WEBVTT - THE PREGNANCY EPISODE

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hello, Hi, this is Madeline.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi Madeline, how are you good?

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<v Speaker 3>How are you?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm doing good man? What are you? What are you doing?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm at work right now, but I'm just taking a break, Marilyn.

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<v Speaker 2>Is there anything in particularly called in to talk about?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah. So over Christmas break, my boyfriend was like

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<v Speaker 1>having Christmas with his family, and his aunt kind of

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<v Speaker 1>joked about like, hey, if you ever get your girlfriend pregnant, like,

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<v Speaker 1>don't get an abortion, we'll take it because they are

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<v Speaker 1>I'm looking for another child. They can't have children, so

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<v Speaker 1>they're looking to adopt, but the adoption agency that they

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<v Speaker 1>were with just like closed down or something. So she

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<v Speaker 1>was just joking about it. But then later on she

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<v Speaker 1>was like, like, we're actually looking for a surrogate too,

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<v Speaker 1>would Madeline be interested? And he was like, ha ha,

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<v Speaker 1>that's funny. But then he mentioned it to me and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, actually, I could do that. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if it's a created idea because I'm nineteen, but.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're considering being a surrogate mother for your boyfriend's aunt. Yes, interesting, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>And who approached you with this idea? Was it it

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<v Speaker 2>was the aunt? It was your boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>It was my boyfriend. I wasn't like at the Christmas

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<v Speaker 1>event with them, it was just the.

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<v Speaker 2>Family, Okay. And is this something that you talked to

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<v Speaker 2>your boyfriend's aunt about at length?

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<v Speaker 1>No, not at all.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, you haven't even brought up the idea of it

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<v Speaker 2>to her. No, okay, And you're considering doing so.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm just trying to decide whether or not like

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<v Speaker 1>a good idea because I am only nineteen.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. So I mean let's start with this. You seem

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<v Speaker 2>to have an interest in doing it. Where is that

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<v Speaker 2>interest coming from?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well, I really, well, I really feel for her

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<v Speaker 1>because she is infertile and she really loves kids, Like

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<v Speaker 1>she has a daughter who's six right now, and she

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<v Speaker 1>was adopted and she really wants a younger brother for

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<v Speaker 1>her daughter, brother or sister. And I really feel for her,

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<v Speaker 1>and I feel like if I could be that person

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<v Speaker 1>to help her, like, why not?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay? So you want to do it, you know, simply

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<v Speaker 2>as a charitable act for this person who you feel for.

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<v Speaker 4>Right, right, okay?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>And I feel like I'm in the perfect position in

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<v Speaker 1>life because I just like took a gap semester in college.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, when you took this gap semester in college. What

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<v Speaker 2>were you initially planning to do during that time?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? So I took it because I wanted to focus

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<v Speaker 1>on my art more. I I made like a commissioned

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<v Speaker 1>thing for somebody, and I was like, Yo, what if

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<v Speaker 1>I could do this like more? But I didn't have

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<v Speaker 1>the time while I was in school, So I took

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<v Speaker 1>a gap semester.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. And I mean, do you feel as though you

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<v Speaker 2>will still be able to accomplish those goals while you

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<v Speaker 2>are also being a surrogate mother?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I've had like trouble finding motivation to accomplish those

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<v Speaker 1>schools in general since I've dropped out of college. But

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<v Speaker 1>so I don't know, I feel like this will maybe

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<v Speaker 1>get me on a better track. No, okay, it'll get

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<v Speaker 1>me off certain things that I probably shouldn't be on

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<v Speaker 1>in general.

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<v Speaker 3>Like what.

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<v Speaker 1>Like drugs and alcohol nicotine?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay? So you want to use this also as some

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<v Speaker 2>way to motivate you in getting your your shit together?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like a lifestyle chaine Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>And what kind of research have you done into into

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<v Speaker 2>motherhood of what it's like being pregnant?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, So I do you know, like the

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<v Speaker 1>list on TikTok the trend I don't know no what

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<v Speaker 1>is that, but like there's like a girl with the

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<v Speaker 1>list and it's like a list of a thousand things

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<v Speaker 1>that are wrong with pregnancy that could go wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, okay, I'm.

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<v Speaker 1>Pretty up todated on that TikTok account and that's that

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<v Speaker 1>kind of scare me that's gonna lear.

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<v Speaker 2>But Okay, So when you see this list of of

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<v Speaker 2>of ways that a pregnancy could go bad, does it

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<v Speaker 2>make you not want to be a surrogate mother? No?

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<v Speaker 1>Because honestly, my mom had five kids in the span

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<v Speaker 1>of six years, so I feel like if she can

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<v Speaker 1>do it, I can, right.

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<v Speaker 2>So I mean, listen, Madaly, you know, I'm not going

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<v Speaker 2>to tell you what to do, but I mean, this

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<v Speaker 2>is a big, big decision to, you know, carry somebody

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<v Speaker 2>else's baby. I mean, how long have you can? I

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<v Speaker 2>ask you? I want to know. I want to know this.

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<v Speaker 2>How much of this is based off of your connection

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<v Speaker 2>to your boyfriends?

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<v Speaker 5>Right?

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<v Speaker 2>Like would you do this for just a random person?

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<v Speaker 3>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>That's interesting? Yeah, I mean We've been dating for two

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<v Speaker 1>years and I've got to know his family pretty well.

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm. Okay, so you feel like your love of

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<v Speaker 2>his family is an influence, yeah for sure. Okay, how

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<v Speaker 2>much of an influence.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think they deserve another kid?

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<v Speaker 2>For sure is probably yeah, a big influence. Okay, So

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<v Speaker 2>I have a couple of things. Again, you know, at

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<v Speaker 2>the end of the day, you know, it's your body,

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<v Speaker 2>it's your life. You can make your own decisions. But

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<v Speaker 2>the thing is, you know, you've only been dating this

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<v Speaker 2>guy for two years, and even though you you really

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<v Speaker 2>like his boyfriend's family, those relationships are you know, they

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<v Speaker 2>can go in any sort of different way. So you know,

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<v Speaker 2>to to to take on some bodies surrogate child and

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<v Speaker 2>really dedicate nine months of your life, you know, to

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<v Speaker 2>to being private, which is really tough. And and you

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<v Speaker 2>know I haven't seen this TikTok of this list of

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<v Speaker 2>a thousand things, but you know you have, and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>sure that the list shows you other things about it

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<v Speaker 2>that are tough, and so really we should look you

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<v Speaker 2>should look it up. Really just if you could, if

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<v Speaker 2>you could take into consideration, uh, your life as it

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<v Speaker 2>looks right now, and uh, what would be best for you.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's great, okay that you want to do

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<v Speaker 2>something nice for someone, you know, I think that that

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<v Speaker 2>that that shows that you have empathy, uh, and that

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<v Speaker 2>you want to do nice things for the people. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that that's a good thing to do. But I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>this is a big thing, right, It's a big thing.

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<v Speaker 2>And and and I think, I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>How would you say this compares to like that a

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<v Speaker 1>stranger doing it for somebody?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I think that there's a lot more that could

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<v Speaker 2>potentially go wrong with it being one of the members

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<v Speaker 2>of your boyfriend's family, because you've got no idea what's

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<v Speaker 2>going to go on with you know, you and your boyfriends.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, right, right, Yeah, So.

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<v Speaker 2>I would really consider this, Madeline, because you, especially at

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<v Speaker 2>you know, nineteen, man, you got to do what's right

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<v Speaker 2>for you. You know. Again, I think it's I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>nice that you want to help this person who you

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<v Speaker 2>really feel for. But I think at this moment, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you need to make the decision that you know sets

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<v Speaker 2>you up for success in your life. And I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if this is it, but again, it's your decision.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, Okay, I definitely need to think about it more.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Hey, what what what has your conversation with your

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<v Speaker 2>boyfriend been like about this?

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<v Speaker 1>He's definitely more interested in the financial bonus that it

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<v Speaker 1>would give, because like I am pretty broke, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>so it would it would help.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, When when he says he's interested in the financial bonus,

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<v Speaker 2>does that mean does that mean he expects to reap

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<v Speaker 2>some of that financial benefits?

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<v Speaker 4>Kinda, he did ask me to pay for like a

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<v Speaker 4>semester of his school, Okay, but I mean he has

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<v Speaker 4>to pay for.

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<v Speaker 1>His own schooling, so I kind of get it. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's expensive.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. I don't like to tell people what to do.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to tell you do not give you, do

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<v Speaker 2>not do not be your boyfriend's aunts. Sorry, get mother

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<v Speaker 2>to make money to pay for ale to go to school.

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<v Speaker 2>Please don't do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, no, I didn't think about it that way.

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<v Speaker 2>When you put it that way, okay, And don't pay

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<v Speaker 2>for your boyfriend. Don't pay for your boyfriend's school at all.

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<v Speaker 2>I would like at nine. You know, look, if you're

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<v Speaker 2>in like a very adult long term relationship and you

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<v Speaker 2>want to make an informed decision to invest in the

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<v Speaker 2>life of your partner, then you know, do whatever you

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<v Speaker 2>feel with your money in your life. But I just

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<v Speaker 2>think right now is a terrible decision to do you

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<v Speaker 2>to you know, do that I especially your life is

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<v Speaker 2>so undeveloped right now that you know all of your

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<v Speaker 2>time and resources should be spent you know, on yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>For sure. But like I've struggled with, like finding the

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<v Speaker 1>motivation to start that you know in general.

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmmm. And you know what, Listen, I understand that

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<v Speaker 2>I understand that you have the motivation, and I understand

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<v Speaker 2>that you're looking at this as a potential catalyst to

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<v Speaker 2>get you started on on doing what you want to do.

