1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,000 Speaker 1: The scale at which you succeed is the depth of 2 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:12,119 Speaker 1: the problem you solve. Even if you look at someone 3 00:00:12,200 --> 00:00:15,360 Speaker 1: like Jeff Bezos, who's extremely successful, he's successful because he's 4 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:19,360 Speaker 1: solved a problem that many people have. Even if you 5 00:00:19,440 --> 00:00:23,320 Speaker 1: look at monetary success, even if you look at financial success, 6 00:00:23,640 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: it comes from service. Any success comes from service. What 7 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 1: advice or counsel just in general, would you give somebody 8 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:32,520 Speaker 1: wants to live a better life. The mistake we make 9 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:35,880 Speaker 1: is that we either act without thinking or we think 10 00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: without acting. If you're feeling stuck or you're like, I'm 11 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:40,720 Speaker 1: not sure what I'm doing right now, you're either doing 12 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:43,840 Speaker 1: too much thinking or you're doing too much acting. All 13 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 1: you have to do is ask yourself, does this bring 14 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:49,199 Speaker 1: me alive? Why does it bring me a life? Really 15 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:51,639 Speaker 1: important to know why it works and do I want 16 00:00:51,640 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 1: to do it again? Welcome back to max Out, everybody. 17 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 1: I am so excited to have this gentleman to my 18 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:25,120 Speaker 1: left here today. I've been chasing him for a long 19 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:27,679 Speaker 1: time and he probably doesn't need an introduction if you're 20 00:01:27,680 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 1: watching this on YouTube, because I know so many of 21 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:31,480 Speaker 1: you know him. But if you don't know who he is, 22 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:33,119 Speaker 1: let me just give you some background on this man. 23 00:01:33,520 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: Number one, this person's had seven billion views on their 24 00:01:36,319 --> 00:01:40,399 Speaker 1: YouTube channel, seven billion views. He's had thirty four million 25 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:44,479 Speaker 1: people following him on social media, which is just absolutely remarkable. 26 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:46,760 Speaker 1: And three hundred He had one video on Facebook that 27 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 1: had three hundred and sixty million views, number one viewed 28 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:53,000 Speaker 1: video on all of Facebook in twenty eighteen. And I'm 29 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:55,280 Speaker 1: so excited to share with you that he's written this 30 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 1: new book called Think like a Monk, Train your mind 31 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:01,680 Speaker 1: for peace and purpose every day. I read this book 32 00:02:01,720 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 1: in two days. So if all the accolades that this 33 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 1: man has, the most impressive thing isn't even what I 34 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 1: just shared with you. It's that my mom has a 35 00:02:09,200 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 1: massive crush on you, not kiddy, so Mom, I've embarrassed 36 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:16,000 Speaker 1: you to millions of people, but my mom's crush is 37 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 1: here today. Ja Shetty, and thank you so much, man, 38 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:21,480 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for this, honestly, Like just walking into 39 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 1: your home today and experiencing your energy firsthand, Like you 40 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:28,360 Speaker 1: feel the power of your energy on social media, I 41 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:30,400 Speaker 1: feel it when I'm following you, but I feel the 42 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:32,799 Speaker 1: presence right now, So I just want to say thank you. Honestly, 43 00:02:33,400 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 1: I just feel like a big hug this morning into 44 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 1: the world to me. And I've told you. I was 45 00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:39,800 Speaker 1: just literally telling you before we went on that there's 46 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 1: nobody on social media who grabs me like you do. 47 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:43,959 Speaker 1: Thank you, man. I really appreciate that. And I told 48 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 1: you why, and I should tell them. It's the convergence 49 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:49,000 Speaker 1: of I think your visual, your auditory, your look in 50 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:52,119 Speaker 1: your voice, but mainly just the depth of your message 51 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:55,280 Speaker 1: is so special. This is not a person who posts 52 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 1: content that you're going to scroll through. This is somebody 53 00:02:57,480 --> 00:03:00,480 Speaker 1: when he posts something, it affects you. His video move you, 54 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:03,920 Speaker 1: and this book moved me. Thank you. And I Usually 55 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 1: if a guest is on, I'm very excited about their book, 56 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 1: but in this case, I'm highlighting everywhere, and I think 57 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:11,840 Speaker 1: let's start somewhere. There's eleven sort of points in the 58 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:14,519 Speaker 1: book that you go through. But I think in this time, 59 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:16,240 Speaker 1: in this day and age, with all the kind of 60 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:18,600 Speaker 1: current events that are happening in the world, one of 61 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 1: the things you talked about in there is ways to 62 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:23,399 Speaker 1: find calm in the chaos. Could you talk a little 63 00:03:23,440 --> 00:03:25,840 Speaker 1: bit about that. Yeah, absolutely, I think we're just living 64 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:29,480 Speaker 1: in uncertain times. We're living in chaos. As you just 65 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:33,000 Speaker 1: said it, we're living in times where we're constantly surprised 66 00:03:33,040 --> 00:03:35,000 Speaker 1: by what's going to happen next. And it's not a 67 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:38,040 Speaker 1: good surprise. It's not like a birthday surprise. It's a 68 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 1: negative surprise sometimes. And I think what's happened is that 69 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: we've started to recognize, and I really trust the people 70 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:47,120 Speaker 1: listening and watching right now, we've started to realize that 71 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 1: the answer is not going to come from outside of us. 72 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 1: We can't just keep waiting for suddenly the stock market 73 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:56,360 Speaker 1: to be perfectly aligned, we can't keep waiting for the 74 00:03:56,400 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 1: political climate of the environment to be perfectly aligned. Well, 75 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:01,840 Speaker 1: we need to do is find and more importantly, not 76 00:04:01,880 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 1: just fine, but create that peace and that calm within us. 77 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 1: And that's why I talk about thinking like a monk, 78 00:04:07,880 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 1: because when you look at the brains of monks across 79 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: the world, they have the calmest, happiest brains on planet Earth. 80 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:18,720 Speaker 1: And I want to give people access to how to 81 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:20,839 Speaker 1: have that because when you start getting access to that, 82 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:24,560 Speaker 1: now you don't need the weather to be perfect. Now, 83 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:27,720 Speaker 1: you don't need to wait for everyone to give you 84 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:30,800 Speaker 1: love every single day. Now you're not dependent on anything 85 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 1: outside of you. But you recognize that you can create calm, 86 00:04:34,920 --> 00:04:37,279 Speaker 1: you're not going to look for calm. And so that's 87 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:39,479 Speaker 1: the perspective that I want people to do. And I 88 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:42,040 Speaker 1: am so excited to be talking to you today. I 89 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: can't believe it. My new book Eight Rules of Love 90 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:48,920 Speaker 1: is out and I cannot wait to share it with you. 91 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:52,159 Speaker 1: I am so so excited for you to read this book, 92 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:54,719 Speaker 1: for you to listen to this book. I read the audiobook. 93 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:57,480 Speaker 1: If you haven't got it already, make sure you go 94 00:04:57,560 --> 00:05:01,040 Speaker 1: to eight Rules of Love dot com. It's dedicated to 95 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:04,840 Speaker 1: anyone who's trying to find, keep, or let go of love. 96 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:07,800 Speaker 1: So if you've got friends that are dating, broken up, 97 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:10,680 Speaker 1: or struggling with love, make sure you grab this book. 98 00:05:10,960 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 1: And I'd love to invite you to come and see 99 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:16,720 Speaker 1: me for my global tour Love Rules. Go to Ja 100 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:21,359 Speaker 1: shettytour dot com to learn more information about tickets, VIP 101 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 1: experiences and more. I can't wait to see you this year. 102 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:27,040 Speaker 1: It's beautiful. I was reading in the book where you're 103 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:29,560 Speaker 1: talking about these monks. They actually measure their gamma waves 104 00:05:29,839 --> 00:05:33,760 Speaker 1: even at sleep, and they are higher than everybody else, right, 105 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: and everybody else, And so you tapped into this. Ironically, 106 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:39,919 Speaker 1: you graduate from college, they just need to know the 107 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 1: background on this, as I understand it anyway, and kind 108 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:44,480 Speaker 1: of in your family say, it's sort of like you're 109 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:47,520 Speaker 1: a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure. Right, there's my 110 00:05:47,560 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 1: three options, and you end up graduating. But before even 111 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: at graduation, you go away and go live with the monks. 