1 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:20,360 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily Abadi here, you are listening to another 2 00:00:20,440 --> 00:00:24,800 Speaker 1: installment of Five Minute Friday from Hurdle. If you're new 3 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:27,520 Speaker 1: to the show, welcome, I'm so happy to have you 4 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 1: on Five Minute Friday. I come at you talking about 5 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: a story from my week, something that I am going through, 6 00:00:34,720 --> 00:00:37,600 Speaker 1: thinking about dealing with. Then I offer you a thought 7 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:40,479 Speaker 1: prompt to take you into the weekend and finish things 8 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 1: off with my highlights of the week. Those are my 9 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 1: content picks, whether they be books, movies, articles, events, things 10 00:00:47,040 --> 00:00:48,960 Speaker 1: that I think are really cool that I want to 11 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:52,320 Speaker 1: bring to your attention, and of course a listener question. 12 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:56,920 Speaker 2: This week, I want to confess something to all of you. 13 00:00:57,560 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 1: For the last I would say, in all of June, 14 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 1: I have journaled maybe six or seven times for context, 15 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: this episode's coming out on June twenty fifth, And this 16 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:16,920 Speaker 1: is something that is really outside the box for me 17 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:20,040 Speaker 1: because over the last you know, fourteen sixteen months, the 18 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:24,560 Speaker 1: quarantine period, I was really really good. 19 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:28,000 Speaker 2: At making time for that right. 20 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:31,319 Speaker 1: I woke up every single morning and I would leave 21 00:01:31,520 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 1: my bedroom, I would use the bathroom, I would come 22 00:01:33,520 --> 00:01:36,399 Speaker 1: back into the bedroom, I would make my bed. I 23 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: would segue to an espresso machine. To make my favorite pod, 24 00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:43,200 Speaker 1: which is the erandio, and then I would bring the 25 00:01:43,880 --> 00:01:47,200 Speaker 1: arandio pod back into the bedroom and journal and my 26 00:01:47,280 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 1: strategy was that every day I would write just one 27 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 1: page of my thoughts and what I'm going through and 28 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:57,600 Speaker 1: what's happening in my life, and then at the end 29 00:01:57,680 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: of every journal injury, I would write something that I'm 30 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:02,240 Speaker 1: great before And it's been a staple of my morning 31 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:05,120 Speaker 1: routine for a really long time, something that just feels 32 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:07,520 Speaker 1: very true to who I am and helps me kind 33 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:09,839 Speaker 1: of keep things in perspective. 34 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:12,840 Speaker 2: I guess for me, especially that. 35 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 1: Highlight at the end of the journal entry, it keeps 36 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:19,400 Speaker 1: me grounded. I started doing that a while back because 37 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:21,920 Speaker 1: I wanted to make sure that I was making an 38 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:25,360 Speaker 1: effort to always come back to gratitude and to look 39 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 1: on the bright side. And on the days where I 40 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:30,400 Speaker 1: was having trouble articulating what that highlight from the past 41 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:34,080 Speaker 1: twenty four hours could be, I kind of sat with 42 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:36,120 Speaker 1: that feeling and asked myself, like, what are you doing 43 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:38,960 Speaker 1: that you're so caught up in things, you're not paying 44 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:42,120 Speaker 1: attention to the good in your life, that you're having 45 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:46,360 Speaker 1: a hard time articulating something One thing that was positive, 46 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:51,120 Speaker 1: and so over the last fourteen sixteen months, that strategy 47 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: has been really helpful for me. But again, I noticed 48 00:02:54,680 --> 00:03:00,680 Speaker 1: over this month that I hadn't been making this a priority. 49 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:02,240 Speaker 2: And this morning, when. 50 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 1: I sat down to journal for you know, the seventh 51 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 1: time this month, I asked myself, why why have I 52 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:13,839 Speaker 1: been stepping away from my journal? And by the way, 53 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:16,920 Speaker 1: I obviously have to plug here my baron Fig journal. 54 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:19,040 Speaker 1: They are a sponsor on Hurdle. I have gone through 55 00:03:19,040 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 1: so many journals in my days and these lay flat. 56 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 1: They're like fabric covered and bound. They are just absolutely beautiful. 57 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 1: I can't recommend them enough. Of course, I'll plug the 58 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:33,120 Speaker 1: discount code here as well, because I know that you 59 00:03:33,200 --> 00:03:35,800 Speaker 1: all would love one. Baron FIG's got an offer for 60 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 1: you guys to use Hurdle twenty at check out to 61 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 1: get twenty percent off of any order. 