WEBVTT - Let's Find Joy...with Melissa Etheridge

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<v Speaker 1>This is Let's be clear with Shannon Doherty. Hello, my friends,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome to this wonderful podcast. I am honored to be

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<v Speaker 1>here as a guest. I love that you all have

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<v Speaker 1>a different one every time. This is all in the

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<v Speaker 1>spirit of Shannon. I know you spend a long time

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<v Speaker 1>love and listen to her. And I am Melissa Ethridge

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm looking forward to chatting with you a little today.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to bring the topic of love and fear

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<v Speaker 1>and the importance of joy. Now. I know we lost

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<v Speaker 1>Shannon to cancer, and I myself was a cancer I

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<v Speaker 1>experienced cancer. Let's say that. I like to call myself

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<v Speaker 1>a thriver. Now. I don't think I'm just surviving. I

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<v Speaker 1>believe I'm thriving. It was twenty years ago I had

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<v Speaker 1>my experienceperience with cancer, and my life has been very different.

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<v Speaker 1>And I tell people, I let them know that cancer

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<v Speaker 1>was actually the best thing that happened to me. I

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<v Speaker 1>know we've lost many people that we love. I know

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<v Speaker 1>there's many of us who are out there right now

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<v Speaker 1>dealing with it that are very fearful. Well, let me

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<v Speaker 1>tell you my experience. That's all I can do is

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<v Speaker 1>tell you my story, because that's all we are is

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<v Speaker 1>our stories now. If you aren't familiar with me, I

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<v Speaker 1>am a singer, songwriter. A people ask me what I am.

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<v Speaker 1>I say I'm a rock star because I like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I like to let people know that I write songs

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<v Speaker 1>and entertain and I've always loved that. I grew up

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<v Speaker 1>in the Midwest in the sixties and seventies, and it

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<v Speaker 1>was very well my family. I didn't have a a

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<v Speaker 1>terribly bad childhood. I had a very quiet childhood, I

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<v Speaker 1>like to say, because I grew up in the time

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<v Speaker 1>where my parents lived that life of if there's anything

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<v Speaker 1>wrong in the family, you don't talk about it, you

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<v Speaker 1>don't air your dirty laundry, you put it, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>under you pretend everything's okay. And as I grew, as

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<v Speaker 1>I became a teenager and adolescence, I realized that my

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<v Speaker 1>mother was incredibly unhappy. She was very intelligent. She had

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<v Speaker 1>a job working, which was unusual in the seventies, and

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<v Speaker 1>she actually made more money than my father. But the

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<v Speaker 1>work that she did, she was one of the first

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<v Speaker 1>computer programmers. If you know the movie Hidden Figures, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what she was. She worked in those big rooms and

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<v Speaker 1>she programmed the computers and she did it at the

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<v Speaker 1>army base which was next to our town of Leavenworth, Kansas,

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<v Speaker 1>and she would work and never get the credit and

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<v Speaker 1>certainly got paid half as much as anyone else was

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<v Speaker 1>getting paid around her. And she'll see she was very unhappy,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I was really looking forward to getting out

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<v Speaker 1>of that experience. My father, on the other hand, was

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<v Speaker 1>a high school teacher. He was a coach. He was

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<v Speaker 1>a really great guy. He supported my crazy dream of

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<v Speaker 1>being a rock star by actually taking me on the

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<v Speaker 1>weekends to play in bands in bars and clubs around.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a very unusual childhood, I realize, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was those experiences that that sort of set me up.

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<v Speaker 1>And as I look back, I don't look back and

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<v Speaker 1>want to change anything or think that it was bad.

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<v Speaker 1>I look back and I'm again grateful for that experience

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<v Speaker 1>because it enriched my life. It made me want, It

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<v Speaker 1>made me desire, and as I went through and tumbled

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<v Speaker 1>through my life and had loves and realized I was

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<v Speaker 1>gay and lived in the world in the eighties as

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<v Speaker 1>a as a gay woman in southern California, which was

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<v Speaker 1>very delightful and very educational. There's a lot of women,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of feminists in southern California in the eighties.

