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Speaker 1: All right, let's move on to Mary. She says, Hey, Siri,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god? Do it? Do it? Do it? Please? Hold?

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Speaker 1: want to pour it right now? The Ultimate sexting Guide.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, can you give us those references? Sexting examples

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Speaker 1: for women, thirty dirty texts say something though, This was

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Speaker 1: This is what I'm noticing with other friends I'm hearing

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Speaker 1: is is maybe and maybe I'm like completely old school,

423
00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:50,879
Speaker 1: but like if I'm saying something sexual to you, it's

424
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:54,480
Speaker 1: because I'm like thinking it right. So if you are

425
00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:57,000
Speaker 1: having to go, oh, what should I say right now,

426
00:22:57,240 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 1: maybe you're not there yet in that relationship. For me

427
00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 1: is that I always go for the sexting laugh. I mean,

428
00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:08,639
Speaker 1: and it's more my personality. I don't know. It's more

429
00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:11,880
Speaker 1: about like an innuendo than being like you're like, oh,

430
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:18,160
Speaker 1: I'm hard. Is that what you mean? Like I wish

431
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:21,119
Speaker 1: I had an example to give you, but because I

432
00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:24,159
Speaker 1: can't take myself seriously with the sexting, and I'm like,

433
00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:29,040
Speaker 1: I am also like I don't send dick picks. I don't.

434
00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:32,000
Speaker 1: I don't send them. I don't like say no thank

435
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:35,119
Speaker 1: you if I get to get them, but I'm like, no,

436
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:37,920
Speaker 1: I don't. It's I think there's also a mental thing

437
00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 1: for me, like I just don't need that ship out

438
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 1: on the internet like screenshow in it? Yeah? Yeah, true.

439
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:48,520
Speaker 1: I mean not that I've done it before, mom, but

440
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 1: definitely you've just read some stuff in Cosmo. Um. No,

441
00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:59,440
Speaker 1: I think that I just we had a friend recently

442
00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 1: and this is yeah, okay, I'm just going to tell

443
00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:05,159
Speaker 1: the story. So she was talking to a guy she

444
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:10,359
Speaker 1: met from Bumble and literally he sent dick picks. He

445
00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:12,480
Speaker 1: was like telling her all the things he wanted to

446
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:16,680
Speaker 1: do to her, like all of these things before they

447
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 1: ever went on a day. Well have we I mean,

448
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:21,520
Speaker 1: I don't know if we're talking about the same friend,

449
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 1: but we had we had this, We have this other

450
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:27,600
Speaker 1: friend friends who was having a very normal conversation, really

451
00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:31,720
Speaker 1: charming grammar. He was king and out of nowhere. He said,

452
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:34,240
Speaker 1: I want to see more of you, he said, he

453
00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 1: wish He said, I wish you were over at my house.

454
00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:40,160
Speaker 1: That have you bent over the counter? And then guy

455
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:45,280
Speaker 1: literally went into that I would have you been over

456
00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:48,680
Speaker 1: the counter, and then he said intrigued question mark. She's

457
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,879
Speaker 1: like she waited, and then like the next day she

458
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:54,359
Speaker 1: just wrote back intrigued, just to see where he would

459
00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:56,040
Speaker 1: take it. And then he was like insistent on a

460
00:24:56,080 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 1: photo of her, and when she was like, I can't

461
00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 1: send you a photo of me because I'm at a key,

462
00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:03,520
Speaker 1: blocked her. Oh see that's bullshit. So I mean, look,

463
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:07,360
Speaker 1: I think most of the times dudes are just kept

464
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:09,879
Speaker 1: trying to get laid. It's no different when you're that's

465
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:12,120
Speaker 1: why guys are at bars. Well, it's like the it's

466
00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 1: now nowadays totally it's the bar scene of especially during

467
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:20,560
Speaker 1: this isolation period. I mean this girl that I'm talking about,

468
00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:22,359
Speaker 1: the one that got all the pictures before, I mean

469
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:24,000
Speaker 1: they did go on a date and she's like kind

470
00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 1: of into him. I mean, I don't know, we'll see

471
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:30,080
Speaker 1: what happens, but like it just felt like a lot

472
00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 1: to me before, Like isn't part of dating, like the

473
00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:35,440
Speaker 1: exciting part? And maybe this is just me again, am

474
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:37,679
Speaker 1: I old and proved? I don't know. I don't know

