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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast.

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Speaker 1: We hope you all had an amazing Christmas. This is

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Speaker 1: being recorded before Christmas. We were in Los Angeles, but

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Speaker 1: we thought it would be fun to do a little

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Speaker 1: fun Q and A session And uh yeah, it's always

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Speaker 1: nice to It's good.

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Speaker 2: Because you can't look disappointed at your Christmas presents.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, you know me, I don't care about

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Speaker 1: It's the little things. For me, it's the most meaningful things.

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Speaker 1: But anyways, I love being able to to do some

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Speaker 1: Q and A.

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Speaker 3: I think it's fun.

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Speaker 1: I think it's though I believe it's hard for you

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Speaker 1: at times because you're more private.

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Speaker 2: I actually I actually prefer them. See the ones that

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Speaker 2: can work on your screen. Just file them at me,

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Speaker 2: because you know what I like. I love the really

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Speaker 2: interests of people because I feel like I can call

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Speaker 2: them out.

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Speaker 3: What do you think is intrusive?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 3: Which? Which questions do you find intrusive?

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Speaker 2: Good questions? Hannah fired a couple of intrusive ones at me.

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Speaker 2: What you think are intrusive?

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Speaker 4: Here's one. I wonder if you think that this is intrusive?

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Speaker 4: Is Alan a Lions fan?

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Speaker 2: Yet that's not intrusive. Come on, Hannah, go hardcore me

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Speaker 2: with one?

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Speaker 3: Of course he is dah, I feel send to my stomach.

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Speaker 5: Guys, these I I kind of was hoping more from

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Speaker 5: some fans, but somebody asked his Mike ever watched Roman?

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Speaker 2: Honestly, what is it with people? Of course? What does

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Speaker 2: Mike ever watched Roman? Why would someone ask that? Well?

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Speaker 1: Has he?

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Speaker 2: No? Not really?

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Speaker 1: Ever, what if we get into like a tight spot

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Speaker 1: where we need help when he's older and the we

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Speaker 1: don't have the kids that weekend? It's like, hey, do

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Speaker 1: you mind just taking Romanto?

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Speaker 2: No? No, no, it's a boundary. It doesn't get cross.

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Speaker 2: Not that I don't like Michael, don't trust them, but

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Speaker 2: just know it's just weird. Next question, Hannah, come on, help.

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Speaker 2: Maybe we have even more interested one.

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Speaker 5: How do you stop obsessing over an ex and their

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Speaker 5: new partner?

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Speaker 1: I think that there's a lot of context to that question,

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Speaker 1: because I think it's I think the context comes with

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Speaker 1: how the relationship ended.

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Speaker 3: So if that person cheated.

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Speaker 1: On you and you then see them with someone else,

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Speaker 1: you're obsessing about them being with someone else because they

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Speaker 1: hurt you, because you think that you know they're getting

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Speaker 1: the better version.

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Speaker 3: Or whatever.

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Speaker 1: I also think maybe if that person, you know, they

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Speaker 1: really they like that person more obviously, and another person

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Speaker 1: broke up with them, and then to see them, you know,

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Speaker 1: be this other to be happy with someone else. I

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Speaker 1: think it's it's hard because that was your relationship. But

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Speaker 1: I think to not spiral, you have to realize that,

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Speaker 1: you know, you're obviously your relationships over with and whatever

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Speaker 1: that relationship was wasn't wasn't it? So you're wasting your

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Speaker 1: time on something that that person doesn't think about you.

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Speaker 1: So why are you wasting your energy on someone that

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Speaker 1: doesn't really care about you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I understand that. I just have never been a

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Speaker 2: person that if I'm not with someone, I don't really

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Speaker 1: The only piece that I can relate to a little

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Speaker 1: bit is I felt like post divorce. I think it

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Speaker 1: wasn't even like obsession of like who he would be with,

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Speaker 1: but it was more like does does do they get

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Speaker 1: the better version? Do they get the healthy version? Do

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Speaker 1: they get the one that the one that I was

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Speaker 1: promised and deserved?

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Speaker 2: Absolutely?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So I can see that piece of it.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't say like I'm I was ever obsessed with it,

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Speaker 1: but like it was more like a hurt and like

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Speaker 1: better version, but it's just a different version.

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Speaker 3: It's a myth.

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Speaker 4: Erica wants to know does Alan have any single brothers?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 2: I did have a brother who's single at the moment. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I've only got one brother and he is he's single. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: We love Uncle Simon. Uncle Simon is a lot of

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Speaker 1: fun and every time I ever post him, people are

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Speaker 1: always like, ooh, hook me up with Alan's hot brother.

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Speaker 3: Yeah he's listen. I'll just say this.