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<v Speaker 2>But before you make that decision, can you at least

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<v Speaker 2>consider other ideas? Have you considered? You seem to be

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<v Speaker 2>having this motivation problem which you know I have, which

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of people have, is a common problem, and

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<v Speaker 2>you're you're your for and you know, tell me if

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<v Speaker 2>I'm if I'm wrong, or if I'm putting words in

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<v Speaker 2>the mouth in your mouth, But it sounds like you're

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<v Speaker 2>looking for ways to uh get yourself in a more

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<v Speaker 2>motivated mindset and this could possibly be one for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you explored? Is that is that accurate?

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<v Speaker 1>That's so true? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay? Have you explored alternative options?

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<v Speaker 1>No? I have not, honestly.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Before you decide to get pregnant as a way

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<v Speaker 2>to jump start your life and get the motivation you want.

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<v Speaker 2>I I encourage you to look into other options because

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<v Speaker 2>you know that.

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<v Speaker 4>That's what What would you suggest.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to think about that? Would I suggest? Well,

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<v Speaker 2>what do you want to be motivated to do?

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<v Speaker 3>Well?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to get started on my art career.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, some more art.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to think about other options here. I mean, like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, I don't know if I have anything

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<v Speaker 2>off the top of my head, except like fucking read

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<v Speaker 2>self help books and stuff that helped a lot for

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<v Speaker 2>me when I was trying to get motivated to do things,

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<v Speaker 2>or you know, I don't know, dude, having a friend

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<v Speaker 2>who's trying to do something similar and you guys team

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<v Speaker 2>up and motivate each other, or going to art classes

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<v Speaker 2>or joining weekly meetup groups, or getting a life coach,

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<v Speaker 2>or you know. I mean, those are just random things.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll spit along here, but I would put all of

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<v Speaker 2>them above becoming a surrogate mother for your boyfriend's aunts. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>No, that's actually a really good idea. My best friend

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<v Speaker 1>is moving in with me in a couple of days actually,

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<v Speaker 1>so she'll be a great help I think for that.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, good good, and listen, you know we've talked on

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<v Speaker 2>the phone for ten minutes. I'm not going to pretend

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<v Speaker 2>like I know you and your boyfriend's relationship. But if

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<v Speaker 2>you really get the sense that your boyfriends is a

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<v Speaker 2>tempting to make money off of you by having you

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<v Speaker 2>be his aunt's surrogate mother h bye, so that he

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<v Speaker 2>can pay for school, I don't know if that's what's happening.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to say that that what's happening, but

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<v Speaker 2>you should you should look into that if that's what

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<v Speaker 2>you suspect is happening.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, yeah, well, I feel like I should say he

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't like, yo, Madamin, and like you should totally do this.

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<v Speaker 1>My aunt said this and you should do it. No,

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<v Speaker 1>he was like, yo, my aunt said this, like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even know if she was serious. And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, like that could actually work.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, it was more my idea than his.

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<v Speaker 1>And he was like, oh, like the funny age plastic

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<v Speaker 1>would be nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, okay, all right, again, I don't want to put

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<v Speaker 2>that in your boyfriend's mouth because I don't know the

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<v Speaker 2>actual situation, but just If you can get anything out

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<v Speaker 2>of this call, it would be to explore, it would

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<v Speaker 2>be to I'll leave you with this as the final

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<v Speaker 2>sum up of this. Okay, think about what your motivations

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<v Speaker 2>are in wanting to be a surrogate mother for your

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<v Speaker 2>boyfriend's aunt. Okay, really boil that down to the simplest

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<v Speaker 2>of those motivations, and then think of other ways to

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<v Speaker 2>achieve those motivations. Gotcha, Does that make sense?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Madeline, is there anything else you want to say

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<v Speaker 2>to the people of the computer before we go?

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<v Speaker 1>Not much. I'm gonna go with some of the rest

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<v Speaker 1>of the stream.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, cool, Thank you very much, Madeline. Good luck to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks Jack.

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<v Speaker 2>It is becoming harder and harder to tell people to

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<v Speaker 2>not tell people what to do on these phone calls,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm trying to stick to it. Yes, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>that's she had an interesting conundrum here because she was

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<v Speaker 2>having these motivation problems. She's like, I want to do this.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to jump start my art career. I've always

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<v Speaker 2>been a big fan of like taking the motivations for

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<v Speaker 2>your actions and boiling them down to really simple things

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<v Speaker 2>and then seeing if you can get them in other places.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I'm saying. So she wants to have

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit more structure or I don't know, like

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<v Speaker 2>like responsibility. Maybe maybe that's what she was looking for,

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<v Speaker 2>like something to just hold her accountable to like go

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<v Speaker 2>do things in life. And I get why that can be.

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<v Speaker 2>And then, you know, that's a thing that I think

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of people need. I need it for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I can very easily spend an entire day

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<v Speaker 2>doing absolutely nothing and jerking off and smoking weed all

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<v Speaker 2>day if I don't have some kind of outside thing,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, compelling me not to do those things. And

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<v Speaker 2>I think maybe that's what she was looking for, is

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<v Speaker 2>something outside of herself to you know, motivate her to

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<v Speaker 2>get her wheel spinning. But I think that there are

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<v Speaker 2>far less drastic options or methods of achieving that, and

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<v Speaker 2>I hope she finds one that works for her.

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<v Speaker 5>Hello. Hello, Hi, is it Slole?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? Is this Andrew?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes?

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<v Speaker 5>This is me. I'm here.

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<v Speaker 2>What's going on? What's going on? Andrew?

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<v Speaker 5>Not much? Just chilling out, trying to have a relaxing Monday,

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<v Speaker 5>getting over a cold.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, And what is it that you wanted to call

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<v Speaker 2>in and talk about?

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<v Speaker 5>I was just wondering your opinion on kind of a

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<v Speaker 5>difficult decision that I've been contemplating over the last few years.

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<v Speaker 5>Ever since I was in like seventh grade. I think

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<v Speaker 5>I started like collecting images from the Internet of pregnant

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<v Speaker 5>NTI and it's kind of become a bit of a problem,

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<v Speaker 5>or at least I foresee it being a potential problem

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<v Speaker 5>in the future. I think at this point, I have

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<v Speaker 5>a hard drive with about eighty thousand images on it,

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<v Speaker 5>and I've dumped for probably far too many hours than

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<v Speaker 5>I'd like to even think about into that project. And

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<v Speaker 5>I've also done like sketching in a full sketch book

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<v Speaker 5>of artwork that I've made, and done sculptures as well.

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<v Speaker 5>But I just can't seem to get rid of this stuff.

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<v Speaker 5>Like I, you know, kind of just have this weird

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<v Speaker 5>fascination because I feel like the pregnant female figure is

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<v Speaker 5>just a beautiful form in the femininity of it, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>the feature that masculinity can never come close to, because

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<v Speaker 5>it's the equal opposite kind of in like an artistic sense.

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<v Speaker 5>But it's also kind of a little a little bit

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<v Speaker 5>of a turn on. But it's not something that I

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<v Speaker 5>specifically seek out as like a sexual thing all the time. However,

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<v Speaker 5>after collecting all of this content that I've produced and

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<v Speaker 5>that I've gathered from the Internet over the last decade,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know what to do with it now because

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<v Speaker 5>of the moment I'm in a relationship, and I'm absolutely

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<v Speaker 5>petrified that either my girlfriend or anybody in my family

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<v Speaker 5>is going to find out about this, and I don't

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<v Speaker 5>think that any of them are ready for it. And

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think that the world is very much of

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<v Speaker 5>an accepting place for something like that, at least from

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<v Speaker 5>what I've seen.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, all right, I have a couple of questions from

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<v Speaker 2>your perspective. Why do you think that the world is

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<v Speaker 2>not an accepting place for something like that?

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know, because every single time I'm on Reddit

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<v Speaker 5>for a pregnant HENTI forum thread, like our splash pregnant

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<v Speaker 5>anti got shut down and now there's a new one,

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<v Speaker 5>so like, it's not something that people on the internet

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<v Speaker 5>kind of want around all the time necessary unless you're

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<v Speaker 5>in that group of people who are looking for that content.

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<v Speaker 5>At least that's how I kind of feel from stuff

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<v Speaker 5>like that getting shut down, own or canceled constantly, and

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<v Speaker 5>it's not I'm not doing anyone any harm, and I'm

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<v Speaker 5>not thinking of it in like a sadistic, messed up way,

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<v Speaker 5>like I want to impregnate real people. But it's it's

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<v Speaker 5>the imagery of it, you know, more more the cartoon version,

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<v Speaker 5>the animated, not the real life necessarily. But I feel

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<v Speaker 5>like that plays into appreciating the beauty of people in

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<v Speaker 5>the real world as well. However, It's not like i'd

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<v Speaker 5>go out of my way to date someone because they're pregnant.

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<v Speaker 5>That's not at all the case. But if I were

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<v Speaker 5>to get my girlfriend pregnant, then I almost kind of

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<v Speaker 5>at the same time feel well, it's beautiful, and I

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<v Speaker 5>would be interested in that and in the you know,

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<v Speaker 5>not for the fetish, but for the full creating a

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<v Speaker 5>family experience with her. That would be great. But I'm

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<v Speaker 5>also really afraid of that because she's not willing to

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<v Speaker 5>have children, because she doesn't want to have to go

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<v Speaker 5>through all of that, and she's kind of terrified of

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<v Speaker 5>the idea. And I don't want her to think that

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<v Speaker 5>I have some need and I'm going to, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>try and force that upon her somehow if that's not

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<v Speaker 5>what she wants to do. I don't even want to

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<v Speaker 5>give her the idea that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's let me let me all right. So you're afraid

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<v Speaker 2>that are you in a relationship right now? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, that's a pretty good one too, which is why

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<v Speaker 5>I'm afraid that she finds in my room.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me, let me hold on, let me all right.

