WEBVTT - Holiday Behavior: the Good, the Bad, and the Malcriado 0:00:02.960 --> 0:00:06.400 Welcome, guys, welcome, Welcome to your show, my show. It's 0:00:06.400 --> 0:00:09.920 your girl, Amada Lagra and you're listening to Exactly Amada 0:00:10.080 --> 0:00:12.600 upproduction of iHeart. Thank you so much for tuning in. 0:00:12.680 --> 0:00:14.640 I am so grateful for every single one of you 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:18.720 who is on here listening to this new episode as usual, 0:00:18.760 --> 0:00:21.320 don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on your favorite 0:00:21.360 --> 0:00:24.599 podcast platform, radus those five stars that you already know 0:00:24.680 --> 0:00:28.000 I love to see and leave us a review. Let 0:00:28.000 --> 0:00:29.040 me know if you love it, let me know if 0:00:29.040 --> 0:00:30.640 you hate it. Whatever topics you want to hear me 0:00:30.680 --> 0:00:33.560 talk about or something that may have inspired you, let 0:00:33.600 --> 0:00:36.000 me know. I love the good feedback, and you know, 0:00:36.080 --> 0:00:37.960 any feedback to make the show better. I'm down for 0:00:38.000 --> 0:00:40.839 that too. Head over to the YouTube channel, where you 0:00:40.840 --> 0:00:42.760 will also be able to watch or listen to the 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:46.839 podcast by searching for micro through that podcast and clicking 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:53.440 on Exactly Amada. So with that brings said. We are 0:00:53.479 --> 0:00:57.720 in the holiday seasons, Kehiko, let me know what's your 0:00:57.720 --> 0:01:00.800 favorite holiday and to gas, how would you okay celebrate 0:01:01.000 --> 0:01:03.240 because that's another thing in the Latino a community. There's 0:01:03.240 --> 0:01:05.640 a lot of things we don't necessarily celebrate or we 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:08.360 do it just trying to follow the American trends. I 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:14.120 wanted to talk about holiday behavior today. I want to 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:16.840 explore the latest tips and tricks on how to make 0:01:16.920 --> 0:01:22.480 the most effective, the most welcoming, the most respectful, you know, 0:01:22.640 --> 0:01:27.679 ways of coming over to somebody's house for the holidays. 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:30.720 What are the does and don'ts? What are the things 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:33.480 you can and can do? How should you treat your 0:01:33.560 --> 0:01:36.240 you know, your your guests as a host? What are 0:01:36.319 --> 0:01:39.319 things you can and can't do? Should and shouldn't do? 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:43.440 All those things are important. If you like to, you know, 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:47.000 have people come over for the holidays, if you like 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:49.560 to be all up in somebody's house for the holidays, 0:01:49.920 --> 0:01:54.880 there's some rules and regulations we must follow as the host. 0:01:56.520 --> 0:01:59.800 As a host, you know, you also have rules and 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:02.160 relations and things that you should do as well. I 0:02:02.200 --> 0:02:05.080 think that that part of the Latino community is that 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:08.720 we love to make other people feel good. We love 0:02:08.800 --> 0:02:11.840 to host people. We love the family at the house, 0:02:11.880 --> 0:02:15.320 you know, just the welcoming energy of having people over. 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:19.160 We love that. But with those things, either they can 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:21.359 turn out to be really really good or they can 0:02:21.360 --> 0:02:23.560 turn out to be a hot mess and you end 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:26.240 up kicking everybody out. You never want to make anybody 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:29.040 you know that comes over to your house feel awkward 0:02:29.240 --> 0:02:32.400 or uncomfortable or unwelcomed. So there's things that you have 0:02:32.480 --> 0:02:35.320 to do as well. There's rules and etiquettes as well 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:38.359 for hosts and guests and things that need to be followed. 0:02:38.440 --> 0:02:41.400 So between one thing and the other, let me start 0:02:41.400 --> 0:02:45.919 by saying, I personally am doing a small Thanksgiving get 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:48.640 together here at my house, but then I'm also doing 0:02:48.639 --> 0:02:51.800 a friends giving. I've never done a friends giving. I 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:54.680 thought it would be super nice, super sweet, since you know, 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:57.560 my mother immigrated to this country by herself. We really 0:02:57.560 --> 0:03:00.480 don't have our family here, and our friends have become 0:03:00.520 --> 0:03:03.560 our family throughout the years, and I really love those 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:06.160 because sometimes even your real family aren't as close to 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:08.040 you as a friends that you make along the way. 