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Speaker 2: My sister in law tried to manipulate my husband and

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Speaker 1: My significant other and I recently looped. We decided that

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Speaker 1: a big wedding like we had been planning was not

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Speaker 1: for us, so we looped. My family was fine with

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Speaker 1: subreate it. So my significant other's family was less accepting,

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Speaker 1: especially his mother and twin sister. For years it was

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Speaker 1: just the three of them before his mother remarried and

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Speaker 1: had a few more children. Because of this, his sister

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Speaker 1: and mother are still very dependent on him. They were

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Speaker 1: her not because we got married, but because they were

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Speaker 1: looking forward to everything that comes with a wedding. This

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Speaker 1: is a classic thing about you know, get getting eloped.

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Speaker 1: The family is usually not too happy the weekend away

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Speaker 1: the pretty dresses us paying for them to stay in

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Speaker 1: a nice hotel, fancy food, free drinks. Hopefully this gives

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Speaker 1: you a small idea of how selfish and entitled they are.

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Speaker 1: This all occurred in the beginning of July, and after

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Speaker 1: our quick elopement, we decided to extend are already planned

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Speaker 1: European vacation from one week to two weeks, from July

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Speaker 1: twenty fifth to August ninth. Initially, we were going to

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Speaker 1: board our pug and have a neighbor keep an eye

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Speaker 1: on our condo. However, being gone that long, we thought

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Speaker 1: it would be best to have someone stay at our place,

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Speaker 1: and her sister in law uh oh, Significann others suggested

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Speaker 1: she housed it for us. She would be cheaper than

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Speaker 1: any option, We could trust her, and she loves her dog,

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Speaker 1: so it seemed like the perfect solution. Shortly before our trip,

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Speaker 1: Significant informed me that sister in law was thinking of

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Speaker 1: moving to our city from hers Springfield to Chicago. Anne

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Speaker 1: would be looking for a job while staying in our place,

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Speaker 1: hoping to interview while she was up there, not a problem.

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Speaker 1: She's been inconsistent with work, and maybe a change of

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Speaker 1: scenery from living with her mom is what she needs.

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Speaker 1: It was never discussed that she would be staying for

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Speaker 1: day we left, she showed up on the Amtrak with

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Speaker 1: think much of it, thinking wow, and I thought I

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Speaker 2: I see you.

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Speaker 1: We left and had a fantastic vacation. We checked in

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Speaker 1: a few times and everything was great at home. We

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Speaker 1: got home late on the ninth, so we didn't see

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Speaker 1: must have arranged it with significant other, so I went

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Speaker 1: went to work as normal on Tuesday, assuming she had left.

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Speaker 1: I bet you the sister in law's still there. I

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Speaker 1: came home on Tuesday to find her sitting on my couch,

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Speaker 2: What yep?

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Speaker 1: I call it significant other, and he said that she

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Speaker 1: needs to stay for a few weeks more weeks. She's

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Speaker 1: already been there for two, she needs to stay there

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Speaker 1: for weeks more. Uh, dude, she's trying to squat right now,

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Speaker 1: and I bet you she's not getting a job.

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Speaker 2: Nope.

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Speaker 1: She told him that she has a job lead and

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Speaker 1: another interview next week. If she doesn't get the job,

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Speaker 1: she'll go back to Springfield, but would like to continue

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Speaker 1: that he gave her permission to stay without speaking to me,

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Speaker 1: but he's blind when it comes to his sister and mother,

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Speaker 1: so this is something we need to continue to work on.

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Speaker 1: I agreed to one more week as long as she

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Speaker 1: focuses on the job search. Okay. Fast forward to last weekend,

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Speaker 1: August fifteenth. Sister and law has completely taken over my

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Speaker 3: She's just trying to rub it in.

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Speaker 2: M geez, just like, how's the chicken, babe?

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Speaker 1: Even better?

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Speaker 2: Put some spice on?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, the little spice on it.

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Speaker 1: Great. She's also made caddy comments toward my husband, telling

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Speaker 1: stories about how he was always a sissy growing up.

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Speaker 1: I decided I couldn't put up with it anymore and

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Speaker 1: talk to scip another about it. He agreed, but acknowledged

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Speaker 1: that with his mother and sister, he has no backbone

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Speaker 1: and knows he will cave.

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Speaker 2: At least he's self aware.

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Speaker 1: Wow, He's like, I would do it, but I'm a

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Speaker 1: will sishy.

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Speaker 2: My spine is wet, wet noodle.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, I know you guys hate that. A little wet noodle. Fine,

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Speaker 1: it's like that one scene where uh and Harry Potter.

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Speaker 1: All my things start with Harry Potter where Professor Gildoy

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Speaker 1: Lockhart turns Harry's arm to a wet noodle. That's what

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Speaker 1: That's what he did with the spine flopping flopping. He

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Speaker 1: agreed to acknowledge that with his mother and sister, he

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Speaker 1: has no backbone and he will cave. I e. You

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Speaker 1: are a giant poopy pants. So I talked to her.

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Speaker 1: I told her that while she's a part of our family,

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Speaker 1: we feel she has taken advantage of us. At this point,

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Speaker 1: I need to know what her plans to leave are

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Speaker 1: because this is no longer working for me or significant other.

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Speaker 1: She told me that significant other told her she could

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Speaker 1: stay as long as she needs.

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Speaker 2: Bro.

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Speaker 1: Talk about lack of backbone. There is no back to

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Speaker 1: that bone. Bro, That bone is not there. There was

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Speaker 1: no pushback. Even a noodle pushes back harder than that

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Speaker 2: This is not e it is water.

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Speaker 4: It is well.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, his backbone is like water.

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Speaker 2: Right out of the way.

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Speaker 1: She told me that significant other told her she could

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Speaker 1: planning on going back to Springfield. Oh, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. She said her relationships with her mother

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Speaker 1: is codependent and dangerous. She then insinuated that if I

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Speaker 1: and her threats won't work, and I promise her, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I know significant other and he has no backbone, So

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Speaker 1: there's no way he's turning against me rocks. Fine, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he's a floppy noodle that's just gonna go between two rocks.

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Speaker 1: It's like playing tennis with like an open can of

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Speaker 2: That's quite a sight.

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Speaker 1: And I promise her she doesn't want to make him

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Speaker 1: to really do. That did not go well. Things quieted down.

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Speaker 1: She had her interview on Monday. She's been ignoring me

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Speaker 1: the past few days, but significant other says the interview

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Speaker 1: went well and that she's anticipating getting the job. He

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Speaker 1: said she spoke of staying with us, but he held strong,

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Speaker 1: saying that unless something crazy happens, she'll have to go.

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Speaker 1: If she has to start the job asap, we can

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Speaker 1: possibly help her find a place. We buy an Amtrak

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Speaker 1: ticket for Saturday morning or something. Well, what do you

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Speaker 1: guess it? Something crazy happens on Friday, just before she

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Speaker 1: has to leave, so she asked to extend her stay. Again.

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Speaker 1: I get a text from significant other, we need to

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Speaker 1: talk when you get home. I am worried you relapsed.

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Speaker 1: Where did that come from? Oh boy, some context. I

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Speaker 1: am in recovery for kleptomania. Since I was child, I've

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Speaker 1: stolen just to steal, just for the sport of it,

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Speaker 1: not because I needed something or didn't have the money,

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Speaker 1: but because I love it the thrill of the game.

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Speaker 3: I feel that way about ping outside. Yeah it's illegal,

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Speaker 3: but I'm in it for the thrill of the game.

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Speaker 1: How many times, dude, we lived next to a school? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I get that. Get that shit a lot.

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Speaker 2: Remember what happened the other day?

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Speaker 4: We're like, oh, yeah, there's no kids walking home from school.

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Speaker 1: Dam right there? Right?

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Speaker 2: Oh paradum, yep, that's right when you least expect it.

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Speaker 2: So if you want to go to prison, get fine,

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Speaker 2: go hi.

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Speaker 1: Go ahead, whip it out, keep keep going it out

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Speaker 1: like a dog, like a dog in the sun. I

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Speaker 1: haven't stolen since before a significant other and I started

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Speaker 1: dating about three years ago and have done extensive therapy

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Speaker 1: over the years to deal with this. I have been

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Speaker 1: on Friday morning, saying that sister in law called her

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Speaker 1: in tears on Thursday night she noticed that some of

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Speaker 1: her clothes we're missing, including a.

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Speaker 2: Ring, she's trying to frame op what.

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Speaker 1: She took it upon herself to search my room, finding

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Speaker 1: were truly concerned. Dude, dude freaking brilliant though. Hey, we

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Speaker 1: saw that she's been stealing again. We're not mad. We

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Speaker 4: But diacally brilliant.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is I love it, but I hate it.

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Speaker 1: She's a professional, But they were truly concerned. Sister a

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Speaker 1: Lot found several pieces of clothing with tags on them

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Speaker 1: buried in my closet by her clothes. They believe I

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Speaker 1: have started shotlifting again, in addition to stealing from sister

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Speaker 1: in law. I did not relapse. I did not buy

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Speaker 1: those clothes, and I believe either they were closed she

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Speaker 1: them to set me up. I come home to it

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Speaker 1: feels like an intervention. Sister law and significant other are

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Speaker 1: sitting in my living room with her clothes, rings, and

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Speaker 1: stolen close, all laid out. She has him completely believing this.

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Speaker 1: My significant other looks distraught. He wants to help me

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Speaker 1: and fully believes that I've relapsed. Sister in law volunteers

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Speaker 1: to stay with us.

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Speaker 3: Ah dude, ah, mastermind.

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Speaker 1: She's so sorry, freaking four D chest like, man, this

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Speaker 1: is terrible, but you know, game respect, game like that's

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Speaker 1: that's crazy she is. She's got this down.

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Speaker 2: I'm just waiting for her to like behind closed.

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Speaker 4: We always go to op and be like, so you

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Speaker 4: thought that, uh you could just tell me to leave?

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Speaker 2: Yeah you thought that.

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Speaker 1: Try again, bucko, you could do it without my brother.

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Speaker 1: Oh we are just getting started. You will be on

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Speaker 1: the streets by noon. Dude. If she applied this energy

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Speaker 1: Are you the same clothing size as a sister? Who

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Speaker 1: I was stealing from stores. I told the nice officer

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00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:50,400
Speaker 1: about the whole incidant, including her allegations. Significant other backed

439
00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:52,560
Speaker 1: me up, stating that she was setting me up and

440
00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:56,439
Speaker 1: that this was all really family issues, not legal. At

441
00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:58,720
Speaker 1: this point, they told her that not only had she

442
00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:01,520
Speaker 1: attempted to file a full police report, but she was

443
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:04,040
Speaker 1: also disturbing the peace for no reason. She told them

444
00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:07,200
Speaker 1: she had nowhere to go, but after telling the police

445
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:10,399
Speaker 1: she lived in Springfield and had come up here to

446
00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:14,760
Speaker 1: house it, they noped her residency claim. Cops told us

447
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:16,840
Speaker 1: that because she claimed to have no money and had

448
00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:19,040
Speaker 1: no car, and her residence was far away. We had

449
00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:21,080
Speaker 1: two options because we couldn't just punt her out with

450
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:24,199
Speaker 1: nowhere to go. Either we let her stay until she

451
00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:27,240
Speaker 1: could arrange for a method home. I get her a

452
00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 1: train ticket tomorrow, or we take her home right then

453
00:22:29,840 --> 00:22:32,960
Speaker 1: and there. But there's only one way that they could

454
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:35,840
Speaker 1: guarantee she would be gone tomorrow morning.

455
00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:38,120
Speaker 2: I say, go right now.

456
00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:41,879
Speaker 4: Yeah, honestly, just get it, get it over with her

457
00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:43,639
Speaker 4: up and send her out.

458
00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 2: Driver yourself to make sure. I don't know, like it's

459
00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:47,040
Speaker 2: at that point it's worth it.

460
00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:50,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, agreed, Yeah, so careble car though, so give me

461
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:53,000
Speaker 1: another and I talked about it. We were concerned letting

462
00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 1: her stay an additional light would just make things worse

463
00:22:55,520 --> 00:22:57,679
Speaker 1: and we would be right back where we started. Agreed.

464
00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:02,119
Speaker 1: We opted to drive her home right then. She agreed

465
00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:04,080
Speaker 1: to this without much issue. I think the cops made

466
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 1: her realize that her little plot was over. Thank God.

467
00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 1: The beginning of the drive was pretty awful. She cried

468
00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:13,480
Speaker 1: for the first hour, laid the guilt on thick. He's

469
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:16,000
Speaker 1: caused her so much stress, he doesn't care about her,

470
00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:18,720
Speaker 1: can't see what I'm trying to do. She's only looking

471
00:23:18,800 --> 00:23:21,280
Speaker 1: out for him. They are twins, their bond is stronger

472
00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:23,640
Speaker 1: than ours, and I don't want kids, so how could

473
00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 1: he want to stay with me. I'll admit that I

474
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:32,600
Speaker 1: fed into her a bit with some name calling, delusional, stupid, witch, insane,

475
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:36,440
Speaker 1: but I had reached my breaking point, not my proudest moment.

476
00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:39,200
Speaker 1: After a while, sneeph Another and I put on an

477
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:45,159
Speaker 1: audio book or maybe a podcast and just ignored her,

478
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 1: which worked. She slept the rest of the time, while

479
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 1: sleep for Another and I we're just both wired with anxiety.

