WEBVTT - Ep. 133 — The Pregnancy Tax 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:22.160 Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, We're brown. 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:27.600 I'm Tiffany, I'm Mandy, and I am so disappointed because 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:30.560 last week was Juneteenth, and I forgot to mention it, 0:00:30.960 --> 0:00:33.040 and I even had it in my notes and everything. 0:00:34.040 --> 0:00:39.800 I'm baddees happy June teens to everybody. Was June teenth, 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:42.279 Actually I believe it was it. It used to be 0:00:42.360 --> 0:00:46.760 specific to the emancipation of slaves in Texas, I believe. 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:50.239 But it's almost like it's become this like proxy to 0:00:50.320 --> 0:00:52.880 celebrate the end of slavery, because there was not really 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:55.720 an official holiday for that, right, and so I think 0:00:55.760 --> 0:00:58.880 that's what it's it's become to symbolize, like largely is 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:01.240 like the end of slavery. It's like an opportunity just 0:01:01.240 --> 0:01:03.960 to be black and fabulous and have cookouts, of which 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:08.440 I participated in a nun. So that's a sad Oh, actually, 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:11.800 you know, I did. I we went to the Westchester 0:01:11.880 --> 0:01:17.319 get it, where I live. West just the is known 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:19.120 for I don't know. I always had this perception of 0:01:19.160 --> 0:01:21.280 the suburbs of New York as being like where the 0:01:21.280 --> 0:01:26.680 brown people stop. But I've been pleasantly surprised, like our 0:01:26.680 --> 0:01:30.200 neighborhood is so diverse. And they had the African American 0:01:30.240 --> 0:01:32.920 Heritage Festival like down the street from us, So it 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:35.000 was actually just a we have this nice little nature 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:38.440 path that we can walk to this like public park 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:40.360 where they had the festival, and they had like really 0:01:40.360 --> 0:01:44.480 good food and it was nice, nice little surprise. What God, 0:01:45.600 --> 0:01:47.320 that was my Juneteenth? 0:01:47.920 --> 0:01:53.600 Your Juntee's big big off yourself. Yeah, so both of 0:01:53.680 --> 0:01:56.800 us had you like message me. Remember you messaged me 0:01:56.920 --> 0:02:00.840 like we were talking, I think, like post last podcast 0:02:01.520 --> 0:02:05.120 about your ac quote. Girl, I just got a quote 0:02:05.120 --> 0:02:06.760 today and I was like, you know what, I'm just 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:11.720 gonna be hot girl. They told me sixty thousand dollars. 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:13.760 I was like, am I buying a new house? I'm sure? 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:14.760 Like what? All right? 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:17.359 You know Misery Loves Company. I'm actually kind of excited 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:20.000 that you got a terrible bit because then you were 0:02:20.000 --> 0:02:21.720 telling me your bid was like way less than mine. 0:02:21.720 --> 0:02:25.280 I was like, you, no, it wasn't. 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:27.200 Well, it was just him them, like you know, like 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:29.320 our project manager saying that this is what it should 0:02:29.320 --> 0:02:31.359 be between and I said, oh, okay, so we got 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:33.760 such a high bid. I'm like, is that is that? 0:02:33.960 --> 0:02:36.320 You know? This doesn't sound right? But like I said, 0:02:36.360 --> 0:02:39.600 he does commercial, so you know, I said, I can't 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:41.480 wait for for him to get back from vacation so 0:02:41.520 --> 0:02:43.720 I can be like, sir, do you know somebody who 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:45.920 will do it for fifteen thousand? That's looking good right 0:02:45.960 --> 0:02:48.799 about now, because honestly, we're not We're not going to 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:51.160 pay sixty thousand dolls. We're I mean, we'll just be 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:52.920 putting units in the window because this is not our 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:55.920 forever house and that's just so much. And that's just 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:59.400 ac like we have to get the house rewired, you know, 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:02.480 So that's like that's no negotiable. So and I'm assuming 0:03:02.520 --> 0:03:05.200 that's going to be probably twenty thirty thousand dollars, but 0:03:05.240 --> 0:03:06.960 that's just something you have to do unless you want 0:03:06.960 --> 0:03:11.480 to die in a fury of fire, you know, so 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:18.760 you trade offs. Yeah, exact exactly. Oh boy, So yeah, 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:21.920 I'm not exactly happy right now. So when he came today, 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:24.400 we still have a few more quotes to do, but 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:27.080 I'm not feeling all that optimistic. 