Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. We're high Hi, America.
Speaker 2: I'm Nila, and it is.
Speaker 1: Wednesday, Wednesday, and our kids are outside being loud, so
Speaker 1: sorry if you hear them, it's just they don't speak English,
Speaker 1: so when we tell them to do something else, they
Speaker 1: don't listen.
Speaker 3: How's your Wednesday, Erica?
Speaker 4: My Wednesday is going pretty good.
Speaker 5: I haven't really eaten today because I woke up, then
Speaker 5: I had conference calls and shit, we wrote calls, and
Speaker 5: then I worked out, and then you came over and
Speaker 5: then I was like, you can do grocery shopping, and
Speaker 5: then we had to do another podcast, and then we
Speaker 5: had to drink on the podcast because I don't know why.
Speaker 3: That's this is our job for some reason.
Speaker 5: And now I'm drunk and I haven't really eaten.
Speaker 3: So that's where I'm at with it. Yep, that's exactly
Speaker 3: how my day went.
Speaker 1: We Also, I was also just stressed out, and I
Speaker 1: found out, in addition to already being stressed out, that
Speaker 1: the stay home order in California has extended to July,
Speaker 1: not June July, and that means it's going to skip
Speaker 1: right over my birthday. And I'm pissed but now I'm
Speaker 1: just drunk, so it's fine. And also summer camp is
Speaker 1: not happening. Fuck okay, anyway, no problems.
Speaker 3: We are joined today by the Lovely Lady.
Speaker 1: Okay, there's that highness again, the Lovely Ladies of Sapphire's.
Speaker 2: Ear play Hello Megan and yeah, hey else. Oh we're
Speaker 2: throwing out government names.
Speaker 1: Oh shit, I'm sorry. Okay, So a little background, Sapphire.
Speaker 3: We'll believe it. You'll believe it because you're doing.
Speaker 2: Don't worry. I'm registered under Megan Sapphire on SAG.
Speaker 6: It's just weird on this pot, guys.
Speaker 1: So I know Sapphire as Megan from Saint John's High
Speaker 1: School in Panoramic City.
Speaker 3: We high school together. I was a year ahead of her.
Speaker 1: There was probably two black people, three black people at
Speaker 1: the school at the same time, so of course you
Speaker 1: know each other.
Speaker 3: And ten years later, here we are talking sex on
Speaker 3: the internet.
Speaker 2: MoMA. Yes we did, Yes we did.
Speaker 6: And you've actually come on one of my other shows before,
Speaker 6: when I was at Playboy years ago, actually when.
Speaker 1: I wanted to when I wanted to be a blogger,
Speaker 1: called dirty Lipstick, Dirty Dirty Lipstick. Actually, it's so funny
Speaker 1: that you say that because we were on Playboy Radio
Speaker 1: and when Erica approached me and asked me to do
Speaker 1: this podcast, I was like, she was like, going to
Speaker 1: do a podcast together. I'm like, what's that? She was like,
Speaker 1: you know, I was like, like radio, She was like yeah.
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I did that one time with
Speaker 1: my friend. I was talking about you and I liked it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I knew.
Speaker 1: I was like, I knew from that experience that it
Speaker 1: was up my alley. So honestly, thank you started.
Speaker 6: Her journey into You're welcome. You mamas are killing it.
Speaker 6: I mean it's not easy, y'all, just like change my
Speaker 6: view on milks. So I'm like, okay, let me hop
Speaker 6: on the milk train and get myself ready because what
Speaker 6: we're going to take your time.
Speaker 3: That's what we're here for.
Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't have that long prep.
Speaker 6: One of my girlfriends is actually getting ready to have
Speaker 6: a baby, so that's a whole assxt.
Speaker 7: Wait, one of your girlfriends is as and girlfriends that
Speaker 7: you're intimate with, yes, yeah, okay, okay, So I'm so
Speaker 7: happy that you brought this up because you know, I
Speaker 7: want to get in your business more than I'm already
Speaker 7: in your business.
Speaker 2: Well, we got to get into my co host's business.
Speaker 1: Okay, we're first of all, we're getting into both of
Speaker 1: your businesses.
Speaker 3: That's just the man.
Speaker 4: She just trying to get the heat off of her.
Speaker 2: Always always, I got.
Speaker 3: To so what's your business?
Speaker 5: Yes, tell us all about you girls?
Speaker 4: WHOA let's see. Oh well, I shot porn.
Speaker 8: Started in two thousand and nine, moved to LA in
Speaker 8: twenty twelve, and I started doing podcast appearances.
Speaker 4: Was it podcast?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Yes? And oh no you were doing you were doing
Speaker 2: adult radio appearances. Yeah, a radio appearances after us right now?
Speaker 3: Where they att?
Speaker 8: Yeah, that's living in the bay.
Speaker 5: You were shooting you were in porn or you were
Speaker 5: shooting the porn.
Speaker 4: I was in porn. I was in the porns movies.
Speaker 4: I mean I was. I had my own website and everything.
Speaker 3: What was your I should write the computer. I'm sorry
Speaker 3: you guys.
Speaker 2: Oh what I think I saw a titty flash? So
Speaker 2: that's some one else can see.
Speaker 3: That frowning again my booth frown.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, honestly, oh my god, it looks sad,
Speaker 6: so sad.
Speaker 3: What are you doing over there? Are rolling a black
Speaker 3: woo me?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure, I was like, that's like I can
Speaker 1: hear it on the You're like, you're at the end
Speaker 1: where you about to start.
Speaker 2: She's given.
Speaker 3: This is a she also like a sex operator over there.
Speaker 4: You see this?
Speaker 3: You have sex operations, haven't.
Speaker 8: I've had lots of phone sex, like when I was younger,
Speaker 8: I used to be on the chat lines rubbing it out.
