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Speaker 1: It's yes, I'm Angela Yee, I'm g. G Maguire, I'm

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Speaker 1: Stephanie Santiago, I'm and Chelsea Handler is here. Chelsea. Everybody

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Speaker 1: says their name. You know what's funny. A funny Chelsea

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Speaker 1: I'd rather fashion myself after Chelsea Handler. No offense to

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Speaker 1: Oprah because I love Oprah, but me and her are

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Speaker 1: just not anything like Like I have a show called

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Speaker 1: lip Service. I've already talked about sex and relationships and

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Speaker 1: It's me Chelsea, And what made you decide to do

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Speaker 1: of hand as if the further it gets down your throat,

424
00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:58,359
Speaker 1: your makes your mouth wet, so then that's where the

425
00:20:58,400 --> 00:21:02,320
Speaker 1: spit comes from. Feel like, please, don't right like a

426
00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:07,639
Speaker 1: forgot the ball. You don't neglect the ball. Yeah, and

427
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:10,840
Speaker 1: carress them. If you're not even going to lick them

428
00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:12,080
Speaker 1: or put them both in your mouth like I like

429
00:21:12,119 --> 00:21:14,639
Speaker 1: to do, then you can just carress them and you know,

430
00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:16,520
Speaker 1: just give them a little bit of a tickle. Massa.

431
00:21:16,680 --> 00:21:18,840
Speaker 1: I think I'm such a savage these tips. Is. I

432
00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:24,439
Speaker 1: don't do any of that, Like, I'm like, you know

433
00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:28,080
Speaker 1: what the first thing is, the very first thing I

434
00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:31,280
Speaker 1: do in them give a blow job is this? Yeah,

435
00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:33,320
Speaker 1: me too, and I do the same thing. I do

436
00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:35,960
Speaker 1: the same exact thing. That's the very first thing. I

437
00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:39,639
Speaker 1: look like a like a cat. Yeah. The thing I

438
00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 1: have with both is that I think because my first

439
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:45,920
Speaker 1: experience was so so cemented and it felt so degrading

440
00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:49,359
Speaker 1: that I have that like, it's just like it's disrespectful.

441
00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:51,800
Speaker 1: It was disrespectful. It felt for a man put his

442
00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:54,399
Speaker 1: hand on my head, and even at that young age,

443
00:21:54,440 --> 00:21:57,080
Speaker 1: that imprint in your physical body actually stays with you

444
00:21:57,200 --> 00:21:59,840
Speaker 1: much longer than you realize. So even intellectually, now that

445
00:21:59,880 --> 00:22:03,000
Speaker 1: I know that was just one asshole, Like, I'm just like, well,

446
00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 1: you know, say the blow drugs for somebody who really

447
00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:08,240
Speaker 1: deserves it. It's might be a good therapy discussion, and

448
00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:10,320
Speaker 1: it's a good therapy. I'll bring it up with my therapy.

449
00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:12,520
Speaker 1: And I felt like I learned how to that thing

450
00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:14,600
Speaker 1: better because I had a guy that was like that.

451
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:16,720
Speaker 1: Like I was in a relationship with a guy that

452
00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:19,720
Speaker 1: was more like, come on, he loved head. So it's

453
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:21,359
Speaker 1: like I had to do with so much that I

454
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:23,479
Speaker 1: got really good at it. But it would be for

455
00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:25,879
Speaker 1: like an hour. My job would be like okay, no,

456
00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:30,040
Speaker 1: that I was young, that's abusive to suck on anything.

457
00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:33,760
Speaker 1: When I was young and I went I think I

458
00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:35,480
Speaker 1: just liked him so much and I was like, oh,

459
00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:39,479
Speaker 1: make it happen. I hate when guys try to make

460
00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:41,320
Speaker 1: you suck there, dick mad long and hold there. That

461
00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:44,640
Speaker 1: was really doing that. That's something I could talk about

462
00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:47,040
Speaker 1: on the subject of balls. I just remembered because I've

463
00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:48,720
Speaker 1: been with I don't know, are you guys? Are you

464
00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:50,439
Speaker 1: guys into white guys too? Have you been with a

465
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:52,760
Speaker 1: lot of white and black guys. I've never been with

466
00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 1: a white guy. You've never been with white guy. Theory

467
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:59,200
Speaker 1: white guys. I think in my experience, I will say

468
00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 1: that black men have tighter more um the tighter ball sacks.

469
00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 1: I agree with that. Even light skin like Spanish guys,

470
00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:14,879
Speaker 1: they're a little looser, yes, yes, or something, so the

471
00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:17,280
Speaker 1: melanin holes and testicles a little tighter. Just the same

472
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:19,560
Speaker 1: reason why black people age better, I guess because their

473
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 1: skin is less elastic and they can keep it together more.

474
00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:26,120
Speaker 1: But yeah, because balls are really tricky and it's nice

475
00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:28,480
Speaker 1: to keep them in one area instead of having one

476
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:32,280
Speaker 1: slide around around. You know, I don't want that because

477
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:34,560
Speaker 1: they come around. I've never seen like a ball over

478
00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 1: there really some older white man and that's the grab

479
00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:40,720
Speaker 1: that they get older. I think the balls dry. I

480
00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:44,680
Speaker 1: don't think i'm balls in my day. I think people

481
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:47,160
Speaker 1: on long balls. You guys again, and it's like long

482
00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,880
Speaker 1: balls don't go together. Long boobs are also not a compliment.

483
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:53,800
Speaker 1: I think you don't want balls that are long. I'd

484
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:55,360
Speaker 1: say that all the time. I don't like when they

485
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:59,040
Speaker 1: swing and it's like a penduluminary. I kind of like,

486
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:04,760
Speaker 1: I don't like. I don't think it's I'm growing guys

487
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:07,879
Speaker 1: maybe not want to get in. But with balls. I

488
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:13,119
Speaker 1: don't want balls, but the boss lap. I can't do

489
00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:14,640
Speaker 1: the plug, but I could do the ball. What about

490
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:16,080
Speaker 1: wat you a second and you like the bulls snack

491
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:18,160
Speaker 1: and you want It's No, that's never happened to me.

492
00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:20,679
Speaker 1: I can't think, has it? No, I don't. It's probably

493
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:24,240
Speaker 1: hard to suck long balls too. Are you supposed to

494
00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:27,879
Speaker 1: suck balls? Yeah, well that's my I've never given a

495
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:34,200
Speaker 1: blow job. I'm not. I'm not sometimes something. It's not

496
00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:37,119
Speaker 1: my thing. You want to know, maybe, but I'm not.

