1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:07,640 Speaker 1: From Hollywood. Thank you for listening to us with Ryan Seacrest. 2 00:00:09,640 --> 00:00:12,960 Speaker 1: Good morning, thanks for having us on. As you get 3 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:19,000 Speaker 1: adjusted to another day. It's a Wednesday, October six, Today's 4 00:00:19,120 --> 00:00:25,640 Speaker 1: National Noodle Day. Mm hmmm. Instagram is that it? Instagram 5 00:00:25,680 --> 00:00:29,480 Speaker 1: is eleven years old, that's all. Instagram is only eleven. 6 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 1: It was born, really, that's it. We've only been living 7 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: with for eleven years. Remember it was first Facebook. I 8 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,600 Speaker 1: do remember Twitter and then Instagram. But still I feel 9 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:48,879 Speaker 1: like how the world has just changed because of the 10 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:53,000 Speaker 1: last eleven years of Instagram. I mean like industries have 11 00:00:53,159 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 1: changed because of Instagram totally. We've changed. Mental states have 12 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:05,560 Speaker 1: changed because of Instagram. Remember the days you could just 13 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:07,399 Speaker 1: like wear the same outfit a bunch of times because 14 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:09,960 Speaker 1: it was We're starting to do it again. Remember Mark 15 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: Zuckerberg does it? Steve Jobs? Yeah, yeah, like simplified, I'm 16 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:18,839 Speaker 1: just gonna get a couple of solid gray and black 17 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:23,040 Speaker 1: shirts and all the time. Yeah good. I mean, obviously, 18 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: if I do my other jobs, I'll put on a 19 00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:28,120 Speaker 1: something nice. But for real life, you guys, I got 20 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 1: dress up. We've been together too long, why don't Yeah? 21 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:38,840 Speaker 1: Thank you? So Facebook was oh four? This is it? Doesn't. 22 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:40,679 Speaker 1: I mean, look, yeah, it was a while ago, but 23 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:43,840 Speaker 1: life was so different before. Facebook was two thousand four, 24 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 1: Twitter was two thousand and seven, Instagram and TikTok yesterday. 25 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: Do you remember your first Instagram post? I don't remember 26 00:01:55,960 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 1: last one. What was my I think I remember my 27 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: first post? All right? What was your first post? It 28 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:08,640 Speaker 1: was a picture of of me with Alexander and he 29 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:13,680 Speaker 1: was just a few months old. Oh, mine used to 30 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 1: be so lame. I would post like my nails until yeah, 31 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 1: that's this is my last post. This just keep watching, 32 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:26,880 Speaker 1: but no thanks, Okay, all right, Well that's that's where 33 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:29,359 Speaker 1: we are and the timeline of life, ladies and gentlemen. 34 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:32,760 Speaker 1: Mostly cloudy today, cooler highs in the mid seventies and 35 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:36,079 Speaker 1: eighties inland, upper sixties as you get along the beach. 36 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:40,600 Speaker 1: All right, so we do have coming up this morning, 37 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: many shots for you to have your vacation paid for it. 38 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:47,640 Speaker 1: We're gonna go live to Sisney and Michael's house for 39 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 1: an update on baby survey and all the kids actually 40 00:02:50,520 --> 00:02:54,320 Speaker 1: see how they're holding up with the third baby, and Tony, 41 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:56,600 Speaker 1: you wanted to come back. I'm gonna put the pin here. 42 00:02:56,639 --> 00:02:58,280 Speaker 1: We're gonna pull the pin back out. You want to 43 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:02,240 Speaker 1: come back to something here, go ahead, Okay, So I 44 00:03:02,280 --> 00:03:05,120 Speaker 1: want to pull the pin out of something that you 45 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:07,880 Speaker 1: said about not closing the door, not being over your 46 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:13,160 Speaker 1: ex's Oh that's right, you said it. Multiple times. I 47 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:14,639 Speaker 1: keep saying, oh, let's put a pin in it. Let's 48 00:03:14,639 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 1: put a pin in it, and then him and how 49 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:17,640 Speaker 1: if I want to bring it back up again. But 50 00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 1: I do think that it's important to bring back up 51 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:24,960 Speaker 1: again because yeah, what would you like to know? I 52 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 1: think that this is holding you back from potentially meeting 53 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:30,800 Speaker 1: the one because remember when I was doing that book 54 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:32,640 Speaker 1: Calling in the One, and it was seven weeks to 55 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 1: find to Call in the One. No, you're really asking 56 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 1: a lot of me at this hour. So yes, but 57 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:44,120 Speaker 1: not to homework every single day for seven remember that 58 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:47,720 Speaker 1: all the homework assignments. Okay. So one of the chapters 59 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:52,279 Speaker 1: is is about closing the door to all your past relationships. 60 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 1: But I don't want to do that. Why don't you? 61 00:03:55,880 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 1: Because I want to remain friends with all of people 62 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 1: that were meaningful and my life to get to where 63 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:05,840 Speaker 1: that's different, different. So maybe I'm confused. This would be 64 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:10,400 Speaker 1: a first, but maybe my words have confused you maybe, Okay. Clearly, 65 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:15,680 Speaker 1: when I said I don't think I've ever over my exes, 66 00:04:15,760 --> 00:04:17,960 Speaker 1: it doesn't mean I want to be back with my exes. 67 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:22,160 Speaker 1: It means they had such a significant the big relationships 68 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 1: that you know of, had such significant impact on my 69 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:32,320 Speaker 1: learning and growing and living that I'll never be over it, 70 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 1: like they'll never disappear from my mind. I want to 71 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:37,839 Speaker 1: still be able to wish them a merry Christmas. You know. 72 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: I still want to be able to say happy Birthday. 73 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: I still do. That's how I feel. Maybe, and see 74 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:46,480 Speaker 1: the judgment on your face, Tanya, I think it's not judgment. 75 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 1: But this is what's holding you back. This is why 76 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 1: it's been this is what's been holding you back. No, no, 77 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:53,600 Speaker 1: no, no no. It's fine to wish them well and have 78 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:57,480 Speaker 1: good um you know, chummy camaraderie with your exes. You 79 00:04:57,480 --> 00:05:00,400 Speaker 1: don't want to wish them harm by any means, but 80 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:02,159 Speaker 1: you don't need to be wishing them a happy birthday. 81 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:04,640 Speaker 1: You don't need to be wishing them Merry Christmas. I 82 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 1: don't know. It's it's the it's the way I've always 83 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:08,720 Speaker 1: looked at it. And so when I say I'm not over, 84 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:11,559 Speaker 1: the meaning like they're never not in my mind because 85 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:16,000 Speaker 1: they were such a chapter of my life. And I've 86 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:18,720 Speaker 1: told you this, I know. But another chapter in this 87 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 1: book also talks about recognizing patterns that you've had in 88 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:26,520 Speaker 1: your life that aren't serving you. And this pattern is 89 00:05:26,560 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 1: not serving you, How do you know it's not serving me? 90 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: How can you be so certain it's not? She's really 91 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:37,800 Speaker 1: I don't want to again harp on it, but I've 92 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:43,280 Speaker 1: seen a different level of knowing it all since one 93 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:47,479 Speaker 1: has gotten into a fantasy relationship after a breakup with 94 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:49,919 Speaker 1: you know who, not so not so fantast Well, I 95 00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 1: think she's coming from a place of I was. I 96 00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 1: was broken for a while, and I had to find 97 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:03,920 Speaker 1: myself and begin begin fixing my my own trauma, in 98 00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:07,719 Speaker 1: my own wounds, so I can finally allow someone else 99 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 1: to love me the way I love myself. I think 100 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:11,960 Speaker 1: that's where she comes