480
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:52,920
Speaker 1: By the time we get to mother in law's house,

481
00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:55,120
Speaker 1: it is around two am, and we drop her off

482
00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:57,679
Speaker 1: without incident. Mother in law calls us as we are

483
00:23:57,680 --> 00:24:00,280
Speaker 1: about fifteen minutes away, tell sney for Another that I

484
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:03,800
Speaker 1: am a cancer on their family and told him that

485
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:05,879
Speaker 1: he had to stand up to me to choose his

486
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 1: family for once, which I mean he's been doing for ages,

487
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:11,679
Speaker 1: holly delusional. He told his mother that he picked me

488
00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:13,680
Speaker 1: and he is sorry. She feels that it has to

489
00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:16,639
Speaker 1: be one or the other, but she made that choice,

490
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 1: not him. The drive home, sign if Another poured everything out.

491
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:24,359
Speaker 1: Apparently his childhood abuse goes so much further than he

492
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:27,640
Speaker 1: has shared before, sister in law would regularly torment him,

493
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:31,959
Speaker 1: but when he would tell his mother, she would blame him. Okay,

494
00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:36,520
Speaker 1: so the sister has a history of just being the

495
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:37,399
Speaker 1: worst person.

496
00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:39,160
Speaker 2: No wonder his spine is made of water.

497
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 4: Like, Yeah, they've they've like gotten him to this point

498
00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:45,680
Speaker 4: where it's like his spirit is broken. Yeah.

499
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 1: I mean I feel like I feel like a strong

500
00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 1: spine would just hurt more, you know, because you have

501
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:51,879
Speaker 1: to stick up against its abuse. And if you're a

502
00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:54,520
Speaker 1: noodle spine, like maybe like some of the abuse just

503
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:56,600
Speaker 1: like slips right on by, you know.

504
00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:59,200
Speaker 3: If you get if you get hit with a punch,

505
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,880
Speaker 3: you're like I supposed to give into it, not like

506
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:03,359
Speaker 3: like that is where you get.

507
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 1: A The noodle is a defense mechanism in this case.

508
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:08,479
Speaker 2: Maybe uh.

509
00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 1: He agreed that he thought the distance was enough to

510
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:13,399
Speaker 1: deal with everything, but he needs more than that. He

511
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 1: also needs to come to terms with his relationship with

512
00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 1: his mother's sister, half siblings, and stepfather. Maybe over he

513
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:22,159
Speaker 1: was scared to admit how bad it was, and I

514
00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:24,119
Speaker 1: hate that it took his sister behaving like this for

515
00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 1: it to come out. It's absolutely heartbreaking. We took the

516
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,439
Speaker 1: day off, slept a lot, watched some Rick and Morty,

517
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:34,280
Speaker 1: went to a fairly productive therapy session, and we are

518
00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:37,159
Speaker 1: eating some awesome pizza. It's hard to sit back and

519
00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 1: realize that my relationship kind of crumbled this weekend, but

520
00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:43,160
Speaker 1: have faith that we can each work on a relationship

521
00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:47,240
Speaker 1: and ourselves. When we turned seif Another's phone back on,

522
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:50,399
Speaker 1: there were several voice mails and numerous text messages from

523
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:54,399
Speaker 1: sistern law and mother in law apologizing for everything. Significant

524
00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 1: another and I have talked about him going completely zero

525
00:25:57,359 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 1: contact with both sistern law and mother in law and

526
00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 1: I think I think changing our phone numbers is a

527
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:05,480
Speaker 1: good place to start. But he is apprehensive. He is

528
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:08,400
Speaker 1: worried about emergencies, but I don't want to give them

529
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:13,000
Speaker 1: any further opportunity to sabotage our relationship. This is absolutely

530
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:15,399
Speaker 1: the right move, correct. I am thinking of finding him

531
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:18,879
Speaker 1: especially therapist. Honestly, one hundred percent that's what we need

532
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:21,399
Speaker 1: to assist with this. But I don't know where to

533
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:23,960
Speaker 1: start or what questions I should be asking with such

534
00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:28,960
Speaker 1: family issues, Where should we start with this? Got some comments?

535
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,600
Speaker 1: So you change those locks? Have you changed those locks? Yet?

536
00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:34,920
Speaker 2: Do rude facts run run?

537
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:37,119
Speaker 1: She is delusion enough to come back and let herself

538
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 1: in again. Some more thoughts in protecting yourselves. I would

539
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:41,879
Speaker 1: also suggest giving a pick of sister in law and

540
00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:45,000
Speaker 1: mother in law and any other immediate family to your

541
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:47,920
Speaker 1: neighbors and the doorman if you have one. Tell them

542
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 1: to contact you immediately. If these people are spotted nearing home,

543
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 1: if you think they are nuts enough to go to

544
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,879
Speaker 1: your work, give your management warning. But it doesn't sound

545
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 1: as though they will take it that far. Seriously, consider

546
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 1: changing all your credit and debit cards to new accounts.

547
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:05,639
Speaker 1: We call your banks and make sure that crap is

548
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 1: locked down, Oh God, and run credit reports. You can

549
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:12,240
Speaker 1: do this for free on annual credic report dot com.

550
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 1: Change your passwords for websites or anything that might have

551
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:18,120
Speaker 1: been stored on your computer your significan. Another did pick

552
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:22,080
Speaker 1: a family, He picked you, and it was his best choice.

553
00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:25,639
Speaker 1: His family can all take a long walk off a

554
00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:28,440
Speaker 1: short peer into a lake of fire. Honestly, go no

555
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 1: contact for a while, block them on everything. Is there

556
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:34,920
Speaker 1: a friend or distant family member who can inform him

557
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:37,720
Speaker 1: if there is an emergency, and go for both of

558
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:40,720
Speaker 1: you to some therapy. And kudos to your sixers in

559
00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:43,920
Speaker 1: law for fining the strength to tell you about his past.

560
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,639
Speaker 1: He will definitely need your love and support to work

561
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 1: through his family nightmare. Now go get some deep dish

562
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 1: from me. I won't be out that way for two months.

563
00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 1: California pizza isn't the same, although Zachary's in the Bay

564
00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 1: Area is amazing, and op replied, we aren't going to

565
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:02,200
Speaker 1: change the She gave her keys back, but she could

566
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:02,879
Speaker 1: have made a copy.

567
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 2: Yep.

568
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 1: I'm not worried about her coming back. There's a little

569
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:08,199
Speaker 1: of our three hours in travel between us, and she

570
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:11,160
Speaker 1: doesn't have a car. Craziness knows no bounds. I don't

571
00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:13,639
Speaker 1: know that's correct. It's travels at the light of speed, okay.

572
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:16,679
Speaker 1: And our building is a secure building. It's not huge.

573
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 1: So all of our neighbors have figured out what happened,

574
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 1: and I am sure they are pretty vigilant about building safety.

575
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:27,120
Speaker 1: But thank you for the suggestions. I think the motivation

576
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:29,880
Speaker 1: was really to control sticking of another. But those are

577
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 1: things neither of us had thought about and just got

578
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: out on our to do list for tomorrow. The third

579
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 1: party contact is probably for the best. I'm thinking one

580
00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: of my brothers may be a good choice, but that's

581
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:41,000
Speaker 1: a decision we have to make together. Thank you for

582
00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 1: your nice words. Hopefully you can get your stuff, stuff

583
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 1: your face with deep dish and Italian beasts. For a

584
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 1: few months and we got another update. My god, oh

585
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 1: my god, oh my god. But really quick, do you

586
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 1: think OP and their fiance are making the right to

587
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 1: decisions with.

588
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:01,160
Speaker 2: All of this? Yeah?

589
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 4: I mean, you know what, shout out to honestly learning

590
00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 4: about the history with the husband, like with a significant other,

591
00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 4: like kind of understand why he is the way he is,

592
00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 4: and kind of great that he's grown that backbone from

593
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 4: from water to water.

594
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 2: To something else, noodle to pasta.

595
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:22,720
Speaker 4: And beyond, and he's absolutely making the right move.

596
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:26,120
Speaker 2: I do hope they heed the warning of the commenter though,

597
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,240
Speaker 2: and kind of get.

598
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 4: Serious about like at least the locks. Yeah, because like

599
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 4: I I again.

600
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 1: We've read a lot of stories. You want to be careful, you.

601
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 4: Want to be careful, and she's already she's already done

602
00:29:37,560 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 4: something crazy. So I don't, I don't, I don't. I

603
00:29:40,200 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 4: don't want to leave anything to chance with them. But

604
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 4: they've done everything right.

605
00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 1: They've done everything right textbook. Yeah, and I think shout

606
00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 1: out shout out Reddit for for giving us. The textbook

607
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 1: answers to the questions that we need like this is

608
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 1: extremely helpful.

609
00:29:54,560 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 4: Also, just to point out how insane this is. Sistern

610
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 4: law is a counselor? How is she a counselor?

611
00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 1: I cannot imagine who is going to this person for advice.

612
00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:08,640
Speaker 1: No one should go to this person for advice?

613
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:09,520
Speaker 2: So bad?

614
00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:10,720
Speaker 4: Whatsoever?

615
00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:12,080
Speaker 2: Oh god?

616
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 4: Oh, looks like Bob stole from the rehab facility.

617
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 1: But again, Bob sister in law. All right, let's get

618
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 1: into this next update, do it?

619
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:23,480
Speaker 2: Oh?

620
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:26,800
Speaker 1: So hello? They are everyone? A bit of an update.

621
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 1: It's been two weeks since we removed sister in law

622
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 1: from our residents, and what a doozy they have been.

623
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:35,240
Speaker 1: I could actually use some advice going forward, since everyone

624
00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:38,400
Speaker 1: was so great before. All right, wait, a few peaceful

625
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:41,040
Speaker 1: days since returning home, got back into our routines, went

626
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 1: to therapy and got my sister and got my significant

627
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,480
Speaker 1: other set up with an individual therapist on his own.

628
00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 1: Great move. We didn't end up changing either of our

629
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,720
Speaker 1: numbers for other reasons, but agreed that if they couldn't

630
00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 1: respect our wishes, then we would just have to block

631
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 1: their numbers entirely. It wasn't an issue until this past week.

632
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:01,720
Speaker 2: Go oh baby, here we go.

633
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: On Friday, sister significant other's younger brother YBE, who was

634
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 1: sixteen and living at a younger brother, well that's that's

635
00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 1: the YB, who was sixteen living at home, called him.

636
00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 1: He wanted to give him a heads up that mother

637
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:18,760
Speaker 1: in law and sister in law were coming up here

638
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 1: to visit some family member. They decided to bring him

639
00:31:21,320 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 1: with so he could see significant another. Even he knew

640
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:27,720
Speaker 1: that this didn't smell right. Shout out, I thought he

641
00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:28,920
Speaker 1: was gonna be bad, sneaky.

642
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:30,040
Speaker 2: Thank god.

643
00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 1: Significant other freaked out. He realized that they were going

644
00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 1: to manipulate him into seeing them by using younger brother

645
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 1: as bait. God he was right. I was out of

646
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 1: town by this point, already for a bachelorette party, leaving

647
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:45,960
Speaker 1: my I for another alone. Oh man, that backbone is

648
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:49,120
Speaker 1: going to be noodling. Oh no, not at all prepared

649
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 1: to deal with his family and me not being able

650
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:54,480
Speaker 1: to get home until Sunday. Younger brother called on Saturday

651
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 1: to let significant other know that he would like to

652
00:31:56,840 --> 00:32:00,320
Speaker 1: see him. They had some time before they at an

653
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 1: home and we're in our neighborhood for some reason, so

654
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:06,080
Speaker 1: sniffan Other and younger brother hung out for a few

655
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 1: hours in her home. They played some video games, ate

656
00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 1: some takeout, and just had a nice afternoon of brother bonding.

657
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Speaker 4: This is good.

658
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Speaker 1: Hopefully it stays good. Younger brother told stephan Other that

659
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Speaker 1: he didn't believe that my mother in law and sister

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00:32:19,360 --> 00:32:21,880
Speaker 1: in law had been saying, but that they had done

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00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:24,400
Speaker 1: nothing but bashed me on their social media pages. Okay,

662
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 1: so they're talking trash. He pulled out their pages on

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Speaker 1: his phone and was able to give sleep Another a

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Speaker 1: screen shot of them. One of the posts says, well, then,

665
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Speaker 1: hoity witch has managed to brainwash my son again. Please

666
00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 1: pray that Jesus will deliver him from the devil that

667
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:43,160
Speaker 1: he lays with. She is nothing short of cancer in

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Speaker 1: my life, and I worry that this will drive me

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Speaker 1: to illness. Pray for us all. Uh, dude, Facebook is wild.

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Speaker 1: I can't believe people are doing stuff like that.

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Speaker 2: Dude.

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Speaker 3: Oh man, I have to ignore Facebook.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, Oh if only we could.

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Speaker 1: I just can't even with this. She's not even religious.

675
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 1: But anyway, Significant other kept it together for the rest

676
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Speaker 1: of their visit. At the end, both mother in law

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Speaker 1: and sister in law attempted to come up to the condo,

678
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Speaker 1: but he was able to keep them downstairs, only speaking

679
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Speaker 1: to them outside. All right, backbone strengthening.

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Speaker 2: Here we go.

681
00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 1: Then sister in law dropped a bomb on significant other.

682
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Speaker 2: What is it?

683
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 1: She said, She's been severely depressed and needed him. She

684
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:35,200
Speaker 1: miscarried recently and it had been awful on her. Oh dude,

685
00:33:36,760 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 1: amazing manipulation tactic.

686
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 2: Amazing, show me the pregnancy test and everything.

687
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Speaker 4: Show me if you show me the all of the

688
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Speaker 4: pregnancy stuff. Absolutely, I'm taking you back to dinner. I'm

689
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Speaker 4: gonna sit down with you. You're not going anywhere near

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Speaker 4: my house.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I will sit down and be like, I

692
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Speaker 2: don't know, you know I'm here.