112 00:05:55,160 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 1: Right you literally, how did you make this decision? And 113 00:05:57,680 --> 00:06:00,280 Speaker 1: what overall would you say was the impact that happened 114 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:02,160 Speaker 1: to you where you did that? Yeah? Absolutely so. Yeah, 115 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:05,119 Speaker 1: a bit of background. I grew up a teacher's pet 116 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:07,640 Speaker 1: until the age of fourteen, so I was an obedient kid, 117 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:11,120 Speaker 1: probably like the perfect sun, worked really hard at school, 118 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:13,320 Speaker 1: and then at fourteen I went the opposite way. I 119 00:06:13,400 --> 00:06:16,920 Speaker 1: started rebelling. I started experimenting with everything under the sun. 120 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:20,240 Speaker 1: And at eighteen I was at this interesting point I 121 00:06:20,279 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 1: think everyone is when if you think back to being 122 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:23,680 Speaker 1: eighteen and everyone was listening and watching, and think about 123 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: being eighteen years old again and how impressionable you were 124 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 1: and what kind of decisions you were making. I used 125 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 1: to go and listen to CEOs, entrepreneurs, experts, celebrities speak 126 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 1: and once I was invited to hear a monk speak, 127 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:38,280 Speaker 1: and I thought to myself, what am I going to 128 00:06:38,360 --> 00:06:40,480 Speaker 1: learn from a monk? Like there's nothing to learn from 129 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:41,800 Speaker 1: a monk, Like what's he going to teach me how 130 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:44,719 Speaker 1: to be silent? Like who cares? And I said to 131 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 1: my friends, I would only go if we went to 132 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:49,320 Speaker 1: a bar afterwards, Like that was my life. I was 133 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:52,719 Speaker 1: like I wanted in writing that describes where you really were, Literally, 134 00:06:52,760 --> 00:06:55,640 Speaker 1: that describes where I was genuinely at I'm not making 135 00:06:55,680 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: this up, and I end up going, And this is 136 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 1: what I love about that moment. The best moments in 137 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 1: your life are sometimes the most humbling ones. I was 138 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:06,480 Speaker 1: humbled because I went into that environment expecting to get 139 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:09,960 Speaker 1: nothing and having my life transformed. So what ended up 140 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:13,120 Speaker 1: happening is I felt and you've probably felt this when 141 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:15,960 Speaker 1: you meet people. When I was eighteen, I'd met people 142 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: who are beautiful. I'd met people who are powerful, I'd 143 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 1: met people who were rich, I'd met people who are famous. 144 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:24,560 Speaker 1: I'd met people who are successful, But I don't think 145 00:07:24,600 --> 00:07:27,800 Speaker 1: i'd met anyone who is truly happy. And even now, 146 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 1: if I asked you to count on your hand, how 147 00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: many people you know that are truly content satisfied, unhappy. 148 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 1: I think we'd struggle and I felt that from him 149 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: at eighteen. And the great thing is I know him now. 150 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 1: I've known him for the last fourteen years. This particular monk, 151 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: his name is Granadas. I talk about him in the book. 152 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:45,680 Speaker 1: He's still the same and so he has maintained that, 153 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 1: and so I started getting fascinated with him. So I 154 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:51,040 Speaker 1: spent every summer vacation with him from age eighteen to 155 00:07:51,080 --> 00:07:54,160 Speaker 1: eight twenty two. Every summer vacation, I'd spend half of 156 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 1: it in turning at big finance companies, steakhouses, bars, fancy suits, 157 00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:02,120 Speaker 1: and I'd spent the other half living as a monk 158 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 1: in India. That's remarkable rogues, sleeping on the floor and meditating. 159 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 1: And then when I graduated, I decided that the monk 160 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: path was more fulfilling than the banking path, and so 161 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:15,120 Speaker 1: I chose it. What a remarkable young life. It was 162 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 1: my first experiment. You know, it's like you're literally testing it. 163 00:08:18,960 --> 00:08:20,800 Speaker 1: And I never judged myself. And that's what I love 164 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:23,120 Speaker 1: about being able to live life in that way, Like 165 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: I didn't judge myself when I was at the monastery. 166 00:08:25,080 --> 00:08:27,480 Speaker 1: I wasn't like, oh, no, I was just drinking last week. 167 00:08:27,560 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 1: I can't do this. And then when I was out 168 00:08:29,360 --> 00:08:31,200 Speaker 1: there with the guys, I wasn't like, oh, no, I 169 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:33,559 Speaker 1: should be meditating. I was just like, let me really 170 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:37,439 Speaker 1: experience each life to its fullest and then I can 171 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:40,880 Speaker 1: decide which one really fills me with joy. It's amazing 172 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 1: that you're talking to most because just this week I 173 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 1: was on a show. They said, what topic would you 174 00:08:44,280 --> 00:08:45,880 Speaker 1: like to cover above anyway? They left it open to me, 175 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:48,560 Speaker 1: and I said, I think I should be happiness because 176 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:51,080 Speaker 1: it's so rare for most people in the world. There 177 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 1: people have asked me on the show. When I started 178 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:56,200 Speaker 1: the show, I was fascinated because your show's had fifty 179 00:08:56,200 --> 00:09:00,120 Speaker 1: four million downloads the first year, right, and people, what 180 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:02,640 Speaker 1: do the people that you interview have in common? They're 181 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:04,320 Speaker 1: some of my best friends. Some of your best friends 182 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:06,480 Speaker 1: are on your show. And I thought, well, I wonder 183 00:09:06,559 --> 00:09:08,040 Speaker 1: when I do it, is it going to be their drive, 184 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:12,559 Speaker 1: their ingenuity, their charisma, their work ethic, their brilliance, And 185 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:14,960 Speaker 1: many of them have all of those qualities. But I 186 00:09:14,960 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 1: think you would agree with me that even taught performers 187 00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:19,800 Speaker 1: that we work with, some of them have a touch 188 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:22,200 Speaker 1: of not so happy going on in their life. Even 189 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:24,679 Speaker 1: the people that you think have their whole world together, 190 00:09:25,240 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 1: they too seek happiness. And I'll be honest with you, 191 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:30,760 Speaker 1: because I'm such a fan of yours, I thought, well, 192 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:32,880 Speaker 1: almost like what you thought, what do I have to 193 00:09:32,960 --> 00:09:36,920 Speaker 1: learn from you about happiness? From the monk perspective? I 194 00:09:36,920 --> 00:09:38,719 Speaker 1: didn't think the same. And as they started to read 195 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 1: the book. First there were many revelations for me. Secondly, 196 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 1: there were some things in the book that I think 197 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 1: I do practice pretty well. But the way you phrase 198 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:49,679 Speaker 1: it in position it is beautiful, as is your norm. 199 00:09:50,000 --> 00:09:51,520 Speaker 1: So one of the things you say early in the book, 200 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:55,120 Speaker 1: you talk about selfless sacrifice, and there's this great quote 201 00:09:55,120 --> 00:09:56,600 Speaker 1: that I'll mess up in there that one of the 202 00:09:56,640 --> 00:09:59,680 Speaker 1: monks had shared with you about that in this shade, 203 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:03,400 Speaker 1: that you don't want to sit in the tree, right, Yeah, Yeah, 204 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: the statement this was the statement that when I'm sitting 205 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: in that room as an eighteen year old thinking about 206 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:10,479 Speaker 1: going to a bar, this was that statement that penetrated 207 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:13,959 Speaker 1: my heart and I was like, oh, because so he 208 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:16,800 Speaker 1: was making the point that if you have any gifts 209 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:19,800 Speaker 1: and if you have any talents in the world, if 210 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:23,880 Speaker 1: you're not using them in the service of others. Dan 211 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 1: worth nothing and that's a very bold point and the 212 00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 1: way he put it, and he was quoting another writer 213 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:32,400 Speaker 1: and he wrote that plant trees under whose shade you 214 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:35,520 Speaker 1: do not plan to sit? And what that means is 215 00:10:36,080 --> 00:10:39,080 Speaker 1: most of us plant trees, or we do things for 216 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:41,400 Speaker 1: people because we're expecting that one day they're going to 217 00:10:41,480 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 1: reciprocate and do something back for us. And he was like, 218 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 1: real service is when you do things for people that 219 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:50,400 Speaker 1: can't do anything back for you at that time and 220 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:53,360 Speaker 1: you're not expecting anything. And for me, for my eighteen 221 00:10:53,440 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 1: year old mind, I was like, oh, I thought my 222 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:57,600 Speaker 1: skills were just to impress women and make money and 223 00:10:58,120 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 1: you know, just do what everyone else does. And when 224 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:02,120 Speaker 1: he was doing a much selfless sacrifice and service, I 225 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:04,760 Speaker 1: was like, I want to test that, because either this 226 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 1: man is a genius or he's completely crazy, but if 227 00:11:09,559 --> 00:11:11,560 Speaker 1: he's given up and he went to it. So he 228 00:11:11,559 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 1: went to the Indian Institute of Technology, one of the 229 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:16,480 Speaker 1: best universities in the world. He was like a number 230 00:11:16,520 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 1: one student and he gave that all up to be 231 00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 1: a monk. So I was like, there's something there because 232 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 1: you don't just give that up. Especially in India, the 233 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:27,320 Speaker 1: pressure to perform and to be a top grade student 234 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:30,120 Speaker 1: is so high that to walk away from that like 235 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:32,280 Speaker 1: his family and everyone would have just completely So I 236 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:35,280 Speaker 1: was like, I want to follow that path. Wow, Bro, 237 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:37,920 Speaker 1: I'm fascinated about you because I as now that I'm 238 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:39,800 Speaker 1: in your presence. Everybody should know that Jay and I 239 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:41,520 Speaker 1: have communicated for a very long time. We have tons 240 00:11:41,559 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 1: of each friends, but we are rare on the show 241 00:11:44,040 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 1: that I'm in the presence of somebody and I feel 242 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:49,320 Speaker 1: your energy that you speak about this. I think I 243 00:11:49,320 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 1: had this impression that someone who's sort of monk related 244 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:54,960 Speaker 1: is just sort of just there's this feeling I get 245 00:11:55,000 --> 00:11:57,760 Speaker 1: that's just it's strong peace, but it's strong too. There's 246 00:11:57,760 --> 00:11:59,880 Speaker 1: an energy about you. And one of the things that 247 00:11:59,920 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 1: I think that you eventually overcame that you talk about 248 00:12:01,960 --> 00:12:03,880 Speaker 1: beautifully in the book, and I see every day people 249 