Speaker 1: Welcome to decisions decisions.
Speaker 2: I don't think you should say decisions decisions. It sounded
Speaker 2: like you was talking to Kursten. You definitely say to welcome,
Speaker 2: welcome to the new podcast. You want to say together
Speaker 2: the decisions decisions.
Speaker 3: All right, guys, we are joined now by b Ace metaphor.
Speaker 1: You put a lot on that.
Speaker 3: Well, I can't put the th I was like that,
Speaker 3: I can't put the b A. But I just you
Speaker 3: want me to say that. Actually before, but before Ace
Speaker 3: Uh came in, he actually what's your nickname?
Speaker 1: Actually? Now, didn't you say you're going by someone else?
Speaker 4: And where the camera at?
Speaker 3: Why?
Speaker 5: He's rebranded young fly nigga. H I'm about to get
Speaker 5: the whole combo.
Speaker 1: I'm about to horrible.
Speaker 3: I don't do this ghetto no, no, no, no no, we
Speaker 3: are hold on No, I still do the ghetto ship.
Speaker 3: I'm just rebranded in the way that I'm no longer
Speaker 3: sucking dick.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's a lie. That is a lie. That is
Speaker 1: a lie. I'm gonna hope it's a lot.
Speaker 2: Bitch.
Speaker 1: We still got horrible decision on patrioch. We do, we do?
Speaker 1: We do? We do?
Speaker 5: Okay, so wait, you're rebranding, branding. So what I'm gonna
Speaker 5: do is I'm about to get the you know, the
Speaker 5: sponge curls.
Speaker 1: We're not doing that doing a sponge.
Speaker 5: Curls doing I'm doing the sleeve about the whole thing,
Speaker 5: like and then the chain, the heavy ass chain with
Speaker 5: the WiFi and ACE on it.
Speaker 1: So I'm not playing with you.
Speaker 4: I'm just trying to be outside. I'm thirty five.
Speaker 1: But so, but you just got out of a long
Speaker 1: term relationship. Yeah, so long we used together about seven years.
Speaker 1: What you do? Welcome to the fucking dating point. Now
Speaker 1: what you do?
Speaker 5: We're gonna talk about this because I'm trying to Yeah,
Speaker 5: I'm trying to figure this out. You know a lot
Speaker 5: of men feel that way, like after relationships, it'd be like,
Speaker 5: what the fuck did I do?
Speaker 1: Now?
Speaker 5: I feel like that's because maybe I wasn't as emotionally
Speaker 5: present in the relationship. And I had posted something on
Speaker 5: my status the other day and I was talking about
Speaker 5: how when I used to work at the hospital. I
Speaker 5: worked at a hospital as a nurse for ten years,
Speaker 5: and every every day when I would go into that job,
Speaker 5: I would sit at the nursing station and I would
Speaker 5: dream about a life that I want to live the
Speaker 5: life that I'm living now right right. But then now
Speaker 5: that I'm living that life, every time I go to work,
Speaker 5: I think about what's next, the next show, the next
Speaker 5: viral moment, the next I think we do that product.
Speaker 5: And I'm now repeating the same cycle of the cycle
Speaker 5: I did when I was at my job. And so
Speaker 5: one of the things that I think about now being
Speaker 5: as busy as I am or as driven as I am,
Speaker 5: is am I available in these moments. And I think
Speaker 5: that has maybe affected some of my friendships, some of
Speaker 5: my family relationships, and definitely my romantic relationships because I'm
Speaker 5: not present.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm here, I'm here. I know me too.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I'm not gonna lie. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell y'all.
Speaker 2: I have to have to interject because I really need
Speaker 2: self awareness. The election, I made plans with my homegrow Brianda.
Speaker 2: She's like, we got to watch it together. I got
Speaker 2: in a disagreement with my partner the day before, and
Speaker 2: when I knew he wanted to talk to me and
Speaker 2: finally hash it out, I was like, Okay, girl, let
Speaker 2: me go over there and we'll figure it out later.
Speaker 2: So the next day she was like, Yo, I'm really upset,
Speaker 2: Like we really had plans to watch this election together,
Speaker 2: like we've been talking about it all week, and I
Speaker 2: just honestly did not even remember it, Like my brain
Speaker 2: just shut off because I have so many moving parts
Speaker 2: of my life that I feel like I got to
Speaker 2: try to control those things, and I just couldn't believe
Speaker 2: that I couldn't be present and even realize my friend
Speaker 2: needed me right.
Speaker 1: There and there. Some people think the election wasn't a
Speaker 1: big deal. Some people got really upset.
Speaker 2: Whatever how you feel, right, I'm assuming if you listening
Speaker 2: to this show, you're in't like the results. My damn,
Speaker 2: that girl was really sitting there and I couldn't be
Speaker 2: president enough to realize I can table this other shit
Speaker 2: for later. That to me is a product of not
Speaker 2: boyfriend shit, but being so busy with all these other
Speaker 2: things in my mind.
Speaker 4: Because so you only got so much bandwidth, I mean, yes,
Speaker 4: the no.
Speaker 3: So then would you then say, because we both run
Speaker 3: multiple businesses, all of us too, right, And I know
Speaker 3: that that's been and you guys have heard me. That's
Speaker 3: kind of been my mindset right now with the idea
Speaker 3: of me going into polyamory because I feel like, Okay,
Speaker 3: I don't think I am physically.
Speaker 1: Going to be as available as I need to be.
Speaker 3: We're even touring this year, right, I have these multiple
Speaker 3: things that I want to do. So if I'm not
Speaker 3: as physically available, and because of all this work, my
Speaker 3: mental isn't always the best all the time, so I'm
Speaker 3: not able to show up emotionally like I need to.
Speaker 3: Maybe polyamory makes sense to me because then I know
Speaker 3: he can receive the love that maybe I don't have
Speaker 3: for him in the moment, and I don't have to
Speaker 3: feel guilty for not being able to show up in
Speaker 3: that way. But then, let me ask you, both of you,
Speaker 3: do you feel like because I'm sure a lot of
Speaker 3: our listeners as well. Every time we meet y'all, y'all
Speaker 3: are doctors, lawyers, teachers. All of y'all have really great
Speaker 3: paying jobs. That's why y'all are able to come see
Speaker 3: us live all the time. Do you find that someone
Speaker 3: who is really busy, career driven or ambitious this will
Speaker 3: inevitably always show up less in a romantic partnership.
Speaker 4: Yes and no, right Like, yes and no.
Speaker 5: It's it's being able to have that balance you feel me,
Speaker 5: and that balance is important. And sometimes when you're not
Speaker 5: prioritizing your partner as much as you are prioritizing your purpose.
Speaker 5: And I know when you I'm sorry, I don't and
Speaker 5: and what I mean is what I mean is at
Speaker 5: the point where you're like, all right, I want to
Speaker 5: dedicate my life to a person that has to be
Speaker 5: equally as important as your purpose. Matter of fact, it
Speaker 5: morphs into one part of your purpose. Part of your
Speaker 5: purpose in life is going to go from being a
Speaker 5: coworker or an employer, or a boss or a manager
Speaker 5: to also being a husband or a wife, or a
Speaker 5: father or a mother.
Speaker 4: And those are things.
Speaker 5: That take equal amount of of a prioritization in your life.
Speaker 5: And it's should And the thing is going back to
Speaker 5: people that are busy. So what happens is when you
Speaker 5: are running your own business, your brain don't shut off.
Speaker 4: So even though I may not be busy in body,
Speaker 4: I'm busy in mind.
Speaker 5: So now in these relationships, in this relationship, and I'm
Speaker 5: just saying so, like I can be here on the couch,
Speaker 5: we're physically spending time together, but mentally I'm thinking about
Speaker 5: this and this and this.
Speaker 2: You reminding me of this conversation we had about good
Speaker 2: dads versus bad dads, and we were talking about Nick
Speaker 2: Cannon and how could he be a good dad or
Speaker 2: I was saying, because he's all over the place right
Speaker 2: and my homegirl was like, girl, I'm married and his nigga.
Speaker 1: Barely show up for his kids. Yes, like you know what.
Speaker 2: I mean, he's not present, So I don't know. I
Speaker 2: agree with what you said about you need to make
Speaker 2: the priority for your partner and your job, like completely agree.
Speaker 1: I absolutely so.
Speaker 2: I think you shouldn't even consider partnership if you know
Speaker 2: you can't dive in.
Speaker 3: That's why I just don't think I'm for living for
Speaker 3: another human being, which is kind of like even it's
Speaker 3: crazy because all the roles that you said are inevitable.
Speaker 1: As a woman, I don't want to be a mother
Speaker 1: or a wife.
Speaker 3: So right now I'm also navigating then how can I
Speaker 3: show up to a place where my partner understands that
Speaker 3: I want them, I love them, and feels it involved
Speaker 3: into a relationship to where we can be partners for
Speaker 3: each other without the end goal being that motherhood or
Speaker 3: wife thing.
Speaker 1: And mind you, this goes to and I'll be honest too.
Speaker 3: This is a really touchy subject for me right now
Speaker 3: because yet another one of my friends I've just been
Speaker 3: told diagnosed with breast cancer. So literally, in the last
Speaker 3: two or three months, three people breast cancer. So they're
Speaker 3: going through chemo. My other friend is going through IVF.
Speaker 3: She just finished her first round. She's going through menopause
Speaker 3: at thirty three. So I'm all, no kids, So I'm
Speaker 3: having like these really deep conversations. And so when I
Speaker 3: constantly have you know, these and they're all in their thirties.
Speaker 3: So when I have these conversations about Okay, well you
Speaker 3: got it, you're gonna be a mother, you're gonna be
Speaker 3: a wife, me not wanting those two, I'm now feeling
Speaker 3: guilty because a lot of my friends don't have that option.