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:31.280 Listen, forget all these quotes. Man, We've gotten so many quotes. 0:03:31.400 --> 0:03:34.760 I'm so at this point, I'm glad that we've sort 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:37.839 of taken our time. But the like these people out here. 0:03:37.920 --> 0:03:39.720 I guess the economy is good and they have a 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:41.720 lot of jobs, and I'm very happy for them and 0:03:41.760 --> 0:03:44.360 their families, But why can't they return calls and show 0:03:44.400 --> 0:03:46.320 up when they say they're going to show up, Because 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:48.920 it's almost like they're like, oh, you need us more 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:52.400 than you know we need you, And that is what's 0:03:52.440 --> 0:03:55.080 been challenging. So anybody out there who's doing a home 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:59.120 improvement project, like whether it's small, large, whatever, we are 0:03:59.120 --> 0:04:01.240 here with you, alongside you. 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:04.000 Yes, that's the only thing that's been kind of helped. 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:06.360 It's nice like when I post something on social and 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:08.200 someone kind of shows me, like sends me like a 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:10.600 video of like what they're fixing up. So it's been 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:13.480 like a nice little nick community of people who are 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:17.000 both excited and dismayed by the prom. 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:21.960 I'm thinking, like, I think part of my problem is 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:26.479 I think I'm always, i think healthily pessimistic about finances 0:04:26.480 --> 0:04:29.200 in general. I'm always like, well, what if I break 0:04:29.240 --> 0:04:31.719 my back and what if you know, we're we're kind 0:04:31.720 --> 0:04:33.920 of planning on the assumption that everything is going to 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:37.080 continue going a certain way, and that is where I'm 0:04:37.080 --> 0:04:40.360 always in with Like, but this could happen kind of 0:04:40.400 --> 0:04:43.080 like negative Nancy, and I you know, it's frustrating to 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:46.400 my husband because of course he wants like I'm kind 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.800 of bursting his bubble. He loves this whole thing. He 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:51.680 loves this is a dream, He's always wanted this. But 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:54.920 I mean, I'm happy to be the negative one because 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:58.120 I kind of feel like you need that balance at 0:04:58.120 --> 0:05:00.320 a certain point. You got to stop agonizing about it 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:02.760 and just make a decision with the best information that 0:05:02.800 --> 0:05:05.400 you have. I'm talking to myself here. Okay, I'm sorry, 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:07.479 I'm doing that thing where I have a problem and 0:05:07.520 --> 0:05:09.120 I'm like talking to myself. 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:09.280 Out of it. 0:05:09.600 --> 0:05:10.200 I do that. 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:13.120 Oh or just prey, just pray. 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:15.800 No, it's true. And that's we two. Here's the thing 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:19.680 that I do. Like that my my, uh it's Blue Design, 0:05:20.000 --> 0:05:22.880 Blue Blue Design and Development BLU. 0:05:23.040 --> 0:05:23.120 Like. 0:05:23.200 --> 0:05:25.520 So, our project manager, one of the things that he 0:05:26.000 --> 0:05:30.520 talked to us about is really understanding price per square foot, 0:05:30.839 --> 0:05:32.640 you know, and I didn't really get it before he said, 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:34.960 so let's just say, like I think our house is 0:05:35.000 --> 0:05:40.200 like two thousand, two hundred and fifty square feed right, 0:05:40.279 --> 0:05:44.120 like of livable space, right, and so there is an 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:47.240 average price for square foot in like the section that 0:05:47.279 --> 0:05:49.520 we live in in Newark. So if we bought the 0:05:49.560 --> 0:05:51.800 house for one eighty and we put let's just say 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:54.039 one hundred thousand dollars worth of work into it, then 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:57.320 that's you know, three thousand, three hundred and eighty thousand, 0:05:57.320 --> 0:05:59.240 and then you divide that by the square foot of 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:01.840 the house and you get your price per square foot. 