Speaker 1: The scale at which you succeed is the depth of
Speaker 1: the problem you solve. Even if you look at someone
Speaker 1: like Jeff Bezos, who's extremely successful, he's successful because he's
Speaker 1: solved a problem that many people have. Even if you
Speaker 1: look at monetary success, even if you look at financial success,
Speaker 1: it comes from service. Any success comes from service. What
Speaker 1: advice or counsel just in general, would you give somebody
Speaker 1: wants to live a better life. The mistake we make
Speaker 1: is that we either act without thinking or we think
Speaker 1: without acting. If you're feeling stuck or you're like, I'm
Speaker 1: not sure what I'm doing right now, you're either doing
Speaker 1: too much thinking or you're doing too much acting. All
Speaker 1: you have to do is ask yourself, does this bring
Speaker 1: me alive? Why does it bring me a life? Really
Speaker 1: important to know why it works and do I want
Speaker 1: to do it again? Welcome back to max Out, everybody.
Speaker 1: I am so excited to have this gentleman to my
Speaker 1: left here today. I've been chasing him for a long
Speaker 1: time and he probably doesn't need an introduction if you're
Speaker 1: watching this on YouTube, because I know so many of
Speaker 1: you know him. But if you don't know who he is,
Speaker 1: let me just give you some background on this man.
Speaker 1: Number one, this person's had seven billion views on their
Speaker 1: YouTube channel, seven billion views. He's had thirty four million
Speaker 1: people following him on social media, which is just absolutely remarkable.
Speaker 1: And three hundred He had one video on Facebook that
Speaker 1: had three hundred and sixty million views, number one viewed
Speaker 1: video on all of Facebook in twenty eighteen. And I'm
Speaker 1: so excited to share with you that he's written this
Speaker 1: new book called Think like a Monk, Train your mind
Speaker 1: for peace and purpose every day. I read this book
Speaker 1: in two days. So if all the accolades that this
Speaker 1: man has, the most impressive thing isn't even what I
Speaker 1: just shared with you. It's that my mom has a
Speaker 1: massive crush on you, not kiddy, so Mom, I've embarrassed
Speaker 1: you to millions of people, but my mom's crush is
Speaker 1: here today. Ja Shetty, and thank you so much, man,
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for this, honestly, Like just walking into
Speaker 1: your home today and experiencing your energy firsthand, Like you
Speaker 1: feel the power of your energy on social media, I
Speaker 1: feel it when I'm following you, but I feel the
Speaker 1: presence right now, So I just want to say thank you. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I just feel like a big hug this morning into
Speaker 1: the world to me. And I've told you. I was
Speaker 1: just literally telling you before we went on that there's
Speaker 1: nobody on social media who grabs me like you do.
Speaker 1: Thank you, man. I really appreciate that. And I told
Speaker 1: you why, and I should tell them. It's the convergence
Speaker 1: of I think your visual, your auditory, your look in
Speaker 1: your voice, but mainly just the depth of your message
Speaker 1: is so special. This is not a person who posts
Speaker 1: content that you're going to scroll through. This is somebody
Speaker 1: when he posts something, it affects you. His video move you,
Speaker 1: and this book moved me. Thank you. And I Usually
Speaker 1: if a guest is on, I'm very excited about their book,
Speaker 1: but in this case, I'm highlighting everywhere, and I think
Speaker 1: let's start somewhere. There's eleven sort of points in the
Speaker 1: book that you go through. But I think in this time,
Speaker 1: in this day and age, with all the kind of
Speaker 1: current events that are happening in the world, one of
Speaker 1: the things you talked about in there is ways to
Speaker 1: find calm in the chaos. Could you talk a little
Speaker 1: bit about that. Yeah, absolutely, I think we're just living
Speaker 1: in uncertain times. We're living in chaos. As you just
Speaker 1: said it, we're living in times where we're constantly surprised
Speaker 1: by what's going to happen next. And it's not a
Speaker 1: good surprise. It's not like a birthday surprise. It's a
Speaker 1: negative surprise sometimes. And I think what's happened is that
Speaker 1: we've started to recognize, and I really trust the people
Speaker 1: listening and watching right now, we've started to realize that
Speaker 1: the answer is not going to come from outside of us.
Speaker 1: We can't just keep waiting for suddenly the stock market
Speaker 1: to be perfectly aligned, we can't keep waiting for the
Speaker 1: political climate of the environment to be perfectly aligned. Well,
Speaker 1: we need to do is find and more importantly, not
Speaker 1: just fine, but create that peace and that calm within us.
Speaker 1: And that's why I talk about thinking like a monk,
Speaker 1: because when you look at the brains of monks across
Speaker 1: the world, they have the calmest, happiest brains on planet Earth.
Speaker 1: And I want to give people access to how to
Speaker 1: have that because when you start getting access to that,
Speaker 1: now you don't need the weather to be perfect. Now,
Speaker 1: you don't need to wait for everyone to give you
Speaker 1: love every single day. Now you're not dependent on anything
Speaker 1: outside of you. But you recognize that you can create calm,
Speaker 1: you're not going to look for calm. And so that's
Speaker 1: the perspective that I want people to do. And I
Speaker 1: am so excited to be talking to you today. I
Speaker 1: can't believe it. My new book Eight Rules of Love
Speaker 1: is out and I cannot wait to share it with you.
Speaker 1: I am so so excited for you to read this book,
Speaker 1: for you to listen to this book. I read the audiobook.
Speaker 1: If you haven't got it already, make sure you go
Speaker 1: to eight Rules of Love dot com. It's dedicated to
Speaker 1: anyone who's trying to find, keep, or let go of love.
Speaker 1: So if you've got friends that are dating, broken up,
Speaker 1: or struggling with love, make sure you grab this book.
Speaker 1: And I'd love to invite you to come and see
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Speaker 1: It's beautiful. I was reading in the book where you're
Speaker 1: talking about these monks. They actually measure their gamma waves
Speaker 1: even at sleep, and they are higher than everybody else, right,
Speaker 1: and everybody else, And so you tapped into this. Ironically,
Speaker 1: you graduate from college, they just need to know the
Speaker 1: background on this, as I understand it anyway, and kind
Speaker 1: of in your family say, it's sort of like you're
Speaker 1: a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure. Right, there's my
Speaker 1: three options, and you end up graduating. But before even
Speaker 1: at graduation, you go away and go live with the monks.
Speaker 1: Right you literally, how did you make this decision? And
Speaker 1: what overall would you say was the impact that happened
Speaker 1: to you where you did that? Yeah? Absolutely so. Yeah,
Speaker 1: a bit of background. I grew up a teacher's pet
Speaker 1: until the age of fourteen, so I was an obedient kid,
Speaker 1: probably like the perfect sun, worked really hard at school,
Speaker 1: and then at fourteen I went the opposite way. I
Speaker 1: started rebelling. I started experimenting with everything under the sun.
