1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:04,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, they talk better than they tell me. These are 2 00:00:04,080 --> 00:00:06,920 Speaker 1: the radio blogs on the Fred Show by for writing 3 00:00:06,920 --> 00:00:10,080 Speaker 1: in our diaries, except we say them aloud. We called 4 00:00:10,080 --> 00:00:14,239 Speaker 1: the blogs. I'll take this one, dear blog. So yes. 5 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:19,480 Speaker 1: I had a friend recently tell me about two books 6 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:21,120 Speaker 1: I need to read, and my stack of books at 7 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:23,759 Speaker 1: home is I buy books far, far faster than I 8 00:00:23,760 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 1: can read them. It's a problem. But but Mel Robbins, 9 00:00:28,640 --> 00:00:31,320 Speaker 1: I love her, Mel Robbins. Let them you read the 10 00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:31,800 Speaker 1: book I. 11 00:00:32,040 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 2: Am on Audibles. I'm listening to it because I can't read. 12 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 2: Like you said, I can't sit. 13 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:37,560 Speaker 1: You can't read. 14 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:41,440 Speaker 2: You can't read, but. 15 00:00:42,920 --> 00:00:44,800 Speaker 1: You've come a long way. Yeah, sit there and read 16 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:46,960 Speaker 1: under my life. You can't read like you said, You've 17 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 1: really made it. You come a long way in your 18 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,800 Speaker 1: read I never said that we're the record. I can, yes, 19 00:00:52,880 --> 00:00:54,560 Speaker 1: and a lot of stuff. I never said you couldn't 20 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:59,240 Speaker 1: read what I heard. I'm so proud of how far 21 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:05,760 Speaker 1: you've come without knowing how to read. You are a 22 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:10,119 Speaker 1: proud product of the Chicago Public school system, and they 23 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:11,840 Speaker 1: should be proud of you. You'd come a long way. 24 00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:14,319 Speaker 2: They don't claim me, but correct cps all. 25 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:18,759 Speaker 1: Curry condors anyway. So the book is called Let Them. 26 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 1: It's about a theory that she came up. And now, 27 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:22,959 Speaker 1: first of all, I want to say this, Mel Robbins 28 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: has a very interesting story, and she herself has developed 29 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 1: these theories like the Wizard, the one, two, three, four 30 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 1: five theory, a couple others, and she's written books, and 31 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,640 Speaker 1: she's a public speaker and a ted's talk speaker, works 32 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 1: with compan She's very successful. And it all sprouted from 33 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 1: her being depressed and broke and you know, not feeling 34 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:48,560 Speaker 1: like her life was moving forward and all these different things. 35 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 1: So she kind of just like came up with these things, 36 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: these ways of improving her life, and then shares them 37 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: with everybody else. So I commend her. It's incredible. I'd 38 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 1: love to have her on the show. I'd love to 39 00:01:58,280 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 1: talk to her. 40 00:01:58,880 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 2: Man me too. 41 00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: The problem that I'm having with this book, and in fact, 42 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 1: it was it was for my mom to read. My 43 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:07,560 Speaker 1: friend was like, I want your mom to read this, 44 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:09,799 Speaker 1: and if that's the case, then you should read it too. 45 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 1: It it's called Let Them. And if I'm being if 46 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:15,639 Speaker 1: I'm oversimplifying, and I'm only like a quarter of the 47 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:17,440 Speaker 1: way through the book, so I can't say that I 48 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 1: fully have experienced the message she's trying to send. But essentially, 49 00:02:21,360 --> 00:02:25,080 Speaker 1: it's if someone's doing something in your life that upset you, 50 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 1: if it's taking the power back in your life. One 51 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 1: example she uses is something that we could probably all 52 00:02:31,320 --> 00:02:35,239 Speaker 1: relate to. Or she was on Instagram and she noticed 53 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: that a bunch of her female friends were all on 54 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 1: this fun trip together and she didn't get invited, and 55 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:42,800 Speaker 1: she doesn't know why, and she immediately goes into like 56 00:02:42,880 --> 00:02:45,640 Speaker 1: despair and depression and sadness and anger and why wouldn't 57 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:47,800 Speaker 1: I have been invited? I wasn't I included? And then 58 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 1: the thing was, well, let them, let them do that, 59 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: and don't allow them to take the power because they 60 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 1: have the right to do that. They can go off 61 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:57,680 Speaker 1: and do whatever they want, you know, they don't have 62 00:02:57,760 --> 00:03:00,600 Speaker 1: to ask you. And then there's a second part of this, 63 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: which is let me which is that and I'm strum 64 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:06,680 Speaker 1: butchering this, let me read the book like I'm not 65 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: claiming to you know, be doing this properly, giving doing 66 00:03:09,960 --> 00:03:12,560 Speaker 1: it full justice. But the second part of this, I 67 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 1: think is the most important part, which is that, well, 68 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 1: I what am I going to do about it? Well, 69 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 1: I'm going to work on those friendships. I'm going to 70 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:20,839 Speaker 1: reach out to those people. I'm going to engage, I'm 71 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 1: going to plan a trip for myself. I'm going to 72 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: do this. So take the power. Don't let them have 73 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 1: the power. You take the power. Someone's being mean to you, 74 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:31,760 Speaker 1: let them now. For me, a couple things, I find 75 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:35,320 Speaker 1: a lot of these self help books really simple, stupid, 76 00:03:35,840 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: and I've read a lot of them, like, for example, 77 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 1: the Four Agreements. If you haven't read the Four Agreements, 78 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 1: I recommend, but once you read it, it's like, Okay, yeah, sure, 79 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:47,080 Speaker 1: you know. That's kind of the way I feel when 80 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 1: I'm reading this, like Okay, sure, don't let other people 81 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:53,160 Speaker 1: have the power. You take the power back. And you're 82 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: like okay, well yeah, and the other problem that I so, 83 00:03:57,520 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: I guess for me, it's like it's a great reminder 84 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 1: and I'm going to finish the book, and I definitely 85 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: think it's a great message. I just think sometimes easier 86 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 1: said than done. It's like when people say, you know, 87 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:10,800 Speaker 1: the hula hoop, control what you can control nothing outside 88 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 1: the hula hoop. It's like, yeah, but that's not I 89 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:16,840 Speaker 1: get you. Yes, Okay, in a perfect world, then I 90 00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:21,320 Speaker 1: would have the mental strength to not let anybody else 91 00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 1: affect me. So I think a lot of these things 92 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 1: are good reminders and good practices. I don't necessarily think 93 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 1: they solve the problem, if that makes sense. 94 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:32,839 Speaker 2: Yeah, this tale so old as time, because, like you said, 95 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:35,680 Speaker 2: we've heard it before. She's rephrasing something that we've heard. 96 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 2: In my opinion, but I like the way she does it. 97 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:41,040 Speaker 1: Like she's talking about she's a good writer, and she 98 00:04:41,360 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 1: and she's it's very relatable and she gives she gives 99 00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 1: very specific examples from her own life. 100 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's not reclaiming your power, because I and 101 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 2: a lot of us here can easily like fall into 102 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:53,360 Speaker 2: the trap of like why doesn't somebody like me, or 103 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 2: why doesn't somebody I don't know do this? Or if 104 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:57,359 Speaker 2: I do this for somebody, why they're not doing it 105 00:04:57,400 --> 00:04:59,000 Speaker 2: back for me? Like I think like that all day. 106 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:01,160 Speaker 2: I can literally to full time all day line and 107 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:03,039 Speaker 2: think about why didn't invite me? Why didn't you do this? 108 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 1: Why didn't I do the same thing? 