497
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 1: I'm not putting a ball in my mouth that's tight,

498
00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:45,400
Speaker 1: like he says atter that. I think it's uncomfortable. Like

499
00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:48,160
Speaker 1: I'm not a big fan of having balls in my

500
00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 1: mouth either. There because you can't stop too long. I

501
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:59,440
Speaker 1: need to go to sandals seems like it's like we're

502
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 1: getting I even know a woman like, oh my god,

503
00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:11,359
Speaker 1: now how much this success and money matter? And a

504
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:13,600
Speaker 1: guy that you're dating, Now, does somebody have to have

505
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:15,680
Speaker 1: those things? Because you've been with some very successful men.

506
00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:19,399
Speaker 1: So is it possible for Chelsea to date somebody that

507
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:23,880
Speaker 1: is just making it just scraping by? Well, there's a difference.

508
00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:25,360
Speaker 1: I need somebody who. I mean, I've tried to dake

509
00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:27,480
Speaker 1: guys who are just like scraping by and it ends

510
00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:30,359
Speaker 1: up being kind of really uneven. I don't need somebody

511
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,000
Speaker 1: to be like, you know, wealthy or rich or anything

512
00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 1: like that. But I want somebody who as their shipped together.

513
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 1: But also for intellectual reasons, I just don't want somebody

514
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,520
Speaker 1: who's struggling. I want somebody who's on the same page

515
00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:42,000
Speaker 1: as me. You know, I'm in my forties now, forty four,

516
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:46,200
Speaker 1: and uh, you know we were joking, well not it's

517
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:48,240
Speaker 1: not a joke, but you know, everybody knows I dated

518
00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:50,960
Speaker 1: fifty cent. And then in my documentary, my boyfriend Tie

519
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,399
Speaker 1: Sewn from high schools in it and I go I

520
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 1: said to my friend, said, yesterday, she goes, You know,

521
00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 1: white guys are never ever because you think you're a

522
00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:00,400
Speaker 1: trouble dating before, because white guys are never I'm gonna

523
00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:02,720
Speaker 1: try to day you have the same thing. You're only

524
00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 1: like black dudes, And I'm like, no, I like white dudes,

525
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:09,720
Speaker 1: but they're fucking scared of me. So with a black eye.

526
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:11,240
Speaker 1: But I do get hit up by a lot more

527
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 1: black eyes than I do. I know white guys ever

528
00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:15,919
Speaker 1: ever approached me. Ever, I feel like it's like you

529
00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:19,880
Speaker 1: opened the floodgates once the whole, like fifty cents anything,

530
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:23,399
Speaker 1: anybody that's near fifty cent and not scared in a

531
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 1: way like so, I think from there they were like, yes,

532
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:28,879
Speaker 1: we're all able to like slide in her d m

533
00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:32,560
Speaker 1: more than I don't think like they would even tried,

534
00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:36,399
Speaker 1: Like even though you very cool, I think now you

535
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:39,199
Speaker 1: just crossed over into the black community as soon as

536
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 1: fifty cent hit that. But they're not gonna like that.

537
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,919
Speaker 1: You don't. But I'm not like, I'm an egalitarian. I

538
00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 1: like white opportunities, an equal opportunity for everyone. What about

539
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:56,120
Speaker 1: Asian Hispanic? Uh, No, I haven't had sex with any

540
00:26:56,160 --> 00:27:00,680
Speaker 1: Asian men Hispanic. Well a Spanish guy I've I've had

541
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 1: sex with. Yeah, I've had sexcellence to Hispanic guys not guys.

542
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:08,639
Speaker 1: I think it was that one, but he was actually

543
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:13,120
Speaker 1: from Spain, so he literally he's literally Spanish. Uh yeah,

544
00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:14,920
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean too whatever. I'm into a guy

545
00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 1: that knows what he wants. It isn't scared of my personality,

546
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 1: Like it's not going anywhere. So if it's just me

547
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:21,399
Speaker 1: and I have to hang out by myself with my

548
00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:23,679
Speaker 1: friends and my family, I'm also down with that. Like

549
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:26,399
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I'm not. I like to have sex,

550
00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 1: but I don't need a companion, like I don't need

551
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 1: a boyfriend. I would love to have that guy, but

552
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:34,080
Speaker 1: you know that may or may not happen. He seems

553
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:37,320
Speaker 1: like you'd be a fun girlfriend. I'm pretty fun, yeah,

554
00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:41,040
Speaker 1: except that you don't suns that can affect our relationship.

555
00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 1: You know. He's like I can't be friends with because

556
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 1: you also don't like to I mean a girlfriend to

557
00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:49,880
Speaker 1: a guy like you know. Yeah, I've got a lot

558
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 1: of guy friends. My guy friends all want to have

559
00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 1: sex with me, but they're all married, so that's okay.

560
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, No, no, no, they all want to

561
00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:59,239
Speaker 1: see you on your wife. No, no, we don't do it.

562
00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:01,359
Speaker 1: But those are the kind of guys I want to date. Like,

563
00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 1: you know, my friends and husbands and boyfriends are the

564
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:05,720
Speaker 1: guys I'm closest to, and so I kind of get

565
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:08,160
Speaker 1: the best of both worlds because all my friends, boyfriends

566
00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:11,080
Speaker 1: and husbands are always looking out for me and they're

567
00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:13,600
Speaker 1: not my boyfriends. But you know, it's kind of sweet

568
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:15,720
Speaker 1: and I gets to hang out with my girls. I'm

569
00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:19,159
Speaker 1: a third wheel a lot, I really am, or a

570
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:24,880
Speaker 1: fifth wheel depends sometimes there's more than one couple. One

571
00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:26,919
Speaker 1: thing I saw you was with your friends. It's like,

572
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:28,680
Speaker 1: I bring this up all the time. I talk about

573
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:30,119
Speaker 1: it a lot because it was like one of the

574
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:32,439
Speaker 1: favorite things I've ever watched in my life, and it

575
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:34,240
Speaker 1: was one of your documentary And it was when you

576
00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 1: did Chelsea does Drugs and you you guys are at

577
00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:39,719
Speaker 1: the table and that looked like a friend. When you