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:10.200 I was like, say, hey, well, some friends getting better. 0:03:12.200 --> 0:03:15.720 I'm a little bit nervous because I am an only 0:03:15.800 --> 0:03:18.240 child and I'm accustomed to being by myself. I'm not 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:21.600 a fan of having too many people over the house. 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:23.720 Meeting too many people over the house is like more 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:26.120 than five people over the house, five people. I feel 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:29.200 like I can control more than five people when it's 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:32.480 like twenty thirty people in your house is like get out. 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:35.800 It's good in the beginning, but afterwards, just seeing all 0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:38.800 the movement of people in and out, like you're going 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:41.080 to the bathroom, now you're walking out. Now you're over here. 0:03:41.120 --> 0:03:43.320 Now you're asking words the toilet paper, where's this, whe's 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:45.840 the napkins? Where's the floor? Is? Well? Let me where's 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:47.840 the water? Can I have some eyes? Can I have this? Mean? 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:50.640 Like the thing? Don't bombay I have? Oh my god, 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:54.880 I can't deal with it. Is that a bad thing? 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:58.960 I'm sorry. I don't mean to be that way anyways. 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:04.360 So here you go. Rule number one, Guest your goals. 0:04:04.400 --> 0:04:07.200 The rule number one for your guests. When you're coming 0:04:07.400 --> 0:04:12.280 over to someone's house, please be respectful of their rules 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:15.680 and regulations. Please be respectful of their home, their of 0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:20.000 their space. This is not a hotel. Their home is 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:24.680 not your personal Airbnb. It is not a hotel. Do 0:04:24.920 --> 0:04:28.240 not be annoying your hosts for things that you can 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:31.480 try to figure out on your own. Before you go 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:35.160 to someone's house, ask permission if you want to bring 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:38.880 more guests. If they have invited you, that doesn't mean 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:42.279 that you can come with five, six, ten other of 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:46.080 your friends that you want them to accompany you. They 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:49.920 invited you, you understand me. So if you want to 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:52.800 bring your cousin, your PRIMI, your boyfriend, your boyfriend's mother, 0:04:52.839 --> 0:04:58.520 and them, and yes, say papa. Never you say, oh 0:04:58.600 --> 0:05:00.920 my god, thank you so much for inviting to the holidays, 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:03.600 you know, party at your house. Do you mind? If 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:06.719 I have a guest over, They may ask you sure, 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:10.840 or they may say how many. When they say how many, 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:14.680 here goes another one. How many doesn't mean bring your 0:05:14.680 --> 0:05:18.320 whole entourage. For the most part, it means plus one 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:22.679 plus two and the children isn't automatic. If you have children, 0:05:23.000 --> 0:05:25.719 we know that they come with you. And that's you know, 0:05:26.600 --> 0:05:29.800 you know, we get that part. So it's oh, me 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:33.280 and andico, that's it. Don't be like, oh, it is 0:05:33.320 --> 0:05:36.840 an open invitation. That's important. Oh. I have so many 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:39.400 rules for y'all. Y'all better pay attention. Now that I 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:42.440 spoke about kids, and I was in rule number zero 0:05:42.480 --> 0:05:46.039 to one. That's rule number one. Now I'm gonna go 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:49.400 to rule number two. If you have children and your 0:05:49.520 --> 0:05:53.839 children are coming over to someone else's home, you must 0:05:53.839 --> 0:05:55.800 have you It's important for you to have months of 0:05:55.920 --> 0:06:00.280 preparation and training. What does that mean? That means you 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:02.880 teach them the laser eye. If you don't know the 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:07.279 laser eye, is that that latina mom thing we've all 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:10.200 been through that they just look at you and fire 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:13.599 flame just