00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:07,480 Speaker 1: ask me often there's all these memes out there. We 250 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:09,960 Speaker 1: all hear, Hey, you know, whatever room's opinion about you 251 00:12:10,040 --> 00:12:13,640 Speaker 1: is none of your business. But people really struggle with 252 00:12:13,800 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 1: finding a pathway to happiness because they are borderline obsessed 253 00:12:17,840 --> 00:12:20,240 Speaker 1: with the thoughts and opinions of other people, and you 254 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:22,800 Speaker 1: discussed that a little bit too. How would you tell 255 00:12:22,840 --> 00:12:25,480 Speaker 1: someone who's struggling with this, which is ninety nine percent 256 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:27,560 Speaker 1: of the people who are listening to this, how they 257 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:30,240 Speaker 1: might deal with that or overcome it. Yeah. I give 258 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:32,480 Speaker 1: this analogy in the book about how we're all like 259 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:35,040 Speaker 1: method actors. So I'm a big movie fan. Like I'm 260 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:37,199 Speaker 1: a big movie fan, and so for me, some of 261 00:12:37,280 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 1: my favorite actors are like Heath Ledger, who played the 262 00:12:39,920 --> 00:12:43,280 Speaker 1: Joker in the Dark Night. You've got Daniel day Lewis, 263 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 1: who's an incredible method actor. Now, I talk about in 264 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:49,439 Speaker 1: the book how Daniel day Lewis at some points he 265 00:12:49,559 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 1: was wearing the clothes for Gangs of New York in 266 00:12:52,440 --> 00:12:54,520 Speaker 1: his normal life, to the point that he even got 267 00:12:54,600 --> 00:12:57,640 Speaker 1: pneumonia in his normal life because he's wearing these old, 268 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:01,599 Speaker 1: raggedy clothes and he goes at one he almost went crazy, 269 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:04,920 Speaker 1: pretending to be someone that he wasn't. Now, when I 270 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 1: heard that and I read that, I thought, wow, isn't 271 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:09,760 Speaker 1: that all of us? Like you wear a certain role 272 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:11,840 Speaker 1: to work, you wear a certain role at home, you 273 00:13:11,880 --> 00:13:15,000 Speaker 1: wear a certain role with your friends, and in playing 274 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:17,720 Speaker 1: all those roles, you end up method acting and forgetting 275 00:13:17,720 --> 00:13:19,960 Speaker 1: who you are. Oh, my goodness, that is beautiful. And and 276 00:13:19,840 --> 00:13:22,160 Speaker 1: and for me, that's what I'm just seeing across the 277 00:13:22,160 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 1: and in and of myself, and I see myself do that. 278 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:27,439 Speaker 1: I become you, become who you think other people want 279 00:13:27,480 --> 00:13:30,079 Speaker 1: you to be. And so for me, the first step 280 00:13:30,120 --> 00:13:33,600 Speaker 1: in that is writing down everything you're chasing right now, 281 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:35,199 Speaker 1: Like this is a great strategy in a tool, And 282 00:13:35,200 --> 00:13:37,280 Speaker 1: if anyone's listening or watching, get a pen and paper. 283 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:39,200 Speaker 1: If you're not, take a screenshot of this time code 284 00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:41,000 Speaker 1: right now and come back to this, because I want 285 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:42,280 Speaker 1: you to sit down and I want you to write 286 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:45,840 Speaker 1: down everything you're chasing right now, whatever it is. Make 287 00:13:45,880 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 1: that list. Second question, where did that idea come from? 288 00:13:50,840 --> 00:13:53,360 Speaker 1: Did that idea come from your mom, your dad, your friend, 289 00:13:53,400 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: your brother? Did the idea come from me or ed? 290 00:13:55,200 --> 00:13:57,520 Speaker 1: Did the idea come from, I don't know, some book 291 00:13:57,520 --> 00:13:59,240 Speaker 1: that you read, Like did the idea come from your 292 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:02,760 Speaker 1: heart and your mind? Or was it born because it 293 00:14:02,800 --> 00:14:06,440 Speaker 1: was influenced by your friend who just got promoted, your 294 00:14:06,559 --> 00:14:09,440 Speaker 1: friend who just got proposed to, your friend who just 295 00:14:09,480 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 1: sold their company for one hundred million dollars? Like is 296 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:15,040 Speaker 1: that was that the reason? Because then that may not 297 00:14:15,120 --> 00:14:17,280 Speaker 1: be your dream. And then the third question you have 298 00:14:17,280 --> 00:14:20,640 Speaker 1: to ask yourself is is this my dream? Or this 299 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:25,080 Speaker 1: is the question? Is your dream really your dream? And 300 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:27,440 Speaker 1: when you go through that exercise, you want to keep 301 00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 1: the stuff that's yours and you want to distance yourself 302 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:33,240 Speaker 1: from the stuff. That's what incredible advice. You know. I'm 303 00:14:33,280 --> 00:14:35,920 Speaker 1: a little bro I gotta tell you, there's such wisdom 304 00:14:35,960 --> 00:14:38,360 Speaker 1: for such a young man. I'm a little bit further 305 00:14:38,440 --> 00:14:41,680 Speaker 1: down the road age wise and wisdom wise, and wisdom wise. 306 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:44,840 Speaker 1: I'm excited to learn from a certainly not but I 307 00:14:44,880 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 1: appreciate you saying that. I mean, but I can I 308 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:50,400 Speaker 1: can validate what you've just said. I'm I think dream 309 00:14:50,480 --> 00:14:53,440 Speaker 1: catching in your life can become something that gains momentum. 310 00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:55,480 Speaker 1: As you vibrate a little bit higher frequency, you can 311 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:58,200 Speaker 1: begin to attract things. And I'm a big believer in that. 312 00:14:58,280 --> 00:15:01,640 Speaker 1: And I have many times achieved a dream or two 313 00:15:01,720 --> 00:15:04,520 Speaker 1: that when I got there was completely empty. And every 314 00:15:04,520 --> 00:15:06,560 Speaker 1: time that I got to those dreams when they were empty, 315 00:15:06,640 --> 00:15:09,240 Speaker 1: they were not my dreams. They were something that I 316 00:15:09,280 --> 00:15:11,760 Speaker 1: thought someone else wanted me to do, or something that 317 00:15:11,800 --> 00:15:13,960 Speaker 1: I saw someone else have that I thought I wanted 318 00:15:14,320 --> 00:15:17,360 Speaker 1: a place, a destination, a home, something, And you're one 319 00:15:17,400 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 1: hundred percent right. But the times when I've got clear 320 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:21,840 Speaker 1: on things that I really wanted, that really mattered to me, 321 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 1: and when they were good enough that they materialized in 322 00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:26,880 Speaker 1: my life, what great joy they've brought me. And they're 323 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 1: usually extremely simple things. Yeah, as you will estrate as well. 324 00:15:30,560 --> 00:15:32,480 Speaker 1: I love hearing you say that. It's nice to get 325 00:15:32,560 --> 00:15:35,280 Speaker 1: validated on that because I think you've achieved so much 326 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:38,000 Speaker 1: in your life and it's incredible to see what you've achieved. 327 00:15:38,320 --> 00:15:40,920 Speaker 1: And I think that's what people forget, is that the 328 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:43,200 Speaker 1: things that you bring you joy and because you achieved 329 00:15:43,240 --> 00:15:45,440 Speaker 1: what you wanted to achieve. Let's talk about that for 330 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:47,000 Speaker 1: a minute. You talk about dharma a little bit. How 331 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:49,840 Speaker 1: do you figure that part out in your life? Yeah? So, 332 00:15:49,960 --> 00:15:53,880 Speaker 1: Dharma's a fascinating concept. I absolutely love it. And the 333 00:15:54,000 --> 00:15:58,640 Speaker 1: loose language terminology for it is purpose or calling or 334 00:15:58,800 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 1: your shon and vision in life, like what are you're 335 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:04,280 Speaker 1: meant to do? It's kind of like what you're meant 336 00:16:04,320 --> 00:16:07,120 Speaker 1: to do? And the thing about dharma is dharma talks 337 00:16:07,160 --> 00:16:09,480 Speaker 1: about how we think we have to learn lots of stuff, 338 00:16:09,880 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 1: when actually dharma is unlearning and bringing out what you 339 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:16,920 Speaker 1: already have. So one of the things I mentioned in 340 00:16:16,920 --> 00:16:20,640 Speaker 1: the book is that you can't be anything. There's there's 341 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:23,000 Speaker 1: two lies we've been told growing up. The first lie 342 00:16:23,720 --> 00:16:27,480 Speaker 1: is you're nothing, you're stupid, you're worthless, you're not going 343 00:16:27,520 --> 00:16:29,200 Speaker 1: to make it, and I'm sure many people listening and 344 00:16:29,240 --> 00:16:32,440 Speaker 1: watching have heard that from teachers, parents, aunt's, uncles, whoever 345 00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:35,120 Speaker 1: it is. And then the other lie that we're actually told, 346 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:37,240 Speaker 1: and I don't think it's a lie. I think it's positive, 347 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:41,560 Speaker 1: but sometimes it's misconstrued is you can be anything, right, 348 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:45,720 Speaker 1: And we all know that's not true too, and it's 349 00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 1: unfair because sometimes people get misled. You're exactly right. And 350 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:52,400 Speaker 1: the Dharma point of view is you can't be anything 351 00:16:52,440 --> 00:16:56,560 Speaker 1: you want, but you can be everything you are. And 352 00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:59,480 Speaker 1: what I mean by that is you have a genius, 353 00:16:59,600 --> 00:17:02,920 Speaker 1: a tense, you're a power inside of you that you 354 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:06,720 Speaker 1: don't know yet why, because you're inexperienced. It's not that 355 00:17:06,800 --> 00:17:10,560 Speaker 1: you're unqualified, it's your inexperience. So people are saying, I'm stuck, 356 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:12,240 Speaker 1: I don't know where my life's going, I don't know 357 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 1: why purposes, So you're perceiving yourself to be unqualified or underqualified. 358 00:17:17,920 --> 00:17:22,000 Speaker 1: Actually you're just inexperienced. You just haven't done enough things 359 00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:24,879 Speaker 1: to let the magnet of your life tell you what 360 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:28,960 Speaker 1: it's attracted to. So for me, that's what dharma is 361 00:17:29,040 --> 00:17:31,679 Speaker 1: encouraging people to do. And this beautiful verse from this 362 00:17:31,840 --> 00:17:35,000 Speaker 1: Vedic text, a monk text called the monis smythe and 363 00:17:35,040 --> 00:17:39,000 Speaker 1: it says that when you protect your purpose, your purpose 364 00:17:39,160 --> 00:17:41,879 Speaker 1: protect you and what I love about that and you 365 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:44,080 Speaker 1: will appreciate this because I know you're someone that I 366 00:17:44,119 --> 00:17:48,200 Speaker 1: feel is living this. A purpose is like a rare gem, 367 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:51,080 Speaker 1: and you have to protect it. People will tell you 368 00:17:51,119 --> 00:17:53,640 Speaker 1: that gem is worthless. They'll tell you that that gem 369 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:55,040 Speaker 1: is not going to make it. They will tell you 370 00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:58,440 Speaker 1: that that gem, that jewel, has no value. And that's 371 00:17:58,480 --> 00:18:01,480 Speaker 1: why you have to protect your purpose because the world 372 00:18:01,520 --> 00:18:03,280 Speaker 1: is going to constantly try and pull you away from it. 373 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:06,320 Speaker 1: So dharma is a real It's not a belief system. 