578
00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: did Hiowa, how you say Iowasca, Iowaka? Would you ever

579
00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 1: like recommend somebody else to do that? And would you

580
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 1: do it again? I'm gonna do for so I'm going

581
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 1: right now to meet Jenny after this. After I leave

582
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 1: here today, I'm going to meet her for lunch. The

583
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 1: girl in the documentary that was Chelsea does drugs um

584
00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:59,440
Speaker 1: and yes, I would do it again. I just did

585
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 1: a podcast about it last week with all of us

586
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 1: who were in the episode, to talk about how we

587
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:06,720
Speaker 1: felt about it now that it's been four years and

588
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 1: if we would do it again, And yeah, I would

589
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:11,560
Speaker 1: recommend it. You can't be on antidepressants. You can't be

590
00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:13,280
Speaker 1: on you know, you have to really clean out your

591
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:16,520
Speaker 1: system and you have to find a good shaman. And

592
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:18,800
Speaker 1: I don't know how you do that, that's just instinct

593
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:22,600
Speaker 1: or you know, a referral. But people are doing it

594
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 1: and people are having transformative experiences. But you have to

595
00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:30,120
Speaker 1: really respect your own brain chemistry. Like I know that

596
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 1: I take tons of drugs. I've always have. I like mushrooms.

597
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:39,960
Speaker 1: I like cannabis, and you like so if you like mushrooms,

598
00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 1: the closest thing. It's not giddy and happy like mushrooms,

599
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 1: but it's it's this joyfulness that comes over you. It

600
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:53,120
Speaker 1: is overwhelming gratitude and love you feel. Either for me,

601
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 1: it was my sister who's actually standing out there today, Shanna.

602
00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:59,640
Speaker 1: She went down to the bathroom. She's probably scared to

603
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:05,480
Speaker 1: which about anal. She's like, what, Um, we don't know

604
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 1: what but but it was an overwhelming feeling of just

605
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:18,400
Speaker 1: love and like gratefulness, and you looked at your life.

606
00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:21,600
Speaker 1: I remember this scene. It plays like there's just these

607
00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 1: flashes of imagery and it's your whole life as a kid.

608
00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 1: Not your whole life, but scenes from your kid like

609
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:30,040
Speaker 1: that are real that you have in your brain somewhere

610
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,880
Speaker 1: that you've forgotten about. And dogs, like I remember seeing

611
00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:34,920
Speaker 1: a dog from my childhood. I was like, oh, that's Mutley,

612
00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 1: and I realized, yeah, you had that dog. Like this

613
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 1: doesn't make believe. All of the things you're seeing were scenes.

614
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 1: And it was my sister and I running along the

615
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 1: beach at our parents summer house and Martha's vineyard, um,

616
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 1: you know, because we're white, and we were laughing and

617
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:52,640
Speaker 1: like tipping each other over in kayaks and we were

618
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 1: holding hands, and I remember there was a scene where

619
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 1: I was pulling her down by her hair and I

620
00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 1: was watching myself and I'm like, I'm I god, I

621
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 1: was three years old. I'm like, you're already fucking bullying

622
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 1: her when you were three years old, You're like, and

623
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 1: you know, but it was all this like beautiful imagery,

624
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:10,240
Speaker 1: and it was for me what ended up happening with

625
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:14,160
Speaker 1: the ayahuasca was it was like this voice saying, your

626
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 1: sister and you are different. You are not correct, She's

627
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:21,560
Speaker 1: not correct. Don't judge her because she wants to be,

628
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 1: you know, a mom and a family person and wants

629
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 1: to live in New Jersey. You need attention. She doesn't

630
00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 1: need your attention. And I was like, oh yeah, I'm

631
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 1: the loser. I'm the one who's thirsty here. So it

632
00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 1: was a whole completely change of my understanding and empathy

633
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 1: and compassion for her and understanding I my way isn't

634
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:46,640
Speaker 1: the right way. My way is my way and her

635
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 1: way is her way. And I want to do Iowa

636
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 1: and I can you guys come to l A because

637
00:31:55,880 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 1: in Topanga they have like tons of when you do it,

638
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 1: will come and do it totally do get it. We're

639
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 1: going to be and we can record it. Am I

640
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:08,400
Speaker 1: going to be embarrassed by this recording? Yeah? Some people

641
00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 1: were crying streams. I definitely was crying, but I was

642
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 1: crying like happy tears. I just kuldn't that's what it is.

643
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 1: That's what ayahuaska feels like. But aauaska doesn't make you

644
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 1: laugh like shrooms like, it's not fun and it's not social.

645
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 1: You don't want to like hang out with me and

646
00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 1: talk to me about what you're going through. It's very solitary.

647
00:32:28,760 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 1: When I was living in l A, I was I

648
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 1: was planning. I was like, I want to do Ayahuaska

649
00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:34,000
Speaker 1: and I want to tape and I want to film it.

650
00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 1: I want to see how how I do. And I

651
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 1: wouldn't want to film it. I just want to go

652
00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 1: through and then if you don't like it, you can

653
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:42,600
Speaker 1: do like that. But because I'm actually I might do

654
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 1: another one and film it if you guys do it

655
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:46,240
Speaker 1: or I do it, but we should stay in touch

656
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:47,680
Speaker 1: because I want if I do it, I want to

657
00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 1: bring a group with me that would would we should

658
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 1: definitely do. The only thing I've done on there that

659
00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 1: you've done other than the normal stuff was the adderall

660
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 1: to That was another thing that like he been bringing

661
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 1: my interest. I mean not ada sorry ambient, because I've

662
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 1: drank and took ambient and done things and not remembered.

663
00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 1: So when I've seen what you didn't, you was like

664
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:12,680
Speaker 1: drawing your brother and you know, and I looked at

665
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 1: it and I could really like I'm like, wow, that's

666
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 1: I stopped taking it after I watched that, well ambient

667
00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:20,160
Speaker 1: is Yeah, you shouldn't stopped taking terrible, it's terrible. There's

668
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 1: so many First of all, cannabis. Well, I know it's

669
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 1: not legal here, but you guys can get it here. Yeah,

670
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 1: we always right now you need all you need to

671
00:33:30,040 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 1: do is to go to bed down weed. I have

672
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:35,240
Speaker 1: a weadline coming out next year in February, and I'm

673
00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 1: very passionate about cannabis because it is a game changer,

674
00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: you know, maybe a lot less angry and a lot

675
00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 1: like more tolerant of other people. All right, we're with it. Yeah,

676
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:51,760
Speaker 1: we're gonna go do ayahuasca. I got it to stop, Okay, okay,

677
00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:54,560
Speaker 1: just right. It starts with an A. Well, it's confusing,

678
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 1: I believe me. I get it. It's like I mean,

679
00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:58,720
Speaker 1: and I feel like I'm such a mess, Like I'm

680
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:00,959
Speaker 1: such an emotional mess. I feel like it would be

681
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 1: so interesting. Yeah, it's take comes out on it because

682
00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 1: you know how you want to like what comes out.

