaker 3>but I will do my best to see bulletproof. It's

0:22:30.720 --> 0:22:35.560
<v Speaker 3>basically like uh, Gigi from He's not that.

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<v Speaker 4>Into, He's just got that into you listen to this song.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, I know Tanya is gonna love this one.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm so shook that you didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to give it another chance because I watched

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<v Speaker 2>He's Just Got That Indie on my flight home on

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<v Speaker 2>whatever day. Yes today, I didn't get the ring and

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<v Speaker 2>so watching he's just.

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<v Speaker 3>Looking to see if he's looking over to see what

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<v Speaker 3>she's watching.

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<v Speaker 2>But I love her characters so much, and like every

0:23:09.240 --> 0:23:12.160
<v Speaker 2>time I watch that movie, I'm so reminded of how

0:23:12.240 --> 0:23:15.359
<v Speaker 2>much I am Gigi in that movie, because like she's

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<v Speaker 2>so naive and so oblivious and like doesn't care because

0:23:21.160 --> 0:23:22.879
<v Speaker 2>she just has like such a hopeful heart. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>She's like, I don't care how many rejections I get.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't care how many doors are slimed on my face,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I'm still going to show up and I'm still

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<v Speaker 2>I still believe in love. And I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I do.

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<v Speaker 3>So. People put this song Foolish one on TikTok and

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<v Speaker 3>the sound like the sound name is called Delulu girls

0:23:41.040 --> 0:23:45.879
<v Speaker 3>like delusional girls, so like they'll be doing no because

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<v Speaker 3>they're saying they're like delusion.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, your word for no, your word for naive is

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<v Speaker 4>the gen z Delulu. Well, Delulu is so rude.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I hope gen z get a little it.

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<v Speaker 3>No, it's being like it's being like, oh, he just

0:24:03.480 --> 0:24:06.359
<v Speaker 3>hasn't texted me because he's probably he probably lost his

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<v Speaker 3>phone and he probably.

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<v Speaker 2>Fine because he wasn't your person. It's okay, Okay, it's

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<v Speaker 2>called hope gen Z.

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<v Speaker 3>No. I think more like your word of being like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm so naive. Like there that's them saying like I'm delusional.

0:24:24.160 --> 0:24:25.679
<v Speaker 3>I can be delusional.

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<v Speaker 1>Moments. You've had your moments called I love that, like

0:24:33.480 --> 0:24:34.960
<v Speaker 1>he wol have lost the phone, like maybe he left

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<v Speaker 1>dropped in the ocean, like maybe It's like he had

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<v Speaker 1>so many different reasons why something wasn't happening.

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<v Speaker 2>And look where I am today.

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<v Speaker 3>It's well, look worse she has to say, people, where

0:24:50.560 --> 0:24:51.520
<v Speaker 3>I am now?

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<v Speaker 4>Sleeping on her chocolates?

0:24:54.040 --> 0:24:55.360
<v Speaker 2>Chocolates on my pillow?

0:24:56.560 --> 0:24:57.480
<v Speaker 4>Oh man?

0:24:58.080 --> 0:25:02.239
<v Speaker 2>So okay, So anyways, so anyways, back to Taylor, there

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<v Speaker 2>was also.

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<v Speaker 4>A lyric change and better than revenge.

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<v Speaker 1>I found that really interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>I couldn't understand what she's saying. But go ahead, no,

0:25:12.680 --> 0:25:15.680
<v Speaker 3>because I someone posts it. But I can't hear what

0:25:15.720 --> 0:25:16.520
<v Speaker 3>the lyrics are.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, what the old lyrics were. Uh, she's better known

0:25:22.280 --> 0:25:26.159
<v Speaker 1>for the maker she does on the mattress, which you

0:25:26.200 --> 0:25:27.679
<v Speaker 1>could say is luck shaming.

0:25:28.200 --> 0:25:31.199
<v Speaker 2>Right, That's why she changed it.

0:25:31.240 --> 0:25:33.320
<v Speaker 1>That's why she changed I mean, she hasn't said so,

0:25:33.359 --> 0:25:35.000
<v Speaker 1>but I think that is why she changed it, because

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<v Speaker 1>now she says, uh, she is okay, original lyrics. She's

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<v Speaker 1>better known for the things that she does on the mattress. Well,

0:25:43.400 --> 0:25:45.800
<v Speaker 1>the new one is he was a moth to the flames,

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<v Speaker 1>she was holding the mattress.

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<v Speaker 2>Whoa, which is pretty good.

0:25:49.600 --> 0:25:51.639
<v Speaker 1>It's pretty Oh you're making a face back up. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's a pretty solid lyric change if you're going

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<v Speaker 1>to needed I love.

0:25:56.000 --> 0:25:57.520
<v Speaker 2>A moth to a Flame comparison.

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<v Speaker 4>I love the lyrics.

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<v Speaker 3>I think the lyrics great, like she's such a genius songwriter,

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<v Speaker 3>but I liked the bitterness and better than revenge. Oh yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>so Ashley, I posted, I don't know. I don't just

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<v Speaker 3>I just don't know if I'm into the maturity.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's the thing is she was what nineteen twenty

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<v Speaker 1>when she wrote these songs.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeaheah.

0:26:20.359 --> 0:26:22.600
<v Speaker 1>I feel like thirty three you're gonna have some recross,

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<v Speaker 1>Like isn't there a song where she says you're gay?

0:26:24.280 --> 0:26:26.800
<v Speaker 2>Like she took cut out thought which song?

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<v Speaker 3>That's fine, I'll tell man you're gay by the way

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<v Speaker 3>get out. Yeah, that's fine, I'll tell mine.

0:26:35.119 --> 0:26:36.720
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what she's say the Picture to Burn

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<v Speaker 1>original lyrics of.

0:26:37.560 --> 0:26:40.639
<v Speaker 2>Picture to Burn, what she changed it to that's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure I'll find out. The point is the

0:26:45.800 --> 0:26:49.960
<v Speaker 1>point is that I think she's evolving, yes, but also

0:26:50.240 --> 0:26:51.119
<v Speaker 1>I think it's her.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh art, she said that's fine. You won't mind if

0:26:54.480 --> 0:26:56.440
<v Speaker 3>I say that's the change.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, We're all on board with her re recording her

0:26:59.560 --> 0:27:02.680
<v Speaker 1>albums right one hundred percent into the Taylor's versions. Yeah,

0:27:02.680 --> 0:27:04.000
<v Speaker 1>so I think we all have to be on board

0:27:04.000 --> 0:27:05.640
<v Speaker 1>with her making a little tweaks on the way.

0:27:07.680 --> 0:27:10.040
<v Speaker 2>About the weird stuff I probably wrote in my journal

0:27:10.359 --> 0:27:13.639
<v Speaker 2>when I was nineteen years old. It's totally embarrassing. Oh

0:27:13.720 --> 0:27:14.520
<v Speaker 2>my gosh.

0:27:14.680 --> 0:27:15.960
<v Speaker 4>No, I think she's a genius.

0:27:16.000 --> 0:27:19.679
<v Speaker 3>I just I loved the I loved the pettiness of

0:27:19.800 --> 0:27:20.960
<v Speaker 3>Better Than Revenge.

0:27:22.080 --> 0:27:23.920
<v Speaker 4>It was fun. It's a revenge song.

0:27:24.359 --> 0:27:27.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Anyway, being honest, if I'm being honest now, it

0:27:27.920 --> 0:27:29.640
<v Speaker 2>was never one of my favorite albums.

