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Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision, hey,

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Speaker 1: or have We are hitting the stage baby one night

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Speaker 1: oh in New York City.

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Speaker 2: We haven't done any other shows this year, but Mandy's

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Speaker 2: leaving for Atlanta, so we decided we need one night

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Speaker 2: all together in New York City.

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Speaker 1: That's right, So Tuesday, December third, at Sony Hall, we

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Speaker 1: are bringing you a very very special show that you

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Speaker 1: do not want to miss. You've never seen this show before.

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Speaker 1: It's only gonna happen for one night, that's it, so

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Speaker 1: make sure you get your tickets now. You can go

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Speaker 1: to the Sony Hall website to get your tickets one

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Speaker 1: night only with Mandy Be and WEEZYWTF. You can also

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Speaker 1: check the link in our bio on our Instagram to

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Speaker 1: get tickets as well.

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Speaker 3: We cannot wait to see you again.

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Speaker 1: That is Tuesday, December third at Sony Hall here in

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Speaker 1: New York City. Get your tickets now, see you there.

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Speaker 1: Hey guys, Well, welcome to another episode up. Horrible decision.

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Speaker 3: I want to wave like this, but why I didn't

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Speaker 3: know our guest was miss Team.

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Speaker 1: That's so that's crazy. My name's Weezy oh yeah, and

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Speaker 1: I'm Mandy aka full Corporun's aka dead bitch.

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Speaker 2: And we got our girl, Cammy Crawford on. We met

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Speaker 2: at a going away party. Yes, wait, yes, somebody Okay,

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Speaker 2: someone's going away party at Kayla Nicole House. Who's everybody's

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Speaker 2: fitness goals? Yes, and just left on each other. So

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Speaker 2: I'm really glad this is our second time even seeing

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Speaker 2: each other. Yeah, but yeah, did a little bit of googles.

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Speaker 3: Just show me the wave?

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Speaker 4: Real girl, I never wave if you see me wave,

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Speaker 4: I've never waved like that before in my life.

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Speaker 3: So how the fuck you got missed to us all?

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Speaker 4: Exactly?

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Speaker 3: That was my first she said. I got to tell

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Speaker 3: them that I wanted world peace.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's all. You win, by the way, bitch,

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Speaker 1: you win by your anthelutes and how you wear dress. Answer.

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Speaker 3: No, you remember.

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Speaker 4: My I'm a scorpio. Destruction is always the no. I

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Speaker 4: My question was, I feel like I got the hardest

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Speaker 4: question out of all the girls, I'll be honestly, because

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Speaker 4: you blake always. And it was a black judge that

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Speaker 1: So I was like, what didn naacp stan far.

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Speaker 4: No, she asked me what. By the way, I was

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Speaker 3: Whoa god damn at seventeen.

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Speaker 4: That's what I said.

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Speaker 3: I was like, I go to school, I had a

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Speaker 4: I got not even that.

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Speaker 1: What was your answer at seventeen? Your contribution to the

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Speaker 4: Well, thankfully, I had been contributing to society at that point,

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Speaker 4: because when you win your state titled like, you do

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Speaker 3: Your contribution at seventeen to society?

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Speaker 3: Because I was going to jail, stopp You went to

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Speaker 2: I went to jail at fourteen years old for taking

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Speaker 1: I got arrested. Oh, that's not fair.

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Speaker 3: Then I went to jail fifteen for stealing and sixteen

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Speaker 1: That's not fair either.

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Speaker 2: Then I arrested at seventeen in handcuffs, but they didn't

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Speaker 3: Fighting, and then twenty one again with the DUI.

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Speaker 2: I never had ever. Yeah, my license taken away because

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Speaker 3: I've never driven.

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Speaker 2: I don't agree with what you're going to drive, okay,

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Speaker 1: Taxes okay, axis no. No.

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say, do you like no dead? I

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Speaker 1: Like I've driven people. I don't know if I see

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Speaker 4: Well, now there's no excuse, there's uber Like when I

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Speaker 3: Yes, I got suspended.

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Speaker 2: It ain't wear No, my license got taken because I

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Speaker 1: And honestly, the system really.

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Speaker 2: So at first you get one ticket, you can't afford

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Speaker 4: Yeah, my rents paid.

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Speaker 2: I didn't pay those tickets, but sorry, because my rent's paid,

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Speaker 2: right right. If hate the tickets, my phone might cut off.

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Speaker 2: But it's always kind of like going through that shit.

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Speaker 4: But everything is a racket.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I think if I were to compete in a pageant today,

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Speaker 4: But like, I think that my platforms would be a

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Speaker 4: is for the bitch as always, but there's a lot

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Speaker 1: I think at seventeen, I'm trying to think. I think

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Speaker 1: for me, it would just be more so like my mom,

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Speaker 3: The time that we did it. Yeah, and it would

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Speaker 1: Me and my sisters would go with my mom. She

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Speaker 3: I listen, don't do that. I was just in all

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Speaker 1: School clubs and tutoring and ship because I was smart. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I love that.

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Speaker 1: You know, so many people I got into a pageant today,

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Speaker 1: everybody about Palace. Well, that's probably why we're such in

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Speaker 1: hell because we can't keep saying world peace. That shit

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Speaker 4: Let's be reallyting is soldier dine war bitch? Nobody ever

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Speaker 4: has to say world peace. But there is a certain

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Speaker 4: level of political correctness that you have to have. We're

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Speaker 4: taught First of all, it has taught me so much

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Speaker 4: you know, if it was anything political, you had to

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Speaker 4: appeal to everyone because you're supposed to be everybody's princess.

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Speaker 4: You're not just one person's princess, and you have to

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Speaker 4: get an entire group of judges to vote. You should

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Speaker 1: So you got to be.

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Speaker 4: So you have to be a little bit.

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Speaker 3: It's trash. You can't even yourself.

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Speaker 4: You have to you know.

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Speaker 3: I recently became cool with el who was Miss Usa?

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Speaker 1: Uh huh? Who was she? The first black Miss Usa? No?

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Speaker 4: Okay, I know, yeah, yeah, But anyway.

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Speaker 2: When I met her, uh went out had jacs. You

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Speaker 2: went to black Coffee the DJ. I don't I know

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Speaker 2: if he I think that was a cafe. Yeah, but

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Speaker 2: she seems so nice, so easy going. Even while having

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Speaker 2: Even kill you have to you can see how everybody

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Speaker 4: You have to have a mask. You have to have

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Speaker 1: That sounds miserable.

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Speaker 4: It took me a long time and a lot of therapy,

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Speaker 3: Yes, wow, it sounds miserable.

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Speaker 2: Well, that's how I got to find your page again

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Speaker 2: was through your TV show being on Catfish. Literally I

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Speaker 2: think it had just been I don't know if it

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Speaker 3: Do people know you besides Catfish?

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Speaker 4: A lot of people have been following me since my

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Speaker 4: missed ten USA day, So since I was seventeen, I'm

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Speaker 4: then Catfish was like that was my big break. So

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Speaker 4: people definitely started knowing me then that.

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Speaker 1: Grow off Catfish. Bitch, listen, I wrong over do that.

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Speaker 3: They needed it, right, They needed it because the two

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Speaker 4: We need some There needed to be any female energy period.

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Speaker 4: Actually that's a good point, like it just needed to

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Speaker 4: There's a certain level of understanding and things that we

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Speaker 4: can sense that they admitted like as guys, they just

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Speaker 2: When I was on Twitter at the time, I was

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Speaker 4: You got to know you have a lot of suspensions.

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Speaker 3: I get it.

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Speaker 1: I'm from Florida.

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Speaker 3: That clears it up.

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Speaker 2: Yes, But my one tweet about you was people started

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Speaker 2: to be like, oh, I'm clicking on her video. I

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Speaker 2: don't know if she's gonna be this or that, And

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Speaker 2: I remember reposting it. But I'll give a fucking that

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Speaker 2: bitch boring. That's what I want to say.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I love about it.

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Speaker 3: When you get to see a win, it doesn't matter

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Speaker 3: if you know that person or not.

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Speaker 2: To show we all grew up with so it's like,

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Speaker 2: oh wow, I'm just so happy you were part of

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Speaker 2: that journey.

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Speaker 3: So we're gonna do some little icebreakers with you. And

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Speaker 3: this is what I came up with.

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Speaker 2: This is would you rather but catfish? So I'd like

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Speaker 2: to know celebrity crash know you got a man, but

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Speaker 2: if he can't exist, who would be I don't like anything.

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Speaker 1: We don't want to hear that ship.

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Speaker 4: Here's the thing. I think that after I got into

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Speaker 2: I SKEPTI come in a house. DJ made it worse.

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Speaker 3: I be mad at myself that I'm by How do

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Speaker 1: I don't upset. I don't wanted to on my motherfucker.

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Speaker 4: I'm waiting for the aliens to come, is why I

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Speaker 1: That I would choose you. Man? Well, sorry, sorry, in

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Speaker 4: I say this to my man all the time. I'm

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Speaker 2: The thing that's interesting is, uh so, Mandy and I

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Speaker 2: There can be miscommunication, but understanding the emotions really helps.

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Speaker 1: We didn't talk like, we didn't debate it pop cultry

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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna be knowing birthdays. I don't do the

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Speaker 1: is his birthday? Let me?

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Speaker 4: I love female?

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Speaker 3: Because I could I can actually google?

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Speaker 1: I'm a little I'm not gonna lie. Man. You need

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Speaker 1: So one, two, okay, six one or two? He actually

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna meet him with flats.

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Speaker 1: Just to be safe. You are five, don't do this.

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Speaker 1: I am when I put on heels, I am, I am,

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Speaker 3: You are the flat this we're okay. So I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: Wait when is when is?

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Speaker 3: Let me see you don't say it that low? What

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Speaker 1: Oh he's a taurust Oh you're going oh.

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Speaker 2: Yes, okay, don't get it an argument. My ex girlfriend's tourists.

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Speaker 2: My current boyfriend's a taurists. Tis because my ex girlfriend

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's too much.

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Speaker 3: I beleeve that far.

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Speaker 1: I'm already like, okay, there's too much there. The bitch

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Speaker 3: Nobody got time for that. Don't be We're just gonna

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Speaker 1: Oh sorry, this is anyway I got it.

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Speaker 2: Does anyone remember the Joe Biden thing with the sister

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Speaker 1: In law something, Yes, one of the niggas died and

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, for like Joe Biden's brother.

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Speaker 1: this week, that's actually not what we're talking about.

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Speaker 3: But we are talking.

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Speaker 2: About a widow, a grieving widow who was praised for

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Speaker 3: So she went on a website called Mom's Net. Oh

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yes, because the widow the widow ended up

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Speaker 1: Serious question, Oh here we go.

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Speaker 3: We have two children. Something happens to you. He has

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Speaker 3: Would you rather me? No, of course it's a no.

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Speaker 1: But the thing.

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Speaker 2: I can either meet a new dude or your children

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Speaker 1: You take in the family.

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Speaker 4: But how do you do you have to take in Yeah, right,

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Speaker 4: I think it just happened naturally.

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Speaker 1: You can anyway.

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Speaker 1: Like a trauma bond though, Like he's grieving his brother,

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Speaker 3: And now and now it's just.

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Speaker 3: we got emotional, me and one thing left to another.

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00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:47,200
Speaker 3: We slept together and he.

449
00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:49,359
Speaker 4: Probably looks like his brother too.

450
00:19:49,720 --> 00:19:52,679
Speaker 1: And then a drunken stupor it could have been it

451
00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:55,400
Speaker 1: could have been a husband, you know what I mean?

452
00:19:55,640 --> 00:19:59,639
Speaker 2: You So basically, she was writing on the site moms

453
00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:02,199
Speaker 2: Dot saying they were both confused. She feels like a

454
00:20:02,200 --> 00:20:06,600
Speaker 2: horrible person for what she's done. Eighty six percent of

455
00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:09,240
Speaker 2: the comments were telling her that what she did was

456
00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:12,440
Speaker 2: complicated and painful, but encouraged her to pursue it if

457
00:20:12,440 --> 00:20:16,240
Speaker 2: it felt right, accepting that loneliness is normal in grief,

458
00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:20,360
Speaker 2: but dealing with grief is weird. It doesn't necessarily mean

459
00:20:20,480 --> 00:20:22,080
Speaker 2: he may not be the person for you.

460
00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:25,199
Speaker 1: Here's the thing, though, those shit those kids are what

461
00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:31,600
Speaker 1: twelve thirteen fifteen, where they're bonding You know, they do

462
00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:33,680
Speaker 1: need no, they need no no, let me finish.

463
00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:34,960
Speaker 3: They need a father figure.

464
00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:37,840
Speaker 1: Sure, but they're old enough to also know that this

465
00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:41,200
Speaker 1: is my dad's brother. Yeah. So I think that part

466
00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:44,360
Speaker 1: of where you as a mom could cause a lot

467
00:20:44,400 --> 00:20:47,600
Speaker 1: of damage to these children now being in a romantic relationship,

468
00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:51,000
Speaker 1: which one is worth twelve thirteen fifteen. They got to

469
00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:54,160
Speaker 1: have some memories they can remember with you, dad.

470
00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:57,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're trying to replace their dad with the way

471
00:20:57,640 --> 00:21:00,240
Speaker 2: more words get you a little boyfriend that they don't

472
00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:01,480
Speaker 2: hate for a little bit until they.

473
00:21:01,359 --> 00:21:04,399
Speaker 4: Like him, the uncles, the daddy's giving, grandma's the baby.

474
00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:11,160
Speaker 4: It's not cute. There's king way. And by the way,

475
00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:14,239
Speaker 4: if this was on the other foot and it was

476
00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:16,359
Speaker 4: the wife that had died and the husband now is

477
00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:20,720
Speaker 4: dating the fucking sister, if that was my fucking sister, yeah,

478
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,080
Speaker 4: it doesn't matter. First of all, Fly, you're not related

479
00:21:23,080 --> 00:21:25,840
Speaker 4: to me at all. I've already said to my man,

480
00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:29,119
Speaker 4: God forbid something happens to me. Anybody tells you that

481
00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:30,639
Speaker 4: I would have wanted you to be happy is a

482
00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:34,919
Speaker 4: fucking liar. I will come back from the grave and

483
00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:36,640
Speaker 4: every time you try to get it up, I'm gonna

484
00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:37,280
Speaker 4: be like, well.

485
00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:44,000
Speaker 2: Okay, absolutely not. Here's the flip side. I don't have siblings.

486
00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:46,120
Speaker 2: So my man said to me, if you had a sister,

487
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:48,199
Speaker 2: would you do that? Like you you're not gonna want

488
00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:52,200
Speaker 2: to be one of your homegirls. I'm like, actually, if

489
00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:54,720
Speaker 2: my kids got used to an auntie, I would say,

490
00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:56,520
Speaker 2: I don't know Brianda or so.

491
00:21:58,480 --> 00:22:03,320
Speaker 3: But I don't want to goddamn kids.

492
00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:08,560
Speaker 1: I still don't want kids open to change. I don't

493
00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:09,960
Speaker 1: want kid on Like I'll tell you now, I'm not

494
00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:12,560
Speaker 1: taking over nobody else's kids. So anyway. My point is

495
00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:13,480
Speaker 1: someone I'm close to.

496
00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:15,000
Speaker 3: That I don't want nobody else kids.

497
00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:17,399
Speaker 2: I was like, yo, because Brianda is just my most Like,

498
00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:19,399
Speaker 2: where are the two that talk about kids all the

499
00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:22,720
Speaker 2: time together? She's like, I was like, I actually feel

500
00:22:22,760 --> 00:22:25,280
Speaker 2: like I would want her over any other woman, and

501
00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:26,080
Speaker 2: I think I would be.

502
00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:29,400
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, okay, no, I have five sisters. You see,

503
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:35,760
Speaker 1: I have two sisters. All of you die early, I will,

504
00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:38,399
Speaker 1: I want make sure, I mean, and luckily one of

505
00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:40,119
Speaker 1: my sisters is lesbian, so I ain't really got to

506
00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:42,800
Speaker 1: worry about that. But I would not want my sister

507
00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:47,040
Speaker 1: or any of my relatives dating my former partner in

508
00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:49,960
Speaker 1: any capacity. No. No, every morning you will wake up

509
00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:52,439
Speaker 1: with a nose yet, No, I don't want that at all.

510
00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:53,400
Speaker 4: And a toothache.

511
00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:56,480
Speaker 2: Well, finally, we need to get you in your sexy mode.

512
00:22:57,680 --> 00:23:01,159
Speaker 4: The ghost of me is a vicious bitch. Everything I

513
00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:03,560
Speaker 4: couldn't do on Earth I'm doing with Scorpy lady.

514
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:06,400
Speaker 2: Right, that's where at our sex tip. Now, okay, our

515
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:09,320
Speaker 2: horridor this week is yours, and we need to know.

516
00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:11,680
Speaker 2: I don't even want a dating tip. Bitch, you like

517
00:23:11,760 --> 00:23:12,960
Speaker 2: dig so much, tell us what to.

518
00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 1: Do with it? Oh what is doing in her thirties?

519
00:23:18,800 --> 00:23:20,200
Speaker 3: Now?

520
00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:26,760
Speaker 1: Tell us your best sax tip ooh, best sex tip?

521
00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 4: Have it, have a lot of it.

522
00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 1: I like that, what got you to what got you

523
00:23:31,640 --> 00:23:34,000
Speaker 1: to the movie? What would you do? Oh?

524
00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:39,560
Speaker 4: I mean, well, listen, I'm just very very upfront, and

525
00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:43,920
Speaker 4: I've realized being in my early thirties like that is

526
00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:46,479
Speaker 4: such a powerful stage of life to be in. You

527
00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:48,840
Speaker 4: know exactly what the fuck you want. I honestly can't

528
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 4: wait to be forty because I feel like the bitches

529
00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 4: who are forty really exactly I feel that you want,

530
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:57,960
Speaker 4: like there's no fear in getting older to me. But

531
00:23:58,040 --> 00:23:59,679
Speaker 4: when I turned thirty, I was like, oh no, this

532
00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 4: is what I'm gonna accept, this is what I want.

533
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:04,800
Speaker 4: I told my man when I first started dating him, like,

534
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:07,920
Speaker 4: I'm not dating you to be your girlfriend. Now? Are

535
00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:11,960
Speaker 4: we boyfriend and girlfriend? Technically? Yes? But my mom prides

536
00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:14,439
Speaker 4: herself on the fact that she raised wives. I have

537
00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:18,560
Speaker 4: five sisters. She's like, all y'all are wifey material, So

538
00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:21,880
Speaker 4: don't have any of these fucking scraggly ass men whoever

539
00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:26,199
Speaker 4: treating you like anything other than what you are. So

540
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 4: I was very very clear. I was like, yes, I

541
00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 4: fuck with you, but if you're not dating me with

542
00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:35,240
Speaker 4: intention to marry, I'm not interested.

