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Speaker 1: John and I are kind of married.

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Speaker 2: Basically.

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Speaker 3: It's so excited. I hope it goes really well and

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Speaker 3: nothing bad happen.

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Speaker 4: I mean, luckily nothing bad has happened because John is

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Speaker 4: an excellent work husband.

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Speaker 2: And you're an excellent work husband.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, you're an excellent work If you keep I

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Speaker 3: can't take it.

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Speaker 2: But guess what, not everyone's like John, we got the

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Speaker 2: worst husband you've ever seen in your life.

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Speaker 4: Today, the Internet's worst husbands. And we're gonna rank them

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Speaker 4: all from terrible to maybe slightly not as bad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the least of the world.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, the least of the worst.

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Speaker 4: We're gonna do a tearless let's buckle in and maybe

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Speaker 4: you can give us your own rankings in the comments below.

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Speaker 2: I refuse to raise my husband's secret affair child. My

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Speaker 2: family's furious with me.

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Speaker 3: You know, I'm just gonna let that one marinate. You

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Speaker 3: go ahead and get into.

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Speaker 2: The big ask. That's a that's a big So the

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Speaker 2: s tier is the worst person, Yeah, it goes from me,

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Speaker 2: and then the f tire.

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Speaker 1: Is the least worst, the worst person.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's so good. Well, I email thirty two met

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Speaker 2: my husband an arranged marriage setup at twenty one. He

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Speaker 2: was twenty seven and in postgraduate medical degree during my

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Speaker 2: MBBS days, and we liked each other and got married

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Speaker 2: after a year of courtship. But after marriage I found

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Speaker 2: out that he was so controlling, et cetera, et cetera,

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Speaker 2: from clothes to my male friends. It became an issue

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Speaker 2: for him. I have to fight to be able to dress.

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Speaker 2: He liked me as a modern girl, but after marriage

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Speaker 2: he wanted me to wear more traditional clothing. Oh the

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Speaker 2: switch up, the switch up, the old bait and switch. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it happened. What's traditional clothing like a sundress or like

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Speaker 2: I guess, like generally more conservative? Probably like less revealing.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, like less revealing, like a little little Sam's over

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Speaker 5: here daydream about sun dress?

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Speaker 2: Dude.

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Speaker 1: I love sundress, dude.

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Speaker 4: That's that's I'm not going to force my wife to

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Speaker 4: only wear sundresses because I've got the internet's worst husband.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, hear that, John, You can finally take off

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Speaker 3: the sundress.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thank god, Oh my god. So I had my

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Speaker 2: son at twenty five. With the help of my parents

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Speaker 2: and in laws, I was able to complete my MBBS

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Speaker 2: and later my residency. Let's go, I don't want it

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Speaker 2: is an MBBS. Yeah, can you look that up real

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Speaker 2: quick because I just thought BBL. Yeah, it just sounds

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Speaker 2: like BBL.

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Speaker 5: Yeah I thought that, and then you started thinking about

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Speaker 5: the sundress again.

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Speaker 2: It all goes about the sun. I can't escape, dude.

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Speaker 2: My blanket does look like a sun dress.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it looks cute. What do you mean your son?

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Speaker 3: Do you mean your son dressed?

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Speaker 2: Like? Yeah, right, what am I talking about? Committed to this?

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Speaker 5: Now?

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Speaker 2: I am any anywhere? What's what's the word? Producer sixty top?

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, what do we know what an MBBS is? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: yeah it was. Let's go to the actual thing. We're

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Speaker 2: looking for.

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Speaker 3: Bachelor of Medicine, Bachelors of surgery.

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Speaker 2: Damn, that's that's that's crazy and surgery is bananas. By

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Speaker 2: the way, this comes from Indian Sad Wife aw from

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Speaker 2: the RSS okay story times over. I hope that's a

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Speaker 2: throwaway account, not just like oh shit, yeah, oh well

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Speaker 2: it might be. So. We've had our ups and downs

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Speaker 2: as he was controlling and I had to fight a

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Speaker 2: lot for myself. We had separate finances because from our

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Speaker 2: joint investments. He gifted his sister lots of gold without

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Speaker 2: even asking me. But I kept my mouth shut because

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Speaker 2: I loved my mother and father in laws. Now I

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Speaker 2: have recently found out that my husband had a son

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Speaker 2: with a woman twelve years back in India and having

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Speaker 2: a child before marriage is a sin. So not only

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Speaker 2: was this a secret child twelve years ago, he was

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Speaker 2: out of wedlock. Also at the time.

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Speaker 4: I feel like that pretty s tiered terrible husband behavior.

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Speaker 4: Like I mean, here's my only argument for the tier

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Speaker 4: below it.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if it was a cheating Oh it

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Speaker 2: was hitting baby. It's a secret baby, so cheating cheating

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Speaker 2: two below.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say, see I'm putting that in.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you know everyone's got secret, but it's such a

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Speaker 4: crazy secret.

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Speaker 5: Right now I have a suspicion he's gonna overachieve. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: right now, I think he's right.

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Speaker 2: Name is an Indian sad wife for no reason. Okay,

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Speaker 2: she she's about to prove her title really quick. So

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Speaker 2: it goes, what's the ranking? Can we can we back

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Speaker 2: up B B, C, D E F.

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Speaker 4: So right now we're gonna put it like a beer bet.

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Speaker 4: Maybe we could drag it. I was dragging I'm feeling

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Speaker 4: we could move a hidden Also, should we establish what

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Speaker 4: each of these beans?

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Speaker 2: So this one is secret?

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Speaker 6: Wait, secret baby, secret affair baby, So we got this

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Speaker 6: top secret little guy here?

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Speaker 4: Okay baby, So maybe like maybe we should define each

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Speaker 4: of these but like what if what if like like

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Speaker 4: an s s here is like s here is you

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Speaker 4: break up immediately, no conversation and never talk to them again.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I think we're gonna have to samples that we got,

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Speaker 5: but we determined what's like.

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Speaker 2: Pack up, pack up and go yeah, like there's nothing

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Speaker 2: worse than like you immediately drop everything in your life.

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Speaker 5: I think s teer is like get them off the planet,

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Speaker 5: throw them into the sun, irredeemable.

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Speaker 4: Like like put them in And I think, y, could

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Speaker 4: you write down these definitions because I feel like it

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Speaker 4: would be helpful and.

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Speaker 2: Can you write.

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Speaker 6: What will probably do is like we might have like

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Speaker 6: some like we'll go through and label them and then

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Speaker 6: we might have a story that's like incredibly horrible. Then

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Speaker 6: we may have to rearrange all of them.

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Speaker 2: That's okay, Yeah, I think we should just go get

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Speaker 2: off multiple in a category.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah of course.

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Speaker 2: But do you think I think do we say, or

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Speaker 2: maybe it's like, I think you should just make the

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Speaker 2: absolute worst to the least worst, because that's I don't

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Speaker 2: know if oh, so you're saying just the simplicity, we

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Speaker 2: just the worst of the worst. We just ranked them

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Speaker 2: all down. Yeah, is the worst of the worst.

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Speaker 1: Are we gonna remember all these stories?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we have. We have abbreviations for like this one's

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Speaker 2: I think this one should be secret baby affair, baby affair,

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Speaker 2: because I don't think this is an affair actually secret baby.

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Speaker 2: Oh not yet. I could be wrong. I could be wrong. Okay,

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Speaker 2: we'll see, we'll see, but let's keep going. So it's

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Speaker 2: seen as a black mark, especially on women, even today.

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Speaker 2: But the women here weren't is liked by my in laws,

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Speaker 2: and they gave her a huge amount of money and

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Speaker 2: one rental property to stay out of their lives. It's

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Speaker 2: a shame. They paid her off big time.

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Speaker 3: Just stay here at the shame.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, hey, don't worry, but you got it.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'd be like, dude, if I got a shame

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Speaker 4: for shame, shame back, Like that's not that that's not

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Speaker 4: even say that makes the husband better, Like I'll be like, damn,

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Speaker 4: he took care.