0:27:29.800 --> 0:27:32.600
<v Speaker 3>I will say I have some favorite songs from the album,

0:27:32.640 --> 0:27:33.800
<v Speaker 3>but as a whole.

0:27:33.680 --> 0:27:36.399
<v Speaker 2>Whole, it was not like I'm with you up on

0:27:36.440 --> 0:27:37.440
<v Speaker 2>the mantle, I'm with you.

0:27:37.520 --> 0:27:41.439
<v Speaker 1>My daughters, who are Swifties to the nth degree, especially

0:27:41.440 --> 0:27:43.840
<v Speaker 1>over the past year, they love speaking now and they're

0:27:43.880 --> 0:27:45.920
<v Speaker 1>very excited for Taylor's version. A couple so they felt

0:27:45.920 --> 0:27:49.119
<v Speaker 1>like Dear John didn't have the passion and anger in

0:27:49.160 --> 0:27:54.359
<v Speaker 1>it from the original, especially the line I'm shining like

0:27:54.440 --> 0:27:58.960
<v Speaker 1>fireworks over your sad empty town. She felt like it

0:27:59.040 --> 0:28:01.720
<v Speaker 1>was angry in the first version, where it was just

0:28:01.800 --> 0:28:05.040
<v Speaker 1>kind of a lyric. In the second, yeah, because.

0:28:04.800 --> 0:28:06.640
<v Speaker 2>She's in a difference int of mind, She's like whatever,

0:28:06.720 --> 0:28:07.720
<v Speaker 2>John Mayer, Yeah.

0:28:07.640 --> 0:28:08.919
<v Speaker 4>I do, I do like that.

0:28:10.040 --> 0:28:12.199
<v Speaker 3>At her concert, she was like, we talked about this,

0:28:12.240 --> 0:28:16.880
<v Speaker 3>but she was like, hey, no need to verbally attack.

0:28:16.720 --> 0:28:20.879
<v Speaker 2>The uh the but yeah, I mean, no need to

0:28:21.000 --> 0:28:25.080
<v Speaker 2>verbally attack the Tamy Ones because she really brought that

0:28:25.240 --> 0:28:25.800
<v Speaker 2>guy back.

0:28:26.119 --> 0:28:28.400
<v Speaker 3>I mean, but everyone loves Taylor. He was a good

0:28:28.440 --> 0:28:29.720
<v Speaker 3>boy for he was a good ex.

0:28:29.800 --> 0:28:33.480
<v Speaker 2>He was the good ex. But man, she do it

0:28:33.720 --> 0:28:34.480
<v Speaker 2>cool with.

0:28:34.359 --> 0:28:36.960
<v Speaker 3>That he is so I will just say, when I

0:28:36.960 --> 0:28:40.560
<v Speaker 3>watched the video, I was like, Taylor is so talented. Yeah,

0:28:40.600 --> 0:28:43.800
<v Speaker 3>like he is him doing those stunts and stuff, like,

0:28:43.880 --> 0:28:47.080
<v Speaker 3>he is just so talented, and I just I'm so

0:28:47.160 --> 0:28:47.960
<v Speaker 3>happy for him.

0:28:48.080 --> 0:28:50.120
<v Speaker 2>I am too. I love that he's like having a

0:28:50.120 --> 0:28:51.880
<v Speaker 2>big moment right now because he is like one of

0:28:51.920 --> 0:28:53.240
<v Speaker 2>the nicest guys ever.

0:28:53.640 --> 0:28:55.920
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and his wife Taylor is also one of the

0:28:55.920 --> 0:28:59.920
<v Speaker 3>coolest girls ever. Because someone was saying, like, to be

0:29:00.320 --> 0:29:03.040
<v Speaker 3>that secure to have everyone being like, well, I want

0:29:03.080 --> 0:29:06.440
<v Speaker 3>to be mad if Taylor and Taylor Swift got back together,

0:29:06.520 --> 0:29:08.560
<v Speaker 3>you know, and she was just like all along for

0:29:08.640 --> 0:29:10.560
<v Speaker 3>the ride, like this is awesome.

0:29:10.760 --> 0:29:13.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they're both cool. I'm so happy for them.

0:29:13.760 --> 0:29:16.280
<v Speaker 1>So interesting to have the name Taylor and then date

0:29:16.480 --> 0:29:19.360
<v Speaker 1>multiple tailors in your life. That's so weird, so weird.

0:29:19.400 --> 0:29:21.680
<v Speaker 2>If I dated a Tanya, that would be so weird.

0:29:23.280 --> 0:29:26.320
<v Speaker 2>Come here, Tanya, I guess why dog?

0:29:26.600 --> 0:29:36.320
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you talk to And then when she brought him

0:29:36.320 --> 0:29:38.200
<v Speaker 4>out on stage in Kansas City, he did the fly.

0:29:38.720 --> 0:29:41.720
<v Speaker 2>I know, it's just cool. Yeah, it was cool. I

0:29:41.760 --> 0:29:42.520
<v Speaker 2>was happy to see that.

0:29:42.760 --> 0:29:46.040
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, me too. There was something else I was gonna

0:29:46.040 --> 0:29:46.640
<v Speaker 4>talk about.

0:29:46.400 --> 0:29:48.240
<v Speaker 2>Were about frand Maria getting engaged.

0:29:48.440 --> 0:29:50.960
<v Speaker 4>I was going to bring that up there as girls.

0:29:50.640 --> 0:29:52.120
<v Speaker 2>So that you gonna bring up.

0:29:52.120 --> 0:29:53.400
<v Speaker 4>I'll bring that up after chick.

0:29:53.440 --> 0:29:54.000
<v Speaker 2>Don't forget it.

0:29:54.080 --> 0:29:57.680
<v Speaker 4>The chicks are engaged. Congratulations.

0:29:57.920 --> 0:30:02.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's so okay. So so I saw Frank Who's

0:30:02.480 --> 0:30:05.920
<v Speaker 2>it first as she got engaged, and oh my gosh,

0:30:06.000 --> 0:30:10.520
<v Speaker 2>look at this podcast. Hast engaged on her European vacation. Babe,

0:30:10.600 --> 0:30:16.800
<v Speaker 2>how cool is that? And then and then Sunday, I

0:30:16.840 --> 0:30:19.800
<v Speaker 2>think it was Sunday, I was definitely back from vacation

0:30:20.000 --> 0:30:23.400
<v Speaker 2>and Rhea posted that she got engaged, and I was like, babe,

0:30:24.880 --> 0:30:27.000
<v Speaker 2>remember that podcast girl that I was telling you got

0:30:27.000 --> 0:30:32.080
<v Speaker 2>engaged on her European vacation. Her podcast host co host

0:30:32.880 --> 0:30:37.920
<v Speaker 2>also got engaged this last week. Look at this podcast

0:30:38.480 --> 0:30:42.239
<v Speaker 2>to engage, you know, and then he goes, aren't you

0:30:42.320 --> 0:30:44.000
<v Speaker 2>so glad that you're not lumped into that?

0:30:47.120 --> 0:30:48.160
<v Speaker 4>I love that spin?

0:30:48.400 --> 0:30:53.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, yeah, but it got me thinking, like, if

0:30:53.400 --> 0:30:55.280
<v Speaker 2>you and I were to get engaged in the same week,

0:30:55.880 --> 0:30:56.760
<v Speaker 2>how crazy is that?