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Speaker 4: I think.

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Speaker 1: I think also maybe put a line and say like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I'm down to be there with you. Don't I'm not

696
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Speaker 1: bringing to my house. And also, you are not talking

697
00:34:09,040 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 1: about my significant other. Yes, let's talk about you. You're

698
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:15,120
Speaker 1: not talking about how are you feeling? Yeah, boom, you

699
00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 1: will not bring her up. She just needed her twin

700
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:21,440
Speaker 1: to comfort her. See if your other felt immensely guilty.

701
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:24,440
Speaker 1: Neither of us had any idea that this happened. Did

702
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:28,279
Speaker 1: it actually happen. I got home early yesterday and I

703
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 1: could read the conflict on his face. We thought about it.

704
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:33,480
Speaker 1: My frustration with mother in law and sister in law

705
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,880
Speaker 1: is at its peak, especially after seeing the barrage of

706
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 1: Facebook posts. Significant other agrees that those posts are over

707
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:43,800
Speaker 1: the line, but most of them are from mother in law. True,

708
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,320
Speaker 1: but sister and a law had two that were passive, aggressive,

709
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:49,680
Speaker 1: and clearly aimed towards me. He thinks it wouldn't be

710
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:51,799
Speaker 1: fair to hold the sister in law accountable for those.

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Speaker 4: I disagree.

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Speaker 1: She made these choices that got us into this place.

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00:34:56,280 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 1: She literally started this entire thing, not us. Now she

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Speaker 1: has to deal with the consequences, regardless of whatever trauma

715
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 1: she may have endured that spurred this on. Honestly, I

716
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 1: don't necessarily believe that she really had a miscarriage. Our

717
00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:13,040
Speaker 1: fight consisted of name calling, him, calling me insensitive and cold,

718
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:16,800
Speaker 1: me calling him naive and manipulated, and bickering, which was

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00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:25,600
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723
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:32,280
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724
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:35,400
Speaker 1: sister in law to check on her. I feel like

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00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:37,719
Speaker 1: we have regressed and now I am back behind sister

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Speaker 1: So how do I handle this? Is it best to

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Speaker 1: jump into couple's therapy? This is something we both think

739
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:11,440
Speaker 1: is a good place to go, but not necessarily right now.

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Speaker 1: Do I suggest we go no contact until we get

741
00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 1: a clear idea? Yeah? I guess question all those two.

742
00:36:18,080 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 2: Is she saying go no contact with each other?

743
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 1: So OPI is asking is it best to jump into

744
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:26,239
Speaker 1: family therapy? Or is that not something we do right now?

745
00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:26,360
Speaker 2: So?

746
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Speaker 1: Do I suggest we go no contact until we get

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Speaker 1: a clear idea, Like what what do you think we

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Speaker 1: do here?

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Speaker 4: I mean, I definitely think a couple's therapy, Yeah is great.

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Speaker 4: It's it's going no contact with each other or.

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00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:46,880
Speaker 1: With no no with with the husmin's family.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I mean honestly do both, Like yeah, that's

753
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 4: you know they're just gonna keep Yeah, I think so.

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Speaker 2: I think we might as well as just get it

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Speaker 2: out of the way.

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Speaker 1: At least for a time, go no contact just for

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Speaker 1: a bit so you can get your bearings, you know, give.

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Speaker 4: Them a time out, although I don't. I don't know

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00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 4: if I would tell them the time of the time.

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Speaker 1: I just say, yeah, I give a distance. I don't

761
00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 1: want to feel guilty if his sister really went through

762
00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:09,800
Speaker 1: that and I take away her support. But at some

763
00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:12,360
Speaker 1: point I need to put my marriage first. Part of

764
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 1: me wants to just confront my sister in a low

765
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 1: and tape the conversation because I know her and I

766
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:19,360
Speaker 1: know she won't be able to not gloat to me.

767
00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:21,920
Speaker 1: My marriage is my number one priority at the end

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Speaker 1: of the day. So how do I convey that I

769
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:26,280
Speaker 1: need it to be his two without coming off as selfish?

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Speaker 1: I m I have another update, so we got some comments,

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Speaker 1: so you're seeing it out there. Drank the cool aid again,

773
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:35,320
Speaker 1: even though his younger brother warned him they were cooking

774
00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:39,480
Speaker 1: something back to draw him back in. Bottom line is

775
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 1: is this the kind of life you want for yourself?

776
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 1: You were constantly doing the pick me dance because your

777
00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:48,319
Speaker 1: husband continually breaks ranks when his family exerts the right

778
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:51,439
Speaker 1: amount of pressure on him. It's ridiculous. Will he ever

779
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:54,360
Speaker 1: be ready to view you as a team and adopted

780
00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 1: us versus problem approach to issues? Him turning on you

781
00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:01,120
Speaker 1: again and letting his sister come between you again is

782
00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:04,880
Speaker 1: absolutely regressing. I'd say at this point he isn't ready

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00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 1: to be married. Therefore, shall a man leave his father

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Speaker 1: and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife, and

785
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 1: they shall be one flesh? Or as my dad said,

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Speaker 1: a man a man forgets the arms of his mother

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00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:28,399
Speaker 1: when he meets the legs of a woman. Dad, man,

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00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:30,520
Speaker 1: but he says it in Spanish.

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00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:34,279
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, it probably sounds way cooler. That makes it

790
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 2: ten times more hilarious.

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Speaker 1: In modern language of this, leaving your parents means recognizing

792
00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:45,319
Speaker 1: that your marriage created a new family, and that this

793
00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:49,280
Speaker 1: new family must be a higher priority than your previous family.

794
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:53,280
Speaker 1: If spouse's neglect to cleave to each other, the result

795
00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:56,880
Speaker 1: is a lack of intimacy and unity. I would suggest

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Speaker 1: talking to him not about his sister's latest drama, which

797
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 1: I read seems like a false story, but how him

798
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:08,520
Speaker 1: turning on your you and your arguments made you feel

799
00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 1: you are not sure how much longer you can endure

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Speaker 1: this marriage when at the first sign of conflict he

801
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:22,960
Speaker 1: is so ready to believe the worst of you. OPI replied, No,

802
00:39:23,280 --> 00:39:26,480
Speaker 1: I don't want this life for myself. I see my

803
00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 1: marriage as an US and not me than him. But

804
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:34,640
Speaker 1: it is clear that he is not on the same page.

805
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:37,439
Speaker 1: His US is him, sister and mother in law, which

806
00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:43,000
Speaker 1: is completely backwards. I'm thinking she's faking. It's just too convenient,

807
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:46,120
Speaker 1: But I don't think I can just accuse that without

808
00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 1: looking bad. So he and I are going to have

809
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:55,360
Speaker 1: to have a really difficult conversation pretty much me or

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00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 1: them in common to if they are so close, why

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Speaker 1: didn't sitter law tell the husband she was pregnant. I

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00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:03,920
Speaker 1: know you wait three months to tell people because of this,

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00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:07,080
Speaker 1: but immediate family is fine, right, especially one that is

814
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:09,600
Speaker 1: supposedly close to you. Why did she keep it a

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Speaker 1: secret until now? Sure, if it's true she might need

816
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:15,880
Speaker 1: the husband's support, but surely you tell the person so

817
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:20,759
Speaker 1: they can efficiently help them instead of keeping it from them.

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Speaker 1: So many questions around such a convenient thing. And Nopie replied,

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Speaker 1: she's not married. She has been known to sleep around, right,

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Speaker 1: you thought we saw that, which, you know, whatever, she

821
00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 1: should be able to have as much spicy sleep as

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Speaker 1: she wants. And she said she didn't tell anyone because

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Speaker 1: her mom would shamber, which is probably true. So if

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Speaker 1: and I think this is a rather big if this

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Speaker 1: is true, she keept a secret to only use it

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Speaker 1: to emotionally manipulate my significant other.

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Speaker 2: Also, remember she came down with mom.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's like, okay, well mom, wou would have

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Speaker 4: you know, oh, chastise you or whatever?

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Speaker 2: Well she's with you right now. Yeah, ridiculous the math

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Speaker 2: and math.

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Speaker 1: That's where it ends.

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Speaker 2: That's where it ends. Yeah, I wasn't ready.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I really hope the snify other grows a backbone.

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Speaker 1: But it's feeling like he's consistently not able to prioritize

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Speaker 4: like Gollum.

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00:43:08,520 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 1: That's so, well, shouldn't I shouldn't be making doing this

876
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 1: like this? I might have to give you a big

877
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:17,759
Speaker 1: old smooth Oh god, oh golm smooth. Oh no, you,

878
00:43:17,880 --> 00:43:18,920
Speaker 1: my precious.

879
00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 2: Save it for missus donner Man.

880
00:43:21,280 --> 00:43:24,799
Speaker 1: Uh, but you say that, I think of my mom.

881
00:43:25,000 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 2: Well, you're gonna have to get used to it when

882
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:30,800
Speaker 2: you get married. Brother. Come on, we'll call him Frank.

883
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:31,319
Speaker 1: Okay.

884
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:34,479
Speaker 4: I've seen him around interacting with my then supervisor until

885
00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:38,000
Speaker 4: it was firing, but he was none of my business

886
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 4: at the time. When Frank came to us, he came

887
00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 4: with an argant attitude, demanding us to shut up and

888
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:46,640
Speaker 4: continue doing our respective jobs. I looked at Frank in

889
00:43:46,760 --> 00:43:49,080
Speaker 4: disgust as I talked in my mind.

890
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:50,440
Speaker 1: Who do you think you are?

891
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:53,400
Speaker 4: He then comes to me, looks at me freaking straight

892
00:43:53,440 --> 00:44:01,399
Speaker 4: in the eye, and says, come on, frob.

893
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:11,080
Speaker 1: Dude, go jump into a volcano after a ring you freaking.

894
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:14,600
Speaker 4: I was like, what the f He is threatening me

895
00:44:14,680 --> 00:44:16,799
Speaker 4: for no reason and I didn't tell him anything. Maybe

896
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:19,399
Speaker 4: he reads mind woopy was talking crap in his mind.

897
00:44:19,680 --> 00:44:22,960
Speaker 4: Frank then leaves while looking at Carl as if he

898
00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:26,320
Speaker 4: stepped on a dog's fresh turd. Following the whole ordeal,

899
00:44:26,400 --> 00:44:29,759
Speaker 4: Carl messaged me through hip chat and asked me of

900
00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:32,239
Speaker 4: what happened with my team. I told him that my

901
00:44:32,280 --> 00:44:36,040
Speaker 4: team was sacked because some fraudulent activity regarding use of

902
00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:39,799
Speaker 4: that certain app happened. He there replies that some guys

903
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:42,160
Speaker 4: of his team were also kicked out for the same reason,

904
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 4: and that he was looking at him in disgust because

905
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:49,720
Speaker 4: Carl is gay. Well, there we go, some good old

906
00:44:49,960 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 4: Gola homophobia.

907
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:52,959
Speaker 2: Dude, Frank just gets better and better.

908
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 1: It is, you know, like a fine wine dude.

909
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:55,799
Speaker 2: Uh.

910
00:44:56,000 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 4: Andre then joins the conversation and adds that sense he

911
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 4: he became floor support. Frank has been on a power trip,

912
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:08,759
Speaker 4: demanding everyone pretty much work like robots. Last weeks were

913
00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:13,239
Speaker 4: works orcs. Brianda joins and mentions not only he does

914
00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:16,880
Speaker 4: this to their team, but also barges into the other teams,

915
00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:20,359
Speaker 4: terrorizing them into silence. Carl then carries on and adds

916
00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 4: that people tried to report him with their supervisor and EVENHR,

917
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:26,040
Speaker 4: but they were very unsuccessful because they were all playing

918
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 4: favorites with.

919
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:28,320
Speaker 2: Him was powerful.

920
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:32,799
Speaker 4: We continued working and chatting in the meantime. Then came

921
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:37,200
Speaker 4: March twenty seventeen. Bruce, then operations manager, resigned and Michael,

922
00:45:37,239 --> 00:45:40,799
Speaker 4: an operations manager from another campaign, took over. It's a

923
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:44,280
Speaker 4: power play happening before very eyes. A lot of changes

924
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 4: came along with this advent, and as a result, our

925
00:45:47,640 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 4: team was split up.

926
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:52,520
Speaker 2: Oh no, the forever Friend's.

927
00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:54,600
Speaker 4: Gone to another hicle.

928
00:45:54,800 --> 00:45:57,440
Speaker 1: The Nations need to be united to fight to the

929
00:45:57,560 --> 00:45:59,160
Speaker 1: doc law we needed.

930
00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 4: I was assigned to another team and Frank Evil Frank

931
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:07,759
Speaker 4: was changed to Morning shift herego, I wouldn't have to

932
00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:10,120
Speaker 4: put up with his attitude for the time being. Now

933
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:13,439
Speaker 4: fast forward to early twenties. Twenty eighteen, new changes came

934
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:17,440
Speaker 4: with the campaign and you know what that means, team changes, shafts,

935
00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:21,640
Speaker 4: differtation that does not sound clean, and the arrival of

936
00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:26,640
Speaker 4: a new manager, Denise. By this time, both Brianda and

937
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:28,879
Speaker 4: Andre were no longer employees of.

938
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:30,800
Speaker 2: Ultimate Thuley the company.

939
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:34,280
Speaker 4: I was teamed up with Carl Agan and with newcomers Victoria,

940
00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:37,840
Speaker 4: Ashred and gother who were assigned to our crew.

941
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:41,680
Speaker 2: But terror also came back with the return of Frank

942
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:43,839
Speaker 2: to our shift. Frank is back.

