1 00:00:00,800 --> 00:00:03,240 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:07,440 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please 3 00:00:07,440 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:14,880 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. Okay, we could be reading your 5 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:17,480 Speaker 1: letter live on the air, just like we're going to 6 00:00:17,560 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now. Buggle up and 7 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 1: hold on time. We got it for you here. It 8 00:00:23,320 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 1: is the Strawberry Letter subject He's too bougie for my church. 9 00:00:30,040 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: All right, Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a forty six year 10 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:35,000 Speaker 1: old woman and I need your advice. I'm dealing with 11 00:00:35,040 --> 00:00:37,440 Speaker 1: the man i'm dating. He was a first in his 12 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:40,920 Speaker 1: family to graduate college and now he is a successful 13 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:44,960 Speaker 1: doctor with his own private practice. I'm a doctor too, 14 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:47,600 Speaker 1: and I work in a public health clinic, which is 15 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 1: not in the safest community. My boyfriend loved to joke 16 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:54,320 Speaker 1: about me working in the hood. He is opinionated and 17 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 1: arrogant at times, and it drives me crazy. I should 18 00:00:57,880 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: have known better, but I took him to my parents' 19 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:04,600 Speaker 1: church anniversary service last week and it did not go well. 20 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 1: I drove and picked him up, and as I turned 21 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: into the neighborhood, he asked why we were heading to 22 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:13,240 Speaker 1: the ghetto. He saw the church and commented that he 23 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 1: should not have worn an expensive suit and shoes, and 24 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: he hopes no one breaks in my car while we're inside. 25 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:22,559 Speaker 1: I rolled my eyes at him and told him to chill. 26 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 1: During the service, one of the older members of the 27 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 1: church read a Bible verse and my man corrected him 28 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:32,040 Speaker 1: under his breath. An older lady motion for my man 29 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:36,880 Speaker 1: to be quiet. Then pastor spoke, and he started mispronouncing 30 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: names from the Bible and hollering and sweating, and my 31 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:43,640 Speaker 1: Man chuckled out loud several times, and I had to 32 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: nudge him to stop. At the end of the service, 33 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 1: the pastor came to say hi to me, and he 34 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: said he couldn't wait to meet the rude person I 35 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 1: brought with me. My man didn't mind being called rude, 36 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 1: nor did he try to be polite. He told pastor 37 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 1: the church needs to get for the parking lot and 38 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:04,600 Speaker 1: only let members that can read well do the scriptures 39 00:02:04,680 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: and announcements. He embarrassed me so badly that I almost 40 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:12,120 Speaker 1: broke up with him. What's funny is that he's from 41 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 1: the worst hood in town, so why why is he 42 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 1: like this, is this something he can change? Well, you 43 00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 1: know right now reading this letter, the only thing he 44 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: needs to change is you. I mean, you need to 45 00:02:28,160 --> 00:02:30,200 Speaker 1: wake up and realize that you can do much better 46 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 1: than this guy. And it's always these kinds of guys, 47 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 1: you know, they forget where they come from. You. I 48 00:02:37,160 --> 00:02:40,440 Speaker 1: think they're better now because he's a doctor in doing 49 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: well and all of that. So now he's looking down 50 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:44,480 Speaker 1: at everyone else. I mean, why would he go to 51 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:47,480 Speaker 1: church and embarrass you like that and be rude to 52 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 1: the pastor and correct every I mean, who does he 53 