from. That's where she's coming from, 101 00:06:11,960 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 1: and she's sharing that with you because now she sees 102 00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:23,920 Speaker 1: you as her past self. Thank you, Patty, You've made 103 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 1: it very clear. And now she's now she wants to 104 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:32,640 Speaker 1: she wants to help you find Okay, Well, let me see, Patty, 105 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:34,479 Speaker 1: have you gotten over all of your actions that they 106 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:38,320 Speaker 1: completely out of your mind. They're not. However, I don't 107 00:06:38,400 --> 00:06:46,720 Speaker 1: text them Happy Birthday or Mary Thanksgiving, Merry Christmas. Oh 108 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 1: I wanted. I wanted to thanks Thanksgiving, but I do Mary. 109 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 1: But I do think about them, and I do, like um, 110 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:59,600 Speaker 1: I I They've allowed They've helped me grow, you know, 111 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: the right breaks allowed me to become the person that 112 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:04,039 Speaker 1: I am now, and I am very happy the person 113 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:06,640 Speaker 1: that I am currently becoming, and they're all part of 114 00:07:06,680 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 1: that journey. Yeah, I think Patty, you and I are 115 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 1: a little closer to this than I am with Tanya 116 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: and how we think of things and look at it. 117 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 1: But I'm gonna play the song that I would have 118 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 1: written if it wasn't already written, but it's been written. 119 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:28,320 Speaker 1: You next is Laar, So thank you, Merry Christmas. Thank 120 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: you you can version of a thank you Happy Holidays. 121 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:47,240 Speaker 1: Ryan seacreats, let's get your morning hack this morning, and 122 00:07:47,240 --> 00:07:48,640 Speaker 1: then I have a quote of the day. You know, 123 00:07:48,680 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 1: every day we have these quotes of the day. Some 124 00:07:50,520 --> 00:07:52,880 Speaker 1: people are into quote some people aren't, So don't you know, 125 00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:55,560 Speaker 1: don't throw something at the speaker if you're not into these. 126 00:07:55,600 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 1: But um, parents, all right, Patty, A lot of options 127 00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:05,160 Speaker 1: when it comes to devices, the kind of device and 128 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:07,000 Speaker 1: the age in which you think is appropriate to give 129 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 1: your your kids. They have them, Ah, they do not 130 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 1: have a cell phone. They have something that you can 131 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:16,000 Speaker 1: track them down with. They do not have something that 132 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:18,360 Speaker 1: I can track them down with. They do have a 133 00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:23,200 Speaker 1: video game console. And how does that help as far 134 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 1: as electronics? That's all I have? Okay? All right? Did 135 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:28,239 Speaker 1: you're not like checking on them through that? Yeah? Okay? 136 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 1: So when will you give the boy? At? What age 137 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 1: would you give the first cell phone? Alexander's ten and 138 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:39,200 Speaker 1: I was thinking thirteen, but I am now I'm thinking 139 00:08:39,280 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 1: more fourteen. And what changed your mind? I just, like 140 00:08:44,200 --> 00:08:47,560 Speaker 1: you mentioned earlier, it's just mentally the mental health of 141 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:52,080 Speaker 1: our children right now. We don't know how it's We 142 00:08:52,160 --> 00:08:54,440 Speaker 1: don't really know how cell phones are affecting our kids 143 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:58,079 Speaker 1: right now. It's all technology, and it's get it. I 144 00:08:58,400 --> 00:09:01,960 Speaker 1: get it. Okay. So I just started thinking about something 145 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:04,559 Speaker 1: about that. Yeah, okay. So child development experts say the 146 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:06,480 Speaker 1: perfect age to give a child of stuffhone is eleven 147 00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:10,080 Speaker 1: eleven years old. And here's what they say. That typically 148 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:14,240 Speaker 1: coincides with graduating ice from elementary going into sixth grade, 149 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:17,600 Speaker 1: and there's a there's a timing to that and growth 150 00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:21,000 Speaker 1: to that moment. Look, it's up to every individual parent. 151 00:09:21,280 --> 00:09:23,920 Speaker 1: There's for me as I started thinking about what if 152 00:09:23,960 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 1: I started writing for parenting magazine in my next life. Okay, 153 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:33,079 Speaker 1: you're but I could have a really honest column about 154 00:09:33,080 --> 00:09:35,800 Speaker 1: not knowing anything about it and then just writing I 155 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:38,480 Speaker 1: don't hate it. I think that's what if I did. 156 00:09:38,600 --> 00:09:41,440 Speaker 1: What if my podcast was a parenting podcast? But I 157 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:43,760 Speaker 1: have no kids. But here's the things. I think you 158 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 1: could ask all the questions that you have, because I 159 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:48,320 Speaker 1: think people who are parents and they like give this 160 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:50,040 Speaker 1: all this advice and they talk about all these like 161 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:53,079 Speaker 1: utensils and things that they use for when they're pregnant stuff. 162 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:56,640 Speaker 1: It's like when you don't know anything, it's very overwhelming. 163 00:09:56,679 --> 00:09:58,320 Speaker 1: So maybe you could ask the questions that are like 164 00:09:58,360 --> 00:10:04,840 Speaker 1: bare bones. I like that idea. All right, I'm making notes. 165 00:10:05,960 --> 00:10:09,400 Speaker 1: Let me give you the quote today, honor the space 166 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:18,479 Speaker 1: between no longer and not yet on air with Ryan Seacrest, 167 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:26,000 Speaker 1: Honor the space between no longer and not yet, meaning 168 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:28,319 Speaker 1: what does it mean? That was quite a minute ago? 169 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:32,240 Speaker 1: One or two point seven in between space. All right, 170 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 1: let's get to the headlines. Tiny is in for Cissy? 171 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: What do you have? Los Angeles leaders are close to 172 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 1: enacting one of the nation's strictest vaccine mandates, a measure 173 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:43,839 Speaker 1: that would require the shots for everyone entering a bar, restaurant, 174 00:10:43,920 --> 00:10:47,520 Speaker 1: nail salon Jim, or a Lakers game. The city Council 175 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:50,559 Speaker 1: is scheduled to consider their proposal tonight after postponing a 176 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:55,400 Speaker 1: vote last week. California restaurants will only give takeout customers 177 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:59,319 Speaker 1: single use condiment packets and utensils if they asked for them, 178 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: under a bill signed into law Tuesday by Governor Newsom. 179 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:06,000 Speaker 1: It expands on an existing state law that allows restaurants 180 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: to distribute single use straws only upon request. And Kaiser 181 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 1: Permanent d A announced thousands of its employees across the 182 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:18,360 Speaker 1: country have been suspended after choosing not to get vaccinated. 183 00:11:18,360 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 1: Of its nationwide employees have been placed on unpaid leave. 184 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:25,640 Speaker 1: As of October one, Kaiser is the largest non government 185 00:11:25,640 --> 00:11:34,520 Speaker 1: employer in l A County. Air with Ryan sad Alright, Erica, 186 00:11:34,720 --> 00:11:36,200 Speaker 1: who's worked on the show I'm Gonna Use You works 187 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:38,920 Speaker 1: on the Shower. I think it's just been almost five, 188 00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:41,880 Speaker 1: I'm at thirty. You're almost there. Okay, yeah, we're almost 189 00:11:41,880 --> 00:11:44,000 Speaker 1: the same. That's crazy, right, But it go by fast 190 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:46,800 Speaker 1: because in groups of five, that's the only six more more. 191 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:49,760 Speaker 1: It's only five more when you're there. Okay, good um, 192 00:11:49,800 --> 00:11:52,320 Speaker 1: all right, so what's that you are going to a wedding? 193 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:55,480 Speaker 1: Your congratulations, you're a maid of honor. Thank you. It's 194 00:11:55,800 --> 00:11:59,040 Speaker 1: a lot of work, so yes, congratulations, and also I'm 195 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:01,959 Speaker 1: working hard. Um, but I need help with the speech 196 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:04,720 Speaker 1: because it is this coming weekend and I have totally 197 00:12:04,760 --> 00:12:08,480 Speaker 1: not thought about it. Are you the only native honor speaking? No, 198 00:12:08,720 --> 00:12:10,600 Speaker 1: she has a matron of honor as well. But I'm 199 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:13,520 Speaker 1: like closing the show like I'm the final speech before 200 00:12:13,520 --> 00:12:18,840 Speaker 1: the party starts. Yeah. Well that sucks, like so much pressure, 201 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:22,920 Speaker 1: so much stress. I know, speeches are are people. To 202 00:12:22,920 --> 00:12:25,040 Speaker 1: anybody who's asking anyone else to do a speech, please 203 00:12:25,120 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 1: understand the pressure that puts on someone. It is harsh. 