WEBVTT - EP 405: Walking Out On Dates (Ft. Ace Metaphor) 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:01.800 Welcome to decisions decisions. 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:04.480 I don't think you should say decisions decisions. It sounded 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.760 like you was talking to Kursten. You definitely say to welcome, 0:00:08.039 --> 0:00:11.440 welcome to the new podcast. You want to say together 0:00:11.920 --> 0:00:13.640 the decisions decisions. 0:00:13.920 --> 0:00:19.360 All right, guys, we are joined now by b Ace metaphor. 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:20.400 You put a lot on that. 0:00:20.600 --> 0:00:22.480 Well, I can't put the th I was like that, 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:26.880 I can't put the b A. But I just you 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:29.880 want me to say that. Actually before, but before Ace 0:00:30.040 --> 0:00:32.879 Uh came in, he actually what's your nickname? 0:00:33.000 --> 0:00:35.239 Actually? Now, didn't you say you're going by someone else? 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:36.800 And where the camera at? 0:00:37.159 --> 0:00:37.319 Why? 0:00:40.320 --> 0:00:43.720 He's rebranded young fly nigga. H I'm about to get 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:44.479 the whole combo. 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:46.360 I'm about to horrible. 0:00:47.120 --> 0:00:49.640 I don't do this ghetto no, no, no, no no, we 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:51.959 are hold on No, I still do the ghetto ship. 0:00:52.440 --> 0:00:54.880 I'm just rebranded in the way that I'm no longer 0:00:54.920 --> 0:00:55.440 sucking dick. 0:00:57.000 --> 0:00:59.560 Okay, that's a lie. That is a lie. That is 0:00:59.600 --> 0:01:00.840 a lie. I'm gonna hope it's a lot. 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:01.040 Bitch. 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:03.400 We still got horrible decision on patrioch. We do, we do? 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:04.120 We do? We do? 0:01:04.400 --> 0:01:06.760 Okay, so wait, you're rebranding, branding. So what I'm gonna 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:08.840 do is I'm about to get the you know, the 0:01:08.920 --> 0:01:10.000 sponge curls. 0:01:10.040 --> 0:01:11.679 We're not doing that doing a sponge. 0:01:11.360 --> 0:01:16.119 Curls doing I'm doing the sleeve about the whole thing, 0:01:16.200 --> 0:01:18.319 like and then the chain, the heavy ass chain with 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:19.560 the WiFi and ACE on it. 0:01:19.600 --> 0:01:20.440 So I'm not playing with you. 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:22.880 I'm just trying to be outside. I'm thirty five. 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:27.360 But so, but you just got out of a long 0:01:27.480 --> 0:01:31.520 term relationship. Yeah, so long we used together about seven years. 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:34.480 What you do? Welcome to the fucking dating point. Now 0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:35.000 what you do? 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:38.800 We're gonna talk about this because I'm trying to Yeah, 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:40.600 I'm trying to figure this out. You know a lot 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:42.880 of men feel that way, like after relationships, it'd be like, 0:01:42.920 --> 0:01:43.840 what the fuck did I do? 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:44.320 Now? 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:48.400 I feel like that's because maybe I wasn't as emotionally 0:01:48.680 --> 0:01:51.840 present in the relationship. And I had posted something on 0:01:51.880 --> 0:01:55.400 my status the other day and I was talking about 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:56.960 how when I used to work at the hospital. I 0:01:57.000 --> 0:01:59.320 worked at a hospital as a nurse for ten years, 0:01:59.640 --> 0:02:01.640 and every every day when I would go into that job, 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:03.320 I would sit at the nursing station and I would 0:02:03.480 --> 0:02:05.520 dream about a life that I want to live the 0:02:05.960 --> 0:02:09.440 life that I'm living now right right. But then now 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:11.880 that I'm living that life, every time I go to work, 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:14.239 I think about what's next, the next show, the next 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:16.360 viral moment, the next I think we do that product. 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:20.480 And I'm now repeating the same cycle of the cycle 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:22.320 I did when I was at my job. And so 0:02:22.919 --> 0:02:24.800 one of the things that I think about now being 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:28.000 as busy as I am or as driven as I am, 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:32.200 is am I available in these moments. And I think 0:02:32.480 --> 0:02:36.400 that has maybe affected some of my friendships, some of 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:40.359 my family relationships, and definitely my romantic relationships because I'm 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:41.240 not present. 