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Speaker 1: If you can't understand Alan, you will never be able

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Speaker 1: to understand Simon. He is you. Simon and your dad

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Speaker 1: have the thickest accents ever.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's glass. He speaks glass regent slang. Yeah, but

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Speaker 2: he's lovable and he's a good looking guy.

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Speaker 1: So can you give me a glass region slang talk

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Speaker 1: right now?

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Speaker 2: I'm not really a glass I'm not really a slang

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Speaker 2: glass region, never have been.

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Speaker 1: They gave me something your dad would say, I could

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Speaker 1: say it like quite fast, something that my dad.

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Speaker 2: Would say, what either or not for?

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Speaker 1: I think we got that one.

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Speaker 2: That kind of springs to mind when it comes to

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Speaker 2: my dad all that second.

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Speaker 1: That's actually kind of sad.

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Speaker 4: Tear.

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Speaker 2: Oh, not in a bad way, No, I know. Do

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Speaker 2: you know what he's like? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, very loving.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So I have a single brother who's a good

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Speaker 2: looking guy, very lovable.

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Speaker 1: He's a good looking dude. It's a very good looking family.

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Speaker 1: Your dad is a handsome man. Yes, your dad is

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Speaker 1: very handsome. Your mom is beautiful, Like, you have a

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Speaker 1: beautiful family. My mom had a crush on your dad

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Speaker 1: at the wedding, and I'm like, Mom, she was like,

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Speaker 1: his eyes are dream talking about Alan's dad. I was like,

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Speaker 1: I know, Mom, he's very handsome. She's like no, but

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Speaker 1: like I just I almost can't even look away. It's

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Speaker 1: just such a dream. And I was like, mom, you're.

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Speaker 3: Mary, you know. I was like, and he's married.

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Speaker 1: But she's like, oh, oh I know. But oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: now I see where Alan gets it from. It was

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Speaker 1: like it was quite funny.

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Speaker 3: I was like, is there a love afair happening at

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Speaker 3: our wedding?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 4: Never, Alan, What are your favorite songs of Jana's?

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, Hannah, Baby, there's a easy shoeing that you should.

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Speaker 2: Get the one that really like. I don't know if

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Speaker 2: it's out yet. I don't want to see it in

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Speaker 2: case it's not out.

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Speaker 1: Which one was? Oh? The one with Jesse? Then I

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I like that one. It's catchy. I think that

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Speaker 3: Not the wedding song? Aren't you next?

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Speaker 2: Oh listen, I'm not finished. I just wanted to clarify

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Speaker 2: if that one was thought yet.

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Speaker 1: We haven't even recorded yet. I need to Hey girl, Jesse,

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Speaker 1: we're still doing it. What's going on?

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Speaker 2: But obviously obviously the one that she wrote for the wedding.

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Speaker 2: It still makes me cry when I listen to it. Really, yeah,

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Speaker 2: absolutely every time I listened to its sweet thanks beautiful?

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Speaker 4: Do you and Alan go to therapy together?

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Speaker 2: Who asks that? Who wants to know that? What type? Torry?

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Speaker 2: I can't see that because they might be a nice person.

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Speaker 1: Do you have to remember the origin of the show.

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Speaker 1: So this show, well, it started just me or whatever,

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Speaker 1: and then Mike came on and then it became like

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Speaker 1: a train wreck show of people just like listening to

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Speaker 1: the train wreck. And now I think people are still.

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Speaker 2: Hanging out funny ones like do you fart in front

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Speaker 2: of Alan? Well, do you do you take a poop

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Speaker 2: in front of Alan? Well, I like, do you go

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Speaker 2: to therapy together? Just lowering the tone of the whole evening.

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Speaker 3: Should we answer the therapy one?

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Speaker 2: We have done? What we have done a couple of times.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we actually had a great therapy session a couple

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Speaker 2: I thought, And your therapist loves me.

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Speaker 1: My therapist loves Alan. It's almost annoying where I'm like

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Speaker 1: Amy my side and.

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Speaker 3: She was just like he's a good guy. Channel she's fair.

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Speaker 1: But but you know, I think we have done and

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Speaker 1: I think therapy is something that is a good tool

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Speaker 1: for couples. And I'm not saying it's, you know, like

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Speaker 1: you have to go. Obviously some people don't believe in

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Speaker 1: going to therapy, but I think if you run into

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Speaker 1: an issue, I think and if you continue to run

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Speaker 1: into a certain thing, then it's I think it's a

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Speaker 1: healthy way to talk when you can't talk it out together.

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Speaker 1: And it's not saying we can't talk out our problems,

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Speaker 1: because we can and we have, but sometimes it's nice

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Speaker 1: to be able to have and it's and it's our

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Speaker 2: It's never it's never a confrontation.