comes out of their eyeballs and you automatically 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:16.440 know not to do it. Teach them that before you 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:19.240 take them to anybody's house. It doesn't mean that you 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:22.000 have to be spanking them all over, you know, the 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:25.200 la fieta. That is slightly embarrassing. And if you feel 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:27.080 that you need to do some mommy daddy tune up, 0:06:27.240 --> 0:06:29.919 you do that privately. You take them to the bathroom 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:31.680 like my mom used to do. You take them to 0:06:31.760 --> 0:06:34.719 a bathild in the yard somewhere, you know what. Excuse me, 0:06:34.800 --> 0:06:37.200 we need to have a moment. Don't be in the 0:06:37.200 --> 0:06:39.520 middle of the party trying to spank your kid and 0:06:39.560 --> 0:06:42.080 discipline them and do all that extra stuff. Now everybody's 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:44.160 looking at you crazy, like you didn't train her, you 0:06:44.200 --> 0:06:45.719 know what I'm saying, Like you're not a good parent, 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:47.800 and now it's a hot mess. Now we're thinking that 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:50.240 you're being abusive to your kid. And now the whole 0:06:50.240 --> 0:06:52.040 family has something to say about the way that you're 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:53.960 raising your kids, and then now you became the topic 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:57.680 of conversation. Don't do that, you say, I company mean 0:06:57.760 --> 0:07:00.960 so no, you know Menanita and my son, and that 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:03.400 we didn't have a little conversation. You pull them through 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:06.200 an arm, you take them through the bathroom, and you 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:08.640 do what you have to do, or you do it outside. 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:13.200 You understand. Tell your kids as well. Children have rules 0:07:13.240 --> 0:07:17.560 and regulations as well. Unless you are under two years old. 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:19.960 If you're under two years old, a lot of things. 0:07:20.200 --> 0:07:21.880 You know, we're gonna cutch you some slack because you 0:07:21.880 --> 0:07:25.600 don't know no better. But after two, don't touch anything. 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:29.320 Don't ask for anything. Come on, we're Latinos. We know 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:32.160 this stuff. Our parents taught us. Don't ask for nothing, 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:36.080 don't touch nothing. Don't eat nobody's food unless I've given 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:38.840 you permission. Don't look at them like you've been starving 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:41.920 for the past three years, like nobody's speeding you at home. 0:07:42.080 --> 0:07:46.680 Don't do none of those things. Don't touch nothing. Don't 0:07:46.720 --> 0:07:49.280 be hitting other kids in this party. Don't be doing 0:07:49.320 --> 0:07:59.280 none of those things. Wait, if you have to take 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:00.760 a little iPad to do, if you have to do 0:08:00.800 --> 0:08:02.680 those little things. Whatever it is that you know that 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:05.920 your kids like to be entertained, please provide those things. 0:08:06.040 --> 0:08:09.679 I personally know that my girls is missus Rachel, Miss Rachel, 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:12.920 and you know cocomelon baby shark. I know how to 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:16.640 keep my children entertained and focused. Please be prepared with 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:19.360 your baby snacks, your kids snacks. Unasawa, I need that. 0:08:19.400 --> 0:08:21.600 It's important if you have kids over. You know that 0:08:21.680 --> 0:08:24.360 in all the Latino parties, your kid is gonna fall 0:08:24.400 --> 0:08:26.760 asleep at some point. Make sure that in your car 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:29.400 you have wunasa. I need that, a little blanket, a 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:31.600 little pillo, a little boom boom boom. You already know 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:34.080 how this goes. So you could put two chairs together 0:08:34.120 --> 0:08:36.520 and they can sleep. Come on, now, you know what 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:40.040 I'm talking about. Been there, done that. Also, just in 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:42.600 case if your kid is a wild eater, make sure 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:45.120 you have a little tooment and the extra clothes in 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:47.000 the bat and in the you know, in the baggage, 0:08:47.480 --> 0:08:49.719 little extra clothes because you know sometimes kids in these 0:08:49.720 --> 0:08:52.240 parties they want to eat like they've never had food 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:54.520 in their life. And if they're gonna get their clothes dirty, 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:56.439 all those things you want to make sure that as 0:08:56.440 --> 0:08:59.640 a parent, you look like you got this together. Okay, 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:02.640 we've been training in the in the Mommy Daddy military. 