1 00:00:05,880 --> 00:00:08,240 Speaker 1: Hello, my love, Welcome back to the bonus episode of 2 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 1: Give Them All a Podcast. I am here with comedian. 3 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:17,959 Speaker 1: And also, you produce, produce your. 4 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:21,640 Speaker 2: Podcast, produce you uce content. 5 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, produce content. You produce your podcast. And are you 6 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:27,479 Speaker 1: you said you. 7 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 2: Had Jerry Bruckheimer, I'm talking. 8 00:00:29,960 --> 00:00:33,159 Speaker 1: You said you had a like Netflix special content. 9 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:37,600 Speaker 2: I made the special. I got a book coming out. 10 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:41,839 Speaker 1: See like you're you wear money hats, I wear them all. 11 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 1: So when you do, because you have the thirty seven 12 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 1: and still single. But you said you just filmed something 13 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 1: with your parents. 14 00:00:48,880 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 2: I filmed a new special, stand up special called The 15 00:00:52,120 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 2: Family Plan. 16 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:56,040 Speaker 1: And that's what you are hoping goes to a streamer. Yeah, 17 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 1: so you very much produce, like you have a hand 18 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 1: in making the content that's going to streamer. 19 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:03,640 Speaker 2: Yeah. When you're a stand up comedian, you got to 20 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 2: be the writer, the performer, the the clown. You know, 21 00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:10,440 Speaker 2: you got to do it all. 22 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:13,080 Speaker 1: That feels like I was talking to my brother the 23 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 1: other day. The writing aspect sounds like so much work. 24 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 1: The way a comedian can talk about something, go on 25 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:21,959 Speaker 1: a tangent and be able to wrap it back to 26 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 1: the beginning is a skill that I don't think I 27 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:26,400 Speaker 1: could ever conquer. 28 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 2: Well. It took me years to like get better at 29 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:32,039 Speaker 2: stand up. I'm still you know, stand up is you 30 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:34,759 Speaker 2: have to love it, yeah, to do it. You can't 31 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:36,880 Speaker 2: do it because if you don't love it, you don't 32 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:38,040 Speaker 2: want to work at it. And it's a lot of 33 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 2: hard work, right, and it's also done very slowly. It's 34 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:44,440 Speaker 2: like chipping away at a you know, at a statue. 35 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 2: You're trying to like get a joke, you know, and 36 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 2: you only get one chance to do it because you 37 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 2: need the audience to hear how they react, and you 38 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:53,560 Speaker 2: got to say it the right way, and you got 39 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 2: to believe even if it doesn't work well. I said 40 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 2: it that way last night and the work last night. 41 00:01:57,360 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 2: So it's a slow process, you know. Bill Burr I 42 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 2: heard him say, He's like, if you get a new 43 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 2: minute a week, by the end of the year, you'll 44 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:10,320 Speaker 2: have fifty two minutes, which is as special And I 45 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:12,960 Speaker 2: kind of think that's a perfect way to think about it, 46 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:18,800 Speaker 2: because new minute a week would be really writing. Okay, 47 00:02:18,880 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 2: so I think it takes two years to have a 48 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:22,959 Speaker 2: special be pretty good. 49 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:25,560 Speaker 1: Who is your favorite comedian? 50 00:02:25,840 --> 00:02:29,080 Speaker 2: I love Kevin James, The King of Queens, and he 51 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 2: has a standing. He had a stand up special that 52 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:35,400 Speaker 2: I like love called Sweat the Small Stuff. It's on YouTube, 53 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 2: it was on Comedy Central that it's so good it 54 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:40,919 Speaker 2: still works. It's like a late nineties like he's doing 55 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:44,960 Speaker 2: bits that like some of them aged out because you know, 56 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 2: technology and life, but a lot of them really are 57 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:52,240 Speaker 2: like classic bits. He's just he's not known as much 58 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:54,120 Speaker 2: as a stand up as he is like Paul Blart 59 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:57,079 Speaker 2: or like yeah, King of Queens, but like he is 60 00:02:57,120 --> 00:03:00,440 Speaker 2: a stand up, So that's like a special. And then 61 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:03,240 Speaker 2: like current like David Tel's like the Comedians comedian, like 62 00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:07,639 Speaker 2: everyone loves Dave, like Dave's like amazing. There's people I 63 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:11,239 Speaker 2: love just that I'm friends with that are like great, 64 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 2: you know, Michelle Wolf and Michael Chay, Nimesh Patel, these 65 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:18,359 Speaker 2: are all like close friends of mine that are all 66 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:20,360 Speaker 2: like so good, you know. 67 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:26,240 Speaker 1: I like Andrew Santino that I've just recently, well I 68 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 1: shouldn't say recently in the past year. I watched Cheeseburger 69 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: on Netflix. 70 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:32,320 Speaker 2: Yup, I saw he's very funny. I've been on his 71 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 2: podcast A Great Guy. 72 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, wait, the Bad Friends podcast. Now, I went on 73 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: his solo one. 74 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 2: Yeah. 75 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:39,280 Speaker 1: I love this. 76 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's a great guys, very funny. 77 00:03:41,760 --> 00:03:44,440 Speaker 1: For the bonus, I want to ask you some rapid 78 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 1: fire questions. 79 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 2: Let's do it and advice. 80 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:49,560 Speaker 1: I don't know how rapid you are, but I just 81 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 1: a player. 82 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 2: What do you do when preseason ends? And should you 83 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 2: go to the games? I didn't. I don't know. I'm 84 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 2: still guessing. You know. 85 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:05,640 Speaker 1: No, he says he's not ready to date but still 86 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 1: text me every night? What does that mean? 87 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:13,480 Speaker 2: That means he's attracted? It's a mess. Let's just start. 88 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:17,160 Speaker 2: It's a mess because the words matter here. He's not 89 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 2: ready to date, but he texts me every night? Okay, 90 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:24,920 Speaker 2: so what does date mean? Like? Have you gone out 91 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,720 Speaker 2: and hooked up and he doesn't want to be your 92 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:30,960 Speaker 2: boyfriend and you'd like a boyfriend. 