WEBVTT - How Men Think with Bob Guiney 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:03.840 We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:08.360 is How Men Think? And I heard radio podcast. Hey, 0:00:08.360 --> 0:00:12.080 everybody's Bob guinea here. Welcome to How Men Think. I 0:00:12.160 --> 0:00:15.480 am your guest host for the show this week, which 0:00:15.520 --> 0:00:18.759 I'm very excited about. Um, very proud to be here. 0:00:18.840 --> 0:00:21.000 I think I was on one of the early episodes 0:00:21.720 --> 0:00:24.360 of How Men Think. And I will tell you the 0:00:24.360 --> 0:00:26.880 early answer to How Men Think is is not enough. 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:30.280 It's it's never enough. Men don't think much at all, 0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:32.920 at least I don't. And so I'm proud to be here, 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:35.919 excited to go through my thought processes with you on 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:40.599 everything that has anything to do with relationships and all 0:00:40.640 --> 0:00:44.120 the things I seem to be really bad at. Um. Anyway, 0:00:44.159 --> 0:00:47.040 I'm Bob Guiney. UM. You probably know me, if you 0:00:47.080 --> 0:00:49.600 know me at all, from The Bachelor stuff, which is 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:54.440 a long, long, long time ago. Um, pre Ben Higgins. 0:00:54.920 --> 0:00:57.600 So it's like it's like p b h pre pre 0:00:57.760 --> 0:00:59.840 Ben Higgins or post Ben Higgins, is how I look 0:00:59.840 --> 0:01:03.560 at it. I'm in the pre era, so before Jason Mesnick. 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:06.480 I mean it goes way back, guys, before Jessie Palmer 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:10.400 who's now hosting The Bachelor. To give you an idea. Um, 0:01:10.440 --> 0:01:12.840 but I was on the first season of The Bachelorette 0:01:12.880 --> 0:01:15.840 actually with Trista, and then they gave me my own 0:01:15.840 --> 0:01:20.080 season of The Bachelor right after that, and um that 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:22.039 was season four. So to give you an idea, I 0:01:22.080 --> 0:01:25.440 think we're at season like sixty one right now the Bachelor. 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:29.440 So pretty crazy stuff, um, but a lot of fun. 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:31.959 Not much has changed on the format of the show 0:01:32.040 --> 0:01:34.039 from then to now. Then it was in black and white, 0:01:34.600 --> 0:01:36.680 now it's in technicolor. So other than that, I think 0:01:36.720 --> 0:01:40.840 we're pretty good. Um. But also went on to host 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:43.959 a segment on the Today's show called the mentel All Panel, 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:47.880 which I think really primes me perfectly for hosting the 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:50.680 show today. For what men think, We're gonna have some fun. 0:01:50.720 --> 0:01:54.160 We're gonna answer some questions and then we're gonna open 0:01:54.160 --> 0:01:56.600 it up test some live callers Colin and Haze me, 0:01:56.680 --> 0:02:00.200 which would be enjoyable and um, and that's kind of 0:02:00.200 --> 0:02:02.800 thing we're gonna do today, So it's gonna be great. Um. 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:05.040 I will let you guys know ahead of time. I 0:02:05.080 --> 0:02:08.160 am married now no longer a bachelor, even though I 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:10.600 still get called Bachelor Bob all the time from all 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:12.280 the stuff I got to do with Oprah and she 0:02:12.280 --> 0:02:17.440 would always say Bachelor Bob as she would do, and uh, 0:02:17.480 --> 0:02:19.400 it seems like that one stuck. So everywhere I go 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:22.240 it's like, you know, pizza for Bachelor Bob. I'm like, thanks, guys, 0:02:22.880 --> 0:02:25.680 thank you so much. Um, but I wanted to do 0:02:25.800 --> 0:02:27.560 some questions. We want to do some questions so that 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:30.120 you guys could get an idea to know a little 0:02:30.120 --> 0:02:33.280 bit about me. So, um, what are you known for? 0:02:33.400 --> 0:02:35.560 Tell us about yourself. I think I handled that right 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:39.440 mostly Bachelor Stuff. Hosted a bunch of home renovation shows 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:42.160 over the years. I was also musician, playing a band 0:02:42.240 --> 0:02:44.960 called Band from TV, which is made up of Hugh 0:02:45.040 --> 0:02:49.000 Laurie from House who's Doctor House, Jesse Spencer, who was 0:02:49.880 --> 0:02:51.840 also on House at one time but they became Lieutenant 0:02:51.840 --> 0:02:55.040 Casey on Chicago Fire. And then if you're a sci 0:02:55.080 --> 0:02:59.000 fi lover, we've got Scott Grimes from the Orville who's 0:02:59.040 --> 0:03:03.400 in the band, and myself a bunch of guys from Heroes, 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:05.839 the old TV show Heroes. I mean, there's a there's 0:03:05.840 --> 0:03:07.760 a ton of people that kind of rattle around inside 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:09.519 the band. But the coolest thing is we give it 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:12.400 all a charity. So we'll play all these corporate gigs 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:15.080 for all these different places, and we'll give all that 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:17.160 money to charity, which is a lot of fun. So 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:20.600 my charity is the Children's Hospital Los Angeles and Lucas 0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:23.840 l A, which are two causes that means something to me. 