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 1: think he is? And in a relationship the priority should 54 00:02:56,120 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: be you. Okay, you should be a priority. He acts 55 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:02,920 Speaker 1: as if you and whatever you got going on is 56 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 1: just so beneath him. You know why am I here? 57 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:09,560 Speaker 1: Oh you need security? Why are we going to the hood? Well, 58 00:03:09,560 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 1: this is where you came from, something worse than this. Okay, 59 00:03:13,560 --> 00:03:16,600 Speaker 1: you're a doctor too. I just want you to remind 60 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 1: you that you are a doctor too, and you don't 61 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: act like that. His problem, like I said, is he 62 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: forgot where he came from, and instead of trying to 63 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:27,639 Speaker 1: help the community and being a shining example to them 64 00:03:27,680 --> 00:03:29,760 Speaker 1: of you can get out, you can become a doctor. 65 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 1: You can, you know, and maybe going back and helping 66 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:35,800 Speaker 1: some of the people in the community, you know, do something. 67 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:39,000 Speaker 1: He's looking down on them, he's being rude to them, 68 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 1: he's turned his back on them, he's being nasty to them, 69 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:45,280 Speaker 1: and he's making the slide snide remarks and comments to you. 70 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 1: I don't know how you can put up with this. 71 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 1: I'm sure you can do better. And you know, he 72 00:03:52,560 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 1: needs to just move on. I just think he needs 73 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 1: to move on. You need to let him go and 74 00:03:57,760 --> 00:04:02,320 Speaker 1: let him know why you're letting him go. Steven, Wow, 75 00:04:03,480 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: let me just start by something like this doctor that 76 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:14,839 Speaker 1: you're dating is atypical of what happens. See, a lot 77 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 1: of people think that their current position removes them from 78 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: their former past. I'm gonna say that again. There are 79 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:31,720 Speaker 1: a lot of people who think that their current position 80 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:40,040 Speaker 1: in life removes them from their past. The problem that 81 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:43,360 Speaker 1: they fail to realize it is when you become successful, 82 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: it is your past. It is that that you were 83 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 1: that helped you become who you are. See, let me 84 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: explain something to you. If it wasn't for the hood, 85 00:04:56,279 --> 00:04:59,800 Speaker 1: there's no way I'm in the position I'm in today. 86 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: If it wasn't what the hood taught me and showed me. 87 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 1: That's no way I'm who I am today because that 88 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 1: hood gave me the fiber, the starch, the grit, the guts, 89 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:21,280 Speaker 1: the fight to fight this other war on the other 90 00:05:21,320 --> 00:05:23,800 Speaker 1: side of the world that I've been on. Now, this 91 00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:26,279 Speaker 1: is the serious part that I'm giving you about this letter. 92 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 1: You there is no Steve Harvey without want to love he. 93 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 1: He don't exist. He doesn't exist. My former self a 94 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:43,000 Speaker 1: character and the image of me that was created in 95 00:05:43,040 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 1: the past that helped me survive who I was. Well, 96 00:05:47,120 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: that thing right there, it's very reason I got to 97 00:05:50,360 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 1: be who I am see, And that amazes me how 98 00:05:54,360 --> 00:05:57,160 Speaker 1: people get bullshie like that and all that sudden they 99 00:05:57,200 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 1: try to lead that from behind. You can't run from 100 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:04,719 Speaker 1: what you were. I embrace it. So that's the serious 101 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 1: part of the letter. Now, do you have a problem 102 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 1: with this man? Yes? Yeah. Are you gonna be able 103 00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 1: to fix him? Probably not? Now can you stomach him? 104 