Speaker 3: You know, how did you get into the porn industry?
Speaker 3: What what led?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 3: How did you?
Speaker 8: I watched a real sex episode and they had featured
Speaker 8: fucking machines.
Speaker 4: Found out it was in San Francisco at the Armory
Speaker 4: Rescue Peace to the Armory.
Speaker 2: I was about to say that, what's the armory?
Speaker 3: Hold on, hold on one second, you guys sure.
Speaker 4: This is pretty nice.
Speaker 5: We're talking sex positions just to just at you guys. Know,
Speaker 5: our kids are are not inside of the room. They're
Speaker 5: outside playing living their best five year old lives. But
Speaker 5: they're just being too loud.
Speaker 3: As we talk sex clubs or I don't know what.
Speaker 8: M If you ever heard of kink dot com, that
Speaker 8: is where they did all their fetish porn, m M.
Speaker 8: It was a kids to straight to gay. Everything was
Speaker 8: pretty much. It was like a nice sanctuary. It looked scary,
Speaker 8: like if you ever seen the Shining. We had a
Speaker 8: really long hallway and random cats pop up at night,
Speaker 8: you know, in that building.
Speaker 2: But yeah, we.
Speaker 8: There's like bondage hog tie like all kinds of crazy stuff.
Speaker 4: Falls on at the armory.
Speaker 8: But that's where I started, uh, using a fucking machine.
Speaker 4: And if anybody doesn't know what a.
Speaker 8: Fucking machine is, it's basically a device that's operated by
Speaker 8: a controller a.
Speaker 3: Switch as a dude though attached to.
Speaker 4: It, and it moves in the vagina.
Speaker 3: I think it's pretty self explained to her.
Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I started there.
Speaker 3: And what's your what was your what's your porn name?
Speaker 3: If you know? About to look you up tonight, girl,
Speaker 3: But I haven't looking.
Speaker 5: I need to find some new porns, you know, might
Speaker 5: as well research somebody.
Speaker 3: God of actually, someone that I've met is kind of
Speaker 3: even more sexy. So yeah, like now and now I
Speaker 3: can't help but do the same. Now I must look
Speaker 3: at yes too.
Speaker 6: I feel like you guys are gonna look it up
Speaker 6: like right now, babe, babe, guess.
Speaker 3: What I did today? I was I was hanging out
Speaker 3: with yeahs and you want to see let's let's check
Speaker 3: her out, I.
Speaker 4: Got off a review.
Speaker 3: Podcast.
Speaker 8: But after that, like I took maybe a little while
Speaker 8: off because I didn't fully understand my sexuality at the time,
Speaker 8: so I thought what I was doing was like demonic
Speaker 8: and evil because if you look at past like history,
Speaker 8: bondage and stuff was not considered a good thing, Like
Speaker 8: they tortured people back in the day, especially.
Speaker 2: People of color.
Speaker 8: So I was really conflicted with me being a woman
Speaker 8: of color liking to be flogged and choked and tied up,
Speaker 8: like is.
Speaker 4: There something wrong with me? But you know, once I
Speaker 4: moved to LA and just started shooting regular.
Speaker 8: Porn with males and females, because when when I started,
Speaker 8: I was only doing like solos and shows. So when
Speaker 8: I got to LA and got around like a nice
Speaker 8: circle of people, I had a mentor that really put
Speaker 8: me under his belt and just showed me the repes
Speaker 8: of the business. And I also learned on my own
Speaker 8: as well, and just doing more further research about bondage
Speaker 8: and everything and just realizing this is something I like,
Speaker 8: this is me. So after that I just started doing
Speaker 8: boy girl films and I hooked up with a pr
Speaker 8: rep a publicist I'm sorry, and they hooked me up
Speaker 8: with Sapphire on Chocolate City Radio That's with Naomi Banks.
Speaker 3: And all that.
Speaker 8: So it was like from then I felt like I
Speaker 8: was on every show with Sapphire.
Speaker 6: Yeah, she was always coming on like it was great,
Speaker 6: it was good, that's dope.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So it just kind of.
Speaker 6: Like and then from there, I also was working behind
Speaker 6: the scenes in adult films, doing just mostly the radio stuff.
Speaker 6: And then on top of that, I've done regular radio,
Speaker 6: so I produced hip hop radio in San Diego. I
Speaker 6: lived up in the Bay, went to school in the Bay,
Speaker 6: and then moved back to LA And I'm just a filthy,
Speaker 6: fucking horn when it comes to talking about my sex
Speaker 6: life because she used.
Speaker 3: To be a little vanilla though.
Speaker 2: Wait, so.
Speaker 1: Would you say when I when I caught up with you,
Speaker 1: were you still vanilla at that point?
Speaker 6: Or I have a girl I was in, like a
Speaker 6: really bad first relationship with a female.
Speaker 2: She's the fucking cunt.
Speaker 3: Okay, I just need to remember a woman.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she was so light.
Speaker 6: She just didn't get it, Like she didn't get that
Speaker 6: her girlfriend at the time was bisexual. And like, look,
Speaker 6: I love dildo's too, and I love eating Crissie, but
Speaker 6: like I want a real fla. Yeah, Dick, Yeah, I
Speaker 6: want to be on FU other people like I. I
Speaker 6: was never the person to be monogamous. Like by the
Speaker 6: time I graduated college, I had over one hundred and
Speaker 6: fifty partners at the time.
Speaker 1: Wow, how do you know that you wrote it down?
Speaker 2: Harris?
Speaker 3: What about you?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 1: What your signed a Scorpioay scorpios, So you know you
Speaker 1: just have to document it.
Speaker 6: And like, again, I've been in radio, so it's like,
Speaker 6: this is why I thrived on talking. So well if
Speaker 6: I'm going to do it right, well.
