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Enjoy. 0:01:22.400 --> 0:01:25.679 Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife. 0:01:25.880 --> 0:01:28.640 She coodn't She cleaned and cared for her children and 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:31.040 the man of the house, and of course she didn't 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:34.440 talk back. She was both obedient and soft by nature. 0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:37.800 She was a good woman who always made good choices. 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:41.759 That shit, we're Good Mom's Bad Choices to single mom 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:44.679 who said fuck the patriarchy shared all their bad choices and. 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:46.880 Sound out they were so bad after all, we're experts 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:49.840 over shares and your new besties. Sit back and enjoy 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:55.200 the ride. I can do it. Welcome back to Good 0:01:55.240 --> 0:01:56.120 Mom's Bad Choices. 0:01:56.200 --> 0:02:00.680 I'm Erica and I'm Jamila. 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Unfortunately, 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:17.080 you've already missed this live episode, but you're gonna get 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:19.640 it now. You're just late to the party. But just 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:21.560 to make sure that you're able to tune into our 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:25.480 next and future live and make sure you join Patreon. Anyway, 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:30.600 without further ado, I am so so excited to bring 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:32.600 back a special guest that we've had on the show before. 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:35.200 It's been a long time. A lot has happened. 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:37.960 This is my favorite guest we've ever had. To be honest, 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:41.280 this is like my favorite favorite guest. I'm very very excited. 0:03:41.920 --> 0:03:42.840 Well, do you want to do the intro? 0:03:43.000 --> 0:03:43.080 Now? 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:47.520 Go ahead, You're good at it. We have international New 0:03:47.600 --> 0:03:54.000 York Times bestselling author just Overall Bad Bitch, Elizabeth Ovison 0:03:54.520 --> 0:04:01.360 aka pen name Corinne Stephens Woody. Welcome. 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:04.840 I'm glad to be back. Thank you for inviting me. 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:08.000 Of course, it's been three years. What did I miss? 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:15.600 Well, she's engaged to that man. We're in a new studio. 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:18.520 Love it, BEAUTIFU. We have our Girl Cave activated. 0:04:18.680 --> 0:04:20.880 I love it and it's close to me, which I love. 0:04:20.920 --> 0:04:22.520 Took me ten minutes to get here. 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:26.560 We love that. We love Valley Girl connections. What else 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:28.599 we have? We've been doing a lot of stuff, girl, 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:30.599 a lot. I know. I've been watching from Afar. 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:36.120 We've done like sixteen retreats. We've done two tours since then. 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:39.880 We you know, raising kids and you know all the things, 0:04:39.920 --> 0:04:40.679 all the good things. 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:43.400 Proud of you, Thank you, thank you have done really 0:04:43.440 --> 0:04:44.440 well for yourself. Thank you. 0:04:44.560 --> 0:04:46.320 Trying to grow up trying to bet big girls. 0:04:47.560 --> 0:04:50.520 And congratulations to you on just everything that you have 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:55.680 going on the twenty year anniversary of your epic, iconic book. 0:04:55.839 --> 0:04:59.400 I know, and I'm just so excited to dive into 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:01.960 but that is what that what that feels like now 0:05:01.960 --> 0:05:05.240 twenty years later. God, yeah, and just everything that's going 0:05:05.279 --> 0:05:07.479 on in your life. All right, let's get into it. 0:05:07.600 --> 0:05:10.279 Let's get into it. We are live. So I know, 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:14.200 we had some people that had some questions that they've 0:05:14.200 --> 0:05:15.240 been dying to ask you. 0:05:16.040 --> 0:05:19.400 Oh shit, the questions got deleted. Oh they did, Okay, 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:22.680 you have them. I have them. 0:05:23.200 --> 0:05:25.960 So we wanted to ask our patrons to write in 0:05:26.240 --> 0:05:30.960 and ask Karen questions because sometimes we don't know what 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:32.760 to ask. I mean, I have a lot of questions 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:34.880 for you. I do, but I thought I'd give it 0:05:34.920 --> 0:05:38.040 to the tribe to start the conversation. So one of 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:40.960 the questions that we have is, I guess we're just 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:44.400 gonna drive dive right in. Yes, let's do it. How 0:05:44.440 --> 0:05:47.279 have you stayed well over the last few months the 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:50.280 Diddy trial, general state of the world. What are some 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:51.880 of your well being practices? 