1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:03,040 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:03,080 --> 00:00:07,320 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please 3 00:00:07,320 --> 00:00:10,680 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:14,360 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:14,480 --> 00:00:16,960 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're going to read 6 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:20,760 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. Yeah, let's go buckle 7 00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 1: up and hold on tight. We got it for you here. 8 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:26,920 Speaker 1: It is Rowberry Letter. Thank you nephew. Subject over sixty 9 00:00:27,280 --> 00:00:32,720 Speaker 1: and full of stamina. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty 10 00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 1: one year old married woman and I've been married for 11 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:39,519 Speaker 1: eight years and we have four kids. In the beginning, 12 00:00:39,640 --> 00:00:43,920 Speaker 1: our sex life was amazing and our intimate sessions would 13 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:49,040 Speaker 1: last four hours. But after four kids, it's basically non existent, 14 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: and when we do have sex, it's terrible and boring. 15 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 1: There is no spice in our love life because my 16 00:00:57,320 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 1: husband is tired just sex and then he goes to sleep, 17 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 1: leaving me wanting more. We have sex once a week 18 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 1: so I can fulfill my duties as a wife, but 19 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:14,679 Speaker 1: I get my satisfaction elsewhere. On two separate occasions, I 20 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:18,080 Speaker 1: met two gentlemen that are at least thirty years older 21 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:21,400 Speaker 1: than me. I was open and honest with them about 22 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 1: my sad sex life, and they told me how bad 23 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:26,399 Speaker 1: I need it, and I told them how bad I 24 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 1: needed some good sex. So now I'm having an affair 25 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:32,919 Speaker 1: with both of them, and they both are beyond amazing 26 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:36,600 Speaker 1: in bed. One guy is in his early sixties and 27 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:39,760 Speaker 1: he is so passionate that I can't get enough of him. 28 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:42,800 Speaker 1: The other one is in his late sixties and he 29 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:45,960 Speaker 1: has more stamina than any man I've ever been with. 30 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:49,000 Speaker 1: I was shocked to find out that the men in 31 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 1: their sixties still have it going on like this. The 32 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: more intimacy I have with these older men, the less 33 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 1: I want to be with my husband. It's like the 34 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:02,720 Speaker 1: best experience, and I could see myself falling for them. 35 00:02:02,960 --> 00:02:05,720 Speaker 1: I'm sure these older men don't want anything but sex 36 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 1: from me, but I find it hard to go back 37 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: to boring sex with my husband after being with these 38 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 1: old pros. I do love my husband and I don't 39 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:18,040 Speaker 1: want to lose him. He has no idea what I've 40 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 1: been doing on the side, and I almost feel bad 41 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: for cheating. My husband and I are both still young. 42 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 1: So do you think there is a way for us 43 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:28,280 Speaker 1: to spice up our sex life again? Or should I 44 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 1: realize that I need more than my husband can give me? Wow? Okay, 45 00:02:35,080 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 1: can I say this before you start? Yes? Yes, yes, 46 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:41,000 Speaker 1: I'm going to be beyond interested in here in your response? 47 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:44,440 Speaker 1: Go ahead? All right? Well, thank you, thank you for that. 48 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:50,680 Speaker 1: You should be feel badly for cheating. You really should. 49 00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:53,960 Speaker 1: You know what, I don't think you've given it your 50 00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:56,799 Speaker 1: your marriage, I mean much of a chance. It sounds 51 00:02:56,800 --> 00:03:00,120 Speaker 1: like you've given up. I mean, you know, did you 52 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 1: you that part out or something? I think you just 53 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:06,839 Speaker 1: said that it was boring and basically non existent. But 54 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:11,360 Speaker 1: I mean you want it to last for hours? I 55 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: mean for how long? You want it to last for? 56 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:18,919 Speaker 1: Like hours and hours? No wonder he's tired. I'm sure 57 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:21,640 Speaker 1: both of you can step up your game in the bedroom. 