0:30:57.800 --> 0:31:01.360
<v Speaker 3>Crazy? You're really itching for it a little more than

0:31:01.720 --> 0:31:03.720
<v Speaker 3>than I am over here. So I don't know if

0:31:03.720 --> 0:31:05.680
<v Speaker 3>that's gonna happen, but it'd be very right.

0:31:05.720 --> 0:31:06.320
<v Speaker 2>You never know.

0:31:08.000 --> 0:31:09.640
<v Speaker 1>They're gonna ask when they're gonna ask.

0:31:09.520 --> 0:31:14.840
<v Speaker 3>So right, yeah, I know that's true. That's true. It

0:31:14.840 --> 0:31:17.680
<v Speaker 3>would be crazy, but that is ironic because friend has

0:31:17.720 --> 0:31:21.000
<v Speaker 3>been with her guy for years and then Ria and

0:31:21.040 --> 0:31:24.960
<v Speaker 3>her guy have not been together as long. But it

0:31:25.000 --> 0:31:26.760
<v Speaker 3>was kind of like when you know, you know type thing.

0:31:26.920 --> 0:31:29.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So, like, how crazy is that?

0:31:29.320 --> 0:31:30.080
<v Speaker 4>I'm so excited for?

0:31:30.360 --> 0:31:32.760
<v Speaker 2>How crazy is that in the same week.

0:31:33.160 --> 0:31:33.600
<v Speaker 4>I know.

0:31:35.200 --> 0:31:38.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to listen to their podcast to hear their

0:31:38.480 --> 0:31:39.160
<v Speaker 2>sides of the story.

0:31:39.240 --> 0:31:42.560
<v Speaker 3>I know, I was thinking I just sld their posts. Oh,

0:31:42.600 --> 0:31:45.080
<v Speaker 3>I was going to bring up the Jonah Hill in

0:31:45.760 --> 0:31:47.880
<v Speaker 3>his ex girlfriend post.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm a little behind on pop culture. Pop culture thing. Yeah,

0:31:52.760 --> 0:31:56.520
<v Speaker 2>it was very like I really did unplug like from

0:31:56.840 --> 0:31:58.880
<v Speaker 2>just pop culture stuff. And then when I got back,

0:31:58.920 --> 0:32:00.720
<v Speaker 2>I was just in taylor Land. I'm like, oh, yeah,

0:32:00.720 --> 0:32:02.680
<v Speaker 2>really focus on, like there's just a lot going on

0:32:02.760 --> 0:32:05.920
<v Speaker 2>in Taylorland. Was what what's going on? John Hill?

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<v Speaker 4>So basically his ex I don't know the details of.

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<v Speaker 2>Howls of an old conversation, right.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, but I don't know how long they've been broken up,

0:32:13.280 --> 0:32:13.960
<v Speaker 4>Like I don't.

0:32:13.760 --> 0:32:15.640
<v Speaker 2>Know when he's married. Now is he married?

0:32:16.080 --> 0:32:20.520
<v Speaker 1>He had a baby with his girlfriend Olivia, He's not married. Ah,

0:32:20.680 --> 0:32:23.040
<v Speaker 1>but he's being accused of being emotionally abusive by his

0:32:23.160 --> 0:32:25.880
<v Speaker 1>ex girlfriend, whose name is Sarah.

0:32:25.920 --> 0:32:29.080
<v Speaker 3>This is it's interesting because it's taken. There's two sides.

0:32:30.000 --> 0:32:32.360
<v Speaker 3>People have taken two sides of this because people are

0:32:32.400 --> 0:32:35.680
<v Speaker 3>like she, uh so she posted the text where he's

0:32:35.720 --> 0:32:39.000
<v Speaker 3>basically like, I don't want you posting these photos where

0:32:39.000 --> 0:32:42.080
<v Speaker 3>you're a bikini. She's a professional surfer, she models. She's

0:32:42.120 --> 0:32:44.720
<v Speaker 3>like the photos of her are like surfing in swimsuits.

0:32:44.760 --> 0:32:47.680
<v Speaker 3>It's not like she's like sexually post I don't know

0:32:47.720 --> 0:32:49.320
<v Speaker 3>if she had any of this, but he had asked

0:32:49.360 --> 0:32:50.840
<v Speaker 3>her to take those down, so I guess she took

0:32:50.880 --> 0:32:52.560
<v Speaker 3>a lot of the photos down and he would be like,

0:32:53.080 --> 0:32:55.640
<v Speaker 3>here's some other ones that you still haven't He was like,

0:32:55.720 --> 0:32:56.360
<v Speaker 3>good start.

0:32:56.920 --> 0:32:58.120
<v Speaker 4>He was like, that's a good start.

0:32:58.640 --> 0:33:02.400
<v Speaker 3>Very it felt very controlling, and then he was like,

0:33:02.440 --> 0:33:05.440
<v Speaker 3>here are my boundaries, and he listed all of his boundaries.

0:33:05.480 --> 0:33:08.960
<v Speaker 3>But the boundaries kind of sounded like this is like

0:33:09.000 --> 0:33:11.720
<v Speaker 3>almost like I need to control what you do in post.

0:33:12.400 --> 0:33:15.760
<v Speaker 2>So it's interesting because like, I think everybody has boundaries,

0:33:16.240 --> 0:33:16.800
<v Speaker 2>right I.

0:33:16.720 --> 0:33:20.200
<v Speaker 3>Think it's healthy to have boundaries in conversation, like conversations.

0:33:19.520 --> 0:33:21.479
<v Speaker 2>About like you're never going to find someone that's one

0:33:21.520 --> 0:33:24.800
<v Speaker 2>hundred percent on the same page of everything as you.

0:33:25.800 --> 0:33:28.960
<v Speaker 2>But like I would never be with someone that told

0:33:29.000 --> 0:33:31.560
<v Speaker 2>me what I can wear or not wear, or like

0:33:32.080 --> 0:33:34.640
<v Speaker 2>not to post bikini photos or you know. I mean,

0:33:34.680 --> 0:33:37.040
<v Speaker 2>like I just would not be with somebody that was

0:33:37.760 --> 0:33:40.640
<v Speaker 2>like that. But if you're choosing to be with somebody

0:33:40.680 --> 0:33:42.880
<v Speaker 2>like that, then you're choosing to be with somebody like that, right.

0:33:43.640 --> 0:33:45.240
<v Speaker 3>Well, I think it was kind of like one of

0:33:45.280 --> 0:33:48.200
<v Speaker 3>those things when you're in it, and especially when you're

0:33:48.280 --> 0:33:52.760
<v Speaker 3>using language from therapy, which is like I'm setting my boundaries,

0:33:52.800 --> 0:33:55.000
<v Speaker 3>like here are my intentions. It's almost like you're using

0:33:55.160 --> 0:33:58.960
<v Speaker 3>this like therapy language to control And so I think

0:33:59.000 --> 0:34:02.160
<v Speaker 3>when you're in it, you're feeling like you don't recognize

0:34:02.160 --> 0:34:04.800
<v Speaker 3>it as like someone trying to control you. Yeah, you

0:34:04.920 --> 0:34:09.759
<v Speaker 3>just think, oh, they're just this is the compromise of

0:34:09.840 --> 0:34:11.879
<v Speaker 3>a relationship, you know. And then maybe once you're out

0:34:11.880 --> 0:34:13.919
<v Speaker 3>of it, you see like this is not healthy because

0:34:13.960 --> 0:34:16.680
<v Speaker 3>a lot of people who have been in emotionally abusive

0:34:17.040 --> 0:34:18.920
<v Speaker 3>or controlling relationships.

