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Speaker 1: We never run down. Foll on you my.

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Speaker 2: Helping hand.

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Speaker 1: You love me, so I'm following you now.

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Speaker 2: Boo boom, just do make it? What else?

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Speaker 1: Can't I? Bo't? You love me?

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Speaker 2: Welcome back, guys, Good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and.

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Speaker 1: I'm Mila, and uh what's up.

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Speaker 2: We hope you all had a good weekend. Enjoyed your Halloween?

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Speaker 2: We did, We sure did. Halloween was fun. We took

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Speaker 2: the kids trick or trading. I dressed up as the

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Speaker 2: Incredibles with Baby Daddy and we went trick or treading.

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Speaker 2: I end up with Jamila in this shit show of

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Speaker 2: a Halloween neighborhood. I never knew that Halloween neighborhoods exists

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Speaker 2: like that. It's just like you, in order to live

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Speaker 2: on the street, you have to adhere to the rule

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Speaker 2: that you have to decorate your home for Halloween.

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Speaker 1: I saw some houses that weren't decorated.

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Speaker 2: I think it's maybe some people they don't. Maybe it's

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Speaker 2: not as strict. I think people move on that street

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Speaker 2: because they want to do that. I don't know, why

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Speaker 2: would you ever want to live on that street.

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Speaker 1: It's at the street from my house. I had no

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Speaker 1: idea that it was the thing existed. It was like

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Speaker 1: the club. We can hardly find parking. We literally parked

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Speaker 1: bumper traffic. And all I kept thinking about is like,

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Speaker 1: what the fuck this needs to be quick? I need

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Speaker 1: to go the disco ball to my head. I was

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Speaker 1: just thinking I was gonna be in and out and

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Speaker 2: Too imagine living there trying to get out of that

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Speaker 2: shit show. I didn't even know it was a thing either,

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Speaker 2: Like it's a street called Ashley Oaks and apparently it's

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Speaker 2: is it a neighborhood called Ashley Oaks? Like they made

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Speaker 2: it seem like it was a thing like welcome to

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Speaker 2: Ashley Oaks.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, who said welcome to that?

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Speaker 2: To No one said welcome.

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Speaker 1: I was like, who was the welcome committee. I guess

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Speaker 1: it's a little pocket or it's a street.

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Speaker 2: I don't think they were nice houses. They were nice expensive.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Actually, when you guys left, we went to her

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Speaker 1: in law's house, who's on the cul de Sac. We

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Speaker 1: went in inside. Oh, it was nice. Yeah, some boozy shit.

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Speaker 1: Apparently it's a producer in the area who goes all out.

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Speaker 1: There was like full hunted houses, a full dance party

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Well, our costumes were hit. We were getting

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Speaker 2: so many compliments. And I know what. I knew The

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Speaker 1: Like thinking they were so impressive.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they were so impressed with us. I was like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: maybe because all three of you, maybe maybe it was cute.

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Speaker 1: Like a fancy.

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Speaker 2: I felt like, this is normal. I mean, this is like,

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Speaker 2: this is what you do on Halloween. What do you mean?

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Speaker 1: But I did see a few families dressed up, but

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Speaker 2: And then yeah, we went, Me and Jimilla went to

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Speaker 2: this Halloween party. We were just dead disco queens and

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Speaker 1: They're pretty popping.

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Speaker 2: It's okay, I'll fix it. Close the dark. I'll fix it,

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Speaker 2: close the door, babe. Oh my god, look here, you

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Speaker 2: can tell they've had sugar. Look look at Luna was

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Speaker 1: Is that ain't my chi?

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Speaker 2: We just gave them Halloween candy as a bargain to

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Speaker 1: That's what I was thinking. I was thinking, Halloween is

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Speaker 2: Also like, oh, it's only temporary because this works for now,

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Speaker 1: I think it's I think it's very Daddy's weekend. Actually

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Oh my god, I'm going out of town.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, speaking about of town. Last weekend, Erica and

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Speaker 1: First of all, there was ship with Airbnb that like

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Speaker 1: her stories? We need to add this to the stories.

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Speaker 2: I feel like my mom. My mom cursed me. She

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Speaker 2: You can't just be like doing dangerous shit Erica and I'm.

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Speaker 1: Not thinking everything.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, she always says this because of my Nicaragua

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Speaker 2: There was just a lot of mishaps to getting there.

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Speaker 2: We drove, we got my turned my car on that morning,

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Speaker 2: that's what it was. It wasn't what it was.

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Speaker 1: Clearly.

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Speaker 2: Me and Mi La drove almost all the way to

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Speaker 1: And then hour from San Diego.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and then suddenly like my car, like what isn't

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Speaker 2: Then I had to tell my car to this lot,

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Speaker 1: Me, but not on We just tow the car, like

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Speaker 2: The car, don't the car.

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Speaker 1: We had to unpack every single item, every single grocery

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Speaker 2: Go to this airbnb no to then go to get

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Speaker 1: So yeah, we got to get a rental car. We

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Speaker 1: We get the kids back in, we get floor back

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Speaker 1: And then she used to pay. She had to pay.

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Speaker 1: So we get her. We're like, okay, let's go. We

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Speaker 1: We start heading to Mexico. Everybody's hungry. I'm sure we're hungry.

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Speaker 1: No at this, so fast forward, we're twenty minutes from

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Speaker 2: The We're Iri, you have juice, babe, go drink your juice.

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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, spicy. We get okay, like fifteen

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Speaker 2: Wasn't sure if I wanted to cross the border at night.

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Speaker 1: So fifteen minutes right from the border, I say to Erica, hey,

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Speaker 1: We had to take a breather and get like a

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Speaker 2: We needed to regroup.

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Speaker 1: ICA's like she would get a hotel. I don't want

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Speaker 1: Know, fuck no, fuck absolutely not. I don't care how

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Speaker 1: like pierce my pussy because what if something happens to it?

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Speaker 2: Who is this girl that Champagne Poppy was flirting with?

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Speaker 1: How do I let me say?

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Speaker 4: Let me say, Steph Steph London, Steph London, Steph London,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, until someone turns him over. Is that gonna be

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Speaker 2: You're the converter, maybe changing in his minds about thick

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Speaker 2: Bitchesise me you do though, you really do? You are

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you a little something you ain't.

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Speaker 2: No, you ain't never seen guys like I don't like

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Speaker 2: skinny bit skinny bitches to be like, oh yeah, well

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Speaker 1: It's happened. I've converted a few, have you.

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Speaker 2: I believe it. It's also Jamila's boothing, Stevie Jay's birthday.

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Speaker 1: Why would you tell everybody in my business that was

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Speaker 2: Confession confession confessional. I feel like you're not the only

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Speaker 1: I have a secret question, Stevie j which is I

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Speaker 1: can edit it.

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Speaker 2: Out, and then.

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Speaker 1: You must edit out my secret without Stevie Joys. There's something.

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Speaker 1: He's really nice and charming, and there has to be

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Speaker 1: in that is huge.

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00:20:55,560 --> 00:20:59,560
Speaker 2: And he looks freaky. He looks like very dirty dirty

439
00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:01,960
Speaker 2: and like healthy, I mean like he knows how to

440
00:21:02,080 --> 00:21:03,360
Speaker 2: he can fuck and make love.

441
00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:05,879
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, and he just looks like he says all

442
00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:07,640
Speaker 1: the right ship. Yeah.

443
00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:11,520
Speaker 2: I just want to see that face though that mouth

444
00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:16,359
Speaker 2: mouth he does, you know what I'm talking about a

445
00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:19,119
Speaker 2: little rat mouth and he has his little brown beady eyes.

446
00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:23,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's not traditionally attractive. His body is banging, yeah

447
00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:25,200
Speaker 1: for him to be forty seven, and he's looking good.

448
00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:28,520
Speaker 1: And in person he's very charming and sweet. That's the thing.

449
00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:34,200
Speaker 1: He's very personable and like, oh Stevie. But I actually

450
00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:36,120
Speaker 1: like him and Faith together a lot.

451
00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:36,840
Speaker 3: Hmm.

452
00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:39,159
Speaker 1: I think like the perfect R and B classic R

453
00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:39,800
Speaker 1: and B couple.

454
00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:40,640
Speaker 2: Crazy.

455
00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:47,640
Speaker 1: Hopefully they keep it, keep it clean. I'm sorry, I said,

456
00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:50,800
Speaker 1: I hope See I like Stevie and Faith as a couple.

457
00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:53,520
Speaker 2: Oh, I hope it keep it clean, like what like

458
00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:58,399
Speaker 2: don't like suck it up like clean, like.

459
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:02,280
Speaker 1: They don't indulge.

460
00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:05,280
Speaker 2: Oh my god, why makes you say that? Does Faith

461
00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 2: have like a drug problem?

462
00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:06,840
Speaker 1: She used to?

463
00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:08,400
Speaker 2: Did she that she just smoked weed?

464
00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:10,040
Speaker 1: No, she had a cocaine addiction.

465
00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:14,560
Speaker 2: Oh god, Oh that's not a good pairing. That's why

466
00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:17,679
Speaker 2: they look happy all that. That's why there's happy all

467
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:19,920
Speaker 2: the time. Maybe they're sober. I mean, I'm hapul they're

468
00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:21,600
Speaker 2: just sober happy together.

469
00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:23,640
Speaker 1: But yeah, I remember she when she was on that art,

470
00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:25,679
Speaker 1: Like what is that R and b divas or some

471
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:30,119
Speaker 1: shit they discuss it.

472
00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:32,679
Speaker 2: Oh my god, she's not really white?

473
00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:34,240
Speaker 1: Was the fake?

474
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:35,240
Speaker 2: Yeah?

475
00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:37,160
Speaker 1: I knew it. I know she did it for publicity

476
00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 1: for that song. But how does she be white like

477
00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:40,080
Speaker 1: on her hands.

478
00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:44,200
Speaker 2: Because they painted them. I'm gonna I'm like not mad

479
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,280
Speaker 2: at it. I'm not gonna, Thank God, I'm so glad. Okay,

480
00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:47,199
Speaker 2: we're talking about Spice.

481
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:48,520
Speaker 1: I knew it.

482
00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:51,159
Speaker 2: We're talking about Spice. Who what's her name, Spicy? Her

483
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:52,320
Speaker 2: name is a Spice, right.

484
00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:54,600
Speaker 1: I guess she's a She was a previously on hit

485
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:56,920
Speaker 1: lov and hip hop and.

486
00:22:56,640 --> 00:23:01,879
Speaker 2: Artist artist, and she like supposedly had bleached her lightened

487
00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 2: her skin and done this, and like was trying to

488
00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:08,080
Speaker 2: bring awareness to colorism in her community that you know,

489
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,399
Speaker 2: all these women want her to say she's too black,

490
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 2: so she and then so then she went and lightened

491
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:14,880
Speaker 2: her skin. Then everyone dissed her and made fun of her,

492
00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:17,760
Speaker 2: and she was just bringing awareness to the cause of

493
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:21,440
Speaker 2: colorism within I think, I mean obviously in the black community,

494
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:24,040
Speaker 2: but I specifically really in those like col Jamaican community,

495
00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:28,320
Speaker 2: Jamaican the Caribbean community, like into that bleaching.

496
00:23:28,240 --> 00:23:30,879
Speaker 1: Caribbean community for sure. I mean it's in all of

497
00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:31,480
Speaker 1: the book.

498
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:33,359
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, I think they're just more open

499
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:37,320
Speaker 2: about it about it. Yeah yeah, and so many of

500
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 2: the big artists that these girls look up to are

501
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:42,520
Speaker 2: doing it. So even as a Elia Banks lightened her.

502
00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 1: Skin, oh really yeah, this one she this spice girl

503
00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 1: had a song titled black Hypocrisy, and I guess she

504
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:53,960
Speaker 1: talks about that. Yeah, And so it was. She said

505
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:55,679
Speaker 1: it was not a publicity scent, but it seemed like

506
00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:59,439
Speaker 1: it was. She wanted to create awareness to colorism. I

507
00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 1: commend this. You know what, though, when she had like

508
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:05,679
Speaker 1: a she had like an interview about it, and she

509
00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:07,959
Speaker 1: was just like, because I did it, because that's what

510
00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 1: my community keeps telling me. I'm so black, I should

511
00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:12,919
Speaker 1: do that. Her nonchalantness made me feeling.