Speaker 3: So while we're all dating and trying to prioritize how
Speaker 3: to show up as a partner, how to show up
Speaker 3: as a woman that gets chosen or gets selected or
Speaker 3: gets fucking engaged, they're all dealing with fucking real life,
Speaker 3: fucking shit that now makes them less valuable right in
Speaker 3: the dating pool. Wait and wait, what if they're you're saying,
Speaker 3: because they're in their thirties, right, unless we want to
Speaker 3: date someone who's fifty with already five kids or a vasectomy.
Speaker 3: A lot of the men our age want children, so
Speaker 3: now they're having to have the conversation like, my one friend.
Speaker 1: Has to have surrogacy. Do you know how rich you
Speaker 1: she done?
Speaker 3: Already paid about fourteen thousand dollars for IVF and freezing
Speaker 3: of the eggs. So now, okay, I'm thirty five years old.
Speaker 3: I need to meet a man who was fine with
Speaker 3: paying thirty thousand dollars for us to just even have
Speaker 3: someone carry a baby if they want it. So now
Speaker 3: we're having these conversations. I'm thirty three, they're all between
Speaker 3: thirty three and thirty eight.
Speaker 1: Fuck well, who do I even date now?
Speaker 5: But let me say this, we all walking our own
Speaker 5: individual journeys, right, So I want to first give space
Speaker 5: to yours, Like I understand your perspective and you're saying, hey, listen,
Speaker 5: I don't necessarily want to have children, nor do I
Speaker 5: want to be a wife. And I feel like that
Speaker 5: that is a equally as meaningful life for you, especially
Speaker 5: if you plan accordingly and you get people that's on
Speaker 5: that same wavelengths and people that understand that and that's
Speaker 5: a space for that, right. I don't like when people
Speaker 5: make it seem like there's only one way to get
Speaker 5: to an NGO because it's multiple different ways.
Speaker 1: For sure.
Speaker 5: My way is like I'm gonna tell you this, like
Speaker 5: I'm not for the streets, Like, yes, for a little bit,
Speaker 5: I'm not gonna lie chain is given, the chain is
Speaker 5: giving you for the street.
Speaker 4: No, I'm not about that.
Speaker 1: Look y'all gotta realize that your jewelry will let it be,
Speaker 1: no will make you look like you for community or
Speaker 1: you listen, this is this is a job.
Speaker 2: So I read somewhere that people think I've watched means
Speaker 2: you don't have money, And I'm like, I think AVA
Speaker 2: watch kind of shows me what type of person are
Speaker 2: you like?
Speaker 1: One of those fit bit people? You're like this track? Shit?
Speaker 1: Are you like super on the go? I feel like
Speaker 1: corporate dudes like watching. Can I say this about the
Speaker 1: money part? Let me tell you this.
Speaker 5: I drive a Charger, like a twenty nineteen charger. It's
Speaker 5: like a it's a good car for date bright. I
Speaker 5: know it's a nice luk.
Speaker 1: I mean give it two thousand and six minutes from Florida.
Speaker 1: That's a car.
Speaker 4: So I got that charger.
Speaker 5: I got that charger when I still was making like
Speaker 5: basically nurse money.
Speaker 4: You know my house, You've been in my house before.
Speaker 1: He's a millionaire now, y'all, So don't even lame him. No.
Speaker 5: Like, what I'm saying is I'm a modest liver. Like
Speaker 5: I love modesty. Like it's a thing.
Speaker 1: Hold your medium. Here's the thing.
Speaker 5: If you don't if you don't spend, if you don't
Speaker 5: spend your money, you'll definitely be broke.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you this.
Speaker 5: I got my little tax bill. I got my tax
Speaker 5: to build the other day, I got my tax bill. Holder,
Speaker 5: hold on, man, let hear me out front me. You
Speaker 5: won't never be broke. I got my tax bill right.
Speaker 5: Ship was crazy. Ship was crazy when the when the
Speaker 5: people call me, they said you might want to sit down.
Speaker 5: I sit down because I didn't know what they were saying.
Speaker 5: And then they said what it was, and for a
Speaker 5: second I was sawty. The reason I was sawty is
Speaker 5: because I don't use that much government. I do not
Speaker 5: use that much government.
Speaker 1: Were not gonna do this. No, I do not use
Speaker 1: that much government.
Speaker 4: Don't even matter, I say, don't even matter.
Speaker 1: I go voting. Ship this happens. So I've never heard
Speaker 1: somebody say, use that much government. I never heard that
Speaker 1: not that much government.
Speaker 5: Hold on, you fly, that's aviation, not that hold on,
Speaker 5: hold on, that's what wind is back. I'm saying, I'm
Speaker 5: okay with paying taxes because I got to because I.
Speaker 4: Don't want to go to jail. Uh huh, the main
Speaker 4: reason I pay it.
Speaker 5: But the amount that they asking me to pay, I
Speaker 5: don't use that much government.
Speaker 1: I'll house is not on fire.
Speaker 2: In this election, all I could think every time I
Speaker 2: filled up a new like value problem, I was like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, I can't believe I'm paying this much tax.
Speaker 1: I can't believe it. Because you know what really makes
Speaker 1: me sad.
Speaker 2: They try to convince us that corporations get these tax
Speaker 2: cuts so they can hire more people.
Speaker 1: But that never happens. Bro.
Speaker 2: If I got a tax cut, just another fifty or
Speaker 2: seventy five for the studio, everybody would get a high race.
Speaker 1: You know what's crazy. I'm not going to when it
Speaker 1: comes even companies millions, I go, I ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna I ain't go hold it in that. I
Speaker 1: aint gonna hold you. When it came to this election.
Speaker 3: It was none of the money met Like what they
Speaker 3: were talking about with money, doesn't that I paid my
Speaker 3: taxes like monthly into like quarterly estimates, like.
Speaker 1: Y'all know I did. I used to do taxes.
Speaker 3: I literally was voting for women's rights, and my mama
Speaker 3: made sure because I'm I'm registered in the state of Florida.
Speaker 3: She was like, bitch, I need to smoke my weed.
Speaker 3: So she was trying to make me make sure. She
Speaker 3: was like, you voted for us, Sammy right, No, I
Speaker 3: want to do our hypothetical portion of the pie job.
Speaker 1: Get there.
Speaker 4: Yes, you just stick this pointing before we get this.
Speaker 1: Yes.
Speaker 5: The reason I brought that up though, that the tax
Speaker 5: thing is because the reason I sat down and I
Speaker 5: was like, man, it sucks, but I'm gonna just pay
Speaker 5: it because I have it, because I don't spend it.
Speaker 5: And the reason. So now, now let's go back to
Speaker 5: your original point. There are a lot of people that
Speaker 5: assume I got to get this out.
Speaker 4: I got to get this out. This camera on me,
Speaker 4: which one is on me?
Speaker 1: Look, this is what you'll be saying in the conference.
Speaker 5: Hold on, no many, I'm gonna I'm gonna talk about
Speaker 5: ship go ahead. People will be like, yeah, he'd be
Speaker 5: making he'd be making hundreds, he'd be making one hundred
Speaker 5: thousand dollars a lot of women, blah blah blah blah,
Speaker 5: and paying to the women he's he's making one hundred ship.
Speaker 5: First of all, I do like that shoulder first, the
Speaker 5: first of all, millions of dollars.
Speaker 4: Okay, the first part.
Speaker 5: But the reasonion the reason I'm talking about it is
Speaker 5: because it's probably the Apple Watch. They'd be like, that's
Speaker 5: a hundred thousand dollar Nigga Apple Watch. That's probably what
Speaker 5: they're saying. It's probably the twenty nineteen you need the
Speaker 5: But but what I'm saying is I saved my money. Now,
Speaker 5: go ahead, I just want to stick that lady. But
Speaker 5: the part I want to talk about, shit about is
Speaker 5: that portion of it. The and then I'm gonna let
Speaker 5: you get to your hypathetical. People will be like, you know, hey,
Speaker 5: he's making and you've been on tour. Yeah, he's making
Speaker 5: all his money pandering and women. First of all, you
Speaker 5: know how hard it is to produce a podcast consistent,
Speaker 5: how hard it is to grow a platform from zero
Speaker 5: followers to hundreds of thousands or millions how how much
Speaker 5: andication it takes to post every day.
Speaker 2: I think it's hard, but you do make money from pandering.
Speaker 2: But I don't think it's bad.
Speaker 1: But no, no, no, no, no, no no, because we.
Speaker 2: Make money from pandering to people that using the word
Speaker 2: pandering quotation you don't want to hear about.
Speaker 5: Hear me out, hear me out, hear me out, hear
Speaker 5: me out. You're right, that could be completely true. But
Speaker 5: what I'm saying is when somebody says that to me,
Speaker 5: I'd be like, no, I'm just smarter than you. Ooh,
Speaker 5: I work harder than you. I'm more dedicated than you.
Speaker 1: I focused.
Speaker 5: I put hundreds of thousands of dollars in my brand.
Speaker 5: I've never taken a dollar from nobody. Everything I got
Speaker 5: is because I flipped my own shit. Oh no, fucking body,
Speaker 5: I've paid fifty sixty seventy what is it, W nine
Speaker 5: or whatever you send to people, ninety nine whatever you
Speaker 5: got to send it. At the end of the year,
Speaker 5: I have a whole department because it's like one hundred
Speaker 5: people that I got to do that with. You don't
Speaker 5: do that just from pandering. Even if I was just
Speaker 5: a pandora. I'm a skilled dedicated, hard working.
Speaker 1: There's a better word for this. Yeah, what's the word.
Speaker 1: It's salesman.
Speaker 2: So okay, what I've learned about this era of internet
Speaker 2: videos like yours, like when you click on your page
Speaker 2: and I like watching them, right, I like consuming content
Speaker 2: like yours. Maybe a quick one minute clip I'm watching
Speaker 2: and it's like really easy to flip through and share
Speaker 2: and have debates about because I could maybe pick one
Speaker 2: of your clips and we can talk about it for
Speaker 2: thirty minutes. That kind of stuff I really do enjoy watching.
Speaker 2: But you are selling something. You're selling either guidance, hope,
Speaker 2: something about how you say it. You're not really aggressive,
Speaker 2: so women are like they really feel like they can
Speaker 2: trust your advice, and I think pandering for me it
Speaker 2: may get into the red pill kind of content like
Speaker 2: a Andrew Taate like, you know, pandering for that guide like.