475
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:42,119
Speaker 1: the answer, but I like the build up, Like I

476
00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:43,760
Speaker 1: want to go on the date and then I want

477
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:46,920
Speaker 1: to be pleasantly surprised and I'm like so attracted to them,

478
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:48,200
Speaker 1: and then I want to sit there and I want

479
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 1: to start thinking about it, and then I want us

480
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:51,399
Speaker 1: to have the first kiss and then there to be

481
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:55,119
Speaker 1: that build up. And I think when it goes to

482
00:25:55,240 --> 00:26:02,159
Speaker 1: sexting before even meeting, it puts unnecessary pressure on the

483
00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:06,119
Speaker 1: first date, Like, yeah, what if you're even attracted, you know,

484
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 1: you're like this person just because like I intimated that

485
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:16,200
Speaker 1: I would you know, it's so I look, it's I've

486
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:18,639
Speaker 1: definitely like had those situations where it goes there, and like,

487
00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:20,639
Speaker 1: you know, what's really easy to do is send it

488
00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 1: back and not mean it. So I think you have

489
00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:25,919
Speaker 1: to do that's the problem. I mean I could go

490
00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:30,159
Speaker 1: in another rend. Look, look, listen, Mary, I think the

491
00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:36,359
Speaker 1: interesting thing about your your question is that if someone

492
00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:41,199
Speaker 1: is doing that with you, you have to, like, um,

493
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:44,399
Speaker 1: you have to accept the fact that they probably like

494
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: there's they don't give a complete they don't give an

495
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:50,680
Speaker 1: ounce of shit about you, right they. I mean it

496
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:54,639
Speaker 1: could end up turning into more. Yeah, I mean it

497
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:56,679
Speaker 1: could go either way. But like anybody who wants to

498
00:26:56,720 --> 00:27:00,680
Speaker 1: just fucking start sexting right off the bat, I would say, Mary,

499
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:05,160
Speaker 1: you don't need to learn how the sext. Also, like

500
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:07,359
Speaker 1: with yeah, I agree with you, you don't need to

501
00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:10,160
Speaker 1: learn how if someone is trying to sex you too soon,

502
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:12,399
Speaker 1: you can write back and just say go watch some

503
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 1: fucking porn because it's like it's so easily accessible these days,

504
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 1: and like, Hi, I'm not a porn star, dude. I'm

505
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 1: a regular girl and I like to have sex. But

506
00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean I'm going to just like put it

507
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:24,919
Speaker 1: out there. You've got to work for that ship or

508
00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 1: send them disgusting porn photos. Well that's what you made. Yeah,

509
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:34,000
Speaker 1: you just said nasty porn photos, like and I mean like, which,

510
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 1: that's funny that you do go for the ha ha.

511
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 1: I see what you're doing here. I see that. Okay, Um,

512
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:43,720
Speaker 1: But then like later, if you're you know, finding yourself

513
00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 1: in a situation where you're comfortable. I just think it

514
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:51,720
Speaker 1: happens naturally, Like how sexy is a sex when you're

515
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 1: like there's a real connection, you've actually already had sex

516
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:57,560
Speaker 1: and like yeah, the person that you're with like send

517
00:27:57,600 --> 00:28:02,040
Speaker 1: you like there's an inside show, like you know, like

518
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:06,360
Speaker 1: the people love feathers, they're like, you know, like when

519
00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:11,840
Speaker 1: there's like an inside to the sexting. I'm not one

520
00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 1: of those people. I loved that. I don't know feathers.

521
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get you a feather like slapper. Great, Great,

522
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 1: we're going to the fox that after this. That's near

523
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:31,160
Speaker 1: your house, right people where I live. That's you don't

524
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 1: live right next to buck them, but that is where

525
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 1: you went to celebrate the day that you signed Actually

526
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:42,400
Speaker 1: not what it's called. Hey you guys, Oh, yeah, it's not.

527
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:46,200
Speaker 1: It's actually not remember the real name, but I'm not

528
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 1: telling anyone. It's where you went the day that you

529
00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:52,000
Speaker 1: you bought the house and I thought it was a

530
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 1: bar and I said, I'll meet you. Yeah, we already

531
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 1: told all my friends and I were buying vibrators. Well,

532
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 1: how do you Chris in a house? You know, in

533
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:08,760
Speaker 1: every room. I'm editing this out, like editing this out

534
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 1: last time. I give you tequila before we started. God,

535
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 1: I hope they answered that. Do we help Mary? I

536
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:23,560
Speaker 1: don't even know. I just think it's like, you just

537
00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 1: got to really feel a sex. If it's going to

538
00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 1: be effective. You can't google how do I ask sex?