0:34:18.400 --> 0:34:19.560
<v Speaker 2>You don't see it when you're in it.

0:34:19.880 --> 0:34:23.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And when they were like those messages were triggering

0:34:23.920 --> 0:34:26.160
<v Speaker 3>to read because I was with an abuser and this

0:34:26.239 --> 0:34:29.399
<v Speaker 3>is like this happens, you know, like this is this

0:34:29.480 --> 0:34:31.640
<v Speaker 3>is get out basically.

0:34:31.760 --> 0:34:34.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. And then there's people man trying to tell me

0:34:34.760 --> 0:34:36.759
<v Speaker 2>what to post or like what to wear.

0:34:38.320 --> 0:34:40.279
<v Speaker 3>And then there's people who are saying he's setting his

0:34:40.360 --> 0:34:42.719
<v Speaker 3>boundaries and he's being clear about what he expects out

0:34:42.719 --> 0:34:44.680
<v Speaker 3>of a relationship with a woman. But the problem is

0:34:44.719 --> 0:34:48.560
<v Speaker 3>that how he slid into her DMS was hard eyes

0:34:48.680 --> 0:34:50.680
<v Speaker 3>on one of the photos that he wanted her to

0:34:50.719 --> 0:34:55.360
<v Speaker 3>take down, and it's like so you're all about this.

0:34:55.920 --> 0:34:58.439
<v Speaker 2>To get hooked on, to get hooked onto the rod.

0:34:58.719 --> 0:35:00.640
<v Speaker 2>Now that you're on the rod, be reeled in.

0:35:00.760 --> 0:35:01.880
<v Speaker 4>Yeah. Sure.

0:35:02.480 --> 0:35:04.160
<v Speaker 1>My other issue with it, and by the way I

0:35:04.200 --> 0:35:07.480
<v Speaker 1>think he comes across is very condescending. It just kind

0:35:07.480 --> 0:35:09.560
<v Speaker 1>of a dick in these texts. But here's my other

0:35:09.600 --> 0:35:12.200
<v Speaker 1>thought is why is this conversation happening via text? This

0:35:12.280 --> 0:35:14.640
<v Speaker 1>is a face to face conversation you guys should be

0:35:14.680 --> 0:35:18.080
<v Speaker 1>happy having because he's coming off awfully and maybe if

0:35:18.080 --> 0:35:20.759
<v Speaker 1>it was in person, maybe he wouldn't. I don't know. Yeah,

0:35:20.800 --> 0:35:24.279
<v Speaker 1>but it's a long discussion all on text. Just call

0:35:24.320 --> 0:35:25.719
<v Speaker 1>each other or go to each other.

0:35:25.880 --> 0:35:26.719
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, work it out.

0:35:27.160 --> 0:35:28.960
<v Speaker 3>To me, it felt like he had a lot of

0:35:28.960 --> 0:35:33.040
<v Speaker 3>insecurities and they were projected in these texts.

0:35:33.280 --> 0:35:34.560
<v Speaker 4>Doesn't It doesn't make it right.

0:35:34.600 --> 0:35:36.799
<v Speaker 3>But I also and then people are like, well, it's

0:35:36.800 --> 0:35:40.719
<v Speaker 3>toxic that she posted these photos, and I'm like, sure, maybe.

0:35:40.440 --> 0:35:41.480
<v Speaker 2>It did in her bikini.

0:35:41.640 --> 0:35:43.400
<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, I'm sorry the photos of the text

0:35:43.480 --> 0:35:46.280
<v Speaker 3>all right, And I'm like, sure, maybe it is, maybe,

0:35:46.320 --> 0:35:49.520
<v Speaker 3>but it doesn't negate what he's.

0:35:49.520 --> 0:35:52.000
<v Speaker 2>Wonder what her intention of posting those was.

0:35:54.000 --> 0:35:54.520
<v Speaker 4>I don't know.

0:35:54.640 --> 0:35:58.120
<v Speaker 2>Actually, like, did you are you familiar with Keky Palmer story.

0:35:58.480 --> 0:36:02.120
<v Speaker 2>It's similar. So like her friend basically like posted something

0:36:02.760 --> 0:36:06.160
<v Speaker 2>tweeted like her outfit, saying like but you're a mom, though,

0:36:06.200 --> 0:36:08.640
<v Speaker 2>like she shouldn't be wearing what she was wearing, and

0:36:08.680 --> 0:36:12.240
<v Speaker 2>it turned into a whole thing, and she was wearing

0:36:12.280 --> 0:36:13.840
<v Speaker 2>like a it's like a body sew with like a

0:36:13.880 --> 0:36:17.000
<v Speaker 2>sheer dress over it. To me, it did not look

0:36:17.080 --> 0:36:19.920
<v Speaker 2>very provocative. But I wear some weird stuff. So not

0:36:19.960 --> 0:36:23.880
<v Speaker 2>one to talk. But people were like up in arms

0:36:24.000 --> 0:36:27.160
<v Speaker 2>about the fact that he's like basically he's like mom shaming,

0:36:27.239 --> 0:36:28.560
<v Speaker 2>you know, like because you're a mom, you have to

0:36:28.600 --> 0:36:32.600
<v Speaker 2>like cover up your body. And again it's like she

0:36:32.719 --> 0:36:35.120
<v Speaker 2>can do whatever she wants with her body, Like why

0:36:35.200 --> 0:36:37.319
<v Speaker 2>is he doing it publicly? Like again, it's like so weird,

0:36:37.320 --> 0:36:39.800
<v Speaker 2>Like I'm like, why would you tweet that about your girlfriend?

0:36:39.800 --> 0:36:43.400
<v Speaker 2>Why woul't you just text her and be like hey, babe,

0:36:43.560 --> 0:36:45.640
<v Speaker 2>you know what I'm saying. It's just so weird to

0:36:45.680 --> 0:36:47.800
<v Speaker 2>me when people do this stuff publicly.

0:36:48.400 --> 0:36:51.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I agree, I think it's having a conversation. I

0:36:51.040 --> 0:36:53.080
<v Speaker 3>think if he was like, hey, I'm it makes me

0:36:53.120 --> 0:36:55.840
<v Speaker 3>feel insecure when I see like these other men commenting

0:36:55.880 --> 0:36:57.640
<v Speaker 3>on you, and maybe it's my own insecurity, Like I

0:36:57.640 --> 0:37:02.280
<v Speaker 3>think there's a conversation around yeah, having a conversation about

0:37:02.400 --> 0:37:04.880
<v Speaker 3>what you post. But I still I just have a

0:37:04.920 --> 0:37:09.840
<v Speaker 3>hard time being like, I don't know. Yeah, the fact

0:37:09.840 --> 0:37:11.759
<v Speaker 3>that he slid into her DMS on one of this

0:37:11.840 --> 0:37:15.360
<v Speaker 3>photo and the photos and then turned it around on

0:37:15.440 --> 0:37:19.920
<v Speaker 3>her feels yikes, yikes, We're.

0:37:19.800 --> 0:37:20.520
<v Speaker 4>Gonna take a break.

0:37:20.520 --> 0:37:24.479
<v Speaker 2>And yeah, yeah, there was something else that I wanted

0:37:24.480 --> 0:37:24.759
<v Speaker 2>to mention.

0:37:24.840 --> 0:37:26.560
<v Speaker 4>All right, we'll ponder that on the bike.

0:37:26.719 --> 0:37:36.640
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, right, and we'll be back with emails.