Speaker 1: And at eighteen I was at this interesting point I
Speaker 1: think everyone is when if you think back to being
Speaker 1: eighteen and everyone was listening and watching, and think about
Speaker 1: being eighteen years old again and how impressionable you were
Speaker 1: and what kind of decisions you were making. I used
Speaker 1: to go and listen to CEOs, entrepreneurs, experts, celebrities speak
Speaker 1: and once I was invited to hear a monk speak,
Speaker 1: and I thought to myself, what am I going to
Speaker 1: learn from a monk? Like there's nothing to learn from
Speaker 1: a monk, Like what's he going to teach me how
Speaker 1: to be silent? Like who cares? And I said to
Speaker 1: my friends, I would only go if we went to
Speaker 1: a bar afterwards, Like that was my life. I was
Speaker 1: like I wanted in writing that describes where you really were, Literally,
Speaker 1: that describes where I was genuinely at I'm not making
Speaker 1: this up, and I end up going, And this is
Speaker 1: what I love about that moment. The best moments in
Speaker 1: your life are sometimes the most humbling ones. I was
Speaker 1: humbled because I went into that environment expecting to get
Speaker 1: nothing and having my life transformed. So what ended up
Speaker 1: happening is I felt and you've probably felt this when
Speaker 1: you meet people. When I was eighteen, I'd met people
Speaker 1: who are beautiful. I'd met people who are powerful, I'd
Speaker 1: met people who were rich, I'd met people who are famous.
Speaker 1: I'd met people who are successful, But I don't think
Speaker 1: i'd met anyone who is truly happy. And even now,
Speaker 1: if I asked you to count on your hand, how
Speaker 1: many people you know that are truly content satisfied, unhappy.
Speaker 1: I think we'd struggle and I felt that from him
Speaker 1: at eighteen. And the great thing is I know him now.
Speaker 1: I've known him for the last fourteen years. This particular monk,
Speaker 1: his name is Granadas. I talk about him in the book.
Speaker 1: He's still the same and so he has maintained that,
Speaker 1: and so I started getting fascinated with him. So I
Speaker 1: spent every summer vacation with him from age eighteen to
Speaker 1: eight twenty two. Every summer vacation, I'd spend half of
Speaker 1: it in turning at big finance companies, steakhouses, bars, fancy suits,
Speaker 1: and I'd spent the other half living as a monk
Speaker 1: in India. That's remarkable rogues, sleeping on the floor and meditating.
Speaker 1: And then when I graduated, I decided that the monk
Speaker 1: path was more fulfilling than the banking path, and so
Speaker 1: I chose it. What a remarkable young life. It was
Speaker 1: my first experiment. You know, it's like you're literally testing it.
Speaker 1: And I never judged myself. And that's what I love
Speaker 1: about being able to live life in that way, Like
Speaker 1: I didn't judge myself when I was at the monastery.
Speaker 1: I wasn't like, oh, no, I was just drinking last week.
Speaker 1: I can't do this. And then when I was out
Speaker 1: there with the guys, I wasn't like, oh, no, I
Speaker 1: should be meditating. I was just like, let me really
Speaker 1: experience each life to its fullest and then I can
Speaker 1: decide which one really fills me with joy. It's amazing
Speaker 1: that you're talking to most because just this week I
Speaker 1: was on a show. They said, what topic would you
Speaker 1: like to cover above anyway? They left it open to me,
Speaker 1: and I said, I think I should be happiness because
Speaker 1: it's so rare for most people in the world. There
Speaker 1: people have asked me on the show. When I started
Speaker 1: the show, I was fascinated because your show's had fifty
Speaker 1: four million downloads the first year, right, and people, what
Speaker 1: do the people that you interview have in common? They're
Speaker 1: some of my best friends. Some of your best friends
Speaker 1: are on your show. And I thought, well, I wonder
Speaker 1: when I do it, is it going to be their drive,
Speaker 1: their ingenuity, their charisma, their work ethic, their brilliance, And
Speaker 1: many of them have all of those qualities. But I
Speaker 1: think you would agree with me that even taught performers
Speaker 1: that we work with, some of them have a touch
Speaker 1: of not so happy going on in their life. Even
Speaker 1: the people that you think have their whole world together,
Speaker 1: they too seek happiness. And I'll be honest with you,
Speaker 1: because I'm such a fan of yours, I thought, well,
Speaker 1: almost like what you thought, what do I have to
Speaker 1: learn from you about happiness? From the monk perspective? I
Speaker 1: didn't think the same. And as they started to read
Speaker 1: the book. First there were many revelations for me. Secondly,
Speaker 1: there were some things in the book that I think
Speaker 1: I do practice pretty well. But the way you phrase
Speaker 1: it in position it is beautiful, as is your norm.
Speaker 1: So one of the things you say early in the book,
Speaker 1: you talk about selfless sacrifice, and there's this great quote
Speaker 1: that I'll mess up in there that one of the
Speaker 1: monks had shared with you about that in this shade,
Speaker 1: that you don't want to sit in the tree, right, Yeah, Yeah,
Speaker 1: the statement this was the statement that when I'm sitting
Speaker 1: in that room as an eighteen year old thinking about
Speaker 1: going to a bar, this was that statement that penetrated
Speaker 1: my heart and I was like, oh, because so he
Speaker 1: was making the point that if you have any gifts
Speaker 1: and if you have any talents in the world, if
Speaker 1: you're not using them in the service of others. Dan
Speaker 1: worth nothing and that's a very bold point and the
Speaker 1: way he put it, and he was quoting another writer
Speaker 1: and he wrote that plant trees under whose shade you
Speaker 1: do not plan to sit? And what that means is
Speaker 1: most of us plant trees, or we do things for
Speaker 1: people because we're expecting that one day they're going to
Speaker 1: reciprocate and do something back for us. And he was like,
Speaker 1: real service is when you do things for people that
Speaker 1: can't do anything back for you at that time and
Speaker 1: you're not expecting anything. And for me, for my eighteen
Speaker 1: year old mind, I was like, oh, I thought my
Speaker 1: skills were just to impress women and make money and
Speaker 1: you know, just do what everyone else does. And when
Speaker 1: he was doing a much selfless sacrifice and service, I
Speaker 1: was like, I want to test that, because either this
Speaker 1: man is a genius or he's completely crazy, but if
Speaker 1: he's given up and he went to it. So he
Speaker 1: went to the Indian Institute of Technology, one of the
Speaker 1: best universities in the world. He was like a number
Speaker 1: one student and he gave that all up to be
Speaker 1: a monk. So I was like, there's something there because
Speaker 1: you don't just give that up. Especially in India, the
Speaker 1: pressure to perform and to be a top grade student
Speaker 1: is so high that to walk away from that like
Speaker 1: his family and everyone would have just completely So I
Speaker 1: was like, I want to follow that path. Wow, Bro,
Speaker 1: I'm fascinated about you because I as now that I'm
Speaker 1: in your presence. Everybody should know that Jay and I
Speaker 1: have communicated for a very long time. We have tons
