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Speaker 1: It's the Fresh Show. This is what's trending. Why are

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Speaker 1: we talking about pooping? We were just talking about it

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Speaker 1: on the radio. Yeah, came out there another Sometimes sometimes

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Speaker 1: this show makes me want to cry and laugh. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. Yeah, well, who says I'm messmoking right now? Kiki,

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Speaker 1: don't tell me about last week it was it was

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Speaker 1: bear Mace in the studio, and this week it's me

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Speaker 1: just straight up chainsmoking. I mean whatever, who cares? It

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Speaker 1: makes my voice deeper, It gets me closer to my

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Speaker 1: goal of being a movie trailer announcer. Let me see

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Speaker 1: here in case you were wondering, Uh, the poop smoothie

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Speaker 1: recipe Kara care of our friend Bellamine one banana coke

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Speaker 1: like cream yogurt and apparently has to be Trader Joe's.

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Speaker 1: So if you expect to poop, don't go anywhere else.

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Speaker 1: Yeah it's never been so I'll never poop again.

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Speaker 2: I guess.

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Speaker 1: Uh, frozen mango and pineapple and your milk of choice.

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Speaker 1: Thank me later. Well, I mean, that's it's just a

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Speaker 1: It's just a dairy bomb, that's all that is. I mean,

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Speaker 1: coconut cream yogurt. Why is it gonna be coconut. I

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Speaker 1: don't know how about it? Give me ice cream and

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Speaker 1: then I'm fine. And next red wine for me? Red wine?

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Speaker 3: Really yeah, that's like the only thing that causes me

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Speaker 3: is shoes.

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Speaker 1: Have you hachi? Have you have your had?

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Speaker 4: It always works for mettle.

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Speaker 1: Well, but have you ever had habachi while smoking a camel?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 4: My god?

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Speaker 1: Drinking coconut cream smoothies from Bella? I don't think I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna eat anything she brings in anymore because I feel

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Speaker 1: like it's just gonna give me some sort of explosion.

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Speaker 1: That apple tart it was wrong.

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Speaker 4: I had it was amazing.

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Speaker 1: I haven't had any kind of tart. Where were the tarts? Where?

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Speaker 1: Where's I for the tar?

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Speaker 4: In Vegas?

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Speaker 1: Vegas? Eating cigarettes? Apparently? Yeah?

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Speaker 6: On her Instagram bio, she's a deviled egg connoisseur. I'm

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Speaker 6: still waiting for these deviled eggs for me too. All right, well, well,

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Speaker 6: Bella just set up a little food stand. If you

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Speaker 6: went to the office, we would appreciate it. Trending stories

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Speaker 6: this morning x X will soon make your public posts visible.

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Speaker 6: Two accounts that you've blocked so Elon Musk confirmed these

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Speaker 6: changes on Monday. Don't even blocked accounts will still not

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Speaker 6: be able to engage with the users who will block them,

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Speaker 6: but they will be able to see their posts. The

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Speaker 6: block function will block that account from engaged with, but

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Speaker 6: not block seeing the actual post. Okay, the clan again.

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Speaker 4: I'm over it at this point.

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Speaker 1: So if you if you're new of the show, Jason

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Speaker 1: Rod was blocked by a shanty on Twitter X Twitter X.

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Speaker 1: We don't know why we think it was. It must

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Speaker 1: have been some kind of confusion because there's no way

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Speaker 1: that you would have disrespected her artistry. There's no way.

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Speaker 1: So what do you think happened?

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Speaker 7: I don't know, but I'm checking now just to make

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Speaker 7: sure that she hasn't unblocked me.

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Speaker 4: No, I'm still blocked.

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Speaker 1: How could if used and blocked you like how?

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Speaker 7: I don't know, Like how would a Chanta even notice

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Speaker 7: me to see my messages to block me?

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Speaker 1: That's wild? Well, you're blocked, but I guess you will

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Speaker 1: be able to read her, her exes, her tweets in

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Speaker 1: case you're wondering about them, So I know you're excited.

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Speaker 8: The whole purpose of block, Like Elon, you're doing it wrong.

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Speaker 4: Everything he does on Twitter, Yes, and.

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Speaker 7: Actually unfollowed him because like it, I think it automatically

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Speaker 7: shows up his tweet are still in my feet.

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Speaker 1: That's how my feet is. Like, it's it's people. I

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Speaker 1: don't even know. I was saying, right, yeah, I know, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute. Is Elon Musk the new Tom?