109 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:04,479 Speaker 3: You know? 110 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:07,280 Speaker 1: And I ruinate about it. But I think the difference well, 111 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 1: and I shouldn't say the difference for me. I just 112 00:05:09,400 --> 00:05:11,920 Speaker 1: assume everything is my fault. Everything is, and I beat 113 00:05:11,920 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: myself up and I don't even know why, Like there 114 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 1: are situations in my life. I know why they're the 115 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:17,919 Speaker 1: way they are. There are situations in my life. I 116 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:20,760 Speaker 1: can honestly tell you I don't and I think about 117 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:23,000 Speaker 1: those and I just I figure, it's my fault. And 118 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:24,440 Speaker 1: the only way that I can fix it is to 119 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 1: just call and take the sword and just tell the 120 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:29,080 Speaker 1: person everything's my fault. I'm so sorry. I did everything wrong. 121 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 1: And in this book, she's saying to you, no, don't 122 00:05:31,880 --> 00:05:35,080 Speaker 1: do that, because maybe it's not. In fact, there's a 123 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:37,800 Speaker 1: very good chance it isn't. And so let them have 124 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 1: that opinion, let them say the things, let them do 125 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 1: the thing, and then control how you, you know, moving forward, 126 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:47,440 Speaker 1: how you treat people, how you live your life. Now, 127 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 1: my problem with this is, and she's very clear about 128 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:52,880 Speaker 1: how it's two parts, not one part. It's two parts. 129 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 1: It's let them and then let me. She's super clear 130 00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 1: about that. My problem is, I think a lot of 131 00:05:57,240 --> 00:06:01,479 Speaker 1: people are going to read it as let them not 132 00:06:01,600 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 1: my fault. Hey, let them let them be a holes, well, 133 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:07,040 Speaker 1: maybe let them be mean, let them not invite me well, 134 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:09,600 Speaker 1: what about if they're not inviting you because you're not 135 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:12,040 Speaker 1: treating them? Well, what about if they're not including you 136 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:13,840 Speaker 1: because they don't like They actually don't like you because 137 00:06:13,839 --> 00:06:17,040 Speaker 1: you did something wrong. So my problem is, I think 138 00:06:17,080 --> 00:06:20,240 Speaker 1: for the I think it depends on your mindset. Like 139 00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 1: she makes it clear, this is not her issue. She 140 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 1: makes it clear it's two part. I think a lot 141 00:06:25,279 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 1: of people are going to read it as let them, 142 00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:29,479 Speaker 1: just let them and then not change the way they 143 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 1: go about living their lives because I, unfortunately I tend 144 00:06:33,760 --> 00:06:37,799 Speaker 1: to know far more people who everything is everybody else's 145 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:39,560 Speaker 1: fault than the other way around. 146 00:06:39,960 --> 00:06:40,839 Speaker 2: I see what you're saying. 147 00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:42,360 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. I don't feel like 148 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:44,239 Speaker 1: I know as many people who are willing to say 149 00:06:44,839 --> 00:06:48,120 Speaker 1: to look introspectively as quickly as they are to just say, well, 150 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 1: that's the it's their fault, it's their problem, they did it, 151 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 1: it's their fault. I didn't do this, you know what 152 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:56,360 Speaker 1: I'm saying. So self awareness and accountability would be key 153 00:06:57,240 --> 00:07:00,240 Speaker 1: in applying this theory. But I don't. I think self 154 00:07:00,279 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: awareness is at a premium. Oh yes it is. 155 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 2: It's got to be