512
00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:14,840
Speaker 2: I think she said that she said, most people got

513
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:18,320
Speaker 2: the misconception that I was boosting skin bleaching, but ironically

514
00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:19,800
Speaker 2: it was opposite. So a lot of people said that

515
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:22,280
Speaker 2: she was promoting it by because when she was, when

516
00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:25,679
Speaker 2: she was in bleached or makeup whatever, she wasn't she

517
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:27,479
Speaker 2: was just saying like, this is what I want. This

518
00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 2: is what you know everyone told me they wanted, And

519
00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:31,080
Speaker 2: here I am, and now you're mad at me for

520
00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:32,960
Speaker 2: doing this, and that's why people thought like she was

521
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:36,080
Speaker 2: promoting it to put an end to the debate. I

522
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 2: did not bleach my skin. And I quote proud, proud

523
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:41,880
Speaker 2: of me, color love me pretty black skin. Expect dude

524
00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:43,720
Speaker 2: to me strong melanine.

525
00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:46,720
Speaker 1: I like that words from my black Hypocrisy song that

526
00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 1: I wrote from my heart. Hmmm, well she certainly got

527
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:54,120
Speaker 1: our attention. Oh my god, speaking of colorism, we have

528
00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:57,399
Speaker 1: to talk about doctor Phil and Treasure. Oh my god,

529
00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 1: we almost forgot about doctor Phil Treasure. Did you guys

530
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:06,359
Speaker 1: see the Doctor Field episode with Treasure, the teenager who's black,

531
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 1: but her mom told her that her white husband, who

532
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:13,359
Speaker 1: recently passed, was her biological father, so she was under

533
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 1: the impression that she was actually white and black, and

534
00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 1: when he passed, her mom decided that she should reveal

535
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:22,800
Speaker 1: the truth that that was not actually her biological father

536
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:25,879
Speaker 1: and she wasn't mixed. However, Treasure refused to believe it,

537
00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:31,159
Speaker 1: and she had some very crazy, like racist things to

538
00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:35,119
Speaker 1: say about black people, how ugly they were. She looks

539
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:39,400
Speaker 1: one hundred percent black. I don't know where she ever

540
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:40,360
Speaker 1: believed that existed.

541
00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 2: She is a dark skin beautiful black girl.

542
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:46,119
Speaker 1: And she's delusional.

543
00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:52,360
Speaker 2: Well, she's delusional, and the quotes man the sound bites.

544
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 1: She was like, didn't you see my naturally straight hair.

545
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 1: It was like an old press out.

546
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:00,520
Speaker 2: Wait, I need to I want to all low people

547
00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:02,400
Speaker 2: pull up. Just the clip of her dogging you isn't

548
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:04,400
Speaker 2: too long. Okay, you have to go. Look good at it.

549
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:05,159
Speaker 1: You have it?

550
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:09,919
Speaker 2: No, I don't have it ready. Okay, actually no, I

551
00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:12,880
Speaker 2: I gotta pull it up. I think I found it.

552
00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:17,399
Speaker 2: Control identity crisis. Yeah, she truly believes she's white.

553
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,640
Speaker 5: When the Treasure was five years old, I've noticed Treasure

554
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:23,199
Speaker 5: was having issues with her race. She wouldn't play with

555
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 5: the black children. Treasure would mangle or destroy her black dolls.

556
00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 2: She would cut their heads off, pull off their arms.

557
00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:33,920
Speaker 5: She would pretend that they were the white doll's slaves.

558
00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:37,119
Speaker 2: Well, my mom bought me beautiful white dolls instead of

559
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:41,360
Speaker 2: find me the ugly, big lip black doll. I felt mortified.

560
00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:43,800
Speaker 5: I was a single mom trying to support a family.

561
00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,800
Speaker 2: We couldn't afford to stay in our beautiful home.

562
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 5: We moved from a mostly white, affluent neighborhood.

563
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 2: To the city which was mostly African American.

564
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:55,639
Speaker 1: From the suburbs to the hood.

565
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:58,960
Speaker 2: I was not anything like other black people. They were

566
00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:01,160
Speaker 2: all hood rats, and they were all ghetto. They all

567
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:02,160
Speaker 2: act like monkeys.

568
00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:05,680
Speaker 5: Her school was predominantly African American. She started to say

569
00:27:05,960 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 5: very racist things in public, like I hate black people's hair,

570
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:09,680
Speaker 5: they're dirty.

571
00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:12,720
Speaker 2: She would call them the inward. It made me feel

572
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:15,159
Speaker 2: good to put down an African American person because it

573
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 2: helps them stay in their place.

574
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:19,680
Speaker 1: The African American kids that I was around were all

575
00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:21,400
Speaker 1: ugly looking and losers.

576
00:27:21,560 --> 00:27:25,399
Speaker 2: They're all glulas. Oh my daughter is a racist against

577
00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:26,240
Speaker 2: her own race.

578
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:27,640
Speaker 1: What I find them.

579
00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 5: If if you've ever gone to their website, that's out

580
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:33,120
Speaker 5: of time.

581
00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 2: On social media.

582
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:36,400
Speaker 5: I don't even look at her Facebook page.

583
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,160
Speaker 2: It's a good I don't care.

584
00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 5: As a parent, I kept expecting her to just outgrow

585
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:46,160
Speaker 5: it and thinking she would change. I I pretty much

586
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 5: was like an all stretch, put my head in the.

587
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 2: Sand, and because I think it's a teachable moment and

588
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 2: anyway for Treasure, she don't she don't know. She she's transracial.

589
00:27:57,160 --> 00:28:04,639
Speaker 1: Treasure is Dave Chappelle and the uh white Power clip,

590
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 1: except she's not blind.

591
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 2: She's like, look at my lips they're not big and

592
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 2: ugly like black people. This girl's lips are huge. They're

593
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 2: beautiful and full, full and huge and juicy. She's like,

594
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 2: look at my slim nose. I don't have a wide nose,

595
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 2: my naturally straight hair. I have white blood pumping through

596
00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 2: my veins to quote.

597
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 1: And then we and then I saw another article that

598
00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:32,840
Speaker 1: was her alleged sister that said that she was lying.

599
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 1: The mam was lying. They just needed to go to

600
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:36,439
Speaker 1: Hollywood and get a track. Her mom put her up

601
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 1: to it. And if you go to her Facebook, you

602
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:39,440
Speaker 1: will see she has many black friends.

603
00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:42,720
Speaker 2: I mean, whether if it is true, I don't even

604
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 2: know how I would deal with that. With Iri, I

605
00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:52,520
Speaker 2: have no clue. Oh I see Irin coming towards the door. Yes, okay,

606
00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 2: I'll get you another one. Go in there. No, I

607
00:28:56,200 --> 00:28:58,360
Speaker 2: don't need it. Throw it in the trash, the trash.

608
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 2: Show it in the trash, Irie, okay, thank you.

609
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 1: It goes in the trash though you know it's trash.

610
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 2: Go put it in the trash. Oh my god, it's

611
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 2: gonna be one of those days. It's gonna be one

612
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:35,239
Speaker 2: of these episodes. Guys, what is pleasehold? Sorry about that.

613
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:38,480
Speaker 2: We're back anyway, I was just saying, like, I don't

614
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 2: know what I would do if that was like, if

615
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 2: that was Iri, if she suddenly like, like, how do

616
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 2: you deal with those type of things as parents? Like

617
00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 2: she's like a teenager, I think, obviously, well, we'll figure

618
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 2: that out when it comes. But like teenagers, they're like

619
00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 2: fully functioning a semi adult humans with.

620
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 1: Like the skills, it's like observed to like.

621
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 2: Make their own mind up. And I think, I mean,

622
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 2: I think I'm already starting to deal with that now.

623
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 2: My kid is like making her like realizes what she

624
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:09,560
Speaker 2: likes and do what does she doesn't like and sometimes

625
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 2: not in line with what I want her to like.

626
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 2: Do you know, I don't know what I would do?

627
00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 1: Like you do you send them to like all the

628
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 1: multicultural black events you could find? Force her to go

629
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:24,160
Speaker 1: to HBC. I don't know.

630
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 2: I hope it's fair a therapist. I hope it's fake,

631
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 2: because that is quite gray.

632
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:31,719
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

633
00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:34,360
Speaker 2: And then if it is false and that mother did

634
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:36,360
Speaker 2: put her daughter up to that, that's disgusting.

635
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's insane. I mean, it's all crazy.

636
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:43,320
Speaker 2: Like to go on national television and talk like that's no,

637
00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:48,120
Speaker 2: that's crazy that's all the news I got grown because

638
00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 2: besides Laura Pippen filing.

639
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:54,760
Speaker 1: For doors because of Shade Room, maybe we should start

640
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:56,960
Speaker 1: my ABC or I don't know, something legit.

641
00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:59,000
Speaker 2: I don't only look on the Shade Room. I mean

642
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 2: I look, you know, I like on CNN too, ABC News.

643
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:04,720
Speaker 1: Voting's coming out.

644
00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 2: That's important, that's really important. People, Please get out there

645
00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 2: and vote. Your vote does matter. You know, We're in

646
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 2: such a crucial time right now, and I feel like

647
00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:15,280
Speaker 2: it did have to happen. I had to get to

648
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 2: this point. Unfortunately, you know, it's it's had a lot

649
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 2: of anyway. I feel like we have to get we

650
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:28,080
Speaker 2: had to get to this point. I think everything happens

651
00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:31,560
Speaker 2: for a reason, even Donald Trump. But the time is now,

652
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:35,040
Speaker 2: what the fuck it, Let's turn the page and try

653
00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:37,680
Speaker 2: to get something different in there. I'm not one that

654
00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 2: thinks like the Democrats. The Democratic Party is this all

655
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:44,880
Speaker 2: like encompassing party that has everything right at all. I

656
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:46,760
Speaker 2: don't know what. I don't know what people's politics are,

657
00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 2: but I think politics in general is a dirty game. Period.

658
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:52,239
Speaker 2: People do whatever they want to do to get their

659
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:56,000
Speaker 2: agenda push forward. But I'm sorry the Republicans, I have

660
00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 2: to have no soul. They literally have no soul. It's insane.

661
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:03,200
Speaker 2: Not every single Republican, but like it doesn't matter to

662
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,600
Speaker 2: them what they have to do to get their ship passed.

663
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:09,640
Speaker 1: I think it's all about money. And it's hard for

664
00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 1: me to like become very interested in politics because I

665
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:18,360
Speaker 1: just think it's it's all some bullshit and they all

666
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 1: have like monetary gain and there's just it's corrupt. It's

667
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:26,600
Speaker 1: really not like democracy like we'd like to think. Nonetheless,

668
00:32:26,760 --> 00:32:31,240
Speaker 1: definitely still vote. I mean, if it means anything, it's

669
00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 1: it's important enough.

670
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 2: Are you gonna vote?

671
00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:37,120
Speaker 1: Yeah? Well, es phone, Yeah yeah?

672
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:41,880
Speaker 2: Did you vote by president? I didn't Why.

673
00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 1: I just don't feel like I feel like what they

674
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 1: want to happen is gonna happen.

675
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 2: So then why are you voting now?

676
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:51,000
Speaker 1: I I'm sick tweeting my phone and just hopes that

677
00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:53,480
Speaker 1: maybe it does matter. I mean, I just would rather

678
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 1: whether it matters, I don't know for sure. That's just

679
00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:58,240
Speaker 1: my theory because I'm a conspiracy theorist psycho. But if

680
00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:02,160
Speaker 1: it does matter, I'm gonna. I'm all about, you know,

681
00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 1: supporting the How.

682
00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 2: Can you say it didn't matter?