0:37:43.760 --> 0:37:45.879
<v Speaker 2>By the way, everybody was messaging me about the pink

0:37:45.920 --> 0:37:47.719
<v Speaker 2>dress and they're like, is that Becca's pink dress? I

0:37:47.760 --> 0:37:50.320
<v Speaker 2>was like, yes, this is the one saved her for

0:37:50.440 --> 0:37:51.120
<v Speaker 2>my final night.

0:37:52.239 --> 0:37:55.040
<v Speaker 4>I gave up, she gave up on the white saved

0:37:55.040 --> 0:37:55.640
<v Speaker 4>her for the night.

0:37:56.160 --> 0:37:59.480
<v Speaker 2>No, but I found this was like before we left

0:38:00.239 --> 0:38:04.160
<v Speaker 2>for vacation, I found my dear future husband journal and

0:38:04.239 --> 0:38:06.680
<v Speaker 2>I read the entry from the first night that I

0:38:06.719 --> 0:38:09.320
<v Speaker 2>went out with Robbie and it was very funny.

0:38:09.880 --> 0:38:12.080
<v Speaker 4>Fine, why didn't you bring it or take a photo

0:38:12.120 --> 0:38:12.560
<v Speaker 4>to read it?

0:38:12.680 --> 0:38:12.719
<v Speaker 3>No?

0:38:12.880 --> 0:38:13.400
<v Speaker 4>So good.

0:38:13.600 --> 0:38:16.040
<v Speaker 2>It's kind of embarrassing. Like now, like I think about

0:38:16.040 --> 0:38:19.000
<v Speaker 2>like Taylor Swift putting out songs in twenty ten. This

0:38:19.160 --> 0:38:22.319
<v Speaker 2>was just from twenty nineteen, and it was like, oh,

0:38:22.440 --> 0:38:26.760
<v Speaker 2>please please share. It was like, I'm so glad Sierra

0:38:27.000 --> 0:38:28.880
<v Speaker 2>forced me to go out with this guy. He is

0:38:29.200 --> 0:38:32.719
<v Speaker 2>so cute and it's like, so like, what is I

0:38:32.840 --> 0:38:36.200
<v Speaker 2>fifteen years old? It was two years ago, three years ago.

0:38:37.400 --> 0:38:40.680
<v Speaker 2>It's just like ah night and they dropped me off.

0:38:40.719 --> 0:38:43.239
<v Speaker 2>He kissed me and I can't even explain to you

0:38:43.280 --> 0:38:49.120
<v Speaker 2>what I felt in my vagina, Like it's so crazy.

0:38:49.640 --> 0:38:50.080
<v Speaker 3>I feel like.

0:38:50.120 --> 0:38:55.799
<v Speaker 4>That's what you'd write now. Yeah, track track.

0:38:55.880 --> 0:38:58.960
<v Speaker 3>I think you're reading it from like a youthful perspective, but.

0:38:59.000 --> 0:39:03.279
<v Speaker 2>I think that's how I wonder if Sierra is going

0:39:03.360 --> 0:39:04.320
<v Speaker 2>to speak at our wedding.

0:39:04.880 --> 0:39:07.880
<v Speaker 1>Oh, I know she should.

0:39:11.840 --> 0:39:12.799
<v Speaker 4>You should ask her about that.

0:39:13.640 --> 0:39:15.640
<v Speaker 2>I know I wanted to, but she's like having a baby,

0:39:15.640 --> 0:39:17.319
<v Speaker 2>so I didn't want to bother her with my dear

0:39:17.400 --> 0:39:20.400
<v Speaker 2>future husband update. But uh yeah, it was so crazy.

0:39:21.280 --> 0:39:23.080
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, maybe you can bring that in and read something.

0:39:23.080 --> 0:39:25.760
<v Speaker 2>And I read a chapter when I met Mark Wahlberg

0:39:25.800 --> 0:39:27.799
<v Speaker 2>in Hawaii, and I was like, I mean I wrote

0:39:27.800 --> 0:39:29.960
<v Speaker 2>three pages about meeting him, Like wow, he really like

0:39:30.000 --> 0:39:31.279
<v Speaker 2>struck a chord with me or like.

0:39:31.800 --> 0:39:35.320
<v Speaker 3>I remember I was drunk, taking like vodka shots or something,

0:39:35.360 --> 0:39:37.640
<v Speaker 3>and y'all were just the rum and y'all were just

0:39:37.920 --> 0:39:41.319
<v Speaker 3>having a deep heart and my eyes are glazed over

0:39:41.400 --> 0:39:42.799
<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, m Yeah.

0:39:42.880 --> 0:39:45.839
<v Speaker 2>I wrote three pages in my Dear future Husband journal

0:39:45.840 --> 0:39:46.680
<v Speaker 2>about that interaction.

0:39:46.800 --> 0:39:47.800
<v Speaker 4>We love Mark Wahlberg.

0:39:47.920 --> 0:39:48.400
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:39:49.040 --> 0:39:50.000
<v Speaker 4>Shall we get into emails?

0:39:50.080 --> 0:39:52.000
<v Speaker 1>Yes? By the way, I want to thank the scrubbers.

0:39:52.160 --> 0:39:54.520
<v Speaker 1>I mentioned a few weeks ago that I was a

0:39:54.520 --> 0:39:57.960
<v Speaker 1>baseball fan because somebody had been a scrubber was dating

0:39:58.000 --> 0:40:00.040
<v Speaker 1>a baseball player and she wanted some advice and I

0:40:00.040 --> 0:40:02.160
<v Speaker 1>don't know who it was. I've gotten so many nice

0:40:02.239 --> 0:40:05.600
<v Speaker 1>dms from people who are married to were dating baseball players. Whoa,

0:40:06.000 --> 0:40:07.560
<v Speaker 1>and this one's in the minor league and this one

0:40:07.600 --> 0:40:09.720
<v Speaker 1>pitched for the Pirates and my stepdad used to manage

0:40:09.760 --> 0:40:12.200
<v Speaker 1>the Astros like it's a really it's great, wow.

0:40:13.160 --> 0:40:14.120
<v Speaker 2>Baseball community.

0:40:14.160 --> 0:40:19.200
<v Speaker 1>We have Facebook, you know subgroup who were dating an

0:40:19.200 --> 0:40:22.239
<v Speaker 1>athlete or married to an athlete? Wo Lauren says Hi,

0:40:22.400 --> 0:40:24.800
<v Speaker 1>Tanya and Becka and market Easton. I've been stuck in

0:40:24.880 --> 0:40:27.279
<v Speaker 1>limbo with my boyfriend for four months and need help.

0:40:27.440 --> 0:40:29.720
<v Speaker 1>I'm thirty, he's thirty four. Together a year and a half,

0:40:30.320 --> 0:40:33.319
<v Speaker 1>most serious, longest relationship I've been in. We're ready to

0:40:33.320 --> 0:40:35.200
<v Speaker 1>live together and I brought the topic up in marsh

0:40:35.239 --> 0:40:36.879
<v Speaker 1>and he said he wasn't ready. Well, now it comes

0:40:36.960 --> 0:40:38.600
<v Speaker 1>up a lot and knows leads to a big fight.

0:40:39.080 --> 0:40:42.400
<v Speaker 1>I own my house, he rents, so he'd be moving

0:40:42.480 --> 0:40:44.960
<v Speaker 1>in with me. He doesn't want to move into my

0:40:45.200 --> 0:40:49.359
<v Speaker 1>house because he's had bad experiences with xes. He says

0:40:49.360 --> 0:40:50.840
<v Speaker 1>he wants to live with me, but he wants it

0:40:50.880 --> 0:40:53.239
<v Speaker 1>to be our space. We've looked into buying a house

0:40:53.280 --> 0:40:55.359
<v Speaker 1>together and it's not a good decision financially right now,

0:40:55.360 --> 0:40:57.239
<v Speaker 1>and that is interest rates through the roof rain.