Speaker 1: of each friends, but we are rare on the show
Speaker 1: that I'm in the presence of somebody and I feel
Speaker 1: your energy that you speak about this. I think I
Speaker 1: had this impression that someone who's sort of monk related
Speaker 1: is just sort of just there's this feeling I get
Speaker 1: that's just it's strong peace, but it's strong too. There's
Speaker 1: an energy about you. And one of the things that
Speaker 1: I think that you eventually overcame that you talk about
Speaker 1: beautifully in the book, and I see every day people
Speaker 1: ask me often there's all these memes out there. We
Speaker 1: all hear, Hey, you know, whatever room's opinion about you
Speaker 1: is none of your business. But people really struggle with
Speaker 1: finding a pathway to happiness because they are borderline obsessed
Speaker 1: with the thoughts and opinions of other people, and you
Speaker 1: discussed that a little bit too. How would you tell
Speaker 1: someone who's struggling with this, which is ninety nine percent
Speaker 1: of the people who are listening to this, how they
Speaker 1: might deal with that or overcome it. Yeah. I give
Speaker 1: this analogy in the book about how we're all like
Speaker 1: method actors. So I'm a big movie fan. Like I'm
Speaker 1: a big movie fan, and so for me, some of
Speaker 1: my favorite actors are like Heath Ledger, who played the
Speaker 1: Joker in the Dark Night. You've got Daniel day Lewis,
Speaker 1: who's an incredible method actor. Now, I talk about in
Speaker 1: the book how Daniel day Lewis at some points he
Speaker 1: was wearing the clothes for Gangs of New York in
Speaker 1: his normal life, to the point that he even got
Speaker 1: pneumonia in his normal life because he's wearing these old,
Speaker 1: raggedy clothes and he goes at one he almost went crazy,
Speaker 1: pretending to be someone that he wasn't. Now, when I
Speaker 1: heard that and I read that, I thought, wow, isn't
Speaker 1: that all of us? Like you wear a certain role
Speaker 1: to work, you wear a certain role at home, you
Speaker 1: wear a certain role with your friends, and in playing
Speaker 1: all those roles, you end up method acting and forgetting
Speaker 1: who you are. Oh, my goodness, that is beautiful. And and
Speaker 1: and for me, that's what I'm just seeing across the
Speaker 1: and in and of myself, and I see myself do that.
Speaker 1: I become you, become who you think other people want
Speaker 1: you to be. And so for me, the first step
Speaker 1: in that is writing down everything you're chasing right now,
Speaker 1: Like this is a great strategy in a tool, And
Speaker 1: if anyone's listening or watching, get a pen and paper.
Speaker 1: If you're not, take a screenshot of this time code
Speaker 1: right now and come back to this, because I want
Speaker 1: you to sit down and I want you to write
Speaker 1: down everything you're chasing right now, whatever it is. Make
Speaker 1: that list. Second question, where did that idea come from?
Speaker 1: Did that idea come from your mom, your dad, your friend,
Speaker 1: your brother? Did the idea come from me or ed?
Speaker 1: Did the idea come from, I don't know, some book
Speaker 1: that you read, Like did the idea come from your
Speaker 1: heart and your mind? Or was it born because it
Speaker 1: was influenced by your friend who just got promoted, your
Speaker 1: friend who just got proposed to, your friend who just
Speaker 1: sold their company for one hundred million dollars? Like is
Speaker 1: that was that the reason? Because then that may not
Speaker 1: be your dream. And then the third question you have
Speaker 1: to ask yourself is is this my dream? Or this
Speaker 1: is the question? Is your dream really your dream? And
Speaker 1: when you go through that exercise, you want to keep
Speaker 1: the stuff that's yours and you want to distance yourself
Speaker 1: from the stuff. That's what incredible advice. You know. I'm
Speaker 1: a little bro I gotta tell you, there's such wisdom
Speaker 1: for such a young man. I'm a little bit further
Speaker 1: down the road age wise and wisdom wise, and wisdom wise.
Speaker 1: I'm excited to learn from a certainly not but I
Speaker 1: appreciate you saying that. I mean, but I can I
Speaker 1: can validate what you've just said. I'm I think dream
Speaker 1: catching in your life can become something that gains momentum.
Speaker 1: As you vibrate a little bit higher frequency, you can
Speaker 1: begin to attract things. And I'm a big believer in that.
Speaker 1: And I have many times achieved a dream or two
Speaker 1: that when I got there was completely empty. And every
Speaker 1: time that I got to those dreams when they were empty,
Speaker 1: they were not my dreams. They were something that I
Speaker 1: thought someone else wanted me to do, or something that
Speaker 1: I saw someone else have that I thought I wanted
Speaker 1: a place, a destination, a home, something, And you're one
Speaker 1: hundred percent right. But the times when I've got clear
Speaker 1: on things that I really wanted, that really mattered to me,
Speaker 1: and when they were good enough that they materialized in
Speaker 1: my life, what great joy they've brought me. And they're
Speaker 1: usually extremely simple things. Yeah, as you will estrate as well.
Speaker 1: I love hearing you say that. It's nice to get
Speaker 1: validated on that because I think you've achieved so much
Speaker 1: in your life and it's incredible to see what you've achieved.
Speaker 1: And I think that's what people forget, is that the
Speaker 1: things that you bring you joy and because you achieved
Speaker 1: what you wanted to achieve. Let's talk about that for
Speaker 1: a minute. You talk about dharma a little bit. How
Speaker 1: do you figure that part out in your life? Yeah? So,
Speaker 1: Dharma's a fascinating concept. I absolutely love it. And the
Speaker 1: loose language terminology for it is purpose or calling or
Speaker 1: your shon and vision in life, like what are you're
Speaker 1: meant to do? It's kind of like what you're meant
Speaker 1: to do? And the thing about dharma is dharma talks
Speaker 1: about how we think we have to learn lots of stuff,
Speaker 1: when actually dharma is unlearning and bringing out what you
Speaker 1: already have. So one of the things I mentioned in
Speaker 1: the book is that you can't be anything. There's there's
Speaker 1: two lies we've been told growing up. The first lie
Speaker 1: is you're nothing, you're stupid, you're worthless, you're not going
Speaker 1: to make it, and I'm sure many people listening and
Speaker 1: watching have heard that from teachers, parents, aunt's, uncles, whoever
Speaker 1: it is. And then the other lie that we're actually told,
Speaker 1: and I don't think it's a lie. I think it's positive,
Speaker 1: but sometimes it's misconstrued is you can be anything, right,
Speaker 1: And we all know that's not true too, and it's
Speaker 1: unfair because sometimes people get misled. You're exactly right. And
Speaker 1: the Dharma point of view is you can't be anything
Speaker 1: you want, but you can be everything you are. And
Speaker 1: what I mean by that is you have a genius,
Speaker 1: a tense, you're a power inside of you that you
Speaker 1: don't know yet why, because you're inexperienced. It's not that
Speaker 1: you're unqualified, it's your inexperience. So people are saying, I'm stuck,
Speaker 1: I don't know where my life's going, I don't know
Speaker 1: why purposes, So you're perceiving yourself to be unqualified or underqualified.
