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Speaker 1: My long distance girlfriend tells me not to worry about

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Speaker 1: her hot guy friend. Should I leave her? This is

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Speaker 1: okayop where we read the craziest true stories on Earth.

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Speaker 1: I'm John and Sam. The question is should this person

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Speaker 1: leave the relationship?

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Speaker 2: How hot is he and how much physical touch have

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Speaker 2: you seen in her story?

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Speaker 1: Here's the thing, here's the thing. They are almost as

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Speaker 1: hot as big protein.

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Speaker 2: Big protein is pretty hot. Sexy, mister beast over here.

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Speaker 2: If he's sexy, mister beast, I'm fucking leaving, right, I'm leaving.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if I can handle it.

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Speaker 1: You can't resist? Really?

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Speaker 2: Why can't I? What is this the beast?

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Speaker 1: That's right?

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Speaker 3: I do have a okay story, Okay, story story alert, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: about a girl that did leave her boyfriend for you.

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Speaker 2: I also have a story that's some of a girl

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Speaker 2: that left her husband for me.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god?

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Speaker 1: Double okay story time. Yeah, we'll get to it at

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Speaker 1: the end. Okay, but for now, let's get into this.

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Speaker 1: One user, is it real love? Says my girlfriend is righteous,

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Speaker 1: fair and caring to the extreme. She wouldn't hurt a

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Speaker 1: fly case in point, I once killed an aunt that

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Speaker 1: was on the table, and she actually cried with real tears. Wow,

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Speaker 1: would you kill me if I was a work? Because

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Speaker 1: she cares and because she can't see any being no

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Speaker 1: matter which one be in pain.

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Speaker 2: She should be a janist.

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Speaker 1: They don't kill bugs.

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Speaker 2: I love that, you know that.

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Speaker 1: I was going to reference that too. Hey, look at us,

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Speaker 1: woke brothers over.

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Speaker 2: The Yeah, yeah, there we go. All right, look up janis.

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Speaker 1: They don't kill bugs.

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Speaker 2: I don't kill bugs.

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Speaker 1: That's basically all I know. Now onto my issue. We're

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Speaker 1: in a long distance relationship and there's this guy at

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Speaker 1: her work that is really desperately in love with her.

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Speaker 1: In my opinion, I want to what are the receipts?

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Speaker 1: Show me prove it. It started out as them becoming

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Speaker 1: running partners while she was preparing for a marathon. They

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Speaker 1: run together three times a week before work, and long

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Speaker 1: runs at that sometimes between twenty and thirty kilometers.

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Speaker 2: That is a long run.

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Speaker 1: That's a lot your heart right up endurance. Moving together

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Speaker 1: it sounds like other activities like that.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna get hold of judgment. All with whole judgment.

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Speaker 2: I have run with my female friends who have boyfriends

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Speaker 2: or significant others, but not for there to collality.

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Speaker 1: They all left them for Sam no sex. They talk

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Speaker 1: a lot during those and got to know each other.

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Speaker 1: They hang out at work, they eat together, and then

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Speaker 1: they talk more. They are both kind of foodies. Actually,

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Speaker 1: that's one of the special things between me and her.

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Speaker 1: So they exchanged things that they cooked, for example, jam

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Speaker 1: in exchange for honey, homemade bread, things like that.

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Speaker 2: It's stacking.

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Speaker 1: Then sometimes they go to parties together, though as far

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Speaker 1: as I know, he's invited her a couple times and

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Speaker 1: she's always declined to go to a party with just

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Speaker 2: Okay, so op he's going.

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Speaker 1: It seems like she was not the one, you know,

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Speaker 1: accepting invice from him.

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Speaker 2: But OPI is going to these parties with her. When

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Speaker 2: she goes with the other, op.

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Speaker 1: Is far away and cannot attend. Right they're long distance

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Speaker 1: kind of makes everything ten times more. Who oh are they?

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Speaker 2: Do?

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Speaker 1: We know?

