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Speaker 1: Welcome to decisions decisions.

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Speaker 2: I don't think you should say decisions decisions. It sounded

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Speaker 2: like you was talking to Kursten. You definitely say to welcome,

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Speaker 2: welcome to the new podcast. You want to say together

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Speaker 2: the decisions decisions.

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Speaker 3: All right, guys, we are joined now by b Ace metaphor.

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Speaker 1: You put a lot on that.

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Speaker 3: Well, I can't put the th I was like that,

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Speaker 3: I can't put the b A. But I just you

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Speaker 3: want me to say that. Actually before, but before Ace

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Speaker 3: Uh came in, he actually what's your nickname?

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Speaker 1: Actually? Now, didn't you say you're going by someone else?

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Speaker 4: And where the camera at?

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Speaker 3: Why?

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Speaker 5: He's rebranded young fly nigga. H I'm about to get

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Speaker 5: the whole combo.

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Speaker 1: I'm about to horrible.

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Speaker 3: I don't do this ghetto no, no, no, no no, we

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Speaker 3: are hold on No, I still do the ghetto ship.

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Speaker 3: I'm just rebranded in the way that I'm no longer

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Speaker 3: sucking dick.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's a lie. That is a lie. That is

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Speaker 1: a lie. I'm gonna hope it's a lot.

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Speaker 2: Bitch.

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Speaker 1: We still got horrible decision on patrioch. We do, we do?

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Speaker 1: We do? We do?

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Speaker 5: Okay, so wait, you're rebranding, branding. So what I'm gonna

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Speaker 5: do is I'm about to get the you know, the

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Speaker 5: sponge curls.

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Speaker 1: We're not doing that doing a sponge.

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Speaker 5: Curls doing I'm doing the sleeve about the whole thing,

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Speaker 5: like and then the chain, the heavy ass chain with

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Speaker 5: the WiFi and ACE on it.

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Speaker 1: So I'm not playing with you.

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Speaker 4: I'm just trying to be outside. I'm thirty five.

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Speaker 1: But so, but you just got out of a long

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Speaker 1: term relationship. Yeah, so long we used together about seven years.

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Speaker 1: What you do? Welcome to the fucking dating point. Now

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Speaker 1: what you do?

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Speaker 5: We're gonna talk about this because I'm trying to Yeah,

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Speaker 5: I'm trying to figure this out. You know a lot

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Speaker 5: of men feel that way, like after relationships, it'd be like,

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Speaker 5: what the fuck did I do?

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 5: I feel like that's because maybe I wasn't as emotionally

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Speaker 5: present in the relationship. And I had posted something on

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Speaker 5: my status the other day and I was talking about

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Speaker 5: how when I used to work at the hospital. I

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Speaker 5: worked at a hospital as a nurse for ten years,

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Speaker 5: and every every day when I would go into that job,

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Speaker 5: I would sit at the nursing station and I would

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Speaker 5: dream about a life that I want to live the

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Speaker 5: life that I'm living now right right. But then now

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Speaker 5: that I'm living that life, every time I go to work,

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Speaker 5: I think about what's next, the next show, the next

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Speaker 5: viral moment, the next I think we do that product.

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Speaker 5: And I'm now repeating the same cycle of the cycle

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Speaker 5: I did when I was at my job. And so

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Speaker 5: one of the things that I think about now being

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Speaker 5: that has maybe affected some of my friendships, some of

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm here, I'm here. I know me too.

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I'm not gonna lie. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: tell y'all.

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Speaker 2: I have to have to interject because I really need

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Speaker 2: self awareness. The election, I made plans with my homegrow Brianda.

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Speaker 2: She's like, we got to watch it together. I got

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Speaker 2: in a disagreement with my partner the day before, and

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Speaker 2: finally hash it out, I was like, Okay, girl, let

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Speaker 2: So the next day she was like, Yo, I'm really upset,

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Speaker 2: Like we really had plans to watch this election together,

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Speaker 2: like we've been talking about it all week, and I

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Speaker 1: There and there. Some people think the election wasn't a

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Speaker 1: big deal. Some people got really upset.

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Speaker 2: Whatever how you feel, right, I'm assuming if you listening

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Speaker 2: to this show, you're in't like the results. My damn,

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Speaker 2: that girl was really sitting there and I couldn't be

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Speaker 2: for later. That to me is a product of not

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Speaker 4: Because so you only got so much bandwidth, I mean, yes,

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Speaker 3: So then would you then say, because we both run

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Speaker 3: multiple businesses, all of us too, right, And I know

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Speaker 3: that that's been and you guys have heard me. That's

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Speaker 3: kind of been my mindset right now with the idea

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Speaker 3: of me going into polyamory because I feel like, Okay,

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Speaker 3: I don't think I am physically.

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Speaker 1: Going to be as available as I need to be.

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Speaker 3: We're even touring this year, right, I have these multiple

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Speaker 3: things that I want to do. So if I'm not

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Speaker 3: not able to show up emotionally like I need to.

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Speaker 3: Maybe polyamory makes sense to me because then I know

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Speaker 3: he can receive the love that maybe I don't have

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Speaker 3: that way. But then, let me ask you, both of you,

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Speaker 3: do you feel like because I'm sure a lot of

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Speaker 3: our listeners as well. Every time we meet y'all, y'all

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Speaker 3: are doctors, lawyers, teachers. All of y'all have really great

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Speaker 3: paying jobs. That's why y'all are able to come see

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Speaker 3: us live all the time. Do you find that someone

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Speaker 3: who is really busy, career driven or ambitious this will

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Speaker 4: Yes and no, right Like, yes and no.

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Speaker 5: It's it's being able to have that balance you feel me,

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Speaker 5: and that balance is important. And sometimes when you're not

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Speaker 5: prioritizing your partner as much as you are prioritizing your purpose.

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Speaker 5: And I know when you I'm sorry, I don't and

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Speaker 5: and what I mean is what I mean is at

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Speaker 5: the point where you're like, all right, I want to

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Speaker 5: dedicate my life to a person that has to be

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Speaker 5: equally as important as your purpose. Matter of fact, it

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Speaker 4: And those are things.

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Speaker 5: That take equal amount of of a prioritization in your life.

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Speaker 5: And it's should And the thing is going back to

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Speaker 5: people that are busy. So what happens is when you

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Speaker 4: So even though I may not be busy in body,

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Speaker 5: So now in these relationships, in this relationship, and I'm

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Speaker 5: just saying so, like I can be here on the couch,

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Speaker 2: You reminding me of this conversation we had about good

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Speaker 2: dads versus bad dads, and we were talking about Nick

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Speaker 2: Cannon and how could he be a good dad or

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Speaker 2: I was saying, because he's all over the place right

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Speaker 2: and my homegirl was like, girl, I'm married and his nigga.

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Speaker 1: Barely show up for his kids. Yes, like you know what.

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Speaker 2: I mean, he's not present, So I don't know. I

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Speaker 2: agree with what you said about you need to make

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Speaker 2: the priority for your partner and your job, like completely agree.

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Speaker 1: I absolutely so.

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Speaker 2: I think you shouldn't even consider partnership if you know

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Speaker 3: That's why I just don't think I'm for living for

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Speaker 1: As a woman, I don't want to be a mother

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Speaker 3: So right now I'm also navigating then how can I

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Speaker 1: And mind you, this goes to and I'll be honest too.

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Speaker 3: This is a really touchy subject for me right now

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Speaker 3: So while we're all dating and trying to prioritize how

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Speaker 3: because they're in their thirties, right, unless we want to

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Speaker 3: now they're having to have the conversation like, my one friend.

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Speaker 1: Has to have surrogacy. Do you know how rich you

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Speaker 3: Already paid about fourteen thousand dollars for IVF and freezing

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Speaker 3: I need to meet a man who was fine with

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Speaker 3: someone carry a baby if they want it. So now

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Speaker 3: we're having these conversations. I'm thirty three, they're all between

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Speaker 3: thirty three and thirty eight.

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Speaker 1: Fuck well, who do I even date now?

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Speaker 5: But let me say this, we all walking our own

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Speaker 5: individual journeys, right, So I want to first give space

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Speaker 5: to yours, Like I understand your perspective and you're saying, hey, listen,

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Speaker 5: I don't necessarily want to have children, nor do I

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Speaker 5: want to be a wife. And I feel like that

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Speaker 5: that is a equally as meaningful life for you, especially

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Speaker 5: if you plan accordingly and you get people that's on

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Speaker 5: that same wavelengths and people that understand that and that's

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Speaker 5: a space for that, right. I don't like when people

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Speaker 5: make it seem like there's only one way to get

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Speaker 5: to an NGO because it's multiple different ways.

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Speaker 1: For sure.

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Speaker 5: My way is like I'm gonna tell you this, like

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Speaker 5: I'm not for the streets, Like, yes, for a little bit,

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Speaker 5: I'm not gonna lie chain is given, the chain is

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Speaker 5: giving you for the street.

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Speaker 4: No, I'm not about that.

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Speaker 1: Look y'all gotta realize that your jewelry will let it be,

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Speaker 1: no will make you look like you for community or

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Speaker 1: One of those fit bit people? You're like this track? Shit?

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Speaker 1: I mean give it two thousand and six minutes from Florida.

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Speaker 4: So I got that charger.

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Speaker 5: I got that charger when I still was making like

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Speaker 4: You know my house, You've been in my house before.

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Speaker 5: Like, what I'm saying is I'm a modest liver. Like

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Speaker 5: If you don't if you don't spend, if you don't

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Speaker 5: I got my little tax bill. I got my tax

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Speaker 5: Ship was crazy. Ship was crazy when the when the

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Speaker 1: Were not gonna do this. No, I do not use

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Speaker 4: Don't even matter, I say, don't even matter.

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Speaker 5: Hold on, you fly, that's aviation, not that hold on,

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Speaker 5: But the amount that they asking me to pay, I

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Speaker 2: In this election, all I could think every time I

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Speaker 2: They try to convince us that corporations get these tax

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Speaker 1: But that never happens. Bro.

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Speaker 2: If I got a tax cut, just another fifty or

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Speaker 1: You know what's crazy. I'm not going to when it

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Speaker 3: It was none of the money met Like what they

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Speaker 1: Y'all know I did. I used to do taxes.

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Speaker 3: I literally was voting for women's rights, and my mama

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Speaker 3: She was like, bitch, I need to smoke my weed.

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Speaker 1: Get there.

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Speaker 4: Yes, you just stick this pointing before we get this.

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Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 5: And the reason. So now, now let's go back to

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Speaker 5: your original point. There are a lot of people that

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Speaker 4: I got to get this out. This camera on me,

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Speaker 4: which one is on me?

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Speaker 1: Look, this is what you'll be saying in the conference.

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Speaker 5: Hold on, no many, I'm gonna I'm gonna talk about

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Speaker 5: ship go ahead. People will be like, yeah, he'd be

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Speaker 5: First of all, I do like that shoulder first, the

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Speaker 4: Okay, the first part.

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Speaker 5: But the reasonion the reason I'm talking about it is

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Speaker 5: But but what I'm saying is I saved my money. Now,

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Speaker 5: that portion of it. The and then I'm gonna let

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Speaker 5: you get to your hypathetical. People will be like, you know, hey,

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Speaker 5: he's making and you've been on tour. Yeah, he's making

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Speaker 5: all his money pandering and women. First of all, you

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Speaker 2: I think it's hard, but you do make money from pandering.

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Speaker 1: But no, no, no, no, no, no no, because we.

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Speaker 2: Make money from pandering to people that using the word

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Speaker 5: Hear me out, hear me out, hear me out, hear

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Speaker 5: me out. You're right, that could be completely true. But

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Speaker 5: what I'm saying is when somebody says that to me,

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Speaker 5: I'd be like, no, I'm just smarter than you. Ooh,

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Speaker 5: I work harder than you. I'm more dedicated than you.

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Speaker 5: I put hundreds of thousands of dollars in my brand.

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Speaker 5: I've never taken a dollar from nobody. Everything I got

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Speaker 5: I've paid fifty sixty seventy what is it, W nine

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Speaker 5: I have a whole department because it's like one hundred

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Speaker 1: There's a better word for this. Yeah, what's the word.