Speaker 1: Actually you're just inexperienced. You just haven't done enough things
Speaker 1: to let the magnet of your life tell you what
Speaker 1: it's attracted to. So for me, that's what dharma is
Speaker 1: encouraging people to do. And this beautiful verse from this
Speaker 1: Vedic text, a monk text called the monis smythe and
Speaker 1: it says that when you protect your purpose, your purpose
Speaker 1: protect you and what I love about that and you
Speaker 1: will appreciate this because I know you're someone that I
Speaker 1: feel is living this. A purpose is like a rare gem,
Speaker 1: and you have to protect it. People will tell you
Speaker 1: that gem is worthless. They'll tell you that that gem
Speaker 1: is not going to make it. They will tell you
Speaker 1: that that gem, that jewel, has no value. And that's
Speaker 1: why you have to protect your purpose because the world
Speaker 1: is going to constantly try and pull you away from it.
Speaker 1: So dharma is a real It's not a belief system.
Speaker 1: It's a fact that you've got skills, genius, potential. It's
Speaker 1: sitting inside of you and you have not seen it yet.
Speaker 1: And I've seen this across the board. I literally just
Speaker 1: got a call from the I got a call from
Speaker 1: the CEO of Instagram, probably about three to six months ago.
Speaker 1: It's been a while now, and she called me up
Speaker 1: and she said, Jay, we just had I don't think
Speaker 1: I've told this story anywhere, so you've sparked it out
Speaker 1: of me. But she goes, we've just had this call. Sorry,
Speaker 1: We've just had this talk from this speaker that we
Speaker 1: brought in. And this speaker spent years in a refugee camp.
Speaker 1: And in this refugee camp, not only did he figure
Speaker 1: out how to survive, he actually got his mother to
Speaker 1: save up for a computer and he coded a game.
Speaker 1: He told himself out to code, and he coded a
Speaker 1: game that helps people understand how not to be violent
Speaker 1: in a refugee camps. And then he used faceborork to
Speaker 1: promote it. And they said, we were so inspired by
Speaker 1: him that we brought him in to speak to Instagram
Speaker 1: and Facebook and then we asked him the question. We
Speaker 1: asked him, what has had the impact on you? Like
Speaker 1: what kept you inspired? And this guy goes, he goes, oh,
Speaker 1: I used to watch this guy called Jerry on Facebook.
Speaker 1: And literally when she told me that, and she said,
Speaker 1: literally the whole audience was in tears at his story.
Speaker 1: And I said to her, I said, I need to
Speaker 1: talk to him right away because I need to tell him.
Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, you've just inspired me like my like,
Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, your life is way harder than mind's
Speaker 1: ever being. And if you can realize that you have
Speaker 1: the potential in a refugee camp to teach yourself how
Speaker 1: to code and to help people not be violent, I mean,
Speaker 1: you're inspiring more lives. His name is Luel Mahon. I'm like, dude,
Speaker 1: you're inspiring so many more lives than I ever like.
Speaker 1: It's just beautiful to me that story. I'm not sharing
Speaker 1: it to show my role in his life. I'm sharing
Speaker 1: it because I'm like, if he can find a way
Speaker 1: to find his dharma, don't. We haven't got any excuses, brothers.
Speaker 1: It's funny. But right before you told the story about him, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was going to tell you that it's so obvious
Speaker 1: to me that you're in your home, and that's perfect
Speaker 1: evidence of it. It's so obvious to me as I
Speaker 1: sit next to you and I the book. Guys, I
Speaker 1: want you to get this book. It has my full endorsement,
Speaker 1: and the reason it does, first off, is because this
Speaker 1: man that you're hearing these incredible words from wrote it.
Speaker 1: But it's it's a unique book because it talks about
Speaker 1: these principles that are eternally true. But there's also like
Speaker 1: what I would call fundamental strategy. I was gonna say basic,
Speaker 1: but it's not basic. It's fundamental strategies. I was surprised
Speaker 1: in a book that talks so much about happiness that
Speaker 1: you get as granular as a morning routine, right, which
Speaker 1: I'm a huge believer of and I think sometimes but
Speaker 1: you do it differently, right, And so I'm only gonna
Speaker 1: go through a few things a book because we wanted
Speaker 1: to read the book, right, but like just so you know,
Speaker 1: guys were at one percent, less than one percent of
Speaker 1: the book so far. But it's true. But so talk
Speaker 1: a little bit, just tactically for a second about importance
Speaker 1: of it and the way that you perceive a morning routine. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So the beautiful thing about Monk life is half the
Speaker 1: day is self and half the day is service. That's
Speaker 1: how you're taught to live. So the morning hours for
Speaker 1: you to fill yourself. It's almost like putting on mental, emotional,
Speaker 1: and physical armor. Like that's what a morning routine is.
Speaker 1: Our days are tiring, Our days are busy, our days
Speaker 1: are draining. Or guess what if you didn't put your
Speaker 1: armor on in the morning and you're going out to battle.
Speaker 1: How many knives are going to cut you? How many
Speaker 1: swords are going to pierce you? How many wounds are
Speaker 1: you going to come home with? How many of you
Speaker 1: come back home feeling wounded? I come back home feeling
Speaker 1: wounded sometimes. But guess what if you put your armor
Speaker 1: on in the morning. A warrior would never go out
Speaker 1: onto a battlefield. And life can be a battlefield. Work
Speaker 1: can be full of conflicts. Sometimes your relationships can be damaging.
Speaker 1: Sometimes your friendships can be toxic sometimes. So we are
Speaker 1: warriors in one sense, and so without wearing that So
Speaker 1: for me, a morning routine is putting on emotional armor
Speaker 1: which is meant to protect you for the rest of
Speaker 1: the day. And that way, even if you do get pierced,
Speaker 1: or you do get popped, or you do get cut,
Speaker 1: you're protected. And I know that when my morning routine
Speaker 1: is at its best, I feel protected exactly whereas when
Speaker 1: my morning routine is weakened, I feel weak. And so
Speaker 1: for me, the morning routine, as I get strategic about it,
Speaker 1: there's two principles. You have to know location has energy
Speaker 1: and time has memory. If you do something in the
Speaker 1: same place every day, that place now holds that energy.
Speaker 1: And this is huge, like it's it's just so big,
Speaker 1: and I'm grateful for that reaction because people don't realize
Speaker 1: how powerful this is. Like when I meditated in temples
Speaker 1: that were five thousand years old in South India, it
Speaker 1: was easier to meditate because people have been meditating there
Speaker 1: for thousands of years. And so when you find a
Speaker 1: space in your home, and even if you've got like
Speaker 1: I lived in a five hundred square foot apartment in
Speaker 1: New York four years ago, and I just had a
Speaker 1: tiny corner which I dedicated to my sacred practices. So
Speaker 1: if you don't have to have a big home to
Speaker 1: do this, you don't have to be wealthy to do this.