539
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 1: And I mean you could this The sick part is

540
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 1: sick part is is that would get a guy off.

541
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna tell you something, guys, any guys listening,

542
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 1: that's not going to do it for us. I need

543
00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 1: some sort of like what you want to do to me,

544
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 1: specifically of something that we've already talked about, of something

545
00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 1: that I've felt with you before. Like it has to

546
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:57,800
Speaker 1: be a feeling, you know, not just like uh, let

547
00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 1: me google how to sex, let me watch porn and

548
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 1: say something. They say and that like, no, I'm not

549
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 1: going to do the trick, so Mary you'll know. You'll

550
00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:11,480
Speaker 1: know when you know. Mary. Okay, let's move on to Joshua.

551
00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 1: A man, I mean we're gonna have to cut like

552
00:30:14,680 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 1: this is so long already, This is so much more

553
00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 1: at casual than we usually do. Hey, you guys, if

554
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:23,480
Speaker 1: you haven't gotten to work out, just keep driving around circle.

555
00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 1: I've almost done my drink. I mean, God, part two

556
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 1: and three you're gonna be a ship show. Okay from Joshua,

557
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:34,440
Speaker 1: what do you do if you've been in a serious

558
00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:39,160
Speaker 1: relationship for five years but find yourself crushing on someone new?

559
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 1: How do you know if it's actually something you want

560
00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:44,160
Speaker 1: to pursue or if curiosity is just getting the best

561
00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:47,520
Speaker 1: of you. I'm honestly very content and happy in my relationship,

562
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 1: and I've never had any sort of thought like this,

563
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:52,240
Speaker 1: and I've never acted on them. But I guess what

564
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 1: I'm asking is what do I do? It's scary to

565
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 1: think that you could throw something away on nothing, but

566
00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 1: also what if you let the moment pass to see

567
00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 1: by Oh God, I mean I hate to tell anyone

568
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:11,000
Speaker 1: to funk up their relationship. Ship No, and look it's

569
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 1: also obviously it's so circumstantial, like we don't know Joshua

570
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 1: or his significant others. Um. I think that it really

571
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 1: depends on how committed you are to that relationship, Like

572
00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: you have to sort of look at your current situation

573
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 1: and be like, do I see myself with this person

574
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 1: for the rest of my life? Or is this just

575
00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 1: what I needed the last five years? And if you

576
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:44,160
Speaker 1: can answer that where it's like, this is what I

577
00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 1: want because it's like the marriage or you know, relationships,

578
00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 1: their commitment, they take work, they're not just something that

579
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:54,840
Speaker 1: you're in. So you have to decide whether or not

580
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 1: like it's something that you want to commit to and

581
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 1: and stay how be in or look outside like I

582
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 1: don't like, I certainly do not recommend that anyone stay

583
00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:10,880
Speaker 1: in a relationship that they're unhappy and because right, so

584
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 1: it's content content, but is he is he happy? He's content?

585
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 1: He said, I am honestly very content and happy. Okay,

586
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 1: So I mean those I mean it's a little contra

587
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 1: content I think is complacent. What I mean is you

588
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 1: were just like, I'm really happy in my relationship, then

589
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 1: I'd be like, then stay in it, like, don't look

590
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 1: outside content. That worries me a little bit because if

591
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 1: you're just content in something, then maybe you're you've just

592
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:45,480
Speaker 1: accepted that's what it is, and then now you're seeing

593
00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:48,120
Speaker 1: this like shiny new thing that's like making you feel something.

594
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:51,680
Speaker 1: Maybe it's worth exploring. That doesn't mean you need to

595
00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:54,200
Speaker 1: go kiss them, That doesn't mean that you need to

596
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 1: like have an emotional relationship with them. Maybe it's just

597
00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 1: you start a friendship and you see if like those

598
00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 1: feelings continue, you get to know that person better. And

599
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:06,920
Speaker 1: if it's something where you're like, this is undeniable and

600
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 1: I've never felt this in my life, then you explore it. Interesting.

601
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 1: That's not a bad point, but I also think like

602
00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 1: you have to be honest with your like at that point,

603
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:19,680
Speaker 1: you have to be honest with other persons, like, don't

604
00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:21,840
Speaker 1: be a cheater. We're not going to cheating a cheater.