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Speaker 2: Of him though his parents did it right, because his

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Speaker 2: go and clean up your mess. They're the ones going,

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Speaker 2: he's not.

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Speaker 4: He's up the game for the family though, w for

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Speaker 4: the family, but well sign off on. It actually made

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Speaker 4: like like like a wind of not because they're they're shame.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but there's kind of but maybe you don't have

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Speaker 3: a secret baby.

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Speaker 2: Not a W but not the worst.

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Speaker 1: Don't you're saying, don't have a secret baby. That's impossible.

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Speaker 2: I on golden rules, you get one practice, one practice

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Speaker 2: I forgot. But so they gave her the steal to

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Speaker 2: which she obliged. That is why they rushed his marriage

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Speaker 2: like the final closed chapter clean, getting him squeaky clean.

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Speaker 2: Right now, she is dying with cancer.

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Speaker 3: The shame wife, the shame shame will do that. You know, she.

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Speaker 2: Visited her home and it was a huge mess. Her

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Speaker 2: son fully looks like my husband. After my husband admitted

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Speaker 2: as he had no other option. He hasn't met the

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Speaker 2: kid in years now. I'm asking for a divorce and

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Speaker 2: I'm going to get half of joint assets. Let's that

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Speaker 2: bad that? Yo? I earn well to keep my son

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Speaker 3: Yeah, BOSC and.

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Speaker 2: A surgeon so something like that. So I'm financially said, ope,

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Speaker 2: he's got it. Now my in laws have taken the

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Speaker 2: other kid as the mother is very sick and is

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Speaker 2: in the hospital. Now I am currently at my parents' house.

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Speaker 2: W for the in laws again, W for the ends? Well, yeah, W,

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Speaker 2: I would say that's a true W. Yeah. The paying

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Speaker 4: Why it's like, you know, our tier, it's it's not

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Speaker 4: it's not an s tier move. But that's has to

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Speaker 4: have to do the husbands. I'm not gonna be run Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So now the inlay you think the in laws

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Speaker 2: are so great? The in laws are asking me to

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Speaker 2: raise the kid and to forgive my husband. That's a

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Speaker 2: tall order. I'm getting really mixed signals from these in

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Speaker 2: laws all throughout life. By the way, this is probably

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Speaker 2: a life to because traditionally you you you live in

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Speaker 2: is like, this isn't even like eighteen you know, this

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Speaker 2: is eighteen years. Eighteen years you got God, he's got

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Speaker 2: him for life.

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Speaker 3: I have a conspiracy.

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Speaker 5: What conspiracy the in laws put the shame wife into

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Speaker 5: They bought the shame wife house and they were like,

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Speaker 5: let's find the house with the most asbestos, with the

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Speaker 5: most black mold. And now that she's getting moved out

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Speaker 5: of the picture, they're like, quick, get the kid, right,

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Speaker 5: Have the kid get raised by the real wife, and

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Speaker 5: that erases the kid's shame.

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Speaker 2: If that's true, then that's as tear for that. That

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Speaker 2: is tear terribleness te wow, double double s plus.

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Speaker 1: Gott to move to the.

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Speaker 2: God. Well, I have handled his anger issue. Unless you

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Speaker 2: you got to giggle out right, that's stand with all right,

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Speaker 2: get your giggles, serious giggles are all giggles are out.

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Speaker 2: All giggles are out, all right, directly on me, right,

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Speaker 2: because I'll keep it serious for us. I've handled his

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Speaker 2: anger issues. Slaps not regular, but sometimes during arguments though

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Speaker 2: I slap back to he didn't cheat post marriage, but

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Speaker 2: I wasn't informed earlier about the kids, so he lied

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Speaker 3: But it's like you.

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Speaker 5: Guys shunned them a decade ago, Like what are you

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Speaker 2: You're giving evil mafia boss. You know, they're the ones

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Speaker 4: Wait really quick, what's worse hitting your wife or having

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Speaker 2: it's it's it's so bad. I mean, honestly, yeah, it's.

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Speaker 3: The way that op said this.

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Speaker 5: I have no idea at what's tapped in like culturally

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Speaker 5: I slapped him like we were slap.

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Speaker 2: We like to slap, We are slappers.

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Speaker 5: I don't condone that by any means, but it sounds

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Speaker 4: Like when you step into like like the wrestling ring,

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Speaker 5: I say, I just don't know we're gonna move story.

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Speaker 4: But to me, to be clear, that means that no

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Speaker 3: We're hired.

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Speaker 2: wor's don't even describe. But Ming, Ming's right, that's what

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Speaker 4: Says slap is a good slap, the only acceptable slap.

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Speaker 4: Damn straight, it's doing fun.

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Speaker 7: What.

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Speaker 2: I don't have any issues?

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Speaker 3: Do I have an echo?

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Speaker 2: I think there's another update?

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Speaker 3: Uh am I being too late?

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Speaker 2: Well, we will look into it. We will look into it.

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Speaker 3: I need to speak more sensual.

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Speaker 2: but it was a secret, hidden baby.

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Speaker 3: It was a shame baby.

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Speaker 2: It was a shame shame babies.

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Speaker 4: You still don't like put into the angel move is

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Speaker 5: It's just the way you said shame baby.

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Speaker 2: I know you said it got me. It's so beyond

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Speaker 2: you don't need to be the angel in this case.

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Speaker 4: That would be like if I had a kid before

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Speaker 4: I was like, Johnny, you have to take care of

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Speaker 2: But you told me about it. No, No, I didn't.

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Speaker 2: You have no idea by dying breath is shape baby?

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Speaker 2: I mean know if it was Riley of course, but

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Speaker 2: I think it's you're the kind of guy that would

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Speaker 5: Can we stop saying shame baby? I feel so bad

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Speaker 2: I'm not.

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Speaker 5: We can't get out of it now, we've got shame

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Speaker 3: I have watched Bob Ross this happy accident.

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Speaker 2: That is, you're my miracle baby. Okay, without me, I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so the tables were turned.

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Speaker 2: Was that you told me about it? Right?

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Speaker 5: Well, that's the r k O r k r k

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Speaker 1: Fun.

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Speaker 5: I haven't broken the table. You've broken the table. Okay,

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Speaker 2: In India, if I was a non married single mother,

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Speaker 4: We've moved husband up to st here because we believe

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Speaker 2: Yes, that's that's how I feeling. Yeah. Yeah, we're not

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Speaker 3: Nobody here is Sean Connery. None of us done hit on.

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Speaker 2: Conn hit women. Oh he was all about it.

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Speaker 1: Also Gandhi really yeah did he?

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Speaker 2: Yep? Another Indian? Another Indian guy.

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Speaker 1: Wow, there you go.

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Speaker 3: I'm noticing a pattern here.

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Speaker 2: I'm not nothing anything okay, all right, okay, all right,

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Speaker 2: we're gonna keep going.

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Speaker 5: No, it's always bad to hit anyone, regardless of your gender,

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Speaker 2: Don't hit people. True, But guys, you know what else,

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Speaker 2: we got another story we're gonna get so canceled. There

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Speaker 2: you go, here we go, editors save us? Just even

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Speaker 3: Oh wait, they said Gandhi turned out.

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Speaker 1: To I did a bad I did a boo boo.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I did a boo boo too.

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Speaker 3: Bed said Gandhi turned out to be a bad guy.

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Speaker 3: What is he talking about? Is Gandhi a bad guy?

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Speaker 2: Gandhi?

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Speaker 3: Now, Gandhi's bad?

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Speaker 2: Where have I been?

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Speaker 4: Gandhi is like mostly good. He just did some bad

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Speaker 3: They don't teach the bad stuff about Gandhi.

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Speaker 2: I think right.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, I can stay a little longer, but I

444
00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:06,440
Speaker 2: might not make it to the end. If that's okay,

445
00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:07,080
Speaker 2: Do you think.

