1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,240 Speaker 1: Well, let's get to it. Buckle up and hold on tight. 2 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 1: We got it for you. Here it is Strawberry letta 3 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:11,160 Speaker 1: subject hanging on to a constant heater. Here's Stephen Shirley. 4 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:15,200 Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven long years. 5 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 1: And I say long because he is a constant cheater. 6 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:21,840 Speaker 1: He has a habit of waiting till fall asleep at night. 7 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:25,160 Speaker 1: Then he leaves the house and if I call him 8 00:00:25,200 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 1: when he's out, he won't answer his phone. Sometimes he 9 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 1: stays out all night and when he finally comes home 10 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:32,720 Speaker 1: in the morning, he would tell me something like he 11 00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 1: fell asleep on the side of the road. This summer, 12 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:39,240 Speaker 1: he went to his family reunion and I was not invited. 13 00:00:39,640 --> 00:00:42,160 Speaker 1: After I saw the pictures from the reunion, I see 14 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:45,080 Speaker 1: why I wasn't invited. His ex went with him and 15 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:48,960 Speaker 1: his family took several pictures of them together. I never 16 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:51,440 Speaker 1: would have expected him to be messing with her again, 17 00:00:51,880 --> 00:00:55,480 Speaker 1: so I was so hurt. I thought we were all cool. 18 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 1: When I asked her, she denied that they were fooling around. 19 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:01,279 Speaker 1: So I got heard of the BS and I put 20 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:04,679 Speaker 1: a tracker on his phone. A few days later, the 21 00:01:04,680 --> 00:01:07,360 Speaker 1: tracker led me to his car parked in front of 22 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: the ex girl friend's house. I knocked on the door 23 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:13,040 Speaker 1: and nobody came to the door, but I could see 24 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: them through the window walking around. After I stood out 25 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 1: there for thirty five minutes, he finally came outside and 26 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 1: admitted they had been sleeping around and it started when 27 00:01:25,600 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 1: she went to the family reunion with him. He told 28 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 1: me that he wants me and not her. I'm tired 29 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 1: of him and his mess, but he keeps telling me 30 00:01:34,680 --> 00:01:37,839 Speaker 1: that he's done with cheating. The trust has been dead 31 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: in our relationship, and I believe he has been checked 32 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:44,039 Speaker 1: out for a while. Why is he keeping me hanging on? 33 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 1: Please help me understand. Well, he's not keeping you hanging on. 34 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 1: You're just hanging on to what nothing? And guess what. 35 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 1: He's gonna be there until you let him go. He 36 00:01:56,640 --> 00:02:00,680 Speaker 1: has no incentive to go none whatsoever. He has every 37 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:03,280 Speaker 1: reason to stay right there with you and to tell 38 00:02:03,320 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 1: you stuff like I want you, not her, but still 39 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:11,680 Speaker 1: cheating with her? Um for seven years, you you've stayed 40 00:02:11,720 --> 00:02:14,920 Speaker 1: with him while he stayed out all night cheating. You 41 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:17,520 Speaker 1: stay with him after you found out he took his 42 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 1: ex to the family reunion and not you and they 43 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 1: took pictures of them and all of that, and uh, 44 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:26,240 Speaker 1: did you say you thought you all were cool? Meaning you, 45 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:30,920 Speaker 1: him and his ex. See, all these are reasons you 46 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: know that keeps him hanging on because you don't do anything. 47 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:37,280 Speaker 1: I mean, you gotta understand that this man has no 48 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 1: respect for you. He shows no respect for your relationship, 49 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:43,680 Speaker 1: and he's going to continue keeping you hanging on until 50 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:46,040 Speaker 1: you stand up for yourself. You've got to realize that 51 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:48,680 Speaker 1: you deserve to be treated better. You don't deserve to 52 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:52,080 Speaker 1: be cheated on. Uh, you you you should be you know, 53 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:55,959 Speaker 1: definitely invited to the family reunions and you know, maybe 54 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 1: you'll get it through your head that you know, this 55 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:02,080 Speaker 1: is not how a man who loves you is after 56 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:04,800 Speaker 1: seven long years, as you