WEBVTT - Wednesday Post Show (09-04-24) 0:00:01.120 --> 0:00:03.760 It's time for the Bobby Bones post show. 0:00:04.360 --> 0:00:08.160 Here's your host, Bobby Bones. 0:00:10.840 --> 0:00:11.119 Thank you. 0:00:13.000 --> 0:00:14.280 I don't know where to start. I have so much 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:17.000 good stuff, so much good stuff. It was too good 0:00:17.000 --> 0:00:18.760 for the show. I'm going to tell you the place 0:00:18.800 --> 0:00:21.680 that I am in now. Sometimes there's stuff that's so 0:00:21.720 --> 0:00:23.439 good that's going to take us so long to talk about. 0:00:23.480 --> 0:00:25.120 I can't put on the Big Show unless I want 0:00:25.120 --> 0:00:28.480 to split it up into eight segments, just because of 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:32.760 how the show has to be fragmented a bit live, 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:36.400 because of we have to sometimes to go out for 0:00:36.440 --> 0:00:39.839 commercials for like local So there are certain segments we 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:41.400 do in this show that I want to do in 0:00:41.400 --> 0:00:42.680 the Big Show, but I don't want people to wait 0:00:42.720 --> 0:00:44.440 hour and a half for it because they won't prepare 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:46.040 yourself for like three of those segments. 0:00:46.720 --> 0:00:47.159 Let's go. 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:50.520 I sent Mike an email last night where I didn't 0:00:50.520 --> 0:00:54.080 even put words in it. I screenshot at something email 0:00:54.200 --> 0:00:55.880 send and I just knew he knew. And we'll get 0:00:55.920 --> 0:01:02.720 to that in a second. First though, during this show, 0:01:02.880 --> 0:01:05.720 Lunchbox mentioned we had a whole talk about Travis Kelsey 0:01:05.720 --> 0:01:08.000 and Taylor Swift, and there is this document that I 0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:09.560 believe is fake that said, this is when they were 0:01:09.600 --> 0:01:12.560 breaking up, and we had a whole conversation about do 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:14.440 we believe it was ever real? I do. Do we 0:01:14.480 --> 0:01:18.319 believe this document is fake? I do believe the document's fake. 0:01:18.319 --> 0:01:20.600 I believe the whole thing's fake. But some people believe 0:01:20.920 --> 0:01:25.000 that the relationship was real and the document is real. 0:01:25.160 --> 0:01:28.240 Some people believe the relationship was never real and the 0:01:28.280 --> 0:01:31.480 document is real. So we have all these versions. Lunchbox 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:33.240 then says, and I did not argue with him. I 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:35.360 actually said I did not know this. Please give me 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:40.800 more information. He said that Travis Kelsey's representation, I don't 0:01:40.800 --> 0:01:43.840 know if it's agent, management, whatever, in the past, has 0:01:43.880 --> 0:01:45.000 been known to set him. 0:01:44.959 --> 0:01:47.039 Up with people, set other celebrities up. 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:49.680 Oh, not him, but others. Yes, I'm anxious to hear this. 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:50.280 Please go ahead. 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:54.120 Yes, Travis's publicist Jack, can you give me the soor 0:01:54.160 --> 0:01:58.280 so before Jamien mail? Okay, Jack Ketto sayon, I don't 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:00.600 k e t O s ya you tell me. 0:02:00.600 --> 0:02:01.440 I'll say that I will not. 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:05.200 Has has admitted to setting up showmances before even revealing 0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:08.280 how you can spot if a relationship has been staged 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:11.000 and you scroll down. He's got all these. 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:13.720 Pictures, showmances, that's what they call it. Yeah, that's cool. 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:15.320 I would think a showmance was if you're working on 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:17.760 a show together and you fall in love. But this 0:02:17.880 --> 0:02:20.240 also is like a showbiz relationship, I guess. 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:23.760 Back In a podcast in twenty nineteen, Jack said fake 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:26.480 romances are generally put together if a celebrity has a 0:02:26.480 --> 0:02:29.359 film or new project to promote or to distract from 0:02:29.400 --> 0:02:32.200 bad publicity that comes from with a flop or scandal. 0:02:32.280 --> 0:02:34.440 Now I agree, and I know people who've done that. Sure, 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:37.519 for sure, go but go ahead. 