683
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 1: You don't forget anything, You remember every single thing. I

684
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:12,480
Speaker 1: just wrote my book, Like the Aahwaska chapter is a

685
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 1: chapter in my book. And I didn't I didn't know

686
00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 1: it was all right there it's not one of those

687
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:21,320
Speaker 1: drugs where you don't remember. It's not like you remember

688
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 1: every detail. And that's what's so profound about it. I think, yeah,

689
00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:26,920
Speaker 1: I'm not because I don't really do a lot of guys.

690
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:29,600
Speaker 1: I did ecstasy a few times and it was nice

691
00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:31,319
Speaker 1: until I had a bad experience and then I never

692
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:37,040
Speaker 1: did it again. Yeah, yeah, that's how take like, Okay,

693
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:39,719
Speaker 1: now I'm good. I love shrooms and I did from

694
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 1: so many times last year. I've never I've never taken

695
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:46,080
Speaker 1: micro distinguish with shrooms, which is really helpful. Like I

696
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 1: take them when I'm skiing, Like I take it. It's

697
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 1: like a really it's literally micro docing. So it just

698
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:55,800
Speaker 1: goes like people with depression, people with PTSD. It starts

699
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 1: to me, it's just like a more up, happy feeling

700
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 1: throughout your day. You're like everything's a little bit more sparkly,

701
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:05,719
Speaker 1: but it's almost it's almost imperceptible, but it's not. If

702
00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:07,480
Speaker 1: you're paying attention to you would do a little yeah,

703
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 1: a little a little bit is good. Yeah, you should

704
00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:11,480
Speaker 1: try micro dos sing. I would do that all right.

705
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 1: Now let's talk about you had to take sexual harassment training. Well,

706
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:19,880
Speaker 1: I've had to take it several times. I've had to

707
00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:25,480
Speaker 1: take it several times. They because I tried to bring

708
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 1: everybody sex toys. But I figured, like they knew I

709
00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 1: have a sex show with the big deal. It's not

710
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:31,239
Speaker 1: like I was like, hey, I want to see you

711
00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:33,319
Speaker 1: use this. It's like you guys want something. I mean,

712
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:36,440
Speaker 1: the sexual harassment training is so ridiculous because well it's necessary,

713
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 1: but also ridiculous, like you have to they should just

714
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:41,279
Speaker 1: think a little bit more about the realisticness of like,

715
00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 1: you know, they What they said at the end was

716
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 1: that we should all if you want to say hi

717
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:47,840
Speaker 1: to somebody you don't know what works that you should

718
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 1: dab them like how you say hello and hi. Hugging way, Well,

719
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:57,719
Speaker 1: you're not really supposed to hug people. You know, ask

720
00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:00,040
Speaker 1: if you can hug that, and and I hug you

721
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:03,080
Speaker 1: in high school and no public display of affection. We

722
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 1: weren't allowed to hug in high school. That's the high

723
00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:08,799
Speaker 1: school thing where you know, you hug where you know

724
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 1: when the guy's like, hey, where's my house? There trying

725
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 1: to fill your titties against their chest. We're trying to

726
00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 1: feel something else, something shouldn't have but yet don't fresh

727
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:28,279
Speaker 1: out the box now. But seriously, so Luria, I had

728
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 1: to take it for giving out sex toys. I wouldn't

729
00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:32,360
Speaker 1: have got that was a problem me there because you know,

730
00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:34,600
Speaker 1: I worked with a couple of guys and being Charlettagne

731
00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 1: and they're very inappropriate. Yeah right, so I feel like

732
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:43,080
Speaker 1: I could get them on something. This is your moment advantage.

733
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:45,480
Speaker 1: And he put um. He tried to embarrass me and

734
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:50,360
Speaker 1: put a sex toy in my luggage, my carry on. No,

735
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:53,359
Speaker 1: that's embarrassing. It wasn't. I didn't really know. He didn't

736
00:36:53,360 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 1: put it on. He was about to put it on,

737
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:58,360
Speaker 1: so it was vibrating, put it in my luggage and

738
00:36:58,680 --> 00:37:01,800
Speaker 1: I didn't even see it. Think go through security airports

739
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:07,280
Speaker 1: must see. So I'm sure the security saw the bubb plug.

740
00:37:07,360 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 1: And because it was in my purse, I can't travel

741
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 1: with sex to it. Probably I just started using sex

742
00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:15,080
Speaker 1: to its like three weeks ago. They forced me, yes,

743
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 1: when used a vibrate Yeah, I did not. I was like,

744
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 1: I always looked at it like I'll just get dick

745
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 1: or use my fingers because I just thought it was

746
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 1: weird to like fun plastic or whatever. I know, I

747
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:29,080
Speaker 1: hear what you're yeah, but I chat it, and now

748
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 1: I don't feel the same where you're using that one

749
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:39,160
Speaker 1: till that Wasn't it amazing? Tell me it's it's Fantastic'll

750
00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:42,280
Speaker 1: get you one. You just put on a little tingleberry.

751
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:44,840
Speaker 1: You know. It's like a pocket rocket. You ever you

752
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 1: ever seen a pocket round. It's a small vibrator and

753
00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 1: it's but it's a good powering. That's what it is.

754
00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:54,719
Speaker 1: It's like the vibration. It's like I called it the

755
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:58,239
Speaker 1: automatic and then the little ring and you put your

756
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:00,040
Speaker 1: finger through the ring and like you don't even and

757
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:05,840
Speaker 1: after right, men will become extinct. I'm so proud of you.