say, it should be treating you. 57 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 1: You can't allow him to treat you like this. Okay, 58 00:03:07,320 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: we say this all the time. Maybe he won't be 59 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:12,320 Speaker 1: the only one checking out. Maybe this time, if you 60 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:14,920 Speaker 1: get that, you'll check out and let him be with 61 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:17,040 Speaker 1: his ex because it seems like that's where he wants 62 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 1: to be and not with you. Wow, this is a 63 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:28,959 Speaker 1: crazy letter. This is crazy. This woman says, my boyfriend 64 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:33,400 Speaker 1: and I have been dating for seven years, seven long years. 65 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 1: And I say long because he's a constant cheater. Really, 66 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 1: so you've we stood seven years of cheating and it's 67 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:48,680 Speaker 1: still your boyfriend. Well after seven years, if you're still 68 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 1: somebody's bad boyfriend, where is this relationship supposedly going? But 69 00:03:56,720 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: here's a cold part. He waits to you fall asleep 70 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 1: at night, then he leave a house. If I call him, 71 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 1: he don't answer his phone. I don't know nobody like that. 72 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:13,240 Speaker 1: I don't know nobody that can do that. Now. I've 73 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:18,000 Speaker 1: heard of not coming home. I've heard of that. But 74 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:22,840 Speaker 1: to get up while you sleep and lead a house 75 00:04:24,320 --> 00:04:27,680 Speaker 1: and then stay out all night long and don't answer 76 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 1: the phone. Damn, that's gutsy man. That's a whole another 77 00:04:36,279 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 1: level of courage and god and audacity. This dude right 78 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:45,040 Speaker 1: here is taking this thing to a whole another level. 79 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: And you know why he's doing it because you let him. See, 80 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 1: here's the thing about men. Man will get away with 81 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:56,479 Speaker 1: whatever you allow us to get away with. If you 82 00:04:56,640 --> 00:05:00,600 Speaker 1: like it, we love it. If you at it, we'll 83 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:04,839 Speaker 1: do it. If you ain't, no consequences, I'm gonna do 84 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:10,600 Speaker 1: it again. So that's what you got sometime he stay 85 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: all night and then when he finally come home in 86 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 1: the morning, he'll tell me something like he fell asleep 87 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:20,039 Speaker 1: on the side of the road from what was if 88 00:05:20,080 --> 00:05:23,640 Speaker 1: you you left the house to fall asleep on the 89 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: side of the road, we got a bed here at 90 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:33,680 Speaker 1: the house. Well, see, the question remains, where did you 91 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 1: go and what did you do to knock you out 92 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:39,800 Speaker 1: that calls you to fall asleep on the side of 93 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:45,200 Speaker 1: the road. Let's just investigate the lie. Mm hm, that's 94 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:48,159 Speaker 1: all you got to do if you want to believe that. 95 00:05:48,400 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 1: Let's just investigate the lie. Okay, what you will sleep here? 96 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 1: You got up? Wait until I will sleep went somewhere? 97 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 1: Did what they caused you to be sleeping? Then this 98 00:05:57,720 --> 00:06:00,480 Speaker 1: summer he went to the family union and you wouldn't invited. 99 00:06:01,560 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 1: After you saw the pictures of the reunion, you see 100 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:08,599 Speaker 1: why Higgs X went with him and his family took 101 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: several pictures of them together. I never would have expected 102 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 1: him to be messing with hug again. What what woman? 103 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:20,159 Speaker 1: How that's a surprise. Ain't just the same dude to 104 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:21,520 Speaker 1: get up in the middle of the night when you 105 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:24,160 Speaker 1: go to sleep and leave the house and don't come back. 106 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:27,320 Speaker 1: And don't answer his phone. But you're surprised he's seeing 107 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 1: hull surprises. Ought to be over with. Here go a 108 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: real surprise. It's molding. Huh, don't don't we come back. 109 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you the rest of this. Wow. Oh 110 00:06:43,680 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 1: so I'm you know what I got. Listen to me 111 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:48,960 Speaker 1: when I come back. I'm gonna show you some more 112 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 