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Speaker 3: Twenty eight female and twenty eight.

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Speaker 2: Male older for long distance. They usually want to hear

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Speaker 2: long distance relationships. It's like college college.

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Speaker 1: So maybe mature enough to handle it.

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Speaker 2: Maybe maybe my best friend, one of my best friends

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Speaker 1: But was there a hot guy making Brett and jam

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Speaker 2: No? No, there wasn't.

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Speaker 1: That's the thing.

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Speaker 2: They had a lot of rules. You have to have

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Speaker 2: in a long distance relationship.

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Speaker 1: That is true.

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Speaker 2: If you're in a monogamous relationship, that is correct.

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Speaker 1: If they are going to a party together, it's because

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Speaker 1: it's a group thing and they belong to the same

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Speaker 1: think that they hang out nicely there too. Lastly, although

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Speaker 1: with him, they do hang out together on Sunday afternoons

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Speaker 1: and the like, which Sunday afternoons feels kind of like

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Speaker 1: a it's like an intimate time. I don't know, you

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Speaker 2: Like they're hanging out. They're all straight together.

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Speaker 1: They're both straight, and OPI says that this guy is

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Speaker 1: as a big protein. Not a chance, not a chance.

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Speaker 1: So I'm one hundred percent sure that this guy is

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Speaker 1: hurt me. I was wondering for a while whether she

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Speaker 1: In other words, her version of not hurting me. But

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure that's not an option because of these

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Speaker 1: three things. Number One, we see each other often every

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Speaker 1: two weeks, and it's miraculously amazing every single time. Mind blowing.

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Speaker 1: Never seen such synergy in any couple. Everything, the conversations,

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Speaker 1: the love, the activities we do, the fun times, absolutely everything.

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Speaker 1: Number Two, we talk on the phone all the time,

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Speaker 1: every single evening. There's literally no available time in which

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Speaker 1: she could actually cheat on me unless they meet from

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Speaker 2: How about all the times that they're hanging out.

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Speaker 1: That seems pretty doable.

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Speaker 2: I mean, what if she just doesn't go on one

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Speaker 2: of those long runs. But she's like, oh, my heart

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Speaker 2: rate was up for two hours, but wait, your steps

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Speaker 2: weren't You didn't do any steps during that time?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, my pedometers are. But look at my heart is

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Speaker 1: working great, you can see it's it's through the roof. Really,

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Speaker 1: but my pedometer is broken. Ye, yeah, says I can't

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Speaker 2: Technical difficulties. I don't know, like I don't I don't

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Speaker 2: necessarily think she's cheating, but you can find two minutes

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Speaker 1: That's true. It only takes the hot guy two minutes

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Speaker 1: I don't think she would hide something like that. She's

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Speaker 1: think if she felt like it, she would just do

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Speaker 1: it because it just wouldn't feel right. So, very quick

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Speaker 1: pause right here. Do we think that the guy is

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Speaker 2: Says, I think so? Yeah, I think it's a very

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Speaker 2: there's a very good chance that maybe not desperately in love,

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Speaker 2: but there is an attraction. Yes, and I think it

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Speaker 2: might be even a mutual attraction, but weighted more from

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Speaker 2: girlfriend might be a little bit attracted but mostly platonic.

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Speaker 1: If the girlfriend becomes single, the guy would want to

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Speaker 2: Yes, and I think if the girlfriend became single, she

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Speaker 2: might even get a relationship with this guy. But I

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Speaker 2: don't think she's maybe allowing herself to think those thoughts.

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Speaker 1: She's telling herself I don't want this and I wouldn't

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Speaker 2: Jealous, if there's different circumstances, maybe, if there's different circumstances, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And if op comes on jealous and is a little

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Speaker 2: bit too like controlling, you know, might drive her into

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Speaker 1: Now, having said all this, I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: Just like I am one hundred percent sure that this

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Speaker 1: I think she is also not indifferent and she would

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Speaker 2: She weren't with me. What did I say? What did

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Speaker 1: Pretty good? They're a pretty good match. Wow, he's very objective.