Speaker 1: You can find just a corner in your home that
Speaker 1: you dedicate your meditation space or your reflection space. So,
Speaker 1: first thing, location has energy. Second things, time has memory.
Speaker 1: And this is something that people are underestimate. When you
Speaker 1: do something at the same time every day, you remember
Speaker 1: it and time remembers it. That's why we struggle to
Speaker 1: work out at different times every day. It's why we struggle,
Speaker 1: like why do we feel hungry at the same time
Speaker 1: every day? Generally, be feel hungry at the same time
Speaker 1: most people, if you've got regulated diet, you'll feel hungry,
Speaker 1: you will feel tired at the same time every day.
Speaker 1: You will look towards that coke can or that sugar
Speaker 1: or that chocolate bar at the same time every day.
Speaker 1: And so when you're meditating at the same time, if
Speaker 1: you're exercising at the same time. So what I recommend
Speaker 1: to people is your morning routine needs four aspects and
Speaker 1: it's simple, and I call it time. It's about making
Speaker 1: time in the day. So time stands for T, I
Speaker 1: m E. T stands for thankfulness. There needs to be
Speaker 1: even if it's five minutes, five minutes of thankfulness, of
Speaker 1: gratitude every single morning. And that has to be gratitude
Speaker 1: that's specific. It can't be gratitude that's generic. So generic
Speaker 1: gratitude is something that anyone could be grateful for. Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm grateful for the sky, I'm grateful for air, I'm
Speaker 1: grateful for water. That's cool, but it's generic gratitude. Specific
Speaker 1: gratitude is I'm grateful for the fact that I have
Speaker 1: someone calling me this morning. I'm grateful for the fact
Speaker 1: that I can still call my parents. I'm grateful for
Speaker 1: the fact that I have this person in my business
Speaker 1: who is having such an impact. I'm grateful for you know,
Speaker 1: it's specificity, Yes, so thankfulness. Second one is insight. I
Speaker 1: think this is one thing that a lot of people
Speaker 1: are missing, which I recommend people listening to you. It's
Speaker 1: like podcasts, books, and make it easier for yourself. If
Speaker 1: you get this book, leave it open on your bedside table,
Speaker 1: leave it open on your kitchen table, leave it open
Speaker 1: on your dining table. I guarantee you you will read
Speaker 1: more and what you read will speak to you. And
Speaker 1: I think people underestimate that that literally, like when you
Speaker 1: have it open and you'll just flick to a chapter
Speaker 1: randomly and you pick up one line, it will impact
Speaker 1: you and it will speak to you. So insight. You
Speaker 1: need insight every day. Emmy's meditation, and I believe meditation
Speaker 1: is different for different people. As monks, we did walking meditations,
Speaker 1: we did beach meditations, we did visualizations, we did breathwork.
Speaker 1: Find your meditation practice. I give a ton in the book.
Speaker 1: And fourth, obviously exercise which you can speak to you
Speaker 1: even more than I can. I exercise to keep fit.
Speaker 1: You look amazing too, the but it's an exercise. Everyone
Speaker 1: needs to find five minutes a day, fifteen minutes a
Speaker 1: day of exercise that can just get them moving. And
Speaker 1: guess what if you like sport, play sport with a friend.
Speaker 1: If you want to shoot hoops, go and shoot hoops.
Speaker 1: You don't have to sit on a treadmoll, No one's
Speaker 1: telling you to do that. Make it fun and playful. Brother.
Speaker 1: You know, I've been in personal development and business entrepreneurs
Speaker 1: space for a long time. Those are two gigantic revelations
Speaker 1: that I've never heard before. I'm telling you that that
Speaker 1: for me in the book right I'm reading it and
Speaker 1: I literally stopped the book and I brought both my
Speaker 1: kids in and we talked about this idea of that
Speaker 1: space having an energy to it, and I want to
Speaker 1: validate it because I just think you're incredible. I just everybody.
Speaker 1: Is why I want you to get the book, and
Speaker 1: it's why if you're not. You must be following Jay
Speaker 1: on these different platforms, not just one either. You need
Speaker 1: to be on his YouTube, you need to be on
Speaker 1: his Instagram, his Facebook, but I was to share this
Speaker 1: with you because I'm sure he's a hero of yours
Speaker 1: when I was very young, well when I was younger
Speaker 1: actually about your age. Ironically, I'm running on the beach
Speaker 1: in Hawaii and it's early in the morning, so I
Speaker 1: did my morning run speaking about exercise, and passing me
Speaker 1: by on the beach was this man. I saw him
Speaker 1: from a distance. Anyway, he gets by me and he
Speaker 1: starts to go the other way, and it was Wayne Dyer.
Speaker 1: Oh wow. A lot of people listeners probably don't know.
Speaker 1: You should check I mean you can't. You should check
Speaker 1: out Wayne Dye's work, his books. Unbelieve he's one of
Speaker 1: the godfathers of I mean, he was somebody that's really
Speaker 1: made an impact. I end up getting a chance of
Speaker 1: long story short sitting on the beach with him for
Speaker 1: about an hour as the sun comes up, talking about life.
Speaker 1: You talk about just the two of us, right. However,
Speaker 1: one of the principles he taught me that day, and
Speaker 1: you articulated quite frankly, more beautifully and more specifically than
Speaker 1: even he did. But I want to validate it again
Speaker 1: because these are things that you're not getting on any
Speaker 1: other podcast. What Jay and I are talking about right now.
Speaker 1: And he asked me, he said, are you going to
Speaker 1: write a book? And do you prepare speeches? I said,
Speaker 1: I do, And he says, one of the things I
Speaker 1: do is I have lots of the greatest books in
Speaker 1: the world surround me when I write, because these books
Speaker 1: have that time and energy in them. And he believed
Speaker 1: that it gave him the great wisdom of all of
Speaker 1: these people when he just surrounded himself in that familiar space.
Speaker 1: So for you to now put this in your book
Speaker 1: about a morning routine is remarkable because I was just
Speaker 1: a passing thought that's really written nowhere. So wow, thank
Speaker 1: God for you man, and you just spoked. Actually, Phil
Speaker 1: Knight shoe Dog, you know, Nike, It's like he talks
Speaker 1: about how he actually has a room where he keeps
Speaker 1: his books like a library, but he takes his shoes
Speaker 1: off when he enters that room because of the wisdom
Speaker 1: and the weight and the energy and the gravitas he
Speaker 1: believes books hold. And so even as monks, we would
Speaker 1: never wear shoes around books because it was considered shoes
Speaker 1: of dirty and you wear them outdoors, and books are
Speaker 1: so pure that you don't want to take dirt into
Speaker 1: that space and supposedly Phil Knight he does the same thing,
Speaker 1: and I was like Phil Knights, thinking like yeah, but
Speaker 1: it's just so interesting what you're saying about, like books
Speaker 1: holding energy, Like we believe that books are sacred. You
Speaker 1: don't kick books, you don't keep books on the floor,
Speaker 1: because they have knowledge and they're meant to raise you up.