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<v Speaker 1>That shaped sort of the person that I am now,

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<v Speaker 1>so that when success finally came to me, I had

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<v Speaker 1>a good, solid foundation sort of in feminism and then

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<v Speaker 1>was able to achieve my greatest dreams. You know, I

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<v Speaker 1>played Madison Square Garden. My dreams came true. I had albums,

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<v Speaker 1>thousands of people listening to my music and wanting to

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<v Speaker 1>hear my music. And yet personally I was unhappy. I

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<v Speaker 1>was unfulfilled. I didn't understand what relationships were. I was

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<v Speaker 1>in a cold relationship or relationship that I kept thinking

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<v Speaker 1>I had to make that person happy. I kept thinking

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<v Speaker 1>their job was to make me happy. And I'm telling you,

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<v Speaker 1>when you think someone else is supposed to make you happy,

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<v Speaker 1>that is the first ingredient in unhappiness. Your happiness is

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<v Speaker 1>your choice. Your happiness is your job, your responsibility. A

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people, well, they think differently, but this is

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<v Speaker 1>what I believe. I was going through a divorce, my

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<v Speaker 1>first divorce. I was just trying to figure out who

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<v Speaker 1>I was. I had two children. I didn't want them

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<v Speaker 1>to have a broken home. I thought I had failed

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<v Speaker 1>at that, I had failed at relationships. I'd failed the

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<v Speaker 1>lg BTQ community by being a role model and then

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<v Speaker 1>doing it all wrong in my mind mind? And what

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<v Speaker 1>became of that stress and that desire to keep that

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<v Speaker 1>fame that I had by eating less and trying to

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<v Speaker 1>look a certain way and trying to be something, trying

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<v Speaker 1>to fit in. When when the nineties went from singer

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<v Speaker 1>songwriters to more pop music, I was like where do

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<v Speaker 1>I fit in? And I started just burning up with stress.

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<v Speaker 1>And this fear of losing everything and doing it wrong

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<v Speaker 1>and what other people thought of me was the beginning

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<v Speaker 1>of my cancer. It's very very lonely, very hard when

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<v Speaker 1>you're living your life afraid of what other people think

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<v Speaker 1>about you. That's crazy making you can't ever get out

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<v Speaker 1>of that hole. So I'll tell you. Being diagnosed with

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<v Speaker 1>cancer stopped my life all of a sudden. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>wait a minute, this is life and death. Now we're

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<v Speaker 1>talking about why is cancer with me? Yes? Cancer was

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<v Speaker 1>in my family. I'd lost my father cancer, my grandmother.

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<v Speaker 1>It was the way my body absorbed stress. It's the

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<v Speaker 1>way my body reacted to stress, and the way I

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<v Speaker 1>was eating. It was living on Vinti, Starbucks and power bars.

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<v Speaker 1>It was all just acid acid. Acid and acid is

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<v Speaker 1>what creates cancer. The environment around cells in your body.

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<v Speaker 1>That environment changes the cells to cancer cells, and all

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<v Speaker 1>of a sudden, you've got these rogue cancer cells that

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<v Speaker 1>are living in acid, and your body puts a tumor

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<v Speaker 1>over it. So that you'll know and maybe you'll change,

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe you'll change something. And the ones that survive are

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<v Speaker 1>the ones that change and do not fear change. Change

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<v Speaker 1>is everything. Changes is what you can do every single morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Change is what you can do right now. Changing your

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<v Speaker 1>mind is what you can do right now. I threw

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<v Speaker 1>myself into books and spiritual teachings. Nothing, nothing organized organized religion.

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<v Speaker 1>That's That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about

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<v Speaker 1>your own relationship with your inner person, that that voice

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<v Speaker 1>in your head. Some of the books that I started reading,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you've heard of Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm telling you, it's like a handbook to the human,

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<v Speaker 1>the whole human. If you if if you want to know, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>what's what? What? What? Four things can I do to

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<v Speaker 1>have my body run better, have my body run in

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<v Speaker 1>at at optimal speed and joy? Well, these are the things.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't take anything personally see don't take anything personally. That's

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<v Speaker 1>probably the hardest. I took everything personally. If someone I

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<v Speaker 1>used to. I used to think it was a badge

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<v Speaker 1>of honor to be able to walk into a room

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<v Speaker 1>and think I knew what everybody was thinking. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>the second agreement. Do not assume. I assumed all the time. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>that person likes me. That person doesn't. Oh, my partner's mad.