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:19,880 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. It don't sound to 105 00:06:19,920 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 1: me like you like him, because don't nobody reading this 106 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:28,159 Speaker 1: letter like him? No, I don't. Now when we come 107 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 1: back after the break, I'm gonna give you a demonstration 108 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:38,559 Speaker 1: of what happened at the church that through it. All right, thanks, 109 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:43,359 Speaker 1: and ask Deacon deaf Jam to join me because I 110 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:46,039 Speaker 1: can tell you what happened. We'll have part two of 111 00:06:46,080 --> 00:06:49,120 Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up with twenty three minutes after He's 112 00:06:49,160 --> 00:06:51,200 Speaker 1: Too Bushy for My Church. We'll get back into it 113 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, 114 00:06:56,839 --> 00:07:00,359 Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. He's too Bushy for My 115 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:03,719 Speaker 1: Church is the subject. This girl, forty six year old 116 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 1: woman done dealing with this man his first family to 117 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:10,000 Speaker 1: graduate college and he's successful, doctor, got his own practice. 118 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 1: She's a doctor too, but she works in the hood. 119 00:07:12,200 --> 00:07:14,800 Speaker 1: He always joking her about working in the hood, and 120 00:07:14,840 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 1: he didn't forgot where they're from. Like I said, a 121 00:07:16,760 --> 00:07:20,559 Speaker 1: lot of people think that they current position in life 122 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:24,520 Speaker 1: removes them from their prior life, of their past. When 123 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 1: people don't realize it is your past. It's how you 124 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:29,640 Speaker 1: got where you are in the first place. If it 125 00:07:29,680 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 1: wasn't from the conditions of the hood that I lived in, 126 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 1: I don't get to be successful because I wouldn't have 127 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: to fight the start. I didn't I wouldn't have a 128 00:07:37,360 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: tough skin. I got, you know, when they talking about me, 129 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 1: when they make it fun of me, when they behind 130 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:44,520 Speaker 1: my back, when they stabbing, when they jump on me 131 00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:46,960 Speaker 1: for no reason, when they when they come out to bushes. 132 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 1: See see see it's see see what mess people up 133 00:07:50,640 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 1: to see social media ain't the first set of bushes 134 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: out of had somebody to jump out on me on 135 00:07:56,040 --> 00:08:01,960 Speaker 1: see so see so see see even though social media 136 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:05,960 Speaker 1: is new, it's new level, new devil, but he's the 137 00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:10,120 Speaker 1: same bushes though. See herman, Herman Wilson jumped on me 138 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 1: from behind the bushes first time. Every time I walked 139 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:15,559 Speaker 1: past bushes, Herman Wilson, and I look for people behind 140 00:08:15,560 --> 00:08:18,080 Speaker 1: the bushes now, so when they jump on me, I 141 00:08:18,080 --> 00:08:20,440 Speaker 1: got what it takes. It's a whole lot from my past. 142 00:08:20,480 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 1: But now what happened was you picked your man up 143 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:24,720 Speaker 1: and you took him the church, and as you turned 144 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:26,560 Speaker 1: into the neighborhood, they asked why he was heading to 145 00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:29,640 Speaker 1: the ghetto. He saw the church and commented that he 146 00:08:29,640 --> 00:08:32,800 Speaker 1: he shouldn't have worn expensive suit and un shoes and 147 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:35,400 Speaker 1: hope don't nobody bringing his car while he inside? You 148 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:37,680 Speaker 1: roll your eyes at him told him, chill now, dish 149 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:41,440 Speaker 1: passes your mom and them past anniversary. So you know 150 00:08:41,480 --> 00:08:44,400 Speaker 1: they had little sheets over the two chairs up front. 