Speaker 1: Wow wow, wow. Yeah, there's so much in there. I
Speaker 1: want to go through a couple more things to have
Speaker 1: the book, but I'm so fascinated by you. I got
Speaker 1: a couple of personal things. But one of the things
Speaker 1: you say, look, I've said this before and again, I
Speaker 1: just like the way you approach it with more depth
Speaker 1: than I've covered it before. I just said this this
Speaker 1: week to somebody looked at me like I was crazy,
Speaker 1: and I talked about it. I said, some of your
Speaker 1: low self is steam and your lack of confidence. It's
Speaker 1: actually an ego issue that you have. And the person
Speaker 1: stared back at me, like, how in the world is
Speaker 1: someone with no or low confidence or low self esteem
Speaker 1: struggling from an ego issue? And I don't know that
Speaker 1: I articulated it well enough, although it's in one of
Speaker 1: the podcasts that I've released one of my solo podcasts,
Speaker 1: but you articulated right on, So talk about that for
Speaker 1: a second. Yeah, it's an interesting concept and it's talked
Speaker 1: about in the Bugger Gitta, another Monk text, and in
Speaker 1: the book it talks about how like ego is demonstrated
Speaker 1: in two ways. So ego is either I am the
Speaker 1: best in the world and I think I'm better than everyone,
Speaker 1: or ego says you're the worst in the world, You're
Speaker 1: the worst than everyone. You're you're much worse than everyone.
Speaker 1: Or you say my life is the best and the greatest.
Speaker 1: My life is the worst, right, my life is far
Speaker 1: worse than anyone else. So the ego likes to push
Speaker 1: you to the extreme. It doesn't like to give you balance,
Speaker 1: an honesty and reality. It likes to it wants to
Speaker 1: make you feel like you've got the worst life in
Speaker 1: the world and no one else understands that, no one
Speaker 1: gets that only you get and you get the worst.
Speaker 1: Or you're the best and no one else gets you.
Speaker 1: You're you're untouchable, and people miss that, Like, how does
Speaker 1: that make sense? Exactly like you said, but it does
Speaker 1: make sense because the ego wants to be the top
Speaker 1: or the bottom, but the top of the bottom. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it doesn't just want to be at the bottom. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be the bottom of the bottom of the bottom,
Speaker 1: but the top of the bottom. Yeah. And so we
Speaker 1: get lost in that and we don't think of it
Speaker 1: as ego. And that's why the only antidote to either
Speaker 1: ego is self. Honesty is being honest, and honesty is
Speaker 1: I'm good at these things. I'm great at these things,
Speaker 1: and I suck at these things, right, that's honesty. Like,
Speaker 1: and we could all sit down, me and you could
Speaker 1: sit down with a list of our skills and map
Speaker 1: out what we were great at, what we were averaging at,
Speaker 1: and what we knew we were terrible at. And that's
Speaker 1: honesty that keeps you so away from either ego. Do
Speaker 1: you think part of it too, is that when you're
Speaker 1: suffering from my life is the worst, that you're focusing
Speaker 1: on you, and you're centering on you, And there's an
Speaker 1: ego connection to that too, and that this pathway you
Speaker 1: talked about earlier about getting into the service of other people, yeah,
Speaker 1: removes you from you, which begins to remove the ego. Absolutely.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's a huge point you just made. Right there,
Speaker 1: like you just dropped some serious It's like, you know,
Speaker 1: please don't underestimate that point. Everyone's listening. Like the challenge
Speaker 1: with all self centeredness is that all you then indulge
Speaker 1: yourself and is your own pain. Well, right, you just indulge,
Speaker 1: You just submerge and like immerse yourself in pain because
Speaker 1: it's all about you. Yeah, and you know, I think
Speaker 1: Gandhi said it best is that you find yourself when
Speaker 1: you lose yourself in this service of others. And what
Speaker 1: I love about that statement is that what he means
Speaker 1: by that is and empaths get this mixed up sometimes.
Speaker 1: So I want to clarify because a lot of people
Speaker 1: who are empaths whore listening. Like Jay, I'm always trying
Speaker 1: to help people, but then I get screwed over. So
Speaker 1: here's here's the answer. You're not helping people so that
Speaker 1: they can thank you. You're not helping people so that
Speaker 1: they can be grateful to you. You're helping people because
Speaker 1: you know it's the right thing to do. But more importantly,
Speaker 1: you're helping people because you get to understand an experiment,
Speaker 1: and experience different parts of yourself. When I helped kids
Speaker 1: growing up in India that were that didn't have food
Speaker 1: and we were giving them free food. I learned so
Speaker 1: much about myself when I was able to go and
Speaker 1: give talks that help people, or now I make videos
Speaker 1: or podcasts. You learn more about yourself when you help people.
Speaker 1: You don't learn anything about yourself when you're just sitting
Speaker 1: there filling out a quiz going who am I? What
Speaker 1: am I like? You don't figure it. But you learn
Speaker 1: about yourself when you help people. And this is what
Speaker 1: we don't realize. I can't remember who said it recently,
Speaker 1: someone saying about Jeff Bezos, but they were saying that,
Speaker 1: you know, the scale at which you succeed is the
Speaker 1: depth of the problem you solve. And so even if
Speaker 1: you look at someone like Jeff Bezos, who's extremely successful,
Speaker 1: he's successful because he's solved a problem that many people have.
Speaker 1: Bill Gates is successful because he's solved a problem. So
Speaker 1: even if you look at monetary success, even if you
Speaker 1: look at financial success, it comes from service. Any success
Speaker 1: comes from service. A musician is famous because they're serving.
Speaker 1: They're serving you by understanding your feelings making music. You
Speaker 1: now full comforted, so you follow them. They have served
Speaker 1: you so don't think of services just charity and giving money,
Speaker 1: which are beautiful things which we all should do. But
Speaker 1: don't just limit your life to thinking I serve on
Speaker 1: the weekends, or I serve once a year. You can
Speaker 1: serve every month. This podcast is a question, right, it's
Speaker 1: your service because you're serving people by giving them an
Speaker 1: alternative to just watching some trash show. But they're actually
Speaker 1: here learning from you and learning from the people that
Speaker 1: you bring on the show. I've watched you to that point.
Speaker 1: This is a personal thing because I'm such a believer
Speaker 1: that you're you move the needle in the world, that
Speaker 1: you can help change consciousness. I'm in my little way,
Speaker 1: people say, why, in my small way? I would love
Speaker 1: to think I'm a like in that ocean that you
Speaker 1: see out there, like a dp of water and altering
Speaker 1: the consciousness of the world. Just discost not me, but
Speaker 1: who I can share with people in my own messages.