543
00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 1: Oh hold on, because we all want to build on this.

544
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:38,119
Speaker 1: Give me a sex tip and then we gotta go.

545
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:43,439
Speaker 1: What's the sexy sex tip is? I think I've just

546
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:50,159
Speaker 1: stopped being afraid to be myself. Like I'm a fucking

547
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:52,640
Speaker 1: scorpio bitch. I want to say the things, I want

548
00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:54,760
Speaker 1: to make the noises, I want to do my shit.

549
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 1: I'm going to be myself. I like that.

550
00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:00,880
Speaker 4: I'm not going to like be a afraid to say

551
00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:05,280
Speaker 4: the thing. But sometimes you have partners that make you suppress,

552
00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:09,240
Speaker 4: like the primal instincts that you have, you know, or

553
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:13,720
Speaker 4: even just like as a woman who dates men, like

554
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 4: smells or like being out and like you know, being

555
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:18,600
Speaker 4: like oh I need to go back and like shower

556
00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 4: and like.

557
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 1: No, that was me.

558
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 3: I was just like that.

559
00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 4: It's so annoying.

560
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:23,719
Speaker 1: It's like that man go take you as you are

561
00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:28,880
Speaker 1: anyway I know, and if he does him, I do listen,

562
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:32,240
Speaker 1: they will take I don't listen.

563
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 4: That's why, my man.

564
00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:37,240
Speaker 2: So I'm glad you brought this up because you made

565
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:39,400
Speaker 2: a comment to me that you were a serial girlfriend.

566
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:43,080
Speaker 1: Yes, and I really want to know what.

567
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:45,359
Speaker 2: The secret to that is for people that feel like

568
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 2: they can't get to that point. I've had so many

569
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 2: situationships and I'm like, buh hm. I feel like it's

570
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:57,159
Speaker 2: because I'm a serial girlfriend. So to elaborate, I'm the

571
00:25:57,200 --> 00:26:00,439
Speaker 2: girl that's like if I like a nigga, I just

572
00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:03,399
Speaker 2: fall into it. Yeah, and it becomes more difficult for

573
00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 2: me to kind of snap out of it. And we've

574
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 2: had episodes where we've talked about that and like, you know,

575
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:11,720
Speaker 2: I could be someone that's doing too much, but it's

576
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 2: because I'm so used to this role. So tell me

577
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:18,840
Speaker 2: how someone can maybe get over the line to getting

578
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:21,400
Speaker 2: into committed relationship since you have been a serial girlfriend

579
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:22,880
Speaker 2: and Soma raised wise.

580
00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 1: She did Meanwhile, I'm trying to graduate to the wife part.

581
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:27,600
Speaker 1: But it's it's coming.

582
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 3: I've never watched this four show.

583
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:34,480
Speaker 4: It's coming. I I feel like, So when I say

584
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 4: serial girlfriend, I've been in relationships for most of my life.

585
00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 4: Once I once I became a girlfriend at thirteen. Well, yeah,

586
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:43,199
Speaker 4: I've had my first boyfriend in the eighth grade. He

587
00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:47,560
Speaker 4: was white, his name was Noah. He did like motocross

588
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 4: in life, like the Jacketary yeah, maybe I didn't know

589
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:53,400
Speaker 4: shit about it. But I started listening to some forty

590
00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:55,919
Speaker 4: one and just like that came I was like, this

591
00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 4: is my lifestyle blank one eighty two, and then after

592
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 4: that it was like boyfriend after boyfriend after boyfriend after boyfriend.

593
00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 4: I can't necessarily say that I always did it in

594
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 4: the most healthy way because I think a lot of

595
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 4: people in general, but women especially like we mentally check

596
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 4: out before we actually like break up. I've never been

597
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 4: broken up with. I've always done the breaking up ever ever?

598
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 3: Ever? Car what what? What?

599
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 1: What?

600
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:29,200
Speaker 3: What were the reasons that you broke up with these partners?

601
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:30,400
Speaker 1: And did they see it coming?

602
00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:33,119
Speaker 3: I saw it, saw it.

603
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 4: I always saw it way in advance. But I just

604
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 4: like had a fear of being alone, to be honest,

605
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:40,560
Speaker 4: like had a fear of like what else is even

606
00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 4: out there?

607
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 2: Hey, but maybe you didn't if you did the breaking up.

608
00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:45,480
Speaker 2: I think that's what can be from breaking up and

609
00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:46,640
Speaker 2: staying in relationships.

610
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:48,919
Speaker 1: I shouldn't have. I think I had a fear of

611
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:50,520
Speaker 1: being alone without saying it out loud.

612
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:52,880
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, it wasn't something. I mean, I didn't say

613
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 4: it out loud. I definitely didn't know.

614
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 1: I mean like even in my head, but did you

615
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 1: break up with those boyfriends then with someone immediately ready

616
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 1: to replace? Oh? Girl, you were cheating.

617
00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 3: That's how you knew it was over because you were

618
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 3: emotionally cheating one.

619
00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:09,879
Speaker 4: And I didn't recognize that until I got older, until

620
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 4: I got out of my last relationship and didn't have

621
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:18,840
Speaker 4: anybody lined up, and I was like, wait, where's the bench.

622
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 1: Where's the roster?

623
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:24,920
Speaker 2: What's your time frame for like when you're or are

624
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:26,639
Speaker 2: you bringing this up on first second date? Being like

625
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:29,680
Speaker 2: I'm looking for a relationship, Like are you letting things

626
00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 2: kind of just vibe out?

627
00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 1: Like how do you think you're especially with this last

628
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 1: relationship you said.

629
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:36,919
Speaker 4: You w this was very intentional. This was totally this

630
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 4: was anything else I've ever done. Okay, well, even when

631
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 4: I met my ex, it was like I was out,

632
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 4: like I was single, but I was like I had

633
00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 4: decided that I was going to have my whole face

634
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 4: for the first time in my life, and then I

635
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 4: got in a relationship, so it just you know. But

636
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:53,200
Speaker 4: I will say also to preface this that I felt

637
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 4: like even when I was single, when I was dating,

638
00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 4: when I was meeting guys, I never and this is

639
00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 4: going to sound like a flex but there's another side

640
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 4: to it. I've never really had men who have approached

641
00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 4: me and been like, I would love to take you out.

642
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 4: It's always been you're my future wife, I want to

643
00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 4: marry you. Like guys have gotten down on one knee

644
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 4: in the street, which is weird, Okay, very weird, very strange,

645
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 4: love bombing one thousand percent. They're probably all pisces men.

646
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 4: But but I will say that even with that, guys

647
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 4: can say whatever the fuck they want, but it doesn't

648
00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 4: necessarily mean that they're ready for that person. Like, just

649
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 4: because you are a wife in their eyes doesn't mean

650
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 4: that they're actually ready for that. And there are a

651
00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 4: lot of guys who not to say that I wanted

652
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 4: or didn't want, but like guys that I was interested

653
00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 4: in where it's like, oh, you're actually not even ready

654
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 4: for me, So you're gonna keep doing what the fuck

655
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:47,760
Speaker 4: is that you want to do in front of my

656
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:50,760
Speaker 4: face or behind my back. You're not actually ready for

657
00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 4: a wife, So like, stay where you are, So what.

658
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 3: Does that look like? What is a man not ready

659
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:56,320
Speaker 3: for a wife?

660
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 4: You're just want to be out here and that's fine,

661
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 4: Like that's totally fine, but guys will people will tell

662
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 4: you that they are ready for one thing, but then

663
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 4: do another. So you have to be able to decipher

664
00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 4: between the time.

665
00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:10,560
Speaker 1: I don't want to be vague here because I really

666
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:12,760
Speaker 1: want to. Like if you said a man just wants

667
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:14,520
Speaker 1: to be out here, right, I know a lot of

668
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 1: times maybe a woman who likes to go out isn't

669
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:20,000
Speaker 1: seemed as wifey material. So are you saying that a

670
00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:21,600
Speaker 1: man is not ready to be a husband if he

671
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:23,960
Speaker 1: enjoys being out in the clubs or like not.

672
00:30:24,080 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 4: The bars be out?

673
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 3: What does be out me?

674
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:28,240
Speaker 4: I want you to be outside. I want you to

675
00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:32,040
Speaker 4: I want you to get it all out. But if

676
00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:34,400
Speaker 4: you are fucking twenty bitches and telling me that I'm

677
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 4: your future wife, maybe you're not actually ready.

678
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 1: Okay, you're out here? You No, I'm just thinking outside invisible.

679
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:45,480
Speaker 1: So I had like i've been loving. I realized, I

680
00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:47,600
Speaker 1: don't know what this means. I think outside is on time.

681
00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 1: I got insulted once when someone said I was out

682
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 1: here because I thought it meant like, oh, bit, you've

683
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 1: been fucking.

684
00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 3: A lot of time.

685
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:56,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that's why I don't what is.

686
00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 1: Like you're outside? Like I walk in the rooms and

687
00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:00,360
Speaker 1: I loved it. I ain't got bodies in them in

688
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 1: like that shit feel good. Niggas don't really know who

689
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:06,640
Speaker 1: I'm fucking right, Like that's like, so no, I don't

690
00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:09,080
Speaker 1: like to me, mix it to me, and that's what

691
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:11,240
Speaker 1: I'm thinking of, Like I know when I'm When I

692
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:13,320
Speaker 1: was my best friend, there was a guy that she

693
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:15,840
Speaker 1: was dating, and he had to be at brunch every

694
00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 1: Sunday with his boys, and he liked clubbing, and so

695
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:20,800
Speaker 1: she felt like he wasn't ready for a relationship because

696
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 1: he was outside in those spaces. Even if he wasn't

697
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:26,480
Speaker 1: fucking on bitches, he liked being outside. So that's why

698
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 1: I wanted to ask, because no, I don't I like

699
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 1: being outside. But I'd be like, I'm networking. Actually this

700
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:33,040
Speaker 1: is worse.

701
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 2: I think I think we put a lot of judgment

702
00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:39,240
Speaker 2: on the volume of how often someone goes out. I've

703
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:41,240
Speaker 2: made a lot of like comments on Instagram that a

704
00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 2: lot of girls don't like, maybe because I'm more aggressive

705
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:46,840
Speaker 2: with it, but I'm just like, bitch, nobody gives a

706
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 2: fuck if you're proving to us you're.

707
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 3: Home on Saturday. Yeah, Like, stop posting the.

708
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 2: Book and thinking someone's gonna be excited by that.

709
00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 3: No one gives a fuck.

710
00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 4: It's fine to have fun when I'm single. I'm outside

711
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 4: having fun. I'm out all the time.

712
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:02,400
Speaker 2: I just think it's silly to think you should be

713
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 2: wasting your time at home. Yeah, yeah, I think it's

714
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:07,720
Speaker 2: just I don't care how you are in your forties

715
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:08,160
Speaker 2: or whatever.

716
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:10,320
Speaker 1: I really do think we should be social.

717
00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 2: I think it's healthy for us start making community, beating

718
00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:15,120
Speaker 2: out with your friends, trying to prove to men or

719
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:17,280
Speaker 2: a partner that doesn't exist that you're this homebody. Like,

720
00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 2: if you are a homebody, cool, But I find that

721
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:21,280
Speaker 2: a lot of it is performative.

722
00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think if women got the invites to go out.

723
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:26,440
Speaker 2: I think if women had things on the social calendar,

724
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:28,479
Speaker 2: they would be doing them. But you trying to tell

725
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:29,880
Speaker 2: me you home on a Saturday night in New York

726
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 2: Fashion Week. I know you wouldn't invited a nothing.

727
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:34,120
Speaker 4: Well, here's the thing. Your person is not going to

728
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 4: find you on your couch at home. But your person

729
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 4: you might not also find.

730
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:38,479
Speaker 1: Them in the club unless you're open to dating your

731
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:41,560
Speaker 1: Uber eats driver, right, which some people are. Some people

732
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 1: might be forget. But yeah, I think the problem.

733
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 2: With data and apps who don't have this conversation with

734
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 2: We were talking about how awkward it can be to

735
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 2: have conversations with men sometimes after the data apps, and

736
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:56,480
Speaker 2: we were all attributing it to the age of the

737
00:32:56,480 --> 00:32:59,960
Speaker 2: Internet and a lot of my friends and relationships even

738
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:03,200
Speaker 2: and if they met their partner online, talked about how

739
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 2: they were out kind of exercising that flirting and doing

740
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:09,000
Speaker 2: things like that. That homebody shit really can be weird.

741
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 4: My boyfriend and I met on We met on Riyah

742
00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:13,320
Speaker 4: and we went on our first date the next day

743
00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 4: after wematched I think too think I think that's important

744
00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 4: to do it quick, do it quick, not to just

745
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 4: around with me, not to be wasting It was like,

746
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 4: what are we doing, Let's go on a date.

747
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:26,959
Speaker 1: I mean, and it still can end in failure, Like

748
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:29,720
Speaker 1: I went on with a couple literally I was in

749
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 1: dr while we really matched and then as soon as

750
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:33,480
Speaker 1: I got back we set a date. I when it

751
00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 1: got tested like it happened fast. But I loved how

752
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 1: fast it happened too, because we're not wasting.

753
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:43,000
Speaker 2: No, I think that's really intense, especially on a dating app.

754
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 1: What are we here for it? Not for penal my

755
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 1: man asked to call me on the app.

756
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:51,000
Speaker 2: Within maybe four or five messages, Yes, same hold on FaceTime,

757
00:33:51,800 --> 00:33:53,160
Speaker 2: and I was like, I got my bott on. He

758
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 2: was like, dude, because he got dreads. See, but I

759
00:33:56,120 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 2: did think it was strange. She wanted to talk so quick.

760
00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:01,960
Speaker 2: Obviously over time now disgusted and he's like, Yo, I'm

761
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:03,280
Speaker 2: on the phone with a girl on the straw. I'm

762
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 2: off it you Like, I don't want to do it,

763
00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:07,480
Speaker 2: Like even if I just want to fuck.

764
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's a lot.

765
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:12,480
Speaker 2: Of this awkwardness in person that may not be attractive

766
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 2: to me.

767
00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:14,600
Speaker 1: We can't even vibe on the phone.

768
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 3: There's no way it's just going to get that much better.

769
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:19,960
Speaker 2: So I can totally understand that, and I also implore

770
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:22,879
Speaker 2: anybody listening who's using the apps just try that out.

771
00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 2: Even voice messages if you're not ready for a phone call,

772
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 2: can be helpful because you can't. The voice props on

773
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 2: Hinge have made me swipe blood.

774
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:33,880
Speaker 4: Oh some of them are so cringe what my sisters

775
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 4: have showed me, and I'm like, what the fuck even

776
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 4: is this? I don't know that would be my pageant platform,

777
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:43,400
Speaker 4: actually talking to men about their fucking profiles because this

778
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 4: shit is disgusting. But I will say that when it

779
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:51,319
Speaker 4: comes to like intention and like I'm not, I think

780
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:54,919
Speaker 4: that obviously we're talking amongst each other, so I'm telling

781
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 4: you what my mindset is. But I don't feel that

782
00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 4: to have this like wife title or to be wiped

783
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:04,640
Speaker 4: up or to be in a relationship, you don't need

784
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:06,160
Speaker 4: to sit up on a first date and be like,

785
00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 4: I'm a wife, I'm at this, I'm a that. Okay, Well,

786
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,279
Speaker 4: if you are, then why are you not in a relationship?

787
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:13,000
Speaker 4: Why are you on this date? You know, it's an

788
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 4: energy that you have to bring and a certain level

789
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 4: of self respect and boundaries. I think I just feel like,

790
00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:23,640
Speaker 4: you know, even when you're going on dates like that's great,

791
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:26,319
Speaker 4: but don't cut yourself off to every other option. You

792
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:28,360
Speaker 4: are a hot fucking commodity. You are the prize and

793
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:29,799
Speaker 4: you should always remember that.

794
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 2: Build on this, CAMMI, because people in relationships sometimes then

795
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:38,400
Speaker 2: get that confidence and we can all be humbled very quickly. Yeah,

796
00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:41,360
Speaker 2: being happy in a relationship today, that motherfucker can be

797
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:42,080
Speaker 2: a monster tomorrow.

798
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:42,479
Speaker 1: Yep.

799
00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 2: And to me, that confidence and that humility you have

800
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 2: to have and that value you suddenly feel when getting

801
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:51,520
Speaker 2: wiped up quote unquote, if it goes away, you still

802
00:35:51,520 --> 00:35:51,839
Speaker 2: have to.

803
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:53,920
Speaker 4: You have to still have it. I had it, but

804
00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 4: when I was single, I'm gonna have it now. I

805
00:35:56,200 --> 00:36:01,839
Speaker 4: got out of my last relationship feeling very confused and

806
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:06,160
Speaker 4: like like I had been blindsided basically, and I did

807
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:08,600
Speaker 4: a lot of self work and that is what made

808
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 4: me ready and prepared for my next relationship. It wasn't

809
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:12,880
Speaker 4: just because like, oh, I was raised this way and

810
00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:15,440
Speaker 4: I was I'm fucking the sports illustrated on Sue model, Like,

811
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 4: of course you should want to fucking wipe me up.

812
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 1: No, I've done fucking therapy, deep fucking therapy.

813
00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 2: Besides therapy, just one quick thing that's to make it long.

814
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 2: What self work has looked like for you, besides therapy,

815
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:31,840
Speaker 2: because I think therapy is an easy answer that some

816
00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:33,400
Speaker 2: people really don't take or apply.

817
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:38,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, accountability for my actions, being able to say, okay, yes,

818
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:43,360
Speaker 4: I was emotionally cheating in my last relationships. I was

819
00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:46,840
Speaker 4: preparing myself for the next relationship, even if I wasn't

820
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:50,200
Speaker 4: flirting mentally checking out, but still being in a relationship

821
00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:54,439
Speaker 4: with somebody while allowing somebody else to say sweet things

822
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:56,719
Speaker 4: to me is fucked up. I wouldn't like it if

823
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 4: it was the other way around. Knowing that my daddy

824
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:04,279
Speaker 4: issues were a big part of my problem, feeling like

825
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 4: everybody's replaceable and okay, you want to go fine, bye,

826
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 4: that's not a way to treat people, you know. So

827
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:12,799
Speaker 4: I had to take a certain level of accountability and

828
00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:15,520
Speaker 4: look at myself and be like, Okay, these are the

829
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 4: things that I need to change. I don't need to

830
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 4: be dismissive of my man's feelings. I need to do

831
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:26,120
Speaker 4: self work. I need to figure some shit out. Because therapy,

832
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 4: your therapist can talk to you for a hour every

833
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:29,320
Speaker 4: single week, it doesn't mean that you're actually applying.

