WEBVTT - You've Got Decisons: Dry Spell Cure ASAP

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<v Speaker 1>If you would like to have us answer your questions.

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<v Speaker 2>If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or

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<v Speaker 2>a terrible throuffle, guess what.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got decisions. You got decisions, baby, and I do too.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna try to come up with a jingle. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>all I know that, listen. All I know is I

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<v Speaker 3>was listening to all of these interviews about clips and

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<v Speaker 3>apparently they bought themselves out of their deal and I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, wait, push your Tea got that much money?

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<v Speaker 3>And girl, apparently he made the jingle I'm loving it

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<v Speaker 3>for McDonald's.

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<v Speaker 1>And oh yeah that on a was it Family Few?

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<v Speaker 2>There was an episode of something where it talked about

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<v Speaker 2>push your teeth. No, it was an episode of for

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<v Speaker 2>a Vaccine. I'm like, I was like Family Few was

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<v Speaker 2>talking about pushing teeth.

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<v Speaker 1>We did an episode of.

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<v Speaker 2>Ways that People Got Rich that were like a surprise

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<v Speaker 2>Doctor Dre we featured because it's just like beats.

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<v Speaker 1>He got riches from Beats with yes and push your t.

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<v Speaker 2>Was on there and we were like yes.

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<v Speaker 1>So when I saw I was like, wait, push your

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<v Speaker 1>tea got coins.

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<v Speaker 3>Like that, and bitch when I went when I heard

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<v Speaker 3>what I heard I was like, oh, bitch, about to

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<v Speaker 3>make some jingles, like I know we're doing cute or

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<v Speaker 3>New York Times bestsellers and all we have this podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm like, bitch, I'm okay, let's let's go. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>get a you Got Decisions jingle.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, I was gonna give you a random Company.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay ready, Oh, random Company? Okay, one, two, three cbs.

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<v Speaker 1>The receipts are long. That's good.

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<v Speaker 3>That's it me long, that's okay, Random Company, Planned parenthood.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't want to keep it, no worries.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, I ain't got no money.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I lost it. I think we need to get

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<v Speaker 1>into and prov classes.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyways, guys, we want to thank y'all once again for

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<v Speaker 3>helping us become New York Times bestsellers. However, if you

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<v Speaker 3>have not yet, please go and get our book, No

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<v Speaker 3>Holds Barred, a dual manifesto of sexual exploration or power

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<v Speaker 3>and power not or bitch And by the way, always

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<v Speaker 3>like to let y'all know that we see y'all. I

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<v Speaker 3>just want to say Devnet Isaac, you are the only

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<v Speaker 3>one star review on Amazon, and it's only because you

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<v Speaker 3>receive the book damage and so if you can DM

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<v Speaker 3>me Weezy, this book came like it was stepped on

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<v Speaker 3>by a dinosaur, and I feel so bad. No uploaded

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<v Speaker 3>a picture and I'm like, oh my god, hey look

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<v Speaker 3>you cut it out. That's why I'm like, listen, devinet Isaac,

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<v Speaker 3>if you can literally reach out to my Instagram, Weezy's

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<v Speaker 3>Instagram where the decisions Decisions Instagram. I want to make

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<v Speaker 3>sure I get you a brand new book, and I

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<v Speaker 3>want to get it to you signed hunt because I

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<v Speaker 3>am so sorry that Amazon did you dirty like that,

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<v Speaker 3>but also, bitch, go back and give us five stars

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<v Speaker 3>hope because the word they mess up is just the

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<v Speaker 3>book binding of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Goddamn.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, speaking of signed books, walked into random

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<v Speaker 2>stores today, I want to give a shout out to

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<v Speaker 2>P and T Nitwear on the Lower East Side. I

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<v Speaker 2>walked in there to buy a book that Tracy from

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<v Speaker 2>the stackspot recommended. I was like, by the way, can

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<v Speaker 2>I sign some books? And they were like hey, she

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<v Speaker 2>was like hell yeah, can I take some pitch on

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<v Speaker 2>the und books. I'm like yes, I started signing fun bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>they all sold right there.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, I'll take you personalized by shit. That is dope.

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<v Speaker 1>That is really really dope.

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<v Speaker 2>It feels special to sign something and then someone's got

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<v Speaker 2>to run and go get it. I was gonna post

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<v Speaker 2>it and be like, come grab this sign copy. I

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<v Speaker 2>wrote secret messages on different pages.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so funny.