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:39.920 On the podcast, he admitted to staging at least two 0:02:40.000 --> 0:02:43.079 relationships during his career, having used them as a tool 0:02:43.480 --> 0:02:46.640 to distract the public from negative headlines. While he didn't 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:49.240 name names, the Hollywood Insiders said it's not uncoming for 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:52.800 stars to sign a love contract which requires them to 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:56.280 date for at least to date for at least one year. 0:02:56.400 --> 0:02:58.120 That was my love contract in marriage license, and I 0:02:58.240 --> 0:02:58.840 havy to sign it. 0:02:58.840 --> 0:02:59.440 It's a big one. 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:04.440 Okay. I have a couple thoughts, and my thoughts aren't 0:03:04.480 --> 0:03:06.320 Lunchbox is an idiot because he's reading his stay. 0:03:06.400 --> 0:03:08.639 He claimed that one binder female got a career boost 0:03:08.680 --> 0:03:10.760 out of such an arrangement and is now a household 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:13.440 name thanks to her year long relationship with an actor. 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:16.480 It was more of a mutual agreement between the agents. 0:03:16.520 --> 0:03:18.720 He recalled, we had a male who actually had a 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:20.600 movie coming out and was getting a lot of bad 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:23.840 reviews and slack, and they wanted the negativity of the 0:03:23.880 --> 0:03:25.640 movie to go away and make it more about him. 0:03:25.880 --> 0:03:27.720 So this is where you're putting me. It's not in 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:32.280 a place I like to be right now, Yeah, because. 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:34.359 Who needs that kind of help in this relationship? 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:40.240 He said something in the story that this guy said 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:43.120 that I let slip when I was evaluating it. I 0:03:43.360 --> 0:03:44.560 like to say, again, for the record, I do believe 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:46.600 it's a real relationship, and I do believe that this 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:50.080 document was fake. However, I also have said that Taylor 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:52.840 Swift does not need publicity, and I agree with that wholeheartedly. 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:54.560 She sells more than anybody. 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:54.880 Yep. 0:03:54.960 --> 0:03:58.200 But who does go ahead, finish your statement? 0:03:58.520 --> 0:03:59.280 Okay? And why which? 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:03.440 No, I'm not going where you think I'm going, Travis. No, No, no, 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:05.560 You'm not going where you think I'm going, because there 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:08.480 would be no for her. There's no benefit if it's 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:12.880 just for traviling right now, so stupid. So I'm not 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:13.560 going where you're thinking. 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:15.160 I'm okay, but you're going somewhere. 0:04:15.800 --> 0:04:17.480 You're trying to get all those bus so you don't 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:21.120 know he's trying to go somewhere. He's getting on the train. No, 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:23.839 but it did open up a little part of my 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:26.360 mind here because one of the things that you mentioned. 0:04:26.440 --> 0:04:28.520 And by the way, I will say again, I know, 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:30.320 are we. 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:30.800 In New York? 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:33.200 Do you guys do that car home? 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:36.000 It's only we're in the city. 0:04:37.040 --> 0:04:40.240 So the horn threw me. 0:04:40.560 --> 0:04:41.120 Okay. 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:45.040 I know people who have done this for publicity reasons, 0:04:45.279 --> 0:04:47.480 and it's part of the game. I mean, Hollywood, show biz, 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:49.719 show biz. However, you do all kinds of stuff to 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:54.239 get attention. I've been known in my career at times 0:04:54.279 --> 0:04:58.520 to do things together, never a fake relationship because nobody 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:03.440 would say yes. But I've done I've been an idiot 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:06.479 on purpose. I've started drama on purpose. I've done things 0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:11.640 for the literal sake of attention. Everybody tries to find 0:05:11.640 --> 0:05:13.240 a way to do it. Some are different than others. 