683
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 1: I think that in general overall, I think there's a

684
00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:15,440
Speaker 1: power that be and it's it's it's been manipulated. I

685
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 1: think it's like they would like the mass of people

686
00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 1: to think like your vote matters and you have control

687
00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:23,680
Speaker 1: over this and that. But I think when it comes

688
00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 1: really down to it, I think overall there's an agenda

689
00:33:27,440 --> 00:33:32,240
Speaker 1: and it's it's primarily money movement, and I don't think.

690
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:34,280
Speaker 1: I don't know if like when we go in the

691
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 1: voter casts our ballots, like is there someone really back there?

692
00:33:36,920 --> 00:33:39,080
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just don't know. It's such an

693
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 1: evil government that I would not doubt if it didn't

694
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 1: fucking matter. Whoever's supposed to be an office is going

695
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 1: to be an office because whatever agenda they're trying to

696
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 1: fucking arrange, just like you could pay lobby like you know,

697
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 1: it's just there's just obviously corrupt shit that doesn't make

698
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 1: any sense. We have this checks and balance and system,

699
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 1: this judicial system, then it all really logically, a lot

700
00:33:57,520 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 1: of it doesn't make a lot of sense because it's

701
00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 1: not really it's made for some other shit. But I

702
00:34:05,880 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 1: am gonna vote, and I think everybody else should too,

703
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:10,719
Speaker 1: even if you're a conspiracy theorist like myself mine. I mean,

704
00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:13,360
Speaker 1: in case it matters, I my vote matters.

705
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 2: I think that I I feel that side of it.

706
00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 2: But I also feel like in some ways it's like, well,

707
00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:24,879
Speaker 2: then why are why like like activists that I feel

708
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 2: so passionately about voting and and and people's and trying

709
00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:31,360
Speaker 2: to get certain rights and laws and everything past, Like

710
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:35,360
Speaker 2: why would they work so hard if it makes no difference.

711
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:37,879
Speaker 2: I mean, I say, Angela Rye on the front line.

712
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 1: I'm not saying it doesn't make a difference. I think

713
00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:41,359
Speaker 1: we need those people in the front line. I think

714
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 1: we need more people like that in the front line.

715
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 1: I think there, thank god, there are people who are

716
00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:46,919
Speaker 1: paying attention that are who are lawyers. I know people

717
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 1: who are civil rights activists that are you know, study

718
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:51,359
Speaker 1: the law, and they do make changes and they do

719
00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:53,600
Speaker 1: see results. And I'm not saying on that level that

720
00:34:53,600 --> 00:35:00,319
Speaker 1: that's not possible, but I think ultimately behind the scenes, yes,

721
00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 1: those little things matter and there's changes being made, thank god.

722
00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:06,799
Speaker 1: But overall, I just think that there's like this secret

723
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:10,800
Speaker 1: billion dollar agenda that benefits like the ten percent of

724
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 1: the people who have the wealth, and they manipulate. Manipulation.

725
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:17,560
Speaker 1: It's the way they want, but that doesn't Yeah, I mean,

726
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:20,880
Speaker 1: I'm not saying don't be involved. I admire those people

727
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:26,880
Speaker 1: like what's his name, never mind, I can't remember, but

728
00:35:27,520 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 1: Mighty Sea King. Yeah, Sean King. But anyway, enough of mine.

729
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 2: And anyway, villages and voting villages for voting colonies really

730
00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:44,319
Speaker 2: supported by a community.

731
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:49,319
Speaker 1: We want to talk about the importance of having a

732
00:35:49,360 --> 00:35:53,520
Speaker 1: mom tribe or a village, because if you're a mom,

733
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 1: you do know. Even if you're not a mom, I'm

734
00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:58,560
Speaker 1: sure you also know it takes a village, especially when

735
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:00,440
Speaker 1: you're a single mom, and takes a village. When you're

736
00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 1: not a single mom and you're married, it still takes

737
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 1: a village. It takes multiple people to help raise a child.

738
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 1: It's perfectly normal. A lot of people like feel like

739
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 1: they're supposed to do everything by themselves. I did, and

740
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 1: you don't, and you shouldn't have.

741
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:15,760
Speaker 2: To be possible.

742
00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 1: You should Should you touch that?

743
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:24,200
Speaker 2: I please don't. Yeah, it's I think I think, you know.

744
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:27,320
Speaker 2: When I got pregnant, I was like, I'm not going

745
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 2: to I don't. I'm not gonna need a nanny. I'm

746
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:30,879
Speaker 2: not gonna need that help. I'm gonna be totally fine,

747
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 2: I'm gonna just be able to do it all. It'll

748
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 2: be fine. And then you have a baby and you're

749
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 2: tired and there's not enough hours in the day to

750
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:41,000
Speaker 2: get everything done, and you also want to pursue your passions,

751
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:42,840
Speaker 2: and you also want to hang out with friends and

752
00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:45,040
Speaker 2: feel like a human, and you might not be with

753
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 2: your baby daddy, so you're trying to also like you know,

754
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 2: work on that. Also, it's just.

755
00:36:49,120 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 1: Not fucking possible, Boose.

756
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 2: I clean the house and keep it clean, and keep

757
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:56,840
Speaker 2: your body clean, and eat a gas place, feel fire alarm,

758
00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 2: feel fulfilled, you know what I mean. Like, it's just

759
00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 2: it's just not It isn't. I'm sure there's people out

760
00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:05,080
Speaker 2: there that are doing it, but I'm sure they're not happy.

761
00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:07,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, you need help, And I mean I know a

762
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,160
Speaker 1: lot of women who do it and in places they're

763
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 1: not from and they don't have a big community. You

764
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:15,800
Speaker 1: have to be open to finding friends. You have to

765
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 1: be open to the help, even if it's like joining

766
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 1: a mom group, you know, cornering a bitch in the

767
00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:26,440
Speaker 1: corner that you know has a baby, even like I

768
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:29,920
Speaker 1: think like Luna's not really into any extracurricular activities, even though,

769
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 1: that's my bad. I need to do that. She keeps

770
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:35,080
Speaker 1: jumping off of shit in my house all the time.

771
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:36,800
Speaker 1: She wants to be in gymnastics.

772
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:38,440
Speaker 2: So tumbling that baby gymnastic.

773
00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 1: She's already maybe a gymnast. She oh like at classes.

774
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:45,759
Speaker 1: I'm sure there's other moms there, you know.

775
00:37:46,719 --> 00:37:49,239
Speaker 2: I mean, I think early on I realized that I

776
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:51,759
Speaker 2: needed some sort of connection to something because I think

777
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:54,080
Speaker 2: my friends, a lot of my friends were still out partying,

778
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 2: and I just didn't have the community I thought I

779
00:37:56,600 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 2: would have in some of my in some of my

780
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 2: friends at that time, a few you know what I mean.

781
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:03,479
Speaker 1: Before you had the baby, thought none of these people

782
00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:04,400
Speaker 1: are gonna be my village.

783
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:06,880
Speaker 2: I thought they would. And then you have a baby

784
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:10,359
Speaker 2: and you realize they're they're not down yet. Maybe they're

785
00:38:10,400 --> 00:38:13,480
Speaker 2: not ready. You have nine months to prepare for a baby.

786
00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 2: Your friends don't. It's just like they see their friends

787
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:18,000
Speaker 2: from time to time they're pregnant, and then bam, there's

788
00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 2: a baby.

789
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 1: And it's even iyre pregnant. You start to realize, who's

790
00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:21,399
Speaker 1: not going to be down?

791
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:23,040
Speaker 2: There's that, But I also I think I think with

792
00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:25,839
Speaker 2: something that people don't talk about is like that growth

793
00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:28,360
Speaker 2: that needs to happen within your friend group too, because

794
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:29,959
Speaker 2: they also kind of adopt.

795
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 1: A baby, you know what I mean, and especial if

796
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 1: it's really close friends, like I think we both do.

797
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 2: I think people automatically just as like they just think

798
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:40,840
Speaker 2: that I have a baby, like Dug, you're supposed to

799
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:42,399
Speaker 2: say help me, help me, you know what I mean,

800
00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 2: And it should be like that. It should be, but

801
00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:48,279
Speaker 2: it isn't always like that. And then and I think

802
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:49,759
Speaker 2: a lot of times, I know I have, I've held

803
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 2: it against friends and some of them they deserved it

804
00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:55,000
Speaker 2: because they still at shit now, but some of them

805
00:38:55,040 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 2: just needed time to really understand health. Now, Yeah, how

806
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 2: do I fit in? How do I help? And I

807
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 2: think a lot of women that are listening right now

808
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:05,359
Speaker 2: that maybe don't have kids. Maybe you've gone through that too,

809
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 2: where like your friend has a kid and you don't

810
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 2: really know, you're like, I'm not really a kid person.

811
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 2: I'm still not really a kid person, because sometimes that happens,

812
00:39:13,520 --> 00:39:17,480
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, and like it as a kid.

813
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think you're right. I think I have

814
00:39:20,719 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 1: such a good community and they like rally around me

815
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 1: so easily and quickly that I forgot that there is

816
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:30,239
Speaker 1: that disconnects with some friendships that happens because you're right,

817
00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:33,560
Speaker 1: your your crew gains a baby, and when you're the

818
00:39:33,560 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 1: first baby, it's it's different, and then you're not partying

819
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:43,239
Speaker 1: as much. There's it's just a different level of friendship. Yeah,

820
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:44,759
Speaker 1: I think you kind of wait out some friends and

821
00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: that that that stage.

822
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:49,879
Speaker 2: Oh for sure, we did so many I waited out

823
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 2: friends in pregnancy.

824
00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:52,960
Speaker 1: Well that's what I'm saying. And then I've read so

825
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 1: many like birthing books I read like I do. I

826
00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:59,719
Speaker 1: was really into birth. But I think a lot of

827
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:01,719
Speaker 1: that is I told my friends like, Okay, when I

828
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 1: have a baby, like you may need to make dinner

829
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:05,920
Speaker 1: for me, like a couple of nights out of the

830
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:09,800
Speaker 1: month or three when I bring the baby home, you

831
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:12,920
Speaker 1: can they you can bring home like some frozen premale foods,

832
00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 1: Like you can do my dishes. I read that in

833
00:40:14,719 --> 00:40:16,279
Speaker 1: a book, so like.

834
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:19,360
Speaker 2: I didn't even think to I didn't even because because

835
00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 2: I think also I have that mentality that I can

836
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:25,000
Speaker 2: handle everything by myself. I can do it all. But

837
00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:28,359
Speaker 2: when I realized I couldn't do it all, then I

838
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 2: was like, well, where are my friends? Where are you colo? Right?

839
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 2: But also I had been like I don't need you

840
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 2: and buy you know, like I got it. I got it.

841
00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:37,319
Speaker 2: And I think I think part of it was me

842
00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 2: pushing them away too, because I wanted to prove to

843
00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:44,400
Speaker 2: myself that I could do this, especially because you know,

844
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:47,360
Speaker 2: throughout my pregnancy I didn't I didn't necessarily have a

845
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:51,520
Speaker 2: support of my family consistently through throughout it. So I

846
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 2: was like even more so, irine, stop trying to prove

847
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 2: a point. Yeah, I was more so even trying to

848
00:40:56,719 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 2: prove that, yeah, I got this, you know. But yeah,

849
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 2: I think I think now I think a lot of

850
00:41:04,160 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 2: my friends that maybe I felt not fully supported by,

851
00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 2: are now you know, either starting to think about having kids,

852
00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 2: are pregnant have a kid now like oh hey, and

853
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 2: they get it and they get it, you know what

854
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't. I wonder I often wonder what

855
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:23,480
Speaker 2: I would have been like had I not been the

856
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 2: first one, like with one of my friends, because I

857
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 2: didn't like kids before, like I really did not like

858
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 2: want to have really have a kid. I started thinking

859
00:41:32,719 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 2: about it more and more, like probably the last year

860
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:39,399
Speaker 2: before I had Irie. But before that I was.

861
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:42,879
Speaker 1: Like, really, no, I was like, I don't want a kid.

862
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:47,279
Speaker 2: I don't like I'm too selfish, I don't really even

863
00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 2: like to be around them, so I can't imagine like

864
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:50,399
Speaker 2: wanting one.