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<v Speaker 2>You're in a relationship right now, and your girlfriend, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>does not want to have a child. No, okay, And

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<v Speaker 2>so you're afraid that if your girlfriend sees all the

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<v Speaker 2>pregnant porn, she'll assume you want her to get pregnant

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<v Speaker 2>because you have this pregnancy thing whatever you would call it,

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<v Speaker 2>but you do, and you don't want her to think

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<v Speaker 2>that you're like pushing your fantasy onto her, because that's

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<v Speaker 2>not what's happening here.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah. And I think because she has this position where

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<v Speaker 5>she's kind of in a weird space about it, I'm

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<v Speaker 5>afraid if she figured out then she thinks that I'm,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, this weird creep for having that interest or something.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, how long have you been with this person before?

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<v Speaker 5>Currently for four years?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, you've been with this girl for four years?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, do you see a future with with this person?

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<v Speaker 5>I think so? Yeah, Yeah, she's really great and I

0:24:04.520 --> 0:24:06.520
<v Speaker 5>love spending time with her, and we share a lot

0:24:06.560 --> 0:24:07.040
<v Speaker 5>in common.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, And I think and you feel free to do

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<v Speaker 2>whatever you want with your life, but I think if

0:24:20.040 --> 0:24:23.760
<v Speaker 2>you're going to life is short, and if you're going

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<v Speaker 2>to devote significant amounts of time to a relationship, four

0:24:31.359 --> 0:24:33.000
<v Speaker 2>years is a lot of time. And if you want

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<v Speaker 2>the future to continue, then you know you'll probably be

0:24:38.640 --> 0:24:43.080
<v Speaker 2>devoting a lot more time. I think it is important

0:24:43.920 --> 0:24:48.000
<v Speaker 2>to have a partner who you know, again, as long

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<v Speaker 2>as you're not doing anything that is truly heinous, to

0:24:53.119 --> 0:25:01.800
<v Speaker 2>have a partner who is understanding, who is understanding and

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<v Speaker 2>accepting of, you know, these kinds of parts of you.

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<v Speaker 2>So ideally, if your partner sees that you're into pregnant

0:25:13.320 --> 0:25:17.840
<v Speaker 2>hint type hoorn, maybe it would take her a second.

0:25:17.920 --> 0:25:21.720
<v Speaker 2>You know, let's give her a second. But ideally, if

0:25:21.720 --> 0:25:27.880
<v Speaker 2>she loves you, she could be accepting of that. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>tell me, is your fear true that she would not

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<v Speaker 2>be accepting of this?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, well, I'm afraid that she's gonna see all of

0:25:39.720 --> 0:25:43.400
<v Speaker 5>the files on my hard drive and all of the

0:25:43.560 --> 0:25:46.439
<v Speaker 5>drawings and stuff that I've made, and especially the drawings

0:25:46.840 --> 0:25:49.679
<v Speaker 5>because then she'll feel like, you know, I'm not just

0:25:49.760 --> 0:25:53.840
<v Speaker 5>collecting this stuff passively. I'm actively creating a part of

0:25:53.880 --> 0:25:56.640
<v Speaker 5>the pool of this content on the internet.

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<v Speaker 2>You would be afraid that you would see that you're

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<v Speaker 2>creating hent type porn.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I have, like, all.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, what's wrong? But let me ask what's wrong with

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<v Speaker 2>creating hent type porn.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know exactly that's what I'm saying, but I'm

0:26:16.880 --> 0:26:21.840
<v Speaker 5>afraid that she'll see that because she's against it. And

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<v Speaker 5>then I mean, she's pretty accepting, So I don't know honestly,

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<v Speaker 5>But it's that fear that's causing me to feel like

0:26:28.520 --> 0:26:31.040
<v Speaker 5>there's that potential danger. But I don't want to get

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<v Speaker 5>rid of any of this stuff either. Okay, it just

0:26:34.480 --> 0:26:36.399
<v Speaker 5>kind of kept me in like a constant state of

0:26:36.440 --> 0:26:38.440
<v Speaker 5>paranoia over it every single.

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<v Speaker 2>Time anywhere near my computer or hold on, all right,

0:26:45.400 --> 0:26:47.800
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna I'm gonna sum up a few things. You

0:26:47.800 --> 0:26:51.480
<v Speaker 2>you're in a constant state of fear and paranoia that

0:26:51.600 --> 0:26:55.119
<v Speaker 2>your partner will find this thing out about you and

0:26:55.119 --> 0:26:59.520
<v Speaker 2>and uh it will cause them to judge you and

0:26:59.600 --> 0:27:02.760
<v Speaker 2>think less of you and not want to be with

0:27:02.800 --> 0:27:07.560
<v Speaker 2>you anymore. You believe that your partner, however, is a

0:27:07.680 --> 0:27:09.040
<v Speaker 2>non judgmental person.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, mostly so, I mean she knows that collect

0:27:16.359 --> 0:27:19.399
<v Speaker 5>hand tie. She she sees there's you know, comic books

0:27:19.400 --> 0:27:23.439
<v Speaker 5>from faku in my in my room, but she doesn't

0:27:23.440 --> 0:27:27.840
<v Speaker 5>see any of the other stuff that's not kind of vanilla. Okay,

0:27:30.760 --> 0:27:31.480
<v Speaker 5>and that's where.

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<v Speaker 4>I have.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, Andrew, I'm I'm not going to tell you what

0:27:38.160 --> 0:27:44.919
<v Speaker 2>to do, but I'll leave it at this. If this,

0:27:45.119 --> 0:27:46.520
<v Speaker 2>if you're like, see the future of this person. You

0:27:46.560 --> 0:27:48.359
<v Speaker 2>don't get married to this person. You want this person

0:27:48.800 --> 0:27:53.560
<v Speaker 2>to be in your life, it should be somebody who

0:27:53.600 --> 0:27:55.960
<v Speaker 2>you are fully comfortable with sharing all the parts of you.

0:27:56.800 --> 0:28:02.360
<v Speaker 2>So mhmm, I mean, find it. I think you should, just.

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<v Speaker 5>Like, I just don't know when to bring that up.

0:28:04.000 --> 0:28:09.320
<v Speaker 4>Though, What if you do, Like, because if.

0:28:08.920 --> 0:28:10.879
<v Speaker 5>I'm going to talk to her about it so that

0:28:10.960 --> 0:28:14.040
<v Speaker 5>she knows and I don't have to continue to feel

0:28:14.080 --> 0:28:17.840
<v Speaker 5>this fear that she'll find out accidentally, Like, I don't

0:28:17.840 --> 0:28:20.640
<v Speaker 5>know if I should bring it up to her at random,

0:28:21.359 --> 0:28:25.560
<v Speaker 5>or if I should you know, wait until we're further

0:28:25.600 --> 0:28:29.480
<v Speaker 5>into the relationship and then maybe you know it. Eventually

0:28:29.680 --> 0:28:32.840
<v Speaker 5>she changes her mind and she wants that kids.

0:28:32.760 --> 0:28:38.560
<v Speaker 2>Okay, my friends, you're four years into the relationship. I

0:28:38.560 --> 0:28:45.480
<v Speaker 2>don't know what you're waiting for. When you put it

0:28:45.480 --> 0:28:49.480
<v Speaker 2>that way, I can hear you're four years into the relationship.

0:28:49.680 --> 0:28:53.200
<v Speaker 2>And also you're waiting. I know you're waiting for the

0:28:53.320 --> 0:28:56.400
<v Speaker 2>time in which you don't feel the fear of having

0:28:56.400 --> 0:28:59.800
<v Speaker 2>the conversation. It's never going to happen. There is not

0:28:59.840 --> 0:29:03.280
<v Speaker 2>a future version of yourself that will not be feeling

0:29:03.360 --> 0:29:06.920
<v Speaker 2>the fear of wanting to have this conversation. So just

0:29:06.920 --> 0:29:07.440
<v Speaker 2>have it now.

0:29:11.520 --> 0:29:15.760
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I mean, I just don't know how to start

0:29:15.800 --> 0:29:16.240
<v Speaker 5>it though.

0:29:17.960 --> 0:29:22.840
<v Speaker 2>Hey, honey, I want to show you something. See this

0:29:22.920 --> 0:29:30.560
<v Speaker 2>hard drive eighty thousand images of pregnant anime women. What

0:29:30.600 --> 0:29:31.400
<v Speaker 2>do you think about that?

0:29:36.760 --> 0:29:38.560
<v Speaker 5>And I guess I really could just rip it off

0:29:38.600 --> 0:29:39.320
<v Speaker 5>like the band aid.

0:29:43.080 --> 0:29:44.400
<v Speaker 2>Let's say, Andrews, is there anything else you want to

0:29:44.440 --> 0:29:45.840
<v Speaker 2>say to the people of the computer before you go?

0:29:50.920 --> 0:29:52.400
<v Speaker 5>Wish me luck and faith.

0:29:55.080 --> 0:29:58.560
<v Speaker 2>Good luck. I'm please do please, do take care.

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<v Speaker 5>Man, appreciate it. Thank you, have a good night you too.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, maybe the way I told him to do it

0:30:05.160 --> 0:30:10.720
<v Speaker 2>was a little bit bold, but was it really? Was it? Really?

0:30:12.440 --> 0:30:14.640
<v Speaker 2>Maybe this is something that you need to be bold

0:30:14.640 --> 0:30:22.040
<v Speaker 2>about here's you know, I've I've I've been thinking about

0:30:22.040 --> 0:30:24.480
<v Speaker 2>this a lot. I've been thinking about this a lot.