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:07.200 We are prepared for whatever situation. So movie right on 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:11.520 after that. It is important people, guest, if you go 0:09:11.640 --> 0:09:15.120 to someone house, this is not your personal buffet. This 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:17.800 is not mean that you're gonna bring all the containers 0:09:17.800 --> 0:09:20.640 from your house so that when the everybody's done eating, 0:09:20.679 --> 0:09:23.520 and even before people are done eating, the people haven't 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:26.240 even had an opportunity to eat, and you're already taking 0:09:26.280 --> 0:09:28.280 I ate the pamaiana. I'm gonna take a little bit 0:09:28.320 --> 0:09:29.960 of rice. I'm gonna take a little bit of boy 0:09:30.080 --> 0:09:34.880 got solid. Don't be that person. Don't be that person 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:39.080 that goes to somebody else's house unless everybody has already eaten, 0:09:39.480 --> 0:09:43.680 and everybody's already full, and everybody's already had the realms one, two, three, 0:09:43.760 --> 0:09:47.440 four and five, Because you know that's another point, you know, 0:09:47.559 --> 0:09:50.680 unless everybody's already eating, when everything is done, then you 0:09:50.679 --> 0:09:53.320 can ask you know, your you can ask your host, 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:58.959 whoever may be, my love mama, if hey cousin yo, 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:00.679 you think I can take a little bit of you know, 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:02.800 is anybody can you take a little bit home. Is 0:10:02.800 --> 0:10:05.960 that Okay? You ask for permission. Stop acting like you 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:08.800 bought this food. Stop acting like you cook this food. 0:10:09.040 --> 0:10:12.760 Stop acting like you gave tip to the chef for cooking. 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:16.880 Don't be that person. Okay, but yes, make sure to 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:18.760 always take a little plastic continues. You can buy them 0:10:18.840 --> 0:10:20.280 on the Amazon, you can go to the daughter store, 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:23.760 buy little containers, put it in your car, and then 0:10:23.840 --> 0:10:27.400 if they give you permission out of respect. Don't be 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:30.280 taking people's containers from their home. They gay, oh, do 0:10:30.320 --> 0:10:32.520 you have someone for me to take this? No, you 0:10:32.679 --> 0:10:35.000 know where you were going. You knew there was gonna 0:10:35.000 --> 0:10:37.360 be food, and you knew you were your hungry ass 0:10:37.440 --> 0:10:40.640 was gonna want more. Bring some containers in the car 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:44.520 and some surround wrapper and be prepared to take your 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:47.520 food for the next five days to your house. But faith, 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:51.920 here goes another situation. If you go to some guests, 0:10:51.960 --> 0:10:54.800 if you go to somebody else's house for holidays, you 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:58.160 know where, wherever it may be, please make sure that 0:10:58.200 --> 0:11:01.240 everybody you know has eaten. Don't be over here. Okay, 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:04.920 you've never had food in your life, having around one, two, three, four, five, six. 0:11:05.160 --> 0:11:07.960 Your plate is the plate is about to fall out 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:14.800 of your hand because you and the potatoes. Don't be 0:11:15.000 --> 0:11:18.079 that person. You can serve your silver a little bit. 0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:21.320 After you finish that, you go up, and then you 0:11:21.360 --> 0:11:23.480 serve your silk a little bit more, and then you 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:27.200 continue til you're done. No regen plato, so you know 0:11:27.320 --> 0:11:29.280 you can't eat it and then you end up throwing 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:33.199 it away. Don't be that person, are you guys? Keeping up? 0:11:33.240 --> 0:11:36.160 I love it if you're gonna go to somebody's house 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:39.960 and you're gonna have a little bit of to drink, enjoy. 