1 00:00:01,600 --> 00:00:06,399 Speaker 1: What's up, guys. Welcome to the Granger Smith Podcast, Episode 2 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:10,840 Speaker 1: thirty one. Thank you for joining us on this journey, 3 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, thanks for watching. I'm grateful as always 4 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: to have this kind of platform for speaking my mind, 5 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:24,079 Speaker 1: telling stories, telling you about future events, talking about where 6 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 1: we are in our lives, and answering your questions, interviewing 7 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 1: some of my friends. I'm thankful for this podcast for 8 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:34,920 Speaker 1: all the above, and I don't have an agenda today. 9 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:36,760 Speaker 1: I'm going to answer some more questions that I fieled 10 00:00:36,760 --> 00:00:39,199 Speaker 1: it off Instagram. I want to start before I say 11 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: anything else. I want to start you with this one. 12 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 1: I heard this this morning. Abraham Lincoln said people are 13 00:00:45,880 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: just as happy as they make up their minds to be. Thought, 14 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:54,680 Speaker 1: that's a great way to open this podcast. And happiness 15 00:00:54,760 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: is something that's constantly misunderstood, misquoted, and Lincoln said it 16 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:04,640 Speaker 1: right in my mind, Lincoln said it right. Your's happy 17 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:08,000 Speaker 1: as you make up your mind to be. How do 18 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:10,319 Speaker 1: we know this? How do we know there's evidence of this? Well, 19 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:13,080 Speaker 1: because you hear stories all the time of people in 20 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 1: prison or in death camps, or in the rock bottom 21 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 1: what might appear to be rock bottom, and they have 22 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: good days, they find happiness. People are so resilient. And 23 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:28,959 Speaker 1: then look at the opposite. You see people living life 24 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 1: in Hollywood at the very top of what you think 25 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:35,080 Speaker 1: could be the financial food chain, and they're not happy. 26 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 1: They're addicted to drugs, they're getting divorces, their kids don't 27 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:45,399 Speaker 1: even come around. So success in a financial term, in 28 00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 1: a monetary term, in a career type term, is not 29 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:55,800 Speaker 1: relative to happiness at all. Happiness is mental. Happiness is 30 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: something that you make up your mind to be. Abraham 31 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:02,400 Speaker 1: Lincoln and said it right. The guy became president for 32 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 1: a reason, and I think that's a that's a great 33 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:09,239 Speaker 1: thing to be thinking about during this time, during the craziness. 34 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:13,480 Speaker 1: I just talked to a guy just now that's busier 35 00:02:13,480 --> 00:02:15,600 Speaker 1: than he ever has been, working more than he ever 36 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:18,440 Speaker 1: has been. Business is great. And at the same time, 37 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 1: right before that, I talked to a guy who's out 38 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 1: of work completely with no side of coming back. So 39 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:30,120 Speaker 1: I'm seeing both both sides to the story. The world 40 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 1: is not completely tanked, you know, because there's a lot 41 00:02:33,240 --> 00:02:36,519 Speaker 1: of people that are doing great, and I would like 42 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:39,160 Speaker 1: to think that those people that are doing great could 43 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:42,960 Speaker 1: then in turn stimulate the economy in certain ways that 44 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: will lead to helping the people that aren't doing great 45 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:49,960 Speaker 1: the music business. Where I am, the touring business is tanked. 46 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:53,760 Speaker 1: There's nothing, there's no word of anything I've been I've 47 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 1: been trying. It's been, you know, the top priority to 48 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 1: get us touring again in some capacity, not even to 49 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:01,680 Speaker 1: make money, but just to get our feet wet and 50 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 1: just to kind of begin the story. So we've been 51 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 1: talking to this amphitheater in South Austin about coming in 52 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: and everyone's social distancing, wearing masks, all that kind of stuff, 53 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:17,400 Speaker 1: and us putting on a concert for that that kind 54 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:19,400 Speaker 1: of environment, maybe selling out a couple of nights in 55 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:22,919 Speaker 1: a row. But a bunch of people got cold feet. 56 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:26,040 Speaker 1: So you know, I don't I don't totally blame them. 57 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm gung ho for it, but there's people 58 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:31,840 Speaker 1: that are getting cold feet in terms of you know, 59 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:35,800 Speaker 1: whether it's a vendor or the venue itself, or insurance companies, 60 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 1: booking agents, radio stations. Because everyone looks at this as 61 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 1: their reputation is on the line. I look a little 62 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 1: past that, but most people are looking at it like 63 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 1: you don't want to be the pioneer in this field, 64 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 1: because the pioneers get the arrows, if you know that 65 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: what I mean, the first one, the first one out 66 00:03:58,040 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 1: on the prairie, gets the aros. And that's kind of 67 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 1: what everyone's thinking right now as far as the music 68 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 1: booking world. They don't want to go out on a 69 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 1: limb and put on a concert and then have the 70 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 1: media just crucify them saying you're being unsafe, you're putting 71 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 1: people at risk, you're causing death, you're putting lives in 72 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:18,880 Speaker 1: your hands. The blood is on you. You know. They 73 00:04:18,880 --> 00:04:22,280 Speaker 1: don't want to hear that. That's going to look bad 74 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:25,880 Speaker 1: upon them. So the plan B for me was possibly 75 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 1: a parking lot concert, going and putting on a show 76 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 1: to a parking lot where everyone's in their car or 77 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:33,920 Speaker 1: sitting on their tailgate. So that's a really good option. 