WEBVTT - Episode 213: Paving the Anal Pathway (Feat. Chelsea Handler) 0:00:02.520 --> 0:00:05.720 Let's say what's up. It's lip Service and we really 0:00:05.720 --> 0:00:08.119 do have a special guest today and I'm excited for this. 0:00:08.640 --> 0:00:12.280 It's yes, I'm Angela Yee, I'm g. G Maguire, I'm 0:00:12.280 --> 0:00:20.239 Stephanie Santiago, I'm and Chelsea Handler is here. Chelsea. Everybody 0:00:20.280 --> 0:00:22.680 says their name. You know what's funny. A funny Chelsea 0:00:22.720 --> 0:00:25.680 story is when with my career in radio, right, I 0:00:25.720 --> 0:00:29.400 remember this guy was telling me he was in the industry, 0:00:29.400 --> 0:00:32.000 and he said, Angela, you gotta start thinking about your 0:00:32.040 --> 0:00:36.280 career and not being so raunchy. He was like, because 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:38.159 what are you going to transition into? I said, well, 0:00:38.159 --> 0:00:39.840 do you know what I want to do? I said, 0:00:39.840 --> 0:00:42.600 I'd rather fashion myself after Chelsea Handler. No offense to 0:00:42.640 --> 0:00:44.760 Oprah because I love Oprah, but me and her are 0:00:44.840 --> 0:00:47.720 just not anything like Like I have a show called 0:00:47.760 --> 0:00:51.360 lip Service. I've already talked about sex and relationships and 0:00:51.520 --> 0:00:53.240 all kinds of things, a whole lot that there's no 0:00:53.360 --> 0:00:56.320 going on. We've talked about. It's not talking about anal 0:00:56.360 --> 0:01:00.400 and I'm here to talk about that. We didn't get 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:02.800 her that butt plug. Do you have any have you 0:01:02.840 --> 0:01:05.199 ever used at plug? I have not used a butt plug. 0:01:05.319 --> 0:01:07.199 I woke up with a butt plug in me this morning. 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:11.520 I woke up like this. I did wake up like that. Well, 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:13.720 good for you, good for you, and you just made 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:16.039 me a perfect drink, so obviously things are working for you. 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:20.600 That is a talent. Because actually gave me some butt 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:23.080 plugs and it was a variety of sizes, and she 0:01:23.240 --> 0:01:25.720 was like, here, this is good for beginners. So I 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:28.000 tried to use the beginner one and I was like, oh, 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:29.960 this is small. I probably could just put it right 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:33.640 up there. It didn't work. It didn't. Yeah, there's that's 0:01:33.680 --> 0:01:36.920 good to have things for beginners, intermediates and experts, for 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:40.479 all devices, you know what I mean, everybody's got something 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:42.320 different going on. How did you have any without a 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:45.600 butt plug? I don't don't. I haven't had a lot 0:01:45.640 --> 0:01:47.840 of anal to be honest with you. I mean, I 0:01:47.840 --> 0:01:50.920 haven't found somebody who's really into that, so I have 0:01:51.000 --> 0:01:54.800 to wait until i've done that. Sorry to disappoint you, guys, 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:59.680 really sorry, Yeah, because I feel like that. Think go 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:01.680 all way about it? Do you love it? I've done 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:03.800 it once or twice. It's not a thing that I've 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:07.240 done multiple times. Tell me, fill me in it. Literally, 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:11.520 then it feels really good, better than vaginal sex. No, right, 0:02:12.680 --> 0:02:15.040 but it does. But it's a nice change of pace. Right, Yeah, 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:17.400 it's good when you're in your period. Yeah, and I 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:21.079 would guess, yeah, that makes sense. Just touch the touch 0:02:21.080 --> 0:02:26.440 the string already. Okay, now let's talk about them your documentary. Hello, privilege. 0:02:26.440 --> 0:02:28.840 It's me Chelsea, And what made you decide to do 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:31.320 this documentary because we had a nice discussion before you 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:35.360 came in about white privilege. Yes, uh, well, I think 0:02:35.400 --> 0:02:38.040 the election was a real turning point for me. I 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:40.840 know it was because I just couldn't believe that this 0:02:40.880 --> 0:02:45.280 baboon was fucking elected. I couldn't fucking believe it. So 0:02:45.440 --> 0:02:48.120 I went into therapy because I was acting like a 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:51.000 spoiled rat in reaction to his election. And I realized 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:53.280 that this was the first time I remember getting into 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:55.239 my driver's car, my driver's black I got into his 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:57.720 driver's car at the end of the election. That night, 0:02:57.760 --> 0:02:59.600 I was at my best friend Mary McCormick's house, and 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:01.440 I got the car and I was crying and I 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:03.880 was I just go, I can't believe this man as 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:05.960 the president. I can't believe it. And I said Billy, 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:07.760 what do you He's been my driver for years, he's 0:03:07.800 --> 0:03:10.160 like part of my family. I said, Billy, what do 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:13.680 you what do you think? And he said, I We're done. 