Speaker 1: Sapphire and I met in high school and our high
Speaker 1: school was actually a Catholic school, and I religious, are
Speaker 1: you just.
Speaker 3: Going to the school? How are they horror over there?
Speaker 3: I just want to know.
Speaker 2: I mean I was I was raised very Catholic.
Speaker 6: And here's the thing to me, Like I was still
Speaker 6: very much a free in high school.
Speaker 2: You just no one really knew.
Speaker 6: It because you know, I was in all the like
Speaker 6: pure things like.
Speaker 2: Council that bush.
Speaker 1: Yeah, school, yeah, she was, she was like she was
Speaker 1: like the how do you say, like she had a
Speaker 1: lot of school spir nerd she was a school she
Speaker 1: had a lot of school spirit.
Speaker 3: Is what close she was captain of the Spirit team. Yeah,
Speaker 3: the Spirit team.
Speaker 6: Spirit all right, I had spirit, But I know I
Speaker 6: was not a cheerleader a dancer like mister Jamila over there.
Speaker 3: I never knew Jamila was a cheerleader.
Speaker 5: And then like recently she was.
Speaker 3: Like yeah what I was like I was. She's like, yeah, like,
Speaker 3: you know, I used to compete.
Speaker 2: I was like what.
Speaker 6: I was like, you want to know something. I was like,
Speaker 6: she's told me good on this squad. Like to be honest,
Speaker 6: She's like she was she was still.
Speaker 3: Still the top cheerleader.
Speaker 1: I mean I told her I was like the cheer
Speaker 1: and the dance team were the best, the best teams
Speaker 1: of school had going. You know, like nothing else was
Speaker 1: excelling except for the dance team. Not everything else was
Speaker 1: very not good. It was almost it was painful to
Speaker 1: cheer for those teams.
Speaker 2: I mean, I have to brag a little. I sang
Speaker 2: very well, yes, she can say, I sang my ass on.
Speaker 2: So that was like, oh my God, let.
Speaker 1: Me, God send me a miracle, ready to send you?
Speaker 2: So are you ready for me?
Speaker 3: Are you ready for me?
Speaker 1: I guess I think I remember you leading that and
Speaker 1: the Holy ghost is coming over you.
Speaker 6: Oh no, the Holy Ghost is probably like, no, this girl,
Speaker 6: the Holy.
Speaker 3: Ghost came over.
Speaker 5: The girl I was.
Speaker 6: At one point, I was like the epitome Catholic school girl,
Speaker 6: like I was singing in two Catholic choirs, Like I
Speaker 6: don't know what the fuck happened?
Speaker 2: You know, you leave, I'm an only child.
Speaker 3: You are literally that girl.
Speaker 5: You are the Catholic school girl that went freak that
Speaker 5: you are the one that you're the one that you're
Speaker 5: the stereotype.
Speaker 6: I guess, like I didn't do blowing like high school.
Speaker 6: I didn't do any of that, of course, And I
Speaker 6: didn't do in high school of course.
Speaker 5: Not you don't like that, you don't do you go
Speaker 5: to church and then after you I was bad.
Speaker 3: But I didn't do blow in high school either. I was.
Speaker 2: No age kids are doing in high school.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's fine and all.
Speaker 2: That, And I'm like, well, I knew a girl that brought.
Speaker 8: The date rate drug to school and did it with
Speaker 8: her friends.
Speaker 4: Yeah, they wanted to get hot at school.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 8: But at the same time, when I was going to
Speaker 8: a white school, so I don't know if that was
Speaker 8: like a cry for.
Speaker 3: Where are you from?
Speaker 4: I'm really for the Bay, but I went to high
Speaker 4: school in Sacramento.
Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, And I'm so you're from out here, right
Speaker 5: Valley girls.
Speaker 2: The Valley, the good old Valley to Valley.
Speaker 4: It's crazy they called stalked in the valley. Yes, there's
Speaker 4: no valley.
Speaker 2: There's nothing but thousand stalking.
Speaker 4: There's of STDs and stocked in in Modesto. It's crazy.
Speaker 3: What I just came back on.
Speaker 4: Wait, so, like when I went to the guy to
Speaker 4: college and she says she does like nonprofit like health
Speaker 4: work out in that way, and she said, like there's.
Speaker 8: So many chlamydia and syphilist cases out there, like it's disgusting.
Speaker 4: Why nobody wants to fuck anybody from the Central Valley.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm.
Speaker 3: Wait, so I want to know.
Speaker 5: So Jamila told me that and that you have been
Speaker 5: in a poly relationship. I'm trying to get let's get
Speaker 5: to it, because I have questions.
Speaker 3: I want to I'm nosy, and.
Speaker 1: We want to know specifically because we were embarking in
Speaker 1: all our options as single women, and we've had a
Speaker 1: mama who's open, open in an open marriage, so we're
Speaker 1: well versed in the openness. But Polly, I know it's
Speaker 1: different but I need to know how, and I think
Speaker 1: I'm Polly, so I need to know more. She's like,
Speaker 1: you need a checklist, she needs to check all about
Speaker 1: because I also recently this year found out I was
Speaker 1: what is the other one?
Speaker 2: Pan sexual?
Speaker 3: Pand sexual? Yes, so okay to add some more things
Speaker 3: to my list to her LinkedIn, I didn't.
Speaker 6: Know check it all off, honey, I'm like, shit, you're younger, hot,
Speaker 6: fucking do everything, like do everything, okay, So Polly, I've
Speaker 6: been polyamorous. Like some people think when I say I'm Polly,
Speaker 6: they think I'm saying like I'm a polygamous and that's
Speaker 6: an absolute no no, Like I'm not married. I don't
Speaker 6: have a husband who has multiple wives. Like, no, I
Speaker 6: am not a polygamist. I am polyamorhate. I have a
Speaker 6: dom who is my what I call my primary partner,
Speaker 6: so he's literally like the only main.