834
00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:31,200
Speaker 2: Yeah I was gonna. I don't know if you're done

835
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:32,840
Speaker 2: and talk about accountability, but I know. One of the

836
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 2: things that I first recognized within myself was I've dated

837
00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:42,440
Speaker 2: habitual cheaters to the point where I then didn't want

838
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:44,839
Speaker 2: to see anything I did wrong because I was hurt. Well,

839
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:46,879
Speaker 2: if I did X, y Z, it doesn't matter because

840
00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:49,799
Speaker 2: they did this to me first. That was my constant

841
00:37:49,920 --> 00:37:52,719
Speaker 2: trope of if you lied and cheated, what I did

842
00:37:52,719 --> 00:37:54,920
Speaker 2: next didn't matter. Yeah, it took me a lot of

843
00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:57,880
Speaker 2: time to kind of realize, like, that's toxic because I

844
00:37:58,080 --> 00:37:58,600
Speaker 2: even leave.

845
00:37:58,480 --> 00:37:59,040
Speaker 1: When you did it.

846
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:03,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, I recognizing your own toxicity, Like, yeah, the other

847
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:06,319
Speaker 4: person could have fucked up five million more times more

848
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:09,600
Speaker 4: than you, but you still have a certain level of kind.

849
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 4: Nobody's perfect. Nobody's perfect. Even the bitch had looks perfect

850
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:13,800
Speaker 4: on the ground.

851
00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:14,320
Speaker 3: That'shit.

852
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:15,280
Speaker 4: I fucking issues.

853
00:38:15,440 --> 00:38:18,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I'm talking about this in the book now.

854
00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 1: I mean, for me, a lot of my me not

855
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 1: getting in a relationship was because I had niggas with

856
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,440
Speaker 1: money that I had to depend on. I was fucking

857
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:28,279
Speaker 1: with niggas to make sure my bills were paid, and

858
00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:30,080
Speaker 1: so I couldn't have a boyfriend because I wasn't gonna

859
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 1: cheat on them with the men that were helping me

860
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:34,640
Speaker 1: either get through school or pay my bills, and that.

861
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:36,080
Speaker 3: Was just an easier way.

862
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 1: I think that there was a lot of lack of

863
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 1: self worth in my twenties, with the lack of confidence

864
00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:44,040
Speaker 1: with my weight, with the lack of confidence financially and

865
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:49,400
Speaker 1: where I was in terms of financial stability, and so

866
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:51,719
Speaker 1: it was just easier to be number two or the

867
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:54,480
Speaker 1: side chick and get everything I thought I wanted because

868
00:38:54,520 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 1: I didn't have to show up and be I didn't

869
00:38:56,520 --> 00:38:58,080
Speaker 1: have to cook meals, I didn't have to sit here

870
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 1: and tell you the truth. I didn't know to do

871
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:01,799
Speaker 1: any of that because I could just kind of move

872
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 1: how I needed to move. But it wasn't It was

873
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:08,799
Speaker 1: me just lacking the self worth in knowing that I

874
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 1: deserved to have my person where he valued me and

875
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 1: where he was honest with me and where we could

876
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:18,040
Speaker 1: have open communication. I think it's even harder now navigating

877
00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 1: what a relationship looks like knowing that I do want

878
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 1: to be in a ethically non monogamous one. So the

879
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:27,520
Speaker 1: idea that, damn, am I leaning into the hierarchy of

880
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:29,799
Speaker 1: then just being the primary? And what does that really do?

881
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:30,040
Speaker 3: Like?

882
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 1: Am I still going to technically be number two? If

883
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:35,800
Speaker 1: I'm allowing my partner to see other people? I'm battling

884
00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 1: that now, but I know that that's maybe why it

885
00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:39,440
Speaker 1: took so long for me to have my first relationship.

886
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, but that's also it comes with wisdom, Like having

887
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:46,799
Speaker 4: that level of wisdom. We didn't have that shit when

888
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:48,840
Speaker 4: we were in an early twenties fucking around and finding

889
00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:50,000
Speaker 4: out like nobody.

890
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 1: All just said and me too included.

891
00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 2: It's funny because I feel like I've had so many

892
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:59,400
Speaker 2: moments in my early twenties where it's like people just

893
00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 2: start trying to prove how much they love themselves. I'm like,

894
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:06,360
Speaker 2: bitterly all hate yeah, And I really appreciate that now

895
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 2: I'm in this age of vulnerability because one of my

896
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 2: favorite things a friend ever said to me.

897
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,960
Speaker 3: His name is Brandon Allen. We started sex sells together

898
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:15,400
Speaker 3: and we were on the phone.

899
00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 2: I was like, I fucking hate this shit. I'm like,

900
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 2: He's like, what's wrong. I was like, I'm just fat today, Bro.

901
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:22,319
Speaker 2: I really like being able to talk to someone like this.

902
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:24,799
Speaker 2: Fuck the fat phobic shit. Put just let me talk

903
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:27,279
Speaker 2: in here. I feel like this, I feel like that

904
00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:30,320
Speaker 2: I hate my hair. He's like, yo, I love saying

905
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:32,800
Speaker 2: I hate myself. He's like, sometimes it feels almost like

906
00:40:33,520 --> 00:40:38,040
Speaker 2: it's empowering to just like say I hate my fucking job.

907
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 2: Like whatever it is, because there's a little bit of

908
00:40:40,719 --> 00:40:43,880
Speaker 2: overdosing of positivity that sometimes you really want to know

909
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:46,080
Speaker 2: what you want to improve. And maybe it's that New

910
00:40:46,160 --> 00:40:48,640
Speaker 2: Yorker like cynicism sometimes, but it can be a little

911
00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 2: bit freeing. And I don't think I got to understand

912
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 2: that self worth thing because I had such blinders on

913
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:57,400
Speaker 2: of trying to prove that I loved who I was.

914
00:40:57,920 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 1: I really needed to figure out what it was that

915
00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:02,799
Speaker 1: I did. Yes, that that is what I worked on.

916
00:41:03,040 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 4: That's what I worked on that no therapist could fucking

917
00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 4: way that mirror, girl, you have to sit in that

918
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:10,319
Speaker 4: shit and guess what else taught me that being with

919
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:13,759
Speaker 4: a good fucking man, being in a good relationship with

920
00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:17,440
Speaker 4: a solid man who's honest with you and doesn't fucking

921
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:21,040
Speaker 4: play games and is intentional with your feelings was the

922
00:41:21,080 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 4: scariest thing that I've ever done, Scarier than getting out

923
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 4: of any relationship, because I really had to be like, fuck,

924
00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 4: like I thought I did the work. I thought I

925
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 4: was doing self work. I thought that I knew where

926
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 4: I was going. But I still have so much more

927
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:35,560
Speaker 4: to do, Because why am I about to crash the

928
00:41:35,640 --> 00:41:38,439
Speaker 4: fuck out off of the smallest thing that this man

929
00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 4: has said to me that isn't even negative, Like you

930
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:45,400
Speaker 4: have to, you have to because we love someone figure

931
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:49,880
Speaker 4: it out. Feedback yes, and you're like, oh, okay, the

932
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:52,040
Speaker 4: things that are bubbling up inside of me have nothing

933
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:54,319
Speaker 4: to do with you, right, It has everything to do

934
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 4: with me, so I still have things that I need

935
00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:56,319
Speaker 4: to worry.

936
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 2: What you're experiencing is interesting because that saying it's a

937
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:02,480
Speaker 2: health relationship. The ways in which men would try to

938
00:42:02,520 --> 00:42:04,720
Speaker 2: tell me about myself always came when they.

939
00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:06,720
Speaker 3: Were angry with me, not to be helpful.

940
00:42:07,120 --> 00:42:09,800
Speaker 2: And I recently had this experience where I was crashing

941
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,680
Speaker 2: out in a work and like family moment, and it

942
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:16,359
Speaker 2: was this long conversation of like, you feel fulfilled from

943
00:42:16,360 --> 00:42:20,920
Speaker 2: busyness because all the busyness does is put a mask

944
00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:23,279
Speaker 2: over your real issues. So then you get to have

945
00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 2: another accolade that makes you feel like you're better at

946
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 2: what you're doing when you still have this that's unfinished,

947
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:30,839
Speaker 2: whether it be an organizational thing or whatever it is.

948
00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:33,640
Speaker 2: A new accomplishment doesn't fix the problem right here.

949
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:35,399
Speaker 1: I a lot, do you? I like, don't even telling

950
00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 1: me that?

951
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:44,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, of course. Oh let's go.

952
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:48,359
Speaker 2: On a different on a different wavelength with this. How

953
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 2: has public or private kind of helped your relationship? And

954
00:42:52,719 --> 00:42:55,920
Speaker 2: I want to talk generally because everyone listening may not

955
00:42:55,960 --> 00:42:59,239
Speaker 2: be a public figure, but privacy with relationships, whether it

956
00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 2: be the things you share it to your friends or

957
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:04,360
Speaker 2: the things you share to social media, tell me how public.

958
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:07,239
Speaker 2: Everybody always doys making your relationship public, runs it, but

959
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:09,600
Speaker 2: maybe some of the ways that it may have been healthy,

960
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 2: or just share a little bit about that.

961
00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:12,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I know you be high in the.

962
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 4: Hig I do. I wizard killing my man all the time.

963
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 4: Chop it off like I just And this is why,

964
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:20,319
Speaker 4: because a lot of people will look at it and

965
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 4: be like, oh, she's afraid that if she posts her

966
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:25,360
Speaker 4: man's face, the bitches are going to be in his

967
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:27,719
Speaker 4: DMS or whatever. People have fucking said that to me. Right,

968
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 4: I have no concerns about that. Do not give a

969
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:32,759
Speaker 4: fuck it. When you can take my man, then you

970
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:33,400
Speaker 4: can take my man.

971
00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:33,879
Speaker 1: Bye.

972
00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:36,959
Speaker 4: Oh I don't give a shit, right, see you later.

973
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:41,680
Speaker 4: That's the confidence before, in the middle and after a relationship.

974
00:43:41,719 --> 00:43:42,719
Speaker 4: I'm still gonna have it.

975
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:46,440
Speaker 1: Does he post you? No, he doesn't disagree. He does.

976
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:49,960
Speaker 4: He posts workshit. I told him from the beginning that

977
00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:53,120
Speaker 4: I wasn't going to post him. Okay, that was my conversation.

978
00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 4: He completely respected it. And here's why I think that,

979
00:43:57,480 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 4: whether you're a public facing person or not, you can

980
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:04,640
Speaker 4: really late to having taken a photo with or posted

981
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 4: a photo with your partner when you know y'all weren't

982
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:10,880
Speaker 4: in a good fucking place or even not even just

983
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:13,640
Speaker 4: a partner of yourself taking a smiling selfie when you

984
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:15,560
Speaker 4: were just bawling your eyes out five.

985
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:17,360
Speaker 1: Seconds, I'll be hot in my body.

986
00:44:18,239 --> 00:44:20,359
Speaker 4: And we all do it. We all. This is why

987
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 4: I say life as a catfish. We all do it.

988
00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:25,400
Speaker 4: We only want to put out the best versions of

989
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:30,319
Speaker 4: ourselves all the time. We do, like that's just how

990
00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:34,280
Speaker 4: we are. And I was looking back at how many

991
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:38,840
Speaker 4: times I had posted pictures in my previous relationships, knowing

992
00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:42,520
Speaker 4: damn well that we were either beefing at the moment,

993
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:45,800
Speaker 4: immediately beefing before, or immediately beefing after.

994
00:44:46,040 --> 00:44:48,919
Speaker 2: I've had an immediately beef after. I never posted someone

995
00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 2: while we were beefing, but I've definitely like posted stories

996
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 2: when I was my ex and I lived into Loom

997
00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 2: together during the pandemic, like you would have fun, and

998
00:44:56,960 --> 00:45:00,759
Speaker 2: then maybe ten minutes later, I was like, damn yeah.

999
00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:02,000
Speaker 4: But you kind of like are in and out of that,

1000
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:04,239
Speaker 4: and you're like, well, we're gonna get out of it,

1001
00:45:04,320 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 4: so like it's still true, like I still love.

1002
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:08,400
Speaker 1: Did you look back at those photos that you posted

1003
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:11,239
Speaker 1: and then questioned yourself like, why the fuck did I

1004
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:11,640
Speaker 1: post this?

1005
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:11,799
Speaker 3: Then?

1006
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:16,960
Speaker 1: Am I in this relationship for society's perception of me

1007
00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:19,360
Speaker 1: being happy in a relationship and me being a girlfriend

1008
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 1: or what is my reason for sharing this with.

1009
00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:28,680
Speaker 2: Sat part right, because I haven't posted anything. I posted

1010
00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:30,920
Speaker 2: a video of him rubbing my feet like in a

1011
00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 2: little carousel, and it was just because it was kind

1012
00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:37,759
Speaker 2: of fun and sexy, and yeah, but I did have

1013
00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 2: a little insecurity of I wonder.

1014
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:40,880
Speaker 3: If people think this brings me value.

1015
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 2: But also that's an insecurity itself, because it's like Nigga,

1016
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,880
Speaker 2: I've posted myself in a bathing suit and people probably

1017
00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:47,719
Speaker 2: think I want the validation I do.

1018
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:51,120
Speaker 4: Duah, I look good, So yeah, I'm gonna post that.

1019
00:45:51,400 --> 00:45:53,919
Speaker 4: The comments are on and but that is very very real,

1020
00:45:54,120 --> 00:45:57,200
Speaker 4: like I And it's not that I don't post my

1021
00:45:57,239 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 4: boyfriend because all of our moments are bad. All of

1022
00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:02,399
Speaker 4: our moments are actually fucking amazing. We don't fight. We've

1023
00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 4: been together for two years. We have conversations, we don't argue.

1024
00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 4: We've had I can count on one hand how many

1025
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:10,440
Speaker 4: times we've actually argued.

1026
00:46:10,640 --> 00:46:12,920
Speaker 3: That's healthy, but I call it disagreements.

1027
00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:14,439
Speaker 4: Disagreements. We don't fight.

1028
00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 1: We disagree.

1029
00:46:15,200 --> 00:46:17,319
Speaker 2: I mean, you got a hear on me, but I'm

1030
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 2: gonna hold you. I've definitely fought with men within the year.

1031
00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:23,680
Speaker 6: Yeah, oh for four months, and by four months, I'm like,

1032
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 6: it's surprised, but that's the time, that's the reality, and

1033
00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 6: you're still posting and you're still it's fake.

1034
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:35,399
Speaker 4: I feel like everybody, everybody's doing it. I'm gonna keep

1035
00:46:35,760 --> 00:46:38,760
Speaker 4: And I also know people who are posting family photos

1036
00:46:38,760 --> 00:46:40,640
Speaker 4: and all this ship when they I know, what the

1037
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 4: fuck is going on in your relationship?

1038
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:45,359
Speaker 1: What do you What are some of the arguments that

1039
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:48,280
Speaker 1: in four months, like, oh, I'm.

1040
00:46:48,120 --> 00:46:52,480
Speaker 4: Curious insecurities Okay, not even I mean I've had a

1041
00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:54,000
Speaker 4: man argue with me about the fact that I wanted

1042
00:46:54,000 --> 00:46:56,520
Speaker 4: to wear leggings one time, Like these are the things

1043
00:46:56,560 --> 00:46:59,200
Speaker 4: that these are precursors that we should be paying attention

1044
00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 4: to and red flag that we missed. But I have

1045
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:06,400
Speaker 4: chosen to protect what is sacred to me because I

1046
00:47:06,440 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 4: don't have to prove anything to anybody.

1047
00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:08,960
Speaker 3: You think, I mean thinking, what.

1048
00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 2: Were my earliest arguments about men, my male friendships, their insecurities,

1049
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:17,320
Speaker 2: possibly horrible decisions I've.

1050
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:20,839
Speaker 4: Really because of the conversation.

1051
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:23,319
Speaker 3: Being shared the yeah a guy that I.

1052
00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:26,680
Speaker 4: Was as if they didn't know that you did that before, Like.

1053
00:47:26,680 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 1: Dating a stripper and being like, I don't want you

1054
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:30,719
Speaker 1: to be in the strip club no more, you know what,

1055
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:33,240
Speaker 1: the like I'd be like, man, this is the taraground.

1056
00:47:34,400 --> 00:47:37,560
Speaker 1: It's not even me, but no, I mean, it's this thing.

1057
00:47:37,800 --> 00:47:39,719
Speaker 3: I would catch myself trying to I don't I never

1058
00:47:39,760 --> 00:47:40,000
Speaker 3: said that.

1059
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:42,040
Speaker 1: I'm just joking here, but I mean I would try to,

1060
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 1: but I was trying to deflect, like not, well, the

1061
00:47:45,719 --> 00:47:47,279
Speaker 1: whole stories are old.

1062
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:49,080
Speaker 3: Oh well we interview people now.

1063
00:47:49,080 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 2: I would find myself saying these things to try to

1064
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 2: cover up something that is ridiculous because the women that

1065
00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:57,960
Speaker 2: are here listening and the men that are here listening

1066
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:02,480
Speaker 2: in the dems, M okay, they're appreciating my vulnerability and

1067
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:04,120
Speaker 2: how out and loud and proud I am.

1068
00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:06,160
Speaker 3: That's the premise of the show. But I would find

1069
00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:07,480
Speaker 3: myself progressing.

1070
00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:11,160
Speaker 2: And it's easier in my thirties and comparatively speaking from

1071
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:13,839
Speaker 2: the twenties on this show, because it's never like I

1072
00:48:13,880 --> 00:48:14,600
Speaker 2: wasn't proud about it.

1073
00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:17,359
Speaker 1: I was, yeah, I just became victim to the patriarchy.

1074
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:20,800
Speaker 2: In those conversations when my self worth was being questioned

1075
00:48:20,840 --> 00:48:25,239
Speaker 2: by someone else based on me doing what I think

1076
00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:30,399
Speaker 2: is liberating. It was tough, and I now have really

1077
00:48:30,520 --> 00:48:33,640
Speaker 2: letting that go. I've had some great relationships now with

1078
00:48:33,760 --> 00:48:36,319
Speaker 2: men and dating experiences where I see how proud they

1079
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:37,600
Speaker 2: aren't excited by what I do.

1080
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 3: Hate to admit it.

1081
00:48:38,760 --> 00:48:41,439
Speaker 2: My man's a real estate investor, But the best ones

1082
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:45,359
Speaker 2: for me have been men entertainment. They've completely respected. They'd

1083
00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 2: be like, oh yeah, because they get it. They can

1084
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:49,160
Speaker 2: look at a clip of me talking about another dick

1085
00:48:49,160 --> 00:48:51,600
Speaker 2: and be like yoa sha it was hilarious, whereas another

1086
00:48:51,719 --> 00:48:55,960
Speaker 2: dude who maybe isn't in the space of performance, thinks

1087
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:57,279
Speaker 2: I'm missing.

1088
00:48:57,000 --> 00:49:01,120
Speaker 1: The day and I can't explain not to you.

1089
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:03,279
Speaker 3: You're never gonna be not sometimes I'm missing it.