605
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:26,720
Speaker 1: That's such a dick move. It's just so immature because

606
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 1: you know, the only thing it is, it's it's a

607
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 1: short cut selfish. It's a it's really selfish. But it

608
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:37,800
Speaker 1: also just like rather than allowing yourself to have like

609
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: real love would be like, man, I love you feels

610
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:45,400
Speaker 1: a little awesome. And I want to make this work.

611
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:48,920
Speaker 1: Like that's fucking that takes balls. That is what real

612
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 1: love is. Not real love is cheating and then being

613
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 1: like sorry, I cheated on you, because that's an easy out,

614
00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 1: absolutely because it lets the other person just be mad

615
00:33:57,560 --> 00:34:00,160
Speaker 1: at you. And then then it's it's also like I

616
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:02,640
Speaker 1: did this, so we're gonna break up now, Like it's

617
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:05,239
Speaker 1: just it's like the post move, like just don't do it.

618
00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:08,600
Speaker 1: I think a lot of the stuff you said is good.

619
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:11,880
Speaker 1: There's a couple of things I would I'm torn because

620
00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:14,799
Speaker 1: it's like there's a part of me that goes, are

621
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:17,279
Speaker 1: you really happy and content? And like it makes you

622
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: start to look at because again from experience, when I'm

623
00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 1: happy and content, I just don't even kind of notice.

624
00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:25,680
Speaker 1: But I will say this, this is something I've had

625
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:27,760
Speaker 1: to wrap my mind around because as a person who's

626
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:30,920
Speaker 1: been cheated on pretty badly, Like it's been a really

627
00:34:31,040 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 1: hard concept for me to go the person that I'm

628
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:37,600
Speaker 1: with is going to notice other people and probably feel

629
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:40,800
Speaker 1: attracted to other people, you know, Like that's a really

630
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 1: hard pill for me to swallow, if I'm being completely honest,

631
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:46,839
Speaker 1: because it's just like I want them to only see me,

632
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:49,759
Speaker 1: and that's just so unrealistic, Like just because you're in

633
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:53,160
Speaker 1: a relationship, you don't become not human. And I think

634
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:56,399
Speaker 1: that you have to acknowledge that as a like an

635
00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 1: adult and go, I'm a human being. I find that

636
00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 1: person attracted if we have a chemistry of some sort.

637
00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:05,920
Speaker 1: However I'm committing, Like what I've said to myself or

638
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 1: like what I've talked about with my boyfriend and my

639
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:11,840
Speaker 1: partner is like that's probably gonna happen, and especially if

640
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 1: you stay together for your life, Like that's so always.

641
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter relationships or jobs or whatever. Friendship that's

642
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 1: not realistic. If you're chasing that, it's a dangerous dan.

643
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:26,920
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying is you can go like, oh,

644
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 1: that's an attractive person. However, I have this foundation with

645
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:33,239
Speaker 1: this person, we have this life together. Like you look

646
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 1: back at at whatever it is that you have and

647
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:37,359
Speaker 1: then you go, what am I not getting? Like what

648
00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:39,239
Speaker 1: needs are not getting met? That I could go to

649
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:42,720
Speaker 1: my partner and be like, hey, like I need more love,

650
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:44,920
Speaker 1: I need more affection, I need more of this, I

651
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,920
Speaker 1: need more of that, And hopefully they are willing to

652
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 1: work with you, Like you said I mean these kind

653
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 1: of relationships take work and go, yeah, let me give

654
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 1: that to you, or let me work at that, or

655
00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:57,920
Speaker 1: let me whatever it is. Contentment is scary. I mean

656
00:35:58,040 --> 00:36:00,040
Speaker 1: I think it really is. It's a scary thing. And

657
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 1: it's like Joshua, I think if contentment is truly what

658
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:08,760
Speaker 1: you feel and not just a word that you chose,

659
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 1: because I also understand that's a really easy to be,

660
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:14,480
Speaker 1: Like I'm content and happy, But if contentment is what

661
00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 1: you feel, I think you need to dig deep and

662
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:21,880
Speaker 1: yourself like am I am I truly truly happy? Or

663
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 1: is it comfortable? And if if you are happy but

664
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 1: there's things missing, then you need to address that. Um

665
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:30,800
Speaker 1: And I like, I agree with what you said to

666
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 1: like I I can remember that like when you're especially

667
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 1: like when you're early in a relationship, and like the

668
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 1: person that you're dating is like that person is hot.