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:44.080 We're having social activities. Let's dance, let's sing, let's do karaoke, 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:47.199 let's talk about once upon a time. You know, our 0:11:47.240 --> 0:11:50.720 cousin knows to tell all the family stories. And while 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:54.440 you're doing it, zip sip. The alcohol in the party 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:57.880 is not water. Do not chug it. Like you're at 0:11:57.880 --> 0:12:00.679 the club and it's an open bar. You're more than 0:12:00.720 --> 0:12:03.240 welcome to have one or two drinks. You know, when 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:06.800 you're feeling a little saucy, that means spota stop, don't 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:12.360 do it. Don't be that drunk family member, our friend. Okay, 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:14.400 especially if you're a friend, if you're not even they 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:17.400 get blood family and you're here as the friend and 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:27.880 now you're being the drunk one. Please do not do that, man, sir. Listen, 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:30.280 there's a lot of rules in regulation. If you guys 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:35.920 are playing domino at these family domino, if you're singing karaoke, 0:12:36.440 --> 0:12:39.560 if you guys are playing any family you know games, 0:12:40.040 --> 0:12:43.920 I don't know, board games, go fish whatever. Don't be 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:48.520 that competitive family member who don't know how to act. 0:12:48.840 --> 0:12:53.160 It's just a game. It's not serious. You ain't nobody 0:12:53.200 --> 0:12:56.079 winning no money. And if you aren't gonna win some money, 0:12:56.400 --> 0:13:00.319 don't be a crazy to many end. Come on, we're 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:03.199 trying to have a family moment. I think it's important. Guys. 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:08.080 Please make sure to share this episode with whatever you know, 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.400 whatever family member, whatever friends it is you might be 0:13:11.440 --> 0:13:14.520 wanting to invite over to your home bed. Make sure 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:16.600 you send this to them so they don't think it's 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:19.120 you saying it. Let them know that it's me saying it, 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:24.240 ma'am sir, don't do it. Okay, Now, as much as 0:13:24.280 --> 0:13:26.560 I'm talking about the guests, because the list for the 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:28.840 guests can go on and on, let's move on to 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:33.760 the host. If you're hosting an event at your home, 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:38.480 please make sure to be welcoming. Don't invite people over 0:13:38.600 --> 0:13:42.079 like you sick of them, like oh yeah, comment no, no, no, 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:46.040 Remember this is the holidays, being benied welcome, I fool, 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:49.040 I need the hugs and kisses, positive energy field in 0:13:49.080 --> 0:13:51.920 the spirit, you know what I mean. Don't invite people 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:54.520 over if you're gonna have a stink attitude, if you're 0:13:54.600 --> 0:13:56.719 sick of them, if you're like, oh, why did I 0:13:56.800 --> 0:13:59.640 even do this at my house? Don't have that energy 0:13:59.679 --> 0:14:02.839 because do you want people to feel welcomed in your home? 0:14:04.040 --> 0:14:06.760 Rule number one thousand. Also, make sure to have enough 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:09.880 toilet paper, napkins, all the things that you know your 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:11.360 holes are going to I mean, your guests are going 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:14.040 to be needing at one point because remember that, for 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:15.720 the most part, they're not going to come by themselves. 0:14:15.760 --> 0:14:18.440 You're gonna have to need, you know, have extra things. 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:21.480 Another thing, if you don't want people over at your 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:24.680 house for these you know, family functions, then don't do 0:14:24.800 --> 0:14:27.240 it at your Nobody forced you to do this at 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:30.160 your house. Don't be like no that, don't sit here, 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:32.960 don't touch this, whey is this this? Don't have an 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:35.920 attitude because you have the whole house and the whole 0:14:35.920 --> 0:14:38.640 neighborhood in your house. You decided to do this and 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:41.920 invite them over. Please, ma'am sir, don't be having no 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:46.320 attitude because the ain't nobody wasting all their gas online okay, 0:14:46.320 --> 0:14:48.400 and dressing nice and getting their haircut and getting their 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:50.440 nails done and all that stuff to bring their family 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:53.760 over to your house for them to feel unwelcomed. Don't 0:14:53.760 --> 0:14:57.640 do that, ma'am sir. As well, if you have boundaries 0:14:57.720 --> 0:15:00.960 which are respected, you know at your home, please let 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:03.760 them know in the most courteous way, whether it is 0:15:03.840 --> 0:15:07.080 before they come to your home or in that space 0:15:07.120 --> 0:15:09.920 you can pull them to a side and be like, metam, 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:12.600 I don't I said, foh, can you please not do that? 