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:44.200 I'm like, I'm here, I'm here. I know me too. 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:45.839 I'm not gonna lie. I'm not gonna lie. I'm gonna 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:46.160 tell y'all. 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:49.240 I have to have to interject because I really need 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:53.280 self awareness. The election, I made plans with my homegrow Brianda. 0:02:53.360 --> 0:02:55.639 She's like, we got to watch it together. I got 0:02:55.639 --> 0:02:59.120 in a disagreement with my partner the day before, and 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:01.280 when I knew he wanted to talk to me and 0:03:01.320 --> 0:03:04.120 finally hash it out, I was like, Okay, girl, let 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:05.519 me go over there and we'll figure it out later. 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:08.280 So the next day she was like, Yo, I'm really upset, 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:10.919 Like we really had plans to watch this election together, 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:14.960 like we've been talking about it all week, and I 0:03:15.080 --> 0:03:17.960 just honestly did not even remember it, Like my brain 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:20.200 just shut off because I have so many moving parts 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:21.960 of my life that I feel like I got to 0:03:22.000 --> 0:03:26.760 try to control those things, and I just couldn't believe 0:03:26.800 --> 0:03:29.320 that I couldn't be present and even realize my friend 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:30.000 needed me right. 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:31.919 There and there. Some people think the election wasn't a 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:33.280 big deal. Some people got really upset. 0:03:33.280 --> 0:03:35.560 Whatever how you feel, right, I'm assuming if you listening 0:03:35.560 --> 0:03:37.600 to this show, you're in't like the results. My damn, 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:39.720 that girl was really sitting there and I couldn't be 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:42.440 president enough to realize I can table this other shit 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:45.640 for later. That to me is a product of not 0:03:46.560 --> 0:03:49.240 boyfriend shit, but being so busy with all these other 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:49.960 things in my mind. 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:53.280 Because so you only got so much bandwidth, I mean, yes, 0:03:53.360 --> 0:03:53.600 the no. 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:57.960 So then would you then say, because we both run 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:00.440 multiple businesses, all of us too, right, And I know 0:04:00.560 --> 0:04:04.240 that that's been and you guys have heard me. That's 0:04:04.280 --> 0:04:06.560 kind of been my mindset right now with the idea 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:11.480 of me going into polyamory because I feel like, Okay, 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:14.880 I don't think I am physically. 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:16.040 Going to be as available as I need to be. 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:19.400 We're even touring this year, right, I have these multiple 0:04:19.400 --> 0:04:21.400 things that I want to do. So if I'm not 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:25.039 as physically available, and because of all this work, my 0:04:25.200 --> 0:04:27.800 mental isn't always the best all the time, so I'm 0:04:27.839 --> 0:04:30.320 not able to show up emotionally like I need to. 0:04:31.160 --> 0:04:33.719 Maybe polyamory makes sense to me because then I know 0:04:34.200 --> 0:04:36.800 he can receive the love that maybe I don't have 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:38.800 for him in the moment, and I don't have to 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:41.200 feel guilty for not being able to show up in 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:43.560 that way. But then, let me ask you, both of you, 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:46.440 do you feel like because I'm sure a lot of 0:04:46.440 --> 0:04:48.960 our listeners as well. Every time we meet y'all, y'all 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:52.120 are doctors, lawyers, teachers. All of y'all have really great 0:04:52.160 --> 0:04:53.800 paying jobs. That's why y'all are able to come see 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:57.240 us live all the time. Do you find that someone 0:04:57.279 --> 0:05:00.880 who is really busy, career driven or ambitious this will 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:05.839 inevitably always show up less in a romantic partnership. 