0:05:13.800 --> 0:05:15.640 But the one thing I've never done is try to 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:20.960 hide something bad by doing something off. However, when Lunchbox 0:05:21.000 --> 0:05:22.760 said that because this is what he said. I think 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:26.920 Taylor was getting into a lot of pushback on how 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:30.200 much she was flying her private jet and how much 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:34.120 like the car her carbon footprint footprint, and it started 0:05:34.120 --> 0:05:36.479 to really catch on on TikTok and it started to 0:05:36.720 --> 0:05:38.640 and I'm not saying this is it, but when he 0:05:38.800 --> 0:05:40.160 said that, so. 0:05:40.279 --> 0:05:42.279 A showman's would cover that up. 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:44.520 Because then the most googled thing was her relationship and 0:05:44.560 --> 0:05:45.520 not the carbon footprint. 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:49.960 It was how do we Because her team is awesome, 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:53.559 they're they're amazing at what they do. They are ruthless killers, 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:55.800 which you have to be every part of them. She 0:05:55.839 --> 0:06:01.839 has built an organization of a plus soldiers, which I 0:06:01.880 --> 0:06:03.839 wish I had. I mean, you guys are like sea miners, 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:08.840 so I'll take it. I was watching, I was watching 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:10.080 Ray laugh. You're not. 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:13.160 You guys are solid. See I'm not listening, dude. I'm 0:06:13.200 --> 0:06:15.040 throwing off right now from this carbon footprint thing. 0:06:15.200 --> 0:06:17.440 So I'm not even saying this is real, nor do 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:19.760 I think it's real. But I never went to let's 0:06:19.760 --> 0:06:23.640 cover up something bad with something bigger. But that was Hey, 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:25.200 Mike d I'll ask you, because Mike Dean's not on 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:27.880 the trends. This was starting to be a thing on TikTok, 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:30.239 it was already catch on. Yeah, people were really upset, 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:33.120 pretty pretty heavily. I remember the guy that remember he 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:37.719 was tracking her jet yes, yeah, but he tracks Elon Musk, Yes, 0:06:37.800 --> 0:06:39.800 but and he was like the starter of it. But 0:06:39.839 --> 0:06:41.719 then everyone else started and I didn't feel like it 0:06:41.760 --> 0:06:43.360 was fair for them to really do this tailor anyway. 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:47.040 But why Travis Kelsey? Why not? 0:06:47.680 --> 0:06:49.239 Because he's the one that came out in the breast 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:50.320 and said I tried. 0:06:50.880 --> 0:06:55.400 But I think that but I think that's if set up. 0:06:55.600 --> 0:06:57.359 I don't think it was set up. I'm saying again, 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:01.440 if set up, that was even set up. That led 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:04.719 into the rest of it. So you do have me 0:07:04.839 --> 0:07:11.480 thinking three percent chance instead of point oh one. Because yes, 0:07:11.560 --> 0:07:13.960 there was another really smart thing she did recently. Whenever 0:07:14.080 --> 0:07:16.480 she released a song called slut, she did it so 0:07:16.520 --> 0:07:18.720 when you googled her name, that song would come up, 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:21.440 but negative articles wouldn't come out about people calling her 0:07:21.480 --> 0:07:23.600 a slut. That is exactly why I put out the 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:27.200 poem small penis because when it caught on and people 0:07:27.320 --> 0:07:29.160 if it would be the poem and not the pictures, 0:07:29.160 --> 0:07:30.920 it leaked. It's kind of like what you were saying, 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:33.720 she did this to block all that. 0:07:33.720 --> 0:07:37.400 That's smart too. I mean, dude, mind blown right now. 0:07:37.520 --> 0:07:39.320 But no, no, I don't want it to be blown. 0:07:39.520 --> 0:07:41.400 But I'm like you were, I don't like how I'm thinking. 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:43.920 And then it's like if she wants to fly her 0:07:44.040 --> 0:07:45.720 jet around so she could be at the games, like 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:47.600 people are cool with it because they want Taylor to 0:07:47.640 --> 0:07:47.920 be there. 