Speaker 2: Dude I have sex with.
Speaker 6: I really like, I'm really kind of just more gay
Speaker 6: for pussy, pussy and transsexuals.
Speaker 3: Like I'm gay from pussy in transsexuals.
Speaker 1: Yeah, transsexuals as.
Speaker 6: In transgender a transgender sorry let me not say transsexual transgender. Yeah,
Speaker 6: Like I'm more attracted to just more females. To be honest,
Speaker 6: like this man, I absolutely adore I love him. It
Speaker 6: was funny because we really weren't looking for a relationship.
Speaker 6: It was kind of like we sucked ourselves into a relationship,
Speaker 6: which it was just very open and free. Like our
Speaker 6: first date, he told me he.
Speaker 2: Was a DOM and.
Speaker 5: Is your dom transgender?
Speaker 2: No? No, no, he is.
Speaker 6: This male, handsome white boy from the South l Yeah.
Speaker 6: I've like kind of spanned across late. I've been with
Speaker 6: a male to female, I've been with female to male.
Speaker 6: I've been with gender lists where they just non binary
Speaker 6: for what.
Speaker 5: So you don't need to watch that right now, Okay,
Speaker 5: but I'll watch it later. Go I'm going go watch
Speaker 5: your TV please. Okay, I'll wash it in a little bit.
Speaker 5: I'm working, I'm recording. No, I go, thank you, close
Speaker 5: the door. I love you?
Speaker 4: Like are YouTubers.
Speaker 1: I could do it, Mommy, you can't remember that.
Speaker 2: That is so cute though, That's where I was. Fuck. Yeah.
Speaker 6: So I've been with trans males to females, female to males,
Speaker 6: non binary, and of course a lot of women, a
Speaker 6: lot of men.
Speaker 2: But I'm more of like.
Speaker 3: So you mostly like you, mostly like women.
Speaker 2: Yes, mostly like women. So then why so.
Speaker 3: Then why is that your dom a male?
Speaker 2: Then why is my dama maile?
Speaker 5: Okay, I mean I'm just wondering, like, wouldn't it be
Speaker 5: the I don't know, I don't I don't know.
Speaker 3: I don't think you planned it that way.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 5: I was trying to understand poll I thought dom meant
Speaker 5: like that's.
Speaker 4: Your main person.
Speaker 3: So he is her main person, but she has relationships
Speaker 3: with other people, right.
Speaker 6: Yes, so I have a dom who again it has
Speaker 6: nothing to do with like being Polly, so like him
Speaker 6: and I.
Speaker 2: We started off he was my dom. I was a sub.
Speaker 6: It was BDSM and straight fucking like it. We had
Speaker 6: weekly dick appointments and that was it. And then it
Speaker 6: started evolving into a relationship where we're like I really
Speaker 6: like your company. I like you too, I like how
Speaker 6: open you are? How open do you want to be?
Speaker 6: And literally, after a nice little orgy during Pride weekend
Speaker 6: two years ago, I like took him the shower and
Speaker 6: I was like, I I want to be Pollie, Like,
Speaker 6: do you think we can like open this? Like I
Speaker 6: already know that you openly do your thing. I openly
Speaker 6: do my thing. We come back to each other like
Speaker 6: we I don't feel a type way of anything. I've
Speaker 6: loved hearing when he's fucking other people, and if I'm
Speaker 6: in the room, so be it. I'm like, that is
Speaker 6: so hot to me. I fucking love watching him, just
Speaker 6: like vice versa. And so after that, a girl that
Speaker 6: we were playing with eventually became individually and both the
Speaker 6: three of us share a girlfriend. So that's where the
Speaker 6: POLLI thing goes ahead. So here's like the little math problems.
Speaker 6: So I have my main guy, mister suit and tie
Speaker 6: as I call him, who's also my dom suit and
Speaker 6: tie because that's suit, and it's Alli fucking wears suit
Speaker 6: and tie.
Speaker 2: That's it.
Speaker 3: Is he a business guy, it's like a businessman.
Speaker 2: He's a writer.
Speaker 6: He's a writer, so he but that's what he prefers
Speaker 6: to wear, like he does not really wear like anything.
Speaker 6: You dapper man, yes, a very dapper man. And then we,
Speaker 6: like I said, we have a girlfriend who is married.
Speaker 6: Their marriage their Polly, but her husband is more of
Speaker 6: a swinger, so he's not really like.
Speaker 2: Dating us per se.
Speaker 6: Like we do have sex from time to time, but
Speaker 6: it's not like a relationship type of thing, and then
Speaker 6: outside of our three are throufle we also have two
Speaker 6: other partners. One of them is my other girlfriend and
Speaker 6: I guess I'm part of now you could say it
Speaker 6: throuple because her main partner is also a guy that
Speaker 6: I thought, So.
Speaker 2: Technically I have main dude, but then this is.
Speaker 6: My other dude on the side that we're evolving into
Speaker 6: a relationship as well. So technically right now I am
Speaker 6: dating five people.
Speaker 1: Jesse and you and him have a sep relationship or
Speaker 1: is it always a three way? No?
Speaker 6: No, we everybody has their own separate as well as
Speaker 6: like all together time.
Speaker 5: So so you y'all okay, so you've been with every
Speaker 5: person that he's been with, and he's been with every
Speaker 5: person you've been with.
Speaker 2: At least in art what we call tribe.
Speaker 6: Yes, yeah, like either it's all five guys one on one,
Speaker 6: it might be just the girls.
Speaker 2: You know, it's just kind of like, how do you
Speaker 2: want I have?
Speaker 3: How do you find time?
Speaker 5: Honestly, do you guys actually dedicate real time to one another?
Speaker 8: Like?