204 00:12:28,920 --> 00:12:31,079 Speaker 1: And when you're going, like when you're attending a wedding 205 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:36,440 Speaker 1: and somebody gives a lame speech, You're like, this is 206 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:40,040 Speaker 1: not helping, guys. I just want to There's there's one 207 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:42,640 Speaker 1: fallback I have. I usually just cry. I start to cry, 208 00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:47,600 Speaker 1: and everybody's fine, like they feel bad for everyone. Crying 209 00:12:47,720 --> 00:12:51,559 Speaker 1: is good crying, but short. And I mean, you've got 210 00:12:51,559 --> 00:12:53,360 Speaker 1: to be funny. Can you make are you supposed to 211 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 1: make fun of it a little bit? In the in 212 00:12:55,960 --> 00:12:58,840 Speaker 1: that speech? Or what night is your speech? I mean 213 00:12:58,880 --> 00:13:01,199 Speaker 1: it's at the wedding. I think I have to have 214 00:13:01,240 --> 00:13:04,720 Speaker 1: a little humor and then a lot of heart humor 215 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:06,840 Speaker 1: and then heart, but not long. The speech should be 216 00:13:06,880 --> 00:13:10,960 Speaker 1: what three minutes? Two to three macska, don't go, don't 217 00:13:11,000 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 1: do the whole when we were babies. On the bright side, 218 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:18,200 Speaker 1: we weren't babies together, so I can only start a college. 219 00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:20,760 Speaker 1: So we're good there. Well that's funny. You know. I 220 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:22,400 Speaker 1: was gonna start with, well the two of us grew 221 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 1: up together, but how we didn't. I just met her 222 00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:27,079 Speaker 1: the other day, not the other day, but college in 223 00:13:27,120 --> 00:13:31,480 Speaker 1: the cliff notes version exactly. Okay, okay, good, okay, that's good. 224 00:13:32,080 --> 00:13:33,679 Speaker 1: But you can also have some help with some friends 225 00:13:33,679 --> 00:13:35,280 Speaker 1: of yours that aren't necessarily giving the speech to come 226 00:13:35,360 --> 00:13:37,839 Speaker 1: up with some funny things. And then it's got to 227 00:13:37,880 --> 00:13:42,720 Speaker 1: make a turn to But what I realized was Samantha, 228 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:45,719 Speaker 1: because when I did the what I did, was the 229 00:13:45,760 --> 00:13:49,600 Speaker 1: honor of speech that I have had. You were the man, 230 00:13:49,880 --> 00:13:51,240 Speaker 1: the man of honor. I was the man of honor. 231 00:13:51,320 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 1: So I had the man of honor speech, and I'm 232 00:13:56,000 --> 00:13:58,320 Speaker 1: used to speaking that. I found it very difficult. So 233 00:13:58,480 --> 00:14:02,600 Speaker 1: I I talked about how I got to the place 234 00:14:02,600 --> 00:14:05,280 Speaker 1: where I said, look, every time we would fly, Meredith 235 00:14:05,360 --> 00:14:09,840 Speaker 1: would squeeze my hand to death, fearful of taking off 236 00:14:09,840 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 1: and landing in any turbulence. Jimmy, you're the new hand 237 00:14:14,840 --> 00:14:20,920 Speaker 1: that she'll squeeze, like a full circle moment. Yeah, like 238 00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 1: that little specific and then the pivot, and then I started. 239 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:26,680 Speaker 1: Then she said she cried. I cried, My mom cried, 240 00:14:26,720 --> 00:14:29,440 Speaker 1: and I was out. Something about hands, actually is something 241 00:14:29,480 --> 00:14:31,800 Speaker 1: about hands is a good thing to incorporate. Because Kate 242 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:34,080 Speaker 1: Winslet and her acceptance speech at the Emmy's when she said, 243 00:14:34,120 --> 00:14:36,200 Speaker 1: like shout out to my husband, I get to hold 244 00:14:36,240 --> 00:14:39,960 Speaker 1: your hand forever, I started crying. Well, you know, this 245 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:42,440 Speaker 1: isn't my former partner, this is just my best friend. 246 00:14:43,080 --> 00:14:45,280 Speaker 1: Women held a lot of hands over them. That can 247 00:14:45,320 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 1: be confused. That's a slippery slop, maybe like holding your 248 00:14:48,320 --> 00:14:53,440 Speaker 1: hair back when you know, fun night, But that's not 249 00:14:53,920 --> 00:15:01,080 Speaker 1: that's funny she held my friend. Well that's good too, 250 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:03,520 Speaker 1: and now you can hold Josh's hair back. Whatever, let's 251 00:15:03,520 --> 00:15:05,920 Speaker 1: get to the just get there. Okay, that's good, that's good. 252 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:11,440 Speaker 1: All right. Well has been on the show for years 253 00:15:11,440 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 1: and he still likes listening to it and he's here. 254 00:15:15,400 --> 00:15:18,480 Speaker 1: All right. Well, I don't know that we've helped you much. Yeah, 255 00:15:18,520 --> 00:15:22,440 Speaker 1: we're good. I can take these notes. It's this coming weekend. Okay, 256 00:15:22,440 --> 00:15:25,720 Speaker 1: would you mean favor next week? Give us the speech. 257 00:15:26,080 --> 00:15:31,400 Speaker 1: We want to hear it, not from there but to us. No, okay, happily, Yeah, alright, alright, 258 00:15:31,560 --> 00:15:35,640 Speaker 1: by bye bye. That's nice. What a great honor to 259 00:15:35,680 --> 00:15:37,200 Speaker 1: be the maid of honor and be asked to give 260 00:15:37,240 --> 00:15:39,240 Speaker 1: the speech, although I try and get out of it, honestly, 261 00:15:39,280 --> 00:15:42,840 Speaker 1: if I were her, Yeah, I have fear of public speaking. 262 00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:48,880 Speaker 1: I've lost my voice. I'm terrified. It's just like nobody 263 00:15:48,920 --> 00:15:54,640 Speaker 1: wants to hear them. I know it's true. It's like 264 00:15:54,640 --> 00:15:59,040 Speaker 1: no one really wants a big wedding. It's definitely like 265 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:01,280 Speaker 1: when I go to wedding, i'd really like take notes, 266 00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:02,840 Speaker 1: and I'm like, I think for mine, I'm going to 267 00:16:02,920 --> 00:16:07,800 Speaker 1: have like there's too many. It's bad. No, how many 268 00:16:07,880 --> 00:16:14,680 Speaker 1: gonna happen? Maybe one? Maybe? All right, it's secrets with you. 269 00:16:15,400 --> 00:16:18,480 Speaker 1: Look at that. Look at that youthful glow down your bottom, 270 00:16:18,560 --> 00:16:21,200 Speaker 1: right corner of the zoom. We've got Tanya Patty assistant. 271 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:24,040 Speaker 1: He's out on maternity lead, but her husband, Michael, he 272 00:16:24,240 --> 00:16:27,880 Speaker 1: is here with weekly reports. It is, uh, what do 273 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:32,960 Speaker 1: we call this thing? Handsful with that's right. I have 274 00:16:33,040 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 1: to move my head along with you guys. Yeah, you 275 00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:42,520 Speaker 1: glow when we say it. How's Sistani doing? She's great? Uh, well, 276 00:16:42,640 --> 00:16:44,840 Speaker 1: you know relatively, this is still very hard, So don't 277 00:16:44,880 --> 00:16:49,840 Speaker 1: we're not trying to make it look just in can 278 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:55,880 Speaker 1: I can I say Savella looks exactly like you? She 279 00:16:56,120 --> 00:17:00,360 Speaker 1: is your twin. Please, will somebody say she looks like city? 280 00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:02,880 Speaker 1: Like you know what, you're everybody saying the same thing. 281 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:06,159 Speaker 1: Everyone's saying the same thing. And when you know, just like, 282 00:17:06,240 --> 00:17:09,520 Speaker 1: can somebody say this baby looks like she looks like Sissy? 283 00:17:09,840 --> 00:17:11,840 Speaker 1: I think we both think it's totally looks like Sissy, 284 00:17:11,920 --> 00:17:17,080 Speaker 1: not even close to you, thank you. But we hear 285 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:19,199 Speaker 1: that she changes so that, you know, we saw that 286 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:21,919 Speaker 1: in as and Max in two. There's angles, there's pictures. 287 00:17:22,040 --> 00:17:24,360 Speaker 1: It's just so amazing how they're both of us and 288 00:17:24,440 --> 00:17:28,639 Speaker 1: probably even more is not the both of you. I mean, 289 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:30,080 Speaker 1: I don't know if you remember how it works, but 290 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:36,080 Speaker 1: for like everybody's involved. Yeah, they definitely got the best 291 00:17:36,080 --> 00:17:38,399 Speaker 1: to me. All right, let's talk about what are we 292 00:17:38,440 --> 00:17:42,800 Speaker 1: at week seven? Week seven? Mm hmm. I saw the 293 00:17:42,920 --> 00:17:47,800 Speaker 1: photo of the twins like hugging baby Survella with the 294 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:50,879 Speaker 1: flowers on the girl's heads. It's so, I mean, the 295 00:17:50,880 --> 00:17:54,200 Speaker 1: twins are like adults now. It's so cute. I get 296 00:17:54,240 --> 00:17:57,720 Speaker 1: flashes of seeing them in an older like teenager to 297 00:17:58,160 --> 00:18:02,399 Speaker 1: young adult view. It's it's insane, and especially when you 298 00:18:02,480 --> 00:18:05,560 Speaker 1: have someone that's small right there next to them, you're 299 00:18:05,560 --> 00:18:09,560 Speaker 1: like they are on their way up. Yeah, so fast. 300 00:18:09,760 --> 00:18:12,920 Speaker 1: It's a lot. All right. So um, we covered at Sisany. 301 00:18:13,040 --> 00:18:17,000 Speaker 1: What about what happens for Halloween? Well, so, I mean, 302 00:18:17,119 --> 00:18:19,439 Speaker 1: so Syceany is doing great, but she's also focusing on 303 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:22,520 Speaker 1: Halloween right now right the thing. She loves it. So 304 00:18:22,640 --> 00:18:25,439 Speaker 1: decorations are on their way. We've got assumes that I've 305 00:18:25,480 --> 00:18:28,119 Speaker 1: already been made. We've got plans that are two weeks 306 00:18:28,119 --> 00:18:31,000 Speaker 1: three weeks already in that are about to start accelerating. 307 00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:33,400 Speaker 1: So we have a family costume and we have individuals. 