0:07:49.160 --> 0:07:51.600 Love love love not to say the same people could 0:07:51.640 --> 0:07:54.080 still be saying the same things, but it just it 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:59.880 just gets so overwhelmed by Taylor Travis. Again, I do 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:02.360 not think this is the case, but this makes me 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:05.280 think about that all the time. The timeline of all this, 0:08:05.760 --> 0:08:06.320 and that. 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:08.200 A. 0:08:08.320 --> 0:08:11.640 Taylor's brilliant. B Taylor's brilliant, that she hires brilliant people 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:17.360 and those people will cut you or build you a 0:08:17.400 --> 0:08:19.920 new house like they're awesome. And I mean that in 0:08:19.920 --> 0:08:22.720 the greatest strategic business way. I've been a victim of both. 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:30.640 I love Tree, Taylor's publicist worked with her. We've done 0:08:30.920 --> 0:08:35.640 ACM lifting lives together, like I've been a vocal supporter. 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:38.720 I've donated a bunch of money to it because it helps, 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:42.319 Like musicians in need. So I guess I have a 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:44.439 I know people that work inside the operation. It's the 0:08:44.440 --> 0:08:47.160 greatest operation. I'll say it again. Taylor Swift is brilliant. 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:49.439 Even if you like her music, I don't like music, 0:08:49.480 --> 0:08:51.840 and her music is pretty good. Yeah, for me, it's 0:08:51.840 --> 0:08:54.800 pretty good. I don't really chase it. I love the folklore. 0:08:54.840 --> 0:08:58.280 I love the singer songwriter around stuff. Man, that's it 0:08:58.320 --> 0:08:58.560 for me. 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:01.560 I knew you were trouble when you walked in. 0:09:01.600 --> 0:09:04.000 That's not really for me, but catch you as crap, No, 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:05.000 catch us crap, but not. 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:06.679 For from never ever ever getting back together. 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:09.280 See, not really for me, but catchy as crap. I 0:09:09.400 --> 0:09:11.720 like like the slow the folklore is the whole record 0:09:11.720 --> 0:09:12.280 is slow one. 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:15.679 Oh yeah, that was ever more good too. 0:09:15.800 --> 0:09:16.280 That's a good one. 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:21.679 That's good. Yeah. So but hey, so if that's right, like. 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:24.160 I don't know that it is. I also don't think 0:09:24.200 --> 0:09:26.040 it is, but I'm just saying that's where my mind goes. 0:09:26.040 --> 0:09:27.679 But that would mean that this leak is legit. 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:32.840 That would mean it lends credence to I still don't 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:36.040 think the leak is legit because it's just stupid that 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:39.000 that could the relationship could have been built because of that. 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:40.800 IM takeing one of my favorite things. Yes, I have 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:44.480 never admitted to UH outwardly and openly on a microphone. 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:46.240 Well then yeah, I love it. 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:49.040 The thing is, if I say I love it, I'm 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:51.720 not gonna be able to reap the benefits from it 0:09:51.720 --> 0:09:54.400 as much anymore. So I will admit I love it, 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:55.880 and I'm not going to get the benefits because of it. 0:09:55.880 --> 0:10:00.000 But I feel like it is time. So before Taylor 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:02.840 are moved from here, she was on the show and 0:10:02.920 --> 0:10:07.680 she was great, and she's one of those interview interviewees 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:11.280 that is very generous that just goes wherever you want 0:10:11.280 --> 0:10:12.920 to go. She goes and she's funny and she's cutting 0:10:13.360 --> 0:10:15.600 and she'll make fun of you back and it's a 0:10:15.600 --> 0:10:21.679 great interview. And I like Taylor. There are a couple 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:25.080 clips that keep going viral of me in an old 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:27.640 interview from like fifteen years ago where I like a 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:30.199 stomach bug and it just timed out with Taylor coming 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:32.640 back like a second time, and she'd give me cookies 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:33.880 the first time, and I made a joke and the 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:36.559 context is completely lost in the clip, and I was like, 0:10:36.600 --> 0:10:37.960 I think your point. I think it was your cookies 0:10:37.960 --> 0:10:38.480 that poison me. 0:10:39.480 --> 0:10:41.719 I've seen that, yeah, and it. 0:10:41.679 --> 0:10:43.680 Continues to go viral and people I get attacked by 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:47.360 swifties all the time, and the full context is not 0:10:47.480 --> 0:10:50.920 really what that clip is. But I never am like, oh, 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:54.520 I love it because I get so much engagement on 0:10:54.520 --> 0:10:56.320 my video, some of my random videos that have nothing 0:10:56.320 --> 0:10:58.320 to do with it, from people being like, well, you 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:01.800 still got those cookies, and it elevates my other videos. 