1090
00:49:04,160 --> 00:49:09,359
Speaker 1: Fuck you mean. I'd be like, bitch, I'm reminiscent. Don't camera.

1091
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:18,720
Speaker 2: Thought it was like a drum, But also that's that's

1092
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:19,279
Speaker 2: real too.

1093
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:21,799
Speaker 1: It's so crazy because one of our clips, uh, from

1094
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:24,239
Speaker 1: one of our old episodes just went around and it

1095
00:49:24,280 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 1: was like, have you ever thought of another dick while

1096
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:29,840
Speaker 1: you were fucking someone else? Yes, we are human beings

1097
00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:32,880
Speaker 1: that have compared though, like if I'm having. If I

1098
00:49:32,920 --> 00:49:36,560
Speaker 1: had a really good sexual experience anally, I would hope

1099
00:49:36,560 --> 00:49:38,400
Speaker 1: I can recreate this with someone else if I'm no

1100
00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:41,399
Speaker 1: longer dealing with that person. The art of comparison isn't

1101
00:49:41,400 --> 00:49:42,359
Speaker 1: always a people joy.

1102
00:49:42,400 --> 00:49:45,759
Speaker 3: To be honest, I actually don't think recreating an experience.

1103
00:49:45,480 --> 00:49:47,560
Speaker 1: Not even recreating but the feeling it made you feel.

1104
00:49:47,600 --> 00:49:50,680
Speaker 1: You're telling me you had you haven't had such great

1105
00:49:51,040 --> 00:49:55,080
Speaker 1: successful threesomes that you're hoping that you could have another

1106
00:49:55,120 --> 00:49:58,640
Speaker 1: success like and so you're thinking of how successful it

1107
00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 1: was with these people. I hope that I can have

1108
00:50:01,200 --> 00:50:03,280
Speaker 1: another one of these. Like there's a way to compare

1109
00:50:03,320 --> 00:50:05,600
Speaker 1: where you don't have to be emotionally attached to that

1110
00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:09,440
Speaker 1: person to want to recreate or experience an experience.

1111
00:50:10,360 --> 00:50:12,160
Speaker 4: Negative experience that you had where you're like, oh my god,

1112
00:50:12,200 --> 00:50:12,959
Speaker 4: I hope this doesn't happening.

1113
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:14,840
Speaker 1: I hope this isn't happening again, and it's not a

1114
00:50:14,880 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 1: bad thing. Like I think we lead with the idea

1115
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:20,080
Speaker 1: of insecurity, and that's when it's really like we are

1116
00:50:20,160 --> 00:50:20,800
Speaker 1: human beings.

1117
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:25,800
Speaker 2: That's what keeps me from anal I hope experience and

1118
00:50:26,239 --> 00:50:28,800
Speaker 2: like it makes me think every time I'm getting close.

1119
00:50:29,080 --> 00:50:32,440
Speaker 1: But but but remembering good experiences with someone shouldn't draw

1120
00:50:32,520 --> 00:50:34,560
Speaker 1: out or pull out an insecurity and someone else either.

1121
00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:37,479
Speaker 1: Like when I was reading, like when I heard myself speak,

1122
00:50:37,520 --> 00:50:39,879
Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't believe people are mad that I've

1123
00:50:39,920 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 1: thought about something that was great in the moment of

1124
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:45,040
Speaker 1: experiencing kind of the same thing to me. It could

1125
00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:47,319
Speaker 1: you could dumb it down to like your first time

1126
00:50:47,360 --> 00:50:49,160
Speaker 1: going to a theme park and getting on a roller

1127
00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:50,840
Speaker 1: coaster and the thrill.

1128
00:50:50,640 --> 00:50:52,239
Speaker 3: That it gave you when you go back on the

1129
00:50:52,320 --> 00:50:52,960
Speaker 3: roller coaster again.

1130
00:50:53,000 --> 00:50:58,240
Speaker 1: Don't you want to feel that you're.

1131
00:50:56,600 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 3: Painting what you said?

1132
00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:01,400
Speaker 4: Now we're at six flights?

1133
00:51:05,560 --> 00:51:08,640
Speaker 1: What this bitch saying? What I do? If I'm getting

1134
00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 1: some dick and it ain't good, I'm gonna think about

1135
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:12,360
Speaker 1: the other dick? Is that not what they guy you

1136
00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:16,600
Speaker 1: said you were highlight it?

1137
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:20,200
Speaker 4: Listen, what I don't want to think that if I'm

1138
00:51:20,200 --> 00:51:22,400
Speaker 4: fucking my man, he's thinking about other experiences.

1139
00:51:22,400 --> 00:51:25,920
Speaker 1: Okay, fine, just so just to me, you want to

1140
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:29,759
Speaker 1: be in d Lulu? Fine? Okay? I mean everyone should

1141
00:51:29,760 --> 00:51:32,920
Speaker 1: actually just admit that they they don't want the truth

1142
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:35,279
Speaker 1: if they can't handle it, that they want to be

1143
00:51:35,360 --> 00:51:38,560
Speaker 1: delusional without even recognizing the fact that you have the

1144
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:41,240
Speaker 1: ability to do the same thing. Like, we are human

1145
00:51:41,280 --> 00:51:44,120
Speaker 1: beings and for whatever reason, when we get into fucking relationships,

1146
00:51:44,320 --> 00:51:46,800
Speaker 1: we want to act like all of our human traits

1147
00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 1: go out of the window. We have the discipline and

1148
00:51:49,520 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 1: the ability to shut off ship that we don't have companion.

1149
00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:54,120
Speaker 1: If you still think about that, dick, then just say

1150
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:56,560
Speaker 1: damn but no, because that's what I'm saying. You don't

1151
00:51:56,560 --> 00:51:58,160
Speaker 1: want to be You don't want it to be told.

1152
00:51:58,400 --> 00:52:01,240
Speaker 3: Like even even in in in clo.

1153
00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:03,600
Speaker 4: I like to pretend like my man has never had

1154
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:07,040
Speaker 4: sex with anybody and he has a daughter and I

1155
00:52:07,160 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 4: still but he'll tell me. I'll like, you're my first

1156
00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:09,800
Speaker 4: sexual experience.

1157
00:52:09,840 --> 00:52:12,760
Speaker 1: I'm like, you have a kid, yo, that is crazy.

1158
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:17,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, he's never seen any other woman for me, because I.

1159
00:52:17,520 --> 00:52:19,920
Speaker 2: Don't know what placement my nigga got in scorpio. But

1160
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:22,440
Speaker 2: there's a lot of times where we'll talk about high

1161
00:52:22,480 --> 00:52:24,359
Speaker 2: school in my virginity and he'd be like, I can't

1162
00:52:24,400 --> 00:52:24,799
Speaker 2: believe you.

1163
00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:28,200
Speaker 1: See yeah, because it's a territory thing. We're like, no,

1164
00:52:28,200 --> 00:52:30,839
Speaker 1: nobody's had. It's kind of hot though, Okay, nobody's had.

1165
00:52:31,239 --> 00:52:33,360
Speaker 1: I do want to know because you've got all this

1166
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:34,280
Speaker 1: catfish experience.

1167
00:52:34,400 --> 00:52:37,400
Speaker 3: We need to know. Have you ever been got fished?

1168
00:52:37,600 --> 00:52:37,960
Speaker 4: Yes?

1169
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:39,040
Speaker 1: How was it? What?

1170
00:52:39,520 --> 00:52:42,360
Speaker 4: It was? Not a romantic relationship. It was a friend

1171
00:52:42,640 --> 00:52:44,719
Speaker 4: that I knew in real life. This is why I

1172
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:48,600
Speaker 4: say you can be catfished by people that you know.

1173
00:52:48,640 --> 00:52:49,760
Speaker 4: It doesn't have to be strangers.

1174
00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:53,680
Speaker 1: Tell me this tea. Did I about the bridle? About

1175
00:52:53,680 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 1: the engagement? Mary?

1176
00:52:54,800 --> 00:52:56,480
Speaker 4: Yes? So what she got engaged?

1177
00:52:58,400 --> 00:53:03,480
Speaker 1: Can you tell the story? Where's my drink? I need

1178
00:53:03,480 --> 00:53:06,600
Speaker 1: a cocktail? No, I'm like, I need a cigarette.

1179
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:08,120
Speaker 4: Ive never smoked cigarette in my life, but I feel

1180
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:10,080
Speaker 4: like in my thirties, I'm going to pick up cigarettes

1181
00:53:10,120 --> 00:53:11,399
Speaker 4: because this.

1182
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:11,960
Speaker 3: Is my hot take.

1183
00:53:12,000 --> 00:53:15,759
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I know they'll kill you sometimes cigarettes be

1184
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:16,799
Speaker 2: looking taxi, you.

1185
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:19,919
Speaker 1: See that, and especially if it's a swaggy buther.

1186
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:23,879
Speaker 4: I really want one of those long pipe divorce cigarette. Yeah,

1187
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 4: that's what I want.

1188
00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:27,359
Speaker 1: You know why, I know it's not sexy because I've

1189
00:53:27,560 --> 00:53:30,399
Speaker 1: dated a smoker before, and kissing someone who smokes it's

1190
00:53:30,480 --> 00:53:34,279
Speaker 1: the worst. So to me, now, as soon as as

1191
00:53:34,320 --> 00:53:36,799
Speaker 1: soon as I see someone smoking a cigarette, you got

1192
00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:39,800
Speaker 1: yung mouth now and now you're not not The tape

1193
00:53:41,160 --> 00:53:43,160
Speaker 1: disgusting it's not it just yup.

1194
00:53:43,239 --> 00:53:46,000
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie, like, yeah, there is a I.

1195
00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:47,080
Speaker 1: Think it's not a cigarette.

1196
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:48,480
Speaker 3: It's just sometimes smoked.

1197
00:53:48,760 --> 00:53:50,879
Speaker 1: You should see now when I like hukah, when it's

1198
00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:54,319
Speaker 1: say smoker, When it's say smoker on a on a

1199
00:53:54,520 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 1: dating profile, wheedle cigarettes, Like there is a difference between

1200
00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:00,440
Speaker 1: a cigarette smoker and a week I would assume it's

1201
00:54:00,480 --> 00:54:03,839
Speaker 1: weed always. If it's well, go back to the tea

1202
00:54:03,880 --> 00:54:04,319
Speaker 1: on his hup.

1203
00:54:04,560 --> 00:54:07,200
Speaker 4: Oh god, okay, so see we got off topic.

1204
00:54:07,280 --> 00:54:07,680
Speaker 5: That's right.

1205
00:54:07,800 --> 00:54:08,080
Speaker 1: She won't.

1206
00:54:08,120 --> 00:54:10,640
Speaker 4: I tried my best. She don't see because she sees

1207
00:54:10,680 --> 00:54:14,960
Speaker 4: everything she Okay, Without saying exactly who this person was

1208
00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:16,480
Speaker 4: to me, this was a very close person to me,

1209
00:54:16,520 --> 00:54:20,480
Speaker 4: a very very close friend of mine, and we actually

1210
00:54:20,560 --> 00:54:26,520
Speaker 4: lived together at one point. She had fabricated a million stories,

1211
00:54:26,520 --> 00:54:28,640
Speaker 4: but one of them, in particular, was that she was

1212
00:54:28,719 --> 00:54:33,120
Speaker 4: engaged to this very rich guy who was flying her

1213
00:54:33,160 --> 00:54:36,160
Speaker 4: all over the world, who was buying her all of

1214
00:54:36,200 --> 00:54:38,480
Speaker 4: these bags and shit that I never saw. Because she

1215
00:54:38,520 --> 00:54:40,920
Speaker 4: said that she didn't trust them being in our apartment.

1216
00:54:41,520 --> 00:54:45,840
Speaker 4: She needed to send them somewhere else and undisclosed location.

1217
00:54:46,040 --> 00:54:48,640
Speaker 4: Because I was just like, okay, like I was my

1218
00:54:48,680 --> 00:54:51,440
Speaker 4: friend de loopad and developed yet on anybody. So I

1219
00:54:51,600 --> 00:54:54,440
Speaker 4: was really just like okay, like, and I also like

1220
00:54:54,920 --> 00:54:57,960
Speaker 4: your friends if y'all told each other a situation like

1221
00:54:58,000 --> 00:54:59,760
Speaker 4: oh my god, I met this man. You're not assuming

1222
00:54:59,800 --> 00:55:01,120
Speaker 4: that the person's lying.

1223
00:55:00,880 --> 00:55:02,440
Speaker 3: Because you've got to be proven.

1224
00:55:02,840 --> 00:55:05,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, well I'm you're my bitch, Like why would you

1225
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:07,960
Speaker 4: lie to me? We've been friends for eleven years, Like you're.

1226
00:55:07,840 --> 00:55:09,560
Speaker 1: Not like eleven years.

1227
00:55:09,640 --> 00:55:15,120
Speaker 4: Listen, She's telling me intricate stories about this man is family, names,

1228
00:55:15,360 --> 00:55:20,520
Speaker 4: best friends, places, people, things, nouns. Bitch. Now, all of

1229
00:55:20,560 --> 00:55:23,319
Speaker 4: it was fake. All of it was All of it

1230
00:55:23,360 --> 00:55:26,680
Speaker 4: was made up. She created emails. She had an engagement

1231
00:55:26,719 --> 00:55:28,680
Speaker 4: party that she knew that I wasn't going to be

1232
00:55:28,719 --> 00:55:31,400
Speaker 4: able to make because I had a shoot. She created

1233
00:55:31,440 --> 00:55:35,080
Speaker 4: an email to like tell me about it, to like

1234
00:55:35,160 --> 00:55:37,480
Speaker 4: invite me to it, to say that this man was

1235
00:55:37,520 --> 00:55:39,719
Speaker 4: going to have private jets like chartered from a bunch

1236
00:55:39,719 --> 00:55:43,359
Speaker 4: of different cities, which like, in my mind, that's not

1237
00:55:43,440 --> 00:55:46,279
Speaker 4: like a non that's not like a crazy idea. I'm like, oh, yeah,

1238
00:55:46,400 --> 00:55:49,120
Speaker 4: private jet coming because he's rich. Yeah, but also like

1239
00:55:49,600 --> 00:55:52,200
Speaker 4: I'm from Potomac, Maryland, Like private jets are not new

1240
00:55:52,239 --> 00:55:56,720
Speaker 4: to me, so I'm like, oh, I am the realist,

1241
00:55:56,760 --> 00:56:02,400
Speaker 4: non high school housewife's but it's not like crazy to

1242
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:07,400
Speaker 4: me that this could be a possibility. She was very detailed,

1243
00:56:07,440 --> 00:56:09,799
Speaker 4: like calling me, texting me being like, oh, bitch, I

1244
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:12,400
Speaker 4: just landed in fucking Paris, it's so cold here, Like

1245
00:56:12,400 --> 00:56:14,799
Speaker 4: I should have brought my other jacket. Tomorrow we're going

1246
00:56:14,840 --> 00:56:18,279
Speaker 4: to Oh, we just got into a friend. She was

1247
00:56:18,560 --> 00:56:19,560
Speaker 4: at her parents house.

1248
00:56:20,040 --> 00:56:22,360
Speaker 3: That is a serial killer. You know what's crazy?

1249
00:56:22,480 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think you can pick up on liars.

1250
00:56:26,640 --> 00:56:28,640
Speaker 1: That is one of the traits that after a while

1251
00:56:29,360 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 1: I will keep you at an arm links distance.

1252
00:56:31,560 --> 00:56:33,359
Speaker 4: We never spoke. I don't like people when I found

1253
00:56:33,400 --> 00:56:34,560
Speaker 4: out we never I don't.

1254
00:56:34,400 --> 00:56:37,560
Speaker 1: Like people who their own reality, I think because I

1255
00:56:37,560 --> 00:56:39,399
Speaker 1: think those are the most scary people.

1256
00:56:39,400 --> 00:56:42,440
Speaker 3: How she feels about you. A lot of people have

1257
00:56:42,520 --> 00:56:44,520
Speaker 3: told me that, so like, here's what they want to

1258
00:56:44,560 --> 00:56:49,000
Speaker 3: compete with you. Friend is like, but I don't people.

1259
00:56:49,040 --> 00:56:51,680
Speaker 4: I don't think about my friends like that, meaning I

1260
00:56:51,719 --> 00:56:53,719
Speaker 4: don't think I don't know you.

1261
00:56:53,719 --> 00:56:53,799
Speaker 5: You.

1262
00:56:54,800 --> 00:56:57,239
Speaker 1: To me, a person is not your friend, and you

1263
00:56:57,400 --> 00:57:01,600
Speaker 1: cannot be friends with someone who is of you in

1264
00:57:01,680 --> 00:57:04,200
Speaker 1: any capacity, whether it's your looks or your career, or

1265
00:57:04,200 --> 00:57:07,000
Speaker 1: your financial stability, or your relationship, which is why for

1266
00:57:07,120 --> 00:57:08,600
Speaker 1: y'all they keep asking if I'm ever gonna be a

1267
00:57:08,640 --> 00:57:09,440
Speaker 1: friend with somebody.

1268
00:57:09,600 --> 00:57:11,560
Speaker 3: She admitted on air that she was jealous of me.

1269
00:57:11,800 --> 00:57:13,280
Speaker 3: We can never be friends again.

1270
00:57:13,840 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 1: So to me, I don't want anyone that the audience knows,

1271
00:57:19,520 --> 00:57:24,120
Speaker 1: I don't want in any capacity anyone that's that way.

1272
00:57:24,400 --> 00:57:26,520
Speaker 1: So not only jealous of that. I should have saw

1273
00:57:26,600 --> 00:57:28,760
Speaker 1: the science, because my ex saw the science. If you

1274
00:57:28,800 --> 00:57:31,440
Speaker 1: are friends with somebody and they call you their rich friend,

1275
00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:33,040
Speaker 1: that is not.

1276
00:57:33,000 --> 00:57:37,880
Speaker 5: Your friend, your Holly, your Hollywood friend, that that is

1277
00:57:37,880 --> 00:57:39,600
Speaker 5: one of the most Hollywood.

1278
00:57:39,600 --> 00:57:41,840
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna lie your rich friend they are. They

1279
00:57:41,960 --> 00:57:45,920
Speaker 1: are envious of however your finances are. They are they

1280
00:57:46,120 --> 00:57:49,680
Speaker 1: want it, and in whatever capacity, it does not make

1281
00:57:49,720 --> 00:57:52,000
Speaker 1: them feel good to know that they are putting you

1282
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:54,840
Speaker 1: on this pedestal where it's going to wreak envy. That

1283
00:57:54,920 --> 00:57:55,680
Speaker 1: is not a friend.

1284
00:57:55,920 --> 00:57:57,920
Speaker 2: That is not the only one that I do with

1285
00:57:58,120 --> 00:58:02,120
Speaker 2: genuinely like teasing intention because oh like you're rich.