58 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:25,680 Speaker 1: Do you have date nights? Do you plan anything to 59 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:28,320 Speaker 1: do together as a married couple? I mean, I know 60 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 1: you have four kids. Do you get a babysitter from 61 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 1: time to time so you guys can go out and 62 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:36,280 Speaker 1: have time together? I mean those are the kinds of 63 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 1: things you do you have to do to keep your marriage, 64 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 1: you know, the spice in your marriage and things like that. 65 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 1: I mean where is the romance? Where is it? Do you, 66 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: you know, talk to him about being romantic and stuff 67 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:50,880 Speaker 1: like that. I mean, it doesn't sound like either of 68 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:55,360 Speaker 1: you guys are trying just stepping you know, outside of 69 00:03:55,360 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 1: your marriage or stepping out on your husband to get 70 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:00,400 Speaker 1: what you need. That that's not the answer. And you 71 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 1: have two men. Wow. I know women are smarter than 72 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:10,560 Speaker 1: men when it comes dating and everything, but two and 73 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:12,960 Speaker 1: by the way, you have two men. I really hope 74 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 1: you're using protection so far. I guess you have been, 75 00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 1: because that really could turn into a mess. And I 76 00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 1: hope you don't really fall for either one of these guys, 77 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 1: because it's going to cause a problem, you know, in 78 00:04:25,080 --> 00:04:29,400 Speaker 1: your marriage more than already is there with this sex situation. 79 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:32,800 Speaker 1: So I think you need to reevaluate your marriage with 80 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 1: your husband, and your husband need to sit down and 81 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:39,039 Speaker 1: talk about this situation seriously and try to come to 82 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: some sort of agreement. You need romance, you need love, 83 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:44,840 Speaker 1: you need all of that for play, all of that 84 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 1: back in your marriage, and you can put it back in. 85 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:51,040 Speaker 1: You're only thirty one. You guys are young. Steve thirty one, 86 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:57,360 Speaker 1: Oval thirty one girl who no, I have a mercy 87 00:04:57,760 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 1: it's called a repeat offender, someone who returns back to 88 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 1: the scene of the crime over and over and over 89 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:11,080 Speaker 1: and yet no repercussions. Just this is my answer. Okay, okay, 90 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:13,360 Speaker 1: I'm interested in your it's just like you were interested 91 00:05:13,400 --> 00:05:20,039 Speaker 1: in money. No you're not. And anyway, thirty one years old, 92 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:23,919 Speaker 1: it is over. But it used to be amazing because 93 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:27,880 Speaker 1: they had intimate sections that lasted for hours. Here's some 94 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:32,680 Speaker 1: people that obviously he's not working. That is very hard hours. 95 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 1: All your intimate sections sessions was hours. That's well them. 96 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:45,240 Speaker 1: Iurs turning the folk kids. It's basically non existing. When 97 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 1: we have sex nis terrible, it's boring. Ain't no spice 98 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:51,960 Speaker 1: in it. As soon as he has sex, he go 99 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:57,279 Speaker 1: to sleep, leaving you wanting more. Y'all doing it once 100 00:05:57,320 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 1: a week so you could fulfill your duties. But then, 101 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:04,080 Speaker 1: on two different occasions, you met two gentlemen that are 102 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:06,359 Speaker 1: at least thirty years older than me. So let's stop 103 00:06:06,440 --> 00:06:10,479 Speaker 1: right here. You're attracted to older men because you have 104 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 1: sat down and explained to two older men how unhappy 105 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:19,160 Speaker 1: you are sexually. Now, the first one you might have 106 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:21,599 Speaker 1: just fell into it, but after you saw how good 107 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: he was, you explained it to another sixty year old dude, 108 00:06:26,040 --> 00:06:29,160 Speaker 1: and you have found out that the old pros is 109 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 1: just that old prose bringing All right, hang on, Steve, 110 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:38,000 Speaker 1: trying to break it. We all have part two of 111 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 1: yours and they're rejoined the kitchen twenty three minutes after 112 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 1: the hour. Subject of today's strawberry letter over sixty and 113 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 1: full of the roofing the garage. Part two of Steve's 114 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:54,679 Speaker 1: response coming up right after this. You're listening to Steve 115 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 1: Morning Show. All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's 116 00:06:58,600 --> 00:07:04,440 Speaker 1: strawberry letters. Subject were sixty and full of stamina. Thirty 117 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:07,240 Speaker 1: one year old lady had a wonderful relationship with a man. 118 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 1: They used to have Our long love making sessions has 119 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: resulted in four kids. Now there's no spark at all. 120 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:18,080 Speaker 1: They just he have sex and go to sleep, should 121 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 1: do it once a week, and she says that she's 122 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:23,840 Speaker 1: had to find it and he falls asleep, leaving her 123 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 1: wanting more so to cure them more. She has started 124 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:33,400 Speaker 1: seeing two older men early sixties, in late sixties. She's 125 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 1: explained to both of them how boring her sex life 126 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: is and they say, hold on, you ain't got to 127 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 1: do that. So now these old pros is in there working. 