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:27.000 And uh, Children's Hospital I started supporting even before I 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:31.400 had kids. Um and UM. I really just always felt 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:34.359 like kids shouldn't have to worry about medicine and stuff. 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:36.480 They should play and have fun and be a kid. 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:38.920 So now that I have kids, I can tell you 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:42.800 that that actually resonates with me even more now than 0:03:42.800 --> 0:03:46.200 it did when I first started supporting these charities. And um, 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:48.160 I have a three and a half year old whose 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:51.160 name is Grayson, and I have an eleven month old 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:53.200 or no, I'm sorry, he's still he just turned one. 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:55.839 He just turned one last week, so don't tell my wife. 0:03:55.840 --> 0:03:58.040 I said that I have a one year old named 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:01.880 Blake and uh. And I waited until I was forty 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:05.800 seven to have kids intentionally, which I'm totally kidding because 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:09.640 it wasn't intentional. But uh, now I'm I'm older than that. Obviously, 0:04:09.680 --> 0:04:11.440 I'm fifty one and I got two kids under the 0:04:11.480 --> 0:04:14.240 age of four. So it's kind of kind of bananas 0:04:14.440 --> 0:04:17.400 to have that going on at this stage in the game, 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:21.600 especially when I went into Ralph's to buy some some 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:26.560 booze and really, you know, uh cute lady there taken, 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:27.640 you know, and she's like, oh, I need to see 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:28.960 your ID. I'm sorry, you know. So I hand her 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:31.400 my idea and she looks at it and at first 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:33.440 I thought, oh, my god, you know, she's she's really cute. 0:04:33.480 --> 0:04:35.120 And then uh, she's like, oh my god, you the 0:04:35.160 --> 0:04:37.880 same age as my dad. And that stressed me out, 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:41.960 caused me shame, and uh, you know, I've been binge 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:44.280 eating ever since, so you know, I eat my feelings. 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:47.240 So anyway, that's where we are with that one. UM 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:50.920 married for uh let's see, married for for or six 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:56.400 years and m yeah, So I just moved back to Detroit, 0:04:56.520 --> 0:04:59.600 which is my hometown. UM had been living on the 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:02.440 West coas US for the last twenty some years, and 0:05:03.600 --> 0:05:04.960 I wanted to move back home and to be closer 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:09.000 to my family, and uh, in the process, UH lost 0:05:09.040 --> 0:05:10.880 my dad when I moved back home, and I was 0:05:10.920 --> 0:05:13.800 thankful to be here, uh to be with him, and 0:05:13.880 --> 0:05:17.200 so uh, that's it for my personal life. Um, as 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:20.440 far as it goes. Uh, three shows I'm binge watching. Alright, 0:05:20.440 --> 0:05:22.120 three shows I'm bene watching. I got a couple for 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:25.839 you right now. One Queen of the South. Awesome show. 0:05:26.320 --> 0:05:30.160 I am hardcore watching that one. I'm kind of deep 0:05:30.200 --> 0:05:32.640 on it right now. I'm almost to the last season. 0:05:33.040 --> 0:05:37.320 So I then started rewatching or re binge watching ted Lasso, 0:05:37.839 --> 0:05:41.200 which I love. I love that show. Also up for 0:05:41.240 --> 0:05:43.640 twenty Emmy nominations, by the way, just as a sidebar 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:47.960 for you, very deserving, I think, Um, those are the 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:49.520 two that I'm bene watching. I don't think I have 0:05:49.560 --> 0:05:51.800 a third right now. I'll have to find a third 0:05:51.839 --> 0:05:54.920 for you. But Queen of the South. I highly recommended 0:05:54.960 --> 0:05:58.039 ted Lasso if you haven't heard of it, Like, dude, 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:01.839 what's up? Honestly, it's a huge show and very amazing. 