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Speaker 1: I mean, they run together.

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Speaker 2: It seems like they have bore in common than her

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Speaker 2: in op and they have more in common in the

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Speaker 2: most important way possible, as in, they live in the

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Speaker 1: This is true. Now, Hey, maybe Opie isn't all that stuff,

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Speaker 1: but he doesn't have the chance to because they're they're

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Speaker 1: long distance. But true, the likelihood of all of the

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Speaker 1: Opie also sharing all of us? Is Opie really making

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Speaker 1: so unlikely. So they have similar backgrounds, more similar than

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Speaker 1: They both have to speak a non native language to

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Speaker 2: That's like my friend, I introduced this girl. I was

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Speaker 1: Story time later storytime okay, time later to wait till

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Speaker 2: That's three story times. But it has to do with

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Speaker 2: a girl from the Netherlands that I met in Australia

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Speaker 1: What a title. I'm excited to hear that one. He's

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Speaker 1: a cool guy, young, smart, sports, he's got a lot

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Speaker 1: no sense to not be with him. So the question

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Speaker 1: case we break up? And is that an okay thing

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Speaker 1: to do? Is it an indication that I'm not showing

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Speaker 1: a possibility of a breakup. So we have to ask

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Speaker 1: you all and ourselves the same question. Do we think

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Speaker 2: And also is that okay? I don't think she's intentionally

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Speaker 2: there's been like a little bit of attraction there, and

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Speaker 2: I think all so there's like almost always attraction in

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Speaker 2: you agree or now?

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Speaker 1: I have had so many I don't really have very

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Speaker 1: many now, but I have in the past had so

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Speaker 1: many platonic relationships with women where literally nothing has happened

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Speaker 1: They don't listen to the podcast today, nobody except all

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Speaker 1: Yes, one hundred percent, one thousand percent think OP should

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he talks to the guy, and the guy's like,

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Speaker 1: But there's only one way to see what happens. Getting

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Speaker 2: You're joking five years?

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Speaker 1: Five years?

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Speaker 2: Wait? So when was the first post?

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Speaker 3: May twenty second of twenty sixteen.

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Speaker 1: Wow, this is gonna get deep.

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Speaker 2: Oh man, I hope everything worked out. Ope, I hope

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Speaker 2: you're married. I hope you're married to this girl. You

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Speaker 1: Real quick, vote married or not? Big Protein already know

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Speaker 1: that's true, Sam, All.

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Speaker 2: Right, let me think and what do you do an

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Speaker 2: update if everything worked out? Probably? Yeah, but he would

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Speaker 3: Yeah, or she was the one that got away.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna say married but the guy came back.

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Speaker 2: I mean we saw that coming.

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Speaker 2: That's awesome, point blank, Pierre Karre. She cares.

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Speaker 1: thirty three years old and still going strong together. We

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Speaker 1: moved in together a couple of years ago, and it's

444
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Speaker 1: been amazing living together, traveling together, and being together all

445
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Speaker 1: the time. She's still so sweet. I love her with

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Speaker 1: all of my heart, and it's obvious that she loves

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Speaker 1: me too. You'll never know how these things will turn out,

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Speaker 1: but ours is a story that will fill your hearts

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Speaker 1: with hope and love. PS Now I'll delete the password

450
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Speaker 1: to this throwaway account any reference to my computer feels

451
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Speaker 1: nice to close this loop.

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Speaker 2: I'm glad it ended well. Wow, I'm glad it ended well.

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Speaker 1: That is a beautiful, wholesome ending. Gen Z hearts all around.

454
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Speaker 1: Once in the chat. I have to do the millennial

455
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Speaker 1: heart because of But what's the question. That's your job, John?

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Speaker 1: I failed as a host, Yeah, I mean everything worked

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Speaker 1: out happily ever after.

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Speaker 2: I think the question is what's Riley's story that he's

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Speaker 2: been waiting to share? Because I think it's time for Okay.