0:40:57.280 --> 0:40:57.400
<v Speaker 2>Now.

0:40:57.760 --> 0:40:59.880
<v Speaker 1>I've come up with so many ideas on how we

0:40:59.880 --> 0:41:01.719
<v Speaker 1>can and we decorate together. We can get rid of

0:41:01.760 --> 0:41:03.520
<v Speaker 1>everything and the guest room, it can be his office,

0:41:03.520 --> 0:41:06.160
<v Speaker 1>et cetera. But he will not budge. We're in couple's

0:41:06.200 --> 0:41:08.400
<v Speaker 1>therapy because this topic has led to so much tension.

0:41:09.040 --> 0:41:10.960
<v Speaker 1>This is their only issue, and I'm at a loss.

0:41:10.960 --> 0:41:13.720
<v Speaker 1>How do I make him comfortable with moving into my house?

0:41:17.040 --> 0:41:18.200
<v Speaker 4>This is tricky.

0:41:18.520 --> 0:41:22.000
<v Speaker 3>I don't really know, Like I almost feel like if

0:41:22.000 --> 0:41:25.480
<v Speaker 3>he's not comfortable moving in and then y'all should just

0:41:25.560 --> 0:41:29.480
<v Speaker 3>stay separate until you feel financially ready to buy a

0:41:29.520 --> 0:41:30.080
<v Speaker 3>home together.

0:41:31.200 --> 0:41:33.719
<v Speaker 2>That's where I'm at, Sister, What what?

0:41:33.920 --> 0:41:35.600
<v Speaker 1>Why? Why can't he just move into her house?

0:41:36.200 --> 0:41:38.040
<v Speaker 2>He doesn't want to? Then he doesn't want to.

0:41:38.320 --> 0:41:38.839
<v Speaker 4>I just don't.

0:41:38.880 --> 0:41:41.120
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I think it's like if there's fighting and

0:41:41.400 --> 0:41:43.640
<v Speaker 3>it leads to fights. I think if there, I don't

0:41:43.680 --> 0:41:45.160
<v Speaker 3>know if it's like an ego thing of like he

0:41:45.200 --> 0:41:45.600
<v Speaker 3>wants it.

0:41:45.560 --> 0:41:45.960
<v Speaker 4>To be his.

0:41:46.280 --> 0:41:47.560
<v Speaker 1>I think it's an ego thing, and I think he

0:41:47.600 --> 0:41:48.960
<v Speaker 1>has some issues he needs to work through it.

0:41:49.080 --> 0:41:50.719
<v Speaker 2>Well, let me speak to you as someone with these

0:41:50.760 --> 0:41:53.480
<v Speaker 2>issues that will not move into her boyfriend's home. Tonya

0:41:55.080 --> 0:41:59.200
<v Speaker 2>the same, It is the same thing. You're there, you're there,

0:42:00.360 --> 0:42:01.000
<v Speaker 2>you're there.

0:42:00.920 --> 0:42:03.279
<v Speaker 1>You're there, you have an empty apartment studio that you

0:42:03.320 --> 0:42:04.319
<v Speaker 1>haven't seen in six months.

0:42:04.360 --> 0:42:06.759
<v Speaker 2>I'm saying it's an ego thing. It's not an ego thing,

0:42:06.760 --> 0:42:08.319
<v Speaker 2>but it's like a it's like a promise I made

0:42:08.320 --> 0:42:09.120
<v Speaker 2>to myself. Different.

0:42:09.160 --> 0:42:10.600
<v Speaker 1>I think it's a different thing. He didn't make a

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<v Speaker 1>promise to himself.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's that that's not in the email. You're assuming.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what happens when you assume, you make an

0:42:15.680 --> 0:42:16.840
<v Speaker 2>ass out of you and me.

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<v Speaker 1>I just know how guys think, and this is not

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<v Speaker 1>how he's thinking. He's not thinking. I made a promise

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<v Speaker 1>to myself that I won't get my heart spoken by

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<v Speaker 1>moving in too soon to somebody else's house.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think it's like he wants to he wants

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<v Speaker 3>to feel like he owns or like it's not just

0:42:30.520 --> 0:42:33.440
<v Speaker 3>her place, or like she could dispose of him if

0:42:33.880 --> 0:42:36.360
<v Speaker 3>you know she wants, and then he's out on the street.

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<v Speaker 4>But I also think there.

0:42:38.280 --> 0:42:40.799
<v Speaker 3>May be is a conversation of like hey, or and

0:42:41.120 --> 0:42:43.040
<v Speaker 3>maybe it has something to do with rent where he's like,

0:42:43.120 --> 0:42:45.080
<v Speaker 3>I'm not going to pay half your mortgage if it's

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<v Speaker 3>under your name, like because then it's just going towards you,

0:42:48.040 --> 0:42:49.120
<v Speaker 3>it doesn't you know.

0:42:50.120 --> 0:42:52.880
<v Speaker 1>If she didn't mention that. But that's that's interesting. How

0:42:53.160 --> 0:42:54.680
<v Speaker 1>they're going to divide that up is interesting.

0:42:54.880 --> 0:42:57.120
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, So if that's an issue, then maybe it can

0:42:57.160 --> 0:43:02.040
<v Speaker 3>be like he contributes to the what are the utilities

0:43:02.080 --> 0:43:05.640
<v Speaker 3>and groceries and stuff, or where he's pulling his weight

0:43:05.719 --> 0:43:09.520
<v Speaker 3>and can make the house feel like his without feeling

0:43:09.600 --> 0:43:13.359
<v Speaker 3>like he's putting money into your mortgage, because that might

0:43:13.400 --> 0:43:15.640
<v Speaker 3>be it too, Like financially, it's not a smart decision

0:43:15.680 --> 0:43:19.000
<v Speaker 3>for him, because he's not getting he's he's literally would

0:43:19.040 --> 0:43:23.120
<v Speaker 3>be contributing to her home, yeah, without getting anything out

0:43:23.120 --> 0:43:25.719
<v Speaker 3>of it, because they're not married, they're not legally.

0:43:26.040 --> 0:43:27.799
<v Speaker 1>It's only about a year and a half. So I

0:43:27.800 --> 0:43:29.879
<v Speaker 1>wonder if this is a sign that he's not as

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<v Speaker 1>all in on this as she is.

0:43:31.920 --> 0:43:33.880
<v Speaker 3>I would just stay separate. I don't think it's a

0:43:33.920 --> 0:43:36.480
<v Speaker 3>negative thing to not live together. I think our society

0:43:36.520 --> 0:43:40.600
<v Speaker 3>really pushes, like move in together, merge your lives. But

0:43:40.760 --> 0:43:44.080
<v Speaker 3>like I don't know that that's like a like a

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<v Speaker 3>necessary thing to have a healthy, thriving relationship.

0:43:49.280 --> 0:43:51.680
<v Speaker 1>Perhaps not, but I do think that Tanya has been

0:43:51.920 --> 0:43:55.240
<v Speaker 1>wasting thousands and thousands of dollars right down the toilet.

0:43:55.480 --> 0:43:58.040
<v Speaker 4>She's there and now the studio is not there. But

0:43:58.080 --> 0:44:00.000
<v Speaker 4>I'm saying, it's so sisk.