Speaker 1: Or who's the one your girl?
Speaker 3: Something Jackson Derek Jackson like that he's a parandemic.
Speaker 4: Go back to those So like, if you go back
Speaker 4: to I'm gonna let you get to your.
Speaker 1: I want to yeah you know we timed over, yell, okay.
Speaker 5: But if you get back to even what you say,
Speaker 5: like I'll watch like you'll watch a content. Let's say
Speaker 5: it's it could be me or somebody. It didn't make
Speaker 5: you go into your pocket and say, huh, let me
Speaker 5: give you fifty dollars. Right there was There's a other
Speaker 5: part of that process that people skip. It's in order
Speaker 5: to make money, you have to have a system. You
Speaker 5: have to have a funnel, you have to have advertisement,
Speaker 5: you have to have email systems, SMS. We got a paywall,
Speaker 5: we got an app, and I got twenty five thousand
Speaker 5: paid subscribers on that.
Speaker 4: It don't happen by accident.
Speaker 5: And so what I'm saying is if you're gon't call
Speaker 5: me a panda or a salesman or whatever the case
Speaker 5: may be, which I don't really, don't call me a
Speaker 5: broke one. No, no, no. What I'm saying is, don't discount.
Speaker 5: Don't don't worry that because it's easier for you to
Speaker 5: accept that the reason I have more than you is
Speaker 5: because I'm lying to women.
Speaker 4: Very accept that I'm just better at it.
Speaker 1: People thought our podcast was only popular because of course
Speaker 1: you'll talk about.
Speaker 2: It's puling, right. I feel like bitches get mad at
Speaker 2: only fans.
Speaker 1: Girls.
Speaker 2: It's like you just met you a little medbag because
Speaker 2: you really can't get up there and throw that pussy
Speaker 2: on there with them app you can't. Like people get
Speaker 2: really mad at only fans girl Lef've seen Twitter just.
Speaker 1: I don't think they get mad.
Speaker 3: I think that there's still stigma around just selling sex,
Speaker 3: which is why we got.
Speaker 1: The getigma maad at girls. I believe the word isn't
Speaker 1: about mad.
Speaker 2: They shit on these girls talking about how they're xyz,
Speaker 2: they look a certain way, they don't do anything, and
Speaker 2: these only fans girls.
Speaker 1: We net the same shit they bases. Do people think
Speaker 1: the same boducts.
Speaker 2: They are making certain content, they're marketing, they have email,
Speaker 2: subscriber lists, they're doing different types of platform.
Speaker 1: Out's the business. It's a it's a business.
Speaker 2: You think the average only fans girl can compare to
Speaker 2: the work ethic of let's just say a be nasty
Speaker 2: or len of the plug or whatever. No, they don't,
Speaker 2: that's a fact. And they are mad because they think
Speaker 2: all they do is put in a pussyup their bitch
Speaker 2: to pussy curated, the content curated.
Speaker 1: So I really do think this is all of the same.
Speaker 1: They selling sex.
Speaker 2: You may be selling a certain thing like it's all
Speaker 2: the same, but the age of the Internet is one
Speaker 2: that people can't understand. Take so much work behind the
Speaker 2: one minute clip. That's the reason we're mad, all right.
Speaker 1: Anyway, God, yes, let's let's let's get through. We have
Speaker 1: a lot to get to Jesus, all right.
Speaker 3: So our hypothetical for this episode, now you do have
Speaker 3: to choose too, and you have to explain yourself. Okay,
Speaker 3: So if you could have, especially since you're dating now,
Speaker 3: if you could have two superpowers to excel in the
Speaker 3: dating world, what would they be? You must pick from
Speaker 3: one of these three, being invisible, time travel, or morphing.
Speaker 2: I really I watched Marvel movies last night to go
Speaker 2: to bed. While vaking this outline, I was like if
Speaker 2: I was like, you know, thinking about it, I'm watching
Speaker 2: all these superhero movies and I'm not like a Marvel person,
Speaker 2: but I'm like, damn bro, like Nigga's going invisible. Like
Speaker 2: what if I could get invisible one and get into
Speaker 2: a conversation.
Speaker 1: So I felt like, so, which two would you pick?
Speaker 1: Just one? You get two, you get.
Speaker 3: Two of these three? I know mine, and I know why,
Speaker 3: being invisible, morphing and times. Okay, Oh, mine would be
Speaker 3: the time travel and the morphing.
Speaker 1: Mine's time traveling invisible.
Speaker 3: So time travel because I would want to see if
Speaker 3: this nigga wasted my time out the gate. So I
Speaker 3: am going probably to the next week. Do you exist
Speaker 3: a week from now? If not, I'm gonna go ahead
Speaker 3: and stop talking to you. Where do we go from here?
Speaker 3: I would want to time travel because I would want
Speaker 3: to see how far we get to know if if
Speaker 3: you're gonna waste my time, then the morphing is done.
Speaker 3: I want to dig from time to time.
Speaker 1: That's not how I want. That's what morph me and
Speaker 1: I like, ooh, would you want to morph into another bitch?
Speaker 1: No bitch, I'm gonna bit. I want to morph into
Speaker 1: whatever I want to morph into actually to go back
Speaker 1: and fix mistakes. Though, Noah, what would be? What's the
Speaker 1: and being invisible? I don't like that.
Speaker 5: Morphine, morphine, time travel, morphine and time travel. No I'm ana,
Speaker 5: no nah, I'm gonna do invisible and morphine theah. So
Speaker 5: I'm again I'm against the time travel thing right because
Speaker 5: it takes the suspense out of life, if you know,
Speaker 5: like part of it, the best part. And this is
Speaker 5: what I found in just general, the best part is
Speaker 5: the journey, not the destination. Oftentimes, when you get to
Speaker 5: the destination you fucking disappointed. But the fun you had
Speaker 5: along the way is what makes to me life worth living.
Speaker 5: So like, if I'm able to every moment like being
Speaker 5: those moments in that journey, even if we don't end
Speaker 5: up being husband wife for whatever, but if we had
Speaker 5: fun along the way, we did this, we did that,
Speaker 5: we had that hope of it. Could think about it.
Speaker 5: A lot of people that got to that destination don't
Speaker 5: even want to be there.
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna old you. I want to know which.
Speaker 3: I want to know which one of our listeners are
Speaker 3: like me, I could be watching a movie and it's
Speaker 3: so good I posit and google the ending. See, But
Speaker 3: that's that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: But that's your control freak. Yeah, I don't think so.
Speaker 1: I want to know the inding. You want you have
Speaker 1: to know. I want to know the inding, and I
Speaker 1: don't care if it control freak.
Speaker 3: I don't like it because there's a negative a negative
Speaker 3: connotation around it and stigma around being a control freak.
Speaker 3: I want to know the inding because in my way,
Speaker 3: somebody if I start, if I start a series. I
Speaker 3: literally episode one, I go straight to Twitter, hashtag it
Speaker 3: and look and see what everyone has to say about it.
Speaker 1: I literally do that. How do you think that has
Speaker 1: nothing to do it?
Speaker 3: Because broth, I value my time? Am I about to
Speaker 3: waste my time? Is this the moody?
Speaker 6: Is this?
Speaker 5: In a separate way, You're you're wanting to be a
Speaker 5: time traveler so you can go back to fix mistakes.
Speaker 5: It's also some that's all freaky too, maybe, but I
Speaker 5: don't help the future because because because you want to
Speaker 5: control the results so bad that you're willing to go
Speaker 5: back to redo it.
Speaker 2: My answer, honestly, I know where you what you cooked with,
Speaker 2: but mine's really different.
Speaker 1: Okay, go ahead again.
Speaker 2: The self awareness thing, like I realize I make mistakes
Speaker 2: that I can't sometimes understand I'm making, so like if
Speaker 2: I could go back and just fix that, it's really
Speaker 2: not for the control aspect. It's more the other person,
Speaker 2: Like I feel empathy, like there's been a lot of
Speaker 2: mistakes I've made in my friendships, podcast shit, like I
Speaker 2: wish I could go back and change them.
Speaker 1: I can't. But it's really for the other person's feeling,
Speaker 1: not mine, So.
Speaker 5: You can't accept it so you want to control it,
Speaker 5: you want to control the result, Okay, just like sheep.
Speaker 3: But there's a negative connotations that control freaking period.
Speaker 1: I don't mind.
Speaker 2: I don't mind the how it can make me look.
Speaker 2: I don't care about the negative. I'm really thinking about it,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, for me, it's not a selfish thing.
Speaker 2: It may be me feeling guilt could be selfish.
Speaker 4: Why does you want to relieve that guilt? Are that
Speaker 4: that regret?
Speaker 5: Are that those thoughts that you have about wishing you
Speaker 5: could have a second chance to do it.
Speaker 2: I just don't like seeing people in pain, like from
Speaker 2: something I've done.
Speaker 1: So that's why I really want to fix mistakes.
Speaker 2: Like yeah, and it for me it could be guilt,
Speaker 2: but it really like, it's hard for me to watch
Speaker 2: someone be upset by something that wasn't intentional.
Speaker 1: I've done a lot of things and said a lot
Speaker 1: of things. I wouldn't take that.
Speaker 2: Oh, I could pull up my old tweets on my
Speaker 2: suspended shit every bit that I was talking shit too.
Speaker 1: I'm at it.
Speaker 2: But there's certain things and I'm like, damn, I really
Speaker 2: do wish I could take that back. So my brain
Speaker 2: gets a little crazy sometimes when I'm angry, and I
Speaker 2: think those are the things I want to.
Speaker 5: Do because not to get so deep I'm traveling and
Speaker 5: to not make it about you just making a person
Speaker 5: that answered a similar way to me. It's time travel
Speaker 5: with in that person's head be easier than just fixing
Speaker 5: it organically.
Speaker 1: Sometimes these things can't be fixed.