151 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 1: You know the usher boy Wold White. You know your 152 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:51,719 Speaker 1: little hood church. They decorated it best they could, but 153 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:54,440 Speaker 1: they ain't a lot of money, we get it. Some 154 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:56,800 Speaker 1: one of the older members of the church read the 155 00:08:56,880 --> 00:09:01,880 Speaker 1: Bible verse and my man corrected him under his hell lords, 156 00:09:02,280 --> 00:09:04,840 Speaker 1: Deacon Jeff Damn want you to help me out. Yes, 157 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:11,800 Speaker 1: we are reading from the Book of Joel round the 158 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:19,960 Speaker 1: Book of Joe where it said he was sus squattle 159 00:09:21,080 --> 00:09:25,839 Speaker 1: by the whel and as he laid in the underbelly 160 00:09:26,559 --> 00:09:31,720 Speaker 1: or the whel it mustn't it must have staken that 161 00:09:32,880 --> 00:09:38,400 Speaker 1: you're feeling. And I guess I'm assuming that the whirl 162 00:09:38,520 --> 00:09:43,840 Speaker 1: regurgitated him back up on the beach, and when he 163 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:47,439 Speaker 1: got up on the beach, he was faced with temptation. 164 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:50,760 Speaker 1: Called some girls on the beach with bikini's own can 165 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:56,560 Speaker 1: you see what I'm seeing? And I'm staying with you, 166 00:09:56,679 --> 00:10:02,199 Speaker 1: but that that's why the temptation that was on that 167 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:05,960 Speaker 1: beach is the same temptation that followed them into the 168 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:13,679 Speaker 1: wilderness for forty years. Jonah Job was in the belly 169 00:10:13,679 --> 00:10:15,480 Speaker 1: of the will. A lot of people think it was Jonah, 170 00:10:15,520 --> 00:10:21,640 Speaker 1: but they called him Job for Sean Job is the 171 00:10:21,679 --> 00:10:31,160 Speaker 1: same person. Now her boyfriend corrected that it's Jonah. Was 172 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 1: in the well, Joe had boils and was tested by Satan. 173 00:10:36,920 --> 00:10:39,600 Speaker 1: That was there was no desert for him the forty years. 174 00:10:40,200 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 1: That's what he's just correcting him. But now here we go, 175 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:47,200 Speaker 1: this is what. And then the pastor spoke and started 176 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 1: mispronouncing names from the Bible and Holland and sweating, and 177 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:55,120 Speaker 1: your man started laughing. Let us go, deacon, read a 178 00:10:55,400 --> 00:11:01,839 Speaker 1: verse from the Bible. Please pick Daniel went down to 179 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:05,120 Speaker 1: the lions Den, and we're reading from the book of 180 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 1: I don't know. I just knew that if Daniel down 181 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:13,800 Speaker 1: in the lions Den, we must be reading from the 182 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:21,719 Speaker 1: book of Daniel. Come on, now, from the book of Dan. 183 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:25,880 Speaker 1: I yale read, man, I'm not in the book. I 184 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 1: changed book. Well, I go ahead and change fun I 185 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:39,839 Speaker 1: follow all right. I read something from from a thepalonass. Yes, 186 00:11:41,840 --> 00:11:44,679 Speaker 1: nobody preach from that numb No, but okay, that's a Lonians. 187 00:11:47,320 --> 00:11:49,160 Speaker 1: Well then if you don't want to read from that, 188 00:11:49,480 --> 00:11:57,720 Speaker 1: read from ex Sodas. That would be Exodus. You don't 189 00:11:57,760 --> 00:12:00,720 Speaker 1: you don't correct me. You must stay you the doctor 190 00:12:00,760 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 1: in this letter now now, now, I just I'm here 191 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:07,360 Speaker 1: for you, and I read from the second book in 192 00:12:07,440 --> 00:12:12,559 Speaker 1: the Bible. Right behind Jenias read from Do that day 193 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:19,480 Speaker 1: I run off, still stuck on. I'm still stuck on, Jenias. 194 00:12:19,559 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 1: I've got to find that. Indeed, I want Rli to 195 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:33,880 Speaker 1: get ready to turn to first Clo Cloe ride first Rocks. Okay, 196 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:36,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say this. I know that the doctor's over 197 00:12:36,679 --> 00:12:38,880 Speaker 1: there saying a lot, but we gonna have to start 198 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:41,959 Speaker 1: having no babers. And then we're gonna turn to the 199 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:47,120 Speaker 1: Brook of Proverbs. We're gonna read from Proverbs and be 200 00:12:47,160 --> 00:12:49,280 Speaker 1: the end of it bok. And then we're gonna and 201 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:54,360 Speaker 1: then we're gonna close out with peace palms and that 202 00:12:54,520 --> 00:12:58,040 Speaker 1: ought to do it for That'll be all out for today. 203 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:01,840 Speaker 1: Comments und Today, Robbery Letter and Steve Harvey FM on 204 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:05,160 Speaker 1: Instagram and Facebook. 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