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:04.600 So what he's teaching us is as we make decisions, 0:06:05.200 --> 0:06:06.800 like so that way kind of takes the emotion out 0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:10.800 of it. How like this is going to increase the 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:13.760 you know, like, how is that going to affect the 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:16.479 price per square foot? Because that's how an investor thinks, 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:18.360 and so it doesn't make sense like, you know, like 0:06:18.560 --> 0:06:21.320 if we invest sixty thousand dollars in the ac how 0:06:21.400 --> 0:06:22.920 much of that where are we actually going to get 0:06:22.920 --> 0:06:25.240 back if we sell? You know, are we going to 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:28.040 get back forty thousand? Now, if we were living here forever, 0:06:28.160 --> 0:06:30.200 I would for sure, I don't know that i'd pay sixty, 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:32.560 but we'd find a way to get like central air 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:33.920 throughout the house because I'm like, well, we're going to 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:36.839 be living here like forever, like you know, barring any 0:06:36.839 --> 0:06:39.360 major emergency, but we know for a fact that this 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:41.920 is not our forever house. We literally won't be here. 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:45.640 Our plan is between two and five years maximum, and 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:47.839 so it just doesn't make sense to invest that much 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:49.640 money because I don't We're just not going to get 0:06:49.680 --> 0:06:51.839 it back. And when I look around the neighborhood, because 0:06:51.839 --> 0:06:53.920 that's something I did too, I see next I wonder 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:56.640 why there's a lot of really beautiful homes while you 0:06:56.640 --> 0:06:58.440 don't really see I don't see that much central air. 0:06:58.480 --> 0:06:59.960 I see a lot of like units in the window, 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:02.400 and I'm like, oh, because these homes are built in 0:07:02.400 --> 0:07:04.080 like nineteen twenties, a lot of the homes in the 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:07.080 area where I'm living. And so I understand now because 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:10.280 it just doesn't make financial sense to make that level 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:14.000 of investment unless it makes the emotional sense of I'm 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:17.120 staying here for like a really long time. And so 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:19.280 I'm just like yeah, and so like, I mean. 0:07:19.440 --> 0:07:22.080 It makes perfect sense if you guys are just living 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:23.880 in a few years totally listen. 0:07:24.040 --> 0:07:25.840 Like before it used to be like oh, because you know, 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:29.880 you see on HGTV they'll be like, oh, the property 0:07:29.880 --> 0:07:33.040 brothers reno, will it takes seven weeks? 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:35.760 What in the lying I literally throw my shoe at 0:07:35.760 --> 0:07:41.360 the television. Now I'm like, it's not true. 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:43.280 Like that's honestly such a lie because such just waiting 0:07:43.280 --> 0:07:45.800 for the permit is like a month, yeah, like you know, 0:07:46.400 --> 0:07:48.840 and so I'm just like, yeah, I mean before when 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:50.800 we first bought, we were like, ooh, you know, we'll 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:52.440 be in there in a couple of months. Now I'm 0:07:52.480 --> 0:07:55.280 just like, please, please, little baby Jesus, can we be 0:07:55.360 --> 0:07:57.520 in by the end of the year. That is my 0:07:57.880 --> 0:07:59.800 That is my prayer that by the end of the 0:07:59.880 --> 0:08:01.600 year that I'll be able to sleep into bed. That 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:04.560 it's not our apartment, but you know, but either way, 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:05.880 it's our's right. 