0:05:06.080 --> 0:05:08.839 Yes and no, right Like, yes and no. 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:13.560 It's it's being able to have that balance you feel me, 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:16.279 and that balance is important. And sometimes when you're not 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:20.440 prioritizing your partner as much as you are prioritizing your purpose. 0:05:20.720 --> 0:05:26.760 And I know when you I'm sorry, I don't and 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:29.760 and what I mean is what I mean is at 0:05:29.800 --> 0:05:31.560 the point where you're like, all right, I want to 0:05:31.600 --> 0:05:35.520 dedicate my life to a person that has to be 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:41.640 equally as important as your purpose. Matter of fact, it 0:05:41.760 --> 0:05:44.440 morphs into one part of your purpose. Part of your 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:47.160 purpose in life is going to go from being a 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:50.719 coworker or an employer, or a boss or a manager 0:05:50.760 --> 0:05:53.040 to also being a husband or a wife, or a 0:05:53.080 --> 0:05:54.280 father or a mother. 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:55.640 And those are things. 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:59.760 That take equal amount of of a prioritization in your life. 0:05:59.800 --> 0:06:02.919 And it's should And the thing is going back to 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:06.279 people that are busy. So what happens is when you 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:08.320 are running your own business, your brain don't shut off. 0:06:08.760 --> 0:06:11.360 So even though I may not be busy in body, 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:12.680 I'm busy in mind. 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:16.960 So now in these relationships, in this relationship, and I'm 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:18.920 just saying so, like I can be here on the couch, 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:23.080 we're physically spending time together, but mentally I'm thinking about 0:06:23.520 --> 0:06:24.880 this and this and this. 0:06:25.120 --> 0:06:27.120 You reminding me of this conversation we had about good 0:06:27.200 --> 0:06:31.080 dads versus bad dads, and we were talking about Nick 0:06:31.120 --> 0:06:32.599 Cannon and how could he be a good dad or 0:06:32.640 --> 0:06:34.480 I was saying, because he's all over the place right 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:38.200 and my homegirl was like, girl, I'm married and his nigga. 0:06:37.960 --> 0:06:40.479 Barely show up for his kids. Yes, like you know what. 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:44.400 I mean, he's not present, So I don't know. I 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:46.000 agree with what you said about you need to make 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:48.880 the priority for your partner and your job, like completely agree. 0:06:48.960 --> 0:06:50.360 I absolutely so. 0:06:50.800 --> 0:06:55.160 I think you shouldn't even consider partnership if you know 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:55.960 you can't dive in. 0:06:56.080 --> 0:07:00.200 That's why I just don't think I'm for living for 0:07:00.520 --> 0:07:02.960 another human being, which is kind of like even it's 0:07:03.000 --> 0:07:05.400 crazy because all the roles that you said are inevitable. 0:07:05.800 --> 0:07:07.000 As a woman, I don't want to be a mother 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:07.679 or a wife. 0:07:07.839 --> 0:07:12.160 So right now I'm also navigating then how can I 0:07:12.200 --> 0:07:15.240 show up to a place where my partner understands that 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:21.200 I want them, I love them, and feels it involved 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:23.600 into a relationship to where we can be partners for 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:27.160 each other without the end goal being that motherhood or 0:07:27.240 --> 0:07:27.760 wife thing. 0:07:28.280 --> 0:07:31.520 And mind you, this goes to and I'll be honest too. 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:33.920 This is a really touchy subject for me right now 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:36.760 because yet another one of my friends I've just been 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:39.960 told diagnosed with breast cancer. So literally, in the last 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:43.720 two or three months, three people breast cancer. So they're 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:45.880 going through chemo. My other friend is going through IVF. 0:07:45.960 --> 0:07:48.480 She just finished her first round. She's going through menopause 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:52.880 at thirty three. So I'm all, no kids, So I'm 0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:55.760 having like these really deep conversations. And so when I 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:59.239 constantly have you know, these and they're all in their thirties. 