0:30:24.760 --> 0:30:27.600
<v Speaker 2>I think if somebody really I don't I don't know,

0:30:27.680 --> 0:30:30.360
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I think if somebody who really likes you,

0:30:31.360 --> 0:30:34.120
<v Speaker 2>they won't care about a lot of shit like that.

0:30:35.840 --> 0:30:39.040
<v Speaker 2>I think, if somebody really likes you, they won't care

0:30:39.840 --> 0:30:45.120
<v Speaker 2>about a lot of shit like that. Because, again, what,

0:30:45.360 --> 0:30:48.280
<v Speaker 2>I don't think that there's anything inherently wrong with the

0:30:48.360 --> 0:30:53.440
<v Speaker 2>consumption and production of pregnant to anime porn. Do I

0:30:53.440 --> 0:30:56.320
<v Speaker 2>think there's anything wrong in terms of things that it

0:30:56.400 --> 0:31:00.520
<v Speaker 2>might do to negatively affect the consumer? Probably? Is there

0:31:00.520 --> 0:31:04.520
<v Speaker 2>anything ethically wrong with it that might, you know, make

0:31:04.600 --> 0:31:08.200
<v Speaker 2>somebody look frown upon somebody else in a relationship. Probably not.

0:31:12.120 --> 0:31:14.160
<v Speaker 2>But I just this guy's living with all this fear

0:31:14.280 --> 0:31:17.760
<v Speaker 2>of his girlfriend finding his hard drive, and it's like,

0:31:18.000 --> 0:31:22.200
<v Speaker 2>either she's going to find it or I don't know.

0:31:22.280 --> 0:31:25.200
<v Speaker 2>I see a situation for this guy where he shows

0:31:25.240 --> 0:31:29.280
<v Speaker 2>her everything and she goes, I don't care. You know,

0:31:29.400 --> 0:31:34.440
<v Speaker 2>I love you, and do whatever you want. Just don't,

0:31:34.680 --> 0:31:37.720
<v Speaker 2>you know, draw anything fucked up and then think about

0:31:37.760 --> 0:31:44.000
<v Speaker 2>how much better he'll feel. Okay, I'll take another call. Hello, Lyle, Hi,

0:31:44.120 --> 0:31:45.960
<v Speaker 2>who is this?

0:31:45.960 --> 0:31:55.160
<v Speaker 3>This is Grandma. It's beasting girls. Grandma, Okay, saying I Grandma.

0:31:55.200 --> 0:31:56.760
<v Speaker 3>I want to talk to grandma.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, what is grand But.

0:32:01.320 --> 0:32:07.160
<v Speaker 3>My granddaughter came to Philadelphia instead on a cake on

0:32:07.200 --> 0:32:08.120
<v Speaker 3>your stage.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes I remember that?

0:32:10.040 --> 0:32:10.920
<v Speaker 3>Remember that?

0:32:11.480 --> 0:32:13.320
<v Speaker 2>Of course? Yes I do. I do remember that.

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<v Speaker 3>Can you explain to me in therapy terms why she

0:32:19.000 --> 0:32:19.720
<v Speaker 3>would do that?

0:32:20.520 --> 0:32:24.200
<v Speaker 2>Can I explain to you in therapy terms, why your

0:32:24.440 --> 0:32:28.360
<v Speaker 2>granddaughter would come to my live show and sit on

0:32:28.400 --> 0:32:29.680
<v Speaker 2>a cake in front of people?

0:32:30.960 --> 0:32:32.440
<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I can. I don't know if

0:32:34.480 --> 0:32:37.880
<v Speaker 2>I can explained in therapy terms. But I mean, I

0:32:38.480 --> 0:32:41.320
<v Speaker 2>don't know if I true, I could not explain any

0:32:41.400 --> 0:32:45.360
<v Speaker 2>any you know, better than she could because it was,

0:32:45.400 --> 0:32:47.760
<v Speaker 2>you know, her decision that she made. I mean, it

0:32:47.840 --> 0:32:50.920
<v Speaker 2>was entertaining. Everybody there enjoyed it.

0:32:51.160 --> 0:32:51.560
<v Speaker 3>I think.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I never said, I never said you were mad?

0:32:54.400 --> 0:32:55.600
<v Speaker 2>But listen, what is your name?

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<v Speaker 3>My name is Lady Fond. I actually am yep, I'm

0:33:03.840 --> 0:33:08.040
<v Speaker 3>a lady Fawn, and I am actually a sixty eight

0:33:08.120 --> 0:33:12.000
<v Speaker 3>year old, and I really am her grandmother. And I

0:33:12.040 --> 0:33:17.320
<v Speaker 3>have a master's degree. I used to do purchasing wood

0:33:17.360 --> 0:33:21.640
<v Speaker 3>in My master's degree was in purchaser or in business,

0:33:21.760 --> 0:33:27.440
<v Speaker 3>but I did contracts for major corporations for a living.

0:33:27.560 --> 0:33:28.320
<v Speaker 3>I'm retired.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, Okay, what's your life like these days?

0:33:35.800 --> 0:33:39.680
<v Speaker 3>Let's see. Well, I have my granddaughter living with me.

0:33:40.640 --> 0:33:45.080
<v Speaker 3>I own a home. I just retired a year and

0:33:45.120 --> 0:33:51.080
<v Speaker 3>a half ago after working for forty three years. I sleep,

0:33:51.720 --> 0:33:55.600
<v Speaker 3>I do what I want, which is nice after all

0:33:55.680 --> 0:33:59.600
<v Speaker 3>this time. You know how you say life's too short. Yeah,

0:33:59.760 --> 0:34:03.400
<v Speaker 3>it really is too short, because by the time you

0:34:03.480 --> 0:34:07.080
<v Speaker 3>have my age, you have no energy left.

0:34:07.960 --> 0:34:09.840
<v Speaker 2>What would you do if you had more energy?

0:34:11.520 --> 0:34:16.919
<v Speaker 3>Oh, I'd be traveling and money. I'd be traveling all

0:34:16.960 --> 0:34:21.080
<v Speaker 3>over the world, all over the world. I would like

0:34:21.160 --> 0:34:25.320
<v Speaker 3>to go everywhere. I've been all over the United States,

0:34:25.400 --> 0:34:28.400
<v Speaker 3>but I'd like to go outside the United States.

0:34:28.600 --> 0:34:29.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, where would you want to go?

0:34:31.719 --> 0:34:35.239
<v Speaker 3>I'd like to go to Japan. I'd like to go

0:34:35.280 --> 0:34:39.359
<v Speaker 3>to England. I'd love to go to Ireland. And I'd

0:34:39.400 --> 0:34:44.200
<v Speaker 3>actually like to go to Israel. I believe it or not,

0:34:44.400 --> 0:34:49.320
<v Speaker 3>my background is Jewish, Irish Catholic.

0:34:50.640 --> 0:34:53.319
<v Speaker 2>Hey, hey me too. I still have not yet gone

0:34:53.320 --> 0:34:55.960
<v Speaker 2>to Israel, but I know that there's like a birthright trip.

0:34:57.320 --> 0:35:01.360
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's what I would love to do. Actually, my

0:35:02.360 --> 0:35:09.719
<v Speaker 3>father's side goes back heritage wise, goes back to way way, way,

0:35:09.760 --> 0:35:14.080
<v Speaker 3>way back. I won't get into the name, but our

0:35:14.200 --> 0:35:20.680
<v Speaker 3>ancestors go way back into the BC. I mean, like

0:35:20.880 --> 0:35:27.239
<v Speaker 3>way back when Israel wasn't even Israel. My grandfather came

0:35:27.440 --> 0:35:31.640
<v Speaker 3>had to go to Turkey to get away from the Holocaust.

0:35:34.040 --> 0:35:36.240
<v Speaker 3>Wouldn't it be cool to go to Israel?

0:35:37.000 --> 0:35:41.319
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'd love to go to Israel someday.

0:35:41.320 --> 0:35:43.360
<v Speaker 3>Maybe we can take a trip together.

0:35:44.719 --> 0:35:46.400
<v Speaker 2>You want to take a trip with me to Israel.

0:35:47.719 --> 0:35:49.640
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'll paint my face green.

0:35:50.719 --> 0:35:52.319
<v Speaker 2>You don't have to paint your face green to go

0:35:52.360 --> 0:35:53.320
<v Speaker 2>to Israel.

0:35:54.360 --> 0:35:56.840
<v Speaker 3>I know, but I do it. So at least we match.

0:35:58.600 --> 0:36:00.719
<v Speaker 2>When you were younger, did you get to travel a lot?

0:36:02.160 --> 0:36:06.120
<v Speaker 3>Yeah? I did. For work, I traveled all over I

0:36:06.160 --> 0:36:09.160
<v Speaker 3>was in California. I want to. I want to. I've

0:36:09.200 --> 0:36:12.440
<v Speaker 3>been in all the states in the United States. I've

0:36:12.440 --> 0:36:16.360
<v Speaker 3>been to every state in the US. Like I said,

0:36:16.360 --> 0:36:22.839
<v Speaker 3>I did purchasing contracts, so I traveled constantly to places

0:36:23.280 --> 0:36:29.280
<v Speaker 3>with engineers so that they could I would review the contracts.

0:36:29.760 --> 0:36:32.680
<v Speaker 3>I mean, they weren't small chains. There were big contracts

0:36:32.719 --> 0:36:37.080
<v Speaker 3>and we'd have people making stuff for us and so,

0:36:38.040 --> 0:36:42.640
<v Speaker 3>been to Florida and you name it, you name the state.