93 00:04:30,320 --> 00:04:30,560 Speaker 1: Or. 94 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:33,559 Speaker 2: You want to go on a date and he won't 95 00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:34,480 Speaker 2: even go on a date? 96 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:36,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, because if he's only texting you at night, that 97 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:38,960 Speaker 1: sounds like he's trying to get all up in it. 98 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:42,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's like not even This person's problem is 99 00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 2: they're not really zoning on what they want. Take it 100 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:48,960 Speaker 2: back a step. I would like a date is way 101 00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:54,320 Speaker 2: simpler and more defined. Then I'm not ready to date. 102 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:56,520 Speaker 2: I don't even know what the fuck that means. Like, 103 00:04:56,560 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 2: I've never even said that sentence to a woman. So 104 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 2: if I've said it, then he's just trying to keep 105 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:06,320 Speaker 2: the ball in the air. When someone keeps texting you 106 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 2: and says I don't want to date and that's a 107 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:10,599 Speaker 2: vague thing. I'm not ready to date, but I keep 108 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:17,920 Speaker 2: texting you, they're just trying. Men love vague options. We 109 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 2: were told from a young age approach approach, approach, pursue 110 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:29,080 Speaker 2: or supersue. That involved a lot of losing, like a 111 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:32,279 Speaker 2: lot of being turned down. Yeah, so when your whole 112 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:35,560 Speaker 2: life you're told pursue approach, they like it. They want 113 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 2: you to go up and ask them on a date. 114 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 2: When you have someone who's agreed to like that, they 115 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 2: think you're hot and they want to text you back, 116 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 2: you kind of hold on to it because you're afraid 117 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:52,160 Speaker 2: that you'll go without and you'll never have like another 118 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 2: woman who will say yes to It's like a survival thing, 119 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:57,320 Speaker 2: all right. I'm not trying to apologize for it. I'm 120 00:05:57,320 --> 00:05:59,360 Speaker 2: just giving a reason to it. So, like, why does 121 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 2: he keep texting is because we'd like to put leftovers 122 00:06:02,640 --> 00:06:04,720 Speaker 2: in the fridge. We don't want to like and I 123 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 2: know that grosses you out, but I'm saying, like, you 124 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:09,839 Speaker 2: don't want to go without you don't want to be hungry. 125 00:06:10,480 --> 00:06:14,040 Speaker 2: So I got to make sure there's someone who I got, 126 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:18,320 Speaker 2: someone who I'm texting, because at some point maybe I'll 127 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 2: be like in the mood for all right. 128 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:23,080 Speaker 1: So you would tell this woman to just stop even in. 129 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:25,720 Speaker 2: GEI I wouldn't say that, because that's not how I 130 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 2: give advice. I would say to them, what do you 131 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:31,720 Speaker 2: want and make it specific, say it out loud. 132 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:37,599 Speaker 1: So let's say I would like to go on dates, 133 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:39,360 Speaker 1: but not be exclusive. 134 00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 2: Make it smaller. What do you want next week? 135 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:47,480 Speaker 1: I want to go out with you. 136 00:06:47,720 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 2: I want to go on a date. 137 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 1: I want to go on a date. Well guess what, 138 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:52,480 Speaker 1: So I was already said he's not ready to date. 139 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:55,000 Speaker 2: Well that's but this is my point. You can't tell 140 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:56,600 Speaker 2: people what to do. They got to find it out 141 00:06:56,640 --> 00:06:57,039 Speaker 2: on their own. 142 00:06:57,120 --> 00:06:57,480 Speaker 1: Okay. 143 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:01,159 Speaker 2: So to this person who's texting and tech texting with 144 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 2: someone who says they don't want to be dating because 145 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 2: they don't they're whatever the fuck is wrong with them, 146 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 2: I would say them they should write to them. Hey, 147 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:11,920 Speaker 2: I just want to go. I'm looking to go out 148 00:07:11,960 --> 00:07:14,840 Speaker 2: and get drinks next week. Make a plan. I'm in. 149 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 2: But if you can't, that's what I'm looking for in 150 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 2: a partner right now. And if you can't do that, 151 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:20,280 Speaker 2: we have to stop text. 152 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 1: And then he will probably won't want us for the 153 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:25,200 Speaker 1: first time and just say I don't I'm well, he won't. 154 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 2: Say anything, he'll probably disappear, he'll probably make an excuse. No, 155 00:07:28,280 --> 00:07:31,400 Speaker 2: he won't be honest. Oh he'll he'll he'll text you 156 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:33,960 Speaker 2: in three weeks. But I'm trying to get the person 157 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 2: who's texting with the guy who keeps texting, they need 158 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:41,640 Speaker 2: help to right. You know, this question doesn't come from 159 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 2: a place of power. This question comes from a place 160 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 2: of weakness and not acknowledging that they are doing something. 161 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 2: They're like, they're you know, they're insane. They keep texting 162 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:56,720 Speaker 2: with someone that they're getting mad at if they if 163 00:07:56,760 --> 00:07:59,200 Speaker 2: they were able, they would just stop. They wouldn't write 164 00:07:59,240 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 2: at us. 165 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:02,040 Speaker 1: Well, that's why I'm excited for the next question. 166 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 2: That's my point. You know what I mean? Do you 167 00:08:03,520 --> 00:08:05,240 Speaker 2: get what I mean? Like, yes, I know what you mean, 168 00:08:05,320 --> 00:08:07,480 Speaker 2: Like I just like I don't like when someone gives 169 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 2: rules like, it's. 170 00:08:08,520 --> 00:08:11,200 Speaker 1: Just like, I think it's much easier to give the 171 00:08:11,280 --> 00:08:14,480 Speaker 1: advice that you're giving because I've given this advice to 172 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 1: my friends, and in the moment I'm put in that 173 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: same situation, I suddenly have zero rules. I don't know 174 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:23,239 Speaker 1: how to go about anything right. 175 00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 2: Any advice is easier to give them take no question. 176 00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 2: But I'm saying for this person, if I say to them, hey, 177 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:32,920 Speaker 2: what do you want and they can't answer that question, 178 00:08:32,960 --> 00:08:36,719 Speaker 2: it's more there. It's it's now their fault, like they 179 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:39,440 Speaker 2: gotta they have to like be a participant in this. 180 00:08:39,679 --> 00:08:44,199 Speaker 1: Of course. Yeah, he watches every story but hasn't texted 181 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:45,880 Speaker 1: in two weeks. Does that mean anything? 