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:16.840 This is your problem now. You know, black people are 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:20.520 done fighting like I'm done. He you know, he wasn't 0:03:20.520 --> 0:03:23.440 speaking for all black people, obviously, but and it hit 0:03:23.520 --> 0:03:26.560 me like, oh my god, how do people of color 0:03:26.720 --> 0:03:29.919 like I'm this upset and I'm upset about my just 0:03:30.000 --> 0:03:32.240 about the way that he was talking and everything. And 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:34.760 I realized like it was the first time in my 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:39.240 adult life that things became or felt unhinged. Nothing has 0:03:39.280 --> 0:03:41.680 ever not gone my way right. And it made me 0:03:41.720 --> 0:03:44.360 get out of my own asshole and go, wholl whoa, whoa, 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:47.480 I've had this is the most upsetting thing that's happened 0:03:47.480 --> 0:03:50.560 in my adult life. What the hell are other people dealing? 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:54.440 It's just a series of upsetting things that have led 0:03:54.480 --> 0:03:57.600 to that. I was in Atlanta, and I was at 0:03:57.680 --> 0:03:59.960 the when it was a mandament Oriental and is why 0:04:00.000 --> 0:04:01.600 woman comes at to me. I don't know her. She 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:03.400 was drunk, drinking by herself. She told me she had 0:04:03.400 --> 0:04:05.480 gotten the fight with her husband and left the house. 0:04:05.760 --> 0:04:07.280 And she goes to me, what's up with this black 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:09.880 Lives matter thing? She comes over to me just to 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:12.800 ask me that. She was like, yes, She's like and 0:04:12.840 --> 0:04:14.920 I think sometimes people feel like they could just see 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:16.840 a black person, let me just ask them. I'm drunk, 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:18.960 I want to know, and some trying to explain, like, 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:21.440 black lives matter, and it doesn't mean that your life 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:24.279 doesn't matter. But we've been through so much and we 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:26.120 have to do that because people treat us like our 0:04:26.120 --> 0:04:27.760 lives don't matter. And I'm trying to explain it to 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:29.680 her and she's really not getting it, and I'm like, 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:33.280 why am I sitting here trying to explain? And that's frustrating. Well, 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:36.760 it's also the center the black lives matter, the fact 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:41.320 that there has to be a movement to remind everybody 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:46.240 else that black lives matter. That's that's the conversation in itself, right, 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:50.240 you know. So I think people think a lot of 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:53.520 white people think, oh, well, why am I being blamed 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:57.920 for you know, society. That's unjust or unfair. It wasn't 0:04:57.920 --> 0:05:01.240 my I wasn't here, those were my ancestor, which is 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:04.080 one of the grossest things to say. It's like, this 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:08.040 has been going on for generations. Slavery lasted for longer 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:10.520 than we've not had slaves. We had slaves longer than 0:05:10.560 --> 0:05:13.560 we haven't had slaves. So for every white person that 0:05:13.640 --> 0:05:16.599 says I wasn't there, it's like that is so gross, 0:05:16.640 --> 0:05:20.040 and it's it's also a defense mechanism because I've noticed 0:05:20.120 --> 0:05:22.000 most white people don't want to talk about the subject 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:24.960 matter because if they admit there is privilege, then it's 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:26.880 something that they have to give away. You had some 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:30.920 white women conservatives that didn't really believe that