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Speaker 1: It's salesman.

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Speaker 2: So okay, what I've learned about this era of internet

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Speaker 2: videos like yours, like when you click on your page

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Speaker 2: and I like watching them, right, I like consuming content

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Speaker 2: like yours. Maybe a quick one minute clip I'm watching

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Speaker 2: But you are selling something. You're selling either guidance, hope,

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Speaker 2: something about how you say it. You're not really aggressive,

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Speaker 1: Or who's the one your girl?

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Speaker 3: Something Jackson Derek Jackson like that he's a parandemic.

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Speaker 4: Go back to those So like, if you go back

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Speaker 4: to I'm gonna let you get to your.

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Speaker 1: I want to yeah you know we timed over, yell, okay.

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Speaker 5: But if you get back to even what you say,

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Speaker 5: like I'll watch like you'll watch a content. Let's say

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Speaker 5: you go into your pocket and say, huh, let me

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Speaker 5: part of that process that people skip. It's in order

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Speaker 5: we got an app, and I got twenty five thousand

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Speaker 4: It don't happen by accident.

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Speaker 5: And so what I'm saying is if you're gon't call

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Speaker 5: may be, which I don't really, don't call me a

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Speaker 5: broke one. No, no, no. What I'm saying is, don't discount.

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Speaker 5: Don't don't worry that because it's easier for you to

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Speaker 4: Very accept that I'm just better at it.

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Speaker 1: People thought our podcast was only popular because of course

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Speaker 2: It's puling, right. I feel like bitches get mad at

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Speaker 2: It's like you just met you a little medbag because

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Speaker 1: I don't think they get mad.

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Speaker 3: I think that there's still stigma around just selling sex,

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Speaker 1: The getigma maad at girls. I believe the word isn't

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Speaker 2: They shit on these girls talking about how they're xyz,

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Speaker 1: We net the same shit they bases. Do people think

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Speaker 2: They are making certain content, they're marketing, they have email,

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Speaker 1: Out's the business. It's a it's a business.

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Speaker 2: You think the average only fans girl can compare to

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Speaker 2: that's a fact. And they are mad because they think

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Speaker 1: So I really do think this is all of the same.

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Speaker 1: They selling sex.

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Speaker 2: You may be selling a certain thing like it's all

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Speaker 2: one minute clip. That's the reason we're mad, all right.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, God, yes, let's let's let's get through. We have

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Speaker 3: So if you could have, especially since you're dating now,

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Speaker 2: I really I watched Marvel movies last night to go

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Speaker 2: what if I could get invisible one and get into

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Speaker 2: a conversation.

441
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Speaker 1: So I felt like, so, which two would you pick?

442
00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:35,679
Speaker 1: Just one? You get two, you get.

443
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Speaker 3: Two of these three? I know mine, and I know why,

444
00:19:39,960 --> 00:19:44,080
Speaker 3: being invisible, morphing and times. Okay, Oh, mine would be

445
00:19:44,160 --> 00:19:45,320
Speaker 3: the time travel and the morphing.

446
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Speaker 1: Mine's time traveling invisible.

447
00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:49,639
Speaker 3: So time travel because I would want to see if

448
00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:52,520
Speaker 3: this nigga wasted my time out the gate. So I

449
00:19:52,600 --> 00:19:55,840
Speaker 3: am going probably to the next week. Do you exist

450
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Speaker 3: a week from now? If not, I'm gonna go ahead

451
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Speaker 3: and stop talking to you. Where do we go from here?

452
00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:02,320
Speaker 3: I would want to time travel because I would want

453
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Speaker 3: to see how far we get to know if if

454
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Speaker 3: you're gonna waste my time, then the morphing is done.

455
00:20:07,760 --> 00:20:09,800
Speaker 3: I want to dig from time to time.

456
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Speaker 1: That's not how I want. That's what morph me and

457
00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:15,080
Speaker 1: I like, ooh, would you want to morph into another bitch?

458
00:20:15,359 --> 00:20:17,800
Speaker 1: No bitch, I'm gonna bit. I want to morph into

459
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Speaker 1: whatever I want to morph into actually to go back

460
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Speaker 1: and fix mistakes. Though, Noah, what would be? What's the

461
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Speaker 1: and being invisible? I don't like that.

462
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Speaker 5: Morphine, morphine, time travel, morphine and time travel. No I'm ana,

463
00:20:30,080 --> 00:20:32,760
Speaker 5: no nah, I'm gonna do invisible and morphine theah. So

464
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Speaker 5: I'm again I'm against the time travel thing right because

465
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Speaker 5: it takes the suspense out of life, if you know,

466
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Speaker 5: like part of it, the best part. And this is

467
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Speaker 5: what I found in just general, the best part is

468
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Speaker 5: the journey, not the destination. Oftentimes, when you get to

469
00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:49,880
Speaker 5: the destination you fucking disappointed. But the fun you had

470
00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:52,760
Speaker 5: along the way is what makes to me life worth living.

471
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Speaker 5: So like, if I'm able to every moment like being

472
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Speaker 5: those moments in that journey, even if we don't end

473
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Speaker 5: up being husband wife for whatever, but if we had

474
00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:03,439
Speaker 5: fun along the way, we did this, we did that,

475
00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:06,000
Speaker 5: we had that hope of it. Could think about it.

476
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:08,440
Speaker 5: A lot of people that got to that destination don't

477
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Speaker 5: even want to be there.

478
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Speaker 1: I ain't gonna old you. I want to know which.

479
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Speaker 3: I want to know which one of our listeners are

480
00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:14,880
Speaker 3: like me, I could be watching a movie and it's

481
00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:18,239
Speaker 3: so good I posit and google the ending. See, But

482
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Speaker 3: that's that's what I'm saying.

483
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Speaker 1: But that's your control freak. Yeah, I don't think so.

484
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Speaker 1: I want to know the inding. You want you have

485
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Speaker 1: to know. I want to know the inding, and I

486
00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:28,440
Speaker 1: don't care if it control freak.

487
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Speaker 3: I don't like it because there's a negative a negative

488
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Speaker 3: connotation around it and stigma around being a control freak.

489
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Speaker 3: I want to know the inding because in my way,

490
00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:40,440
Speaker 3: somebody if I start, if I start a series. I

491
00:21:40,520 --> 00:21:45,119
Speaker 3: literally episode one, I go straight to Twitter, hashtag it

492
00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:47,800
Speaker 3: and look and see what everyone has to say about it.

493
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Speaker 1: I literally do that. How do you think that has

494
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:52,880
Speaker 1: nothing to do it?

495
00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:56,720
Speaker 3: Because broth, I value my time? Am I about to

496
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Speaker 3: waste my time? Is this the moody?

497
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Speaker 6: Is this?

498
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Speaker 5: In a separate way, You're you're wanting to be a

499
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:05,400
Speaker 5: time traveler so you can go back to fix mistakes.

500
00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:09,040
Speaker 5: It's also some that's all freaky too, maybe, but I

501
00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:14,960
Speaker 5: don't help the future because because because you want to

502
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Speaker 5: control the results so bad that you're willing to go

503
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Speaker 5: back to redo it.

504
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Speaker 2: My answer, honestly, I know where you what you cooked with,

505
00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:24,320
Speaker 2: but mine's really different.

506
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Speaker 1: Okay, go ahead again.

507
00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:28,960
Speaker 2: The self awareness thing, like I realize I make mistakes

508
00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:32,760
Speaker 2: that I can't sometimes understand I'm making, so like if

509
00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:35,119
Speaker 2: I could go back and just fix that, it's really

510
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 2: not for the control aspect. It's more the other person,

511
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 2: Like I feel empathy, like there's been a lot of

512
00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:43,000
Speaker 2: mistakes I've made in my friendships, podcast shit, like I

513
00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:44,359
Speaker 2: wish I could go back and change them.

514
00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:46,879
Speaker 1: I can't. But it's really for the other person's feeling,

515
00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:47,680
Speaker 1: not mine, So.

516
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Speaker 5: You can't accept it so you want to control it,

517
00:22:50,080 --> 00:22:52,720
Speaker 5: you want to control the result, Okay, just like sheep.

518
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:57,200
Speaker 3: But there's a negative connotations that control freaking period.

519
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Speaker 1: I don't mind.

520
00:22:58,040 --> 00:23:00,240
Speaker 2: I don't mind the how it can make me look.

521
00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:02,439
Speaker 2: I don't care about the negative. I'm really thinking about it,

522
00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:05,120
Speaker 2: and I'm like, for me, it's not a selfish thing.

523
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 2: It may be me feeling guilt could be selfish.

524
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Speaker 4: Why does you want to relieve that guilt? Are that

525
00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:11,800
Speaker 4: that regret?

526
00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:15,119
Speaker 5: Are that those thoughts that you have about wishing you

527
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Speaker 5: could have a second chance to do it.

528
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Speaker 2: I just don't like seeing people in pain, like from

529
00:23:20,359 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 2: something I've done.

530
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Speaker 1: So that's why I really want to fix mistakes.

531
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Speaker 2: Like yeah, and it for me it could be guilt,

532
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:31,000
Speaker 2: but it really like, it's hard for me to watch

533
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 2: someone be upset by something that wasn't intentional.

534
00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:35,199
Speaker 1: I've done a lot of things and said a lot

535
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:36,280
Speaker 1: of things. I wouldn't take that.

536
00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:38,719
Speaker 2: Oh, I could pull up my old tweets on my

537
00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:41,120
Speaker 2: suspended shit every bit that I was talking shit too.

538
00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:41,679
Speaker 1: I'm at it.

539
00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:44,240
Speaker 2: But there's certain things and I'm like, damn, I really

540
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Speaker 2: do wish I could take that back. So my brain

541
00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:48,800
Speaker 2: gets a little crazy sometimes when I'm angry, and I

542
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Speaker 2: think those are the things I want to.

543
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Speaker 5: Do because not to get so deep I'm traveling and

544
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:56,679
Speaker 5: to not make it about you just making a person

545
00:23:56,960 --> 00:24:00,160
Speaker 5: that answered a similar way to me. It's time travel

546
00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:03,399
Speaker 5: with in that person's head be easier than just fixing

547
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:04,160
Speaker 5: it organically.

548
00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:06,800
Speaker 1: Sometimes these things can't be fixed.

549
00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:09,120
Speaker 4: And that's the part that we have to accept.

550
00:24:09,560 --> 00:24:12,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I get that, you know what I would in

551
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 2: business of the future though, Like if you told me,

552
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 2: right now, press this button and you'll know the day

553
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:19,560
Speaker 2: you die, I wouldn't.

554
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Speaker 1: Want I mean, that's completely different. No, I don't think

555
00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:23,480
Speaker 1: it is. No, I don't want to know. There's certain

556
00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:24,639
Speaker 1: things I want to know the future of.

557
00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 5: There's certain thing accident find out when you try to

558
00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:29,359
Speaker 5: go six months in advance to try to figure it.

559
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:35,160
Speaker 4: Out, try to figure get together, Like, yeah, you don't

560
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Speaker 4: see ship.

561
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Speaker 1: And you're like, oh, imagine he's like, yo, yeah, I

562
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,800
Speaker 1: died and I ain't gonna hold you. Didn't. I know,

563
00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:44,280
Speaker 1: there's a whole lot of fun.

564
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Speaker 3: A bitch about to have a pot in Okay, I'm

565
00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 3: about the mother, But y'all remember that episode the two

566
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:52,040
Speaker 3: women on the sixteen men.

567
00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:54,920
Speaker 1: Oh baby, I might beat that. I've been watching the video.

568
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:56,520
Speaker 1: This girl fucked a hundred.

569
00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:58,919
Speaker 3: This girl fucked a hundred niggas in a day, and

570
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 3: then she said, I want to fuck the thousand y'all

571
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:03,719
Speaker 3: if I'm leaving, and y'all can talk about me when

572
00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:04,679
Speaker 3: I'm gone, Bitch, I'm.

573
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 1: Doing it all.

574
00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:07,440
Speaker 2: Okay, what's your last week? You got seven days from today,

575
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:08,560
Speaker 2: which how are you spending your last week?

576
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Speaker 5: Hypothetically seven days, I got seven days doing what I

577
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 5: do every day.