446
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:10,119
Speaker 1: That I'd mean we could de code and or we

447
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:10,680
Speaker 1: could pause.

448
00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:12,800
Speaker 2: I think I think you guys can finish it up.

449
00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:17,680
Speaker 2: I feel like it'll still'll feel good another hour. Yeah, yeah,

450
00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:22,359
Speaker 2: I think yeah, yeah, worst case, we could positive bring Okay.

451
00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:30,520
Speaker 4: Anyway, so s your worst husband yep, all right, the

452
00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:32,959
Speaker 4: same thing as Gandhi and st her worst husband too.

453
00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:36,480
Speaker 2: I don't think we have physical assault s here.

454
00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:41,400
Speaker 4: Moving on, he said Emily. Okay, I'm learning so many

455
00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:42,520
Speaker 4: bad things about Gandhi.

456
00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:47,560
Speaker 2: Right, let's go. Let's go to the next one. Yeah,

457
00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:49,479
Speaker 2: John's trying to get away, all right. I'm right here.

458
00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:52,800
Speaker 4: My husband refused to be in the delivery room with me,

459
00:21:53,119 --> 00:21:55,320
Speaker 4: so I left him at the hospital.

460
00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:57,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's pretty big.

461
00:21:57,560 --> 00:21:58,200
Speaker 1: Place to leave him.

462
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:00,560
Speaker 3: If anything happens to him, he's right there.

463
00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:03,720
Speaker 4: This happened two months ago, but it's still causing major

464
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 4: friction in my family. So I need some outside opinions.

465
00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:09,760
Speaker 4: I twenty nine female and my husband Jake thirty two male,

466
00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 4: have been together for six years, married for three.

467
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Speaker 2: We were both.

468
00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:15,960
Speaker 4: Ecstatic when we found out we were expecting our first child.

469
00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:19,000
Speaker 4: Pregnancy was tough for me though I had severe morning

470
00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:23,160
Speaker 4: sickness just stational diabetes and was generally miserable, but Jake

471
00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:25,600
Speaker 4: was supportive and sweet the whole way through, which made

472
00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:28,280
Speaker 4: it bearable. By the way, this comes from anxious committee

473
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Speaker 4: on the r slash aith read it. So as we

474
00:22:32,119 --> 00:22:34,280
Speaker 4: got closer to my due date, we discussed birth plans.

475
00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:38,000
Speaker 4: I was adamant that I wanted Jake in the delivery room.

476
00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:41,040
Speaker 4: I needed his support and he'd always agreed. However, a

477
00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:44,280
Speaker 4: few weeks before my due date, Jake started acting strange.

478
00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:48,080
Speaker 4: He was distant, distracted, and wouldn't engage in any baby

479
00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:51,160
Speaker 4: related discussions. Any conspiracy theories in the crowd.

480
00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 2: No, not yet.

481
00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:57,160
Speaker 4: I thought he was just anxious about becoming a dad,

482
00:22:57,480 --> 00:22:59,720
Speaker 4: so I didn't press him too much. My conspiracy theory

483
00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:01,560
Speaker 4: is he thinks it's not a skip. The day went

484
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,920
Speaker 4: into labor, drove me to the hospital, but seemed off.

485
00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:08,199
Speaker 4: He was quiet and kept checking his phone. People are

486
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:14,600
Speaker 4: saying we read this one, Oh no, people, and this

487
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:16,639
Speaker 4: is so short. We haven't been reading We haven't.

488
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Speaker 1: Been reading short one though. Yeah, I don't think we've

489
00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:19,760
Speaker 1: read this one.

490
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Speaker 2: It would be it would be pretty dang old. Yeah,

491
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:26,000
Speaker 2: there's no way we read this. I don't think we

492
00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:27,720
Speaker 2: read this one. I think you guys are thinking I

493
00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:28,760
Speaker 2: definitely don't remember it.

494
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:32,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't remember it, but it's just a meme.

495
00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:33,119
Speaker 5: Now.

496
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Speaker 2: I feel like I think.

497
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Speaker 4: Everyone just says, Riley, we read I don't believe you guys, Yeah,

498
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:42,040
Speaker 4: we didn't read it. Get wrecked, y'all. It was your

499
00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:45,880
Speaker 4: other I read story. You if you know we've read

500
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:47,639
Speaker 4: it before, why don't you say what happens?

501
00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 5: Damn?

502
00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:54,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, if you're so tough, huh, give us it's all. Yeah, yeah,

503
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 4: if we read it before, give us the link.

504
00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:56,960
Speaker 2: Anyway.

505
00:23:57,080 --> 00:23:59,399
Speaker 4: When we got there, he pulled the nurse aside and

506
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 4: spoke to her privately. She came back and told me

507
00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:05,200
Speaker 4: Jake wouldn't be in the delivery room because he was

508
00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:08,359
Speaker 4: uncomfortable with blood and medical procedures.

509
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:09,480
Speaker 1: I was stunned.

510
00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:11,439
Speaker 4: I begged him to stay, told him I needed him,

511
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:14,760
Speaker 4: but he kept saying I can't do this. I was heartbroken, curious,

512
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:17,359
Speaker 4: but I didn't have much time to dwell on it,

513
00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:20,680
Speaker 4: as my contractions were getting stronger. Jake said he'd been

514
00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:22,920
Speaker 4: waiting in the delivery room and kissed me on the

515
00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 4: forehead before leaving. I was left alone, trying and feeling

516
00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:30,680
Speaker 4: utterly abandoned. Labor was long, painful and traumatic. I was

517
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:33,000
Speaker 4: alone the entire time except for the medical staff. When

518
00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 4: our son was finally born, I was exhausted emotionally and physically.

519
00:24:37,440 --> 00:24:39,639
Speaker 4: The nurse handed me my son, and all I felt

520
00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:45,360
Speaker 4: was a deep sadness that Jake wasn't there to share anymore.

521
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:48,880
Speaker 4: After I was taken to a recovery room, I asked

522
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 4: the nurse to get Jake. She came back and said

523
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 4: he'd left the hospital some hours ago. I couldn't believe it.

524
00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:55,680
Speaker 4: Called him repeatedly, but he didn't answer a little whack.

525
00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 4: Finally I sent him a text saying I was done

526
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Speaker 4: and he could find his own way home. I didn't

527
00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:03,040
Speaker 4: see him until the next day. He showed up at

528
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 4: the hospital flowers and apologies, saying he'd panicked and needed

529
00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:09,000
Speaker 4: some air. He claimed he'd gone home to shower and

530
00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 4: change and fell asleep, which I didn't buy for a second.

531
00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:12,760
Speaker 4: I told him I didn't believe.

532
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 2: I was overwhelmed with anger and hurt, and I told

533
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:19,960
Speaker 2: him he had let me down in the worst possible way.

534
00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:20,639
Speaker 2: I see you.

535
00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:24,159
Speaker 4: He kept apologizing, saying he knew he'd mess up and

536
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:26,320
Speaker 4: he'd do anything to make it right. I didn't want

537
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:28,680
Speaker 4: him near me or our son at that moment, so

538
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:31,000
Speaker 4: I asked him to leave. He tried to protest, but

539
00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:34,440
Speaker 4: I told him I needed process everything. He left, and

540
00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 4: I spent the rest of my hospital stay alone with

541
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 4: my baby, trying to grapple with the enormity of what happened.