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Speaker 1: Story time, battle of the stories you both have too, right, yeah,

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Speaker 1: pick your best one. Pitch me the titles right now.

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Speaker 1: I will pick the best one.

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Speaker 3: I got a girlfriend to break up with her boyfriend

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Speaker 3: over snapchat.

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's pretty good. I got a girlfriend a break

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Speaker 1: up over snapchat.

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Speaker 2: A girl left her husband for me, and then I

468
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Speaker 2: broke up with her.

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Speaker 1: Riley, we might have to get yours on story too.

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Speaker 3: This one's pretty good.

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Speaker 1: All right, go Sam, it's your time.

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Speaker 2: Okay. The year it was twenty sixteen.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: The year was twenty six same year as this oh shit,

475
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Speaker 2: dude twins. Okay. The year was twenty sixteen. I was

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Speaker 2: at UCLA and I had broken up with my well no, well,

477
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Speaker 2: I had broken up my ex ex girlfriend girlfriend Madison.

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Speaker 2: We had been dating for a while. I met her

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Speaker 2: in high school. She was like two years at A actually,

480
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Speaker 2: because her mom saw me come out of the pool,

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Speaker 2: saw that it had abs, gave me her daughter's phone

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Speaker 2: number and then answer, and then I started texting here.

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Speaker 2: We had met at a museum. It was awesome, but

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Speaker 2: she was two years older than me and was cheating

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Speaker 2: on me while I was on it. She was in college.

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Speaker 2: She was like a sophomore in college and I was

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Speaker 2: in high school. So whatever broke up with her, and

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Speaker 2: then soon after I started dating this girl. So there

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Speaker 2: was this girl that I started dating, or this girl

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Speaker 2: that I was like friends with, and then she was

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Speaker 2: dating this guy and then she broke up with him

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Speaker 2: and was like on a break and we were just friends,

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Speaker 2: but then pulled some moves on me and we started

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Speaker 2: hooking up. And I was not in a I had

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Speaker 2: just up with, like this girl that I thought I

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Speaker 2: was in love with. I was just not at all

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Speaker 2: ready to give my heart and soul to someone. And

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Speaker 2: so I remember there's this inverted water fountain. It's like

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Speaker 2: it's like instead of the water going up, it goes

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Speaker 2: into a hole in the ground at UCLA, and she's like,

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Speaker 2: meet me at the inverted water fountain, and so I

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Speaker 2: met her there and she's like, Hey, we've been hooking

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Speaker 2: up for a little bit. What are we? And I said,

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Speaker 2: I think just friends and she was like okay, And

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Speaker 2: then I believe like that a week she got back

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Speaker 2: together with the boyfriend that she was on a break with,

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Speaker 2: who she kind of left to date me for a

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Speaker 2: little bit, and then a couple years later they got

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Speaker 2: married and are now living together married.

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Speaker 1: Wow, and she just dumped him to come back to you,

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Speaker 1: to get a little child, A little test drive she

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Speaker 1: renewed the subscription.

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Speaker 2: It was, yeah, it was a test drive, or probably

514
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Speaker 2: how she spun it, which maybe is more true. I

515
00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:59,040
Speaker 2: realized how terrible the dating world was when I left you,

516
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Speaker 2: and I realized you were the man for me.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 3: Well good on you. Honestly, I mean, are they do?

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Speaker 3: They seem happy?

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Speaker 2: I think they're happy?

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Speaker 1: Good job, it's the same guy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the guy that she broke up with is now

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Speaker 2: the guy that she's married with.

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Speaker 1: There you go, I think that says at all. Now,

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Speaker 1: how many years deep are they in their marriage?

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Speaker 2: Now? Should I met now? I like, I think like

527
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Speaker 2: three or something or two? They seem pretty happy.

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Speaker 1: In a relationships since twenty sixteen, I mean that's what

529
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Speaker 1: seven years?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, I think they had dated for like

531
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Speaker 2: a year or two before that, and like we were

532
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Speaker 2: like we were good friends and it was it was fine.

