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Speaker 1: iHeart Podcasts bring you the ultimate Summer of Love Tree.

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Speaker 1: This is Famously Available. Welcome back to Famously Available. I'm

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Speaker 1: your host, Ben Higgins, and I'm really excited about this

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Speaker 1: episode because we've been getting to know our famously Available women,

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Speaker 1: and let me tell you, they are awesome. We got

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Speaker 1: Dianna and Mercedes. We've been catching up with them for

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Speaker 1: what seems like months now. Uh and today I'm sending

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Speaker 1: Dianna on a date in the real world and she's

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Speaker 1: here with me. She's looking beautiful, looking, flirty.

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Speaker 2: Am I.

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Speaker 3: I thought you were going to keep going. That's why

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Speaker 3: I paused. I was waiting for the multitude compliment.

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Speaker 1: Memorous, looking, spunky, all these things.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Spunky. I don't know if I hope this date

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Speaker 3: thinks I'm spunky, Ben.

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Speaker 4: I think Spunky's a good thing.

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Speaker 2: Spunky. Okay, all right, so.

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Speaker 4: Here we go.

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Speaker 1: This is a lot of fun for me. We've sent

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Speaker 1: you to San Francisco is where you're currently at. You're

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Speaker 1: going to a Jonas Brothers concert. This date will be

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Speaker 1: there with you. I'm very very excited to ask you,

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Speaker 1: how are you feeling?

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Speaker 3: I am super excited. I have to be honest. The

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Speaker 3: response to the podcast has been really great. But our

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Speaker 3: listeners keep messaging me wanting to know if I'm actually

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Speaker 3: going to date someone, Like they're all caught up now

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Speaker 3: on all of the things and they know what I

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Speaker 3: want and what I'm doing, but they would like to

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Speaker 3: know if I'm actually going to be dating.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, I hope. So I'm just

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Speaker 2: waiting on Ben here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you know what. We want to get the

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Speaker 1: episodes out there. So the responses were incredible. We have

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Speaker 1: a lot of options available. I think this is a

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Speaker 1: good option for you.

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Speaker 5: Though.

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Speaker 4: Are you nervous at all?

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Speaker 2: No, not right now. I just am like, you know,

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Speaker 2: I'm just trying to.

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Speaker 3: Find the right outfit to wear. But like my genes

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Speaker 3: look so great, but they're so tight Ben that I'm suffocating.

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Speaker 3: But it's a good asset, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: And I'm really trying to highlight it because I put

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Speaker 3: one good foot in front of the other.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm not nervous.

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Speaker 4: That's a good word you use there.

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Speaker 3: I'm not nervous. I'm actually really excited. But my hope

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Speaker 3: is that you know whomever it is that is coming

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Speaker 3: that I guess it's taking it seriously, because I realized

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Speaker 3: this is super unconventional to be going on a podcast,

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Speaker 3: to be dating a girl who was on reality TV

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Speaker 3: a long time ago, you know what I mean, and

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Speaker 3: to be able to think that that it could be something.

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Speaker 3: There's a possibility that it could be something. So I

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Speaker 3: hope is that that he's showing up with great intentions?

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Speaker 5: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 2: If he's your friend, I'm going to blame you.

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Speaker 4: I think he is. Do you want to hear a

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Speaker 4: little bit about him?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I do.

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Speaker 2: I'm dying. No one will tell me anything.

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Speaker 4: Okay, So, first thing, he's tall.

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Speaker 2: Oh I love it, love love love.

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Speaker 4: We at famously available. Find him very.

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Speaker 2: Handsome, oh we that's exciting.

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Speaker 4: Easton especially he grew up in the Bay Area.

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Speaker 2: Okay, he's a dad, love it, love it.

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Speaker 4: Very athletic.

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Speaker 2: Oh, bonus points.

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Speaker 1: He's a nice guy too. That's the final thing I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna share with you tonight. He's a very nice guy.

