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I at one point 0:01:36.400 --> 0:01:41.320 in life I felt a self conscious because I had 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:44.240 what I call, you know, like the mom tits. But 0:01:44.280 --> 0:01:46.880 I guess what, I got them done. Big deal if 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:49.640 you want to change something about yourself, new paper. So 0:01:49.680 --> 0:01:51.680 I had a lot of ass, you know, a lot 0:01:51.680 --> 0:01:53.480 of hips and a little tiny tits. So I said, 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:55.640 you know what, I'm gonna get my boobs done. I 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:58.880 got them done, and then I was like, I actually 0:01:58.960 --> 0:02:01.560 didn't even want them that bad because you kind of 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:03.720 go for the trend. You don't even know if you're 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:05.480 doing it for yourself anymore, or if you're doing it 0:02:05.520 --> 0:02:08.200 for society, or if you're doing it to satisfy your 0:02:08.280 --> 0:02:10.960 partner or there's so many reasons why people get plastic 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:15.160 surgery and something to men. Men also get cosmetic surgery 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:17.360 and we don't talk about it. Is it a taboo topic? 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:19.840 Does it make you feel uncomfortable as men? Would you 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:21.720 ever get it done? Would you ever tell anyone that 0:02:21.760 --> 0:02:23.720 you got it done? Is it a secret? I want 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:25.720 to talk all about it. And that's why about my 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:29.600 producer friend, Homeboy and all that good stuff. Alex boos popping, 0:02:29.919 --> 0:02:31.680 what's going on? I can't wait to talk about what 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:34.359 men get done. It's gonna be fun. Yeah. I heard 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:36.680 that they also have fillers for your dingling. They got 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:39.000 all types of things going on. WHOA, I don't know. 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:41.960 We'll see, well, we'll see. Well. Yeah, today's gonna be 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:43.880 Today's gonna be a good topic. And you know what. 0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:48.680 The good thing about it is that we have a very, 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:53.840 very fun and special guest that has joined us today. Yes. 0:02:53.960 --> 0:02:57.000 He is a stand up comedian who can be seen 0:02:57.040 --> 0:03:01.560 on Netflix's series Mister Eglesias. He's also the host of 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:05.680 Tacos Contoto, where he navigates the l a taco scene 0:03:05.680 --> 0:03:10.800 with celebrity. Yes he is. His sues What's up? He sues, 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:12.720 Welcome to the show, What's up? Thank you for having 0:03:12.760 --> 0:03:16.000 me to talk about like surgeries and that kind of thing. 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:20.160 Who better than uh, we're looking comedian, Hey, sus train. Yeah, 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:23.120 if we're gonna talk about cosmetic surgeries, there's so many. 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:26.040 The first one that I would consider is fixing my teeth. 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:28.560 People tell me my bottom teeth look like downtown to 0:03:28.639 --> 0:03:31.760 Lee from far away. Oh my god, I'm dead. Okay, 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:34.040 so so why haven't you done it? Let's let's talk 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:35.800 about it too, on some real shit though, Let's talk 0:03:35.800 --> 0:03:37.720 about it because I know a lot of people that 0:03:37.760 --> 0:03:39.960 it's not the Financially they don't have it, like it's 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:41.760 not like they can do it. But there's people that 0:03:41.920 --> 0:03:45.840 fear going to the dentist. I don't like people digging 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:47.720 in my mouth, or there's people get they don't like 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:50.440 to go to don't like people digging in my eye. 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:52.320 So is that maybe one of the reasons or what 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:54.520 is it? I think you said it earlier. When you 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:57.360 go through a journey, you maybe get something done and 0:03:57.400 --> 0:03:59.040 then kind of have like why did I do it? 