78 00:04:34,480 --> 00:04:37,880 Speaker 1: And then the third option is online concerts, which we're 79 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 1: planning on starting here next week with the band. We're 80 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:43,520 Speaker 1: going to do live from the Eege Farm, and we're 81 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:46,679 Speaker 1: gonna do several, probably two episodes a week, several a month, 82 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:49,200 Speaker 1: and different locations on the EEG Farm. We'll do some 83 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 1: old songs, we'll do some acoustic, we'll do some full 84 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:55,039 Speaker 1: band we'll play in the cornfield, We're play by the lake, 85 00:04:56,360 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 1: and we'll do it probably like Facebook Live and do 86 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:04,520 Speaker 1: it like a Venmo tip jar for the band, something 87 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:10,359 Speaker 1: like that. And and it is worth saying that, you know, 88 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:12,719 Speaker 1: I've done well. I've done well in the music business, 89 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:16,360 Speaker 1: me and my brothers, but not well enough to pay 90 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 1: everybody in the in the band and crew. Not not 91 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:21,159 Speaker 1: well enough to pay seventeen people in their families and 92 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:26,919 Speaker 1: keep everyone everyone you know. So and this is this 93 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:29,799 Speaker 1: is not a rant, this is not a complaint because 94 00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:33,039 Speaker 1: as of right now, as of today, I feel very blessed. 95 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:40,040 Speaker 1: And as Abraham Lincoln said, I feel happy because I 96 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:43,240 Speaker 1: was talking to my accountant today this morning, and it's 97 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:45,200 Speaker 1: doom and gloom for a lot of accountants in the 98 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:48,320 Speaker 1: music business. It's like, oh more bad news. Here's here's 99 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 1: the next bad news. You know, here's the next loan, 100 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 1: or we extended the line of credit again, or we're 101 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:57,000 Speaker 1: to take another loan out. And I just I told 102 00:05:57,040 --> 00:06:00,560 Speaker 1: her this morning, I said, you know what, she said, 103 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:03,800 Speaker 1: this is terrible, it's terrible. And I said, it's not terrible. 104 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:09,240 Speaker 1: It's not terrible. It's a setback. It is an obstacle, 105 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 1: and I firmly believe that we will learn from this 106 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:15,159 Speaker 1: and will be better because of this obstacle, because of 107 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 1: the setback. I firmly believe that I believe that we'll 108 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 1: all be kind of shaking the dead wood, shaking the 109 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:24,560 Speaker 1: dead limbs out of the trees, and that makes for 110 00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:27,680 Speaker 1: a much more beautiful tree. When you do that, you know, 111 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:29,720 Speaker 1: it might take some weight off of it, it might 112 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:31,760 Speaker 1: open up some sunlight a little bit, but it makes 113 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: a much more beautiful tree. And so we're gonna move. 114 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:37,719 Speaker 1: We're gonna get out of this house. We're gonna go. 115 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:39,679 Speaker 1: Me and the family are gonna go live in an 116 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:44,040 Speaker 1: RV for a while, and so much more to that story. 117 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 1: Don't worry, I will inform you of everything. And I 118 00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:49,360 Speaker 1: know I've kind of been teasing that idea we're gonna 119 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 1: inform you of everything on the Smiths, But there's a 120 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:54,839 Speaker 1: lot more to that. And I'm so excited about this, y'all. 121 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:58,240 Speaker 1: I'm fully embracing it. The family's pumps. This is gonna 122 00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:02,039 Speaker 1: be a huge adventure and we're gonna we're gonna wade 123 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 1: out this craziness until we start touring, and it's going 124 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 1: to be so good. We're shaking all those all the 125 00:07:08,480 --> 00:07:13,120 Speaker 1: dead wood out, and I feel good. I feel really good. 126 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 1: I'm way past the shock of twenty years of touring 127 00:07:17,840 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 1: and staying at home. Now is the new the new 128 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:25,680 Speaker 1: life I have, and I'm I'm rejecting the term new normal. 129 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 1: We're just we'll be back to where we were, and 130 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:30,360 Speaker 1: I know that I feel confident about that. And when 131 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:33,080 Speaker 1: we do start back, we'll be better. And and you 132 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:36,680 Speaker 1: watching and you listening, you will too. You will too. 133 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:40,120 Speaker 1: There is no doom in gloom. This isn't terrible. You 134 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:42,800 Speaker 1: know that this is uh, this is just a setback, 135 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:45,440 Speaker 1: and a lot of us are going to learn from this, 136 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: and we'll we'll learn as a world, and we'll learn 137 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:51,480 Speaker 1: who to listen to and learn who to trust, learn 138 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:55,960 Speaker 1: learn what information is real and what's not. And and 139 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:58,720 Speaker 1: by doing that we'll pay attention. We'll keep our eyes open, 140 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 1: you know, we'll we'll keep our eyes open once again. 141 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:05,840 Speaker 1: Not a rant, not a rant, But I just want 142 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:09,360 Speaker 1: to tell you guys, I am feeling good. I'm feeling 143 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 1: good because I do not tie my happiness or my 144 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 1: well being, or my gratitude or my gratefulness to a paycheck. 