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:54.320 I really like this question A les questions. 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:56.400 So some of your well being practices. 0:05:56.560 --> 0:05:59.520 Okay, so anyone who knows me knows that I live 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:02.039 in a bubble. I've created a I call it my 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:05.560 self care bubble. I created this bubble for myself many 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:08.440 years ago. I've stayed in it. I don't see everything 0:06:08.440 --> 0:06:10.320 that's going on in the world. I don't look at 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:14.240 the news too much. I'll top line things just for knowledge. 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:19.120 But I don't dwell, I don't go in. I don't 0:06:19.160 --> 0:06:25.200 listen to anything like I'm a Frank Sinatra like you 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:28.040 love Frank, I love Franks, And I'm just in a 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:33.080 jazzy zone, like incense, burning a little Frank, a little 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:36.919 Nina Simon, a little like dou Wop Duop, like I'm 0:06:36.760 --> 0:06:40.880 I'm I live in a world that's not of this world. 0:06:41.360 --> 0:06:42.560 I don't have a large circle. 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:45.320 I have every small circle of friends and a family 0:06:45.600 --> 0:06:47.800 who I trust in love, and I only talk to 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:51.960 them honestly. And I'm not on I haven't been on 0:06:52.000 --> 0:06:55.760 social really for a while. I took down my social 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:56.680 almost a year ago. 0:06:57.360 --> 0:07:00.159 Oh yeah, I just realized that. Yeah yeah, because you 0:07:00.160 --> 0:07:04.080 were doing your I was watching you decorate your studio 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:06.320 and I was like, every day, look at Matha Steward. 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:10.840 What is the chateau. It's happening in the chateau today. 0:07:10.720 --> 0:07:15.240 Wallpaper and paint I'm actually like deconstructing everything now because 0:07:15.320 --> 0:07:16.360 I'm done. 0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:20.560 With that place, so tearing work and I'm tearing it up. 0:07:20.600 --> 0:07:23.080 But the wallpaper, ring and the painting, and like that's 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:24.120 I'm a diy girl. 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:24.640 I love it. 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:27.120 I have to copy in some of your diys looking 0:07:27.160 --> 0:07:29.400 at links your mirror framing and stuff. 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:32.040 Yes, mirror Mat. Shout out to mirror Mat, one of my. 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:36.960 Sponsors, So shout out to them because yeah, they like 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:40.640 framing my mirrors in the bathroom. And like yeah, because 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:43.080 some mirrors come, you know, they have construction grade mirrors 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:45.800 and they come without frames, which is so ugly, so 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:47.480 you're able to just stick a frame on there. 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:49.760 So anyway, it was great, but now I have. 0:07:49.640 --> 0:07:50.280 To take it off. 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:52.800 So I'm like, how do I I'll take that frame. 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:55.560 It might be ruined by the time I get it off, 0:07:55.600 --> 0:07:56.280 I don't know. 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:58.800 But I'll put you in touch with the girlies at 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:02.280 Mirror Made because they're so good. But like, literally I'm 0:08:02.280 --> 0:08:05.800 demolishing that whole place now, tearing off the wallpaper. But 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:10.960 decorating gardening. I love my plants so much. I think 0:08:10.960 --> 0:08:14.160 I'm a plant mom too, are you. I I'm such 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:15.320 a plant mommy. 