Speaker 6: Yeah, obviously we have like designated day times and all that,
Speaker 6: especially with mister studentye, Like we have set weekly dates
Speaker 6: because we're also in business. With each other, So we
Speaker 6: have like our business nights, of course the terms of
Speaker 6: the sex always because that's like my reward. And then
Speaker 6: and then we have our date nights, which is great,
Speaker 6: so we we can definitely separate business from pleasure whenever.
Speaker 6: And that's the same with the other my our girlfriend,
Speaker 6: and then the other couple and my girlfriend, my other
Speaker 6: two girlfriends or other girlfriends.
Speaker 2: My gosh, it's a lot.
Speaker 3: Is it important?
Speaker 5: Is it important for your dom to be attracted to
Speaker 5: all of the people in.
Speaker 3: Your try tribe?
Speaker 6: I would say yes, because we're like when we're all
Speaker 6: together where you live, you know, we if we're out
Speaker 6: in public, you know, I might turn around and kiss
Speaker 6: the girlfriend, one of the girlfriends, might kiss both of
Speaker 6: the girlfriends, might kiss both of the guys.
Speaker 5: So it's like yes, so you guys do hang out
Speaker 5: in all together too, and like, yeah, group dates, that
Speaker 5: sounds fun.
Speaker 6: Yeah, we go on group dates. We go on hangouts. Like,
Speaker 6: not everything is about sex either. Like at the end
Speaker 6: of the day, we are really good friends with each other.
Speaker 6: There are times where we can have sex where we're
Speaker 6: just like we're hanging out, but you know, we just
Speaker 6: make it very important to have like one on ones,
Speaker 6: group dates and then try.
Speaker 2: Dates as we call them. But it's not a requirement
Speaker 2: that suit and tie.
Speaker 6: You know, if he wants to bring somebody in, yes
Speaker 6: I want to be attracted to them, but it's not
Speaker 6: a requirement of our relationship.
Speaker 3: But for you, for for your whoever you bring in
Speaker 3: it, it is kind of a requirement.
Speaker 2: Oh.
Speaker 6: I mean, if I'm having sex with somebody, anybody, I
Speaker 6: need to be I have to be attracted to you.
Speaker 5: But because you're his sub, because you're his sub and
Speaker 5: he's your dom, is it is it more important that
Speaker 5: he is attracted to Is there?
Speaker 3: I don't know if there's that dynamic.
Speaker 6: To like that power is that that we crossed in
Speaker 6: the lines of like cutcolding And we definitely don't do that,
Speaker 6: Like he doesn't degrade me and flip he's fucking somebody else,
Speaker 6: Like he does not do that. So you know, if
Speaker 6: we do decide to bring somebody else, we just make
Speaker 6: sure that everybody's mutually.
Speaker 2: You know, all responsive and everything. Because again it's just
Speaker 2: like attract there any.
Speaker 5: Rule other rules, And when it's polyamorous, is it just
Speaker 5: free love like or there are rules and boundaries to relationships?
Speaker 3: How do you navigate safety too, Like safety is.
Speaker 2: A big thing.
Speaker 6: So we are extremely, extremely in communications with each other.
Speaker 6: So there have been you know, scares where someone had
Speaker 6: like siphilists for someone had herpes, and you know, we
Speaker 6: all had to get tested and you know, just figure
Speaker 6: out ways to prevent things from happening. So we're extremely open.
Speaker 6: And yeah, everybody has their you know, their boundaries. Like
Speaker 6: one of my girlfriends, she does not want to hear
Speaker 6: nor see things that happen like some of us. We
Speaker 6: like to send each other videos. If you know, my
Speaker 6: girlfriend is fucking suit and tie. One of my girlfriends
Speaker 6: is fucking sudenthie. That girlfriend sometimes send me videos and I'm.
Speaker 2: All for that.
Speaker 6: And then there's you know, my other girlfriend with her partner.
Speaker 6: If him and I are having a solo date, he
Speaker 6: you know, she doesn't want to see anything. And I
Speaker 6: try also to be mindful of what I post on
Speaker 6: social media, like for instance, the married So again I
Speaker 6: have one married girlfriend, one who's just in a relationship.
Speaker 6: The married girlfriend, I can't post on social media. She's
Speaker 6: not out to her parents, she's not out to her family.
Speaker 6: And she also is a therapist, so she's trying to
Speaker 6: protect her business as well, because that's not something her licenses,
Speaker 6: you know, spans out to be.
Speaker 2: But at the same time, I do have my.
Speaker 6: Other girlfriend who I publicly post in times, and you know,
Speaker 6: everything is fine with that, but we all respect one another,
Speaker 6: you know, with the safe sex, like all of us,
Speaker 6: we are not fluidly bonded. So sent Ty and I
Speaker 6: we've been together for five years, but we use condoms
Speaker 6: because he openly fucks other people. I sometimes have a
Speaker 6: filling or two, which is very minimal. I'm what they
Speaker 6: call polypatri so what I call Polly saturated. So yeah,
Speaker 6: poly saturating means that I'm only with the people that
Speaker 6: I'm like Polly with in a polyamorous relationship with I'm
Speaker 6: not going out and seeking strange Like I'm not going
Speaker 6: on tender and fucking some random people.
Speaker 2: Like I'm bored. I'm done with that. God, I get
Speaker 2: all the good sex with my people.
Speaker 3: What do we call it select We're a selective hose
Speaker 3: now I adopted that today.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I am a hoe in my relationships, but I'm
Speaker 6: very selective.
Speaker 2: Like some people try to jump in.
Speaker 6: They're like, oh, you know, like I would love to,
Speaker 6: and I'm like.
Speaker 5: Like we finally we're on our groove over here now right, Okay,
Speaker 5: we're not our groove, bitch.
Speaker 3: We don't need nobody.