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:15.760 Not for nothing? Please don't feel bad better, I personally 0:15:15.840 --> 0:15:18.160 don't like it. Don't be talking to people like they're 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:21.160 your children with no attitude because you don't want them 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:22.920 touching anything in your house or because you don't like 0:15:22.960 --> 0:15:24.800 the way that they're behaving. Please don't do that. No 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:30.440 eye rows, no no attitude. You know that chimosa talking 0:15:30.480 --> 0:15:33.760 to the rest of the family members about what are 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:36.400 doing at your house. Don't do that. If you don't 0:15:36.480 --> 0:15:39.280 like something that someone is doing. Please feel free to, 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:43.280 you know, communicate with them privately. Don't be talking loud 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:46.040 to your guests in the middle of the family function, 0:15:46.480 --> 0:15:49.160 embarrassing them because of whatever it is they need to. 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:52.280 Please learn to pull people to a side to have 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:57.800 those conversations and so and now everybody is talking about it. 0:15:58.080 --> 0:16:02.840 Communication is very important, and communication in the most respectful 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:06.520 way is important. Don't be targeting people like they're your children. 0:16:06.560 --> 0:16:10.240 Do you understand great? Perfect though. Also, if they're gonna 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:12.600 be sleeping over, make sure that them sheets is clean. 0:16:12.920 --> 0:16:14.600 Don't be like, you know, do it the input and 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:18.280 then your sheetsmell like ass. Don't do that. Okay. If 0:16:18.320 --> 0:16:21.040 you know that you're having a function in your home, 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:25.240 be prepared, okay to receive people over and then only 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:27.920 that people be taking naps. If people want to take 0:16:27.960 --> 0:16:30.000 a nap, make sure that you have a space where 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:32.360 they can, you know, lay down and sleep, whether it 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:34.640 is that you have an extra bedroom or someone eat 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:37.000 that in in the couch with a little pillows somewhere. 0:16:37.120 --> 0:16:41.200 Especially if you're gonna be having children over sheets, towels, 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:45.720 you know, like I said before, toilet paper, you know, toothpaste, 0:16:45.760 --> 0:16:48.120 little mini brushes that you can get at the dollar store. 0:16:48.160 --> 0:16:52.200 Dumb little kids. They're very bourgeois, very cute. One dollar nine. 0:16:52.240 --> 0:16:54.880 Sometimes're gonna be a little expensive. Come on now, if 0:16:54.880 --> 0:16:56.600 you're gonna have gets over and you're gonna do something, 0:16:56.640 --> 0:16:58.640 make sure to do it nice, make sure to do 0:16:58.680 --> 0:17:00.880 it with quality. Don't be sheep out here in these 0:17:00.920 --> 0:17:04.760 streets inviting the people to your house looking crazy, because 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:06.840 you know your house is gonna be the topic of 0:17:06.880 --> 0:17:10.280 conversation on all the WhatsApp chats and everybody's gonna be 0:17:10.280 --> 0:17:12.800 talking about anyamo. When I went to foo undeath this house, 0:17:13.040 --> 0:17:16.760 but it was trash. The sheet smell like crap. The 0:17:16.800 --> 0:17:19.879 toilet paper they're gonna go, don't be buying them, sheep. 0:17:20.119 --> 0:17:22.280 You know toilet papers. If you're gonna have people over 0:17:22.600 --> 0:17:25.040 that the sheets get stuck to their butt because you 0:17:25.040 --> 0:17:27.000 don't want to spend the you know what I'm saying, 0:17:27.040 --> 0:17:32.040 the extra two dollars. Come on, let's be tasteful. Let's 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:43.080 do things with quality and class. If you have guests 0:17:43.080 --> 0:17:45.640 over and your guests want to hear you know, hip 0:17:45.600 --> 0:17:48.000 hop or they I want to hear bat bunny, don't 0:17:48.200 --> 0:17:50.359 want to hear about chat that. You know, your uncle 0:17:50.400 --> 0:17:51.840 likes to hear his side stuff from you know what 0:17:51.880 --> 0:17:56.160 I'm saying, nineteen eighties, whatever it may be, Be open minded, 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:58.160 Be open minded. Remember that you want to make people 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:00.359 feel woke. You don't want to be like, oh, I 0:18:00.359 --> 0:18:02.600 don't want to hear that. Change that. No, it is 0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:05.160 your home, but it is not necessarily your party. Even 0:18:05.160 --> 0:18:08.160 though it is you. You invited people over. You want 0:18:08.200 --> 0:18:10.399 to make sure that they feel good, and that means 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:14.960 being open minded musically, food wise, and everything else. Are 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:18.840 you guys following I'm telling you, please subscribe and share. 