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:17.680 My plant died when I was out of town and 0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:19.760 I left it in someone else's care and when I 0:08:19.800 --> 0:08:22.440 got back, I mean, I've revived it, thank God. But 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:25.120 I was pissed. Yeah, I was like, you had one 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:28.240 fucking job, that was it. Yeah. I understand. 0:08:28.320 --> 0:08:30.120 So many plants that are going to my friends. Some 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:32.280 headed back East and I won't be back for a while. 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:34.640 So I need babysitters for my plants. 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:37.240 If you need additional babysitters, I volunteers tribute. 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:38.960 Okay, great, because I have so many plants, and I 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:40.160 have my favorite plant, Bertha. 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:42.400 She's been with me for over ten years and now. 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:46.000 She has babies. Yeah, because I propagate Bertha. So there's 0:08:46.000 --> 0:08:49.680 all these little polthos babies all around. So Bertha and 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:51.960 her babies are going to my bestie because I know 0:08:52.080 --> 0:08:52.760 she'll care for. 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:54.600 Them the way that I would. 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:57.720 But yeah, so that's what I've been doing during the 0:08:57.800 --> 0:09:01.240 chaos of the world. Live in a bubble, and it's 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:02.760 easy for me to live in a bubble. I'm in 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:05.600 the gym I'm in the gym. It started five days 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:07.520 a week for about six months and now I'm down 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:11.160 to three days a week with my trainer. So that's 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:13.400 been a huge part of my wellness journey in the 0:09:13.400 --> 0:09:17.160 past year, losing weight first of all, because I was 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:19.280 up to like one hundred and sixty three pounds at 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:19.800 one point. 0:09:20.120 --> 0:09:21.600 Now mind you, I'm. 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:23.719 Shaped like a coke bottle, so that it was one 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:26.680 sixty three coke bottle as Yeah, it. 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:31.040 Was like I was still fine as fast. 0:09:31.640 --> 0:09:33.760 Yeah, it wasn't like it wasn't like I didn't like. 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:35.800 Look like, it wasn't like polar bear body. It was 0:09:35.880 --> 0:09:37.960 one sixty three coke bottle body. So it was like 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:41.200 tiny ways, big butt, big boobs like whatever. But it 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:44.520 became painful for me, like like physically painful, like the 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:45.880 thigh rubbing and the. 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:48.560 Like my ass hurt all the time. It was so heavy, 0:09:48.720 --> 0:09:49.160 like it. 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:55.000 Was I was so heavy all to carry around the battle. 0:09:55.040 --> 0:09:57.840 But it was just so such a disruption to my life. 0:09:57.880 --> 0:10:00.559 It was so much ass, like I could it even 0:10:00.720 --> 0:10:02.600 like it was just too much ass for me. So 0:10:02.640 --> 0:10:05.560 shout out to the girls that can carry that much ass. 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:08.240 But I'm a I have little bones, like I can't 0:10:08.280 --> 0:10:09.080 carry around. 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:09.640 That much ass. 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:12.920 So I got in the gym and with my trainer, 0:10:12.960 --> 0:10:15.240 and we have worked so hard. So I'm down from 0:10:15.280 --> 0:10:18.319 one sixty three to one forty five and I've gained 0:10:18.360 --> 0:10:21.480 so much muscle, and I've got abs now and i 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:23.040 got some guns now. 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:24.679 So now I'm like, I'm so. 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:28.000 Into fitness that I'm actually getting my certified personal training 0:10:28.080 --> 0:10:29.200 Like I'm literally like. 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:32.600 Okay, I'm literally you just want to do they want 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:34.119 something you want Listen. 0:10:33.840 --> 0:10:35.560 I don't want to even train anybody. I'm just getting 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:36.640 it for myself and. 0:10:36.600 --> 0:10:38.240 Then my job it in your shirts. Like yeah. 0:10:38.280 --> 0:10:41.240 Also, but you know, I coach. 