182 00:08:46,600 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 2: Yes? 183 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:48,320 Speaker 1: Really, what does it mean? 184 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 2: Watching someone's story means you're attracted to them? That's it. Okay, 185 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:56,839 Speaker 2: So that's the problem with the stories thing. People are like, 186 00:08:56,880 --> 00:09:00,200 Speaker 2: it doesn't matter. It does, but it doesn't. Watch your 187 00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:03,320 Speaker 2: stories mean something. But it doesn't mean they like you. 188 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:07,280 Speaker 2: It just means they're attracted you. I it's like looking 189 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:12,400 Speaker 2: at someone walking down the street. I've checked out a 190 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:14,880 Speaker 2: woman's ass as she passed me on the street. Of course, 191 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:18,160 Speaker 2: that doesn't mean I want to go on a day with. 192 00:09:18,160 --> 00:09:21,440 Speaker 1: Them, So it's just like looking at you. 193 00:09:21,720 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 2: Well, because the reason they're looking at your stories all 194 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:25,760 Speaker 2: the time is because the stories that go to the 195 00:09:25,760 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 2: front are the people's pages you're interacting with the most. 196 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 2: So acknowledge that. 197 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:32,240 Speaker 1: Wow, you just taught me something I had no idea. 198 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:34,960 Speaker 2: I mean you knew that. No, I just think you're 199 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 2: not looking at someone's stories that like of a paid 200 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:39,960 Speaker 2: your friends that you would interact the most with on 201 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 2: Instagram don't come up front, front and center. They do. 202 00:09:43,760 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 1: I thought it just posted the story that's most recent. 203 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:52,680 Speaker 2: No, it's an account you've interacted with, and it's account 204 00:09:52,720 --> 00:09:56,760 Speaker 2: you've touched, an account you've searched, an account you've liked. 205 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:00,440 Speaker 2: Those come up first. The ones that are at the 206 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:03,440 Speaker 2: way end are the ones you've stopped really caring about. 207 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:10,440 Speaker 2: So they're looking at you, they're interacting with you, even 208 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 2: if they're not liking your page is on the front 209 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:21,240 Speaker 2: end of their their views. Yeah, so it means they're attracted. 210 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 2: So it's hard to say to someone they keep watching 211 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:25,920 Speaker 2: my stories and you're like when you say it's nothing, like, well, 212 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 2: that's not true. It means they're attracted you. I mean, 213 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:30,560 Speaker 2: I if it really affects you and you're getting annoyed 214 00:10:30,600 --> 00:10:34,240 Speaker 2: by it. How about you block them? If that's too 215 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:37,160 Speaker 2: much for you, that's okay. How about you mute them? 216 00:10:37,400 --> 00:10:40,240 Speaker 2: How about you block them from your stories? Like, we 217 00:10:40,240 --> 00:10:43,720 Speaker 2: can take actions, right, you can take actions to get 218 00:10:43,800 --> 00:10:46,240 Speaker 2: rid of this. Is it if it's because and we 219 00:10:46,280 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 2: have to acknowledge, is it bothering me? Like there are 220 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 2: points where I'm watching all these stories, I'm like, what 221 00:10:50,679 --> 00:10:53,000 Speaker 2: the fuck am I doing here? And you have to 222 00:10:53,040 --> 00:10:55,680 Speaker 2: be you know I'm gonna and these are ways. There 223 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:58,120 Speaker 2: are ways to do it without letting them know. And sometimes, 224 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 2: but sometimes that hurts people to do. 225 00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 1: To mute someone, Yeah, you. 226 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 2: Feel bad that you're they don't even care. They don't 227 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:09,640 Speaker 2: even know that I muted them, Like you just lose 228 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 2: like they're again seeing their face watching your stories. It 229 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:17,240 Speaker 2: does hit you in a place. At least someone cares, 230 00:11:17,559 --> 00:11:21,160 Speaker 2: at least they're looking. So I get why people ask 231 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 2: about it. Think about it people. 232 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:25,440 Speaker 1: By the way, there's so many of my friends who 233 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:29,120 Speaker 1: always say he watched my stories. I don't understand why 234 00:11:29,120 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 1: he takes back They're right, I met someone on vacation. 235 00:11:33,720 --> 00:11:37,960 Speaker 1: Now what Well, that one's hard because the long distance 236 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 1: thing is like fun for five seconds. 237 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:43,480 Speaker 2: I would need to know more to the story. But 238 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:47,959 Speaker 2: based on this, if I have to answer this question now, what, hey, 239 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:49,080 Speaker 2: what's that? 240 00:11:49,920 --> 00:11:52,720 Speaker 1: I'm just I have a good one for you, going. 241 00:11:52,600 --> 00:11:54,839 Speaker 2: Well, the vacation didn't answer that quick? I would say 242 00:11:54,880 --> 00:11:57,040 Speaker 2: if you met someone on vacation, I would ask what 243 00:11:57,080 --> 00:11:59,640 Speaker 2: the plan is next? You know, and if you can't 244 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:01,920 Speaker 2: answer that and you don't want to put yourself out there, 245 00:12:01,960 --> 00:12:03,080 Speaker 2: then it's not worth your doing. 246 00:12:03,280 --> 00:12:06,160 Speaker 1: I think it's just like you had fun and call 247 00:12:06,240 --> 00:12:06,800 Speaker 1: it a day. 248 00:12:06,920 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 2: I mean, that's not for me to say, like, this 249 00:12:10,400 --> 00:12:10,880 Speaker 2: is why. 250 00:12:10,720 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 1: I can't do what you do, because I love having 251 00:12:13,040 --> 00:12:15,200 Speaker 1: control and telling pody. I would say it's my most 252 00:12:15,200 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 1: favorite thing to do. 253 00:12:16,120 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 2: If a friend of mine was like, I went on vacation, 254 00:12:17,840 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 2: I met this guy or I met this girl and 255 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 2: they're awesome and I really like there's something there, I 256 00:12:23,280 --> 00:12:27,199 Speaker 2: would go, Okay, if that's the case, what's happening next 257 00:12:27,280 --> 00:12:29,360 Speaker 2: month for you two to get to know each other more? 258 00:12:29,679 --> 00:12:31,679 Speaker 2: At a basis, all you want to do is get 259 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 2: to know them more. You're not asking for more than that. Okay, 260 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:40,760 Speaker 2: so hey, I really and you have to be vulnerable 261 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:43,720 Speaker 2: like you don't. You can't have it all. You can't 262 00:12:44,040 --> 00:12:47,800 Speaker 2: have an amazing time and cobo with someone and then 263 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:51,200 Speaker 2: you know, and then they you know. Then it's easy 264 00:12:51,240 --> 00:12:53,760 Speaker 2: from then on there on out. And I don't care 265 00:12:53,840 --> 00:12:56,800 Speaker 2: what romantic comedy you saw that told you what was 266 00:12:56,800 --> 00:12:59,080 Speaker 2: going to happen. That way, you got to lose something 267 00:12:59,080 --> 00:13:04,200 Speaker 2: and sometimes losing like you know, losing the ability to 268 00:13:04,200 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 2: like guard yourself. Hey, I it was a great time meeting. Hey, 269 00:13:09,480 --> 00:13:13,120 Speaker 2: what happened this weekend? What really surprised me? This is 270 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:14,880 Speaker 2: the text I was saying, what happened this weekend really 271 00:13:14,920 --> 00:13:18,319 Speaker 2: surprise me? I don't know. I'm not seeing anyone right now, 272 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:21,600 Speaker 2: and I feel like I really want to get to 273 00:13:21,600 --> 00:13:24,640 Speaker 2: know you more. If you're up for that, let's make 274 00:13:24,640 --> 00:13:28,880 Speaker 2: a plan for a few weeks out and again to 275 00:13:29,040 --> 00:13:32,680 Speaker 2: like meet safely and or you come to me, or 276 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:35,520 Speaker 2: I come to you, and we see if we like 277 00:13:35,559 --> 00:13:40,280 Speaker 2: each other again. Maybe it's not, Maybe maybe it is, 278 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:42,280 Speaker 2: Maybe it's not. I mean I've done this where I've 279 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:42,719 Speaker 2: gone to. 280 00:13:42,760 --> 00:13:45,600 