943
00:46:44,400 --> 00:46:47,480
Speaker 1: It turns out, no, I don't want him back.

944
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 2: We don't want him back.

945
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 4: The ring has given him long life.

946
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:51,839
Speaker 1: We want him off.

947
00:46:52,600 --> 00:46:55,080
Speaker 4: It turns out that new manager got word that Frank

948
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 4: has already been doing his thing with the morning shift

949
00:46:58,480 --> 00:47:00,719
Speaker 4: and she was not having it. Because of this, On

950
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:05,400
Speaker 4: orders from Denise, Frank was demoted to customer service agent,

951
00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:09,200
Speaker 4: returned to the afternoon shift, and was assigned to our

952
00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:10,879
Speaker 4: team as the only.

953
00:47:10,640 --> 00:47:11,680
Speaker 2: Available option form.

954
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 4: So not only has Evil Frank been demoted, and you

955
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:17,279
Speaker 4: know he's going to be a grumpy, sour puss. He

956
00:47:17,320 --> 00:47:20,680
Speaker 4: was demoted straight into Opie's team.

957
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,359
Speaker 1: No, Op, he can't get rid of this guy.

958
00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:25,600
Speaker 2: This is not good.

959
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:28,840
Speaker 4: Even in this new role, Frank was still behaving like

960
00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:31,960
Speaker 4: the entitled ahole I first met back in twenty seventeen,

961
00:47:32,200 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 4: but this time he had become more vindictive and apathetic. Anyhow,

962
00:47:37,920 --> 00:47:42,359
Speaker 4: he got along with Gunther and their region of terror continued,

963
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:45,000
Speaker 4: at least in our team. Victoria was the only one

964
00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:47,040
Speaker 4: of us who was civil on civil terms with Frank

965
00:47:47,040 --> 00:47:49,440
Speaker 4: at the time, while Astrid worked with him since they

966
00:47:49,480 --> 00:47:50,840
Speaker 4: were together in the morning shift.

967
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:51,880
Speaker 1: Now.

968
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:54,680
Speaker 4: During this period, things took another turn for the worse

969
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 4: when Victoria was appointed as a new member of floor

970
00:47:58,120 --> 00:48:00,520
Speaker 4: support man. This is just a this is just a

971
00:48:00,520 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 4: game of Djenga. Just things are being pulled and plopped

972
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:07,839
Speaker 4: back any which way. Evil Frank would continue to upstage her,

973
00:48:08,200 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 4: use his longtime knowledge as an excuse. Actually, he would

974
00:48:12,080 --> 00:48:14,239
Speaker 4: do the same with all other team leaders. One of

975
00:48:14,239 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 4: these days, I was in a bad mood following a

976
00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:18,480
Speaker 4: dispute with my supervisor over an unpaid day of work.

977
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:22,000
Speaker 4: The final straw came when I returned from lunch and

978
00:48:22,080 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 4: witnessed how Frank called Victoria a useless, puzzant.

979
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:28,880
Speaker 2: They're all lost, loss enough puzzant.

980
00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:31,640
Speaker 1: I feel like even his insults are medieval.

981
00:48:34,640 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 2: The wrong of the phone.

982
00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:40,759
Speaker 4: This is when I snapped and yelled at him to

983
00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:43,560
Speaker 4: shut the f up, And all the times he had

984
00:48:43,600 --> 00:48:46,759
Speaker 4: make my workplace h double hockey sticks, and if it

985
00:48:46,800 --> 00:48:49,279
Speaker 4: weren't because he got all the staff eating at it

986
00:48:49,360 --> 00:48:54,040
Speaker 4: the palm palm of his hand, I would have personally put.

987
00:48:54,000 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 2: You out of your misery. Whoa, whoa, hope he's talking

988
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 2: has a big talk there big. My supervisor saw this.

989
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 4: Uh oh, broke the dispute and Victoria, Frank, and me

990
00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:08,720
Speaker 4: were called to HR to testify on what happened. Expecting

991
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:11,440
Speaker 4: the worst as Frank was still friends with the HR staff,

992
00:49:12,239 --> 00:49:15,480
Speaker 4: I was eventually called and Denise was there along with

993
00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:18,720
Speaker 4: the HR rep who took the case. After having Frank

994
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 4: and Victoria give their version of the entire incident and

995
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:24,439
Speaker 4: Frank trying to convince them to fire me, I gave

996
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:25,120
Speaker 4: my own.

997
00:49:24,960 --> 00:49:26,360
Speaker 2: Version of what happened.

998
00:49:27,360 --> 00:49:30,879
Speaker 4: Denise also brought some video evidence that Frank was a jerk.

999
00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:34,680
Speaker 4: Here we have the receipts. Both Denise and the HR

1000
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 4: Rep eventually let me go with only a verbal warning

1001
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:42,320
Speaker 4: on foul language, while Victoria demoted herself to customer service

1002
00:49:42,360 --> 00:49:43,080
Speaker 4: agent because of.

1003
00:49:43,080 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 2: All the trauma she suffered. Oh my goodness. Evil.

1004
00:49:45,680 --> 00:49:48,279
Speaker 4: Frank was eventually suspended for a week and sent to

1005
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:53,040
Speaker 4: the graveyard shift, to which Gunther followed suit following his master.

1006
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:57,600
Speaker 4: The rest of the period was peaceful for the most part,

1007
00:49:57,840 --> 00:49:58,880
Speaker 4: until it wasn't.

1008
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:02,319
Speaker 1: Oh boy, potentially, boy oh boy.

1009
00:50:02,480 --> 00:50:05,080
Speaker 2: Fast forward to March twenty twenty. We all know what

1010
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:05,719
Speaker 2: happens there.

1011
00:50:05,960 --> 00:50:09,000
Speaker 4: Me, Carl, Me, Carl, and Astrid were still in the fold,

1012
00:50:09,040 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 4: but Victoria eventually quit. Frank and Gunther were changed the

1013
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:15,840
Speaker 4: afternoon shift again. At this time we were a little

1014
00:50:15,840 --> 00:50:18,880
Speaker 4: to no contact with them all because of the BS.

1015
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:22,160
Speaker 4: Frank put us through, I love Heather. No contact with coworkers.

1016
00:50:22,239 --> 00:50:24,960
Speaker 4: That's kind of hilarious. While they're also in Frank that

1017
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:26,799
Speaker 4: you know, busy cooking up a new VID.

1018
00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:28,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly right, Rank.

1019
00:50:28,640 --> 00:50:30,080
Speaker 1: Is patient zero.

1020
00:50:30,239 --> 00:50:31,440
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness.

1021
00:50:32,040 --> 00:50:36,200
Speaker 4: It goes about saying that the VID pandemic already hit

1022
00:50:37,000 --> 00:50:40,080
Speaker 4: and we were all on the process of going home office,

1023
00:50:40,280 --> 00:50:42,839
Speaker 4: which means we all wouldn't have a way to have

1024
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:44,359
Speaker 4: any contact with Frank at all.

1025
00:50:44,800 --> 00:50:45,480
Speaker 2: Time had passed.

1026
00:50:45,520 --> 00:50:48,600
Speaker 4: We were successfully settled into our respective houses. The only

1027
00:50:48,680 --> 00:50:50,920
Speaker 4: contact we would have would be between our team, our

1028
00:50:50,960 --> 00:50:54,480
Speaker 4: supervisor and force supports. But this didn't last much longer

1029
00:50:54,520 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 4: because in June first, we received a link from our

1030
00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:01,719
Speaker 4: teams meeting to keep it short, we were informed that

1031
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:05,400
Speaker 4: because of multiple complications of the pandemic has put the

1032
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:10,640
Speaker 4: campaign through the client who connected the company with Ultima Thule,

1033
00:51:11,320 --> 00:51:15,320
Speaker 4: the employer decided to put an end to Cube.

1034
00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:19,600
Speaker 2: You thought you forgot about Cube. It's back. It's back,

1035
00:51:19,800 --> 00:51:23,799
Speaker 2: except it's gone. It's a race from the face of

1036
00:51:23,840 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 2: the earth. No more Cube, No but Cube.

1037
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 4: I was offered to continue working in another campaign. I accepted,

1038
00:51:37,480 --> 00:51:47,480
Speaker 4: No way, accepted that crazy. But don't forget our friends,

1039
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:51,120
Speaker 4: the whole gang, the whole Gunther.

1040
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:56,560
Speaker 2: Hasted and Frank. We're all dismissed. Whoa they lost their jobs.

1041
00:51:56,600 --> 00:52:01,080
Speaker 1: No way, they lost their jobs. No, oh, not their job.

1042
00:52:01,280 --> 00:52:05,760
Speaker 2: Wonder why? And now November twenty twenty two.

1043
00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:08,360
Speaker 4: We are we are years deep into this, so years

1044
00:52:08,520 --> 00:52:09,520
Speaker 4: for the final time.

1045
00:52:09,640 --> 00:52:09,960
Speaker 1: Skip.

1046
00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:14,840
Speaker 4: I stopped working at Ultima Thuley since June twenty twenty

1047
00:52:14,840 --> 00:52:16,440
Speaker 4: one to join another company.

1048
00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:17,920
Speaker 1: Tell me about that new company.

1049
00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:21,719
Speaker 4: Oh, I will carl through a small party his own place,

1050
00:52:21,760 --> 00:52:25,720
Speaker 4: inviting me and former co workers Victoria Andre Astrid Gunther,

1051
00:52:26,800 --> 00:52:29,360
Speaker 4: and to my surprise even to me, Denise was invited.

1052
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:33,279
Speaker 4: While having a booze driven pleasant conversation, it was at

1053
00:52:33,280 --> 00:52:37,799
Speaker 4: this point that Gunther revealed evil Frank's fate.

1054
00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:39,840
Speaker 1: I actually do want to and I'm interested. I do

1055
00:52:39,880 --> 00:52:41,359
Speaker 1: want to hear what Frank got.

1056
00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:42,160
Speaker 2: Hope he got us back.

1057
00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:43,799
Speaker 1: I want yeah, i Ope he's got his back. I

1058
00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:45,359
Speaker 1: want to know. I want to know the come up ands.

1059
00:52:45,520 --> 00:52:48,200
Speaker 4: But before we get to that, Oh my god, did

1060
00:52:48,280 --> 00:52:50,880
Speaker 4: you know the fate of your life could be decided

1061
00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:54,480
Speaker 4: and improved and forever changed by going to Spotify, Apple

1062
00:52:54,520 --> 00:52:57,080
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1063
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1064
00:53:01,800 --> 00:53:04,200
Speaker 4: if you want more content than your base can handle,

1065
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Speaker 4: go there. But Gunther told us that he had cut

1066
00:53:09,200 --> 00:53:12,480
Speaker 4: Frank out of his life months after they were dismissed,

1067
00:53:12,680 --> 00:53:15,879
Speaker 4: as Frank was going obnoxious and blaming it on us

1068
00:53:15,920 --> 00:53:19,280
Speaker 4: for his current situation that he was fired. He also

1069
00:53:19,320 --> 00:53:23,080
Speaker 4: revealed that Frank had been unable to find another job, Good,

1070
00:53:23,680 --> 00:53:28,200
Speaker 4: unable to continue paying rent, and he was eventually evicted.

1071
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:32,919
Speaker 2: Good live in a cave with your ring, your precious ring.

1072
00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:37,600
Speaker 2: That might be where we'reheaded. So Frank is now homeless?

1073
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:46,799
Speaker 4: Oh my god, what great crazy.

1074
00:53:48,080 --> 00:53:52,160
Speaker 2: Yes, that was the last time we ever knew about him.

1075
00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:58,000
Speaker 4: I don't feel bad about his fate, but I honestly, yeah,

1076
00:53:58,080 --> 00:53:59,680
Speaker 4: he doesn't deserve homelessness, but.

1077
00:53:59,640 --> 00:54:04,239
Speaker 1: I don't as he does only cave.

1078
00:54:04,440 --> 00:54:05,600
Speaker 2: Let's give him a good cozy cave.

1079
00:54:06,000 --> 00:54:06,600
Speaker 1: Get nice.

1080
00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:09,640
Speaker 4: In the end, the only victim here was Frank, who

1081
00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:14,600
Speaker 4: did this all to himself. Bar and that is the

1082
00:54:14,719 --> 00:54:15,600
Speaker 4: end of that story.

1083
00:54:15,760 --> 00:54:16,200
Speaker 2: Dude.

1084
00:54:16,440 --> 00:54:20,160
Speaker 1: Wow and episode and episode. If you'll love us, make

1085
00:54:20,200 --> 00:54:21,560
Speaker 1: sure to subscribe.

1086
00:54:21,040 --> 00:54:23,400
Speaker 2: We love you and say it tomorrow.

1087
00:54:25,120 --> 00:54:27,360
Speaker 4: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives.

1088
00:54:27,360 --> 00:54:29,520
Speaker 2: Time for Okop relash.

1089
00:54:30,960 --> 00:54:33,960
Speaker 4: I evicted my brother after my parents disowned him for

1090
00:54:34,080 --> 00:54:37,360
Speaker 4: being gay, but what he did to me was way worse.

1091
00:54:37,600 --> 00:54:39,920
Speaker 1: I feel like the eviction is like the top, the

1092
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 1: top of the line in terms of terrible things that

1093
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:46,680
Speaker 1: could happen to you. Yeah, so maybe it's like the

1094
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:51,200
Speaker 1: brother evicted or who we talk so op, the sister

1095
00:54:51,280 --> 00:54:53,919
Speaker 1: evicted the brother, okay, but the brother did something way

1096
00:54:53,920 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 1: worse apparently, Okay, so I think the brother probably evicted

1097
00:54:58,080 --> 00:55:01,879
Speaker 1: her in retaliation and then fed her to the alligators, Bro,

1098
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:04,680
Speaker 1: I mean it did her into an alligator's mouth hole.