669
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:45,120
Speaker 1: It like makes you want but at the same time

670
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 1: you have to check yourself because it's like, wait, haven't

671
00:36:47,520 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 1: you noticed a hot person since you started dating? And

672
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 1: it's we're human beings. We noticed beauty and things and

673
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:56,440
Speaker 1: it's and I would much rather my partner or the

674
00:36:56,440 --> 00:37:00,560
Speaker 1: person I'm dating say out loud, Damn they're hot. So

675
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:04,279
Speaker 1: I think it's what you're saying to get to longer, Like,

676
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 1: if you're in a more long term situation, you're a

677
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:09,920
Speaker 1: lot more confident and comfortable in the relationship, and so

678
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 1: like you're kind of like or you might even be like, yeah,

679
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:14,879
Speaker 1: they are hot, but even early on, I think it's

680
00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 1: kind of like one of those things you've got to

681
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:19,840
Speaker 1: let go because because then it also gives you the

682
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 1: license to say the same thing, to say the same

683
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:27,080
Speaker 1: thing though you're so hot, but come on, like you're

684
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:30,000
Speaker 1: fucking human too. It's like, yeah, but when I'm in

685
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: the beginning of a relationship, I really don't even notice

686
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:35,200
Speaker 1: other people, like if especially if I'm in I am

687
00:37:35,280 --> 00:37:38,640
Speaker 1: just like so in and I'm sure until David Beckham

688
00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:41,239
Speaker 1: walks in the room and you're like, goddamn, he's like

689
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:46,080
Speaker 1: slip off my chair like that. I don't even know

690
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:48,319
Speaker 1: if I would ever him. I just wanted to say that, right,

691
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 1: But you get the point that I'm making, Like I do,

692
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 1: I think, I mean honestly, like my boyfriend last night

693
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 1: we were watching a movie and we're watching that Ford

694
00:37:56,680 --> 00:38:00,520
Speaker 1: versus Ferrari movie and he's done as a the past,

695
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:04,000
Speaker 1: and it piste me off because what I realized is

696
00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:06,359
Speaker 1: like I wasn't in a place full yet where I

697
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 1: was feeling confident in the relationship, and also like I

698
00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:11,280
Speaker 1: had so much ship going on in my personal life

699
00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:14,040
Speaker 1: that was like sort of stripping me of who I

700
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:16,680
Speaker 1: felt like I was. I was in this weird place myself.

701
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:19,200
Speaker 1: It always has to do with us, right, Um. But

702
00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 1: so we're watching this movie and he said about the girl.

703
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:24,719
Speaker 1: He was like, she's really pretty. And I had literally

704
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:27,239
Speaker 1: in my head just thought she's really pretty. And I

705
00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:30,439
Speaker 1: almost said it, but then he said it, And at

706
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:32,560
Speaker 1: first I wanted to be like uh, but then I

707
00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 1: was like, hey, you just thought the same thing yourself.

708
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:38,800
Speaker 1: She's really pretty and he wasn't saying it, and this

709
00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:42,719
Speaker 1: he was stating a fact. It was in his hand,

710
00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:45,799
Speaker 1: was like, she's really pretty. That would have I would

711
00:38:45,840 --> 00:38:49,759
Speaker 1: have lost my money. I lost my money even at

712
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 1: the thought of that. That you just said that, he's

713
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:54,480
Speaker 1: gonna be like Chip, He's gonna call you later, like

714
00:38:54,640 --> 00:39:02,240
Speaker 1: Chip said, Anyway, Yeah, the point is we digress, Joshua.

715
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:04,759
Speaker 1: I just think it's like you really have to look

716
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:07,400
Speaker 1: at your relationship, analyze where you are and ask yourself,

717
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:11,760
Speaker 1: are you really happy? And if you are, then maybe

718
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 1: try to ask for some needs that aren't being met

719
00:39:13,719 --> 00:39:16,400
Speaker 1: and ask yourself what that other person gives you? Or

720
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:18,479
Speaker 1: do you just think they're hot? I mean, I would

721
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 1: say get to know them, like you said, chip, because

722
00:39:20,840 --> 00:39:23,799
Speaker 1: they're never as hot when you get to right. But