542
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:43,120
Speaker 4: Since then, Jake has been trying to make amends. He's

543
00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 4: been taking parenting classes, attending therapy, and constantly trying to

544
00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 4: be present and supportive. But I can't shake the feeling

545
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:52,240
Speaker 4: of betrayal. He abandoned me at one of the most

546
00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:55,440
Speaker 4: vulnerable moments in my life. Every time I look at him,

547
00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:58,720
Speaker 4: I remember being alone in the delivery room. I think

548
00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:00,399
Speaker 4: I do remember a story like this, but it was

549
00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 4: in the snow and it was different. Terrified and in pain,

550
00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,800
Speaker 4: wondering why the person who promised to be by my

551
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 4: side wasn't there. My family is split something I'm being

552
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 4: too hard on Jake. That he made a mistake and

553
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 4: is clearly remorseful. They say he's a good father and

554
00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:20,280
Speaker 4: partner otherwise, and I should focus on moving forward for

555
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:22,760
Speaker 4: the sake of our child. Others think what he did

556
00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:26,440
Speaker 4: was unforgivable and I should leave him. They believe I'll

557
00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:30,280
Speaker 4: never truly trust him again, and that's no foundation for

558
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:33,360
Speaker 4: a marriage. But you know what's a foundation for us, Well,

559
00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:36,120
Speaker 4: here is going to our life every week day three

560
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:40,199
Speaker 4: pmpsd Oh, Yeah, I'm torn. I do still love him,

561
00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:41,639
Speaker 4: and I know he loves me and our son, but

562
00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 4: part of me wonders if I'll ever get over this.

563
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 4: Was it a moment of weakness on his part or

564
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:47,879
Speaker 4: a sign of something deeper that I can't overlook? So

565
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:49,720
Speaker 4: am I the a hole for leaving him at the

566
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 4: hospital and now considering leaving him for good?

567
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:57,160
Speaker 1: And that's where the story ends. I'm thinking, like, it's

568
00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:58,919
Speaker 1: way less bad than the.

569
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Speaker 2: First thing bad in the first one, I want to say,

570
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,879
Speaker 2: so I see I was singing the same thing. Be

571
00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:10,280
Speaker 2: I would say, be because abandoning your like leaving your

572
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:11,399
Speaker 2: wife at.

573
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:14,280
Speaker 1: And leave permanently. He's just like a little blood squeemish.

574
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:15,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, wouldn't it be way?

575
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,360
Speaker 5: Worse if like you passed out in the delivery room

576
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 5: and now the doctors are like, great, we got to

577
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:20,440
Speaker 5: take care of this.

578
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, now he's passed on the floor.

579
00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:24,680
Speaker 2: I do truly feel for him there, like it's we

580
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:28,040
Speaker 2: didn't get a ton of context, but maybe slightly unreliable narrator.

581
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:30,360
Speaker 2: Maybe he really does like have serious issues. He would

582
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 2: just like passing out all the time. However, leaving the

583
00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:35,680
Speaker 2: hospital is like like at least just just sit in

584
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:37,359
Speaker 2: the room, you know, and be there like, Okay, the

585
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:38,960
Speaker 2: baby's clean up. You can hold a baby, like you

586
00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:40,360
Speaker 2: can be there for your wife. Oh can I run

587
00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:42,760
Speaker 2: grab you I don't know, like a drink, some food,

588
00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:45,919
Speaker 2: like whatever the case might be. She's she's over here

589
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:48,560
Speaker 2: delivering this baby and you're just running around going home

590
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 2: taking a showers.

591
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 4: Yes, bad, but he was like he was good the

592
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 4: entire Like he's been good before the relationship, he's good

593
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 4: after relationship. This seems like a moment of weakness. Maybe

594
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 4: he's like a little little scaredy cat, but not duch.

595
00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:04,400
Speaker 4: Just Casana says he left to cheat.

596
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:08,200
Speaker 2: That's crazy. That's that was my ic. Was he left

597
00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:12,720
Speaker 2: baby was see that would upgrade it to probably, but

598
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:14,879
Speaker 2: we don't have conformation. We don't have confirmation as of

599
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:18,679
Speaker 2: the information right now. I'm going see are you are

600
00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:21,640
Speaker 2: your B? I was saying, B Dakota tiebreak. I was saying,

601
00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 2: see see, I think it's bad. Because he came back

602
00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 2: and he was like, yeah, that was many. He was like,

603
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:28,680
Speaker 2: I personally despise hospitals.

604
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:30,199
Speaker 5: Like if I'm in a hospital for like longer than

605
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 5: a couple of hours, like I have to get out

606
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 5: of there just to get fresh air.

607
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:35,080
Speaker 3: Like I'm not going to go home maybe and like

608
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:35,680
Speaker 3: take a shower.

609
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:37,119
Speaker 2: Are you gonna go home and take a shower? But

610
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be like your wife.

611
00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. Maybe I won't.

612
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 2: Maybe I won't. I won't do this right. It's still bad,

613
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:49,040
Speaker 2: but it's not so bad, Okay. I don't even real doozies.

614
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think we've had a true doozy yet.

615
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 2: Why.

616
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 5: I mean the last one, well, I mean the first

617
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:56,000
Speaker 5: one was a bit of a doozy, but I still

618
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:57,640
Speaker 5: I don't think it was I didn't think it was. S.

619
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Speaker 5: I think it's gonna end up in a Do you

620
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:00,280
Speaker 5: think it's gonna end up an egg? I think it's

621
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 5: going to end.

622
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 3: Up in a because I think there's just gonna be

623
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 3: way worse.

624
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 5: Okay, although I did say physical slaps and hits, automatic

625
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 5: s tier s for slap, but it's going to end

626
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:13,280
Speaker 5: up at the back end of st I bet there's

627
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 5: gonna be some.

628
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 4: Crazy I think so. But yeah, let us let us

629
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 4: know what you would rank it. Right now, I think

630
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 4: we're sitting comfortable at a sea.

631
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:22,240
Speaker 3: I have to run to the room for boys.

632
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:24,760
Speaker 2: Go for it, do it, go for it. You have

633
00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 2: to stream here. Everyone's stream here, all streams, all the

634
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:34,760
Speaker 2: multiple streams, all streams happened here. All right, shock start

635
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 2: this next one. Yes, you can hear from the bathroom.

636
00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, nice word rally. All right. So my husband

637
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:45,280
Speaker 2: demanded I take full custody of our daughter after divorcing me.

638
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 2: I refused. Dang, no one wants this kid, oh baby,

639
00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:53,560
Speaker 2: Oh no. So I thirty one female, have been together

640
00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 2: with my husband Alex thirty three male, for seven years

641
00:29:56,360 --> 00:29:59,520
Speaker 2: and married for four. Alex was always really excited about

642
00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:02,560
Speaker 2: the prospect children. From the beginning of our relationship. I

643
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 2: was on the fence. I've seen how hard single moms

644
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 2: have it, I promised myself that I'd never be in

645
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 2: that position. Plus, I work as a software engineer. I

646
00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:13,680
Speaker 2: loved my career and I didn't want to give it

647
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 2: up to be a mom. After Alex and I got married,

648
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 2: those fears went away. We were very much in love.

649
00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 2: I felt safe with them, and I told him my

650
00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:25,080
Speaker 2: fears and he said, all the right things to make

651
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:25,880
Speaker 2: them advantage.

652
00:30:26,240 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 1: Silver tongue are actually a good fall through. We'll see well.

653
00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 2: So we tried for a baby and had our daughter, Ramona,

654
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 2: two years after we got married.

655
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 1: God seems like a happy family going well.

656
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 2: Well she have we don't know. By the way, this

657
00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:43,240
Speaker 2: comes from budget Fishing seventy four to twenty on the

658
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 2: and the hillstopbreet So the pregnancy in the first year

659
00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:49,560
Speaker 2: with the baby were extremely hard on me. I had

660
00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 2: multiple health problems during and after the pregnancy that were

661
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Speaker 2: life threatening and altered my body permanently. I was disabled

662
00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:00,680
Speaker 2: and nearly passed away once in the sixth months after

663
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:03,720
Speaker 2: I gave birth, and during this time my husband grew

664
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:07,120
Speaker 2: distant and became angry frequently when we would speak. I

665
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 2: spent a lot of time in and out of the

666
00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 2: hospital and was unable to work, so a lot of

667
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 2: the baby care went to him. During this time, it

668
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,360
Speaker 2: was all I could do to stay alive and get

669
00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 2: better being separated from my daughter and my husband so much,

670
00:31:21,320 --> 00:31:23,080
Speaker 2: because yeah, it's like, not only are you in the hospital,

671
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:25,400
Speaker 2: and now now you're separated from your your new baby

672
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:28,680
Speaker 2: and like so so far, like the bad behavior from

673
00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:30,760
Speaker 2: the husband is being like mad at when they talk.