578
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:18,480
Speaker 4: I wouldn't like I would just probably go work out,

579
00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:21,959
Speaker 4: walk my dog. You would still work out, order Chipotle

580
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:22,399
Speaker 4: I would do.

581
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:24,359
Speaker 1: I would work out for the You would eat Chipotle

582
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:25,639
Speaker 1: in your last seven days?

583
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:29,000
Speaker 5: I do so look, so look Chipotle, let me let

584
00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 5: me explain. Are you sponsored by them?

585
00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:34,640
Speaker 1: No? What I mean is.

586
00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:38,879
Speaker 5: What I normally do, is what I love to do,

587
00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:42,640
Speaker 5: like outside of halving the work, like I don't necessarily

588
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 5: want to be in New York.

589
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:45,680
Speaker 1: Right now, but like being at the best city in

590
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Speaker 1: the world.

591
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 5: Cancer so like so like waking up, going to the gym,

592
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:53,879
Speaker 5: waking up, you know, uh all right, walking my dog,

593
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:58,760
Speaker 5: hitting the bar, drinking some tequila, watching little Pokemon videos

594
00:25:58,840 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 5: or something on.

595
00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 1: My you to like ship like that, simple pleasures.

596
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:04,400
Speaker 5: I would just do the same thing because here's the thing, man,

597
00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 5: I can do whatever the fuck I want right now,

598
00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 5: and I do whatever the fuck I want. And that's

599
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:12,439
Speaker 5: clue fucking steak dinners and flying around the world like

600
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:14,840
Speaker 5: even though that's cool, that's not really what I like

601
00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:15,280
Speaker 5: to do.

602
00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 1: So I like to you can vibrate, you know, somewhere else.

603
00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 2: I would spend my last week everybody know where I

604
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:24,400
Speaker 2: like to travel, probably fly, dump all my savings into

605
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:27,640
Speaker 2: my friends with kids, give their kids money for college.

606
00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 2: The rest of the money fly everybody I love out

607
00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:31,600
Speaker 2: to fucking Mexico and die on.

608
00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:32,920
Speaker 1: The beach every day.

609
00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 2: Spend this swimming, being in the sun, having fun, making

610
00:26:35,840 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 2: like final memories with like friends, family, get tequila's in

611
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 2: there too.

612
00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:43,320
Speaker 1: Maybe a little like.

613
00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:52,080
Speaker 5: Respectfully man for me, not your people, but man, fuck them,

614
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 5: no ma, and coordinating this and doing that stressful if

615
00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 5: I guess I seven days to live, bro, I'm just

616
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:02,920
Speaker 5: I'm really just enjoying myself.

617
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 4: I'm being at peace with myself. I'm organizing my thoughts.

618
00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:09,199
Speaker 5: I'm figuring out how I can in my brain reconcile

619
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 5: the last whatever, how many hours that is, and then

620
00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:16,000
Speaker 5: with that, I'm just gonna do what I love to do.

621
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:18,480
Speaker 2: You don't want if you had a week left, see

622
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:21,120
Speaker 2: the reason I said that, And fuck coordinating, like I'll

623
00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:24,080
Speaker 2: be blowing my money right. I want to surround myself

624
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 2: with everybody that I love and loves me back.

625
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 1: That brings me back to my birthday.

626
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:31,000
Speaker 4: But that's that's what I do every day.

627
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:34,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, it also you're gonna want solitude. It also same

628
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:34,680
Speaker 1: with me.

629
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:36,960
Speaker 3: Like to me, if I have seven days, it brings

630
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 3: me back to why I don't like celebrating birthdays like

631
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:41,480
Speaker 3: my last seven days? Do you think I want to

632
00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:43,680
Speaker 3: be let down at someone not being able to show up,

633
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,280
Speaker 3: or someone missing their flight, or someone doing some shit

634
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 3: that's gonna piss me to fuck off or make me

635
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 3: feel a way that I don't want to feel like.

636
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 3: I think that That's That's what I've enjoyed recently, like

637
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:56,879
Speaker 3: certain days, and my therapist has been like like making

638
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,679
Speaker 3: me take these little blocks out right, Like I go

639
00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:01,399
Speaker 3: to the park and I just ride my scooter and

640
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 3: enjoy seeing the leaves change colors, and.

641
00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 1: I don't invite anybody.

642
00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:07,399
Speaker 3: I've been going out so much alone lately too, because

643
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 3: when you constantly want to be around all these people,

644
00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:13,359
Speaker 3: you're inviting all of their bullshit around you. You're inviting

645
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 3: the way that they can't show up on time. That's

646
00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:16,840
Speaker 3: been my big fucking thing. I don't even want to

647
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:18,640
Speaker 3: be around you. If you can't be on time, then

648
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 3: just a lot of their stuff like and it just

649
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,719
Speaker 3: it just weans off to you. And and I think that

650
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:28,120
Speaker 3: that's my thing too, dealing with everyone's health right now

651
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 3: around me and my mom, her first time being in therapy.

652
00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:35,400
Speaker 3: It is just like being around people is actually, especially

653
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 3: while while being sober, has been a completely different relationship

654
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 3: right now with people.

655
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Speaker 5: I got I got two things. The first thing is

656
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 5: what type of watch do I need.

657
00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 1: To get deep? You know what? No?

658
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 4: No, because because if this is a broken watch.

659
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 1: I I do want to do it. I don't want to.

660
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Speaker 3: I do want to do a kiki because I want

661
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 3: to talk about what is considered broke in what's broke behavior?

662
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 1: Only because we do have a reactionary clip.

663
00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 3: This woman went on a date and this the internet

664
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 3: has kind of been split with is she the brokey

665
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 3: or is he the brokey? And I want us to

666
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:19,920
Speaker 3: not even dig into their pockets. But there's layers to

667
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 3: this video. So have you seen this video? Okay, so

668
00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 3: we'll play the video and listen to what she's saying,

669
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 3: and then I also want to add context right after

670
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 3: we'll play that shit.

671
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 6: Y'all will not believe what just happened. Like, I literally

672
00:29:34,040 --> 00:29:37,160
Speaker 6: went on a date with the guy. And let's just say,

673
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 6: mind you, he's sitting right next to me.

674
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:41,600
Speaker 1: I'll order what I want. He didn't want to order

675
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:44,240
Speaker 1: anything because he ate, so he just ordered Dr Bok.

676
00:29:44,760 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 1: I ordered what I wanted and he hears it clearly

677
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 1: because he's right next to me. The fool comps. He

678
00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 1: started making all these comments, oh you order that, Oh

679
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:57,560
Speaker 1: you want eat all that? Mind So I told him.

680
00:29:57,480 --> 00:29:59,200
Speaker 6: That my friend flew into town and that after dinner

681
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:01,600
Speaker 6: I was gonna go see her because she wanted need

682
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 6: to pull up on her or whatever.

683
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,600
Speaker 1: He's like, did you order some food for your friends?

684
00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:08,640
Speaker 1: He think you broke it. He was like, if I

685
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 1: wasn't here, would you order all that? Baty? You think

686
00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:16,240
Speaker 1: I can't afford a meal? I said, honestly, if you

687
00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 1: wasn't here, I would have still ordered like this. This

688
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 1: is how I eat with my friends. This is how

689
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 1: eaten them bout myself crazy.

690
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 6: But the kicker is this man said, oh, I'm gonna go.

691
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 6: I said, okay, He lays down one hundred dollars walks off.

692
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:41,400
Speaker 6: My view, He caught us a black truck to dinner,

693
00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:44,960
Speaker 6: so I rode with him in an uber he left,

694
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:47,800
Speaker 6: He didn't He didn't say anything besides I'm gonna go,

695
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:50,400
Speaker 6: and then set the money down and then dipped off.

696
00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:52,000
Speaker 6: He didn't ask if I need if I needed a

697
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:55,720
Speaker 6: ride home the home. He didn't ask what the bill was.

698
00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 1: Nothing.

699
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Speaker 6: My view, this is a forty forty five year old,

700
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 6: forty five year old man growing.

701
00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 5: Man now hold on, yeah, so okay me. Their reaction

702
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 5: is how old is she?

703
00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: She does look younger, but that's that.

704
00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 5: I think that's the point. The point is, I mean,

705
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 5: this is me talking being thirty five. The point is

706
00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 5: a couple of things. A how your mannerisms, how you

707
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 5: approach the situation, how you're verbalizing things matter. Okay, if

708
00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 5: he is concerned about a budget, you know what I'm saying,

709
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 5: he inquires about it, I'm I'm imagining that maybe she's

710
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 5: if she's doing all this and.

711
00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 4: Baby, I do this by myself. That would be a turnoff.

712
00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 5: It's not like the man refused to pay for the

713
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:46,600
Speaker 5: meal because he left one hundred dollars, but that I

714
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 5: don't like that.

715
00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think. I don't think we discussed budgets,

716
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:50,520
Speaker 1: our budgets being.

717
00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 2: Hold on, hold on, we got to stop for a

718
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 2: second before we talk a budget. He says, she did

719
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 2: all that. She's making a TikTok right now. But if

720
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:59,080
Speaker 2: he's brought up in the middle of the day, would

721
00:31:59,080 --> 00:31:59,600
Speaker 2: you order all that?

722
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 1: If I was in here, I'm going to start reacting too.

723
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:05,040
Speaker 5: So so we're on a date. No, No, I agree.

724
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 5: So here's the thing. I'm a pitty girl after that,

725
00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 5: regardless of how we got to that point, I'm saying

726
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 5: that man being forty five, she looked like she's twenty two.

727
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:15,480
Speaker 4: I don't even know why.

728
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 3: So I do want to I want to add context, okay,

729
00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 3: because she she did response videos.

730
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:23,040
Speaker 1: So context. Oh yeah, what's the dates she ordered? They

731
00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:23,680
Speaker 1: sat at the bar.

732
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 3: Context number one, which is, you know, she clearly says

733
00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:29,560
Speaker 3: he ordered a drink and said he didn't want any food.

734
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 3: So contact says they sat at the bar. The food

735
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 3: she ordered, she ordered half a dozen oysters. She ordered

736
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 3: I believe it was lamb chops, two sides. The sides

737
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 3: I believe was mac and cheese, asparagus, and then crab

738
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 3: fried rice.

739
00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 1: She also she also had two drinks, A lot of food.

740
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 1: That is a lot of food. Did a lot of foods? No?

741
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 5: No, I'm gonna tell you this as a man that

742
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 5: has dated all my life.

743
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 1: Wait, do y'all look at what we orderdy is not

744
00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:57,080
Speaker 1: I want to talk about that.

745
00:32:58,040 --> 00:33:01,280
Speaker 5: I know when a woman is ordering food for her

746
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 5: kids later, I just know it.

747
00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 1: It happens.

748
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:07,640
Speaker 5: They order so much food and then just to go

749
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 5: boxes and it's a whole bunch of shit. And I'm

750
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:12,600
Speaker 5: not tripping on that. Like me myself, I wouldn't trip

751
00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:15,200
Speaker 5: on that. But that happens a lot. It happens more

752
00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 5: than we talk about. Really, Yes, if.

753
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:19,480
Speaker 3: You're for kids for friends too, I mean, I ain't

754
00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 3: gonna a you when I don't made shout Outlena and

755
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 3: Dwayne we used to live together and when she first

756
00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:30,520
Speaker 3: started dating him, she would literally send me whatever restaurant

757
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:32,320
Speaker 3: they was at and she would order food for me.

758
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 1: And he started knowing. He didn't know, but he knew.

759
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:37,840
Speaker 1: He ordered an entree sides and an advertiser.

760
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie that she did not know you.

761
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 3: That's a regular mass befit.

762
00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 1: No, I agree.

763
00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 5: I'm saying though, when you say, is it outrageous to

764
00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 5: think that a woman would do something like that, I

765
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 5: don't think it's outrageous.

766
00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 1: I think it's outrageous for him to bring it up.

767
00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 2: And I think it's outrageous for men to continually assume

768
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 2: that when I get dressed, to know when I get

769
00:33:57,200 --> 00:33:58,720
Speaker 2: dressed to go out on a date, that I'm going

770
00:33:58,760 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 2: out for just a drink.