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<v Speaker 1>They're mad at me. It comes from my mother. I

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<v Speaker 1>thought she was unhappy because of me. She was unhappy

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<v Speaker 1>because she was unhappy. And when you start going, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>my happiness is my responsibility. I choose, and that's where

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<v Speaker 1>love and fear comes in. Is the choice. We all

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<v Speaker 1>have a choice every day about how we feel about anything.

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<v Speaker 1>Nobody can make us feel. If you find yourself saying

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<v Speaker 1>oh they made me feel sad, no, you observed something

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<v Speaker 1>and you chose to feel sad. I started playing a

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<v Speaker 1>game with myself. I would I traveled a lot, so

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be in the airport a lot, so I was

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<v Speaker 1>around strangers a lot, and I would I would I

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<v Speaker 1>would see someone and where I might assume right away,

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<v Speaker 1>oh that person is angry at this. I played this

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<v Speaker 1>game called Tell a different story. And if my initial

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<v Speaker 1>reaction was Oh, that person's mad, Oh that person's mean,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that person whatever, I would switch it in my

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<v Speaker 1>head and go, No, that person is an incredible sensitive

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<v Speaker 1>person who might have had something really horrible happened to

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<v Speaker 1>them just a few minutes ago, and they're fearful and

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<v Speaker 1>they don't understand, and so they are speaking it out

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<v Speaker 1>and it has nothing to do with me, not my business.

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<v Speaker 1>I used to see. I used to even go so

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<v Speaker 1>far as to someone I remember in an airport. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't understand. I saw someone who absolutely looked homeless, yet

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<v Speaker 1>they were in an airport waiting for an airplane. They

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<v Speaker 1>were like wearing a trash bag, and it just twisted

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<v Speaker 1>my mind and I went, wait a minute, this is

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<v Speaker 1>not a homeless person. This is the son of a

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<v Speaker 1>billionaire who is messed up about money and he doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>know what to do, you know. And I just I

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<v Speaker 1>changed these stories in my head. And when you do that,

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<v Speaker 1>you change the way your whole world looks. Get curious,

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<v Speaker 1>study study your own biology. Study what makes the human

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<v Speaker 1>brain work. The human brain is amazing, and yeah, we

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<v Speaker 1>only use part of it. We don't even understand how

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<v Speaker 1>what we see and how we perceive it creates around us.

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<v Speaker 1>So when I understood that there is a choice between

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<v Speaker 1>love and fear all the time, that these are the

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<v Speaker 1>dual things that are happening. We live in a dualistic universe.

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<v Speaker 1>There's this reality is dualistic. There's light and dark, up

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<v Speaker 1>and down, good and bad, and you can't have one

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<v Speaker 1>without the other. And because we have both, we see,

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<v Speaker 1>we experience. You know, there's life and death that's going

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<v Speaker 1>to happen to all of us. The third agreement is

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<v Speaker 1>be impeccable with your word. Now, some people think, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm honest, but it means so much more than that.

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<v Speaker 1>It means that everything you say, everything you create in

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<v Speaker 1>your mind and then it comes outthing is important, everything creates.

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<v Speaker 1>Being impeccable with your word is not just what you

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<v Speaker 1>say out to other people, but what you say to yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>And as women, man, we are the worst at what

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<v Speaker 1>we say to ourselves. What do you say to yourself?

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<v Speaker 1>The moment you wake up is your first thought, I

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't have had that chocolate cake last night. Oh I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so fat, I'm so we are we are so mean

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<v Speaker 1>to ourselves sometimes, I you would think, as a rock star. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>she doesn't have any problem? Are you kidding? When when

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<v Speaker 1>all I used to do is compare myself to other

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<v Speaker 1>female artists, to movie stars, to people you'd see on

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<v Speaker 1>the screen, it was it was torture. And I know

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<v Speaker 1>what other women are going through. It isn't it is not,

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<v Speaker 1>and nobody escapes it. You're not thin enough, you're not

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<v Speaker 1>pretty enough. It's why, inexplicably, these women that we think

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<v Speaker 1>are so beautiful will get their face is done because

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<v Speaker 1>it never ends. There's no there is not a woman

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<v Speaker 1>that's like, that's right, I'm the most beautiful and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>fine with it. No, we all torture ourselves because of

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<v Speaker 1>this culture we live in. So it took a while

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<v Speaker 1>for me after cancer. I would get up every day

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<v Speaker 1>and I would look in the mirror and I looked

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<v Speaker 1>like hell. For a while after cow was bald as gray, ashy,

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<v Speaker 1>it was not good. I would look at myself in

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<v Speaker 1>the mirror and I'd say, hello, gorgeous, Hello, gorgeous. I

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<v Speaker 1>just leave it at that. I wouldn't think about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't let myself go, oh you're not gorgeous or something.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just boom, Hello, gorgeous until now. It took a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of years until one day I went, hello, gorgeous,

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<v Speaker 1>and I looked and I went, ah, oh, I am gorgeous.