145 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:22,400 Speaker 1: No no, And I feel like, and I've said on 146 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:27,400 Speaker 1: here before, our worth, our value is people, me and you. 147 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:31,880 Speaker 1: Our value is us. It's within us. It's not the 148 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 1: paycheck or what's sitting in some bank account or asset 149 00:08:35,720 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 1: of some kind. It's us. We're the value. We choose 150 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:42,800 Speaker 1: to be the value. It's within us, and we are 151 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:47,840 Speaker 1: the ever flowing waterfall of wealth that will keep replenishing 152 00:08:47,880 --> 00:08:50,360 Speaker 1: itself if we just let it and we realize that 153 00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 1: and we don't stress over the few things that we 154 00:08:53,280 --> 00:09:00,319 Speaker 1: do have. Right. How's that for a Monday morning. Thank 155 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:04,840 Speaker 1: you guys for listening questions coming. All this brought to 156 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:08,319 Speaker 1: you by ye Apparel company my brothers and I built, 157 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:12,800 Speaker 1: and thank god, thank god, e commerce is okay at 158 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 1: this point. And so you can go to yee dot com. 159 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:18,400 Speaker 1: You can go to Yee apparel dot com sign up 160 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:21,080 Speaker 1: for your T shirt subscription, which we are so excited 161 00:09:21,080 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 1: to offer a T shirt subscription, something that we work 162 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:27,719 Speaker 1: really hard on making really cool t shirts that you 163 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:30,440 Speaker 1: can't get anywhere else, that are not available anywhere else 164 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:38,280 Speaker 1: but this one subscription, and it shows the It allows 165 00:09:38,320 --> 00:09:40,760 Speaker 1: you to become a true member of a group that's 166 00:09:40,800 --> 00:09:43,080 Speaker 1: way bigger than me, or way bigger than Earl Dibbles 167 00:09:43,160 --> 00:09:46,319 Speaker 1: or the music or any of that. It's a way 168 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:48,960 Speaker 1: of life that that I'm proud to be a part of, 169 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 1: and I hope that you are too, and I hope 170 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:53,640 Speaker 1: that that's what we are offering when you join us 171 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: in a club like EE Apparel. I'm gonna get to 172 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 1: these questions. Filled it off of Instagram. Welcome to the 173 00:10:03,160 --> 00:10:23,440 Speaker 1: Granger Smith Podcast. During that intro break, I did a 174 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 1: conference call with the record label and we talked new songs, 175 00:10:27,520 --> 00:10:29,120 Speaker 1: and so I might as well just tell you guys 176 00:10:29,160 --> 00:10:31,480 Speaker 1: what we talked about. But we talked about I have 177 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:34,800 Speaker 1: several songs. I have nine of them that are finished, 178 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:38,560 Speaker 1: and like several more that are in progress that I've 179 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:41,520 Speaker 1: been writing and or they're already the work tapes are done, 180 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:44,239 Speaker 1: their demos are done, and we're ready to record the record, 181 00:10:44,480 --> 00:10:47,760 Speaker 1: which I always do remotely. I do half of it here. 182 00:10:47,800 --> 00:10:50,880 Speaker 1: I sing everything right here in this room, So there 183 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:54,599 Speaker 1: is this whole shutdown thing. Is not any different for 184 00:10:54,720 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 1: me to be recording songs like this. So we're just 185 00:10:57,440 --> 00:10:59,600 Speaker 1: trying to decide on how to get them to you guys, 186 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:04,040 Speaker 1: talking about maybe a full album in September, talking about 187 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:09,160 Speaker 1: maybe an EP before that. That's an option. There's many options. 188 00:11:09,240 --> 00:11:12,360 Speaker 1: So the cool thing is we're getting approval on all 189 00:11:12,360 --> 00:11:14,720 Speaker 1: these songs to go ahead and put them out to you. 190 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:21,120 Speaker 1: It's exciting. Love it. I want to get to some 191 00:11:21,160 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 1: of these questions for you guys. How do you get 192 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:28,920 Speaker 1: amped and ready for a show when you're not feeling 193 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 1: it that day? And I like that. I screenshoted all these. 194 00:11:32,559 --> 00:11:34,800 Speaker 1: I did not prepare any of these, didn't take any notes, 195 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:36,600 Speaker 1: so I'm just gonna spit ball off the top of 196 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:37,959 Speaker 1: my head. But I like that one. How do you 197 00:11:37,960 --> 00:11:39,520 Speaker 1: get amped and ready for a show when you're not 198 00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:41,679 Speaker 1: feeling it that day? And the reason that's a good 199 00:11:41,720 --> 00:11:47,440 Speaker 1: question is on a normal touring season, we will play 200 00:11:48,120 --> 00:11:52,760 Speaker 1: two hundred shows, and I'd be lying if I said 201 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:55,560 Speaker 1: I was excited about every single one. Now, what determines 202 00:11:55,600 --> 00:11:58,560 Speaker 1: me being excited, I've learned, for the most part is 203 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:01,120 Speaker 1: getting good sleep. If I don't get good sleep, it 204 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:04,080 Speaker 1: doesn't matter if it's a stadium full of crazy people. 205 00:12:04,840 --> 00:12:08,120 Speaker 1: It's hard when you get four hours of sleep to 206 00:12:08,600 --> 00:12:13,800 Speaker 1: get amped for anything and you're just you're mentally exhausted. 207 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:16,359 Speaker 1: You go through meet and greets, you go through soundcheck, 208 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:21,960 Speaker 1: and then here comes the show. And there's there's those 209 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:26,680 Speaker 1: times there's there's a lot of shows that I'm so 210 00:12:26,840 --> 00:12:29,440 Speaker 1: excited for, and there's also a handful of shows that 211 00:12:29,480 --> 00:12:31,520 Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna be excited for, and then when 212 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:35,600 Speaker 1: the day as the day starts unfolding. And a lot 213 00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:37,760 Speaker 1: of this, Guys, has to do with the flights man, 214 00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 1: and we take a lot of flights. And if I 215 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 1: if I, for instance, if I leave Austin, Texas on 216 00:12:43,640 --> 00:12:45,720 Speaker 1: a five am flight, I have to leave my house 217 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:48,720 Speaker 1: two hours early. So I'm leaving the house at three, 218 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:52,800 Speaker 1: which means I'm waking up at two forty and then 219 00:12:52,840 --> 00:12:56,400 Speaker 1: I'm flying to Pennsylvania and we're doing a big show 220 00:12:56,440 --> 00:12:59,440 Speaker 1: there that night. If I don't, if I'm doing constant 221 00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:02,120 Speaker 1: meet and greets radio stuff, i don't have a nap, 222 00:13:02,840 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: and by the time the show comes around, I'm exhausted. 223 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 1: So it's so this is why it's a good question. 