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:09.880 Say if you want to make a contractor laugh, make plans, 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:16.080 isn't that how that goes? No, Okay, listen, we have 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:16.840 to talk about this. 0:08:17.040 --> 0:08:17.480 We have to. 0:08:17.520 --> 0:08:21.160 I'm demanding it because it really struck my heart this 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:23.080 article in the New York Times that I read over 0:08:23.080 --> 0:08:26.960 the weekend about how in two thousand, what years is 0:08:27.000 --> 0:08:32.480 twenty eighteen, women are still like pregnancy discrimination against women 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:35.200 in the workplace is still rampant. And the reason this, 0:08:35.360 --> 0:08:38.120 of course struck my attention is, I mean, I think 0:08:38.160 --> 0:08:41.240 it's no secret that you're obviously thinking about starting a family. 0:08:41.240 --> 0:08:43.280 I know you don't have a traditional job, but I do, 0:08:44.480 --> 0:08:46.640 and I think about this all the time, not necessarily 0:08:46.640 --> 0:08:51.079 because I'm trying to get pregnant tomorrow, but I feel 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:53.760 like to be a woman like there. People just don't 0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:57.240 understand what it's like. I mean, when you when you 0:08:58.400 --> 0:09:01.240 when you purposefully know you have to plan your career 0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:05.480 around this, you know, giving creating life and creating a 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:08.800 human and not only does that change your body dramatically, 0:09:08.840 --> 0:09:11.560 but then after that, like when the baby is born, 0:09:12.480 --> 0:09:14.560 understanding that you're only going to be able to spend 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:16.520 so much time with it because of your career and 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:19.240 trying to plan around that. It's just like it's almost 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:21.120 like you're in it alone as a woman, like you're 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:23.679 if your employer is not supporting you. And people always 0:09:23.679 --> 0:09:26.280 talk about, you know, why should we have maternity you know, 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:29.320 why should we pay for maternity benefits for someone who 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:32.640 is purposefully you know, getting pregnant on their own time, 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:35.640 you know, not on the workplace or whatever. You know, 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:39.760 why should we provide those benefits? And I it's just 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:42.280 astounding to me that in twenty eighteen, there's still women 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:44.680 who are getting passed over for promotions like this. You 0:09:44.679 --> 0:09:48.920 have to read this article passover for promotions, demoted or 0:09:49.160 --> 0:09:52.720 just outright fired or laid off the minute they either 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:56.840 request maternity leave or let someone know that they're pregnant. 0:09:56.880 --> 0:10:00.520 Like the most heartbreaking story this one woman named Tisha 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:03.760 who worked at Walmart I think in Jacksonville, Florida. She 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:06.680 was working in I think the bakery or the like, 0:10:06.720 --> 0:10:08.840 the prepared food section. She used to have to lift 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:12.120 these heavy boxes, like you know, all the time as 0:10:12.160 --> 0:10:13.760 part of her day to day work. And her doctor, 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:16.440 when she became pregnant with her fourth child, said, you know, 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:19.360 because of this pregnancy you've had pain before, you need 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:22.200 to not lift anything more than twenty pounds. And she 0:10:22.280 --> 0:10:24.680 went to her manager and the manager said, and this 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:27.360 is what she says. Her manager says that, I don't know, 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:30.160 back in the early two thousands or the nineties, like 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:33.000 Demi Moore, the actress, I don't know, she used to 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:36.160 she did an interview on like David Letterman when she 0:10:36.240 --> 0:10:39.000 was really pregnant, and apparently she did gymnastics. So her 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:42.800 manager's response to Otisha was, well, Demi Moore is over 0:10:42.960 --> 0:10:46.600 on TV doing gymnastics while she's pregnant, Like, why can't 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:47.480 you lift a box? 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:54.320 That's just so honestly so ignorant, Like to me, it 0:10:54.400 --> 0:10:57.679 just shows why more women need to be in positions 0:10:57.679 --> 0:11:02.199 of power in in corporate America or otherwise, or whether 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:04.400 owning a business or whatever, because that doesn't even make 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:06.240 any sense. It's so crazy because when we had our 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:08.960 when we had I think it was three women on 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:11.800 our team had like babies. Literally, it was like a 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:15.160 baby in November, a baby in December, a baby in January. 