there is 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:35.800 white privilege. Yes, never from Orange County. And when I'm 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:37.440 not gonna lie. When I saw that part of the 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:40.120 documentary and made it a little hard to watch for me, 0:05:40.520 --> 0:05:43.120 I think, like, you know, I I was enjoying it, 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:44.560 and then when I got to that part, I like, 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:48.560 are they serious? And then even one woman even said, well, 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:50.920 I see I see the privileges and that, and then 0:05:50.920 --> 0:05:53.200 one of her friends said, so you do see the 0:05:53.200 --> 0:05:55.080 white press. She said no, I think I see the 0:05:55.080 --> 0:05:57.720 black privilege or like their privilege, and I was like, 0:05:58.400 --> 0:06:01.039 slow down, is this a joe? Like I was really 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:03.680 love they're pist people are like not like that because 0:06:03.680 --> 0:06:05.599 I would like to continue a dialogue with those women. 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:07.400 You know, I went to therapy for a long time 0:06:07.400 --> 0:06:09.679 to understand how to talk to people instead of yelling 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:11.920 at them, because that's what I did for a career 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:14.920 for so long and it worked for me. But I 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:16.880 wanted to be able to sit down and have conversations 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:19.440 where I could actually listen to other people and try 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:22.680 to have and be respectful of their space so that 0:06:22.720 --> 0:06:25.240 there is room to grow. Sometimes it's hard, it is 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:28.160 soon I am like, you know, I like a conversation, 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:30.479 I like an argument. I'm all about it, like head 0:06:30.520 --> 0:06:33.920 first into conflict. But so for me, my exercise was 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:36.000 letting people state their opinions because there's gonna be so 0:06:36.040 --> 0:06:40.159 many white women that watch that documentary that see those 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:43.200 four white women and think I'm nothing like those women, right, 0:06:43.279 --> 0:06:54.360 And they thought, by the way, yeah that's funny. White 0:06:54.360 --> 0:07:00.880 women like, no, I don't, but yeah, like I'm only 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:04.400 doing anal I'm talking about looked like he might tear 0:07:04.440 --> 0:07:07.719 that s up. Yeah he seems Yeah, he seemed even 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:09.800 more like that the last time I saw him, which 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:12.240 was as you know, recently, Like you think his dick 0:07:12.280 --> 0:07:15.400 grew from back then. I don't know what happens with 0:07:15.440 --> 0:07:19.400 pisa grow while you're in jail, or if a shrink 0:07:19.520 --> 0:07:22.080 who knows you guys tug their penis to let it 0:07:22.080 --> 0:07:24.800 gets bigger. I don't think it gets bigger. I think 0:07:24.800 --> 0:07:29.160 it changes the shapeship the penis. Really, yes, like you 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:31.960 can sell when a guy masterbase a lot, or if 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:36.240 he doesn't masturbate at all. Really, I feel like that. 0:07:37.080 --> 0:07:40.120 I feel like sometimes I have been with guys who 0:07:40.120 --> 0:07:42.880 I felt like their penis got bigger over time. Well 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:46.640 maybe they just became more attracted to you over time. Yeah, okay. 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:49.400 I think when guys get really turned on, their penises 0:07:49.440 --> 0:07:52.320 do get bigger than normal, right, like when they're really 0:07:52.360 --> 0:07:54.720 turned on and like, wait, you could be having sex 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:56.080 with somebody for like a two years and all of 0:07:56.080 --> 0:07:58.520 a sudden you're like, what's going on down there? Atlita 0:07:58.640 --> 0:08:03.000 in two or maybe they just manscaped and it looks big. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:06.679 I like that. I don't think from pulling it it'll 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:13.480 get a different change if as if a goot, eventually 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:16.760 you're going to shave it off. YEA, guys in the room, 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:18.520 it's like wearing a waist trainer to make your waist 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:22.240 right exactly assume if everybody but you gotta way that 0:08:22.320 --> 0:08:24.120 all wear that all the time, because if you're not 0:08:24.160 --> 0:08:26.440 wearing a waist train and the waist is just not training. 