674
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 2: It's just beginning, it's just beginning. It's yeah, it seems

675
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:36,960
Speaker 2: like we're on the which I think of worst. Husband's

676
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:39,400
Speaker 2: probably bottom of the list so far. But yes, yeah,

677
00:31:39,480 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 2: but not the worst, not the worst. Yeah, so far.

678
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 2: I'm a D right now. Yeah, I'll put it put

679
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 2: a D. We'll see if it changes what you're gonna

680
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 2: put what the D? Hey, big D. Let me talk

681
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 2: about this D. Okay. So eventually I did get better

682
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 2: enough to help more with the baby, but after I

683
00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 2: was did charged from the hospital, he barely spoke to me.

684
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 2: I want to clarify earlier that at no time did

685
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,680
Speaker 2: I ever neglect our daughter if I was able to

686
00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 2: care for her. I leaned on him a lot during

687
00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:13,560
Speaker 2: this period, but I was also fighting for my health

688
00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 2: and my life so that way I could continue to

689
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 2: be there for her. If I had pushed myself too hard,

690
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 2: I would have made it worse or passed away. So

691
00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:25,240
Speaker 2: we stayed in the state of limbo like this for

692
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 2: a while. I was still in recovery, not back to

693
00:32:28,040 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 2: one hundred percent yet, but able to resume a somewhat

694
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 2: normal life, and we shared more responsibility with Ramona.

695
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:39,000
Speaker 4: So it sounds like the husband is getting like overworked

696
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:41,800
Speaker 4: or something with all of the responsibility falling on him,

697
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 4: probably taking care of the wife and taking the care

698
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 4: of the kids. So he's acting in a bad way,

699
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 4: like he's acting by being like snappy and mean too opie. Yeah,

700
00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:53,840
Speaker 4: but probably from a trying to take care of all

701
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:56,080
Speaker 4: these things. Yeah, in fairness, at the same token he is,

702
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 4: he is doing all this stuff. It's a little unclear.

703
00:32:58,040 --> 00:32:59,720
Speaker 4: It almost seems like she didn't know what he's doing

704
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:02,239
Speaker 4: though at the hot I mean, I guess just taking care.

705
00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 2: I don't even know if he's taking care of her,

706
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 2: because she said like in and out of the hospital,

707
00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:08,160
Speaker 2: So I imagine there's some love work care because like

708
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:11,960
Speaker 2: there's already like you'refics on what he's actually doing. Don't

709
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 2: have specifics other than taking the majority of childcare while

710
00:33:15,360 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 2: she's in the hot which is kind of like I

711
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 2: would move for doing that. I'd move down it, tire.

712
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:21,000
Speaker 2: I think that's even better. I said, Oh, like he's

713
00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 2: still like fulfilling his dude.

714
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:23,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would say, now I'm gonna go like E

715
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 4: because he's kind of like he's kind of he's doing

716
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 4: what needs to be done, Like he's we're getting towards

717
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 4: like like medium good husband.

718
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 2: We'll see all withhold my my judgment and keep it

719
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 2: there for now. But the the not taught, like not

720
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 2: communicating basically icing out you're that's not it's not good.

721
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:43,040
Speaker 4: But I'm the ones I feel like it's at least

722
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 4: he's fulfilling his responsibilities.

723
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:46,040
Speaker 1: It's not like I don't know.

724
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 2: If it's E. But we'll see. We'll see. Maybe it's

725
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 2: a D, maybe it's a C. Could be nice. So

726
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 2: I tried talking to about it many times over the

727
00:33:57,240 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 2: next six months, but it was more of the same thing.

728
00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:03,120
Speaker 2: He wouldn't speak to me, or he'd get angry at

729
00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:06,560
Speaker 2: every little thing I did, insist that I was making

730
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:10,320
Speaker 2: things up and blame me for somehow criticizing him. It

731
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:13,879
Speaker 2: was a constant deflection for whatever was actually bothering him,

732
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 2: I got another job about nine months after the pregnancy.

733
00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:21,319
Speaker 2: It's like right after you get to that's crazy. Maybe

734
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:22,360
Speaker 2: maybe they meant nine.

735
00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:25,279
Speaker 4: Months after, Like yeah, I think, yeah, I don't think

736
00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:26,720
Speaker 4: it's like nine months after inception.

737
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, my new job was raising the kid or conception.

738
00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 2: I had the kid at my desk this inception and

739
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 2: things seemed to improve for a while.

740
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:37,560
Speaker 1: Or at least thought okay.

741
00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 2: Not long after Ramona's first birthday, Alex served me with

742
00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:49,759
Speaker 2: the gift of his own divorce. So he said he'd fallen.

743
00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 1: Out of love with me a long time ago and

744
00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:53,080
Speaker 1: he was ready to start anew.

745
00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:57,080
Speaker 2: I was in shock. Things had started to improve between us.

746
00:34:57,200 --> 00:34:59,680
Speaker 2: That was because he decided to leave and he felt

747
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 2: less happy. It was less unhappy.

748
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:06,800
Speaker 5: Why it got better because he made the mental decision

749
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:08,319
Speaker 5: I'm divorcing her.

750
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:10,480
Speaker 2: Life's a fellaws.

751
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 3: Isn't life a little sweeter today?

752
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 2: Ready to abandon let's moving back up to d tre

753
00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 2: now for divorce? Yeah?

754
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 4: But right as of right now, like I don't see

755
00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:27,520
Speaker 4: him like having divorcing someone isn't like like terrible behavior.

756
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:29,680
Speaker 5: But but saying that you're divorcing someone because you've been

757
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:32,960
Speaker 5: unhappy for a long time after they you just had

758
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:33,600
Speaker 5: a kid with them.

759
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:35,640
Speaker 3: You could have divorced them before you have the child.

760
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 2: You don't know the child. Kids make marriages better too.

761
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:43,440
Speaker 2: Always if you want to save a marriage, have a kid,

762
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:45,920
Speaker 2: have to when as things go south, don't just take

763
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 2: it in the mouth. I that's what they say.

764
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:51,839
Speaker 3: Is that what they say down there?

765
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 2: That's what they said.

766
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 4: But wait, like so as of right now, I don't

767
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:58,400
Speaker 4: know if we've seen I haven't seen anything specific that

768
00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 4: he's done bad to me.

769
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 2: It is the complete lack of communication and kind of

770
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:08,719
Speaker 2: like low key one could say, like abandon He was

771
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 2: like abandoning her inside of the relationship. Sure, and she's

772
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:15,359
Speaker 2: she's there for a year, just like please like talk

773
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:18,200
Speaker 2: to me, what's happened to live with that day in

774
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:18,799
Speaker 2: and day out?

775
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 4: Now, if he had been like as long as he

776
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:24,399
Speaker 4: takes care of the kid and make sure that he's

777
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:28,640
Speaker 4: like fulfilling his responsibility as a father, that I don't

778
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:29,759
Speaker 4: think the divorce is like.

779
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 2: He's failing his responsibility. I would say as a partner

780
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:37,560
Speaker 2: by like just completely drifting away and you know, quote

781
00:36:37,600 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 2: unquote maybe it's not the right word, but quote unquote

782
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 2: abandoning her and not communicating that as well. If he

783
00:36:42,280 --> 00:36:45,919
Speaker 2: had communicated all like hey, I'm over, I'm feeling and happy,

784
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:49,919
Speaker 2: can change out the list. He's a worst husband, yes,

785
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:52,359
Speaker 2: but I feel like of the things of the word,

786
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:55,880
Speaker 2: I feel like his sin is not communicating his feelings

787
00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 2: so far. And I think also too, I would add

788
00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:01,440
Speaker 2: to the list like again, he could have if he had.

