1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,640 Speaker 1: All right, time now for the Strawberry Letter and listen. 2 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:07,240 Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parent 3 00:00:07,400 --> 00:00:10,680 Speaker 1: hing and more. Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve 4 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:15,200 Speaker 1: HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could 5 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:18,120 Speaker 1: be reading your letter live on the air, just like 6 00:00:18,120 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 1: we're gonna read this. Yeah, right here, right now. That's 7 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:24,119 Speaker 1: for you, Jay always. All right, ladies and gentlemen, it 8 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: is time for the Strawberry Letter with my good friends. 9 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:30,280 Speaker 1: Shirley Strong theory. All right, thank you, thank you, thank you, junior. 10 00:00:30,360 --> 00:00:36,200 Speaker 1: Subject this subject right here. I'm m fin tired. Okay, 11 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:42,199 Speaker 1: I love it. Steve loves it too, you know that, 12 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:45,839 Speaker 1: all right, Dear Stephen, Shirley, I'm a thirty two year 13 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:48,880 Speaker 1: old single mother with one child, and I'm pregnant with 14 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:52,560 Speaker 1: my second child. I'm pregnant by my best friend who 15 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 1: happens to be married. We've been friends with benefits for 16 00:00:56,040 --> 00:00:59,600 Speaker 1: almost ten years, and his wife thinks we're just best friends, 17 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:03,400 Speaker 1: so she's accepted me as part of the family. She's 18 00:01:03,400 --> 00:01:07,000 Speaker 1: aware that I'm pregnant, but thinks it's my ex boyfriend's baby. 19 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:09,480 Speaker 1: I've told her husband that it's time for us to 20 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: stop messing around and be serious now because we have 21 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:14,920 Speaker 1: a baby on the way. I told him that he 22 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:17,440 Speaker 1: needs to tell his wife before the baby is born. 23 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:19,760 Speaker 1: I want my child to know his father and have 24 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:23,039 Speaker 1: a relationship with his father's two kids. When we found 25 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:26,120 Speaker 1: out I was pregnant, he panicked and asked me to 26 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:29,680 Speaker 1: terminate the pregnancy. I refused to do that, and when 27 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 1: we found out it's a boy, he was overjoyed. The 28 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: problem is every time he's about to tell his wife, 29 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:40,080 Speaker 1: some life changing event happens with her. The first time 30 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 1: he tried to tell her, she had a minor car 31 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 1: wreck and had to wear a neck brace for a month. 32 00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 1: He said that he didn't want to tell her while 33 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 1: she was in pain. Three weeks after that, she got 34 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: COVID nineteen and spent a couple of days in a hospital, 35 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 1: so he didn't tell her. Then fast forward to last 36 00:01:57,760 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 1: week he was supposed to tell her, and he said 37 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:03,800 Speaker 1: she passed out at work and the doctor said she 38 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:08,080 Speaker 1: may have had a mild stroke. Listen, I don't want 39 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:10,760 Speaker 1: to kill the woman by telling her about our baby 40 00:02:10,800 --> 00:02:13,799 Speaker 1: on the way, but I'm m fins tired of all 41 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: her problems. He could be lying to stall me out, 42 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:20,760 Speaker 1: so I'm tempted to call her myself, Steven Shirley. Is 43 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:24,160 Speaker 1: he full of bs? Or what? What you're not gonna 44 00:02:24,200 --> 00:02:28,119 Speaker 1: do is put our name in your mess? Is hateful 45 00:02:28,160 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 1: of bs? You're the one that's full of bs. This 46 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 1: is craziness right here. This is a mess. Mess on 47 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:38,680 Speaker 1: top of a mess. You've gotten yourself into a young lady, 48 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:40,799 Speaker 1: thirty two year old single mother with one child and 49 00:02:40,880 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: pregnant with another. You know what do you think Steve 50 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:47,360 Speaker 1: and I can do for you? I can tell you 51 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:49,760 Speaker 1: right now, we can't do anything for you because the 52 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:53,640 Speaker 1: damage is already done. You are determined to tell this 53 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:58,239 Speaker 1: wife no matter what, knowing and even not caring that 54 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:00,480 Speaker 1: this is going to hurt her and of worst break 55 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:03,799 Speaker 1: up his family. You're wrong, You are wrong. You've been 56 00:03:03,840 --> 00:03:06,920 Speaker 1: the side chick slash best friend for ten years now, 57 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:10,400 Speaker 1: and you think you're owed something because of that, Because 58 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:14,200 Speaker 1: now all of a sudden you're pregnant. You're not owed anything. 