1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:00,600 Speaker 1: Ready' all. 2 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:02,120 Speaker 2: M h yeah. 3 00:00:02,400 --> 00:00:06,640 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Tilly and Tanya rap an iHeartRadio podcast. 4 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:14,560 Speaker 3: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. 5 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:19,080 Speaker 2: So much to talk about. I'm back from VAK, back 6 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:23,079 Speaker 2: from Bak Taytay t t and tay. 7 00:00:23,239 --> 00:00:30,280 Speaker 4: All the days, uh what else? So much to talk about, just. 8 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:31,960 Speaker 2: So much talk about. I'm not engaged. 9 00:00:32,320 --> 00:00:34,240 Speaker 4: Oh okay, waita. 10 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 2: Just like to just put it out there. There's an 11 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 2: elephant in the room. I'm just gonna bring that elephant 12 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:41,640 Speaker 2: right onto the front here. 13 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:44,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you for doing that, because I've been getting 14 00:00:44,320 --> 00:00:46,519 Speaker 3: people were like, Becca, tell us, do. 15 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 2: You know I'm like searching me, like I'm hiding in 16 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:52,000 Speaker 2: I'm gonna and I'm like I'm like, God, that thing 17 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 2: would be on my hand and I'd be talking. 18 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:57,480 Speaker 4: I'd be doing a live from the scene. 19 00:00:58,320 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 2: So no, I'm not hiding anything. 20 00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: Yeah. 21 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 2: Somebody messaged me last night because I was doing a 22 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:04,920 Speaker 2: video about Love Island and I had like the sheets 23 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:07,000 Speaker 2: over me and they're like, there's a rock under your finger. 24 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:10,520 Speaker 2: I was like, no, all right, got that out of 25 00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 2: the way. We should tease that. 26 00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:15,479 Speaker 4: That could have been a teaser. Sorry, we'll be back again. 27 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: Get the answer is no, but can we start with 28 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: hilarious story? 29 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:21,479 Speaker 4: Yeah? 30 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 2: Well there, I mean, there's so much to like. 31 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: The story on me and it's really funny. 32 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:26,120 Speaker 4: Oh great. 33 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 2: So it's our last night in Paris and we had 34 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 2: an early flight the next morning to go back home, 35 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:35,960 Speaker 2: and uh, we stayed out late. We stayed up till 36 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 2: like two o'clock in the morning, and I like woke 37 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:39,959 Speaker 2: up and I like smell like I was in like 38 00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:42,480 Speaker 2: Willy Wonk and the chocolate factory. I literally was like, 39 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:46,760 Speaker 2: I smell like the deepest smell of chocolate I've ever 40 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 2: smelled in my life. I thought I was dreaming it, 41 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 2: Like it was so weird. And Robbie woke up in 42 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:52,040 Speaker 2: the middle of night. We were both like awake because 43 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 2: we were like scared we're gonna miss our flight. You 44 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:55,520 Speaker 2: just like didn't really sleep all. So I like rolled 45 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 2: over to like cuddle with him, and I like felt 46 00:01:57,440 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 2: stuff kind of like crumble on me, and I was like, like, oh, 47 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:02,120 Speaker 2: do you smell that chocolate? He's like, what are you 48 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:04,840 Speaker 2: talking about? So he grabs his phone and he puts 49 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 2: the flash line on me and they're just literally chocolate 50 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 2: all over my face and like my back and my 51 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:14,919 Speaker 2: body and then we put it on the bed next 52 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 2: to me, and this is the scene. This is the 53 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 2: scene at which, so this is a podcast, you can't 54 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:25,639 Speaker 2: really see about the to the camera right here. 55 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 4: Oh my god, what is that? 56 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:30,360 Speaker 2: So you know how they leave the little chocolates on 57 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 2: your I didn't know we had one of those, and 58 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 2: so I slept in the chocolate, like my head was 59 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:43,080 Speaker 2: buried deep in this mile of you chocolate. 60 00:02:44,160 --> 00:02:46,360 Speaker 1: Or look a pillow before you put your hand on it. 61 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 2: Maive me the details of what I myself in there. 62 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:55,880 Speaker 4: We're all gonna think of doing some freaky chocolate things, 63 00:02:58,000 --> 00:02:58,679 Speaker 4: not at all. 64 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 2: And I was actually piss because once I was like, 65 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 2: does this smells so good? And he goes, yeah, I 66 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 2: ate mine. It was like hazel chocolate was my favorite. 67 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 2: So it was a piss that I couldn't even try it, 68 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,080 Speaker 2: and then I like felt bad. So this was like 69 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 2: the middle that was like three am, and he's like, 70 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 2: just go, grab like a towel over it so that 71 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:16,920 Speaker 2: you can, like we can go back to sleep. So 72 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:17,959 Speaker 2: I just put a towel over it, and then I 73 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 2: didn't want to like move the wrapper from the chocolate 74 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:21,840 Speaker 2: because I didn't want the like cleaning ladies to think 75 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 2: that I like pooped the bed or something. I was like, 76 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 2: I don't anybody think. 77 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:26,760 Speaker 4: I pooped the bed. 78 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:28,640 Speaker 2: So I tried to like pick it up. Then I 79 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 2: like left the wrapper on there. It was just a mess. 80 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:34,800 Speaker 3: You don't think that they'd be able to smell if 81 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 3: that was poop versus chocolate. 82 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 2: I don't know, Like Robbie can't smell anything. 83 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 4: He took me that checked out. 84 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:44,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's the sinest thing is just because you just 85 00:03:44,520 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 2: come back backa. 86 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 4: Yes, But like sometimes I don't. 87 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 3: Like we were on the plane back and I was 88 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:52,200 Speaker 3: in the middle seat and then the girl next to 89 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 3: me and Haley both had their shirt over their nose 90 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:57,920 Speaker 3: and Haley's like, baby, don't smell that. And I was like, no, 91 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 3: like is my do I have COVID or something? Because 92 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:02,600 Speaker 3: I can't smell this And she's like that's the worst smell. 93 00:04:02,640 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 3: And I look over and the girl next to me 94 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 3: on her notes covered. But then on the way there, 95 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:12,960 Speaker 3: I got some you know how people just fart on planes. 96 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:16,839 Speaker 3: It pisses me off. No, Like seriously, I get that. 97 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:18,719 Speaker 3: You can't help it. It's like not healthy to hold 98 00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:22,240 Speaker 3: it in, but like please just excuse yourselfing it's so trude. 99 00:04:22,680 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 3: We cannot breathe fresh air or stuff. It's gross and 100 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:29,599 Speaker 3: you're filth. It's gross. Also, I was, okay, you know 101 00:04:29,600 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 3: how I talked about how I have to shower before 102 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:32,480 Speaker 3: I get on the plane to wash. 103 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:33,000 Speaker 4: The sleep off. 104 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 2: Yeah. 105 00:04:34,080 --> 00:04:38,120 Speaker 3: So yesterday Haley said that she she had a she like, 106 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 3: met with someone and she was like, yeah, they smelled 107 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 3: like sleep. And I was like, do you see what 108 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:45,919 Speaker 3: I'm saying? So now she understands. 109 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:49,120 Speaker 2: Still, never, once you smell sleep on someone, you will 110 00:04:49,160 --> 00:04:50,840 Speaker 2: never unsmell it ever. 111 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:54,560 Speaker 4: Again, it's so recognizable one to want to do. 112 00:04:54,520 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 2: It, especially like my dating life in college was that scent? 113 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:01,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, I am devastated by this. 114 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:03,679 Speaker 2: Yeah, I know I'm not going to say any names, 115 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:07,400 Speaker 2: but you know who you are if good listening. 116 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 4: Your whole dating life in college was that sense? 117 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:14,719 Speaker 2: Yes, sinky college boys in a frat house, like rolling 118 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:16,680 Speaker 2: out of bed and going to class like that is 119 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:17,720 Speaker 2: the epitome of. 120 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:20,920 Speaker 4: Full body chills. Now my spines so. 121 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:23,479 Speaker 2: On all it's a blessing that Robbie can't smell for me. 122 00:05:24,960 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 4: Wait, why you know? 123 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:31,599 Speaker 2: It's just nice? I feel very secure and uh if 124 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:33,720 Speaker 2: I am gassy or anything like that is always a 125 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:36,799 Speaker 2: silent He's like totally oblivio. 126 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:38,640 Speaker 4: So if he can smell it, then it's like. 127 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:42,599 Speaker 2: That he could the chocolate that was all over me, 128 00:05:42,720 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 2: and he's like right next to me and just goes 129 00:05:44,680 --> 00:05:46,839 Speaker 2: to show you that he has no sense of smell. 130 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:49,279 Speaker 4: Wow, how was the trip? 131 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:52,479 Speaker 3: Aside from you did you got the lead right out 132 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 3: the gate not engaged? 133 00:05:54,160 --> 00:05:55,479 Speaker 4: But how is the rest of the trip? 134 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 2: Truly one of the like the most magical experiences. I'll 135 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 2: never forget this trip. I cry probably like three or 136 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:04,040 Speaker 2: four times when we got to Paris because I've always 137 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 2: wanted to see the Eiffel Tower, and so I cried 138 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:08,960 Speaker 2: on our way into Paris, when I saw it and 139 00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:11,040 Speaker 2: we were landing, I cried on the plane, and then 140 00:06:11,080 --> 00:06:13,039 Speaker 2: I cried when we saw it for the first time 141 00:06:13,320 --> 00:06:15,520 Speaker 2: in real life like during the day, and then I 142 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 2: cried and I saw it light up at night. So 143 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:21,000 Speaker 2: it was like really emotional, and it was really fun 144 00:06:21,040 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 2: because like my friends came. We had like friends meet 145 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:25,560 Speaker 2: us at the earlier part of the trip, so we 146 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:27,719 Speaker 2: got to like have fun and party and like do 147 00:06:27,839 --> 00:06:30,720 Speaker 2: all that kind of stuff. I ate everything under the sun. 148 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 2: Like I just really was like living. I brought a 149 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 2: lot of white just in case things happened. 