758
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 1: I like it. I like it a lot. We're gonna

759
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:10,719
Speaker 1: get you right. You just hold it by the ring,

760
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:14,319
Speaker 1: you just hang. Have you ever been late to work

761
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:18,239
Speaker 1: playing with sex toys? No, late to work because you

762
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:22,000
Speaker 1: were playing with sex toys and watching porn. I'm not

763
00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:26,560
Speaker 1: late because I'm playing with maybe later the party, I

764
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:28,520
Speaker 1: just won't get out of bed. If that's the case,

765
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:32,239
Speaker 1: I just will cancel. I'm not work. But like you

766
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 1: have a problem, can sex? I canceled like a lunch

767
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:37,359
Speaker 1: date with my home girl because I'm in a bit

768
00:38:37,440 --> 00:38:41,600
Speaker 1: vibrating and masturbating. See, I haven't any times can you

769
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:44,360
Speaker 1: masturbate in a rug before you're like I'm done for hours?

770
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:49,560
Speaker 1: Really over and you CALLI Max want a time climax?

771
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 1: So do you ever hold your come when you're masturbating?

772
00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 1: You'll do it all the time, right, because sometimes you're like,

773
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:56,239
Speaker 1: I don't want to, I don't want I want to

774
00:38:56,320 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 1: lead up to it and then I'll stopped. See, But

775
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:00,279
Speaker 1: I feel like when I do that over and then

776
00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:04,480
Speaker 1: whenever I feel like if you wait to hold it,

777
00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 1: the orgasm isn't as good to me because little happened

778
00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 1: is a orgasm by mistake, and I'm like, fun, I

779
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:13,160
Speaker 1: could and it wasn't a good one. It wasn't satisfying

780
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 1: minute when you start over, it ended up there for

781
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:21,439
Speaker 1: to work. I sat days where I masturbate the whole day,

782
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:24,480
Speaker 1: but not like that back to back, like I'd take

783
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:27,760
Speaker 1: like fifteen minutes twenty minute breaks. You know, I'm watching

784
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 1: that masturbating. When I was a little girl, I used

785
00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 1: to call it the feeling because it was when I

786
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:35,360
Speaker 1: first discovered my Pikachu and I was like, oh, I

787
00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:37,719
Speaker 1: was like dingong, what's going on here? And I went

788
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:39,640
Speaker 1: through a phase where I'm masturbated, but it got out

789
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:41,840
Speaker 1: of control because I was doing it like around my family,

790
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:44,239
Speaker 1: Like I'd hide behind an ottoman and be like they

791
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:47,680
Speaker 1: all on the floor rubbing my vagina and like, you know,

792
00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:49,799
Speaker 1: with rug burns on my forehead, to the point where

793
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:54,799
Speaker 1: my family was like, what, okay, we know what you're doing. Yeah,

794
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:56,839
Speaker 1: but I thought I didn't know. Little you know how

795
00:39:56,920 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 1: you sometimes think people don't know what's up. Like I'm invisible.

796
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:02,960
Speaker 1: I don't want to bike rides and use the bicycle seat,

797
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:04,839
Speaker 1: and I would just be like it would use that

798
00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:07,360
Speaker 1: and the and the monkey bars on the playground. I

799
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:08,839
Speaker 1: remember climbing up to them and I'd be like, oh,

800
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 1: I'm getting the feeling. And I got so shamed from it. Well,

801
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:15,720
Speaker 1: I didn't get so shamed, but I felt such shame

802
00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 1: after my parents caught me and we're told like told me,

803
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:21,680
Speaker 1: like you have to stop this. And they didn't say

804
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 1: just stop it at you know, in public, they were

805
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:26,279
Speaker 1: like just stop all together. So I felt a lot

806
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:28,560
Speaker 1: of shame, And I think that might be why I

807
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:32,120
Speaker 1: I don't masturbate, like just no, yeah, I mean, do

808
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:36,320
Speaker 1: wes porn? No? I mean when I'm into a guy.

809
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:40,720
Speaker 1: I think I have like an underactive sex life and drive,

810
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:42,799
Speaker 1: Like I have to get more involved with what you

811
00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 1: guys are talking about, because I mean, you sound like

812
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:50,840
Speaker 1: you're all masturbating every day. I'm always tired. Do you

813
00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 1: have a boyfriend right now? Okay, so then you don't,

814
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,440
Speaker 1: but he doesn't live here. But do you still masturbate

815
00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:57,719
Speaker 1: while okay, so if he doesn't love her, you do masturbab.

816
00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 1: But if you have a boy you have a boyfriend now,

817
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:03,000
Speaker 1: but you're still I don't single, but I was just

818
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:05,680
Speaker 1: an intend your relationship and I still masturbated almost every Yeah,

819
00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:08,759
Speaker 1: that's what I was gonna say. I have yes, and

820
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 1: she can square. I have a very high sex drive. Okay,

821
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:15,319
Speaker 1: well you can square a lot. I feel when I'm

822
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 1: in a relationship, I never masturbate unless it's like me

823
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:21,800
Speaker 1: and him and he wants me to. I never masturbated me.

824
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:25,239
Speaker 1: Sometimes he's not and sometimes you can fall asleep and

825
00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:32,480
Speaker 1: I was all ready to go. I feel like you're

826
00:41:32,520 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 1: still masturbated. You have massurvated and put the cum mustache

827
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:38,759
Speaker 1: on him, like smell that you missed. You missed out

828
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 1: on that one. This could have been you, oion you

829
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:43,839
Speaker 1: could have been you could have been He's like, well,

830
00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:45,240
Speaker 1: it could have been me if you would have sucked

831
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:47,200
Speaker 1: my dick to wake me up. You know, I could

832
00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:51,399
Speaker 1: even masturbated in front of a guy before. Oh my god, listen,

833
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 1: let me say something. If I'm having sex with a

834
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:55,880
Speaker 1: guy and I'm about to come and he comes and

835
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,359
Speaker 1: I don't, I will finish the job right in front him. Yeah,

836
00:41:58,400 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 1: well as you should. Yeah, absolutely do it. So you

837
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 1: do that, Chelsea. No, No, because if somebody fell asleep

838
00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:08,319
Speaker 1: while I was having sex with them before I came, yeah,

839
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 1: i'd wake that fucking house all up to and be like, hey, buddy,

840
00:42:10,640 --> 00:42:12,239
Speaker 1: I'm here. I have sex once a year. I need

841
00:42:12,280 --> 00:42:16,440
Speaker 1: you to wake up. Do you remember your first orgasm? Yeah,

842
00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:18,560
Speaker 1: well my first orgasm was when I started getting the

843
00:42:18,560 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 1: fielding you when I was with the guy. No, because

844
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 1: I was overshadowed by me being alone with myself on

845
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 1: a bicycle seat. I mean, I remember the first time

846
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:29,719
Speaker 1: I had sex and liking that, and I was like, oh,

847
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:31,880
Speaker 1: I could get down with this. You know. I was

848
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 1: like a teenager and I had an older boyfriend and

849
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:35,160
Speaker 1: I had sex when I was like fifteen, and I

850
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:37,759
Speaker 1: was like, oh, this is fun And it wasn't painful

851
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:40,359
Speaker 1: or anything like that. It was just like experience. Yeah,

852
00:42:40,400 --> 00:42:44,440
Speaker 1: because that bike warmed me up. Bananas, it warmed me up.