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<v Speaker 1>I believe it. People say seeing is believing. Believing. You

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<v Speaker 1>got to believe it first, then you will see it.

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<v Speaker 1>You will never see it if you don't believe it.

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<v Speaker 1>So you just you just water that part of you.

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<v Speaker 1>You keep it going. You go as long as you

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<v Speaker 1>can in your day with good thoughts. I mean I

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<v Speaker 1>would have like thoughts already written down. Things good things

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<v Speaker 1>that make me happy. Oh the way my children smiled,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my dog, Oh when I looked out this window.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so beautiful. That appreciation, appreciation and love are the

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<v Speaker 1>same thing. The feeling of appreciation and the feet of

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<v Speaker 1>love the same thing. So find things to appreciate. First

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<v Speaker 1>thing in the morning. You're gonna get up bam. You're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be impeccable with what you say to yourself. The

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<v Speaker 1>things we say to ourselves, would we ever say them

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<v Speaker 1>to anyone else? Make sure those words, those things are

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<v Speaker 1>true and kind. If you want a kind world, especially now,

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<v Speaker 1>which we might be on the fearful side of when

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<v Speaker 1>we are choosing how we think about the world right now,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of fear. Well, if you want a

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<v Speaker 1>kinder world, you got to be kind. You've got to

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<v Speaker 1>believe kind You've got to believe that kindness exists. You've

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<v Speaker 1>got to find kindness. You've got to walk down the

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<v Speaker 1>street and think, I'm expecting kindness from this person, and

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<v Speaker 1>then you'll see it. And that's how we change. That's

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<v Speaker 1>how we change, not only ourselves, but the world around

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<v Speaker 1>us is how we perceive it. And the fourth, the

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<v Speaker 1>fourth agreement, that's the easiest. Just do your best, do

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<v Speaker 1>your best. If you just do your best, then you

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<v Speaker 1>can't be hard on yourself. If your intention is, oh

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<v Speaker 1>I want to live a healthy life. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>be healthy, I would definitely put health before weight. Oh lord,

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<v Speaker 1>how much we weigh? Like there's an optimal weight for people?

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<v Speaker 1>There is not. There is where we land is We

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<v Speaker 1>are human beings and what is the healthiest thing? What

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<v Speaker 1>is the healthiest for us? Think about health every day. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>some of us we are under the influence of sugar,

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<v Speaker 1>of substances that make us feel good because we are not.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't we're not allowing ourselves to feel good about

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<v Speaker 1>things and so we turn to things that physologically make

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<v Speaker 1>us feel good. Sugar is one. So I cut down

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<v Speaker 1>on sugar. I understood. I understand even now that sugar

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<v Speaker 1>is sugar does a number on our body, and refined

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<v Speaker 1>sugar probably the worst I would I did. I went

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<v Speaker 1>through my life and I took all refined sugar out

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<v Speaker 1>and it means just you know that going for a

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<v Speaker 1>Snickers bar, that's that's not the choice anymore. That's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>hurt me. You know what, if I need that sugar,

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm feeling down and I want to do something

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<v Speaker 1>and I want to feel better, I'm going to make

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<v Speaker 1>something or I'm gonna have a bowl of cereal of granola,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm gonna look and it's gonna be you know,

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<v Speaker 1>sweetened with honey, which is which is a type of sugar.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just less refined and so as it hits your body,

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't, you know, put the glycemic level up, It doesn't,

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't hurt your body as much, but you're still

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<v Speaker 1>getting that sweet that makes you feel good. And then

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<v Speaker 1>another thought to put in your head. My life is

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<v Speaker 1>sweet enough. I have a sweet life. There are sweet

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<v Speaker 1>things in my life. My children are sweet my lover

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<v Speaker 1>is sweet. Oh this music that I love, it's sweet.