Speaker 1: And I believe you're one of those people. And so
Speaker 1: I will tell you. As I've watched this meteoric rise
Speaker 1: of yours, I've actually privately a few times, not every day,
Speaker 1: but a few times, I've actually prayed for you that
Speaker 1: you would keep this level of humility, and so this
Speaker 1: is an interesting thing I wanted to ask you, but
Speaker 1: it will serve everybody else. There is this balance, isn't
Speaker 1: there of wanting this book to do well? Right? You
Speaker 1: don't want to sell two copies, you want it to
Speaker 1: do very well. When you put a video out, there's
Speaker 1: probably there's got to be a little part of you
Speaker 1: that's like, how well did it do? And I think
Speaker 1: that line right there. I'm not even sure if you
Speaker 1: or I know the answer entirely, but do you struggle
Speaker 1: with that balance of I'm doing this in the service
Speaker 1: of people, yet I'm sensitive to the response of what
Speaker 1: I'm doing because I think someone listeners right now who's
Speaker 1: going to have a present sales presentation tomorrow. They want
Speaker 1: to be in the service of that person. But there's
Speaker 1: this part of them that isn't that balance we've talked
Speaker 1: about earlier about what's the response going to be? How
Speaker 1: am I going to be received? I want people to
Speaker 1: like me. I want to how do you navigate that?
Speaker 1: That's a great question, man, that's huge. And the answer
Speaker 1: let's let's take that salesperson. The more time that person
Speaker 1: spends in empathy their customer's pain and what the customers
Speaker 1: really looking for, the better they're going to be received. Yes,
Speaker 1: So that service mindset always helps because if you're thinking
Speaker 1: about and this is what it comes. And I said
Speaker 1: this to my team when we were writing the book
Speaker 1: and everything that I was working, when I said, if
Speaker 1: I sit here right now and all I'm thinking about
Speaker 1: while I'm writing the book is being a best selling book,
Speaker 1: then guess what. I'm now not writing the book. I'm
Speaker 1: now living in the future and I'm not living in
Speaker 1: the present. And so the only way to make this
Speaker 1: the best selling book is to do the process propoly
Speaker 1: and I don't think and this is what I do,
Speaker 1: and this is the only thing that's helping me. And
Speaker 1: again I go through all the time. After my first
Speaker 1: video went viral three or four years ago, I stopped
Speaker 1: creating because of the pressure that I wouldn't be able
Speaker 1: to live up to it. So I actually got scared
Speaker 1: because I was like, oh, well, what if the next
Speaker 1: video doesn't do as well, Everyone's gonna think I'm tanking.
Speaker 1: Like you get into that self doubt and that self
Speaker 1: and I got into that space where I was just
Speaker 1: thank yeah, no, really, like genuinely I didn't want to
Speaker 1: make a video again, because I was like, this video
Speaker 1: just got forty million mus Like, how am I ever
Speaker 1: gonna beat that? Right? And you get scared I'm not
Speaker 1: putting anything out. I'm just gonna stop. And then I
Speaker 1: started to realize it's like, well, now I'm not living
Speaker 1: in service anymore. I'm living out of ego and I'm
Speaker 1: living for feeling a certain way. And guess I'm not
Speaker 1: feeling better by not putting anything out. And actually, if
Speaker 1: I just serve more or learn more. So the way
Speaker 1: I've made sense of it, and there's a verse in
Speaker 1: the GETA that explains it too, is that you have
Speaker 1: full control over the preparation, the process, and the practice,
Speaker 1: but you have no control over the potential result. But
Speaker 1: all of those three things are the result in and
Speaker 1: of themselves. And so if you get addicted to the
Speaker 1: process of writing, the practice of connecting with the right
Speaker 1: people who can help share your work, and yet, like
Speaker 1: you said, I am focused on the process and making
Speaker 1: sure that the most people in the world have the
Speaker 1: opportunity to buy this book. But then if they choose
Speaker 1: not to buy it, I can't control that, but I
Speaker 1: can control making sure that it's in front of everyone,
Speaker 1: and that I believe in the context, and that to
Speaker 1: me is not attachment, That to me is not eager.
Speaker 1: That to me is trying to live your best life.
Speaker 1: I mean, like, you know, if you didn't just try,
Speaker 1: if you're like I wrote this book, but who cares?
Speaker 1: I mean, that's not service either because the way I
Speaker 1: explain it, and I'm not claiming that this is it,
Speaker 1: and I'm not trying to say I'm it. I'm trying
Speaker 1: to say that I think we all feel this way.
Speaker 1: If you or me see an amazing movie, we want
Speaker 1: to tell everyone about it. If you read in the
Speaker 1: amazing book, you want to tell everyone about it. If
Speaker 1: you found the cure to cancer, you tell everyone about it.
Speaker 1: For me, I got to live an incredible life thanks
Speaker 1: to these amazing teachers I met. I just want to
Speaker 1: tell everyone about it. Like that's all I'm doing. Yes,
Speaker 1: but I want to tell everyone because of how powerful
Speaker 1: it was. Brother, That's the best description I've ever heard of.
Speaker 1: There's this line I've always tried to teach of you
Speaker 1: want to have outcomes, but yet you need to separate
Speaker 1: from them. Yeah, and that's a difficult thing when people
Speaker 1: are trying to achieve different things. That was perfectly stated,
Speaker 1: absolutely being addicted to the process of it, but actually
Speaker 1: separating from what you can't control. I absolutely absolutely love it.
Speaker 1: I'm just curious a couple more questions. Tell us something
Speaker 1: about being a monk and living with them that would
Speaker 1: surprise us. Okay, something about that, So we had we
Speaker 1: had that's a good question. So we had snoring and
Speaker 1: non snoring room. So they try and be compassionate, right,
Speaker 1: so we would. So I'm a non snorer. I don't
Speaker 1: snore when I sleep, and my wife agrees. Now too,
Speaker 1: you validates that. Yeah, I'm in the non snorer room,
Speaker 1: the snoring room. We would always joke around with the
Speaker 1: snorers because we'd always joke about how they all sound
Speaker 1: like different motorcycles. So we'd be like, oh, that guy's
Speaker 1: like a Harley David like that guy. Yeah, yeah, monks
Speaker 1: saying because you're a human and we're playful, and you know,
Speaker 1: it's almost like monklife kind of makes you more childlike,
Speaker 1: not childish, but childlike because you start seeing things for
Speaker 1: what they truly are, and you don't get caught up
Speaker 1: in stuff, so you can laugh at each other, you
Speaker 1: can mess around. Another thing is we had these sacred
Speaker 1: sweets or sacred items that are prepared and offered and
Speaker 1: everyone gets to share them. And you don't eat a
Speaker 1: lot of sugar as monks, and you don't eat sweet stuff.