374 00:18:06,320 --> 00:18:09,560 Speaker 1: It's a fact that you've got skills, genius, potential. It's 375 00:18:09,600 --> 00:18:12,280 Speaker 1: sitting inside of you and you have not seen it yet. 376 00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:14,600 Speaker 1: And I've seen this across the board. I literally just 377 00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:18,280 Speaker 1: got a call from the I got a call from 378 00:18:18,320 --> 00:18:21,880 Speaker 1: the CEO of Instagram, probably about three to six months ago. 379 00:18:22,200 --> 00:18:24,320 Speaker 1: It's been a while now, and she called me up 380 00:18:24,320 --> 00:18:26,199 Speaker 1: and she said, Jay, we just had I don't think 381 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:28,240 Speaker 1: I've told this story anywhere, so you've sparked it out 382 00:18:28,280 --> 00:18:31,920 Speaker 1: of me. But she goes, we've just had this call. Sorry, 383 00:18:31,960 --> 00:18:34,200 Speaker 1: We've just had this talk from this speaker that we 384 00:18:34,320 --> 00:18:39,280 Speaker 1: brought in. And this speaker spent years in a refugee camp. 385 00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:45,560 Speaker 1: And in this refugee camp, not only did he figure 386 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:48,439 Speaker 1: out how to survive, he actually got his mother to 387 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 1: save up for a computer and he coded a game. 388 00:18:51,400 --> 00:18:54,160 Speaker 1: He told himself out to code, and he coded a 389 00:18:54,200 --> 00:18:57,760 Speaker 1: game that helps people understand how not to be violent 390 00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:01,960 Speaker 1: in a refugee camps. And then he used faceborork to 391 00:19:02,000 --> 00:19:05,439 Speaker 1: promote it. And they said, we were so inspired by 392 00:19:05,480 --> 00:19:07,600 Speaker 1: him that we brought him in to speak to Instagram 393 00:19:07,600 --> 00:19:09,960 Speaker 1: and Facebook and then we asked him the question. We 394 00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:13,199 Speaker 1: asked him, what has had the impact on you? Like 395 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:16,760 Speaker 1: what kept you inspired? And this guy goes, he goes, oh, 396 00:19:16,800 --> 00:19:18,880 Speaker 1: I used to watch this guy called Jerry on Facebook. 397 00:19:19,320 --> 00:19:21,520 Speaker 1: And literally when she told me that, and she said, 398 00:19:21,560 --> 00:19:24,160 Speaker 1: literally the whole audience was in tears at his story. 399 00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:25,919 Speaker 1: And I said to her, I said, I need to 400 00:19:25,920 --> 00:19:27,720 Speaker 1: talk to him right away because I need to tell him. 401 00:19:27,720 --> 00:19:31,399 Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, you've just inspired me like my like, 402 00:19:31,720 --> 00:19:34,199 Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, your life is way harder than mind's 403 00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:36,919 Speaker 1: ever being. And if you can realize that you have 404 00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:40,119 Speaker 1: the potential in a refugee camp to teach yourself how 405 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:43,080 Speaker 1: to code and to help people not be violent, I mean, 406 00:19:43,119 --> 00:19:46,320 Speaker 1: you're inspiring more lives. His name is Luel Mahon. I'm like, dude, 407 00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:49,199 Speaker 1: you're inspiring so many more lives than I ever like. 408 00:19:49,280 --> 00:19:51,720 Speaker 1: It's just beautiful to me that story. I'm not sharing 409 00:19:51,720 --> 00:19:53,879 Speaker 1: it to show my role in his life. I'm sharing 410 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:56,080 Speaker 1: it because I'm like, if he can find a way 411 00:19:56,240 --> 00:19:59,560 Speaker 1: to find his dharma, don't. We haven't got any excuses, brothers. 412 00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:02,880 Speaker 1: It's funny. But right before you told the story about him, Yeah, 413 00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:04,959 Speaker 1: I was going to tell you that it's so obvious 414 00:20:05,040 --> 00:20:07,840 Speaker 1: to me that you're in your home, and that's perfect 415 00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:09,760 Speaker 1: evidence of it. It's so obvious to me as I 416 00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:11,879 Speaker 1: sit next to you and I the book. Guys, I 417 00:20:11,960 --> 00:20:14,760 Speaker 1: want you to get this book. It has my full endorsement, 418 00:20:15,080 --> 00:20:17,760 Speaker 1: and the reason it does, first off, is because this 419 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:21,160 Speaker 1: man that you're hearing these incredible words from wrote it. 420 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:24,240 Speaker 1: But it's it's a unique book because it talks about 421 00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 1: these principles that are eternally true. But there's also like 422 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:32,320 Speaker 1: what I would call fundamental strategy. I was gonna say basic, 423 00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:35,920 Speaker 1: but it's not basic. It's fundamental strategies. I was surprised 424 00:20:35,960 --> 00:20:38,000 Speaker 1: in a book that talks so much about happiness that 425 00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:41,840 Speaker 1: you get as granular as a morning routine, right, which 426 00:20:41,880 --> 00:20:44,679 Speaker 1: I'm a huge believer of and I think sometimes but 427 00:20:44,840 --> 00:20:47,640 Speaker 1: you do it differently, right, And so I'm only gonna 428 00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:48,840 Speaker 1: go through a few things a book because we wanted 429 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:51,000 Speaker 1: to read the book, right, but like just so you know, 430 00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:53,040 Speaker 1: guys were at one percent, less than one percent of 431 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:55,640 Speaker 1: the book so far. But it's true. But so talk 432 00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:58,840 Speaker 1: a little bit, just tactically for a second about importance 433 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:01,800 Speaker 1: of it and the way that you perceive a morning routine. Yeah. 434 00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:04,399 Speaker 1: So the beautiful thing about Monk life is half the 435 00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:07,680 Speaker 1: day is self and half the day is service. That's 436 00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:10,480 Speaker 1: how you're taught to live. So the morning hours for 437 00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:14,520 Speaker 1: you to fill yourself. It's almost like putting on mental, emotional, 438 00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:17,560 Speaker 1: and physical armor. Like that's what a morning routine is. 439 00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:21,800 Speaker 1: Our days are tiring, Our days are busy, our days 440 00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:24,399 Speaker 1: are draining. Or guess what if you didn't put your 441 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:27,360 Speaker 1: armor on in the morning and you're going out to battle. 442 00:21:28,119 --> 00:21:30,320 Speaker 1: How many knives are going to cut you? How many 443 00:21:30,320 --> 00:21:32,879 Speaker 1: swords are going to pierce you? How many wounds are 444 00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:34,239 Speaker 1: you going to come home with? How many of you 445 00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:37,760 Speaker 1: come back home feeling wounded? I come back home feeling 446 00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:40,840 Speaker 1: wounded sometimes. But guess what if you put your armor 447 00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:43,880 Speaker 1: on in the morning. A warrior would never go out 448 00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:47,640 Speaker 1: onto a battlefield. And life can be a battlefield. Work 449 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:50,840 Speaker 1: can be full of conflicts. Sometimes your relationships can be damaging. 450 00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:53,800 Speaker 1: Sometimes your friendships can be toxic sometimes. So we are 451 00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:57,720 Speaker 1: warriors in one sense, and so without wearing that So 452 00:21:57,840 --> 00:22:02,520 Speaker 1: for me, a morning routine is putting on emotional armor 453 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,119 Speaker 1: which is meant to protect you for the rest of 454 00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:07,800 Speaker 1: the day. And that way, even if you do get pierced, 455 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,200 Speaker 1: or you do get popped, or you do get cut, 456 00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:14,199 Speaker 1: you're protected. And I know that when my morning routine 457 00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:16,960 Speaker 1: is at its best, I feel protected exactly whereas when 458 00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:20,359 Speaker 1: my morning routine is weakened, I feel weak. And so 459 00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:23,000 Speaker 1: for me, the morning routine, as I get strategic about it, 460 00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:27,439 Speaker 1: there's two principles. You have to know location has energy 461 00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:31,399 Speaker 1: and time has memory. If you do something in the 462 00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:36,040 Speaker 1: same place every day, that place now holds that energy. 463 00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:39,160 Speaker 1: And this is huge, like it's it's just so big, 464 00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:41,879 Speaker 1: and I'm grateful for that reaction because people don't realize 465 00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:45,000 Speaker 1: how powerful this is. Like when I meditated in temples 466 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:48,280 Speaker 1: that were five thousand years old in South India, it 467 00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:51,160 Speaker 1: was easier to meditate because people have been meditating there 468 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:54,199 Speaker 1: for thousands of years. And so when you find a 469 00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:56,000 Speaker 1: space in your home, and even if you've got like 470 00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:58,440 Speaker 1: I lived in a five hundred square foot apartment in 471 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:01,879 Speaker 1: New York four years ago, and I just had a 472 00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:06,119 Speaker 1: tiny corner which I dedicated to my sacred practices. So 473 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:07,639 Speaker 1: if you don't have to have a big home to 474 00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:09,280 Speaker 1: do this, you don't have to be wealthy to do this. 475 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,440 Speaker 1: You can find just a corner in your home that 476 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:14,679 Speaker 1: you dedicate your meditation space or your reflection space. So, 477 00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:20,320 Speaker 1: first thing, location has energy. Second things, time has memory. 478 00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:22,720 Speaker 1: And this is something that people are underestimate. When you 479 00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:27,160 Speaker 1: do something at the same time every day, you remember 480 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:31,919 Speaker 1: it and time remembers it. That's why we struggle to 481 00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:34,320 Speaker 1: work out at different times every day. It's why we struggle, 482 00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:36,440 Speaker 1: like why do we feel hungry at the same time 483 00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:38,920 Speaker 1: every day? Generally, be feel hungry at the same time 484 00:23:38,920 --> 00:23:41,800 Speaker 1: most people, if you've got regulated diet, you'll feel hungry, 485 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:43,880 Speaker 1: you will feel tired at the same time every day. 486 00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: You will look towards that coke can or that sugar 487 00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:49,240 Speaker 1: or that chocolate bar at the same time every day. 488 00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:51,600 Speaker 1: And so when you're meditating at the same time, if 489 00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:53,720 Speaker 1: you're exercising at the same time. So what I recommend 490 00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 1: to people is your morning routine needs four aspects and 491 00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:01,040 Speaker 1: it's simple, and I call it time. It's about making 492 00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:04,080 Speaker 1: time in the day. So time stands for T, I 493 00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:08,280 Speaker 1: m E. T stands for thankfulness. There needs to be 494 00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:12,080 Speaker 1: even if it's five minutes, five minutes of thankfulness, of 495 00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:15,520 Speaker 1: gratitude every single morning. And that has to be gratitude 496 00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:19,800 Speaker 1: that's specific. It can't be gratitude that's generic. So generic 497 00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:23,520 Speaker 1: gratitude is something that anyone could be grateful for. Oh, 498 00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:26,480 Speaker 1: I'm grateful for the sky, I'm grateful for air, I'm 499 00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:31,520 Speaker 1: grateful for water. That's cool, but it's generic gratitude. Specific 500 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:35,720 Speaker 1: gratitude is I'm grateful for the fact that I have 501 00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:38,520 Speaker 1: someone