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Speaker 2: Okay. Is he funny?

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Speaker 5: You'll have to you have to be the judge of that.

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Speaker 1: I think humor is something that I can never put

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Speaker 1: down as a characteristic for somebody, because I find people

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Speaker 1: hilarious that other people do not find funny.

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Speaker 2: Okay, is he a Joe Bros.

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Speaker 1: Fan?

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Speaker 6: I don't know that, Or is it going to be

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Speaker 6: like we're a couple of old chumps over here watching

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Speaker 6: the Jonas Brothers creeping out?

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Speaker 1: You do have some friends there with you? Or I

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Speaker 1: saw some instagrams last night. I wasn't invited to this party.

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Speaker 1: That's why I'm doing this virtually. I would have loved

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Speaker 2: It's an all girls dinner, Ben, it's an all.

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Speaker 1: Girls dinner last night. Can you tell us who's there

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Speaker 2: It's a lot of fun.

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Speaker 3: It's Ashley I is here, Daisy is here, Kathy is here,

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Speaker 3: Susan is here, Susie is here. It's a good group

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Speaker 3: of solid women. That's a lot of fun.

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Speaker 1: Are you getting any of their advice as you get

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Speaker 1: ready for tonight?

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Speaker 3: You know what is so funny is all of the

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Speaker 3: a date. What are you guys going to do? And

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Speaker 3: I was like, we're all kind of going on my

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Speaker 3: And so the girls were all actually really excited that

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Speaker 3: if he's great, we'll have a lot of fun. It's

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Speaker 3: the Jonas Brothers concert. If he's not so great, there's

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Speaker 3: smooth things over. So for me, it's a win win.

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Speaker 3: Doesn't feel like a lot of pressure. We can just

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Speaker 1: Is this more or less ideal than just the two

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Speaker 1: of you going out for the first time alone?

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Speaker 3: To me, this is more ideal. I really appreciate non

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Speaker 3: traditional dating.

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Speaker 3: I had some friends who were like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 3: But for me, that feels almost like a relief, because

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Speaker 3: Like we'd just be like so hot about Nick I'm like.

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Speaker 2: Joe, you know.

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Speaker 3: But where it's also it's also pretty exciting because if

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Speaker 2: There's going to be other women in the room.

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Speaker 3: So let's hope he doesn't flirt with all the other

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Speaker 3: But you know, I just think that it's a lot

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Speaker 3: of fun. It's an activity. It's not a typical like

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Speaker 3: if we're not, then we got to go to a concert,

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Speaker 2: To eat some good food, and we got to enjoy

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Speaker 1: You know, we've gotten to know you through the last

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Speaker 1: few weeks. I know the responses, as you said, have

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Speaker 1: been really encouraging, but also very curious of if you're

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Speaker 1: ever going to date. Have you taken in any of

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Speaker 1: these comments? Does it add a level of pressure now

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Speaker 1: knowing that there's people listening excited about this, Has anybody

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Speaker 1: given you any insights kind of talk about to us

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not putting any pressure on myself. I think

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Speaker 3: it's actually pretty exciting that anybody would want to listen

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Speaker 3: And pretty much all of them is like, hey, good luck,

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Speaker 3: am like I am in a controlled zoo here, you

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Speaker 3: for the most part, everyone has had a really good response,

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Speaker 3: Because you know, I'm in that like sweet spot in

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Speaker 3: mean we didn't like that, but do you know what

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Speaker 3: So it's a fine line of like, hey, I don't

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Speaker 2: And feeling good in my skin. Do you understand?

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Speaker 3: So that was a lot of fun posting them on

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Speaker 3: I was like myself, jeans and a cool shirt, like

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Speaker 3: it's the things that a forty somethings have to worry about, Ben,

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Speaker 3: And I'm not just not trying to worry about it.