1099
00:55:04,520 --> 00:55:08,080
Speaker 4: Honestly, like you would really have to do something like

1100
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:10,720
Speaker 4: really really the way worse has.

1101
00:55:10,560 --> 00:55:13,800
Speaker 2: To be way worse, like way worse.

1102
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:15,880
Speaker 4: But I guess I guess we're about to find Out's

1103
00:55:15,880 --> 00:55:19,640
Speaker 4: see for reference, my brother Connor is nineteen. I'm twenty six,

1104
00:55:19,960 --> 00:55:23,439
Speaker 4: am I now ex fiance, Hunter is twenty eight ex

1105
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:29,880
Speaker 4: fiance ex fiance. Oh already, drama started in the first sentence. Hot.

1106
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:33,520
Speaker 4: Also for reference, my brother was kicked out when he

1107
00:55:33,560 --> 00:55:36,680
Speaker 4: was sixteen because our parents snooped through his phone and

1108
00:55:36,760 --> 00:55:38,239
Speaker 4: found out that he was gay.

1109
00:55:38,360 --> 00:55:42,840
Speaker 1: Hmmm, God, but if you're looking at his gay stuff,

1110
00:55:42,880 --> 00:55:43,719
Speaker 1: does that mean you're gay?

1111
00:55:44,880 --> 00:55:45,080
Speaker 2: Hey?

1112
00:55:45,440 --> 00:55:48,359
Speaker 4: I mean they say that a lot of people who

1113
00:55:48,400 --> 00:55:51,080
Speaker 4: are closeted come out with more even more hate.

1114
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:54,640
Speaker 1: It's true, that's true. Not only are they gay because

1115
00:55:54,640 --> 00:55:57,160
Speaker 1: of that, but they are also gay because they're watching

1116
00:55:57,160 --> 00:55:57,719
Speaker 1: his gay porn.

1117
00:55:57,800 --> 00:55:59,080
Speaker 2: Bro. This is they say.

1118
00:55:59,080 --> 00:56:02,040
Speaker 1: If we watch gay porn twice, that's that's the that's

1119
00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:06,359
Speaker 1: the mark. Yeah, yeah, watch gate porn once. Hey, anyone's game, good,

1120
00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:10,280
Speaker 1: good thing, that's number gay watch watch it twice?

1121
00:56:10,480 --> 00:56:10,919
Speaker 2: It's over.

1122
00:56:11,120 --> 00:56:13,920
Speaker 1: Hey, there's a reason you're coming back, and it's probably

1123
00:56:13,920 --> 00:56:14,360
Speaker 1: the dick.

1124
00:56:14,719 --> 00:56:15,640
Speaker 2: Yeah that's why.

1125
00:56:15,719 --> 00:56:16,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why.

1126
00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:19,359
Speaker 4: That's why, or the other thing or the plot. Yeah, dude,

1127
00:56:19,400 --> 00:56:22,000
Speaker 4: the plot. The plot is pot hot. Is the plot

1128
00:56:22,080 --> 00:56:24,480
Speaker 4: is hogh, plot is hot. That's the only reason I

1129
00:56:24,560 --> 00:56:27,839
Speaker 4: actually watched gate porn dude, of course, cinematic master.

1130
00:56:27,600 --> 00:56:31,279
Speaker 1: Connoissewer of come exactly, we should get like lean back

1131
00:56:31,400 --> 00:56:33,440
Speaker 1: chairs so we can go like this. Also, I'm like

1132
00:56:33,600 --> 00:56:34,800
Speaker 1: fully flashing.

1133
00:56:34,920 --> 00:56:35,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know.

1134
00:56:35,560 --> 00:56:39,120
Speaker 4: The one thing that does is that we rock around

1135
00:56:39,160 --> 00:56:41,640
Speaker 4: the frame a lot. Connor had a birthday last weekend,

1136
00:56:41,719 --> 00:56:44,279
Speaker 4: so he invited his friends over. They were all about

1137
00:56:44,320 --> 00:56:47,640
Speaker 4: eighteen to twenty two, so they were drinking and playing games.

1138
00:56:47,920 --> 00:56:53,080
Speaker 4: What kind of games the games were? You drank Naked Twister?

1139
00:56:53,440 --> 00:56:54,720
Speaker 2: That that's a fun one.

1140
00:56:54,840 --> 00:56:56,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love playing that. I would I would love

1141
00:56:56,920 --> 00:56:58,879
Speaker 1: to do John, my birthday is coming up. By the way,

1142
00:56:59,040 --> 00:57:02,680
Speaker 1: that it is naked Twister is the mean activity.

1143
00:57:02,719 --> 00:57:04,360
Speaker 2: Now I love how I have her friends.

1144
00:57:04,480 --> 00:57:07,399
Speaker 4: I said, I love naked Twister, and now I am

1145
00:57:07,680 --> 00:57:08,759
Speaker 4: morally obligated.

1146
00:57:09,680 --> 00:57:12,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, because do you love naked Twister? You liar?

1147
00:57:12,600 --> 00:57:17,120
Speaker 4: Ten bro ten of Sam's Sweaty Friends. I'm like I'm

1148
00:57:17,160 --> 00:57:21,440
Speaker 4: here for it, except I'm not joking.

1149
00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:26,000
Speaker 2: I'm just just a joke, babe, Just a joke, babe.

1150
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:30,440
Speaker 4: I've only watched my fiance Hunter and I were about

1151
00:57:30,440 --> 00:57:32,240
Speaker 4: to head out to let them have the place of

1152
00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:35,040
Speaker 4: themselves when Connor asked if we wanted to.

1153
00:57:35,520 --> 00:57:38,920
Speaker 2: Join in join it? Wait, really, join in on the

1154
00:57:38,960 --> 00:57:40,640
Speaker 2: funt join in on what kind of tricky game?

1155
00:57:40,680 --> 00:57:44,920
Speaker 1: Oh okay, yeah, yeah. The intonation would have me believe

1156
00:57:44,920 --> 00:57:45,960
Speaker 1: it was Naked Twister.

1157
00:57:45,840 --> 00:57:49,120
Speaker 4: Exactly, but it was. It was harmless, harmless alcoholic games. Yeah,

1158
00:57:49,200 --> 00:57:49,960
Speaker 4: like naked Twister.

1159
00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:50,840
Speaker 2: Never heard anyone?

1160
00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:53,280
Speaker 1: When? When has anyone been hurt during Naked Twister?

1161
00:57:53,480 --> 00:57:56,600
Speaker 2: That is, These are the questions that need to be asked.

1162
00:57:56,760 --> 00:57:59,000
Speaker 4: I agree and answered, which is why I'm asking them.

1163
00:57:59,000 --> 00:58:02,640
Speaker 4: That's right, trying to get I'm a nineteen twenties reporter

1164
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:05,240
Speaker 4: in a city that knows how to till its secrets.

1165
00:58:05,280 --> 00:58:08,080
Speaker 4: That's all right, extra extra extra making twister. It is

1166
00:58:08,160 --> 00:58:09,920
Speaker 4: perfectly safe. Read all about it?

1167
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:10,800
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

1168
00:58:12,080 --> 00:58:14,960
Speaker 4: Now I initially refused to join. I'm a bit too

1169
00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:18,680
Speaker 4: old to be playing drinking games, but he insisted.

1170
00:58:19,120 --> 00:58:20,480
Speaker 1: What's too old to? Sorry?

1171
00:58:20,520 --> 00:58:20,640
Speaker 2: You know?

1172
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:22,960
Speaker 1: The first first story Jitter is I got to say,

1173
00:58:22,960 --> 00:58:25,360
Speaker 1: what's on my mind? What's too old to play drinking game?

1174
00:58:25,400 --> 00:58:28,080
Speaker 4: Apparently twenty six and twenty eight that's just too old.

1175
00:58:28,160 --> 00:58:33,080
Speaker 4: That's ridiculous. I mean they're geriatric to die.

1176
00:58:33,320 --> 00:58:37,960
Speaker 1: I say, you can play drinking like the men of

1177
00:58:37,960 --> 00:58:40,360
Speaker 1: old played drinking and the women of old played drinking

1178
00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:42,240
Speaker 1: games well into their death.

1179
00:58:42,600 --> 00:58:45,120
Speaker 4: But Sam being a twenty eight year old, I mean

1180
00:58:45,200 --> 00:58:47,720
Speaker 4: in a nursery home trying to play drinking games. Like

1181
00:58:47,800 --> 00:58:49,800
Speaker 4: there's wheelchairs, a tiktac.

1182
00:58:51,680 --> 00:58:54,120
Speaker 2: Have you heard of Reddit? Actually my cousin.

1183
00:58:54,480 --> 00:58:57,440
Speaker 4: My cousin texted me and her mom was visiting her

1184
00:58:57,480 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 4: in New York and she was like, my mom was

1185
00:58:59,080 --> 00:59:01,479
Speaker 4: trying to explain your post podcast and then she was like.

1186
00:59:01,520 --> 00:59:03,160
Speaker 2: Oh wait, what's Reddit again?

1187
00:59:03,400 --> 00:59:05,280
Speaker 4: She was like trying to explain the podcast, but then

1188
00:59:05,280 --> 00:59:07,960
Speaker 4: she did an explanation for Reddit. So she turned to

1189
00:59:08,000 --> 00:59:09,440
Speaker 4: my cousin and she was like, what's Reddit?

1190
00:59:09,880 --> 00:59:11,480
Speaker 1: How do you describe what Reddit is?

1191
00:59:11,520 --> 00:59:13,200
Speaker 2: The Internet's front page?

1192
00:59:13,320 --> 00:59:14,760
Speaker 1: Dude, you're walking billboard.

1193
00:59:16,440 --> 00:59:20,560
Speaker 4: I read that the Actually I didn't interview him, but

1194
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:24,320
Speaker 4: I organized an interview with the co founder of Reddit.

1195
00:59:24,760 --> 00:59:26,960
Speaker 4: I could have been like, I could have been like, hey,

1196
00:59:27,000 --> 00:59:28,520
Speaker 4: in four years, we're going to be one of the

1197
00:59:28,560 --> 00:59:32,760
Speaker 4: biggest Reddit podcast planet Earth. Just you wait, yeah, that'll

1198
00:59:32,760 --> 00:59:35,240
Speaker 4: be our mind to show you. We we go back

1199
00:59:35,280 --> 00:59:39,120
Speaker 4: in time and like confront the founder. Yeah, well, first

1200
00:59:39,160 --> 00:59:41,880
Speaker 4: we have to convince my past self to make make

1201
00:59:42,040 --> 00:59:45,040
Speaker 4: us the We should have started this earlier, honestly.

1202
00:59:44,720 --> 00:59:45,720
Speaker 2: We we really should have.

1203
00:59:45,760 --> 00:59:49,160
Speaker 4: Honestly, we were doing sleeping whatever else we were doing,

1204
00:59:49,280 --> 00:59:53,000
Speaker 4: not Reddit podcasts. But Connor insisted, and Hunter and I

1205
00:59:53,040 --> 00:59:54,920
Speaker 4: thought it would be fun to act like college students again,

1206
00:59:55,160 --> 00:59:58,120
Speaker 4: so we joined in. We all got pretty wasted, and

1207
00:59:58,280 --> 01:00:01,600
Speaker 4: Connor had the idea of playing never have I.

1208
01:00:01,680 --> 01:00:07,000
Speaker 1: Ever, big yike, playing never have I ever? With family? Uh,

1209
01:00:07,200 --> 01:00:11,480
Speaker 1: genius is a recipe for divulging more than you should.

1210
01:00:12,120 --> 01:00:14,560
Speaker 2: It's it's it's this recipe for success.

1211
01:00:14,760 --> 01:00:17,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I accidentally, have you ever heard the game of fishball?

1212
01:00:18,360 --> 01:00:19,680
Speaker 2: No, I've never heard of fishball?

1213
01:00:19,720 --> 01:00:23,440
Speaker 1: It's like charades, right for some reason, So like like

1214
01:00:23,480 --> 01:00:25,720
Speaker 1: one of the so you play it's like charades, and

1215
01:00:25,760 --> 01:00:29,160
Speaker 1: then you can like say anything but the word huh, right,

1216
01:00:29,440 --> 01:00:31,960
Speaker 1: and ari like, we were playing with my family and

1217
01:00:32,000 --> 01:00:34,840
Speaker 1: Arianna was there and one of the words written like

1218
01:00:34,880 --> 01:00:36,360
Speaker 1: there's pieces of paper. One of the words on the

1219
01:00:36,360 --> 01:00:40,520
Speaker 1: paper was anal and Arian's clue for me to guess

1220
01:00:40,560 --> 01:00:43,760
Speaker 1: the word was what we did two weeks ago, and

1221
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:45,080
Speaker 1: I guessed it without shame.

1222
01:00:45,360 --> 01:00:50,520
Speaker 4: Dude, that that is the strongest power move I've literally.

1223
01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:51,400
Speaker 2: Ever heard in my entire life.

1224
01:00:51,400 --> 01:00:52,080
Speaker 1: Power bottom.

1225
01:00:52,360 --> 01:00:55,520
Speaker 2: Wow, dude, the power bottom for real. Dude.