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:43.360 Women too, so like and I've always coached them into 0:10:43.480 --> 0:10:45.400 health and wellness. I've done this for so many years, 0:10:45.400 --> 0:10:47.360 and so I'm just adding it to my coaching repertoire. 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:50.599 So I'm into, Like I'm getting my nutrition coaching, my 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:53.280 sports nutrition coaching, like I'm doing the whole It's crazy. 0:10:53.320 --> 0:10:54.160 I'm obsessed. 0:10:54.400 --> 0:10:57.920 What I never thought I'd be a gym rat, bitch, 0:10:57.920 --> 0:10:58.640 I'm a gym rat. 0:10:58.720 --> 0:10:59.800 Like I cannot live. 0:11:00.480 --> 0:11:04.440 My gym wardrobe is now bigger than my like my 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:06.120 regular wardrobe is it all black? 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:11.520 No, whoa, I was about to lie. Hold on, it's black, 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:14.720 it's gray. I have one like navy blue situation, and 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:15.120 I do. 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:16.480 I have some white tops. 0:11:16.800 --> 0:11:19.719 I do, I do, and I did throw in like 0:11:19.800 --> 0:11:24.320 a beige cream joint, but I don't like to wear it. 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:26.200 It's just there just to say I have to have it. 0:11:26.280 --> 0:11:27.520 Yeah, because if you know me, you know I we're 0:11:27.559 --> 0:11:28.240 black all the time. 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:31.800 I know, even when you got more than another color. 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:33.080 Ain't no red in there. 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:34.960 There's no pink, there's no red, there's no like. No, 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:35.640 I don't do any of that. 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:37.200 Has the breaking out help. 0:11:37.320 --> 0:11:39.559 It's like your mental health, I think as you get older, 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:41.400 like it's kind of like it's necessary. 0:11:41.520 --> 0:11:43.839 Well listen, I started too because I have pain. 0:11:43.920 --> 0:11:47.120 So from sitting down as a writer for twenty years 0:11:47.480 --> 0:11:51.400 and having a mostly sedentary lifestyle. My hips are rotated 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:54.840 and my spine is tilted, so I would have starting 0:11:54.840 --> 0:11:57.760 in the pandemic, I realized I would have excruciating pain 0:11:57.840 --> 0:12:02.120 throughout my hips, back, legs, everything, and so I couldn't. 0:12:02.679 --> 0:12:04.800 It got to the point where I couldn't walk where 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:07.160 my neighbor would have to pick me up, put me 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:08.680 in his car and take me places. 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:11.920 And it was that bad. 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:15.240 The bed hurt, the floor hurt, standing hurt, sitting hurt, 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:16.079 everything hurt. 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:17.840 And so my. 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:22.000 Chiropractor, my trainers like go to a chiropractor and to chiropractor, 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:24.679 and the chiropractor was like, don't work out, and I 0:12:24.720 --> 0:12:27.120 was like that doesn't sound right. And then so things 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:29.319 to TikTok. Honestly on the internet, I just did it. 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:32.680 Start doing research from like other people, like real life 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:35.680 research from real people who had the same issues, and 0:12:35.800 --> 0:12:37.800 found out that it was working out. That's going to 0:12:37.840 --> 0:12:41.079 fix all the things. And number one was just strengthening 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:43.959 my core. And then once the core strengthens, it helps 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:48.240 to pull these things back into their baseline. But that's 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:50.240 going to take some time. So that's where we started. 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:52.680 And now it's all about I mean, the weight gain. 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:54.920 I mean the weight loss is part of that. The 0:12:55.000 --> 0:12:57.800 muscle gain is part of that. My mental health is 0:12:58.600 --> 0:13:03.520 fucking stellar. Like holy shit, I was leg pressing two 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:07.040 hundred and twenty five pounds the other day, Like I will, 0:13:07.240 --> 0:13:09.439 I will kill a motherfucker with these legs, you know 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:09.880 what I mean? 0:13:10.000 --> 0:13:13.600 Like I feel so strong. And that's the thing too. 