865
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:52,840
Speaker 1: It's so funny to me.

866
00:41:53,480 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I told you this, like I was the

867
00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 2: one that wanted to be moved in the airplane, like

868
00:41:56,840 --> 00:42:00,120
Speaker 2: I don't want to be No, I don't please, don't no,

869
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:02,319
Speaker 2: don't ask her to babysit. Please. So that's why I like,

870
00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 2: which no one ever did. Because I didn't have any

871
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:06,239
Speaker 2: friends with the kids. That's why I wonder, like had

872
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:09,799
Speaker 2: like had like niche or like my friend's stuff, or

873
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,840
Speaker 2: like anyone else like had a kid. First, what I

874
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:15,040
Speaker 2: have been that supportive friend? I think I think maybe

875
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:16,719
Speaker 2: I would have. Maybe that would have sparked my interest

876
00:42:16,760 --> 00:42:18,920
Speaker 2: in children, because seeing like someone that I love have

877
00:42:19,320 --> 00:42:22,239
Speaker 2: a baby makes you love them. I think my niece

878
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 2: has told me that too, because she's the same way

879
00:42:24,239 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 2: as me, Like she was the same like didn't like kids.

880
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 2: And then once I had Iri, like she started, I

881
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:31,480
Speaker 2: even noticed it too, though I noticed at first she

882
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:34,840
Speaker 2: was a little hesitant with Iri, and over time, like

883
00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:38,719
Speaker 2: I've seen her, like maternal instincts grow and grow and

884
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:40,360
Speaker 2: to the point where now she has a child and

885
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:44,640
Speaker 2: she's very maternal, you know, which I think is what

886
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:48,960
Speaker 2: happened with me too. But yeah, community is I mean,

887
00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:51,480
Speaker 2: the village is so crucial. I mean I think my

888
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:54,080
Speaker 2: village is really my family. I don't really put Iri

889
00:42:54,239 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 2: on like my friends. I think the only person who's

890
00:42:57,200 --> 00:43:06,600
Speaker 2: ever watched Iri like overnight has been like her godmom.

891
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 1: Well, oh your she has like three okay.

892
00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 2: Dana, my cousin Dana, and then her godmom, Romo, Jessica Roy. Yeah.

893
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:22,600
Speaker 2: Any other friends. No. And I think also because people

894
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 2: have offered and then I've asked and then they're like, oh,

895
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 2: I have to do it. And I'm like all right, girl,

896
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:31,400
Speaker 2: Like you always people say they want to help you

897
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 2: and then you call and they're like, well, actually I'm

898
00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 2: I And so I was like, okay, never mind. And

899
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:39,520
Speaker 2: so I just I know that she's gonna get the

900
00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 2: best care ever with my family also, and I'm like

901
00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 2: very paranoid about that too. I'm just like, what are

902
00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 2: they gonna do? Are you gonna watch her? You don't

903
00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:47,920
Speaker 2: even have a kid, do you even know how to

904
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:54,200
Speaker 2: be with a kid? That Mostly it's my mom, Flora,

905
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:58,480
Speaker 2: her dad and maybe two girlfriends, but then that's my tribe.

906
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 2: But now I have obviously I have their friends and

907
00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:04,799
Speaker 2: have kids. But I don't know. I think you you

908
00:44:04,840 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 2: have a different like scenario. You have like multiple girlfriends

909
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:09,399
Speaker 2: that you can that you drop.

910
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:12,399
Speaker 1: Well, like my two but so because I grew up here,

911
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:15,719
Speaker 1: my two best friends, like we've grown up together like sisters,

912
00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:19,439
Speaker 1: so and one of which doesn't have a kids, so

913
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 1: I think it makes it her more more like into it,

914
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 1: and her and Lunar are close, but me and her

915
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 1: super closely, no other since we five. So it's literally

916
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:30,480
Speaker 1: like her you know, her aunt, it's her grandmother. But

917
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 1: also my my my daughter's father is a spoiled child

918
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:39,719
Speaker 1: and he has two retired grandparents and she's the first grandchild.

919
00:44:40,239 --> 00:44:45,360
Speaker 1: So there's it's rare that they are not, you know available.

920
00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:49,040
Speaker 1: My mom lives close by, she'd be actually like she

921
00:44:49,040 --> 00:44:51,520
Speaker 1: got shit to do sometimes, but like there's her, you

922
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:52,879
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And then there are my two

923
00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:58,799
Speaker 1: friends who are I'm super close with. Be gonna be quiet.

924
00:44:58,800 --> 00:45:02,839
Speaker 1: You can't talk in here? Is that does that toy

925
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:06,480
Speaker 1: make noise? If it makes noise, you can't bring it.

926
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:11,040
Speaker 1: That's too much toys to learn it it's too loud.

927
00:45:11,960 --> 00:45:14,799
Speaker 2: I think. I think also like when you like, when

928
00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:17,719
Speaker 2: I imagined what a tribe is before I even had

929
00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:20,880
Speaker 2: a kid, I imagine it being a bunch of women

930
00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:23,719
Speaker 2: that also have kids. You know what I mean.

931
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:26,680
Speaker 1: That's not that's not true. Close out door, linen.

932
00:45:26,760 --> 00:45:29,360
Speaker 2: And that's why, like I when I when I like,

933
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:31,799
Speaker 2: I joined Jimbaree for iri, like I wanted her to

934
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:34,080
Speaker 2: like socialize, but also me, I felt like I needed

935
00:45:34,080 --> 00:45:36,279
Speaker 2: to like socialize with other people with children. I think

936
00:45:36,320 --> 00:45:38,239
Speaker 2: mostly because I felt like I didn't have anyone to

937
00:45:38,280 --> 00:45:42,799
Speaker 2: relate to right within my circle of front girlfriends.

938
00:45:42,440 --> 00:45:44,320
Speaker 1: Were we're w w and how did that?

939
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:44,680
Speaker 6: Like?

940
00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:49,479
Speaker 2: Ah, No, you guys, you guys, huh huh. You guys

941
00:45:49,520 --> 00:45:51,400
Speaker 2: can't play with that stuff in here. It's too loud.

942
00:45:51,760 --> 00:45:54,120
Speaker 1: If you guys gonna play, go in another room and play together.

943
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:55,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, go in the other room.

944
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:58,800
Speaker 1: Most kids went freedom. You guys want to just literally

945
00:45:58,800 --> 00:46:01,040
Speaker 1: sit under the table that were recording it.

946
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 2: Go on, go Luna, go show I re your toys. Okay,

947
00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:13,279
Speaker 2: I reopened the door for Luna. She can't open it.

948
00:46:13,360 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 2: She's holding all that stuff. You help her.

949
00:46:17,520 --> 00:46:18,600
Speaker 1: And then close it. Behind you.

950
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:21,560
Speaker 2: Uh huh, okay, go go go, she's you can see

951
00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:28,759
Speaker 2: all of it. Okay, in a minute, go but go

952
00:46:28,760 --> 00:46:30,640
Speaker 2: go go count all the toys? Can you count them?

953
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:34,360
Speaker 1: No? Too loud? Close the door. We'll be done in

954
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:34,880
Speaker 1: five minutes.

955
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:39,840
Speaker 2: Okay, close the door though, can.

956
00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 1: You close the door please?

957
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:53,280
Speaker 7: I I'm so proud of her hairstyleed so proud?

958
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:56,880
Speaker 2: Were you asking me?

959
00:46:57,360 --> 00:47:00,359
Speaker 1: Oh, do you think going to the mom your mom Jimberrie. Shit,

960
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:01,680
Speaker 1: did you connect with any moms? No?

961
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 2: No, none, They're all weird.

962
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 1: That's what I was thinking. That's another thing. It's it

963
00:47:06,200 --> 00:47:09,160
Speaker 1: would be hard to find our I joined Facebook. We

964
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,399
Speaker 1: should start a membership like a networking because like our

965
00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:14,279
Speaker 1: type of moms, Like I don't even think me and

966
00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 1: you smoked me the first time we hung out with

967
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:16,560
Speaker 1: the kids.

968
00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 2: Probably no, we did?

969
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:19,279
Speaker 1: For sure? Did we?

970
00:47:19,320 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 2: Did? We drank?

971
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:23,399
Speaker 1: We drink wine?

972
00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:23,840
Speaker 2: Yeah?

973
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:26,319
Speaker 1: Okay, well then like, how do you That's what I'm saying,

974
00:47:26,320 --> 00:47:28,680
Speaker 1: Like I feel like if I went to a Gimberree

975
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:31,000
Speaker 1: mom event, I would not find you.

976
00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 2: Feel like I gotta be like on your best behavior. Yeah,

977
00:47:33,120 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 2: likes very vanilla.

978
00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:36,919
Speaker 1: A cardigan today feels very.

979
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:40,960
Speaker 2: Vanilla, I guess That's probably why I didn't connect with

980
00:47:40,960 --> 00:47:42,600
Speaker 2: anyone there. I just felt like I wasn't I couldn't

981
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:45,440
Speaker 2: really be myself anyway. And like there's a there's like

982
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:47,520
Speaker 2: I don't know the one over here in Encino.

983
00:47:47,640 --> 00:47:48,319
Speaker 1: It is just like.

984
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:54,040
Speaker 2: Super yeah, it's super square. Like it was just strange.

985
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:57,200
Speaker 2: But then I joined. I even joined like a Facebook

986
00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 2: mom groups, or at least I could I could at

987
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:01,719
Speaker 2: least talk to moms and reach out for advice on things.

988
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:03,919
Speaker 2: But I never really met up with any moms. Even

989
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:06,279
Speaker 2: now recently, I got I was.

990
00:48:06,320 --> 00:48:11,800
Speaker 1: Approved into a very very exclusive, very elite mom group.

991
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:14,959
Speaker 2: It's like the so House of mommy groups. I can't

992
00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:17,239
Speaker 2: and I'm still I don't even participate. I'm the worst.

993
00:48:17,280 --> 00:48:18,440
Speaker 2: I never saw an email.

994
00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 1: I thought you just started.

995
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:22,360
Speaker 2: I mean I've been a member for like a month

996
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 2: at this point.

997
00:48:23,200 --> 00:48:24,719
Speaker 1: Okay, I really can't wait for you to go to

998
00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:27,920
Speaker 1: a classy event. We should start a membership networking crew

999
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 1: for like good moms that make my choices, because that's

1000
00:48:31,600 --> 00:48:32,359
Speaker 1: a certain crew.

1001
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 2: But this group that I'm in, it's a lot of work.

1002
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:39,640
Speaker 2: This girl who runs it, okay, no, this girl who

1003
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:41,319
Speaker 2: runs it puts a lot of.

1004
00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:43,640
Speaker 1: Effort into I'm sure it's like her only job.

1005
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:46,359
Speaker 2: She puts a lot of effort into it, and I'm like,

1006
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:48,960
Speaker 2: this is a full time job, just just just the

1007
00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:52,680
Speaker 2: email send outs themselves, engage and then making sure that

1008
00:48:52,719 --> 00:48:54,760
Speaker 2: you have events planned a few times a month.

1009
00:48:55,080 --> 00:48:57,320
Speaker 1: It's a few times a month, yeah, and like they're all.

1010
00:48:57,160 --> 00:49:01,319
Speaker 3: Cool and like class classy and shit pictured Yeah, and

1011
00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:03,839
Speaker 3: then like gathering like there's this blast email that they

1012
00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:06,560
Speaker 3: send out with like moms can like promote their like

1013
00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:08,400
Speaker 3: whatever they have going on, or like that they need.

1014
00:49:08,280 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 2: An intern or blah blah blah. You know, it's a lot,

1015
00:49:12,400 --> 00:49:14,480
Speaker 2: but yeah, me trying to find my that was me

1016
00:49:14,520 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 2: trying to find my village, not really realizing my village

1017
00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:19,319
Speaker 2: is right here. Like I have my family, and I

1018
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 2: have my you know, I have Jessica, and I have

1019
00:49:21,680 --> 00:49:24,040
Speaker 2: my you know, my Dana. And the people that have

1020
00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:26,440
Speaker 2: like stepped up have been like please can I take her?