533
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Speaker 2: It was just like I wasn't in a space to

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Speaker 2: be in a full fledged relationship because I had just

535
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Speaker 2: gotten out of relationship.

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Speaker 1: You were just in a space to throw it down.

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Speaker 2: You're in college, yep, all.

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Speaker 1: Right, that's all right.

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Speaker 3: Oh man, So this kind of happened recently, but recently yeah,

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Speaker 3: like about a month or two ago. So like my

541
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Speaker 3: friend my brother was talking to his girlfriend and she

542
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Speaker 3: was like, oh my gosh, like this girl is in

543
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Speaker 3: this bad relationship and inst to get out of it,

544
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Speaker 3: and her boyfriend's like talking to other girls and hang

545
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Speaker 3: out with other girls and only post other girls on

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Speaker 3: her on his Instagram and not her. I was like, oh,

547
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Speaker 3: who is she? I see her and I'm like, oh,

548
00:23:08,119 --> 00:23:10,440
Speaker 3: it's just pretty cute. Like I'll see what I can do.

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00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:13,720
Speaker 3: And so like I found her Snapchat, added her own

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Speaker 3: Snapchat just why not, And then like later she like

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Speaker 3: added me back, and I was like, so I messed

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Speaker 3: up and I forgot that me being old and not

553
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Speaker 3: using Snapchat. I screenshoted the message send my brother this.

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Speaker 3: It's smooth though. I screenshoted it, send it to my brother.

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Speaker 3: I was like, and she's like she sent a question

556
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Speaker 3: mark and I was like, sorry, I was doing a

557
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Speaker 3: little before and after. It's like before and after of

558
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Speaker 3: what I was like before you and my girl, and

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Speaker 3: then after whenever you were my girl.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, making big moves.

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Speaker 3: And she was like, oh, well that was smooth.

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Speaker 1: She was in a relationship at that time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, but like, yeah, of.

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Speaker 2: Course you would go. That doesn't stop big pro te

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Speaker 2: her just.

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Speaker 3: A one on one rather than a one v sixty

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Speaker 3: five or whatever.

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Speaker 1: AnyWho.

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Speaker 3: So I'm like talking to her, She's like, oh, the

570
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Speaker 3: relationship's bad. I was like, oh, I just leave him,

571
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Speaker 3: you know, seem happy whatever. And then she left him

572
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Speaker 3: and then we were gonna hang out. And then it

573
00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 3: was like a lot was going on, Like I was

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Speaker 3: like transitioning and like gonna try to see my family

575
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Speaker 3: and I was like, gonna maybe squeeze her in in

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Speaker 3: a really late time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you were gonna sqeez her.

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Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, this I'm not really I'm gonna

579
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Speaker 3: be honest. I called her and I didn't really like

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Speaker 3: her voice, so I was like, crap, this is not

581
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Speaker 3: But yeah, I left her speechless, and uh, I.

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Speaker 2: Love that line for Riley when the girls don't respond

583
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Speaker 2: to him. I love a speechless and.

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Speaker 3: Then we just never hung out. So yeah, but then

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Speaker 3: that boyfriend ended up getting with another girl like soon after.

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Speaker 3: She seems all right though.

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Speaker 2: Wow, all right? Who wins the story? A battle? For what?

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Speaker 1: I think Riley's story delivered more after the title I

589
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Speaker 1: would say, I was like, I was like shocked by

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Speaker 1: your title, but then I was like, okay, cool, But

591
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:56,880
Speaker 1: then like Riley's story just had some freaking girth, some

592
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Speaker 1: big protein girth to it, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: Fine, whatever, Yeah, let us know what the comments, which

594
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Speaker 3: one was better.

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Speaker 2: Everyone's gonna say big protein.

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Speaker 1: Everyone gonna say big word. Neither Sam or big protein

597
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Speaker 1: put it in the common. Everyone's gonna say big protein.

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Speaker 1: They love saying that