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Speaker 3: And so luckily ninety five percent of the women voted

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Speaker 1: My advice to you is go with what makes you

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Speaker 1: most comfortable tonight. And it's a concert, right, you can

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Speaker 3: I would prefer my vans instead of high heels, but

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Speaker 3: I am since you're saying he's tall, I'll slip the

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Speaker 1: Any questions that you have for him coming off like

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Speaker 1: any ice breakers.

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Speaker 4: I used to go with the would you rathers as

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Speaker 4: ice breakers?

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Speaker 3: Shoot, Ben, Like, I wasn't feeling any nerves until you

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Speaker 3: start talking like, I didn't really have a plan going

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Speaker 3: and he falls madly in love, and then the rest

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Speaker 3: out how a first date's supposed to go?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 4: Okay, you want to hear my icebreaker?

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Speaker 1: Okay, would you rather be a alligator or a bird?

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Speaker 4: Ben, why I got married from it?

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Speaker 3: No, I need you to send me Jessica's number right now.

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Speaker 3: I appreciate all of your advice in the realm of

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Speaker 4: You want to hear it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if this date work, we don't have a season left,

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Speaker 3: Let's say, best case scenario. I go out tonight, I

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Speaker 1: Here's the deal. Then we're going to follow you along

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Speaker 2: Are we manifesting? Is that what we're doing right now?

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Speaker 3: Break up with you. I'll have to break up with you.

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Speaker 3: I'm not good at breakup spin. I think that you

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Speaker 3: I think what I'm hoping to get out of tonight

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Speaker 2: So for me, I'm just looking to, you know, get

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Speaker 3: And if it blows me out of the water, then

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Speaker 5: Could this night end in the kiss?

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Speaker 2: Oh that would be exciting, wouldn't it. That was fun?

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Speaker 4: That would be fun.

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Speaker 2: That would be fun, Ben, sign me up?

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Speaker 4: Are you a Jonas Brothers fan?

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Speaker 3: I felt creepy when they were really young, thinking that

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Speaker 3: I'll take Nick or Joe or Knick or Joe.

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Speaker 5: Oh, you cracked up.

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Speaker 1: You are in a good You are in the perfect place.

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Speaker 1: So here is my words for you. Have a blast,

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Speaker 2: I'm so excited. Thanks Ben.

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Speaker 1: I recently sent single Deanna Pappus out to a Jonas

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Speaker 5: Cynthia, welcome to Famously Available.

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Speaker 7: Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 6: I feel like I'm this undercover spy doing like Roman's

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Speaker 1: You're one hundred percent that for us today. We are

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Speaker 5: But I think that's going to come from.

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Speaker 7: I did. That was the first time meeting her, Okay.

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Speaker 1: Let's talk about Deanna, because that's who we love and

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Speaker 6: Ghoby, We had such great energy. First of all, she

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Speaker 7: She was really outgoing and open and.

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Speaker 7: I thought there was.

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Speaker 6: I really thought like there was good body language when

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Speaker 1: Now we were worried about this. Here famously available. This

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Speaker 5: We had suites, we had.

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Speaker 1: Everything set up, But concerts are I don't think like

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Speaker 6: Oh, that's such a good question. I like the concert

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Speaker 7: This was, unfortunately not that case. It was wide open.

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Speaker 7: Say, meet cute.

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Speaker 6: I'm really shocked that them seeming like they were having

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Speaker 1: That's kind of where we're sitting right now. We did

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Speaker 6: That I didn't see. I did not see them leaving

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Speaker 7: I probably would have noticed that. I left about fifteen

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Speaker 5: I'm with you. I would have been the same.

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Speaker 6: So I didn't see that, but I'm glad that he did.

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Speaker 6: I do feel like we're all at a certain age

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Speaker 6: see worst case scenario. I don't think it's the worst

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Speaker 6: you get into your forties and your fifties. Sure it's

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Speaker 1: Fit for you.

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Speaker 6: So just the fact that I he was an into

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Speaker 7: Not want to get together unless I mean he's divorced.