224 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:10,920 Speaker 1: So I have to amp myself up. I have to 225 00:13:11,040 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 1: kind of get myself in the zone thirty minutes before 226 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:19,040 Speaker 1: the show. I mean I have seriously sat backstage sometimes 227 00:13:19,080 --> 00:13:21,200 Speaker 1: and just slapped myself or have my drummer slap me. 228 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:24,319 Speaker 1: We like to do some kind of tequila or whiskey 229 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:28,240 Speaker 1: shot that usually Guy opens my eyes. I used to 230 00:13:28,320 --> 00:13:31,720 Speaker 1: drink Aye Energy all the time. One before every show, 231 00:13:32,320 --> 00:13:34,640 Speaker 1: we turn the music up really loud, whether we're on 232 00:13:34,640 --> 00:13:36,679 Speaker 1: the bus or in a green room, to kind of 233 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:40,679 Speaker 1: acclimate our ears to the loud craziness that it's going 234 00:13:40,720 --> 00:13:46,160 Speaker 1: to be. And what usually happens is I'll walk out 235 00:13:46,240 --> 00:13:48,200 Speaker 1: on the stage and the lights come on and the 236 00:13:48,240 --> 00:13:52,440 Speaker 1: crowd's amped up, and it will energize me no matter 237 00:13:52,559 --> 00:13:55,000 Speaker 1: if I'm down or not. So I could literally be 238 00:13:55,160 --> 00:13:59,000 Speaker 1: backstage ten minutes before the show and feel like I'm 239 00:13:59,080 --> 00:14:01,559 Speaker 1: not ready. I don't have it. This crowd is too 240 00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:03,640 Speaker 1: good for me right now, I don't have it. But 241 00:14:03,679 --> 00:14:07,040 Speaker 1: then walk out there and it slowly charges me back up, 242 00:14:07,080 --> 00:14:10,920 Speaker 1: and by song number three, I'm feeling great. The good 243 00:14:10,920 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 1: thing after that is then I'll crash and sleep so 244 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:21,720 Speaker 1: good as soon as I get off the stage. The 245 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 1: next question is will you have an album with all 246 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:27,560 Speaker 1: of your music from Holler and forward? And that kind 247 00:14:27,560 --> 00:14:29,400 Speaker 1: of goes to what this phone call I had, And 248 00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:31,360 Speaker 1: that was one of the exact questions that we talked 249 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:37,040 Speaker 1: about will we include on this album Holler, Heaven, Bound Balloons, 250 00:14:37,880 --> 00:14:40,720 Speaker 1: Damn Straight. That's why I love Dirt Road's four songs 251 00:14:40,720 --> 00:14:43,880 Speaker 1: that came out kind of on their own without an album, 252 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:47,480 Speaker 1: And the answer is probably yes, maybe not all four 253 00:14:47,520 --> 00:14:52,240 Speaker 1: of those, but maybe half of them, because we don't 254 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:54,080 Speaker 1: want to come out with an album that has too 255 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:58,400 Speaker 1: many songs that you already know, Otherwise that it decreases 256 00:14:58,440 --> 00:15:00,480 Speaker 1: the value for you as a listener if you're like, great, 257 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:03,000 Speaker 1: there's a new album and it's got most of the 258 00:15:03,040 --> 00:15:06,120 Speaker 1: songs I already know. So that's that devalues it a 259 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:08,320 Speaker 1: little bit. So we want to we want to heavy 260 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:10,800 Speaker 1: load it with things you've never seen or heard before, 261 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:13,520 Speaker 1: and that's going to be important, but we will probably 262 00:15:13,520 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 1: include a couple of those. What's the most humbling experience 263 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:22,920 Speaker 1: you've had, without a doubt, as far as business, as 264 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:26,560 Speaker 1: far as music business is concerned, without a doubt, falling 265 00:15:26,600 --> 00:15:30,280 Speaker 1: off the stage, breaking ribs, puncturing a lung in New 266 00:15:30,360 --> 00:15:34,880 Speaker 1: Jersey and then going to the emergency room right after 267 00:15:34,920 --> 00:15:40,600 Speaker 1: that show. And they didn't know it at first, but 268 00:15:40,720 --> 00:15:43,480 Speaker 1: there was a some kind of spinal threat that I 269 00:15:43,480 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 1: could have had a spinal problem, and so when they 270 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:49,000 Speaker 1: figured out there could be a spinal problem, they immediately 271 00:15:49,040 --> 00:15:51,440 Speaker 1: put me on a stretcher to put me on an 272 00:15:51,480 --> 00:15:54,160 Speaker 1: ambulance and sent me to another hospital that was specialized 273 00:15:54,200 --> 00:15:57,400 Speaker 1: in spinal injuries, and they had a neck brace on me. 274 00:15:57,440 --> 00:16:00,000 Speaker 1: And when I got to that hospital, they cut all 275 00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:03,760 Speaker 1: my clothes off of me. So I'm talking, no sheet, 276 00:16:03,880 --> 00:16:06,240 Speaker 1: no nothing, I'm just laying on the you know, the bed, 277 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:08,920 Speaker 1: and there's like eight doctors and bright lights, and they 278 00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:13,880 Speaker 1: cut all my clothes off of me, and in fear 279 00:16:14,000 --> 00:16:17,600 Speaker 1: that you know, you start pulling clothes off and it 280 00:16:17,600 --> 00:16:22,240 Speaker 1: could rupture a spine that's already out of whack. So 281 00:16:22,360 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 1: I was just I was really drugged up, you know, 282 00:16:25,320 --> 00:16:28,560 Speaker 1: I had morphine in me and whatever else they were 283 00:16:28,560 --> 00:16:31,440 Speaker 1: pumping me, so that that really helped that situation. But 284 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:34,080 Speaker 1: at the same time, it was still the most humbling thing. 285 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 1: And I remember then finally covering me up and wheeling 286 00:16:37,800 --> 00:16:39,360 Speaker 1: me out, and I was I was kind of in 287 00:16:39,400 --> 00:16:44,360 Speaker 1: the hallway on the bed, the rolling bed. I heard 288 00:16:44,360 --> 00:16:46,840 Speaker 1: someone down the hall plane if the boot fits on 289 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:48,960 Speaker 1: the computer looking me up to see who I was. 290 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:56,080 Speaker 1: So humiliating, humbling. At the same time, I was grateful 291 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:57,800 Speaker 1: that they were working so hard to get me feeling 292 00:16:57,840 --> 00:17:00,680 Speaker 1: good again. It was a terrible can those two ribs 293 00:17:00,720 --> 00:17:03,760 Speaker 1: in the back and puncture the lung. Is Oh, this 294 00:17:03,880 --> 00:17:06,800 Speaker 1: is such an annoying pain. It just constantly hurt. If 295 00:17:07,000 --> 00:17:10,720 Speaker 1: anyone's broken a rib, comment below on this YouTube page 296 00:17:11,280 --> 00:17:13,800 Speaker 1: or comment on social media. Have you broken a rib? 297 00:17:14,400 --> 00:17:17,800 Speaker 1: And mine were like split all the way, so completely separated, 298 00:17:18,160 --> 00:17:20,640 Speaker 1: and then they went into the lung so it punctured 299 00:17:20,640 --> 00:17:24,080 Speaker 1: it and I couldn't breathe. And if you if you've 300 00:17:24,119 --> 00:17:27,040 Speaker 1: had this happen, comment below. If you know someone that's happened, 301 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:29,840 Speaker 1: comment below. I'll see there, I'll see your comments. But 302 00:17:29,960 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 1: it is a it hurts really really bad. That goes 303 00:17:34,520 --> 00:17:36,239 Speaker 1: without saying. But at the same time, I like to say, 304 00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:39,919 Speaker 1: it's also just annoying. Man. It's annoying because you just 305 00:17:40,680 --> 00:17:42,879 Speaker 1: you finally kind of get comfortable and then you then 306 00:17:42,920 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 1: you gotta go pee. And there was this moment I'll 307 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:50,680 Speaker 1: never forget from between getting comfortable with the ice pack 308 00:17:50,720 --> 00:17:54,160 Speaker 1: on my back, am I you know pillow under my knees, 309 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:56,879 Speaker 1: I'm kind of propped up watching Netflix, and I'd have 310 00:17:56,920 --> 00:17:59,680 Speaker 1: to go pee really bad because I'm you know, drinking 311 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:03,960 Speaker 1: a lot of water. So there's this moment halfway between 312 00:18:04,040 --> 00:18:07,400 Speaker 1: sitting and standing. That's