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Speaker 2: If you want to win the Jubil Shows trip to

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Speaker 2: the Caribbean, you got to listen at eight ten. Lucas

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Speaker 2: is on the phone today for a first date follow

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Speaker 2: up and he's getting ghosted by Ella. So we're gonna

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Speaker 2: see if we can figure out why she's ghosting and

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Speaker 2: when we call her in just a second. But first, Lucas,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from Ella? Okay,

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Speaker 2: it's been like a Greek.

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Speaker 3: So did you try contacting her after the date or

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Speaker 3: was that the last time you guys spoke.

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Speaker 4: I did contact her after and I hadn't heard from her.

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Speaker 2: There was no response. Can you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? So, well, the way we met though, we were

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Speaker 4: coffee a few days after that, and then that we did,

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Speaker 4: and I found she like really easy to talk to,

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Speaker 4: with her. She was really easy going and gorgeous. It's

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Speaker 2: You said you met her at an office party. Could

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Speaker 4: I have no idea. I mean, like, I don't even

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Speaker 4: know if she works with the company. Well, she said

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Speaker 4: that's all I know.

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Speaker 3: Was there anything that happened on the date that was

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Speaker 3: not want to talk to you again? Obviously you're lovely,

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Speaker 3: this isn't you know that?

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Speaker 5: Well?

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Speaker 4: I mean, I do have a tendency sometimes when I'm talking,

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Speaker 4: I I raised my voice a little without realizing, Uh, speaking.

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Speaker 4: And okay, like sometimes I get a little excited when

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Speaker 4: I sometimes I don't realize the volume of my voice

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Speaker 2: I can't control the volume of my voice.

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Speaker 3: So you're saying at her, she may not have realized

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Speaker 4: Oh, oh god, I hope she didn't think I I

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Speaker 2: I had no reason to yell at her.

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Speaker 4: But if I my voice was a little louder than

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I mean that could be you know, maybe

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Speaker 2: she thought you, you know, some people are very uncomfortable

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Speaker 3: I think I'm still kind of suspect who she was

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Speaker 4: Oh I never thought of myself as off limits before.

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Speaker 2: Time to start thinking yourself that way, big boy. A minute, Well,

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Speaker 2: let's play a song come back, and then we'll call

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Speaker 2: us why she's ghosting you and maybe get to another date. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 2: so I'm good, All right? Plus song come back to get

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Speaker 2: your first date follow up.

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for the first Date follow

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Speaker 2: Up We've got lovely Lucas on the phone. He's getting

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Speaker 2: ghosted by a woman named Ella and he doesn't know why.

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Speaker 2: We're about to call her and see if we can

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Speaker 2: figure it out. But first, Lucas, why don't you refresh

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Speaker 4: Yeah. So I met Ella at a party and office

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Speaker 4: But then after that coffee date, we just I never

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Speaker 2: Let's find out why she's ghosting. Are you ready to

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Speaker 2: call her? Yeah? All right, cool, here we go. Hello,

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Speaker 2: id me, I speak to Ella? Please? Uh speaking Ella?

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Speaker 2: How are you? My name is Jewbil host the radio show,

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Speaker 2: and it's called the Jewbill Show. The whole show's here, Ella.

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Speaker 3: My name is Nina.

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Speaker 4: Hi.

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Speaker 2: Hi, Iam Victoria. Yep, so there's three. Oh my goodness,

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Speaker 2: what's up?

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Speaker 6: Hey, I'm actually fan of you.

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Speaker 7: Guys.

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Speaker 6: Did I did I win.

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Speaker 2: In something or ella? We got an email about you

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Speaker 2: from somebody you want on a date with. This is

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Speaker 2: a first date follow up. I'm guessing you know what

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Speaker 6: I do, I do, but I haven't been on that

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Speaker 2: Well, his name is Lucas.

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Speaker 5: I remember Lucas.

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Speaker 2: Okay, and Lucas emailed us because he said he really

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Speaker 2: us why?

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Speaker 6: Oh?

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Speaker 5: I didn't mean to ghost him.

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Speaker 6: I have been a little slow to respond, though.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry about that. I should have texted him back,

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Speaker 5: so you're not ghost It looked like it's a bit

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Speaker 2: You're making this real sketchy. What's going on?

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Speaker 6: I met him at like a work party, but I

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Speaker 6: went with my dad to his work party, and my

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Speaker 6: dad is his boss.

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Speaker 2: So your dad's Lucas's boss. Yeah, And does your dad

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Speaker 2: have a rule you don't you don't date the help?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 7: I mean it's not that, but it's but yeah, my

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Speaker 6: It's like all he talks.

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Speaker 5: About he's I mean, I wouldn't want.

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Speaker 6: To work for him. He's my dad, but he's like

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Speaker 5: I don't know. I kind of.

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Speaker 5: But I didn't say anything because we were having such

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Speaker 6: Then I was just like I it was like.

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Speaker 6: I didn't know what to do, so I should have

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Speaker 6: texted back, but it was like, how do you text that? Like, Hey,

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Speaker 6: my dad's your boss. I feel like I feel like

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Speaker 6: that's going to get awkward real quick. I wasn't sure

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Speaker 5: It seemed like a lot a lot for a text speaking.

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Speaker 2: Of getting awkward real quick. I mean, you listen to

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Speaker 6: Hey, I did forget that. Hey Lucas, I apologize, you

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Speaker 8: But it's understandable. I what are the odds that I

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Speaker 5: No, and I didn't.

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Speaker 6: I didn't think you were, and that's why I was

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Speaker 4: But no, I really enjoyed.

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Speaker 5: Hanging out with you too. It's just I should have

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Speaker 6: But yeah, I I didn't want.

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Speaker 2: To because I was having a nice time too.

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Speaker 4: But then I don't know.

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Speaker 6: I mean, you you know how he is so and

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he's definitely a great at his job, great at

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Speaker 6: Time A very diplomatic answer, Lucas, I promise, I promised.

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Speaker 6: He's not in the room with me.

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Speaker 4: I had a great time with you, and I completely

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean I really had a good time with

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Speaker 6: But also, you know, understandably, you know you want to

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Speaker 4: I under yeah, I understand, I get that. You know,

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Speaker 2: Ella, would you like to go on another day with

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Speaker 2: lucas We'll pay for it?

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Speaker 6: I mean, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 7: Sure, I mean yeah, if you really.

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Speaker 6: Saying that, then I definitely think we should go on

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like lovely. Lucas is an assertive type guy.

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Speaker 2: I just love.

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Speaker 3: For everybody listening, this is also a lesson. When a

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Speaker 2: And if some dude's not even texting you back, good point.

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Speaker 2: Will I will talk to them.

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Speaker 4: And yeah, I am definitely let's let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Sweet. Well, congratulations Lucas, you got another day, Love says, all.

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