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:01.360 Or your following the t and you know it's like 0:04:02.080 --> 0:04:05.040 I think initially for me it was it was more financial. 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:06.760 It's like, oh I don't have the means. You know, 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:09.400 you you start poking around on the internet and you 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:12.480 start seeing these number, these numbers being kicked around, and 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:15.080 you're like, oh, man, I'm in no place right now, 0:04:15.240 --> 0:04:17.760 Like I'm not gonna pay for teeth right now when 0:04:17.800 --> 0:04:24.240 I can transmission. Yeah, yeah, yeah, drop ten bands. You know, 0:04:24.640 --> 0:04:26.760 later in life it might sound like, oh, that's no problem, 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:29.599 ten bands easy, but at a certain point in life 0:04:29.600 --> 0:04:30.840 you're like, I don't know if I could do that, 0:04:30.920 --> 0:04:33.280 and then you know, you start looking around it. After 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:36.039 a while you're like, for me personally, it's like I 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:37.800 wanted to get them done for so long, and then 0:04:37.839 --> 0:04:39.080 it was like, all right, I think I'm in a 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:41.520 position to get them done, and I'm like, does get Paquet? 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:44.360 You know, she might get him fail when she put them. Yeah, 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:45.760 I mean this is who I am, taking me as 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:47.599 I am, and not for nothing, let's talk about it. 0:04:47.680 --> 0:04:50.240 Some teeth are actually like signature looks like once you 0:04:50.320 --> 0:04:52.520 change your teeth, for example, like your face don't be 0:04:52.560 --> 0:04:55.680 looking the same. Not everybody. For example. I'm a big 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:57.960 fan of se La Cruze. La Cruz was one of 0:04:58.000 --> 0:04:59.600 the things that she would really famous for was that 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:01.640 gap in the middle of her teeth. The day she 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:04.600 would have changed it, like your face would have been different. Yeah, 0:05:04.640 --> 0:05:06.719 my signature, like my teeth, I think at this point, 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:09.680 are definitely a signature. That's how I know which sandwich 0:05:09.800 --> 0:05:13.400 is mine. If I walk away, I'm like, Oh, this 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:16.400 one's mine for sure, the one with the with the 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:18.960 shark bite in it. Oh my god. Okay, so wait, 0:05:18.960 --> 0:05:20.919 hold on your teeth? What give me three things? Do 0:05:21.120 --> 0:05:24.719 you want to change with cosmetic surgery or anybody updates? 0:05:24.720 --> 0:05:26.600 If you could your teeth? What else? Two more things? 0:05:27.040 --> 0:05:29.000 Another one that I'm excited to talk to you about 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:32.760 is this whole Like, so I'm completely bald. I mean 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:36.480 it's like, so I started balding very early, like i'd say, 0:05:36.520 --> 0:05:39.359 like nineteen twenty. I started seeing signs and then I 0:05:39.400 --> 0:05:41.680 had a comb over for a long time, which people 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:43.400 are like, why why did you have that? And I 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:46.480 think for a guy, the hairline is a big deal. 0:05:46.520 --> 0:05:50.679 It's like a confidence thing. Why, oh my god, girls 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:56.719 girls love bald man girls. I know this now, but 0:05:56.880 --> 0:05:59.920 back then, it's like, you know, I was holding onto 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.560 this come over. I looked like MC cracking. You know. 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:07.400 It's like with this comb over, literally my come over 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:11.159 would go from my left ear and like I combed 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:13.640 it and it reached my right ear at the top 0:06:13.640 --> 0:06:16.200 of the ear. It was a one piece. I mean, 0:06:16.240 --> 0:06:18.839 it was you know those samples that you see like 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:21.200 when like you go get like a hair dye and 0:06:21.200 --> 0:06:23.040 they gave me like a little strand of hair. Yeah, 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:24.839 as he said, yeah, it looked like I had a 0:06:24.880 --> 0:06:28.560 bunch of samples. It was bad. I can't The