1021
00:49:26,560 --> 00:49:28,719
Speaker 2: Let me take her to a birthday party? Like that

1022
00:49:28,719 --> 00:49:32,319
Speaker 2: That's what really, Like, I feel like that's what I

1023
00:49:32,400 --> 00:49:34,920
Speaker 2: needed because I'm so prideful and I want to do everything.

1024
00:49:34,920 --> 00:49:37,120
Speaker 2: I needed someone to be like I'm gonna come get

1025
00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:39,040
Speaker 2: her and I'm gonna take her is that okay? And

1026
00:49:39,040 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 2: then I'd be like, oh, okay, sure, yeah, and then

1027
00:49:42,239 --> 00:49:44,480
Speaker 2: I'm like okay then. So sometimes I think, like if

1028
00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:46,319
Speaker 2: you don't have kids, or maybe if you do have

1029
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:48,719
Speaker 2: kids and your friend is having a kid and you

1030
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:50,480
Speaker 2: don't know how to support them, but you think, like,

1031
00:49:51,000 --> 00:49:53,160
Speaker 2: you know, just sometimes just saying like hey, if you

1032
00:49:53,160 --> 00:49:55,920
Speaker 2: ever need help, like let me know isn't enough. Sometimes

1033
00:49:55,960 --> 00:49:59,799
Speaker 2: you just have to like act like actually just say like, hey,

1034
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:04,160
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do this. Shut the fuck up. Yeah, taking her,

1035
00:50:04,920 --> 00:50:06,880
Speaker 2: you know, at least that's what I needed for me

1036
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:08,879
Speaker 2: to realize, Okay, this is my village, I mean.

1037
00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:10,839
Speaker 1: And sometimes it takes that to realize you can need

1038
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:12,759
Speaker 1: a break, right like, oh okay, this is what it

1039
00:50:12,760 --> 00:50:16,560
Speaker 1: feels like. And sometimes as the mom, it takes you

1040
00:50:16,640 --> 00:50:20,040
Speaker 1: communicating that to other people to say, hey, I need

1041
00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:22,280
Speaker 1: a break and that's okay too, you know, like don't

1042
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:24,880
Speaker 1: kill yourself and or your kid trying to like do

1043
00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 1: everything do everything alone, even if it takes telling your

1044
00:50:30,040 --> 00:50:34,600
Speaker 1: partner like hey, I need more help, even your family,

1045
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,439
Speaker 1: and if some people don't have the option to rely

1046
00:50:37,560 --> 00:50:39,759
Speaker 1: in like close friends. Because I just realized we're super

1047
00:50:39,840 --> 00:50:41,520
Speaker 1: lucky to have as many close friends as we.

1048
00:50:41,520 --> 00:50:43,359
Speaker 2: Do, I'm more lucky that we live in the same

1049
00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:46,120
Speaker 2: state as our family. Yeah, it really that because like

1050
00:50:46,200 --> 00:50:49,200
Speaker 2: I see people that have kids that who both both.

1051
00:50:48,920 --> 00:50:51,239
Speaker 1: Of them don't have family in I know, I have

1052
00:50:51,239 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 1: a single mom friend who lives out of state from

1053
00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:56,200
Speaker 1: her family and her very daddy is not around. And

1054
00:50:56,320 --> 00:50:59,200
Speaker 1: I saw like the amount of money a she pays

1055
00:50:59,239 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 1: in childcare, which is insane and be just like having

1056
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:05,520
Speaker 1: to sacrifice the time and then when you have to

1057
00:51:05,520 --> 00:51:07,680
Speaker 1: pay for childcare for work, you don't have the option

1058
00:51:07,760 --> 00:51:10,399
Speaker 1: to pay for childcare just to go out. So it's

1059
00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:11,000
Speaker 1: I mean, look.

1060
00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 2: At Amina Amana, Like her family lives in Germany, right

1061
00:51:14,760 --> 00:51:17,359
Speaker 2: and the baby father, her baby daddy lives in New York.

1062
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:21,359
Speaker 2: She's here alone with two kids like under four, two

1063
00:51:21,440 --> 00:51:25,680
Speaker 2: kids under four, Like that's a it's a lot of work.

1064
00:51:25,719 --> 00:51:29,000
Speaker 2: You really gotta want she must really want to be here. Yeah,

1065
00:51:29,080 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 2: because you know, like I can't imagine like that help

1066
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:35,040
Speaker 2: is priceless to me. I will move to it to it,

1067
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:36,160
Speaker 2: you know what I mean.

1068
00:51:36,560 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 1: But at the same time, I feel like you have

1069
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:41,040
Speaker 1: to be open because I also know I have well

1070
00:51:41,640 --> 00:51:43,640
Speaker 1: I know moms have moved to different places for different

1071
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:47,200
Speaker 1: reasons with their kids. No, baby Daddy, like you can

1072
00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:48,800
Speaker 1: move to the help, but some people don't even have

1073
00:51:48,840 --> 00:51:51,200
Speaker 1: the option to do that. And sometimes and you're compelled

1074
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:53,799
Speaker 1: to move elsewhere. Sometimes you got to take the risk

1075
00:51:53,840 --> 00:51:55,640
Speaker 1: and do that too, and just you know, be open

1076
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:58,319
Speaker 1: to the village coming to you and creating a new

1077
00:51:58,360 --> 00:52:02,440
Speaker 1: one or creating one all because I don't believe in

1078
00:52:02,480 --> 00:52:04,680
Speaker 1: like never moving or never doing the shit you want

1079
00:52:04,719 --> 00:52:06,799
Speaker 1: to do because you don't, you know, limiting yourself because

1080
00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:09,120
Speaker 1: your family lives here and not living anywhere else. But

1081
00:52:09,239 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 1: also keep in mind, you know that you got to

1082
00:52:12,600 --> 00:52:14,600
Speaker 1: like really put in the effort to find a village

1083
00:52:14,600 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 1: and find people you trust that you can spend time

1084
00:52:17,160 --> 00:52:19,719
Speaker 1: together with your kids and also have an outlet to

1085
00:52:19,800 --> 00:52:22,520
Speaker 1: drop a mom Oh my god, it's so hard to

1086
00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:25,160
Speaker 1: being a mom like then to trust people.

1087
00:52:25,640 --> 00:52:28,600
Speaker 2: Does does your baby daddy have like friends that he

1088
00:52:28,640 --> 00:52:30,839
Speaker 2: would drop like how you have like he would drop

1089
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:33,080
Speaker 2: loon off to? Like does? I mean, I'm just curious,

1090
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:33,839
Speaker 2: like what do men be?

1091
00:52:33,880 --> 00:52:37,360
Speaker 1: Like he has his parents that he lives with, right,

1092
00:52:37,440 --> 00:52:42,919
Speaker 1: which is very convenient, But no, I don't think guys

1093
00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 1: do that. And I think he's done like said shit

1094
00:52:45,200 --> 00:52:48,640
Speaker 1: to me a few times, like trying to push my buttons, like, oh,

1095
00:52:48,960 --> 00:52:52,520
Speaker 1: my girlfriend, my homegirl so so watching it, Like your girlfriend,

1096
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:55,600
Speaker 1: who in the fuck it? Who? Like my whole thing

1097
00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:58,319
Speaker 1: is nigga, I've known you for six seventeen years. If

1098
00:52:58,360 --> 00:53:00,799
Speaker 1: your homegirls soone to put yoku, I had never heard

1099
00:53:00,800 --> 00:53:02,600
Speaker 1: of her, it's not your homegirl. And no, you will

1100
00:53:02,640 --> 00:53:07,319
Speaker 1: not be shopper to my homegirl down the street. Mm hmm.

1101
00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:11,360
Speaker 1: But my dad's also like really hand and my dad's

1102
00:53:11,400 --> 00:53:14,759
Speaker 1: not here right now, like he's he's in airstadam. But

1103
00:53:15,400 --> 00:53:18,040
Speaker 1: when he is here, he's into the kids, like he'll

1104
00:53:18,080 --> 00:53:20,080
Speaker 1: take the kids, I'll fake them up. It's like no,

1105
00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:24,839
Speaker 1: no question. Yeah, yeah, it's like he's into it even

1106
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:25,400
Speaker 1: when I was a kid.

1107
00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:28,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess I like if my baby daddy was

1108
00:53:28,200 --> 00:53:29,560
Speaker 2: like yeah, I gotta like.

1109
00:53:30,040 --> 00:53:33,319
Speaker 1: That's real, real funny unless it's somebody you really really know.

1110
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:35,480
Speaker 2: But I don't know if I would let it. I

1111
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:40,680
Speaker 2: don't know if I would you let Learna be alone

1112
00:53:40,719 --> 00:53:45,000
Speaker 2: with the guy guy. I mean, like I want to

1113
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:47,600
Speaker 2: say yes, but I also I guess I guess I

1114
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:48,520
Speaker 2: have to know him really well.

1115
00:53:48,680 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean like cousin Chris, like, you know if

1116
00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 1: more like mornings have to go work or something.

1117
00:53:54,600 --> 00:53:57,279
Speaker 2: So I mean that's true because I like, uh.

1118
00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:03,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I think that it's just gonna be like

1119
00:54:03,840 --> 00:54:05,160
Speaker 1: really maternal, I guess.

1120
00:54:04,920 --> 00:54:06,960
Speaker 2: But I guess like I guess, I mean, I think

1121
00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:10,799
Speaker 2: even if you, I think it's just something I have

1122
00:54:10,800 --> 00:54:12,400
Speaker 2: to think about before you have a kid, too.

1123
00:54:12,320 --> 00:54:14,120
Speaker 1: Like who do I have one?

1124
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:16,200
Speaker 2: Yeah? Who do I have to lean on? If you don't,

1125
00:54:16,200 --> 00:54:17,560
Speaker 2: if you can't think of any then maybe you should

1126
00:54:17,600 --> 00:54:19,799
Speaker 2: have one because you're not. It's really hard to do

1127
00:54:19,840 --> 00:54:22,960
Speaker 2: it by yourself, it really is. And if you don't

1128
00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:24,200
Speaker 2: have anyone to lean on, then you kind of need

1129
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:25,480
Speaker 2: to look at like why don't I have anyone to

1130
00:54:25,560 --> 00:54:28,399
Speaker 2: lean on? Before you start, before you start introducing life

1131
00:54:28,400 --> 00:54:29,000
Speaker 2: into this world.

1132
00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:33,680
Speaker 1: But Erica, I, like I said, I cannot reinerate this more.

1133
00:54:33,960 --> 00:54:39,799
Speaker 1: I'm just realizing it. But like having friendships as adults

1134
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:43,200
Speaker 1: is we're so lucky that we have as close a

1135
00:54:43,280 --> 00:54:44,719
Speaker 1: friends we do. I have, like I don't know if

1136
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:48,160
Speaker 1: it's the cancer I have hella very close friends. I

1137
00:54:48,280 --> 00:54:50,080
Speaker 1: meet women all the time who are like they don't

1138
00:54:50,120 --> 00:54:52,560
Speaker 1: have any friends, they don't have anyone they trust they

1139
00:54:52,560 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 1: don't have, and I don't know how because I don't

1140
00:54:55,239 --> 00:54:56,080
Speaker 1: know how that happens.

1141
00:54:56,120 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 2: I don't have a lot of friends either. I have

1142
00:54:57,600 --> 00:55:01,680
Speaker 2: a lot of acquaintances, but I have a small friends circle.

1143
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:03,000
Speaker 2: I have like five girlfriends.

1144
00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:04,720
Speaker 1: That's some bitches have zero.

1145
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:06,759
Speaker 2: Well, then there's something wrong with you.

1146
00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:08,920
Speaker 1: I think that too. But I think that's us just

1147
00:55:08,960 --> 00:55:11,080
Speaker 1: like being overly lucky. And I realized I don't think

1148
00:55:11,080 --> 00:55:11,520
Speaker 1: it's luck.

1149
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:13,719
Speaker 2: I don't think it's luck. You put what you put out,

1150
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:17,160
Speaker 2: you get back what you attract. That is the law.