1286
00:58:02,480 --> 00:58:05,680
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean I think something cute.

1287
00:58:05,720 --> 00:58:08,760
Speaker 4: I think there's a difference with how you say something

1288
00:58:08,880 --> 00:58:10,320
Speaker 4: and also where you are in.

1289
00:58:10,240 --> 00:58:12,560
Speaker 3: Life and how you where you are in life.

1290
00:58:12,680 --> 00:58:16,480
Speaker 4: Yes, because there are billionaires who call each other yeah,

1291
00:58:16,560 --> 00:58:18,640
Speaker 4: oh that's my rich friend. He has more money than me.

1292
00:58:18,680 --> 00:58:22,200
Speaker 4: But it's not like you're both billionaires so you're happy.

1293
00:58:22,080 --> 00:58:22,280
Speaker 1: You know.

1294
00:58:22,400 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 3: I find that which is from being at mama house.

1295
00:58:25,240 --> 00:58:28,200
Speaker 2: When there's something that the person wants that's a passion.

1296
00:58:29,600 --> 00:58:31,720
Speaker 2: This doesn't really happen to me where I have friends

1297
00:58:31,720 --> 00:58:34,440
Speaker 2: that have values that are different, which is why, actually

1298
00:58:34,480 --> 00:58:36,000
Speaker 2: I think a lot of my friendships are different. I

1299
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 2: don't really have too many friends in the exact same lane.

1300
00:58:38,640 --> 00:58:41,280
Speaker 2: I thought, that's I mean close friends, right, Yeah, but

1301
00:58:42,080 --> 00:58:45,160
Speaker 2: I wonder if there's something in particular that was going

1302
00:58:45,200 --> 00:58:47,439
Speaker 2: on in your life at that time that was hard

1303
00:58:47,440 --> 00:58:50,760
Speaker 2: for her to maybe see. And sometimes with conventionally beautiful people,

1304
00:58:51,680 --> 00:58:55,160
Speaker 2: most the most attractive women I know have been been

1305
00:58:55,240 --> 00:58:56,520
Speaker 2: burnt the most from other women.

1306
00:58:57,320 --> 00:58:59,439
Speaker 4: And I've been burned a lot. I've had a lot

1307
00:58:59,480 --> 00:59:04,400
Speaker 4: of friends, But guess what, I feel like all my

1308
00:59:04,440 --> 00:59:06,480
Speaker 4: friends are bad bitches, no matter what they look like,

1309
00:59:06,960 --> 00:59:09,720
Speaker 4: who they date. What's saying I'm talking. Can you can

1310
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:11,840
Speaker 4: work all the time bank? You can work at fucking

1311
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:13,760
Speaker 4: safe way? That's different thought.

1312
00:59:13,960 --> 00:59:16,120
Speaker 1: This is a real thing that we got to pretend,

1313
00:59:16,240 --> 00:59:16,720
Speaker 1: not pretend.

1314
00:59:16,720 --> 00:59:17,280
Speaker 3: It's in the world.

1315
00:59:17,680 --> 00:59:22,880
Speaker 2: Conventionally, pretty people a lot, no matter how much money

1316
00:59:22,960 --> 00:59:25,400
Speaker 2: someone's got, no matter if their body skinnier, hair, this,

1317
00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:30,120
Speaker 2: or that. Sometimes the world treats you different, and it's

1318
00:59:30,160 --> 00:59:34,480
Speaker 2: something that they may never receive. I have learned to love.

1319
00:59:34,600 --> 00:59:37,160
Speaker 2: There's something about me that I feel like, no bitch

1320
00:59:37,200 --> 00:59:39,720
Speaker 2: can never view me on. I think it's my personality.

1321
00:59:40,080 --> 00:59:42,600
Speaker 2: I know I'm warm. I know that's a real genuine thing.

1322
00:59:42,960 --> 00:59:45,600
Speaker 2: And I love being a light in a room and

1323
00:59:45,680 --> 00:59:49,960
Speaker 2: energy to say. I just know that, like even if

1324
00:59:50,000 --> 00:59:53,440
Speaker 2: I'm in a room with the fucking hottest models.

1325
00:59:53,440 --> 00:59:55,440
Speaker 3: Still funny, bitch.

1326
00:59:55,280 --> 00:59:57,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, hello, and I believe and I still believe I'm beautiful.

1327
00:59:57,920 --> 01:00:00,640
Speaker 2: But I really personality is shined through my whole life. Yes,

1328
01:00:00,840 --> 01:00:03,479
Speaker 2: my ugly duckling phases and now I got I gotta

1329
01:00:03,520 --> 01:00:04,280
Speaker 2: really be funny.

1330
01:00:04,280 --> 01:00:04,480
Speaker 1: Wait.

1331
01:00:04,520 --> 01:00:06,280
Speaker 4: I love braces. I was gonna tell you how cute

1332
01:00:06,320 --> 01:00:07,320
Speaker 4: they are. I love them.

1333
01:00:07,400 --> 01:00:07,920
Speaker 3: I think everybody.

1334
01:00:09,080 --> 01:00:10,919
Speaker 4: No, I had braces for two years, and I thought

1335
01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:13,160
Speaker 4: I was cute as fuck. I had all my little.

1336
01:00:12,880 --> 01:00:16,919
Speaker 1: Colors because you convincionally. But I really do think there's

1337
01:00:16,920 --> 01:00:18,400
Speaker 1: a lot of people that think I'm fucking ugly. You

1338
01:00:18,440 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 1: should see under my fucking posts because you want to

1339
01:00:20,480 --> 01:00:23,800
Speaker 1: carry it on my comments and people invisible. Anytime I

1340
01:00:23,840 --> 01:00:25,600
Speaker 1: think that the world, hey, I just go under a

1341
01:00:25,600 --> 01:00:27,600
Speaker 1: comment where people try to act like Cardi b ain't

1342
01:00:27,640 --> 01:00:29,040
Speaker 1: hert and I'd be like, y'all just mad.

1343
01:00:29,200 --> 01:00:32,840
Speaker 4: You can't convince me that I don't. You can't convince

1344
01:00:32,880 --> 01:00:34,800
Speaker 4: me that I'm not fine. You're never gonna be. You're

1345
01:00:34,840 --> 01:00:35,680
Speaker 4: never gonna convince me.

1346
01:00:35,720 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 1: Do you know?

1347
01:00:36,040 --> 01:00:37,480
Speaker 4: One thing that my mom always taught me is that

1348
01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:39,760
Speaker 4: there's nothing worse than a pretty bitch. So she would

1349
01:00:39,760 --> 01:00:42,000
Speaker 4: be like, don't be a fucking asshole. She would always

1350
01:00:42,040 --> 01:00:43,120
Speaker 4: tell me that from a young.

1351
01:00:42,960 --> 01:00:44,800
Speaker 3: Age, I got hot girls that are bitches are the

1352
01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:45,560
Speaker 3: but like not.

1353
01:00:45,760 --> 01:00:48,920
Speaker 4: No, you're disgusting to me. You're disgusting to me. I

1354
01:00:48,960 --> 01:00:51,040
Speaker 4: will never think that you're beautiful. I don't give a fuck.

1355
01:00:51,120 --> 01:00:53,320
Speaker 4: You could They could do it one of those symmetrical

1356
01:00:53,360 --> 01:00:55,919
Speaker 4: face analysis things and be like this is the most

1357
01:00:56,280 --> 01:00:56,480
Speaker 4: that I.

1358
01:00:56,480 --> 01:00:59,560
Speaker 2: Felt like, that's somebody I'll tell you that. Oh you know,

1359
01:00:59,760 --> 01:01:02,800
Speaker 2: it's so crazy, Kimmy. I swear to god, I texted

1360
01:01:02,840 --> 01:01:04,800
Speaker 2: about you when I got in a car, so I

1361
01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:06,440
Speaker 2: didn't want to go to this party that Kayla had

1362
01:01:06,440 --> 01:01:08,480
Speaker 2: at her in l A. I was like, yo, I

1363
01:01:08,600 --> 01:01:10,720
Speaker 2: met this really dope girl. And even if we don't

1364
01:01:10,760 --> 01:01:13,680
Speaker 2: hang out again, I just needed that one moment in LA.

1365
01:01:13,800 --> 01:01:16,760
Speaker 1: That was a moment we were like, we were like

1366
01:01:16,800 --> 01:01:19,240
Speaker 1: in our own world, you gave me that marriage.

1367
01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:22,560
Speaker 3: Te Yeah, she talked about her for five minutes.

1368
01:01:22,560 --> 01:01:24,240
Speaker 1: She was like, I'll post. I'm just like, oh, I'll

1369
01:01:24,240 --> 01:01:28,720
Speaker 1: show anybody I used to do that. I'll show everybody

1370
01:01:28,960 --> 01:01:29,520
Speaker 1: in person.

1371
01:01:29,600 --> 01:01:30,320
Speaker 4: I'll show everybody.

1372
01:01:30,320 --> 01:01:33,680
Speaker 2: But like that thing of like feeling someone's good and funness,

1373
01:01:33,920 --> 01:01:36,520
Speaker 2: I sometimes feel that when I'm in the room of

1374
01:01:36,600 --> 01:01:40,600
Speaker 2: hot girls or the instant girls like it's it gets

1375
01:01:40,640 --> 01:01:45,040
Speaker 2: really weird. Yes, And I don't think my personality necessarily matches.

1376
01:01:45,120 --> 01:01:46,920
Speaker 2: Maybe these women have been burned too, because there's a

1377
01:01:46,920 --> 01:01:48,520
Speaker 2: lot of people want to take from me. You got

1378
01:01:48,560 --> 01:01:50,720
Speaker 2: millions of followers, you got clop maybe people want more

1379
01:01:50,760 --> 01:01:53,400
Speaker 2: from you. But there's been moments where in LA it's

1380
01:01:53,400 --> 01:01:54,280
Speaker 2: been like ooh, this.

1381
01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:56,960
Speaker 1: Doesn't really Oh the energy would be weird. And me

1382
01:01:57,000 --> 01:01:59,560
Speaker 1: and my best friend went to uh a dinner at

1383
01:01:59,600 --> 01:02:01,840
Speaker 1: twe and it was like ten other bitches at the

1384
01:02:01,840 --> 01:02:04,160
Speaker 1: table and I looked at my homegirl Stacy, and I

1385
01:02:04,200 --> 01:02:06,320
Speaker 1: was like, bitch, don't you ever invite me to know

1386
01:02:06,320 --> 01:02:08,360
Speaker 1: ship like this again. I will pay for my own

1387
01:02:08,400 --> 01:02:10,280
Speaker 1: food before I have to sit at a table full

1388
01:02:10,280 --> 01:02:13,000
Speaker 1: of bitches that are just like why why I don't

1389
01:02:13,040 --> 01:02:15,840
Speaker 1: like the handschicks like this, and then and then hold

1390
01:02:15,880 --> 01:02:19,040
Speaker 1: on and then it's the hands.

1391
01:02:19,240 --> 01:02:21,280
Speaker 3: Want to be at a table with all these.

1392
01:02:23,160 --> 01:02:27,320
Speaker 1: God I I said, I will feed myself or starve.

1393
01:02:27,440 --> 01:02:30,680
Speaker 3: Yes, do not invite me to y because like hated it.

1394
01:02:31,000 --> 01:02:35,680
Speaker 2: When you're in that moment, it's like fuck. And I

1395
01:02:35,760 --> 01:02:37,240
Speaker 2: know one of these girls too.

1396
01:02:37,800 --> 01:02:42,880
Speaker 4: I mean, my first reaction is too and it's gonna

1397
01:02:42,880 --> 01:02:44,320
Speaker 4: sound bad, but my first reaction is to put my

1398
01:02:44,320 --> 01:02:45,720
Speaker 4: dick on the table. Every time, I'm going to go

1399
01:02:45,760 --> 01:02:49,600
Speaker 4: around and shake everybody's hands, like corporately, I can introduce

1400
01:02:49,680 --> 01:02:52,440
Speaker 4: myself so that you know, like, this is not a

1401
01:02:52,520 --> 01:02:56,200
Speaker 4: breakfast up. We're not yeah, I'm not you, you're not me.

1402
01:02:56,320 --> 01:02:58,560
Speaker 4: We don't have an issue, we don't have a problem.

1403
01:02:59,160 --> 01:03:00,840
Speaker 4: This man might be paying for this meal. I could

1404
01:03:00,840 --> 01:03:02,360
Speaker 4: also put my card in period.

1405
01:03:02,560 --> 01:03:06,600
Speaker 2: So first and last time that I really put my

1406
01:03:06,640 --> 01:03:08,760
Speaker 2: dick on the table was that a child dinner.

1407
01:03:08,880 --> 01:03:10,640
Speaker 4: Let's talk about the last time you put your dick

1408
01:03:10,640 --> 01:03:11,120
Speaker 4: on the tab.

1409
01:03:10,960 --> 01:03:12,480
Speaker 3: Because I I when I say put my dick on

1410
01:03:12,480 --> 01:03:13,800
Speaker 3: the table a handshake. I'm joking.

1411
01:03:14,200 --> 01:03:17,680
Speaker 2: There was a girl across from me. There were two

1412
01:03:17,680 --> 01:03:19,440
Speaker 2: men that invited me to this town dinner. One was

1413
01:03:19,480 --> 01:03:22,520
Speaker 2: an athlete. One was maybe he's.

1414
01:03:22,440 --> 01:03:24,560
Speaker 3: A director or writer. Hollywood shit, but all these holes

1415
01:03:24,600 --> 01:03:25,120
Speaker 3: wants some right.

1416
01:03:25,240 --> 01:03:29,080
Speaker 2: This was in New York, and one of the girls

1417
01:03:29,080 --> 01:03:31,520
Speaker 2: said to me after they were doing their rich holl.

1418
01:03:31,960 --> 01:03:33,439
Speaker 1: Okay studios, let's see you girl.

1419
01:03:33,480 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 2: You know, men love to do that with when nat

1420
01:03:35,200 --> 01:03:38,280
Speaker 2: you feel like sometimes they're more upfront about it. Maybe

1421
01:03:38,280 --> 01:03:41,320
Speaker 2: thirty minutes into the dinner, after I'm talking to another

1422
01:03:41,360 --> 01:03:45,240
Speaker 2: woman next to her about podcast studios. I thought, you

1423
01:03:45,320 --> 01:03:47,880
Speaker 2: have like a podcast about like porn stars and stuff.

1424
01:03:48,040 --> 01:03:53,560
Speaker 4: Oh okay, here we go. That shit as a scorpio.

1425
01:03:53,960 --> 01:03:56,560
Speaker 4: That's when I'm like, oh, with these sides killing me,

1426
01:03:56,640 --> 01:04:01,000
Speaker 4: I'm tuned the full in crazy, I'm tuned the fuck. Okay,

1427
01:04:01,200 --> 01:04:02,520
Speaker 4: let's go. So how'd you respond?

1428
01:04:03,000 --> 01:04:04,840
Speaker 1: I said, who you thought? Right?

1429
01:04:04,960 --> 01:04:07,520
Speaker 2: And it's crazy because I thought that you were that

1430
01:04:07,560 --> 01:04:11,520
Speaker 2: girl from Twitter. Uh oh, I actually can't say it,

1431
01:04:11,800 --> 01:04:12,520
Speaker 2: but I'm gonna say this.

1432
01:04:14,800 --> 01:04:16,480
Speaker 1: I can't believe you haven't hit me up because of

1433
01:04:16,520 --> 01:04:19,280
Speaker 1: you're only fans. That's crazy.

1434
01:04:19,760 --> 01:04:22,840
Speaker 4: Gasps at the table, like everyone dropped the one.

1435
01:04:23,680 --> 01:04:26,440
Speaker 1: Everyone chopped time. I was like, but was every wrong?

1436
01:04:26,480 --> 01:04:28,320
Speaker 2: And she was like, I don't have an only fans.

1437
01:04:28,320 --> 01:04:30,440
Speaker 2: I used to have a page with my ex partner.

1438
01:04:30,640 --> 01:04:32,600
Speaker 4: Oh so it wasn't successful.

1439
01:04:32,160 --> 01:04:34,680
Speaker 1: So you know, couple page. We don't do it no more.

1440
01:04:36,240 --> 01:04:37,080
Speaker 4: We'll keep trying.

1441
01:04:37,920 --> 01:04:38,959
Speaker 3: Can you just talking about bitch?

1442
01:04:38,960 --> 01:04:40,080
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck. If she was a.

1443
01:04:40,080 --> 01:04:43,560
Speaker 2: Lawyer, Cammy, I'm gonna tell you. People have tried to

1444
01:04:43,560 --> 01:04:45,520
Speaker 2: make me feel small for talking about sex for.

1445
01:04:45,560 --> 01:04:47,880
Speaker 1: So long, so long, so long, And I would have.

1446
01:04:48,000 --> 01:04:50,840
Speaker 2: Led with my podcast if those dudes didn't bring up

1447
01:04:50,840 --> 01:04:52,880
Speaker 2: the studio. The only reason the girl next to her ask,

1448
01:04:52,920 --> 01:04:55,680
Speaker 2: because she's building one in her home for only fans.

1449
01:04:56,080 --> 01:04:57,960
Speaker 2: Where all she came with, how can I do interviews?

1450
01:04:57,960 --> 01:04:59,720
Speaker 2: Like plug talk is a show where they have sex

1451
01:04:59,720 --> 01:05:01,440
Speaker 2: on camera. I can't go to a studio on opsex,

1452
01:05:01,480 --> 01:05:03,400
Speaker 2: so how can I do this? So it wasn't like

1453
01:05:03,400 --> 01:05:05,160
Speaker 2: I didn't want to be forward about it. And I

1454
01:05:05,240 --> 01:05:07,600
Speaker 2: know that she must have felt like, oh, this girl

1455
01:05:07,640 --> 01:05:11,040
Speaker 2: thinks she's better because she does this now, No I

1456
01:05:11,040 --> 01:05:11,360
Speaker 2: don't care.

1457
01:05:11,560 --> 01:05:12,440
Speaker 3: He's better than you.

1458
01:05:12,920 --> 01:05:15,320
Speaker 4: Bitch is like that, I anyway hate that, you know.

1459
01:05:15,440 --> 01:05:17,600
Speaker 2: I really was kind of like hating our Ruby Rose

1460
01:05:17,640 --> 01:05:19,360
Speaker 2: a little bit for the ship she said about Drewski,

1461
01:05:19,440 --> 01:05:23,440
Speaker 2: because I was like, bro, like you're talking about pr

1462
01:05:23,560 --> 01:05:26,040
Speaker 2: and all this stuff to gain popularity to a guy

1463
01:05:26,120 --> 01:05:30,120
Speaker 2: that's super mainstream. He's on Super Bowl commercials, Like, I'm

1464
01:05:30,120 --> 01:05:32,040
Speaker 2: not saying you aren't hot and the only fan Shion

1465
01:05:32,040 --> 01:05:32,920
Speaker 2: ain't lit or you're not lit?