0:11:02.120 --> 0:11:05.120 So if more people are commenting, the engagement goes up, 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:07.160 the streams of the videos go up. So every time 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:12.040 that thing goes viral, I get turned on because I 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:14.360 my videos stream like it's stuff that has nothing to 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:17.920 do with it, and I forever I don't I've never 0:11:17.960 --> 0:11:20.000 admitted that because I kind of don't want people to 0:11:20.000 --> 0:11:23.480 stop being mean to me about that, because I like 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:27.480 it because they helped my videos. So that's that I've 0:11:27.520 --> 0:11:29.520 never said that, not that this will not this will 0:11:29.520 --> 0:11:31.360 go viral, but I love it when people are like 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:33.400 reposting it and go and then messaging me, and then 0:11:33.520 --> 0:11:35.280 they'll kind of my take, like all of a sudden, 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:36.760 they'll be like two hundred of them they come and 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:39.800 arming me up in a comments section. But what it 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:42.320 is is they'll start the algorithm strut to promote videos 0:11:42.320 --> 0:11:43.880 because of comments, and all of a sudden, I got 0:11:43.920 --> 0:11:45.920 a video tw hundred thousand views that has nothing to 0:11:45.920 --> 0:11:48.640 do with anything Taylor, and I'm like, thank you, Taylor. 0:11:49.080 --> 0:11:50.880 There was even one that popped up on my TikTok 0:11:50.920 --> 0:11:52.679 where you guys are arguing about something. It looked like 0:11:52.720 --> 0:11:55.360 you guys are really mad at each other. Probably you 0:11:55.360 --> 0:11:56.160 guys weren't mad at. 0:11:56.040 --> 0:11:59.240 It, absolutely not. We were at a comfort level where 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:01.640 we could just It's like when I know Jake a 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:03.360 lot better than Taylor, but I knew Taylor a little 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:08.720 more than just the show. But there's a level of 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:12.760 on mic or on camera comfort where you can actually 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:16.400 have like a fun argument and if you cut it 0:12:16.480 --> 0:12:19.160 just right with no context, it doesn't like a fight. Yeah. 0:12:19.679 --> 0:12:22.440 So I've never admitted how much I actually like that 0:12:22.440 --> 0:12:25.480 stuff existing because it helps me where I don't want 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:27.760 them to be like, now, be like whatever you do, 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:29.760 don't go right on this comment section because I want 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:35.360 it so please swifties continue when you seales videos come 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:38.800 over and be like you steal a poison, you idiot. 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:42.400 So there's that because it helps me and every time 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:44.480 I see it go viral, an angel gets his swings. 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:47.720 It's so old, though, I mean it's twelve or thirteen 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:48.120 years old. 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:51.840 Yeah, you look pretty different. You both do. 