0:36:42.680 --> 0:36:43.399
<v Speaker 3>I've been in it.

0:36:44.040 --> 0:36:46.120
<v Speaker 2>And which state did you enjoy the most?

0:36:47.960 --> 0:36:51.040
<v Speaker 3>In state? You know, that's a good question. The state

0:36:51.239 --> 0:36:56.160
<v Speaker 3>I enjoyed, Oh, Nashville, Tennessee, love.

0:36:56.760 --> 0:36:59.479
<v Speaker 2>Ville, Tennessee. Yeah, yeah, I.

0:36:59.400 --> 0:36:59.719
<v Speaker 5>Was just.

0:37:01.560 --> 0:37:05.880
<v Speaker 3>It's not only beautiful, it's not only nice, and it's

0:37:05.920 --> 0:37:11.279
<v Speaker 3>it's warm. It's past the fact that it's got country western.

0:37:11.880 --> 0:37:16.399
<v Speaker 3>When you get outside the city, you get to the country,

0:37:16.600 --> 0:37:23.960
<v Speaker 3>it's beautiful. It's just beautiful landscape, horses everywhere. It's just beautiful.

0:37:24.640 --> 0:37:28.120
<v Speaker 2>So all right, lady, fun, time to talk some shit.

0:37:28.280 --> 0:37:29.520
<v Speaker 2>Which one is the worst?

0:37:31.080 --> 0:37:31.880
<v Speaker 3>Which one are you?

0:37:31.960 --> 0:37:32.040
<v Speaker 5>Oh?

0:37:32.160 --> 0:37:34.279
<v Speaker 3>You want to know which one's the worst? I hope

0:37:34.320 --> 0:37:37.720
<v Speaker 3>there's not a lot of people in from California.

0:37:38.480 --> 0:37:39.720
<v Speaker 2>Why California.

0:37:45.000 --> 0:37:51.240
<v Speaker 3>California. Let's see, I want to be culturally sensitive. California

0:37:52.400 --> 0:38:02.920
<v Speaker 3>just doesn't have it's it's a it's such a mixed

0:38:02.960 --> 0:38:07.920
<v Speaker 3>pot there of people. You have the really really rich

0:38:07.960 --> 0:38:12.040
<v Speaker 3>and elite that you know, we're in California, and they

0:38:12.120 --> 0:38:16.520
<v Speaker 3>can be a little on this neody side. And then

0:38:16.800 --> 0:38:22.400
<v Speaker 3>you hear people who have immigrated from Mexico or whatever.

0:38:22.520 --> 0:38:26.960
<v Speaker 3>You know, Nicaragua wherever, and they're real humble and they're

0:38:27.040 --> 0:38:31.880
<v Speaker 3>real nice people. But you see that they're not treated

0:38:31.960 --> 0:38:37.640
<v Speaker 3>as equals, which I don't think is white. So it

0:38:37.960 --> 0:38:42.320
<v Speaker 3>just the state just doesn't put its best foot forward

0:38:42.400 --> 0:38:49.920
<v Speaker 3>when it comes to showing its diversity for people.

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<v Speaker 2>Why would you think that that was culturally insensitive?

0:38:56.200 --> 0:38:56.560
<v Speaker 3>Pardon?

0:38:57.360 --> 0:38:59.920
<v Speaker 2>I said, why would you think that that was culturally insensitive?

0:39:01.440 --> 0:39:05.800
<v Speaker 3>Well, if while you're there, you see how some people

0:39:05.920 --> 0:39:11.080
<v Speaker 3>treat other people and they they don't treat them as

0:39:11.120 --> 0:39:15.280
<v Speaker 3>their equals. When I say culture, I shouldn't, I guess

0:39:15.400 --> 0:39:19.760
<v Speaker 3>use the term culturally sensitive. But just people don't treat

0:39:19.800 --> 0:39:24.480
<v Speaker 3>each other with respect and they don't treat each other

0:39:24.560 --> 0:39:28.120
<v Speaker 3>as equals. We're all, we're all equal on this earth.

0:39:28.920 --> 0:39:31.560
<v Speaker 2>I asked you a questions. Let me ask you a question.

0:39:31.680 --> 0:39:35.840
<v Speaker 2>I'm very curious about when you were growing up compared

0:39:35.880 --> 0:39:39.279
<v Speaker 2>to now. Do you think that do you think that

0:39:39.360 --> 0:39:41.960
<v Speaker 2>people treated each other with more respect?

0:39:43.800 --> 0:39:47.600
<v Speaker 3>Yes, it was ingrained in us when we were young,

0:39:48.000 --> 0:39:53.160
<v Speaker 3>When we were young, yes, absolutely, My parents parents were

0:39:53.200 --> 0:39:58.120
<v Speaker 3>a lot stricter when I was growing up. There was

0:39:58.320 --> 0:40:05.640
<v Speaker 3>more structure, there was a guideline. It was like a

0:40:05.719 --> 0:40:10.120
<v Speaker 3>ruler that you didn't step beyond certain things when I

0:40:10.239 --> 0:40:17.040
<v Speaker 3>was growing up. I actually think that we've I think

0:40:17.080 --> 0:40:21.720
<v Speaker 3>it's better for the for the younger generation now because

0:40:21.760 --> 0:40:24.360
<v Speaker 3>I think anybody can be what they want to be.

0:40:24.600 --> 0:40:29.080
<v Speaker 3>Now we ask our children. You know, my father one

0:40:29.160 --> 0:40:32.720
<v Speaker 3>time time asked me, why are you asking your son

0:40:32.800 --> 0:40:35.719
<v Speaker 3>when he wants to eat what he would like to

0:40:35.800 --> 0:40:39.320
<v Speaker 3>have for dinner. You just put the plate in front

0:40:39.360 --> 0:40:42.440
<v Speaker 3>of him with food, and it's it. Whatever's cooked is

0:40:42.480 --> 0:40:46.439
<v Speaker 3>what he has to eat. And I said, because he

0:40:46.520 --> 0:40:51.280
<v Speaker 3>has tastes. Some days the hamburger is good, some days,

0:40:51.520 --> 0:40:57.840
<v Speaker 3>odd dog's good. I said, So whether he's five or six,

0:40:57.960 --> 0:41:02.760
<v Speaker 3>he's got a feeling and know something to say about it.

0:41:02.960 --> 0:41:05.759
<v Speaker 3>My father thought that was terrible that I asked him that.

0:41:08.200 --> 0:41:11.200
<v Speaker 2>So why do you think that people respect each other

0:41:11.280 --> 0:41:13.920
<v Speaker 2>less nowadays?

0:41:16.920 --> 0:41:21.040
<v Speaker 3>That was state, That was California. But yet I've been

0:41:21.080 --> 0:41:25.560
<v Speaker 3>to places like, I will say, Nashville, Tennessee. The people

0:41:25.640 --> 0:41:33.600
<v Speaker 3>are friendly, warm, outgoing, easy to communicate with. You can

0:41:34.239 --> 0:41:38.400
<v Speaker 3>go anywhere you want talk to anybody. They'll they'll they'll

0:41:38.760 --> 0:41:44.000
<v Speaker 3>they're friendly, they'll talk to you about their their state

0:41:44.400 --> 0:41:51.239
<v Speaker 3>or whatever. Whereas now and that was California, I'm referencing

0:41:51.400 --> 0:41:56.520
<v Speaker 3>California only you asked me what was the worst state? California.

0:41:56.760 --> 0:42:02.120
<v Speaker 3>I don't know what it is out there out in California,

0:42:03.200 --> 0:42:07.320
<v Speaker 3>but it's just different. It's structurally different.

0:42:08.120 --> 0:42:09.359
<v Speaker 2>Where did you grow up.

0:42:10.680 --> 0:42:14.759
<v Speaker 3>I was in Los Angeles, Okay, in Lax.

0:42:15.600 --> 0:42:18.480
<v Speaker 2>How do you think Los Angeles has changed in the

0:42:19.600 --> 0:42:21.439
<v Speaker 2>Have you been there? But have you been back there since?

0:42:22.719 --> 0:42:27.600
<v Speaker 3>No? No, I wouldn't want to go back there, to

0:42:27.640 --> 0:42:32.520
<v Speaker 3>be honest, I wouldn't want to go back there because

0:42:32.520 --> 0:42:34.719
<v Speaker 3>I just didn't feel like it was a place i'd

0:42:34.719 --> 0:42:36.280
<v Speaker 3>ever want to be again.

0:42:37.120 --> 0:42:38.880
<v Speaker 2>Okay, didn't feel it.

0:42:39.160 --> 0:42:45.360
<v Speaker 3>Just couldn't get any warmth out of the general feeling there.

0:42:45.719 --> 0:42:50.480
<v Speaker 3>And the other thing that's really sad about California is

0:42:51.600 --> 0:42:56.000
<v Speaker 3>I drove down many different streets while I was there.

0:42:56.160 --> 0:42:59.600
<v Speaker 3>I was in the inner city of LA and it

0:42:59.760 --> 0:43:02.920
<v Speaker 3>really broke my heart to see how many. I know

0:43:03.000 --> 0:43:08.440
<v Speaker 3>there's homeless people everywhere, but in California, there were so

0:43:08.640 --> 0:43:12.800
<v Speaker 3>many that I saw, yeah, that it made me sad.

0:43:13.520 --> 0:43:18.799
<v Speaker 3>I mean, it just seemed like a bigger population. I mean,

0:43:18.880 --> 0:43:22.400
<v Speaker 3>I know it's in every state and I recognize that,

0:43:23.320 --> 0:43:29.520
<v Speaker 3>but in California it was really prominent and that it's

0:43:29.560 --> 0:43:34.760
<v Speaker 3>a sad, sad state of affairs that were we're all

0:43:34.840 --> 0:43:37.279
<v Speaker 3>here and we're not taking care of each other.