the most excruciating pain I've ever 313 00:18:07,440 --> 00:18:10,440 Speaker 1: had in my life. So it was, you know, right 314 00:18:10,480 --> 00:18:14,280 Speaker 1: when i'd lean up, it would just send this shockwave 315 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:18,879 Speaker 1: of nerves that were just nerves touching the spine and on, 316 00:18:19,359 --> 00:18:21,960 Speaker 1: you know, the ribs. You can't secure them. You can't 317 00:18:22,320 --> 00:18:26,680 Speaker 1: you can't wrap your ribs or put a cast on 318 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:29,920 Speaker 1: because it contracts your breathing. You have to breathe otherwise 319 00:18:29,960 --> 00:18:32,240 Speaker 1: you'll get in pneumonia. You have to deep breathe, so 320 00:18:32,280 --> 00:18:36,200 Speaker 1: that's part of the practice. So they're just flopping around 321 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:40,360 Speaker 1: and you could feel the ribs flopping around and rubbing 322 00:18:40,400 --> 00:18:42,919 Speaker 1: on each other and hitting the spine all in the 323 00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:46,239 Speaker 1: nerves and it's like I've never been tased, but it 324 00:18:46,280 --> 00:18:48,359 Speaker 1: feels like it's just someone's just tasing you in the 325 00:18:48,400 --> 00:18:53,360 Speaker 1: back when you're trying to stand up. It's terrible. Let's 326 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:58,359 Speaker 1: see the next question here. I'm ready for a new guitar. 327 00:18:58,560 --> 00:19:01,680 Speaker 1: I want a twelve stream. What brand should I get? 328 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:05,200 Speaker 1: I have a lot of thoughts and I kind of 329 00:19:05,240 --> 00:19:06,639 Speaker 1: feel like maybe one of these days I should do 330 00:19:06,640 --> 00:19:12,840 Speaker 1: a podcast on learning guitar and I am a little 331 00:19:12,840 --> 00:19:16,439 Speaker 1: bit against twelve string unless you're just a virtuoso and 332 00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:19,600 Speaker 1: you're a studio player and you or you love the Eagles, 333 00:19:19,720 --> 00:19:22,000 Speaker 1: or you know, unless you have a real reason for 334 00:19:22,000 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 1: getting a twelve string, I would be against a twelve 335 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:28,120 Speaker 1: string guitar. It sounds cool, it looks cool, it's nice 336 00:19:28,119 --> 00:19:29,640 Speaker 1: for an album, you know. I used to have one 337 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:31,600 Speaker 1: just for playing on the records, where I could just 338 00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:34,119 Speaker 1: give a nice little strum every now and then. But 339 00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:36,800 Speaker 1: what you really need is a six string, And especially 340 00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:38,960 Speaker 1: if you're a beginner, and the more of a beginner 341 00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 1: that you are, I recommend Rick, or excuse me, I 342 00:19:42,160 --> 00:19:47,399 Speaker 1: recommend putting nylon strings on your six string, taking them 343 00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:50,040 Speaker 1: these steal strings off, just to go a little bit 344 00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:55,040 Speaker 1: easier on your fingers. And nylon strings are a lot softer. 345 00:19:55,400 --> 00:19:57,800 Speaker 1: Some people call them gut strings. They're a lot softer 346 00:19:57,920 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 1: on your hands. When you're trying to learn and you're 347 00:19:59,320 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 1: trying to build up callouses. On a twelve string, it's 348 00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:05,680 Speaker 1: double the strings on each finger, so you got two 349 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:09,919 Speaker 1: strings on each finger, and they are just it's harder 350 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:13,280 Speaker 1: on your fingertips, and until you build those callouses, there's 351 00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:15,320 Speaker 1: just not a point to have a twelve string, So 352 00:20:15,320 --> 00:20:18,200 Speaker 1: I would stick with six. And when you stick with six, 353 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:23,520 Speaker 1: I would go with more of a name brand. I'm 354 00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:28,720 Speaker 1: always a Martin guy. You could go and when I 355 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:31,040 Speaker 1: say Martin, there's high end Martins, and then there's there's 356 00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:38,000 Speaker 1: very affordable Martins. There's tailors, there's Takamini's, there's there's a 357 00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:40,760 Speaker 1: lot of brands. I would say, go with a more 358 00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:44,920 Speaker 1: well known brand and a lower model of that well 359 00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:47,920 Speaker 1: known brand, and then put nine on the strings on it. 360 00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:54,800 Speaker 1: Any advice for feeling stuck in life, I'm on the 361 00:20:54,880 --> 00:21:01,359 Speaker 1: right track, bad timing or so, it seems. Great question, 362 00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:06,280 Speaker 1: really great question. And it's so easy to get stuck 363 00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:11,920 Speaker 1: in life, and it's so easy to feel like it's 364 00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:15,879 Speaker 1: so easy to feel like we are not achieving what 365 00:21:15,920 --> 00:21:19,359 Speaker 1: we need to be achieving, or we're not going in 366 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:22,560 Speaker 1: the direction and we need to be going, when in reality, 367 00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:26,119 Speaker 1: all of that is mental. All the roadblocks are mental 368 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,840 Speaker 1: that we have created. For instance, this whole shutdown thing, 369 00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:33,199 Speaker 1: it's is it is it a derailment of what we 370 00:21:33,240 --> 00:21:37,600 Speaker 1: do or is it a way to refocus ourselves, knock 371 00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:39,679 Speaker 1: off some of the dead wood out of the tree 372 00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:46,040 Speaker 1: and refocus ourselves to a better way of doing the 373 00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:54,240 Speaker 1: same thing. And it's such an interesting mindset that feeling 374 00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:59,080 Speaker 1: stuck might not exist. It might all be mental. The 375 00:21:59,119 --> 00:22:01,720 Speaker 1: other thing to do is, if you're truly feeling stuck, 376 00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:08,840 Speaker 1: why not quit? Why not quit what you're doing. If 377 00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:11,240 Speaker 1: you're feeling stuck in your job, or if you're feeling 378 00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:15,000 Speaker 1: stuck in a relationship and you're not married, it's time 379 00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:17,520 Speaker 1: to break up. Period. As long as kids aren't involved, 380 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:19,320 Speaker 1: that makes it more complicated. As long as you're not married, 381 00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:22,119 Speaker 1: that makes it more complicated. If you're feeling stuck in 382 00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:25,639 Speaker 1: a career, why not quit. If there's something you feel 383 00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:28,960 Speaker 1: like you could be doing that's better, why not go 384 00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:35,560 Speaker 1: after that? And that might require getting upgrading a degree 385 00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:38,920 Speaker 1: of some sort, which might require working some night hours 386 00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:41,040 Speaker 1: or studying some night classes while you're on the current 387 00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:44,119 Speaker 1: job you feel stuck in. So you feel stuck in 388 00:22:44,119 --> 00:22:49,400 Speaker 1: your job, and during the evenings you're upgrading your education online, 389 00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:54,359 Speaker 1: helping your resume build towards something that's bigger and better. 