like super expensive right now, because 156 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:05,839 Speaker 2: nobody has it. 157 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 1: So that's all I'm saying is is read the book. 158 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: I encourage it. I respect her. I'd love to talk 159 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:15,960 Speaker 1: to her. I'd love to interview her. But I guess 160 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:19,680 Speaker 1: I say this with caution that it's important that you 161 00:07:19,720 --> 00:07:22,400 Speaker 1: are aware that you do play a role in the 162 00:07:22,440 --> 00:07:25,400 Speaker 1: direction that your life goes. Now, you can weigh yourself 163 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 1: down with the past, you can weigh yourself self down 164 00:07:27,640 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 1: with your mistakes. You can weigh yourself down with things 165 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:31,120 Speaker 1: that you don't have anything to do with that are 166 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:32,880 Speaker 1: affecting the way that you feel. And I think that's 167 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 1: her point is let go of that, let them do that, yeah, 168 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: and then you move forward. Don't be held back by 169 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:39,440 Speaker 1: things you can't control. 170 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:41,800 Speaker 3: Like the non invited thing is huge. I think more 171 00:07:41,840 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 3: people like let them because they are allowed to not 172 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:46,080 Speaker 3: invite you to a post, of course, and a lot 173 00:07:46,080 --> 00:07:48,560 Speaker 3: of people think they're entitled to be invited to everything, 174 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 3: and there may be reasons why they're not. 175 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:50,800 Speaker 1: You know. 176 00:07:50,880 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 3: So I think that's a great example of how to 177 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 3: use it. 178 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:54,800 Speaker 1: Like, Okay, no, I agree, it was a great example 179 00:07:54,800 --> 00:07:56,640 Speaker 1: because I do feel this, like I'm a guy who 180 00:07:56,640 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: wants to be invited to everything, but I don't go 181 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:00,880 Speaker 1: to very much because I'm an introvert and I use 182 00:08:00,920 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 1: all my words at work and I sit at home 183 00:08:03,120 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 1: and keep to myself and hope that one day my 184 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 1: DoorDash driver is my future wife. Yeah, that's what I hope, 185 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:10,240 Speaker 1: because that's the only you know, physical contact I have 186 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:14,320 Speaker 1: from Friday the Sunday. But at the same time, I 187 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:16,760 Speaker 1: need to look I need to look introspectively and say, well, 188 00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 1: part of the reason why I don't get invited to 189 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:21,760 Speaker 1: everything is because I don't go, and that's my fault. 190 00:08:22,120 --> 00:08:24,280 Speaker 1: That's no one else's fault, you know what I mean. 191 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:26,520 Speaker 1: It doesn't come from a place of malice, but sometimes 192 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:29,280 Speaker 1: it does, but for the most part it doesn't. But 193 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:32,439 Speaker 1: you know, I like the message. I just think it's 194 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:35,520 Speaker 1: important that it's used in context. And she says that 195 00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 1: in the book. I just don't know if everyone's going 196 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:38,480 Speaker 1: to read it that way. 197 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:40,360 Speaker 2: That's true. She also covers other things, so I think 198 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 2: that are pretty cool. She'll talking about like showing up 199 00:08:42,600 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 2: or whatever, like online, or like like doing things that 200 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:46,439 Speaker 2: you're like scared to do because we're all afraid of 201 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:48,960 Speaker 2: people's opinions, right, Like I'm scared to post this video 202 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:50,719 Speaker 2: because people a gonna think, oh wow, Paulina gives me 203 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:53,080 Speaker 2: the yick with this video, and I'm terrified. But you know, 204 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:55,640 Speaker 2: she's very honest. She goes, you know, everybody has thoughts 205 00:08:55,679 --> 00:08:58,839 Speaker 2: all day long, good and bad. We've all thought bad things, 206 00:08:58,880 