1: igness in this letter. What's really really? I have some ladies, 113 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 1: pay attention. I have some information. I got some dog 114 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:02,040 Speaker 1: go on information, but they're possibly your reenactment. Not now, 115 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:05,360 Speaker 1: hold on, let me do this, then we may do it. 116 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:09,800 Speaker 1: Woman been dating the man for seven long years, she says, 117 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:13,679 Speaker 1: seven long years, because he's been constantly cheating. He even 118 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:16,080 Speaker 1: gets up in the middle of the night while she 119 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:20,520 Speaker 1: sleep lead a house, don't answer the phone, calls that 120 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:24,240 Speaker 1: he called it. Then come in the next day and 121 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:28,960 Speaker 1: say he fell asleep behind the wheel. She she going 122 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:32,520 Speaker 1: along with all this, just seven years. It is then 123 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:35,400 Speaker 1: the summer he went to the family union. She wasn't invited. 124 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 1: Then she saw the pictures and she found out why 125 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:41,000 Speaker 1: she wasn't invited. His ex went with him and his 126 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 1: family took several pictures of them together. I would never 127 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 1: have expected him a messing with hu again? What why? 128 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 1: Why would you not suspect anything from him? This dude, 129 00:07:54,760 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 1: it's his audacity. It's absolutely a long I mean even 130 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:05,200 Speaker 1: to men. Listen to me. It's men listening to this 131 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:09,240 Speaker 1: going way maun Hold up, dog, You wait till she 132 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:13,120 Speaker 1: go to sleep, then you leave a house, then you 133 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 1: stay out all night, and when she try to call you, 134 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:18,040 Speaker 1: you don't call. Then when you come in in the morning, 135 00:08:18,240 --> 00:08:20,440 Speaker 1: your excuse is I fell asleep behind the wheel of 136 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:22,960 Speaker 1: the car. It ain't a man listening to this. Think 137 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:26,400 Speaker 1: he can try that at his house. This just happening 138 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:40,320 Speaker 1: at your house. You can't do that if you live alone. Seriously, now, 139 00:08:40,559 --> 00:08:44,680 Speaker 1: let's go on down, she said. I thought he was 140 00:08:44,720 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 1: cool because when I asked her she denied. He was 141 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:50,560 Speaker 1: fooling around. So here the curve. So she got tired 142 00:08:50,559 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 1: of the bs and she put a tracker on his phone. 143 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: The track allaed him ladd her to his car park 144 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:01,719 Speaker 1: in front of the ex girl for his house. Here 145 00:09:01,720 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 1: where it gets good. I knocked on the door and 146 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:06,760 Speaker 1: nobody came to the door, but I could see them 147 00:09:06,760 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 1: through the window walking around. So you're just getting the 148 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:16,600 Speaker 1: Jehovah's Witness treatment. You're knocked on the door. They in 149 00:09:16,679 --> 00:09:20,280 Speaker 1: there walking around. You could see them, but you on 150 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:26,840 Speaker 1: the porch for thirty minutes, thirty five minutes m Then 151 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:29,400 Speaker 1: he finally came out admituted they've been sleeping around. You 152 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 1: know why it came out because she said, go get 153 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:36,800 Speaker 1: half my porch, Go get this health for off my porch. 154 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 1: I believe that, man, she know you're in here. She 155 00:09:42,280 --> 00:09:45,360 Speaker 1: look at her, that's how through the crack, look over 156 00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:48,600 Speaker 1: that through the curtain, that's her looking at us. Man, 157 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:50,680 Speaker 1: let me going out here and just tell her then. 158 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 1: So now he admitted that they had been sleeping around, 159 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:00,960 Speaker 1: and it started when she went to the family reunion 160 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 1: with him. That's another lie. It's been going on long 161 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:09,880 Speaker 1: for that. He told me he wants me and not her. 162 00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:13,560 Speaker 1: I'm tired of him and it as but he keeps 163 00:10:13,559 --> 00:10:16,439 Speaker 1: telling me he's done with cheating. The trust has been 164 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:18,920 Speaker 1: dead in our relationship, and I believe he has been 165 00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:20,880 Speaker 1: checked out for a while. The question is, why ain't 166 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 1: you checked out when you're gonna check out? Why is 167 00:10:25,840 --> 00:10:29,880 Speaker 1: he keeping me hanging on? Please help me understand. Here's 168 00:10:29,920 --> 00:10:34,000 Speaker 1: the part I've been trying to get to Now you said, 169 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:41,440 Speaker 1: why does he keep me hanging on? When Shelly posed 170 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:46,640 Speaker 1: the best question, why are you hanging on? Just help 171 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:49,480 Speaker 1: me with that. What if you want to know why 172 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:52,400 Speaker 1: he keeping you hanging on, here's a couple of reasons. 