0:06:02.400 --> 0:06:06.000 And um I did finish. Oh god, what was the show? 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:11.200 I just finished? Um? Oh, Outer Banks, which a little embarrassing, 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:13.280 a little embarrassed, admit that one. It's sort of like 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:17.760 you know, Saved by the Bell reboot but on an island, um, 0:06:17.800 --> 0:06:22.960 but still gripping, awesome cast, good show. So there's three 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:28.000 shows favorite food. Um, I gotta go Mexican on this one. 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:32.320 I'm a huge lover of all things nacho related, even 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:36.760 breakfast nachos, which some might know are called Chilea kles. 0:06:37.880 --> 0:06:41.600 But I have actually happened to love Mexican food. And 0:06:42.680 --> 0:06:44.440 but I really don't find too many foods that I 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:48.120 don't love. Clearly, unlike one of the former hosts of 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:49.960 the show, I am not the most fit man in America. 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:54.160 He was ripped and yoked and I like to rip 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:56.920 bread and shove it in my mouth and eat yolks 0:06:56.920 --> 0:07:01.279 of eggs. A career, yeah, so my career UM started 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:05.680 off with music. Was really lucky. UM signed a record 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:07.440 deal right out of college. This is way back in 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:11.440 the day, and as a result, that's how the people 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:15.280 from The Bachelor found me, and Um, I was one 0:07:15.280 --> 0:07:18.160 of the people that I never auditioned for The Bachelor. 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:22.240 I actually, uh, I wouldn't have thought of myself in 0:07:22.240 --> 0:07:27.160 that in that regard, so they approached me. Well, actually, 0:07:27.160 --> 0:07:28.920 my a couple of people at a company I worked 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:31.280 with submitted my information about me knowing it, so by 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:33.000 the time they flew me out there, it was like 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:36.200 it was two weeks before the show started a month 0:07:36.200 --> 0:07:38.640 before the show started, and that was for Trista this season. 0:07:39.040 --> 0:07:41.440 But that kick started my career and then um, obviously, 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:43.440 then The Bachelor came after that, and then Oprah was 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:45.520 a big fan of the show at the time, and 0:07:45.600 --> 0:07:47.720 Oprah I thought I was funny. So Oprah made me 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:50.400 her Man on the Street and I did a bunch 0:07:50.400 --> 0:07:53.360 of segments with her, did her show a ton and 0:07:53.520 --> 0:07:56.840 um it was pretty awesome. Uh kind of learned how 0:07:56.880 --> 0:08:01.720 to do interviews from doing the Oprah Show basically, and 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:04.200 uh from there, it kind of launched me to work 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:05.840 for The View, which at the time was a much 0:08:05.840 --> 0:08:09.120 different show than it is today. Um, a lot less political, 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:12.080 a lot more fun, I think, um. And so I 0:08:12.080 --> 0:08:13.960 went to work with The View the ABC daytime for 0:08:14.000 --> 0:08:15.800 several years, and then I started hosting a bunch of 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:20.960 HDTV stuff and UM TLC and you name the network. 0:08:21.000 --> 0:08:23.800 I was probably on it at some point doing a 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:27.000 show that is very forgetful. But I had a long 0:08:27.080 --> 0:08:30.960 string of those game shows. UM never you know, obviously 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:32.640 never left music and stayed with the band from TV 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:37.120 stuff and UM, so yeah, it's been pretty rewarding. Now 0:08:37.160 --> 0:08:38.920 I actually host a deal or no deal, which I 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:40.400 don't know if you guys remember that show with Howie 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:43.240 Mandel and the twenty briefcase models back in the day. 