top 0:06:28.600 --> 0:06:30.520 of my head looked like a barcode. It was. It 0:06:30.600 --> 0:06:34.400 was bad, man. But back then I thought it looked good, 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:36.839 you know. I mean it's like I accidentally like kneeled 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:38.760 in front of a self checkout and you know how 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:42.760 they got the little scan thing and rang up as 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:44.880 it's scanned the top of my head scanned. It's a 0:06:45.080 --> 0:06:49.920 rogue game. But yeah, I'm sure that though, I mean 0:06:50.520 --> 0:06:52.960 I did okay, I could have done better, because you know, 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:55.720 I mean if I would have just accepted, you know, 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:59.560 all joking aside, It's like, I think the hair isn't 0:06:59.560 --> 0:07:02.800 a big it's how the male kind of deals with it. 0:07:02.800 --> 0:07:04.680 It's like the quicker I would have shaved my head. 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:07.919 That's perceived as a confidence thing. But but you know, 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:12.880 being self conscious, it's like, you know, there's procedures out there, 0:07:12.920 --> 0:07:16.280 like for to get hair implants and that kind of thing, 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:19.720 and and I don't know that I would get that either, 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:23.280 because it's like I kind of like the ball look now. Yeah, 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:25.400 I mean it's like I also save a lot on shampoo. 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:28.640 What about you, Alex? Yeah, So funny story. I used 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:32.760 to work. I was a video producer for a cosmetic 0:07:32.800 --> 0:07:36.320 practice plastic surgeon, and everything you guys are talking about 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:39.400 was everything that I saw coming in. So I would 0:07:39.440 --> 0:07:44.280 basically make these educational videos for him. And we were 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:48.840 set to start a reality show based on cosmetic surgeries, right, 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:53.360 and unfortunately, you know, COVID hit. But I saw all 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:55.360 of this happening. I saw dudes coming in and asking 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:58.040 for PRP, which is basically that where they mix your 0:07:58.040 --> 0:08:00.840 blood with your with other things things like cormons, and 0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:03.080 they inject them in your head and your hair just 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:07.160 regrows back. Yeah. I saw dudes coming in and doing 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:10.760 their chiseled chins and and other things like abs and 0:08:11.200 --> 0:08:13.800 muscles and all this stuff. But anyway, hold on, as 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:15.800 you can get abs, you can get implants, and we'll 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:18.000 get into that. Yeah, we're gonna get into that later 0:08:18.040 --> 0:08:19.920 in the show. Yeah, but you can get implants. But 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:22.800 for me myself, what I saw was I'm a big 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:25.000 I'm six foot five, right, and I don't have a belly. 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:27.400 I'm not I'm not fairing. I'm just a big dude, right. 0:08:27.640 --> 0:08:30.760 But I always I've always felt a little bit conscious about, 0:08:30.800 --> 0:08:33.280 you know, just a tiny fat you know around. I'm 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:35.480 also it's like a dad bought type of thing, you know, 0:08:35.559 --> 0:08:38.600 I'm a dad, so okay, yeah, and I don't have 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:41.240 love handles either like that. But I've always looked at myself. 0:08:41.240 --> 0:08:42.960 I'm like, maybe I could get that sucked out, you know, 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:46.120 and it's super flat. But then I'm like, yeah, yeah, 0:08:46.160 --> 0:08:48.360 you know, leave it there, you know, because you know, 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:52.280 I don't know. I personally, this is gonna sound trash. 0:08:53.360 --> 0:09:01.440 I personally like my man to have a little tummy. 