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<v Speaker 1>This book that I love, this television show, I love

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<v Speaker 1>this walk that I take, these clothes that I wear,

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<v Speaker 1>they're sweet. I have sweetness in my life. And then

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<v Speaker 1>those days when someone's got that favorite thing that you love,

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<v Speaker 1>that cheesecake, you love, that carrot cake or whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 1>go you know what? I love myself. I love this.

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<v Speaker 1>This isn't going to hurt me will I will eat it.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's one thing to eat sugar. But the thing

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<v Speaker 1>that's really going to get you is if you feel

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<v Speaker 1>horrible about eating the sugar. That horrible feeling will make

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<v Speaker 1>you sicker than just eating the piece of cake. If

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to eat it, celebrate it. I deserve this.

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<v Speaker 1>This is something I love in my life. This makes

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<v Speaker 1>me think about this, and it's going to go through

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<v Speaker 1>my body. I'm going to feel the effects of it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to love it, and it's going to move

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<v Speaker 1>through and move on. Be impeccable, impeccable with your word,

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<v Speaker 1>what you're saying to yourself. It's all about you, not

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<v Speaker 1>about anybody else. You don't need anyone else to do

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<v Speaker 1>anything to make you okay. To make you feel better.

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<v Speaker 1>Only you can make you feel better. You have a

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<v Speaker 1>choice of love and fear every day. You can look

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<v Speaker 1>at a piece of cake and you can love it

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<v Speaker 1>or you can fear it. And then the responses you make,

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<v Speaker 1>the reactions you make come from love and fear. You

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<v Speaker 1>can look at someone and you can choose to love

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<v Speaker 1>them or fear them. You might say, oh, how can

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<v Speaker 1>I possibly love this person? You know, you don't understand that,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know how horrible this person is. You know, well,

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<v Speaker 1>get basic, Get as basic as you can, and find

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<v Speaker 1>a place of appreciation. I could go on and on,

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<v Speaker 1>and I guess that's what this podcast is for. But

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<v Speaker 1>as I close this up for you, I want to

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<v Speaker 1>I want to emphasize that health enjoy are partners. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>now sixty three and I want to live a long time.

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<v Speaker 1>I have three children that I want to see grow.

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<v Speaker 1>I want grandchildren. There's so much more I want to

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<v Speaker 1>do and create in this life. So I plan to

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<v Speaker 1>keep my meat suit. I plan to keep it strong,

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<v Speaker 1>and I know that starts with a strong mind, strong thoughts.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to think about joy every day. Joy is

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<v Speaker 1>primary when a request comes in, when something comes in,

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<v Speaker 1>first thing, as is this going to bring me? Joy?

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<v Speaker 1>Is this going to bring and if joy is a

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<v Speaker 1>weird thing for you to think about, say satisfaction. Is

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<v Speaker 1>this a satisfying thought that what I'm thinking about this

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<v Speaker 1>person or this place or this instance, or where I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going or whatever it is. Is this a satisfying thought?

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<v Speaker 1>Choose a better thought. You can change your life absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>Read things go down crazy spiritual thoughts. If you are

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<v Speaker 1>dealing with cancer, know that this is a time for

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<v Speaker 1>you to change. And it's not about anybody else and

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<v Speaker 1>what they think you should do. It's about you. Our

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<v Speaker 1>medical system is set up to do what it can,

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<v Speaker 1>but it really is all up to you. Yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not a it's not a burden. Responsibility is not a burden.

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<v Speaker 1>It's your ability to respond. How are you going to

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<v Speaker 1>respond to this situation? Well, you're gonna you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>not assume anything. You're going to tell the best story

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<v Speaker 1>about everyone. You're not going to take anything personally. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't know when anyone else has been through. You're going

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<v Speaker 1>to walk with your own light. You're gonna you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do your best. You're going to know when you go

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<v Speaker 1>to sleep at night, you know what. It might have

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<v Speaker 1>turned out horrible, but I did the best I could,

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<v Speaker 1>and tomorrow I'm going to get up. I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>do the best I can again. Now, you're beautiful, more

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful than you know. You're more powerful than you know.

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<v Speaker 1>We've got this every day because the more light that

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<v Speaker 1>comes from you, the more light there is in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope I shared my light with you. I hope

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<v Speaker 1>you have enjoyed this. I'd love taking this time and

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<v Speaker 1>sharing it with you. Be strong, speak true, spread the peace,

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<v Speaker 1>and choose only love. It's a choice. Thank you very much.