Speaker 4: And that's the part that we have to accept.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I get that, you know what I would in
Speaker 2: business of the future though, Like if you told me,
Speaker 2: right now, press this button and you'll know the day
Speaker 2: you die, I wouldn't.
Speaker 1: Want I mean, that's completely different. No, I don't think
Speaker 1: it is. No, I don't want to know. There's certain
Speaker 1: things I want to know the future of.
Speaker 5: There's certain thing accident find out when you try to
Speaker 5: go six months in advance to try to figure it.
Speaker 4: Out, try to figure get together, Like, yeah, you don't
Speaker 4: see ship.
Speaker 1: And you're like, oh, imagine he's like, yo, yeah, I
Speaker 1: died and I ain't gonna hold you. Didn't. I know,
Speaker 1: there's a whole lot of fun.
Speaker 3: A bitch about to have a pot in Okay, I'm
Speaker 3: about the mother, But y'all remember that episode the two
Speaker 3: women on the sixteen men.
Speaker 1: Oh baby, I might beat that. I've been watching the video.
Speaker 1: This girl fucked a hundred.
Speaker 3: This girl fucked a hundred niggas in a day, and
Speaker 3: then she said, I want to fuck the thousand y'all
Speaker 3: if I'm leaving, and y'all can talk about me when
Speaker 3: I'm gone, Bitch, I'm.
Speaker 1: Doing it all.
Speaker 2: Okay, what's your last week? You got seven days from today,
Speaker 2: which how are you spending your last week?
Speaker 5: Hypothetically seven days, I got seven days doing what I
Speaker 5: do every day.
Speaker 4: I wouldn't like I would just probably go work out,
Speaker 4: walk my dog. You would still work out, order Chipotle
Speaker 4: I would do.
Speaker 1: I would work out for the You would eat Chipotle
Speaker 1: in your last seven days?
Speaker 5: I do so look, so look Chipotle, let me let
Speaker 5: me explain. Are you sponsored by them?
Speaker 1: No? What I mean is.
Speaker 5: What I normally do, is what I love to do,
Speaker 5: like outside of halving the work, like I don't necessarily
Speaker 5: want to be in New York.
Speaker 1: Right now, but like being at the best city in
Speaker 1: the world.
Speaker 5: Cancer so like so like waking up, going to the gym,
Speaker 5: waking up, you know, uh all right, walking my dog,
Speaker 5: hitting the bar, drinking some tequila, watching little Pokemon videos
Speaker 5: or something on.
Speaker 1: My you to like ship like that, simple pleasures.
Speaker 5: I would just do the same thing because here's the thing, man,
Speaker 5: I can do whatever the fuck I want right now,
Speaker 5: and I do whatever the fuck I want. And that's
Speaker 5: clue fucking steak dinners and flying around the world like
Speaker 5: even though that's cool, that's not really what I like
Speaker 5: to do.
Speaker 1: So I like to you can vibrate, you know, somewhere else.
Speaker 2: I would spend my last week everybody know where I
Speaker 2: like to travel, probably fly, dump all my savings into
Speaker 2: my friends with kids, give their kids money for college.
Speaker 2: The rest of the money fly everybody I love out
Speaker 2: to fucking Mexico and die on.
Speaker 1: The beach every day.
Speaker 2: Spend this swimming, being in the sun, having fun, making
Speaker 2: like final memories with like friends, family, get tequila's in
Speaker 2: there too.
Speaker 1: Maybe a little like.
Speaker 5: Respectfully man for me, not your people, but man, fuck them,
Speaker 5: no ma, and coordinating this and doing that stressful if
Speaker 5: I guess I seven days to live, bro, I'm just
Speaker 5: I'm really just enjoying myself.
Speaker 4: I'm being at peace with myself. I'm organizing my thoughts.
Speaker 5: I'm figuring out how I can in my brain reconcile
Speaker 5: the last whatever, how many hours that is, and then
Speaker 5: with that, I'm just gonna do what I love to do.
Speaker 2: You don't want if you had a week left, see
Speaker 2: the reason I said that, And fuck coordinating, like I'll
Speaker 2: be blowing my money right. I want to surround myself
Speaker 2: with everybody that I love and loves me back.
Speaker 1: That brings me back to my birthday.
Speaker 4: But that's that's what I do every day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it also you're gonna want solitude. It also same
Speaker 1: with me.
Speaker 3: Like to me, if I have seven days, it brings
Speaker 3: me back to why I don't like celebrating birthdays like
Speaker 3: my last seven days? Do you think I want to
Speaker 3: be let down at someone not being able to show up,
Speaker 3: or someone missing their flight, or someone doing some shit
Speaker 3: that's gonna piss me to fuck off or make me
Speaker 3: feel a way that I don't want to feel like.
Speaker 3: I think that That's That's what I've enjoyed recently, like
Speaker 3: certain days, and my therapist has been like like making
Speaker 3: me take these little blocks out right, Like I go
Speaker 3: to the park and I just ride my scooter and
Speaker 3: enjoy seeing the leaves change colors, and.
Speaker 1: I don't invite anybody.
Speaker 3: I've been going out so much alone lately too, because
Speaker 3: when you constantly want to be around all these people,
Speaker 3: you're inviting all of their bullshit around you. You're inviting
Speaker 3: the way that they can't show up on time. That's
Speaker 3: been my big fucking thing. I don't even want to
Speaker 3: be around you. If you can't be on time, then
Speaker 3: just a lot of their stuff like and it just
Speaker 3: it just weans off to you. And and I think that
Speaker 3: that's my thing too, dealing with everyone's health right now
Speaker 3: around me and my mom, her first time being in therapy.
Speaker 3: It is just like being around people is actually, especially
Speaker 3: while while being sober, has been a completely different relationship
Speaker 3: right now with people.
Speaker 5: I got I got two things. The first thing is
Speaker 5: what type of watch do I need.
Speaker 1: To get deep? You know what? No?
Speaker 4: No, because because if this is a broken watch.
Speaker 1: I I do want to do it. I don't want to.
Speaker 3: I do want to do a kiki because I want
Speaker 3: to talk about what is considered broke in what's broke behavior?
Speaker 1: Only because we do have a reactionary clip.
Speaker 3: This woman went on a date and this the internet
Speaker 3: has kind of been split with is she the brokey
Speaker 3: or is he the brokey? And I want us to
Speaker 3: not even dig into their pockets. But there's layers to
Speaker 3: this video. So have you seen this video? Okay, so
Speaker 3: we'll play the video and listen to what she's saying,
Speaker 3: and then I also want to add context right after
Speaker 3: we'll play that shit.
Speaker 6: Y'all will not believe what just happened. Like, I literally
Speaker 6: went on a date with the guy. And let's just say,
Speaker 6: mind you, he's sitting right next to me.
Speaker 1: I'll order what I want. He didn't want to order
Speaker 1: anything because he ate, so he just ordered Dr Bok.
Speaker 1: I ordered what I wanted and he hears it clearly
Speaker 1: because he's right next to me. The fool comps. He
Speaker 1: started making all these comments, oh you order that, Oh
Speaker 1: you want eat all that? Mind So I told him.
Speaker 6: That my friend flew into town and that after dinner
Speaker 6: I was gonna go see her because she wanted need
Speaker 6: to pull up on her or whatever.
Speaker 1: He's like, did you order some food for your friends?
Speaker 1: He think you broke it. He was like, if I
Speaker 1: wasn't here, would you order all that? Baty? You think
Speaker 1: I can't afford a meal? I said, honestly, if you
Speaker 1: wasn't here, I would have still ordered like this. This
Speaker 1: is how I eat with my friends. This is how
Speaker 1: eaten them bout myself crazy.
Speaker 6: But the kicker is this man said, oh, I'm gonna go.
Speaker 6: I said, okay, He lays down one hundred dollars walks off.
Speaker 6: My view, He caught us a black truck to dinner,
Speaker 6: so I rode with him in an uber he left,
Speaker 6: He didn't He didn't say anything besides I'm gonna go,
Speaker 6: and then set the money down and then dipped off.
Speaker 6: He didn't ask if I need if I needed a
Speaker 6: ride home the home. He didn't ask what the bill was.
Speaker 1: Nothing.
Speaker 6: My view, this is a forty forty five year old,
Speaker 6: forty five year old man growing.
Speaker 5: Man now hold on, yeah, so okay me. Their reaction
Speaker 5: is how old is she?
Speaker 1: She does look younger, but that's that.
Speaker 5: I think that's the point. The point is, I mean,
Speaker 5: this is me talking being thirty five. The point is
Speaker 5: a couple of things. A how your mannerisms, how you
Speaker 5: approach the situation, how you're verbalizing things matter. Okay, if
Speaker 5: he is concerned about a budget, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 5: he inquires about it, I'm I'm imagining that maybe she's
Speaker 5: if she's doing all this and.
Speaker 4: Baby, I do this by myself. That would be a turnoff.
Speaker 5: It's not like the man refused to pay for the
Speaker 5: meal because he left one hundred dollars, but that I
Speaker 5: don't like that.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think. I don't think we discussed budgets,
Speaker 1: our budgets being.
Speaker 2: Hold on, hold on, we got to stop for a
Speaker 2: second before we talk a budget. He says, she did
Speaker 2: all that. She's making a TikTok right now. But if
Speaker 2: he's brought up in the middle of the day, would
Speaker 2: you order all that?
Speaker 1: If I was in here, I'm going to start reacting too.
Speaker 5: So so we're on a date. No, No, I agree.
Speaker 5: So here's the thing. I'm a pitty girl after that,
Speaker 5: regardless of how we got to that point, I'm saying
Speaker 5: that man being forty five, she looked like she's twenty two.
Speaker 4: I don't even know why.
Speaker 3: So I do want to I want to add context, okay,
Speaker 3: because she she did response videos.
Speaker 1: So context. Oh yeah, what's the dates she ordered? They
Speaker 1: sat at the bar.
Speaker 3: Context number one, which is, you know, she clearly says
Speaker 3: he ordered a drink and said he didn't want any food.