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Speaker 9: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Yes, because he owns the place you're required to follow him. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm not, I'm not interested. Men's brains shrink by eight

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Speaker 1: Men's brains rise and fallen. Volume is hormones, EBB and

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Speaker 1: resetting overnight. This is some researchers at the University of California,

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Speaker 1: It concides with rising and fall levels of steroid hormones testosterone, cortisol,

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Speaker 1: and astradiol estradiol astradiol. I'm sure I didn't say that right.

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Speaker 1: That'd be a really bad doctor for a lot of reasons.

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Speaker 1: But I was, oh, boy, not the astradiol Yeah, you

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Speaker 1: got good relationship. That's the problem too. It's not how

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Speaker 1: then on the app. Now right, they just google whatever

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Speaker 1: fluctuate daily, but not as pronounced, and the menstrual cycle

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Speaker 1: simultaneously drives longer term shifts and hormones. But I guess

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Speaker 1: your brains stay the same size, but men's our brains

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Speaker 1: they shift bigger and smaller all the time. So and

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Speaker 1: Spanish police and arrest but we could have told you that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: ten am. That's why. That's why they put sports on

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Speaker 1: that night. You know what I'm saying. So you just

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Speaker 1: watch them just mindless, Yeah, okay. Spanish have arrested five

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Speaker 1: people accused of scamming two women out of three hundred

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Speaker 1: and sixty one thousand dollars by posing his Brad Pitt online.

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Speaker 1: The suspects made contact with the women on an Internet

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Speaker 1: page for fans of the actor and led them to

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Speaker 1: believe that they had a sentimental relationship with him, posing

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Speaker 1: his pit the members of the gang that allegedly encouraged

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Speaker 1: the women to invest in various projects that didn't exist.

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Speaker 1: One woman was defrauded of one hundred and ninety four

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Speaker 1: thousand dollars another one hundred and sixty seven grand. Now

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Speaker 1: this is sad, of course, because they're taking advantage of people,

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Speaker 1: but like, I mean, really, Brad Pitt's in a message

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Speaker 1: board for fans asking for donations for projects, Like I mean,

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Speaker 1: have friends. I'm not sure, but like it makes me sad.

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Speaker 1: But at the same time, I can't remember the last

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Speaker 1: time that I contributed to an actor's GoFundMe, But it's

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Speaker 1: very rare. I very rarely sent anybody message money from

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Speaker 1: message boards, maybe only once a week and after eight

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Speaker 1: pm is the obvious time. So police rated five homes

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Speaker 1: as part of their operations, seizing several mobile phones, bank cards, computers,

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Speaker 1: and a diary in which the phrases used by the

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Speaker 1: fraudsters to deceive their victims were written down. They were

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Speaker 1: able to get almost one hundred thousand dollars back. But

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Have you ever believed that you were

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Speaker 1: talking to anyone famous online? You sold us a laptop?

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Speaker 6: Do you remember that that's true.

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Speaker 1: I was shocked to the number of people that my

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Speaker 1: ex got hacked, I don't know, several months ago, and

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Speaker 1: the hacker was trying to sell a MacBook on there.

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Speaker 1: And when I finally got it back, you know, the

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Speaker 1: of people who were trying to buy this laptop. Like

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Speaker 1: I'm like, guys, well, I mean no, I don't even

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Speaker 1: sell my my my whares on my Twitter. I mean,

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Speaker 6: Like my Jess's uncle's Facebook got hacked and he was

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Speaker 6: the person was posting, Hey, I have Taylor Swift tickets

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Speaker 6: in Indianapolis. Everything was spelled wrong on this thing, but

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Speaker 6: the dude got like at least over one thousand dollars

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Remember my uncle thought he was in a relationship.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, oh my god, so much dramas always, But my

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, Now is he sending her money?

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Speaker 2: I think so?

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Speaker 1: Yep. And I was like, well, what did she say?

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Speaker 8: He was like, well, she says she can't wait to

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Speaker 8: see me when I come in New Jersey. I was like,

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Speaker 8: New Jersey, don't even live in New Jersey. What are

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Speaker 4: But he was.

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Speaker 6: Convinced, tell your uncle putting the good word for Jason

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Speaker 6: Brown over here.

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Speaker 7: Right, yeah, or Fred on Air will unblocked.

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Speaker 8: Fred your account still has Jason block.