390 00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:59,160 Speaker 1: If you're feeling stuck monetarily money wise, why not sell 391 00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:01,959 Speaker 1: some stuff? Why not get out of that car that 392 00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:05,960 Speaker 1: costs six hundred dollars a month that it's you know, 393 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:08,560 Speaker 1: it's a really nice car, it looks cool, but it's 394 00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:10,200 Speaker 1: six hundred dollars a month. And you know, you could 395 00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:13,679 Speaker 1: turn it in and you can get something that's one 396 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:15,840 Speaker 1: hundred dollars a month, or you could pay cash or 397 00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:17,800 Speaker 1: something you could pay. You know, you could, you could, 398 00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:21,040 Speaker 1: you could buy something for two grand. You know, borrow 399 00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:25,200 Speaker 1: a little cash from your uncle, get something for two grand. Uh. 400 00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:29,080 Speaker 1: My point is stuck is such. I don't blame you, 401 00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:33,320 Speaker 1: but but it's stuck as such a mental roadblock that 402 00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:37,400 Speaker 1: there's always a way to get around that. You could quit, 403 00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:39,280 Speaker 1: you could break up, you can get a new education, 404 00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:41,199 Speaker 1: you could sell that car, you could get out of 405 00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:46,160 Speaker 1: that house. There's a lot of ways. But but ultimately 406 00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:53,040 Speaker 1: it starts with discipline, and it starts mentally. Question from 407 00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:55,919 Speaker 1: my husband, what brand of boots are your favorite? And 408 00:23:55,960 --> 00:24:00,159 Speaker 1: what knife do you carry? I'm typically I like to 409 00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:02,719 Speaker 1: wear everyday boot. I like to wear a riot and 410 00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:05,840 Speaker 1: this I'm not sponsored, I just I just they feel comfortable, 411 00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:08,919 Speaker 1: they feel like tennis shoes, and they have rubber soles. 412 00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:12,280 Speaker 1: I'm a rubber soul boot guy because leather makes me 413 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:17,480 Speaker 1: slip everywhere, especially on the stage. So I like ariat knife. 414 00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:21,080 Speaker 1: I always have Kershaw. Kershaw is just my favorite brand 415 00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:27,080 Speaker 1: and uh it's very well made. I don't know what 416 00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:31,720 Speaker 1: kind this is. I have several Kershalls, but uh, yeah, 417 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:34,720 Speaker 1: everyone's got a got a favorite knife in mine. Mine. 418 00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:41,080 Speaker 1: Is that deep question here? Oh deep question time? Or 419 00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:47,520 Speaker 1: take a sip deep question? When striving for success? How 420 00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:53,200 Speaker 1: do you know when you've made it? There? It is right, 421 00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:57,520 Speaker 1: that is that's the question when striving for success. How 422 00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:59,560 Speaker 1: do you know when you've made it? So let's look 423 00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:02,359 Speaker 1: at that question logically. Let's just break apart that question 424 00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:07,600 Speaker 1: when striving for success, how do you know when you've 425 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:11,640 Speaker 1: made it? Well, let's dumb it down. The first thing 426 00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:18,400 Speaker 1: you have to ask is what is success? What is success? Well, 427 00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:23,280 Speaker 1: it's not tangible. Everyone has a different definition. So then 428 00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:26,600 Speaker 1: I would have to read you my favorite poem that 429 00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:30,920 Speaker 1: I've said before on this podcast, Ralph Waldo Emerson. It's 430 00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:36,200 Speaker 1: the success point. What is success? To laugh often and much, 431 00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:40,200 Speaker 1: To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection 432 00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:44,639 Speaker 1: of children, To earn the appreciation of honest critics, and 433 00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:50,199 Speaker 1: endure the betrayal of false friends. To appreciate beauty, To 434 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:53,359 Speaker 1: find the best in others. To leave the world a 435 00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:57,000 Speaker 1: bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, 436 00:25:57,400 --> 00:26:01,040 Speaker 1: or a redeemed social condition. To know that even one 437 00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:05,960 Speaker 1: life have breathed easier because you have lived. This is 438 00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 1: to have succeeded. That's so good. That's so good. I 439 00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:13,720 Speaker 1: got to read it one more time because this is 440 00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:17,280 Speaker 1: not This is Ralph's idea of success, and it doesn't 441 00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:21,000 Speaker 1: have to be yours. But you notice that here he 442 00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:27,359 Speaker 1: never says anything about achieving the certain rung on the 443 00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:31,920 Speaker 1: ladder of your career. It never says, if you're a singer, 444 00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:36,440 Speaker 1: once you've achieved ten number ones, then you have succeeded. 445 00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:40,520 Speaker 1: Once you have sold out your first stadium in Pittsburgh, 446 00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:44,320 Speaker 1: you have succeeded. Because guess what, guys, All those things 447 00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,960 Speaker 1: don't account for real success. They don't. Let me read 448 00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:52,520 Speaker 1: this poet again. To laugh often and much, To win 449 00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:56,040 Speaker 1: the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children, 450 00:26:56,640 --> 00:27:00,040 Speaker 1: To earn the appreciation of honest critics, and endure the 451 00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:04,600 Speaker 1: betrayal of false friends. To appreciate beauty, To find the 452 00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,240 Speaker 1: best in others. To leave the world a bit better, 453 00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:10,320 Speaker 1: whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a 454 00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:14,600 Speaker 1: redeemed social condition. To know even one life has breathed 455 00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:21,480 Speaker 1: easier because you have lived, this is to have succeeded. Damn, 456 00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:24,760 Speaker 1: that's so good. That's so good. I could read it 457 00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:30,639 Speaker 1: over and over. So when striving for success, how do 458 00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:36,720 Speaker 1: you know when you've made it? I think, do you 459 00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:38,440 Speaker 1: want to be able to look back when you're when 460 00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:40,439 Speaker 1: you're old and it's the end of your life, you 461 00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,960 Speaker 1: want to look back, And in my opinion, everyone's different, 462 00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:45,600 Speaker 1: But in my opinion, you want to look back and say, 463 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:50,560 Speaker 1: you know what. I laughed a lot. I won the 464 00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:53,960 Speaker 1: respect of a few intelligent people and the affection of children. 