771
00:33:59,840 --> 00:34:00,960
Speaker 1: I like dinner dates.

772
00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:03,400
Speaker 2: If you want to eat, have just a drink, that's fine.

773
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 2: I'm going to have farking soon.

774
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 5: Assume goes both ways, then, because if you're also assuming

775
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 5: that it's okay for you to order that amount of

776
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:10,760
Speaker 5: stuff because those were.

777
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:12,560
Speaker 1: Not cheap items, that you're probably not.

778
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:15,919
Speaker 5: So I guess my point is there should if there's

779
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 5: not a both parties shouldn't assume then okay.

780
00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 4: So like if it be he is it cool if

781
00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 4: or blah blah blah blah.

782
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:24,800
Speaker 1: I'm not asking if it's cool exactly.

783
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:28,279
Speaker 4: So my point is you're working off of assumptions as well.

784
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 6: Ah.

785
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:32,479
Speaker 2: But here's the thing though, It's like, genuinely, I can't

786
00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:37,400
Speaker 2: understand how we think this is. I understand it's a

787
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:41,200
Speaker 2: lot of food, but like, this is a girl with money.

788
00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:44,239
Speaker 2: Now I'm thirty three years old, I understand she might

789
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 2: be twenty two. I am not asking if it's okay, yeah.

790
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 3: Oh, Honestly, if I want to order caviar, well that's

791
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 3: I mean caviar, maybe something that I check with first.

792
00:34:53,719 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 3: There aren't to me certain items out of respect, especially

793
00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:57,880
Speaker 3: because yes, tar.

794
00:34:57,560 --> 00:34:59,880
Speaker 1: Is one fifty two fifty on a market.

795
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 4: I'm asking like sixty seventy dollars.

796
00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:05,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm sick that's what she's just half. The

797
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 1: other half another eighteen.

798
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 5: Dollars six what they're not.

799
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:13,799
Speaker 1: Out.

800
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:19,920
Speaker 5: Maybe I'll just eat different type of work. Look, if

801
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:23,759
Speaker 5: y'all got hold on no whoa, if you don't mean

802
00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:27,160
Speaker 5: no no, you know, but the oysters, I'll be getting no.

803
00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 5: I forgot about hold on head And you gotta use

804
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:31,520
Speaker 5: this nigga living day in Ohio.

805
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:34,239
Speaker 1: Ain't no water. It's probably the no no no, no

806
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:38,160
Speaker 1: no where the middle of marriage. No.

807
00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:40,800
Speaker 4: First of all, is this the camera that's on the

808
00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:42,360
Speaker 4: end us?

809
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:51,920
Speaker 7: I am cultured just because I've been flors oyster bars,

810
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 7: high end oyster bars, depending on what oysters you are getting,

811
00:35:55,719 --> 00:35:57,759
Speaker 7: where they're from, how fresh they are.

812
00:35:58,040 --> 00:35:59,840
Speaker 4: Some of those boys, you're not getting the.

813
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 1: New you're you're for eighteen dollars her eyes. I'll just

814
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:09,480
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you, I know that you're full of ship.

815
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,000
Speaker 1: If he took her to a place that was.

816
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:14,319
Speaker 2: That expensive, he wouldn't be asking her why she ordered

817
00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 2: all that ship. And you're telling me if he took

818
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:18,800
Speaker 2: her to a place that was high Are you ready?

819
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:20,719
Speaker 1: Are you ready? Way? She want to know why?

820
00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:22,680
Speaker 3: I know you full of ship because you just said,

821
00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:24,359
Speaker 3: if you had seven days to live, you will eat

822
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:24,880
Speaker 3: a Chipotle.

823
00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:28,320
Speaker 1: You ain't eating no seventy dollars either, nigga. Oh no,

824
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:33,560
Speaker 1: you're definitely not eating bro. He's not eating no seventy dollars. Oil, bro, y'all.

825
00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:35,760
Speaker 1: Probably he probably paid for some dollars.

826
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:39,200
Speaker 5: Y'all about to find out. And y'all come for niggas

827
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 5: to take oyster seriously, Oh my god, is gonna be

828
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:44,360
Speaker 5: like ten dollars of oyster.

829
00:36:44,400 --> 00:36:46,000
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I'm glad he's curio.

830
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:49,000
Speaker 3: Hold know, I think I have another point for this

831
00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 3: right like she.

832
00:36:51,719 --> 00:36:52,359
Speaker 1: She brought up.

833
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:54,800
Speaker 3: She brought up that she was linking her friend after

834
00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 3: This is where my mind went with this, right, I

835
00:36:58,200 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 3: think that this man taking her on this date and

836
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:04,560
Speaker 3: bringing her straight to the bar and only thinking they're

837
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 3: gonna order drinks and hear me out. This is not

838
00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 3: me speaking from Trauba. Y'all could think it might be,

839
00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:16,239
Speaker 3: but we know that there is an exchange currently that

840
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 3: people presume to happen after a date, especially depending on

841
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:24,640
Speaker 3: what they're expecting from this person. So if this woman

842
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 3: is younger however he perceived her, he might have thought

843
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:30,399
Speaker 3: from this date, I get a nightcap from this date,

844
00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:32,560
Speaker 3: I want to invite her over, or I want to

845
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 3: do something else after. As soon as she said, hey,

846
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:37,759
Speaker 3: just you know, after this, I'm linking with my homegirl,

847
00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,399
Speaker 3: that could have immediately also removed him from the date

848
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:41,919
Speaker 3: because it ends there.

849
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:46,279
Speaker 2: That's actually the most justifiablange I think for this whole thing.

850
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 2: I think, I really think, if you're taking someone on

851
00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:50,839
Speaker 2: a date, why is it crazy that I'm eating food

852
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:51,400
Speaker 2: because you're not?

853
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 1: Ah, Like, now I got to fucking match your vibration.

854
00:37:58,320 --> 00:38:01,080
Speaker 1: I'm hungry, You don't hear He's probably seven o'clock.

855
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:03,240
Speaker 4: I almost speak for myself. I'm gonna speak for myself.

856
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 5: I disagree with the brother, you know, saying like that's

857
00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:09,400
Speaker 5: not how I operate.

858
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 1: Judge silently. No, no, no, I'm not sure.

859
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:16,319
Speaker 5: No, I'm not she's got another fucker in fairness, you

860
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:20,800
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying. Ordered, you know what I'm saying, fairness,

861
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 5: It don't bother me.

862
00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 1: Bought one hundred seven.

863
00:38:24,640 --> 00:38:27,320
Speaker 5: Dollars saying that not everybody is in that particular position,

864
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 5: and that's why consideration is important.

865
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 1: Okay.

866
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:34,359
Speaker 5: And here's the thing. You gotta also know what man

867
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:36,320
Speaker 5: is bringing you out on that date. It's not an assumption.

868
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:38,640
Speaker 5: You thirty three, you say you're making money. Cool, Not

869
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 5: every man is making that type of money.

870
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:44,359
Speaker 1: But so so the black car was an important point, right.

871
00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 1: She didn't mention the black car. Why, for example, he

872
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 1: ordered a black car. Uber. I know y'all drive in Dayton,

873
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 1: but I really believe you believe me in a camera.

874
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 2: So I went on a date with the dude who

875
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:59,319
Speaker 2: worked in sanitation earlier last year before my man, and

876
00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:02,839
Speaker 2: I'm like, we went to dose Cization make some money

877
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:04,919
Speaker 2: though they do, but it's not crazy bank.

878
00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:06,759
Speaker 1: We went to those cominos. First date, and another day,

879
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:08,320
Speaker 1: I think we went to a Soho house for drinks.

880
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 4: But in my break, what would you say was the

881
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:12,320
Speaker 4: average order?

882
00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 1: I think our bills were coming to like one point fifty,

883
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:16,960
Speaker 1: like a normal dinner. That's that's a normal.

884
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:20,279
Speaker 2: But I remember when we got to Soho house, we

885
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:21,920
Speaker 2: were having drinks because we wanted to do someone a

886
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 2: rude and a part.

887
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 1: Of me was like, damn, I really didn't want to

888
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 1: order it. But I didn't.

889
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 2: I really wanted to order this fucking thing, and I

890
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:31,320
Speaker 2: thought our bill's going to be three hundred seven dollars

891
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 2: now when I'm with my friends whatever, that's how I'm ordering,

892
00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying. But I actually did consider

893
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,160
Speaker 2: if someone's getting up at like five in the morning

894
00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:41,479
Speaker 2: to go to work and like really working forty hours

895
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 2: a week in a blue collar type of job. For me,

896
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:47,000
Speaker 2: I'm thinking, I don't want to break the bank. However,

897
00:39:47,480 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 2: if you're a man that just picked me up in

898
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 2: a black car, I am gonna have a different idea

899
00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 2: of how this date is going to go. That is

900
00:39:55,160 --> 00:39:59,400
Speaker 2: just to be honest. I'm can I ask is setting

901
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 2: a tone? A can I ask the room?

902
00:40:01,239 --> 00:40:03,800
Speaker 3: Then realistically only because I just had this conversation recently

903
00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 3: with my homegirl. We know what the majority of Americans

904
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:09,960
Speaker 3: are making, right, Like, it's been a conversation. Not everyone's

905
00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:14,440
Speaker 3: making over one hundred thousand dollars in this dating sphere? Then,

906
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:19,400
Speaker 3: how often should we assume, if we're just meeting someone,

907
00:40:19,600 --> 00:40:22,640
Speaker 3: that they can realistically afford to take us on dates?

908
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:24,879
Speaker 3: And I say, I asked this because my homegirl, when

909
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:27,239
Speaker 3: she likes to go out, it's food.

910
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:29,240
Speaker 1: Which for dinner, then drinks and hookah.

911
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:31,799
Speaker 3: But the bitch is a hookoh or And I'm like, bro,

912
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:34,399
Speaker 3: every time a nigga takes you out, it's three four

913
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:37,360
Speaker 3: hundred dollars? Man, how often can a guy realistically afford

914
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 3: to take you out? Hey?

915
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:39,920
Speaker 1: And Wolf is shaking his head on this tip.

916
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:41,480
Speaker 5: This is this is why I disagree with the brother.

917
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:44,440
Speaker 5: That's why I said I disagree with the brother. I

918
00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 5: don't mind the way he left the date. If he

919
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:47,080
Speaker 5: ain't feeling it, he still put.

920
00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:48,919
Speaker 1: The hundred Actually like that child, Yeah, I'm not mad.

921
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:51,680
Speaker 4: With That's what I was defending. Okay, but let's let's

922
00:40:51,920 --> 00:40:52,840
Speaker 4: call a spade a spade.

923
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 5: You as the person acts someone on a date, whether

924
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:57,439
Speaker 5: that's a man or a woman, Because if a woman

925
00:40:57,520 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 5: asks me on a date, I expect for her to

926
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 5: pay for that motherfucking day.

927
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:05,680
Speaker 2: Jesus Christ, I'm not gonna like I do I do

928
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 2: the reach because if.

929
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 5: I'm no, I'm gonna let you do it like I'm not.

930
00:41:12,800 --> 00:41:14,879
Speaker 1: If you, I don't know you list if you act.

931
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:17,799
Speaker 1: There's a lot that has changed about me. Maybe I'm

932
00:41:17,840 --> 00:41:20,680
Speaker 1: still not fake reaching, but let me it ain't change yet,

933
00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:21,640
Speaker 1: so let me do it.

934
00:41:21,719 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 5: The point is, the point is I ain't faking ask

935
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:24,920
Speaker 5: somebody out on the day.

936
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:26,880
Speaker 4: It has to now be considerate.

937
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:29,799
Speaker 5: You have to the budget, your research on what the

938
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:33,359
Speaker 5: menu location. But so what you do is though you

939
00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:36,160
Speaker 5: can't fake the funk. You can't take a woman to

940
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:39,839
Speaker 5: a place that has one hundred dollars menu items if

941
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:42,799
Speaker 5: you don't have one hundred dollars menu item budget.

942
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:45,760
Speaker 1: All yeah, So.