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:17.720 And I didn't even have like a time frame. I mean, 0:11:17.760 --> 0:11:20.319 I guess because we're also we're small still, but it 0:11:20.360 --> 0:11:22.400 was just we knew it was happening obviously because we 0:11:22.400 --> 0:11:25.640 were all excited and everybody on the team has a buddy, 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:29.960 and the only request was prep your buddy to be 0:11:30.000 --> 0:11:32.920 able to take care of your your core deliverables. And 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:37.000 sometimes it met like tamor who's our manager for the 0:11:37.000 --> 0:11:40.320 Liberature Academy. Tambora had such a big position, so she 0:11:40.400 --> 0:11:44.080 prepped three people to do her full role, and I 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:45.640 didn't give her a time frame. I was like, come 0:11:45.679 --> 0:11:47.360 on back when you're ready, and I think she was 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:48.840 gone for like a month, and a half and she's like, 0:11:49.080 --> 0:11:50.360 I think I want to come back now, and we 0:11:50.360 --> 0:11:52.720 were like, okay, I mean not to say. I mean, 0:11:52.720 --> 0:11:55.440 I'm sure it's like become a bigger company, it'll be 0:11:55.520 --> 0:11:58.320 a little bit more structured. But I it's just so 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:02.440 crazy to me that you would request for Like why 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:05.000 should a woman have to choose? Like, you have a mom, right, 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:08.199 You're here as a result of your mom somehow making 0:12:08.240 --> 0:12:10.760 a way to have you. I just don't understand why 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:12.800 people don't see the connection between the fact that you 0:12:13.040 --> 0:12:15.400 have someone gave birth to you and other people are 0:12:15.400 --> 0:12:17.840 giving birth as well, and to provide a space for 0:12:17.880 --> 0:12:20.520 that to happen in a way that doesn't jeopardize them 0:12:20.520 --> 0:12:21.880 being able to take care of their family. 0:12:22.480 --> 0:12:25.120 Well, it's the stigma around becoming pregnant or becoming a 0:12:25.160 --> 0:12:28.080 mother too, that that is what I think does damage, 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:31.079 Like the stigma. So someone who requests time off because 0:12:31.120 --> 0:12:34.320 they have childcare gaps or their kid is sick is 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:37.319 looked down upon and some by some employers or some 0:12:37.400 --> 0:12:40.720 managers more negatively than someone who asked time off because 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:44.600 they hurt their back or they got sick over the weekend. 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:46.800 Like there's just a stigma around it, like, oh, you know, 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:47.920 they're not as committed. 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:49.040 I mean. 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:51.840 This article cites a study that shows that for every 0:12:51.920 --> 0:12:55.280 child a woman has, it takes away four percent of 0:12:55.320 --> 0:13:00.240 for hourly wages, while men somehow increase their way just 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:03.440 by six percent when they become follers. It just doesn't 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:06.680 it just doesn't compute. I don't know. I'm just getting 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:08.920 like the error message on a calculator where it's just 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:12.160 like zero zero zero zero zero, and it's just, uh, 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:13.439 it's sad because you do. 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:15.000 I don't know. 0:13:15.040 --> 0:13:18.400 I'm maybe I'm like crazy, but I want to believe 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:22.320 that I can have a great career and have a 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:27.120 kid and that it won't Maybe I'm just naive, but 0:13:27.160 --> 0:13:30.520 I don't want to believe that my choice to start 0:13:30.559 --> 0:13:33.160 a family would it would hurt my career, you know, 0:13:33.480 --> 0:13:38.160 or make people think of me differently. I don't know. 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:41.200 There's no women also working above me at my job. 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:44.800 My direct manager is a man, an amazing man. Love him. 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:45.360 He's great. 