1466
01:05:33,240 --> 01:05:35,360
Speaker 3: Like why she felt the way because some nigga said,

1467
01:05:35,400 --> 01:05:36,240
Speaker 3: but I ain't fucking you.

1468
01:05:36,160 --> 01:05:37,000
Speaker 1: You fuck Drew Sky.

1469
01:05:37,360 --> 01:05:39,480
Speaker 3: That's what it was. She probably felt that he like

1470
01:05:39,520 --> 01:05:40,240
Speaker 3: she felt.

1471
01:05:40,000 --> 01:05:42,720
Speaker 1: She probably there are a lot of bitches that want to.

1472
01:05:42,960 --> 01:05:44,720
Speaker 3: But that's why she came out and said, I didn't

1473
01:05:44,720 --> 01:05:45,160
Speaker 3: fuck him.

1474
01:05:45,160 --> 01:05:47,160
Speaker 2: Bro, I'm gonna be honest. Jewsky is fun as hell.

1475
01:05:47,320 --> 01:05:48,240
Speaker 2: He's so funny.

1476
01:05:50,440 --> 01:05:52,320
Speaker 3: I bet you he could take that pussy in a person.

1477
01:05:52,400 --> 01:05:53,040
Speaker 3: It's so good.

1478
01:05:53,200 --> 01:05:55,560
Speaker 4: He's great. Like, I don't know him as a person.

1479
01:05:56,040 --> 01:05:59,320
Speaker 4: I mean, if comes out about him everything that I said.

1480
01:05:59,600 --> 01:06:03,000
Speaker 2: Agree, But I'm telling you right now, single on the table,

1481
01:06:03,040 --> 01:06:05,160
Speaker 2: you're at a bar. Fine, if Juy's not your type, fie,

1482
01:06:05,320 --> 01:06:07,920
Speaker 2: you're telling me that Nigga can't fucking laugh draws off you.

1483
01:06:08,000 --> 01:06:09,640
Speaker 2: I don't believe that, and I don't think Juky is

1484
01:06:09,680 --> 01:06:10,200
Speaker 2: ugly at all.

1485
01:06:10,280 --> 01:06:10,840
Speaker 4: He's funny.

1486
01:06:11,800 --> 01:06:14,479
Speaker 3: I don't like this fat dude ship being ugly.

1487
01:06:14,520 --> 01:06:18,080
Speaker 4: I think I've never been guys with apps have never

1488
01:06:18,120 --> 01:06:19,920
Speaker 4: been like my I've never been like, oh he doesn't have.

1489
01:06:19,840 --> 01:06:21,640
Speaker 1: A now when he posts them boxers out and do

1490
01:06:21,680 --> 01:06:24,080
Speaker 1: her little country boys and I see the crack that.

1491
01:06:24,160 --> 01:06:29,320
Speaker 1: I love that she said laughing at Draws, but I'm

1492
01:06:29,360 --> 01:06:32,040
Speaker 1: not going to see her in though he can maybe

1493
01:06:32,080 --> 01:06:35,680
Speaker 1: laugh though I did not my drawers. I don't know

1494
01:06:35,760 --> 01:06:37,600
Speaker 1: fat shaming, but know that Nigga.

1495
01:06:37,360 --> 01:06:40,880
Speaker 4: Couln't like like that, but it is.

1496
01:06:41,360 --> 01:06:44,120
Speaker 2: I don't think energy is saying that bitches really forget

1497
01:06:44,160 --> 01:06:46,600
Speaker 2: about And I don't even fuck well hot Nigga's ruby

1498
01:06:46,640 --> 01:06:48,040
Speaker 2: dated before or whatever.

1499
01:06:48,200 --> 01:06:51,240
Speaker 1: I just feel like you really probably took the like

1500
01:06:51,600 --> 01:06:52,080
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1501
01:06:52,200 --> 01:06:55,120
Speaker 2: I think the way that the Internet has made beautiful

1502
01:06:55,160 --> 01:06:58,400
Speaker 2: women feel sometimes an inflated sense of self. Yeah yeah,

1503
01:06:58,440 --> 01:07:01,200
Speaker 2: I have tens of in the comments talking about how

1504
01:07:01,200 --> 01:07:03,200
Speaker 2: sexy are But how many people really like you?

1505
01:07:03,360 --> 01:07:05,960
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah? How many friends do you actually have? I

1506
01:07:06,000 --> 01:07:09,120
Speaker 4: think that that's that's very real. And I cannot stand

1507
01:07:09,120 --> 01:07:12,880
Speaker 4: a bitch that tries to I don't even know what

1508
01:07:12,960 --> 01:07:16,880
Speaker 4: the word is, but it's such whack bitch energy to

1509
01:07:17,000 --> 01:07:19,560
Speaker 4: try to, you know, when you're like out with girls

1510
01:07:19,560 --> 01:07:21,320
Speaker 4: and there's a guy, and like clearly they want the guy,

1511
01:07:21,360 --> 01:07:23,240
Speaker 4: and so then they do some shit like that to

1512
01:07:23,320 --> 01:07:26,680
Speaker 4: like try to let everybody know that you shouldn't be

1513
01:07:26,720 --> 01:07:29,560
Speaker 4: desired or that like you're unavailable like that, you're in

1514
01:07:29,560 --> 01:07:33,400
Speaker 4: a relationship, okay, like you don't. You don't have to

1515
01:07:33,760 --> 01:07:36,800
Speaker 4: you don't have to do that. I'm happy to talk

1516
01:07:36,840 --> 01:07:38,840
Speaker 4: about my man. You don't have to be like, oh,

1517
01:07:39,080 --> 01:07:41,479
Speaker 4: like so you and you're a man, right, like because

1518
01:07:41,520 --> 01:07:44,560
Speaker 4: you have a man, right, yes, I talk about him

1519
01:07:44,600 --> 01:07:46,640
Speaker 4: all the time. You know, you don't have to lead

1520
01:07:46,680 --> 01:07:49,280
Speaker 4: with it, right You see yours too? Why are you

1521
01:07:49,320 --> 01:07:55,600
Speaker 4: so excited to talk about him? They're like this, this

1522
01:07:55,680 --> 01:07:58,040
Speaker 4: is what this happens all the time. And I love

1523
01:07:58,080 --> 01:08:00,000
Speaker 4: to And it happens a lot when it comes to

1524
01:08:00,160 --> 01:08:03,280
Speaker 4: career accolades too, because I've had it so many times

1525
01:08:03,320 --> 01:08:05,360
Speaker 4: where a girl will come up to me with her

1526
01:08:05,400 --> 01:08:08,000
Speaker 4: friends and she'll be so excited to meet me.

1527
01:08:08,080 --> 01:08:09,760
Speaker 1: She's like I listen to your podcast. I Love You

1528
01:08:09,800 --> 01:08:11,440
Speaker 1: on Catfish, I love you and are you the one?

1529
01:08:11,480 --> 01:08:13,160
Speaker 4: I love you? On Next on the Beach, I love everything.

1530
01:08:13,720 --> 01:08:15,960
Speaker 1: I never watched it. It's so good. I know, I

1531
01:08:16,040 --> 01:08:16,559
Speaker 1: know it's good.

1532
01:08:17,760 --> 01:08:20,640
Speaker 4: And I'll be so excited to meet them too. And

1533
01:08:20,680 --> 01:08:22,880
Speaker 4: then she'll turn to her friend and be like, do

1534
01:08:22,920 --> 01:08:25,360
Speaker 4: you know Cammy like she said, and they'll be like, no,

1535
01:08:25,439 --> 01:08:27,880
Speaker 4: I've experienced that so much. I don't know you.

1536
01:08:28,120 --> 01:08:30,280
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I have no idea who you are. I've

1537
01:08:30,320 --> 01:08:35,280
Speaker 1: never seen you before. I've never watched anything. If my friends,

1538
01:08:35,640 --> 01:08:37,479
Speaker 1: I would always be hype for my friends. And you

1539
01:08:37,479 --> 01:08:39,600
Speaker 1: know what my response is, that's okay, baby, It's not

1540
01:08:39,640 --> 01:08:42,439
Speaker 1: a requirement. Can you take this picture of us? Though?

1541
01:08:42,800 --> 01:08:43,200
Speaker 3: Thank you?

1542
01:08:43,720 --> 01:08:44,919
Speaker 1: The fuck is your problem?

1543
01:08:45,080 --> 01:08:47,240
Speaker 2: I know how crazy this sounds, considering I'm a ninety

1544
01:08:47,280 --> 01:08:49,160
Speaker 2: day fiance buff. I'm walking on the street with my

1545
01:08:49,160 --> 01:08:51,320
Speaker 2: homegirarl the other day. I think it was the black

1546
01:08:51,320 --> 01:08:54,320
Speaker 2: girl from Love Island. This bitch stops in her tracks,

1547
01:08:54,400 --> 01:08:54,880
Speaker 2: my homegirl.

1548
01:08:55,000 --> 01:08:59,040
Speaker 1: She goes folks, and I was like, what's going on?

1549
01:08:59,360 --> 01:09:01,960
Speaker 1: So the girl walking towards us knows what's going on? Yeah,

1550
01:09:01,960 --> 01:09:04,160
Speaker 1: I don't know what's going was it Janee or Serena.

1551
01:09:04,479 --> 01:09:06,439
Speaker 1: Oh no, brol Oh god, it was the one who

1552
01:09:06,479 --> 01:09:08,519
Speaker 1: came who was a WTF in La the one who

1553
01:09:08,640 --> 01:09:10,360
Speaker 1: did Sofia is the new one, the black coup of

1554
01:09:10,360 --> 01:09:14,400
Speaker 1: the one, the Serena Odell's brothers, Serena and Cordell Cordelle.

1555
01:09:14,720 --> 01:09:17,200
Speaker 2: So she was super chill and I'm like, yo, hold on,

1556
01:09:17,240 --> 01:09:18,840
Speaker 2: let me get my phone out. And I was like,

1557
01:09:18,920 --> 01:09:20,880
Speaker 2: do you have a podcast too? So she's laughing because

1558
01:09:20,880 --> 01:09:22,479
Speaker 2: my friend having a breakdown. And I was like, oh

1559
01:09:22,520 --> 01:09:23,719
Speaker 2: my god, I'm not trying to be a bit because

1560
01:09:23,720 --> 01:09:24,639
Speaker 2: I'm sure you do something great.

1561
01:09:24,800 --> 01:09:26,920
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, and that's nice.

1562
01:09:27,000 --> 01:09:28,880
Speaker 3: And while we're taking the photo.

1563
01:09:30,080 --> 01:09:33,559
Speaker 1: Literally, she goes, you really ain't watching Love Island. Everybody

1564
01:09:33,600 --> 01:09:35,080
Speaker 1: watching Love I don't watch Love Island.

1565
01:09:35,200 --> 01:09:37,920
Speaker 2: And I swear to god, I'm like, girl, I'm guys

1566
01:09:37,920 --> 01:09:41,719
Speaker 2: because you're embarrassing me. And I know why, because I should.

1567
01:09:41,920 --> 01:09:43,639
Speaker 2: It's like not it's like a white girl not knowing

1568
01:09:43,640 --> 01:09:44,640
Speaker 2: who the new bachelorette is.

1569
01:09:46,080 --> 01:09:46,840
Speaker 1: I know the black girl.

1570
01:09:46,880 --> 01:09:48,680
Speaker 4: That's true. I didn't even watch this season, but I

1571
01:09:48,800 --> 01:09:51,400
Speaker 4: know for a factor one, I know who the top

1572
01:09:51,400 --> 01:09:53,600
Speaker 4: three girls were. I know the whole thing. I know

1573
01:09:53,680 --> 01:09:55,320
Speaker 4: the quotes. No, I don't know.

1574
01:09:55,400 --> 01:09:57,040
Speaker 3: I need to watch the show anyway.

1575
01:09:56,720 --> 01:09:58,479
Speaker 1: I know, I gotta get it. I don't watch the

1576
01:09:58,680 --> 01:10:00,680
Speaker 1: I don't watch many of the dating shows. You don't

1577
01:10:00,720 --> 01:10:03,200
Speaker 1: watch Love's well my problem is, well.

1578
01:10:02,960 --> 01:10:05,559
Speaker 3: First off, I love is never blinded me. I'm shallow.

1579
01:10:05,920 --> 01:10:08,120
Speaker 1: So the magas, I'm like, why I got a whole

1580
01:10:08,160 --> 01:10:10,120
Speaker 1: bunch of ugly people falling for each other over the phone.

1581
01:10:11,320 --> 01:10:12,840
Speaker 1: So it just don't make sense to me.

1582
01:10:12,920 --> 01:10:15,439
Speaker 3: What is this now, y'all making ugly people like each other?

1583
01:10:16,840 --> 01:10:19,800
Speaker 3: So to me, okay, yeah, like no, I.

1584
01:10:19,720 --> 01:10:22,519
Speaker 1: Like Housewives, and I like I like competition shows, feel

1585
01:10:22,520 --> 01:10:26,600
Speaker 1: like ink Master The Voice where people got to get eliminated.

1586
01:10:26,240 --> 01:10:28,360
Speaker 3: Even the circle I was watching the.

1587
01:10:30,200 --> 01:10:31,160
Speaker 4: People get eliminated too.

1588
01:10:31,680 --> 01:10:34,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't like people already lie they have

1589
01:10:34,920 --> 01:10:37,680
Speaker 1: to manipulate each other. And so to me, in a

1590
01:10:37,720 --> 01:10:40,479
Speaker 1: space and for real, for real, watching a whole bunch

1591
01:10:40,479 --> 01:10:43,559
Speaker 1: of twenties twenty year olds, oh my god, it's like,

1592
01:10:43,600 --> 01:10:45,479
Speaker 1: y'all don't know you know what it's really like.

1593
01:10:45,760 --> 01:10:49,040
Speaker 3: You can't even those that more thirty five plus year old?

1594
01:10:49,360 --> 01:10:52,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, because watching twenty year olds with the ultimatums or

1595
01:10:52,840 --> 01:10:55,719
Speaker 1: acting like they know what the book they want what.

1596
01:10:55,560 --> 01:10:58,440
Speaker 2: That was my funnest And I'm a fan of a

1597
01:10:58,479 --> 01:11:00,240
Speaker 2: is it too out to handle im?

1598
01:11:00,280 --> 01:11:00,400
Speaker 1: One?

1599
01:11:00,439 --> 01:11:01,080
Speaker 3: We went on a date?

1600
01:11:01,200 --> 01:11:03,880
Speaker 1: Okay, I love me stuff girl?

1601
01:11:04,200 --> 01:11:06,719
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, car Jack, there's a whole story. Wait what

1602
01:11:07,200 --> 01:11:08,160
Speaker 3: la story? Girl?

1603
01:11:08,640 --> 01:11:10,160
Speaker 1: But like, yeah, no, I don't want to watch a

1604
01:11:10,160 --> 01:11:13,120
Speaker 1: whole bunch of twenty two year olds looking for love. Yeah, bitch,

1605
01:11:13,520 --> 01:11:16,040
Speaker 1: this person is gonna be one of many that's.

1606
01:11:16,080 --> 01:11:17,880
Speaker 2: Make said funny because they're so Let me tell you

1607
01:11:17,920 --> 01:11:20,000
Speaker 2: why it's not fun in your thirties, then, bitch, just

1608
01:11:20,000 --> 01:11:20,599
Speaker 2: want to be out.

1609
01:11:21,040 --> 01:11:22,599
Speaker 1: When there's a girl that's twenty two and she's.

1610
01:11:22,560 --> 01:11:25,360
Speaker 4: Like yeah, and you're like, oh.

1611
01:11:25,200 --> 01:11:28,599
Speaker 3: Eighty, that's why I don't want to watch the Lulu bitches.

1612
01:11:28,880 --> 01:11:31,360
Speaker 4: But then if it was us, like this bitch is done.

1613
01:11:31,160 --> 01:11:31,759
Speaker 3: I'd be crying.

1614
01:11:31,960 --> 01:11:32,280
Speaker 4: I want.

1615
01:11:32,400 --> 01:11:35,840
Speaker 1: I want someone in their thirties who like wait, like

1616
01:11:36,160 --> 01:11:38,200
Speaker 1: I didn't have to pay for a sitter in my

1617
01:11:38,200 --> 01:11:40,439
Speaker 1: my mama watching my kids back home. I'm really looking

1618
01:11:40,479 --> 01:11:42,040
Speaker 1: for love because I need a nigger to come in

1619
01:11:42,280 --> 01:11:43,920
Speaker 1: and be a father figure to my children.

1620
01:11:43,960 --> 01:11:46,120
Speaker 4: Have you watched a Golden Bachelor? No?

1621
01:11:46,240 --> 01:11:50,120
Speaker 2: I heard, that's fine, it's the Golden Bachelor. They're older yeah,

1622
01:11:50,680 --> 01:11:51,200
Speaker 2: what's older.

1623
01:11:52,520 --> 01:11:54,960
Speaker 4: So, yeah, there's there's lots of drama. There's so The

1624
01:11:54,960 --> 01:11:57,800
Speaker 4: Golden Bachelorette is on right now and one of the contestants,

1625
01:11:57,840 --> 01:11:59,320
Speaker 4: one of the guys that came on to date the

1626
01:11:59,320 --> 01:12:03,200
Speaker 4: girl who was on The Golden Bachelor, he has a

1627
01:12:03,360 --> 01:12:05,559
Speaker 4: like a restraining order filed against him from his like

1628
01:12:05,600 --> 01:12:08,120
Speaker 4: ex girlfriend or wife or whatever. And it's like a

1629
01:12:08,120 --> 01:12:08,879
Speaker 4: bad situation.

1630
01:12:09,680 --> 01:12:13,320
Speaker 1: I want people dealing with real life. These motherfuckers on

1631
01:12:13,360 --> 01:12:15,960
Speaker 1: these little shows don't even pay rent. They got a

1632
01:12:16,600 --> 01:12:18,479
Speaker 1: phone bill to pay, and they just care about how

1633
01:12:18,520 --> 01:12:23,519
Speaker 1: many followers I love when they come on there.

1634
01:12:23,560 --> 01:12:26,040
Speaker 2: I'm a content creator. I'm about to handle because I'm

1635
01:12:26,120 --> 01:12:28,040
Speaker 2: always firing inside.

1636
01:12:29,360 --> 01:12:29,920
Speaker 1: At the TV.

1637
01:12:30,160 --> 01:12:30,920
Speaker 3: What is we doing?

1638
01:12:31,280 --> 01:12:31,920
Speaker 1: Me and Nina?

1639
01:12:31,960 --> 01:12:33,120
Speaker 3: That's my dog right back?

1640
01:12:33,840 --> 01:12:36,640
Speaker 2: God bro, when I tell you my nigga looked at

1641
01:12:36,640 --> 01:12:37,960
Speaker 2: me like I was watching Game of Thrones.