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<v Speaker 3>Merrow does something like that where he'll sign something or

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<v Speaker 3>lead like a pair of Knick tickets somewhere in the

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<v Speaker 3>city and literally you have to just go to the

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<v Speaker 3>place and find it. But there your and it comes

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<v Speaker 3>fine like real life. I love stuff like that. It

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<v Speaker 3>reminds me of Jake Cole's Dollar and a Dream Tour.

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<v Speaker 3>They just always became scavenger hunts. And today we are

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<v Speaker 3>going to help a horror Hive member and Patreon member.

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all know that if you want to see the video

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<v Speaker 3>of you Got Decisions, just join us over on Patreon.

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<v Speaker 3>It's patreon dot com backslash Horrible Decisions. But we are

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<v Speaker 3>going to help our girl out because she is in

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<v Speaker 3>a dry spell right.

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<v Speaker 1>Now and she's looking for a cure.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, so let's get into it. Hey, Mandy and Weezy,

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<v Speaker 3>I love you too. I was excited for the rebrand, However,

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<v Speaker 3>I couldn't leave Horrible Decisions alone, so I've become a

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<v Speaker 3>Patreon member. That's what the rest of y'all gotta do. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>horrible decisions isn't anywhere. It's just five dollars a month now.

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<v Speaker 3>I also had the pleasure in meeting y'all in twenty twenty,

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<v Speaker 3>right before the pandemic happened, when you guys came to Houston.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, let's get to it. I'll try to keep it short.

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<v Speaker 1>Keep it short, bitch, because I'm gonna get lost. He

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<v Speaker 1>kept it short. She kept it sure, I promise you. So.

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<v Speaker 3>My boyfriend and I have been living together for a

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<v Speaker 3>year and a half. However, we've been dating for three years.

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<v Speaker 3>For context, I'm thirty two and he's forty. I love

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<v Speaker 3>him a lot, and he's literally the sweetest ever. Unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 3>we find ourselves in dry spells a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>I work in the morning and he works at night.

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<v Speaker 3>Like literally, I get home when he is starting his

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<v Speaker 3>shift and he gets home when I'm in deep sleep.

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<v Speaker 3>When we have a few days off together, it seems

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<v Speaker 3>like we are really just enjoying each other's company and

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<v Speaker 3>sex is not on the brain for me at least.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe I'm the problem, being that quality time is one

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<v Speaker 3>of my love languages. It seems like we just get

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<v Speaker 3>lost in between us catching up on shows and playing

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<v Speaker 3>our favorite game, Sims and two K. I suggested scheduling sex,

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<v Speaker 3>and he thought sex on the calendar was corny.

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<v Speaker 1>His suggestion was trying mushrooms.

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<v Speaker 3>However, I didn't want to be dependent on something like

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<v Speaker 3>that to get the juices flowing. When we were long distance,

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<v Speaker 3>we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. But

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<v Speaker 3>that's obvious why we would go weeks without seeing each other.

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<v Speaker 3>My question is, what are some tips to try to

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<v Speaker 3>get each other in the mood in a fun, playful way,

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<v Speaker 3>or try to stop the dry spells from happening so frequently.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not used to taking charge, and I honestly think

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<v Speaker 3>we both waiting for someone to pounce. I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>we are getting too comfortable with each other and I

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<v Speaker 3>want to bring the spark back. Love y'all, you both

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<v Speaker 3>make me laugh. Can't wait to hear what you have

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<v Speaker 3>to say. By the way, she did take off all

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<v Speaker 3>the easy things for us to say. No planning on

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<v Speaker 3>the calendar, no additive of drugs.

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<v Speaker 1>So here we go. So I'm gonna be honest.

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<v Speaker 2>I have sex every day, but I wouldn't say it's spicy,

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<v Speaker 2>and he's still here. Babe, I've needed to do some shit, bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>damn it, he's here. Never mind nothing, I'm podcastic. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>this is what I was gonna say, y'all. I was

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<v Speaker 2>gonna say, Yeah, I realize I've been needing to do

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<v Speaker 2>extra shit because I've given pussy at night when I

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<v Speaker 2>really feel like that kind of gets you in a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit of a routine that's not necessarily great. I

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<v Speaker 2>see that at night right before bid So I've been

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<v Speaker 2>planning to like where lingerie and just come out in heels,

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<v Speaker 2>and I keep forgetting to do it because we get

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<v Speaker 2>caught up in a good fucking movie, or we just

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<v Speaker 2>get tired and then just end up being like I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to put this on. I will say this.

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<v Speaker 2>I would make your own fucking calendar. Don't make a

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<v Speaker 2>calendar where he's sharing it. I would make a calendar

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<v Speaker 2>that literally tells yourself you need to be doing this shit.

