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Speaker 1: Hey, hey, Emily. Here you are listening to five Minute

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Speaker 1: Friday from Hurdle. This week, I'm rapping about failure. It

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Speaker 1: is something that is crippling for so many and it's understandable,

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Speaker 1: right because you don't work hard at something for it

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Speaker 1: to not go as you hoped. But with that said,

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Speaker 1: there are different stakes that you are undergoing every week. Right,

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Speaker 1: Some things you may fail at and it's a bigger

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Speaker 1: deal than other things. Maybe you feel as though you

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Speaker 1: failed because you were let go from a job, or

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Speaker 1: you feel as though you failed because you were in

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Speaker 1: a long term relationship that didn't work out. Now, it

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Speaker 1: doesn't help with social media that sometimes we talk about

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Speaker 1: these things openly publicly, and then there is room for

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Speaker 1: critique from so many others when things don't go to plan.

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Speaker 1: With all of this said, my urgency for you this week,

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Speaker 1: my hope for you is that a fear of failure

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Speaker 1: doesn't prevent you from trying, because in order to get

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Speaker 1: to where you want to be, you need to be

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Speaker 1: willing to try. In order to get to where you

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Speaker 1: want to be, you need to be willing to try,

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Speaker 1: and that means that you also need to be willing

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Speaker 1: to get uncomfortable. I didn't know the first thing about

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Speaker 1: podcasting when I started podcasting, but what I did know

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Speaker 1: was that where there's a will, there's a way. And

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Speaker 1: so I started asking questions and trying new things, and

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Speaker 1: understanding that if the worst thing that could happen was

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Speaker 1: that I started exactly back at square one, then candidly

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Speaker 1: square one wasn't all that bad to begin with. This

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Speaker 1: is showing up for me right now in my life,

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Speaker 1: in maybe not as serious of a way. I have

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Speaker 1: this goal this year to get three pull ups. If

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Speaker 1: you follow me on Instagram, you have been indulging in

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Speaker 1: this journey with me. And I remember when I went

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Speaker 1: to go after my first pull up toward the end

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Speaker 1: of twenty twenty four. I was sitting about to do

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Speaker 1: a lap pull down, and the lap pull down felt

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Speaker 1: rather easy, and I thought to myself, Hmm, I wonder

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Speaker 1: if I'm capable of doing a pull up now, something

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Speaker 1: that I hadn't tried in probably about ten plus years,

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Speaker 1: certainly not in my adult life, without assistance from some

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Speaker 1: sort of a resistance band. And so I went over

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Speaker 1: there without an ego, and I went to do something

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Speaker 1: that was very possible that I could fail at and

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Speaker 1: was then sooh stoked and excited when I succeeded. This week,

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Speaker 1: I am back at it, and now I've hit one,

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Speaker 1: I've hit two, I'm leveling up to three. And today,

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Speaker 1: for the first time, I said, why don't you just try?

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Speaker 1: Why don't you just go for it? Because it is

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Speaker 1: in these moments where there is resistance that we do

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Speaker 1: learn the most. And that is the really beautiful thing

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Speaker 1: about working out right is that it is truly a

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Speaker 1: metaphor for every hard thing that we will come across

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Speaker 1: in our life. Did I get the third pull up?

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Speaker 1: It's up for debate? There was like some squirming and

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Speaker 1: some like usage, and I won't bother you with the particulars,

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Speaker 1: but what I did was that I tried, and I

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Speaker 1: wasn't scared of failing, and I realized, in the act

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Speaker 1: of failing again up for debate, that I'm better for

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Speaker 1: trying at all. And so I bring you that lesson

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Speaker 1: this week. I bring you that takeaway this week. You

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Speaker 1: that as the thing that I'm molling over. If you

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Speaker 1: don't put yourself out there, if you don't try, if

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Speaker 1: you aren't willing to fail, you might miss out on

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Speaker 1: the great things that are available to you, right as

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Speaker 1: Dakota Lindworm and Des Linden and Chelaine Flanagan and so

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Speaker 1: many of the excellent women that I've had the privilege

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Speaker 1: of sitting down with on this show have said before

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Speaker 1: going after their scary dreams, going after something that might

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Speaker 1: seem a little bit delusional is the best thing that

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Speaker 1: they had ever done for themselves. And so my prompt

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Speaker 1: for you this week is, what's something that's delusional for you?

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Speaker 1: What is that big exciting thing that's worth failing for,

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Speaker 1: that's worth putting yourself out there for. What do you

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Speaker 1: want to go after and maybe fail at, knowing that

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Speaker 1: that failure is truly actually an opportunity, right, a big opportunity,

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Speaker 1: And now a listener question, only big fan of what

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Speaker 1: you do over there? And writing in referencing last week's

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Speaker 1: Weekly Hurdle newsletter, I am working on my goals for

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Speaker 1: the new year, and candidly just feel super overwhelmed with

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Speaker 1: everything that's in front of me. I feel like there's

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Speaker 1: so much I want to do in my personal, professional, financial,

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Speaker 1: mind body, mindfulness, all of these different categories, and I'm

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Speaker 1: unsure where to begin. What am I supposed to do.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much again for everything you do. I

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Speaker 1: know this is a bit sporadic. Appreciate it, Tessa, Wow,

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Speaker 1: I get this. This is a common sentiment for so

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Speaker 1: many people when it comes to setting goals, right, And

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Speaker 1: what I will say to you is something that I

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Speaker 1: encouraged the group of individuals that I worked with last

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Speaker 1: week here in New York, and that is choose three areas.

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Speaker 1: So tonight, if you had to set one goal in

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Speaker 1: three different categories. Maybe those categories include health, finances, work, career, relationships,

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Speaker 1: personal growth, or mindfulness. Pick one goal to focus on

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Speaker 1: in each of those categories, and it will help you

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Speaker 1: narrow things down a bit. It can be great to

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Speaker 1: have a ton of different goals, but I want to

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Speaker 1: urge you if you feel like it's just too much,

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Speaker 1: get a little bit more specific. So maybe your goals

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Speaker 1: are something like get three pull ups consecutively in twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty five, or save ten thousand dollars in the next

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Speaker 1: three hundred and sixty five days, or do breathwork daily

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Speaker 1: for at least three minutes. Those are some examples of mine. Right,

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Speaker 1: start with those three and work on those three. That

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Speaker 1: doesn't mean that you can accomplish other things this year,

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Speaker 1: but it means it will give you a foundational jumping

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Speaker 1: off point where you can start to achieve, feel that

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Speaker 1: positive progress and then scale up from there. I hope

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Speaker 1: this helps make sure you're following along with hurdle over

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Speaker 1: on social It's at Hurdle podcast. I am over at

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Speaker 1: Emily Abadi another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time