0:07:59.320 --> 0:08:01.240 So when I have these conversations about Okay, well you 0:08:01.280 --> 0:08:02.640 got it, you're gonna be a mother, you're gonna be 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:05.200 a wife, me not wanting those two, I'm now feeling 0:08:05.240 --> 0:08:07.480 guilty because a lot of my friends don't have that option. 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:11.760 So while we're all dating and trying to prioritize how 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:13.760 to show up as a partner, how to show up 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:16.680 as a woman that gets chosen or gets selected or 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:19.800 gets fucking engaged, they're all dealing with fucking real life, 0:08:19.840 --> 0:08:23.240 fucking shit that now makes them less valuable right in 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:26.280 the dating pool. Wait and wait, what if they're you're saying, 0:08:26.320 --> 0:08:29.760 because they're in their thirties, right, unless we want to 0:08:29.880 --> 0:08:33.240 date someone who's fifty with already five kids or a vasectomy. 0:08:33.520 --> 0:08:36.440 A lot of the men our age want children, so 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:39.640 now they're having to have the conversation like, my one friend. 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:42.480 Has to have surrogacy. Do you know how rich you 0:08:42.880 --> 0:08:43.160 she done? 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:45.880 Already paid about fourteen thousand dollars for IVF and freezing 0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:49.440 of the eggs. So now, okay, I'm thirty five years old. 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:51.959 I need to meet a man who was fine with 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:54.200 paying thirty thousand dollars for us to just even have 0:08:54.600 --> 0:08:58.000 someone carry a baby if they want it. So now 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:01.640 we're having these conversations. I'm thirty three, they're all between 0:09:01.679 --> 0:09:02.880 thirty three and thirty eight. 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:05.839 Fuck well, who do I even date now? 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:09.559 But let me say this, we all walking our own 0:09:09.559 --> 0:09:12.839 individual journeys, right, So I want to first give space 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:15.600 to yours, Like I understand your perspective and you're saying, hey, listen, 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:17.720 I don't necessarily want to have children, nor do I 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:19.480 want to be a wife. And I feel like that 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:22.960 that is a equally as meaningful life for you, especially 0:09:23.000 --> 0:09:25.880 if you plan accordingly and you get people that's on 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:29.120 that same wavelengths and people that understand that and that's 0:09:29.120 --> 0:09:31.839 a space for that, right. I don't like when people 0:09:31.880 --> 0:09:33.760 make it seem like there's only one way to get 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:35.839 to an NGO because it's multiple different ways. 0:09:35.880 --> 0:09:36.280 For sure. 0:09:36.320 --> 0:09:38.000 My way is like I'm gonna tell you this, like 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:43.959 I'm not for the streets, Like, yes, for a little bit, 0:09:44.360 --> 0:09:47.439 I'm not gonna lie chain is given, the chain is 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:48.240 giving you for the street. 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:49.040 No, I'm not about that. 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:51.960 Look y'all gotta realize that your jewelry will let it be, 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:54.560 no will make you look like you for community or 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:59.800 you listen, this is this is a job. 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:02.720 So I read somewhere that people think I've watched means 0:10:02.720 --> 0:10:05.120 you don't have money, And I'm like, I think AVA 0:10:05.120 --> 0:10:07.520 watch kind of shows me what type of person are 0:10:07.520 --> 0:10:07.760 you like? 0:10:07.800 --> 0:10:09.880 One of those fit bit people? You're like this track? Shit? 