0:08:26.640 --> 0:08:29.280 But imagine masturbating feels really good, so a guy is 0:08:29.280 --> 0:08:31.160 gonna do it a lot. So if he's tugging it 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:33.960 to the side, it's gonna eventually curve to the side. 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:39.240 Do you have imagine imagine a guy was wearing a 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:48.800 wiste trainer and masterbase to Now, do you think that 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:53.720 white women have sex privileges to There's a lot of 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:55.880 privilege that goes with the color of your skin, you know, 0:08:56.080 --> 0:08:58.120 So yes, I would say that, But I mean that's 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:00.679 an uneducated answer because I'm not I don't haven't had 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:02.520 enough time to think about that. But yeah, I think 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:04.680 I think there's just a lot that comes with being 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:06.760 white that if you're not. If you are white, why 0:09:06.800 --> 0:09:08.800 do you think about it? You don't have a reason 0:09:08.840 --> 0:09:10.920 to think about it unless you're starting to really, like, 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:13.480 you know, be conscious about it. I grew up in 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:16.160 a white neighborhood with a lot of white friends and 0:09:16.200 --> 0:09:18.160 I and then I moved to l A and I 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:20.679 moved to Santa Monica, and then I moved to Brentwood 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:23.240 and now I live in bel Air. So even though 0:09:23.280 --> 0:09:26.600 I thought I was woke, which I fucking wasn't because 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:28.640 I've self segregated, you know what I mean. We all 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:32.240 do things in an unconscious way that we're not aware of. 0:09:32.360 --> 0:09:35.800 And I have the luxury and license because I've can 0:09:35.880 --> 0:09:37.800 take time off and do the projects that I want 0:09:37.800 --> 0:09:39.480 to do. I know that I'm not everybody is in 0:09:39.480 --> 0:09:41.400 the same position, but we're all in a position in 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:43.760 our lives to think a little bit more about what 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:46.440 it's like to be someone other than yourself. Because I 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:48.839 think even as doing this podcast right, as women of 0:09:48.920 --> 0:09:53.280 color doing a podcast about sex, we get so much judgment. 0:09:54.400 --> 0:09:56.720 I was surprised when I was reading about your podcast 0:09:57.000 --> 0:09:59.160 that you guys were doing this. I really was, because 0:09:59.200 --> 0:10:01.320 you still can't even talk about sex, right, you know. 0:10:02.000 --> 0:10:03.600 I mean, I guess the podcast is really the only 0:10:03.600 --> 0:10:06.120 format to do it, or a book. I had a 0:10:06.120 --> 0:10:08.240 show on Serious is where it started, right, and so 0:10:08.360 --> 0:10:10.640 lips Ever started off. It's a nighttime show on Serious 0:10:10.920 --> 0:10:12.840 and it was the first thing like that right where 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:16.199 we had black women talking about sex, talking about our sexuality. 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:17.880 But when I tell you, when this first started, and 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:20.400 I think it's getting better now, but people were like, oh, 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:22.719 a bunch of horrors sitting around the hole. Yeah. I 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:25.520 couldn't take it. It was driving me crazy after a while, 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:27.520 and I'm like, why is it so taboo for us 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:29.760 to talk about sex? And I don't know, and people 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:31.720 have said this to me. I don't think that white 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:33.599 women would have had as big as they wouldn't have 0:10:33.840 --> 0:10:35.880 had as big an issue if it was white women 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:37.760 as they do when it's black women. And I don't 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:40.240 know if it's our community or whatever. That kind of 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:42.800 looked down on that at first, but I did get 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:44.840 a lot of criticism for it, and it's like the 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:48.000 conversation is still intelligent and it's something that's necessary. There's 0:10:48.040 --> 0:10:50.400 so many people that don't have anyone to talk to 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:52.480 when they want to talk about sex. They want to 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:55.800 talk about different experiences, Like we had a dominatrix on 0:10:55.800 --> 0:10:58.760 the show a couple of times, and that's fascinating to me. 