Speaker 2: Perfect ladies.
Speaker 6: When I tell you that, I have to say, like
Speaker 6: in all my ears, because I was never a person
Speaker 6: to date. I was never about really relationships. I'm always
Speaker 6: about fuck marriage, fucking relationship. Then I meet this man
Speaker 6: who gives me everything, who respects me for me and
Speaker 6: my sexuality, and that's very hard to find, especially like
Speaker 6: as a black female. Come on, there are hell of
Speaker 6: men that are like, oh, yeah, I'm down with you
Speaker 6: being by, but like, only if we're in it together.
Speaker 2: No, motherfucker, that's literally the inship you want.
Speaker 5: Right Wait, I thought I were just fucking missions together
Speaker 5: and I get to fuck too, well, you're not here.
Speaker 6: Yeah, So I've had plenty of those, so and yes,
Speaker 6: and I we talked about it all the time. I
Speaker 6: talk about it. A lot of black men do not
Speaker 6: like me per se because they can't handle the fact
Speaker 6: that I have girlfriends, a boyfriend. Oh, I have another
Speaker 6: guy that I'm establishing a relationship with, Like I got
Speaker 6: the big dick department. They all leave pussy. The only
Speaker 6: thing they don't do the guys. It's like each other
Speaker 6: when we're all together.
Speaker 5: The guys are like, are are the people that are
Speaker 5: in a relationship are they? Is it a mixed with
Speaker 5: what are the Is it a mixed situation or is
Speaker 5: it mostly white?
Speaker 3: Is it black? What is the dynamics?
Speaker 2: The ladies? The ladies are.
Speaker 6: One of my girlfriends is Mexican and oh my god,
Speaker 6: she's mixed with something.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, dabe. The one that you was on Live
Speaker 2: with No, that's the married one. The married one. She's
Speaker 2: Middle Eastern and Jewish. Gotcha, yeah, but are you going
Speaker 2: on Live with her?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: She's the secret one.
Speaker 9: Well, she was like a disappear in twenty four hours.
Speaker 9: We were Yeah, we were drunk. It was my birthday,
Speaker 9: she put. Okay, she had like she was disguised.
Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, actually shocked too because I was like, wa,
Speaker 6: you want to be on the line.
Speaker 3: Okay, hmm, here's your birthday.
Speaker 2: It was my birthday. It was late, it was lit. God,
Speaker 2: my vagina hurts. I'm sorry, but.
Speaker 6: Really this quarantine, like I swear to God, like now
Speaker 6: I like have to go get some quarantine days and.
Speaker 2: I'm loving it.
Speaker 6: It's just I'm hurting today. I'm a little store. It's
Speaker 6: up in the in the US. I'm sorry that's too
Speaker 6: much for everybody, but like you up last.
Speaker 8: Night, ever too much for SAH and I don't say
Speaker 8: there's ever anything too much for their show.
Speaker 6: I don't think this thing has been for a long
Speaker 6: time coming, Like I've been wanting to hang out with.
Speaker 3: These mills I forever, like no boundaries nine.
Speaker 6: I tried not to be like a little fan because like,
Speaker 6: now I know people that are fans with you, and
Speaker 6: I'm like, I actually know these women.
Speaker 2: Okay, you know how hard it is not to like
Speaker 2: release sexual energy to these women, like and be professional.
Speaker 3: We're here, We're.
Speaker 1: Here for all the sexual energy.
Speaker 3: Wait, so tell us about you.
Speaker 5: So you at the top of the at the top
Speaker 5: of the episode told us that you like big dick sometimes,
Speaker 5: and you like vagina's nice.
Speaker 3: Vagina, nice vagina, Yes, nice vagina?
Speaker 4: But you are you?
Speaker 5: Are you Polly or No?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 8: I just like to have sex. I like to have fun.
Speaker 8: Let's say that, yes, with with good vibes. It's just
Speaker 8: male or female?
Speaker 5: Could you so then you're not interested in any sort
Speaker 5: of like relationship, then you know.
Speaker 8: I tried it for six months and it just was like,
Speaker 8: this is like too much of responsibility.
Speaker 4: I still have other dick that I I.
Speaker 3: Have to conquer. No, it's that too.
Speaker 4: I feel like, you know, like there's some checks that
Speaker 4: haven't been written to me yet. So that's how I
Speaker 4: feel like.
Speaker 8: There's still guys that I still keep in contact with
Speaker 8: that I haven't had sex with.
Speaker 4: But I plan on sitting on it.
Speaker 8: Yeah, you know, like and being a relationship with somebody
Speaker 8: that's not taking that distraction out of me.
Speaker 4: It shows that I'm not ready to be with somebody.
Speaker 5: Like maybe maybe you need to be in something Pollie,
Speaker 5: maybe be in a poly relationship with benefit.
Speaker 4: It's hard in the Bay Area?
Speaker 2: Are you?
Speaker 5: Are you territorial as far as what your what your
Speaker 5: sexual partners do with other people.
Speaker 4: In a sense, yeah, Like I don't want the guy
Speaker 4: to be eating.
Speaker 8: Cushie just fuck her gets ahead, like, but yeah, that's
Speaker 8: why you can't be.
Speaker 5: Polly though it actually sounds like me exactly.
Speaker 4: So I want you to be obsessed with.
Speaker 5: Me, and I want you to tell me every detail,
Speaker 5: but you better not do this one specific thing.
Speaker 8: Yeah, just don't eat a pussy because if you eat
Speaker 8: pussy very well and you've given that to somebody else.
Speaker 3: Now that means a bit.
Speaker 8: She's gonna be around your girlfriend or something.
Speaker 4: You're gonna get the bitch pregnant.
Speaker 3: It's just it's done too much.
Speaker 6: Yeah, you know there could be the like you know
Speaker 6: that there are some women out there who can get
Speaker 6: there pussy eat in.