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:12.440 Are you like super on the go? I feel like 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:15.240 corporate dudes like watching. Can I say this about the 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:17.280 money part? Let me tell you this. 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:21.480 I drive a Charger, like a twenty nineteen charger. It's 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:24.160 like a it's a good car for date bright. I 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:24.920 know it's a nice luk. 0:10:25.000 --> 0:10:30.400 I mean give it two thousand and six minutes from Florida. 0:10:30.480 --> 0:10:31.520 That's a car. 0:10:32.440 --> 0:10:33.559 So I got that charger. 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:37.000 I got that charger when I still was making like 0:10:38.200 --> 0:10:39.320 basically nurse money. 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:41.839 You know my house, You've been in my house before. 0:10:41.880 --> 0:10:44.640 He's a millionaire now, y'all, So don't even lame him. No. 0:10:44.800 --> 0:10:47.840 Like, what I'm saying is I'm a modest liver. Like 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:51.599 I love modesty. Like it's a thing. 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:52.760 Hold your medium. Here's the thing. 0:10:52.800 --> 0:10:55.040 If you don't if you don't spend, if you don't 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:57.120 spend your money, you'll definitely be broke. 0:10:57.280 --> 0:10:57.920 Let me tell you this. 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:00.000 I got my little tax bill. I got my tax 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:01.960 to build the other day, I got my tax bill. Holder, 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:07.200 hold on, man, let hear me out front me. You 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:09.679 won't never be broke. I got my tax bill right. 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:13.079 Ship was crazy. Ship was crazy when the when the 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:15.480 people call me, they said you might want to sit down. 0:11:15.760 --> 0:11:17.360 I sit down because I didn't know what they were saying. 0:11:17.440 --> 0:11:20.200 And then they said what it was, and for a 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:21.959 second I was sawty. The reason I was sawty is 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:24.560 because I don't use that much government. I do not 0:11:24.640 --> 0:11:25.360 use that much government. 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:27.040 Were not gonna do this. No, I do not use 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:27.640 that much government. 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:30.520 Don't even matter, I say, don't even matter. 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:34.400 I go voting. Ship this happens. So I've never heard 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:38.160 somebody say, use that much government. I never heard that 0:11:37.880 --> 0:11:39.160 not that much government. 0:11:39.280 --> 0:11:42.480 Hold on, you fly, that's aviation, not that hold on, 0:11:42.640 --> 0:11:46.120 hold on, that's what wind is back. I'm saying, I'm 0:11:46.120 --> 0:11:48.480 okay with paying taxes because I got to because I. 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:50.319 Don't want to go to jail. Uh huh, the main 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:51.080 reason I pay it. 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:55.040 But the amount that they asking me to pay, I 0:11:55.080 --> 0:11:56.640 don't use that much government. 0:11:56.679 --> 0:12:00.120 I'll house is not on fire. 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:01.560 In this election, all I could think every time I 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:03.319 filled up a new like value problem, I was like, 0:12:03.360 --> 0:12:04.920 oh my god, I can't believe I'm paying this much tax. 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:07.120 I can't believe it. Because you know what really makes 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:07.680 me sad. 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:10.760 They try to convince us that corporations get these tax 0:12:10.800 --> 0:12:12.680 cuts so they can hire more people. 0:12:12.679 --> 0:12:13.840 But that never happens. Bro. 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:16.640 If I got a tax cut, just another fifty or 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:19.439 seventy five for the studio, everybody would get a high race. 0:12:19.520 --> 0:12:21.520 You know what's crazy. I'm not going to when it 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:26.040 comes even companies millions, I go, I ain't gonna hold you. 0:12:26.040 --> 0:12:28.000 I ain't gonna I ain't go hold it in that. I 0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:32.000 aint gonna hold you. When it came to this election. 