1151
00:55:18,040 --> 00:55:20,200
Speaker 1: I'll be honest. Sometimes if I meet a bitch and

1152
00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:22,880
Speaker 1: she's like, especially if you live in the city that

1153
00:55:22,960 --> 00:55:25,120
Speaker 1: you grew up in and you have not one single

1154
00:55:25,160 --> 00:55:28,600
Speaker 1: friend from like childhood or other or college or high

1155
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:32,720
Speaker 1: school or shit the last five years, I do wonder

1156
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:36,480
Speaker 1: what's up because I've been making friends too easily.

1157
00:55:36,840 --> 00:55:38,960
Speaker 2: I mean, and there's that too, But I'm just saying, like, you.

1158
00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:41,439
Speaker 1: Have one friend, yeah, you know what I mean.

1159
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:43,759
Speaker 2: Maybe, I mean, I know there's I know that people don't.

1160
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:46,040
Speaker 2: I know there's some people out here that are very lucky, lonely,

1161
00:55:46,400 --> 00:55:49,840
Speaker 2: But you have to then why though there's a reason.

1162
00:55:50,000 --> 00:55:53,359
Speaker 2: It's just It's not just that way just because that's

1163
00:55:53,360 --> 00:55:56,160
Speaker 2: how the cards fell for you in life, you know

1164
00:55:56,160 --> 00:55:58,160
Speaker 2: what I mean, Like, that's just not that's just not

1165
00:55:58,200 --> 00:56:01,319
Speaker 2: how it goes. There's there's all always a reason, you

1166
00:56:01,320 --> 00:56:03,920
Speaker 2: know what I mean? And you know if you're the

1167
00:56:03,960 --> 00:56:06,360
Speaker 2: common denominator, you know what I mean, you're the.

1168
00:56:06,360 --> 00:56:09,440
Speaker 1: Common sometimes I think what sometimes people like get in

1169
00:56:09,480 --> 00:56:12,480
Speaker 1: relationships and loose friends or yeah, but you do have

1170
00:56:12,520 --> 00:56:13,040
Speaker 1: to reflect.

1171
00:56:13,080 --> 00:56:14,839
Speaker 2: Then you have to look. You have to look at

1172
00:56:14,840 --> 00:56:17,319
Speaker 2: your pride. Are you a prideful person? Is that why

1173
00:56:17,360 --> 00:56:19,520
Speaker 2: you're pushing everybody away? And that's why you don't have

1174
00:56:19,560 --> 00:56:20,160
Speaker 2: any friends?

1175
00:56:20,280 --> 00:56:20,640
Speaker 1: What are you?

1176
00:56:20,640 --> 00:56:22,360
Speaker 2: Are you a negative person? Do people not want to

1177
00:56:22,360 --> 00:56:26,480
Speaker 2: be around you because maybe like everything is can't I can't,

1178
00:56:26,520 --> 00:56:28,759
Speaker 2: I can't or like or I can't do this, I

1179
00:56:28,760 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 2: can't do that. I won't do this, you know? Or

1180
00:56:31,360 --> 00:56:34,279
Speaker 2: you know? Are you a drama filled person? Does do

1181
00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:36,880
Speaker 2: bad things just always happen to you? You know what

1182
00:56:36,960 --> 00:56:39,960
Speaker 2: I mean? And like why is that? I think there's

1183
00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:41,600
Speaker 2: all these are all things that you should need to

1184
00:56:41,600 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 2: look at everybody And you guess what, every one of

1185
00:56:43,760 --> 00:56:45,399
Speaker 2: us has a little bit of all of that in us.

1186
00:56:45,800 --> 00:56:46,600
Speaker 1: But it's just like.

1187
00:56:48,360 --> 00:56:51,000
Speaker 2: I just feel like we have a responsibility to look

1188
00:56:51,239 --> 00:56:55,640
Speaker 2: at ourselves and realize what is the why is it

1189
00:56:56,040 --> 00:56:59,200
Speaker 2: that this is happening? And then do I want to

1190
00:56:59,239 --> 00:57:02,759
Speaker 2: introduce life to this right? You know, because having a

1191
00:57:02,840 --> 00:57:08,680
Speaker 2: child it's a huge responsibility and you want it's selfish

1192
00:57:08,719 --> 00:57:10,680
Speaker 2: if you just do it because you want a companion.

1193
00:57:12,200 --> 00:57:13,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's deep, you.

1194
00:57:13,600 --> 00:57:15,920
Speaker 2: Know what I mean. I get wanting you, you wanting

1195
00:57:16,000 --> 00:57:18,120
Speaker 2: love and stuff, and you will, you will get love.

1196
00:57:18,680 --> 00:57:22,840
Speaker 2: But like whatever you have been putting out there and

1197
00:57:22,880 --> 00:57:25,800
Speaker 2: that has pushed everyone away, you're going to put that

1198
00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:28,720
Speaker 2: onto your child because you are her only example or

1199
00:57:29,320 --> 00:57:31,560
Speaker 2: he is your only example. You are his only example.

1200
00:57:32,000 --> 00:57:33,840
Speaker 2: So you just I don't know, like I know. I

1201
00:57:33,920 --> 00:57:35,840
Speaker 2: when I had a kid, I didn't think this deeply

1202
00:57:35,880 --> 00:57:38,640
Speaker 2: into it. I did not plan ahead. In fact, I

1203
00:57:38,680 --> 00:57:44,360
Speaker 2: wasn't trying. I wasn't planning at all. But thankfully I've

1204
00:57:44,440 --> 00:57:47,400
Speaker 2: never had to. I've never wondered like, I've never been

1205
00:57:47,440 --> 00:57:48,680
Speaker 2: in the position where I feel like I don't have

1206
00:57:48,680 --> 00:57:51,080
Speaker 2: any friends or I don't have any support system, you

1207
00:57:51,160 --> 00:57:53,000
Speaker 2: know what I mean. But if you do have that,

1208
00:57:53,080 --> 00:57:55,080
Speaker 2: you don't have children, you're thinking about having a child,

1209
00:57:55,160 --> 00:57:59,120
Speaker 2: you need to think about who's your tribe, who your

1210
00:57:59,160 --> 00:58:01,000
Speaker 2: tribe is, or no, you think about who your tribe is,

1211
00:58:01,000 --> 00:58:02,520
Speaker 2: and you need to think about you know, why don't

1212
00:58:02,520 --> 00:58:04,360
Speaker 2: I have a tribe at all? Zero one?

1213
00:58:04,400 --> 00:58:06,680
Speaker 1: Not one person I can call on? Yeah you do,

1214
00:58:07,040 --> 00:58:11,760
Speaker 1: m I I can't stress the importance enough. I mean,

1215
00:58:11,800 --> 00:58:13,920
Speaker 1: i'm I feel like I've said a lot. I'm i'm

1216
00:58:14,040 --> 00:58:17,080
Speaker 1: I feel almost lucky to be co parenting because I

1217
00:58:17,120 --> 00:58:19,320
Speaker 1: do have the opportunity, which I know other parents don't,

1218
00:58:19,680 --> 00:58:21,640
Speaker 1: to have a break and to do my own saying

1219
00:58:21,800 --> 00:58:25,320
Speaker 1: and to and to you know, drop the baby off

1220
00:58:25,320 --> 00:58:28,760
Speaker 1: and go out and feel safe about it. But I

1221
00:58:28,760 --> 00:58:31,800
Speaker 1: think like even in a marriage, even in a relationship

1222
00:58:31,800 --> 00:58:36,080
Speaker 1: with your your child's parent, father or whatever, you should

1223
00:58:36,200 --> 00:58:38,800
Speaker 1: even that even more reason, you should have the opportunity

1224
00:58:38,840 --> 00:58:40,800
Speaker 1: to say I need a break, take them and still

1225
00:58:40,840 --> 00:58:43,640
Speaker 1: do do you and find time to do you? Cause

1226
00:58:43,680 --> 00:58:45,280
Speaker 1: I feel like I know so many also people who

1227
00:58:45,280 --> 00:58:48,400
Speaker 1: are in relationships with kids and they feel stuck and

1228
00:58:48,440 --> 00:58:51,520
Speaker 1: they feel like they are not living and they're you

1229
00:58:51,560 --> 00:58:53,600
Speaker 1: know what I mean, cause then you're you're playing this

1230
00:58:53,680 --> 00:58:56,480
Speaker 1: role of life m quote unquote, or or what if

1231
00:58:56,480 --> 00:58:58,360
Speaker 1: that looks like to you and you're supposed to be

1232
00:58:58,760 --> 00:59:00,440
Speaker 1: just to stay at home mom and want to go

1233
00:59:00,480 --> 00:59:03,040
Speaker 1: out with your girlfriends, And that's also bullshit.

1234
00:59:05,880 --> 00:59:08,439
Speaker 2: You gotta find that. You gotta find that.

1235
00:59:09,160 --> 00:59:11,240
Speaker 1: Because tribe me into your like the person you lay

1236
00:59:11,280 --> 00:59:14,400
Speaker 1: down with an advocated too. That includes the.

1237
00:59:14,360 --> 00:59:19,800
Speaker 2: Tribe, yeah, of course, and the people they associate with, Yeah,

1238
00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:21,840
Speaker 2: their parents, their sister there.

1239
00:59:21,880 --> 00:59:23,520
Speaker 1: You know, those are things to consider.

1240
00:59:24,240 --> 00:59:31,360
Speaker 2: Mm hmm. I mean, there's just it's just so important

1241
00:59:31,520 --> 00:59:36,800
Speaker 2: and I don't I think also the idea of like

1242
00:59:36,920 --> 00:59:40,600
Speaker 2: introducing more children into your like if you want to

1243
00:59:40,600 --> 00:59:43,680
Speaker 2: have more kids, it's almost like, do you think when

1244
00:59:43,760 --> 00:59:46,440
Speaker 2: having kids, like you need to keep your tribe in mind?

1245
00:59:48,400 --> 00:59:50,080
Speaker 1: What do you mean, like if you're not ready?

1246
00:59:50,360 --> 00:59:52,600
Speaker 2: No, not like that, but just like, do you know

1247
00:59:52,640 --> 00:59:57,640
Speaker 2: it's like having a lot of kids, like you, your

1248
00:59:57,720 --> 00:59:59,680
Speaker 2: tribe can't take care of all of them all the time.

1249
01:00:01,480 --> 01:00:03,680
Speaker 1: No, I think the more kids you have, the bigger

1250
01:00:03,680 --> 01:00:05,280
Speaker 1: tribe you have to happens, and you might have you

1251
01:00:05,280 --> 01:00:06,160
Speaker 1: have to expand.

1252
01:00:05,840 --> 01:00:10,720
Speaker 2: Your tribe, right because you can't expect your friend to

1253
01:00:10,720 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 2: want to watch your three kids so you can go

1254
01:00:12,280 --> 01:00:16,720
Speaker 2: out right all three you know, be like you know,

1255
01:00:16,880 --> 01:00:19,400
Speaker 2: like trying to finesse that, like that's what you have

1256
01:00:19,440 --> 01:00:21,760
Speaker 2: to like, Yeah, you want three kids, bitch, but also

1257
01:00:21,920 --> 01:00:24,880
Speaker 2: your your tribe doesn't want to watch your three kids

1258
01:00:24,920 --> 01:00:27,640
Speaker 2: all the time. You know, Like maybe that's not the

1259
01:00:27,920 --> 01:00:29,840
Speaker 2: way to say, Like I can't say like, no, that's

1260
01:00:29,880 --> 01:00:31,880
Speaker 2: the right way to say it, but saying when I

1261
01:00:31,920 --> 01:00:33,480
Speaker 2: said before was like, should you keep your tribe in

1262
01:00:33,520 --> 01:00:35,280
Speaker 2: mind when having kids? No, absolutely not. You're doing it

1263
01:00:35,280 --> 01:00:37,200
Speaker 2: for yourself, but you also just have to know that then.

1264
01:00:37,160 --> 01:00:38,360
Speaker 1: I mean, do you have the means to do it?