Speaker 1: But these these kind of natural sweetened items came out
Speaker 1: like once a week, and some monks would wrestle over them,
Speaker 1: like you know, like basically like, oh, who's going to
Speaker 1: get there? So these are the behind the scenes, yeah,
Speaker 1: like monks and normal people, And let's be honest, like
Speaker 1: most people haven't the amongst their whole lives. So it's
Speaker 1: not like, yeah, yeah, it's like I became a monk
Speaker 1: when I was twenty two and I'm not now. My
Speaker 1: friends some of them became monks at twenty two. Some
Speaker 1: of them became monks at thirty. Like it's not like
Speaker 1: there are monks that become monks of five. That does exist,
Speaker 1: but the majority of people now are not doing that.
Speaker 1: They may even have more time in their life not
Speaker 1: one than they were one exactly exactly. And so for me, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm glad you asked me that question, because yeah, like
Speaker 1: monks are humorous, they're funny. That's like my teachers are hilarious.
Speaker 1: If I'm with them, I'll just laugh the whole time. Really, yeah,
Speaker 1: because they just see that. And I'd love to introduce
Speaker 1: you to one of my teachers who travels here a lot.
Speaker 1: I would love that. I'd love to introduce you to him. Actually,
Speaker 1: he's run seventy years old and he's been a monk
Speaker 1: for forty years and he grew up in Chicago, so
Speaker 1: he's an American man. He lives in India. It's been
Speaker 1: a month for Freeze, unbelievable. But he is hilarious and
Speaker 1: anytime with him, I don't stop laughing. So well, present
Speaker 1: people are more joyous in and of itself, right, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1: But you're not dealing yeah, and you're not dealing with
Speaker 1: that that you're not dealing with the baggage of the
Speaker 1: past or the anxiety of the future. So when you
Speaker 1: are present, you can just laugh. You can be joyous
Speaker 1: and be entertained and enjoy the bliss of the moment. Yeah, dude,
Speaker 1: I want to keep going. So I just want to
Speaker 1: one more thing. Let's give him one more gift because
Speaker 1: you're you're a treasure bro and uh, I want to
Speaker 1: I want you to know that, I want you and
Speaker 1: I to spend some more time together. I would love
Speaker 1: After me today I knew already, but after me and
Speaker 1: you today, you have your energy in person surpasses all expectations,
Speaker 1: which is very like. I mean that like people listener
Speaker 1: is going, Boy, can these guys? I just always wife
Speaker 1: popped out earlier too, He's very too. So Okay, so
Speaker 1: someone would pay a lot of money to do this,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna let him do it for free. For
Speaker 1: a second, someone says, I'm watching this and I've I
Speaker 1: really have this energy about me after listening to this
Speaker 1: or watching this, and I want to change my life.
Speaker 1: And maybe I don't have super high self esteem right now,
Speaker 1: and potentially I lack a little bit of direction, or
Speaker 1: maybe I know what I want to do, but I
Speaker 1: don't know that I have the confidence to get there.
Speaker 1: If you just want to turn my life around, I
Speaker 1: want to have some of these emotions that it seems
Speaker 1: as if you experience on a pretty regular basis. What
Speaker 1: advice or counsel just in general would you give somebody
Speaker 1: wants to live a better life. Yeah. So one of
Speaker 1: my biggest things, first of all, would be that we
Speaker 1: do this wrong because we do either or or we
Speaker 1: do them in the wrong order. So in life there
Speaker 1: are two aspects that impact everything. I was thinking and
Speaker 1: our actions, and I read a quote the other day
Speaker 1: that was saying that the mistake we make is that
Speaker 1: we either act without thinking or we think without acting.
Speaker 1: And I think that's where most people are. If you're
Speaker 1: feeling stuck or you're like, I'm not sure what I'm
Speaker 1: doing right now, you're either doing too much thinking or
Speaker 1: you're doing too much acting. So you're just doing a
Speaker 1: lot of stuff but you don't know why you're doing it,
Speaker 1: or you're just sitting there procrastinating every day and you're
Speaker 1: doing it. So I'd say it's both. So the first
Speaker 1: thing I would say to you is take a moment
Speaker 1: and speak to three different people. Speak to a family member,
Speaker 1: a friend, and a colleague, and ask them this one question.
Speaker 1: What strengths do I have? What do you think is
Speaker 1: my superpower? What skills do you think I bring? Emotional, strong, soft, hard,
Speaker 1: whatever it is. Do that first, get that sense. Check
Speaker 1: second thing for the next month, Take off every weekend
Speaker 1: eight days, because there's eight Saturdays and Sundays altogether in
Speaker 1: a month, and book a different course workshop seminar online offline,
Speaker 1: Go to an event, shadow a friend, Go and spend
Speaker 1: time with an aunt uncle who's doing the career you want.
Speaker 1: Go and have eight new experiences, and after each of them,
Speaker 1: sit with yourself and ask yourself, did I like that?
Speaker 1: Yes or no? Whether you like to ask yourself why
Speaker 1: did I like it? Or why did I not like it?
Speaker 1: And then ask yourself, would I like to do it again?
Speaker 1: And if the answer is yes, yes, yes, yes, what
Speaker 1: go do it again. And if the answer is no, no, no,
Speaker 1: don't do it again. Leave it out. But if you've
Speaker 1: had eight and this is the problem, we do that
Speaker 1: over a year. We do that over eight years, and
Speaker 1: that's why life slow and boring and lethargic and stuck.
Speaker 1: But it just in the next eight days, in a weekend,
Speaker 1: just test eight new things and you'll have just a
Speaker 1: great experiment. And the worst thing that will happen is
Speaker 1: you'll find eight things that you don't like. But I
Speaker 1: guarantee you that even if you have a sense of
Speaker 1: that reflection in the beginning. And what I don't get
Speaker 1: why we don't do this enough is wow, we do
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Speaker 1: know when you eat something, whether you like it or not.
Speaker 1: You know when you watch a movie, whether you like
Speaker 1: it or not. You know when you read a book,
Speaker 1: whether you like it or not. But why don't we
Speaker 1: ask ourselves after meeting people, completing projects or going to places.
Speaker 1: Most of us keep meeting people that take our energy,
Speaker 1: most of us keep going to places that drain us
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Speaker 1: projects that just distill our energy. All you have to
Speaker 1: do is ask yourself, does this bring me alive? Why
Speaker 1: does it bring me a life? Really important to know
Speaker 1: why it works? And do I want to do it again?
Speaker 1: Deep insight? There? That brother, what do you describe? Right there?
Speaker 1: Everyone is like the ultimate pattern? Interrupt. What he's saying
Speaker 1: is you're going to do this over eight years or
Speaker 1: ten years. If you can just do this in the
Speaker 1: next eight weekends or the next four weekends, eight days,
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Speaker 1: We could go another hour, but Bro, I want to
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you so much. I'm just I'm grateful. No,
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