1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,880 Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight, we got for you here. 2 00:00:02,920 --> 00:00:06,520 Speaker 1: It is sew Berry Lennon. Subject needs help. Good day, 3 00:00:06,600 --> 00:00:09,200 Speaker 1: Mr Harvey and Cruz. I am a thirty seven year 4 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:12,240 Speaker 1: old woman with two daughters aged fourteen twelve. I got 5 00:00:12,280 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 1: married when I was twenty two years old in two 6 00:00:14,520 --> 00:00:17,239 Speaker 1: thousand five. My husband told me that he was going 7 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:20,960 Speaker 1: on vacation with his friends. I suspected that he was 8 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 1: lying and went to the airport on his way back, 9 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 1: and surely he was with another woman. I kicked him 10 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:34,800 Speaker 1: out of the bedroom. Give it a return, Okay, all right, yeah, 11 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:37,360 Speaker 1: how about that? I kicked him out of the bedroom 12 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:40,000 Speaker 1: and a few days later my parents advised me that 13 00:00:40,080 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: to speak to him about therapy, which I did. He 14 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:45,559 Speaker 1: said to me that he wanted a divorce and he 15 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:48,159 Speaker 1: will be moving out of the house and March. He 16 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:50,519 Speaker 1: is still in the house and claimed that he cannot 17 00:00:50,560 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 1: afford an apartment and child support. At the same time. 18 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:56,680 Speaker 1: We don't have any relationship as husband and wife. He 19 00:00:56,760 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 1: stays in a spare room in the house. He stays 20 00:00:59,800 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 1: in a spare room in the house. I have met 21 00:01:02,160 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 1: a gentleman this past summer. I explained the situation to 22 00:01:05,440 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 1: him and that he is in the house because we 23 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 1: own a house together and for the children. My question 24 00:01:10,720 --> 00:01:13,039 Speaker 1: to you is is this gentleman going to take me 25 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:16,080 Speaker 1: seriously or not? I have not given away the sex 26 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 1: because I really don't know how he sees me. I 27 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:21,559 Speaker 1: must tell you I am self sufficient and don't need 28 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:27,800 Speaker 1: my husband's financial support to survive. Please help, dear, please help. 29 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: First of all, you need to get out of this 30 00:01:29,959 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 1: situation with your husband. It's been two years, he's still 31 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:35,560 Speaker 1: staying in the house. Don't make it easy for him. 32 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:38,680 Speaker 1: Put him out. He's cheating. He doesn't need to be 33 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 1: in the house. Okay, that's number one. Number two, you 34 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:44,440 Speaker 1: know you're asking is this man going to take you 35 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:47,000 Speaker 1: seriously or not? I mean, you need to get rid 36 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:49,800 Speaker 1: of this current situation that you're in before you move on, 37 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:52,400 Speaker 1: and this man could take you seriously. You know you're 38 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:55,120 Speaker 1: definitely gonna have to make some changes though. You know, 39 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: no man that's really interested in having something real with 40 00:01:57,880 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 1: you is going to accept you staying in the house 41 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 1: and being married to your husband. That's just the bottom line. 42 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:06,400 Speaker 1: Twelve minutes, we'll be back. Come on, Steve right now 43 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:09,760 Speaker 1: with part two of your response to today's strawberry letter 44 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 1: needs help. Good day, Mr Harvey, and cruise cruise. I'm 45 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 1: a thirty seven year old woman with two daughters, ages 46 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 1: fourteen and twelve. I got married when I was twenty 47 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:22,240 Speaker 1: two years old. My husband told me he was going 48 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:25,400 Speaker 1: on vacation with his friends. I suspected that he was 49 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:27,920 Speaker 1: lying and went to the airport on his way back, 50 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:31,120 Speaker 1: and surely he was with another woman. I kicked him 51 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:33,320 Speaker 1: out of the bedroom, and a few days later my 52 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:36,799 Speaker 1: parents advised me to speak to him about therapy, which 53 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 1: I did. He said to me that he wanted a 54 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 1: divorce and he'd be willing to move out of the house. 55 00:02:42,280 --> 00:02:44,639 Speaker 1: He's still in the house and claimed that he could 56 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:47,680 Speaker 1: not afford an apartment and child support. At the same time. 57 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:52,079 Speaker 1: We don't have any relations ships as my as husband 58 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:54,960 Speaker 1: and wife. He stays in the spare room in the house. 59 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:57,640 Speaker 1: I met a gentleman this past summer. I explained the 60 00:02:57,680 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: situation to him and that he is in the house 61 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:02,680 Speaker 1: because cause we own a house together and for the children. 