150 00:06:38,480 --> 00:06:39,119 Speaker 4: I'll be honest. 151 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:41,200 Speaker 3: When I saw the pink dress come out, I was like, well, dang, 152 00:06:41,240 --> 00:06:47,520 Speaker 3: it's not happening quick because yeah, everything else, everything else, 153 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:49,160 Speaker 3: It was like. 154 00:06:49,240 --> 00:06:51,040 Speaker 4: Dude, the pink dress came out. 155 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:53,599 Speaker 2: To be honest, I'm packing for a trip. I always 156 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:56,280 Speaker 2: packed like a specific color just because I only did 157 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:56,880 Speaker 2: a carry on. 158 00:06:57,240 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 4: Yeah, so I only was impressive. 159 00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 2: I only wanted to have shoes that matched like that, 160 00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 2: you know what I mean. Like I didn't bring a 161 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:05,479 Speaker 2: black pair of heel right or anything. So everything was 162 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:09,120 Speaker 2: like white was the vibe. Sometimes black is the vibe. 163 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 2: This was white was the vibe, and uh a more 164 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:14,160 Speaker 2: practically every day. Wow. 165 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:17,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, I just just to be ready to be ready 166 00:07:17,400 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 3: in case. 167 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:19,360 Speaker 2: But alas we're here. 168 00:07:20,360 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 4: Songs a ring songs. 169 00:07:21,960 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 2: Yeah I didn't. Here's the thing I joke about it. 170 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:27,360 Speaker 2: I was like sad a little bit, but it doesn't 171 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 2: take away from the trip. Like I really know, I 172 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 2: didn't have expectations going in, and I really really had 173 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:32,800 Speaker 2: the best time ever. 174 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:35,720 Speaker 3: So yeah, I think everyone else had the expectations. But 175 00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:38,040 Speaker 3: you were even like No, we're just like going on 176 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:40,760 Speaker 3: the trip. Yeah, but you can. You are always prepared. 177 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:43,080 Speaker 3: It's never bad to be prepared, That's what I say. 178 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, like just when. 179 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: You're there, there's gonna be a moment where you're like, oh, 180 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:47,360 Speaker 1: this would be nice. 181 00:07:48,560 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 2: But when the Eiffel Towers let playing right behind us 182 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:55,440 Speaker 2: at midnight, you know, I was like the saxophonist is 183 00:07:55,480 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 2: playing love songs on his saxophone. You know, it's like. 184 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:02,640 Speaker 4: Glancing like maybe he'll go on the knee. When I 185 00:08:02,680 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 4: turned my head this way. 186 00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 2: Do you want me to go pick something up down 187 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 2: the street? We want to go get a bottle of 188 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:12,080 Speaker 2: wine at the vendor right there something. 189 00:08:12,120 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 4: Wait, did you like Paris better than the south of France? 190 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:15,800 Speaker 2: So different? 191 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:16,920 Speaker 4: I mean yeah, very different. 192 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, like beach vibes versus city vibes. We like, we 193 00:08:19,840 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 2: took those vests because it was so fun. We saw 194 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:24,720 Speaker 2: so much of the city in like a day because 195 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:27,200 Speaker 2: we had these little our uber to Like the restaurant 196 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:29,240 Speaker 2: was like forty five minutes and I was like, this 197 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:32,120 Speaker 2: is this Traffic is wild? So yeah, found these little 198 00:08:32,120 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 2: lime scooters and just limed around the whole town. I know, 199 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:38,040 Speaker 2: I saw so much of Paris. 200 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:41,520 Speaker 4: I was like, that was really smart. Yeah, smart way 201 00:08:41,559 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 4: to do things. 202 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:44,439 Speaker 2: And then I tried to convince him to get two 203 00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:45,880 Speaker 2: of us on one. I was like, beck, can I 204 00:08:46,040 --> 00:08:47,920 Speaker 2: do this all the time. It's possible. 205 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:50,400 Speaker 3: I don't know if we did it all the time. 206 00:08:50,720 --> 00:08:54,320 Speaker 3: We did it desperation one time. It's not my choice. 207 00:08:54,760 --> 00:08:56,960 Speaker 2: Stole scooters and I was like, I guess we're gonna 208 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:57,800 Speaker 2: go on one together. 209 00:08:58,840 --> 00:09:01,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's hard to balance, so we got to activate 210 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:01,640 Speaker 4: the core. 211 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:03,760 Speaker 2: Yeah yeaheah, how was your trip? 212 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:06,120 Speaker 4: It was amazing. 213 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:08,560 Speaker 3: And you know what's so funny is I was like 214 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:12,040 Speaker 3: I could have also brought a carry on, but I didn't, 215 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 3: but it could happen because. 216 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 2: Look back at it, because I'm like, I still had 217 00:09:16,679 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 2: two outfits to burn. Really yeah, wow. 218 00:09:20,679 --> 00:09:21,920 Speaker 4: I just I packed. 219 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 3: I worked so hard to put que outfits together, and 220 00:09:24,440 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 3: I think I wore two of them because. 221 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:29,840 Speaker 2: You don't wear a lot of cute stuff, so like, yeah, 222 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 2: we justsked a couple of cute things and then lounge stuff. 223 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:34,480 Speaker 3: But like we would we would just like go from 224 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:36,360 Speaker 3: the beach to dinner, so I'd just like wear my 225 00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:38,840 Speaker 3: cover up in my bathing suit and that's like why 226 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:42,000 Speaker 3: it's so fun to go there because there's no expectation 227 00:09:42,080 --> 00:09:43,439 Speaker 3: of needing to look a certain way. 228 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:45,000 Speaker 2: But exactly, we did. 229 00:09:44,840 --> 00:09:47,480 Speaker 3: A resort for the first three four days, and that 230 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:50,160 Speaker 3: was amazing because it was just like sleep. Well, we 231 00:09:50,200 --> 00:09:52,520 Speaker 3: didn't really I will say, I get on a really 232 00:09:52,720 --> 00:09:55,120 Speaker 3: healthy schedule in Hawaii. I wake up with like seven, 233 00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:56,120 Speaker 3: go to bed at like nine. 234 00:09:56,720 --> 00:09:59,080 Speaker 2: Nice. I was the opposite. We were going about like three, 235 00:09:59,440 --> 00:10:00,320 Speaker 2: sleeping till noon. 236 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:03,760 Speaker 4: Yeah, well it's different when that time changed. But and 237 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:06,040 Speaker 4: so we go to sleep. It's a lot of sleep 238 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 4: nine seven. 239 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 2: This sounds like heaven to me. Beautiful, beautiful. Look at 240 00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 2: that fresh face over there. Some well slept skin. 241 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 4: I got a lot of rest. 242 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:17,480 Speaker 3: And and so it was like we'd go into the 243 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 3: ocean and just like float in the ocean and like 244 00:10:20,720 --> 00:10:22,439 Speaker 3: the water there is just magical. 245 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:23,240 Speaker 2: Was it warm? 246 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:25,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, it was like warm, but like refreshing, you know, 247 00:10:25,520 --> 00:10:27,040 Speaker 3: like you'd get in you're like, oh, it feels good. 248 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:30,640 Speaker 3: And then we go the pool, go under the cabana 249 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:31,439 Speaker 3: play cards. 250 00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:32,640 Speaker 4: It was just like perfect. 251 00:10:32,679 --> 00:10:34,800 Speaker 3: And then we went to an airbnb, which also is 252 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 3: really fun because it's like we went got our groceries, 253 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:40,600 Speaker 3: had like our little home base, made sandwiches for the beach, 254 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:42,520 Speaker 3: went on you know, adventures. 255 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:43,760 Speaker 4: It was so fun. 256 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:48,040 Speaker 2: But let me just tell everybody about this sandwich paste 257 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:51,640 Speaker 2: that I learned about in France. Taste taste. Okay, you 258 00:10:51,679 --> 00:10:53,800 Speaker 2: take pistachios and you crumble them up like into like 259 00:10:54,600 --> 00:11:01,800 Speaker 2: fine powder, not powder, but like crunched up pistachio olive oil. Okay, 260 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 2: parmesan cheese. 261 00:11:03,120 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 4: Mmm. 262 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:06,000 Speaker 2: You put that as like a like a little paste 263 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:08,880 Speaker 2: on your sandwich. Spread a spread, get paste on so 264 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:11,720 Speaker 2: so gross. It was like a spread and that is 265 00:11:13,160 --> 00:11:16,079 Speaker 2: heaven in your mouth. Wow, try and recreate it here. 266 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:17,840 Speaker 2: Because we went to this like sandwich place and ate 267 00:11:17,880 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 2: it and I was like, this is the most fantastic. 268 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 2: Sounds so good. Robbie's like I can make that. 269 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:23,199 Speaker 4: I was gonna say, I feel like YA could make 270 00:11:23,200 --> 00:11:24,800 Speaker 4: that if you do. 271 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we will for sure. 272 00:11:25,920 --> 00:11:28,560 Speaker 4: We put some fresh sandwiches and bread from Italy. 273 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 2: Yes exactly, yeah, exactly, exactly exactly. 274 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:37,240 Speaker 3: So one of the nights Haley and I we she 275 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:39,840 Speaker 3: was like, I found this really this really popular burger 276 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:43,200 Speaker 3: spot and it's on like top five best places in Maui. 277 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:47,319 Speaker 3: So we look it up. And we we drive to it. 278 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:50,520 Speaker 3: By the way, we rented a jeep and like took 279 00:11:50,600 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 3: the Uh. 280 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 2: It's fun. 281 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:55,199 Speaker 4: It's so fun. We had the best time. 282 00:11:55,080 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 2: In Brocco, now, don't you no, Okay. 283 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:02,040 Speaker 3: But it was really fun on vacation. And so we 284 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:04,000 Speaker 3: go we pull up this burger place and it's in 285 00:12:04,160 --> 00:12:06,800 Speaker 3: a gas station. It's like adjacent to a gas station, 286 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 3: and we're like, I'm like. 287 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:08,480 Speaker 4: Is this it? 288 00:12:08,559 --> 00:12:10,320 Speaker 3: And she goes, I promise it's on this list of 289 00:12:10,400 --> 00:12:12,520 Speaker 3: like best places in Mali. 290 00:12:13,160 --> 00:12:14,200 Speaker 4: It was the. 291 00:12:13,880 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 3: Best burger I have ever had in my entire life. Really, 292 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:21,920 Speaker 3: it's called Haven's if you're in Mali. It was incredible. 