0:12:32.480 --> 0:12:34.840 It was none of the money met Like what they 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:36.720 were talking about with money, doesn't that I paid my 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:40.199 taxes like monthly into like quarterly estimates, like. 0:12:40.200 --> 0:12:41.760 Y'all know I did. I used to do taxes. 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:46.400 I literally was voting for women's rights, and my mama 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:49.760 made sure because I'm I'm registered in the state of Florida. 0:12:49.880 --> 0:12:52.240 She was like, bitch, I need to smoke my weed. 0:12:52.800 --> 0:12:54.720 So she was trying to make me make sure. She 0:12:54.760 --> 0:12:57.880 was like, you voted for us, Sammy right, No, I 0:12:57.920 --> 0:13:01.160 want to do our hypothetical portion of the pie job. 0:13:01.280 --> 0:13:01.600 Get there. 0:13:01.679 --> 0:13:03.800 Yes, you just stick this pointing before we get this. 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:04.040 Yes. 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:06.800 The reason I brought that up though, that the tax 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:10.200 thing is because the reason I sat down and I 0:13:10.280 --> 0:13:13.040 was like, man, it sucks, but I'm gonna just pay 0:13:13.040 --> 0:13:15.199 it because I have it, because I don't spend it. 0:13:15.880 --> 0:13:18.080 And the reason. So now, now let's go back to 0:13:18.120 --> 0:13:20.920 your original point. There are a lot of people that 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:22.520 assume I got to get this out. 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:24.760 I got to get this out. This camera on me, 0:13:24.800 --> 0:13:25.520 which one is on me? 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:28.360 Look, this is what you'll be saying in the conference. 0:13:28.520 --> 0:13:31.160 Hold on, no many, I'm gonna I'm gonna talk about 0:13:31.160 --> 0:13:33.840 ship go ahead. People will be like, yeah, he'd be 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:37.280 making he'd be making hundreds, he'd be making one hundred 0:13:37.320 --> 0:13:39.600 thousand dollars a lot of women, blah blah blah blah, 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:41.800 and paying to the women he's he's making one hundred ship. 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:43.959 First of all, I do like that shoulder first, the 0:13:44.480 --> 0:13:47.320 first of all, millions of dollars. 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:48.880 Okay, the first part. 0:13:50.800 --> 0:13:52.640 But the reasonion the reason I'm talking about it is 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:54.560 because it's probably the Apple Watch. They'd be like, that's 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:57.360 a hundred thousand dollar Nigga Apple Watch. That's probably what 0:13:57.400 --> 0:13:59.960 they're saying. It's probably the twenty nineteen you need the 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:05.000 But but what I'm saying is I saved my money. Now, 0:14:05.080 --> 0:14:06.959 go ahead, I just want to stick that lady. But 0:14:07.040 --> 0:14:09.120 the part I want to talk about, shit about is 0:14:10.000 --> 0:14:12.960 that portion of it. The and then I'm gonna let 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:16.080 you get to your hypathetical. People will be like, you know, hey, 0:14:16.120 --> 0:14:18.560 he's making and you've been on tour. Yeah, he's making 0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:21.400 all his money pandering and women. First of all, you 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:24.920 know how hard it is to produce a podcast consistent, 0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:28.320 how hard it is to grow a platform from zero 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:33.400 followers to hundreds of thousands or millions how how much 0:14:33.520 --> 0:14:36.680 andication it takes to post every day. 0:14:36.040 --> 0:14:40.120 I think it's hard, but you do make money from pandering. 0:14:40.160 --> 0:14:40.960 But I don't think it's bad. 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:42.680 But no, no, no, no, no, no no, because we. 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:45.080 Make money from pandering to people that using the word 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:46.800 pandering quotation you don't want to hear about. 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:48.360 Hear me out, hear me out, hear me out, hear 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:52.880 me out. You're right, that could be completely true. But 0:14:52.960 --> 0:14:57.000 what I'm saying is when somebody says that to me, 0:14:57.640 --> 0:15:00.440 I'd be like, no, I'm just smarter than you. Ooh, 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:03.440 I work harder than you. I'm more dedicated than you. 0:15:04.240 --> 0:15:05.280 I focused. 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:07.880 I put hundreds of thousands of dollars in my brand. 