465 00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:58,280 Speaker 1: I earned the appreciation of honest critics. I endured the 466 00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:03,159 Speaker 1: betrayal of false friends, which will happen. I appreciated beauty, 467 00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:07,960 Speaker 1: whether that was mountains or oceans, or beaches or woods 468 00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:12,760 Speaker 1: or whatever. I found the best in others. I left 469 00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:15,160 Speaker 1: the world a bit better, either by a healthy child, 470 00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:20,000 Speaker 1: a garden patch, or redeem social condition. And I learned 471 00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:23,159 Speaker 1: that even one life has breathed easier because I have lived. 472 00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:27,719 Speaker 1: Isn't that a good feeling? To know that? That is 473 00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:31,880 Speaker 1: true success? In this poem, and that could be yours. 474 00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:37,199 Speaker 1: It's definitely mine also, good question, and I love to 475 00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:41,040 Speaker 1: answer it that way. What is one thing you do 476 00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:45,080 Speaker 1: to clear your head h We've talked about on the 477 00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:49,720 Speaker 1: last podcast. We talked about meditation, ten percent, Happier or 478 00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:52,360 Speaker 1: Calm one of these apps you can get on your phone. Great, 479 00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:56,000 Speaker 1: super easy. They're free, follow instructions, great way to clear 480 00:28:56,040 --> 00:28:58,360 Speaker 1: your mind. For me, I love to drive. I love 481 00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:01,920 Speaker 1: to get in my truck, winds down. I love to 482 00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:05,440 Speaker 1: just cruise and field, especially right now, beautiful month, beautiful 483 00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:08,920 Speaker 1: temperature outside, feel that wind in my face. It's like 484 00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:12,400 Speaker 1: if I put on an old George Strait record Greatest Hits, 485 00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:15,560 Speaker 1: Volume two and just get right in the middle of 486 00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:17,560 Speaker 1: that album and turn it up with the windows down. 487 00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:22,520 Speaker 1: Nothing in the world can be wrong in my opinion. 488 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,320 Speaker 1: How do you write songs and how do you put 489 00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:34,360 Speaker 1: music behind your lyrics. It's a very multi layered process. 490 00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:37,080 Speaker 1: And sometimes it starts with the title, sometimes it starts 491 00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:40,880 Speaker 1: with a melody. Sometimes I start with nothing. Sometimes I 492 00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:51,840 Speaker 1: just do this. Yeah, I'll trusty here and I'll just 493 00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:02,040 Speaker 1: I'm writing songs on this podcast. Don't really know how 494 00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:05,880 Speaker 1: long it will last. I'm just making up words and 495 00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:11,520 Speaker 1: making up melodies. I hope y'all like this song, because 496 00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:16,280 Speaker 1: this is how I do hit, y'all, And it's just 497 00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:20,400 Speaker 1: playing and sometimes I'm just mumbling literally like that, making 498 00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:22,800 Speaker 1: up words as I go. And every once in a 499 00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:26,080 Speaker 1: while some cool things pop out, or sometimes there's something 500 00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:29,360 Speaker 1: that I really want to say, and I'll start with 501 00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:32,240 Speaker 1: that title and then I'll start playing, you know, in 502 00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:41,320 Speaker 1: different keys, and I hum around to think about how 503 00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:47,360 Speaker 1: to say this song, and I change chords and see 504 00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:53,480 Speaker 1: if anything else comes out like that. And you do 505 00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:55,760 Speaker 1: that long enough, you do that enough times, and then 506 00:30:55,800 --> 00:31:05,640 Speaker 1: it becomes part of what you do. We'll see what 507 00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:11,840 Speaker 1: else we got here. My question is what are some 508 00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:18,480 Speaker 1: things you and Amber do to strengthen your marriage? And 509 00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:21,840 Speaker 1: the most important thing, I think is trust with each 510 00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:26,320 Speaker 1: other and trusting her and knowing her limits and knowing 511 00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:30,760 Speaker 1: hopefully her knowing my limits, but knowing that she's on 512 00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:33,280 Speaker 1: the edge right now. She's kind of upset with me, 513 00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:35,960 Speaker 1: she's frustrated with something I said or something I did. 514 00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,440 Speaker 1: Don't push her past that limit. If she's upset with 515 00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:42,720 Speaker 1: something that I did, why not take her side and 516 00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:46,840 Speaker 1: listen fully to her story? Listen listen and hear her out. 517 00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:51,400 Speaker 1: There's no point in arguing to be right, because in 518 00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:55,880 Speaker 1: the end, all you get to be is right, and 519 00:31:55,920 --> 00:32:02,719 Speaker 1: then she is frustrated or devastating, or wrong or corrected 520 00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:08,240 Speaker 1: or inappropriate or a subordinate of the conversation, and there 521 00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:13,360 Speaker 1: is that doesn't help anybody. You being right doesn't help anybody, 522 00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:15,320 Speaker 1: doesn't even help you. It doesn't even feel that good 523 00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:17,960 Speaker 1: to be right. You know, you might get to pound 524 00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,440 Speaker 1: your chest for ten seconds, and then then you feel 525 00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:23,320 Speaker 1: a little bit guilty that you wore somebody out just so, 526 00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:26,680 Speaker 1: just for the point of being right. So it's much better. 