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Speaker 1: It is important, So you know what we've picked up on.

447
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Speaker 1: Did you ask either of them kind of what their

448
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Speaker 1: feelings were towards each other?

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Speaker 6: At least initially, No, because I didn't want to interrupt,

450
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Speaker 6: Like it was kind of like things were like looking really.

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Speaker 1: Good, A little bit of personal information about you, kind

452
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Speaker 1: of heading up for our last group of questions here,

453
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Speaker 1: what is your romantic situation?

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Speaker 6: I'm married, so I was talking to him, but I

455
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Speaker 6: also feel like I'm married.

456
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Speaker 7: I'm wearing a ring.

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Speaker 6: People ask me about my husband. We had mutual friends

458
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Speaker 6: in common who know my husband because we go to

459
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Speaker 6: high We went to high school together, and people that

460
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Speaker 6: we went to high school with were there, So I

461
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Speaker 6: kind of feel like I'm that safe person to talk

462
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Speaker 6: to him, kind of like the gay best friend, like

463
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Speaker 6: easy to talk to because I'm not nothing's happening here.

464
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Speaker 6: So I don't know if like he felt comfortable talking

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Speaker 6: to me because I am married.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but if you two did speak, he didn't at

467
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Speaker 1: all hint either way of what he was thinking towards

468
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Speaker 1: Deannaty not at.

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Speaker 6: All No, which I also think again is really respectable too,

470
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Speaker 6: Like you know, it's not like we're in our twenties

471
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Speaker 6: and it's like, oh, she's a hottie. Like, I don't

472
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Speaker 6: think people do that. I think just the fact that

473
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Speaker 6: they were really connecting and they had a good energy

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Speaker 6: and again, like body language is so important that the

475
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Speaker 6: body language was there. Again, like to say that they're

476
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Speaker 6: not having a coffee like just shocks me.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: If I was gay and I was single, I date her.

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Speaker 7: She's so nice and awesome. She is like she's like

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Speaker 7: the package.

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Speaker 1: She's a great package. She's great, she's awesome. That's what

482
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Speaker 1: we have her here, famously available.

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Speaker 6: She needs to come to New York City. I feel

484
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Speaker 6: like this could be a good place for her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a little more maybe down have more people

486
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Speaker 1: kind of within what she's looking for. But I was

487
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Speaker 1: given advice when I was single by somebody, and I

488
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Speaker 1: think it's great advice when you're single, especially as you

489
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Speaker 1: get older. In our single just keep dating. Go on

490
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Speaker 1: weird dates, go on good dates, go on funky dates.

491
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Speaker 1: Just keep dating because at some point you're going to

492
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Speaker 1: kind of figure out what it is that make maybe

493
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Speaker 1: brings out the best in you. And so for the

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Speaker 1: two of them, as they're both divorced, and they're looking

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Speaker 1: to get back out there in the dating world.

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Speaker 5: I do.

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Speaker 1: I am surprised that there isn't a follow up date,

498
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Speaker 1: and we're going to get maybe more information on that

499
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Speaker 1: here when we bring Deanna on this week and figure

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Speaker 1: out what you know from her perspective why there isn't

501
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Speaker 1: a second fall up date. But if she listens to this,

502
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Speaker 1: which she will, and you were to give her advice

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Speaker 1: specifically take away that this date worked or didn't work,

504
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Speaker 1: but just as she continues on this journey, what advice

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Speaker 1: do you have for somebody in their forties and fifties

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Speaker 1: that are looking to date and trying to date and

507
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Speaker 1: trying to get back out there.

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Speaker 7: I think you nailed it. Number one is keep dating.

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Speaker 6: I look back after breakups and the people I dated

510
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Speaker 6: right after breakups, I almost want to apologize to them

511
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Speaker 6: because they didn't get my best self because I was so.

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Speaker 7: New to it.