943
00:41:47,120 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 5: If you can't afford that two two for twenty niggas,

944
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:53,839
Speaker 5: So I would we go to a place where it's

945
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 5: impossible for her to get an entract I get that

946
00:41:56,600 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 5: appetizer and a couple of drinks and it be out

947
00:41:58,320 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 5: your But I want to go.

948
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:01,880
Speaker 1: We've always got a cheesecake factory, and he used to

949
00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 1: say to me all.

950
00:42:02,520 --> 00:42:04,400
Speaker 3: The time, I just fucked up a chicken pikata at

951
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 3: the cheese She.

952
00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 1: Gotta start getting on it with extra caper. He is

953
00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 1: just telling me.

954
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:12,640
Speaker 2: Often like, oh my god, I'm so glad we're over

955
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:15,799
Speaker 2: the hump, like he used to say to me when

956
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:17,840
Speaker 2: I'm dating women, like because he was in his forties

957
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:19,839
Speaker 2: and he just looked old, but he was like, you know,

958
00:42:19,920 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 2: I'm just so happy we're over the hump.

959
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:22,360
Speaker 1: But I like to do what I want to do.

960
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 2: But he literally told me all of those places we

961
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:25,879
Speaker 2: used to eat at im.

962
00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:33,960
Speaker 1: I want to remove us from this video.

963
00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:37,640
Speaker 3: And I want to ask, though, for the person listening

964
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 3: right now, if we're single and looking to date and

965
00:42:41,239 --> 00:42:43,319
Speaker 3: we're not dating a millionaire or we're not dating a

966
00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:46,839
Speaker 3: sugar daddy, we're dating someone within our pay grade, how

967
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:51,880
Speaker 3: often then is realistic to count on going on date.

968
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 2: Once every two weeks in a real relationship every two weeks? Yes,

969
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:58,359
Speaker 2: okay at a two three hundred dollars budget, in a

970
00:42:58,400 --> 00:43:00,720
Speaker 2: real relationship, like you're my boyfriend average?

971
00:43:00,719 --> 00:43:01,440
Speaker 4: Can I say this?

972
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:01,759
Speaker 1: Yes?

973
00:43:01,760 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 5: Excuse me my bad feelas I can't relate to this conversation.

974
00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:12,360
Speaker 5: Why I've always had bde Oh my god, no, no,

975
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:13,439
Speaker 5: hit me out, hear me out.

976
00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:14,279
Speaker 4: I ain't.

977
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:14,759
Speaker 1: I ain't.

978
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:17,239
Speaker 5: Never felt pressured to act like I ain't had what

979
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:19,480
Speaker 5: I didn't have. I ain't never felt pressure to take

980
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:21,839
Speaker 5: a woman to a restaurant that I couldn't afford, never

981
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:24,880
Speaker 5: felt pressure. No, no, no, no. What I'm saying is

982
00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 5: I'm to be shaving.

983
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:27,759
Speaker 1: No no, no no. Imagine how the girls in.

984
00:43:27,760 --> 00:43:30,239
Speaker 5: New York at what I'm saying. You got to pay

985
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 5: my uber It ain't about it ain't about that. If

986
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:36,480
Speaker 5: I have to beat something I'm not just to get

987
00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:38,439
Speaker 5: your attention. I don't want that ship. If I got

988
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:40,320
Speaker 5: to overextend myself, no, hear me, I agree with you.

989
00:43:40,480 --> 00:43:40,920
Speaker 1: Hear me out.

990
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:44,719
Speaker 5: If my personality, my vibe, and my ore ain't enough

991
00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:47,160
Speaker 5: for you, then fuck you go find somebody else.

992
00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:48,759
Speaker 4: There's some other nigga that's willing to do that.

993
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:51,080
Speaker 5: I'm not so if my If I'm working at the

994
00:43:51,120 --> 00:43:53,480
Speaker 5: hospital and I'm only making twenty five hours an hour,

995
00:43:53,680 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 5: I'm gonna operate within that because operate outside of that

996
00:43:57,040 --> 00:43:59,480
Speaker 5: would have cost me my dream. If I'm overstanding myself

997
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 5: on these dates, what I have had that extra money

998
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 5: to pour into my dreams in this podcast and in

999
00:44:03,280 --> 00:44:05,760
Speaker 5: this tour, I wouldn't have had that. So I've always

1000
00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:08,680
Speaker 5: operated within what I got, and I walk around as

1001
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 5: confident as a nigga that was a millionaire before I've

1002
00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 5: had huddle, And then even now that I do got it,

1003
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:16,839
Speaker 5: I walk around like a nigga that don't got it

1004
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 5: because the fact of the matter is I am me

1005
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:21,440
Speaker 5: regardless of whether I have money or not, whether I

1006
00:44:21,440 --> 00:44:23,480
Speaker 5: have women or not. And so my point is for

1007
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 5: niggas that's faking the funk, taking me women to places

1008
00:44:27,160 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 5: they can't afford, which hopes that they get Kouchi from there,

1009
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 5: that's some black ass ship yourself. Operate within your budget

1010
00:44:34,680 --> 00:44:36,439
Speaker 5: if you don't got to take her off on the walk.

1011
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:44,560
Speaker 5: And let me tell you this, adwag. A nigga would

1012
00:44:44,560 --> 00:44:47,800
Speaker 5: swag gonna get the We're gonna get the draws regardless

1013
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:50,359
Speaker 5: if he got enough swag, if he's in tune, if

1014
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 5: he's intentives, and those are the things that matter.

1015
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:53,279
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you this.

1016
00:44:53,600 --> 00:44:57,040
Speaker 5: A man remembering a small detail about you, your favorite

1017
00:44:57,080 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 5: flower you just mentioned offhand he spent that you don't

1018
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:02,319
Speaker 5: like I don't calm down over there, and I'm just saying,

1019
00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:05,359
Speaker 5: like I think, get him out of here. I think

1020
00:45:05,440 --> 00:45:07,719
Speaker 5: me and and I'm gonna say this and this is

1021
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:13,720
Speaker 5: this is just me. I think sometimes men exchange taking

1022
00:45:13,719 --> 00:45:18,640
Speaker 5: a woman to a fancy restaurant as a way to

1023
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:21,320
Speaker 5: not actually do the work to show that you're actually interesting.

1024
00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 2: Guess what is not doing the work? Taking a fucking walk.

1025
00:45:23,719 --> 00:45:27,320
Speaker 2: And I am a girl on this podcast.

1026
00:45:26,239 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 1: Going to Central Park we need to take because she'd

1027
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 1: be saying that we should share in teammate. And I

1028
00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:33,120
Speaker 1: guess what, A man take you on a walk? You

1029
00:45:33,120 --> 00:45:39,719
Speaker 1: don't give a about wrestling you. You better take me

1030
00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:41,520
Speaker 1: on a gallery walk. You better take me on a

1031
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:43,439
Speaker 1: walk that sceneic. You better have a plan on that walk,

1032
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 1: and not a goddamn plan. Better you really think you're

1033
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:54,799
Speaker 1: a grown ass man taking a woman on a fucking walk? Yes,

1034
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 1: not care about you?

1035
00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:58,120
Speaker 3: Way way waiting.

1036
00:45:58,200 --> 00:45:59,399
Speaker 1: I walk every day in his home.

1037
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:02,839
Speaker 3: Are you leaning into the fact that because you are

1038
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:05,239
Speaker 3: in the opposite you believe that a man is not

1039
00:46:05,320 --> 00:46:07,720
Speaker 3: into you if he doesn't try to impress you, because

1040
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 3: he's saying, I'm not going to try to impress you

1041
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:10,640
Speaker 3: outside of my.

1042
00:46:10,640 --> 00:46:14,080
Speaker 2: Budget area, so literally no effort. If you are telling

1043
00:46:14,120 --> 00:46:16,239
Speaker 2: me we should go on a walk, if I live

1044
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:16,680
Speaker 2: in band.

1045
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:20,320
Speaker 5: Style, you're thinking, listen, let me say, let me say this,

1046
00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 5: Let me say this. I'm not gonna compensate for the

1047
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 5: fact that you don't fuck with me like that. So

1048
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 5: so so I'm so listen.

1049
00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:30,200
Speaker 1: No, let me finish. Let me let me finish on

1050
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 1: the movie right now.

1051
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 5: Look, because we don't brother, we don't.

1052
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:35,799
Speaker 1: Know, we all know, we all know.

1053
00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:41,480
Speaker 3: Pick out I'm doing like I'm not gonna get if

1054
00:46:41,520 --> 00:46:45,360
Speaker 3: you like the niggas. Realistically, this is.

1055
00:46:45,360 --> 00:46:48,160
Speaker 2: Not at all I'm trying to be Okay, I don't

1056
00:46:48,160 --> 00:46:49,400
Speaker 2: even want people to really believe this.

1057
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:55,280
Speaker 1: What do you mean right back? Then? This is so ridiculous.

1058
00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:57,840
Speaker 1: First date walk on a first day walk is different.

1059
00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:00,160
Speaker 1: That's what you're talking about, right But you're unders Wait,

1060
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:03,680
Speaker 1: let me say something. I'm not talking about his walk walk.

1061
00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:05,840
Speaker 2: He doesn't mean I don't just go outside in that

1062
00:47:05,920 --> 00:47:07,840
Speaker 2: sick Yeah, that's what I'm saying for you you're.

1063
00:47:07,719 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 1: Thinking about it. Let's let's take this out. Let's talk

1064
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:12,640
Speaker 1: about the wall. Let me hold on, hold on, hold

1065
00:47:12,719 --> 00:47:15,520
Speaker 1: I don't know about like for for for this to

1066
00:47:15,600 --> 00:47:18,879
Speaker 1: be spicy that the man could take me on a walk.

1067
00:47:18,920 --> 00:47:21,200
Speaker 5: For this to be spicyer, We're gonna pretend it's the

1068
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:23,080
Speaker 5: first day. Now, hear me, hear me out, hear me out,

1069
00:47:23,920 --> 00:47:30,359
Speaker 5: hear me out. I need everybody, Okay. What I'm saying

1070
00:47:30,520 --> 00:47:36,160
Speaker 5: is God, it is. It is remarkably easier for me

1071
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:40,360
Speaker 5: to impress you with taking you somewhere fancy. It is

1072
00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:43,759
Speaker 5: remarkably easier for a man like me. It is absolutely

1073
00:47:43,920 --> 00:47:46,799
Speaker 5: harder for a man like me to be intentive enough

1074
00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:50,279
Speaker 5: and thoughtful enough to make a walk day or a

1075
00:47:50,360 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 5: park day pop. It will take more of my time

1076
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:54,560
Speaker 5: and energy. You will know I value you more. I

1077
00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:54,960
Speaker 5: can tell you.

1078
00:47:55,600 --> 00:47:57,879
Speaker 4: Listen, listen, listen you walk in the park.

1079
00:47:59,320 --> 00:48:03,800
Speaker 5: Let's take a long walk around the park, thinking about myself,

1080
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:08,840
Speaker 5: dark at the dark place, conversation.

1081
00:48:09,760 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 1: Dark.

1082
00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:11,920
Speaker 5: Let me, let me, let me finish this point. I

1083
00:48:11,920 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 5: want to stick to landing. I'm saying, I can only speak.

1084
00:48:17,200 --> 00:48:20,759
Speaker 5: I can speak both ways when I'm speaking from having

1085
00:48:20,840 --> 00:48:25,080
Speaker 5: resources now, it is so easy for me to do

1086
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:27,920
Speaker 5: those things. And most women say that they're attracted to

1087
00:48:28,160 --> 00:48:31,399
Speaker 5: which is the fancy days. It's just I think we're

1088
00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:36,239
Speaker 5: going you're saying tonight, tonight tonight. I mean not that

1089
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:39,320
Speaker 5: it's important, but ship I can meet somebody today and

1090
00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:41,480
Speaker 5: say let's go to the next game, They're going to

1091
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:42,160
Speaker 5: be really impressed.

1092
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:44,000
Speaker 4: Maybe they don't meet many men that can just do that,

1093
00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:45,680
Speaker 4: and so that's that's impressive.

1094
00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:46,360
Speaker 1: It's impressive.