Speaker 2: I'm good, nobody's man.
Speaker 3: I'm if I know your relationship, I'll me too.
Speaker 1: I'm the best side how you can ever ask for
Speaker 1: the same way, in fact that if you respect your relationship,
Speaker 1: if you are really if you're like from the jump,
Speaker 1: I have a girlfriend.
Speaker 3: I love her, She's the greatest. I this is just
Speaker 3: really great. I'm just like that. I can't respect that
Speaker 3: even more. You know I would be.
Speaker 1: I respect it even more if she knows about our relationship.
Speaker 1: But like I mean, I'm not like a sideh.
Speaker 3: I don't do this.
Speaker 1: But I'm just saying in the case is when I
Speaker 1: have done it, I just I'm not out to take
Speaker 1: someone's relationship. But there are a certain type of bitches
Speaker 1: who if a nigga is treating a woman well and
Speaker 1: it's eating her pussy well and fox, then she can't
Speaker 1: understand the concept of you're going back the opening.
Speaker 8: Yeah, if he was giving the same energy he gives
Speaker 8: me to another girl, it's gonna.
Speaker 3: Be all have to be on the same page about
Speaker 3: what we're doing.
Speaker 8: Because they're guys that control how they fuck. They just
Speaker 8: like to make love to every bitch they fucked. Well,
Speaker 8: you just like there's every guy that gives daddy dick
Speaker 8: to every bitch, And me wonder why there's certain girls
Speaker 8: that are crazy, like guys don't know how to turn
Speaker 8: it down, and just like I regular, that's because I
Speaker 8: shot born.
Speaker 4: That's why I have no emotion.
Speaker 8: When I could fuck other people, I could change how
Speaker 8: I feel. Like certain people I could be around, like
Speaker 8: oh he's pussy Hella good and he likes to do this,
Speaker 8: He's hell of fun.
Speaker 4: I'll do that. Or this big dick guy, I like
Speaker 4: to get drunk with him, and you know.
Speaker 8: Like it's just when you're in a relationship, you got
Speaker 8: to think about that person's feelings, like, yeah, fucking me
Speaker 8: better than him, Oh my god, look at him and
Speaker 8: be like, damn, I just had Hella good as sex
Speaker 8: two days ago.
Speaker 3: So it's like the reason why.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 5: I'm like, I don't know if I can be in
Speaker 5: a relationship and now that I've been single for two
Speaker 5: and a half years, like almost three low key.
Speaker 3: Like I like to do what I want to do.
Speaker 5: It's like I love love, I do, and I love
Speaker 5: companionship and I do. There's a lot of times where
Speaker 5: I miss being in love and having like a partner,
Speaker 5: but then there's time. But now I'm kind of in
Speaker 5: this position where I'm like, I have a I have
Speaker 5: a choice of like do I want to be single
Speaker 5: or do I want to like go down this road
Speaker 5: of dating someone seriously.
Speaker 6: And said, you need titles, Like I technically only say
Speaker 6: titles to people so they can understand.
Speaker 5: Because I'm a scorpio and I don't want you like
Speaker 5: and you want you Why you want someone to belong
Speaker 5: to you, I don't know them to belong We need
Speaker 5: to have something sacred for sure.
Speaker 10: Right, this has to be secure as before we start
Speaker 10: like and like you love me, you don't love you
Speaker 10: love me? But I also realistic, but you know, okay,
Speaker 10: it's not really be it.
Speaker 2: It could be very much realistic.
Speaker 5: It can't be like it takes a very special person.
Speaker 5: You have to really find that partner like that really
Speaker 5: is on the same page. And that's the hardest part
Speaker 5: because men are dumb, and men also don't The brains
Speaker 5: don't work the same way as ours, even if they
Speaker 5: say they want to do something, and even if they're
Speaker 5: in their hearts of hearts they do.
Speaker 3: Like I just well for me and also me like,
Speaker 3: I just don't.
Speaker 5: And I think a lot of the men that I've
Speaker 5: dated too, I don't know about this guy that I'm
Speaker 5: dating now, but like they say they were open to
Speaker 5: like because i've I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't believe anogamy is natural.
Speaker 5: I don't when thinking about having sex with one person,
Speaker 5: my entire life sounds really sad. And I feel like,
Speaker 5: I know I can't promise that, you know, but like,
Speaker 5: and most men will say they can't either, and then
Speaker 5: they'll agree and say okay, and then you go fuck
Speaker 5: someone and then they get mad and then they feel weird.
Speaker 1: We need to have an agreement that we're both human
Speaker 1: and we're gonna love each other and be loyal to
Speaker 1: each other and honest with each other and committed to
Speaker 1: each other. But like, you know, we're only fucking human.
Speaker 1: I mean, this is you know. I don't want to
Speaker 1: cut off. I want you to be loyal to me.
Speaker 1: But I don't just like, I don't want someone to
Speaker 1: cut off my experiences. I don't want to like, what
Speaker 1: if you're in Brazil. There's two bad bitches. I mean, like,
Speaker 1: do it you're in Brazil? You know what?
Speaker 2: I feel like you got to do it early in
Speaker 2: the relationship.
Speaker 3: Well, well, so this is what I was going to say.
Speaker 1: So I'm seeing someone new right now that I met
Speaker 1: right before quarantine, and he's forty three, and.
Speaker 2: He's like serious, he's asking serious, Oh you guys, Zaddy dick.
Speaker 3: I'm getting Daddy dick.
Speaker 1: So anyway, so I figure, because he asked about the podcast,
Speaker 1: should he listen? And we're all in a very interesting
Speaker 1: just like we all put a lot of business on
Speaker 1: the internet.
Speaker 3: So you know, there's men black men especially, there's.