Speaker 1: Like, would you take a friend or go solo? 281 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:48,800 Speaker 2: I think you take a friend. Yeah, I think you 282 00:13:48,880 --> 00:13:50,720 Speaker 2: take a friend. I think you make it as easy 283 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 2: as get your own room. Totally make it as easy 284 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:56,720 Speaker 2: as possible. Again, you can't have it. All these things 285 00:13:56,720 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 2: cost money, right, you can't afford it. Don't make your 286 00:13:58,960 --> 00:14:01,840 Speaker 2: life a detriment. Maybe it's now's not the time, but 287 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:03,640 Speaker 2: if you can afford to get your own room and 288 00:14:03,679 --> 00:14:06,000 Speaker 2: go with a friend to like, I mean, I've been 289 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:07,920 Speaker 2: in that situation where like I've been on the road 290 00:14:07,960 --> 00:14:10,360 Speaker 2: and then like you know, the person came with their 291 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:13,800 Speaker 2: friend and got their own room and you know, had 292 00:14:13,840 --> 00:14:17,240 Speaker 2: their own weekend and then we got to hang out again. Yeah, 293 00:14:17,280 --> 00:14:22,520 Speaker 2: and see if this is worth and worth is a 294 00:14:22,520 --> 00:14:24,360 Speaker 2: tough word because I'm not saying they're not worth it, 295 00:14:24,440 --> 00:14:27,440 Speaker 2: but like the idea, like can this be something we 296 00:14:27,560 --> 00:14:30,880 Speaker 2: try and that's all you're trying to do. Keep it small, 297 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:31,920 Speaker 2: keep the stake small. 298 00:14:32,120 --> 00:14:36,480 Speaker 1: Okay. I like that, especially because I'm into finding people 299 00:14:36,520 --> 00:14:38,480 Speaker 1: who don't live near me, which I don't know, I 300 00:14:38,520 --> 00:14:39,320 Speaker 1: don't understand that. 301 00:14:39,840 --> 00:14:42,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, because that's because well, everyone's nice when you're leaving. 302 00:14:43,520 --> 00:14:46,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's also nice to be like right, it's like easy. 303 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:48,800 Speaker 2: You know, I'm so nice to people and they're like, 304 00:14:48,880 --> 00:14:51,800 Speaker 2: oh I'm going I'm like, oh, I see you. You 305 00:14:51,880 --> 00:14:53,760 Speaker 2: were great, you know, you know who I'm mean to. 306 00:14:54,280 --> 00:14:57,760 Speaker 2: I don't know when I'm leaving. Oh really, Oh yeah, 307 00:14:57,840 --> 00:15:00,480 Speaker 2: it's the same as like a woman in your town. 308 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:03,080 Speaker 2: You know what I might move here? 309 00:15:03,520 --> 00:15:10,320 Speaker 1: Really no, no, no, I sent a naughty riskue text 310 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:15,160 Speaker 1: after a few drinks. He didn't respond. Am I blocked 311 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 1: or just humbled the no response? You know when you're blocked. 312 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:22,160 Speaker 1: If you have an iPhone, by the way, deal breaker, 313 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: If my text goes through green, it's and you text like, 314 00:15:25,320 --> 00:15:29,360 Speaker 1: if you have an Android, we're good. Here goes back 315 00:15:29,400 --> 00:15:30,560 Speaker 1: to the khaki pants. 316 00:15:30,840 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 2: Listen, that's your ex or your own. I would say 317 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:40,880 Speaker 2: two things. Sometimes let me let me give some empathy 318 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:43,320 Speaker 2: to the guy who doesn't get back to your dirty text. 319 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:43,800 Speaker 1: Okay. 320 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:49,320 Speaker 2: What gets looked over is that you have to be 321 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:51,800 Speaker 2: in the right mind space to send a dirty text. 322 00:15:52,360 --> 00:15:53,920 Speaker 2: You also have to be in the right mind space 323 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:56,880 Speaker 2: to receive a dirty text. So I have gotten text 324 00:15:56,960 --> 00:16:01,440 Speaker 2: from women where it's like this hot, awesome text and 325 00:16:01,520 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 2: I'm like in an uber going to a podcast, and 326 00:16:06,480 --> 00:16:09,840 Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't have the ability the mindset I 327 00:16:09,880 --> 00:16:14,120 Speaker 2: am not in right back to this mode. So and 328 00:16:14,160 --> 00:16:17,880 Speaker 2: this happens with like when you're like distance with someone 329 00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:20,640 Speaker 2: like their time zone is eight pm and you're like 330 00:16:21,040 --> 00:16:25,560 Speaker 2: four and you're like, how do I write titty at 331 00:16:25,560 --> 00:16:27,760 Speaker 2: four pm? You know, like I you know, like it's 332 00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:31,360 Speaker 2: like it's way harder than it gets credit for. So 333 00:16:31,800 --> 00:16:34,280 Speaker 2: I would say to this person, I don't know if 334 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:36,160 Speaker 2: they're blocked. I don't know if they should be. I 335 00:16:36,160 --> 00:16:39,600 Speaker 2: don't think they should be humbled. Maybe you hit the 336 00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:43,400 Speaker 2: other person at an hour that wasn't the same for 337 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:46,320 Speaker 2: them as it was for you. Okay, that's my one thing. 338 00:16:47,360 --> 00:16:49,800 Speaker 2: Now if you write to them, hey, that was pretty 339 00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:51,920 Speaker 2: I think it's okay to be turned off again. Don't 340 00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:54,720 Speaker 2: be confused, be turned off. Like I said in the 341 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:58,600 Speaker 2: other episode, Okay, hey, it really kind of annoyed me 342 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:00,840 Speaker 2: that you never got back to the text. I was 343 00:17:00,880 --> 00:17:04,240 Speaker 2: really like feeling you that night, and I think they're 344 00:17:04,240 --> 00:17:07,199 Speaker 2: going to write back either. That's you. We call it 345 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:10,080 Speaker 2: the reveal on the podcast. Ok So, it's like the 346 00:17:10,160 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 2: talk is stupid, Like when should we have the talk? 347 00:17:14,320 --> 00:17:17,800 Speaker 2: I think that's never worked. It's not good. If you 348 00:17:17,800 --> 00:17:20,399 Speaker 2: have to have the talk, it's gone. I think the 349 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:24,280 Speaker 2: reveal is a better option. So the reveal is letting 350 00:17:24,280 --> 00:17:26,760 Speaker 2: someone know that you how you feel and then just 351 00:17:26,800 --> 00:17:27,679 Speaker 2: shutting the fuck up. 352 00:17:27,920 --> 00:17:28,240 Speaker 1: Okay. 353 00:17:28,800 --> 00:17:31,919 Speaker 2: So, hey, I sent you a I sent you some 354 00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:35,639 Speaker 2: nudes and a fun text the other night. It really 355 00:17:35,720 --> 00:17:38,440 Speaker 2: let me down that you never got back to it. 356 00:17:40,119 --> 00:17:45,120 Speaker 2: Now shut the fuck up, okay, because at that point 357 00:17:45,640 --> 00:17:48,360 Speaker 2: they're gonna come back with a response. It's either caring 358 00:17:49,600 --> 00:17:53,720 Speaker 2: or it's like it's an it's a breakup because they 359 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 2: know that you're farther ahead than maybe they are, or 360 00:17:56,320 --> 00:17:59,439 Speaker 2: it's an explanation. Hey, I gotta be honest with you, 361 00:17:59,480 --> 00:18:01,120 Speaker 2: and I would say to the person who wrote this, 362 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:05,240 Speaker 2: have some empathy for the explanation. It might be you 363 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 2: caught me out like the worst time, because a sexy 364 00:18:08,119 --> 00:18:12,400 Speaker 2: text getting back to it isn't just everything's nothing much, 365 00:18:12,480 --> 00:18:13,280 Speaker 2: you know, and. 366 00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:17,200 Speaker 1: It's very a lot of pressure on the receiving end. 367 00:18:17,800 --> 00:18:20,000 Speaker 2: We have to have empathy for the receiving end of 368 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:23,280 Speaker 2: a dirty text because that end of it is not 369 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:26,879 Speaker 2: as easy because everyone thinks, well, you should feel lucky 370 00:18:26,960 --> 00:18:30,480 Speaker 2: you're seeing my titty, and you go, I am lucky. 371 00:18:30,840 --> 00:18:33,400 Speaker 2: That's why I want to give a response that's deserving 372 00:18:33,440 --> 00:18:36,040 Speaker 2: of this titty. But I'm not in the place to 373 00:18:36,080 --> 00:18:39,960 Speaker 2: write a response to the titty. So This is where 374 00:18:40,400 --> 00:18:42,240 Speaker 2: I think we get like. I think this is a 375 00:18:42,560 --> 00:18:45,280 Speaker 2: more layered answer than maybe they would. 