853
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, I mean, yeah, everybody likes to orgasm

854
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 1: in my favorite Yeah, but do you remember your first one?

855
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:55,800
Speaker 1: Because I remember the first time I ever had an orgasm.

856
00:42:56,040 --> 00:42:58,200
Speaker 1: I had an orgasm way before I had sex with guys,

857
00:42:58,360 --> 00:43:00,239
Speaker 1: but it would make you have an orgasm before or

858
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 1: if they know what they're doing. I've also been with

859
00:43:02,120 --> 00:43:04,080
Speaker 1: guys who have no idea how to make a woman. Yes,

860
00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:05,840
Speaker 1: I've been with guys that I've never came with, and

861
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:08,879
Speaker 1: I've been with guys who I always can make me come.

862
00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:11,759
Speaker 1: And you know, it's when I prefer which one did that?

863
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:16,040
Speaker 1: All right? Chelsea? You're doing a red table talk as well. Yeah, yeah,

864
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:17,759
Speaker 1: I think that's amazing. What do you all talk about?

865
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:20,480
Speaker 1: Give us a spoiler. We talk a lot about white privilege,

866
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 1: a lot about the new documentary, which is Hello Privilege.

867
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:25,839
Speaker 1: It's me, Chelsea, about my own privilege because I wanted

868
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:29,040
Speaker 1: to make the film, you know, kind of exploring how

869
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:30,719
Speaker 1: I got to where I am because for a long

870
00:43:30,760 --> 00:43:33,719
Speaker 1: time I really believed it was because I have a

871
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:36,359
Speaker 1: lot of talent, or I worked a really hard or

872
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 1: did I didn't take into account what people who don't

873
00:43:40,640 --> 00:43:43,120
Speaker 1: have my skin color would go through, or the fact that,

874
00:43:43,239 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 1: you know, I was rewarded time and time again about

875
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:49,839
Speaker 1: talking about things that were supposedly taboo. Uh, you know,

876
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 1: like sex and drinking and one night stands And that

877
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:55,239
Speaker 1: was my first book, was One night Stands and uh,

878
00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:58,040
Speaker 1: and you know, and I got rewarded for it over

879
00:43:58,080 --> 00:44:00,279
Speaker 1: and over again. And you know, it didn't heard of

880
00:44:00,320 --> 00:44:03,080
Speaker 1: me until after the election and looking at all of

881
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:05,719
Speaker 1: this stuff that we were seeing with all of these

882
00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 1: people being shot in the back by police multiple times,

883
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:12,439
Speaker 1: of all the discrimination, of all the stuff that made

884
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:14,520
Speaker 1: me go, oh my god, you've been so far up

885
00:44:14,560 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 1: your own ass you haven't even considered or contemplated what

886
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 1: it's like to not be you. Because I think we

887
00:44:21,480 --> 00:44:24,239
Speaker 1: get lost, and you know this is not you know,

888
00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:25,800
Speaker 1: this is a lot of us feel this way. We

889
00:44:25,840 --> 00:44:27,759
Speaker 1: get lost in our own lives. People are trying to

890
00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:30,200
Speaker 1: make ends meet. There, they have kids, stories, they're working

891
00:44:30,200 --> 00:44:33,320
Speaker 1: three jobs. They don't have time to think about other people.

892
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 1: And I did have time. I don't have kids, I

893
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:38,480
Speaker 1: don't have a husband. I don't have any of that.

894
00:44:38,840 --> 00:44:40,920
Speaker 1: And I've been the architect of my life in that

895
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,719
Speaker 1: way because I don't want that kind of responsibility. I

896
00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 1: want to be able to be like a thought leader.

897
00:44:45,680 --> 00:44:48,399
Speaker 1: I want to be communicating with people and telling people

898
00:44:48,520 --> 00:44:52,440
Speaker 1: my stories and uh. And I really decided that, like

899
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:54,239
Speaker 1: I had to make it. I wanted to start making

900
00:44:54,280 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 1: a contribution to people, uh that that need people like

901
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:00,480
Speaker 1: me to stick, you know, stand up for them a

902
00:45:00,520 --> 00:45:03,480
Speaker 1: little bit more. Not to fix the situation, but to

903
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 1: bring attention to people that are like me, that are

904
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:10,000
Speaker 1: well off and white, who have never contemplated the issue.

905
00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:14,280
Speaker 1: It's more speaking to white people because it's a white

906
00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:19,719
Speaker 1: person's problem. White privilege is not a black people's problem. Right,

907
00:45:19,800 --> 00:45:22,480
Speaker 1: We created it, so let's start talking about it. And

908
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:25,759
Speaker 1: even though it's so uncomfortable, and white people don't want

909
00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:27,719
Speaker 1: to be found guilty of something because then they have

910
00:45:27,800 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 1: to give it away. They think, Oh, if I say

911
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:32,520
Speaker 1: I have a privilege or I'm the beneficiary of it,

912
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:34,239
Speaker 1: then what do I have to give up? Which is

913
00:45:34,239 --> 00:45:36,520
Speaker 1: a great question. What are we all willing to give

914
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:40,480
Speaker 1: up as a community and as a culture. What if

915
00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:42,840
Speaker 1: we could give up things for other people and would

916
00:45:42,840 --> 00:45:45,800
Speaker 1: we and you know, and it's a question I asked myself,

917
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:48,640
Speaker 1: and it's a question I answered for myself and I

918
00:45:48,760 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 1: and I wanted to spread that message, you know. And

919
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 1: so for me, it was really about I think we

920
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 1: all hang out with people that look like us, you know,

921
00:45:57,040 --> 00:45:59,279
Speaker 1: that's our natural instinct is to be like you know,

922
00:45:59,480 --> 00:46:01,560
Speaker 1: most of my friends are white. It takes a lot

923
00:46:01,640 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 1: of time to go or not that much time. It

924
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:07,319
Speaker 1: takes a conscious effort to go, oh, okay, let me

925
00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 1: develop a friendship with this person that's not like me.