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:15.600 I have a neighbor she's a fire chief, and. 0:13:16.120 --> 0:13:17.840 She and I were hanging out during the fires because 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:20.440 she's a fire chief up north. So during the fires 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:23.160 here in La she was on a break from up 0:13:23.200 --> 0:13:26.960 north and northern California, and so we went to San 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:31.480 Diego and with the kids, and then she taught me 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:33.040 something and she was like, yeah, you know, in my 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:35.440 fire station, we have a sign that tells us like 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:37.480 we have to be able to self rescue, and as 0:13:37.480 --> 0:13:40.439 a firefighter, as fire personnel, you have to be able 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:44.520 to self rescue because maybe your fellow fire personnel won't 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:46.480 be able to get to you, and so you have 0:13:46.520 --> 0:13:48.400 to know how to pull yourself out of things and 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:51.280 push things off of you and get out of bad 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:54.319 situations on your own, just in case we can't get 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:57.600 to you in time. And more than self care, which 0:13:57.600 --> 0:14:00.800 we always talk about, we don't talk about self rescue 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:04.520 and being able to rescue ourselves from situations where we 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:07.720 are in danger and we have to physically rescue ourselves 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:10.679 where there's running away from bad people, whether it's punching 0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:13.120 the motherfucker in the face, whether it's kicking somebody in 0:14:13.160 --> 0:14:15.160 their throat, Like you have to be able to self 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:18.440 rescue and That's been my mantra since I started, Like 0:14:18.440 --> 0:14:20.040 I got to be able to self rescue. 0:14:20.320 --> 0:14:21.200 Yeah, that's deep. 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:23.400 I feel like I think sometimes we think like mentally 0:14:23.960 --> 0:14:26.280 about self rescue, like getting yourself out of a situation. 0:14:26.440 --> 0:14:27.440 You know, especially for women. 0:14:27.480 --> 0:14:29.440 It feels like triggering a little bit when you said that, like, 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:32.120 because I think some often we're in situations like well, yeah, 0:14:32.120 --> 0:14:33.720 I'm a bad bitch, I'm a strong woman, and then 0:14:33.920 --> 0:14:36.440 suddenly we put in situations and then you'll go into 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:39.560 that fight or fight, fight or fight, and then you're 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:42.000 like after the situation, like, fuck, I didn't rescue myself 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:44.840 because you're like stuck. But like I think that maybe 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:47.080 if you're doing that physically and you have that in mind, 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:49.640 oh they're totally I feel like that emotionally and verbally, 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:52.800 you'll be like i'll kick you now, well i'll kick you, bitch, 0:14:52.800 --> 0:14:54.680 get the fuck up out of my face. And that 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:57.520 makes it kind of correlates like if you feel strong physically, 0:14:57.800 --> 0:15:01.680 you'll probably feel strong emotionally and like vocally to stand 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:04.120 ground and like rescue yourself because a lot of times 0:15:04.240 --> 0:15:05.280 no one's coming to save you. 0:15:05.360 --> 0:15:07.640 So I like, I like nobody's coming to save you, 0:15:07.880 --> 0:15:12.480 and our apex predator is meant and so we have 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:15.680 to know how to protect ourselves against them first and foremost. 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:19.760 And that's just a sweeping generalization, but it is the generalization. 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:21.240 It is, it is the truth. 0:15:21.920 --> 0:15:25.440 And so being able to rescue myself and then even 0:15:25.440 --> 0:15:27.360 with the fires, we had the fires here, we have 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:30.120 earthquakes here, We have so many natural disasters here, Like, 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:33.200 can I grab the people who are important to me? 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:36.480 Can I pull myself out of you know, rubble? Can 0:15:36.480 --> 0:15:38.440 I pull you like or a car? 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:38.800 Act? 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:38.920 Like? 0:15:39.040 --> 0:15:41.080 Can I actually save myself? 