723
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:26,319
Speaker 1: don't do it like on the slide, because look, emotional

724
00:39:26,400 --> 00:39:30,440
Speaker 1: cheating is cheating. Oh my god. Yeah. But I also

725
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 1: think too, it's like we are human, so it's like

726
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 1: maybe we need these moments to sort of check ourselves

727
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 1: and check our relationships. I think about my parents, who

728
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:42,319
Speaker 1: are high school sweethearts, like, oh my god, I know

729
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 1: that they both looked at other people and been like,

730
00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:46,319
Speaker 1: why the fund didn't marry that one? Sure, you know,

731
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:48,799
Speaker 1: but then I they're best friends, Like they work as

732
00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:53,640
Speaker 1: such an amazing unit that they would have been stupid

733
00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:56,319
Speaker 1: to tear that down. Yeah. I mean, there's a bunch

734
00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:58,560
Speaker 1: of questions about long term relationships that will get to

735
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 1: probably in the next pub seventeen weeks that the ray

736
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:04,719
Speaker 1: we're gone, Oh my god, Okay, you know what On

737
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:06,480
Speaker 1: that note, I do think we should go out with

738
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:09,920
Speaker 1: a bang. Oh god, this is bush if I was

739
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:12,360
Speaker 1: gonna say, this is the topic you have been wanting

740
00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: to talk about for weeks now, Well, I mean the

741
00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:17,719
Speaker 1: funny part is what it's been. I mean it was

742
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:21,680
Speaker 1: in the nineteen nineties that I saw Bush last. I

743
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:24,320
Speaker 1: mean I don't even remember when I saw Bush last.

744
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:27,239
Speaker 1: I mean didn't even see Bush when she got out

745
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:30,800
Speaker 1: the shower this morning. Absolutely not. I would be I

746
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 1: would feel assaulted from my own self. If there was

747
00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:37,719
Speaker 1: Bush when you got out the shower, you would have

748
00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:40,319
Speaker 1: been like, who were you? Like it would have been

749
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 1: another woman in your house. You would have called nine

750
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 1: one one. There would have been a woman in your house.

751
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:55,400
Speaker 1: Excuse me? Um okay. But so the question comes from Christie.

752
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 1: The question is is the big Bush making a comeback?

753
00:40:59,040 --> 00:41:01,040
Speaker 1: Here's a deal. This is one that I did read

754
00:41:01,080 --> 00:41:04,440
Speaker 1: about because I'm like, what about do what? I don't Christie,

755
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 1: I've heard, you know, I've heard like whisperings of this,

756
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:10,040
Speaker 1: but I have a lot of problems with it. But

757
00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:14,440
Speaker 1: apparently yes, it's like in two Well here, let me

758
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 1: say this. The last articles I can find about this

759
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:18,759
Speaker 1: are in two thousand nineteen. Because let's just be honest,

760
00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 1: there's everything knows like nobody knows what's in style. Everyone's like,

761
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:29,000
Speaker 1: do I keep it with my gramming or do I

762
00:41:29,040 --> 00:41:31,200
Speaker 1: just let it go? So I think you do whatever

763
00:41:31,239 --> 00:41:35,560
Speaker 1: you want. It's all going to burn down anyway, exactly. Um,

764
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:40,239
Speaker 1: it's gonna be a burning bush if you will. But

765
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:43,040
Speaker 1: in two thousand nineteen they were saying the bush was

766
00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:46,720
Speaker 1: making a comeback, and I just can't wrap my mind

767
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:52,840
Speaker 1: around it. What are your thoughts, Chip, Well, Um, I

768
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 1: what's funny is I would imagine that for a lot

769
00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:58,840
Speaker 1: of the world the bush never even went away because

770
00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:02,799
Speaker 1: certain you know this, They're like, why would I do that?

771
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 1: Or why would I spend money on like laser hair? Um,

772
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:12,399
Speaker 1: it feels very American, doesn't it. It feels very American? Totally. Um.