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Speaker 1: I think it's it's understanding each other because we both

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Speaker 1: have a lot of trauma on our past. And I

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Speaker 1: think it's putting when two people have a trauma traumatic

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Speaker 1: pass and you put it all in the pile together.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's it's it's helpful for him to hear

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Speaker 1: for him to hear my therapists just describe and help

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Speaker 1: me guy walk through it, and he has more understanding

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Speaker 1: of where I come from in certain areas and how

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Speaker 1: I communicate in certain ways, and he can have more

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Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, And I think it I think the stigma

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Speaker 2: If it's not reactive or okay, we need to check in.

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Speaker 2: We need to as an issue, who's come up and yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's probably best that we we get somebody else's insight

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Speaker 2: on it, a different voice in the room, so to speak.

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Speaker 2: So it's always been it's always been positive.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean we're holding to other's hands and wiping

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Speaker 1: each other's tears and more like, I truly believe our

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Speaker 1: therapy is when we have had it, which is like

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Speaker 1: what two times it's been to have the other person

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Speaker 1: understand the other person and where they come from, and

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Speaker 1: for me to be more empathetic in certain areas, for

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Speaker 1: you to be more empathetic in certain areas, and for

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Speaker 1: it just to be more like, oh okay, and sometimes

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Speaker 1: having someone else help to describe that is easier than

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Speaker 1: just your wife being like, this is what I went

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Speaker 1: I did. Have you ever heard in front of me?

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Speaker 2: No, yes, you have, when Babe, I go to at

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Speaker 2: least going to the pantry when you're in a lounge,

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Speaker 2: it's quite loud. I've never deliberately farted in front of you.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Okay, because I mean I haven't either, but like

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Speaker 2: If you should that. She's not going to say that's

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Speaker 4: Tell you that. I get way too embarrassed about that.

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Speaker 2: I think it's yeah, not like I've done it once

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Speaker 4: I feel like you said never again.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like I never want to show up podcasting,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a couple of things. We have to navigate

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's like it's hard.

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Speaker 2: We have annoyed me, and I'm like, I have to podcast, Joanna.

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Speaker 1: It's hard sometimes, not like it's not hard with like us,

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Speaker 2: A negative part of the relationship.

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Speaker 1: There's a level of yeah, respect that there's it's just

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Speaker 3: But I don't.

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Speaker 1: Up a notch your bloodless levels blunt this? Yeah, is

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Speaker 2: I want to hand to pick out a really awful

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Speaker 4: What is one thing you guys can't agree on it?

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Speaker 2: Okay, I've got one. I've got one. So I got

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Speaker 2: Get up earlier. I normally get up some things. It

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Speaker 2: He's like, well, you sit your alarm and walk us

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Speaker 2: It's not an ungodly nour five thirty. You've got to

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Speaker 2: That I need to deal with before the meatball and

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Speaker 2: because you're listeners prefail me on whether a wife should

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Speaker 2: think that is a thing that he should be moaned

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Speaker 1: Are you done?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I think so.

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Speaker 3: Okay, this isn't my turner.

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Speaker 2: And I'm not sure how you defend yourself here, but.

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Speaker 1: But the number one frustration with it is you try

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Speaker 2: And my affection doesn't know what time it is.

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Speaker 2: It wants to be affectioned. It wants to be affected.

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Speaker 3: Your affection doesn't know what time it is.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't have a clock. Just not real love.

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Speaker 2: It's not my fault. I can't get back to sleep,

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Speaker 1: But you know what a deal breaker is in our

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Speaker 2: I got up at five thirty in the morning. It's

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Speaker 3: What we're talking about.

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Speaker 2: The trail of tissues that comes from your bed all

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Speaker 2: Anyway, When I don't go and when I don't get up,

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Speaker 2: Let's let's let's flip the situation. If I'm lazy, right, No,

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Speaker 2: I'm lazy and I'm getting up at eight o'clock and

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Speaker 1: Again. I need to keeping the noise there again, I

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Speaker 1: I I hear you. I understand, and I just don't

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Speaker 1: get up. I just is this snooze button?

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Speaker 2: Is it?

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Speaker 1: But bugs me?

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Speaker 3: That's all.

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Speaker 2: It's not even a snooze button. I just switch off

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Speaker 2: and one that it should never be a disagreement.

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Speaker 3: Get up whenever you want. I love you.

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Speaker 1: Okay, what do you think for the New Year? Should

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Speaker 1: we do a juicy one?

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Speaker 2: They can ask me whatever they want.

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Speaker 1: So the next time we do a poll or we

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Speaker 1: and A again with some juicy tidbits coming soon in

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Speaker 1: the new year. We love you guys, Thanks for listening.

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Speaker 2: Be respectful,