0:43:39.719 --> 0:43:41.080
<v Speaker 2>Can I ask what part of the country you live

0:43:41.120 --> 0:43:41.439
<v Speaker 2>in now?

0:43:44.080 --> 0:43:48.399
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I live in the Northeast. I live in I

0:43:48.480 --> 0:43:51.120
<v Speaker 3>live in Buffalo Bill Country.

0:43:51.120 --> 0:43:54.799
<v Speaker 2>How about that Buffalo Bill Country. That's the guy that

0:43:55.040 --> 0:43:56.399
<v Speaker 2>killed people and ate them right?

0:43:57.760 --> 0:44:01.600
<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no, no Buffalo Bills as in the football team.

0:44:02.200 --> 0:44:04.959
<v Speaker 2>Oh okay, it's a different guy I live.

0:44:05.440 --> 0:44:10.759
<v Speaker 3>I live. Yeah, I live upstate New York near not

0:44:10.920 --> 0:44:12.800
<v Speaker 3>too far from Niagara Falls.

0:44:13.360 --> 0:44:15.719
<v Speaker 2>So tell me this, Grandma. I want I would like

0:44:15.840 --> 0:44:20.279
<v Speaker 2>to know what is I mean? Look, you say that

0:44:20.360 --> 0:44:22.759
<v Speaker 2>you don't have enough time and energy and whatnot, Like,

0:44:22.800 --> 0:44:26.920
<v Speaker 2>what's preventing you from from taking your trips that you

0:44:26.960 --> 0:44:27.480
<v Speaker 2>want to take?

0:44:28.719 --> 0:44:34.000
<v Speaker 3>Oh? I have I After I retired, I found out

0:44:34.040 --> 0:44:39.120
<v Speaker 3>I have spinal stenosis in my back, so I'm missing

0:44:39.400 --> 0:44:43.440
<v Speaker 3>missing part of a disc in my back, so I

0:44:43.480 --> 0:44:47.480
<v Speaker 3>can't stand for long periods. And it's made it a

0:44:47.560 --> 0:44:51.440
<v Speaker 3>little more restrictive of what what I can and can't do.

0:44:52.320 --> 0:44:53.120
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmmmm.

0:44:54.080 --> 0:44:59.359
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to have surgery on my back mm hmmmmm.

0:45:00.120 --> 0:45:04.040
<v Speaker 3>So that kind of limits me more so of taking

0:45:04.080 --> 0:45:06.680
<v Speaker 3>the trip i'd like the trips I'd like to take,

0:45:07.360 --> 0:45:10.160
<v Speaker 3>and finances. I got to be honest with you. When

0:45:10.200 --> 0:45:14.960
<v Speaker 3>I was working, I made great money. But when you retire,

0:45:15.080 --> 0:45:20.759
<v Speaker 3>it's not the same. It is that, you know. I

0:45:20.840 --> 0:45:23.680
<v Speaker 3>got to be honest. Medicare all this stuff they pump

0:45:23.800 --> 0:45:27.800
<v Speaker 3>up that they say social Security and your pensions and

0:45:27.920 --> 0:45:32.400
<v Speaker 3>this and that not they not what they leave you.

0:45:34.480 --> 0:45:40.440
<v Speaker 3>Especially when you've worked forty three years. Your income, unless

0:45:40.480 --> 0:45:47.720
<v Speaker 3>you continue to work into your seventies or whatever, your

0:45:47.800 --> 0:45:51.160
<v Speaker 3>income comes down when you stop working.

0:45:52.480 --> 0:45:56.600
<v Speaker 2>So let me ask you a question here. I know

0:45:56.680 --> 0:46:01.960
<v Speaker 2>that there are obvious con to being retired and to

0:46:02.000 --> 0:46:04.239
<v Speaker 2>being at you know, the stage that you're at in

0:46:04.320 --> 0:46:07.760
<v Speaker 2>life of you know, less money is coming in your

0:46:07.800 --> 0:46:09.840
<v Speaker 2>your You know your body doesn't work the way I

0:46:09.960 --> 0:46:15.480
<v Speaker 2>used to. But I want to know what is like

0:46:15.719 --> 0:46:21.320
<v Speaker 2>your life today as it is. What is better about

0:46:21.360 --> 0:46:24.560
<v Speaker 2>your life right now than your life in the past.

0:46:26.000 --> 0:46:29.520
<v Speaker 3>Oh, I'm happier. I can't tell me what content.

0:46:30.880 --> 0:46:32.960
<v Speaker 2>Pardon I said to tell me why.

0:46:34.400 --> 0:46:41.920
<v Speaker 3>I'm happier. I'm more content. I don't have to be

0:46:42.560 --> 0:46:45.120
<v Speaker 3>I don't have to get up to the alarm at

0:46:45.160 --> 0:46:51.000
<v Speaker 3>five thirty am and get dressed up and run right

0:46:51.040 --> 0:46:53.560
<v Speaker 3>out the door with a cup of coffee and go

0:46:53.640 --> 0:46:58.240
<v Speaker 3>into an office and deal with stress all day long.

0:46:59.320 --> 0:47:02.279
<v Speaker 3>And then I'm home and have a home to deal

0:47:02.360 --> 0:47:09.000
<v Speaker 3>with and everything like that. It's it's less stressful to

0:47:09.120 --> 0:47:13.319
<v Speaker 3>be retired. And I can sleep till noon if the

0:47:13.360 --> 0:47:18.319
<v Speaker 3>mood strikes me. If I want to stay up till

0:47:18.440 --> 0:47:21.360
<v Speaker 3>three o'clock in the morning and watch movies, I can.

0:47:24.239 --> 0:47:28.560
<v Speaker 3>My time is my time now. I'm not constraint to

0:47:28.719 --> 0:47:37.400
<v Speaker 3>somebody else's demands. The kids are grown. Thank goodness. The

0:47:37.480 --> 0:47:42.160
<v Speaker 3>kids are grown. They don't live with me, you know.

0:47:42.320 --> 0:47:46.080
<v Speaker 3>The kids are doing their own thing. Even having the

0:47:46.160 --> 0:47:49.759
<v Speaker 3>granddaughter here is good. I like having the granddaughter here.

0:47:50.080 --> 0:47:51.040
<v Speaker 3>She keeps me young.

0:47:52.440 --> 0:47:52.759
<v Speaker 2>How so.

0:47:54.400 --> 0:47:58.319
<v Speaker 3>How she's cracking up sitting across for me? What did

0:47:58.440 --> 0:48:02.279
<v Speaker 3>I'm talking to the therapy get go? I said, I'm

0:48:02.320 --> 0:48:06.840
<v Speaker 3>calling them. I'm gonna call him. She's like, really, Grammy,

0:48:06.880 --> 0:48:09.360
<v Speaker 3>you're gonna go? I said, you know me, we always

0:48:09.440 --> 0:48:12.640
<v Speaker 3>do fun things. Her and I do fun things together.

0:48:13.640 --> 0:48:15.600
<v Speaker 3>See it's fun because she's twenty one.

0:48:16.400 --> 0:48:25.359
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm. Are you having fun? I call right now? Yes, yes, okay, cool?

0:48:25.520 --> 0:48:30.800
<v Speaker 3>This fun? Yes? And I think you give really great advice.

0:48:30.920 --> 0:48:31.640
<v Speaker 3>By the way.

0:48:32.040 --> 0:48:33.880
<v Speaker 2>Oh, thanks, man, I appreciate that.

0:48:35.160 --> 0:48:40.320
<v Speaker 3>I'm a psychology minor. My bachelors was a psychology minor.

0:48:42.600 --> 0:48:45.839
<v Speaker 2>What kinds of fun things do you and your granddaughter

0:48:45.920 --> 0:48:46.440
<v Speaker 2>do together?

0:48:48.200 --> 0:48:48.560
<v Speaker 5>Oh?

0:48:48.760 --> 0:48:52.440
<v Speaker 3>We love going to the grocery store, buying good food

0:48:52.480 --> 0:48:58.120
<v Speaker 3>that we want. We go watching watching you. You were

0:48:58.160 --> 0:49:01.480
<v Speaker 3>on live, she'd, let's we know when you're on live, Rory.

0:49:01.520 --> 0:49:04.759
<v Speaker 3>I put it on my computer. My computer tells me

0:49:04.920 --> 0:49:09.799
<v Speaker 3>when you're on live watching you. We go. We went

0:49:10.040 --> 0:49:16.200
<v Speaker 3>shopping at Christmas. We bought matching pjs for Christmas, so

0:49:18.040 --> 0:49:25.840
<v Speaker 3>we go bargain bargain shopping. We like doing that. She

0:49:26.000 --> 0:49:30.320
<v Speaker 3>helps me around the house. We just do fun stuff.

0:49:30.360 --> 0:49:35.279
<v Speaker 3>We watched movies, funny movies together. She's teaching me all

0:49:35.320 --> 0:49:36.719
<v Speaker 3>about the new generation.

0:49:37.840 --> 0:49:39.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what are you learning about the new generation?

0:49:41.000 --> 0:49:41.200
<v Speaker 5>Oh?

0:49:41.360 --> 0:49:45.280
<v Speaker 2>A lot? Tell me the most. Tell me the most

0:49:45.560 --> 0:49:48.759
<v Speaker 2>interesting thing, the.

0:49:48.800 --> 0:49:54.160
<v Speaker 3>Most interesting thing. That there's some stuff and I'm going

0:49:54.239 --> 0:50:01.000
<v Speaker 3>to pronounce it wrong. I know. I am asha wire ayahuasca.