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:56.560 Yeah, we gotten a little older. I'm very lucky. I 0:12:56.600 --> 0:12:58.760 was talking to my wife a couple of nights ago 0:12:58.800 --> 0:13:01.360 about just a in general, and we do not have 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:05.240 kids yet, we do plan to have kids, so she's 0:13:05.280 --> 0:13:07.040 not pregnant. It's like to say all that because people 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:10.599 think I'll start putting a little east eggs the no 0:13:10.679 --> 0:13:14.000 Easter egg here. But we talk about it and it 0:13:14.280 --> 0:13:18.679 will happen at some point. I do feel and we're 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:20.800 talking about aging, and I, you know, the last thing 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:22.319 I want to be is an eighty year old dad, 0:13:22.800 --> 0:13:24.439 and it looks like that's what's going to happen. We 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:26.280 are just Our kids might be older too, but mine 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:29.280 are still. I'm forty four now. But let's say I 0:13:29.320 --> 0:13:31.640 have a kid in two years, I'm forty six. That means, 0:13:31.880 --> 0:13:34.720 you know, when the kid is fourteen, I'm sixty. You know, 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:39.079 that's a little older, and that show bized baby. I 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:44.520 sacrificed a lot early to be in this position because 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:46.400 I was afraid of having a kid and one being 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:48.600 a terrible dad, which I still have that fear because 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:52.760 I don't have models. I'm like I'm and I talk 0:13:52.800 --> 0:13:56.160 about a therapy a lot. I'm generally, genuinely and generally 0:13:56.280 --> 0:13:58.959 terrified of being a parent, not because of the time, 0:13:59.040 --> 0:14:01.280 or the effort or the responsibility, because I'm good at 0:14:01.280 --> 0:14:03.079 all three of those, but because I don't know how 0:14:03.080 --> 0:14:04.559 to do it, never had one do it to me. 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:06.120 And I'm afraid that I have that in me that 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:07.920 my real dad had when he left, like I have 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:10.480 all that that just sits in me. And even though 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:13.440 it's irrational and I know that, and I can recognize 0:14:13.480 --> 0:14:18.360 it's irrational, I can't get it to move out. It's 0:14:18.400 --> 0:14:20.440 a squatter and right now the law is protecting it. 0:14:21.880 --> 0:14:27.800 So that scares me. But I also know that my 0:14:27.880 --> 0:14:32.360 wife is freaking awesome and she comes from a very 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:35.160 healthy family. I love her family. I see why she 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:40.960 loves families, and so I want to have that for her, 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:44.720 and because I think I'll enjoy it, although I'm scared 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:46.920 I won't. I'm scared that I won't know what to 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:49.840 do and I'll run away. That is an irrational fear, 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:52.080 and it's so irrational that I know it's not true, 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:54.120 but it doesn't mean it. It can't exist. And I've 0:14:54.120 --> 0:14:57.080 had like I wanna just name drop, like Darius has 0:14:57.120 --> 0:15:02.880 had long conversations with me about that, and and you 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:06.720 know why, because his dad was gone. And if you 0:15:06.760 --> 0:15:08.840 listen to the podcast that Darius did on the Bobbycast, 0:15:08.840 --> 0:15:10.600 we did it for an hour. I cried in the podcast. 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:17.160 I don't think I've ever done that because it's so 0:15:18.120 --> 0:15:24.960 deeply resonated with me, his story and his pain that 0:15:25.040 --> 0:15:26.440 it was hard for me to talk to him about 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:29.240 him because I was feeling it so much through him 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:32.560 for me, and Darius has like pulled me aside like 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:38.160 social places, private places, the golf course and just been like, 0:15:39.000 --> 0:15:44.840 hey man, I had the same feelings you're going to ABCD. Right, 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:50.640 I've totally veered off. Where was I going with it? 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:52.160 I don't know me either, but I felt like I 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:53.280 was gone something pretty good with it. 0:15:54.520 --> 0:15:55.600 Can I ask you a question though? 0:15:55.680 --> 0:15:57.320 Yeah? But I needed to know where I was going 0:15:57.360 --> 0:15:59.120 because I was really onto something. And then I got 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:01.480 kind of emotional and forgot what I was thinking. 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:04.000 Yeah, we were on tailor, Yeah, and then let's try 0:16:04.080 --> 0:16:05.680 let's talk about this is right? 