1642
01:12:38,000 --> 01:12:39,120
Speaker 3: I was at the edge of my seat.

1643
01:12:40,240 --> 01:12:43,439
Speaker 4: Yeah, hello, you know what it is. It's an escape,

1644
01:12:43,560 --> 01:12:44,880
Speaker 4: it is it is.

1645
01:12:44,840 --> 01:12:45,599
Speaker 1: And it's great.

1646
01:12:46,240 --> 01:12:46,799
Speaker 4: It's great.

1647
01:12:46,960 --> 01:12:50,040
Speaker 1: Tell me my Capus industry on HBO before we get

1648
01:12:50,040 --> 01:12:50,320
Speaker 1: out of here.

1649
01:12:50,360 --> 01:12:53,520
Speaker 2: I gotta know a show or an episode of Catfish

1650
01:12:53,680 --> 01:12:56,439
Speaker 2: that really blew your mind. On the Lulu because people

1651
01:12:56,439 --> 01:12:58,920
Speaker 2: think these shows are fake and people can't understand how

1652
01:12:58,920 --> 01:13:00,479
Speaker 2: these shows exist twenty twenty.

1653
01:13:00,600 --> 01:13:02,519
Speaker 3: I can't understand in twenty twenty four how you're getting

1654
01:13:02,520 --> 01:13:02,880
Speaker 3: cat fished.

1655
01:13:02,880 --> 01:13:06,960
Speaker 4: Still, well, we were just so obviously this is coming

1656
01:13:06,960 --> 01:13:11,439
Speaker 4: out after I've quit the show, but we were just

1657
01:13:11,600 --> 01:13:16,000
Speaker 4: getting into the relationships that people were in in COVID,

1658
01:13:16,240 --> 01:13:20,760
Speaker 4: So like pandemic relationships where they're now like, hey, it's

1659
01:13:20,800 --> 01:13:22,520
Speaker 4: been four years, what about FaceTime?

1660
01:13:23,920 --> 01:13:24,880
Speaker 3: These people still don't care.

1661
01:13:25,080 --> 01:13:29,679
Speaker 4: Don't care sometimes, But we can say the same thing

1662
01:13:29,760 --> 01:13:32,280
Speaker 4: about in person relationships. I like to give as much

1663
01:13:32,360 --> 01:13:36,400
Speaker 4: grace as humanly possible, just because we get in relationships

1664
01:13:36,439 --> 01:13:37,880
Speaker 4: all the time in real life that we know aren't

1665
01:13:37,920 --> 01:13:41,479
Speaker 4: right for us, but we ignore shit every day. Now,

1666
01:13:41,800 --> 01:13:43,679
Speaker 4: if I'm in a relationship with somebody and I'm calling

1667
01:13:43,680 --> 01:13:45,720
Speaker 4: this person my boyfriend and my girlfriend and it's been

1668
01:13:45,760 --> 01:13:48,479
Speaker 4: five years and we've never been on FaceTime, that might

1669
01:13:48,520 --> 01:13:49,160
Speaker 4: be something else.

1670
01:13:49,240 --> 01:13:50,919
Speaker 1: What about a male on a spectrum?

1671
01:13:50,920 --> 01:13:53,400
Speaker 2: What is the way that you're finding what's the easiest

1672
01:13:53,439 --> 01:13:55,240
Speaker 2: way to find out if someone's lying about their identity?

1673
01:13:55,720 --> 01:13:58,600
Speaker 4: The easiest way to find out? Do you ever know

1674
01:13:58,600 --> 01:14:02,040
Speaker 4: somebody's true identity? This is right that's against do you

1675
01:14:02,160 --> 01:14:05,040
Speaker 4: ever know? No, you never really fucking.

1676
01:14:05,280 --> 01:14:07,760
Speaker 3: Someone can show up differently, like people.

1677
01:14:07,600 --> 01:14:10,680
Speaker 4: Send their representative all the time. So you just have

1678
01:14:10,760 --> 01:14:13,280
Speaker 4: to you have to decipher. And I'm not saying you

1679
01:14:13,320 --> 01:14:15,240
Speaker 4: got to look for clues because like nobody wants to

1680
01:14:15,240 --> 01:14:19,120
Speaker 4: be in a relationship where they're constantly like double back,

1681
01:14:19,200 --> 01:14:21,240
Speaker 4: I can't keep track of what's in your phone. I'm

1682
01:14:21,320 --> 01:14:23,479
Speaker 4: not doing I'm not doing all that extra legwork.

1683
01:14:23,640 --> 01:14:25,720
Speaker 3: This is my first relationship where I haven't snuck him up.

1684
01:14:25,920 --> 01:14:26,880
Speaker 1: Don't I'm not looking.

1685
01:14:27,040 --> 01:14:28,559
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna do why I'm not doing it.

1686
01:14:28,600 --> 01:14:32,320
Speaker 2: I think I did it in the past because it

1687
01:14:32,640 --> 01:14:35,479
Speaker 2: was a habit. I had done it in the happiest moment,

1688
01:14:35,680 --> 01:14:38,280
Speaker 2: trying to ruin my mood. I have not done it.

1689
01:14:38,320 --> 01:14:41,080
Speaker 2: Don't care, bitch. A pussy could come up and I'm

1690
01:14:41,200 --> 01:14:41,360
Speaker 2: be like.

1691
01:14:41,360 --> 01:14:45,320
Speaker 1: Who's this? Let me see, let me see. But it's crazy.

1692
01:14:45,080 --> 01:14:49,080
Speaker 2: Because when you have a habit from how you normally

1693
01:14:49,120 --> 01:14:52,280
Speaker 2: get information, whatever is in the dark comes light mm hmmm,

1694
01:14:52,400 --> 01:14:53,920
Speaker 2: and you will find out as it's.

1695
01:14:53,800 --> 01:14:54,280
Speaker 3: Supposed to do.

1696
01:14:54,320 --> 01:14:56,240
Speaker 2: So if that's really the truth, is really the truth.

1697
01:14:56,320 --> 01:15:00,080
Speaker 2: But that is grown digging for that shit. Yeah, it's crazy. No, No,

1698
01:15:00,600 --> 01:15:02,559
Speaker 2: I think I was obsessed. I think there's a chapter

1699
01:15:02,640 --> 01:15:05,200
Speaker 2: where I read about like, oh, if you go to see.

1700
01:15:05,040 --> 01:15:06,519
Speaker 1: I crawl on the floor, b sh, I'll be light,

1701
01:15:06,840 --> 01:15:09,200
Speaker 1: not on the floor. I'm not looking to not yo.

1702
01:15:10,200 --> 01:15:12,920
Speaker 1: You could say that I thought I was that person too.

1703
01:15:13,320 --> 01:15:15,559
Speaker 1: There's a lot of things we all say we'd never do. Yeah,

1704
01:15:15,680 --> 01:15:17,559
Speaker 1: there is a lot of crazy things that you're ranking doing.

1705
01:15:17,600 --> 01:15:19,200
Speaker 1: I know somebody listening has been to this. You don't

1706
01:15:19,200 --> 01:15:21,280
Speaker 1: even want to look. I wouldn't even see anything, just

1707
01:15:21,360 --> 01:15:22,000
Speaker 1: second nature.

1708
01:15:22,120 --> 01:15:24,120
Speaker 4: It's like being on your phone and like going to

1709
01:15:24,120 --> 01:15:25,760
Speaker 4: Instagram when you know you don't even have any or

1710
01:15:25,800 --> 01:15:28,040
Speaker 4: like checking I checked like ten apps before I put

1711
01:15:28,040 --> 01:15:32,000
Speaker 4: my phone down, like a phone Twitter at this. Yeah,

1712
01:15:32,280 --> 01:15:34,599
Speaker 4: yeah you heard it. It's like opening up the fridge.

1713
01:15:34,680 --> 01:15:36,960
Speaker 4: You know what's in the fridge. You haven't put shit

1714
01:15:37,000 --> 01:15:44,240
Speaker 4: in there. Uh but okay. So an episode of Catfish

1715
01:15:44,439 --> 01:15:47,639
Speaker 4: where somebody was on a different level of de Lulu.

1716
01:15:48,920 --> 01:15:52,320
Speaker 4: There's been a lot of them, but I think one

1717
01:15:52,360 --> 01:15:55,240
Speaker 4: of my first episodes was we were working with a

1718
01:15:55,280 --> 01:15:58,800
Speaker 4: girl who believed that she was in a relationship.

1719
01:15:58,400 --> 01:16:00,000
Speaker 1: With Chris Brown for three years.

1720
01:16:00,280 --> 01:16:01,360
Speaker 3: I saw that one.

1721
01:16:01,280 --> 01:16:04,439
Speaker 4: What they cut out was that She also believed that

1722
01:16:04,520 --> 01:16:08,000
Speaker 4: she was best friends with Drake for five years, so

1723
01:16:08,120 --> 01:16:11,559
Speaker 4: in her mind, this was like normal because she met

1724
01:16:11,560 --> 01:16:14,360
Speaker 4: these she met them on Facebook is a whole thing.

1725
01:16:14,439 --> 01:16:17,160
Speaker 4: But one of the conversations that she brought up that

1726
01:16:17,240 --> 01:16:21,559
Speaker 4: they also cut out was that she basically on her birthday,

1727
01:16:21,600 --> 01:16:24,040
Speaker 4: went out with a friend on Hollywood Boulevard. They went

1728
01:16:24,080 --> 01:16:27,200
Speaker 4: to a bar and she calls him because she just

1729
01:16:27,240 --> 01:16:28,960
Speaker 4: wanted to talk to him, and she said that a

1730
01:16:29,080 --> 01:16:32,760
Speaker 4: black prius had pulled up in front of the bar

1731
01:16:33,200 --> 01:16:35,799
Speaker 4: and it was a guy who looked like Chris Brown

1732
01:16:36,000 --> 01:16:40,040
Speaker 4: with a hat on, and she's on the phone with

1733
01:16:40,120 --> 01:16:42,640
Speaker 4: him and she's like, wait, is that you outside of

1734
01:16:42,720 --> 01:16:45,360
Speaker 4: the bar and he was like, yeah, it's me, and

1735
01:16:45,400 --> 01:16:47,800
Speaker 4: then he sped off and she was like, well, you know,

1736
01:16:47,960 --> 01:16:49,479
Speaker 4: he just wanted to stop by they like wish me

1737
01:16:49,479 --> 01:16:50,960
Speaker 4: happy birthday, but like he couldn't get out of the

1738
01:16:51,000 --> 01:16:53,200
Speaker 4: car because of like who he is, and like you know,

1739
01:16:53,280 --> 01:16:55,640
Speaker 4: celebrities they have like their cars, but then they have

1740
01:16:55,840 --> 01:16:59,479
Speaker 4: like their you know, low key cars. And I was like, girl,

1741
01:17:00,120 --> 01:17:03,840
Speaker 4: I said, I can promise you that Chris Brown's low

1742
01:17:03,880 --> 01:17:04,639
Speaker 4: key car.

1743
01:17:04,840 --> 01:17:06,559
Speaker 1: Is not a black.

1744
01:17:07,600 --> 01:17:11,040
Speaker 2: Is a regular bands Maybe it may be maybe it's not.

1745
01:17:11,000 --> 01:17:13,120
Speaker 4: A black I promise you know what.

1746
01:17:13,040 --> 01:17:14,920
Speaker 1: The low key cars for celebrities are in l A.

1747
01:17:15,000 --> 01:17:15,479
Speaker 1: I've noticed.

1748
01:17:18,000 --> 01:17:20,160
Speaker 4: I knew you were going to say, but that that's

1749
01:17:20,200 --> 01:17:23,120
Speaker 4: the low key car, like that's that's not a low

1750
01:17:23,880 --> 01:17:26,240
Speaker 4: which is the fucking most disgusting car I've ever seen.

1751
01:17:26,520 --> 01:17:28,840
Speaker 1: Also, Chris Brown be outside. Chris Brown be outside all

1752
01:17:28,840 --> 01:17:29,879
Speaker 1: the time. He's be outside.

1753
01:17:30,080 --> 01:17:33,000
Speaker 4: And by the way, I ended up seeing him after

1754
01:17:33,040 --> 01:17:37,840
Speaker 4: that episode air pasted it. I was this is a

1755
01:17:37,880 --> 01:17:40,559
Speaker 4: funny story. I was with my ex at the time

1756
01:17:42,120 --> 01:17:43,760
Speaker 4: and we're at Highlight Room.

1757
01:17:43,920 --> 01:17:47,120
Speaker 3: That's where I saw him last the highlight room.

1758
01:17:47,200 --> 01:17:51,920
Speaker 4: If you want to find Brown to highlight highlight room,

1759
01:17:52,600 --> 01:17:54,640
Speaker 4: Chris Brown is there.

1760
01:17:54,200 --> 01:17:56,439
Speaker 1: Because right now it's the winter time, so highlight room

1761
01:17:56,520 --> 01:18:00,800
Speaker 1: right now ain't probably gonna be open. She's inside, they do,

1762
01:18:01,600 --> 01:18:03,439
Speaker 1: it's just not open on the outside. He'll be there.

1763
01:18:03,439 --> 01:18:03,880
Speaker 1: He'll be there.

1764
01:18:03,880 --> 01:18:07,280
Speaker 2: And Sadek is now share recording this during fashion Week,

1765
01:18:07,280 --> 01:18:09,360
Speaker 2: Sean literally has Hakissan in Vegas.

1766
01:18:09,400 --> 01:18:10,800
Speaker 4: Yes, oh, he's fucking killing it.

1767
01:18:10,920 --> 01:18:11,840
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1768
01:18:12,080 --> 01:18:14,640
Speaker 2: I was gonna say, uh, I saw him out in

1769
01:18:14,720 --> 01:18:19,160
Speaker 2: about in l A. But Sadik is Chris Brown. That's

1770
01:18:19,200 --> 01:18:21,840
Speaker 2: the only thing you go see that you go see

1771
01:18:22,120 --> 01:18:25,120
Speaker 2: you see Wait, didn't I thought that that? He wrote

1772
01:18:25,120 --> 01:18:26,920
Speaker 2: the girl a message like it's not me or something.

1773
01:18:27,200 --> 01:18:31,519
Speaker 4: He posted it. He posted it on his story afterradd

1774
01:18:31,560 --> 01:18:35,360
Speaker 4: Air and was like, it wasn't me, but this is hilarious.

1775
01:18:35,560 --> 01:18:38,720
Speaker 4: So I'm like standing with my ex at the time

1776
01:18:38,800 --> 01:18:41,200
Speaker 4: and Chris Brown comes over to me and gives me

1777
01:18:41,240 --> 01:18:43,719
Speaker 4: a hug. And the way he gave me a hug

1778
01:18:43,800 --> 01:18:46,519
Speaker 4: was like he like, we knew each other. We've met

1779
01:18:46,520 --> 01:18:48,960
Speaker 4: when I was Miss teen USA, but that was years ago.

1780
01:18:49,120 --> 01:18:51,720
Speaker 4: So my ex is looking at me like I'm looking

1781
01:18:51,720 --> 01:18:55,280
Speaker 4: at it. Chris like, uh hi, I'm like we met

1782
01:18:55,280 --> 01:18:57,080
Speaker 4: a long time ago with like and he was like

1783
01:18:57,320 --> 01:19:00,120
Speaker 4: I watched the show and I was like oh. He

1784
01:19:00,240 --> 01:19:03,719
Speaker 4: was like, yo, I can't fucking tell you. How many

1785
01:19:03,800 --> 01:19:06,439
Speaker 4: women are at my front gate on.

1786
01:19:06,360 --> 01:19:09,519
Speaker 1: A weekly basis crazy because they think that they're talking

1787
01:19:09,520 --> 01:19:11,880
Speaker 1: to me on Facebook. It happens all the time.

1788
01:19:12,120 --> 01:19:16,639
Speaker 2: And you know what it is, somebody, Yeah, sorry, yes

1789
01:19:16,720 --> 01:19:17,920
Speaker 2: it is.

1790
01:19:18,160 --> 01:19:19,280
Speaker 1: It is crazy.

1791
01:19:19,479 --> 01:19:22,360
Speaker 4: It is. I'm sorry to say, but this time it

1792
01:19:22,360 --> 01:19:24,400
Speaker 4: actually wasn't. It was. It was a young lady. I

1793
01:19:24,400 --> 01:19:27,240
Speaker 4: don't remember where she lived. But even because she said

1794
01:19:27,240 --> 01:19:28,960
Speaker 4: that Chris Brown, I left her a voicemail. I was like,

1795
01:19:28,960 --> 01:19:32,080
Speaker 4: play the voicemail. That's the clip that went viral, the

1796
01:19:33,000 --> 01:19:35,639
Speaker 4: fucking voicemail found to Noah on my Chris Brown, I said,

1797
01:19:35,640 --> 01:19:39,200
Speaker 4: that is either a twenty four year old man or

1798
01:19:39,240 --> 01:19:40,639
Speaker 4: a eighteen year old woman.

1799
01:19:41,320 --> 01:19:42,519
Speaker 1: Like a eighteen year old woman.

1800
01:19:42,760 --> 01:19:46,719
Speaker 2: I wonder what the woman is then asking men to do.

1801
01:19:46,760 --> 01:19:48,240
Speaker 2: Just make this voice message for her.

1802
01:19:48,720 --> 01:19:50,840
Speaker 1: No, it was her, by the way, it was her,

1803
01:19:50,960 --> 01:19:57,759
Speaker 1: and she was just like, hey, bro, I was like, listen,

1804
01:19:58,040 --> 01:20:00,080
Speaker 1: I've been listening to Chris Brown since I was I.

1805
01:20:01,800 --> 01:20:04,360
Speaker 4: Know that is not Chris Brown's.

1806
01:20:04,560 --> 01:20:06,040
Speaker 1: That's hilarious. I do have to rap.

1807
01:20:06,240 --> 01:20:08,960
Speaker 2: I know we gotta go, But just one question, what

1808
01:20:09,040 --> 01:20:11,040
Speaker 2: is the purpose of cat fishing if it isn't money.

1809
01:20:12,160 --> 01:20:14,400
Speaker 1: Oh there's so many reasons why people a catfe.

1810
01:20:14,240 --> 01:20:16,160
Speaker 3: Revenge, whatever, but like, why does someone want.

1811
01:20:16,000 --> 01:20:18,120
Speaker 4: To do revenge? Money? Those are parts of it. But

1812
01:20:18,160 --> 01:20:23,120
Speaker 4: I think that and again this is be given grace Liebermoon. Hey,

1813
01:20:23,160 --> 01:20:24,800
Speaker 4: I'm gonna get you all into astrology by the of

1814
01:20:24,800 --> 01:20:25,120
Speaker 4: the day.

1815
01:20:25,160 --> 01:20:27,120
Speaker 1: Never you know, you will, you will, never will.