293 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:24,880 Speaker 2: So we actually went to like the best burger place 294 00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:27,480 Speaker 2: in Paris. She has her quotes U s it's like 295 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:29,679 Speaker 2: Kim Kardashian said, it was like the best burger place. 296 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:32,200 Speaker 2: And it's actually a really cute little place, like it's 297 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:39,720 Speaker 2: like a little maybe like ten tables, very very French, like, okay. 298 00:12:39,400 --> 00:12:39,920 Speaker 4: It's fine. 299 00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:40,560 Speaker 2: It was fine. 300 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:40,840 Speaker 3: Yeah. 301 00:12:40,960 --> 00:12:42,599 Speaker 2: I was like I would get down on an in 302 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:44,240 Speaker 2: and out burger over this, to be honest. 303 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:46,280 Speaker 4: We that was our first place when we got back. 304 00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:46,600 Speaker 2: In and out. 305 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:46,920 Speaker 4: Yeah. 306 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:49,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's always our like go to when we return 307 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:52,520 Speaker 3: from a travel. It was just so nice to go. 308 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 3: And you know, Hayley's been gone and had tour and 309 00:12:55,280 --> 00:12:56,959 Speaker 3: then she got back from tour and it was still 310 00:12:57,000 --> 00:12:59,600 Speaker 3: like NonStop work for her basically all of June. So 311 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:01,600 Speaker 3: it was so so nice to just go and like 312 00:13:02,880 --> 00:13:08,320 Speaker 3: be together with no distractions and just like spend time together. 313 00:13:08,520 --> 00:13:13,240 Speaker 3: And it was just such a nice relaxing trip and 314 00:13:14,040 --> 00:13:15,559 Speaker 3: we did not want to come home. 315 00:13:15,960 --> 00:13:17,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, I felt that. 316 00:13:17,679 --> 00:13:18,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, it was. 317 00:13:18,760 --> 00:13:21,199 Speaker 2: It's so crazy because a week, like when you're on vacation, 318 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:23,640 Speaker 2: feels like such a long time, but then it also 319 00:13:23,679 --> 00:13:24,319 Speaker 2: feels quick. 320 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:25,680 Speaker 4: Oh my god. 321 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:27,440 Speaker 3: I felt like we were there for like three days. 322 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:28,440 Speaker 3: It went by so fast. 323 00:13:28,480 --> 00:13:30,319 Speaker 2: But then when you think about everything that you did, 324 00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:32,520 Speaker 2: I know, yeah, back, I'm like, oh my gosh, Like 325 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:34,880 Speaker 2: that was felt like so long ago. Like, Okay, we 326 00:13:34,960 --> 00:13:38,960 Speaker 2: went to the hotel. Did you watch Sofia Richie's wedding 327 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:39,679 Speaker 2: closely at all? 328 00:13:40,360 --> 00:13:40,440 Speaker 3: No? 329 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:42,000 Speaker 4: I don't think as closely as you did. 330 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:44,200 Speaker 2: But I didn't watch it that close to but Paulina, 331 00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:46,560 Speaker 2: it like was like very invested in it. And so 332 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:49,240 Speaker 2: we went to the hotel that like she rented out 333 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:54,040 Speaker 2: and like got married at and that was crazy because 334 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:55,600 Speaker 2: I was like looking at the pictures from her wedding 335 00:13:55,640 --> 00:13:57,680 Speaker 2: and like seeing it in real life and like realizing 336 00:13:57,720 --> 00:13:59,760 Speaker 2: that the aisle she went down took her seven and 337 00:13:59,760 --> 00:14:01,600 Speaker 2: a half minutes to walk down. So we like walked 338 00:14:01,640 --> 00:14:03,560 Speaker 2: down and I was like, yeah, I'm tired, Like I'm 339 00:14:04,679 --> 00:14:07,240 Speaker 2: a half minutes its long long. 340 00:14:09,240 --> 00:14:13,240 Speaker 4: Yeah that feels a little excessive. Yeah, but was it stunning? 341 00:14:13,720 --> 00:14:15,800 Speaker 2: Stunning? And so I was going through all of her 342 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:17,360 Speaker 2: photos that I saw what I'm. 343 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:19,520 Speaker 4: Trying to recreate Robbie. 344 00:14:19,640 --> 00:14:23,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, Robbie so romantic. Here. I look at this backdrop, 345 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:28,080 Speaker 2: perfect place for a wedding, people get married here, So 346 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:33,640 Speaker 2: weird that we're here. Yeah, but that was like beautiful. 347 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:36,240 Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know, I just I did a 348 00:14:36,280 --> 00:14:37,960 Speaker 2: lot of things. I ate a lot of things. I 349 00:14:38,120 --> 00:14:43,080 Speaker 2: drank a lot. But I feel I'm very happy. 350 00:14:43,040 --> 00:14:44,520 Speaker 4: Great, I'm glad. I felt. 351 00:14:44,640 --> 00:14:46,920 Speaker 3: I had this moment like multiple times on the trip 352 00:14:46,920 --> 00:14:48,920 Speaker 3: where I was like, I feel so grateful that we 353 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 3: get to do this. Yeah, you know, like to go 354 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:53,960 Speaker 3: on a trip like this and like have this time 355 00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 3: together and like get to experience what we get to experience. 356 00:14:56,880 --> 00:14:58,120 Speaker 4: I had a lot of those moments. 357 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:00,280 Speaker 2: I think that's what was hitting me in Paris. I'm like, 358 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:03,720 Speaker 2: I've had Paris on my vision board for so many years, 359 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:06,280 Speaker 2: Like truly, I've had Paris on my vision board. I'll 360 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:12,440 Speaker 2: go back and check, but it's been what oh yeah, yeah, well, 361 00:15:12,480 --> 00:15:16,160 Speaker 2: like Paris was opposite, like not like what's the word 362 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:22,280 Speaker 2: tanging gentile, tangential and gentile to like anything else. But 363 00:15:22,320 --> 00:15:24,360 Speaker 2: I always wanted to go to Paris, Like I've just 364 00:15:24,520 --> 00:15:27,200 Speaker 2: always wanted to go, And so the fact that I 365 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:30,000 Speaker 2: was actually there, it was like, I don't know, it's 366 00:15:30,040 --> 00:15:30,680 Speaker 2: really crazy. 367 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:34,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's really cool to get to go somewhere that evil, like, 368 00:15:34,600 --> 00:15:36,880 Speaker 3: especially somewhere like that, because it's so iconic. 369 00:15:36,920 --> 00:15:38,160 Speaker 2: And I was always like, I want to be in 370 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:39,760 Speaker 2: love when I go there, you know what I mean. Like, 371 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:42,400 Speaker 2: I feel like that was like a whole different element 372 00:15:43,200 --> 00:15:44,560 Speaker 2: to being in Paris, you know what I mean. 373 00:15:44,720 --> 00:15:46,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, you didn't want to be like Tanya in Paris, 374 00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:49,040 Speaker 3: like living your single life in Paris. You wanted to 375 00:15:49,080 --> 00:15:51,640 Speaker 3: go like, yeah, ea, croissants with the love of your life. 376 00:15:51,880 --> 00:15:55,760 Speaker 2: In Paris, you know, oh my god, I take Paris. 377 00:15:55,920 --> 00:15:56,520 Speaker 4: That's fun. 378 00:15:56,720 --> 00:15:58,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, it was not that and didn't want it to 379 00:15:58,720 --> 00:16:00,360 Speaker 2: be that vibe. I wanted to be like in love 380 00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:00,880 Speaker 2: in Paris. 381 00:16:01,000 --> 00:16:03,880 Speaker 3: I will say though, I'd subscribe to Tatiana in Paris. 382 00:16:04,280 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 2: Really yeah, there's no okay you're single and you want 383 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:14,200 Speaker 2: a hot hook up. The French Riviera is where it's at. 384 00:16:14,440 --> 00:16:17,000 Speaker 2: It was dripping in hot eyes, Like I was like, 385 00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:19,120 Speaker 2: what is going on? Yeah on. 386 00:16:21,040 --> 00:16:23,680 Speaker 3: It, we found your next destination, next destination. 387 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:25,480 Speaker 2: Like it was so crazy. 388 00:16:26,240 --> 00:16:29,480 Speaker 3: It's a it's a hot spot right now that Spain. 389 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:31,680 Speaker 3: I feel like everyone's kind of like over there just 390 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:33,640 Speaker 3: living me. 391 00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:37,240 Speaker 2: I saw a dog. French love dogs. I saw a 392 00:16:37,280 --> 00:16:40,320 Speaker 2: dog every single day that yeah about and I would 393 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:42,880 Speaker 2: like go and like grab the dog and like hug 394 00:16:42,960 --> 00:16:45,600 Speaker 2: the dog, and like I really missed Sunny. 395 00:16:46,040 --> 00:16:50,600 Speaker 3: We had a funny moment where there were these There 396 00:16:50,640 --> 00:16:53,840 Speaker 3: was this like really really southern couple next to us 397 00:16:53,960 --> 00:16:56,320 Speaker 3: laying on the loungers. This is right when we got 398 00:16:56,360 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 3: to our hotel and the woman walked by and I. 399 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:03,520 Speaker 4: Was like, oh, I love your some suit topic where 400 00:17:03,560 --> 00:17:04,040 Speaker 4: is that from? 401 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:06,240 Speaker 3: And she was just kind of like it was on 402 00:17:06,280 --> 00:17:09,000 Speaker 3: Instagram and like was a little bit like kind of rude, 403 00:17:09,680 --> 00:17:11,119 Speaker 3: and I didn't think anything of it. I was just 404 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:13,520 Speaker 3: like all right whatever, And later on Haley's like, I 405 00:17:13,560 --> 00:17:16,080 Speaker 3: got really upset at how that lady responded to you. 406 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 4: And I was like, what do you mean? 407 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:21,040 Speaker 3: And she was like, well, because like you went out 408 00:17:21,040 --> 00:17:23,399 Speaker 3: of your way to compliment her, and she was she 409 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:25,280 Speaker 3: was just like not nice back, and I got I 410 00:17:25,280 --> 00:17:28,600 Speaker 3: felt like really defensive for you, and I was like, oh, 411 00:17:28,680 --> 00:17:31,200 Speaker 3: I was like that's okay, And so like every time 412 00:17:31,200 --> 00:17:32,440 Speaker 3: we see this lady, we'd be like. 413 00:17:33,280 --> 00:17:33,920 Speaker 4: There she is. 414 00:17:35,359 --> 00:17:38,040 Speaker 3: But it was cute that Haley got like riled up 415 00:17:38,119 --> 00:17:40,960 Speaker 3: because in the passing moment, I didn't think anything of it. 416 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:43,600 Speaker 2: And she was like, I just always feel. 417 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 3: Like Southern people are just supposed to be so sweet 418 00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:48,199 Speaker 3: and like I always imagine them being like really like 419 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:50,720 Speaker 3: overly friendly, and I was like, well, it's just like anywhere, 420 00:17:50,840 --> 00:17:53,840 Speaker 3: just it's just an accent. It's not People are still 421 00:17:53,840 --> 00:17:54,520 Speaker 3: gonna be people. 422 00:17:55,960 --> 00:18:00,520 Speaker 2: Ain't that the truth? People are gonna be people. 423 00:18:02,720 --> 00:18:04,440 Speaker 4: We gotta take a break with these. 424 00:18:05,160 --> 00:18:11,560 Speaker 2: Birthday coming up. So bossy with the breaks. 425 00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:14,199 Speaker 3: He tries to give us a hand symbol and then 426 00:18:14,200 --> 00:18:16,639 Speaker 3: we always announced that Mark's giving us. 427 00:18:17,560 --> 00:18:18,040 Speaker 4: It's fun. 428 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:21,879 Speaker 2: It's fun, but like an air airplane guy like on 429 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:27,080 Speaker 2: the tarmac. Land right here, take a break and be 430 00:18:27,160 --> 00:18:27,480 Speaker 2: right back. 431 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:47,400 Speaker 3: We'll be back to talk about all things tailors. All right, 432 00:18:47,480 --> 00:18:50,679 Speaker 3: we're back, We're back. I just have to say, tell me, 433 00:18:51,640 --> 00:18:52,800 Speaker 3: am I glowing. 434 00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:55,400 Speaker 4: You are glowing, You're so tan. 435 00:18:56,240 --> 00:19:00,760 Speaker 2: Okay, thank you. I don't tan, like I just don't tan. 436 00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:02,920 Speaker 2: And I was putting like fifty SPF every day. Yeah, 437 00:19:02,920 --> 00:19:05,280 Speaker 2: but as our workout every day, we would like swim, 438 00:19:05,359 --> 00:19:08,200 Speaker 2: so we would like swim out to the buoies and 439 00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:09,960 Speaker 2: so I got I was like in the sun, but 440 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:11,600 Speaker 2: I never I just get red. And I feel like 441 00:19:11,640 --> 00:19:14,080 Speaker 2: this is the first time that like I actually got 442 00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:14,680 Speaker 2: a little color. 