59 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 1: But I tell you who is ot something? The baby 60 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:21,360 Speaker 1: is owed something, not you. You knew what you were 61 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:24,400 Speaker 1: getting into when you got into this ten years ago. 62 00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:27,960 Speaker 1: He is married, okay, with a whole wife. He hasn't 63 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:31,360 Speaker 1: left her. In all these ten years that you guys 64 00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 1: have been together, have you ever asked yourself why? I'll 65 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 1: tell you because he didn't want to He didn't want 66 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:41,440 Speaker 1: to lead, he didn't want to be with you. Okay, 67 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:44,240 Speaker 1: he liked the arrangement just like it was. He had 68 00:03:44,280 --> 00:03:47,920 Speaker 1: his cake, and he ate it too. Okay. Now here's 69 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 1: a baby, you know, that's got he's got to do 70 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:54,240 Speaker 1: right by. So his wife is going to find out anyway. 71 00:03:54,360 --> 00:03:56,600 Speaker 1: She's going to find out whether he was lying about 72 00:03:56,640 --> 00:03:59,200 Speaker 1: all the stuff that happened to her. His wife is 73 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 1: going to find out. Get your child support, and please 74 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:06,840 Speaker 1: leave this family alone. You were old and nothing. You're 75 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: you're messing the up right here? Is he full of 76 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:17,479 Speaker 1: be us or not? You're m f and tired? Come on, really, Steve, Wow, 77 00:04:20,080 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 1: so much to unpack in this letter. First of all, 78 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:25,719 Speaker 1: I want to thank you for the title. It means 79 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:29,120 Speaker 1: a great deal to me. I love it, appreciate you. 80 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 1: It just warms my heart to have somebody say that. 81 00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 1: It ain't a mom for my life go by. I'm 82 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:40,400 Speaker 1: gonna say it at least once a month you say this, yeah, 83 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: and this is my favorite phrase. At least twelve times 84 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:46,279 Speaker 1: a year. I'm looking that well, I said, Wolf. I know, 85 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:48,920 Speaker 1: I said, at least twelve times a year. Probably mold. 86 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:53,039 Speaker 1: This thirty two year old single woman got one child 87 00:04:53,120 --> 00:04:56,479 Speaker 1: and it's pregnant with her second child. But she's pregnant 88 00:04:56,520 --> 00:05:00,920 Speaker 1: by her best friend who happens to be married. We've 89 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:04,120 Speaker 1: been friends with benefits for almost ten years. His wife 90 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: thinks that we're just best friend. So she's accepted me 91 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:12,760 Speaker 1: as part of the family. Well, ain't this wonderful? Guess what, 92 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:20,040 Speaker 1: y'all the family fit to have a baby. Oh, she's 93 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 1: accepted you as family, which means for ten years you've 94 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: been up in this woman's face front like y'all friends, right, 95 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:38,400 Speaker 1: like y'all all right. Yeah, I'm surprised she ain't detected this. 96 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 1: Most women can detect this. You know it. I can 97 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: promise you it has crossed her mind. She hadn't seen 98 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:49,680 Speaker 1: something because when the news come out, I promise you, 99 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:52,200 Speaker 1: the first thing she said, I knew someone's going on. 100 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:56,000 Speaker 1: I promise you she gonna say that because there's no 101 00:05:56,080 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 1: way you can be up around a man this much 102 00:05:58,279 --> 00:06:00,920 Speaker 1: as you claim, y'all up in sheep for you as family, 103 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:05,240 Speaker 1: and she ain't thought y'all was messing around, right, This 104 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:08,560 Speaker 1: is dangerous territory. You in, young lady, and you haven't 105 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 1: got yourself in a mess. But you're mad at everybody 106 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:16,720 Speaker 1: in the letter, but you except yourself. And we come back, 107 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:18,320 Speaker 1: I'm gonna deal with it. I'm gonna show you what's 108 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:21,040 Speaker 1: wrong with you now because you can't do this right here. 109 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 1: You said I'm pregnant, but I think it's my export. 