308 00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:36,080 Speaker 1: Oh so that's like what we do a show costume 309 00:18:36,160 --> 00:18:40,280 Speaker 1: and then individuals. Yeah, yeah, exactly. Do you like Halloween 310 00:18:40,480 --> 00:18:45,240 Speaker 1: as much as sisany? Um? I didn't not like it, 311 00:18:45,280 --> 00:18:50,119 Speaker 1: I guess, but she definitely accelerated and increased my enjoyment 312 00:18:50,160 --> 00:18:52,320 Speaker 1: of it because it's just so much fun when you're 313 00:18:52,960 --> 00:18:55,240 Speaker 1: just playing pretend and she's into it, so I don't 314 00:18:55,280 --> 00:18:57,680 Speaker 1: have to worry about looking dumb and just have fun. 315 00:18:57,840 --> 00:18:59,679 Speaker 1: So it's really cool. All right, well, good, all right. 316 00:18:59,880 --> 00:19:02,200 Speaker 1: I like your answer. I did not like it. Anytime 317 00:19:02,240 --> 00:19:05,640 Speaker 1: a double negative is is thrown out, it's like it's 318 00:19:05,640 --> 00:19:08,640 Speaker 1: not a great sale. But okay, Savella's new milestone. What's 319 00:19:08,640 --> 00:19:11,199 Speaker 1: that about that she's smiling a lot more. What a 320 00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:13,359 Speaker 1: little heartbreaker. I mean, she'll just be there and just 321 00:19:13,400 --> 00:19:16,440 Speaker 1: crack a smile and then just totally change the mood 322 00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:20,080 Speaker 1: of the day. So it's it's pretty cool. And Asa 323 00:19:20,119 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 1: and Maxon's latest reaction, how are they doing? We saw 324 00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:24,800 Speaker 1: some photos, but how are they doing? Yeah? So they're 325 00:19:24,800 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 1: they're doing, uh, you know, really great. Um, they still 326 00:19:28,359 --> 00:19:29,919 Speaker 1: want to get involved. I think the other day they 327 00:19:29,920 --> 00:19:31,800 Speaker 1: were fighting on who wanted to change her diaper. But 328 00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:33,200 Speaker 1: that was a joke, like we were not going to 329 00:19:33,320 --> 00:19:35,479 Speaker 1: let that happen, and their reaction kind of made us 330 00:19:35,800 --> 00:19:39,480 Speaker 1: come back a little bit. But um, uh there you 331 00:19:39,600 --> 00:19:41,399 Speaker 1: you mentioned it right there. They're growing up, they're kind 332 00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:44,119 Speaker 1: of becoming their own individuals, and we let them pick 333 00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 1: their individual costume, and I think it's very telling about 334 00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:51,160 Speaker 1: maybe where they are right now. Um so, so Max 335 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:55,000 Speaker 1: in such a sweet, innocent little boy, wants to be 336 00:19:55,040 --> 00:20:00,280 Speaker 1: a pumpkin, just a pumpkin. Cute, so cute, So sim Bowl, 337 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:05,200 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, great and Asa, we gotta watch out 338 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:08,399 Speaker 1: for this girl. She Have you seen the movie Sing? 339 00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:11,480 Speaker 1: And like, I mean there's a huge cast behind these characters. 340 00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:15,720 Speaker 1: I think you have probably it's an amazing You've got 341 00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:20,879 Speaker 1: Reese Witherspoon, Uh, Tory Kelly so great, Uh, you know, 342 00:20:21,080 --> 00:20:24,080 Speaker 1: actors and artists. Um, she wants to be the pig 343 00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:28,200 Speaker 1: from Rosita, which is Reese Witherspoon from that movie, which 344 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:30,880 Speaker 1: is there's a scene where she's basically at home mom 345 00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:33,000 Speaker 1: that wants to show that she's something bigger than that. 346 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:36,399 Speaker 1: She comes out this full dress and the whole dance 347 00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 1: routine and she's like, that's what I want to be 348 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:42,159 Speaker 1: for Halloween? Is sing animated? Sing as animated? But she 349 00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:44,840 Speaker 1: wants to be this animated, this, this pig and this 350 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:49,119 Speaker 1: like Lady Gaga full on the concert. But isn't it 351 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:52,600 Speaker 1: all about So that's fine, right? I mean she picks it, 352 00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:55,400 Speaker 1: gets it. Yeah. Yeah, it's just so interesting where their 353 00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:57,760 Speaker 1: heads at. Like She's like, I want to show myself 354 00:20:58,240 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 1: and Max is just like, I'll be a pumpkin. That 355 00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:04,480 Speaker 1: sounds far like a simple man. So cute, so cute. 356 00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:07,920 Speaker 1: All right, So she's gonna be a character from singh 357 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:12,720 Speaker 1: Are we got that? Now? What about the the realist? 358 00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:16,040 Speaker 1: Three under? Is it still three under three moment? Yeah? Three? Yeah? 359 00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:20,000 Speaker 1: I guess I appreciate the glowing comments, thank you, but 360 00:21:20,119 --> 00:21:23,160 Speaker 1: I'm we are not sleeping. You're not sleeping. I mean 361 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:26,400 Speaker 1: the kids are getting up all night, uh different reasons, 362 00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:31,679 Speaker 1: water or the other kids just get up to annoy you. Well, 363 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:33,520 Speaker 1: I don't know. Maxim woke up at one am thinking 364 00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:35,359 Speaker 1: it was the beginning of the day, like I'm ready 365 00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:38,080 Speaker 1: for to day. I'm like, you're not. You need to 366 00:21:38,080 --> 00:21:41,080 Speaker 1: go back, go back, go back, and then you know 367 00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:44,719 Speaker 1: the feeding and so this week was rough. No, not 368 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:48,600 Speaker 1: a lot of sleep. But I think we'll have a 369 00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:51,080 Speaker 1: question of you because I'm far behind, but maybe not 370 00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:56,960 Speaker 1: far behind. I don't know, but uh see, I think, Michael, 371 00:21:56,960 --> 00:22:02,040 Speaker 1: fatigue drives me to eat cheap foods. Yes, like I don't. 372 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:03,520 Speaker 1: I'm not one of those people that like a moment. 373 00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:07,280 Speaker 1: It's like some people like, don't eat when there's a 374 00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:09,960 Speaker 1: lot I eat. I eat the wrong things during those moments. 375 00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:17,080 Speaker 1: That donuts, yeah, uh yeah, I mean really good chicken sandwiches, 376 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:26,280 Speaker 1: rich salads. You're right, you're on it. Uh yeah. I 377 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:28,160 Speaker 1: guess what I have in my head is like this 378 00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:34,600 Speaker 1: amazing lemon vinegrette salad just like but you know, and 379 00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:36,600 Speaker 1: it's probably not that healthy for you, but it sounds 380 00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:38,760 Speaker 1: kind of healthy where you grind your teeth when you 381 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:44,480 Speaker 1: say vinegar rut. It's kind of exciting, like that really 382 00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:49,679 Speaker 1: good olive oil. All right, well listen, get back to it. 383 00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:51,679 Speaker 1: Thank you for dipping out for a second. Send I 384 00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:53,840 Speaker 1: love to sis Andy. We'll see soon, okay, Michael. That's 385 00:22:53,920 --> 00:23:03,280 Speaker 1: bends full with my go is digressed. Hey. Our Kissing 386 00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:06,440 Speaker 1: FM jingle Ball presented by Capital One. You know, tickets 387 00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:10,440 Speaker 1: are on sale to Capital one card holders right now. 388 00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:13,520 Speaker 1: Are on sale right now Capital one card holders. It 389 00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:15,320 Speaker 1: is going to sell I think pretty fast. And well, 390 00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:17,080 Speaker 1: I can't even say what why I said, Anne, But 391 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:19,680 Speaker 1: there will be a reason why I said and when 392 00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:21,679 Speaker 1: you find out why I thought that. But I'm not 393 00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:24,359 Speaker 1: telling you yet. I'm not telling you. You don't know 394 00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:26,080 Speaker 1: what You just don't know it all. You just don't 395 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:34,480 Speaker 1: know it all yet. All right, So that's happening. No, no, no, 396 00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:36,320 Speaker 1: because this is the one thing I get, the one 397 00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:38,240 Speaker 1: the one thing they tell me and not you guys, 398 00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,160 Speaker 1: is all this stuff. Y'all get to talk about everything 399 00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:43,639 Speaker 1: else before I know, all right, So, uh can we 400 00:23:43,640 --> 00:23:46,440 Speaker 1: talk about TikTok? And this is one of those has 401 00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:49,080 Speaker 1: gone viral, so many people have viewed this one TikTok 402 00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:52,639 Speaker 1: And basically it comes down to this same thing I 403 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:55,560 Speaker 1: did when I was in high school and my girlfriend 404 00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:58,399 Speaker 1: was in college. I said, you know, you're you're a 405 00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:02,320 Speaker 1: senior in high schools, she's a freshman college. Y'all don't 406 00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:04,560 Speaker 1: get to see each other much. So once you drive 407 00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:08,919 Speaker 1: to Auburn and surprise her. But we know how that 408 00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:13,359 Speaker 1: turned out. Surprises, don't I don't like being surprised, and 409 00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:15,520 Speaker 1: I don't like surprising people. Because I've seen the worst 410 00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:18,560 Speaker 1: I know. And you know what's so funny. Everybody always 411 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:21,199 Speaker 1: has such like a high expectation when they plan a 412 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:23,679 Speaker 1: surprise of what the other person's reaction is going to be, 413 00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:26,400 Speaker 1: and it never equates to what you wanted to be. 414 00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:29,880 Speaker 1: All right, So this, uh, there's a post by Lauren Zares. 