443 00:19:14,800 --> 00:19:15,960 Speaker 4: You look like you got a spray tan. 444 00:19:16,640 --> 00:19:18,840 Speaker 2: No, and I'm not even in Bronza right now. I 445 00:19:18,880 --> 00:19:21,440 Speaker 2: know I'm just saying or too fresh face. Yeah, yeah, 446 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:21,800 Speaker 2: thank you. 447 00:19:21,880 --> 00:19:25,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, so congrats, thank you, thank you to gettamin d. 448 00:19:25,880 --> 00:19:27,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, finally got a tan, natural tan. 449 00:19:28,080 --> 00:19:28,399 Speaker 4: Yeah. 450 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:31,760 Speaker 3: You just need the French sun, south of France sun. Yeah, 451 00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:34,399 Speaker 3: it is different. Like even we were saying in Hawaii, 452 00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:36,119 Speaker 3: like Halen and I both got tan, and I was 453 00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:39,320 Speaker 3: like I haven't been tanned like naturally and forever it. 454 00:19:39,440 --> 00:19:44,239 Speaker 2: Stays light until ten pm over there. Oh, whoa. I 455 00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:47,159 Speaker 2: was having dinner at nine o'clock, nine thirty and like 456 00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:50,720 Speaker 2: the sun is still out, and I realized that I 457 00:19:50,760 --> 00:19:53,440 Speaker 2: am a woman of the sun. You are I am. 458 00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:55,640 Speaker 4: You're the sunshine mine and body I. 459 00:19:55,600 --> 00:19:58,639 Speaker 2: Am the sunshine mine in body form because like this, 460 00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:01,400 Speaker 2: when the sun's out, I thriving. I could be out. 461 00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 2: I was having dinner at ten pm and then the 462 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:05,159 Speaker 2: sun goes down and I'm like, I got to hit 463 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:07,720 Speaker 2: the bed. I think that's why I'm such a homebody 464 00:20:07,760 --> 00:20:09,920 Speaker 2: when I'm at home, because when it's dark out, I 465 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:13,040 Speaker 2: don't like to be outside. I think the economy would 466 00:20:13,040 --> 00:20:15,199 Speaker 2: like really boost it if we stayed light out till 467 00:20:15,280 --> 00:20:16,920 Speaker 2: late because everybody will be out warm. 468 00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:18,360 Speaker 4: What do we do for this? 469 00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:21,160 Speaker 2: I don't know me as president? 470 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:27,000 Speaker 3: Oh hell, we just can't do that to whatever. 471 00:20:27,040 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 2: The next election is. 472 00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:32,600 Speaker 4: Your sun out, tonya? Do you not know when the 473 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:33,399 Speaker 4: next election is? 474 00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:35,720 Speaker 2: That the next year job? 475 00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:39,680 Speaker 4: So while we were gone, it. 476 00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:41,920 Speaker 2: Feels too soon for me, but maybe the next one. 477 00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:44,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, we got to work on some other things. 478 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:49,159 Speaker 3: First things happen when. 479 00:20:49,040 --> 00:20:49,719 Speaker 4: We were gone. 480 00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:51,520 Speaker 2: So much happened. 481 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:57,920 Speaker 3: Well speak now Taylor's version came out. Yes, I need 482 00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:01,000 Speaker 3: your opinions on vault. 483 00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:02,840 Speaker 4: Do you have any favorites? 484 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:05,560 Speaker 2: Yes, I do have favorites. Let me, I don't want 485 00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:06,040 Speaker 2: to mess up this. 486 00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:07,680 Speaker 1: Well, if she looks them up, I will tell you 487 00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:09,840 Speaker 1: that When Emma falls in Love is a favorite of mine, 488 00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:12,080 Speaker 1: and the idea that it may be about Emma Stone 489 00:21:12,119 --> 00:21:13,640 Speaker 1: makes it more a favorite of mine. 490 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:17,720 Speaker 3: Oh, it's about It's potentially about Emma Stone. 491 00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:19,719 Speaker 1: The rumors, that's what the Swifties are saying is when 492 00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:21,680 Speaker 1: they were really close back then and they speak now 493 00:21:21,720 --> 00:21:24,919 Speaker 1: era that's when she wrote the song, and that's what 494 00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:27,120 Speaker 1: they think, and I think that makes it even sweeter song. 495 00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:30,440 Speaker 1: I also really like Timeless, and they like Castle's Crumbling. 496 00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:31,840 Speaker 1: There I've spoken. 497 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:34,320 Speaker 2: Castle's Crumbling is one of my favorites. I can see 498 00:21:34,320 --> 00:21:39,200 Speaker 2: you as one of my favorites. And Electric Touch. 499 00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:43,560 Speaker 3: How is no one talking about the How is no 500 00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:46,080 Speaker 3: one saying foolish one? 501 00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:51,240 Speaker 4: It's so good? Like don't you like You're not the exception? 502 00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:56,520 Speaker 4: Like that? Is? That is Tanya? Pretty? Robbie? Really? 503 00:21:57,200 --> 00:21:57,480 Speaker 3: Yes? 504 00:21:58,119 --> 00:21:59,560 Speaker 4: Do you want me to read lyrics? 505 00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:02,040 Speaker 2: So, if I'm being honest, you didn't listen? No, No, 506 00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:04,280 Speaker 2: I did. I listened, but like normally I would have 507 00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:07,280 Speaker 2: listened to this all the Bald Songs fifteen thousand times 508 00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:09,399 Speaker 2: by now. Yeah, but I didn't really start listening to 509 00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 2: like I got home on Sunday, so I've only had 510 00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:12,119 Speaker 2: like a day to listen. 511 00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:16,280 Speaker 3: Foolish one, stop checking your mailbox for confessions of love. 512 00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:18,640 Speaker 3: They ain't ever gonna come. You will take the long way, 513 00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:20,760 Speaker 3: you will get the long way down. You know how 514 00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:22,520 Speaker 3: to keep me waiting. I know how to act like 515 00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:24,960 Speaker 3: I'm fine. Don't know what to call the situation, but 516 00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,320 Speaker 3: I know I can't call you mine, and it's delicate, 517 00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:30,680 Speaker 3: but I will do my best to see bulletproof. It's 518 00:22:30,720 --> 00:22:35,560 Speaker 3: basically like uh, Gigi from He's not that. 519 00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:39,640 Speaker 4: Into, He's just got that into you listen to this song. 520 00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:41,920 Speaker 3: I was like, I know Tanya is gonna love this one. 521 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:43,400 Speaker 3: I'm so shook that you didn't. 522 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:45,000 Speaker 2: I'm going to give it another chance because I watched 523 00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:46,879 Speaker 2: He's Just Got That Indie on my flight home on 524 00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:54,320 Speaker 2: whatever day. Yes today, I didn't get the ring and 525 00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:55,280 Speaker 2: so watching he's just. 526 00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:01,840 Speaker 3: Looking to see if he's looking over to see what 527 00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:02,520 Speaker 3: she's watching. 528 00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:09,240 Speaker 2: But I love her characters so much, and like every 529 00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:12,160 Speaker 2: time I watch that movie, I'm so reminded of how 530 00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:15,359 Speaker 2: much I am Gigi in that movie, because like she's 531 00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:21,120 Speaker 2: so naive and so oblivious and like doesn't care because 532 00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:22,879 Speaker 2: she just has like such a hopeful heart. You know, 533 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,560 Speaker 2: She's like, I don't care how many rejections I get. 534 00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:27,960 Speaker 2: I don't care how many doors are slimed on my face, 535 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:29,640 Speaker 2: Like I'm still going to show up and I'm still 536 00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:32,120 Speaker 2: I still believe in love. And I was like, yeah, 537 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:33,080 Speaker 2: I do. 538 00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:36,520 Speaker 3: So. People put this song Foolish one on TikTok and 539 00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 3: the sound like the sound name is called Delulu girls 540 00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:45,879 Speaker 3: like delusional girls, so like they'll be doing no because 541 00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:47,360 Speaker 3: they're saying they're like delusion. 542 00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:51,640 Speaker 4: Okay, your word for no, your word for naive is 543 00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:56,360 Speaker 4: the gen z Delulu. Well, Delulu is so rude. 544 00:23:57,520 --> 00:24:00,280 Speaker 2: No, I hope gen z get a little it. 545 00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:03,439 Speaker 3: No, it's being like it's being like, oh, he just 546 00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,359 Speaker 3: hasn't texted me because he's probably he probably lost his 547 00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:07,600 Speaker 3: phone and he probably. 548 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:15,400 Speaker 2: Fine because he wasn't your person. It's okay, Okay, it's 549 00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:17,639 Speaker 2: called hope gen Z. 550 00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:20,560 Speaker 3: No. I think more like your word of being like 551 00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:24,119 Speaker 3: I'm so naive. Like there that's them saying like I'm delusional. 552 00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:25,679 Speaker 3: I can be delusional. 553 00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:33,439 Speaker 1: Moments. You've had your moments called I love that, like 554 00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:34,960 Speaker 1: he wol have lost the phone, like maybe he left 555 00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:36,679 Speaker 1: dropped in the ocean, like maybe It's like he had 556 00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:39,520 Speaker 1: so many different reasons why something wasn't happening. 557 00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:43,880 Speaker 2: And look where I am today. 558 00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:50,520 Speaker 3: It's well, look worse she has to say, people, where 559 00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 3: I am now? 560 00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:53,000 Speaker 4: Sleeping on her chocolates? 561 00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:55,360 Speaker 2: Chocolates on my pillow? 562 00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:57,480 Speaker 4: Oh man? 563 00:24:58,080 --> 00:25:02,239 Speaker 2: So okay, So anyways, so anyways, back to Taylor, there 564 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:02,840 Speaker 2: was also. 565 00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:04,600 Speaker 4: A lyric change and better than revenge. 566 00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:06,280 Speaker 1: I found that really interesting. 567 00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:12,560 Speaker 3: I couldn't understand what she's saying. But go ahead, no, 568 00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:15,680 Speaker 3: because I someone posts it. But I can't hear what 569 00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:16,520 Speaker 3: the lyrics are. 570 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:22,120 Speaker 1: Okay, what the old lyrics were. Uh, she's better known 571 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:26,159 Speaker 1: for the maker she does on the mattress, which you 572 00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:27,679 Speaker 1: could say is luck shaming. 573 00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:31,199 Speaker 2: Right, That's why she changed it. 574 00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:33,320 Speaker 1: That's why she changed I mean, she hasn't said so, 575 00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:35,000 Speaker 1: but I think that is why she changed it, because 576 00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:40,040 Speaker 1: now she says, uh, she is okay, original lyrics. She's 577 00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:43,159 Speaker 1: better known for the things that she does on the mattress. Well, 578 00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:45,800 Speaker 1: the new one is he was a moth to the flames, 579 00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:47,240 Speaker 1: she was holding the mattress. 580 00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:49,280 Speaker 2: Whoa, which is pretty good. 581 00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:51,639 Speaker 1: It's pretty Oh you're making a face back up. I 582 00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:54,159 Speaker 1: think it's a pretty solid lyric change if you're going 583 00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:56,119 Speaker 1: to needed I love. 584 00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:57,520 Speaker 2: A moth to a Flame comparison. 585 00:25:58,040 --> 00:25:58,840 Speaker 4: I love the lyrics. 