calling me this morning. I'm grateful for the fact 502 00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:41,119 Speaker 1: that I can still call my parents. I'm grateful for 503 00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:44,320 Speaker 1: the fact that I have this person in my business 504 00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:46,760 Speaker 1: who is having such an impact. I'm grateful for you know, 505 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:50,520 Speaker 1: it's specificity, Yes, so thankfulness. Second one is insight. I 506 00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:52,080 Speaker 1: think this is one thing that a lot of people 507 00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:54,440 Speaker 1: are missing, which I recommend people listening to you. It's 508 00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:58,920 Speaker 1: like podcasts, books, and make it easier for yourself. If 509 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:02,960 Speaker 1: you get this book, leave it open on your bedside table, 510 00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:06,840 Speaker 1: leave it open on your kitchen table, leave it open 511 00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:09,639 Speaker 1: on your dining table. I guarantee you you will read 512 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,600 Speaker 1: more and what you read will speak to you. And 513 00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:15,040 Speaker 1: I think people underestimate that that literally, like when you 514 00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,160 Speaker 1: have it open and you'll just flick to a chapter 515 00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:19,760 Speaker 1: randomly and you pick up one line, it will impact 516 00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:21,600 Speaker 1: you and it will speak to you. So insight. You 517 00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:24,959 Speaker 1: need insight every day. Emmy's meditation, and I believe meditation 518 00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:27,880 Speaker 1: is different for different people. As monks, we did walking meditations, 519 00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:31,520 Speaker 1: we did beach meditations, we did visualizations, we did breathwork. 520 00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:33,880 Speaker 1: Find your meditation practice. I give a ton in the book. 521 00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:37,119 Speaker 1: And fourth, obviously exercise which you can speak to you 522 00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:39,360 Speaker 1: even more than I can. I exercise to keep fit. 523 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:42,600 Speaker 1: You look amazing too, the but it's an exercise. Everyone 524 00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:45,840 Speaker 1: needs to find five minutes a day, fifteen minutes a 525 00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:48,639 Speaker 1: day of exercise that can just get them moving. And 526 00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:51,240 Speaker 1: guess what if you like sport, play sport with a friend. 527 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:53,280 Speaker 1: If you want to shoot hoops, go and shoot hoops. 528 00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:55,080 Speaker 1: You don't have to sit on a treadmoll, No one's 529 00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:58,840 Speaker 1: telling you to do that. Make it fun and playful. Brother. 530 00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:02,960 Speaker 1: You know, I've been in personal development and business entrepreneurs 531 00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:06,800 Speaker 1: space for a long time. Those are two gigantic revelations 532 00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:09,359 Speaker 1: that I've never heard before. I'm telling you that that 533 00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 1: for me in the book right I'm reading it and 534 00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:14,520 Speaker 1: I literally stopped the book and I brought both my 535 00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,800 Speaker 1: kids in and we talked about this idea of that 536 00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:20,840 Speaker 1: space having an energy to it, and I want to 537 00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:23,879 Speaker 1: validate it because I just think you're incredible. I just everybody. 538 00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:25,240 Speaker 1: Is why I want you to get the book, and 539 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,800 Speaker 1: it's why if you're not. You must be following Jay 540 00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:30,520 Speaker 1: on these different platforms, not just one either. You need 541 00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:31,679 Speaker 1: to be on his YouTube, you need to be on 542 00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:34,359 Speaker 1: his Instagram, his Facebook, but I was to share this 543 00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:35,880 Speaker 1: with you because I'm sure he's a hero of yours 544 00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:37,760 Speaker 1: when I was very young, well when I was younger 545 00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:40,680 Speaker 1: actually about your age. Ironically, I'm running on the beach 546 00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:43,560 Speaker 1: in Hawaii and it's early in the morning, so I 547 00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:46,320 Speaker 1: did my morning run speaking about exercise, and passing me 548 00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:47,840 Speaker 1: by on the beach was this man. I saw him 549 00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:49,280 Speaker 1: from a distance. Anyway, he gets by me and he 550 00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,080 Speaker 1: starts to go the other way, and it was Wayne Dyer. 551 00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:54,760 Speaker 1: Oh wow. A lot of people listeners probably don't know. 552 00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:58,600 Speaker 1: You should check I mean you can't. You should check 553 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:01,080 Speaker 1: out Wayne Dye's work, his books. Unbelieve he's one of 554 00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:03,680 Speaker 1: the godfathers of I mean, he was somebody that's really 555 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:05,560 Speaker 1: made an impact. I end up getting a chance of 556 00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:07,560 Speaker 1: long story short sitting on the beach with him for 557 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:09,840 Speaker 1: about an hour as the sun comes up, talking about life. 558 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:12,240 Speaker 1: You talk about just the two of us, right. However, 559 00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,679 Speaker 1: one of the principles he taught me that day, and 560 00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:17,879 Speaker 1: you articulated quite frankly, more beautifully and more specifically than 561 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:20,440 Speaker 1: even he did. But I want to validate it again 562 00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:22,360 Speaker 1: because these are things that you're not getting on any 563 00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:24,800 Speaker 1: other podcast. What Jay and I are talking about right now. 564 00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:26,560 Speaker 1: And he asked me, he said, are you going to 565 00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:28,400 Speaker 1: write a book? And do you prepare speeches? I said, 566 00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:29,639 Speaker 1: I do, And he says, one of the things I 567 00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:31,720 Speaker 1: do is I have lots of the greatest books in 568 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,959 Speaker 1: the world surround me when I write, because these books 569 00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:37,520 Speaker 1: have that time and energy in them. And he believed 570 00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:39,199 Speaker 1: that it gave him the great wisdom of all of 571 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:42,640 Speaker 1: these people when he just surrounded himself in that familiar space. 572 00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,040 Speaker 1: So for you to now put this in your book 573 00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:48,000 Speaker 1: about a morning routine is remarkable because I was just 574 00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:51,400 Speaker 1: a passing thought that's really written nowhere. So wow, thank 575 00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:54,120 Speaker 1: God for you man, and you just spoked. Actually, Phil 576 00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:58,879 Speaker 1: Knight shoe Dog, you know, Nike, It's like he talks 577 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:02,120 Speaker 1: about how he actually has a room where he keeps 578 00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:04,920 Speaker 1: his books like a library, but he takes his shoes 579 00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:07,320 Speaker 1: off when he enters that room because of the wisdom 580 00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:10,040 Speaker 1: and the weight and the energy and the gravitas he 581 00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:13,040 Speaker 1: believes books hold. And so even as monks, we would 582 00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:15,879 Speaker 1: never wear shoes around books because it was considered shoes 583 00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:18,239 Speaker 1: of dirty and you wear them outdoors, and books are 584 00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 1: so pure that you don't want to take dirt into 585 00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:25,320 Speaker 1: that space and supposedly Phil Knight he does the same thing, 586 00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:29,159 Speaker 1: and I was like Phil Knights, thinking like yeah, but 587 00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,359 Speaker 1: it's just so interesting what you're saying about, like books 588 00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:34,000 Speaker 1: holding energy, Like we believe that books are sacred. You 589 00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:36,040 Speaker 1: don't kick books, you don't keep books on the floor, 590 00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:38,680 Speaker 1: because they have knowledge and they're meant to raise you up. 591 00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:42,880 Speaker 1: Wow wow, wow. Yeah, there's so much in there. I 592 00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:44,480 Speaker 1: want to go through a couple more things to have 593 00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 1: the book, but I'm so fascinated by you. I got 594 00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,840 Speaker 1: a couple of personal things. But one of the things 595 00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:51,360 Speaker 1: you say, look, I've said this before and again, I 596 00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:53,920 Speaker 1: just like the way you approach it with more depth 597 00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:56,240 Speaker 1: than I've covered it before. I just said this this 598 00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:57,800 Speaker 1: week to somebody looked at me like I was crazy, 599 00:28:57,840 --> 00:28:59,320 Speaker 1: and I talked about it. I said, some of your 600 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,760 Speaker 1: low self is steam and your lack of confidence. It's 601 00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:04,240 Speaker 1: actually an ego issue that you have. And the person 602 00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:06,720 Speaker 1: stared back at me, like, how in the world is 603 00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:09,680 Speaker 1: someone with no or low confidence or low self esteem 604 00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:12,280 Speaker 1: struggling from an ego issue? And I don't know that 605 00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:15,160 Speaker 1: I articulated it well enough, although it's in one of 606 00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:17,320 Speaker 1: the podcasts that I've released one of my solo podcasts, 607 00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:20,720 Speaker 1: but you articulated right on, So talk about that for 608 00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,920 Speaker 1: a second. Yeah, it's an interesting concept and it's talked 609 00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,880 Speaker 1: about in the Bugger Gitta, another Monk text, and in 610 00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:31,440 Speaker 1: the book it talks about how like ego is demonstrated 611 00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:34,320 Speaker 1: in two ways. So ego is either I am the 612 00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:37,240 Speaker 1: best in the world and I think I'm better than everyone, 613 00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:41,240 Speaker 1: or ego says you're the worst in the world, You're 614 00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:45,280 Speaker 1: the worst than everyone. You're you're much worse than everyone. 615 00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:48,120 Speaker 1: Or you say my life is the best and the greatest. 