415 00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:32,679 Speaker 1: She surprises her boyfriend a college. She puts on the 416 00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:36,040 Speaker 1: Ellie Golden Song and captations it. Robbie has no idea. 417 00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:39,840 Speaker 1: She walks into the dorm lobby and there's Robbie sitting 418 00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:41,720 Speaker 1: on the couch with three girls, and I think one 419 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:44,920 Speaker 1: of the other girls has his phone, And awkwardly, Robbie 420 00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:49,480 Speaker 1: stands up like, hey, uh, and it's really gotten a 421 00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:53,360 Speaker 1: lot of traction. It's gotten a lot of but he's dissecting. 422 00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:57,160 Speaker 1: It's so sad. Well, so many questions. Is it ever 423 00:24:57,240 --> 00:25:00,119 Speaker 1: worth it to surprise your significant other? Was he doing 424 00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:03,080 Speaker 1: anything wrong by sitting with three girls? Did she have 425 00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:05,680 Speaker 1: his phone? And why did did the girls next to 426 00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:07,520 Speaker 1: him on the couch at the doorm know that he 427 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:11,680 Speaker 1: had a girlfriend. I mean, those are all the questions, right, Tanya, right, right? 428 00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:15,480 Speaker 1: But it's so it's so funny because everybody's dissecting this 429 00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:19,280 Speaker 1: one video and posting their interpretation and analytics of this 430 00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:21,880 Speaker 1: one situation. And poor girls just trying to surprise her 431 00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:26,680 Speaker 1: boyfriend and she's just getting like hashtag couch guy has 432 00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:29,840 Speaker 1: over half a billion views. Now, look, I would have 433 00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:32,040 Speaker 1: if if Lauren would have reached out, I would have said, Lauren, 434 00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:35,720 Speaker 1: bad idea. Okay, it's a bad idea. All of the 435 00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:38,080 Speaker 1: excitement you make it because here's what you go look 436 00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:41,160 Speaker 1: at as an equation. The number of times it's gonna 437 00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:44,600 Speaker 1: go right, I think is less than a number of 438 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:47,840 Speaker 1: times it's gonna go wrong, So you gotta measure it. 439 00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:52,879 Speaker 1: So why even risk that excitement by the badness of 440 00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:55,119 Speaker 1: what might happen. That's how I look at life, Tanya. 441 00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:58,040 Speaker 1: I'm looking at like that. I do. I do agree 442 00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:00,760 Speaker 1: with you in the sense that the person that gets surprised, 443 00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:06,040 Speaker 1: the surpriser is always like a little want want. I 444 00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:08,480 Speaker 1: also will tell you when I watched it, I didn't 445 00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:10,560 Speaker 1: think it was that bad. I thought she was walking 446 00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:12,760 Speaker 1: in on him hooking up. That's what I thought it 447 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:17,439 Speaker 1: was going to happen totally. So it's not great, but 448 00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:21,120 Speaker 1: there could be an explanation to it. Yeah. But also, 449 00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:23,920 Speaker 1: just speaking from somebody who did a long distance relationship 450 00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:28,680 Speaker 1: in college and was cheated on, I feel like colleably 451 00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:31,080 Speaker 1: not going to end well. I mean, to me, college 452 00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:34,200 Speaker 1: is like a no flies one danger zone. I mean, 453 00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:36,320 Speaker 1: things happen in college and you can blame it on college. 454 00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:40,040 Speaker 1: First time away when you're in college just the most 455 00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:43,800 Speaker 1: annoying thing for everybody to say, right But when you're 456 00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,040 Speaker 1: not in college after college, you look back and go, oh, 457 00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:50,159 Speaker 1: it's college, it's college. Just you know. I was the 458 00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:54,680 Speaker 1: first time in the real world on air with Ryan Seacres. 459 00:26:56,920 --> 00:27:00,200 Speaker 1: So we are doing what I think is so perfectly time. 460 00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:02,840 Speaker 1: Right now, we're paying for your vacation bills. You picked 461 00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:05,000 Speaker 1: a vacation, we don't, and you decide when you want 462 00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:07,479 Speaker 1: to go we don't, and then you decide who goes 463 00:27:07,520 --> 00:27:11,120 Speaker 1: on the trip. We don't. Um Every week down the tens, 464 00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:14,800 Speaker 1: someone qualifies six ten and six ten and you get 465 00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,879 Speaker 1: a hundred two bucks. Right now, I've got that qualifying 466 00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,280 Speaker 1: person that is going to be the grand prize winner. 467 00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:24,520 Speaker 1: This morning. Every morning we are calling somebody to pay 468 00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:29,320 Speaker 1: for their vacation bills. What's their name? I'll take a minute. 469 00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:34,520 Speaker 1: Where would you go a Paris for sure. You're still 470 00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:36,560 Speaker 1: in Paris? Okay, what's last time you've been? Have you 471 00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:39,080 Speaker 1: been before? No? Never been. That's why it's been on 472 00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:41,359 Speaker 1: my vision board for years. But it's good that you 473 00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:46,680 Speaker 1: waited to take Robbie wants his ribs. Heel take him. 474 00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:49,640 Speaker 1: Don't go with the broken rib. All right, let's say 475 00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:54,800 Speaker 1: a look to Kayla Nave Kayla, Hi, kayleb Annaheim. It's 476 00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:59,160 Speaker 1: Ryan Seacrest. How are you? How are you? I'm super good. 477 00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:01,760 Speaker 1: I'm just checking you one uh with Jojo right a 478 00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:06,240 Speaker 1: hunt two bucks and qualified for the vacation. Yes, okay, great, 479 00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:09,080 Speaker 1: Well you're on the air. My name is Bryan Seacrest. 480 00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:12,720 Speaker 1: I've got Tanya, everybody here, Patty, and you are getting 481 00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:17,160 Speaker 1: your next vacation bills paid for. Kayla, congratulations, Oh my god, 482 00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:20,520 Speaker 1: thank you. It is with pleasure we call you. Okay. 483 00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:25,000 Speaker 1: Now the fun stuff. Where do you want to go? Um? 484 00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:28,280 Speaker 1: It's it's crazy because I don't know. I think New York. 485 00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:32,240 Speaker 1: Oh great, we can make a list of things that 486 00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:34,560 Speaker 1: you might want to do in New York City. Yeah, 487 00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:37,639 Speaker 1: I don't know. Again, I don't know. Maybe I don't know. Well, 488 00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:39,760 Speaker 1: there's no you have to decide now, just when you 489 00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:44,040 Speaker 1: think through, who will you take? Um? Probably my boyfriend? 490 00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:47,840 Speaker 1: All right, well listen y'all talk about it, you and 491 00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:50,520 Speaker 1: your boyfriend and then get back to us. But congratulations, 492 00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:55,000 Speaker 1: were paying for your vacation bills? Okay, Kayla, thank you? Yes, 493 00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:58,720 Speaker 1: you're very welcome. Now if you're the boyfriend and you 494 00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:05,360 Speaker 1: hear proably, mew, does that feel? It makes me feel 495 00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:08,840 Speaker 1: like runner up kind of or default? I might come 496 00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:11,480 Speaker 1: home and ask, well, who's ahead of me on the 497 00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:14,720 Speaker 1: invitation list? Right? Like something I don't know, like what's 498 00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,719 Speaker 1: wrong with our relationship? I'm just busking me that question. 