586 00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:02,119 Speaker 3: I think the lyrics great, like she's such a genius songwriter, 587 00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:07,760 Speaker 3: but I liked the bitterness and better than revenge. Oh yeah, yeah, 588 00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:11,520 Speaker 3: so Ashley, I posted, I don't know. I don't just 589 00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:13,560 Speaker 3: I just don't know if I'm into the maturity. 590 00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:18,159 Speaker 1: But that's the thing is she was what nineteen twenty 591 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:19,160 Speaker 1: when she wrote these songs. 592 00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:19,760 Speaker 4: Yeaheah. 593 00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:22,600 Speaker 1: I feel like thirty three you're gonna have some recross, 594 00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:24,160 Speaker 1: Like isn't there a song where she says you're gay? 595 00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,800 Speaker 2: Like she took cut out thought which song? 596 00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:32,280 Speaker 3: That's fine, I'll tell man you're gay by the way 597 00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:34,919 Speaker 3: get out. Yeah, that's fine, I'll tell mine. 598 00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:36,720 Speaker 1: I don't know what she's say the Picture to Burn 599 00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:37,520 Speaker 1: original lyrics of. 600 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,639 Speaker 2: Picture to Burn, what she changed it to that's fine. 601 00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:45,679 Speaker 1: I'm not sure I'll find out. The point is the 602 00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:49,960 Speaker 1: point is that I think she's evolving, yes, but also 603 00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:51,119 Speaker 1: I think it's her. 604 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:54,480 Speaker 3: Oh art, she said that's fine. You won't mind if 605 00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:56,440 Speaker 3: I say that's the change. 606 00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,560 Speaker 1: Okay, We're all on board with her re recording her 607 00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:02,680 Speaker 1: albums right one hundred percent into the Taylor's versions. Yeah, 608 00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:04,000 Speaker 1: so I think we all have to be on board 609 00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:05,640 Speaker 1: with her making a little tweaks on the way. 610 00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:10,040 Speaker 2: About the weird stuff I probably wrote in my journal 611 00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:13,639 Speaker 2: when I was nineteen years old. It's totally embarrassing. Oh 612 00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:14,520 Speaker 2: my gosh. 613 00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:15,960 Speaker 4: No, I think she's a genius. 614 00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:19,679 Speaker 3: I just I loved the I loved the pettiness of 615 00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:20,960 Speaker 3: Better Than Revenge. 616 00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:23,920 Speaker 4: It was fun. It's a revenge song. 617 00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:27,840 Speaker 2: Yeah. Anyway, being honest, if I'm being honest now, it 618 00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:29,640 Speaker 2: was never one of my favorite albums. 619 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:32,600 Speaker 3: I will say I have some favorite songs from the album, 620 00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:33,800 Speaker 3: but as a whole. 621 00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:36,399 Speaker 2: Whole, it was not like I'm with you up on 622 00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:37,440 Speaker 2: the mantle, I'm with you. 623 00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:41,439 Speaker 1: My daughters, who are Swifties to the nth degree, especially 624 00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:43,840 Speaker 1: over the past year, they love speaking now and they're 625 00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:45,920 Speaker 1: very excited for Taylor's version. A couple so they felt 626 00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:49,119 Speaker 1: like Dear John didn't have the passion and anger in 627 00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:54,359 Speaker 1: it from the original, especially the line I'm shining like 628 00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:58,960 Speaker 1: fireworks over your sad empty town. She felt like it 629 00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:01,720 Speaker 1: was angry in the first version, where it was just 630 00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:05,040 Speaker 1: kind of a lyric. In the second, yeah, because. 631 00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:06,640 Speaker 2: She's in a difference int of mind, She's like whatever, 632 00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:07,720 Speaker 2: John Mayer, Yeah. 633 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:08,919 Speaker 4: I do, I do like that. 634 00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:12,199 Speaker 3: At her concert, she was like, we talked about this, 635 00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:16,880 Speaker 3: but she was like, hey, no need to verbally attack. 636 00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:20,879 Speaker 2: The uh the but yeah, I mean, no need to 637 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:25,080 Speaker 2: verbally attack the Tamy Ones because she really brought that 638 00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:25,800 Speaker 2: guy back. 639 00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:28,400 Speaker 3: I mean, but everyone loves Taylor. He was a good 640 00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:29,720 Speaker 3: boy for he was a good ex. 641 00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:33,480 Speaker 2: He was the good ex. But man, she do it 642 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:34,480 Speaker 2: cool with. 643 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:36,960 Speaker 3: That he is so I will just say, when I 644 00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:40,560 Speaker 3: watched the video, I was like, Taylor is so talented. Yeah, 645 00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:43,800 Speaker 3: like he is him doing those stunts and stuff, like, 646 00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:47,080 Speaker 3: he is just so talented, and I just I'm so 647 00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:47,960 Speaker 3: happy for him. 648 00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:50,120 Speaker 2: I am too. I love that he's like having a 649 00:28:50,120 --> 00:28:51,880 Speaker 2: big moment right now because he is like one of 650 00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:53,240 Speaker 2: the nicest guys ever. 651 00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:55,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, and his wife Taylor is also one of the 652 00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:59,920 Speaker 3: coolest girls ever. Because someone was saying, like, to be 653 00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:03,040 Speaker 3: that secure to have everyone being like, well, I want 654 00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:06,440 Speaker 3: to be mad if Taylor and Taylor Swift got back together, 655 00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:08,560 Speaker 3: you know, and she was just like all along for 656 00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:10,560 Speaker 3: the ride, like this is awesome. 657 00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, they're both cool. I'm so happy for them. 658 00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:16,280 Speaker 1: So interesting to have the name Taylor and then date 659 00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:19,360 Speaker 1: multiple tailors in your life. That's so weird, so weird. 660 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:21,680 Speaker 2: If I dated a Tanya, that would be so weird. 661 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:26,320 Speaker 2: Come here, Tanya, I guess why dog? 662 00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:36,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, you talk to And then when she brought him 663 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:38,200 Speaker 4: out on stage in Kansas City, he did the fly. 664 00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:41,720 Speaker 2: I know, it's just cool. Yeah, it was cool. I 665 00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:42,520 Speaker 2: was happy to see that. 666 00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:46,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, me too. There was something else I was gonna 667 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:46,640 Speaker 4: talk about. 668 00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:48,240 Speaker 2: Were about frand Maria getting engaged. 669 00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:50,960 Speaker 4: I was going to bring that up there as girls. 670 00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:52,120 Speaker 2: So that you gonna bring up. 671 00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:53,400 Speaker 4: I'll bring that up after chick. 672 00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:54,000 Speaker 2: Don't forget it. 673 00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:57,680 Speaker 4: The chicks are engaged. Congratulations. 674 00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:02,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so okay. So so I saw Frank Who's 675 00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:05,920 Speaker 2: it first as she got engaged, and oh my gosh, 676 00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:10,520 Speaker 2: look at this podcast. Hast engaged on her European vacation. Babe, 677 00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:16,800 Speaker 2: how cool is that? And then and then Sunday, I 678 00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:19,800 Speaker 2: think it was Sunday, I was definitely back from vacation 679 00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:23,400 Speaker 2: and Rhea posted that she got engaged, and I was like, babe, 680 00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:27,000 Speaker 2: remember that podcast girl that I was telling you got 681 00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:32,080 Speaker 2: engaged on her European vacation. Her podcast host co host 682 00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:37,920 Speaker 2: also got engaged this last week. Look at this podcast 683 00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:42,239 Speaker 2: to engage, you know, and then he goes, aren't you 684 00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:44,000 Speaker 2: so glad that you're not lumped into that? 685 00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:48,160 Speaker 4: I love that spin? 686 00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:53,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, but it got me thinking, like, if 687 00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:55,280 Speaker 2: you and I were to get engaged in the same week, 688 00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:56,760 Speaker 2: how crazy is that? 689 00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:01,360 Speaker 3: Crazy? You're really itching for it a little more than 690 00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:03,720 Speaker 3: than I am over here. So I don't know if 691 00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:05,680 Speaker 3: that's gonna happen, but it'd be very right. 692 00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:06,320 Speaker 2: You never know. 693 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:09,640 Speaker 1: They're gonna ask when they're gonna ask. 694 00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:14,840 Speaker 3: So right, yeah, I know that's true. That's true. It 695 00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:17,680 Speaker 3: would be crazy, but that is ironic because friend has 696 00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:21,000 Speaker 3: been with her guy for years and then Ria and 697 00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:24,960 Speaker 3: her guy have not been together as long. But it 698 00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:26,760 Speaker 3: was kind of like when you know, you know type thing. 699 00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:29,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, So, like, how crazy is that? 700 00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:30,080 Speaker 4: I'm so excited for? 701 00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:32,760 Speaker 2: How crazy is that in the same week. 702 00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:33,600 Speaker 4: I know. 703 00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:38,360 Speaker 2: I'm going to listen to their podcast to hear their 704 00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:39,160 Speaker 2: sides of the story. 705 00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:42,560 Speaker 3: I know, I was thinking I just sld their posts. Oh, 706 00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:45,080 Speaker 3: I was going to bring up the Jonah Hill in 707 00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:47,880 Speaker 3: his ex girlfriend post. 708 00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:52,760 Speaker 2: So I'm a little behind on pop culture. Pop culture thing. Yeah, 709 00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:56,520 Speaker 2: it was very like I really did unplug like from 710 00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:58,880 Speaker 2: just pop culture stuff. And then when I got back, 711 00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:00,720 Speaker 2: I was just in taylor Land. I'm like, oh, yeah, 712 00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:02,680 Speaker 2: really focus on, like there's just a lot going on 713 00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,920 Speaker 2: in Taylorland. Was what what's going on? John Hill? 714 00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:09,040 Speaker 4: So basically his ex I don't know the details of. 715 00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:11,120 Speaker 2: Howls of an old conversation, right. 716 00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,280 Speaker 4: Yes, but I don't know how long they've been broken up, 717 00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:13,960 Speaker 4: Like I don't. 718 00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:15,640 Speaker 2: Know when he's married. Now is he married? 