Speaker 1: There's association goes with women that you know talk you know,
Speaker 1: candidly about their sex life because a lot of these
Speaker 1: bitches be lying, you know when the angel like and
Speaker 1: talking about they sucked a lot of dicks, when we
Speaker 1: all know all the bitches sectcks and sat on somebody honest.
Speaker 2: So I.
Speaker 1: Promised myself, even though it feels really good and everything
Speaker 1: seems tracking off marks I'm like, I'm about to put
Speaker 1: everything on the motherfucking table, everything, everything, so you could
Speaker 1: either take it or you could leave it, so I
Speaker 1: don't find myself in love with you. And later I'm
Speaker 1: trying to sneak put things on the table, like oh,
Speaker 1: I didn't mention that because then they can run, you know.
Speaker 1: So I told him. He was like, are you ready
Speaker 1: for relationship? You're such a big personality. Can you be
Speaker 1: fulfilled with you know, just one person? And I had
Speaker 1: to really ask myself, like fuck, can I like what
Speaker 1: is enough? Because I enjoy experiences. I enjoy going down
Speaker 1: the street, meeting a stranger, dumping in the car.
Speaker 3: I don't know what's going to happen in my life.
Speaker 3: My life be happening quickly, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, dicks come up and pretty bitches, you know, like
Speaker 1: bitches come to me very easily, dance floors I have
Speaker 1: very like I put out some kind of noise.
Speaker 3: And all the bitches come. You know.
Speaker 1: It's just a magical something that God gave me. And
Speaker 1: when I turned it off to be in a relationship,
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's God given. So I told him,
Speaker 1: I said, listen, I had a lesbian threesome like two
Speaker 1: weeks ago.
Speaker 3: You know, I don't know if I want to take
Speaker 3: that away from my life.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I don't want to know if I have, I don't want.
Speaker 1: Does this mean I have to turn all of those
Speaker 1: options off at all times for the rest of my life.
Speaker 3: No? And he said, you know that wouldn't necessarily have
Speaker 3: to stop.
Speaker 4: And I was like, but so he said.
Speaker 2: Not necessarily, and that's the thing to good.
Speaker 3: Enough for me. Let's talk about it. I'm like, that's
Speaker 3: more open than usual.
Speaker 2: I feel like.
Speaker 5: Guys are using opera. You're never gonna all the bitches.
Speaker 5: I'm going to go take it slowly. I know you
Speaker 5: said you're laying it on the table. Now, you've got
Speaker 5: to lay it all out. Why, Well, when I does
Speaker 5: he does he have?
Speaker 6: Does he have dick that you can be like, look
Speaker 6: all these motherfuckers. I've had every dick in the world,
Speaker 6: every size, every flavor, everything. I'm satisfied with this one
Speaker 6: day satisfied.
Speaker 1: So I was talking to him, it's kind of like
Speaker 1: it's kind of like reserved and like not explicit, is me?
Speaker 1: So I was trying to find out I've had a
Speaker 1: big dick. So I was like, was she porn category?
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah. He was like BBC and I was like,
Speaker 1: are you BBC? And he was like, you know mister Marcus.
Speaker 1: And so immediately I went home and looked at mister
Speaker 1: Marcus's penis and then I.
Speaker 3: Screamed, and then I said, chat with him?
Speaker 1: Do you know Justin Slayer? Okay, well that's my friend,
Speaker 1: Justin I told I mentioned that too. That's also my friend.
Speaker 1: And you know, I forget that. Mentioning like that you're
Speaker 1: casually friends with porn stars for a regular guy could
Speaker 1: be like a bit, oh intimidating, and I forget that.
Speaker 3: Like, first of all, I'm a lot of personality. I
Speaker 3: talk with your porn category.
Speaker 2: I know Justin Slayer.
Speaker 3: I looked up mister marcus penis. Is this what yours
Speaker 3: looks like? I need to know? And for everybody, that's
Speaker 3: everybody can't, you know, I can't. It's intimidating and I
Speaker 3: forget that. But anyway, his big dick is really big,
Speaker 3: so that's a plus.
Speaker 2: Okay, and it works.
Speaker 6: Obviously you want to come back for more, yes, okay,
Speaker 6: let me tell you this.
Speaker 2: We gotta have a part two.
Speaker 6: I'm gonna give you some levels, because I feel like
Speaker 6: with the open relationships, Polly, there's levels, just like to
Speaker 6: regular dating, there's levels to this shit.
Speaker 2: So we're gonna have to get into these levels.
Speaker 1: Well, that concludes part one of a two part episode
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Speaker 3: next week.
Speaker 1: We ended up finding like a group of like training
Speaker 1: football players in Palm Springs.
Speaker 3: We went out.
Speaker 1: We found them the first night. I was like, oh, look,
Speaker 1: we got some eye. Candy invited them to the house
Speaker 1: the next day because we had a house and they're
Speaker 1: all there by the pool. And before they were there,
Speaker 1: I had my shirt off and I was like, they
Speaker 1: were like, the guys are coming. I was like, you, guys,
Speaker 1: I'm not putting my shirt on. All this is our house,
Speaker 1: and you know, no one could tell me to put
Speaker 1: my shirt on. I got some looks like this bitch
Speaker 1: is very annoying. And also I think sometimes I've been
Speaker 1: around friends who think if I do it, then they're
Speaker 1: gonna be reflected poorly.
Speaker 5: Well I think maybe they thought like, if you know
Speaker 5: what it is, I think they're like, well, damn, are
Speaker 5: you trying to take all the attention from all the
Speaker 5: niggas with your shirt off?
Speaker 3: I want some dick too. But wait, wait, bitch, wait,
Speaker 3: let's even the playing field here.
Speaker 1: Okay, well that's not also not my problem. No one
Speaker 1: else stands.
Speaker 3: The next stoves and the sports talk over the g