0:13:45.400 --> 0:13:48.880 I don't I don't foresee any issues. But that's everyone 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:51.360 I look at my company. Every single one above me 0:13:52.200 --> 0:13:54.720 unless you unless you switch over to HR is a 0:13:54.760 --> 0:13:59.800 white male yeap like one hundred percent. And you know, 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:03.800 I don't think my two I don't. I know that 0:14:03.840 --> 0:14:07.079 my direct manager doesn't have kids, and there's not a 0:14:07.120 --> 0:14:08.960 lot of people on my team who have kids. So 0:14:09.080 --> 0:14:11.240 I think I might be like a freak of nature, 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:14.760 like when I, you know, finally pop out a kid 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:17.280 or something, it's gonna be like uncharted territory. I think 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:21.240 for our team. But uh, I think whether my managers 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:23.200 we haven't obviously discussed it. I don't think it's anything 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:25.680 you need to discuss beforehand, But I think about it 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:28.000 when I'm laying out my plan a year or two 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:30.960 from a year or two from now, Like, do I 0:14:31.040 --> 0:14:34.240 have someone who can do what I do while I'm away? 0:14:34.320 --> 0:14:34.520 You know? 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:36.840 Do we have systems in place where if I were 0:14:36.880 --> 0:14:38.400 to be gone for a few months, like the whole 0:14:38.400 --> 0:14:39.760 place when it comes crashing down? 0:14:40.040 --> 0:14:42.480 Yeah, that's systems. That's the part that makes it the 0:14:43.320 --> 0:14:47.320 you know, systems and backups make everything possible, you know. 0:14:48.280 --> 0:14:50.240 So yeah, I remember when Tammver came back, She's like, Wow, 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:51.960 it's like you guys didn't even need me. I'm like, oh, 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:54.360 we always need because we do. But it was just 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:57.200 nice then, like everything didn't fall you know didn't go 0:14:57.280 --> 0:15:00.280 to to Helen hand basket because she was in there 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:02.680 because she'd done such a good job with training folks. 0:15:02.680 --> 0:15:04.920 But it didn't mean that we didn't need her. So 0:15:04.960 --> 0:15:07.960 it was just nice all around to know that, because 0:15:08.120 --> 0:15:09.840 this is the thing I always say, even for the 0:15:10.440 --> 0:15:12.640 women that work for me, like our big thing is 0:15:13.000 --> 0:15:15.440 no one should feel because we've all felt like this. 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:18.160 No one should feel like they're not able to get 0:15:18.200 --> 0:15:20.680 sick or go on vacation or you know, like no 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:22.760 one on the team should feel that like that. You 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:24.520 have to like, if I don't do it, what's going 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:28.920 to happen? So everyone, it's mandated you have your backup folks, 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:33.640 including me, including my business partner. He just brought on 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:37.800 his brother, so we have two guys now, woo. He 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:41.000 just brought on his brother to be his backup. Because 0:15:41.120 --> 0:15:44.240 it was like, no one should feel like, Okay, you 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:47.280 know that my presence, I don't care death or not. 0:15:47.400 --> 0:15:50.040 I must be present. And I think that helps a 0:15:50.080 --> 0:15:52.520 lot with allowing people to know that, like, well, your 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:54.760 job is secure, but you know you're able to be 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:56.920 a human being. But yeah, I'm glad you brought this 0:15:57.000 --> 0:15:58.640 up though, cause I think a lot of people are listening, like, 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:01.760 I wish my job, and there are jobs out there 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:04.280 that have that. It's just they might not be super 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:07.840 easy to spot, but there are jobs that allow for that. 0:16:07.880 --> 0:16:09.920 And that's something you're gonna want to ask. In my twenties, 0:16:10.080 --> 0:16:11.200 I think any of your twenties, you know, for the 0:16:11.240 --> 0:16:12.840 most part, I didn't really think about things like this. 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:14.920 It's not until I hit my thirties that I thought 0:16:14.920 --> 0:16:18.280 about things like insurance and time, you know, time away 0:16:18.360 --> 0:16:29.320 and that kind of stuff. Now that we've buzzed you 0:16:29.400 --> 0:16:32.600 up with our buss worthy, are you ready to break 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:33.080 your boost? 