616 00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:51,760 Speaker 1: My life is the worst, right, my life is far 617 00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:54,680 Speaker 1: worse than anyone else. So the ego likes to push 618 00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:58,040 Speaker 1: you to the extreme. It doesn't like to give you balance, 619 00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:00,880 Speaker 1: an honesty and reality. It likes to it wants to 620 00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:02,840 Speaker 1: make you feel like you've got the worst life in 621 00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:04,800 Speaker 1: the world and no one else understands that, no one 622 00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:06,880 Speaker 1: gets that only you get and you get the worst. 623 00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:08,479 Speaker 1: Or you're the best and no one else gets you. 624 00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:11,920 Speaker 1: You're you're untouchable, and people miss that, Like, how does 625 00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:14,240 Speaker 1: that make sense? Exactly like you said, but it does 626 00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:17,360 Speaker 1: make sense because the ego wants to be the top 627 00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:20,320 Speaker 1: or the bottom, but the top of the bottom. Yeah, 628 00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:22,680 Speaker 1: it doesn't just want to be at the bottom. Yeah, 629 00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:24,400 Speaker 1: it's gonna be the bottom of the bottom of the bottom, 630 00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:26,640 Speaker 1: but the top of the bottom. Yeah. And so we 631 00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:28,520 Speaker 1: get lost in that and we don't think of it 632 00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:32,240 Speaker 1: as ego. And that's why the only antidote to either 633 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:37,480 Speaker 1: ego is self. Honesty is being honest, and honesty is 634 00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:40,440 Speaker 1: I'm good at these things. I'm great at these things, 635 00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:42,720 Speaker 1: and I suck at these things, right, that's honesty. Like, 636 00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:45,120 Speaker 1: and we could all sit down, me and you could 637 00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:47,760 Speaker 1: sit down with a list of our skills and map 638 00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:50,240 Speaker 1: out what we were great at, what we were averaging at, 639 00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:52,920 Speaker 1: and what we knew we were terrible at. And that's 640 00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:57,280 Speaker 1: honesty that keeps you so away from either ego. Do 641 00:30:57,320 --> 00:30:59,000 Speaker 1: you think part of it too, is that when you're 642 00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:02,640 Speaker 1: suffering from my life is the worst, that you're focusing 643 00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:04,959 Speaker 1: on you, and you're centering on you, And there's an 644 00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:07,360 Speaker 1: ego connection to that too, and that this pathway you 645 00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:10,280 Speaker 1: talked about earlier about getting into the service of other people, yeah, 646 00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:13,960 Speaker 1: removes you from you, which begins to remove the ego. Absolutely. 647 00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:16,000 Speaker 1: I mean, that's a huge point you just made. Right there, 648 00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:18,720 Speaker 1: like you just dropped some serious It's like, you know, 649 00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:22,640 Speaker 1: please don't underestimate that point. Everyone's listening. Like the challenge 650 00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:26,400 Speaker 1: with all self centeredness is that all you then indulge 651 00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:29,520 Speaker 1: yourself and is your own pain. Well, right, you just indulge, 652 00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:32,880 Speaker 1: You just submerge and like immerse yourself in pain because 653 00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:35,240 Speaker 1: it's all about you. Yeah, and you know, I think 654 00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:37,840 Speaker 1: Gandhi said it best is that you find yourself when 655 00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:41,400 Speaker 1: you lose yourself in this service of others. And what 656 00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:45,040 Speaker 1: I love about that statement is that what he means 657 00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:48,479 Speaker 1: by that is and empaths get this mixed up sometimes. 658 00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:50,000 Speaker 1: So I want to clarify because a lot of people 659 00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:52,120 Speaker 1: who are empaths whore listening. Like Jay, I'm always trying 660 00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:54,080 Speaker 1: to help people, but then I get screwed over. So 661 00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:57,600 Speaker 1: here's here's the answer. You're not helping people so that 662 00:31:57,640 --> 00:32:00,280 Speaker 1: they can thank you. You're not helping people so that 663 00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:03,280 Speaker 1: they can be grateful to you. You're helping people because 664 00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:05,400 Speaker 1: you know it's the right thing to do. But more importantly, 665 00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:08,840 Speaker 1: you're helping people because you get to understand an experiment, 666 00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:14,680 Speaker 1: and experience different parts of yourself. When I helped kids 667 00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:17,080 Speaker 1: growing up in India that were that didn't have food 668 00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:19,000 Speaker 1: and we were giving them free food. I learned so 669 00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:21,320 Speaker 1: much about myself when I was able to go and 670 00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:24,040 Speaker 1: give talks that help people, or now I make videos 671 00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:27,480 Speaker 1: or podcasts. You learn more about yourself when you help people. 672 00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:31,200 Speaker 1: You don't learn anything about yourself when you're just sitting 673 00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:34,400 Speaker 1: there filling out a quiz going who am I? What 674 00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:36,040 Speaker 1: am I like? You don't figure it. But you learn 675 00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,840 Speaker 1: about yourself when you help people. And this is what 676 00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:41,120 Speaker 1: we don't realize. I can't remember who said it recently, 677 00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:44,160 Speaker 1: someone saying about Jeff Bezos, but they were saying that, 678 00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:47,600 Speaker 1: you know, the scale at which you succeed is the 679 00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:51,400 Speaker 1: depth of the problem you solve. And so even if 680 00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:54,200 Speaker 1: you look at someone like Jeff Bezos, who's extremely successful, 681 00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:58,479 Speaker 1: he's successful because he's solved a problem that many people have. 682 00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:01,520 Speaker 1: Bill Gates is successful because he's solved a problem. So 683 00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:04,800 Speaker 1: even if you look at monetary success, even if you 684 00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:09,000 Speaker 1: look at financial success, it comes from service. Any success 685 00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:12,160 Speaker 1: comes from service. A musician is famous because they're serving. 686 00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:16,000 Speaker 1: They're serving you by understanding your feelings making music. You 687 00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:19,320 Speaker 1: now full comforted, so you follow them. They have served 688 00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:22,920 Speaker 1: you so don't think of services just charity and giving money, 689 00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:25,240 Speaker 1: which are beautiful things which we all should do. But 690 00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:28,080 Speaker 1: don't just limit your life to thinking I serve on 691 00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:30,880 Speaker 1: the weekends, or I serve once a year. You can 692 00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:34,040 Speaker 1: serve every month. This podcast is a question, right, it's 693 00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:36,840 Speaker 1: your service because you're serving people by giving them an 694 00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:41,200 Speaker 1: alternative to just watching some trash show. But they're actually 695 00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,440 Speaker 1: here learning from you and learning from the people that 696 00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:46,240 Speaker 1: you bring on the show. I've watched you to that point. 697 00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:49,200 Speaker 1: This is a personal thing because I'm such a believer 698 00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:51,640 Speaker 1: that you're you move the needle in the world, that 699 00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:54,040 Speaker 1: you can help change consciousness. I'm in my little way, 700 00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:57,120 Speaker 1: people say, why, in my small way? I would love 701 00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:59,000 Speaker 1: to think I'm a like in that ocean that you 702 00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:01,400 Speaker 1: see out there, like a dp of water and altering 703 00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:05,000 Speaker 1: the consciousness of the world. Just discost not me, but 704 00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:07,440 Speaker 1: who I can share with people in my own messages. 705 00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:10,439 Speaker 1: And I believe you're one of those people. And so 706 00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:13,800 Speaker 1: I will tell you. As I've watched this meteoric rise 707 00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:18,839 Speaker 1: of yours, I've actually privately a few times, not every day, 708 00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:20,840 Speaker 1: but a few times, I've actually prayed for you that 709 00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:24,319 Speaker 1: you would keep this level of humility, and so this 710 00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,360 Speaker 1: is an interesting thing I wanted to ask you, but 711 00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:29,560 Speaker 1: it will serve everybody else. There is this balance, isn't 712 00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:32,680 Speaker 1: there of wanting this book to do well? Right? You 713 00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:34,480 Speaker 1: don't want to sell two copies, you want it to 714 00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:37,839 Speaker 1: do very well. When you put a video out, there's 715 00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:40,080 Speaker 1: probably there's got to be a little part of you 716 00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:42,800 Speaker 1: that's like, how well did it do? And I think 717 00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:45,880 Speaker 1: that line right there. I'm not even sure if you 718 00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:49,920 Speaker 1: or I know the answer entirely, but do you struggle 719 00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:53,040 Speaker 1: with that balance of I'm doing this in the service 720 00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:57,160 Speaker 1: of people, yet I'm sensitive to the response of what 721 00:34:57,200 --> 00:34:59,959 Speaker 1: I'm doing because I think someone listeners right now who's 722 00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,520 Speaker 1: going to have a present sales presentation tomorrow. They want 723 00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:04,439 Speaker 1: to be in the service of that person. But there's 724 00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:06,560 Speaker 1: this part of them that isn't that balance we've talked 725 00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:08,799 Speaker 1: about earlier about what's the response going to be? How 726 00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:10,719 Speaker 1: am I going to be received? I want people to 727 00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:13,720 Speaker 1: like me. I want to how do you navigate that? 728 00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:16,600 Speaker 1: That's a great question, man, that's huge. And the answer 729 00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:20,920 Speaker 1: let's let's take that salesperson. The more time that person 730 00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:28,040 Speaker 1: spends in empathy their customer's pain and what the customers 731 00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:31,920 Speaker 1: really looking for, the better they're going to be received. Yes, 732 00:35:32,560 --> 00:35:37,680 Speaker 1: So that service mindset always helps because if you're thinking 733 00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:39,239 Speaker 1: about and this is what it comes. And I said 734 00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:41,040 Speaker 1: this to my team when we were writing the book 735 00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:43,160 Speaker 1: and everything that I was working, when I said, if 736 00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:46,239 Speaker 1: I sit here right now and all I'm thinking about 737 00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:49,280 Speaker 1: while I'm writing the book is being a best selling book, 738 00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:52,799 Speaker 1: then guess what. I'm now not writing the book. I'm 739 00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:54,560 Speaker 1: now living in the future and I'm not living in 740 00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:57,480 Speaker 1: the present. And so the only way to make this 741 00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:00,400 Speaker 1: the best selling book is to do the process propoly 742 00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:02,279 Speaker 1: and I don't think and this is what I do, 743 00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:03,960 Speaker 1: and this is the only thing that's helping me. And 744 00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:06,600 Speaker 1: again I go through all the time. After my first 745 00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:10,200 Speaker 1: video went viral three or four years ago, I stopped 746 00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:12,759 Speaker 1: creating because of the pressure that I wouldn't be able 747 00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:15,280 Speaker 1: to live up to it. So I actually got scared 748 00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:17,200 Speaker 1: because I was like, oh, well, what if the next 749 00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:19,480 Speaker 1: video doesn't do as well, Everyone's gonna think I'm tanking. 750 00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:22,280 Speaker 1: Like you get into that self doubt and that self 751 00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:23,759 Speaker 1: and I got into that space where I was just 752 00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:26,840 Speaker 1: thank yeah, no, really, like genuinely I didn't want to 753 00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:28,600 Speaker 1: make a video again, because I was like, this video 754 00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:30,759 Speaker 1: just got forty million mus Like, how am I ever 755 00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:32,960 Speaker 1: gonna beat that? Right? And you get scared I'm not 756 00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:34,960 Speaker 1: putting anything out. I'm just gonna stop. And then I 757 00:36:34,960 --> 00:36:36,719 Speaker 1: started to realize it's like, well, now I'm not living 758 00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:39,640 Speaker 1: in service anymore. I'm living out of ego and I'm 759 00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:42,279 Speaker 1: living for feeling a certain way. And guess I'm not 760 00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:45,400 Speaker 1: feeling better by not putting anything out. And actually, if 761 00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:47,160 Speaker 1: I just serve more or learn more. So the way 762 00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:49,600 Speaker 1: I've made sense of it, and there's a verse in 763 00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:52,399 Speaker 1: the GETA that explains it too, is that you have 764 00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:59,040 Speaker 1: full control over the preparation, the process, and the practice, 765 00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:04,560 Speaker 1: but you have no control over the potential result. But 766 00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:07,440 Speaker 1: all of those three things are the result in and 767 00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:10,680 Speaker 1: of themselves. And so if you get addicted to the 768 00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:13,960 Speaker 1: process of writing, the practice of connecting with the right 769 00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:16,840 Speaker 1: people who can help share your work, and yet, like 770 00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:19,280 Speaker 1: you said, I am focused on the process and making 771 00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:21,640 Speaker 1: sure that the most people in the world have the 772 00:37:21,680 --> 00:37:24,840 Speaker 1: opportunity to buy this book. But then if they choose 773 00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:27,480 Speaker 1: not to buy it, I can't control that, but I 774 00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:30,280 Speaker 1: can control making sure that it's in front of everyone, 775 00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,200 Speaker 1: and that I believe in the context, and that to 776 00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:36,600 Speaker 1: me is not attachment, That to me is not eager. 777 00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,680 Speaker 1: That to me is trying to live your best life. 778 00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:41,200 Speaker 1: I mean, like, you know, if you didn't just try, 779 00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:43,040 Speaker 1: if you're like I wrote this book, but who cares? 780 00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:46,480 Speaker 1: I mean, that's not service either because the way I 781 00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:48,880 Speaker 1: explain it, and I'm not claiming that this is it, 782 00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:50,879 Speaker 1: and I'm not trying to say I'm it. I'm trying 783 00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:53,320 Speaker 1: to say that I think we all feel this way. 784 00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:57,680 Speaker 1: If you or me see an amazing movie, we want 785 00:37:57,680 --> 00:37:59,920 Speaker 1: to tell everyone about it. If you read in the 786 00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:02,120 Speaker 1: amazing book, you want to tell everyone about it. If 787 00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,759 Speaker 1: you found the cure to cancer, you tell everyone about it. 788 00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:07,200 Speaker 1: For me, I got to live an incredible life thanks 789 00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,960 Speaker 1: to these amazing teachers I met. I just want to 790 00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:12,040 Speaker 1: tell everyone about it. Like that's all I'm doing. Yes, 791 00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:14,760 Speaker 1: but I want to tell everyone because of how powerful 792 00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:17,319 Speaker 1: it was. Brother, That's the best description I've ever heard of. 793 00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:19,920 Speaker 1: There's this line I've always tried to teach of you 794 00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:21,960 Speaker 1: want to have outcomes, but yet you need to separate 795 00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:24,719 Speaker 1: from them. Yeah, and that's a difficult thing when people 796 00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:27,360 Speaker 1: are trying to achieve different things. That was perfectly stated, 797 00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:31,160 Speaker 1: absolutely being addicted to the process of it, but actually 798 00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:34,600 Speaker 1: separating from what you can't control. I absolutely absolutely love it. 799 00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:37,760 Speaker 1: I'm just curious a couple more questions. Tell us something 800 00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:39,719 Speaker 1: about being a monk and living with them that would 801 00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:43,120 Speaker 1: surprise us. Okay, something about that, So we had we 802 00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:46,000 Speaker 1: had that's a good question. So we had snoring and 803 00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:51,200 Speaker 1: non snoring room. So they try and be compassionate, right, 804 00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:54,359 Speaker 1: so we would. So I'm a non snorer. I don't 805 00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:56,640 Speaker 1: snore when I sleep, and my wife agrees. Now too, 806 00:38:57,239 --> 00:38:59,560 Speaker 1: you validates that. Yeah, I'm in the non snorer room, 807 00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:02,279 Speaker 1: the snoring room. We would always joke around with the 808 00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:05,399 Speaker 1: snorers because we'd always joke about how they all sound 809 00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:07,920 Speaker 1: like different motorcycles. So we'd be like, oh, that guy's 810 00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:11,120 Speaker 1: like a Harley David like that guy. Yeah, yeah, monks 811 00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:14,160 Speaker 1: saying because you're a human and we're playful, and you know, 812 00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:17,640 Speaker 1: it's almost like monklife kind of makes you more childlike, 813 00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:21,920 Speaker 1: not childish, but childlike because you start seeing things for 814 00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:24,400 Speaker 1: what they truly are, and you don't get caught up 815 00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:26,480 Speaker 1: in stuff, so you can laugh at each other, you 816 00:39:26,480 --> 00:39:29,240 Speaker 1: can mess around. Another thing is we had these sacred 817 00:39:29,360 --> 00:39:33,719 Speaker 1: sweets or sacred items that are prepared and offered and 818 00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:35,800 Speaker 1: everyone gets to share them. And you don't eat a 819 00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:37,839 Speaker 1: lot of sugar as monks, and you don't eat sweet stuff. 820 00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:41,120 Speaker 1: But these these kind of natural sweetened items came out 821 00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:44,160 Speaker 1: like once a week, and some monks would wrestle over them, 822 00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:47,360 Speaker 1: like you know, like basically like, oh, who's going to 823 00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:50,880 Speaker 1: get there? So these are the behind the scenes, yeah, 824 00:39:51,840 --> 00:39:54,520 Speaker 1: like monks and normal people, And let's be honest, like 825 00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:56,680 Speaker 1: most people haven't the amongst their whole lives. So it's 826 00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:59,359 Speaker 1: not like, yeah, yeah, it's like I became a monk 827 00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:00,880 Speaker 1: when I was twenty two and I'm not now. My 828 00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:02,759 Speaker 1: friends some of them became monks at twenty two. Some 829 00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:05,560 Speaker 1: of them became monks at thirty. Like it's not like 830 00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:08,320 Speaker 1: there are monks that become monks of five. That does exist, 831 00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:11,359 Speaker 1: but the majority of people now are not doing that. 832 00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,160 Speaker 1: They may even have more time in their life not 833 00:40:13,200 --> 00:40:16,080 Speaker 1: one than they were one exactly exactly. And so for me, yeah, 834 00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:18,120 Speaker 1: I'm glad you asked me that question, because yeah, like 835 00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:22,160 Speaker 1: monks are humorous, they're funny. That's like my teachers are hilarious. 836 00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:25,200 Speaker 1: If I'm with them, I'll just laugh the whole time. Really, yeah, 837 00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:27,280 Speaker 1: because they just see that. And I'd love to introduce 838 00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:29,040 Speaker 1: you to one of my teachers who travels here a lot. 839 00:40:29,120 --> 00:40:31,400 Speaker 1: I would love that. I'd love to introduce you to him. Actually, 840 00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:33,520 Speaker 1: he's run seventy years old and he's been a monk 841 00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:36,759 Speaker 1: for forty years and he grew up in Chicago, so 842 00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:39,520 Speaker 1: he's an American man. He lives in India. It's been 843 00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:42,759 Speaker 1: a month for Freeze, unbelievable. But he is hilarious and 844 00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:45,320 Speaker 1: anytime with him, I don't stop laughing. So well, present 845 00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:48,960 Speaker 1: people are more joyous in and of itself, right, yeah, exactly. 