926
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:12,280
Speaker 1: She's from India. Let me get to know her culture

927
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 1: and her background so that I have a little bit

928
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:16,560
Speaker 1: more compassion and a little bit more empathy. You just

929
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:20,719
Speaker 1: learned about empathy too. That's interesting because my psychiatrist you

930
00:46:20,800 --> 00:46:22,239
Speaker 1: talk about that life would be the death of me

931
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:25,120
Speaker 1: and you having to realize that you have sympathy but

932
00:46:25,280 --> 00:46:29,399
Speaker 1: you don't have empathy. So how has that changed your life? Well,

933
00:46:29,400 --> 00:46:31,759
Speaker 1: it's good because you know, I needed going to a

934
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:34,560
Speaker 1: therapist and having them actually break down what they think

935
00:46:34,600 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 1: is wrong with you when you're paying them is a

936
00:46:36,560 --> 00:46:40,440
Speaker 1: great exchange. It's the best way to learn. And I

937
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:42,239
Speaker 1: was like, I need you to tell me what you know.

938
00:46:42,280 --> 00:46:45,080
Speaker 1: I had no patience, I had no empathy, and and

939
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:47,360
Speaker 1: he said that, he told me, he goes you lack empathy,

940
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:51,000
Speaker 1: and I was so confused about the distinction between sympathy

941
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:55,359
Speaker 1: and empathy. And then over time, you know, you're able

942
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:58,600
Speaker 1: to cold as long as you are aware of the situation.

943
00:46:58,640 --> 00:47:00,879
Speaker 1: Like once he brought that to my attack mention, then

944
00:47:00,920 --> 00:47:03,360
Speaker 1: I had to look out for it. And I was like, okay,

945
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:05,920
Speaker 1: when when somebody annoyed me, for instance, I'd be okay. Now,

946
00:47:06,000 --> 00:47:08,759
Speaker 1: think about their lives, think about their house and how

947
00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:10,960
Speaker 1: long they've worked today, and how many assholes they've dealt with,

948
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 1: and think about if they have a wife or a

949
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 1: kid that loves them. You don't want to be mean

950
00:47:14,600 --> 00:47:16,919
Speaker 1: to somebody, you know, Like I had to do these

951
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:19,880
Speaker 1: exercises to cultivate that empathy. So it's not something that

952
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:21,600
Speaker 1: you just because you don't have it doesn't mean you

953
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:23,960
Speaker 1: can't get it. You can get it right. And you know,

954
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:27,160
Speaker 1: now it's exhausting because I have these thoughts about everybody

955
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:30,959
Speaker 1: every day. I think about, like the reason this person

956
00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 1: is being an asshole is because of this this, And

957
00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:37,799
Speaker 1: it helps me because it helps me because you're kind

958
00:47:37,800 --> 00:47:40,759
Speaker 1: of like analyzing them and then you and then you

959
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:42,480
Speaker 1: kind of feel bad for them. You're like, yeah, well

960
00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:44,719
Speaker 1: that you're helping me because i'd be you know, I'm

961
00:47:44,760 --> 00:47:48,799
Speaker 1: a bully. I'm kind of like you. Yeah, yeah, no,

962
00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:51,120
Speaker 1: I get it. But it's also nice to take a

963
00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:55,920
Speaker 1: moment instead of reacting to everything. It was responding like

964
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:59,120
Speaker 1: taking the moment. The difference between a reaction and response

965
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:01,960
Speaker 1: is the space of awareness in between that you you

966
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 1: just said fuck you to me, and if I say

967
00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:06,799
Speaker 1: fuck you, that's that's ego, that's my defense. If you

968
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:09,600
Speaker 1: say fuck you to me and I say, whoa wait, why? Why?

969
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:12,359
Speaker 1: Why what I do? Or how do we get here? Yeah?

970
00:48:12,360 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 1: How did we get here? Then that is not reactive.

971
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:18,440
Speaker 1: That's a response. And I had to learn that skill,

972
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 1: which I mean if if you watch the documentary, you

973
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:25,560
Speaker 1: could tell that I've nailed and they would say some

974
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:29,120
Speaker 1: things and I was people are used to me going

975
00:48:29,160 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 1: for it, and I was like, I was on my

976
00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 1: own mission. I'm like, no, this is empathy. I want

977
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:35,760
Speaker 1: to understand because I don't think people are inherently bad.

978
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:38,439
Speaker 1: I don't think anyone's inherently bad. You lose your way

979
00:48:38,920 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 1: people make bad choices. They're brought up in environments that

980
00:48:42,280 --> 00:48:45,520
Speaker 1: aren't educative. You know, they don't understand the history of

981
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:48,440
Speaker 1: except that Trump. Well, Donald Trump, I have no sympathy

982
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:53,240
Speaker 1: for yas like that. He's dead in the head. So

983
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:55,479
Speaker 1: so that's enough. But but it is a great skill

984
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:57,719
Speaker 1: to cultivating. It makes you understand people better and that

985
00:48:57,719 --> 00:49:00,200
Speaker 1: people have different lives and they have different experience is

986
00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:03,360
Speaker 1: and and not to be mad at somebody for voting

987
00:49:03,360 --> 00:49:06,799
Speaker 1: for Donald Trump. To understand why they were moved in

988
00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:09,399
Speaker 1: that direction, and do they regret it now, because that's

989
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 1: how I really judge you. Did you make a bad decision?

990
00:49:11,680 --> 00:49:13,840
Speaker 1: Because if you voted for Donald Trump and you still

991
00:49:13,840 --> 00:49:15,880
Speaker 1: think that was a great idea, I don't know how

992
00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:19,359
Speaker 1: much empathy I have. Yeah, yeah, that's a racist at

993
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:21,680
Speaker 1: this point. If you're still supporting this guy, then you're

994
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:24,239
Speaker 1: fucking racist. And that's all there is to it. Right.