0:15:42.160 --> 0:15:44.520 And so the self care have got down, the massages 0:15:44.560 --> 0:15:46.680 I have down, the nails I have down, the hair 0:15:46.720 --> 0:15:49.320 I have down, the skincare, I've got that down. But 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:53.520 can I save myself? And that's important to me now 0:15:53.560 --> 0:15:56.240 and it wasn't before. So like yesterday I was doing 0:15:56.360 --> 0:15:58.720 pull ups and being able to pull up my body 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:01.080 weight and I said to train, like, let's let's do 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:03.440 pull ups, yeah, because I want to see I'm still 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:05.000 learning how to be really good at those. I'm like, 0:16:05.000 --> 0:16:07.720 I want to see if I can pull myself up 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:11.000 from basel like from a depth. If I was in 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:13.680 a hole somewhere and you think it's not gonna happen 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:15.840 to you. But the girlies who get trapped in basements, 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:18.320 the girlies who get kidnapped and end up in holes 0:16:18.320 --> 0:16:19.560 in the ground, Like. 0:16:19.520 --> 0:16:21.800 It's not like it's people always like, what are you 0:16:21.840 --> 0:16:22.360 training for? 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:25.040 Like, I'm training for the fact that men are grabbing 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:26.040 bitches all the time. 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:27.520 They're kidnapping US. 0:16:27.480 --> 0:16:30.200 Contex trafficking is at an all time high all time. 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:33.280 You hear announcements in the airport, I've never heard that before. 0:16:33.280 --> 0:16:34.760 I was in like Atlanta airport and they're like, if 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:37.040 you see someone who looks like they're being sex trafficked, I'm. 0:16:36.840 --> 0:16:39.520 Like, am I shrip it? No, you're not a big deal. 0:16:39.720 --> 0:16:40.800 It's a big exactly. 0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:43.440 So I'd rather be prepared than not prepared. 0:16:43.520 --> 0:16:46.760 So training for me, it's mental, it's physical, it's emotional also, 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:47.400 like I'll. 0:16:47.200 --> 0:16:47.600 Go in there. 0:16:47.640 --> 0:16:49.760 Yesterday I was in there. I had a horrible morning. 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:52.360 Because not a horrible morning. I'm not gonna give him 0:16:52.360 --> 0:16:56.400 that much power, but some man, some somebody's dusty son like, 0:16:56.560 --> 0:16:59.640 ruined my morning super early because that's just what they 0:16:59.720 --> 0:16:59.920 like to do. 0:17:00.960 --> 0:17:02.600 And so when I went to the when I went 0:17:02.640 --> 0:17:03.440 to the gym. 0:17:03.640 --> 0:17:06.879 In the morning, specifically eight am. 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:10.120 It's the It's my first thing in the morning. 0:17:09.960 --> 0:17:12.199 Like, you know, I just opened my motherfucking eyes. You know, 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:15.200 I got age. They do. They're like, actually, you know 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:17.280 what do you don't think about me all day day? 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:20.040 They're like, you don't gonna do I'm gonna ruin her 0:17:20.040 --> 0:17:24.240 ship nice and early, mad as hell, right, And he did. 0:17:24.440 --> 0:17:25.920 Until I got to the gym. 0:17:25.960 --> 0:17:27.640 And I got to the gym, I lifted some weights, 0:17:27.680 --> 0:17:29.679 and I was like, I don't even know who cares. 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:31.280 Like who gives a ship. 0:17:31.359 --> 0:17:33.280 It's almost like punching a punching bag, like getting the 0:17:33.400 --> 0:17:35.560 energy out, because sometimes if you're holding it your piss, 0:17:35.600 --> 0:17:38.080 you're having thoughts, you're having thoughts in your heart, and 0:17:38.080 --> 0:17:39.800 then you're like, where am I gonna put this fucking energy? 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:40.160 Yeah? 0:17:40.200 --> 0:17:42.040 I put it in my weights, And then after I 0:17:42.080 --> 0:17:44.520 got super strong, then I'm gonna go into boxing. 0:17:45.720 --> 0:17:47.560 I'm obsessed with boxing. 0:17:48.119 --> 0:17:50.200 So you wanna beat some ass basically, just in case 0:17:50.240 --> 0:17:51.960 you get it, I just want to be like, listen, 0:17:52.080 --> 0:17:54.720 we're gonna like we were going. Elizabeth Olvison on the news, 0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:56.719 someone attacked her and she killed a man with her 0:17:56.720 --> 0:17:58.080 bare hands. 0:17:58.200 --> 0:18:00.720 Crazy Is that And here's the other thing too, about 0:18:00.720 --> 0:18:01.439 physical fitness. 0:18:01.440 --> 0:18:03.080 And I know we're gonna get off this in a second, 0:18:03.080 --> 0:18:04.040 but I do want to say this. 0:18:05.440 --> 0:18:08.399 The amount of men who have told me not to 0:18:08.520 --> 0:18:14.120