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:04.640 I like a man that has a little tummy. I 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:06.319 know that a lot of guys are out there working out, 0:09:06.400 --> 0:09:08.600 you know, in the gym, they're working out their apps. 0:09:08.679 --> 0:09:10.440 Go for it. It makes you feel good, it's whatever 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:12.600 makes you happy. But I like a man that has 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:14.280 a little tommy. Come okay, I feel conna get your 0:09:14.280 --> 0:09:16.680 own hand, Come get and don't say I like the 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:19.160 sound effect. You know what I'm saying, lady, You know 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:23.440 that sound effect. Yes, that's why you need that tummy effect. 0:09:23.480 --> 0:09:28.199 So ladies, if you agree, hey hit it, hit me 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:30.720 up at exactly amount and tell me about that time experience. 0:09:30.720 --> 0:09:33.160 But the truth is there has been a rise in 0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:37.320 cosmetic surgery, especially due to social media and the standards 0:09:37.320 --> 0:09:39.800 that we see. We see so much pressure. That's why 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:41.199 I feel like I feel it's a lot of pressure 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:44.760 on social media for men and for women as well 0:09:44.840 --> 0:09:47.440 to have these perfect bodies that realistically you went and 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:49.320 you paid for it, and then you're just in the 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:52.120 gym taking like you know, booty picks and doing all 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:54.800 that extra stuff. Do you feel that social media has 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:56.760 put a lot of pressure on us in the way 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:59.480 that we see each other's bodies. I think so. I think. 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:04.120 I think social media that's the one of the huge negatives. 0:10:04.160 --> 0:10:07.280 It's like it makes people second guess who they are 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:10.560 and what they have. Is like, sometimes people have great 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:13.040 genetics and they look a certain way, right, some people 0:10:13.120 --> 0:10:15.200 have different genetics and they look a certain way. But 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:17.960 it's like to second guess and to feel some type 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:20.760 of way about your body just because you look at 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:23.800 somebody else. It's like the worst thing in life, period 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:26.040 is to compare yourself to somebody else. And I think 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:30.080 social media facilitates this thing that we should not be doing, 0:10:30.559 --> 0:10:34.600 you know. And yeah, it's kind of a bummer, it 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:38.160 really is, because it's like you know, comst I mean, 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:40.840 you know, you do what you can, and you know, 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:42.839 you live a lifestyle that you're able to and if 0:10:43.040 --> 0:10:45.400 there's something, you know, like hopefully there's a change you 0:10:45.400 --> 0:10:47.240 can make. But yeah, it's kind of it's kind of 0:10:47.280 --> 0:10:50.280 a bummer. I think, you know, kids nowadays are growing 0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:53.120 up with this thing, which I think before it was 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:54.880 like once you get to a certain age, like I 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:56.880 don't you know, that's natural. I mean I like this, 0:10:57.080 --> 0:10:59.160 I have this love hand, I have this that's natural, 0:10:59.160 --> 0:11:00.960 I guess. But now kids are growing up with that, 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:05.040 and I think that's that can be very toxic, especially 0:11:05.080 --> 0:11:06.880 also for the young girls. We see a lot of 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:10.240 these you know, babies, so ninyas um that are looking 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:13.559 up to what these new standards of beauty are based off. 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:15.559 With all due respect, and I you know, I admire 0:11:15.600 --> 0:11:17.840 her hustle, I admire her growth based off you know, 0:11:17.960 --> 0:11:19.960 the way that she started off her career. But let's 0:11:20.040 --> 0:11:23.079 just use a perfect example of like a Kim Kardashian. Right, 0:11:23.480 --> 0:11:26.400 you have all these young girls or even urban artists 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:31.079 um that are now quote unquote the new trends. They 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:33.840 are the new standard of beauty. And we're looking at 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:37.960 your ten year old daughter or little sister looking up 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:39.920 to My body needs to look like this. My butt 0:11:40.000 --> 0:11:41.920 is not big enough, my lips are not big enough. 