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<v Speaker 2>Because last night it hit me and I was like, damn,

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<v Speaker 2>when is the last time I sucked this nigger without

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<v Speaker 2>a T shirt that didn't have fucking saying on it,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I just be tone to put you know what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, and that's not necessarily what keeps a relationship

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<v Speaker 2>healthy either, Like having regular sex is cool, but sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>it can turn into going through the motions. So I

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<v Speaker 2>think it's almost akin to being in a rut. It's

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<v Speaker 2>almost just like doing it because like, all right, let's

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<v Speaker 2>put ourselves to sleep. So I would recommend doing a

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<v Speaker 2>calendar for yourself, like we talk about in Noho's Barge,

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<v Speaker 2>setting boundaries because nobody else is gonna set them for you, bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>set a fucking schedule because if he's thinking it's corny,

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<v Speaker 2>you actually have to do this. You don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>play sim's that bad, bitch, get yourself some deep.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's what I was gonna say.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, in terms of even the fact that your days

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<v Speaker 3>off together are spent playing video games, I think.

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<v Speaker 1>You should be kind of more clearly.

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<v Speaker 3>You said neither of y'all like to take charge, but

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<v Speaker 3>I think setting up a date night, Like if y'all

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<v Speaker 3>have been together now for three years and now you

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<v Speaker 3>feel like you're just getting bored, I think to bring

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<v Speaker 3>back the excitement of going out, getting a date and

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<v Speaker 3>making it to however you use the fuck when y'all

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<v Speaker 3>were long distance relationships in a long distance relationship, and

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<v Speaker 3>whatever you used to turn y'all on, maybe try to

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<v Speaker 3>switch that back on. So set a date night with

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<v Speaker 3>intent to suck his dick on the car ride home,

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<v Speaker 3>Like have the intent to set up the play and

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<v Speaker 3>then execute at the end. I think like a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of times you can't think that like a date night

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<v Speaker 3>is a basic thing to do, because you actually have

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<v Speaker 3>to get a real hype for the date night. Find

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<v Speaker 3>something that's sexy. Maybe it's a show where you live.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe it's even a lounge that just feels sexy. Put

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<v Speaker 3>on lingerie underneath the clothes for the intent to fuck.

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<v Speaker 3>I've realized I don't know if you can agree.

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<v Speaker 2>The second I would even say, even when you're not

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<v Speaker 2>in a relationship, this ain't even boyfriends shit to me.

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<v Speaker 2>It could even be niggas that I've been fucking for years.

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<v Speaker 2>The second you got one really good round where it

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<v Speaker 2>kind of like changed your normal shit, whether it be

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<v Speaker 2>lingerie or a different position or or a different room,

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<v Speaker 2>then it spices up the next sex. Like I just

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<v Speaker 2>think you guys aren't probably having a spicy X moment.

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<v Speaker 1>That's really what it is. Because maybe he both were

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<v Speaker 1>just good with fucking once a week.

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<v Speaker 3>My mind just went to something really spicy, and I

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<v Speaker 3>mean we like twelve minutes in.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think we could start being like a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit more graphic. Uh.

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<v Speaker 3>I've been having a thing lately where even if they

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<v Speaker 3>don't fuck me or maybe they're they're tired or something

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<v Speaker 3>like that, I really have been enjoying pulling out a

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<v Speaker 3>dildo and telling my partner to fuck me with it.

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<v Speaker 1>I did it with this guy in La.

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<v Speaker 3>I used to do it with my ex like in

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<v Speaker 3>the morning if I still wanted to be fucked and

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<v Speaker 3>he just didn't have all that energy for me, Like

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<v Speaker 3>I'd be like, well, here you go, and I'd be like,

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<v Speaker 3>fuck me.

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<v Speaker 1>With this, so not me, here you go. You can

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<v Speaker 1>put it.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, I'd be like, Okay, well, if you ain't

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<v Speaker 3>got enough dick for me, I gotta dick for me, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>And all you gotta do is operate it. But I

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<v Speaker 3>think that again, I mean, this could seem very simple,

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<v Speaker 3>but pulling out toys, Weezy said, the possibility of you

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<v Speaker 3>creating your own calendar and him not knowing. But maybe again,

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<v Speaker 3>instead of sitting in front of the TV watching shows

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<v Speaker 3>and playing video games. Maybe you literally set up fild trips,

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<v Speaker 3>take a goddamn trip to the goddamn sex tour and

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<v Speaker 3>pick some things out for y'all to try or do,

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<v Speaker 3>like a night out at the strip club. Like I

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<v Speaker 3>think always being in spaces that just remind you that

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<v Speaker 3>sex can be fun and sex can be on the

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<v Speaker 3>table in more ways than just the traditional route, then

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<v Speaker 3>I think it brings the excitement and the spark back,

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<v Speaker 3>and if you're looking for the spark, I think a

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<v Speaker 3>field trip to the sex stour is always like you

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<v Speaker 3>pick a toy and he gets a pick.