1226
01:00:55,760 --> 01:01:00,240
Speaker 4: Guess guess guess who's asshole here? Ladies and John I know, dude, No,

1227
01:01:00,440 --> 01:01:05,320
Speaker 4: not like pretentive, not the not the not the crowd,

1228
01:01:05,680 --> 01:01:08,040
Speaker 4: not the crowd, not the crowd, you know, right, joke,

1229
01:01:08,080 --> 01:01:10,600
Speaker 4: wrong crowd, you know what I mean? Yeah, amazing comedians

1230
01:01:10,600 --> 01:01:15,120
Speaker 4: over here, actual event, anal explorers.

1231
01:01:15,480 --> 01:01:16,800
Speaker 2: That can be one of our merch items.

1232
01:01:16,800 --> 01:01:19,160
Speaker 1: Anal explorer, anal Explorers.

1233
01:01:18,760 --> 01:01:19,680
Speaker 2: To find the asshole.

1234
01:01:19,800 --> 01:01:22,760
Speaker 4: There we go, and we'll create a cartoondriving into assholes.

1235
01:01:23,160 --> 01:01:26,920
Speaker 4: You think we're in this like plunging asteroids, asteroid like

1236
01:01:26,960 --> 01:01:28,200
Speaker 4: cave asteroid.

1237
01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:30,919
Speaker 2: Wow, that's good. Whoa, that's good.

1238
01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:35,400
Speaker 4: Okay, we're launching ship all right, we'll save that mentally,

1239
01:01:35,840 --> 01:01:38,360
Speaker 4: Ladies and gentlemen on the podcast.

1240
01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:40,280
Speaker 1: If this doesn't get cut out, If this.

1241
01:01:40,280 --> 01:01:42,800
Speaker 4: Doesn't get cut out, but maybe this little bit will

1242
01:01:42,800 --> 01:01:45,280
Speaker 4: make it in, because yeah, after a few rounds in

1243
01:01:45,360 --> 01:01:48,240
Speaker 4: of this game, the statement never have I ever cheated

1244
01:01:48,320 --> 01:01:51,280
Speaker 4: before came up. Now is a good time to mention

1245
01:01:51,400 --> 01:01:56,360
Speaker 4: that Hunter is staunchly against any kind of cheating. His

1246
01:01:56,520 --> 01:02:00,439
Speaker 4: ex fiance cheated on him ended emotionally wreck him.

1247
01:02:00,520 --> 01:02:03,440
Speaker 1: I mean, I think most people should be against cheating.

1248
01:02:03,640 --> 01:02:04,240
Speaker 2: You know that.

1249
01:02:04,640 --> 01:02:07,240
Speaker 4: You know what, Sam, We're gonna we're gonna put our

1250
01:02:07,640 --> 01:02:11,000
Speaker 4: flag in the sand. Yes, okay, we are against cheating

1251
01:02:11,040 --> 01:02:13,120
Speaker 4: to get in. I don't care who cancels me.

1252
01:02:13,240 --> 01:02:15,360
Speaker 1: I care a little bit.

1253
01:02:15,400 --> 01:02:20,200
Speaker 4: Actually, literally everyone, I don't want to cancel me. Obama,

1254
01:02:20,280 --> 01:02:23,520
Speaker 4: it's over, really canceled me because I am against cheating.

1255
01:02:23,960 --> 01:02:28,080
Speaker 4: I'm bro Bill Clinton, He's like yeah, He's like he's

1256
01:02:28,120 --> 01:02:30,720
Speaker 4: like freaking uh like, uh, what's what's I.

1257
01:02:30,720 --> 01:02:33,680
Speaker 1: Don't flag is on the other side of the world. Uh,

1258
01:02:33,880 --> 01:02:38,600
Speaker 1: firmly in the cheating the cheating arena firm. Let's just say,

1259
01:02:38,640 --> 01:02:43,120
Speaker 1: man who's planted a few of his flag maybe a

1260
01:02:43,160 --> 01:02:44,200
Speaker 1: couple islands too.

1261
01:02:44,520 --> 01:02:48,240
Speaker 4: And unfortunately, as a lot of dumb, immature seventeen year

1262
01:02:48,280 --> 01:02:52,640
Speaker 4: olds do, I cheated on my boyfriend of five months.

1263
01:02:53,440 --> 01:02:54,960
Speaker 2: The worst had to do it. You know you are

1264
01:02:55,000 --> 01:02:56,160
Speaker 2: the worst. He believe you.

1265
01:02:56,800 --> 01:03:00,000
Speaker 4: It was a stupid mistake. He found out and understandable

1266
01:03:00,360 --> 01:03:03,000
Speaker 4: ended things. But this was almost a decade ago. I've

1267
01:03:03,000 --> 01:03:05,720
Speaker 4: obviously learned my lesson and I look back on that

1268
01:03:05,800 --> 01:03:09,120
Speaker 4: time with shame, and I've obviously never cheated since. Once

1269
01:03:09,160 --> 01:03:15,480
Speaker 4: a cheater, always a cheat. But my brother knows about this,

1270
01:03:15,880 --> 01:03:18,960
Speaker 4: so when I didn't drink, he went, hey, Sis, what

1271
01:03:19,040 --> 01:03:22,440
Speaker 4: the hell you know you cheated on X's name. You

1272
01:03:22,920 --> 01:03:27,480
Speaker 4: would have to drink to that, Oh bro, brothers spilling

1273
01:03:27,600 --> 01:03:33,320
Speaker 4: the bees literally like so bad, and like you're living dude,

1274
01:03:33,400 --> 01:03:35,560
Speaker 4: this is sticky, this is bad.

1275
01:03:35,800 --> 01:03:37,720
Speaker 1: Slid around in those beans.

1276
01:03:37,400 --> 01:03:39,520
Speaker 2: Dude, creamy, creamy beans.

1277
01:03:39,560 --> 01:03:42,600
Speaker 4: God, that's a barrel of nut juice just all over

1278
01:03:42,640 --> 01:03:47,880
Speaker 4: the floor, gravy. I am I would be impregnated with shame.

1279
01:03:48,040 --> 01:03:51,160
Speaker 4: Oh dude, yeah, I'm I'm I'm dragging my asshole like

1280
01:03:51,200 --> 01:03:54,960
Speaker 4: a dog through that that bean juice, hoping to slurp

1281
01:03:55,040 --> 01:03:58,160
Speaker 4: something up that. Ladies and gentlemen, is where we stopped

1282
01:03:58,200 --> 01:04:00,760
Speaker 4: the banter and go back to the story. This is

1283
01:04:00,800 --> 01:04:05,280
Speaker 4: for you podcast listeners. We love our podcast dude, honestly, everything.

1284
01:04:05,720 --> 01:04:08,840
Speaker 4: Don't cut this, editors, because we we love you guys.

1285
01:04:08,920 --> 01:04:12,240
Speaker 4: We are infiltrating, infiltrating your ear holes on probably a

1286
01:04:12,320 --> 01:04:15,520
Speaker 4: daily base, Daily base. I couldn't be more thrilled. I

1287
01:04:16,120 --> 01:04:20,080
Speaker 4: am sexually thrilled by that thought, dude, very much. Yeah,

1288
01:04:21,080 --> 01:04:25,919
Speaker 4: but you know who's not thrilled? Who Ope's fiance, right,

1289
01:04:25,960 --> 01:04:29,240
Speaker 4: So I just to recap really quick. So basically all

1290
01:04:29,280 --> 01:04:32,720
Speaker 4: of them are playing and never have ever including Opiece fiancee,

1291
01:04:33,080 --> 01:04:35,720
Speaker 4: OPI and O piece brother they played never have I

1292
01:04:35,800 --> 01:04:38,520
Speaker 4: had ever, Never have I ever cheated? She doesn't drink

1293
01:04:38,720 --> 01:04:42,480
Speaker 4: brothers like you cheated. And now fiance heard and he's

1294
01:04:42,560 --> 01:04:46,080
Speaker 4: super against cheating. So so we're about he's about to

1295
01:04:46,160 --> 01:04:47,720
Speaker 4: be in some hot water. Yeah, dude, it is not

1296
01:04:47,840 --> 01:04:49,480
Speaker 4: It's not going to be pretty. I can promise you that.

1297
01:04:49,640 --> 01:04:49,840
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1298
01:04:49,960 --> 01:04:52,360
Speaker 4: Okay, hey it's John your og host here. We're gonna

1299
01:04:52,360 --> 01:04:53,760
Speaker 4: get back to the stories. But here's a quick three

1300
01:04:53,800 --> 01:04:56,960
Speaker 4: minute break of ass from we're sponsors. My boyfriend paused

1301
01:04:57,560 --> 01:04:59,520
Speaker 4: and looked at me. Oh no, I looked at him,

1302
01:05:00,400 --> 01:05:03,400
Speaker 4: and my boyfriend walked out of the room. Man is

1303
01:05:03,800 --> 01:05:04,720
Speaker 4: very against cheating.

1304
01:05:04,840 --> 01:05:06,600
Speaker 1: He's out of here. Have you ever heard of like

1305
01:05:06,680 --> 01:05:10,120
Speaker 1: the three second rule? He had sex for less than

1306
01:05:10,160 --> 01:05:14,120
Speaker 1: three seconds. Yep, doesn't count as cheating, dude. Also, Mormons,

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01:05:14,480 --> 01:05:18,080
Speaker 1: Mormons soaking soaking. If you soak, is it a stroke?

1308
01:05:18,320 --> 01:05:20,640
Speaker 1: It isn't. As long as you're not stroking, then it

1309
01:05:20,840 --> 01:05:21,280
Speaker 1: is soaking.

1310
01:05:21,560 --> 01:05:23,919
Speaker 2: Wow, which is not sex. That is I mean, we've

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01:05:24,040 --> 01:05:25,120
Speaker 2: we've we've solved it.

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01:05:25,680 --> 01:05:28,680
Speaker 4: We went from we were from the most anti cheaters

1313
01:05:28,760 --> 01:05:32,600
Speaker 4: possible to writing the playbook on how to cheat. No,

1314
01:05:33,680 --> 01:05:36,880
Speaker 4: because it's not cheating right right, it's so it's more

1315
01:05:37,040 --> 01:05:38,520
Speaker 4: like a like a peepee hug.

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01:05:39,040 --> 01:05:39,760
Speaker 2: Right. Yeah.

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01:05:40,040 --> 01:05:42,760
Speaker 4: You know, dude, sometimes sometimes your wiener just needs a

1318
01:05:42,800 --> 01:05:45,360
Speaker 4: little yeah shaft.

1319
01:05:45,520 --> 01:05:45,680
Speaker 5: You know.

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01:05:46,640 --> 01:05:49,480
Speaker 1: You know, men need four hugs a day. Wow.

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01:05:49,880 --> 01:05:51,800
Speaker 2: That's a lot of hugs, dude, three of which need

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01:05:51,880 --> 01:05:53,200
Speaker 2: to be wow.

1323
01:05:54,520 --> 01:05:54,840
Speaker 1: Wow.

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01:05:55,720 --> 01:05:57,720
Speaker 4: When he stormed out of the room, I followed him

1325
01:05:57,760 --> 01:05:59,880
Speaker 4: and I tried to tell him it was a stupid

1326
01:06:00,360 --> 01:06:03,720
Speaker 4: teenage mistake, but he wasn't having any of it. He

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01:06:04,120 --> 01:06:09,120
Speaker 4: ended our relationship on the spot. Wow done, it's over.

1328
01:06:09,480 --> 01:06:12,720
Speaker 2: Engaged. It's over. They're engaged for a game. He ended

1329
01:06:12,760 --> 01:06:15,960
Speaker 2: it on the spot. It's over, dude. That's like that's

1330
01:06:16,160 --> 01:06:17,800
Speaker 2: not really like.

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01:06:19,840 --> 01:06:24,360
Speaker 4: God damn. I mean like you know, like like hey,

1332
01:06:24,440 --> 01:06:28,360
Speaker 4: that that one is like a pretty pretty uh intense yeah,

1333
01:06:28,360 --> 01:06:30,600
Speaker 4: because the context of it would be one thing. If

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01:06:30,880 --> 01:06:32,800
Speaker 4: it was revealed in the game, like, oh, you're cheating

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01:06:33,000 --> 01:06:36,320
Speaker 4: right now on them? Yeah, that that is like way

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01:06:36,440 --> 01:06:38,840
Speaker 4: more like okay, yeah, like I could totally see that,

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01:06:38,920 --> 01:06:42,120
Speaker 4: But this is like seventeen, ten years ago on a

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01:06:42,560 --> 01:06:43,600
Speaker 4: I mean people learned people.

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01:06:43,840 --> 01:06:47,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, like seventeen. I think I think that's not worth

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Speaker 2: ending it on the spot.

1341
01:06:48,840 --> 01:06:53,320
Speaker 4: But I maybe maybe the issue is not the fact

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01:06:53,360 --> 01:06:57,360
Speaker 4: that she cheated at seventeen, but more that when the

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01:06:58,000 --> 01:07:00,640
Speaker 4: conversation of hey, have you ever cheated on a partner before?

1344
01:07:00,720 --> 01:07:01,760
Speaker 1: She never brought that up.

1345
01:07:02,000 --> 01:07:05,640
Speaker 4: Yes, we we don't know a thousand percent if, but

1346
01:07:07,040 --> 01:07:09,400
Speaker 4: the cheating conversation must have happened because.

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01:07:09,680 --> 01:07:14,200
Speaker 1: She well yeah, and Op says, so that's the time

1348
01:07:14,320 --> 01:07:17,439
Speaker 1: he knows how much like he hates cheater.

1349
01:07:17,600 --> 01:07:20,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, there there has to have been so, yeah, has to.

1350
01:07:20,960 --> 01:07:24,360
Speaker 1: Have Yeah, there should have been an opportunity. Big yikes, dude, big.

1351
01:07:24,400 --> 01:07:26,360
Speaker 2: Well, let's let's see it. Let's see how she's doing.