1265
01:00:38,680 --> 01:00:40,480
Speaker 2: You have the means to do it, and just know

1266
01:00:41,440 --> 01:00:43,360
Speaker 2: your me time is decreasing.

1267
01:00:45,960 --> 01:00:48,760
Speaker 1: Seriously, that's true. So I used to want five kids,

1268
01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:53,320
Speaker 1: and now they got this one. I'm like, no, hell

1269
01:00:53,480 --> 01:00:55,880
Speaker 1: to the note. You can really think as.

1270
01:00:55,800 --> 01:01:00,960
Speaker 2: Is, oh my god, I want to baby, but.

1271
01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:03,840
Speaker 1: Me too, low key. I'm feeling like, I.

1272
01:01:03,800 --> 01:01:06,880
Speaker 2: Mean, I need a man first, but the one that's

1273
01:01:07,320 --> 01:01:10,000
Speaker 2: and I need to vet him well because these niggas

1274
01:01:10,080 --> 01:01:11,800
Speaker 2: be out here buland bitches.

1275
01:01:11,840 --> 01:01:17,160
Speaker 1: It's full of bitches. I have post trauma baby daddy

1276
01:01:17,200 --> 01:01:20,680
Speaker 1: disorder and for that reason, like I think I want

1277
01:01:20,760 --> 01:01:24,400
Speaker 1: more kids, but I'm scared, bitch, I'm real scared. The

1278
01:01:24,720 --> 01:01:30,080
Speaker 1: game must be strop birth control because it's so scary,

1279
01:01:30,240 --> 01:01:32,520
Speaker 1: like especially when you had plans to be with someone.

1280
01:01:32,560 --> 01:01:35,439
Speaker 2: And also I think, I think your relationship, not think,

1281
01:01:35,520 --> 01:01:40,240
Speaker 2: I know. Your relationship changes. So whatever was before may not.

1282
01:01:40,360 --> 01:01:42,200
Speaker 2: It's a whole new thing. Not a whole new thing,

1283
01:01:42,200 --> 01:01:44,919
Speaker 2: but it's definitely redefined. And you don't know, I didn't

1284
01:01:44,920 --> 01:01:45,520
Speaker 2: sign up for this.

1285
01:01:45,640 --> 01:01:47,240
Speaker 1: It's a strain on the relationship.

1286
01:01:47,240 --> 01:01:48,880
Speaker 2: It's like I didn't sign up for this relationship. I

1287
01:01:48,880 --> 01:01:51,800
Speaker 2: signed up for the other relationship. Where's that one? Oh,

1288
01:01:52,120 --> 01:01:55,440
Speaker 2: now we have a kid, So it's different, right, Like,

1289
01:01:55,680 --> 01:01:57,720
Speaker 2: especially if you have a relationship that's purely based in

1290
01:01:57,800 --> 01:02:01,000
Speaker 2: like sex, that's very sex, I feel like that's not

1291
01:02:01,040 --> 01:02:05,040
Speaker 2: going to last. I feel like it wouldn't last.

1292
01:02:05,240 --> 01:02:06,800
Speaker 1: I feel like if you have a relationship that isn't

1293
01:02:06,880 --> 01:02:09,280
Speaker 1: very sexual, it's definitely that's going to be marvel I know.

1294
01:02:09,320 --> 01:02:11,320
Speaker 2: But like just imagine, like if you have a relationship

1295
01:02:11,320 --> 01:02:14,160
Speaker 2: that's based off just like pure passion and just that

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01:02:14,680 --> 01:02:18,240
Speaker 2: like just that not that well, that's that's because that's

1297
01:02:18,320 --> 01:02:21,200
Speaker 2: why that can be confusing, because you can start to

1298
01:02:21,240 --> 01:02:24,920
Speaker 2: think that everything's fine because half the time you're just

1299
01:02:24,960 --> 01:02:30,200
Speaker 2: in you're just living in this like passion world where

1300
01:02:30,240 --> 01:02:33,920
Speaker 2: it's not. Yeah, so when you actually have a child,

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01:02:34,640 --> 01:02:37,000
Speaker 2: you know, like when you're pregnant, you don't sometimes you

1302
01:02:37,000 --> 01:02:39,560
Speaker 2: don't want to, you don't want to do it. And

1303
01:02:39,880 --> 01:02:42,160
Speaker 2: you know after that you have your when you give birth,

1304
01:02:42,200 --> 01:02:45,160
Speaker 2: you're tired. You know, you don't want to do that either.

1305
01:02:45,360 --> 01:02:47,880
Speaker 2: And if that's what your relationship was based on, then

1306
01:02:47,920 --> 01:02:50,640
Speaker 2: the other person is going to be totally unfulfilled and

1307
01:02:50,720 --> 01:02:52,840
Speaker 2: there's you have nothing to stand on. Your relationship has

1308
01:02:52,880 --> 01:02:53,600
Speaker 2: nothing to stand on.

1309
01:02:55,440 --> 01:03:01,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true, but I still think X after children

1310
01:03:01,840 --> 01:03:04,640
Speaker 1: and like maintaining the passion in a relationship is very,

1311
01:03:04,760 --> 01:03:05,840
Speaker 1: very very important.

1312
01:03:06,000 --> 01:03:09,680
Speaker 2: Of course it's important, but sometimes it's not. It is

1313
01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:10,600
Speaker 2: not the priority.

1314
01:03:10,680 --> 01:03:13,840
Speaker 1: No, No, sex is not the priority, especially in the beginning.

1315
01:03:14,920 --> 01:03:16,720
Speaker 2: Some people it is, though, you know, just but for

1316
01:03:16,760 --> 01:03:18,160
Speaker 2: me it wasn't. That's why I have to like, no,

1317
01:03:18,320 --> 01:03:21,000
Speaker 2: love my partner. That next partner gott to know. Look,

1318
01:03:22,680 --> 01:03:24,440
Speaker 2: you ain't getting none of this for a while. You

1319
01:03:24,480 --> 01:03:27,760
Speaker 2: still love me. Okay, let's have a baby then, right.

1320
01:03:28,760 --> 01:03:31,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, because even though it wasn't very sexual during pregnancy,

1321
01:03:31,640 --> 01:03:37,480
Speaker 1: where some women are someone are so yeah, super horny.

1322
01:03:37,840 --> 01:03:38,840
Speaker 2: Our babies are tired.

1323
01:03:39,200 --> 01:03:46,880
Speaker 1: There's sleep on our laps Luna's knocked out knocked so

1324
01:03:47,600 --> 01:03:50,480
Speaker 1: and Erica has a very classy day to go on.

1325
01:03:50,560 --> 01:03:55,600
Speaker 1: I'm very jealous, which your sister wives. I want to

1326
01:03:55,640 --> 01:03:56,800
Speaker 1: go to this fancy event.

1327
01:03:57,280 --> 01:03:58,880
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's fancy. I mean, I guess

1328
01:03:58,880 --> 01:04:01,560
Speaker 2: it's it's Gucci. Can you help me get dressed? Yeah,

1329
01:04:01,600 --> 01:04:04,320
Speaker 2: but that looks I feel so fat today.

1330
01:04:04,320 --> 01:04:05,760
Speaker 1: Girl boom, I do.

1331
01:04:05,880 --> 01:04:09,360
Speaker 2: I feel bloated and swollen, and I've just been eating.

1332
01:04:09,440 --> 01:04:12,400
Speaker 2: I haven't worked out really and like really consistently in

1333
01:04:12,440 --> 01:04:15,360
Speaker 2: like a few months, just been on and off. I

1334
01:04:15,440 --> 01:04:18,560
Speaker 2: just feel better than ever I know, but I need

1335
01:04:18,600 --> 01:04:20,840
Speaker 2: it for my mental health and I feel like that's

1336
01:04:20,880 --> 01:04:21,920
Speaker 2: why I've been off lately.

1337
01:04:22,160 --> 01:04:23,920
Speaker 1: Do you work out when you travel?

1338
01:04:24,000 --> 01:04:25,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, And that's why I'm looking forward to gleaving because

1339
01:04:25,960 --> 01:04:27,400
Speaker 2: it's the only time I really can just.

1340
01:04:27,360 --> 01:04:28,760
Speaker 1: Like this could be nothing else to do in that.

1341
01:04:29,200 --> 01:04:31,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't. But like here because I don't have

1342
01:04:32,600 --> 01:04:35,240
Speaker 2: help with floor, I don't really have time. And like lately,

1343
01:04:35,440 --> 01:04:37,760
Speaker 2: when I when I take Irid to school, I'm going

1344
01:04:37,800 --> 01:04:40,520
Speaker 2: to work. I keep setting my alarm to wake up

1345
01:04:40,560 --> 01:04:42,280
Speaker 2: in the morning to do like a home workout, but

1346
01:04:42,360 --> 01:04:46,320
Speaker 2: it's not I've just lost motivation. It's just I've lost motivations.

1347
01:04:46,400 --> 01:04:48,160
Speaker 1: I have this motivation for a lot of things, and

1348
01:04:48,240 --> 01:04:51,080
Speaker 1: I just need If anyone has any advice on motivational

1349
01:04:51,360 --> 01:04:59,560
Speaker 1: regaining rediscovering motivation, I would really like that book because

1350
01:05:00,000 --> 01:05:01,960
Speaker 1: some times I'm looking at myself like, what the fuck

1351
01:05:02,080 --> 01:05:04,480
Speaker 1: is wrong with you? I need to get up.

1352
01:05:06,480 --> 01:05:08,600
Speaker 2: That's how I feel. That's how I feel. So I'm

1353
01:05:08,640 --> 01:05:10,600
Speaker 2: looking forward to my trip because I'm gonna go work out.

1354
01:05:10,760 --> 01:05:12,200
Speaker 2: At least that's what I say I'm gonna do. I

1355
01:05:12,200 --> 01:05:13,880
Speaker 2: really want to eat those oreos that are on the

1356
01:05:13,920 --> 01:05:15,680
Speaker 2: table right now looking at them.

1357
01:05:15,720 --> 01:05:17,560
Speaker 1: But I told you to bring me one. You brought

1358
01:05:17,560 --> 01:05:18,320
Speaker 1: me like three.

1359
01:05:18,200 --> 01:05:20,760
Speaker 2: Because I wanted three. So I'm hoping you would eat

1360
01:05:20,800 --> 01:05:23,040
Speaker 2: the ball and I get to live vicariously through you.

1361
01:05:23,040 --> 01:05:24,280
Speaker 1: You're gonna have to eat one and a half.

1362
01:05:26,400 --> 01:05:30,120
Speaker 2: Anyway, Enough of enough of that, we gotta go.

1363
01:05:30,920 --> 01:05:31,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, we do.

1364
01:05:31,720 --> 01:05:33,040
Speaker 2: Jimulates to dress me.

1365
01:05:34,640 --> 01:05:38,640
Speaker 1: Stylish Jamila also Mela's mobile spa.

1366
01:05:40,080 --> 01:05:44,000
Speaker 2: Also Yes, if you need some lashes done, or micro blading,

1367
01:05:44,200 --> 01:05:47,960
Speaker 2: or a facial or teeth white man hit waxing or waxing,

1368
01:05:48,040 --> 01:05:50,480
Speaker 2: hit up Mela because she's the ship. Go check out

1369
01:05:50,480 --> 01:05:52,720
Speaker 2: her page and you can see all of her work.

1370
01:05:52,960 --> 01:05:57,200
Speaker 2: Her lashes are bombed, her microblading is even and bomb.

1371
01:05:59,120 --> 01:06:04,000
Speaker 1: Natural at Mila's Underscore mobile spot on the Instagram. Also,

1372
01:06:04,320 --> 01:06:06,360
Speaker 1: this is just a regular PSA announcement. I don't know

1373
01:06:06,360 --> 01:06:10,800
Speaker 1: if I mentioned this earlier, but if anybody blocked reported

1374
01:06:11,040 --> 01:06:16,320
Speaker 1: my Insta story today, I will cut you. I fucking

1375
01:06:16,960 --> 01:06:20,560
Speaker 1: posted all these stories of Luna. She was in her panties,

1376
01:06:20,600 --> 01:06:24,360
Speaker 1: but she was a child, and someone fucking reported me

1377
01:06:24,560 --> 01:06:27,320
Speaker 1: fucking twice, so I was locked out of my Instagram.