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:36.880 I have a really exciting boost. Well exciting for me, okay, 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:39.360 go for it. Well it's not super exciting, it's just 0:16:39.400 --> 0:16:43.080 exciting because I' Nigerian. I just want to say, super egos, 0:16:43.240 --> 0:16:44.000 don't you worry. 0:16:44.040 --> 0:16:46.200 So right now, the World Cup is going on, and 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:48.280 for those of you in the United States, you're like, 0:16:48.280 --> 0:16:50.360 what's that because you know you don't watch soccer, but 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:52.720 the whole world watched soccer. Were literally like the only 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:56.160 country that's not super into soccer. And I'm not gonna lie, 0:16:56.200 --> 0:17:00.440 I'm not super into soccer, but being Nigerian in this time, 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:03.720 of year when when Nigeria plays soccer is huge in 0:17:03.760 --> 0:17:09.600 Africa and Central America and South America and everywhere. Honestly, 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:14.119 so Nigeria one like last week. Sometimes they lost today 0:17:14.359 --> 0:17:18.399 to Argentino one to two. But I just want to 0:17:18.400 --> 0:17:21.160 pick up the super egos because they first of all, 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:23.000 they got their uniforms. I don't know, have you seen 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:28.720 the pictures, Mandy of their new uniforms, like Nigeria's. Yes, 0:17:31.800 --> 0:17:34.320 well it's only because it became this huge thing. So 0:17:34.359 --> 0:17:36.840 they're thereby Nike. I can't remember the name of the designer, 0:17:36.880 --> 0:17:41.280 but there are. They are so so like funky fresh 0:17:41.359 --> 0:17:43.639 and like they sold out everywhere, and it was like 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:46.320 a huge story because it was like Nigeria revealed their 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:48.680 new uniforms and they sold out everywhere. People who weren't 0:17:48.680 --> 0:17:51.680 even into soccer or didn't even you know, weren't wearing 0:17:51.720 --> 0:17:53.879 them because they were Nigeria uniforms. They sold out because 0:17:53.920 --> 0:17:56.359 that's just how how like cool they look. And so 0:17:56.480 --> 0:17:58.800 it was just a huge story that the uniforms that 0:17:59.200 --> 0:18:01.679 are just amazing, and they are and so if you 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:04.480 have some, it's not easy to get a hold of. 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:07.680 But so one for having the dopest uniform of all 0:18:07.720 --> 0:18:11.440 the World Cup teams and for playing your heart out today, Argentina, 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:15.159 you played well. Obviously, Nigeria we did what is it Nigeria? No, 0:18:15.240 --> 0:18:17.840 did carry last? That just means we never go last, 0:18:17.920 --> 0:18:21.479 even when we lose. And so yeah, that's my boost. 0:18:21.480 --> 0:18:23.879 This is my Nigerian team. I can remember being really 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:25.920 really little. I think we had made it to the finals. 0:18:25.960 --> 0:18:27.560 Not really little, maybe I was like in middle school 0:18:27.640 --> 0:18:30.240 or something, and I just remember like my dad making 0:18:30.320 --> 0:18:32.280 us all wear like these T shirts he had made, 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:35.320 which is crazy, and he was sad. 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:37.240 Made your own T shirts, Oh my god, love it. 0:18:37.320 --> 0:18:39.439 Yeah, no, he made t shirt that was selling them. 0:18:39.480 --> 0:18:40.920 But we didn't win. So we ended up having like 0:18:40.960 --> 0:18:42.880 eighty T shirts that I'm sure still in the attic 0:18:42.960 --> 0:18:48.200 somewhere because he just knew if they won, those T 0:18:48.280 --> 0:18:50.600 shirts would have been you know, would have sold. But 0:18:50.760 --> 0:18:53.879 they didn't win. So here we are gambled. 0:18:53.920 --> 0:18:55.800 He gambled, Yeah he did. 0:18:56.160 --> 0:18:58.880 But yes, I just want to boost up Nigeria's World Cup. 0:19:00.040 --> 0:19:02.439 Nigeria is national soccer team. You know, you guys have 0:19:02.520 --> 0:19:04.679 played well. I don't know if they play again, but 0:19:04.920 --> 0:19:08.040 you know, hopefully they will and Yeah, that's it. That's 0:19:08.080 --> 0:19:09.800 my little booth for today. 0:19:10.440 --> 0:19:13.880 Well booth, that's a good one. I kind of am 0:19:13.920 --> 0:19:16.239 on team Argentina, so it's sad that they beat you, 0:19:16.320 --> 0:19:22.520 but yay Argentina. It's okay only because I I basically 0:19:22.600 --> 0:19:24.879 just am on the team of whoever, like whatever country 0:19:24.880 --> 0:19:26.800 I've been to that I like the most, and I 0:19:26.920 --> 0:19:29.639 Argentina was the first country where I ever like watched soccer, 0:19:29.760 --> 0:19:32.120 so I have a little little soft spot for them. 0:19:32.600 --> 0:19:35.120 But uh, that's cool. I'm sure their uniforms are way 0:19:35.160 --> 0:19:36.480 uglier than Nigeria. 0:19:36.200 --> 0:19:38.600