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Speaker 2: I nineteen male have a sister, Lila twenty four female.

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Speaker 2: I don't talk to my family much, mostly because we

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Speaker 2: So basically, I was at a gay club with some

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Speaker 2: Now, I was invited to a family dinner for my

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Speaker 1: Guy from before, and they went to a hotel room

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Speaker 1: to hook up. Correct like, not play lake scrabble or something, No, man,

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Speaker 1: they yeah, Lilla and the guy I hooked up with

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Speaker 1: he stared at me, and God, believe me when I

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Speaker 1: True?

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Speaker 4: Oh she didn't know because she just found out in

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Speaker 2: I tried to stay away from them throughout the dinner,

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Speaker 1: now I don't think Op's the a hole anymore. Yes, vindicated,

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Speaker 1: So would I be the a hole? Edit for some clarification.

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Speaker 1: What do we learn? Okay, so if you get left

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