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:45.560 And so now I'm hosting that as well, which is 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:48.080 a reboot of that, and there's a live version of 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:51.280 that which is pretty cool. And um, on top of that, 0:08:51.360 --> 0:08:54.120 you know, trying to hold down my day job, which 0:08:54.120 --> 0:08:56.880 I also never quit, so I stayed. I never just 0:08:56.960 --> 0:08:59.400 left for entertainment, even when I was doing all the 0:08:59.440 --> 0:09:02.240 other stuff. I always kept my uh my feet in 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:04.959 the finance world. And so I still kick around there 0:09:05.240 --> 0:09:07.800 quite a bit, um with a bunch of great companies 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:10.840 and in one in particular, uh called Lincoln Financial, which 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:14.199 is a great company and allows me a lot of flexibility. 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:17.480 They're very nice. My biggest fear in life, Okay, this 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:20.400 is one I think is is very telling, right, So 0:09:21.080 --> 0:09:22.680 I would say at one point I would have said 0:09:22.679 --> 0:09:27.000 clowns who were kidding. Clowns are terrifying. There's nothing even 0:09:27.000 --> 0:09:29.680 funny about a clown. It's just scary as hell. But 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:34.040 now that I have kids, um, I mean god, I 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:37.960 mean the list goes on, right, I mean from fear now, 0:09:38.240 --> 0:09:40.120 like the biggest fear I have now is is something 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:43.360 happening to one of my kids or you know, not 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:45.719 being there when the scary part of Mowana comes on. 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:47.320 I mean, there's a lot of things to be concerned 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:50.120 about as a dad, so I'm dialed into that stuff now. 0:09:50.480 --> 0:09:52.880 But I say, clowns are still probably on my list 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:58.400 pretty you know, top three easy. Biggest pet peeve I 0:09:58.520 --> 0:10:00.920 got so many. I fly a lot, I travel a lot, 0:10:01.120 --> 0:10:04.520 and um, I hate sitting next to people wearing flip flops. 0:10:04.760 --> 0:10:07.120 Drives me crazy. I don't know why. I don't really 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:09.960 know why I'm so irritated by it. Um. But it's 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:14.240 also a very gender specific thing. The lady has nice 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:15.920 feet and is wearing flip flops. I don't have a 0:10:15.920 --> 0:10:17.199 problem if a dude gets on the plane with a 0:10:17.200 --> 0:10:19.559 flip flop. I needed, I need to move my seat, 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:22.520 you know. And I would literally go from first class 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:24.520 to the back of the plane if I if I 0:10:24.520 --> 0:10:28.280 had to sit next to some dude with stinky feet. Um, 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:31.880 that's that's probably it. What makes me the most happy? 0:10:31.920 --> 0:10:35.839 Oh man, so many things, uh, you know, I mean 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:41.480 a nice tetos and soda with lemon always makes me happy. Um. 0:10:41.520 --> 0:10:43.720 Of course, you know, as a dad, I say my kids, 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:47.680 I probably top of the list. They probably usurp the 0:10:47.679 --> 0:10:50.920 tetos and soda with lemon um, but I would say 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:54.800 it's a pretty close second. Just kidding. What is my 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:58.480 ideal Saturday morning? This again, this is one of the 0:10:58.520 --> 0:11:00.440 things so I used to always say, even when I 0:11:00.440 --> 0:11:02.640 was a bachelor, I had this thing where I was like, 0:11:02.679 --> 0:11:04.920 you know, what's your perfect Sunday morning? For me, it 0:11:04.960 --> 0:11:07.319 was all about Sunday mornings because I had a thing 0:11:07.360 --> 0:11:11.000 back then called no talk Sundays, and I loved them. 0:11:11.040 --> 0:11:14.160 I love them single dude. You know, I just I 0:11:14.200 --> 0:11:17.560 didn't want to have to have conversations with people on Sundays. 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:19.920 I wasn't going to brunch on a Sunday. I just 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:21.600 wanted to be on the couch or in the pool 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:24.200 or whatever and not have to deal with a bunch 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:26.880 of drama. You know. So I was always like, I 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:29.680 think Sundays, on the seventh day, I'll rest and I 0:11:29.679 --> 0:11:32.839 will allow myself to not have to speak to anybody. 