0:50:02.040 --> 0:50:03.280
<v Speaker 2>Yes, ayahuasca.

0:50:04.680 --> 0:50:10.520
<v Speaker 3>Yes, I just learned all about that. Terry.

0:50:11.440 --> 0:50:11.840
<v Speaker 5>Huh.

0:50:11.880 --> 0:50:14.520
<v Speaker 3>I think I think it's interesting.

0:50:15.239 --> 0:50:17.879
<v Speaker 2>Okay, is that something you would ever say, you would

0:50:17.880 --> 0:50:19.120
<v Speaker 2>ever do ayahuasca.

0:50:20.560 --> 0:50:22.880
<v Speaker 3>I don't know if I could at my age, I

0:50:22.920 --> 0:50:25.840
<v Speaker 3>don't know. I'm on medications and stuff, so I don't know.

0:50:25.880 --> 0:50:29.600
<v Speaker 3>If I could, I would do it. I would love

0:50:29.680 --> 0:50:32.680
<v Speaker 3>to see what what would see the inside of my soul.

0:50:33.400 --> 0:50:36.480
<v Speaker 3>I would love to know what's there. I would love

0:50:36.560 --> 0:50:38.240
<v Speaker 3>to do that absolutely.

0:50:39.080 --> 0:50:39.440
<v Speaker 2>Okay.

0:50:39.719 --> 0:50:43.120
<v Speaker 3>I think that. You know, so she we watched stuff,

0:50:43.160 --> 0:50:47.200
<v Speaker 3>and she's got me watching movies I never thought i'd

0:50:47.320 --> 0:50:51.120
<v Speaker 3>watched before, but I watch them and I go, I

0:50:51.320 --> 0:50:54.440
<v Speaker 3>like that that was a good movie. I mean, I

0:50:54.520 --> 0:50:59.520
<v Speaker 3>watch Euphoria, I watched all different stuff.

0:51:00.760 --> 0:51:05.000
<v Speaker 2>M Okay. So from what you've learned about the new generation,

0:51:06.400 --> 0:51:10.759
<v Speaker 2>what is what is your take? Do you think that

0:51:12.360 --> 0:51:14.640
<v Speaker 2>do you think society is gonna be okay in the

0:51:14.680 --> 0:51:15.920
<v Speaker 2>hands of the new generation?

0:51:19.080 --> 0:51:25.319
<v Speaker 3>Why? That's a good question. Excuse me. I think I

0:51:25.360 --> 0:51:30.719
<v Speaker 3>don't know if it's gonna be okay. I think I

0:51:30.760 --> 0:51:33.840
<v Speaker 3>think they've got a lot of struggles in front of them.

0:51:34.200 --> 0:51:37.560
<v Speaker 3>I don't think it's about the generation. I think it's

0:51:38.120 --> 0:51:43.440
<v Speaker 3>the sad part is people like me, for instance, what

0:51:43.600 --> 0:51:48.160
<v Speaker 3>I'm giving them to deal with. I think that the

0:51:48.160 --> 0:51:54.640
<v Speaker 3>the environment, our earth, our planet is global warming is

0:51:54.680 --> 0:51:57.520
<v Speaker 3>something that's going to be very traumatic for them to

0:51:57.600 --> 0:52:03.719
<v Speaker 3>deal with. I don't think our economic status is going

0:52:03.800 --> 0:52:08.160
<v Speaker 3>to make it easy for them. Our younger generation also

0:52:08.320 --> 0:52:12.520
<v Speaker 3>is having a tough time figuring out. They see their

0:52:12.640 --> 0:52:15.760
<v Speaker 3>parents and grandparents like me, they know what they don't

0:52:15.800 --> 0:52:20.400
<v Speaker 3>want to do by seeing what we've done, how we've

0:52:20.480 --> 0:52:24.840
<v Speaker 3>worked and worked and worked. I think we've put a

0:52:24.880 --> 0:52:30.279
<v Speaker 3>lot of obstacles in front of them. So do I

0:52:30.320 --> 0:52:33.520
<v Speaker 3>think they can handle them? Yeah, I think they'll be

0:52:33.560 --> 0:52:35.920
<v Speaker 3>able to handle them, but it won't be easy.

0:52:36.840 --> 0:52:37.160
<v Speaker 5>M M.

0:52:40.520 --> 0:52:44.120
<v Speaker 3>What do you think do you think our younger generations ready?

0:52:48.000 --> 0:52:52.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I don't know. I don't know because we have

0:52:53.000 --> 0:52:55.279
<v Speaker 2>a lot of things that are so new. When you

0:52:55.320 --> 0:52:58.719
<v Speaker 2>look at the timeline of all of human existence, the

0:52:58.760 --> 0:53:01.400
<v Speaker 2>amount of time that you know, phones and computers and

0:53:01.440 --> 0:53:05.960
<v Speaker 2>the Internet which are so dominant. Yes, and you know

0:53:06.120 --> 0:53:08.759
<v Speaker 2>we've grown up with them. They've only been around for

0:53:09.040 --> 0:53:14.840
<v Speaker 2>about point zero zero zero. I could go on and

0:53:14.880 --> 0:53:16.600
<v Speaker 2>say thousands of zeros.

0:53:17.880 --> 0:53:19.920
<v Speaker 3>Well, you know the funny part is I went to

0:53:20.000 --> 0:53:24.600
<v Speaker 3>school for computers. That's my first degree. I'm a computer programmer.

0:53:25.280 --> 0:53:28.000
<v Speaker 3>I was then on the bottom line and when computers

0:53:28.160 --> 0:53:32.280
<v Speaker 3>were the big IBM machines.

0:53:32.360 --> 0:53:34.759
<v Speaker 2>And they've they've changed. Now they've changed. There's a lot

0:53:34.800 --> 0:53:36.840
<v Speaker 2>of you can do anything on the computer right now.

0:53:37.400 --> 0:53:42.440
<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, I have kids. Ye, I do everything. I

0:53:42.520 --> 0:53:45.759
<v Speaker 3>literally have a big screen computer in front of me.

0:53:46.040 --> 0:53:50.759
<v Speaker 3>I have my phone with I'm I'm total tech. I'm

0:53:50.960 --> 0:53:52.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm a pretty hip grammar.

0:53:53.360 --> 0:53:55.759
<v Speaker 2>I think you're a pretty hip grandma too. I would

0:53:55.760 --> 0:54:00.400
<v Speaker 2>agree with that sentiment. I appreciate that you're doing your best.

0:54:00.480 --> 0:54:05.279
<v Speaker 2>I like that you've been able to connect with your granddaughter.

0:54:05.440 --> 0:54:09.000
<v Speaker 2>I think that that's very nice and that you've you know,

0:54:09.120 --> 0:54:14.399
<v Speaker 2>made this to you know, sort of understand what's going

0:54:14.440 --> 0:54:17.520
<v Speaker 2>on with the younger generation instead of just you know,

0:54:17.600 --> 0:54:21.520
<v Speaker 2>holding to whatever you kind of have been into your

0:54:21.560 --> 0:54:23.040
<v Speaker 2>whole life. And I think that's a.

0:54:25.440 --> 0:54:28.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. They have different values than we did, which is

0:54:28.960 --> 0:54:32.880
<v Speaker 3>to me, is a good thing. They don't value money

0:54:33.000 --> 0:54:36.520
<v Speaker 3>like we did when I was growing up or when

0:54:36.560 --> 0:54:38.959
<v Speaker 3>I was out there working, that was the big thing.

0:54:39.040 --> 0:54:42.440
<v Speaker 3>Who hid the biggest pool, Who hid the biggest house?

0:54:43.760 --> 0:54:48.040
<v Speaker 3>This new generation, God bless them, they don't they that's

0:54:48.120 --> 0:54:49.600
<v Speaker 3>not what it's about for them.

0:54:50.360 --> 0:54:51.280
<v Speaker 2>What do you think it's about.

0:54:52.800 --> 0:54:56.680
<v Speaker 3>I think it's about just living their lives, enjoying life.

0:54:57.640 --> 0:55:02.560
<v Speaker 3>They see more, they have more do more leisurely things.

0:55:03.200 --> 0:55:09.200
<v Speaker 3>They take more time out, They they're more humanitarian. I

0:55:09.200 --> 0:55:15.560
<v Speaker 3>think they're more involved in things that we weren't. We

0:55:15.560 --> 0:55:19.759
<v Speaker 3>were trash in our environment and they're worried about not

0:55:20.680 --> 0:55:26.000
<v Speaker 3>cleaning it up. I just I see a lot of

0:55:26.040 --> 0:55:28.280
<v Speaker 3>pluses in them.

0:55:28.400 --> 0:55:35.360
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmmm. Lady Fawn, you said your name was Yep,

0:55:36.320 --> 0:55:39.200
<v Speaker 2>Lady Fawn, thank you so much for talking to us

0:55:39.239 --> 0:55:42.279
<v Speaker 2>about all of this stuff. I think, you know, I

0:55:42.280 --> 0:55:44.839
<v Speaker 2>feel like we've learned a great deal and it was

0:55:44.920 --> 0:55:49.160
<v Speaker 2>it was exciting to hear from you. And again, I

0:55:49.200 --> 0:55:52.640
<v Speaker 2>appreciate the effort that you're making to continue to be

0:55:52.760 --> 0:55:56.040
<v Speaker 2>in touch with the world around you. And you know,

0:55:56.160 --> 0:56:00.279
<v Speaker 2>by doing so, you're bonding closer to your Grandda, And

0:56:00.520 --> 0:56:01.800
<v Speaker 2>I think, oh, that's awesome.