1352
01:07:26,560 --> 01:07:27,120
Speaker 2: I'm numb.

1353
01:07:27,560 --> 01:07:31,160
Speaker 4: I'm heartbroken. He was my everything and more and I

1354
01:07:31,280 --> 01:07:33,720
Speaker 4: still don't know how I'm going to move on. My

1355
01:07:33,840 --> 01:07:37,600
Speaker 4: brother Connor tried to apologize, but I feel nothing but

1356
01:07:37,920 --> 01:07:42,040
Speaker 4: sadness and emptiness. This morning, I served him in eviction.

1357
01:07:42,200 --> 01:07:46,320
Speaker 4: Notice the brother, the brother, he's out. I mean, he's gone.

1358
01:07:46,520 --> 01:07:48,120
Speaker 1: You ended this whole freaking thing.

1359
01:07:48,240 --> 01:07:49,600
Speaker 2: I mean it's pretty it's pretty rough.

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Speaker 4: He begged me to stay and said he didn't mean

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01:07:52,840 --> 01:07:55,840
Speaker 4: to ruin my relationship, and he just didn't think when

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01:07:55,880 --> 01:07:56,720
Speaker 4: he said those words.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm not going to think about him not a viction.

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Speaker 4: Yeah about kicking yo. Yeah, after I raised him and

1365
01:08:04,080 --> 01:08:06,480
Speaker 4: cared for him like he was my own. I feel

1366
01:08:06,600 --> 01:08:09,720
Speaker 4: so hurt. Am I being unreasonable?

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Speaker 2: Sam?

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Speaker 4: You know, we talk about a lot of really hard

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Speaker 2: Oh yes, back to the episode.

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Speaker 4: Now, I can understand that Opie's like brain is like

1401
01:09:37,320 --> 01:09:40,000
Speaker 4: super clouded, like this probably happened right after like like

1402
01:09:40,120 --> 01:09:42,160
Speaker 4: Ope served the evictional It's like right after it happened.

1403
01:09:42,280 --> 01:09:49,040
Speaker 4: Brain is clouded. It's absolutely completely ft. But I truly

1404
01:09:49,160 --> 01:09:53,120
Speaker 4: do not think that Opie's brother observes no brothers. It's

1405
01:09:53,160 --> 01:09:56,160
Speaker 4: not his thought that she kept this from her fiance.

1406
01:09:56,360 --> 01:09:57,160
Speaker 2: That's a great point.

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01:09:57,200 --> 01:09:59,080
Speaker 4: I didn't even think about that because I mean, like, look,

1408
01:09:59,400 --> 01:10:01,080
Speaker 4: at the end of the day, he obviously shouldn't have

1409
01:10:01,080 --> 01:10:03,719
Speaker 4: blurted that out, but it was it was an accident,

1410
01:10:03,880 --> 01:10:06,320
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, Like, I I will give

1411
01:10:06,439 --> 01:10:08,800
Speaker 4: him the past there. I understand why op he's like

1412
01:10:08,960 --> 01:10:11,880
Speaker 4: super upset, but I think it's way too much to

1413
01:10:11,920 --> 01:10:14,719
Speaker 4: kick him out, especially when he's like you know, already been.

1414
01:10:14,760 --> 01:10:18,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I think it is a lot to

1415
01:10:18,439 --> 01:10:21,240
Speaker 1: kick him out, and just especially it feels like it's

1416
01:10:21,439 --> 01:10:25,720
Speaker 1: Opie's fault honestly in terms of it fourth right with

1417
01:10:25,960 --> 01:10:29,479
Speaker 1: her fiance, and like, I think that just goes generally

1418
01:10:29,800 --> 01:10:33,599
Speaker 1: for keeping secrets. Ideally you're not living a double life ever,

1419
01:10:34,240 --> 01:10:37,479
Speaker 1: and even in small ways like my for better or

1420
01:10:37,479 --> 01:10:40,800
Speaker 1: for worse, my kind of philosophy has been to tell

1421
01:10:41,080 --> 01:10:44,240
Speaker 1: all people in all areas of my life essentially the

1422
01:10:44,320 --> 01:10:47,519
Speaker 1: whole picture. Yeah, So, like things don't sneak up on me. Yeah,

1423
01:10:48,080 --> 01:10:50,040
Speaker 1: because then it's like, okay, if I'm just transparent with everyone,

1424
01:10:50,080 --> 01:10:52,519
Speaker 1: everyone knows who like sam is, it's true and there's

1425
01:10:52,520 --> 01:10:58,280
Speaker 1: nothing podcast listeners my goodness, But like, did I did

1426
01:10:58,320 --> 01:10:59,960
Speaker 1: you tell her to tell you that story with patients.

1427
01:11:00,280 --> 01:11:03,439
Speaker 1: The two ex girlfriends ago. She never like we were

1428
01:11:03,479 --> 01:11:07,160
Speaker 1: living together, and she never told her parents. Interesting yeah

1429
01:11:07,200 --> 01:11:10,640
Speaker 1: her and I learned later that her parents were like

1430
01:11:11,000 --> 01:11:15,200
Speaker 1: very very religious and would have been like maybe not

1431
01:11:15,320 --> 01:11:19,320
Speaker 1: disown level, but if they found out, and like that's

1432
01:11:19,439 --> 01:11:23,240
Speaker 1: like that kind of double life is something that it's

1433
01:11:23,360 --> 01:11:25,880
Speaker 1: difficult on the partner because when it comes like then

1434
01:11:25,920 --> 01:11:28,519
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, if I slip up right like the

1435
01:11:29,240 --> 01:11:32,439
Speaker 1: like then I'm blamed, which I don't think she is, right.

1436
01:11:32,400 --> 01:11:35,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, Yeah, it's this is a case

1437
01:11:35,120 --> 01:11:38,519
Speaker 4: of like oh, if OP had community, probably if OPI

1438
01:11:38,600 --> 01:11:40,880
Speaker 4: had communicated this in the right way, in the right setting,

1439
01:11:40,920 --> 01:11:43,240
Speaker 4: and all this stuff. Like I mean again, I think

1440
01:11:43,400 --> 01:11:47,320
Speaker 4: everyone kind of like overreacted in all the scenarios. Like again,

1441
01:11:47,760 --> 01:11:51,120
Speaker 4: Hunter leaving it was ten years ago when she's seventeen.

1442
01:11:51,560 --> 01:11:56,080
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I think over yes, yes, overreaction on all accounts,

1443
01:11:56,120 --> 01:11:59,400
Speaker 1: on all I agree problem because like because then like

1444
01:11:59,680 --> 01:12:03,200
Speaker 1: it's Hunter too, because Hunters should not have left just

1445
01:12:03,360 --> 01:12:05,400
Speaker 1: because of that, in my opinion, like that that is.

1446
01:12:05,600 --> 01:12:08,200
Speaker 4: I should have liked like just listened for more context.

1447
01:12:08,479 --> 01:12:11,400
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, like like do you really like are you

1448
01:12:11,479 --> 01:12:14,559
Speaker 4: really ready the end of relationship that quick over something like.

1449
01:12:14,600 --> 01:12:17,600
Speaker 1: That, and you know what this comes up in us.

1450
01:12:18,280 --> 01:12:21,920
Speaker 1: Actually there was the story we did with the girl

1451
01:12:22,080 --> 01:12:25,360
Speaker 1: that saw this guy at the gas station. Yes, and

1452
01:12:25,800 --> 01:12:28,560
Speaker 1: left right and then like the op is just like

1453
01:12:28,880 --> 01:12:31,320
Speaker 1: and just something snapped and she left and I don't like,

1454
01:12:31,640 --> 01:12:33,160
Speaker 1: I don't know how she could, Like maybe it's left

1455
01:12:33,240 --> 01:12:35,040
Speaker 1: fst tight. I don't know how she left. All the

1456
01:12:35,160 --> 01:12:37,240
Speaker 1: comments were like, bro, like she was just looking for

1457
01:12:37,280 --> 01:12:41,120
Speaker 1: an out. Yeah, you know, and like maybe OPI's fiance

1458
01:12:41,520 --> 01:12:43,120
Speaker 1: same way, like he was just looking for an out.

1459
01:12:43,280 --> 01:12:45,080
Speaker 1: She kind of gave it to him. This was a

1460
01:12:45,479 --> 01:12:47,679
Speaker 1: time to just like get out of a relationship. Maybe

1461
01:12:47,720 --> 01:12:50,559
Speaker 1: he wasn't super passionate about right, Bro. People are crazy

1462
01:12:50,800 --> 01:12:54,080
Speaker 1: also really quick back to the patient story. Yes, they

1463
01:12:54,120 --> 01:12:57,759
Speaker 1: were so anti us being in the same living quarters

1464
01:12:57,800 --> 01:13:00,840
Speaker 1: together that they freaked out when they saw a picture

1465
01:13:00,840 --> 01:13:01,479
Speaker 1: of us camping.

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01:13:02,400 --> 01:13:05,000
Speaker 2: Yes, I know the people you're talking abou. Yeah.

1467
01:13:05,600 --> 01:13:07,640
Speaker 1: The dad was like, Dad was like, I'm gonna like,

1468
01:13:07,720 --> 01:13:11,639
Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't believe he's flaunting that uh where

1469
01:13:11,840 --> 01:13:15,360
Speaker 1: he's having intercourse with my daughter, like by showing a

1470
01:13:15,439 --> 01:13:16,640
Speaker 1: picture of like I like.

1471
01:13:17,240 --> 01:13:18,479
Speaker 2: Them in a tent.

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01:13:18,800 --> 01:13:19,680
Speaker 4: It wasn't even a tent.

1473
01:13:19,760 --> 01:13:21,400
Speaker 2: It was outside the tent. It was just it was

1474
01:13:21,520 --> 01:13:25,840
Speaker 2: just like we're going camping, and uh, everyone knows what

1475
01:13:25,960 --> 01:13:26,960
Speaker 2: goes down in the tent.

1476
01:13:27,200 --> 01:13:29,519
Speaker 1: Hey, I'm not saying things didn't go down to the tent,

1477
01:13:29,920 --> 01:13:33,080
Speaker 1: but that was crazy. The main thing was that we're camping,

1478
01:13:33,600 --> 01:13:35,840
Speaker 1: not that I'm doing anything with your daughter.

1479
01:13:36,040 --> 01:13:40,200
Speaker 4: So though I was, wow, what what what an elaborate

1480
01:13:40,320 --> 01:13:45,400
Speaker 4: rouse you you decide to invent this camping? Camping? Just

1481
01:13:45,680 --> 01:13:46,360
Speaker 4: display what.

1482
01:13:46,439 --> 01:13:47,760
Speaker 2: An evil mastermind?

1483
01:13:48,080 --> 01:13:50,200
Speaker 1: But no, it was so I can only imagine if

1484
01:13:50,200 --> 01:13:53,640
Speaker 1: they got mad about one day of camping. H how

1485
01:13:53,680 --> 01:13:56,040
Speaker 1: about like a like a year of living in the

1486
01:13:56,080 --> 01:13:59,320
Speaker 1: same apartment. I always be honest, always be and that's

1487
01:13:59,360 --> 01:14:00,479
Speaker 1: why I have this to you.

1488
01:14:00,600 --> 01:14:00,880
Speaker 2: Guys.

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01:14:01,000 --> 01:14:06,200
Speaker 1: Wow, anyone's still listening to this god forsaken tale, I

1490
01:14:06,360 --> 01:14:08,800
Speaker 1: appreciate you. Yeah, And if you see me in the street,

1491
01:14:09,240 --> 01:14:14,080
Speaker 1: keep the ship to yourself. Don't yelling, don't yelling, say

1492
01:14:14,200 --> 01:14:15,120
Speaker 1: I say hi Hi.

1493
01:14:15,720 --> 01:14:17,880
Speaker 2: Don't be a connor. Don't be a conner.

1494
01:14:18,080 --> 01:14:21,040
Speaker 1: Don't be a connor, because this is the little family

1495
01:14:21,120 --> 01:14:23,840
Speaker 1: can now a little you know family, keep it we

1496
01:14:23,960 --> 01:14:26,759
Speaker 1: keep it in, keep it in the family. Arianna recently

1497
01:14:26,880 --> 01:14:29,880
Speaker 1: found out that we told personal stories on this podcast. Yeah,

1498
01:14:30,240 --> 01:14:32,120
Speaker 1: and she's like, I thought you guys just read like

1499
01:14:32,840 --> 01:14:35,120
Speaker 1: reddit stories, it like other people's lives.

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01:14:35,200 --> 01:14:35,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, I didn't know you.

1501
01:14:36,360 --> 01:14:36,479
Speaker 2: Uh.

1502
01:14:36,640 --> 01:14:38,600
Speaker 1: And now she wants to listen to all the episodes

1503
01:14:38,680 --> 01:14:41,160
Speaker 1: to see, like, here we go what has been said?

1504
01:14:41,240 --> 01:14:42,640
Speaker 1: This is going to be interesting, and this is how

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01:14:42,720 --> 01:14:43,599
Speaker 1: we get one more listener.

1506
01:14:43,800 --> 01:14:47,400
Speaker 4: That's right, Yes, it's all a secret plot. Yeah, we've

1507
01:14:47,400 --> 01:14:50,000
Speaker 4: earned years year zero one more sense for listen, Lelly.

1508
01:14:50,800 --> 01:14:53,160
Speaker 4: My girlfriend broke up with me, had a baby with

1509
01:14:53,280 --> 01:14:56,040
Speaker 4: another man. Now she's dying and wants me to adopt

1510
01:14:56,080 --> 01:14:56,400
Speaker 4: the kid.