527 00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:28,400 Speaker 1: And this is, by the way, this is a lot 528 00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:34,560 Speaker 1: easier said than done. But it's a lot easier to 529 00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:37,360 Speaker 1: hear someone out and listen to them as if they 530 00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:41,040 Speaker 1: could teach you something, as if they might know something 531 00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:45,040 Speaker 1: that you don't. Because that don't you think that's possible 532 00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:47,800 Speaker 1: that if we looked at the world is constantly a 533 00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:50,719 Speaker 1: place that could teach us something, even though we might 534 00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:52,720 Speaker 1: not agree with it on the surface, even though we 535 00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:56,719 Speaker 1: might be adamantly against it. Why not just listen, just listen, 536 00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:59,520 Speaker 1: and hear it out. Instead of always wanting to be 537 00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,400 Speaker 1: right to me that's such a key thing in marriage, 538 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:04,960 Speaker 1: and we don't. We didn't start out our marriage and 539 00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:06,360 Speaker 1: say that that's what we're going to do. It just 540 00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:09,239 Speaker 1: almost happened by accident that our personality has met and 541 00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:12,640 Speaker 1: worked out pretty well that way. But it does take work. 542 00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:14,880 Speaker 1: And it wasn't like that in relationships for me in 543 00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:18,680 Speaker 1: the past, and it wasn't for her either. But if 544 00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:21,000 Speaker 1: you're finding yourself in a problem in a relationship and 545 00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:24,640 Speaker 1: you're and you're seeing yourself argue a lot, you might 546 00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:28,800 Speaker 1: want to ask yourself, how often am I trying to 547 00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:31,880 Speaker 1: be right when we argue or when we have discussions. 548 00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:35,400 Speaker 1: How much of a factor in our argument is me 549 00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:40,880 Speaker 1: just being right and winning the argument, Because if that's 550 00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:42,840 Speaker 1: a factor at all, you might want to look at it. 551 00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:48,640 Speaker 1: The opposite is saying it's not my fault. They're just wrong. 552 00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:53,640 Speaker 1: They're just you know that they're wrong, and I am 553 00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:56,480 Speaker 1: going to teach them a lesson for how wrong they are. 554 00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:58,720 Speaker 1: And if the more I teach them a lesson that 555 00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:00,800 Speaker 1: they shouldn't mess with me on this kind of subject, 556 00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:03,920 Speaker 1: the more they'll learn not to do it again. And 557 00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:05,760 Speaker 1: if I don't bring it up, and if I don't 558 00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:10,560 Speaker 1: correct them, they will never learn. Well, guess what, guys, 559 00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:14,680 Speaker 1: your job ain't the teacher. Your job ain't being their daddy. 560 00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:18,239 Speaker 1: So unless you are the daddy. But and that's a 561 00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:20,720 Speaker 1: different that's a different conversation. That's not what you asked. 562 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,600 Speaker 1: But anyway, I think that's such a key that's not 563 00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:28,160 Speaker 1: only key to a marriage, but to friendships and so 564 00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:35,200 Speaker 1: many other kinds of relationships. Do you guys have more 565 00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:40,000 Speaker 1: of these kind of questions? Will you comment below on here? 566 00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:43,840 Speaker 1: Will you comment on this YouTube page? Is there something 567 00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:46,880 Speaker 1: that maybe I answered that you disagree with? Will you 568 00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:48,960 Speaker 1: comment that. I'm going to go through all these on 569 00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:53,359 Speaker 1: this particular podcast episode. I'll dig in these and I 570 00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:56,239 Speaker 1: will I'll try to respond back on here and then 571 00:34:56,280 --> 00:34:59,239 Speaker 1: and then on the next Monday's podcast I'll address some 572 00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:02,800 Speaker 1: of them. But I would love to hear your thoughts 573 00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:05,960 Speaker 1: and if anything, just like this video, and if you're 574 00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:08,680 Speaker 1: listening on the podcast app, thank you for that. And 575 00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:11,320 Speaker 1: you can go to social media and you can engage 576 00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:14,880 Speaker 1: that way, whether it's Insta or Facebook or Twitter. You 577 00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:19,719 Speaker 1: can hashtag Grangersmith podcast And it's one of the uh, 578 00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:22,319 Speaker 1: it's one of the things that I have going on 579 00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:24,719 Speaker 1: right now. You know, without touring. I did so many 580 00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:27,520 Speaker 1: of these podcasts on the back of my bus, and 581 00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:29,680 Speaker 1: right now that bus is just sitting at the Eyegi 582 00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:33,239 Speaker 1: farm going nowhere. In fact, the biggest problem we're having 583 00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:35,719 Speaker 1: with buses right now is mice getting up in there. 584 00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:38,520 Speaker 1: I mean, we've we're doing everything we can, from shaving 585 00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:41,920 Speaker 1: up Irish spring soap, which is something that actually works, 586 00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:45,000 Speaker 1: and putting it, you know, and placing it all all 587 00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:49,239 Speaker 1: over the buses. But it's it's a crazy time and 588 00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:51,399 Speaker 1: I appreciate it. I'm so grateful for you, guys. I'm 589 00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:53,600 Speaker 1: sure I'm grateful for your questions. I'm grateful that you 590 00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:57,800 Speaker 1: even care about me answering. But I will see you 591 00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:01,040 Speaker 1: next Monday. Thanks for watching. If you haven't subscribed to 592 00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:05,719 Speaker 1: this channel on the podcast app or on YouTube, please subscribe. 593 00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:08,200 Speaker 1: It helps me know I'm doing something right. It is 594 00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:11,080 Speaker 1: free to you. This content is free to you. All 595 00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:14,520 Speaker 1: I ask is like and subscribe. Love you guys. We'll 596 00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:22,080 Speaker 1: see eye