Speaker 3: So contact says they sat at the bar. The food
Speaker 3: she ordered, she ordered half a dozen oysters. She ordered
Speaker 3: I believe it was lamb chops, two sides. The sides
Speaker 3: I believe was mac and cheese, asparagus, and then crab
Speaker 3: fried rice.
Speaker 1: She also she also had two drinks, A lot of food.
Speaker 1: That is a lot of food. Did a lot of foods? No?
Speaker 5: No, I'm gonna tell you this as a man that
Speaker 5: has dated all my life.
Speaker 1: Wait, do y'all look at what we orderdy is not
Speaker 1: I want to talk about that.
Speaker 5: I know when a woman is ordering food for her
Speaker 5: kids later, I just know it.
Speaker 1: It happens.
Speaker 5: They order so much food and then just to go
Speaker 5: boxes and it's a whole bunch of shit. And I'm
Speaker 5: not tripping on that. Like me myself, I wouldn't trip
Speaker 5: on that. But that happens a lot. It happens more
Speaker 5: than we talk about. Really, Yes, if.
Speaker 3: You're for kids for friends too, I mean, I ain't
Speaker 3: gonna a you when I don't made shout Outlena and
Speaker 3: Dwayne we used to live together and when she first
Speaker 3: started dating him, she would literally send me whatever restaurant
Speaker 3: they was at and she would order food for me.
Speaker 1: And he started knowing. He didn't know, but he knew.
Speaker 1: He ordered an entree sides and an advertiser.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie that she did not know you.
Speaker 3: That's a regular mass befit.
Speaker 1: No, I agree.
Speaker 5: I'm saying though, when you say, is it outrageous to
Speaker 5: think that a woman would do something like that, I
Speaker 5: don't think it's outrageous.
Speaker 1: I think it's outrageous for him to bring it up.
Speaker 2: And I think it's outrageous for men to continually assume
Speaker 2: that when I get dressed, to know when I get
Speaker 2: dressed to go out on a date, that I'm going
Speaker 2: out for just a drink.
Speaker 1: I like dinner dates.
Speaker 2: If you want to eat, have just a drink, that's fine.
Speaker 2: I'm going to have farking soon.
Speaker 5: Assume goes both ways, then, because if you're also assuming
Speaker 5: that it's okay for you to order that amount of
Speaker 5: stuff because those were.
Speaker 1: Not cheap items, that you're probably not.
Speaker 5: So I guess my point is there should if there's
Speaker 5: not a both parties shouldn't assume then okay.
Speaker 4: So like if it be he is it cool if
Speaker 4: or blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: I'm not asking if it's cool exactly.
Speaker 4: So my point is you're working off of assumptions as well.
Speaker 6: Ah.
Speaker 2: But here's the thing though, It's like, genuinely, I can't
Speaker 2: understand how we think this is. I understand it's a
Speaker 2: lot of food, but like, this is a girl with money.
Speaker 2: Now I'm thirty three years old, I understand she might
Speaker 2: be twenty two. I am not asking if it's okay, yeah.
Speaker 3: Oh, Honestly, if I want to order caviar, well that's
Speaker 3: I mean caviar, maybe something that I check with first.
Speaker 3: There aren't to me certain items out of respect, especially
Speaker 3: because yes, tar.
Speaker 1: Is one fifty two fifty on a market.
Speaker 4: I'm asking like sixty seventy dollars.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm sick that's what she's just half. The
Speaker 1: other half another eighteen.
Speaker 5: Dollars six what they're not.
Speaker 1: Out.
Speaker 5: Maybe I'll just eat different type of work. Look, if
Speaker 5: y'all got hold on no whoa, if you don't mean
Speaker 5: no no, you know, but the oysters, I'll be getting no.
Speaker 5: I forgot about hold on head And you gotta use
Speaker 5: this nigga living day in Ohio.
Speaker 1: Ain't no water. It's probably the no no no, no
Speaker 1: no where the middle of marriage. No.
Speaker 4: First of all, is this the camera that's on the
Speaker 4: end us?
Speaker 7: I am cultured just because I've been flors oyster bars,
Speaker 7: high end oyster bars, depending on what oysters you are getting,
Speaker 7: where they're from, how fresh they are.
Speaker 4: Some of those boys, you're not getting the.
Speaker 1: New you're you're for eighteen dollars her eyes. I'll just
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you, I know that you're full of ship.
Speaker 1: If he took her to a place that was.
Speaker 2: That expensive, he wouldn't be asking her why she ordered
Speaker 2: all that ship. And you're telling me if he took
Speaker 2: her to a place that was high Are you ready?
Speaker 1: Are you ready? Way? She want to know why?
Speaker 3: I know you full of ship because you just said,
Speaker 3: if you had seven days to live, you will eat
Speaker 3: a Chipotle.
Speaker 1: You ain't eating no seventy dollars either, nigga. Oh no,
Speaker 1: you're definitely not eating bro. He's not eating no seventy dollars. Oil, bro, y'all.
Speaker 1: Probably he probably paid for some dollars.
Speaker 5: Y'all about to find out. And y'all come for niggas
Speaker 5: to take oyster seriously, Oh my god, is gonna be
Speaker 5: like ten dollars of oyster.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I'm glad he's curio.
Speaker 3: Hold know, I think I have another point for this
Speaker 3: right like she.
Speaker 1: She brought up.
Speaker 3: She brought up that she was linking her friend after
Speaker 3: This is where my mind went with this, right, I
Speaker 3: think that this man taking her on this date and
Speaker 3: bringing her straight to the bar and only thinking they're
Speaker 3: gonna order drinks and hear me out. This is not
Speaker 3: me speaking from Trauba. Y'all could think it might be,
Speaker 3: but we know that there is an exchange currently that
Speaker 3: people presume to happen after a date, especially depending on
Speaker 3: what they're expecting from this person. So if this woman
Speaker 3: is younger however he perceived her, he might have thought
Speaker 3: from this date, I get a nightcap from this date,
Speaker 3: I want to invite her over, or I want to
Speaker 3: do something else after. As soon as she said, hey,
Speaker 3: just you know, after this, I'm linking with my homegirl,
Speaker 3: that could have immediately also removed him from the date
Speaker 3: because it ends there.
Speaker 2: That's actually the most justifiablange I think for this whole thing.
Speaker 2: I think, I really think, if you're taking someone on
Speaker 2: a date, why is it crazy that I'm eating food
Speaker 2: because you're not?
Speaker 1: Ah, Like, now I got to fucking match your vibration.
Speaker 1: I'm hungry, You don't hear He's probably seven o'clock.
Speaker 4: I almost speak for myself. I'm gonna speak for myself.
Speaker 5: I disagree with the brother, you know, saying like that's
Speaker 5: not how I operate.
Speaker 1: Judge silently. No, no, no, I'm not sure.
Speaker 5: No, I'm not she's got another fucker in fairness, you
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying. Ordered, you know what I'm saying, fairness,
Speaker 5: It don't bother me.
Speaker 1: Bought one hundred seven.
Speaker 5: Dollars saying that not everybody is in that particular position,
Speaker 5: and that's why consideration is important.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 5: And here's the thing. You gotta also know what man
Speaker 5: is bringing you out on that date. It's not an assumption.
Speaker 5: You thirty three, you say you're making money. Cool, Not
Speaker 5: every man is making that type of money.
Speaker 1: But so so the black car was an important point, right.
Speaker 1: She didn't mention the black car. Why, for example, he
Speaker 1: ordered a black car. Uber. I know y'all drive in Dayton,
Speaker 1: but I really believe you believe me in a camera.
Speaker 2: So I went on a date with the dude who
Speaker 2: worked in sanitation earlier last year before my man, and
Speaker 2: I'm like, we went to dose Cization make some money
Speaker 2: though they do, but it's not crazy bank.
Speaker 1: We went to those cominos. First date, and another day,
Speaker 1: I think we went to a Soho house for drinks.
Speaker 4: But in my break, what would you say was the
Speaker 4: average order?
Speaker 1: I think our bills were coming to like one point fifty,
Speaker 1: like a normal dinner. That's that's a normal.
Speaker 2: But I remember when we got to Soho house, we
Speaker 2: were having drinks because we wanted to do someone a
Speaker 2: rude and a part.
Speaker 1: Of me was like, damn, I really didn't want to
Speaker 1: order it. But I didn't.
Speaker 2: I really wanted to order this fucking thing, and I
Speaker 2: thought our bill's going to be three hundred seven dollars
Speaker 2: now when I'm with my friends whatever, that's how I'm ordering,
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. But I actually did consider
Speaker 2: if someone's getting up at like five in the morning
Speaker 2: to go to work and like really working forty hours
Speaker 2: a week in a blue collar type of job. For me,
Speaker 2: I'm thinking, I don't want to break the bank. However,
Speaker 2: if you're a man that just picked me up in
Speaker 2: a black car, I am gonna have a different idea
Speaker 2: of how this date is going to go. That is
Speaker 2: just to be honest. I'm can I ask is setting
Speaker 2: a tone? A can I ask the room?
Speaker 3: Then realistically only because I just had this conversation recently
Speaker 3: with my homegirl. We know what the majority of Americans
Speaker 3: are making, right, Like, it's been a conversation. Not everyone's
Speaker 3: making over one hundred thousand dollars in this dating sphere? Then,
Speaker 3: how often should we assume, if we're just meeting someone,
Speaker 3: that they can realistically afford to take us on dates?
Speaker 3: And I say, I asked this because my homegirl, when
Speaker 3: she likes to go out, it's food.
Speaker 1: Which for dinner, then drinks and hookah.
Speaker 3: But the bitch is a hookoh or And I'm like, bro,
Speaker 3: every time a nigga takes you out, it's three four
Speaker 3: hundred dollars? Man, how often can a guy realistically afford
Speaker 3: to take you out? Hey?
Speaker 1: And Wolf is shaking his head on this tip.
Speaker 5: This is this is why I disagree with the brother.
Speaker 5: That's why I said I disagree with the brother. I
Speaker 5: don't mind the way he left the date. If he
Speaker 5: ain't feeling it, he still put.