62 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: My question you is this gentleman. Is this gentleman gonna 63 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 1: take me seriously or not. I've not given away the 64 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:10,840 Speaker 1: sex because I really don't know how he sees me. 65 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 1: I must tell you that I'm self sufficient and don't 66 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: need my husband for financial support to survive. Please help, 67 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: All right, let let's start your letter at the back. 68 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 1: I must tell you that I'm self sufficient and don't 69 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:29,040 Speaker 1: need my husband's financial support to survive. Okay, but he 70 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: needs yo financial support to survive. Do you understand that 71 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 1: you told him to get out of the house when 72 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:40,640 Speaker 1: you went to the airport, that this food, then told 73 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 1: you when he coming back. You wouldn't have had flight 74 00:03:43,760 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 1: information on me airline. I'd have flew into a separate 75 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:51,040 Speaker 1: city and drove back. If you're gonna be slick, be slick, 76 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 1: see slick and stupid, get your busted every time. Now, 77 00:03:55,280 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 1: this fool that you say, you gotta tell me that 78 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 1: I'm self sufficient and don't my husband financial support to survive. Well, 79 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:07,080 Speaker 1: but he needs you financial support to survive. But he 80 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 1: didn't told you he can't leave out, get an apartment 81 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:16,120 Speaker 1: and pay child support. So you fail for that he 82 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:18,880 Speaker 1: had money to go on vacation with the other girl. 83 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:24,039 Speaker 1: What that calls? See you? You'd fail for some Okay, 84 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 1: don't kill baby, and it's time for you to free yourself. 85 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 1: He got the money to screw around. He got the 86 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:35,719 Speaker 1: money for vacations because you can't data woman and not 87 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:39,120 Speaker 1: buy her nothing. He got money for all that, but 88 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 1: he didn't told you he can't afford apartment of child support. 89 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:45,839 Speaker 1: So you have him around so he can keep helping 90 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:50,160 Speaker 1: support the kids. You just said you self sufficient and 91 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:54,040 Speaker 1: don't need your husband for financial support, but you can't 92 00:04:54,120 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 1: keep aiding and a bedding in a crime demand cheated 93 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 1: on you. Y'all ain't had sex together. He's staying in 94 00:05:01,560 --> 00:05:05,200 Speaker 1: the spare bad room that you're paying for. Oh, he'd 95 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 1: chipping in, but you're really paying for the cheatah to 96 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:12,479 Speaker 1: live at your house that you gain nothing for. He 97 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 1: gets some visitation rights. What he can get, he can 98 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 1: still be a wonderful father every other weekend. Matter of fact, 99 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:21,640 Speaker 1: we can work it out every weekend if you want to, 100 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:25,120 Speaker 1: Cause I keep Monday through Friday. You got him sadness Sunday. 101 00:05:25,200 --> 00:05:27,880 Speaker 1: But see that to tag his playhouse down. You are 102 00:05:27,920 --> 00:05:31,000 Speaker 1: supporting a man who is actually giving you no support, 103 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:34,839 Speaker 1: and stop saying this for the kids. You can still 104 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:39,800 Speaker 1: be a great father. From over across the street, Crosstown, 105 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:43,559 Speaker 1: down the block Mama's house, moving to projects they're working 106 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 1: out for you to give you a nice, affordable piece 107 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:48,920 Speaker 1: of Ain't nobody renting the projects the same gets according 108 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:52,160 Speaker 1: to your income. He can get a nice little place 109 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:55,480 Speaker 1: where him and that little can't can go to. You 110 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:59,479 Speaker 1: understand what I'm saying to you. Okay, Now let me 111 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 1: help you with on melse You have met this gentleman 112 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:07,840 Speaker 1: this past summer. I explained the situation to him and 113 00:06:07,839 --> 00:06:10,320 Speaker 1: and and that he is in the house because we 114 00:06:10,400 --> 00:06:13,320 Speaker 1: own a house together and for the kids. My question 115 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:15,960 Speaker 1: to you is is this gentleman going to take me 116 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: seriously or not. I'm not giving away the sex because 117 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 1: I really don't know how he sees me. Okay, let 118 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: me clear that up for you. He sees you as 119 00:06:26,080 --> 00:06:29,479 Speaker 1: a stupid person that the letter guy cheat on you. 120 00:06:30,120 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 1: Now you're trying to fool him to thinking that he 121 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:36,200 Speaker 1: stay in the spare bedroom to help with the kids. 122 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:38,520 Speaker 1: And the reason he ain't out is because he can't 123 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 1: afford child support and he and uh an apartment at 124 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:46,360 Speaker 1: the same time. How did you're on your height? He 125 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 1: sees you as stupid. That's how he sees you as 126 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 1: completely stupid. See you obviously educated, you got a good job, system. 127 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 1: Listen to me. I've I had to learn this in 128 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:02,159 Speaker 1: order to It's something, the thing that you want the 129 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:05,039 Speaker 1: most of you have to be willing to let go of. 130 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:09,359 Speaker 1: You can't have a new relationship if you still hanging 131 00:07:09,440 --> 00:07:12,680 Speaker 1: on to the old relationship. Bishop T. D. Jake said, 132 00:07:12,720 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 1: the majority of people in this world cannot embrace the 133 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: future because they keep holding on to the past. And 134 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:22,400 Speaker 1: you ain't got but two hands now. You can't hang 135 00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:25,400 Speaker 1: on to this financial support. This man in your house. 136 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 1: You met a gentleman last summer. Y'all ain't had sex. Well, 137 00:07:28,880 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 1: let me hip you to something. The gentlemen you met 138 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:35,400 Speaker 1: having plenty sex somewhere somewhere. All right, Steve, thank you. 139 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: We do have to go now, though, Email us or Instagram. 140 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 1: That's your thoughts on today's strawberry letter at my Girl. 141 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: Surely