62 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 2: Trust me, grab a notebook. You won't regret it. 63 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:45,120 Speaker 1: Anyway, I was sitting down with my baron Fig notebook, 64 00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 1: I was asking myself, what's the deal? Why am I 65 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 1: like this? And I think I was scared to face 66 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 1: that a lot of days my gratitude was kind of 67 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:04,120 Speaker 1: the same. I feel so happy in my new home 68 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 1: and this apartment and walking around my neighborhood, and I 69 00:04:08,800 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 1: feel so sure of this decision and where I'm at, 70 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:17,560 Speaker 1: But I kept writing that down, and I was losing 71 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:21,440 Speaker 1: my focus in being more present and paying attention to 72 00:04:21,480 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 1: the good things in my day to day although they 73 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:27,040 Speaker 1: were there right, Like, I have so much good stuff 74 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:29,919 Speaker 1: going on amidst of course, like all of us, like 75 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:35,839 Speaker 1: moments that may not be absolutely stellar. But in trying 76 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: to maybe protect myself, I was really just shutting down. 77 00:04:40,520 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 1: I was really just almost pretending like I didn't need 78 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:47,480 Speaker 1: to do inventory of this, like I didn't need to 79 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:51,320 Speaker 1: confront where I was emotionally. And that's not the way, 80 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:54,920 Speaker 1: right If we want to move forward, if we want 81 00:04:54,960 --> 00:04:57,400 Speaker 1: to be our best selves, then we need to be 82 00:04:57,680 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 1: honest with ourselves, and me not being honest with myself 83 00:05:01,800 --> 00:05:04,840 Speaker 1: isn't gonna get me where I want to go. So 84 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 1: I am recommitting to journaling. I'd actually love to do 85 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 1: some sort of a journaling challenge maybe, So if you 86 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 1: are listening to this and that is something that you 87 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:17,599 Speaker 1: would be interested in, should me a DM at Emily 88 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:21,400 Speaker 1: Abadie if I get enough DMS from this episode from 89 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 1: this admission, to all of you. Then maybe I'll come 90 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:26,640 Speaker 1: up with something fun for us to do and throw 91 00:05:26,680 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 1: some details about that and next week's Five Minute Friday 92 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 1: or perhaps next week's weekly Hurdle newsletter. My prompt for 93 00:05:34,839 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: you this week, I'm going to ask you the question 94 00:05:37,360 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 1: I asked myself or want to be asking myself every 95 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:44,160 Speaker 1: single day. What is one good thing that happened to 96 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 1: you in the last twenty four hours? Again, what is 97 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 1: one good thing that happened to you over the past 98 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: twenty four hours. Highlights of the week. Links to all 99 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:57,840 Speaker 1: this goodness can be found in the show notes. First 100 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:00,640 Speaker 1: up event to check out Pride is This is Saturday. 101 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:03,719 Speaker 1: It is Pride Month June. I actually just got off 102 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:07,559 Speaker 1: of a recording with an expert talking about coming out 103 00:06:07,839 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 1: and a lot of the questions that may surround that 104 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: super difficult hurdle moment. It's a topic I also talked 105 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:17,839 Speaker 1: about with Caleb Marshall, the Fitness Marshall earlier this month. 106 00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 2: I will link to his episode in the show notes. 107 00:06:20,680 --> 00:06:23,080 Speaker 1: But whether you are here in the New York area 108 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:25,720 Speaker 1: or wherever you may be listening to this, there are 109 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 1: definitely events going on in your area, so check it out. 110 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 1: And celebrate love being love being love for everyone. Also 111 00:06:35,200 --> 00:06:38,560 Speaker 1: listen the Truth and Consequences of dating as a trans 112 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: woman with Jen Richard's on the Laverne Cox Show Laverne 113 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:44,599 Speaker 1: and Jen. They address the struggles of dating as a 114 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:48,479 Speaker 1: trans woman in this powerful, candid conversation, and they dive 115 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:51,599 Speaker 1: right into topics like why some men are attracted to 116 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:53,960 Speaker 1: trans women, why men have a hard time being honest 117 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:57,479 Speaker 1: about that attraction at times, and what Jen thinks is 118 00:06:57,520 --> 00:07:02,839 Speaker 1: the biggest kept secret about trans women. Watch the final 119 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 1: days of the Olympic Track and Field trials. I have 120 00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:08,560 Speaker 1: been absolutely glued to my TV and this man. This 121 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:12,640 Speaker 1: coverage has been excellent. It is so emotional watching all 122 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 1: of these stellar athletes make their dreams come true. And 123 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 1: I will definitely definitely be watching throughout the last few 124 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:23,160 Speaker 1: days here to see who else punches their ticket to Tokyo. 