Speaker 1: The hundred Actually like that child, Yeah, I'm not mad.
Speaker 4: With That's what I was defending. Okay, but let's let's
Speaker 4: call a spade a spade.
Speaker 5: You as the person acts someone on a date, whether
Speaker 5: that's a man or a woman, Because if a woman
Speaker 5: asks me on a date, I expect for her to
Speaker 5: pay for that motherfucking day.
Speaker 2: Jesus Christ, I'm not gonna like I do I do
Speaker 2: the reach because if.
Speaker 5: I'm no, I'm gonna let you do it like I'm not.
Speaker 1: If you, I don't know you list if you act.
Speaker 1: There's a lot that has changed about me. Maybe I'm
Speaker 1: still not fake reaching, but let me it ain't change yet,
Speaker 1: so let me do it.
Speaker 5: The point is, the point is I ain't faking ask
Speaker 5: somebody out on the day.
Speaker 4: It has to now be considerate.
Speaker 5: You have to the budget, your research on what the
Speaker 5: menu location. But so what you do is though you
Speaker 5: can't fake the funk. You can't take a woman to
Speaker 5: a place that has one hundred dollars menu items if
Speaker 5: you don't have one hundred dollars menu item budget.
Speaker 1: All yeah, So.
Speaker 5: If you can't afford that two two for twenty niggas,
Speaker 5: So I would we go to a place where it's
Speaker 5: impossible for her to get an entract I get that
Speaker 5: appetizer and a couple of drinks and it be out
Speaker 5: your But I want to go.
Speaker 1: We've always got a cheesecake factory, and he used to
Speaker 1: say to me all.
Speaker 3: The time, I just fucked up a chicken pikata at
Speaker 3: the cheese She.
Speaker 1: Gotta start getting on it with extra caper. He is
Speaker 1: just telling me.
Speaker 2: Often like, oh my god, I'm so glad we're over
Speaker 2: the hump, like he used to say to me when
Speaker 2: I'm dating women, like because he was in his forties
Speaker 2: and he just looked old, but he was like, you know,
Speaker 2: I'm just so happy we're over the hump.
Speaker 1: But I like to do what I want to do.
Speaker 2: But he literally told me all of those places we
Speaker 2: used to eat at im.
Speaker 1: I want to remove us from this video.
Speaker 3: And I want to ask, though, for the person listening
Speaker 3: right now, if we're single and looking to date and
Speaker 3: we're not dating a millionaire or we're not dating a
Speaker 3: sugar daddy, we're dating someone within our pay grade, how
Speaker 3: often then is realistic to count on going on date.
Speaker 2: Once every two weeks in a real relationship every two weeks? Yes,
Speaker 2: okay at a two three hundred dollars budget, in a
Speaker 2: real relationship, like you're my boyfriend average?
Speaker 4: Can I say this?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 5: Excuse me my bad feelas I can't relate to this conversation.
Speaker 5: Why I've always had bde Oh my god, no, no,
Speaker 5: hit me out, hear me out.
Speaker 4: I ain't.
Speaker 1: I ain't.
Speaker 5: Never felt pressured to act like I ain't had what
Speaker 5: I didn't have. I ain't never felt pressure to take
Speaker 5: a woman to a restaurant that I couldn't afford, never
Speaker 5: felt pressure. No, no, no, no. What I'm saying is
Speaker 5: I'm to be shaving.
Speaker 1: No no, no no. Imagine how the girls in.
Speaker 5: New York at what I'm saying. You got to pay
Speaker 5: my uber It ain't about it ain't about that. If
Speaker 5: I have to beat something I'm not just to get
Speaker 5: your attention. I don't want that ship. If I got
Speaker 5: to overextend myself, no, hear me, I agree with you.
Speaker 1: Hear me out.
Speaker 5: If my personality, my vibe, and my ore ain't enough
Speaker 5: for you, then fuck you go find somebody else.
Speaker 4: There's some other nigga that's willing to do that.
Speaker 5: I'm not so if my If I'm working at the
Speaker 5: hospital and I'm only making twenty five hours an hour,
Speaker 5: I'm gonna operate within that because operate outside of that
Speaker 5: would have cost me my dream. If I'm overstanding myself
Speaker 5: on these dates, what I have had that extra money
Speaker 5: to pour into my dreams in this podcast and in
Speaker 5: this tour, I wouldn't have had that. So I've always
Speaker 5: operated within what I got, and I walk around as
Speaker 5: confident as a nigga that was a millionaire before I've
Speaker 5: had huddle, And then even now that I do got it,
Speaker 5: I walk around like a nigga that don't got it
Speaker 5: because the fact of the matter is I am me
Speaker 5: regardless of whether I have money or not, whether I
Speaker 5: have women or not. And so my point is for
Speaker 5: niggas that's faking the funk, taking me women to places
Speaker 5: they can't afford, which hopes that they get Kouchi from there,
Speaker 5: that's some black ass ship yourself. Operate within your budget
Speaker 5: if you don't got to take her off on the walk.
Speaker 5: And let me tell you this, adwag. A nigga would
Speaker 5: swag gonna get the We're gonna get the draws regardless
Speaker 5: if he got enough swag, if he's in tune, if
Speaker 5: he's intentives, and those are the things that matter.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you this.
Speaker 5: A man remembering a small detail about you, your favorite
Speaker 5: flower you just mentioned offhand he spent that you don't
Speaker 5: like I don't calm down over there, and I'm just saying,
Speaker 5: like I think, get him out of here. I think
Speaker 5: me and and I'm gonna say this and this is
Speaker 5: this is just me. I think sometimes men exchange taking
Speaker 5: a woman to a fancy restaurant as a way to
Speaker 5: not actually do the work to show that you're actually interesting.
Speaker 2: Guess what is not doing the work? Taking a fucking walk.
Speaker 2: And I am a girl on this podcast.
Speaker 1: Going to Central Park we need to take because she'd
Speaker 1: be saying that we should share in teammate. And I
Speaker 1: guess what, A man take you on a walk? You
Speaker 1: don't give a about wrestling you. You better take me
Speaker 1: on a gallery walk. You better take me on a
Speaker 1: walk that sceneic. You better have a plan on that walk,
Speaker 1: and not a goddamn plan. Better you really think you're
Speaker 1: a grown ass man taking a woman on a fucking walk? Yes,
Speaker 1: not care about you?
Speaker 3: Way way waiting.
Speaker 1: I walk every day in his home.
Speaker 3: Are you leaning into the fact that because you are
Speaker 3: in the opposite you believe that a man is not
Speaker 3: into you if he doesn't try to impress you, because
Speaker 3: he's saying, I'm not going to try to impress you
Speaker 3: outside of my.
Speaker 2: Budget area, so literally no effort. If you are telling
Speaker 2: me we should go on a walk, if I live
Speaker 2: in band.
Speaker 5: Style, you're thinking, listen, let me say, let me say this,
Speaker 5: Let me say this. I'm not gonna compensate for the
Speaker 5: fact that you don't fuck with me like that. So
Speaker 5: so so I'm so listen.
Speaker 1: No, let me finish. Let me let me finish on
Speaker 1: the movie right now.
Speaker 5: Look, because we don't brother, we don't.
Speaker 1: Know, we all know, we all know.
Speaker 3: Pick out I'm doing like I'm not gonna get if
Speaker 3: you like the niggas. Realistically, this is.
Speaker 2: Not at all I'm trying to be Okay, I don't
Speaker 2: even want people to really believe this.
Speaker 1: What do you mean right back? Then? This is so ridiculous.
Speaker 1: First date walk on a first day walk is different.
Speaker 1: That's what you're talking about, right But you're unders Wait,
Speaker 1: let me say something. I'm not talking about his walk walk.
Speaker 2: He doesn't mean I don't just go outside in that
Speaker 2: sick Yeah, that's what I'm saying for you you're.
Speaker 1: Thinking about it. Let's let's take this out. Let's talk
Speaker 1: about the wall. Let me hold on, hold on, hold
Speaker 1: I don't know about like for for for this to
Speaker 1: be spicy that the man could take me on a walk.
Speaker 5: For this to be spicyer, We're gonna pretend it's the
Speaker 5: first day. Now, hear me, hear me out, hear me out,
Speaker 5: hear me out. I need everybody, Okay. What I'm saying
Speaker 5: is God, it is. It is remarkably easier for me
Speaker 5: to impress you with taking you somewhere fancy. It is
Speaker 5: remarkably easier for a man like me. It is absolutely
Speaker 5: harder for a man like me to be intentive enough
Speaker 5: and thoughtful enough to make a walk day or a
Speaker 5: park day pop. It will take more of my time
Speaker 5: and energy. You will know I value you more. I
Speaker 5: can tell you.
Speaker 4: Listen, listen, listen you walk in the park.
Speaker 5: Let's take a long walk around the park, thinking about myself,
Speaker 5: dark at the dark place, conversation.
Speaker 1: Dark.
Speaker 5: Let me, let me, let me finish this point. I
Speaker 5: want to stick to landing. I'm saying, I can only speak.
Speaker 5: I can speak both ways when I'm speaking from having
Speaker 5: resources now, it is so easy for me to do
Speaker 5: those things. And most women say that they're attracted to
Speaker 5: which is the fancy days. It's just I think we're
Speaker 5: going you're saying tonight, tonight tonight. I mean not that
Speaker 5: it's important, but ship I can meet somebody today and
Speaker 5: say let's go to the next game, They're going to
Speaker 5: be really impressed.
Speaker 4: Maybe they don't meet many men that can just do that,
Speaker 4: and so that's that's impressive.
Speaker 1: It's impressive.
Speaker 5: But for me, it was low vibrational thing. It didn't
Speaker 5: take no effort. I just had to look on stub
Speaker 5: hub by it and then I meet you there. But
Speaker 5: if I say, if I say, let's go walk to walk, hey,
Speaker 5: give me four hours of your time, we're gonna do
Speaker 5: something different. We're gonna we're gonna talk, We're gonna gonna
Speaker 5: know me. I'm getting know you are.