846 00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:51,600 Speaker 1: But you're not dealing yeah, and you're not dealing with 847 00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:53,560 Speaker 1: that that you're not dealing with the baggage of the 848 00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:56,279 Speaker 1: past or the anxiety of the future. So when you 849 00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,920 Speaker 1: are present, you can just laugh. You can be joyous 850 00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:02,200 Speaker 1: and be entertained and enjoy the bliss of the moment. Yeah, dude, 851 00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:03,600 Speaker 1: I want to keep going. So I just want to 852 00:41:03,640 --> 00:41:05,200 Speaker 1: one more thing. Let's give him one more gift because 853 00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:08,080 Speaker 1: you're you're a treasure bro and uh, I want to 854 00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:11,319 Speaker 1: I want you to know that, I want you and 855 00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:13,160 Speaker 1: I to spend some more time together. I would love 856 00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:16,320 Speaker 1: After me today I knew already, but after me and 857 00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:21,879 Speaker 1: you today, you have your energy in person surpasses all expectations, 858 00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:24,959 Speaker 1: which is very like. I mean that like people listener 859 00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:29,319 Speaker 1: is going, Boy, can these guys? I just always wife 860 00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:34,839 Speaker 1: popped out earlier too, He's very too. So Okay, so 861 00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:36,759 Speaker 1: someone would pay a lot of money to do this, 862 00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:38,200 Speaker 1: but I'm gonna let him do it for free. For 863 00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:42,000 Speaker 1: a second, someone says, I'm watching this and I've I 864 00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:45,080 Speaker 1: really have this energy about me after listening to this 865 00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:47,040 Speaker 1: or watching this, and I want to change my life. 866 00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:50,600 Speaker 1: And maybe I don't have super high self esteem right now, 867 00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:53,360 Speaker 1: and potentially I lack a little bit of direction, or 868 00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:54,640 Speaker 1: maybe I know what I want to do, but I 869 00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:56,279 Speaker 1: don't know that I have the confidence to get there. 870 00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:59,680 Speaker 1: If you just want to turn my life around, I 871 00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:01,840 Speaker 1: want to have some of these emotions that it seems 872 00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:04,640 Speaker 1: as if you experience on a pretty regular basis. What 873 00:42:04,760 --> 00:42:07,720 Speaker 1: advice or counsel just in general would you give somebody 874 00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:10,200 Speaker 1: wants to live a better life. Yeah. So one of 875 00:42:10,200 --> 00:42:14,440 Speaker 1: my biggest things, first of all, would be that we 876 00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:17,120 Speaker 1: do this wrong because we do either or or we 877 00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:19,480 Speaker 1: do them in the wrong order. So in life there 878 00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:22,480 Speaker 1: are two aspects that impact everything. I was thinking and 879 00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:26,279 Speaker 1: our actions, and I read a quote the other day 880 00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:28,520 Speaker 1: that was saying that the mistake we make is that 881 00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:32,080 Speaker 1: we either act without thinking or we think without acting. 882 00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:34,960 Speaker 1: And I think that's where most people are. If you're 883 00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:37,160 Speaker 1: feeling stuck or you're like, I'm not sure what I'm 884 00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:39,480 Speaker 1: doing right now, you're either doing too much thinking or 885 00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:41,719 Speaker 1: you're doing too much acting. So you're just doing a 886 00:42:41,719 --> 00:42:43,400 Speaker 1: lot of stuff but you don't know why you're doing it, 887 00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:45,440 Speaker 1: or you're just sitting there procrastinating every day and you're 888 00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:47,839 Speaker 1: doing it. So I'd say it's both. So the first 889 00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:50,600 Speaker 1: thing I would say to you is take a moment 890 00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:55,240 Speaker 1: and speak to three different people. Speak to a family member, 891 00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:58,520 Speaker 1: a friend, and a colleague, and ask them this one question. 892 00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:01,520 Speaker 1: What strengths do I have? What do you think is 893 00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:06,439 Speaker 1: my superpower? What skills do you think I bring? Emotional, strong, soft, hard, 894 00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:09,919 Speaker 1: whatever it is. Do that first, get that sense. Check 895 00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:13,600 Speaker 1: second thing for the next month, Take off every weekend 896 00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:17,200 Speaker 1: eight days, because there's eight Saturdays and Sundays altogether in 897 00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:22,800 Speaker 1: a month, and book a different course workshop seminar online offline, 898 00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:25,320 Speaker 1: Go to an event, shadow a friend, Go and spend 899 00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:27,799 Speaker 1: time with an aunt uncle who's doing the career you want. 900 00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:32,759 Speaker 1: Go and have eight new experiences, and after each of them, 901 00:43:32,800 --> 00:43:36,279 Speaker 1: sit with yourself and ask yourself, did I like that? 902 00:43:36,360 --> 00:43:40,080 Speaker 1: Yes or no? Whether you like to ask yourself why 903 00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:42,319 Speaker 1: did I like it? Or why did I not like it? 904 00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:44,960 Speaker 1: And then ask yourself, would I like to do it again? 905 00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:48,040 Speaker 1: And if the answer is yes, yes, yes, yes, what 906 00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:51,080 Speaker 1: go do it again. And if the answer is no, no, no, 907 00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:53,680 Speaker 1: don't do it again. Leave it out. But if you've 908 00:43:53,680 --> 00:43:55,719 Speaker 1: had eight and this is the problem, we do that 909 00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:59,080 Speaker 1: over a year. We do that over eight years, and 910 00:43:59,160 --> 00:44:03,640 Speaker 1: that's why life slow and boring and lethargic and stuck. 911 00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:06,680 Speaker 1: But it just in the next eight days, in a weekend, 912 00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:09,839 Speaker 1: just test eight new things and you'll have just a 913 00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:12,560 Speaker 1: great experiment. And the worst thing that will happen is 914 00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:14,799 Speaker 1: you'll find eight things that you don't like. But I 915 00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:16,680 Speaker 1: guarantee you that even if you have a sense of 916 00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:19,200 Speaker 1: that reflection in the beginning. And what I don't get 917 00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:21,640 Speaker 1: why we don't do this enough is wow, we do 918 00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:23,960 Speaker 1: it with food and movies all the time. Like you 919 00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:26,759 Speaker 1: just ed, is such a kind man? Like I got 920 00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:28,600 Speaker 1: here slightly late because of traffic, and then he let 921 00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:30,120 Speaker 1: me eat my lunch because I wanted to be full 922 00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:32,520 Speaker 1: of energy. I need to find out where that place 923 00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:34,360 Speaker 1: is because it's local to hear my team got it 924 00:44:34,440 --> 00:44:38,200 Speaker 1: ordered for me. It was amazing, And it's like you 925 00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:40,160 Speaker 1: know when you eat something, whether you like it or not. 926 00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:42,239 Speaker 1: You know when you watch a movie, whether you like 927 00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:43,439 Speaker 1: it or not. You know when you read a book, 928 00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:45,600 Speaker 1: whether you like it or not. But why don't we 929 00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:50,080 Speaker 1: ask ourselves after meeting people, completing projects or going to places. 930 00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:52,840 Speaker 1: Most of us keep meeting people that take our energy, 931 00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:55,680 Speaker 1: most of us keep going to places that drain us 932 00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:57,799 Speaker 1: of our energy, and most of us keep working on 933 00:44:57,880 --> 00:45:02,799 Speaker 1: projects that just distill our energy. All you have to 934 00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:06,759 Speaker 1: do is ask yourself, does this bring me alive? Why 935 00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:08,440 Speaker 1: does it bring me a life? Really important to know 936 00:45:08,560 --> 00:45:10,799 Speaker 1: why it works? And do I want to do it again? 937 00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:15,600 Speaker 1: Deep insight? There? That brother, what do you describe? Right there? 938 00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:18,319 Speaker 1: Everyone is like the ultimate pattern? Interrupt. What he's saying 939 00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:19,600 Speaker 1: is you're going to do this over eight years or 940 00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:20,920 Speaker 1: ten years. If you can just do this in the 941 00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:23,640 Speaker 1: next eight weekends or the next four weekends, eight days, 942 00:45:23,920 --> 00:45:28,240 Speaker 1: what a massive pattern interrupt. Okay, listen, every single person 943 00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:30,640 Speaker 1: who's watching this or listening to this wants more of you. 944 00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:34,800 Speaker 1: If they aren't already, where do they find you? Number one? Yeah, absolutely, 945 00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:37,040 Speaker 1: Come and find me on Instagram at Ja Shetty, Come 946 00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:39,279 Speaker 1: and find me on the podcast on purpose. But if 947 00:45:39,360 --> 00:45:42,960 Speaker 1: you've heard my videos, if you've listened to my podcast, 948 00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:45,799 Speaker 1: and they've had any impact at all, like genuinely, I 949 00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:47,920 Speaker 1: mean that, if it's even had like a tiny bit 950 00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:51,480 Speaker 1: of impact on you, my genuine proposal is read the 951 00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:53,959 Speaker 1: book because it's the next level. I get to break 952 00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:56,040 Speaker 1: it down, and I get to go into the stories, 953 00:45:56,080 --> 00:45:58,880 Speaker 1: the studies and the strategies that really make all of 954 00:45:58,920 --> 00:46:01,560 Speaker 1: this livable and practical. And they can get it everywhere, 955 00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:03,239 Speaker 1: and you can get it everywhere all across the world. 956 00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:07,000 Speaker 1: We've got thirty six languages coming out on my good this. Yeah. 957 00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:09,279 Speaker 1: So I'm so proud of you. I'm so grateful for you. 958 00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:12,120 Speaker 1: I'm so happy for you. Thank you man, I'm genuinely 959 00:46:12,160 --> 00:46:14,200 Speaker 1: this is so much fun. Yeah, I can't wait for 960 00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:16,680 Speaker 1: lots of more offline conversations. It flew by, didn't it. 961 00:46:16,719 --> 00:46:18,840 Speaker 1: If I don't mean like, I don't even know how 962 00:46:18,880 --> 00:46:21,000 Speaker 1: long we've been talking about, so this is what I wish. 963 00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:22,640 Speaker 1: We could go another hour, but Bro, I want to 964 00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:25,480 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you so much. I'm just I'm grateful. No, 965 00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:28,920 Speaker 1: I'm very good. Well, okay, everybody, I told you it'd 966 00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:30,680 Speaker 1: be great. Y'all told me it would be and it 967 00:46:30,760 --> 00:46:33,719 Speaker 1: exceeded my expectations. So please go get the book and 968 00:46:33,760 --> 00:46:36,480 Speaker 1: follow Jay on his social media YouTube everywhere, and keep 969 00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:37,439 Speaker 1: doing it with me as well,