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:02.760 I was talking to some one yesterday about her experience 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:06.960 as a dominatrix and she was explaining it to me, 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:09.160 and it seems like not a bad ideal, Like if 0:11:09.160 --> 0:11:12.679 you want to make some extra cash, oh, just because 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:16.439 don't have sex, right, you're not supposed to have sex 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:18.240 with yourself. Just beat the ship out of a guy 0:11:18.400 --> 0:11:21.400 right in a sexual way and yell at him. Actually, 0:11:21.400 --> 0:11:23.000 it's a great exercise for a lot of women are 0:11:23.040 --> 0:11:27.880 probably and degrade him. Yeah, and they get off on it. Yeah. 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:31.480 Have you ever done anything strange like that? I remember 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:33.679 doing a documentary and we visited this like S and 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:36.559 M you know, kind of couple, I guess, and they 0:11:36.559 --> 0:11:39.640 were explaining to us, like, you know, the domineering like 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:42.720 all of the things that happened, and I just was 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:45.680 so it's like swinging like I'm not into that ship. 0:11:45.800 --> 0:11:48.480 Like I get it if you are, and I totally 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:51.120 I mean I don't really get it, but I you know, yes, 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:54.880 do whatever when anybody wants, But but I'm not going 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:57.280 down that road. And yeah, I mean it's nice to 0:11:57.320 --> 0:11:59.040 have like a little fun in bed, but I'm not 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:02.000 down with all the stuff. I'm actually like way more 0:12:02.160 --> 0:12:05.079 conservative than anyone would imagine. Like, you know, at this point, 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:08.320 I'm just trying to get some sex, just some basic 0:12:08.600 --> 0:12:10.600 shi you know what I mean. I don't need to 0:12:10.640 --> 0:12:12.520 like get yeah, I don't need to get caught up 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:14.800 in anything else? Do you have to think about whether 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:17.079 and not people will know you? Like I mean, they 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:18.720 know you, but like are they going to talk about it? 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:20.880 I can't just go out and meet somebody. You don't care? Now, 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:22.800 I don't care. I'm on ryam on Tinder, Like I 0:12:22.840 --> 0:12:24.560 don't care if you tell anybody that you had sex 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:26.440 with me. I'm trying to I would love for that 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:28.480 to be true. Let's go up sex. Do you care 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:30.280 if they say it's good or not. I don't care 0:12:30.320 --> 0:12:32.920 about that either. Like I had sex with Chesse. It 0:12:33.000 --> 0:12:37.720 is terrible. Yeah, that was aay be embarrassing, but I 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:43.480 could get past up. What about you ladies? And no? 0:12:43.679 --> 0:12:45.839 Do you think about that? Like Jez, you're newly single, 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:48.520 yes I am. Are you having sex already? Yes? I am? 0:12:49.320 --> 0:12:50.880 I have enough. I told you I look up with 0:12:50.960 --> 0:12:52.400 a butt plug. I know, but I don't know what 0:12:52.440 --> 0:12:55.640 you're up to on your own looking by my phone. 0:12:55.920 --> 0:12:58.520 Does anybody master being with butt plugs? Is that a 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:02.200 good feeling? Maybe I haven't. It's a training thing. I 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:06.120 hadn't masturbated with the butt plug, but the butt plug 0:13:06.200 --> 0:13:08.439 last night was just more of me like being like 0:13:08.520 --> 0:13:11.120 a freak for this guy, and then you surprised him 0:13:11.120 --> 0:13:12.840 with it, like he had no idea and until he 0:13:12.840 --> 0:13:14.320 plupped me over to go head from the back and 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:17.200 it was like a pink. It was like the what 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:19.000 is that? And I was like it just itels like 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:22.640 you're like and so then did you take out the 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:25.080 butt plug? I know it stated in throughout the whole 0:13:25.800 --> 0:13:29.280 situation that I passed out. I actually tapped out, excuse me, 0:13:29.360 --> 0:13:32.320 and fell asleep. And when I woke up this morning, 0:13:32.400 --> 0:13:34.120 the plug was still in. I was like, oh, ship, 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:36.920 it's still there. So he didn't fire, obviously not didn't. 