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 2: and not only bad as in like harmful, but I 207 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:02,679 Speaker 2: mean like just bad things about people we love. Oh 208 00:09:02,760 --> 00:09:04,599 Speaker 2: my mom annoyed me today, Oh my husband, all you 209 00:09:04,640 --> 00:09:06,679 Speaker 2: pissed me off, which is my life story. So like 210 00:09:06,760 --> 00:09:08,839 Speaker 2: things like that, you know, and doesn't mean I. 211 00:09:08,760 --> 00:09:09,640 Speaker 1: Don't love them. 212 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 2: She's like, I absolutely love my kids, she says, or 213 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:14,360 Speaker 2: my dog or whatever, but you know they bother me 214 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:15,199 Speaker 2: all day long too. 215 00:09:15,640 --> 00:09:17,720 Speaker 1: So well, and then she talks about parenting too, and 216 00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:19,000 Speaker 1: I guess at the end of the book, I haven't 217 00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:21,160 Speaker 1: gotten this far, but there's like sort of a more 218 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:23,160 Speaker 1: precise guide to this. But you know, she even says 219 00:09:23,160 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 1: to her teenager's teenage children, like, let them let them 220 00:09:27,000 --> 00:09:30,000 Speaker 1: do some stuff. Now, there's obviously a line you can't 221 00:09:30,080 --> 00:09:33,040 Speaker 1: let them do anything. Yeah, but like, I don't think 222 00:09:33,080 --> 00:09:35,560 Speaker 1: a lot of parents are necessarily willing to say, let 223 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 1: my kid make this mistake that I'm watching them make 224 00:09:38,200 --> 00:09:40,400 Speaker 1: or let them act like an idiot right in front 225 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 1: of me, because you want to stop that and correct that. 226 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 1: But like, sometimes that mistake needs to be made in 227 00:09:46,440 --> 00:09:49,320 Speaker 1: order for you to then correct it and or for 228 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:52,160 Speaker 1: them to learn. And so again, I mean she gets 229 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:54,440 Speaker 1: into mores and she even says in the book like, hey, look, 230 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:56,440 Speaker 1: this is not like carte blanche, Like you can't let 231 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:59,440 Speaker 1: your kid do you know, black tar heroine, you know, 232 00:09:59,520 --> 00:10:02,719 Speaker 1: and right, and then correct it later, like you'd need 233 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: to parent. But there's a there's probably a line that 234 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:08,679 Speaker 1: goes beyond what most parents are willing to tolerate that 235 00:10:08,880 --> 00:10:12,360 Speaker 1: that might be worth exploring for your kids to learn. Yep. 236 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:17,800 Speaker 1: So I say read the book. I say respect the source. 237 00:10:18,240 --> 00:10:22,360 Speaker 1: I also say I read it. I'm like, Okay, in 238 00:10:22,679 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 1: a perfect world that works, but it's not always going 239 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:27,080 Speaker 1: to work every time, you know what I mean, Like, 240 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:31,160 Speaker 1: it's not. It does require a tremendous amount of mind 241 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:33,640 Speaker 1: over matter, a tremendous amount of control over your emotion, 242 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:37,640 Speaker 1: a tremendous amount of mental discipline. And so yeah, but 243 00:10:37,679 --> 00:10:39,360 Speaker 1: the hula hoop thing drives me nuts, and that's not 244 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:41,240 Speaker 1: I don't think that's her thing that somebody else is saying, 245 00:10:41,240 --> 00:10:45,560 Speaker 1: control what you can control. But that's I get it. 246 00:10:45,600 --> 00:10:47,880 Speaker 1: But like, that doesn't mean it doesn't affect me negatively, 247 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:49,600 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like, it doesn't mean that 248 00:10:49,600 --> 00:10:51,960 Speaker 1: the things I can't control aren't still hurtful and mean 249 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 1: and that I don't need to work through them. 250 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:55,760 Speaker 3: But then everyone would do it, Like that's why you 251 00:10:55,800 --> 00:10:58,319 Speaker 3: have to work towards not allowing it to affect your 252 00:10:58,520 --> 00:10:59,920 Speaker 3: hard or else we'd all be doing it. 253 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:02,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it's it's true. It's true. But again that's 254 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 1: I guess that's my thing is a lot of these books. 255 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 1: It's just like, well, okay, that's what I keep saying 256 00:11:07,480 --> 00:11:11,800 Speaker 1: to myself. Well, we're right if I can remember to 257 00:11:11,960 --> 00:11:15,160 Speaker 1: do it, you know. So it's a good reminder to 258 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:16,920 Speaker 1: read the book and let me know what you say.