719 00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:20,520 Speaker 1: He had a baby with his girlfriend Olivia, He's not married. Ah, 720 00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:23,040 Speaker 1: but he's being accused of being emotionally abusive by his 721 00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:25,880 Speaker 1: ex girlfriend, whose name is Sarah. 722 00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:29,080 Speaker 3: This is it's interesting because it's taken. There's two sides. 723 00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:32,360 Speaker 3: People have taken two sides of this because people are 724 00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:35,680 Speaker 3: like she, uh so she posted the text where he's 725 00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:39,000 Speaker 3: basically like, I don't want you posting these photos where 726 00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:42,080 Speaker 3: you're a bikini. She's a professional surfer, she models. She's 727 00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:44,720 Speaker 3: like the photos of her are like surfing in swimsuits. 728 00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:47,680 Speaker 3: It's not like she's like sexually post I don't know 729 00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:49,320 Speaker 3: if she had any of this, but he had asked 730 00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:50,840 Speaker 3: her to take those down, so I guess she took 731 00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:52,560 Speaker 3: a lot of the photos down and he would be like, 732 00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:55,640 Speaker 3: here's some other ones that you still haven't He was like, 733 00:32:55,720 --> 00:32:56,360 Speaker 3: good start. 734 00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:58,120 Speaker 4: He was like, that's a good start. 735 00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:02,400 Speaker 3: Very it felt very controlling, and then he was like, 736 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:05,440 Speaker 3: here are my boundaries, and he listed all of his boundaries. 737 00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:08,960 Speaker 3: But the boundaries kind of sounded like this is like 738 00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:11,720 Speaker 3: almost like I need to control what you do in post. 739 00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:15,760 Speaker 2: So it's interesting because like, I think everybody has boundaries, 740 00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:16,800 Speaker 2: right I. 741 00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:20,200 Speaker 3: Think it's healthy to have boundaries in conversation, like conversations. 742 00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:21,479 Speaker 2: About like you're never going to find someone that's one 743 00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:24,800 Speaker 2: hundred percent on the same page of everything as you. 744 00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:28,960 Speaker 2: But like I would never be with someone that told 745 00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:31,560 Speaker 2: me what I can wear or not wear, or like 746 00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:34,640 Speaker 2: not to post bikini photos or you know. I mean, 747 00:33:34,680 --> 00:33:37,040 Speaker 2: like I just would not be with somebody that was 748 00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:40,640 Speaker 2: like that. But if you're choosing to be with somebody 749 00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:42,880 Speaker 2: like that, then you're choosing to be with somebody like that, right. 750 00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:45,240 Speaker 3: Well, I think it was kind of like one of 751 00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:48,200 Speaker 3: those things when you're in it, and especially when you're 752 00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:52,760 Speaker 3: using language from therapy, which is like I'm setting my boundaries, 753 00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:55,000 Speaker 3: like here are my intentions. It's almost like you're using 754 00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:58,960 Speaker 3: this like therapy language to control And so I think 755 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:02,160 Speaker 3: when you're in it, you're feeling like you don't recognize 756 00:34:02,160 --> 00:34:04,800 Speaker 3: it as like someone trying to control you. Yeah, you 757 00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:09,759 Speaker 3: just think, oh, they're just this is the compromise of 758 00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:11,879 Speaker 3: a relationship, you know. And then maybe once you're out 759 00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:13,919 Speaker 3: of it, you see like this is not healthy because 760 00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:16,680 Speaker 3: a lot of people who have been in emotionally abusive 761 00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:18,920 Speaker 3: or controlling relationships. 762 00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:19,560 Speaker 2: You don't see it when you're in it. 763 00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:23,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, And when they were like those messages were triggering 764 00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:26,160 Speaker 3: to read because I was with an abuser and this 765 00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:29,399 Speaker 3: is like this happens, you know, like this is this 766 00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,640 Speaker 3: is get out basically. 767 00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:34,239 Speaker 2: Yeah. And then there's people man trying to tell me 768 00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:36,759 Speaker 2: what to post or like what to wear. 769 00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:40,279 Speaker 3: And then there's people who are saying he's setting his 770 00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:42,719 Speaker 3: boundaries and he's being clear about what he expects out 771 00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:44,680 Speaker 3: of a relationship with a woman. But the problem is 772 00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:48,560 Speaker 3: that how he slid into her DMS was hard eyes 773 00:34:48,680 --> 00:34:50,680 Speaker 3: on one of the photos that he wanted her to 774 00:34:50,719 --> 00:34:55,360 Speaker 3: take down, and it's like so you're all about this. 775 00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:58,439 Speaker 2: To get hooked on, to get hooked onto the rod. 776 00:34:58,719 --> 00:35:00,640 Speaker 2: Now that you're on the rod, be reeled in. 777 00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:01,880 Speaker 4: Yeah. Sure. 778 00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:04,160 Speaker 1: My other issue with it, and by the way I 779 00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:07,480 Speaker 1: think he comes across is very condescending. It just kind 780 00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:09,560 Speaker 1: of a dick in these texts. But here's my other 781 00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:12,200 Speaker 1: thought is why is this conversation happening via text? This 782 00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:14,640 Speaker 1: is a face to face conversation you guys should be 783 00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:18,080 Speaker 1: happy having because he's coming off awfully and maybe if 784 00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:20,759 Speaker 1: it was in person, maybe he wouldn't. I don't know. Yeah, 785 00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:24,279 Speaker 1: but it's a long discussion all on text. Just call 786 00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:25,719 Speaker 1: each other or go to each other. 787 00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:26,719 Speaker 4: Yeah, work it out. 788 00:35:27,160 --> 00:35:28,960 Speaker 3: To me, it felt like he had a lot of 789 00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:33,040 Speaker 3: insecurities and they were projected in these texts. 790 00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:34,560 Speaker 4: Doesn't It doesn't make it right. 791 00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:36,799 Speaker 3: But I also and then people are like, well, it's 792 00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:40,719 Speaker 3: toxic that she posted these photos, and I'm like, sure, maybe. 793 00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:41,480 Speaker 2: It did in her bikini. 794 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:43,400 Speaker 3: No, no, no, I'm sorry the photos of the text 795 00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:46,280 Speaker 3: all right, And I'm like, sure, maybe it is, maybe, 796 00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:49,520 Speaker 3: but it doesn't negate what he's. 797 00:35:49,520 --> 00:35:52,000 Speaker 2: Wonder what her intention of posting those was. 798 00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:54,520 Speaker 4: I don't know. 799 00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:58,120 Speaker 2: Actually, like, did you are you familiar with Keky Palmer story. 800 00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:02,120 Speaker 2: It's similar. So like her friend basically like posted something 801 00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:06,160 Speaker 2: tweeted like her outfit, saying like but you're a mom, though, 802 00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:08,640 Speaker 2: like she shouldn't be wearing what she was wearing, and 803 00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:12,240 Speaker 2: it turned into a whole thing, and she was wearing 804 00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:13,840 Speaker 2: like a it's like a body sew with like a 805 00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:17,000 Speaker 2: sheer dress over it. To me, it did not look 806 00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:19,920 Speaker 2: very provocative. But I wear some weird stuff. So not 807 00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:23,880 Speaker 2: one to talk. But people were like up in arms 808 00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:27,160 Speaker 2: about the fact that he's like basically he's like mom shaming, 809 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:28,560 Speaker 2: you know, like because you're a mom, you have to 810 00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:32,600 Speaker 2: like cover up your body. And again it's like she 811 00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,120 Speaker 2: can do whatever she wants with her body, Like why 812 00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:37,319 Speaker 2: is he doing it publicly? Like again, it's like so weird, 813 00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:39,800 Speaker 2: Like I'm like, why would you tweet that about your girlfriend? 814 00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:43,400 Speaker 2: Why woul't you just text her and be like hey, babe, 815 00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:45,640 Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. It's just so weird to 816 00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:47,800 Speaker 2: me when people do this stuff publicly. 817 00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:51,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, I think it's having a conversation. I 818 00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:53,080 Speaker 3: think if he was like, hey, I'm it makes me 819 00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:55,840 Speaker 3: feel insecure when I see like these other men commenting 820 00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:57,640 Speaker 3: on you, and maybe it's my own insecurity, Like I 821 00:36:57,640 --> 00:37:02,280 Speaker 3: think there's a conversation around yeah, having a conversation about 822 00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:04,880 Speaker 3: what you post. But I still I just have a 823 00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:09,840 Speaker 3: hard time being like, I don't know. Yeah, the fact 824 00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:11,759 Speaker 3: that he slid into her DMS on one of this 825 00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:15,360 Speaker 3: photo and the photos and then turned it around on 826 00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:19,920 Speaker 3: her feels yikes, yikes, We're. 827 00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:20,520 Speaker 4: Gonna take a break. 828 00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:24,479 Speaker 2: And yeah, yeah, there was something else that I wanted 829 00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:24,759 Speaker 2: to mention. 830 00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:26,560 Speaker 4: All right, we'll ponder that on the bike. 831 00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:36,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, right, and we'll be back with emails. 832 00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:45,879 Speaker 2: By the way, everybody was messaging me about the pink 833 00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:47,719 Speaker 2: dress and they're like, is that Becca's pink dress? I 834 00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:50,320 Speaker 2: was like, yes, this is the one saved her for 835 00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:51,120 Speaker 2: my final night. 836 00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:55,040 Speaker 4: I gave up, she gave up on the white saved 837 00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:55,640 Speaker 4: her for the night. 838 00:37:56,160 --> 00:37:59,480 Speaker 2: No, but I found this was like before we left 839 00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:04,160 Speaker 2: for vacation, I found my dear future husband journal and 840 00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:06,680 Speaker 2: I read the entry from the first night that I 841 00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:09,320 Speaker 2: went out with Robbie and it was very funny. 842 00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,080 Speaker 4: Fine, why didn't you bring it or take a photo 843 00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:12,560 Speaker 4: to read it? 844 00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:12,719 Speaker 3: No? 845 00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:13,400 Speaker 4: So good. 846 00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:16,040 Speaker 2: It's kind of embarrassing. Like now, like I think about 847 00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:19,000 Speaker 2: like Taylor Swift putting out songs in twenty ten. This 848 00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:22,319 Speaker 2: was just from twenty nineteen, and it was like, oh, 849 00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:26,760 Speaker 2: please please share. It was like, I'm so glad Sierra 850 00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:28,880 Speaker 2: forced me to go out with this guy. He is 851 00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:32,719 Speaker 2: so cute and it's like, so like, what is I 852 00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:36,200 Speaker 2: fifteen years old? It was two years ago, three years ago. 853 00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:40,680 Speaker 2: It's just like ah night and they dropped me off. 854 00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:43,239 Speaker 2: He kissed me and I can't even explain to you 855 00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:49,120 Speaker 2: what I felt in my vagina, Like it's so crazy. 