110 00:06:25,120 --> 00:06:27,840 Speaker 1: She thinks I'm pregnant, but she thinks my ex boyfriend 111 00:06:27,880 --> 00:06:31,160 Speaker 1: baby here the line. I've told her husband it's time 112 00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 1: for us to stop messing around and be serious now 113 00:06:33,880 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 1: because we got a baby on the way. What the 114 00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:38,839 Speaker 1: hell did that mean? Yes, it's time for y'allself be 115 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:41,760 Speaker 1: serious now, stop messing what? All right? Hold on, Steve, 116 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 1: hold on, It'll have her two of your response coming 117 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:48,039 Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour, Steve Savings. Subject, 118 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:49,919 Speaker 1: he says it a lot. You heard it. I'm m 119 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:55,479 Speaker 1: F and tired. Won't be right back. You're listening morning show? 120 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 1: All right? Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. 121 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:02,280 Speaker 1: Subject I'm m F. It's tired. I bet you is. 122 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 1: Thirty two year old woman got one child. She's pregnant 123 00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 1: with her second by her best friend who happens to 124 00:07:08,880 --> 00:07:13,440 Speaker 1: be a married man. They've been friends with benefits for 125 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:16,600 Speaker 1: ten years now, and the man's wife think that they're 126 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: just best friends. So she's accepted me as part of 127 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 1: the family. This is cute because what that means now 128 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 1: the family fitting to have a baby, but the wife 129 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: thinks that it's her ex boyfriend's baby. Here's the line. 130 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 1: I've told her husband it's time for us to stop 131 00:07:35,400 --> 00:07:37,880 Speaker 1: messing around and be serious now because we have a 132 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:41,680 Speaker 1: baby on the way. Oh oh, so you think you 133 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:46,200 Speaker 1: think now since you're pregnant, now you'll find out later 134 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 1: on he already got two kids with this woman, you think, 135 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:52,240 Speaker 1: because now can you pregnant? You think? Now you got deals. 136 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 1: So now it's time for us to stop messing around 137 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 1: and get serious now because we have a baby on 138 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: the way. So now you think, now you got some debs. 139 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 1: So now you told him that he needs to tell 140 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:09,520 Speaker 1: his wife for the baby borne And I know you 141 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 1: want the wife to know that you're pregnant by him 142 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 1: because you think he gonna leave her for you. Yes, 143 00:08:19,120 --> 00:08:22,080 Speaker 1: biggest mistake you can make. I told you men don't 144 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 1: do promotions. That is, no man who had a number 145 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 1: two that caused him to lose his number one and 146 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:35,960 Speaker 1: then he made the number two number one. Ain't nobody 147 00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 1: fitting to do that. I don't know no man who 148 00:08:40,640 --> 00:08:44,840 Speaker 1: has ever had a number two that caused him to 149 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:48,640 Speaker 1: lose his number one and then made the number two 150 00:08:48,920 --> 00:08:51,720 Speaker 1: the new number one. I ain't never seen him. I 151 00:08:51,720 --> 00:08:54,760 Speaker 1: could be wrong, but I ain't never seen it. Pitt, 152 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 1: Brad Pitt. Now, whoever wrote this letter ain't white or rich. 153 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:03,679 Speaker 1: So let's you know y'all anyway, tell his wife before 154 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 1: the baby board. I want my child to know his 155 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:08,440 Speaker 1: father and have relationship with his father's two kids. Oh 156 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:10,880 Speaker 1: so you really think y'all just a little family hire? 157 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:13,840 Speaker 1: You think y'all just fit to be just all? Okay, 158 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:16,120 Speaker 1: he already got two kids. I want my kids and 159 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:19,440 Speaker 1: know you delusional. When we found out it was pregnant, 160 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:22,240 Speaker 1: he panic and asked me to determinated pregnancy. I refused 161 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:23,840 Speaker 1: to do so. When we found out it was a boy, 162 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 1: he was overjoyed. Problem is, every time he's about to 163 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: tell his wife, some life changing event happens with her. Okay, 164 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:32,440 Speaker 1: so let's go