773
00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:17,160
Speaker 1: When when I think about how expensive it is for

774
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:20,799
Speaker 1: all of my female friends to be a girl and

775
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:23,480
Speaker 1: keep up with like what is on trend and on fashion,

776
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 1: and it is waxing and micro blading and lashes and nails,

777
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: and we've I'm like, how do you pay for anything

778
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:34,880
Speaker 1: other than being a woman. So, I mean, you were

779
00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: a woman, and I could not have to deal with

780
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 1: being waxed and it being hidden of the time, I'd

781
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:48,719
Speaker 1: have a bush, like have you have you ever met

782
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:51,919
Speaker 1: a dude that's like, God, it took me so long

783
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:53,960
Speaker 1: to find your vagina And they're like no, they know

784
00:42:54,040 --> 00:43:00,040
Speaker 1: exactly where This is all women judging women. It's I

785
00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 1: don't even do whatever you want to other women, but

786
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:04,279
Speaker 1: this is what I will say. I do think it's

787
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 1: a generational thing because a lot of our friends are

788
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:11,000
Speaker 1: a little older than me, and I started getting rid

789
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:17,880
Speaker 1: of all of that situation, situation, that mess um in

790
00:43:18,000 --> 00:43:21,480
Speaker 1: high school. And so like for me, I think I

791
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:23,759
Speaker 1: would feel that because that was what all my friends

792
00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 1: were doing. We just did that, and so for me

793
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 1: it would feel very like it would feel like, um,

794
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:32,880
Speaker 1: what's the word when something is like in your space

795
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:35,600
Speaker 1: and it's not supposed to be the claustrophobic yes, like

796
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:39,720
Speaker 1: in my underwear. So I would feel uncomfortable. It feel

797
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:41,960
Speaker 1: itchy to me. I'm just not used to it anymore.

798
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 1: And I mean I've been told that it's because of

799
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 1: porn and like oral sex that rise, that that was

800
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 1: how we kind of grew up as like you do

801
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:54,919
Speaker 1: not have pubic hare, you know. Yeah, I think, um, look,

802
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 1: I think the feminism has been on the rise too,

803
00:43:58,520 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 1: and I feel like there's an argument it there where

804
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 1: it's like these are bodies like this is souther made.

805
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:07,919
Speaker 1: I don't know that the unkempt like big bush. Yeah,

806
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:12,280
Speaker 1: that's a Christie a specific And here's here's another question.

807
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:14,800
Speaker 1: And I know I didn't even finish my last sment,

808
00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:18,160
Speaker 1: but like, what if you can't grow? Like does everyone

809
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:22,799
Speaker 1: naturally grow a really big bush? I think so, even redheads.

810
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 1: I'm serious though, that's like a thing like because there

811
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:31,560
Speaker 1: is there a hair thinner down there. I've never had

812
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:33,600
Speaker 1: sex with the red heads. I don't know. Well, I

813
00:44:33,600 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 1: mean like, I just think that it's like a different

814
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:38,160
Speaker 1: It's like a lighter color. One of our friends is

815
00:44:38,160 --> 00:44:42,000
Speaker 1: gonna like light me up. I can't wait. I just

816
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:45,120
Speaker 1: think that I've heard different things about ginger, Like it's

817
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:48,000
Speaker 1: like does the carpet match the drapes kind of situation

818
00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:50,040
Speaker 1: and like a lot of times it does. And then

819
00:44:50,040 --> 00:44:52,880
Speaker 1: there's a lot of redheads to have heard don't actually

820
00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:59,319
Speaker 1: grow the same amount of hair do? Well? Look, I

821
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:03,360
Speaker 1: think that it's all about um, what you want to

822
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:07,799
Speaker 1: do um, and also your partner. This is this is

823
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:09,960
Speaker 1: to Christie. I think you could ask your partner. I

824
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:12,239
Speaker 1: have been in a relationship before he was like, hey,

825
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 1: I'd like X, Y and Z, you know, and like

826
00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:17,359
Speaker 1: you can decide, am I comfortable with that remal? You'll

827
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 1: be like, sorry, buddy, there but I haven't had that,

828
00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:22,160
Speaker 1: but yeah, but like if you have, then it's like, yeah,

829
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 1: there's no option. Yeah, there's no option. But you get American.

830
00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:29,240
Speaker 1: If you guys are like, what the fund is American?

831
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 1: Google it right now. Just I'll save you the Google strip.

832
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 1: I hope that no one owns American, and if you do,

833
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:40,479
Speaker 1: email us seriously. I want to know how American stays

834
00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 1: in place. If you own American, it's act casual at

835
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:46,719
Speaker 1: Velvet's Edge dot com. So details. I'll tell you this.