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:39.520 It's also a great way if you put a plug in, 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:41.600 it's a great way to tell somebody like no entry 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:43.880 here if you're not into It's like a cork stopper. 0:13:43.960 --> 0:13:46.920 It's like, hey, there's already something. This base is taken 0:13:47.840 --> 0:13:52.319 around the corner. He's taken. Did nobody mastered based by 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:56.640 like shoving their fingering there? But right? No? No, maybe 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:59.840 a guy because you know, okay, that's where their prosing is. 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:04.559 But I still jerk off, you know. But women, and 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:07.199 I don't know a woman that has ever said that 0:14:07.240 --> 0:14:10.000 they masturbate with their butthole because it's like a certain 0:14:10.080 --> 0:14:12.199 point you have to reach to even like fail the 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:15.319 pleasure anyway, right, So you're not gonna get there with 0:14:15.720 --> 0:14:17.439 all the way up there by yourself with your fingers. 0:14:17.520 --> 0:14:20.000 Let you see her nails. You can still get it 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:22.760 up there. This is my what I don't understand about 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:26.400 the nail situation these days because women's nails are so long. 0:14:26.520 --> 0:14:29.080 I get it's in, but how do you fool around 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:32.280 with a guy with those nails? So what do you 0:14:32.320 --> 0:14:35.680 mean like if I'm like, well, if you're in, if 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:38.480 you're around your own vagina or his penis, Like, what 0:14:38.520 --> 0:14:40.560 I mean, don't you have to like think about your nails. 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:42.280 I think you just gotta be more gentle. I'm not 0:14:42.320 --> 0:14:45.120 gonna like sinse. I've been getting these like Savorsky crystals. 0:14:45.160 --> 0:14:47.680 I haven't tried to because these will come off and 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:50.240 you don't want to sing. I used to get my 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:52.120 nails done like that, and I used to get all 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:57.880 kinds of ship drinking like five years ago, and every 0:14:57.880 --> 0:15:01.520 guy I hated them, single one. They'd be like, oh, 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:05.600 I to thing about, Yeah, that's what they're adding the 0:15:05.200 --> 0:15:18.720 want the thing? Anybody, No, not to day, But why 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:20.920 did I think of that and paint that Neil Brown 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:29.000 just don't want to talk. That crosses I no longer 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:32.200 feel comfortable. What about you though? Do you think about 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:34.160 like who you date or sleep with and if he's 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:37.400 going to talk um, Yeah, but I feel like one 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:40.080 thing that like if I'm dating somebody or I take 0:15:40.120 --> 0:15:42.560 it that far, I want him to respect me enough 0:15:42.600 --> 0:15:44.600 to the fact that he's not running around saying stuff 0:15:44.600 --> 0:15:48.040 about me, especially in this like we're grown. So if 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:50.000 you're doing that, that's the kind of guy that I 0:15:50.000 --> 0:15:52.360 don't want to be with. You know, we're around or anything, 0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:55.400 but character. That's a character trait. And if somebody's like that, 0:15:55.440 --> 0:15:57.360 it's like, exactly, you don't want to date a guy 0:15:57.440 --> 0:15:59.560 like that. No, it's disgusting. It's like if you have 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:01.640 to go around being like, hey, let me tell you 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:04.480 how this was I grow up? You know the service 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:10.120 I hit that um brag about their sexual explication by 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:13.280 wor than we do like for sure, but if they 0:16:13.360 --> 0:16:15.560 really really message you, I mean, yeah, they're gonna say 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:18.760 whatever about you. But it's certain things after the fact, 0:16:18.920 --> 0:16:20.800 like once it's over, then it's like, yeah, I had her. 0:16:21.720 --> 0:16:24.960 That's a character like some people, some guys don't do that, 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:27.840 and some guys do. Some guys actually really respect women. 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:34.040 That their self esteem from advertising every woman that they've 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:37.360 slept with, you know, and that's that's a nice quality. 