376 00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:48,199 Speaker 1: It is. In the last time I sent like dirty 377 00:18:48,240 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 1: text messages, it was kind of a while ago, but 378 00:18:51,400 --> 00:18:55,639 Speaker 1: I just remember it's almost like for play, right, Like 379 00:18:55,880 --> 00:18:59,399 Speaker 1: you're wanting to each text that's going back and forth, 380 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:02,400 Speaker 1: trying to one up the other person because you want 381 00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:04,960 Speaker 1: to get to the climax, right, It is a lot 382 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:08,080 Speaker 1: of pressure. The first person to send off the dirty 383 00:19:08,119 --> 00:19:10,000 Speaker 1: text actually has to be easiest. 384 00:19:09,680 --> 00:19:11,479 Speaker 2: Right because they are all you have to do it 385 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:14,680 Speaker 2: in their undies feeling west and. 386 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:17,800 Speaker 1: All you have to do is I'm feeling wet right now, right. 387 00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:22,920 Speaker 2: And now now, and it's like okay, and now you've 388 00:19:22,920 --> 00:19:25,160 Speaker 2: got to go to like the mindset of like, okay, 389 00:19:25,200 --> 00:19:26,920 Speaker 2: how do I get her? You know. 390 00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:32,440 Speaker 1: It's a lie. This is why I I sometimes wish 391 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:34,520 Speaker 1: I could be a lesbian, because that would be easy. 392 00:19:34,560 --> 00:19:38,680 Speaker 2: I know, I don't think you want that. Really, you 393 00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:41,480 Speaker 2: want to date a woman, I can tell you right now, 394 00:19:41,960 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 2: A lot of work. It can be a lot of work. 395 00:19:45,520 --> 00:19:47,400 Speaker 1: Okay. The next one I have for you is we've 396 00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:50,120 Speaker 1: been dating for six months and he still hasn't introduced 397 00:19:50,119 --> 00:19:53,520 Speaker 1: me to a single friend. Is this low key secret girlfriend. 398 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:55,640 Speaker 2: Energy you're dating in the back alleys. 399 00:19:56,119 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 1: Oh, it's kind of the best kind. 400 00:19:57,640 --> 00:20:02,639 Speaker 2: Though, Listen. It's everything serves its own purpose. Yeah, but 401 00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:05,679 Speaker 2: this person you're dating in the alleys, you're not on 402 00:20:05,760 --> 00:20:09,000 Speaker 2: main street. The biggest issue they have isn't that they're 403 00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:13,120 Speaker 2: being hidden, it's that the breakup is just easier. Yeah, 404 00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:15,880 Speaker 2: you have to weave someone into your life to make 405 00:20:17,720 --> 00:20:20,119 Speaker 2: you know, like to make it go any further. So 406 00:20:20,880 --> 00:20:25,119 Speaker 2: you that, listen, they're dating six months, six months may 407 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:26,440 Speaker 2: as well be one month. 408 00:20:27,040 --> 00:20:31,320 Speaker 1: When do you think is a good time to like 409 00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:35,200 Speaker 1: what I mean, is there like a limit on? Okay, 410 00:20:35,240 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 1: we've been out three times? Why am I not being introduced? 411 00:20:38,920 --> 00:20:39,080 Speaker 2: No? 412 00:20:39,280 --> 00:20:41,040 Speaker 1: Or is it kind of like maybe you guys don't 413 00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:42,879 Speaker 1: know each other well enough? Do you find that it's 414 00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:43,840 Speaker 1: all in the communication. 415 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:46,600 Speaker 2: It's all in the communication, like all things, Like I 416 00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 2: talk about. 417 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:49,240 Speaker 1: This all the time. It's such a simple concept, but 418 00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:50,560 Speaker 1: it's actually very complex. 419 00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:54,840 Speaker 2: No. Well, it's also like, listen, I've dated people for 420 00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:58,920 Speaker 2: six months and like it's it's hovered in this one 421 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:04,679 Speaker 2: spot really like this person, And the reasoning was, you know, 422 00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:08,840 Speaker 2: I wasn't really ready to make it more than it was. 423 00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:14,439 Speaker 2: And I also didn't. There's a little scheduling aspect to it. 424 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:17,080 Speaker 2: If I'm going to be which sounds like bullshit, but 425 00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:19,760 Speaker 2: it's like, I'm looking at my schedule. I'm not going 426 00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:22,520 Speaker 2: to be in the same city for this long. How 427 00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:24,440 Speaker 2: could I get to know someone? You know, when you're 428 00:21:24,440 --> 00:21:27,280 Speaker 2: getting to know someone over text, it's just not the 429 00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:31,840 Speaker 2: same and you get bored, right and and for me personally, 430 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,879 Speaker 2: and I think like you as well, and I think 431 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:37,680 Speaker 2: the audience can relate to this more than they would 432 00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:44,159 Speaker 2: maybe admit. But honestly, there's dating pre social media, and 433 00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:48,560 Speaker 2: then there's post social media. So like if you and 434 00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:53,240 Speaker 2: your you know, the third basement that you're dating, put 435 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:58,240 Speaker 2: it on Instagram, Okay, there's a different responsibility. If this ends, 436 00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:01,480 Speaker 2: you have to undo it. You have to answer to 437 00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:05,600 Speaker 2: a greater world. Same with the listeners. Even if you're 438 00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:07,960 Speaker 2: not a person who posts on social media, you have 439 00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:10,880 Speaker 2: two hundred followers that are your friends that care about 440 00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:13,199 Speaker 2: your life, that would are watching. 441 00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:15,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, that are wonder right. 442 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:19,000 Speaker 2: So like six months, you go, do I feel confident enough? 443 00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:21,040 Speaker 2: And I think with my dating life, I want to 444 00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:25,240 Speaker 2: be like I want to be sprinting, and I think 445 00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:27,960 Speaker 2: when if you're holding up at all, you're like, Okay, 446 00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:32,399 Speaker 2: let me keep this pre social media or keep this 447 00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:35,399 Speaker 2: pre meeting my friends, because then I'd have to undo 448 00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:39,720 Speaker 2: that if it doesn't go right. And so I don't 449 00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:43,399 Speaker 2: think that's a good thing for this person's scenario. Like 450 00:22:43,440 --> 00:22:45,760 Speaker 2: I don't think that they're in a good spot if 451 00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:46,520 Speaker 2: they want more. 452 00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:49,520 Speaker 1: Well, and we see and I operate off of ego, 453 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:53,760 Speaker 1: which is hard to believe when I'm in the AA 454 00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:56,399 Speaker 1: program because we try to silence that. But for me, 455 00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:58,760 Speaker 1: like I wouldn't say anything to him because I would 456 00:22:58,800 --> 00:23:01,639 Speaker 1: be afraid of the response and feeling rejected. So I 457 00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 1: lead with ego. 458 00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:07,960 Speaker 2: Here's my question of the person and my question to you, Okay, 459 00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:11,240 Speaker 2: how would you feel if you were writing this email 460 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:13,920 Speaker 2: a year from now, If you were writing I haven't 461 00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:16,040 Speaker 2: met his friends yet and it was a year. 462 00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:18,359 Speaker 1: In Oh, now you've now, I would be like, I 463 00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:21,760 Speaker 1: wish I would have been more forward, because now I've 464 00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:24,000 Speaker 1: wasted a year when I could have cut this off 465 00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:24,879 Speaker 1: in six months. 