0:43:59.800 --> 0:44:03.360
<v Speaker 1>Guy, and so is this guy.

0:44:01.960 --> 0:44:04.160
<v Speaker 2>A waste to you? Is not a waste to me.

0:44:04.400 --> 0:44:06.839
<v Speaker 2>That's the thing. Like if this guy, if it's really

0:44:06.880 --> 0:44:09.480
<v Speaker 2>important to him, he doesn't want to move into your home,

0:44:10.400 --> 0:44:13.000
<v Speaker 2>he says he can't make it our place, then like

0:44:13.080 --> 0:44:16.080
<v Speaker 2>that's his prerogative, and like he just he's gonna unders

0:44:16.080 --> 0:44:19.239
<v Speaker 2>need time time, heals a lot of things.

0:44:19.280 --> 0:44:22.680
<v Speaker 1>True. I'm worried that he's not as all in on.

0:44:22.640 --> 0:44:24.200
<v Speaker 4>This issue is and maybe he's not.

0:44:24.440 --> 0:44:27.600
<v Speaker 3>Maybe he's I think is a great idea because I

0:44:27.600 --> 0:44:30.400
<v Speaker 3>think this is an issue that feels like you should

0:44:30.400 --> 0:44:34.360
<v Speaker 3>eventually come to a place where you can make it work.

0:44:34.760 --> 0:44:37.279
<v Speaker 3>This doesn't feel like there's no chance you can make

0:44:37.320 --> 0:44:38.200
<v Speaker 3>this work, because.

0:44:37.960 --> 0:44:39.920
<v Speaker 2>I do think there is, like there is a lot

0:44:40.200 --> 0:44:42.759
<v Speaker 2>more to it, like Mark, like, it's not just yet,

0:44:42.760 --> 0:44:45.280
<v Speaker 2>it's moving into somebody's house, it's making your own space.

0:44:45.480 --> 0:44:48.279
<v Speaker 2>It's wanting to like maybe they want to like do

0:44:48.320 --> 0:44:50.000
<v Speaker 2>all these makeovers. And he's like, I don't want to

0:44:50.000 --> 0:44:52.600
<v Speaker 2>invest my money into this home when we're not married,

0:44:52.719 --> 0:44:53.920
<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean. Like, there's a lot that

0:44:53.960 --> 0:44:56.759
<v Speaker 2>goes into it. It's very complicated. And so because if.

0:44:56.719 --> 0:44:58.440
<v Speaker 1>They do break up and he's paying the mortgan, he's

0:44:58.440 --> 0:44:59.959
<v Speaker 1>paying for the remodeling. Yeah, it's ugly.

0:45:00.120 --> 0:45:04.680
<v Speaker 2>It's ugly. So I'm kind of with him on this one,

0:45:05.440 --> 0:45:07.239
<v Speaker 2>not with him, but like just give him time and

0:45:07.320 --> 0:45:08.760
<v Speaker 2>don't try to force the issue.

0:45:09.000 --> 0:45:11.799
<v Speaker 3>I'm with you too, I'm navigating couples therapy. I don't

0:45:11.840 --> 0:45:14.600
<v Speaker 3>think it's like a make Yeah, that's what I was

0:45:14.600 --> 0:45:17.800
<v Speaker 3>thinking I've been trying, frantically searching the rolodex.

0:45:17.840 --> 0:45:18.360
<v Speaker 4>In my mind.

0:45:18.480 --> 0:45:19.520
<v Speaker 2>It's not making I think it's.

0:45:19.400 --> 0:45:19.959
<v Speaker 4>To make it break.

0:45:20.000 --> 0:45:22.000
<v Speaker 3>I think it's just figuring out a way that works

0:45:22.000 --> 0:45:24.200
<v Speaker 3>for both of you, that you both feel comfortable with it.

0:45:24.200 --> 0:45:26.160
<v Speaker 2>It might be make or break in a few years.

0:45:26.600 --> 0:45:27.920
<v Speaker 2>I don't think it's make or break right now.

0:45:28.080 --> 0:45:31.279
<v Speaker 1>No. Anonymous is hoping for some advice. She's been in

0:45:31.320 --> 0:45:33.839
<v Speaker 1>a long distance relationship with her girlfriend for a year now.

0:45:33.880 --> 0:45:36.440
<v Speaker 1>They met in college and were roommates senior year. Several

0:45:36.440 --> 0:45:39.120
<v Speaker 1>intimate moments were had, but mostly after drunken nights, and

0:45:39.160 --> 0:45:41.319
<v Speaker 1>we kept them very secret. Side notes she had a

0:45:41.320 --> 0:45:43.239
<v Speaker 1>boyfriend the first three years of college. I had many

0:45:43.320 --> 0:45:47.160
<v Speaker 1>random flings with various guys. After college, I moved to California.

0:45:47.239 --> 0:45:49.319
<v Speaker 1>She stayed in the Midwest, but we visited whenever we could,

0:45:49.320 --> 0:45:51.239
<v Speaker 1>and last August we decided we wanted to make it

0:45:51.239 --> 0:45:55.000
<v Speaker 1>official and I have to be my girlfriend. Yay, that's

0:45:55.040 --> 0:45:57.520
<v Speaker 1>in there. I didn't add that shit with them. We've

0:45:57.520 --> 0:45:59.759
<v Speaker 1>told all our close friends and family. We've received in

0:46:00.040 --> 0:46:02.520
<v Speaker 1>ardible support from most of them. I feel like we've

0:46:02.560 --> 0:46:04.239
<v Speaker 1>come such a long way in being proud of our

0:46:04.239 --> 0:46:08.320
<v Speaker 1>relationship and I'm so happy for it. However, I've started

0:46:08.360 --> 0:46:10.840
<v Speaker 1>to get nervous because we're about to attend three different

0:46:10.920 --> 0:46:13.839
<v Speaker 1>weddings this fall with all of our old college acquaintances.

0:46:14.160 --> 0:46:16.279
<v Speaker 1>Many of them don't know about our relationships since we

0:46:16.280 --> 0:46:18.200
<v Speaker 1>haven't shared it on social media, and if we haven't

0:46:18.239 --> 0:46:20.239
<v Speaker 1>seen them in person, we haven't felt the need to

0:46:20.239 --> 0:46:23.080
<v Speaker 1>call and share. I love my girlfriend. I can't imagine

0:46:23.160 --> 0:46:25.160
<v Speaker 1>hiding that anymore. But we're not used to being around

0:46:25.160 --> 0:46:26.640
<v Speaker 1>a lot of people as a couple, and the feeling

0:46:26.719 --> 0:46:28.799
<v Speaker 1>of basically coming out to one hundred plus people at

0:46:28.840 --> 0:46:31.640
<v Speaker 1>once scares me. I want to be there to celebrate

0:46:31.640 --> 0:46:34.040
<v Speaker 1>my friends getting married, not worry about anyone else. Do

0:46:34.040 --> 0:46:36.080
<v Speaker 1>you have any advice for maintaining confidence?

0:46:37.239 --> 0:46:39.400
<v Speaker 3>Hailey and I had a few of these moments before

0:46:39.400 --> 0:46:41.759
<v Speaker 3>we came out publicly, where we went to front like

0:46:41.840 --> 0:46:45.120
<v Speaker 3>a friend's wedding, and it was kind of like people

0:46:45.160 --> 0:46:47.839
<v Speaker 3>would one of them people came up to me because

0:46:47.840 --> 0:46:51.319
<v Speaker 3>they recognized me from the Bachelor, and then I would

0:46:51.320 --> 0:46:54.319
<v Speaker 3>be like, oh, this is my girlfriend, Haley, and I was.