499 00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:23,400 Speaker 1: Ask you what the question that you just asked her? 500 00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:26,760 Speaker 1: Did you? Were you the six ten winner with Jojo? 501 00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:32,520 Speaker 1: I guess I was. Congratulations you get your vacation bills 502 00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:35,080 Speaker 1: paid for? And ask me who I'm going to take. 503 00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:38,080 Speaker 1: I don't want to ask you who you're gonna take. 504 00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:42,280 Speaker 1: Why are you forcing me to ask you questions? So weird? 505 00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:44,200 Speaker 1: Because I was trying to show you. I was going 506 00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:50,000 Speaker 1: to show you how I would have wanted. All right, okay, hey, 507 00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:56,080 Speaker 1: they're tell your rad he color whatever whatever we do, 508 00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:59,560 Speaker 1: are you gonna take? I'm gonna take my boyfriend. I 509 00:29:59,600 --> 00:30:01,360 Speaker 1: can't eight to go to New York City with him. 510 00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:04,880 Speaker 1: It's so romantic and fun. Okay, now, just to make 511 00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:07,720 Speaker 1: my point, I'm Cayla's boyfriend and I just heard that. 512 00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:12,160 Speaker 1: Now I'm really upset. Help and didn't help anybody. It 513 00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:14,600 Speaker 1: didn't help. You've really changed since you've gotten in this relationship. 514 00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:20,480 Speaker 1: All right, Uh, let's just stop everything. Hold on, I 515 00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:23,240 Speaker 1: want to go back to Tanya's to your anniversary celebrations. 516 00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:27,560 Speaker 1: So I just can I does this in what about 517 00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:31,040 Speaker 1: the breakup? Okay, so funny you bring that up. That's 518 00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:33,840 Speaker 1: why we haven't started this tradition because this is the 519 00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:36,239 Speaker 1: day that we first met each other. So like our 520 00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:40,600 Speaker 1: very first date. We always celebrated our anniversary the day 521 00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:43,440 Speaker 1: that we became officially boyfriend girlfriend. But then we broke 522 00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:45,160 Speaker 1: up and then we got back together, so we kind 523 00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:48,800 Speaker 1: of decided we'll just celebrate the day that we've met 524 00:30:48,840 --> 00:30:54,440 Speaker 1: each other because that was a secreting day. So what's 525 00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:57,320 Speaker 1: the question. So I want to start a tradition that 526 00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:00,520 Speaker 1: we do every single year on that day, um, and 527 00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:02,400 Speaker 1: we don't want to tie it necessarily to like going 528 00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:04,240 Speaker 1: back to the bar where we met for the first time. 529 00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:05,360 Speaker 1: But we don't want to tie it to like a 530 00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:07,120 Speaker 1: specific place. We want it to be something that we 531 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:10,200 Speaker 1: can do no matter where we are. So a friend 532 00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:13,640 Speaker 1: of mine suggested that we together over dinner, we do 533 00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:15,680 Speaker 1: like our top five moments of the year, like our 534 00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:17,880 Speaker 1: top five moments as a couple or individually, and then 535 00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:19,560 Speaker 1: that way you have kind of like a scrapbook of 536 00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:25,200 Speaker 1: your relationship throughout the years, which I like. I like 537 00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:30,760 Speaker 1: that idea a lot. I'm gonna give you two thoughts. 538 00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:34,080 Speaker 1: One is I love the romance of it all. I 539 00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:36,040 Speaker 1: love the creativity and the romance of it all. I 540 00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:38,000 Speaker 1: also don't like the pressure we put on ourselves for 541 00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:40,920 Speaker 1: these mile markers. Like it drive It can drive you 542 00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:43,360 Speaker 1: in nuts and circles trying to figure out what it 543 00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:46,240 Speaker 1: is you want to do, and it causes it causes finess, 544 00:31:46,760 --> 00:31:48,440 Speaker 1: I know. But that's why I just wanted to be 545 00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:51,880 Speaker 1: something that is easy that we do together. Not like homework. 546 00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:53,800 Speaker 1: You know, I like to give homework. I don't want 547 00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:55,320 Speaker 1: it to be homeworky. I want it to be fun, 548 00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:58,840 Speaker 1: something that we can do together, and that starts a tradition. 549 00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:01,680 Speaker 1: I'll tell you what I did. This is nothing genius, though, 550 00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:08,640 Speaker 1: but it was nice to yah. One time, I wrote 551 00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:12,400 Speaker 1: down for a long time, simple little things that I 552 00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:18,200 Speaker 1: loved about this person, right, like pages of it. Tiny 553 00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:21,040 Speaker 1: stupid things too, like big things are easy, generic, but 554 00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:27,720 Speaker 1: really specificity is the key, very specific. And I put 555 00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:30,600 Speaker 1: them in a really beautiful book. And I put the 556 00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:33,080 Speaker 1: book underneath a present, so it's like there's a little 557 00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:35,400 Speaker 1: cute little gift, but the real gift was the book. 558 00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:43,800 Speaker 1: And I just gave that to this person and it 559 00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:45,680 Speaker 1: was really I mean, it was tears and laughter and 560 00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:48,520 Speaker 1: tears and laughter. It was really nice. What about that? 561 00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:52,840 Speaker 1: It's really cute. It's really cute. I can't believe you 562 00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:56,640 Speaker 1: did that for somebody. I know you said together, but 563 00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,120 Speaker 1: I don't think it should be. Don't put that pressure 564 00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:02,040 Speaker 1: on anybody. If you're gonna do this, do this. You'll 565 00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:04,280 Speaker 1: share in the memory together, but you'll share in the 566 00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:07,920 Speaker 1: reaction together. That's the fun of it. And then you 567 00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:09,880 Speaker 1: can keep adding to it, like the book could be 568 00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:16,000 Speaker 1: oh right, blinking are you blinking? I'm not. I'm not. 569 00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:22,000 Speaker 1: I know what you're gonna say at the wedding, Yeah, right, 570 00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:27,560 Speaker 1: you can write it into your vows. He is very 571 00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:30,280 Speaker 1: impressed with themselves everybody just he just sat back in 572 00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:36,560 Speaker 1: his chair by a journal that is just for this 573 00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:41,760 Speaker 1: one day, right, every year you pull it out. You've 574 00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:44,640 Speaker 1: written through it all year. No no, no, no, no, 575 00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:47,560 Speaker 1: no no, you just added on the day of you know, 576 00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:49,400 Speaker 1: you're sitting down at dinner and then you're asking these 577 00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:52,280 Speaker 1: five questions to each other and you just pull it 578 00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:56,520 Speaker 1: out once a year, and then you can reminisce. Yes, 579 00:33:56,760 --> 00:34:03,800 Speaker 1: not as fun, not as fun, not as fun, no, 580 00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:06,880 Speaker 1: not as you don't want journals. Besides, look at the 581 00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:09,600 Speaker 1: end of at the end of it, all, the end 582 00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:11,479 Speaker 1: of it. They just started. Why are we have an ending? 583 00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:14,239 Speaker 1: The children, if they have any they will be the 584 00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:16,960 Speaker 1: ones that will hold on to this forever and they 585 00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:19,799 Speaker 1: just want, you know, just one book, alight. I don't 586 00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:21,560 Speaker 1: take so much space. I think we should think about 587 00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:23,080 Speaker 1: this for a couple of days here, all right, But 588 00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:26,160 Speaker 1: I've been thinking about it for a while. When's the 589 00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:29,760 Speaker 1: anniversary November. We have a minute, We have a minute. 