466 00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:27,840 Speaker 2: And here's how I help this person. Okay, go out 467 00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:31,720 Speaker 2: with your friends, have some spritzes. Yeah, text this guy, 468 00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:33,680 Speaker 2: hay him out with my friends. I want you to 469 00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:35,880 Speaker 2: come hang out and see if they'll come. 470 00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:38,399 Speaker 1: That's cute. I like that. And then that way, it 471 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:41,080 Speaker 1: still feels okay if he doesn't come, because you're with 472 00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:42,560 Speaker 1: your girls and you're a little buzz. 473 00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:46,080 Speaker 2: And vulnerability produces vulnerability. Now you have a right to 474 00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:50,320 Speaker 2: say if he does come, great, he's meeting your friends. 475 00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:53,960 Speaker 2: You've inched forward. If he doesn't come, you can say, hey, 476 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,600 Speaker 2: I made an effort today. I tried to get you 477 00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:58,919 Speaker 2: to hang with my friends and I and you just 478 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:02,560 Speaker 2: basically and you were doing nothing. Yeah, you didn't really 479 00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:05,199 Speaker 2: have a great excuse. I feel let down by that, 480 00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:10,920 Speaker 2: right if and if he and so that's a conversation. 481 00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:13,920 Speaker 2: So now you're getting deserving of a conversation. I think 482 00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:16,399 Speaker 2: she deserves to have a conversation anyways, but maybe this 483 00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:19,320 Speaker 2: helps her have that. You know, Hey, I try to 484 00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:22,440 Speaker 2: do something fun and you just didn't. Really you weren't. 485 00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:23,280 Speaker 1: You gave me nothing. 486 00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:26,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, or he comes and you go, hey, you met 487 00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:27,880 Speaker 2: my friends and that was so much fun. I want 488 00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:29,920 Speaker 2: to do that with your friends now too. So now 489 00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:31,159 Speaker 2: it makes that conversation easier. 490 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:34,040 Speaker 1: Okay, I love all of this. I'm implementing it all 491 00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:34,480 Speaker 1: into my. 492 00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:37,359 Speaker 2: There you go. Last question you're dating? 493 00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:44,199 Speaker 1: Okay, I wanted to ask you the IG one. 494 00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:46,080 Speaker 2: He's in sidelinebacker. 495 00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,280 Speaker 1: He never compliments me, but he compliments other women on 496 00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:52,719 Speaker 1: ig Call him on it or just dump him. 497 00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:53,479 Speaker 2: You gotta dump him. 498 00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:56,000 Speaker 1: I think that guy sounds like a fucking dick. 499 00:24:56,160 --> 00:25:01,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's a lack of beyond not comment on you, like, 500 00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:05,840 Speaker 2: forget that social media is a public place. And would 501 00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:08,879 Speaker 2: he feel comfortable with your friends seeing that he's like commimenting, Like, 502 00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 2: is that who you want to date? I don't know, No, 503 00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:14,040 Speaker 2: that's that's that would be a turn off to me. 504 00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:16,520 Speaker 2: But I'm saying like, I also don't like to tell 505 00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:20,040 Speaker 2: people what to do, but I just think like you 506 00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:22,159 Speaker 2: have a leg to stand on if you were to, like, 507 00:25:22,320 --> 00:25:24,040 Speaker 2: but you're not going to fix this guy? Is No? 508 00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:26,119 Speaker 1: I think this is a hymn issue when you I 509 00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:27,040 Speaker 1: don't know this. 510 00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:29,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, you're not going to fix a guy who 511 00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:33,440 Speaker 2: thought so little of you that they didn't care about 512 00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:34,120 Speaker 2: this being seen. 513 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:41,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's fucked up. Okay, this happens to me all 514 00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:44,760 Speaker 1: the fucking time. I'm seeing someone new but still dreaming 515 00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:47,480 Speaker 1: about my ex. Is that just emotional lag. 516 00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:49,879 Speaker 2: What the fuck is I don't know what emotional lag is. 517 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:51,920 Speaker 1: I don't know what that is either, But what is that? 518 00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,800 Speaker 1: I know you're not some like dream interpreter, but like 519 00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:56,720 Speaker 1: I feel like that isn't normal. 520 00:25:56,880 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 2: I would say, if they're not muting and blocking an X, 521 00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:03,560 Speaker 2: you're doing yourself at a service. She's dreaming about it, 522 00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:08,800 Speaker 2: I know, but the dreams happened, right, You're subconsciously coming 523 00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:12,920 Speaker 2: across things. You have the listen. It's not you used 524 00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:15,480 Speaker 2: to before social media. I remember, like what there was 525 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:18,199 Speaker 2: one time my dad, mom and I, like I was 526 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:20,800 Speaker 2: like a young kid, and we like went for ice cream, 527 00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:22,800 Speaker 2: and then we left the ice cream place and we 528 00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:24,439 Speaker 2: got in the car and my dad was like my 529 00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:27,040 Speaker 2: mom was like, that was your dad's ex girlfriend, you know, 530 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,160 Speaker 2: Oh my god, oh my god, and she was giving 531 00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:31,960 Speaker 2: them ship. That was the only time you could really 532 00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:34,879 Speaker 2: see an ex like you didn't have to, Like you 533 00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:37,200 Speaker 2: had no ability to because like if I saw an 534 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:39,960 Speaker 2: ex at ice cream and I'm with my kids and family, 535 00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:43,240 Speaker 2: I would already know everything about their lives. I would 536 00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:44,680 Speaker 2: know that they were going to be at ice cream, 537 00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,359 Speaker 2: like you know, like because there's some sort of there's 538 00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:49,840 Speaker 2: a level of knowledge I would have that I'm not 539 00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:51,600 Speaker 2: like proud of it, Like that's kind of how it goes. 540 00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:54,960 Speaker 2: It is such like a funny thing to think about, 541 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:56,920 Speaker 2: like my dad being like yeah I was an X 542 00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:59,679 Speaker 2: and like oh in them catching up and like the moment, 543 00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:03,239 Speaker 2: like having no idea what they've been up to, and 544 00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:05,720 Speaker 2: this is so different today. So it's like, I don't know, 545 00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:07,320 Speaker 2: I think we should want a little more of what 546 00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:10,320 Speaker 2: my parents had and a little less give right, So 547 00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:12,399 Speaker 2: like why don't we create that world for ourselves and 548 00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:14,679 Speaker 2: be an active participant in our life and our health 549 00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:17,840 Speaker 2: and be like, Okay, I'm gonna block my X on everything. 