856 00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:50,080 Speaker 3: I feel like. 857 00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:55,799 Speaker 4: That's what you'd write now. Yeah, track track. 858 00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:58,960 Speaker 3: I think you're reading it from like a youthful perspective, but. 859 00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:03,279 Speaker 2: I think that's how I wonder if Sierra is going 860 00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:04,320 Speaker 2: to speak at our wedding. 861 00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:07,880 Speaker 1: Oh, I know she should. 862 00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:12,799 Speaker 4: You should ask her about that. 863 00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:15,640 Speaker 2: I know I wanted to, but she's like having a baby, 864 00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:17,319 Speaker 2: so I didn't want to bother her with my dear 865 00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:20,400 Speaker 2: future husband update. But uh yeah, it was so crazy. 866 00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:23,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe you can bring that in and read something. 867 00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:25,760 Speaker 2: And I read a chapter when I met Mark Wahlberg 868 00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:27,799 Speaker 2: in Hawaii, and I was like, I mean I wrote 869 00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:29,960 Speaker 2: three pages about meeting him, Like wow, he really like 870 00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:31,279 Speaker 2: struck a chord with me or like. 871 00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:35,320 Speaker 3: I remember I was drunk, taking like vodka shots or something, 872 00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,640 Speaker 3: and y'all were just the rum and y'all were just 873 00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:41,319 Speaker 3: having a deep heart and my eyes are glazed over 874 00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:42,799 Speaker 3: and I'm like, m Yeah. 875 00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:45,839 Speaker 2: I wrote three pages in my Dear future Husband journal 876 00:39:45,840 --> 00:39:46,680 Speaker 2: about that interaction. 877 00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:47,800 Speaker 4: We love Mark Wahlberg. 878 00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:48,400 Speaker 2: Yeah. 879 00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:50,000 Speaker 4: Shall we get into emails? 880 00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:52,000 Speaker 1: Yes? By the way, I want to thank the scrubbers. 881 00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:54,520 Speaker 1: I mentioned a few weeks ago that I was a 882 00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:57,960 Speaker 1: baseball fan because somebody had been a scrubber was dating 883 00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:00,040 Speaker 1: a baseball player and she wanted some advice and I 884 00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:02,160 Speaker 1: don't know who it was. I've gotten so many nice 885 00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:05,600 Speaker 1: dms from people who are married to were dating baseball players. Whoa, 886 00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:07,560 Speaker 1: and this one's in the minor league and this one 887 00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:09,720 Speaker 1: pitched for the Pirates and my stepdad used to manage 888 00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:12,200 Speaker 1: the Astros like it's a really it's great, wow. 889 00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:14,120 Speaker 2: Baseball community. 890 00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:19,200 Speaker 1: We have Facebook, you know subgroup who were dating an 891 00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:22,239 Speaker 1: athlete or married to an athlete? Wo Lauren says Hi, 892 00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:24,800 Speaker 1: Tanya and Becka and market Easton. I've been stuck in 893 00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:27,279 Speaker 1: limbo with my boyfriend for four months and need help. 894 00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:29,720 Speaker 1: I'm thirty, he's thirty four. Together a year and a half, 895 00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:33,319 Speaker 1: most serious, longest relationship I've been in. We're ready to 896 00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:35,200 Speaker 1: live together and I brought the topic up in marsh 897 00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:36,879 Speaker 1: and he said he wasn't ready. Well, now it comes 898 00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:38,600 Speaker 1: up a lot and knows leads to a big fight. 899 00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:42,400 Speaker 1: I own my house, he rents, so he'd be moving 900 00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:44,960 Speaker 1: in with me. He doesn't want to move into my 901 00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:49,359 Speaker 1: house because he's had bad experiences with xes. He says 902 00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:50,840 Speaker 1: he wants to live with me, but he wants it 903 00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:53,239 Speaker 1: to be our space. We've looked into buying a house 904 00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:55,359 Speaker 1: together and it's not a good decision financially right now, 905 00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:57,239 Speaker 1: and that is interest rates through the roof rain. 906 00:40:57,280 --> 00:40:57,400 Speaker 2: Now. 907 00:40:57,760 --> 00:40:59,880 Speaker 1: I've come up with so many ideas on how we 908 00:40:59,880 --> 00:41:01,719 Speaker 1: can and we decorate together. We can get rid of 909 00:41:01,760 --> 00:41:03,520 Speaker 1: everything and the guest room, it can be his office, 910 00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:06,160 Speaker 1: et cetera. But he will not budge. We're in couple's 911 00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:08,400 Speaker 1: therapy because this topic has led to so much tension. 912 00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:10,960 Speaker 1: This is their only issue, and I'm at a loss. 913 00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:13,720 Speaker 1: How do I make him comfortable with moving into my house? 914 00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:18,200 Speaker 4: This is tricky. 915 00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:22,000 Speaker 3: I don't really know, Like I almost feel like if 916 00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:25,480 Speaker 3: he's not comfortable moving in and then y'all should just 917 00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:29,480 Speaker 3: stay separate until you feel financially ready to buy a 918 00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:30,080 Speaker 3: home together. 919 00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:33,719 Speaker 2: That's where I'm at, Sister, What what? 920 00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:35,600 Speaker 1: Why? Why can't he just move into her house? 921 00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:38,040 Speaker 2: He doesn't want to? Then he doesn't want to. 922 00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:38,839 Speaker 4: I just don't. 923 00:41:38,880 --> 00:41:41,120 Speaker 3: I mean, I think it's like if there's fighting and 924 00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:43,640 Speaker 3: it leads to fights. I think if there, I don't 925 00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:45,160 Speaker 3: know if it's like an ego thing of like he 926 00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:45,600 Speaker 3: wants it. 927 00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:45,960 Speaker 4: To be his. 928 00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:47,560 Speaker 1: I think it's an ego thing, and I think he 929 00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:48,960 Speaker 1: has some issues he needs to work through it. 930 00:41:49,080 --> 00:41:50,719 Speaker 2: Well, let me speak to you as someone with these 931 00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:53,480 Speaker 2: issues that will not move into her boyfriend's home. Tonya 932 00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:59,200 Speaker 2: the same, It is the same thing. You're there, you're there, 933 00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:01,000 Speaker 2: you're there. 934 00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:03,279 Speaker 1: You're there, you have an empty apartment studio that you 935 00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:04,319 Speaker 1: haven't seen in six months. 936 00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:06,759 Speaker 2: I'm saying it's an ego thing. It's not an ego thing, 937 00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:08,319 Speaker 2: but it's like a it's like a promise I made 938 00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:09,120 Speaker 2: to myself. Different. 939 00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:10,600 Speaker 1: I think it's a different thing. He didn't make a 940 00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:11,480 Speaker 1: promise to himself. 941 00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:13,960 Speaker 2: I think it's that that's not in the email. You're assuming. 942 00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:15,680 Speaker 2: You know what happens when you assume, you make an 943 00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:16,840 Speaker 2: ass out of you and me. 944 00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:18,560 Speaker 1: I just know how guys think, and this is not 945 00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:20,640 Speaker 1: how he's thinking. He's not thinking. I made a promise 946 00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:22,480 Speaker 1: to myself that I won't get my heart spoken by 947 00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:24,759 Speaker 1: moving in too soon to somebody else's house. 948 00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:26,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's like he wants to he wants 949 00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:30,440 Speaker 3: to feel like he owns or like it's not just 950 00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:33,440 Speaker 3: her place, or like she could dispose of him if 951 00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:36,360 Speaker 3: you know she wants, and then he's out on the street. 952 00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:38,440 Speaker 4: But I also think there. 953 00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:40,799 Speaker 3: May be is a conversation of like hey, or and 954 00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:43,040 Speaker 3: maybe it has something to do with rent where he's like, 955 00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:45,080 Speaker 3: I'm not going to pay half your mortgage if it's 956 00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:47,960 Speaker 3: under your name, like because then it's just going towards you, 957 00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:49,120 Speaker 3: it doesn't you know. 958 00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:52,880 Speaker 1: If she didn't mention that. But that's that's interesting. How 959 00:42:53,160 --> 00:42:54,680 Speaker 1: they're going to divide that up is interesting. 960 00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:57,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, So if that's an issue, then maybe it can 961 00:42:57,160 --> 00:43:02,040 Speaker 3: be like he contributes to the what are the utilities 962 00:43:02,080 --> 00:43:05,640 Speaker 3: and groceries and stuff, or where he's pulling his weight 963 00:43:05,719 --> 00:43:09,520 Speaker 3: and can make the house feel like his without feeling 964 00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:13,359 Speaker 3: like he's putting money into your mortgage, because that might 965 00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:15,640 Speaker 3: be it too, Like financially, it's not a smart decision 966 00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:19,000 Speaker 3: for him, because he's not getting he's he's literally would 967 00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:23,120 Speaker 3: be contributing to her home, yeah, without getting anything out 968 00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:25,719 Speaker 3: of it, because they're not married, they're not legally. 969 00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:27,799 Speaker 1: It's only about a year and a half. So I 970 00:43:27,800 --> 00:43:29,879 Speaker 1: wonder if this is a sign that he's not as 971 00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:31,120 Speaker 1: all in on this as she is. 972 00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:33,880 Speaker 3: I would just stay separate. I don't think it's a 973 00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,480 Speaker 3: negative thing to not live together. I think our society 974 00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:40,600 Speaker 3: really pushes, like move in together, merge your lives. But 975 00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:44,080 Speaker 3: like I don't know that that's like a like a 976 00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:47,919 Speaker 3: necessary thing to have a healthy, thriving relationship. 977 00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:51,680 Speaker 1: Perhaps not, but I do think that Tanya has been 978 00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:55,240 Speaker 1: wasting thousands and thousands of dollars right down the toilet. 979 00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:58,040 Speaker 4: She's there and now the studio is not there. But 980 00:43:58,080 --> 00:44:00,000 Speaker 4: I'm saying, it's so sisk. 981 00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:03,360 Speaker 1: Guy, and so is this guy. 982 00:44:01,960 --> 00:44:04,160 Speaker 2: A waste to you? Is not a waste to me. 983 00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:06,839 Speaker 2: That's the thing. Like if this guy, if it's really 984 00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:09,480 Speaker 2: important to him, he doesn't want to move into your home, 985 00:44:10,400 --> 00:44:13,000 Speaker 2: he says he can't make it our place, then like 986 00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:16,080 Speaker 2: that's his prerogative, and like he just he's gonna unders 987 00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:19,239 Speaker 2: need time time, heals a lot of things. 