590 00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:32,000 Speaker 1: I mean, relationships are exhausting, even when they're not mine. 591 00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:39,480 Speaker 1: I gotta tell you that I'm exhausted. This is not mine. No. Four, really, 592 00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:42,879 Speaker 1: let's let's do a festival. Let's have a festival as 593 00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:46,319 Speaker 1: of an anniversary festival, The I Heart Anniversary Festival Live 594 00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:52,120 Speaker 1: from Vegas, tickets coming. Well, Tanya, you can always rely 595 00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:54,719 Speaker 1: on smarter people listening to have better ideas than we, 596 00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:57,359 Speaker 1: and Ariel is with us now. So Tanya is having 597 00:34:57,360 --> 00:35:01,319 Speaker 1: her two year anniversary, Patty's having multi year anniversary on 598 00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:03,160 Speaker 1: November four, and Tony s having or two year in 599 00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:06,600 Speaker 1: November five. And are you to trying to figure out 600 00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:08,640 Speaker 1: something they can do together but not make it complicated 601 00:35:08,680 --> 00:35:10,320 Speaker 1: or at pressure to celebrate two years? Do you have 602 00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:15,719 Speaker 1: any ideas? Yeah? So, um, me and my husband every 603 00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:19,240 Speaker 1: year for our anniversary, we um take a picture together. 604 00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:22,319 Speaker 1: But in the picture that we take every year is 605 00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:25,160 Speaker 1: the picture we're holding a picture of us from the 606 00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:28,000 Speaker 1: year prior. So every year you kind of get to 607 00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:30,919 Speaker 1: see the pictures build and build, and obviously they get 608 00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:34,520 Speaker 1: smaller and smaller, but it's really fun to look back 609 00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:37,759 Speaker 1: and see, like where you were a year ago. I'm 610 00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:39,879 Speaker 1: putting a note on that. That's the great I ever 611 00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:48,160 Speaker 1: forget my journaling or simplest that's it. Yeah, and you 612 00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:50,600 Speaker 1: can definitely do it anywhere. I know you said you 613 00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:52,760 Speaker 1: want to be able to do it anywhere, So Yeah, 614 00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:56,920 Speaker 1: take the picture anywhere hold in which you like together forever, 615 00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:59,040 Speaker 1: and then you've got the small and smaller pictures, but 616 00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:05,320 Speaker 1: they look like legos by the end of the time. Yeah, okay, 617 00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:09,040 Speaker 1: that's it. Came over. Well, thank you. We're all gonna 618 00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:12,640 Speaker 1: be doing that one. Take care of how come Patty 619 00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:15,040 Speaker 1: and you you all celebrate the same way. Well, I 620 00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:17,440 Speaker 1: mean they stole my idea from Aria who gave it 621 00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:22,080 Speaker 1: to me. Whatever, that's a great idea, Whitney. Do you 622 00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:26,239 Speaker 1: want to chime in on this? Hi? Yeah, Hi, good morning. 623 00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:31,080 Speaker 1: So your husband did what any um? Well, they our 624 00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:35,640 Speaker 1: very first anniversary. He played a significant song for us, 625 00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:41,120 Speaker 1: um and that which is Yeah by Usher. So it's 626 00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:46,840 Speaker 1: like a fun fast on not like this. This is 627 00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:50,600 Speaker 1: do not do not go ahead. Yeah, and then we 628 00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:54,880 Speaker 1: just danced it out in our house. That's cute. I 629 00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:58,160 Speaker 1: feel like Michael would do for city. But the picture 630 00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:04,480 Speaker 1: and picture is the jam. It's like the damp though, Mary, Um, 631 00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:07,759 Speaker 1: we're all we've all been married for three years, right, 632 00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:16,200 Speaker 1: well keep it up, all right? Dj alright, thank you? Sure? 633 00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:24,080 Speaker 1: Uh sure yea yeahs Finn in Love on Air with 634 00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:28,719 Speaker 1: Ryan Secrets Your Jingerball tickets presented by Capital One. They 635 00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:32,160 Speaker 1: are selling right now, get them, get them, get them, 636 00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:34,200 Speaker 1: get them to Capital one card holders before everybody else. 637 00:37:35,320 --> 00:37:37,160 Speaker 1: And I have another chance in a second here on 638 00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:39,000 Speaker 1: this Wednesday morning, for you to qualify to get your 639 00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:43,360 Speaker 1: vacation bills paid for. Okay, Tanya, let's go through the 640 00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:44,960 Speaker 1: report and then we'll go back to the question you 641 00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:49,480 Speaker 1: asked training report. So our girl, Oprah Winfrey, she was 642 00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:52,719 Speaker 1: on Hoda's podcast with Maria Shriver and they were really 643 00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:55,320 Speaker 1: just talking about their forty two years of friendship and 644 00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:58,360 Speaker 1: talking about when they all met and their spiritual connection 645 00:37:58,440 --> 00:38:01,120 Speaker 1: that they felt. Um. But it was so interesting was 646 00:38:01,239 --> 00:38:03,680 Speaker 1: she admitted to not having a big circle of friends. 647 00:38:03,719 --> 00:38:07,520 Speaker 1: This is Oprah. She said, There's Gail, there's Maria, There's 648 00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:11,160 Speaker 1: Bob meaning Bob Green. I never never really expanded that 649 00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:16,000 Speaker 1: circle until recently. So that is three in total, three friends. 650 00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:18,960 Speaker 1: So Oprah lived the majority of her life with three 651 00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:24,040 Speaker 1: best friends. And it got me thinking, I pride myself 652 00:38:24,239 --> 00:38:28,600 Speaker 1: in being like a friend girl, Like my friendships means 653 00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:31,160 Speaker 1: so much to me, my circle, my core, like these 654 00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:34,759 Speaker 1: are my people. And I spent a lot of time, 655 00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:38,360 Speaker 1: in years and energy into these relationships, and I feel 656 00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:41,600 Speaker 1: like you know, when you get into a relationship, it's 657 00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:44,360 Speaker 1: harder because you spend the majority of your time with 658 00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:46,920 Speaker 1: your significant other. It's hard to spend as much time 659 00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:50,759 Speaker 1: as you did with your friends. And I feel like 660 00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:52,920 Speaker 1: it's stressing me out when I read this, because I 661 00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:55,279 Speaker 1: feel like your small your circle gets smaller when you 662 00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:57,160 Speaker 1: get into a relationship. And I've been trying to like 663 00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:00,680 Speaker 1: fight that for so long. There's so many I have here. 664 00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:03,640 Speaker 1: First of all, I know you're a good friend, but 665 00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:06,520 Speaker 1: you're also we're feeling a little void for yourself in 666 00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:08,960 Speaker 1: being that good friend because now that you've got your relationship, 667 00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,359 Speaker 1: it feels a void. Right, So there was this there's 668 00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:13,000 Speaker 1: a selfish part of that too for all of us, 669 00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:17,879 Speaker 1: because when you are you're giving. You're a giving person 670 00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:20,319 Speaker 1: and you have to give to feel you. So now 671 00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:22,720 Speaker 1: you're still giving, but you're giving to just really mainly 672 00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:26,600 Speaker 1: one person and giving a fewer. So that's where I mean, 673 00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:30,560 Speaker 1: I'm I get that. And also I'm wired to just 674 00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:33,640 Speaker 1: try to please everyone, makesure everyone's happy. Like I I 675 00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:35,720 Speaker 1: that's stress I should not put on myself, as stress 676 00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:38,680 Speaker 1: you should not put on yourself. We only have so 677 00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:43,640 Speaker 1: much capacity. We really need to be giving to people 678 00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:47,160 Speaker 1: who give back equally. And if you think about that, 679 00:39:47,239 --> 00:39:49,440 Speaker 1: you're gonna edit it down. I mean, I to this 680 00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:54,160 Speaker 1: day have a lot of friends, but I really have 681 00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:57,719 Speaker 1: just a few that I check in with on a 682 00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:00,719 Speaker 1: proactive basis, just a few that I think about to 683 00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:03,239 Speaker 1: send funny videos. Just a few I cannot and and 684 00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:06,759 Speaker 1: the others I like them, but I don't have the 685 00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:11,359 Speaker 1: capacity for it. And again, when I get unmarried right 686 00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:15,279 Speaker 1: with someone, it will there that will you get married? No, 