550 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:19,880 Speaker 2: And it's not because I hate them. 551 00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 1: You can because there's no reason. 552 00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:27,520 Speaker 2: Self, you know, making yourself feel good. This is all 553 00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:31,320 Speaker 2: mental health, Like it's not. And here's the scenario that 554 00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:35,120 Speaker 2: never happens. Tell me the X going, hey you blocked me. No, 555 00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:38,240 Speaker 2: that never happened, Never happens, and never afraid of It's like, 556 00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:40,600 Speaker 2: you know, you ever see those videos of like what 557 00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:43,320 Speaker 2: you what people think is going to happen when friends 558 00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:45,720 Speaker 2: come over and they're like you haven't cleaned your you know, 559 00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:49,320 Speaker 2: the duster you're like, yeah, like that never happens. People 560 00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:51,359 Speaker 2: don't act that way. When you see your block, you go, 561 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:55,640 Speaker 2: I'll get away. Obviously I bothered them. I need to like. 562 00:27:57,160 --> 00:27:59,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm still so I. 563 00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:03,200 Speaker 2: Have sex dreams. I'm saying, like, get spurred by something, right, 564 00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:06,080 Speaker 2: but like, are something from your current? I don't know. 565 00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:09,280 Speaker 1: I think sometimes it's it's the uni. I see I'm 566 00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:11,160 Speaker 1: a little bit deeper than you on this. I think 567 00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:14,480 Speaker 1: it's your I think it's the universe trying to implant something. 568 00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:16,520 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna tell you a very brief story and 569 00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:18,879 Speaker 1: then we can move on. Because this question was like 570 00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:21,399 Speaker 1: one of my favorites because it happens to me relatable. 571 00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:28,320 Speaker 1: I had this boyfriend and we were very very young. Okay, 572 00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:31,919 Speaker 1: he was still in college. He lived in La, I 573 00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:36,520 Speaker 1: lived back in Utah. We met through social media, and 574 00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:39,600 Speaker 1: we were together for quite a long time, I would say, 575 00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:42,560 Speaker 1: and then on and off once I moved out to LA. Anyway, 576 00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:47,800 Speaker 1: cut to he gets married, has kids, I find my 577 00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:51,440 Speaker 1: person and we have a baby, and I want to say, 578 00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:56,520 Speaker 1: maybe like two three years ago, I see that, and 579 00:28:56,800 --> 00:28:58,840 Speaker 1: I was still hooked on this guy, like I've always 580 00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,160 Speaker 1: been hooked on him. I can shake the fucking feeling. 581 00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:08,200 Speaker 1: It's been years, it's been over a decade. I cyberstock him. 582 00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:12,760 Speaker 1: I'm done with my X now. And he's deleted all 583 00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:17,000 Speaker 1: of his photos of his wife and he's changed, changed 584 00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:19,840 Speaker 1: that he's not married, like she's taken out of his bio. 585 00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:23,760 Speaker 1: So I slide in the DM. We start talking. I 586 00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:26,920 Speaker 1: go out to Vegas and he wants to link up. 587 00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:31,920 Speaker 1: He apologizes for everything that he put me through years ago. 588 00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:34,440 Speaker 1: I should have been there for you in a different way. 589 00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:37,440 Speaker 1: I want to say that I'm sorry. I asked him 590 00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:39,640 Speaker 1: about the wife, and he goes, well, I wanted to 591 00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:41,840 Speaker 1: tell you that we're going to try to work it out. 592 00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:45,760 Speaker 1: And I was like, I totally respect that you have children. 593 00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:48,200 Speaker 1: You should fucking do that. I go back to La. 594 00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:50,720 Speaker 1: He sends me a message a few weeks later. He's like, Hey, 595 00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:53,320 Speaker 1: I'm in LA. I'd love to get lunch with you. 596 00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,400 Speaker 1: And I said, I'm not going out with someone who 597 00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:57,160 Speaker 1: has a wife. I'm just not telling it. He said, 598 00:29:57,520 --> 00:30:03,040 Speaker 1: it's ended. He portrays four months now that he and 599 00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:07,520 Speaker 1: his wife got a divorce because of my trauma. I 600 00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,320 Speaker 1: am not buying it. I need to see paperwork. I 601 00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:13,880 Speaker 1: keep having dreams every night of his wife coming in 602 00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:17,840 Speaker 1: and catching us together. Even though he's saying they're done, 603 00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:21,640 Speaker 1: it just keeps coming up. So I plan to go 604 00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:24,880 Speaker 1: to Vegas to see him because I'm like, okay, like, 605 00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:26,960 Speaker 1: if you're saying like I want to believe you, I'm 606 00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:29,320 Speaker 1: holding on to his apology because it was just like 607 00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:33,000 Speaker 1: the most beautiful and necessary for my soul apology. My 608 00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:36,080 Speaker 1: friend says to me, so, you're gonna see him while 609 00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:38,440 Speaker 1: you're out there. I said yeah, And she did he 610 00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:41,320 Speaker 1: send you the proof of his divorce? And I said no? 611 00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:43,880 Speaker 1: And she goes, you're not hanging out with him. I 612 00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:49,280 Speaker 1: will not allow it. So I don't see him. I 613 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:52,280 Speaker 1: continue to dream about him all the livelong day. I 614 00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:56,520 Speaker 1: literally over the weekend had another fucking dream about him 615 00:30:56,680 --> 00:30:59,920 Speaker 1: and the wife. I get onto social media to cyberse 616 00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:03,400 Speaker 1: talk again. She's got her ring on, he's got his 617 00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:07,880 Speaker 1: ring on, They've got pictures together, and I'm like, the 618 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,920 Speaker 1: universe fucking did that for me? 619 00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:11,480 Speaker 2: Yeah? 620 00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:13,160 Speaker 1: Is that not wild? 621 00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:17,920 Speaker 2: It's wild? I think it's there's one part of the 622 00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:21,800 Speaker 2: story that like, I would like never acknowledge what the apology? 623 00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:25,200 Speaker 2: What do you mean you wouldn't acknowledge, Like I wouldn't 624 00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:27,080 Speaker 2: think of that as like a plus. 625 00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:29,760 Speaker 1: No, well, it's all been what. 626 00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:33,080 Speaker 2: I'm saying before you got to the you know, when 627 00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:36,600 Speaker 2: you're telling the story, Yeah, you're like the apology, you know, 628 00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:39,400 Speaker 2: hit me so hard because he apologized for all the 629 00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:41,720 Speaker 2: things he did. I kind of live in a world 630 00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:45,000 Speaker 2: of like what else was he gonna say? Like that's 631 00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:47,400 Speaker 2: the only way to start with you is to acknowledge 632 00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,400 Speaker 2: the past. Yeah, Like I don't think that's like a 633 00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:53,400 Speaker 2: heroic apology. No, No, the apology coming. 