1816
01:20:28,800 --> 01:20:33,000
Speaker 4: I think that people want to be loved and accepted,

1817
01:20:33,040 --> 01:20:36,240
Speaker 4: and I don't think that we are as gracious to

1818
01:20:36,640 --> 01:20:44,720
Speaker 4: how evil, mean, rude. The Internet is like, we meet

1819
01:20:44,760 --> 01:20:46,760
Speaker 4: so many people who are like I tried to get

1820
01:20:46,760 --> 01:20:49,640
Speaker 4: on the dating apps as myself. I have posted my

1821
01:20:49,680 --> 01:20:52,439
Speaker 4: own pictures. I have been on the dating apps for years.

1822
01:20:52,880 --> 01:20:55,840
Speaker 4: Nobody ever swiped on me. So I thought, what if

1823
01:20:55,880 --> 01:20:59,880
Speaker 4: I just posted this picture of Denzel Washington? What kind

1824
01:20:59,880 --> 01:21:02,400
Speaker 4: of response what I get? And I got so many replies.

1825
01:21:02,920 --> 01:21:05,920
Speaker 4: Some people who use celebrity pictures are like, Okay, I

1826
01:21:05,960 --> 01:21:08,040
Speaker 4: think in my mind that they have to know that

1827
01:21:08,120 --> 01:21:11,120
Speaker 4: it's not me, but they're into it anyway. I want

1828
01:21:11,120 --> 01:21:13,880
Speaker 4: to have the conversation, so like, let's keep this up.

1829
01:21:14,240 --> 01:21:16,439
Speaker 4: But for the people who use like other people's pictures,

1830
01:21:16,439 --> 01:21:18,759
Speaker 4: sometimes they're like, I have tried to use my pictures,

1831
01:21:18,880 --> 01:21:21,439
Speaker 4: it didn't work out. I was tired of feeling like

1832
01:21:21,640 --> 01:21:23,960
Speaker 4: I wasn't desirable. I wanted people to get to know

1833
01:21:24,080 --> 01:21:26,519
Speaker 4: me for me. I wanted to just get to that

1834
01:21:26,560 --> 01:21:28,920
Speaker 4: next level, and this helped me to do that. So

1835
01:21:29,080 --> 01:21:30,559
Speaker 4: a lot of times it's that, bro.

1836
01:21:30,520 --> 01:21:33,479
Speaker 2: You know, not really think right now, Like I have

1837
01:21:33,680 --> 01:21:36,400
Speaker 2: definitely been at the place where I never catfish anything,

1838
01:21:36,400 --> 01:21:39,719
Speaker 2: but I just talked to someone because I was bored

1839
01:21:39,800 --> 01:21:41,160
Speaker 2: with the other options.

1840
01:21:40,720 --> 01:21:42,679
Speaker 4: Like bitch you've never been in an aim trap room.

1841
01:21:43,560 --> 01:21:47,160
Speaker 4: Would they say age sex location and you, yeah, but

1842
01:21:47,320 --> 01:21:49,479
Speaker 4: you never send pictures because we didn't have to send pictures.

1843
01:21:49,920 --> 01:21:51,679
Speaker 3: It was even the curvy girl.

1844
01:21:52,120 --> 01:21:54,080
Speaker 4: I would say age twenty one.

1845
01:21:54,960 --> 01:21:59,960
Speaker 1: The chat line location, Hollywood catfishing.

1846
01:22:00,080 --> 01:22:02,439
Speaker 3: We all you lied about your goddamn age.

1847
01:22:03,240 --> 01:22:05,080
Speaker 1: If you had dial up at any point in time,

1848
01:22:05,120 --> 01:22:07,480
Speaker 1: you have got you catfish. You have absolutely.

1849
01:22:08,439 --> 01:22:11,080
Speaker 2: I guess I never catfish with like the intent to

1850
01:22:11,120 --> 01:22:13,639
Speaker 2: meet or something and so on brain, it's not real because.

1851
01:22:14,160 --> 01:22:16,040
Speaker 3: The way I won't get on the hinge again.

1852
01:22:16,080 --> 01:22:17,960
Speaker 1: When I got on there, everyone thought I was a

1853
01:22:18,000 --> 01:22:20,400
Speaker 1: catfish because they know the podcast. Yeah yeah, yeah, bitch,

1854
01:22:20,439 --> 01:22:22,200
Speaker 1: if you know the podcast, I don't want to talk

1855
01:22:22,200 --> 01:22:23,320
Speaker 1: to you, but now I don't want to be on

1856
01:22:23,840 --> 01:22:25,880
Speaker 1: Let me get the up off this ship, let me this.

1857
01:22:27,120 --> 01:22:28,800
Speaker 4: I get it. That's why I like Riyah. But then

1858
01:22:28,840 --> 01:22:30,040
Speaker 4: I hear everybody say, right.

1859
01:22:30,640 --> 01:22:32,680
Speaker 2: Can I be honest, it's so crazy you found love

1860
01:22:32,720 --> 01:22:34,439
Speaker 2: on there because the men that I met on Ryan

1861
01:22:34,439 --> 01:22:36,439
Speaker 2: would sometimes even try to like knock me down and

1862
01:22:36,680 --> 01:22:38,679
Speaker 2: like oh yeah, like.

1863
01:22:38,640 --> 01:22:39,719
Speaker 3: Everybody thought they were important.

1864
01:22:39,760 --> 01:22:42,880
Speaker 2: I don't know if it works for me for women too,

1865
01:22:43,200 --> 01:22:46,439
Speaker 2: like people just it's like real good looking people.

1866
01:22:46,720 --> 01:22:49,240
Speaker 1: That's what I found better than the other apps. But

1867
01:22:50,160 --> 01:22:52,160
Speaker 1: Riya has really hot girls though.

1868
01:22:52,800 --> 01:22:55,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think all of the good girls are on.

1869
01:22:55,520 --> 01:22:58,040
Speaker 2: Like on Riya, you can land hits on women because

1870
01:22:58,040 --> 01:22:59,879
Speaker 2: you can basically look on a location map.

1871
01:22:59,760 --> 01:23:03,320
Speaker 4: Right, Yeah, I like these the bitches in Yeah, let

1872
01:23:03,320 --> 01:23:04,880
Speaker 4: me go outside, let me take it off.

1873
01:23:06,240 --> 01:23:07,759
Speaker 1: I tell people to listen to your.

1874
01:23:07,680 --> 01:23:12,080
Speaker 4: Podcast Relationship Airs every single Friday, and she can name,

1875
01:23:12,600 --> 01:23:15,200
Speaker 4: thank you, and I record. I had what the Bug

1876
01:23:15,240 --> 01:23:19,839
Speaker 4: studios a lot, so you'll see me, so yeah, every Friday,

1877
01:23:19,920 --> 01:23:21,640
Speaker 4: and then you can find me on all of my

1878
01:23:21,680 --> 01:23:24,280
Speaker 4: socials at Cammy Crawford, k A M I E. A

1879
01:23:24,280 --> 01:23:26,840
Speaker 4: lot of people like to leave off Kelly your man

1880
01:23:26,880 --> 01:23:29,600
Speaker 4: bring him on an everybody said that, like to just

1881
01:23:29,680 --> 01:23:30,840
Speaker 4: do it like his voice.

1882
01:23:30,960 --> 01:23:35,719
Speaker 1: I did one so doesn't want to Like, he doesn't

1883
01:23:35,800 --> 01:23:37,439
Speaker 1: just do it. He's just like, what do I even

1884
01:23:37,520 --> 01:23:38,760
Speaker 1: talk about? Funny?

1885
01:23:38,880 --> 01:23:39,320
Speaker 4: He's not.

1886
01:23:39,439 --> 01:23:41,280
Speaker 1: He's like behind the scenes.

1887
01:23:42,280 --> 01:23:44,040
Speaker 3: I know he's only fans like that.

1888
01:23:45,680 --> 01:23:47,280
Speaker 4: Oh my god, who was.

1889
01:23:48,720 --> 01:23:50,160
Speaker 3: I don't even think y'all would recognize her.

1890
01:23:50,200 --> 01:23:52,679
Speaker 2: But when I was on Twitter, she just was super

1891
01:23:52,720 --> 01:23:55,120
Speaker 2: popping with her boyfriend at the time. So when she

1892
01:23:55,200 --> 01:23:58,040
Speaker 2: made that comment to me, I'm like, you were literally

1893
01:23:58,080 --> 01:24:00,680
Speaker 2: my demographic for a guest like Gus, I.

1894
01:24:00,680 --> 01:24:01,040
Speaker 1: Don't want this.

1895
01:24:01,840 --> 01:24:04,920
Speaker 4: Hello, she run her opportunity and that's why I had

1896
01:24:05,000 --> 01:24:05,559
Speaker 4: to fill in.

1897
01:24:07,040 --> 01:24:07,519
Speaker 1: Anyway.

1898
01:24:07,840 --> 01:24:10,559
Speaker 2: Go check us out on patreon dot com, Backslash Horrible Decisions.

1899
01:24:10,600 --> 01:24:12,599
Speaker 2: We give you all the tea on there. Our town

1900
01:24:12,680 --> 01:24:17,080
Speaker 2: halls are there, our bonus contents there, nudes everything.

1901
01:24:17,840 --> 01:24:23,759
Speaker 1: Dude, Absolutely, I'm not somebody's racist, fucking sprain their ankle

1902
01:24:24,680 --> 01:24:26,439
Speaker 1: log on hurrye because they could be gone.

1903
01:24:26,560 --> 01:24:28,439
Speaker 3: Oh my god, this has been yet another episode of

1904
01:24:28,520 --> 01:24:32,320
Speaker 3: what I don't want the TV behind me.

1905
01:24:32,479 --> 01:24:35,479
Speaker 1: But I have a mailbox with my name that I

1906
01:24:35,479 --> 01:24:39,280
Speaker 1: got from HBO, so like, okay, that kind of looks

1907
01:24:39,400 --> 01:24:40,840
Speaker 1: kind of cool. We're just going to do this and

1908
01:24:40,880 --> 01:24:44,360
Speaker 1: switch it up today. I also want to thank you guys,

1909
01:24:44,600 --> 01:24:46,640
Speaker 1: uh the last on the hotline.

1910
01:24:47,400 --> 01:24:48,479
Speaker 3: I started with.

1911
01:24:50,320 --> 01:24:55,040
Speaker 1: Breaking down kind of where I was mentally, and so

1912
01:24:55,200 --> 01:24:57,840
Speaker 1: many of you reassured me that I'm not a bad person,

1913
01:24:57,880 --> 01:25:01,720
Speaker 1: which I appreciate, but I I didn't realize, which I

1914
01:25:01,720 --> 01:25:04,360
Speaker 1: guess I don't realize until I see the comments and

1915
01:25:04,760 --> 01:25:07,240
Speaker 1: meet you guys in person how much we all kind

1916
01:25:07,280 --> 01:25:09,080
Speaker 1: of live the same life, just a little bit, maybe

1917
01:25:09,080 --> 01:25:12,840
Speaker 1: at different moments in our lives, but we all are

1918
01:25:12,920 --> 01:25:15,200
Speaker 1: going through the same fucking shit trying to navigate life

1919
01:25:15,680 --> 01:25:19,200
Speaker 1: and life be life, and sometimes I'm not in that

1920
01:25:19,439 --> 01:25:24,160
Speaker 1: place particularly anymore. By the time you guys hear this,

1921
01:25:25,920 --> 01:25:30,760
Speaker 1: y'all probably would have seen me cry on a regular episode.

1922
01:25:31,600 --> 01:25:34,280
Speaker 1: I've been dealing with grief lately. I lost a friend

1923
01:25:34,360 --> 01:25:39,280
Speaker 1: and former manager recently, and in dealing with grief, there

1924
01:25:39,439 --> 01:25:46,559
Speaker 1: was a lot of this idea of closure or regret

1925
01:25:46,760 --> 01:25:50,559
Speaker 1: for not you know, taking my trip to Tokyo or

1926
01:25:50,640 --> 01:25:53,200
Speaker 1: Dallas and spending more time with him. Because of course,

1927
01:25:53,520 --> 01:25:55,800
Speaker 1: if you know something is coming to an end or

1928
01:25:55,840 --> 01:25:58,599
Speaker 1: a person is leaving, you want to fill that up

1929
01:25:58,640 --> 01:26:05,559
Speaker 1: with great amazing memory praise right, So boom story time, y'all.

1930
01:26:05,840 --> 01:26:09,599
Speaker 1: This this is really interesting because, in speaking of closure,

1931
01:26:10,400 --> 01:26:14,320
Speaker 1: I did not know what closure would look like with

1932
01:26:14,600 --> 01:26:19,120
Speaker 1: a heartbreak. Yes, if you are sick of hearing about

1933
01:26:19,120 --> 01:26:21,960
Speaker 1: my ex, you could turn it off now.

1934
01:26:22,360 --> 01:26:24,800
Speaker 3: However, this is.

1935
01:26:25,680 --> 01:26:30,240
Speaker 1: Almost like the universe was like, bitch, let me do

1936
01:26:30,360 --> 01:26:33,960
Speaker 1: this for you in this grieving moment, XYZ element O

1937
01:26:34,040 --> 01:26:40,120
Speaker 1: p so boom so I go to the funeral. Rest

1938
01:26:40,200 --> 01:26:45,040
Speaker 1: in peace, Jason Hoodie but so I go to the

1939
01:26:45,080 --> 01:26:48,400
Speaker 1: funeral and it's in Harlem. So I'm at the funeral

1940
01:26:49,000 --> 01:26:52,839
Speaker 1: over on one sixteenth, I think it was and funeral,

1941
01:26:52,920 --> 01:26:55,000
Speaker 1: and you know, after the funeral, you gotta go to

1942
01:26:55,040 --> 01:27:01,479
Speaker 1: the repass. So asking around, asking around, I'm starving. I

1943
01:27:01,520 --> 01:27:05,240
Speaker 1: did not eat that morning funeral. They had the viewing

1944
01:27:05,280 --> 01:27:09,519
Speaker 1: it ten, the funeral service from eleven to one, and

1945
01:27:09,600 --> 01:27:13,879
Speaker 1: then the repast was one to five. A bitch was hungry,

1946
01:27:14,000 --> 01:27:17,200
Speaker 1: a bitch was dehydrated. Because I had no more tears

1947
01:27:17,200 --> 01:27:19,639
Speaker 1: to cry. I just sat there and bawled my eyes

1948
01:27:19,640 --> 01:27:23,760
Speaker 1: out for literally about two hours. And so when it

1949
01:27:23,800 --> 01:27:27,120
Speaker 1: came time to eat, couldn't nobody tell me who cooked

1950
01:27:27,120 --> 01:27:28,520
Speaker 1: the food and the repast?

1951
01:27:28,920 --> 01:27:30,560
Speaker 3: And I was like, well, I just ain't go e

1952
01:27:30,840 --> 01:27:31,800
Speaker 3: just anybody food.

1953
01:27:32,280 --> 01:27:36,719
Speaker 1: So went across the street to amy Rus had smothered

1954
01:27:36,720 --> 01:27:37,879
Speaker 1: turkey wings, because.

1955
01:27:37,640 --> 01:27:41,160
Speaker 3: That's my shit if I go to a motherfucking sold

1956
01:27:41,160 --> 01:27:41,959
Speaker 3: food restaurants.

1957
01:27:42,000 --> 01:27:45,559
Speaker 1: So I had smothered turkey wings with salte okram and

1958
01:27:45,680 --> 01:27:49,360
Speaker 1: making cheese. And then I was with a friend of mine,

1959
01:27:49,400 --> 01:27:52,720
Speaker 1: Ayana and Ishmael, and we were like, you know what,

1960
01:27:54,439 --> 01:27:56,800
Speaker 1: I want to go grab a drink. This has been

1961
01:27:57,560 --> 01:28:02,920
Speaker 1: a heavy last two weeks with the realization that we

1962
01:28:02,960 --> 01:28:08,200
Speaker 1: lost our friend. The service was beautiful, but very heavily

1963
01:28:08,240 --> 01:28:10,320
Speaker 1: emotional and bitch, y'all know i'd be liking a drain.

1964
01:28:10,760 --> 01:28:13,400
Speaker 3: So we go on over to Harlem Tavern. We have

1965
01:28:13,439 --> 01:28:13,880
Speaker 3: a drink.

1966
01:28:13,920 --> 01:28:18,720
Speaker 1: About four more of our friends join us and end

1967
01:28:18,800 --> 01:28:22,160
Speaker 1: up heading back to the repass. So as we're leaving

1968
01:28:22,400 --> 01:28:24,360
Speaker 1: the bar, though y'all ready for this.

1969
01:28:24,760 --> 01:28:26,160
Speaker 3: As we're leaving the bar.

1970
01:28:27,280 --> 01:28:31,240
Speaker 1: I see my ex's truck.

1971
01:28:32,120 --> 01:28:35,080
Speaker 3: Now, bitch, let me tell y'all how my heart.

1972
01:28:35,160 --> 01:28:38,400
Speaker 1: Against sake, But not really because I didn't know what

1973
01:28:38,439 --> 01:28:40,479
Speaker 1: emotions to have, because y'all know, I had already ran

1974
01:28:40,520 --> 01:28:43,240
Speaker 1: into the motherfucker at the park so where I had

1975
01:28:43,240 --> 01:28:45,320
Speaker 1: a whole panic attack. So I see his car, and

1976
01:28:45,320 --> 01:28:48,519
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know if this is really his truck,

1977
01:28:48,680 --> 01:28:52,280
Speaker 1: but it makes sense because we retired firefighter. That nigga

1978
01:28:52,320 --> 01:28:55,559
Speaker 1: gonna double park wherever. He don't believe in rules, he

1979
01:28:55,560 --> 01:28:58,720
Speaker 1: don't believe in tickets, he gonna park that car. So

1980
01:29:00,240 --> 01:29:02,559
Speaker 1: I look and see the car, and I go to

1981
01:29:02,600 --> 01:29:05,240
Speaker 1: the front to see in the dashboard or you know,

1982
01:29:05,760 --> 01:29:10,599
Speaker 1: see any stickers to identify the vehicle, and it's his

1983
01:29:12,160 --> 01:29:15,160
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, this nigga gotta be at Bixi.

1984
01:29:15,280 --> 01:29:17,640
Speaker 1: Bixi is the bar right in front of where his

1985
01:29:17,720 --> 01:29:20,240
Speaker 1: car was, So I tell my homegirl. I was like, bitch,

1986
01:29:20,320 --> 01:29:21,880
Speaker 1: is a nigga that broke my heart? This is car,

1987
01:29:21,960 --> 01:29:24,120
Speaker 1: this is my ex car. Bitch, let's just go into

1988
01:29:24,120 --> 01:29:26,679
Speaker 1: the bar, get a shot, and I'm gonna be loud

1989
01:29:26,680 --> 01:29:30,080
Speaker 1: with it and I'm an her. Make sure he see me.

1990
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1992
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1993
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