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<v Speaker 2>He's a place that's like a low pressure strip club.

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<v Speaker 1>There is a low pressure strip club.

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<v Speaker 2>Bro, if anyone lives in New York, you have to

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<v Speaker 2>go to this strip of It is called Pumps New York.

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<v Speaker 2>It is in Williamsburg and it's kind of like death

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<v Speaker 2>metal tattooed bitches. It's weird, but it's like kind of grungy,

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<v Speaker 2>so it's cheap. If you sit at the bar, you

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<v Speaker 2>have to tip each girl a dollar. It's just and

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<v Speaker 2>it's like a bikini city bar type of vibe. But

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<v Speaker 2>at the same time, it's just like whatever we're in

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<v Speaker 2>Williamsburg for the day, let's go to pumps, and sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>just being around the girls and being able to comment

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<v Speaker 2>and obviously in good ways, you know, just being like ooh,

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<v Speaker 2>this one's sexy, I like this, I like that. That

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<v Speaker 2>shit be fun. You just gotta gotta remind yourself. And

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<v Speaker 2>strip clubs to me, are very non threatening for spicing

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<v Speaker 2>up relationships because hey, you're going home together, you're experiencing

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<v Speaker 2>this together, and this is this bitch's job.

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<v Speaker 1>It's to turn y'all on.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's like, just literally go and be you. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>you wait, you just gave a place suggestion. I have two,

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<v Speaker 3>one for LA, one for New York. So it's not

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<v Speaker 3>a strip club. It's not a strip club. Neither of

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<v Speaker 3>them are strip clubs. But in New York, I would

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<v Speaker 3>suggest bathtub gin Gin. I love bathtub Gin especially like

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<v Speaker 3>it's just the ambiance.

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<v Speaker 1>Make sure you get a table because.

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<v Speaker 3>Otherwise you'll be standing at the bar and you're not

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<v Speaker 3>gonna get the full experience. But bathtub gin is really cute.

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<v Speaker 3>And then in LA it's one.

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<v Speaker 1>Of the places.

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<v Speaker 3>Now I feel bad because I take any nigga that

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<v Speaker 3>I meet in LA. Now it's like LA some often. Now,

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<v Speaker 3>mister Wanderlust. It's downtown side of it, like the Ac Hotel.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like there's like eight floors of stuff. But mister Wanderlust,

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<v Speaker 3>when you walk in, there's a woman on an aerial

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<v Speaker 3>hoop that's like in a burlesque outfit. And if you

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<v Speaker 3>go early enough, they actually have a bur less performer

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<v Speaker 3>that comes out from the center of the bar behind

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<v Speaker 3>the bar, literally unsuspecting and it's just sexy. They do

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<v Speaker 3>live music, but the ambiance is hot. And then if

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<v Speaker 3>you even want to either dumb down the night, you

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<v Speaker 3>can go to the rooftop and chilling drink or there's

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<v Speaker 3>a club inside. And I'm not even gonna tell y'all

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<v Speaker 3>the last time I went in there, I ended up

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<v Speaker 3>making out with a bitch and almost had a threesome.

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<v Speaker 3>So literally it's just one of these I haven't even

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<v Speaker 3>told that story yet. I'm probably gonna share that on

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<v Speaker 3>the Patreon, but it was the last time I was

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<v Speaker 3>in La almost the best.

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<v Speaker 1>It was crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, so mister Wanderlust in LA and then Bathtub

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<v Speaker 3>Gen in New York. I don't think it has to

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<v Speaker 3>be a full blown strip club, but any setting that

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<v Speaker 3>you have to kind of dress up feel sexy. There's

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<v Speaker 3>sexy people, there's like titty tassels, you drink a cute cocktail.

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<v Speaker 1>It just that's the vibe to I want to suck

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<v Speaker 1>your dick at the end of the night.

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<v Speaker 3>And so anytime I want a date, if a nigga

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<v Speaker 3>take me to a champagne piano bar, baby.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, why are we still here? I want to

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<v Speaker 1>put it in my mouth.