1095
00:48:46,440 --> 00:48:50,360
Speaker 5: But for me, it was low vibrational thing. It didn't

1096
00:48:50,400 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 5: take no effort. I just had to look on stub

1097
00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:54,400
Speaker 5: hub by it and then I meet you there. But

1098
00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:59,239
Speaker 5: if I say, if I say, let's go walk to walk, hey,

1099
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 5: give me four hours of your time, we're gonna do

1100
00:49:02,200 --> 00:49:05,759
Speaker 5: something different. We're gonna we're gonna talk, We're gonna gonna

1101
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:07,319
Speaker 5: know me. I'm getting know you are.

1102
00:49:07,360 --> 00:49:10,919
Speaker 4: We're gonna do some different Shiro now meaningful, that's more meaning,

1103
00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:11,320
Speaker 4: that's what.

1104
00:49:11,480 --> 00:49:16,239
Speaker 1: But that's what we just heard. Any man, any man

1105
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:19,880
Speaker 1: won't Okay, okay, let me give this covey come on

1106
00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:28,800
Speaker 1: for me. You may We normally don't have an audience.

1107
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:30,040
Speaker 1: What these niggas doing.

1108
00:49:30,440 --> 00:49:36,440
Speaker 2: Don't look it upright, explain yourselfing.

1109
00:49:36,560 --> 00:49:38,360
Speaker 3: Okay, So we are talking about first states in the

1110
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 3: history of first states as well.

1111
00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:41,560
Speaker 1: Okay, so episode but which was perfect.

1112
00:49:41,640 --> 00:49:43,600
Speaker 2: You know, we're talking about the evolution of better social

1113
00:49:45,040 --> 00:49:48,880
Speaker 2: But just to close it for me, a walk without

1114
00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:51,640
Speaker 2: purpose without a plan is you.

1115
00:49:51,680 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 4: Ain't never been on a date with a nigga to

1116
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:53,759
Speaker 4: know how to walk there.

1117
00:49:53,880 --> 00:49:58,719
Speaker 1: That's not Yeah, I literally are you? Are you? Are

1118
00:49:58,800 --> 00:50:02,279
Speaker 1: you where? Dude?

1119
00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:05,400
Speaker 2: Through like, I literally learned about getting me hopping through this.

1120
00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:07,960
Speaker 2: I'm sorry you taking me on a walk as a

1121
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 2: New York bit.

1122
00:50:09,040 --> 00:50:09,640
Speaker 1: I had enough.

1123
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 2: Okay, let's get into the history of dating and why

1124
00:50:13,360 --> 00:50:14,040
Speaker 2: you're an asshole?

1125
00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:16,400
Speaker 1: All right?

1126
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:20,440
Speaker 2: So now on decisions decisions, we get him to more

1127
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:22,759
Speaker 2: of the historical part of dating, sex and relationships. And

1128
00:50:22,840 --> 00:50:26,160
Speaker 2: this part I found interesting because it really does fluctuate.

1129
00:50:26,600 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 2: So we start from nineteen hundred. A date was a

1130
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:32,600
Speaker 2: gentleman caller and you were chaperones.

1131
00:50:32,680 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 1: How was they call him back in nineteen hundred?

1132
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 2: So a gentleman caller was someone that would arrive to

1133
00:50:36,640 --> 00:50:40,040
Speaker 2: your house with a woman who peaked his fancy. The

1134
00:50:40,120 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 2: two of them would sit in a room with a chaperone,

1135
00:50:43,040 --> 00:50:45,640
Speaker 2: and it would continue on until there was a mutual interest,

1136
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:48,360
Speaker 2: and then there was a marriage proposal. Sometimes there was

1137
00:50:48,400 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 2: sexual attention maybe, but it was always a chaperone present,

1138
00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:53,279
Speaker 2: kind of like Mormons and shit how they be doing

1139
00:50:53,480 --> 00:50:56,080
Speaker 2: that is, I don't that's nineteen hundred.

1140
00:50:56,880 --> 00:51:00,360
Speaker 1: I don't know. No alone time. No alone time was

1141
00:51:00,400 --> 00:51:02,360
Speaker 1: that well because I guess they don't want you to

1142
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:03,880
Speaker 1: You got to think back then they were more religious.

1143
00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:05,040
Speaker 1: They didn't want you to fuck. They don't want you

1144
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:06,439
Speaker 1: to cross the line, damn.

1145
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:08,000
Speaker 3: So no one nice chance they was going to the

1146
00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:10,920
Speaker 3: Jezebel club down the street. Y'all know we're gonna have

1147
00:51:10,960 --> 00:51:12,920
Speaker 3: to deal with that soon. So we're about to be

1148
00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:13,759
Speaker 3: the Handmaid's Tales.

1149
00:51:13,840 --> 00:51:16,400
Speaker 2: Then nineteen twenties come the Roaring twenties or whatever they

1150
00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:19,720
Speaker 2: call it, and that's basically when dating for young adults

1151
00:51:19,760 --> 00:51:21,719
Speaker 2: meant that they could go outside and do something. So

1152
00:51:21,800 --> 00:51:25,640
Speaker 2: there was amusement parks. Way they would do like fast cars.

1153
00:51:25,640 --> 00:51:27,480
Speaker 2: Basically an amusement park back then was you could take

1154
00:51:27,480 --> 00:51:30,200
Speaker 2: a car and ride it around. And the prohibition era

1155
00:51:30,360 --> 00:51:33,720
Speaker 2: was in full swing, so now alcohol happens. Movie theaters

1156
00:51:33,800 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 2: cast when it got lit, and so the only benefit

1157
00:51:36,600 --> 00:51:40,720
Speaker 2: they say that the movie theaters brought people was learning

1158
00:51:40,840 --> 00:51:42,040
Speaker 2: love and the knowledge of sex.

1159
00:51:42,080 --> 00:51:43,840
Speaker 1: They got to play the field, watch it like that.

1160
00:51:44,000 --> 00:51:46,920
Speaker 2: Flappers kind of let burlesque era happened in the twenties,

1161
00:51:47,200 --> 00:51:49,879
Speaker 2: so with more of like a sexual uptick, then people

1162
00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:51,000
Speaker 2: started to go out and do their things.

1163
00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:53,160
Speaker 1: So that's when it started getting wrong.

1164
00:51:53,239 --> 00:51:55,479
Speaker 2: The first dates happened from a man calling a woman

1165
00:51:55,600 --> 00:51:58,480
Speaker 2: on the phone in the nineteen twenties or not really

1166
00:51:58,520 --> 00:52:00,799
Speaker 2: a lot of approaching in person unless setting. So then

1167
00:52:01,239 --> 00:52:04,520
Speaker 2: fast forward the sixties and the seventies happened. You got

1168
00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:08,440
Speaker 2: the free love movement. Pre marital sex became so mainstream

1169
00:52:09,160 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 2: that basically the etiquette changed. People were hitting on each

1170
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:15,560
Speaker 2: other in person. It was now turning into affairs that

1171
00:52:15,640 --> 00:52:18,200
Speaker 2: could go from one night to forever and getting to

1172
00:52:18,320 --> 00:52:22,840
Speaker 2: know you process turned out bars or places with loud music,

1173
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:24,560
Speaker 2: and that's where it amped it up. Now do you

1174
00:52:24,600 --> 00:52:26,960
Speaker 2: want to stay there for a little bit, Let me

1175
00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:28,359
Speaker 2: go through this and I want to talk about okay,

1176
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:29,200
Speaker 2: because it's gonna ends.

1177
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 1: So the nineties was then all hookup.

1178
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:35,719
Speaker 2: Now we're in the area where women are able to

1179
00:52:35,800 --> 00:52:39,200
Speaker 2: move around freely how they want, no strings attached was celebrated.

1180
00:52:39,440 --> 00:52:41,880
Speaker 2: They were having their own social scenes and it was

1181
00:52:41,920 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 2: more common for women to be out alone.

1182
00:52:44,040 --> 00:52:45,200
Speaker 1: So now the.

1183
00:52:45,320 --> 00:52:48,240
Speaker 2: Dating and course ship starts to go down. From the nineties,

1184
00:52:48,800 --> 00:52:51,480
Speaker 2: dating sites also came around in the nineties, which meant

1185
00:52:51,520 --> 00:52:54,360
Speaker 2: hooking up and up and up. Now you forward to

1186
00:52:54,440 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 2: the early two thousands and we have so many different

1187
00:52:58,680 --> 00:53:02,080
Speaker 2: types of dating polyamory four B, which we'll get into

1188
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 2: all of that, that the gentleman caller and the courtship

1189
00:53:06,080 --> 00:53:06,919
Speaker 2: are completely gone.

1190
00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:10,479
Speaker 3: Do you think it's completely gone if we're still talking

1191
00:53:10,520 --> 00:53:13,200
Speaker 3: about dates or do you think expectation Women are now

1192
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:16,879
Speaker 3: able to just express expectations because.

1193
00:53:16,920 --> 00:53:18,840
Speaker 1: Now we have our own jobs, we pay our own bills.

1194
00:53:19,160 --> 00:53:21,880
Speaker 3: Like, is it that there's been this blurred line of

1195
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:26,440
Speaker 3: courtship because as women were maybe hyperly independent, we have

1196
00:53:26,600 --> 00:53:29,920
Speaker 3: our own funds and not everyone is necessarily seeking a

1197
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:31,560
Speaker 3: man to come and rescue them and be married.

1198
00:53:31,600 --> 00:53:34,480
Speaker 2: There's this juxtaposition of feminism and courtship that's happening.

1199
00:53:35,560 --> 00:53:38,880
Speaker 1: And it's like me and you just saying I'm not

1200
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:40,480
Speaker 1: gonna pay for it. I'm not gonna do the fake reach.

1201
00:53:40,880 --> 00:53:42,759
Speaker 2: Me doing a reach or paying for a date that

1202
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:44,640
Speaker 2: I invite a man on is in my brain my

1203
00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:47,800
Speaker 2: feminism or ego. Let's just say I go out with

1204
00:53:47,880 --> 00:53:51,319
Speaker 2: you and you're a millionaire, I kind of do want

1205
00:53:51,400 --> 00:53:54,120
Speaker 2: I've actually paid for more drinks with millionaires than not,

1206
00:53:54,440 --> 00:53:56,160
Speaker 2: and it seems to be the most impressive thing to

1207
00:53:56,200 --> 00:53:58,799
Speaker 2: any man with a seven figure or eight figure bank

1208
00:53:58,840 --> 00:54:02,040
Speaker 2: account than ever. Just the gesture men telling me they've

1209
00:54:02,080 --> 00:54:04,680
Speaker 2: never had women do this, or even let's just say

1210
00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:06,520
Speaker 2: they take me to fancy dinner, picking the speak easy

1211
00:54:06,600 --> 00:54:08,759
Speaker 2: that I get the drinks at after Nigga's always mind blown.

1212
00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:09,399
Speaker 1: I don't know why.

1213
00:54:09,560 --> 00:54:11,320
Speaker 2: I really don't believe women are doing this or not,

1214
00:54:11,719 --> 00:54:13,360
Speaker 2: And it is kind of my way of being like,

1215
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:14,480
Speaker 2: thank you for making the time.

1216
00:54:14,560 --> 00:54:17,720
Speaker 1: Are these dates or are they business meetings and settings?

1217
00:54:17,760 --> 00:54:21,319
Speaker 3: Because for me, like, no, I love doing that. If

1218
00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:24,960
Speaker 3: we're meeting for business, that does you already know I'll

1219
00:54:24,960 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 3: pick up a tab. I don't mind to me dating.

1220
00:54:27,560 --> 00:54:29,600
Speaker 3: I think how you start the relationship in the way

1221
00:54:29,640 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 3: in which you expect a man to show up out

1222
00:54:31,640 --> 00:54:33,080
Speaker 3: the gate, you have to kind of draw that.

1223
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:36,680
Speaker 4: So yeah, saying brothers.

1224
00:54:38,480 --> 00:54:40,200
Speaker 5: The reason why I say that is how you start

1225
00:54:40,280 --> 00:54:43,680
Speaker 5: is how you finish, right, So if you are always

1226
00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:48,799
Speaker 5: heavily in that beginning stage, the giver, the initiator, then

1227
00:54:48,880 --> 00:54:51,040
Speaker 5: does that boat with how your relationship is going to

1228
00:54:51,080 --> 00:54:53,040
Speaker 5: be because at some point you expect that woman to

1229
00:54:53,120 --> 00:54:55,320
Speaker 5: pour back into you at some point you expect that

1230
00:54:55,400 --> 00:54:56,640
Speaker 5: woman to give you compliments.