988 00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:22,680 Speaker 1: True. I'm worried that he's not as all in on. 989 00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:24,200 Speaker 4: This issue is and maybe he's not. 990 00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:27,600 Speaker 3: Maybe he's I think is a great idea because I 991 00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:30,400 Speaker 3: think this is an issue that feels like you should 992 00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:34,360 Speaker 3: eventually come to a place where you can make it work. 993 00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:37,279 Speaker 3: This doesn't feel like there's no chance you can make 994 00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:38,200 Speaker 3: this work, because. 995 00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:39,920 Speaker 2: I do think there is, like there is a lot 996 00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:42,759 Speaker 2: more to it, like Mark, like, it's not just yet, 997 00:44:42,760 --> 00:44:45,280 Speaker 2: it's moving into somebody's house, it's making your own space. 998 00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:48,279 Speaker 2: It's wanting to like maybe they want to like do 999 00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:50,000 Speaker 2: all these makeovers. And he's like, I don't want to 1000 00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:52,600 Speaker 2: invest my money into this home when we're not married, 1001 00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:53,920 Speaker 2: you know what I mean. Like, there's a lot that 1002 00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:56,759 Speaker 2: goes into it. It's very complicated. And so because if. 1003 00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:58,440 Speaker 1: They do break up and he's paying the mortgan, he's 1004 00:44:58,440 --> 00:44:59,959 Speaker 1: paying for the remodeling. Yeah, it's ugly. 1005 00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:04,680 Speaker 2: It's ugly. So I'm kind of with him on this one, 1006 00:45:05,440 --> 00:45:07,239 Speaker 2: not with him, but like just give him time and 1007 00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:08,760 Speaker 2: don't try to force the issue. 1008 00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:11,799 Speaker 3: I'm with you too, I'm navigating couples therapy. I don't 1009 00:45:11,840 --> 00:45:14,600 Speaker 3: think it's like a make Yeah, that's what I was 1010 00:45:14,600 --> 00:45:17,800 Speaker 3: thinking I've been trying, frantically searching the rolodex. 1011 00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:18,360 Speaker 4: In my mind. 1012 00:45:18,480 --> 00:45:19,520 Speaker 2: It's not making I think it's. 1013 00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:19,959 Speaker 4: To make it break. 1014 00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:22,000 Speaker 3: I think it's just figuring out a way that works 1015 00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:24,200 Speaker 3: for both of you, that you both feel comfortable with it. 1016 00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:26,160 Speaker 2: It might be make or break in a few years. 1017 00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:27,920 Speaker 2: I don't think it's make or break right now. 1018 00:45:28,080 --> 00:45:31,279 Speaker 1: No. Anonymous is hoping for some advice. She's been in 1019 00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:33,839 Speaker 1: a long distance relationship with her girlfriend for a year now. 1020 00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:36,440 Speaker 1: They met in college and were roommates senior year. Several 1021 00:45:36,440 --> 00:45:39,120 Speaker 1: intimate moments were had, but mostly after drunken nights, and 1022 00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:41,319 Speaker 1: we kept them very secret. Side notes she had a 1023 00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:43,239 Speaker 1: boyfriend the first three years of college. I had many 1024 00:45:43,320 --> 00:45:47,160 Speaker 1: random flings with various guys. After college, I moved to California. 1025 00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:49,319 Speaker 1: She stayed in the Midwest, but we visited whenever we could, 1026 00:45:49,320 --> 00:45:51,239 Speaker 1: and last August we decided we wanted to make it 1027 00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:55,000 Speaker 1: official and I have to be my girlfriend. Yay, that's 1028 00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:57,520 Speaker 1: in there. I didn't add that shit with them. We've 1029 00:45:57,520 --> 00:45:59,759 Speaker 1: told all our close friends and family. We've received in 1030 00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:02,520 Speaker 1: ardible support from most of them. I feel like we've 1031 00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:04,239 Speaker 1: come such a long way in being proud of our 1032 00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:08,320 Speaker 1: relationship and I'm so happy for it. However, I've started 1033 00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:10,840 Speaker 1: to get nervous because we're about to attend three different 1034 00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:13,839 Speaker 1: weddings this fall with all of our old college acquaintances. 1035 00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:16,279 Speaker 1: Many of them don't know about our relationships since we 1036 00:46:16,280 --> 00:46:18,200 Speaker 1: haven't shared it on social media, and if we haven't 1037 00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:20,239 Speaker 1: seen them in person, we haven't felt the need to 1038 00:46:20,239 --> 00:46:23,080 Speaker 1: call and share. I love my girlfriend. I can't imagine 1039 00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:25,160 Speaker 1: hiding that anymore. But we're not used to being around 1040 00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:26,640 Speaker 1: a lot of people as a couple, and the feeling 1041 00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:28,799 Speaker 1: of basically coming out to one hundred plus people at 1042 00:46:28,840 --> 00:46:31,640 Speaker 1: once scares me. I want to be there to celebrate 1043 00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:34,040 Speaker 1: my friends getting married, not worry about anyone else. Do 1044 00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:36,080 Speaker 1: you have any advice for maintaining confidence? 1045 00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:39,400 Speaker 3: Hailey and I had a few of these moments before 1046 00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:41,759 Speaker 3: we came out publicly, where we went to front like 1047 00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:45,120 Speaker 3: a friend's wedding, and it was kind of like people 1048 00:46:45,160 --> 00:46:47,839 Speaker 3: would one of them people came up to me because 1049 00:46:47,840 --> 00:46:51,319 Speaker 3: they recognized me from the Bachelor, and then I would 1050 00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:54,319 Speaker 3: be like, oh, this is my girlfriend, Haley, and I was. 1051 00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:56,040 Speaker 2: Gonna remember that, but it wasn't even. It wasn't even 1052 00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:57,680 Speaker 2: at weddings. I feel like somebody came up to you, 1053 00:46:57,719 --> 00:46:59,080 Speaker 2: like at the beach one time. 1054 00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:00,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean that would happen all the time, but 1055 00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:02,560 Speaker 3: that was the one where it was like it was 1056 00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:03,520 Speaker 3: a lot of people. 1057 00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:07,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it was a you know, industry event. 1058 00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:10,319 Speaker 3: No, it was like a wedding for my friend. And 1059 00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:12,840 Speaker 3: it was like a Christian you know, it's like very Christian. 1060 00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:17,359 Speaker 3: And I was very nervous, and I told Haley before 1061 00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:18,640 Speaker 3: we went to the wedding, I was like, I'm feeling 1062 00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:20,560 Speaker 3: a little bit anxious, like this is the first time 1063 00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:22,799 Speaker 3: we're going somewhere where, like I don't really know a 1064 00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:25,560 Speaker 3: lot of people, and they will probably know me from 1065 00:47:25,960 --> 00:47:30,160 Speaker 3: Bachelor World, not Bachelor contestants, but like people who watch 1066 00:47:30,200 --> 00:47:32,799 Speaker 3: The Bachelor. And she was like okay, she was like, well, 1067 00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:34,480 Speaker 3: I'm here for me, like here for you do whatever 1068 00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:37,120 Speaker 3: you're comfortable with, Like I'm I'm here whatever you need. 1069 00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:39,520 Speaker 3: So I felt like I had her support. And I 1070 00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:42,240 Speaker 3: also was like, you know what, it was our friends 1071 00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:44,000 Speaker 3: Jesse and Connor, and I was like, they want to 1072 00:47:44,040 --> 00:47:47,480 Speaker 3: have invited us, both of us if they felt like 1073 00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:49,680 Speaker 3: we wouldn't be comfortable or that we want it that 1074 00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:51,920 Speaker 3: we would feel uncomfortable. So I had to trust that, 1075 00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:54,839 Speaker 3: and uh, I think it's just having a conversation with 1076 00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:58,520 Speaker 3: each other and also being proud and giving people the 1077 00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:00,880 Speaker 3: chance to surprise you becau because that was one of 1078 00:48:00,880 --> 00:48:03,799 Speaker 3: the things that I've realized throughout this our whole relationship, 1079 00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:06,560 Speaker 3: was like giving people the chance to surprise you and 1080 00:48:06,600 --> 00:48:09,759 Speaker 3: be supportive, because I think we go into it thinking like, oh, no, 1081 00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:11,560 Speaker 3: we're going to get judged or people are going to 1082 00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:14,840 Speaker 3: have opinions, and it's like maybe they will, but who cares. 1083 00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:17,279 Speaker 3: And also going a lot of people will be like. 1084 00:48:17,239 --> 00:48:18,960 Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, what I had no idea. 1085 00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:21,120 Speaker 3: I'm so happy for you guys, Like that's kind of 1086 00:48:21,160 --> 00:48:25,840 Speaker 3: the general reaction that most people will give. And know 1087 00:48:25,880 --> 00:48:27,840 Speaker 3: that you have each other and that you're there to 1088 00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:30,200 Speaker 3: celebrate love and your friend's relationship. 1089 00:48:30,239 --> 00:48:32,040 Speaker 4: But I think it's just being upfront with. 1090 00:48:32,040 --> 00:48:36,160 Speaker 3: Each other and talking about what you're comfortable with and 1091 00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:38,680 Speaker 3: communicating throughout the night so that one of you doesn't 1092 00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:43,600 Speaker 3: feel like hidden or that you're ashamed to be there with. 1093 00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:45,560 Speaker 4: Each other, because you should be proud. 1094 00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:48,799 Speaker 3: Like being able to be in love and go to 1095 00:48:49,239 --> 00:48:51,840 Speaker 3: an event celebrating love with the person you love is 1096 00:48:51,880 --> 00:48:55,879 Speaker 3: a really special thing and life is short. Don't feel 1097 00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:58,880 Speaker 3: like you don't get to celebrate because maybe it looks different. 1098 00:48:59,200 --> 00:49:02,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm with back on that one. Was pretty solid advice. 1099 00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:07,040 Speaker 4: Great. 1100 00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:10,160 Speaker 2: Well, I'm so sad. I feel like I have more 1101 00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:11,080 Speaker 2: stories to share. 1102 00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:12,160 Speaker 1: But I guess you guys. 1103 00:49:14,520 --> 00:49:16,960 Speaker 2: Threads. 1104 00:49:17,920 --> 00:49:19,680 Speaker 4: Yeah, I've got two threads up. 1105 00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:22,560 Speaker 2: I have one up. Good morning. 1106 00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:25,040 Speaker 4: Original. 1107 00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:30,319 Speaker 3: You really thought about you thought about that one? I 1108 00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:32,160 Speaker 3: think that's all for No, No, it's not all. Do 1109 00:49:32,160 --> 00:49:36,719 Speaker 3: we have a Thursday episode? That's right, we do. 1110 00:49:37,960 --> 00:49:40,000 Speaker 2: That's so Raven. 1111 00:49:41,480 --> 00:49:45,440 Speaker 3: We're talking to Raven Simone and her wife, Miranda Pureman 1112 00:49:45,600 --> 00:49:48,680 Speaker 3: and may Day and they are so fun and they 1113 00:49:48,680 --> 00:49:49,759 Speaker 3: have a new podcast coming out. 1114 00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:50,239 Speaker 2: That's right. 1115 00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:53,560 Speaker 3: So we will be chatting with them on Thursday's episode. 1116 00:49:53,719 --> 00:49:55,319 Speaker 4: And we hope you have a wonderful week. 1117 00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:58,279 Speaker 2: Happy that we're both back from I'm so happy that 1118 00:49:58,320 --> 00:49:59,920 Speaker 2: we're both back. I missed you. 1119 00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:03,880 Speaker 4: I missed you too. Have a wonderful week. We love you. 1120 00:50:04,400 --> 00:50:11,840 Speaker 3: By m