0:56:03.160 --> 0:56:06.799
<v Speaker 3>I thank you. And you know something, one thing I

0:56:06.840 --> 0:56:09.520
<v Speaker 3>do want to say. We're waiting for your schedule to

0:56:09.600 --> 0:56:13.560
<v Speaker 3>come out to see where you're going to be, because

0:56:13.560 --> 0:56:15.480
<v Speaker 3>we want to come see you in person.

0:56:16.040 --> 0:56:18.440
<v Speaker 2>Oh my goodness, where where would you come see me?

0:56:18.480 --> 0:56:19.920
<v Speaker 2>I mean you said you live in upstate New York.

0:56:19.960 --> 0:56:21.439
<v Speaker 2>I'll be in Philly and I'll be in New York.

0:56:22.760 --> 0:56:25.439
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, So I mean I'll drive either one I got.

0:56:25.880 --> 0:56:29.800
<v Speaker 3>I got the nice vehicle. That's one thing about the

0:56:30.000 --> 0:56:34.640
<v Speaker 3>Fond Lady, Fond Lady is the newest cadgets iner car

0:56:35.680 --> 0:56:38.960
<v Speaker 3>with you to the computer and it'll tell me how

0:56:38.960 --> 0:56:39.640
<v Speaker 3>to get there.

0:56:40.400 --> 0:56:41.960
<v Speaker 2>Now, if you come to the show, will you come

0:56:42.000 --> 0:56:43.040
<v Speaker 2>on stage and talk?

0:56:44.480 --> 0:56:46.840
<v Speaker 3>Sure, absolutely, I'd love to.

0:56:47.520 --> 0:56:51.400
<v Speaker 2>All Right, it's see, it's it's in, it's in the calendar.

0:56:51.480 --> 0:56:56.720
<v Speaker 2>We're doing it. Yes, of course. I'm sure your hopefully

0:56:56.760 --> 0:56:59.359
<v Speaker 2>your granddaughter follows me on the computer and will tell

0:56:59.360 --> 0:56:59.880
<v Speaker 2>you when I am.

0:57:00.080 --> 0:57:04.319
<v Speaker 3>And she's right, yep, she's on there right now. She's

0:57:04.320 --> 0:57:05.360
<v Speaker 3>recording this.

0:57:05.840 --> 0:57:10.760
<v Speaker 2>Perfect perfect Well, lady Lady Fawn, is there anything else

0:57:10.800 --> 0:57:13.200
<v Speaker 2>that you want to say to the people of the

0:57:13.239 --> 0:57:14.440
<v Speaker 2>computer before we go?

0:57:15.920 --> 0:57:21.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they're they're they're funny. I love the chats. I

0:57:21.240 --> 0:57:26.040
<v Speaker 3>think people have great things to say. I think that

0:57:26.280 --> 0:57:31.600
<v Speaker 3>your audience is outstanding. I think they really give give

0:57:31.960 --> 0:57:36.200
<v Speaker 3>good input, and I think you do an excellent job

0:57:36.280 --> 0:57:40.880
<v Speaker 3>and in talking to the people on this on the

0:57:41.040 --> 0:57:44.640
<v Speaker 3>screen at the same time that you're taking the phone call.

0:57:45.840 --> 0:57:49.200
<v Speaker 2>Well, thank you very much, Lady Fawn. I I appreciate

0:57:49.240 --> 0:57:52.240
<v Speaker 2>you saying that, and uh, I appreciate you sharing with

0:57:52.360 --> 0:57:55.040
<v Speaker 2>us and Uh, I'll see you on the road soon.

0:57:55.120 --> 0:57:55.880
<v Speaker 2>I'm excited to.

0:57:56.160 --> 0:57:57.000
<v Speaker 4>Talk to you.

0:57:56.720 --> 0:58:01.680
<v Speaker 3>You will, Okay, you have I know you're tired. You

0:58:02.280 --> 0:58:05.800
<v Speaker 3>the last time I watched you, you fell asleep, actually

0:58:05.800 --> 0:58:07.720
<v Speaker 3>in your chair. You were so tired.

0:58:08.120 --> 0:58:10.280
<v Speaker 2>I did, I did. I've been very tired lately. I

0:58:10.280 --> 0:58:12.760
<v Speaker 2>got to eat better food and sleep more.

0:58:14.400 --> 0:58:18.439
<v Speaker 3>I changed my diet. I changed my diet around. Yep.

0:58:19.240 --> 0:58:22.320
<v Speaker 3>It's a big impact on what you eat. And my

0:58:22.400 --> 0:58:23.600
<v Speaker 3>granddaughter's big on that.

0:58:24.600 --> 0:58:25.600
<v Speaker 2>Okay, I'll take it from me.

0:58:25.800 --> 0:58:28.320
<v Speaker 3>She won't sit on a cake. Yeah, she won't sit

0:58:28.400 --> 0:58:29.320
<v Speaker 3>on a cake again.

0:58:32.160 --> 0:58:34.680
<v Speaker 2>All Right, lady faun. I appreciate you very much, and

0:58:35.160 --> 0:58:36.280
<v Speaker 2>have a good rest of the night.

0:58:37.800 --> 0:58:40.200
<v Speaker 3>You too. Take care. We'll see you soon.

0:58:40.800 --> 0:58:42.960
<v Speaker 2>Take care, okay.

0:58:43.120 --> 0:58:44.960
<v Speaker 3>Bye.

0:58:47.400 --> 0:58:51.600
<v Speaker 2>Well that was nice. That was nice. I met what

0:58:51.680 --> 0:58:55.920
<v Speaker 2>I said. I probably appreciate that she's, you know, taking

0:58:56.080 --> 0:59:02.200
<v Speaker 2>the time to see what's going on on. I hope

0:59:02.240 --> 0:59:07.320
<v Speaker 2>I'm doing that when I'm when I'm older, I'm seeing

0:59:07.400 --> 0:59:10.800
<v Speaker 2>what everyone else is into and talking to the younger

0:59:10.800 --> 0:59:15.040
<v Speaker 2>generation to figure out what's on their minds. It really

0:59:15.120 --> 0:59:17.800
<v Speaker 2>kind of got to me when she mentioned the whole

0:59:17.800 --> 0:59:21.880
<v Speaker 2>thing about her back. You know, it made me think

0:59:21.920 --> 0:59:27.800
<v Speaker 2>about there's just not a lot of time. You know,

0:59:27.920 --> 0:59:31.600
<v Speaker 2>there's just not a lot of time to do the

0:59:31.640 --> 0:59:34.680
<v Speaker 2>things that you want to do. So listen. I guess

0:59:34.920 --> 0:59:38.240
<v Speaker 2>what I would like from this. You know, if you're

0:59:38.280 --> 0:59:42.080
<v Speaker 2>listening to this right now and you liked what she

0:59:42.200 --> 0:59:45.720
<v Speaker 2>had to say, is if there's something you want to

0:59:45.800 --> 0:59:49.520
<v Speaker 2>do and you feel like if your body didn't work,

0:59:49.600 --> 0:59:54.800
<v Speaker 2>you couldn't do it, understand that you don't have time,

0:59:56.520 --> 1:00:04.720
<v Speaker 2>all right, You don't. Your death is imminent, the destruction

1:00:04.960 --> 1:00:12.120
<v Speaker 2>of your body is imminent. And imagine, you know, living

1:00:12.160 --> 1:00:17.680
<v Speaker 2>in such a situation where your mind is willing but

1:00:17.760 --> 1:00:22.880
<v Speaker 2>your body is unable. If you're fortunate enough to be

1:00:23.040 --> 1:00:26.240
<v Speaker 2>physically able right now and you want to go do something,

1:00:26.360 --> 1:00:29.040
<v Speaker 2>just go do it. What the fuck are you waiting for?

1:00:30.120 --> 1:00:32.000
<v Speaker 2>What the fuck am I waiting for? Every time I

1:00:32.040 --> 1:00:35.360
<v Speaker 2>talk to this motivational bullshit, I flip it. I try

1:00:35.360 --> 1:00:36.880
<v Speaker 2>to flip it back on myself. I'm like, what do

1:00:36.960 --> 1:00:39.600
<v Speaker 2>I what do I really want to do? I don't know.

1:00:39.680 --> 1:00:42.280
<v Speaker 2>I'm fortunate, I really am. I'm really fortunate. I got

1:00:42.280 --> 1:00:44.360
<v Speaker 2>to do a lot of the shit I wanted to do.

1:00:44.400 --> 1:00:47.160
<v Speaker 2>It's s's I was thinking of this, you know it

1:00:47.280 --> 1:00:49.600
<v Speaker 2>was go to Japan, and then I did that, and

1:00:49.640 --> 1:00:52.000
<v Speaker 2>now what I really want to do is sit at

1:00:52.000 --> 1:00:57.160
<v Speaker 2>home and edit stuff and eat food. I don't know.

1:00:57.240 --> 1:00:59.360
<v Speaker 2>I feel like if I died tomorrow, if they told

1:00:59.440 --> 1:01:01.520
<v Speaker 2>me that I couldn't move tomorrow, I'd be like, well,

1:01:02.840 --> 1:01:05.680
<v Speaker 2>all right, we did plenty of good stuff, but what

1:01:05.800 --> 1:01:07.960
<v Speaker 2>more do I want to do. I gotta think about that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna go think about that. I'm gonna go think

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<v Speaker 2>about that.

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<v Speaker 5>The Repyn goes on the line making your phone calls

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<v Speaker 5>every night.

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<v Speaker 2>The Repacon goes to any night.

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<v Speaker 3>He's teaching you cloud in the mind of your life.

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<v Speaker 4>But he's not ready.

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<v Speaker 2>An expert