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:44.719 My I need to have bigger boobs, my waist is 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:48.280 too big. I need this get like I don't and 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:50.360 and not for nothing. I too want to have like 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:53.040 you know, I too want to have this perfect body, 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:55.679 which it doesn't exist. I feel that women go through 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:59.160 more pressure than men do. Now from a man's perspective, 0:11:59.600 --> 0:12:04.000 do you, as men, Alex, do you guys feel that 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:07.280 social media also gives a lot of pressure to men 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:09.400 or do you not feel as much pressure when you 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:15.000 see these fine you know ten pack men are extra 0:12:15.120 --> 0:12:17.960 buff and doesn't give you any pressure? You're like, I 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:20.320 mean I think there's some pressure. Yeah, I mean it's 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:24.040 like I think that goes with Again, It's like, if 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:26.600 you're busy enough to not pay attention to the to 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:28.880 the social media stuff, you're like I'm doing this, I'm 0:12:28.880 --> 0:12:31.360 working towards a goal. It's like I think I don't 0:12:31.440 --> 0:12:35.480 hands are are Yeah, that's where the devil's in the details, 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:38.920 right there. Yeah. I mean it's like, um, yeah, if 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:41.319 you're genuinely happy, I think you're not fazed by it. 0:12:41.440 --> 0:12:45.120 But it's like I am guilty of looking these things 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:47.679 online and like feeling some kind of pressure. It's like, oh, 0:12:47.720 --> 0:12:49.400 I gotta go out there and run and I gotta 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:52.400 you know, have the six pack, the full set of hair, 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:56.200 the cool bright you know teeth that you know this 0:12:56.320 --> 0:12:58.040 and that it. It's like in all reality, it's like 0:12:58.280 --> 0:13:00.559 I am who I am, and you know those things 0:13:00.640 --> 0:13:02.839 won't won't change who I am. I hope not. I 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:05.640 mean it's like by me getting those things, you're not 0:13:05.640 --> 0:13:07.600 gonna get this cooler version of me. It's like I 0:13:07.640 --> 0:13:09.240 am who I am, and you know it's like I 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:11.400 two people would respect. What about you, Alice? Do you 0:13:11.400 --> 0:13:13.959 ever feel pressure from society or social media or anything 0:13:14.000 --> 0:13:18.640 like that? So like oh yeah, man, Like, um, I've 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:21.280 I've I've grown up. I was always the fat, chubby 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:24.640 little boy back in school. So um, we didn't have 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:27.440 social media, right, we had magazine covers and we're like, 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:28.719 oh man, I want to look like that. So you 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:31.360 know you kind of like always worked out or took 0:13:31.400 --> 0:13:34.000 fat burners back in the day, you know, staggered threees 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:36.920 or whatever. Oh my god, you remember that. And now 0:13:36.960 --> 0:13:40.480 it's been multiplied by by the fact that social media 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:43.079 you have these picture perfect bodies all the time everywhere. 