789
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:03,600
Speaker 2: I think it's I think it's the drifting too. Yeah,

790
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:06,439
Speaker 2: I think I'm with your what what's the tear list again?

791
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:09,120
Speaker 2: I put it in. I'm I'm still on detwo.

792
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 4: I'm okay with it being still on D And also

793
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:14,600
Speaker 4: j Row says he hasn't done anything bad being angry

794
00:37:14,640 --> 00:37:15,839
Speaker 4: at her for fighting for her life.

795
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:19,400
Speaker 2: Yes, but we don't know what being angry means. There's this,

796
00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:21,600
Speaker 2: there's a spectrum. At the end of this, we'll have

797
00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:24,320
Speaker 2: to like, well, we'll come up with a final ranking.

798
00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:27,840
Speaker 5: I'm sure once we have the comparison of all the stories,

799
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,320
Speaker 5: things will be shoveled change.

800
00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 2: It's just for now, we'll see. So I was in

801
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 2: shock and things had started to improve between us. He

802
00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 2: explained that was because he decided to leave and he

803
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:43,160
Speaker 2: felt less unhappy. He felt better after deciding to divorce her.

804
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 4: If he takes care of the child, then I think, like,

805
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 4: but he's still he's still bad. And if he takes

806
00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:52,960
Speaker 4: care of the child, like then it stays at dear d.

807
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:55,480
Speaker 4: If he doesn't take care of the child, then it upgrade.

808
00:37:56,520 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 4: I guess we should emphasize that these are all bad all.

809
00:38:00,200 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 4: We're not just trying to figure out who.

810
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:04,719
Speaker 2: Someone said.

811
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:10,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're trying to break these terrible people. We're not

812
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:11,720
Speaker 1: saying these are good people.

813
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, we told you up front. They're all all the.

814
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 4: Head We're breaking the internet's worst husbands. God was there, like,

815
00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:24,000
Speaker 4: I'm shaking red flags of these guys. Yeah, they're all

816
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:24,720
Speaker 4: red flag.

817
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:25,840
Speaker 1: These are red flag.

818
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:28,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, these are the kings of red flag ladies and gentlemen.

819
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:32,160
Speaker 2: But this was on a Saturday when this all happened.

820
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:33,800
Speaker 2: So I made sure that he was going to be

821
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:36,320
Speaker 2: home to take care of Ramona for the weekend, and

822
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:39,359
Speaker 2: then I packed a bag and left until Sunday evening.

823
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:42,719
Speaker 2: I didn't say where I was going, and truthfully I

824
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:46,879
Speaker 2: didn't really go anywhere but just drive. I drove two

825
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 2: states over. By the time I stopped, I needed to think, WHOA.

826
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:54,040
Speaker 1: When he runs across the country.

827
00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:56,840
Speaker 2: When I got back Sunday evening, he was pissed that

828
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:59,760
Speaker 2: I left him alone with our daughter. He's always seemed

829
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:01,960
Speaker 2: really put off any time he had to care for

830
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:05,279
Speaker 2: her alone. This time was no exception. I sat him

831
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:08,440
Speaker 2: down and very carefully said, I will grant you a

832
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:12,360
Speaker 2: no contest divorce, but I am not accepting full custody

833
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:16,520
Speaker 2: of Ramona. Oh dude, again, it's they're both pat like.

834
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 2: They both fully don't want the kids. He said, he

835
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:23,920
Speaker 2: doesn't want the kid. I haven't. I mean, he seems

836
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 2: frustrated by the fact that he's had to like take

837
00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 2: care for solo. That's see, it seems to be that's

838
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:35,800
Speaker 2: what he's not happening specific indicator, yet he hasn't explicitly

839
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:39,480
Speaker 2: communicated it. The way that Opie's writing this story is

840
00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:42,520
Speaker 2: I'm led to believe that this is where all of

841
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:45,399
Speaker 2: these crazy frustrations are coming from.

842
00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:47,400
Speaker 1: I want to I want to see I want to

843
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:47,680
Speaker 1: see it.

844
00:39:48,160 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 2: Well, if he was only pissed before, he was explosive

845
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 2: now and everything he hated about me finally came out.

846
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:59,040
Speaker 2: That I was a horrible mother, that I wasn't strong

847
00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:02,160
Speaker 2: enough to even be that I was too weak to

848
00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:05,680
Speaker 2: carry a child, and now I was abandoning her, and

849
00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 2: I think he's like making it like also attacking her

850
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:08,879
Speaker 2: on her health.

851
00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:12,279
Speaker 5: Fish see tear, You can't think that bumps up the

852
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:15,560
Speaker 5: tears are too weak to carry children?

853
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 2: Dude, those two weeks to carry children? You it's so,

854
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:25,200
Speaker 2: is he? I mean the husband Aden? Yeah? Yeah, I

855
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:27,520
Speaker 2: don't know. I don't know if you can carry a baby. Also,

856
00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:28,440
Speaker 2: to clarify, I don't know.

857
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:30,439
Speaker 5: I saw some comments talking about like this is about

858
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 5: being a bad husband instead of being a bad father.

859
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 5: But I feel like if you're a bad father, that's

860
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:36,799
Speaker 5: like an element that would make you a bad hud.

861
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 5: Like you don't want to be married to someone who's

862
00:40:38,239 --> 00:40:38,799
Speaker 5: a bad father.

863
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 2: So it's gonna be it's gonna hold something. It's a

864
00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 2: big variable. Yeah, it's a big, big variable. I very

865
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:48,040
Speaker 2: calmly stated that I loved her dearly and would not

866
00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:50,640
Speaker 2: abandon her, that I would pay child support and visit

867
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 2: her every other weekend, that I would be there for

868
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 2: her in any way I could. But I had been

869
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:57,680
Speaker 2: very clear with them when we got married that I

870
00:40:57,719 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 2: would never be a single mom. He became borderline violent

871
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:03,919
Speaker 2: at this, grabbing things like he was going to throw

872
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:07,280
Speaker 2: them and screaming that I was ruining his life on purpose.

873
00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:10,279
Speaker 2: It's feeling like a psychology.

874
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:13,719
Speaker 4: We're almost at a at a bump up. I don't

875
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:14,920
Speaker 4: want to bump it up yet, you guys want to

876
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 4: bump it up. I want to see bump it.

877
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 3: Up to be No way, because he hasn't I think

878
00:41:20,600 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 3: because these are like true.

879
00:41:21,719 --> 00:41:23,920
Speaker 2: This is like a true Colors moments.

880
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:28,400
Speaker 4: But hasn't hit. He hasn't hit so far in our

881
00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:30,680
Speaker 4: s tier. That's that's reserved for slappers.

882
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:32,799
Speaker 5: Well, it's not that it's reserved, but it's you get

883
00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 5: automatically put into s tire we think is a physical

884
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:37,399
Speaker 5: s Yeah anything.

885
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:40,040
Speaker 2: Not yet, not yet, Let's keep it.

886
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:43,399
Speaker 3: I feel okay, I'm down. You've got a bean, Let's

887
00:41:43,440 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 3: keep it.

888
00:41:44,400 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 2: I wasn't gonna stick around while he talked to me

889
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:49,080
Speaker 2: like this, so I went and checked on ourmona, gave

890
00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:51,719
Speaker 2: her a kiss, then grabbed my bag and left again.

891
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:54,640
Speaker 2: By the way, guys, we will never abandon you. All

892
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 2: you have to do is tap the profile, join our

893
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 2: life every weekday at three pm PSD, and we will

894
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 2: be the father the mother.

895
00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:03,040
Speaker 3: Yeah that's right.

896
00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:06,560
Speaker 1: Jerry Springer style, call us, daddy, you never had just kidding?