128 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 1: They old too, they know old ways. They in there 129 00:07:51,280 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 1: churning your butter. Come on, churning the putter. You're getting 130 00:07:56,200 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 1: your cotton picked checks like you like. Yeah, they in there, 131 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:07,240 Speaker 1: Uh they waxing you with bird laugh sacks. Yeah, yeah, 132 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 1: y'all having simil right six, that's just just why do 133 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 1: you go so far? You know back? Just let me 134 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:26,520 Speaker 1: get on back what I'm doing this this old time sex. 135 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:35,840 Speaker 1: Y'all in there having hide high high colloway sick. Yeah, 136 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:40,840 Speaker 1: y'all open there to vote the show to get here, 137 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:48,360 Speaker 1: y'all having the office Presnes sick? Who little Richard sick? 138 00:08:50,840 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 1: So I know how you feel because you've had something 139 00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 1: because you yung them sixty old men and there just 140 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:01,680 Speaker 1: coming in there and bringing it. And that this man 141 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 1: is so passionate because he got moves, he doing things, 142 00:09:05,960 --> 00:09:08,400 Speaker 1: he knows what to do. He didn't done it before 143 00:09:08,679 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 1: thirty more years experience pulling it all on you here 144 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:15,839 Speaker 1: ninety and you can't take it. And the other one 145 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:21,960 Speaker 1: got stamina. The reason old man have standard stamina, stantina, 146 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:24,280 Speaker 1: And I'm explaining it to you this way. The reason 147 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:29,839 Speaker 1: we have stamina is because we've had this before, we 148 00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: can control it better. Oh, we know how to pace. 149 00:09:36,960 --> 00:09:39,719 Speaker 1: We know when it's getting close to the end, we 150 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:42,640 Speaker 1: know how to you know, pull back a little bit 151 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:48,280 Speaker 1: and take our time. We focus our mind and sometime 152 00:09:48,360 --> 00:09:53,679 Speaker 1: it's called displacement. Sometimes, being an old pro, you know 153 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:56,800 Speaker 1: how to take your mind and put it somewhere else 154 00:09:57,200 --> 00:09:59,960 Speaker 1: so you can keep handling your business without the folk, 155 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:04,599 Speaker 1: because being there thus bring it about an eroticism in yourself. 156 00:10:04,920 --> 00:10:09,559 Speaker 1: So you take your mind and displace it somewhere else. 157 00:10:09,840 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 1: Come on here, now, stay with me, deacon you I'm 158 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:19,480 Speaker 1: with you right now. You degentify you you you you you. 159 00:10:19,960 --> 00:10:25,199 Speaker 1: You take it in another direction. Yeah, you rebuke of 160 00:10:25,320 --> 00:10:35,760 Speaker 1: the powers of lustivity right now. Uhh. And now, dude, 161 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:40,240 Speaker 1: it is you won't one. But I think you come 162 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 1: to the realization that that all they want from you 163 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:48,880 Speaker 1: is your sex. Yeah, but it's hard for you to 164 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:53,680 Speaker 1: go back to that boing sex, that young boy thing, 165 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 1: that that hip hop love, m that one pains leg 166 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:02,760 Speaker 1: up one pain, it's down love. You don't want that? Yeah, 167 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:05,120 Speaker 1: that can't go hat love that that that that that 168 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:10,079 Speaker 1: that I got on extra jewelry love. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 169 00:11:10,120 --> 00:11:13,560 Speaker 1: you need to get back to that dark chicing love. Yeah, 170 00:11:13,920 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 1: come on back then. Yeah, that that love and the 171 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:19,880 Speaker 1: wo there was gold changing and and and all that. 172 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 1: We just was on some bees. You need mood ring six. Yeah, 173 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:34,800 Speaker 1: change colors. Yeah you red hot cold all that. You 174 00:11:35,280 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 1: go right there. You know what I'm saying. You need girl, 175 00:11:38,440 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: You need Jerry Carrol sick. You need Roger Trottman six 176 00:11:43,480 --> 00:11:48,240 Speaker 1: so rough, so tough out of hill. Yeah, yeah, you 177 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:52,600 Speaker 1: need a computer little six. Come on now, mold, bounce 178 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:59,680 Speaker 1: to the ounce. You need some headed through the grape vine. 179 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:08,280 Speaker 1: And it's see you have been small. Now you have 180 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:17,600 Speaker 1: been treated to a ticket to the past. You had 181 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:21,920 Speaker 1: some feel love and put on you. Yeah, album love 182 00:12:22,040 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 1: pass you. You know some some out in the field love. 183 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:29,679 Speaker 1: You had some behind the garage love put on you. 184 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:34,040 Speaker 1: I actually did that one. I know you did us. 185 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 1: Actually had some back seat love. Yeah, I've been back 186 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:41,480 Speaker 1: where your foot all up against the wind, that tatted 187 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 1: tent off the window. 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