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:36.720 And so that would still be an ideal day um 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:38.599 to have occasionally. And for someone who really loves to 0:11:38.640 --> 0:11:41.840 talk like I do, that's probably shocking to uh, to 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:44.520 anyone who knows me. But I actually do kind of 0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:48.240 love having those days that are you know, no talk days. 0:11:48.880 --> 0:11:52.280 But um, yeah, I'd say this probably still resonates. And 0:11:52.280 --> 0:11:54.640 then I would also say, now, you know, uh, if 0:11:54.640 --> 0:11:56.760 the kids would sleep in, that would be an ideal 0:11:56.800 --> 0:11:59.680 Saturday morning or Sunday morning. Right now, both my both 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:03.520 my ons, uh, you know, they're they're fidgety and making 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:07.240 some noise at like six am every day. So needless 0:12:07.280 --> 0:12:09.800 to say, a few extra titoes and sodas the night 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:13.120 before don't really have you feeling super good at six am, 0:12:13.160 --> 0:12:15.840 and especially when you aren't just waking up and lounging, 0:12:15.920 --> 0:12:19.560 you're waking up and going after it, you know, like kids. 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:22.000 That's the one thing I learned at my right page 0:12:22.440 --> 0:12:24.800 is that kids don't really have like a chill button. 0:12:25.000 --> 0:12:26.840 They wake up at six am and it's you know, 0:12:26.920 --> 0:12:29.679 full speed ahead. They want to play, they want to 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:33.080 go outside, they want to you know, take a car ride, 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:37.240 they want to you know, wrestle. I mean, it's it's endless, 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:41.120 it's awesome, but it's definitely not something for the faint 0:12:41.160 --> 0:12:44.120 of heart. Are you more of the athlete or the 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:47.199 armshare quarterback? So I was an athlete my whole life. 0:12:47.200 --> 0:12:49.800 I played football in college and played a bunch of 0:12:49.840 --> 0:12:53.959 sports previous to that, and UM, considered myself still a 0:12:54.000 --> 0:12:57.480 pretty good athlete. I guess up until a few years ago, UM, 0:12:57.600 --> 0:12:59.559 when I just my body just started falling. Apart from 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:01.920 all the needs, surgeries and everything else, but I would 0:13:01.920 --> 0:13:04.880 say I was definitely an athlete for the longest period 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:06.959 of time. And now I'm probably a little mix of both. 0:13:07.320 --> 0:13:09.360 Like right now, I'm trying to get myself into pickleball 0:13:10.040 --> 0:13:14.120 and h I'm very judgy of other pickle ballers. Uh. 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:16.520 You know, I've only played once, but I still think 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:20.120 I'm super good at it. Um basketball, love to play basketball, 0:13:20.200 --> 0:13:22.240 still love to throw the football around, trying to get 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:24.760 my son to, you know, play t ball with me, 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:27.960 and uh, but I think when I think about myself 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:30.120 as an athlete now, I'm probably more of a a 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:32.200 you know, what do you call it? Be a bag 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:36.200 thrower like cornhole? Right, so, um that's my sport now bowling, 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:38.560 although I don't bowl, but if I did, that would 0:13:38.600 --> 0:13:41.640 be a good one. Lawn darts, you know, low impact, uh, 0:13:41.920 --> 0:13:45.880 loll im pet and uh, high scoring potential. What keeps 0:13:45.880 --> 0:13:50.400 you motivated. Um, I've always been a pretty motivated person, 0:13:50.520 --> 0:13:53.760 so I'm someone who's I'm very self motivated. Um. I 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:55.840 like to think that, you know, I'm getting out of 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:58.080 bed every day, I'm gonna do something fun. If it's 0:13:58.120 --> 0:14:00.000 not fun, why do it. It's kind of always been 0:14:00.080 --> 0:14:04.120 my mantra um. But you know, now having children, and 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:06.920 you know, I think it's gonna be awesome. It's gonna 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:08.439 keep me young. Right, I'm still gonna look like their 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:10.600 grandpa t ball games or softball games or baseball games, 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:13.400 whatever sports they play as I get older, which is 0:14:13.440 --> 0:14:15.160 just gonna happen, right. You know, I'm gonna be like 0:14:15.160 --> 0:14:16.880 the my ten year olds game. They'll be like, oh yeah, 0:14:16.840 --> 0:14:19.520 Grandpa is so nice coming to all these games. My 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:22.120 walker was like, no, that's that's my dad. Um, So 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:26.400 that's gonna be my life regardless. But um, you know, 0:14:26.400 --> 0:14:28.600 I think it's gonna keep me young at heart anyway. 