897
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, you sure so. Then a couple of days later,

898
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:14,120
Speaker 2: his mom texted me he left Hermona with her for

899
00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 2: a few days, and she had some nasty things to

900
00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:19,680
Speaker 2: say about me, that a mother should never leave her child,

901
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,239
Speaker 2: et cetera, et cetera. I told her it wasn't her

902
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 2: business and that her son doesn't get a free pass

903
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:27,799
Speaker 2: to restart his life because his wife nearly passed away

904
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:30,600
Speaker 2: when she was pregnant, and he became very resentful with

905
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:31,600
Speaker 2: the responsibility.

906
00:42:31,719 --> 00:42:34,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean he has to. He has responsibility in

907
00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:35,520
Speaker 4: taking care of that child.

908
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:38,200
Speaker 2: So usually it's like, okay, it takes two people to tango.

909
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:40,920
Speaker 2: Both parents share the responsibility of a child from the

910
00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:43,800
Speaker 2: get go. He pushed. He was also the one that

911
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 2: pushed exactly, but.

912
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,279
Speaker 4: They did both agree, So I think they should both

913
00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:51,360
Speaker 4: be equally at very least equally responsible, if not like

914
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:52,759
Speaker 4: more responsibility on him.

915
00:42:52,880 --> 00:42:54,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, it adds like I don't I don't even know

916
00:42:54,440 --> 00:42:56,880
Speaker 2: if it's necessarily more responsibility on him, but it is

917
00:42:56,880 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 2: an attack against him. Yeah, and he was the one

918
00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 2: that kind of and for him to weasel out of

919
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 2: there was crazy. Yeah, he led her there and then

920
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:04,080
Speaker 2: weaseled out exactly.

921
00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 3: Wait I didn't see I didn't catch the beginning of that.

922
00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:09,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, so he he he was. He was like she

923
00:43:09,600 --> 00:43:12,640
Speaker 2: initially didn't want children. She was like, I'm a career woman.

924
00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:14,319
Speaker 2: I want to do this eight tier.

925
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:15,919
Speaker 1: I'm not ready to put it eight tier.

926
00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:19,160
Speaker 3: I'm with just that piece of information that he pushed

927
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 3: for the kid.

928
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:21,879
Speaker 5: And then a year after having the kid is like, bye,

929
00:43:22,520 --> 00:43:25,400
Speaker 5: I'm by the way, as soon as I thought about

930
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:27,279
Speaker 5: divorcing you, my life got so much better.

931
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:32,440
Speaker 3: This guy's he's but it's a terrible tears right now.

932
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:35,839
Speaker 5: I think gaslighting someone into having a kid and then

933
00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:38,399
Speaker 5: being like peace and then also being like, by the way,

934
00:43:38,560 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 5: you your terrible mother, you can't even really have children.

935
00:43:42,120 --> 00:43:45,239
Speaker 3: Loser lol, And also I'm gonna throw this at you.

936
00:43:45,360 --> 00:43:48,399
Speaker 2: Maybe not, but I say the one thing I will give.

937
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 2: What I will say to that is she was like,

938
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:53,319
Speaker 2: initially I was like, no kids, but then she fell

939
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 2: in love and she was like, I was like very

940
00:43:55,600 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 2: much into the vibes. We were in love, Like it

941
00:43:57,600 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 2: seemed more of a like he was like Mary adamant

942
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 2: about it, but she kind of like fell into it

943
00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 2: more of him, like dragging her into it, if that

944
00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 2: makes sense, I want to sayeext.

945
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:12,520
Speaker 4: Also, I don't think like I think clearly that like

946
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:16,080
Speaker 4: the husband is really like bad, But I also feel

947
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 4: like the whole idea of just not wanting to have

948
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:21,360
Speaker 4: this kid when he both eventually did agree on this

949
00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:24,680
Speaker 4: is kind of like a whole behavior on both sides. Yeah,

950
00:44:24,719 --> 00:44:28,200
Speaker 4: I don't know that Opie's blanking here, because it's like

951
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 4: less blak like like also leaving. I totally understand that

952
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:36,760
Speaker 4: she was probably like just completely distraught, but also leaving

953
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:39,880
Speaker 4: without saying anything, you know, with the kid behind. He

954
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:43,080
Speaker 4: was watching her, but like not absolutely not an angel move,

955
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:45,239
Speaker 4: that's for sure, and again arguably any whole move. But

956
00:44:45,760 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 4: he has also blown up my phone asking me when

957
00:44:48,680 --> 00:44:51,720
Speaker 4: I'm going to come back so you can take your daughter.

958
00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:55,239
Speaker 2: Wow, oh your daughter. I'll tie break and do eight too.

959
00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:57,799
Speaker 2: Now I'll break the time and go each eight tier. Yeah.

960
00:44:58,160 --> 00:45:01,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, because he's not any responsibility for the kid.

961
00:45:01,320 --> 00:45:03,279
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. Yeah, he dumped him in his

962
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 2: mom's house. Yeah yeah, but I've only replied, I've already

963
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:09,040
Speaker 2: told you what's going to happen here. I love my

964
00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:11,400
Speaker 2: daughter immensely and I will be there to provide for her.

965
00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:13,759
Speaker 2: I will always support her, but I won't be her

966
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:18,359
Speaker 2: primary parents. So am I the a hole?

967
00:45:18,520 --> 00:45:18,759
Speaker 1: Okay?

968
00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:21,200
Speaker 3: No, but everyone sucks based on that.

969
00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:25,160
Speaker 4: To get some clarity, was she like, like, yes, her

970
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:28,800
Speaker 4: husband did, and I'm forgetting this, but yes, her husband

971
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:30,880
Speaker 4: was like, hey, we should have kids. Hey we should

972
00:45:30,880 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 4: have kids, but you know, like force that upon her.

973
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 4: She eventually agreed.

974
00:45:34,040 --> 00:45:34,320
Speaker 1: Correct.

975
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:36,799
Speaker 2: It seems like she eventually got to a point where

976
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:40,200
Speaker 2: she became excited about it and and kind of it

977
00:45:40,320 --> 00:45:42,160
Speaker 2: was like kind of like falling into it together versus

978
00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:44,480
Speaker 2: him like dragging her into the situation.

979
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:48,759
Speaker 4: If they both agreed to have that child, which it

980
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:53,120
Speaker 4: seems like they did, I think they should share equal responsibility.

981
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:56,000
Speaker 4: And the fact that they're both putting responsibilities like no,

982
00:45:56,080 --> 00:45:58,120
Speaker 4: you take care of the kid more, and like, you

983
00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:00,160
Speaker 4: take care of the kid more, I think they're.

984
00:46:00,320 --> 00:46:01,280
Speaker 2: Both a holes.

985
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:03,759
Speaker 4: That assumption is a hole. Yeah, I think they're both

986
00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 4: a holes. As for the husband, I think it straddles

987
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:11,279
Speaker 4: the line for B to a tier worst worst people.

988
00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:13,680
Speaker 2: It could be B plus at the lowest thing. I

989
00:46:13,719 --> 00:46:17,160
Speaker 2: think he's worse than her for sure, Yeah, that's for sure.

990
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:19,400
Speaker 2: But yes, it's like, literally, just go fifty to fifty.

991
00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 2: It's like okay, Like you keep pushing on each other,

992
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:24,839
Speaker 2: like okay, this this this poor child, Like first off,

993
00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:26,800
Speaker 2: she's just being passed around. Was like, oh, like I

994
00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:29,080
Speaker 2: don't want her, Oh I don't want her. Just split

995
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 2: the custody and you know, okay, you get to live

996
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:35,320
Speaker 2: half of your week or whatever as doing what you

997
00:46:35,400 --> 00:46:37,320
Speaker 2: want and having more freedom and that kind of stuff.

998
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:40,040
Speaker 2: And you chow to what you said, Sam, you did

999
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 2: eventually choose to do. Everyone opted like I don't.