173 00:10:53,080 --> 00:11:00,360 Speaker 1: Men like fools, we do. It's just hard to meet him, 174 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:05,560 Speaker 1: but we really do like fools. Yes, if you're a 175 00:11:05,600 --> 00:11:10,080 Speaker 1: fool and you can be fooled, and you're willing to 176 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:16,240 Speaker 1: put up with foolishness, then damn where you being all 177 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 1: my life? That's why you're hanging on. The Next reason 178 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:24,240 Speaker 1: you still got you hanging on this cause men get 179 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:26,800 Speaker 1: away with what you let us get away with. That's 180 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:30,480 Speaker 1: the other reason he got you hanging on. Here's another 181 00:11:30,520 --> 00:11:33,240 Speaker 1: reason you hanging on cause his family in on it. 182 00:11:34,600 --> 00:11:37,560 Speaker 1: Here's another reason you hanging on When you put the 183 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 1: tracker on that phone. What was your goal? What was 184 00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:46,560 Speaker 1: the goal when you put the tracker on the phone. 185 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 1: Because even after the tracker got put on the phone 186 00:11:50,520 --> 00:11:53,280 Speaker 1: and you spent thirty five minutes on the porch, you 187 00:11:53,320 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 1: know what Your one question is, why is he keeping 188 00:11:56,040 --> 00:12:00,680 Speaker 1: me hanging on? Please help me understand. You ain't asked 189 00:12:00,679 --> 00:12:04,520 Speaker 1: the Lord for the strength to walk away. You ain't 190 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:07,680 Speaker 1: asked for nothing. This whole letter came down to, why 191 00:12:07,720 --> 00:12:10,599 Speaker 1: is he keeping me hanging on? Please help me understand. 192 00:12:11,040 --> 00:12:13,079 Speaker 1: I think the best way to get you to understand 193 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 1: is for live reenactment. Jathany Brown, I'm the dude that's 194 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:23,120 Speaker 1: been out all night long and now you're looking for me, 195 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:34,280 Speaker 1: and here we are. Go ahead, silver Silt, Earnest, Earnest, Yeah, yeah, 196 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:36,160 Speaker 1: Earnest come outside and talked to me, and he talked 197 00:12:36,160 --> 00:12:41,320 Speaker 1: you from Earnest, Earnest. I'm looking right at your earnest, Earnest. 198 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:46,080 Speaker 1: I can see you in the house. Uh oh, oh, 199 00:12:46,440 --> 00:12:49,040 Speaker 1: you're at the house. What's going on? I need to know. 200 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:51,839 Speaker 1: I've been out here forty five minutes. What's going on? 201 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:56,640 Speaker 1: I walk around the house full time. What's going on? Baby? Baby? 202 00:12:56,720 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 1: Why are you out here? I need to because I 203 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 1: want to know what's going on. You obviously you think 204 00:13:02,920 --> 00:13:07,079 Speaker 1: I'm stupid. That's what I've been I had sent to 205 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 1: two minutes walking around the house. Okay, what do it 206 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:14,360 Speaker 1: look like going on? I don't know. I'm trying to 207 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:16,440 Speaker 1: figure out that. Why I'm asking We'll see you don't 208 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 1: know what's going on? Didn't let me explain something to you. 209 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:21,120 Speaker 1: I won't run a house ten times, okay, but I 210 00:13:21,160 --> 00:13:23,040 Speaker 1: know you walk around the house. But just at this cord, 211 00:13:23,080 --> 00:13:26,040 Speaker 1: I was doing. See all the nights I've been leaving 212 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:31,320 Speaker 1: the house, I was going to class. They got a 213 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:36,680 Speaker 1: midnight massuse court and I'm a massage therapist. And her 214 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:42,559 Speaker 1: back was, now, I'm in here, I'm in here. I'm 215 00:13:42,600 --> 00:13:45,120 Speaker 1: in here trying to make a little extra money for us. 216 00:13:45,600 --> 00:13:51,480 Speaker 1: You up here messed up this fifty dollar massage because 217 00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:53,719 Speaker 1: you're all out here on this girl pouch. We got 218 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:59,080 Speaker 1: to leave it right there. She knows. Now use thank 219 00:13:59,120 --> 00:14:02,960 Speaker 1: you not beat that, am all. Please email us your Instagram, 220 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:05,400 Speaker 1: what's your thoughts on today's Strawberry letters, And go back 221 00:14:05,400 --> 00:14:09,240 Speaker 1: in here and finish this Massleave Harvey FM. You're listening 222 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:11,240 Speaker 1: to the Dave Harvey Morning Show.