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:40.360 And a man. I actually had a conversation with my 0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:43.560 co host um on my morning show, and he said 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:46.680 that if there was a girl that he knew dealt 0:16:46.720 --> 0:16:48.920 with a guy he knew, he would ask him how 0:16:49.040 --> 0:16:51.520 was she in bed? And I felt like that's weird. 0:16:51.920 --> 0:16:54.320 Not only where, but it's like where are you in 0:16:54.360 --> 0:16:56.640 your mind that you feel like, hey, so how is 0:16:56.800 --> 0:16:58.360 And he said he would ask how is the head 0:16:58.440 --> 0:17:01.440 thinking with his penis? But I just think that's crazy 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:05.119 to me, like that if you disrespect, disrespects sometimes aren't 0:17:05.119 --> 0:17:07.359 too good with certain guys and not good with other guys. 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:10.760 Like I might sex fantastically and then somebody else I 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:13.920 might be like. And it also depends on the size 0:17:13.920 --> 0:17:16.159 of the dick, Like some digs it smaller and easier 0:17:16.160 --> 0:17:18.560 to set, and you're gonna go hamm on it, right, 0:17:18.680 --> 0:17:21.439 and you can really do every trick. I'm Jewish, so 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:22.960 I just want to put it out there that I'm 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:26.480 not good at blow jobs. Come on, no, no, no, no, 0:17:26.600 --> 0:17:29.240 I mean, if I'm really into somebody, I suppose I 0:17:29.240 --> 0:17:31.399 could get good at it, but like it's not a 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:33.879 natural that's not a natural thing for me. I'd much 0:17:34.000 --> 0:17:36.480 rather have sex with somebody before that happens then give 0:17:36.480 --> 0:17:38.600 a blow job because they might be like no things. 0:17:38.760 --> 0:17:40.240 I just don't think. I don't think they're gonna be 0:17:40.280 --> 0:17:46.800 that impressed. Yeah, it also feels really intimate, more intimate 0:17:46.800 --> 0:17:49.800 than sex. Becauld you can get pregnant from sex. Well, 0:17:49.840 --> 0:17:53.679 I'm not going to, so that feels better like and 0:17:53.800 --> 0:17:55.960 that's at least getting to know someone, Like a blowjob 0:17:56.040 --> 0:17:58.159 feels like something you really have to do, like like 0:17:58.240 --> 0:17:59.720 for me, it feels like I really have to be 0:17:59.760 --> 0:18:01.800 into somebody to want to put my mouth on their penis. 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:04.359 I totally agree with you on that. I think Chelsea 0:18:04.720 --> 0:18:09.040 being a bag. I agree you ain't no bad head. 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:15.080 What's going on out here? So I can teach me 0:18:15.080 --> 0:18:17.240 how to give a blood job? All right? Why do 0:18:17.400 --> 0:18:22.240 you guys get out here? That what you say? I 0:18:22.280 --> 0:18:25.320 don't remember. I have no idea. I don't remember what 0:18:25.400 --> 0:18:27.760 you said you were with me, that you're with me 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:30.840 you'd rather have sex thing? Because I I told okay, 0:18:30.840 --> 0:18:36.679 thank you? Yes, yes, Um, I feel like giving a 0:18:36.680 --> 0:18:40.080 blow job is something very intimate. It's like I'm showing golf. 0:18:40.119 --> 0:18:43.400 I'm there, you're looking at me. It's it's it's way 0:18:43.400 --> 0:18:46.000 more intimate than just sex. Like you could turn around 0:18:46.040 --> 0:18:48.440 and be reading a book while somebody's sucking in front 0:18:48.440 --> 0:18:51.720 of That would be awful. Read Chelsey Handler's book Life 0:18:51.720 --> 0:18:55.280 would be the death of me while you're kind or 0:18:55.320 --> 0:18:59.160 a blow job I once I remember once in high 0:18:59.160 --> 0:19:02.359 school to give I think I tried, but it was 0:19:02.400 --> 0:19:06.000 probably my attempt to give my first blow job. And 0:19:06.080 --> 0:19:08.920 I remember the guy putting his hand on my head. 0:19:09.720 --> 0:19:12.720 And when I felt his hand on my head, I thought, okay, 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:15.120 I'm not down with Like, I'm not han with anybody 0:19:15.119 --> 0:19:16.679 putting their hand on my head. I don't like, you know, 0:19:16.720 --> 0:19:19.720 women don't do that to men. We're not like I 0:19:19.720 --> 0:19:26.159 mean if we don't, yeah, exactly. You gotta get to 0:19:26.160 --> 0:19:28.600 know somebody before they put your hand on their head, 0:19:28.800 --> 0:19:31.800 especially if they have receding hairline and they haven't shaved. 0:19:33.200 --> 0:19:35.840 Guys are very subconscious about their hair line. They don't 0:19:35.840 --> 0:19:37.879 have a fresh shave and you're on their head, They're like, 0:19:37.880 --> 0:19:41.439 whoa wait a minute, you gotta learn how to give 0:19:41.480 --> 0:19:43.360 a good blow job. All right, we'll teach me. I mean, 0:19:43.359 --> 0:19:46.240 you've got a microphone, okay, So look, I'm like, where 0:19:46.240 --> 0:19:49.440 do we start a bottle? Okay? This is what I think, 0:19:49.600 --> 0:19:51.840 or step to a good blow job is the anticipation 0:19:51.880 --> 0:19:53.800