634 00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:56,080 Speaker 1: That's actually new. No one has ever said that to 635 00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:57,080 Speaker 1: me before, right, Like. 636 00:31:57,040 --> 00:31:59,800 Speaker 2: I think the apology is like the easiest, most self 637 00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:04,800 Speaker 2: serving thing for him to do because you're in Vegas, right, 638 00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:07,920 Speaker 2: You're in Vegas. He's got to make you feel happy 639 00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:11,040 Speaker 2: to be there. He's got to acknowledge the past. Like 640 00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:15,480 Speaker 2: that's like a maneuver more than it is like twelve steps. 641 00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:21,280 Speaker 2: Who Yeah, but I'm with you on the universe and like, yeah, 642 00:32:21,320 --> 00:32:24,520 Speaker 2: like something in your body told you, like there's something 643 00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:29,720 Speaker 2: off here, and it's probably your body saying like because 644 00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:32,240 Speaker 2: your mind is going that apology meant so much to me, 645 00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:35,440 Speaker 2: but your body's going. Anyone could have done. That's like, 646 00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:38,560 Speaker 2: I don't think there's just nothing to lose from the apology. Totally, 647 00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:44,720 Speaker 2: no risk taken. That's my two cents for wow that. 648 00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,760 Speaker 1: No one has ever pointed that part out. That is 649 00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:49,160 Speaker 1: the only opener. 650 00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:52,000 Speaker 2: Right, What else is it gonna say? Hey, been a while, 651 00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:55,080 Speaker 2: Like you acknowledge that you fucking cheated on me and 652 00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:58,160 Speaker 2: we had this weird, fucking bast and it's crazy that 653 00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:00,760 Speaker 2: we're here right now, like acknowledge what I was because 654 00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:04,120 Speaker 2: usually with an X the last text is like some 655 00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:07,800 Speaker 2: sort of anger, Like it's like being like happy birthday 656 00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,200 Speaker 2: after someone's like, well fuck you, and you can like 657 00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:12,400 Speaker 2: scroll up and you're like, wait a minute, I just 658 00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:14,960 Speaker 2: yelled at you. The next thing can't be happy birthday. 659 00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:17,640 Speaker 2: You have to acknowledge the thing above. 660 00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:20,000 Speaker 1: It's right, Oh my gosh, I needed that. 661 00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:25,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm happy that could help out all and wed 662 00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:28,360 Speaker 2: something came in the way, but I came in the way. 663 00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:31,560 Speaker 2: But I think you knew in your heart that that 664 00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:36,400 Speaker 2: apology was bullshit. Yeah, or was just easy to me. 665 00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:37,640 Speaker 2: That's an easy apology. 666 00:33:37,760 --> 00:33:40,120 Speaker 1: You know, most people, they can be shitty at a 667 00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:41,880 Speaker 1: certain time in their life, and you hope as they 668 00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:45,920 Speaker 1: get older, they become you know, nicer people. I'm like, wow, 669 00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:49,040 Speaker 1: age actually made you a shittier person. 670 00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:51,160 Speaker 2: Well, I mean if I was to give him empathy 671 00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:56,560 Speaker 2: when people you know, when people are lonely, yeah, they 672 00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:59,040 Speaker 2: are men generally, to go back to something we talked 673 00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:05,280 Speaker 2: about before, men people generally go the easiest route, right. 674 00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:09,600 Speaker 2: In general, people take the easier route as opposed to 675 00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:12,560 Speaker 2: the harder route. So when you're lonely, who do you 676 00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:17,560 Speaker 2: go back to? What you're familiar with and the list 677 00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:19,680 Speaker 2: of people who have said yes to your naked body 678 00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:24,640 Speaker 2: before so and sometimes it's an X from way way 679 00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:27,400 Speaker 2: far ago or way way long ago, or sometimes as 680 00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:29,520 Speaker 2: the person you just left. That's why people go back 681 00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:31,879 Speaker 2: to their significant others. When you break up with someone, 682 00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:35,320 Speaker 2: there's one less person to hug, text and hold okay, 683 00:34:35,680 --> 00:34:39,920 Speaker 2: and you have a void and your whole next step 684 00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:43,439 Speaker 2: is to try and fill that void because it feels bad. 685 00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:45,839 Speaker 2: And a lot of times people do it with the 686 00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:47,799 Speaker 2: person that they just left. That's why you get back 687 00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:51,759 Speaker 2: with an X or it's someone from your past right 688 00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:56,200 Speaker 2: that there's less to explain, you know, what do they say? 689 00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:59,360 Speaker 2: There's an economic I was an economics major in college. 690 00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:04,759 Speaker 2: I really put that to use. It's more expensive to 691 00:35:04,880 --> 00:35:11,680 Speaker 2: hire someone new than it is to retrain an old employee. 692 00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:15,839 Speaker 2: So that is the same for data. Yeah, so it's 693 00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:18,680 Speaker 2: way more expensive to go on hinge and go on 694 00:35:18,719 --> 00:35:22,359 Speaker 2: a first date and meet new person and get them 695 00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,520 Speaker 2: to trust you. That costs way more money than it 696 00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:27,359 Speaker 2: is to go back to someone who's already working at 697 00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:30,040 Speaker 2: the company. And you worked at his company. You knew him, 698 00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:33,239 Speaker 2: you trusted him, you had a familiarity with him, you 699 00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:35,520 Speaker 2: knew how the penis worked, you knew that he could fuck. 700 00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:36,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. 701 00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:38,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, like all these things that like aren't important, but 702 00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:39,360 Speaker 2: you knew. 703 00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,640 Speaker 1: You know who the hero is in this the front 704 00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:44,160 Speaker 1: my friend, your friend. 705 00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:47,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, your friend is a true hero because they reminded 706 00:35:47,120 --> 00:35:50,160 Speaker 2: you of what you had already said. 707 00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:55,080 Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, damn. Thank you for doing the boner episode. 708 00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:58,960 Speaker 2: I got you you, guys. I do well with a boner. 709 00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:01,680 Speaker 1: We love a good boner. Thank you guys for listening 710 00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:04,520 Speaker 1: to another episode of the Give Them All Up Podcast 711 00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:07,200 Speaker 1: Bonus episode I'm gonna catch you guys on Wednesday and 712 00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:09,239 Speaker 1: again next week. Bye.