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:10.640 I've never taken a dollar from nobody. Everything I got 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:13.720 is because I flipped my own shit. Oh no, fucking body, 0:15:14.480 --> 0:15:18.960 I've paid fifty sixty seventy what is it, W nine 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:22.280 or whatever you send to people, ninety nine whatever you 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:23.680 got to send it. At the end of the year, 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:26.000 I have a whole department because it's like one hundred 0:15:26.000 --> 0:15:27.800 people that I got to do that with. You don't 0:15:27.880 --> 0:15:30.520 do that just from pandering. Even if I was just 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:34.680 a pandora. I'm a skilled dedicated, hard working. 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:38.200 There's a better word for this. Yeah, what's the word. 0:15:38.320 --> 0:15:39.040 It's salesman. 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:44.480 So okay, what I've learned about this era of internet 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:47.240 videos like yours, like when you click on your page 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:49.720 and I like watching them, right, I like consuming content 0:15:49.800 --> 0:15:52.760 like yours. Maybe a quick one minute clip I'm watching 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:55.440 and it's like really easy to flip through and share 0:15:55.840 --> 0:15:57.920 and have debates about because I could maybe pick one 0:15:57.920 --> 0:15:59.160 of your clips and we can talk about it for 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:02.240 thirty minutes. That kind of stuff I really do enjoy watching. 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:08.360 But you are selling something. You're selling either guidance, hope, 0:16:09.040 --> 0:16:11.880 something about how you say it. You're not really aggressive, 0:16:12.040 --> 0:16:13.920 so women are like they really feel like they can 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:19.040 trust your advice, and I think pandering for me it 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:21.280 may get into the red pill kind of content like 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:24.720 a Andrew Taate like, you know, pandering for that guide like. 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:26.000 Or who's the one your girl? 0:16:26.120 --> 0:16:30.320 Something Jackson Derek Jackson like that he's a parandemic. 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:32.520 Go back to those So like, if you go back 0:16:32.560 --> 0:16:33.840 to I'm gonna let you get to your. 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:36.760 I want to yeah you know we timed over, yell, okay. 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:38.880 But if you get back to even what you say, 0:16:39.000 --> 0:16:42.320 like I'll watch like you'll watch a content. Let's say 0:16:42.320 --> 0:16:44.560 it's it could be me or somebody. It didn't make 0:16:44.600 --> 0:16:46.600 you go into your pocket and say, huh, let me 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:50.320 give you fifty dollars. Right there was There's a other 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:54.160 part of that process that people skip. It's in order 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:56.960 to make money, you have to have a system. You 0:16:57.040 --> 0:16:59.960 have to have a funnel, you have to have advertisement, 0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:03.640 you have to have email systems, SMS. We got a paywall, 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:05.680 we got an app, and I got twenty five thousand 0:17:06.000 --> 0:17:07.199 paid subscribers on that. 0:17:07.480 --> 0:17:08.880 It don't happen by accident. 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:10.840 And so what I'm saying is if you're gon't call 0:17:10.920 --> 0:17:13.160 me a panda or a salesman or whatever the case 0:17:13.160 --> 0:17:14.639 may be, which I don't really, don't call me a 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:18.280 broke one. No, no, no. What I'm saying is, don't discount. 0:17:18.480 --> 0:17:21.760 Don't don't worry that because it's easier for you to 0:17:21.880 --> 0:17:25.639 accept that the reason I have more than you is 0:17:25.680 --> 0:17:27.280 because I'm lying to women. 0:17:27.920 --> 0:17:30.440 Very accept that I'm just better at it. 0:17:30.560 --> 0:17:33.680 People thought our podcast was only popular because of course 0:17:33.720 --> 0:17:35.560 you'll talk about. 0:17:34.960 --> 0:17:37.959 It's puling, right. I feel like bitches get mad at 0:17:38.000 --> 0:17:38.480 only fans. 0:17:38.560 --> 0:17:38.960 Girls. 0:17:39.080 --> 0:17:42.240 It's like you just met you a little medbag because 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:43.720 you really can't get up there and throw that pussy 0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:45.480 on there with them app you can't. Like people get 0:17:45.520 --> 0:17:47.840 really mad at only fans girl Lef've seen Twitter just. 0:17:47.840 --> 0:17:48.800