Speaker 4: We're gonna do some different Shiro now meaningful, that's more meaning,
Speaker 4: that's what.
Speaker 1: But that's what we just heard. Any man, any man
Speaker 1: won't Okay, okay, let me give this covey come on
Speaker 1: for me. You may We normally don't have an audience.
Speaker 1: What these niggas doing.
Speaker 2: Don't look it upright, explain yourselfing.
Speaker 3: Okay, So we are talking about first states in the
Speaker 3: history of first states as well.
Speaker 1: Okay, so episode but which was perfect.
Speaker 2: You know, we're talking about the evolution of better social
Speaker 2: But just to close it for me, a walk without
Speaker 2: purpose without a plan is you.
Speaker 4: Ain't never been on a date with a nigga to
Speaker 4: know how to walk there.
Speaker 1: That's not Yeah, I literally are you? Are you? Are
Speaker 1: you where? Dude?
Speaker 2: Through like, I literally learned about getting me hopping through this.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry you taking me on a walk as a
Speaker 2: New York bit.
Speaker 1: I had enough.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's get into the history of dating and why
Speaker 2: you're an asshole?
Speaker 1: All right?
Speaker 2: So now on decisions decisions, we get him to more
Speaker 2: of the historical part of dating, sex and relationships. And
Speaker 2: this part I found interesting because it really does fluctuate.
Speaker 2: So we start from nineteen hundred. A date was a
Speaker 2: gentleman caller and you were chaperones.
Speaker 1: How was they call him back in nineteen hundred?
Speaker 2: So a gentleman caller was someone that would arrive to
Speaker 2: your house with a woman who peaked his fancy. The
Speaker 2: two of them would sit in a room with a chaperone,
Speaker 2: and it would continue on until there was a mutual interest,
Speaker 2: and then there was a marriage proposal. Sometimes there was
Speaker 2: sexual attention maybe, but it was always a chaperone present,
Speaker 2: kind of like Mormons and shit how they be doing
Speaker 2: that is, I don't that's nineteen hundred.
Speaker 1: I don't know. No alone time. No alone time was
Speaker 1: that well because I guess they don't want you to
Speaker 1: You got to think back then they were more religious.
Speaker 1: They didn't want you to fuck. They don't want you
Speaker 1: to cross the line, damn.
Speaker 3: So no one nice chance they was going to the
Speaker 3: Jezebel club down the street. Y'all know we're gonna have
Speaker 3: to deal with that soon. So we're about to be
Speaker 3: the Handmaid's Tales.
Speaker 2: Then nineteen twenties come the Roaring twenties or whatever they
Speaker 2: call it, and that's basically when dating for young adults
Speaker 2: meant that they could go outside and do something. So
Speaker 2: there was amusement parks. Way they would do like fast cars.
Speaker 2: Basically an amusement park back then was you could take
Speaker 2: a car and ride it around. And the prohibition era
Speaker 2: was in full swing, so now alcohol happens. Movie theaters
Speaker 2: cast when it got lit, and so the only benefit
Speaker 2: they say that the movie theaters brought people was learning
Speaker 2: love and the knowledge of sex.
Speaker 1: They got to play the field, watch it like that.
Speaker 2: Flappers kind of let burlesque era happened in the twenties,
Speaker 2: so with more of like a sexual uptick, then people
Speaker 2: started to go out and do their things.
Speaker 1: So that's when it started getting wrong.
Speaker 2: The first dates happened from a man calling a woman
Speaker 2: on the phone in the nineteen twenties or not really
Speaker 2: a lot of approaching in person unless setting. So then
Speaker 2: fast forward the sixties and the seventies happened. You got
Speaker 2: the free love movement. Pre marital sex became so mainstream
Speaker 2: that basically the etiquette changed. People were hitting on each
Speaker 2: other in person. It was now turning into affairs that
Speaker 2: could go from one night to forever and getting to
Speaker 2: know you process turned out bars or places with loud music,
Speaker 2: and that's where it amped it up. Now do you
Speaker 2: want to stay there for a little bit, Let me
Speaker 2: go through this and I want to talk about okay,
Speaker 2: because it's gonna ends.
Speaker 1: So the nineties was then all hookup.
Speaker 2: Now we're in the area where women are able to
Speaker 2: move around freely how they want, no strings attached was celebrated.
Speaker 2: They were having their own social scenes and it was
Speaker 2: more common for women to be out alone.
Speaker 1: So now the.
Speaker 2: Dating and course ship starts to go down. From the nineties,
Speaker 2: dating sites also came around in the nineties, which meant
Speaker 2: hooking up and up and up. Now you forward to
Speaker 2: the early two thousands and we have so many different
Speaker 2: types of dating polyamory four B, which we'll get into
Speaker 2: all of that, that the gentleman caller and the courtship
Speaker 2: are completely gone.
Speaker 3: Do you think it's completely gone if we're still talking
Speaker 3: about dates or do you think expectation Women are now
Speaker 3: able to just express expectations because.
Speaker 1: Now we have our own jobs, we pay our own bills.
Speaker 3: Like, is it that there's been this blurred line of
Speaker 3: courtship because as women were maybe hyperly independent, we have
Speaker 3: our own funds and not everyone is necessarily seeking a
Speaker 3: man to come and rescue them and be married.
Speaker 2: There's this juxtaposition of feminism and courtship that's happening.
Speaker 1: And it's like me and you just saying I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna pay for it. I'm not gonna do the fake reach.
Speaker 2: Me doing a reach or paying for a date that
Speaker 2: I invite a man on is in my brain my
Speaker 2: feminism or ego. Let's just say I go out with
Speaker 2: you and you're a millionaire, I kind of do want
Speaker 2: I've actually paid for more drinks with millionaires than not,
Speaker 2: and it seems to be the most impressive thing to
Speaker 2: any man with a seven figure or eight figure bank
Speaker 2: account than ever. Just the gesture men telling me they've
Speaker 2: never had women do this, or even let's just say
Speaker 2: they take me to fancy dinner, picking the speak easy
Speaker 2: that I get the drinks at after Nigga's always mind blown.
Speaker 1: I don't know why.
Speaker 2: I really don't believe women are doing this or not,
Speaker 2: And it is kind of my way of being like,
Speaker 2: thank you for making the time.
Speaker 1: Are these dates or are they business meetings and settings?
Speaker 3: Because for me, like, no, I love doing that. If
Speaker 3: we're meeting for business, that does you already know I'll
Speaker 3: pick up a tab. I don't mind to me dating.
Speaker 3: I think how you start the relationship in the way
Speaker 3: in which you expect a man to show up out
Speaker 3: the gate, you have to kind of draw that.
Speaker 4: So yeah, saying brothers.
Speaker 5: The reason why I say that is how you start
Speaker 5: is how you finish, right, So if you are always
Speaker 5: heavily in that beginning stage, the giver, the initiator, then
Speaker 5: does that boat with how your relationship is going to
Speaker 5: be because at some point you expect that woman to
Speaker 5: pour back into you at some point you expect that
Speaker 5: woman to give you compliments.
Speaker 4: Nigga, I just got a haircut, Tell me you like it.
Speaker 1: But I think women are Yeah, I do too.
Speaker 5: I'm not against buying gifts, but how can I vet
Speaker 5: that if during the dating process I'm only doing it
Speaker 5: towards you to me?
Speaker 3: It depends though, how long, And that goes into no,
Speaker 3: it does. First date, I'm not coming with gifts, but
Speaker 3: like I remember, like the guy. No, there's the guy
Speaker 3: in my life right now?
Speaker 1: Right date one? Three? Are you picking up a drink?
Speaker 1: Date three? If we go to a speakeasy after dinner?
Speaker 3: I got the speakeasy day three, because now we're going
Speaker 3: it's not I'm not pumped faking at all.
Speaker 1: If I pull it out, I'm paying. I don't pump fake.
Speaker 3: But I do think that clearly after date two, by
Speaker 3: the time we get to day three, we're clearly both
Speaker 3: interested in each other. Day three is when I'm gonna
Speaker 3: start showing that I'm just as interested in it.
Speaker 5: I don't think that a woman has to reciprocate during
Speaker 5: the dating process the same way a man the very
Speaker 5: same way, but there has to be some level of consideration,
Speaker 5: some level of pouring into during that dating question outside
Speaker 5: of being available to receive my initiation. I agree, And
Speaker 5: what I find is a lot of women aren't hitting
Speaker 5: that mark with the type of men that they want.
Speaker 5: Because here's the thing. The type of man that you
Speaker 5: want probably doesn't doesn't need you again to pay. But
Speaker 5: you even said you're you've done it more for men
Speaker 5: that you know are successful financially because he's already checked
Speaker 5: that box, right.
Speaker 1: So now it's like, Okay, I want to show him
Speaker 1: that I'm not just here for the money, right.
Speaker 2: But but.
Speaker 5: But I'm saying for an average earning man, for average
Speaker 5: earning man, maybe that man isn't having that done. Is
Speaker 5: often because that woman fairness wants to see his fitness
Speaker 5: to provide for her financially. And I'm not taking that
Speaker 5: away from you or any a woman that want to
Speaker 5: see that. I'm saying, though, while he's doing that, is
Speaker 5: he did it?
Speaker 3: We I have a question for you, actually, because you
Speaker 3: did mention that, and you just made me think that
Speaker 3: so what that No, you said that you paid more
Speaker 3: for drinks for men who are millionaires than not right,
Speaker 3: And there's just the way it.
Speaker 1: Makes you feel.
Speaker 3: How would you feel or would it be a different
Speaker 3: feeling for you to pay for drinks for a man
Speaker 3: that you knew didn't necessarily have his So.
Speaker 2: I still make gestures, right, But here's the thing, the
Speaker 2: problem with what's the feeling though, I'll tell you so
Speaker 2: the thing when I date someone, let's just say this,
Speaker 2: make an average money.