1511
01:14:56,720 --> 01:15:03,720
Speaker 5: Okay, OPI but dumb, dumb but dumb, dumb but dumb,

1512
01:15:03,840 --> 01:15:09,080
Speaker 5: dumb but dum dumb dumb dumb.

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01:15:11,600 --> 01:15:15,400
Speaker 2: Storre storre store and.

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01:15:15,439 --> 01:15:18,799
Speaker 1: The crowd goes wild. That was That was John's nineteen

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01:15:18,920 --> 01:15:21,160
Speaker 1: sixties uh talk show.

1516
01:15:21,439 --> 01:15:25,559
Speaker 4: Wow, thank you so much, welcome back. My girlfriend broke

1517
01:15:25,680 --> 01:15:28,160
Speaker 4: up with me, had a baby with another man. Now

1518
01:15:28,240 --> 01:15:30,320
Speaker 4: she's dying and wants me to adopt the kid.

1519
01:15:30,600 --> 01:15:33,400
Speaker 1: That is a roller coaster, But I want to strap

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Speaker 1: in and get ready to go on the loop de loops.

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Speaker 2: Not a situation I would want to be in.

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Speaker 4: No, but I want to hear about it and live

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01:15:39,760 --> 01:15:42,840
Speaker 4: vicariously throughout thes pain. I thirty one m met my

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01:15:42,960 --> 01:15:46,040
Speaker 4: ex girlfriend, twenty nine female on a dating app around

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01:15:46,080 --> 01:15:48,479
Speaker 4: seven years ago. She had a son just six months.

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Speaker 4: All of the time she was with multiple guys and

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Speaker 4: ended up pregnant, still not knowing who the biological father is.

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01:15:54,920 --> 01:15:58,360
Speaker 4: Ooh big oof ouch. But it wasn't that much of

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Speaker 4: an issue to me because she seemed like a great

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01:16:00,880 --> 01:16:03,560
Speaker 4: person and we had a lot in common. After a

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Speaker 4: few weeks of chatting and talking online, we went on

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Speaker 4: a first date and had a great time. After that,

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Speaker 4: we just started hanging out whenever she could, and shortly

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Speaker 4: after she introduced me to her son. A few months

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Speaker 4: into our relationship, we moved in together to save money. Dude,

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01:16:17,120 --> 01:16:20,479
Speaker 4: you shouldn't move in with someone to save money if

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Speaker 4: it's a romantic partner, because that's when things can go

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01:16:23,520 --> 01:16:25,720
Speaker 4: buy it and a few months like that's not a

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Speaker 4: lot of time. I started helping take care of her

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01:16:27,640 --> 01:16:30,000
Speaker 4: child whenever I could, and we really grew fond of

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Speaker 4: each other, and he even started calling me Papa, and

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Speaker 4: we just went along with it since my girlfriend didn't mind. Now,

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01:16:36,280 --> 01:16:40,200
Speaker 4: almost five years into our relationship. She told me that

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01:16:40,320 --> 01:16:42,840
Speaker 4: she wants to break up with me because I became

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01:16:42,960 --> 01:16:46,479
Speaker 4: boring and not an active person like I used to be.

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Speaker 1: That hurts man, not even like, yeah, you know, I

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01:16:50,240 --> 01:16:52,760
Speaker 1: think our lives are just going in different directions, like

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01:16:53,240 --> 01:16:57,880
Speaker 1: you're boring and you're fat and ugly.

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Speaker 2: And I a too.

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01:16:58,920 --> 01:17:01,000
Speaker 4: We used to go on hikes and travel around the

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01:17:01,040 --> 01:17:04,599
Speaker 4: country on weekends, so I obviously don't do that much anymore.

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01:17:05,000 --> 01:17:06,840
Speaker 2: And she also said I work too much.

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01:17:07,080 --> 01:17:09,639
Speaker 4: You know the cherry on the cake, dah, I'm trying

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01:17:09,680 --> 01:17:12,280
Speaker 4: to provide for the family. It was a rough time

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01:17:12,400 --> 01:17:14,479
Speaker 4: after that, and I had a hard time accepting it,

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01:17:14,520 --> 01:17:17,040
Speaker 4: although not as hard as explaining to a five year

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01:17:17,080 --> 01:17:20,559
Speaker 4: old that he'll no longer be seeing as popable, oh bro.

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01:17:21,280 --> 01:17:23,800
Speaker 4: But I managed to get over it in a few months.

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01:17:24,000 --> 01:17:26,559
Speaker 4: I found a better job than allowed me to work remotely,

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01:17:27,000 --> 01:17:28,280
Speaker 4: and I had a lot of free time, so I

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01:17:28,400 --> 01:17:30,920
Speaker 4: actually ended up exploring a few other countries.

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Speaker 2: Sick.

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01:17:31,840 --> 01:17:35,360
Speaker 4: Sometimes you gotta drop the baggage to become a free man.

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Speaker 1: Don't check it in, just put it on. Carry on now.

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01:17:39,200 --> 01:17:41,719
Speaker 4: A few days ago, I got a call from my ex,

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01:17:42,280 --> 01:17:45,120
Speaker 4: so you know, time is passed Okay. She said that

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01:17:45,280 --> 01:17:48,760
Speaker 4: she is sick and in the hospital. She removed one

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01:17:48,800 --> 01:17:52,400
Speaker 4: of the tumors in her breast, but recently found another

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01:17:52,520 --> 01:17:55,200
Speaker 4: tumor in her other breast and she will need that

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Speaker 4: removed as well. So like this is this is serious,

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01:17:58,040 --> 01:18:01,240
Speaker 4: serious stuff right here. Yeah, she is scared that she

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01:18:01,400 --> 01:18:04,320
Speaker 4: might die if it doesn't work out. Oh no, asked

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Speaker 4: me if I'd be willing to become her son's legal

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Speaker 4: guardian and adopt him since she has no one else

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Speaker 4: to ask.

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Speaker 2: Frick dude, that is such a tough ask.

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01:18:13,640 --> 01:18:17,439
Speaker 4: Now, as mentioned, I live a different lifestyle now, he's

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01:18:17,520 --> 01:18:19,200
Speaker 4: no longer boring because of her.

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01:18:19,439 --> 01:18:20,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, he ain't got the time.

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01:18:21,280 --> 01:18:24,280
Speaker 4: I travel a lot. I invest in myself, So I

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01:18:24,439 --> 01:18:27,240
Speaker 4: told her that I can't do that. She told me

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01:18:27,360 --> 01:18:29,600
Speaker 4: that her son misses me and would love to see me,

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01:18:30,200 --> 01:18:33,599
Speaker 4: but I said no again, And after I said no again,

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Speaker 4: she started crying, calling me names before just ending the call. Now,

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01:18:37,760 --> 01:18:39,640
Speaker 4: I talked to my sister and my parents about this,

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01:18:40,080 --> 01:18:42,400
Speaker 4: and they told me that it's an effed up thing

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Speaker 4: to refuse after all those years that we spent together.

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Speaker 2: I feel like trash now.

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Speaker 4: So the question is am I the a hole for

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Speaker 4: not wanting to adopt my dying ex girlfriend's child.

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Speaker 1: Oh dude, frick Like, dude, this is so tough. I

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01:19:04,280 --> 01:19:07,960
Speaker 1: don't think he's an a hole for saying no. I

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01:19:08,080 --> 01:19:12,880
Speaker 1: mean like it's like it's not his problem necessarily. It's

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Speaker 1: definitely not the nicest thing he could do. Like the

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01:19:15,000 --> 01:19:17,519
Speaker 1: nicest thing he could do would be to adopt his

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01:19:17,680 --> 01:19:22,880
Speaker 1: ex girlfriends his dying ex girlfriend's kid. But like it's

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01:19:22,920 --> 01:19:26,639
Speaker 1: not his responsibility, right, Like he's he's not related by blood.

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01:19:26,640 --> 01:19:28,800
Speaker 1: He dated this girl for a couple of years, and

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01:19:29,880 --> 01:19:32,200
Speaker 1: you know, the girl had a kid, but that doesn't

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01:19:32,200 --> 01:19:35,240
Speaker 1: mean that it's suddenly his kid. And also the girl

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01:19:35,280 --> 01:19:35,720
Speaker 1: broke up.

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01:19:35,680 --> 01:19:38,200
Speaker 4: With him exactly. Actually, there there was an interesting comment

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01:19:38,520 --> 01:19:41,600
Speaker 4: that I pulled in that in that regard. So this

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01:19:41,720 --> 01:19:45,400
Speaker 4: is from Unpopular Kryptonite. Great handle there, Oh I actually

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01:19:45,439 --> 01:19:49,040
Speaker 4: got some kryptonite right here. Uh oh, but yeah, that

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01:19:49,280 --> 01:19:53,960
Speaker 4: is right there, Crystal. I've been crystaled. I'm a Crystal boy.

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01:19:54,000 --> 01:19:57,400
Speaker 4: Now do Crystal say in sports sports? Crystal sport boys?

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01:19:59,160 --> 01:20:01,040
Speaker 4: So on popular crypt and I says, not the a

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01:20:01,120 --> 01:20:03,519
Speaker 4: whole don't do it. The kid doesn't remember you. It's

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01:20:03,560 --> 01:20:06,040
Speaker 4: been two years. She can ask one of the more

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01:20:06,120 --> 01:20:09,200
Speaker 4: interesting excess to adopt her since you.

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Speaker 2: Were so boring.

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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, you know, I totally forgot how mean she

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01:20:14,520 --> 01:20:15,960
Speaker 4: was when she broke up with her exactly.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. That's the thing is like she's like, you're so boring,

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01:20:18,360 --> 01:20:24,759
Speaker 2: Like I ask one of your more savage super savage.

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01:20:25,720 --> 01:20:28,880
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean in the end, although really quick,

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01:20:28,920 --> 01:20:31,760
Speaker 1: I don't like if you want an empathetic answer, the

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01:20:31,840 --> 01:20:33,120
Speaker 1: reddit comments.

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01:20:32,920 --> 01:20:35,280
Speaker 2: Are the worst place, you know, if you want to

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01:20:35,320 --> 01:20:37,120
Speaker 2: go there for the empathy, like you're.

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01:20:37,000 --> 01:20:39,280
Speaker 1: You're not Like, if you want to become a better person,

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01:20:39,520 --> 01:20:42,800
Speaker 1: just just don't take the advice of reddit comments. Reddit

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01:20:42,840 --> 01:20:46,360
Speaker 1: comments are like that that girl is you know, crazy

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01:20:46,520 --> 01:20:52,000
Speaker 1: or she's a completely b But you know, we were

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01:20:52,040 --> 01:20:54,080
Speaker 1: out here trying to be mother Teresa. We're so you know,

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01:20:54,400 --> 01:20:56,400
Speaker 1: we're trying to be better humans. I have a little

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01:20:56,400 --> 01:20:58,600
Speaker 1: sugar to your side, you know what I mean? Like

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01:20:58,680 --> 01:21:01,439
Speaker 1: I had an ex girlfriend of like three years. She

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Speaker 1: has a couple of sisters or like like what no,

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01:21:05,160 --> 01:21:06,080
Speaker 1: four or five years ago?

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01:21:07,760 --> 01:21:09,200
Speaker 2: Like you dated her for four or five years.

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01:21:09,200 --> 01:21:10,840
Speaker 4: So I did her for two years and it ended

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01:21:10,880 --> 01:21:11,680
Speaker 4: like four or five years ago.

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Speaker 2: Okay, got it? Got it?

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Speaker 4: If she suddenly said Sam, I'm dying, Can you adopt

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01:21:16,400 --> 01:21:22,200
Speaker 4: my sister? I'll be like, Bro, you broke up with me. Yeah,

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01:21:22,840 --> 01:21:27,040
Speaker 4: it's I don't think I'm like, uh no, I you

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01:21:27,120 --> 01:21:31,400
Speaker 4: know that I've moved on. I'm living my life. I

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01:21:31,479 --> 01:21:32,679
Speaker 4: got other things to worry about.

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Speaker 2: I think.

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01:21:33,200 --> 01:21:36,240
Speaker 4: I think that's like basically, if you break up with someone,

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01:21:36,560 --> 01:21:39,720
Speaker 4: it's an opt out for their family essentially, Like you're

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01:21:39,760 --> 01:21:42,439
Speaker 4: basically saying like, I don't want you in my life, Like, yeah,

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01:21:42,479 --> 01:21:44,639
Speaker 4: I don't want you in my family, I don't want

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01:21:44,640 --> 01:21:47,080
Speaker 4: you in my life. Go in my family's life. Yeah,

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01:21:47,160 --> 01:21:49,160
Speaker 4: And you can't just like say like hey, you know,

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01:21:49,400 --> 01:21:51,320
Speaker 4: like whenever you when you need something for someone else,

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01:21:51,360 --> 01:21:52,840
Speaker 4: if you're in your family, just like hey, like I

1650
01:21:52,920 --> 01:21:53,400
Speaker 4: need your help.

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01:21:53,479 --> 01:21:55,160
Speaker 2: Like that's not how it works. No, No, it's like,

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01:21:55,280 --> 01:21:57,200
Speaker 2: oh he really wanted to that's fine. But yeah.

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01:21:57,720 --> 01:22:01,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I think it's okay for her to ask,

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01:22:03,760 --> 01:22:06,080
Speaker 1: that's a fair Yeah, but I don't think it's Op's

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01:22:06,080 --> 01:22:10,080
Speaker 1: responsibility to say yes yes or to guilt trip him. Yeah. Yeah,

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01:22:11,400 --> 01:22:13,360
Speaker 1: but you know what, it is okay to guilt trip you.

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