over this first time he tried to 165 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:35,560 Speaker 1: tell her, she had a minor car wreck, had to 166 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:38,080 Speaker 1: wear a neck brace for a month. He said he 167 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:40,080 Speaker 1: didn't want to tell her while she was in pain. 168 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:43,360 Speaker 1: Three weeks later, she got COVID nineteen spent a couple 169 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:45,320 Speaker 1: of days in the hospital, so he didn't want to 170 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 1: tell it. In fast forward, last week he's supposed to 171 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:50,200 Speaker 1: tell him. He says she passed out at work, and 172 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:53,240 Speaker 1: the doctor says she may have had a mile stroke. 173 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:58,960 Speaker 1: Ain't no, might have had no damn mile stroke. Listen 174 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:04,240 Speaker 1: to me, all of this happened just because he got 175 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:09,640 Speaker 1: ready to tell her. What do you think gonna happen 176 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:13,840 Speaker 1: when he do tell her? Damn the carrec damn the 177 00:10:13,880 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 1: trip to the hospital with COVID and the hair away 178 00:10:16,559 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 1: with this stroke, if that's what happened when he fitting 179 00:10:20,120 --> 00:10:23,040 Speaker 1: to tell her, What you think gonna happen? When he 180 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:26,040 Speaker 1: tells this crazy ass woman that you've been in her 181 00:10:26,040 --> 00:10:28,640 Speaker 1: face for ten years over the day house to play 182 00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:31,320 Speaker 1: with the kids and laughing and talking, and you've been 183 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:37,360 Speaker 1: screwing her husband. WHOA what do you think it's gonna happen? 184 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:41,360 Speaker 1: When this woman replay all the moments in her mind 185 00:10:41,880 --> 00:10:44,920 Speaker 1: about how she kind of thought this, but you tricked 186 00:10:44,920 --> 00:10:48,560 Speaker 1: and deceived her, and how fools she been made out 187 00:10:48,600 --> 00:10:56,840 Speaker 1: of and now you pregnant with his baby. Girl, girl, girl, 188 00:10:58,600 --> 00:11:03,120 Speaker 1: your ass, it's in a world of trouble. So I 189 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 1: guess you is can tie that is, but he ain't 190 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:17,839 Speaker 1: kneel as time as his wife and the beat or 191 00:11:18,040 --> 00:11:23,880 Speaker 1: your ass. Yeah, that's what I'm talking about, and let's 192 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:26,560 Speaker 1: pour a little baby there. Now get these bleeps right. 193 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:31,880 Speaker 1: I know we got that eight second to lay on 194 00:11:31,920 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 1: this show, so there's plenty of time to bleeple because 195 00:11:35,280 --> 00:11:41,200 Speaker 1: the fine for what I just said, that's that making 196 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:45,080 Speaker 1: me more time? God got that? No boy, that's it. 197 00:11:46,480 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 1: But it's the letter call up, and this is I've 198 00:11:49,160 --> 00:11:51,920 Speaker 1: been waiting on this type of letter for twenty years. 199 00:11:52,240 --> 00:11:54,560 Speaker 1: We've been doing this show since two thousand and five. 200 00:11:54,840 --> 00:11:58,080 Speaker 1: It's sixteen years and Steve Morning Show and we're just 201 00:11:58,320 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 1: not getting it. Man, Thank you man. I don't want 202 00:12:03,640 --> 00:12:06,160 Speaker 1: to kill the woman by telling her about our baby 203 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:08,960 Speaker 1: on the way, but I'm tired of all her problems. 204 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 1: He could be lying to stall me out, so I'm 205 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:14,280 Speaker 1: tempted to call her myself if he full of bs 206 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:17,040 Speaker 1: or what Shirley said it best. The person is full 207 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:20,800 Speaker 1: of BS and this letter is you. You tricking with 208 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:23,840 Speaker 1: this married man in front of this woman for ten 209 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 1: years now, You think he'd be sing you when you've 210 00:12:27,920 --> 00:12:31,880 Speaker 1: been BS and everybody, Girl, You're about to get what 211 00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:34,080 Speaker 1: you deserve because I got news for you when you 212 00:12:34,200 --> 00:12:36,640 Speaker 1: tell this sister what you've been doing with her man 213 00:12:36,760 --> 00:12:40,320 Speaker 1: for ten years. Both y'all in the world trouble. Oh yes, sir? 214 00:12:40,400 --> 00:12:42,760 Speaker 1: All right, Steve, thank you. Post your comments on today's 215 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:46,040 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter at Steve HARVEYFM on Instagram and Facebook. Check 216 00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:49,040 Speaker 1: out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand coming up in 217 00:12:49,120 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 1: forty six minutes after. Junior has a new poem. Right 218 00:12:53,200 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 1: after that, Hey, now tired. You're listening to the Streame 219 00:13:02,760 --> 00:13:03,720 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show.