1378
01:06:27,320 --> 01:06:27,640
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1379
01:06:27,640 --> 01:06:28,920
Speaker 1: I'm back in. I don't know how this shit works.

1380
01:06:28,960 --> 01:06:31,439
Speaker 1: There's no instructions, there's no where I can say, hey,

1381
01:06:31,440 --> 01:06:32,360
Speaker 1: who the fuck reported me?

1382
01:06:32,400 --> 01:06:34,400
Speaker 2: There's no way you would find out. That's why it's anonymous.

1383
01:06:34,400 --> 01:06:37,560
Speaker 1: It's bullshit, And if any of you listeners did it,

1384
01:06:38,280 --> 01:06:41,840
Speaker 1: I will cut you. If you don't like me, I

1385
01:06:42,480 --> 01:06:48,600
Speaker 1: follow easy. If you don't like my shirtless Tarzan baby unfollowed.

1386
01:06:49,880 --> 01:06:53,680
Speaker 1: Do you think about that like post like posting I

1387
01:06:53,760 --> 01:06:56,360
Speaker 1: read topless or like I mean obviously like if she's

1388
01:06:56,400 --> 01:06:58,440
Speaker 1: not wearing panties, I'm not gonna post it, But like,

1389
01:06:58,960 --> 01:07:01,240
Speaker 1: I don't think topless is I don't even think about

1390
01:07:01,280 --> 01:07:02,880
Speaker 1: it and then like I get reported and I'm like,

1391
01:07:02,880 --> 01:07:03,680
Speaker 1: am I bad parents?

1392
01:07:04,160 --> 01:07:04,880
Speaker 2: Am I bad parents?

1393
01:07:04,880 --> 01:07:07,640
Speaker 1: Because I didn't even think of this twice. I just

1394
01:07:07,640 --> 01:07:10,680
Speaker 1: think like, if there's weirdos, there's weirdos.

1395
01:07:10,680 --> 01:07:13,880
Speaker 2: I think someone else probably thought like for me, for you,

1396
01:07:14,080 --> 01:07:16,880
Speaker 2: but that's what I like, Also, don't think for me. Yeah,

1397
01:07:17,000 --> 01:07:18,800
Speaker 2: they were like, oh my god, what is she doing?

1398
01:07:18,840 --> 01:07:19,680
Speaker 2: This isn't appropriate?

1399
01:07:20,360 --> 01:07:25,360
Speaker 1: Un fucking follow me because you may see some mine too.

1400
01:07:26,800 --> 01:07:29,920
Speaker 2: I think I think because she's a girl. If it

1401
01:07:29,960 --> 01:07:30,800
Speaker 2: was a boy, it would matter.

1402
01:07:30,960 --> 01:07:32,480
Speaker 1: That's what I said. That's what someone else said to

1403
01:07:32,480 --> 01:07:34,480
Speaker 1: me she was a boy, which is like why is

1404
01:07:34,600 --> 01:07:35,920
Speaker 1: why is that even different?

1405
01:07:36,320 --> 01:07:38,600
Speaker 2: Because guys can walk around shirtless.

1406
01:07:38,960 --> 01:07:40,760
Speaker 1: Well, at this point we have the same ship.

1407
01:07:41,360 --> 01:07:43,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I mean there's no Yeah, but but that's

1408
01:07:43,440 --> 01:07:45,680
Speaker 2: just how their brain works. She's a girl, she must

1409
01:07:45,720 --> 01:07:46,160
Speaker 2: be covered.

1410
01:07:46,440 --> 01:07:49,440
Speaker 1: I hate it, just like if that's your attitude about

1411
01:07:49,480 --> 01:07:55,720
Speaker 1: shit and you're thinking that way, just leaving the funk alone. Yeah,

1412
01:07:55,920 --> 01:07:57,200
Speaker 1: I mean, I know there's weird I was out there,

1413
01:07:57,240 --> 01:08:00,000
Speaker 1: but I'm not carrying my life too, you know how

1414
01:08:00,200 --> 01:08:06,800
Speaker 1: from them right, same goes with breastfeed anyway. Are we

1415
01:08:06,880 --> 01:08:08,800
Speaker 1: bringing this to an end?

1416
01:08:09,040 --> 01:08:10,480
Speaker 2: Yes, we are wrapping it up.

1417
01:08:10,720 --> 01:08:12,760
Speaker 1: Oh, I don't know if we announced this. Okay, one

1418
01:08:12,880 --> 01:08:17,200
Speaker 1: two announcements. We fucked up, Like we recorded two episodes

1419
01:08:17,240 --> 01:08:21,400
Speaker 1: too close together, and we called episode thirty three something

1420
01:08:21,439 --> 01:08:23,800
Speaker 1: something in anal plugs and we did not talk about

1421
01:08:23,800 --> 01:08:26,320
Speaker 1: anal plugs at that time. We talked about ana plugs

1422
01:08:26,360 --> 01:08:29,439
Speaker 1: last episode with Jake, and so, yes, we fucked up.

1423
01:08:29,479 --> 01:08:31,280
Speaker 1: If anyone else noticed, no one else even noticed. No

1424
01:08:31,280 --> 01:08:32,000
Speaker 1: one said anything.

1425
01:08:32,280 --> 01:08:37,960
Speaker 2: I know. Uh, second announcement, I.

1426
01:08:37,920 --> 01:08:40,360
Speaker 1: Think it was another announcement. Oh, I think we also

1427
01:08:40,400 --> 01:08:42,480
Speaker 1: lied once sinceid we're gonna do an event in November.

1428
01:08:42,520 --> 01:08:42,840
Speaker 1: We're not.

1429
01:08:43,080 --> 01:08:45,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was Jamila because she just like sprung it

1430
01:08:45,280 --> 01:08:47,200
Speaker 2: out there. Like I was kind of caught off guard too.

1431
01:08:47,280 --> 01:08:49,280
Speaker 2: She just were just recording and she's like, yeah, so

1432
01:08:49,439 --> 01:08:51,280
Speaker 2: like in like two weeks we're getting on to meet up.

1433
01:08:51,320 --> 01:08:53,160
Speaker 1: And I was like what because I thought it would

1434
01:08:53,160 --> 01:08:54,400
Speaker 1: be like just a quick little meet up.

1435
01:08:54,400 --> 01:08:55,920
Speaker 2: But oh, you see how time has passed and we're

1436
01:08:55,920 --> 01:08:57,719
Speaker 2: almost there and should ain't ready yet.

1437
01:08:57,920 --> 01:08:59,760
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I thought we're just gonna literally meet up

1438
01:08:59,800 --> 01:09:02,320
Speaker 1: at the bar and say we can do that too,

1439
01:09:03,880 --> 01:09:05,719
Speaker 1: pretty Instagram, We'll get this party.

1440
01:09:05,760 --> 01:09:08,680
Speaker 2: N Yeah, we could do that yeah, that makes more

1441
01:09:08,720 --> 01:09:10,360
Speaker 2: sense than like, but that's not what we were trying

1442
01:09:10,360 --> 01:09:12,000
Speaker 2: to do. No, like we were trying to do something

1443
01:09:12,680 --> 01:09:13,200
Speaker 2: class here.

1444
01:09:13,280 --> 01:09:17,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe it was just me December.

1445
01:09:17,800 --> 01:09:19,760
Speaker 2: No, I mean we could do something in December. We

1446
01:09:19,760 --> 01:09:24,599
Speaker 2: can look out for a random meetup one night in November.

1447
01:09:24,640 --> 01:09:26,640
Speaker 2: Possibly it'll be the same day announcement.

1448
01:09:28,080 --> 01:09:29,960
Speaker 1: You want to hang out with us? Because I realized

1449
01:09:29,960 --> 01:09:31,639
Speaker 1: that Halloween we are the life of the party.

1450
01:09:31,720 --> 01:09:32,280
Speaker 2: We both are.

1451
01:09:32,800 --> 01:09:34,960
Speaker 1: Like, there's like I feel like our ten friends were

1452
01:09:35,040 --> 01:09:35,479
Speaker 1: the party.

1453
01:09:35,880 --> 01:09:36,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1454
01:09:36,240 --> 01:09:37,880
Speaker 1: I didn't see anybody else around us.

1455
01:09:38,400 --> 01:09:38,920
Speaker 2: I'm neither.

1456
01:09:39,800 --> 01:09:41,320
Speaker 1: But what I did look at them, they were all

1457
01:09:41,360 --> 01:09:42,320
Speaker 1: like twenty five.

1458
01:09:42,840 --> 01:09:45,920
Speaker 2: And they were trying to join our party. Yeah, because

1459
01:09:45,920 --> 01:09:48,360
Speaker 2: we dance, right, I want to dance.

1460
01:09:48,640 --> 01:09:52,920
Speaker 1: Is dancing a lost lost thing now in Los Angeles?

1461
01:09:53,200 --> 01:09:55,360
Speaker 1: Because that's the only reason I go out. Oh, actually,

1462
01:09:55,560 --> 01:09:57,160
Speaker 1: are you coming to be back next Thursday?

1463
01:09:57,280 --> 01:09:58,439
Speaker 2: I get back next Thursday?

1464
01:09:58,600 --> 01:10:00,120
Speaker 1: Oh you might be tired, You're not thing.

1465
01:10:00,280 --> 01:10:02,240
Speaker 2: I get, I get it, and I might I get

1466
01:10:02,280 --> 01:10:03,040
Speaker 2: it at nine thirty?

1467
01:10:03,200 --> 01:10:04,160
Speaker 1: Should you sleep anyway?

1468
01:10:04,360 --> 01:10:05,519
Speaker 2: I know I'm not gonna have her.

1469
01:10:05,600 --> 01:10:09,120
Speaker 1: Okay, so next Thursday, look out for our posts. We

1470
01:10:09,160 --> 01:10:10,160
Speaker 1: are going out next Thursday.

1471
01:10:10,200 --> 01:10:11,920
Speaker 2: Okay, what kind of party, said R and B something.

1472
01:10:11,960 --> 01:10:14,000
Speaker 1: It's like an old school RMB. Night's for the grown folks,

1473
01:10:14,000 --> 01:10:16,120
Speaker 1: the guy said. My friend said she danced all the

1474
01:10:16,160 --> 01:10:18,640
Speaker 1: whole time last time, and the promoter said, it's for

1475
01:10:18,720 --> 01:10:21,360
Speaker 1: the grown folks. I mean, you know, we've grown.

1476
01:10:21,120 --> 01:10:22,879
Speaker 2: In sexy clown and sexy.

1477
01:10:23,200 --> 01:10:25,360
Speaker 1: We do have some grown in sexy dances next Thursday.

1478
01:10:25,520 --> 01:10:28,640
Speaker 2: So come meet us with your grown in sexy outfits,

1479
01:10:29,040 --> 01:10:33,960
Speaker 2: no thought where, well except me, except me, because you know,

1480
01:10:34,479 --> 01:10:36,080
Speaker 2: just kidding. Bring all the thought out and bring your

1481
01:10:36,080 --> 01:10:38,680
Speaker 2: thoughts out. Okay, all right, we got to go. We

1482
01:10:38,720 --> 01:10:41,360
Speaker 2: love you and we will catch higher.

1483
01:10:41,840 --> 01:10:58,479
Speaker 1: Bye. Don't waste for you, don't call you best friend.

1484
01:11:00,280 --> 01:11:06,000
Speaker 1: Those all bosn't never not be just the scheme. I

1485
01:11:06,240 --> 01:11:11,960
Speaker 1: don't want to begin anything.

1486
01:11:13,000 --> 01:11:21,400
Speaker 6: Chilly is uncle you right, good time, good times everyone

1487
01:11:21,479 --> 01:11:23,040
Speaker 6: at all homis.

1488
01:11:23,479 --> 01:11:27,840
Speaker 1: I don't want to be here, just the schemers. I'm

1489
01:11:28,000 --> 01:11:37,040
Speaker 1: just praying God,