836
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:48,680
Speaker 1: The only time I'll ever have a bush, like if

837
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:50,319
Speaker 1: someone if my boyfriend was like, hey, you know what,

838
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:53,919
Speaker 1: I'm super into a big bush. I'm getting a Mergan

839
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:55,799
Speaker 1: because I'm not living with that. Well, yeah, because that

840
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:58,680
Speaker 1: would be funny to like some like the mercan lets

841
00:45:58,719 --> 00:46:03,719
Speaker 1: you go from zero to I mean, look, the only

842
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 1: thing that I think is weird about a bush, a

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Speaker 1: big bush is the bathing suit situation, right, like big

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Speaker 1: hair like sticking out of anybody, the way the bathing

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Speaker 1: suits are cut these days. I mean you can barely

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Speaker 1: even cover the like well, and I wonder if that

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Speaker 1: had something to do with it, because like she's like

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Speaker 1: if you can see your hands, she's like doing like

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Speaker 1: an upswipe thing. But like in the eighties that the

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Speaker 1: the rise of the high cut bathing suit with like

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Speaker 1: Baywatch and stuff. Hello, have you seen anything? But I

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Speaker 1: wonder that and that was when it starts waxing and

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00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:45,919
Speaker 1: stuff really became like you would have to I mean,

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00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:49,640
Speaker 1: it literally cannot be there. It's like it's not there's

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Speaker 1: no where for some people that would love it, though,

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Speaker 1: I mean, to each his own. I was about to

857
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Speaker 1: say some sick freaks, but you know what, it's like,

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00:46:56,640 --> 00:46:59,399
Speaker 1: you're right to each his own. Whatever you're into. There.

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Speaker 1: There are women that love dudes with harry backs. There

860
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Speaker 1: are men that love men with harry backs. Well, the bears.

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Speaker 1: I know about that. I know all about that. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I just think it's it is. It's

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Speaker 1: like for me, though, what I feel comfortable with because

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Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, dude, it's my body, and like here's

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Speaker 1: what I've been doing for however long, and it feels

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Speaker 1: good to me, so right, Christie, if you grow a

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Speaker 1: big bush, email us or if you have a markin Actually,

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Speaker 1: the marking thing is hilarious. I mean it has to

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Speaker 1: be a joke, right, No, I feel how is the

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Speaker 1: market used? Um? God, I don't want to waste the

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Speaker 1: time googling it, but I feel like I've googled before,

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Speaker 1: like why American even existed? And maybe that will be

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Speaker 1: on part two. Don't don't. Maybe let's like, let's put

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Speaker 1: a pin in the marken and we'll do some research

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Speaker 1: on the marking and come back about it. Okay, we're

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Speaker 1: gonna answer back next week. Honestly, we have so many

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Speaker 1: more questions to answer. We kind of like started slow,

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Speaker 1: I feel like because I didn't want to overwhelmed people

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Speaker 1: with the sex talk. But there's more a lot of stuff.

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Speaker 1: Polyamorous lifestyle is the next question actually on my list

881
00:48:07,640 --> 00:48:11,359
Speaker 1: that we can't get to today. Um, a guy that

882
00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 1: you once dated dating your friend. I mean that is

883
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Speaker 1: like I have some things to say about that. I

884
00:48:16,200 --> 00:48:17,920
Speaker 1: actually have some real life stuff that I can mend.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, we have a lot to talk about.

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00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:22,040
Speaker 1: People asked about my dating life with my new man.

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00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 1: I'll get some dats. A couple Um, there's a lot,

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Speaker 1: a lot also about monogamous relationships, like how do you

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Speaker 1: spice things up? And I also have some ideas for that.

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Speaker 1: So thank you guys for listening today. Tune in next

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Speaker 1: week I mean god, I mean maybe even the next

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Speaker 1: week at the rate we're going right now. Um, we

893
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Speaker 1: have a lot of sex questions. If you still have more,

894
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Speaker 1: are we about to become a sex podcast? I mean

895
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Speaker 1: it seems like that's all people want to ask. I

896
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 1: mean we've been asking for questions since I started doing this,

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Speaker 1: and we've got one maybe two, and the like as

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Speaker 1: about like ask about sex and relationships and like they're

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Speaker 1: just comfort get a new phone, a new friend who

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Speaker 1: does Okay, we gotta go. Thank you guys for listening.

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Speaker 1: I hope, we hope to some of the questions that

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Speaker 1: you guys needed answered, and we have a lot more

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Speaker 1: answers to come. So have a great week, have a

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Speaker 1: great weekend, and always remember act casual. I