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Speaker 7: I tried to fight the bad guys. I was going

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Speaker 7: to meet up with them and beat them out. Yeah, yes,

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Speaker 7: the way you engaged with the hackers, Yeah you can

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Speaker 7: probably they're probably it's probably in your DMS if you check.

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Speaker 7: But yeah, I was DM with the hackers. I was like, yeah, sure,

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Speaker 1: No, actually, Jason, the hackers didn't block you. That was me.

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Speaker 1: I figured as much.

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Speaker 1: I talked to said, are you gonna are gonna support

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Speaker 1: It is National Punctuation Day and I have a degree

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Speaker 1: I don't. So sorry, Mom, thanks for the money that

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Speaker 1: you spent on that. But we celebrate today National Punctuation Day.

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Speaker 1: The Entertainment Report is next up to Billihihilation in two minutes.

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Speaker 1: Fred Show, The Fread Show is on. It's stay or

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Speaker 1: go all right, Daniel is here. You can always hit

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Speaker 1: U stup by the way on Fredshow Radio dot Com.

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Speaker 1: Freendshow Radio on Instagram, v fread Show, TikTok all the Places, Daniel,

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Speaker 1: good morning, Good morning, Good morning, Fred Daniel. What's going

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Speaker 1: on with this woman who you've been dating? We're all ears.

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Speaker 1: We can't wait to give you the advice that will

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Speaker 1: clearly set you on the right path. Well, I can't

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Speaker 10: No, you're fine.

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Speaker 2: So I originally started dating this girl.

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Speaker 1: She right now.

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Speaker 2: She seems awesome, she's similar interest. We agree on very

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Speaker 2: important issues more superficially. She's very attractive, you know. But

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Speaker 2: there's one thing about her that to me feels like

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Speaker 2: a red flag, and that she's never been in a.

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Speaker 1: Relationship never never never.

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Speaker 2: Like she's okay, she's she's not like a virgin or anything.

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Speaker 2: She's definitely like.

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Speaker 1: Dated people, but none of those ever led.

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Speaker 2: Into anything deeper in just like like there was always

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Speaker 2: she just didn't like the guy, And that leaves me

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Speaker 1: So this this guy's concerned because he met a woman

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that makes sense. And this guy made

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Speaker 10: But you know, I think everybody's got problems in life

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Speaker 6: And trying to hook your cousin up with friend is

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Speaker 1: When I say to you, like what's wrong with her?

434
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Speaker 1: You're like, I mean anytime you say tell me about

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Speaker 1: this person and they go, Maggie, would you date your cousin?

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Speaker 10: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I love you, matg you have a good day.

438
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Speaker 1: I'm like, Maggie, what's the problem with this person? It's like,

439
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Speaker 1: I mean she's shot, right, I mean, I mean, anytime

440
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Speaker 1: anyone has ever described is I don't know that's a

441
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Speaker 1: good thing. Hey, Julie, good morning, welcome to the show.

442
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Speaker 1: How are you.

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Speaker 10: I'm doing great? Hi? Fred? How are you?

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Speaker 2: Hi?

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Speaker 1: Julie, thank you for listening, for calling. So the person

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Speaker 1: who has not been in a really any relationships in

447
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Speaker 1: this case, no, I mean, do you look at that

448
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Speaker 1: and say red flag, I can't do it? Or do

449
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Speaker 1: you say maybe.

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Speaker 10: Yeah, yeah, give her a chance? Why why? I mean,

451
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Speaker 10: you got a good thing going? Why not? I mean,

452
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Speaker 10: and I say that because I am. I am happily

453
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Speaker 10: married thirteen years and when I started dating my husband, now,

454
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Speaker 10: I hadn't been in a relationship and I was like

455
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Speaker 10: thirty six, and you know, I had friends, I had

456
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Speaker 10: a social life, I had a career, but I just

457
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Speaker 10: hadn't found the right guy. And I you know, I

458
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Speaker 10: didn't have a lot of self confidence, so that was

459
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Speaker 10: probably my biggest thing. But I mean I was a

460
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Speaker 10: normal person, and I am a good communicator. So like

461
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Speaker 10: all these red black things like, I mean, give her

462
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Speaker 10: a chance. Not everybody prioritizes the same and not everybody

463
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Speaker 10: has the same experiences, So like why just discounter.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it makes sense.

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Speaker 10: Thank you to You're married, thirty You're good.