0:46:54.320 --> 0:46:56.040
<v Speaker 2>Gonna remember that, but it wasn't even. It wasn't even

0:46:56.040 --> 0:46:57.680
<v Speaker 2>at weddings. I feel like somebody came up to you,

0:46:57.719 --> 0:46:59.080
<v Speaker 2>like at the beach one time.

0:46:59.120 --> 0:47:00.640
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean that would happen all the time, but

0:47:00.719 --> 0:47:02.560
<v Speaker 3>that was the one where it was like it was

0:47:02.600 --> 0:47:03.520
<v Speaker 3>a lot of people.

0:47:03.880 --> 0:47:07.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and it was a you know, industry event.

0:47:07.320 --> 0:47:10.319
<v Speaker 3>No, it was like a wedding for my friend. And

0:47:10.360 --> 0:47:12.840
<v Speaker 3>it was like a Christian you know, it's like very Christian.

0:47:13.040 --> 0:47:17.359
<v Speaker 3>And I was very nervous, and I told Haley before

0:47:17.360 --> 0:47:18.640
<v Speaker 3>we went to the wedding, I was like, I'm feeling

0:47:18.680 --> 0:47:20.560
<v Speaker 3>a little bit anxious, like this is the first time

0:47:20.880 --> 0:47:22.799
<v Speaker 3>we're going somewhere where, like I don't really know a

0:47:22.800 --> 0:47:25.560
<v Speaker 3>lot of people, and they will probably know me from

0:47:25.960 --> 0:47:30.160
<v Speaker 3>Bachelor World, not Bachelor contestants, but like people who watch

0:47:30.200 --> 0:47:32.799
<v Speaker 3>The Bachelor. And she was like okay, she was like, well,

0:47:32.800 --> 0:47:34.480
<v Speaker 3>I'm here for me, like here for you do whatever

0:47:34.480 --> 0:47:37.120
<v Speaker 3>you're comfortable with, Like I'm I'm here whatever you need.

0:47:37.880 --> 0:47:39.520
<v Speaker 3>So I felt like I had her support. And I

0:47:39.560 --> 0:47:42.240
<v Speaker 3>also was like, you know what, it was our friends

0:47:42.320 --> 0:47:44.000
<v Speaker 3>Jesse and Connor, and I was like, they want to

0:47:44.040 --> 0:47:47.480
<v Speaker 3>have invited us, both of us if they felt like

0:47:47.520 --> 0:47:49.680
<v Speaker 3>we wouldn't be comfortable or that we want it that

0:47:49.719 --> 0:47:51.920
<v Speaker 3>we would feel uncomfortable. So I had to trust that,

0:47:52.120 --> 0:47:54.839
<v Speaker 3>and uh, I think it's just having a conversation with

0:47:54.880 --> 0:47:58.520
<v Speaker 3>each other and also being proud and giving people the

0:47:58.680 --> 0:48:00.880
<v Speaker 3>chance to surprise you becau because that was one of

0:48:00.880 --> 0:48:03.799
<v Speaker 3>the things that I've realized throughout this our whole relationship,

0:48:03.880 --> 0:48:06.560
<v Speaker 3>was like giving people the chance to surprise you and

0:48:06.600 --> 0:48:09.759
<v Speaker 3>be supportive, because I think we go into it thinking like, oh, no,

0:48:09.800 --> 0:48:11.560
<v Speaker 3>we're going to get judged or people are going to

0:48:11.719 --> 0:48:14.840
<v Speaker 3>have opinions, and it's like maybe they will, but who cares.

0:48:14.960 --> 0:48:17.279
<v Speaker 3>And also going a lot of people will be like.

0:48:17.239 --> 0:48:18.960
<v Speaker 4>Oh my gosh, what I had no idea.

0:48:19.000 --> 0:48:21.120
<v Speaker 3>I'm so happy for you guys, Like that's kind of

0:48:21.160 --> 0:48:25.840
<v Speaker 3>the general reaction that most people will give. And know

0:48:25.880 --> 0:48:27.840
<v Speaker 3>that you have each other and that you're there to

0:48:27.840 --> 0:48:30.200
<v Speaker 3>celebrate love and your friend's relationship.

0:48:30.239 --> 0:48:32.040
<v Speaker 4>But I think it's just being upfront with.

0:48:32.040 --> 0:48:36.160
<v Speaker 3>Each other and talking about what you're comfortable with and

0:48:36.320 --> 0:48:38.680
<v Speaker 3>communicating throughout the night so that one of you doesn't

0:48:38.680 --> 0:48:43.600
<v Speaker 3>feel like hidden or that you're ashamed to be there with.

0:48:43.560 --> 0:48:45.560
<v Speaker 4>Each other, because you should be proud.

0:48:45.680 --> 0:48:48.799
<v Speaker 3>Like being able to be in love and go to

0:48:49.239 --> 0:48:51.840
<v Speaker 3>an event celebrating love with the person you love is

0:48:51.880 --> 0:48:55.879
<v Speaker 3>a really special thing and life is short. Don't feel

0:48:55.920 --> 0:48:58.880
<v Speaker 3>like you don't get to celebrate because maybe it looks different.

0:48:59.200 --> 0:49:02.720
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm with back on that one. Was pretty solid advice.

0:49:06.760 --> 0:49:07.040
<v Speaker 4>Great.

0:49:07.920 --> 0:49:10.160
<v Speaker 2>Well, I'm so sad. I feel like I have more

0:49:10.200 --> 0:49:11.080
<v Speaker 2>stories to share.

0:49:10.960 --> 0:49:12.160
<v Speaker 1>But I guess you guys.

0:49:14.520 --> 0:49:16.960
<v Speaker 2>Threads.

0:49:17.920 --> 0:49:19.680
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I've got two threads up.

0:49:20.360 --> 0:49:22.560
<v Speaker 2>I have one up. Good morning.

0:49:24.520 --> 0:49:25.040
<v Speaker 4>Original.

0:49:25.840 --> 0:49:30.319
<v Speaker 3>You really thought about you thought about that one? I

0:49:30.320 --> 0:49:32.160
<v Speaker 3>think that's all for No, No, it's not all. Do

0:49:32.160 --> 0:49:36.719
<v Speaker 3>we have a Thursday episode? That's right, we do.

0:49:37.960 --> 0:49:40.000
<v Speaker 2>That's so Raven.

0:49:41.480 --> 0:49:45.440
<v Speaker 3>We're talking to Raven Simone and her wife, Miranda Pureman

0:49:45.600 --> 0:49:48.680
<v Speaker 3>and may Day and they are so fun and they

0:49:48.680 --> 0:49:49.759
<v Speaker 3>have a new podcast coming out.

0:49:49.840 --> 0:49:50.239
<v Speaker 2>That's right.

0:49:50.640 --> 0:49:53.560
<v Speaker 3>So we will be chatting with them on Thursday's episode.

0:49:53.719 --> 0:49:55.319
<v Speaker 4>And we hope you have a wonderful week.

0:49:55.840 --> 0:49:58.279
<v Speaker 2>Happy that we're both back from I'm so happy that

0:49:58.320 --> 0:49:59.920
<v Speaker 2>we're both back. I missed you.

0:50:00.040 --> 0:50:03.880
<v Speaker 4>I missed you too. Have a wonderful week. We love you.

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<v Speaker 3>By m