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:08.080 Now this is me like finding my car. Keys's fine, 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:10.680 oh oh, the other's dad, No, No, don't know them 0:16:11.160 --> 0:16:15.880 older dad, baby oh. Aging. While talking about about aging, 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:19.360 I'm very fortunate. Two things and no offense to anybody 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:21.200 in the room. Here are the two things I've working 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:23.320 for me because because I'm forty four, but I don't 0:16:23.360 --> 0:16:25.320 think I like twenty five. But I do think most 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:27.000 people think I'm a little younger than I am because 0:16:27.000 --> 0:16:30.480 it's only two things. My glasses cover my eyes any 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:33.960 aging in my eyes. My glasses are so bold that 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:36.800 there's no aging in my eyes, which helps my face right. 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:41.520 And I think the eyes aren't usually a pretty accurate 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:45.000 portrayal of the person's age. Good everybody agree in that sure, Okay, 0:16:46.160 --> 0:16:48.880 to have all my hair good and I have a 0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:52.040 lot of hair, yeah, good hair. And I think those 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:54.080 two things. And I used to wear my glasses just 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:57.440 because I was I felt like I was ugly, physically ugly, 0:16:57.480 --> 0:17:00.440 and and that my glasses would take a little bit 0:17:00.480 --> 0:17:01.920 of pressure off my face. And I say that as 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:03.680 a joke, but it's not really a joke. That's why 0:17:03.720 --> 0:17:07.440 I wore big bowl glasses because Weezer, Buddy Holly, they 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:09.600 were nerdy. I felt like I was ugly and I 0:17:09.600 --> 0:17:12.399 could be ugly but kind of cool in that nerdy way. 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:17.120 So I wore these big glasses and now I'm never 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:22.400 leaving them because I it keeps me looking five years younger. Maybe, 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:26.399 So we're talking about aging and very fortunate my glasses. 0:17:26.440 --> 0:17:29.199 You're going to start to get bigger, bigger, be like 0:17:29.200 --> 0:17:31.040 those you get at the circus of the carnival of 0:17:31.160 --> 0:17:33.880 massive ones, and they have all my hair. I feel 0:17:33.960 --> 0:17:38.040 very fortunate about that. And so when I when I 0:17:38.080 --> 0:17:41.200 go to therapy, which I go to my personal therapist 0:17:41.240 --> 0:17:43.560 every other week. My wife and I go every week, 0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:47.119 which we've been doing since before we got married. My 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:55.360 personal therapist really advises suggests strongly that when I get 0:17:55.400 --> 0:18:02.520 into these negative like I'm spinning out. I don't won't 0:18:02.520 --> 0:18:04.399 say feeling sorry for myself, but just kind of feeling 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:09.119 bad or I am projecting into the future things that 0:18:09.160 --> 0:18:11.800 won't go right. Like he's like, you're never going to 0:18:11.840 --> 0:18:14.199 just fully change and be a different person. And I 0:18:14.240 --> 0:18:17.040 subscribe to that too. I believe in one percent growth 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:22.040 over a long period of time. He's a big attention guy, 0:18:22.080 --> 0:18:23.200 like if you can just take a little bit of 0:18:23.240 --> 0:18:25.280 your attention that you're using on what may not happen right, 0:18:25.359 --> 0:18:27.399 may not happen wrong. You're still getting some of your attentions, 0:18:27.400 --> 0:18:28.639 still going to go there, but if you can just 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:30.600 try to take a little bit of your attention and 0:18:30.640 --> 0:18:33.919 put it on what has gone right. And he's I 0:18:34.119 --> 0:18:39.320 like him because he doesn't do this stuff like and 0:18:39.359 --> 0:18:41.159 this works for some people but not for me. And 0:18:41.200 --> 0:18:43.280 I'm not shaming it. I even changed the name of it. 0:18:43.320 --> 0:18:45.040 When I call it thanksgiving, what do you call it? 0:18:45.160 --> 0:18:45.680 Gratitude? 0:18:45.720 --> 0:18:48.800 Gratitude? He doesn't do like do a gratitude journal or 0:18:48.840 --> 0:18:51.000 do gratitude, but he's like, just take your attention and 0:18:51.400 --> 0:18:54.400 for thirty seconds, focus on what's pretty cool right now. 0:18:55.520 --> 0:18:58.840 And if you'll do that consistently, whenever you start to spind, 0:18:59.000 --> 0:19:00.840 it'll start to be so now natural that you're not 0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:06.240 even doing it on purpose. You'll just start replacing that 0:19:07.119 --> 0:19:10.480 negative rush with a bit of positive attention, and it 0:19:10.520 --> 0:19:15.359 will help you twenty to thirty percent. And so that's 0:19:15.400 --> 0:19:17.960