0:18:19.200 --> 0:18:22.400 I know somebody out here in these streets know exactly 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:27.280 what I'm talking about. I know also rules and regulations. 0:18:27.320 --> 0:18:29.000 It is so easy to just print out a little 0:18:29.000 --> 0:18:30.119 piece of paper if you want to put it on 0:18:30.119 --> 0:18:32.320 top of the toilet. Please do not flush any toilet 0:18:32.359 --> 0:18:34.200 paper because now you have like fifty people over your 0:18:34.200 --> 0:18:37.200 house and everybody forgot. You know what I'm saying. There's 0:18:37.240 --> 0:18:40.240 ways of doing things. Please keep these bathrooms. This goes 0:18:40.240 --> 0:18:42.960 for the guests. This is not a public restroom. Do 0:18:43.080 --> 0:18:45.560 not go out here racing all the toilet and just 0:18:45.600 --> 0:18:48.840 throwing it everywhere. And just please let's keep it tasteful 0:18:48.840 --> 0:18:50.600 for the next person that's going to come into this 0:18:50.680 --> 0:18:53.280 home and to this bathroom. All those things are important. 0:18:53.320 --> 0:18:56.160 You may not think about it, but they are important. 0:18:56.320 --> 0:19:01.000 Let's be listen. There are so many rules and regulations. 0:19:01.040 --> 0:19:03.240 If you have any rules and regulations for people coming 0:19:03.240 --> 0:19:06.720 over to your house, can you please hit me up 0:19:06.880 --> 0:19:09.440 on the YouTube channel and in the common area let 0:19:09.440 --> 0:19:11.800 me know, hit me up with that review. I know 0:19:11.920 --> 0:19:13.760 you've been through. Have you ever been through a situation 0:19:13.920 --> 0:19:17.760 like this with friends, families, or anything like that. If oh, 0:19:17.800 --> 0:19:20.000 my god, if you go to somebody's house and you 0:19:20.080 --> 0:19:22.240 break something, don't be acting like it was in you 0:19:22.720 --> 0:19:25.920 if you did it, be a responsible dolt and be like, yo, 0:19:26.119 --> 0:19:28.760 my bad, it was me. How can I repair this? 0:19:28.880 --> 0:19:30.920 What may I do? Don't be out here trying to 0:19:30.960 --> 0:19:33.280 act like you, like you, you know five years old 0:19:33.280 --> 0:19:35.439 decay I threw Oh it wasn't me, it was you. 0:19:36.680 --> 0:19:39.760 We got cameras. Now, don't maybe go into this camera 0:19:39.800 --> 0:19:42.159 system and see you drop it. Don't make me go 0:19:42.160 --> 0:19:45.400 over here and see you break it. Please be sensitive 0:19:45.400 --> 0:19:47.680 of breaking people's things in their home. If you're going 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:49.199 to somebody's house and the host is there and you 0:19:49.200 --> 0:19:51.000 know that they're handling a lot of people and they're 0:19:51.040 --> 0:19:53.040 taking care of everybody else. Don't be all up in 0:19:53.080 --> 0:19:55.120 their face trying to tell them stories. They don't want 0:19:55.119 --> 0:19:57.760 to hear, no damn story. They're caught up with everybody 0:19:57.800 --> 0:20:00.320 else and making sure that everybody else is comfortable. Everybody 0:20:00.359 --> 0:20:03.159 is having a moment because when you're hosting events, you 0:20:03.280 --> 0:20:06.000 barely have time for yourself. You're making time for everybody else. 0:20:06.160 --> 0:20:08.479 Come on, now, can I get a Hellelujah? You know 0:20:08.640 --> 0:20:11.880 I am speaking the truth. Okay, I hate to host 0:20:11.920 --> 0:20:14.440 events and everybody's out in my face, ma'am sir, can 0:20:14.480 --> 0:20:17.240 you please? You've known me for the past one hundred years. 0:20:17.320 --> 0:20:18.879 Why do you want to talk to me at this moment. 0:20:19.040 --> 0:20:21.840 I'm trying to do something nice for everybody else. Enjoy 0:20:21.920 --> 0:20:24.720 each other's company. I want you to interact with other 0:20:24.840 --> 0:20:27.720 you know, other people. Another thing. When you're down here 0:20:27.760 --> 0:20:30.640 talking about memory Lane, don't be talking about the bad 0:20:30.680 --> 0:20:33.119 stories that you know is gonna make everybody hot and 0:20:33.200 --> 0:20:36.840 everybody start arguing. Don't tell no bad stories of like, 0:20:37.160 --> 0:20:40.000 oh remember when my cousin cheated on you with forget 0:20:40.200 --> 0:20:43.920 Don't be that person. We're here to have positive conversations 0:20:43.960 --> 0:20:48.040 and nice interactions. Don't be talking about no negativity. Don't 0:20:48.080 --> 0:20:50.679 be trying to solve no family issues in this moment. 0:20:50.720 --> 0:20:53.240 You solve that out of the party, don't do you 0:20:53.280 --> 0:20:55.639 get what I'm saying. Come on, now, I know you 0:20:55.800 --> 0:20:59.040 know where I'm coming from. Another thing, it is important 0:20:59.240 --> 0:21:01.640 that you come to you know, whoever's house it may 0:21:01.640 --> 0:21:06.240