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<v Speaker 3>And so I suggest going to those type of spaces too,

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<v Speaker 3>And so I think that that's the great thing weezy.

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<v Speaker 3>And I just let you know, like a lot of

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<v Speaker 3>people when they think about getting spicy and you know,

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<v Speaker 3>not having sex, so much of.

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<v Speaker 1>It starts outside of the bedroom. Bro.

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<v Speaker 3>It starts out of the bedroom, set the mood outside

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<v Speaker 3>of the bedroom.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that also.

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<v Speaker 2>You think of getting spicy as the tools the things

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<v Speaker 2>to bring in.

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<v Speaker 1>I really believe getting spicy is the energy.

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<v Speaker 2>Like for me, like even I'm making the comment, oh

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<v Speaker 2>we're just fucking before bad a lot, I need to

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<v Speaker 2>just do x y Z. Actually, to be honest with you,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll spicy shit up. But I was talking crazy last

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<v Speaker 2>night and I'm telling you sometimes you gotta step our

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<v Speaker 2>dirty talk up too, which iall started googling shit.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, let me say something crazy. You were

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<v Speaker 1>googling dirty talk.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, cause I was like wanting to do

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<v Speaker 2>an episode around dirty talk and where it comes from.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, oh, this could be cool. But

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<v Speaker 2>then I was like, what would I use for myself?

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<v Speaker 2>And one of the things I saw was if someone's

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<v Speaker 2>fucking you and you want to like start sucking dig.

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<v Speaker 1>It was let me taste how you make me feel.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to taste what you're doing to me. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, okay, well, now I'm going to overshare something.

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<v Speaker 1>He was looking at me. He was confused. He was like,

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<v Speaker 1>about they hand me my own coucie juice. He was

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<v Speaker 1>really lost. I'm going to overshare something.

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<v Speaker 3>But this is also something if you want to get

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<v Speaker 3>a little accessory. I recently went to the sex store

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<v Speaker 3>because I was like, well, I'm going to show out

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<v Speaker 3>my love boom.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, I'm gonna show out.

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<v Speaker 3>They had a butt plug that was like something that

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<v Speaker 3>you know fit him, and so I don't know if

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<v Speaker 3>you know, if you if you go online, you can

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<v Speaker 3>google butt plugs. So if he's like a basketball fan,

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<v Speaker 3>you can get a butt plug with a basketball if

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<v Speaker 3>you if he's a football fan, you could have a

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<v Speaker 3>football basketball.

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<v Speaker 1>They also have butt plugs with sports teams.

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<v Speaker 3>Bro, Like, you could almost get anything at the end

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<v Speaker 3>of a butt plug. And so if you want to

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<v Speaker 3>like make it exciting, what why are you covering your face? Bro?

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<v Speaker 1>Hold on because you're laughing.

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<v Speaker 3>Do not do not say I want you this is

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<v Speaker 3>a picture of. But I'm gonna show you the bt

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<v Speaker 3>plug I just bought and it was cute.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't say what it's a picture of. They're gonna see

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<v Speaker 2>you though, No, no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying I'm texting it to you.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not sure, but there's like mad different things that

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<v Speaker 3>you can get in butt plug form that could be

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<v Speaker 3>specific to the person.

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<v Speaker 1>How is cu right?

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<v Speaker 3>Sounds like I got something special for you and I

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<v Speaker 3>bent over and it was a butt plug of something

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<v Speaker 3>he liked.

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<v Speaker 2>So uh the box of where Mandy got it from

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<v Speaker 2>it says booty spot.

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<v Speaker 1>That's all I see.

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<v Speaker 3>A Well, they have a lot of eyes online, so

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<v Speaker 3>if you could even customize some of your sex toys

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<v Speaker 3>for your partner, I would absolutely recommend to do that

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<v Speaker 3>as well, because that's a good way to spice it up.

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<v Speaker 3>And let him know that you're intentional and that you

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<v Speaker 3>pay attention to detail. So yeah, that would be my

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<v Speaker 3>that would be my last bit of advice. We hope

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<v Speaker 3>that this helps you. We hope that you get out

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<v Speaker 3>of this dry spell, and we hope that you know

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<v Speaker 3>you write us back and say you've been having the

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<v Speaker 3>best sex of your life with your partner three years yay.

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<v Speaker 3>If you want to send your questions into us, we

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<v Speaker 3>will answer it here. On you got decisions, make sure

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<v Speaker 1>Don't call, We'll see you next week. Everybody, Bye, Happy

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<v Speaker 1>home day. Ye simple?

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<v Speaker 3>Then do the don red, the deep