687 00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:17,759 Speaker 1: when I get unmarried with somebody to have kids right, 688 00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:21,000 Speaker 1: it will be like there will be less capacity there too. 689 00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:26,560 Speaker 1: I don't get the unmarried thing. I was teasing you, 690 00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:29,640 Speaker 1: But basically what I'm saying is when I'm when I 691 00:40:29,680 --> 00:40:32,160 Speaker 1: have kids in a family, less capacity, less capacity. So 692 00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:34,040 Speaker 1: don't feel bad for it, Tony, I think you need 693 00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:36,800 Speaker 1: to not feel bad about it. I try. Like, what 694 00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:39,360 Speaker 1: I realized is that I don't have the necessarily the 695 00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:41,200 Speaker 1: same amount of time. Like I used to spend every 696 00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:43,400 Speaker 1: single day with my best friend Becca. Every day we 697 00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:48,480 Speaker 1: would see well, no, she's actually what's crazy is like 698 00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:51,319 Speaker 1: my relationships have changed in a way, but I still 699 00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:53,480 Speaker 1: check in with them every single day. But we don't 700 00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:56,640 Speaker 1: necessarily spend the same amount of time together. It happens 701 00:40:56,640 --> 00:40:57,960 Speaker 1: to all of us. And I think what we need 702 00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:01,239 Speaker 1: to learn is we cannot feel guilty about it. You 703 00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:04,279 Speaker 1: cannot feel guilty about it. That's not that's toxic. Now 704 00:41:04,400 --> 00:41:05,960 Speaker 1: we're gonna take a break in one minute. Thank you 705 00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:11,759 Speaker 1: for trying to report you Oprah a podcast? Uh hold 706 00:41:11,800 --> 00:41:16,799 Speaker 1: his podcast? Let me grab Let's see three. Kate, good morning, 707 00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:21,600 Speaker 1: How you doing good? Thanks? Right? How are you? I'm okay. 708 00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:24,080 Speaker 1: I just was reading the screen. Will you tell me 709 00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:29,320 Speaker 1: what you called about? All right? So my boyfriend and 710 00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,560 Speaker 1: I are out of disagreement. I'm an artist and I 711 00:41:32,719 --> 00:41:35,960 Speaker 1: want to have a nude photo shoot, but my boyfriend 712 00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:39,400 Speaker 1: does not like this idea at all. And what what 713 00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:42,120 Speaker 1: do you want to do with the nude photos? Shots? 714 00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:46,759 Speaker 1: The new photo shots? These will be posted on Instagram, 715 00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:49,759 Speaker 1: so all the books will be covered. I have a 716 00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:54,880 Speaker 1: beautiful vision for photographs and it just happens to be nude. 717 00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:58,000 Speaker 1: And before you hate on it, because I can hear 718 00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:02,520 Speaker 1: some hesitation, let me playing something very quick. In the 719 00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:07,440 Speaker 1: artistic world, nudity doesn't necessarily equate to a sexual contest. 720 00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:10,560 Speaker 1: Like in drawing classes, we draw nude music and models 721 00:42:10,640 --> 00:42:14,439 Speaker 1: off time, and the most iconic museums like the Louver 722 00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:19,600 Speaker 1: Museum have paintings and statues of nude bodies. The body 723 00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:22,920 Speaker 1: is art, and I think it's something to be celebrated. Now, 724 00:42:23,560 --> 00:42:28,800 Speaker 1: that's just how I feel. Feels differently your boyfriend and artistics. 725 00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:32,560 Speaker 1: You understand the artists point of view. He is not, 726 00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:35,160 Speaker 1: and so I think that's where a lot of this 727 00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:38,800 Speaker 1: disagreement kind of tends to stem from. Where I'm seeing 728 00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:42,040 Speaker 1: it as an artistic expression of myself and I do 729 00:42:42,160 --> 00:42:44,800 Speaker 1: not think that he sees it that way. Look, I 730 00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:48,480 Speaker 1: know situations where couples do a nude photo shoot for 731 00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:51,960 Speaker 1: each other for Valentine's Day, and but that's just for them. 732 00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:55,479 Speaker 1: They don't post it all up, right, So I've heard 733 00:42:55,560 --> 00:42:58,400 Speaker 1: of that. This is a tough one because I do 734 00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:01,080 Speaker 1: understand what you're saying, but I also kind of get 735 00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:05,759 Speaker 1: what he's thinking. I totally get what he's thinking, and 736 00:43:05,880 --> 00:43:08,520 Speaker 1: that would be me, Like, I would not want that 737 00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:12,200 Speaker 1: at all. However, I do think that when you're dating 738 00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:14,359 Speaker 1: somebody that's in that like, it's like if you're dating 739 00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:16,799 Speaker 1: an actress, you don't want your partner to make out 740 00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:18,360 Speaker 1: with somebody, but it's kind of just a part of 741 00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:22,880 Speaker 1: their job. So sometimes you just it's a compromised You 742 00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:25,520 Speaker 1: have to you kind of have to just roll with 743 00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:29,600 Speaker 1: the punches, and you have to let your partner, you know, 744 00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:32,080 Speaker 1: live out their passions even though you might not be 745 00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:35,560 Speaker 1: comfortable with it. But maybe also because he's you know, 746 00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:39,000 Speaker 1: going to be understanding, maybe you can have some sort 747 00:43:39,040 --> 00:43:42,719 Speaker 1: of meat in the middle somewhere. I don't know. It's 748 00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:47,000 Speaker 1: hard because I and that's a perfect example is dating, saying, 749 00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:50,520 Speaker 1: actor and actress that has to kiss someone else on screen. 750 00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:54,960 Speaker 1: I don't think I can compromise my vision for this. 751 00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:57,719 Speaker 1: I have a vision for this photo. But then that 752 00:43:57,880 --> 00:43:59,640 Speaker 1: tells me a little bit about how much you appreciate 753 00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:06,279 Speaker 1: your boy friends. You right? That my? That my? So 754 00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:09,160 Speaker 1: what do you think I should do? Then? I think 755 00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:10,719 Speaker 1: you know what you're going to do, and I think 756 00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:12,560 Speaker 1: it might cause the probably a relationship. But I'm not 757 00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:16,960 Speaker 1: so sure. You're too concerned about it. Maybe if he 758 00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:19,600 Speaker 1: doesn't get my vision, he's not the one. Then it 759 00:44:19,719 --> 00:44:24,239 Speaker 1: sounds like that's where your head is. So well, good luck, 760 00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:28,680 Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing that. I understand both sides of this. Um, 761 00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:33,200 Speaker 1: good luck alright, alright, No, so I'm with you, Tony, like, 762 00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:38,040 Speaker 1: I don't think I love that especially No, but I 763 00:44:38,080 --> 00:44:39,719 Speaker 1: also don't think she really wants to be with this guy. 764 00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:42,800 Speaker 1: That's why she's doing it in a way she's not 765 00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:48,520 Speaker 1: necessarily because it's like a view. It's not hearing it. 766 00:44:49,160 --> 00:44:52,880 Speaker 1: Like if my husband were gynecologist, I wouldn't love that. 767 00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:56,880 Speaker 1: I think that's very different from her artistic photographs of 768 00:44:57,000 --> 00:45:00,319 Speaker 1: her nakedness being posted on Instagram. It is diff friend, 769 00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:08,279 Speaker 1: but it's all a little un cozy. Tis just doesn't 770 00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:12,600 Speaker 1: know what to say. I don't on air with Ryan Seacrest. 771 00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:17,160 Speaker 1: All right, friends, that's it for us one or two 772 00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:19,120 Speaker 1: point seven kiss M thanks for having us on today. 773 00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:21,920 Speaker 1: Gaby Diaz on the way with another shot to qualify 774 00:45:22,040 --> 00:45:25,040 Speaker 1: you to have your vacation paid for anytime you want 775 00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:26,960 Speaker 1: to take it. Pick where you want to go tomorrow. 776 00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:28,200 Speaker 1: We got do a leap the tickets, you got the 777 00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:30,840 Speaker 1: morning hack, Ryan's roses, and we continue to pay for 778 00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:34,480 Speaker 1: your vacations on the tens. Every hour you get a 779 00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:37,879 Speaker 1: hundred two bucks. Get qualified. You're on one or two points, 780 00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:39,960 Speaker 1: say Kissing FM, have a good one to take care 781 00:45:40,000 --> 00:45:43,160 Speaker 1: of him. Thanks for listening. To on Air with Ryan Seacrest. 782 00:45:43,560 --> 00:45:45,200 Speaker 1: Make sure to subscribe it, and we'll talk to you 783 00:45:45,280 --> 00:45:45,920 Speaker 1: again tomorrow.