1000
00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 4: She wasn't like coerced against her will or whatever. It

1001
00:46:46,760 --> 00:46:48,920
Speaker 4: was like, she like it was suggested to her when.

1002
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:53,839
Speaker 5: She coerced with the soothing nectar of possibly was love

1003
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 5: possibly and then turned into a guy being like I'm

1004
00:46:57,800 --> 00:47:01,879
Speaker 5: smiling ear to ear thinking about our wors, like yeah,

1005
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:05,280
Speaker 5: I don't know how you wrote, how do you pivot

1006
00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 5: for this? Is?

1007
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:08,080
Speaker 2: So this is some kind of stor earlier. So I

1008
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:10,480
Speaker 2: love my career and I didn't want to give it

1009
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 2: up to be a mom. After Alex and I got married,

1010
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 2: those fears went away. We were very much in love.

1011
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:18,400
Speaker 2: I felt safe with them. I told to my fears

1012
00:47:18,719 --> 00:47:21,120
Speaker 2: and he said, all the right things to make them vanish.

1013
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:23,040
Speaker 2: So we tried for a baby and our daughter Ramona.

1014
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:25,279
Speaker 2: After two years we had we had her daughter for

1015
00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:27,160
Speaker 2: two weeks we got married. So he did say all

1016
00:47:27,200 --> 00:47:28,759
Speaker 2: the right things, So maybe there was still but it

1017
00:47:28,840 --> 00:47:32,480
Speaker 2: seemed like she she actually came to this place because

1018
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 2: of the feeling of love and safety in the relationship

1019
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:36,960
Speaker 2: ya time. Yeah, because they were married for two years

1020
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:39,239
Speaker 2: before they had and regardless, like you now have an

1021
00:47:39,280 --> 00:47:41,440
Speaker 2: obligation to a child when you have a child. Yeah,

1022
00:47:41,480 --> 00:47:43,960
Speaker 2: it's like regardless of all this, like you agreed to

1023
00:47:44,080 --> 00:47:46,880
Speaker 2: it and did the deed. Yeah, so we're we're double

1024
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 2: opted in at this point. So yeah, okay, I feel

1025
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:53,239
Speaker 2: and what was the Yeah, we have a tire I think, Yeah,

1026
00:47:53,800 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 2: I feel.

1027
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:57,800
Speaker 4: I think I feel we should give ourselves the challenge

1028
00:47:57,960 --> 00:48:00,320
Speaker 4: of not being able to put things is on the

1029
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:01,000
Speaker 4: same tier.

1030
00:48:01,239 --> 00:48:03,920
Speaker 3: But that's but that's not how many stories do we have,

1031
00:48:04,440 --> 00:48:06,680
Speaker 3: I know, But it's like it's a cool challenge.

1032
00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:08,399
Speaker 1: But then it's like and then it's like we could

1033
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:09,879
Speaker 1: just put everything on tier.

1034
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:14,239
Speaker 7: You know, there's no stakes that but I know people

1035
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:18,680
Speaker 7: do love that is like tear list, guy, I've seen

1036
00:48:18,719 --> 00:48:20,480
Speaker 7: a lot of tears I've seen a lot of lists

1037
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:24,319
Speaker 7: because otherwise it's just but you do it is true,

1038
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:26,520
Speaker 7: like you don't want to just like jump to putting

1039
00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:28,279
Speaker 7: everything in like s and a tier, because I.

1040
00:48:28,280 --> 00:48:30,120
Speaker 4: Feel like I feel like we could get to a

1041
00:48:30,239 --> 00:48:33,000
Speaker 4: point where we're just like, like, when are we going

1042
00:48:33,040 --> 00:48:33,920
Speaker 4: to put anyone on F?

1043
00:48:34,040 --> 00:48:35,600
Speaker 1: You know, we'll see, we'll see.

1044
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:38,960
Speaker 2: But that's they might not deserve to be five more

1045
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:42,640
Speaker 2: stories half, there.

1046
00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:43,759
Speaker 3: Might be no F sometimes tearless, don't have any fs.

1047
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:51,200
Speaker 2: Or ease, Hey, well we'll do we'll do it, Johnny,

1048
00:48:52,360 --> 00:48:57,439
Speaker 2: I how long is this next one? You probably should

1049
00:48:57,520 --> 00:49:03,719
Speaker 2: which which one is it? Sorry? One second? One S four?

1050
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:09,600
Speaker 2: So this one's seven S four? Where's that ten twenty

1051
00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:11,000
Speaker 2: I see twenty twenty two S three.

1052
00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:16,480
Speaker 1: I see ten twenty two S two. I see ten

1053
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 1: twenty two S one.

1054
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:22,320
Speaker 5: Apparently praying for us, Josephine, Are we cooked? Are we

1055
00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:23,160
Speaker 5: cooked from this?

1056
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:24,880
Speaker 3: Are we going to get cooked?

1057
00:49:26,320 --> 00:49:28,960
Speaker 2: Let us know now, chat editors will help us with

1058
00:49:29,040 --> 00:49:31,839
Speaker 2: this one. Oh yes, yeah, yeah, Well we're gonna review

1059
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:35,200
Speaker 2: this before it it goes out. Let us know all

1060
00:49:35,239 --> 00:49:38,880
Speaker 2: the problematic things we've said not get cooked, get them all,

1061
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:41,800
Speaker 2: get them all out. I mean, I wasn't trying to.

1062
00:49:42,320 --> 00:49:47,640
Speaker 2: I didn't try. Yeah, I was trying, all right, I

1063
00:49:47,719 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 2: didn't even try. I wasn't doing ladies and gentlemen. I'm

1064
00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:52,600
Speaker 2: going to have to bow.

1065
00:49:52,440 --> 00:49:53,680
Speaker 1: Out bay.

1066
00:49:56,320 --> 00:50:00,800
Speaker 4: Oh Diana, Oh wait, who where at least three Alyssa Monday?

1067
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:02,439
Speaker 4: Thanks for the five bucks, been working so I haven't

1068
00:50:02,480 --> 00:50:04,239
Speaker 4: kind of live lately. I love you, beautiful people. We

1069
00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 4: love you too, honeybe eighty five. Thanks for the two

1070
00:50:06,120 --> 00:50:08,160
Speaker 4: bucks tech issue or did you forget the blankets? Loll

1071
00:50:08,360 --> 00:50:11,320
Speaker 4: and Alyssa Monday. Having someone with you while you're in

1072
00:50:11,440 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 4: so much pain makes such a huge difference. And what

1073
00:50:13,400 --> 00:50:16,320
Speaker 4: if something went wrong? Thanks for the five bucker Rooneyes.

1074
00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:19,800
Speaker 4: All right, kaylen bank Camp says, no edit is going.

1075
00:50:19,719 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 2: To save you. Guys, no way.

1076
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:23,600
Speaker 3: What had we even done that was so bad?

1077
00:50:23,880 --> 00:50:24,800
Speaker 2: We hit the shame.

1078
00:50:24,680 --> 00:50:44,160
Speaker 5: Baby dogs ta talking about and they said the Gandhi's

1079
00:50:44,200 --> 00:50:46,319
Speaker 5: a bad guy. I got a reckon with that now too,

1080
00:50:46,880 --> 00:50:49,360
Speaker 5: I'm anyways, I'm sure.

1081
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:54,040
Speaker 4: My husband just won a multi billion dollar court case.

1082
00:50:54,560 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 4: All right, ready, are you ready? Why am I going

1083
00:50:57,560 --> 00:50:58,160
Speaker 4: to get cooked?

1084
00:50:58,239 --> 00:50:58,960
Speaker 2: What did I say?

1085
00:50:59,239 --> 00:51:00,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, We're we're all getting cooked?

1086
00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:02,080
Speaker 1: Well, we always get cooked.

1087
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:04,880
Speaker 2: We're all in the same stupid yeah, all right,