1231
00:54:57,120 --> 00:54:59,000
Speaker 4: Nigga, I just got a haircut, Tell me you like it.

1232
00:54:59,120 --> 00:55:01,560
Speaker 1: But I think women are Yeah, I do too.

1233
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:04,279
Speaker 5: I'm not against buying gifts, but how can I vet

1234
00:55:04,360 --> 00:55:06,960
Speaker 5: that if during the dating process I'm only doing it

1235
00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:07,640
Speaker 5: towards you to me?

1236
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:10,200
Speaker 3: It depends though, how long, And that goes into no,

1237
00:55:10,360 --> 00:55:13,400
Speaker 3: it does. First date, I'm not coming with gifts, but

1238
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:16,120
Speaker 3: like I remember, like the guy. No, there's the guy

1239
00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:16,840
Speaker 3: in my life right now?

1240
00:55:16,960 --> 00:55:19,359
Speaker 1: Right date one? Three? Are you picking up a drink?

1241
00:55:21,239 --> 00:55:23,840
Speaker 1: Date three? If we go to a speakeasy after dinner?

1242
00:55:24,320 --> 00:55:27,239
Speaker 3: I got the speakeasy day three, because now we're going

1243
00:55:27,640 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 3: it's not I'm not pumped faking at all.

1244
00:55:29,719 --> 00:55:31,640
Speaker 1: If I pull it out, I'm paying. I don't pump fake.

1245
00:55:31,880 --> 00:55:36,120
Speaker 3: But I do think that clearly after date two, by

1246
00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:38,480
Speaker 3: the time we get to day three, we're clearly both

1247
00:55:38,560 --> 00:55:40,799
Speaker 3: interested in each other. Day three is when I'm gonna

1248
00:55:40,800 --> 00:55:42,759
Speaker 3: start showing that I'm just as interested in it.

1249
00:55:45,320 --> 00:55:47,399
Speaker 5: I don't think that a woman has to reciprocate during

1250
00:55:47,440 --> 00:55:50,160
Speaker 5: the dating process the same way a man the very

1251
00:55:50,239 --> 00:55:53,920
Speaker 5: same way, but there has to be some level of consideration,

1252
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:58,200
Speaker 5: some level of pouring into during that dating question outside

1253
00:55:58,239 --> 00:56:01,520
Speaker 5: of being available to receive my initiation. I agree, And

1254
00:56:01,680 --> 00:56:05,160
Speaker 5: what I find is a lot of women aren't hitting

1255
00:56:05,239 --> 00:56:07,000
Speaker 5: that mark with the type of men that they want.

1256
00:56:07,280 --> 00:56:08,800
Speaker 5: Because here's the thing. The type of man that you

1257
00:56:08,920 --> 00:56:12,480
Speaker 5: want probably doesn't doesn't need you again to pay. But

1258
00:56:12,640 --> 00:56:15,040
Speaker 5: you even said you're you've done it more for men

1259
00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:18,399
Speaker 5: that you know are successful financially because he's already checked

1260
00:56:18,400 --> 00:56:19,120
Speaker 5: that box, right.

1261
00:56:19,400 --> 00:56:21,120
Speaker 1: So now it's like, Okay, I want to show him

1262
00:56:21,680 --> 00:56:23,680
Speaker 1: that I'm not just here for the money, right.

1263
00:56:24,560 --> 00:56:24,840
Speaker 2: But but.

1264
00:56:26,480 --> 00:56:30,840
Speaker 5: But I'm saying for an average earning man, for average

1265
00:56:30,880 --> 00:56:33,960
Speaker 5: earning man, maybe that man isn't having that done. Is

1266
00:56:34,040 --> 00:56:37,760
Speaker 5: often because that woman fairness wants to see his fitness

1267
00:56:38,120 --> 00:56:40,279
Speaker 5: to provide for her financially. And I'm not taking that

1268
00:56:40,360 --> 00:56:42,480
Speaker 5: away from you or any a woman that want to

1269
00:56:42,480 --> 00:56:46,239
Speaker 5: see that. I'm saying, though, while he's doing that, is

1270
00:56:46,320 --> 00:56:46,680
Speaker 5: he did it?

1271
00:56:46,880 --> 00:56:48,520
Speaker 3: We I have a question for you, actually, because you

1272
00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:50,560
Speaker 3: did mention that, and you just made me think that

1273
00:56:51,239 --> 00:56:54,839
Speaker 3: so what that No, you said that you paid more

1274
00:56:54,920 --> 00:56:58,120
Speaker 3: for drinks for men who are millionaires than not right,

1275
00:56:58,280 --> 00:56:59,279
Speaker 3: And there's just the way it.

1276
00:56:59,280 --> 00:56:59,880
Speaker 1: Makes you feel.

1277
00:57:01,280 --> 00:57:03,400
Speaker 3: How would you feel or would it be a different

1278
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:05,960
Speaker 3: feeling for you to pay for drinks for a man

1279
00:57:06,480 --> 00:57:08,840
Speaker 3: that you knew didn't necessarily have his So.

1280
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:12,759
Speaker 2: I still make gestures, right, But here's the thing, the

1281
00:57:12,960 --> 00:57:16,000
Speaker 2: problem with what's the feeling though, I'll tell you so

1282
00:57:16,160 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 2: the thing when I date someone, let's just say this,

1283
00:57:19,200 --> 00:57:20,000
Speaker 2: make an average money.

1284
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:22,240
Speaker 1: This is gonna sound so elitist. I'm so sorry.

1285
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:26,360
Speaker 2: In the last four years of my life, if I

1286
00:57:26,440 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 2: go out with a regular nigga, they know I'm making

1287
00:57:29,640 --> 00:57:33,040
Speaker 2: way more than them, they know They've googled me, they understand,

1288
00:57:33,280 --> 00:57:39,200
Speaker 2: they get it, and so for me, I believe. Again,

1289
00:57:39,240 --> 00:57:41,760
Speaker 2: I feel really bad to say this, but like you

1290
00:57:41,880 --> 00:57:45,040
Speaker 2: fucking would a bitch who's making ten to fifteen times

1291
00:57:45,120 --> 00:57:47,120
Speaker 2: more than you, you kind of do need to show

1292
00:57:47,200 --> 00:57:49,720
Speaker 2: up for me because to earn how because I'm gonna

1293
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 2: end out of this show, how do they show up?

1294
00:57:51,400 --> 00:57:54,480
Speaker 2: That's my point, though, I do need to be courted

1295
00:57:54,480 --> 00:57:56,400
Speaker 2: by this guy slightly more, because let's just say we

1296
00:57:56,480 --> 00:57:58,840
Speaker 2: move into a crib. I'm going to buy the house

1297
00:57:58,880 --> 00:58:00,880
Speaker 2: I want and you're probably going to pay way less

1298
00:58:00,920 --> 00:58:02,840
Speaker 2: than me. Like I'm gonna take on more of a

1299
00:58:02,920 --> 00:58:05,280
Speaker 2: financial stake in this relationship. So I do need to

1300
00:58:05,320 --> 00:58:07,160
Speaker 2: see that you could at least take me on the

1301
00:58:07,240 --> 00:58:09,600
Speaker 2: little dates, because that's all I need from you. The

1302
00:58:09,760 --> 00:58:12,680
Speaker 2: problem with dating men with money is that their first

1303
00:58:12,840 --> 00:58:15,400
Speaker 2: inkling is that women, every single time they go on

1304
00:58:15,480 --> 00:58:17,280
Speaker 2: a date want their money so bad.

1305
00:58:17,560 --> 00:58:20,000
Speaker 1: So I like to just break that immediately.

1306
00:58:20,520 --> 00:58:22,360
Speaker 2: That for me is something that I always feel like

1307
00:58:22,560 --> 00:58:25,240
Speaker 2: is just like this unspoken thing they got to keep doing,

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Speaker 2: keep spending whatever.

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Speaker 1: I just want to break that already. I'm tired of

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00:58:28,640 --> 00:58:31,880
Speaker 1: that trope. I'm just not the girl I have all

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Speaker 1: the friends that are. I'm not hitting niggas up for bags.

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00:58:34,280 --> 00:58:36,080
Speaker 1: I'm not hitting them up for rent money. I don't

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Speaker 1: need it.

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Speaker 2: Once you become my partner, if you got rich and

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00:58:38,480 --> 00:58:41,000
Speaker 2: and sure, but like I'm really not that bitch. I

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00:58:41,080 --> 00:58:42,760
Speaker 2: don't need it, don't care from it. For men, I

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00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:45,040
Speaker 2: really am looking for love and have it. But with

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00:58:45,240 --> 00:58:47,400
Speaker 2: the average dudes, I do need to see them step

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00:58:47,480 --> 00:58:49,400
Speaker 2: up a little more because I don't want to change

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00:58:49,440 --> 00:58:51,760
Speaker 2: my lifestyle necessarily as far as going on dates or

1321
00:58:51,800 --> 00:58:54,280
Speaker 2: doing fun social activities just because I'm with a man

1322
00:58:54,320 --> 00:58:56,600
Speaker 2: who makes less. Don't expect them to be doing more

1323
00:58:56,840 --> 00:58:58,320
Speaker 2: but to day to bish just make it as much

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00:58:58,320 --> 00:58:59,720
Speaker 2: as me and you about to be on his ride.

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00:59:00,000 --> 00:59:01,200
Speaker 2: I got to see you show up a little more.

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Speaker 2: I'm riding the same ride as these millionaires.

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Speaker 3: It's crazy, though, that you want the man with less

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Speaker 3: money to show up more financial.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying they need to show up and take me.

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Speaker 1: I'm not.

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Speaker 3: I'm not saying that either, But the fact that you're

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00:59:12,240 --> 00:59:16,000
Speaker 3: willing that you would you feel better paying for drinks

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Speaker 3: for men that you know.

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00:59:17,920 --> 00:59:21,480
Speaker 1: Have it have it more than because I'm not trying

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00:59:21,480 --> 00:59:23,720
Speaker 1: to help them. It feels better for you and that.

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Speaker 1: But that's what I'm no, No, no, that is the point.

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Speaker 1: I'm not paying for the drinks with the average nigga

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Speaker 1: or the billionaire to help them financially. I am just

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00:59:32,320 --> 00:59:35,520
Speaker 1: simply trying to make a statement. So I'm not making

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00:59:35,560 --> 00:59:36,840
Speaker 1: a statement with these average niggas.

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Speaker 3: But so you think you're helping them financially by paying drink,

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Speaker 3: That's what I just said. That is So that's what

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00:59:42,000 --> 00:59:44,440
Speaker 3: I just heard you say with the nigga that you

1344
00:59:44,600 --> 00:59:45,960
Speaker 3: know you not helping financially.

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Speaker 1: He got it.

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Speaker 3: So it's a statement for you, it's not a statement

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00:59:49,800 --> 00:59:52,200
Speaker 3: for you with a regular man. You feel like you're

1348
00:59:52,240 --> 00:59:55,600
Speaker 3: saving him money by picking up the tab. So there

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00:59:55,720 --> 00:59:58,760
Speaker 3: is a difference in feeling that you're getting from from

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00:59:58,840 --> 01:00:00,800
Speaker 3: paying on it on a day with a nigga who

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Speaker 3: don't have it, compared to paying on a date with

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Speaker 3: someone who does.

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Speaker 4: Look, can I say this?

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01:00:04,840 --> 01:00:05,120
Speaker 1: Uh huh?

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01:00:06,720 --> 01:00:11,520
Speaker 4: I think your outlook is I don't want to use

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Speaker 4: the word fair, but it's understandable.

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Speaker 5: Like, it is very understandable because no matter how modern

1358
01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:23,280
Speaker 5: we think our thinkings are, we socialize traditionally to feel

1359
01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:25,920
Speaker 5: like a man's not that you're saying this, but a

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01:00:26,000 --> 01:00:31,080
Speaker 5: man's value is inherently what he brings to the table financially.