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Speaker 1: So Daniel, look there is it's possible. You know, it's

467
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Speaker 1: possible that there's there's helpe out there. Thank you, have

468
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Speaker 1: a good day you too. I will say this much

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Speaker 1: for the like the people who are always you know,

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Speaker 1: the people that are always in a relationship, like they're

471
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Speaker 1: always in a relationship like they can't be alone. I

472
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Speaker 1: think the opposite can be true too. And I will say,

473
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Speaker 1: if I fall into any sort of red flag category,

474
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Speaker 1: it's that I've just become so familiar with being on

475
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Speaker 1: my own and doing my own thing, and you know,

476
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Speaker 1: kind of putting myself first. And I say, you could

477
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Speaker 1: argue that it's selfish, but I mean, it's not selfish

478
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Speaker 1: because I'm not. It's not like there's someone else in

479
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Speaker 1: my life who is getting ignored because I'm putting my

480
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Speaker 1: needs first. I'm just choosing to put myself first. I

481
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Speaker 1: think you can become so familiar with that life that

482
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Speaker 1: it does become hard to figure out how you would

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Speaker 1: incorporate someone else and how you would go fifty to

484
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Speaker 1: fifty the same way that people. You know, there are

485
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Speaker 1: people out there who can't imagine being alone.

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Speaker 3: Fred I would also have hesitation if somebody has never

487
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Speaker 3: had a period of being single. It's the same thing

488
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Speaker 3: if someone could not seem to be alone. I would

489
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Speaker 3: also have hesitation, because I think that's so important.

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Speaker 1: J Loo, I think that's I think that's valid. Yeah,

491
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Speaker 1: I think it's valin. But I also think, you know,

492
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Speaker 1: look for some people the awakening happens at eighteen, sixteen,

493
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Speaker 1: twenty five, you know whatever. For me, I'm only now,

494
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Speaker 1: literally at forty years old, I'm only now beginning to

495
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Speaker 1: sort of say, you know what, I can see it

496
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Speaker 1: like it makes sense to me. And the truth is,

497
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Speaker 1: I know that's late, But if it had happened earlier,

498
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Speaker 1: I maybe wouldn't It wouldn't have worked because I hadn't

499
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Speaker 1: come to that conclusion on my own. And some people

500
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Speaker 1: come to it earlier, some people come to it later.

501
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Speaker 1: I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing. I mean,

502
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Speaker 1: you know, a lot of questions we didn't ask what's

503
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Speaker 1: she in school? You know, what was she? You know,

504
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 1: building up a career? Was she?

505
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Speaker 10: You know?

506
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Speaker 1: Is there trauma? Is she working on herself? Is she

507
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Speaker 1: you know, There's a million different things. But again, I

508
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Speaker 1: think the convention seems to be, well, you know, you

509
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Speaker 1: meet someone, you date them for a long time, it

510
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Speaker 1: works out, it doesn't, then you move on to the

511
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Speaker 1: next one. And yet, you know, it's easy for people

512
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Speaker 1: to look at situations that aren't like that and then

513
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Speaker 1: decide that it's a problem somehow because it's not like

514
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Speaker 1: what they're used to. Uh Rachel Hi Rachel, Good morning.

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Speaker 10: Good morning.

516
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Speaker 1: Hey, So what do you think about somebody who if

517
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Speaker 1: you met someone today, I don't know, late twenties, early thirties,

518
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Speaker 1: they've never been in a relationship, would you worry about it?

519
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Speaker 10: I wouldn't.

520
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Speaker 5: So I'm forty three now and I met my husband

521
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Speaker 5: now husband at thirty seven that I had never been

522
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Speaker 5: in a relationship, never bought anyone home.

523
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Speaker 9: I'm going to just I was working on my career.

524
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Speaker 5: I didn't want to settle, like I'd rather be by

525
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Speaker 5: myself and be happy than be in a relationship and

526
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Speaker 5: be miserable.

527
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I think you said it

528
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Speaker 1: well and you feel like everything clicked, And I mean,

529
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Speaker 1: do you feel like your sort of lack of experience

530
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Speaker 1: ever caught up to you in a negative way.

531
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Speaker 5: And not that I can think of, And I think

532
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Speaker 5: you think the same thing.

533
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Speaker 10: Like we're very open.