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Speaker 6: Again, you have to keep dating to get comfortable with it.

514
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Speaker 6: And it's also about you being comfortable with dating and

515
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Speaker 6: showing your true self and not your dating self, like

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Speaker 6: you want to show your real personality. And I think

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Speaker 6: number two, do the things that you love to do,

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Speaker 6: because then you're going to be a happy because it's

519
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Speaker 6: what you love to do, and you're going to be

520
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Speaker 6: around people who also have the same commonalities, like if

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Speaker 6: you love to ron, join a running club, if you

522
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Speaker 6: love to cook, take some cooking classes, do things that

523
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Speaker 6: are your passion, and then you're going to attract the

524
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Speaker 6: people that have the same passions as you. And I

525
00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:12,720
Speaker 6: think that's really important. But no matter what, just keep

526
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Speaker 6: getting your dating legs under you. You have to just

527
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Speaker 6: keep going out and putting yourself out there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's daunting, I know it is. It's a big

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Speaker 1: it's daunting, but I think once you get, like you said,

530
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Speaker 1: your dating legs, the pressure gets taken off. Every date

531
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Speaker 1: seems important, but less important, so you're not putting all

532
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Speaker 1: your weight into it. It becomes kind of a skill set,

533
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Speaker 1: a habit, and hopefully at the end you can find somebody.

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Speaker 1: A final question for you, Cynthia, we've kind of gone

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Speaker 1: through the whole evening from your perspective, the good the

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Speaker 1: Bad's what you thought when the two of them walked

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Speaker 1: in and you met them both the first time. Was

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Speaker 1: your first interaction one of Oh my gosh, I could

539
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Speaker 1: actually see these two as like they're a couple or

540
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Speaker 1: was it like these two have total different vibes.

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Speaker 7: No, Actually, I could totally see them dating. I really could.

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Speaker 6: I think they have a lot of things in common

543
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Speaker 6: from what I talked to both of them about.

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Speaker 7: It really just could be timing and the place.

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Speaker 6: So I don't think when it comes to dating. I

546
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Speaker 6: would just tell her number one, don't take things personally either.

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Speaker 6: It had nothing to do with her. She did everything right.

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Speaker 6: She was herself, she was personable, she was outgoing, she

549
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Speaker 6: was lovely.

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Speaker 7: To speak to.

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Speaker 3: She looked incredible, like she was the package. So it's

552
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Speaker 3: not about you, it's the other person. And that's okay

553
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Speaker 3: because that does not mean that your person's not out there.

554
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Speaker 3: Just has to mean that you haven't met them yet.

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Speaker 5: That's right.

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Speaker 1: Well, Cynthia, make us a deal here. If we bring

557
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Speaker 1: Dianna to New York City to put her on a date,

558
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Speaker 1: you are going to go sit like a table beside them.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I'm gonna put on.

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Speaker 7: A trench coat, I've got my sunglasses.

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Speaker 1: And break it down for us right here, famously available, Cynthia,

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Speaker 1: thank you for coming on, thank you for going on

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Speaker 1: the data. I hope you had a great time, but

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Speaker 1: also your insight is very helpful.

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Speaker 5: We appreciate you.

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Speaker 6: Anytime I've got her back, I'll be her wingwoman here

567
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Speaker 6: in New York.

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Speaker 5: I love it.

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Speaker 1: Thanks Cynthia, Thanks Ben. All Right, so we've gotten Cynthia's

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Speaker 1: perspective on the date. That's an outsider looking in and

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Speaker 1: giving us everything she saw. But stay tuned to this

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Speaker 1: week as we get Diana on the show to hear

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Speaker 1: her perspective on why the date worked or didn't work.

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Speaker 1: Or maybe there's some insights that we just aren't knowledgeable

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Speaker 1: of right now that will help bring clarity to the

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Speaker 1: situation at hand.

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Speaker 5: So stay tuned until next time. I've been Ben