0:14:28.720 --> 0:14:31.440 I mean, so if nothing else, I'm gonna you know, 0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:35.520 remain active enough, uh to have you know, two boys 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:38.280 at least until they're both eighteen. So that gives me, 0:14:38.560 --> 0:14:43.400 that gives me tom seventy ish close to it anyway. 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:46.080 So yeah, I would say that's a pretty big motivator. 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:47.560 You know, I want my kids to have things that 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:51.000 I didn't have as a kid, which, um, frankly, I 0:14:51.040 --> 0:14:53.680 had had amazing parents, an amazing family. I didn't want 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:56.280 for much. But you know, the times are changing, so 0:14:56.760 --> 0:14:59.760 I gotta get you know, I gotta get an iPhone 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:02.400 in first grade. I guess, I don't know. I don't 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:04.120 know what the deal is. I'm trying to find like 0:15:04.160 --> 0:15:06.400 a manual on that because I think it might be 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:09.240 a little early first grade, you know, maybe sixth grade, 0:15:09.280 --> 0:15:11.880 seventh grade, tenth grade. I don't really know. I'd like 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:13.320 to know. I'd like to know what all the parents 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:17.240 out there think. Um, but uh yeah, that's what I 0:15:17.240 --> 0:15:20.760 would say. Keeps me motivated, are uh is keeping up 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:23.200 with my kids and making sure that you know, they 0:15:23.200 --> 0:15:25.080 still will listen to me even if I can't hear 0:15:25.120 --> 0:15:28.960 them properly. So all right, so that's our eleven questions 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:31.840 with me. That's the top of the show here for 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:33.560 how men think. And we're gonna take a quick break 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:35.600 and when we come back, we're gonna take some questions 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:47.240 from some of you all, So stick with us, everybody, 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:49.320 Welcome back. To How Men Think. I am your guest 0:15:49.320 --> 0:15:53.440 host for the week, Bob Guinea. We are very excited. 0:15:53.480 --> 0:15:55.600 We got some live callers calling in to ask me 0:15:55.640 --> 0:15:57.840 some questions, and I don't know what they are. I'm 0:15:57.880 --> 0:16:01.440 gonna try and do my very best to answer them 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:06.320 honestly or not, depending on the question, but you're never 0:16:06.360 --> 0:16:07.880 gonna know the difference, so I guess it doesn't matter. 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:10.560 But yeah, we're back here with How Men Think. Let's 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:12.920 go to our first caller calling in. Her name is 0:16:13.000 --> 0:16:15.760 Joe Anne. Hi, Jolianne. How are you? I'm great. How 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:19.400 are you doing, Bob? I'm doing great. Thanks for calling 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:22.200 into How Men Think? I mean, this is I guess 0:16:22.240 --> 0:16:24.960 it's unusual that I would expect it to I thought 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:26.720 it would have been a guy calling. I don't know 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:29.440 why it doesn't. I should have expected a woman. So 0:16:29.520 --> 0:16:31.120 thanks for colin. I mean, we're trying to find out 0:16:31.120 --> 0:16:33.640 how men think here, right, So let me hopefully I 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:38.200 can answer your questions. So what do you got for me? Well, 0:16:39.040 --> 0:16:44.400 I am divorced in my forties and I just don't 0:16:44.520 --> 0:16:49.120 know if like men are interested like dating someone like me. 0:16:49.320 --> 0:16:55.200 I'm for you one, No kids, are people interested in that? 0:16:55.440 --> 0:16:57.720 In addition to that, are they like, how do I 0:16:57.760 --> 0:17:00.800 get in the dating game? I literally have no idea 0:17:01.000 --> 0:17:04.440 how to navigate any of this. Yeah, and how long 0:17:04.440 --> 0:17:07.040 were you married before you get divorced? We were married 0:17:07.080 --> 0:17:09.600 for ten years? Okay, so you got married at what 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:12.920 thirty one? Right? And got divorced at for any one? 0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:16.679 You know? I mean honestly, I happened to also be 0:17:16.840 --> 0:17:21.520 a previously divorced person, and I can honestly say sometimes 0:17:21.600 --> 0:17:23.960 life begins after divorce, you know what I mean? So 0:17:24.480 --> 0:17:26.639 I think you'd be I think you'd be doing yourself 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:29.840 a disservice by trying to, like, you know, pigeonhole yourself 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:31.359 as do people want to date someone like me? I'm 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:34.200 forty want to divorced. I mean more than of the 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:38.119 population is divorced or has been divorced, right, So I 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:39.880 get it, though, you feel like when you go through 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:41.480 a divorce, if you're anything like me, even if you 0:17:41.520 --> 0:17:45.199 wanted the divorce, you still feel like a bit of 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:47.600 a like you failed at something you know, or you 0:17:47.640 --> 0:17:50.520 feel like you have this stigma about you because maybe 0:17:50.520 --> 0:17:52.879 you're the only person in your family immediate family that 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:55.240 got divorced and everyone else has stayed together or whatever 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:57.399 that was the case with me anyway, was you know, 0:17:57.440 --> 0:17:59.359 my sister and brother in law have been together like 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:01.919 thirty some years. My parents, you know, we celebrated their 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:04.840 fifty sixth wedding anniversary before my dad passed. And it's like, 0:18:04.880 --> 0:18:06.880 you know, and here I was, you know, getting divorced, 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:09.880 you know, and UM, but I feel like life kind 0:18:09.880 --> 0:18:12.600 of begins a little bit after that because you know, 0:18:12.680 --> 0:18:15.000 now you know what you want and you know who 0:18:15.080 --> 0:18:17.920 you are, and you're really comfortable, I would think, or 0:18:17.920 --> 0:18:19.760 at least if you're not, then that's your first thing 0:18:19.800 --> 0:18:22.800 to do is get comfortable, you know, get comfortable with 0:18:22.840 --> 0:18:26.879 yourself because you know, UM, the best part about this 0:18:26.920 --> 0:18:29.200 and I say this as someone who I was also 0:18:29.240 --> 0:18:33.000 divorced without kids, that's that's a good thing, um, because 0:18:33.600 --> 0:18:37.120 you know, one of the things that UM, I think 0:18:37.160 --> 0:18:38.760 would have been hard for me, and this is just 0:18:38.800 --> 0:18:41.159 speaking personally if I did have kids with one of 0:18:41.200 --> 0:18:45.080 my access was having that relationship kind of continue in 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:46.639 my life while I was trying to find you know, 0:18:46.680 --> 0:18:49.479 trying to have a new one. And UM, I mean, 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:50.919 are you like that? Would you think you would have 0:18:50.960 --> 0:18:53.119 felt that same way? Because it is almost like a 0:18:53.160 --> 0:18:55.720 burden released that you don't you didn't have kids previously. 0:18:56.640 --> 0:18:59.080 I feel like that is the case, just because my 0:18:59.200 --> 0:19:02.560 relationship was definitely tumultuous, so I don't know if the 0:19:02.560 --> 0:19:04.840 co parenting thing would have worked out. But at the 0:19:04.920 --> 0:19:09.960 same time, you know how people have that judgment on 0:19:10.200 --> 0:19:13.480 your this age, you've been married and you don't have kids. 0:19:13.520 --> 0:19:18.760 That's weird. Yeah, people judge everything. People suck to a 0:19:18.800 --> 0:19:20.560 certain degree. And I don't know if I can say that, 0:19:20.600 --> 0:19:22.000 but I would say that that is kind of true 0:19:22.040 --> 0:19:25.280 because everybody lives in this glass house and there, you know. 0:19:25.680 --> 0:19:27.720 I mean I can say this. I I just did 0:19:27.720 --> 0:19:30.760 this article for some magazine recently. I can't remember what 0:19:30.920 --> 0:19:32.879 it was. And they asked me, like, you know, if 0:19:32.920 --> 0:19:36.439 you had advice to give to a um, to a parent, 0:19:36.640 --> 0:19:38.399 what would your vice be, And and I said, actually, 0:19:38.400 --> 0:19:40.600 my vice wouldn't be to parents. My advice with people 0:19:40.600 --> 0:19:44.439 who aren't parents. Stop judging parents. You know, Like it's tough, right, 0:19:44.440 --> 0:19:46.040 Like you you go to a restaurant and you sit 0:19:46.080 --> 0:19:47.520 down and you see some kids sitting there with an 0:19:47.560 --> 0:19:48.840 iPad and you're like, oh my god, if my kid 0:19:48.840 --> 0:19:52.159 will never do that. Uh, yeah, they will, and you 0:19:52.200 --> 0:19:53.520 want them to do that so you can have like 0:19:53.560 --> 0:19:55.359 five minutes to eat your spaghetti because your kid is 0:19:55.440 --> 0:19:57.440 driving you bananas. And I say that as someone who 0:19:57.440 --> 0:19:59.680 loves my kids. So it's like, you know, until we walk, 0:20:00.000 --> 0:20:03.000 you know, in somebody else's shoes, it's really easy to judge. 0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:05.600