995
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:26,799
Speaker 1: What do you think about the candidates that are coming

996
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:29,560
Speaker 1: up now? Do you see anybody that may I love

997
00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:34,520
Speaker 1: Elizabeth Warren? I Elizabeth Warren and Stacy Abrams to team

998
00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:38,839
Speaker 1: up that ticket to me sounds super super exciting. So yeah,

999
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:42,279
Speaker 1: I'm a big Elizabeth Warren fan, what about you. I'm

1000
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,040
Speaker 1: on the fence still. I still want to hear some

1001
00:49:44,080 --> 00:49:46,440
Speaker 1: more stuff. I like, you know who, I really like it.

1002
00:49:46,480 --> 00:49:49,920
Speaker 1: Everybody thinks I'm crazy. I'm part of the young gang

1003
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:53,720
Speaker 1: like that, you know, because I think he has different

1004
00:49:53,719 --> 00:49:56,399
Speaker 1: approaches and I feel like sometimes you have to take

1005
00:49:56,440 --> 00:49:59,399
Speaker 1: a different approach. And maybe he's not the president need

1006
00:49:59,480 --> 00:50:01,360
Speaker 1: to be of the day, but I feel like he

1007
00:50:01,520 --> 00:50:04,360
Speaker 1: is somebody that we need to listen to because he's

1008
00:50:04,440 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 1: not wrong about certain things that he's said. Yeah, I

1009
00:50:07,160 --> 00:50:08,560
Speaker 1: like Andrew Yang. I don't know if I would want

1010
00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:10,759
Speaker 1: him to be president. I like Elizabeth Warren because she

1011
00:50:10,800 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 1: has all those solutions. Yeah well yeah, yeah, Elizabeth Warren

1012
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:18,480
Speaker 1: does have solutions. She actually has a plan, which compared

1013
00:50:18,520 --> 00:50:21,160
Speaker 1: to you know, this buffoon, it's like, okay, we're doing

1014
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:25,080
Speaker 1: I think that needed right now, not just a bunch

1015
00:50:25,080 --> 00:50:27,840
Speaker 1: of talk, not just a bunch of but really a thoughtful, like,

1016
00:50:28,000 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 1: well thought out like plan of how to fix this

1017
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:33,120
Speaker 1: ship because it's a cluster, and to make legislation moving

1018
00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:35,200
Speaker 1: forward that we don't ever get ourselves in a situation

1019
00:50:35,239 --> 00:50:37,120
Speaker 1: where that guy can just sign off a bunch of

1020
00:50:37,160 --> 00:50:40,799
Speaker 1: executive orders. Right, this is a tyranny right now. So

1021
00:50:41,160 --> 00:50:43,839
Speaker 1: it's what we're living in. But um, Chelsea, I know

1022
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:48,320
Speaker 1: you have to go, but I want to really honestly,

1023
00:50:48,360 --> 00:50:49,839
Speaker 1: like I was so excited for you to come here

1024
00:50:49,880 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 1: because we're watching you forever. I went to your stand up.

1025
00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:56,440
Speaker 1: You know, I read all of your books, My horizontal

1026
00:50:56,520 --> 00:50:59,200
Speaker 1: life that was joy, things like that, and I love

1027
00:50:59,239 --> 00:51:02,480
Speaker 1: the lies. Chelsea told me. You want Chelsey Handler, I mean,

1028
00:51:02,560 --> 00:51:06,960
Speaker 1: Chelsea lately to come back that one. A lot of

1029
00:51:07,000 --> 00:51:09,400
Speaker 1: people want that my mic when we're out of idea.

1030
00:51:09,480 --> 00:51:14,400
Speaker 1: As I say to my team, you'll see it was

1031
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:17,600
Speaker 1: to me, that was the best late night show. Like

1032
00:51:17,680 --> 00:51:20,399
Speaker 1: I said, I fashioned myself. When people tell me like, oh,

1033
00:51:20,440 --> 00:51:22,440
Speaker 1: you're talking too much about that, you're talking too much

1034
00:51:22,440 --> 00:51:27,400
Speaker 1: about anal, I'm like, okay, but Chelsea, there you go.

1035
00:51:27,480 --> 00:51:31,279
Speaker 1: I paved your anal pathway. But I'm disappointed about your

1036
00:51:31,440 --> 00:51:34,719
Speaker 1: last sucking skills and how you are. I know, I

1037
00:51:34,320 --> 00:51:39,759
Speaker 1: bet it's everyone, no one stout people more disappointed than me,

1038
00:51:39,800 --> 00:51:42,480
Speaker 1: I'm sure. But next time you come back, because I

1039
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:44,920
Speaker 1: know you are going to come back, Oh maybe we

1040
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:47,959
Speaker 1: should try that what's it called again? We're doing? Should

1041
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:51,200
Speaker 1: do ayouaska and suck dick on it. No, shall we

1042
00:51:51,360 --> 00:51:54,879
Speaker 1: throwing up his ship? That's what I want. I want.

1043
00:51:55,800 --> 00:52:00,239
Speaker 1: It's supposed to be something that reflects you want me.

1044
00:52:00,280 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 1: I'm okay. I think if Jesus you might, That's what

1045
00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:09,560
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I want to do it so bad. Alright,

1046
00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:11,480
Speaker 1: we are going to do it. Time we see each other,

1047
00:52:11,520 --> 00:52:16,560
Speaker 1: we're gonna be yeah. Yeah, she's getting a good shamming.

1048
00:52:17,760 --> 00:52:19,399
Speaker 1: All right. Well, thank you so much. And again, your

1049
00:52:19,400 --> 00:52:22,319
Speaker 1: tour is happening right now. You're starting off in Australia, right, Yeah,

1050
00:52:22,360 --> 00:52:25,200
Speaker 1: Australia and then I'm doing some North American cities Live

1051
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Speaker 1: nation dot com. You can buy tickets. Oh and we

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Speaker 1: have a tour too, one Live Lives at the end

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Speaker 1: of October. Is it October? Yeah, it's funny money at

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Speaker 1: in Philly and then New York and then we have

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Speaker 1: a bunch of different cities. We're not going to Australia

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Speaker 1: or nothing, but what we are coming to l a

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Speaker 1: and yes, so make sure you check us out to

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Speaker 1: on Live Nation as well to get those tickets for

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Speaker 1: our lift service live. Thank you so much, Chelsea, We

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Speaker 1: really appreciate Thank you. Girls.