Speaker 1: This is gonna sound so elitist. I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2: In the last four years of my life, if I
Speaker 2: go out with a regular nigga, they know I'm making
Speaker 2: way more than them, they know They've googled me, they understand,
Speaker 2: they get it, and so for me, I believe. Again,
Speaker 2: I feel really bad to say this, but like you
Speaker 2: fucking would a bitch who's making ten to fifteen times
Speaker 2: more than you, you kind of do need to show
Speaker 2: up for me because to earn how because I'm gonna
Speaker 2: end out of this show, how do they show up?
Speaker 2: That's my point, though, I do need to be courted
Speaker 2: by this guy slightly more, because let's just say we
Speaker 2: move into a crib. I'm going to buy the house
Speaker 2: I want and you're probably going to pay way less
Speaker 2: than me. Like I'm gonna take on more of a
Speaker 2: financial stake in this relationship. So I do need to
Speaker 2: see that you could at least take me on the
Speaker 2: little dates, because that's all I need from you. The
Speaker 2: problem with dating men with money is that their first
Speaker 2: inkling is that women, every single time they go on
Speaker 2: a date want their money so bad.
Speaker 1: So I like to just break that immediately.
Speaker 2: That for me is something that I always feel like
Speaker 2: is just like this unspoken thing they got to keep doing,
Speaker 2: keep spending whatever.
Speaker 1: I just want to break that already. I'm tired of
Speaker 1: that trope. I'm just not the girl I have all
Speaker 1: the friends that are. I'm not hitting niggas up for bags.
Speaker 1: I'm not hitting them up for rent money. I don't
Speaker 1: need it.
Speaker 2: Once you become my partner, if you got rich and
Speaker 2: and sure, but like I'm really not that bitch. I
Speaker 2: don't need it, don't care from it. For men, I
Speaker 2: really am looking for love and have it. But with
Speaker 2: the average dudes, I do need to see them step
Speaker 2: up a little more because I don't want to change
Speaker 2: my lifestyle necessarily as far as going on dates or
Speaker 2: doing fun social activities just because I'm with a man
Speaker 2: who makes less. Don't expect them to be doing more
Speaker 2: but to day to bish just make it as much
Speaker 2: as me and you about to be on his ride.
Speaker 2: I got to see you show up a little more.
Speaker 2: I'm riding the same ride as these millionaires.
Speaker 3: It's crazy, though, that you want the man with less
Speaker 3: money to show up more financial.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying they need to show up and take me.
Speaker 1: I'm not.
Speaker 3: I'm not saying that either, But the fact that you're
Speaker 3: willing that you would you feel better paying for drinks
Speaker 3: for men that you know.
Speaker 1: Have it have it more than because I'm not trying
Speaker 1: to help them. It feels better for you and that.
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm no, No, no, that is the point.
Speaker 1: I'm not paying for the drinks with the average nigga
Speaker 1: or the billionaire to help them financially. I am just
Speaker 1: simply trying to make a statement. So I'm not making
Speaker 1: a statement with these average niggas.
Speaker 3: But so you think you're helping them financially by paying drink,
Speaker 3: That's what I just said. That is So that's what
Speaker 3: I just heard you say with the nigga that you
Speaker 3: know you not helping financially.
Speaker 1: He got it.
Speaker 3: So it's a statement for you, it's not a statement
Speaker 3: for you with a regular man. You feel like you're
Speaker 3: saving him money by picking up the tab. So there
Speaker 3: is a difference in feeling that you're getting from from
Speaker 3: paying on it on a day with a nigga who
Speaker 3: don't have it, compared to paying on a date with
Speaker 3: someone who does.
Speaker 4: Look, can I say this?
Speaker 1: Uh huh?
Speaker 4: I think your outlook is I don't want to use
Speaker 4: the word fair, but it's understandable.
Speaker 5: Like, it is very understandable because no matter how modern
Speaker 5: we think our thinkings are, we socialize traditionally to feel
Speaker 5: like a man's not that you're saying this, but a
Speaker 5: man's value is inherently what he brings to the table financially.
Speaker 5: And it's not that you're saying this outwardly, but I
Speaker 5: think the behaviors are saying okay, because you don't have
Speaker 5: that traditional value that I come to value understandably. So
Speaker 5: mean a woman think about it even I mean, I'm
Speaker 5: not using this for all women, because some women choose
Speaker 5: not to have children don't have children. But when you're
Speaker 5: thinking about, hey, listen, if I know I want to
Speaker 5: have children, I know that maybe for these six or
Speaker 5: seven months, I'm not really going to be able to
Speaker 5: provide for myself quote unquote, I might be on maternity leave,
Speaker 5: then I want to be able to tend to the
Speaker 5: children more, or I need to make sure this man
Speaker 5: is fit enough financially to support me. So I don't
Speaker 5: think that that view should be chastlaised. I don't want
Speaker 5: to be supporting the man right. The thing that I
Speaker 5: want to say, though, in reverse, is what type of
Speaker 5: watching no no no is is? I think men nowadays
Speaker 5: are saying the same thing, especially men that are well off.
Speaker 5: We're saying, Okay, what else can you bring to this
Speaker 5: table for me? I hate to tell that because what
Speaker 5: And I know we hate this no, but it needs
Speaker 5: to be had. I agree only we only hate the
Speaker 5: table talk when it's asked of women, But we never
Speaker 5: hate the table talk when we're asking men what they
Speaker 5: bring to the table, because that's that has to be
Speaker 5: put on a fucking platter right away, with these fucking
Speaker 5: three hundred dollars dates, because God forbid, you ask somebody
Speaker 5: for a walk, and it's a problem. So my point is,
Speaker 5: I think I think men are saying. Men are saying, hey,
Speaker 5: especially these these men you know, to see sessful men.
Speaker 5: It's like, hey, I've met women that can receive my gifts.
Speaker 5: I met women that there's willing to exchange sex form.
Speaker 5: But to your point, have I met a woman that
Speaker 5: has the sense of generosity to say, Hey, I'm gonna
Speaker 5: take you out. Hey, don't hey, listen, the condition for
Speaker 5: me take you out is you got to promise me
Speaker 5: you won't pull out your car.
Speaker 4: You gotta let me do it. That happens so infrequently
Speaker 4: for men.
Speaker 1: That we don't know.
Speaker 4: So when you pick up the tap that nigga probably discombobilated.
Speaker 1: You know something. People said that it hit me.
Speaker 2: I appreciate you saying it was fair because I feel
Speaker 2: like some of the men that are listening will feel
Speaker 2: insulted by what I said. But when I'm on dates
Speaker 2: pain for men that know I make that much more
Speaker 2: than them, I'm really setting the tone that I'm gonna
Speaker 2: take care of shit. Yeah, and I kind of don't
Speaker 2: like that. Whereas with a richer dude, it just really
Speaker 2: does break it. I can't explain it. But like as
Speaker 2: someone with friends, I make me bro, this is the
Speaker 2: first thing that comes out of a man's mouth when
Speaker 2: they're on a date.
Speaker 1: With another woman.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. So and I hear my
Speaker 2: homeboys talk this way I get it. I just really
Speaker 2: want to get rid of that because as someone that
Speaker 2: is dating for love, especially with the word that I
Speaker 2: do whatever. Like literally, if you click on some horrible decision,
Speaker 2: shit starts swipe awiping there like this bitch is a bird,
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, Like you may think that
Speaker 2: because of the things we talk about. So I just
Speaker 2: really want to get rid of that now, don't get
Speaker 2: me wrong. Two other scenarios, if I'm dating long term
Speaker 2: relationship and average dude and a rich nigga, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: fly myself out with the average dude. What the fuck
Speaker 2: is eight hundred dollars round trip for five hundred, Like
Speaker 2: I'm gonna spend the bread to come and see you.
Speaker 2: With origin nigga, I'm probably gonna have different expectations, but
Speaker 2: I'm just saying in those initial courting faces, fass, I
Speaker 2: just really need to see him show up.
Speaker 5: Can I clarify something before because I know, yep, we'll
Speaker 5: have to wrap up. I want to clarify us and
Speaker 5: I get the context of what we're saying average do.
Speaker 5: But I'm gonna tell you, if that man got your attention,
Speaker 5: he is not average. He may be an average earning man.
Speaker 5: But that man is not average. If he's able to
Speaker 5: keep your attention, that means he is absolutely he is
Speaker 5: compensating in other ways that make that man well above
Speaker 5: average in other ways, other things, other situations. And I
Speaker 5: just want the guys on here because a lot of guys,
Speaker 5: when we use that word average average, you're only speaking
Speaker 5: about average earning.
Speaker 2: And I was speaking with you, Yeah, I completely agree.
Speaker 2: I never want to put down men for money. Like literally,
Speaker 2: someone asked me a question in my group chat yesterday.
Speaker 2: Would you want to be with the love of your
Speaker 2: life if y'all were making seventy five each love of
Speaker 2: your life or would you rather have access to unlimited
Speaker 2: money with someone that you felt just okay about.
Speaker 1: The lad And I know you got to the ladder.
Speaker 1: This is I got to drop this one. I don't
Speaker 1: want emptiness.
Speaker 5: Here's the thing, niggas, that's always been that nigga. Was
Speaker 5: that nigga broke or with money? Yep, niggas, that's been corny.
Speaker 5: It's always been corny broke or with money.
Speaker 1: Listen, I fucked that. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5: Like, the one thing about money, it is making more
Speaker 5: what you're already wash you was that nigga?
Speaker 1: You more that nigga?
Speaker 5: Yeah, but if you were corny, you are pretty still
Speaker 5: corn I've met so many men that's been successful now,
Speaker 5: especially in this digital age, and they still corny.
Speaker 1: So there we go with that one. Ace. Thank you
Speaker 1: for joining us. God damn we didn't. First off, I
Speaker 1: never want to acquire behind the guest to get Wow.
Speaker 1: We ain't gotta. We gotta get one of.
Speaker 3: Y'all motherfuckers out the room next time. I never want
Speaker 3: to acquire again.
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Speaker 1: We sign it out, but it's decisions, decisions. See you
Speaker 1: guys next week.