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:46.920 So for me it was a challenge to understand is 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:50.760 that what healthy looks like? Right? So is that what 0:13:50.880 --> 0:13:53.760 healthy looks like? Because mentally, it's not healthy for me 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:56.080 to think like that where I need to look like 0:13:56.120 --> 0:13:58.160 that in order to be healthy, because I go to 0:13:58.200 --> 0:14:00.040 the doctor, I get all my tests done, and I 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:03.120 perfectly okay. But I also see bodybuilders that are dying 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:05.800 every single day from all types of crazy stuff. And 0:14:05.840 --> 0:14:07.960 I'm like, if I don't feel yeah, so if I'm 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:10.560 not looking like that and I'm still healthy, I feel 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:13.320 fine with myself. But I always tend to kind of 0:14:13.320 --> 0:14:15.360 like look at myself and be like, all right, maybe 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:17.400 this needs and this is the normal stuff, right. You 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:18.800 You need a little work here, you know, a little 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:20.760 work there, but you work towards that. You walk a 0:14:20.760 --> 0:14:23.680 little further on a certain day, you stop. Maybe you 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:25.800 cut back on those French fries. You know, you don't 0:14:25.800 --> 0:14:27.440 eat the whole bag, just like a quarter of it, 0:14:27.880 --> 0:14:33.120 you know, so those things like it's a vegetable, right, 0:14:33.200 --> 0:14:35.040 But those are the things that I think about, right, 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:40.440 And I've been yeah, I've lost about fifty pounds, um, 0:14:40.480 --> 0:14:43.520 just changing what I eat, never even walking into the 0:14:43.680 --> 0:14:46.440 congrats man, thank you. Um. You know I'm six foot five, 0:14:46.480 --> 0:14:48.560 so you don't see it. It's proportioned, right, But when 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:50.880 I lost it, I was like you could feel it 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:53.480 on exactly a matter. We'll have, Alex Dye, I will 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:55.880 do it up man. Yeah, yeah, but yeah, here's a 0:14:55.960 --> 0:14:59.640 question for the both of you. I think a beauty 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:03.120 standard are often influenced by our upbringing. And the reason 0:15:03.160 --> 0:15:05.040 I say that is because I think our parents are 0:15:05.040 --> 0:15:08.840 the first people to kind of impose what beauty is 0:15:08.920 --> 0:15:12.800 it's like, and I'm speaking from my personal upbringing. It's 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:15.160 like when I was growing up, I was very addicted 0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:17.840 to like PANDU and that kind of thing, and my 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:22.760 mom always say, and then you know it's like years later, 0:15:22.800 --> 0:15:24.800 I was I was. I was always a big kid. 0:15:24.840 --> 0:15:27.760 It's like I remember I went from being a little 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:30.960 you know, skinny kid to being big my whole life, 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:37.160 and then my dad going because you're that big, and 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:41.080 they would impose these diets and and and and here's 0:15:41.080 --> 0:15:42.760 where I want to kind of open it up to 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:45.480 you guys. It's like my mom at one point or 0:15:45.520 --> 0:15:48.200 another in my life had me on a diet, whatever 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:54.840 diet they deemed. It's like can iyajo, you know, drink 0:15:54.880 --> 0:15:58.240 this in the morning, and it's like putting a kid 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:03.400 through that. It's like, sure, I think the behind it 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:07.440 is well intention but it could really f you up 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:08.720 in the head. Yeah, I mean, so it's like I 0:16:08.760 --> 0:16:10.800 want to open up to you. Do you guys, like, 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:14.600 did you guys have that thing growing up where these 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:18.120 diets were imposed by our loved ones. Well, in my case, yes, 0:16:18.240 --> 0:16:21.000 I remember growing up. Um, I was really cute. I 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:23.040 mean I've always been cute, but I was really cute 0:16:23.360 --> 0:16:25.920 to a certain point in my life. Okay, I was 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:30.600 going through like depression because you have to sometimes your 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:33.440 kids over eat. But you have to see the reasons why. 