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01:00:31,120 --> 01:00:33,920
Speaker 5: And it's not that you're saying this outwardly, but I

1362
01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:37,320
Speaker 5: think the behaviors are saying okay, because you don't have

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01:00:37,440 --> 01:00:41,280
Speaker 5: that traditional value that I come to value understandably. So

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Speaker 5: mean a woman think about it even I mean, I'm

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01:00:44,680 --> 01:00:46,480
Speaker 5: not using this for all women, because some women choose

1366
01:00:46,520 --> 01:00:48,920
Speaker 5: not to have children don't have children. But when you're

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01:00:48,920 --> 01:00:51,040
Speaker 5: thinking about, hey, listen, if I know I want to

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01:00:51,120 --> 01:00:53,640
Speaker 5: have children, I know that maybe for these six or

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01:00:53,680 --> 01:00:55,120
Speaker 5: seven months, I'm not really going to be able to

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Speaker 5: provide for myself quote unquote, I might be on maternity leave,

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Speaker 5: then I want to be able to tend to the

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01:00:59,560 --> 01:01:01,360
Speaker 5: children more, or I need to make sure this man

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01:01:01,480 --> 01:01:04,760
Speaker 5: is fit enough financially to support me. So I don't

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01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:07,440
Speaker 5: think that that view should be chastlaised. I don't want

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01:01:07,440 --> 01:01:09,840
Speaker 5: to be supporting the man right. The thing that I

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01:01:09,960 --> 01:01:12,520
Speaker 5: want to say, though, in reverse, is what type of

1377
01:01:12,520 --> 01:01:17,600
Speaker 5: watching no no no is is? I think men nowadays

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01:01:17,600 --> 01:01:21,480
Speaker 5: are saying the same thing, especially men that are well off.

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01:01:22,000 --> 01:01:24,400
Speaker 5: We're saying, Okay, what else can you bring to this

1380
01:01:24,480 --> 01:01:26,760
Speaker 5: table for me? I hate to tell that because what

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01:01:27,160 --> 01:01:28,919
Speaker 5: And I know we hate this no, but it needs

1382
01:01:28,960 --> 01:01:31,000
Speaker 5: to be had. I agree only we only hate the

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01:01:31,040 --> 01:01:33,520
Speaker 5: table talk when it's asked of women, But we never

1384
01:01:33,640 --> 01:01:36,280
Speaker 5: hate the table talk when we're asking men what they

1385
01:01:36,320 --> 01:01:38,480
Speaker 5: bring to the table, because that's that has to be

1386
01:01:39,160 --> 01:01:42,160
Speaker 5: put on a fucking platter right away, with these fucking

1387
01:01:42,200 --> 01:01:44,960
Speaker 5: three hundred dollars dates, because God forbid, you ask somebody

1388
01:01:45,000 --> 01:01:47,520
Speaker 5: for a walk, and it's a problem. So my point is,

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01:01:47,920 --> 01:01:51,360
Speaker 5: I think I think men are saying. Men are saying, hey,

1390
01:01:51,680 --> 01:01:54,800
Speaker 5: especially these these men you know, to see sessful men.

1391
01:01:54,840 --> 01:01:57,959
Speaker 5: It's like, hey, I've met women that can receive my gifts.

1392
01:01:58,040 --> 01:02:01,120
Speaker 5: I met women that there's willing to exchange sex form.

1393
01:02:01,960 --> 01:02:04,440
Speaker 5: But to your point, have I met a woman that

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01:02:04,640 --> 01:02:07,040
Speaker 5: has the sense of generosity to say, Hey, I'm gonna

1395
01:02:07,080 --> 01:02:10,480
Speaker 5: take you out. Hey, don't hey, listen, the condition for

1396
01:02:10,600 --> 01:02:12,440
Speaker 5: me take you out is you got to promise me

1397
01:02:12,520 --> 01:02:13,480
Speaker 5: you won't pull out your car.

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01:02:13,680 --> 01:02:17,760
Speaker 4: You gotta let me do it. That happens so infrequently

1399
01:02:17,840 --> 01:02:18,240
Speaker 4: for men.

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01:02:18,760 --> 01:02:19,320
Speaker 1: That we don't know.

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01:02:19,440 --> 01:02:22,600
Speaker 4: So when you pick up the tap that nigga probably discombobilated.

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01:02:22,680 --> 01:02:24,200
Speaker 1: You know something. People said that it hit me.

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01:02:24,840 --> 01:02:26,840
Speaker 2: I appreciate you saying it was fair because I feel

1404
01:02:26,920 --> 01:02:28,479
Speaker 2: like some of the men that are listening will feel

1405
01:02:28,480 --> 01:02:32,160
Speaker 2: insulted by what I said. But when I'm on dates

1406
01:02:32,960 --> 01:02:35,400
Speaker 2: pain for men that know I make that much more

1407
01:02:35,440 --> 01:02:37,800
Speaker 2: than them, I'm really setting the tone that I'm gonna

1408
01:02:37,800 --> 01:02:39,880
Speaker 2: take care of shit. Yeah, and I kind of don't

1409
01:02:40,040 --> 01:02:44,560
Speaker 2: like that. Whereas with a richer dude, it just really

1410
01:02:44,640 --> 01:02:46,840
Speaker 2: does break it. I can't explain it. But like as

1411
01:02:46,880 --> 01:02:48,680
Speaker 2: someone with friends, I make me bro, this is the

1412
01:02:48,760 --> 01:02:50,200
Speaker 2: first thing that comes out of a man's mouth when

1413
01:02:50,240 --> 01:02:50,800
Speaker 2: they're on a date.

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01:02:50,720 --> 01:02:51,280
Speaker 1: With another woman.

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01:02:51,360 --> 01:02:52,880
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. So and I hear my

1416
01:02:52,960 --> 01:02:55,200
Speaker 2: homeboys talk this way I get it. I just really

1417
01:02:55,240 --> 01:02:57,480
Speaker 2: want to get rid of that because as someone that

1418
01:02:57,680 --> 01:03:00,240
Speaker 2: is dating for love, especially with the word that I

1419
01:03:00,320 --> 01:03:03,480
Speaker 2: do whatever. Like literally, if you click on some horrible decision,

1420
01:03:03,480 --> 01:03:05,400
Speaker 2: shit starts swipe awiping there like this bitch is a bird,

1421
01:03:05,760 --> 01:03:07,320
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, Like you may think that

1422
01:03:07,360 --> 01:03:09,640
Speaker 2: because of the things we talk about. So I just

1423
01:03:09,840 --> 01:03:12,400
Speaker 2: really want to get rid of that now, don't get

1424
01:03:12,440 --> 01:03:15,360
Speaker 2: me wrong. Two other scenarios, if I'm dating long term

1425
01:03:15,400 --> 01:03:17,360
Speaker 2: relationship and average dude and a rich nigga, I'm gonna

1426
01:03:17,360 --> 01:03:19,120
Speaker 2: fly myself out with the average dude. What the fuck

1427
01:03:19,200 --> 01:03:21,240
Speaker 2: is eight hundred dollars round trip for five hundred, Like

1428
01:03:21,240 --> 01:03:23,000
Speaker 2: I'm gonna spend the bread to come and see you.

1429
01:03:23,240 --> 01:03:25,640
Speaker 2: With origin nigga, I'm probably gonna have different expectations, but

1430
01:03:25,920 --> 01:03:29,760
Speaker 2: I'm just saying in those initial courting faces, fass, I

1431
01:03:30,080 --> 01:03:31,480
Speaker 2: just really need to see him show up.

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01:03:31,520 --> 01:03:33,600
Speaker 5: Can I clarify something before because I know, yep, we'll

1433
01:03:33,640 --> 01:03:37,080
Speaker 5: have to wrap up. I want to clarify us and

1434
01:03:37,440 --> 01:03:39,520
Speaker 5: I get the context of what we're saying average do.

1435
01:03:40,280 --> 01:03:42,320
Speaker 5: But I'm gonna tell you, if that man got your attention,

1436
01:03:42,480 --> 01:03:45,480
Speaker 5: he is not average. He may be an average earning man.

1437
01:03:45,880 --> 01:03:48,720
Speaker 5: But that man is not average. If he's able to

1438
01:03:48,800 --> 01:03:51,240
Speaker 5: keep your attention, that means he is absolutely he is

1439
01:03:51,280 --> 01:03:54,040
Speaker 5: compensating in other ways that make that man well above

1440
01:03:54,120 --> 01:03:57,040
Speaker 5: average in other ways, other things, other situations. And I

1441
01:03:57,160 --> 01:03:58,919
Speaker 5: just want the guys on here because a lot of guys,

1442
01:03:58,960 --> 01:04:01,400
Speaker 5: when we use that word average average, you're only speaking

1443
01:04:01,440 --> 01:04:02,560
Speaker 5: about average earning.

1444
01:04:02,960 --> 01:04:05,919
Speaker 2: And I was speaking with you, Yeah, I completely agree.

1445
01:04:06,000 --> 01:04:08,960
Speaker 2: I never want to put down men for money. Like literally,

1446
01:04:09,240 --> 01:04:12,720
Speaker 2: someone asked me a question in my group chat yesterday.

1447
01:04:13,200 --> 01:04:14,560
Speaker 2: Would you want to be with the love of your

1448
01:04:14,600 --> 01:04:18,360
Speaker 2: life if y'all were making seventy five each love of

1449
01:04:18,440 --> 01:04:21,880
Speaker 2: your life or would you rather have access to unlimited

1450
01:04:21,920 --> 01:04:25,360
Speaker 2: money with someone that you felt just okay about.

1451
01:04:25,840 --> 01:04:28,640
Speaker 1: The lad And I know you got to the ladder.

1452
01:04:28,720 --> 01:04:30,600
Speaker 1: This is I got to drop this one. I don't

1453
01:04:30,600 --> 01:04:31,200
Speaker 1: want emptiness.

1454
01:04:31,240 --> 01:04:36,720
Speaker 5: Here's the thing, niggas, that's always been that nigga. Was

1455
01:04:36,800 --> 01:04:41,240
Speaker 5: that nigga broke or with money? Yep, niggas, that's been corny.

1456
01:04:42,080 --> 01:04:44,960
Speaker 5: It's always been corny broke or with money.

1457
01:04:45,040 --> 01:04:47,240
Speaker 1: Listen, I fucked that. You know what I'm saying.

1458
01:04:48,000 --> 01:04:50,400
Speaker 5: Like, the one thing about money, it is making more

1459
01:04:50,480 --> 01:04:52,400
Speaker 5: what you're already wash you was that nigga?

1460
01:04:52,480 --> 01:04:53,320
Speaker 1: You more that nigga?

1461
01:04:53,440 --> 01:04:56,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, but if you were corny, you are pretty still

1462
01:04:56,320 --> 01:04:59,040
Speaker 5: corn I've met so many men that's been successful now,

1463
01:04:59,160 --> 01:05:03,080
Speaker 5: especially in this digital age, and they still corny.

1464
01:05:03,720 --> 01:05:06,200
Speaker 1: So there we go with that one. Ace. Thank you

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01:05:06,320 --> 01:05:09,720
Speaker 1: for joining us. God damn we didn't. First off, I

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01:05:09,920 --> 01:05:12,160
Speaker 1: never want to acquire behind the guest to get Wow.

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01:05:13,760 --> 01:05:15,600
Speaker 1: We ain't gotta. We gotta get one of.

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01:05:15,640 --> 01:05:18,120
Speaker 3: Y'all motherfuckers out the room next time. I never want

1469
01:05:18,120 --> 01:05:18,840
Speaker 3: to acquire again.

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01:05:19,320 --> 01:05:22,040
Speaker 1: Ace. Where can people listen to you? Support you, check

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Speaker 1: out Tonight's conversations and everything else that you got going on.

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Speaker 3: I love that, And y'all also know that if y'all

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01:05:47,160 --> 01:05:50,040
Speaker 3: want more of the raunchiness, more of the sex.

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01:05:49,960 --> 01:05:54,280
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Speaker 1: We sign it out, but it's decisions, decisions. See you

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Speaker 1: guys next week.