534
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Speaker 5: We haven't had a ton of arguments, but we do

535
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Speaker 5: disagree and we've worked through it like grown ups. And

536
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Speaker 5: I think that some of it is we're both so

537
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Speaker 5: much further in life that we learned how to have

538
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Speaker 5: those relationships, not romantically, but you know, like how to

539
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Speaker 5: deal with other people like adults. I think that really

540
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Speaker 5: helped our relationship.

541
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Speaker 1: To be honest, Well, let me ask you this. I

542
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Speaker 1: don't mean to get too personal, but you know, were

543
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Speaker 1: kids a priority for you? Because I think that's another

544
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Speaker 1: thing I think that people seem to, you know, they

545
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Speaker 1: expedite the process, be it good or be it bad.

546
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Speaker 1: If you want a family, well then you know you

547
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Speaker 1: oftentimes you got to find somebody else to do that with.

548
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Speaker 1: Not always, but I mean if kids weren't a priority,

549
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Speaker 1: well then there really wasn't probably any hurry for you.

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Speaker 5: To be honest, they really did want kids, but I

551
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Speaker 5: wasn't going to have kids with somebody that I didn't

552
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Speaker 5: love and I didn't want.

553
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Speaker 10: To deal with.

554
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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, And I do think people they put the kids,

555
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Speaker 1: they put the family, they put the a lot of

556
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Speaker 1: things in front of you know, maybe picking the right person.

557
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 1: And sometimes maybe that's why I had, you know, half

558
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:48,959
Speaker 1: of marriages end in divorce or whatever, because it's like, well,

559
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Speaker 1: I want a family, and I want kids, and I

560
00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 1: want security, and I want someone to come home to

561
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Speaker 1: every night. But yet the fifth thing on the list

562
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Speaker 1: is I really hope they're like the you know, ideal

563
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Speaker 1: person for me. And I think maybe we if we

564
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:05,639
Speaker 1: flip that whole thing around, people might be happier. But

565
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Speaker 1: I don't know, what do I know. I'm forty three and.

566
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Speaker 10: Singles, so I agree with you, and here I am yeah.

567
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Speaker 1: Well, good Rachel, Well thank you for calling, Thanks for Sharon,

568
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Speaker 1: have a good day. It is am I the only

569
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Speaker 1: one who has like minimal I guess I am. I'm

570
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Speaker 1: the only one who has like minimal relationship experience in

571
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Speaker 1: the room. Ex Hire you, Yeah, I'm only well, I mean,

572
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:27,359
Speaker 1: but you're married and Kiki's almost maybe.

573
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Speaker 4: Something there in the long terms.

574
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Speaker 8: Yeah, they are long term, but it's only two and

575
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Speaker 8: I don't see the issue, you know, like she just

576
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:38,200
Speaker 8: hasn't had a lot of experience and it's not a

577
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Speaker 8: lot of good being out here. I mean, girl, you know,

578
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Speaker 8: everyone has to have a first right at some point, at.

579
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Speaker 11: Some point, if it's at you know, sixteen, or if

580
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:47,800
Speaker 11: it's at thirty six, I think that's okay. Because from

581
00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 11: my relationships, they've all been really short. That's to the

582
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Speaker 11: point that I don't consider that. I'm not to be mean,

583
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 11: but I'm just like, looking back at it now, it's

584
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Speaker 11: like that was a whole lot of nothing, like it

585
00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 11: was a relationship, but like compared to my marriage, like

586
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Speaker 11: was it you know what I mean?

587
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Speaker 4: It hits there, but you're like, okay, you really were nothing.

588
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Speaker 4: I was gonna say the bad words. You are really nothing,

589
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Speaker 4: you know what I mean.

590
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Speaker 11: So like looking back at it, my husband said about

591
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 11: me and be like I shouldn't have long term experience.

592
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Speaker 3: I didn't for sure, But you guys have now all

593
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:16,160
Speaker 3: been in long term relationships, which I think like today, Yeah.

594
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 11: Because one man gave me that opportunity. As far as

595
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Speaker 11: like we are, you know, we were a match. It

596
00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 11: worked out good for sure.

597
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Speaker 10: You know.

598
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Speaker 4: The other guys were good.

599
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: Jason was having sex with women before I was.

600
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Speaker 4: He's a fan, and he's.

601
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Speaker 1: Younger, and he's gay. So that's you know that. We

602
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:33,120
Speaker 1: have a lot of problems. I have a lot of problems.

603
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Speaker 1: Never mind, I forget everything I said. I have a

604
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Speaker 1: lot of problems. The entertainer of for three hundred bucks