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:36.800 Besides the fact that it's a cultural thing that when 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:39.240 you're chunky, you know, that's when you're the cutest, and 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:41.840 then if you're skinny, you have health issues, which is 0:16:41.880 --> 0:16:45.120 not true. I remember my mom would feed me so much, 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:50.560 to the point that I got to wait two hundred 0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:54.800 and thirty pounds at thirteen. I was super overweight, and 0:16:55.160 --> 0:16:58.040 my mom would make me feel so terrible. That was 0:16:58.080 --> 0:17:03.360 her way of trying to make me lose weight. You're 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:05.280 never gonna find a boyfriend who's gonna love you as 0:17:05.320 --> 0:17:07.359 fat as you are, better you look like a cow 0:17:08.480 --> 0:17:10.480 or people or I would be hungry and people would 0:17:10.480 --> 0:17:14.639 offer me food, don't give her any foods, and I 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:18.000 would just be You don't know how traumatizing that was. 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:20.760 And today I know that she meant, well, she just 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:23.479 did it wrong. That wasn't the way to go about it. 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:26.880 So I did go through a lot of um, you know, diets. Um. 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:29.320 My mom had me go to the gym. You know, 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:31.919 I think that is very important. And I'm doing this 0:17:32.000 --> 0:17:35.520 now for you know, learning now for my own daughters, um, 0:17:35.520 --> 0:17:41.840 teaching them how to eat properly in her culture. A 0:17:41.880 --> 0:17:45.000 lot of Greece on a Friday. Of course, I'm Dominican 0:17:46.320 --> 0:17:48.160 salami and all the friend stuff. I get that part. 0:17:48.200 --> 0:17:50.880 We want to keep close to our culture, but we 0:17:50.920 --> 0:17:54.239 also want our kids to understand what they're eating, you know, 0:17:54.320 --> 0:17:57.720 to keep a balance. Um, so definitely, you know, I 0:17:57.720 --> 0:17:59.840 already see that one of my babies is a little chunky, 0:18:00.400 --> 0:18:03.720 and my mom is like she's gonna burn it off later. 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:06.080 It's not about her eating a lot, it's about her 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:09.159 eating the portion she's supposed to eat to be alive, 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:11.320 Like she doesn't have to like eat everything in the place. 0:18:11.400 --> 0:18:13.119 That's another thing. I don't know if you've ever been 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:15.160 one of these, but if you come from a Latino household, 0:18:15.760 --> 0:18:17.840 did your mom or your dad or your grandma or 0:18:17.840 --> 0:18:19.880 whatever ever do the thing where you're like eating at 0:18:19.880 --> 0:18:23.280 the table and they're like, coo, eat all of it also, 0:18:23.440 --> 0:18:25.720 and they would just force you to eat, like like dude, 0:18:25.760 --> 0:18:29.480 I'm poor. I don't even want it. Those are bad 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:32.359 eating habits, Alex, did you ever go through that? Yeah? 0:18:32.359 --> 0:18:34.800 One percent, it was you know, if you want dessert, 0:18:34.800 --> 0:18:36.680 you gotta finish everything that's in your place, so you're 0:18:36.680 --> 0:18:40.000 overeating and then you're eating something else on top of that. 0:18:40.080 --> 0:18:42.520 You know, so one hundred percent you were kind of 0:18:42.560 --> 0:18:46.040 forced in in the Hispanic community, like you're forced to 0:18:46.119 --> 0:18:48.960 eat everything that's in front of you, no matter what, right, 0:18:49.200 --> 0:18:51.000 And it would always gilt trip you like, you know, 0:18:51.160 --> 0:18:53.080 other kids don't have this stuff. You should be very 0:18:53.160 --> 0:18:54.800 lucky that you have all this food and you should 0:18:54.800 --> 0:18:57.520 finish it and all this stuff. So I think that 0:18:57.600 --> 0:18:59.879 was one of the main reasons I grew up with that. 0:19:00.040 --> 0:19:02.359 And like you mentioned, a lot of the foods my dad, 0:19:02.440 --> 0:19:04.680 My dad was the cook in the house, so he 0:19:05.280 --> 0:19:09.360 didn't make bad things. Like I think as we grew 0:19:09.440 --> 0:19:12.840 up in the nineties, right we had more of natural 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:14.879 remedies to eat, like you know, like organic foods and 0:19:14.880 --> 0:19:17.280 stuff like that were normal. We were eating that. Now 0:19:17.280 --> 0:19:20.480 everything's genetically modified. Everything, every single food is different, right, 0:19:20.560 --> 0:19:23.320 So that changes our bodies as well. So even though 0:19:23.359 --> 0:19:26.000 I was kind of eating everything and I was a 0:19:26.040 --> 0:19:28.520 little bit bigger than everyone else, the food was just 0:19:28.560 --> 0:19:32.560 a tad bid healthier back then. Right now it's totally different. 0:19:32.600 --> 0:19:36.680 So I agree with you that it starts with that 0:19:37.080 --> 0:19:48.240 mental little seed that was planted as kids. Yes, it 0:19:48.400 --> 0:19:51.399