125 00:07:23,880 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 1: Read athlete CC Telfer says sports allow trans youth to 126 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 1: be seen as people. 127 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 2: First. 128 00:07:29,680 --> 00:07:33,080 Speaker 1: On Women's Health, cc Telfer is a trans woman and 129 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 1: collegiate national champion. In this article so well written over 130 00:07:37,360 --> 00:07:39,840 Speaker 1: on Woman's Health, she gets really vulnerable and describing her 131 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 1: childhood the struggles of embracing her identity and the impact 132 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 1: sports has had on. 133 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:47,040 Speaker 2: Her life thus far. 134 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 1: And last, but not least, I want to give some 135 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 1: love to my girl, Allison Felix. She's heading back to 136 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 1: the Olympics and this is her first go about at 137 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:57,360 Speaker 1: the Games as a mom. 138 00:07:57,600 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 2: She is so inspiring. 139 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:02,360 Speaker 1: So Dope will also a link to her episode of 140 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 1: Hurdle in the show notes if you haven't checked it out, 141 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 1: it's a must listen. But Alison Felix and Athleta partnered 142 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 1: to create another collection, and this collection includes a super cute, 143 00:08:13,880 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 1: really clutch pair of five inch in seam shorts. I 144 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 1: get a lot of questions on shorts all of the 145 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 1: time my go tos. I linked to some of them 146 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 1: in last week's Weekly Hurdle, but this is a new 147 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 1: addition to the mix. I tried them yesterday. I love them, 148 00:08:29,200 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 1: and I'll link to these in the show notes. They 149 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: are called the Athleta Legend shorty and now a listener question. 150 00:08:38,720 --> 00:08:41,080 Speaker 3: Hi Emily, my name is Alec and I am in 151 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:44,880 Speaker 3: New York City. I really enjoyed the podcast episode earlier 152 00:08:44,880 --> 00:08:47,560 Speaker 3: this week with your dad, and so my question for 153 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:50,440 Speaker 3: you is what is the best piece of advice that 154 00:08:50,480 --> 00:08:53,880 Speaker 3: your dad has ever given you. And random side question. 155 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:56,920 Speaker 3: He mentioned that you did a public speaking gig as 156 00:08:56,960 --> 00:08:59,480 Speaker 3: a kid in multiple languages, so I'm dying to know 157 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:01,720 Speaker 3: what languages do you speak? 158 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:06,200 Speaker 2: Thank you, Alec, thank you so much for this question. 159 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:10,079 Speaker 1: Oh man, the best piece of advice my dad has 160 00:09:10,120 --> 00:09:12,400 Speaker 1: ever given me. That's a tough one. As you may 161 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:14,360 Speaker 1: have listened to earlier. This week, I had Dad on 162 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 1: the show. The episode came out on Monday, and it 163 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:21,800 Speaker 1: was full of goodies. I would say the through line 164 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:25,320 Speaker 1: when it comes to my dad is two things. 165 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:27,120 Speaker 2: One, trust your gut. 166 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:30,760 Speaker 1: Oftentimes, you know, we may look to others for a 167 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:34,160 Speaker 1: second opinion, but more often than not, we have the 168 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 1: answers and all that we need withinside us. And the 169 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:42,200 Speaker 1: second thing would be what our family motto is, what 170 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 1: I go back to every single day, is the saying 171 00:09:46,040 --> 00:09:49,040 Speaker 1: do good. My grandpa used to say it to us 172 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:52,160 Speaker 1: every single time that we would leave the house when 173 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:55,680 Speaker 1: we came to visit, and I just continuously asked myself 174 00:09:55,720 --> 00:09:57,199 Speaker 1: that I asked myself. 175 00:09:56,840 --> 00:09:59,040 Speaker 2: Am I doing good? Am I being kind? 176 00:09:59,200 --> 00:10:02,960 Speaker 1: Am I doing what I can to make a difference? 177 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:03,920 Speaker 2: To help others? 178 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:07,280 Speaker 1: And to show up as authentically and true to me 179 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:09,640 Speaker 1: as I can be in terms of what languages I 180 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:12,440 Speaker 1: can speak, really just English, to be honest with you, 181 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:14,959 Speaker 1: When I was little, I learned a few phrases in Spanish, 182 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 1: that is what he was referring to. I also took 183 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:21,200 Speaker 1: a semester of Hebrew in college, and I know a 184 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 1: little bit of Italian. But if we're being honest, my 185 00:10:25,160 --> 00:10:30,680 Speaker 1: one and only true language is English. That's it for 186 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:32,600 Speaker 1: this week, and make sure you're following along with Hurdle 187 00:10:32,640 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 1: Over at Hurdle podcast. I'm over at Emily a Body, 188 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:38,000 Speaker 1: another hurdle conquered. 189 00:10:38,480 --> 00:10:39,480 Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time.