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Speaker 1: My father is forcibly inserting himself into my therapy sessions.

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Speaker 2: Okayop, this is okay. Ope.

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Speaker 3: I'm Samuel Donner and I'm John Fry and we tell

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Speaker 3: the funniest stories on the Internet.

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Speaker 1: So, Sam, let me ask you, like if you can

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Speaker 1: remember what's like the biggest like argument or disagreement or

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Speaker 1: like friction that you that you've had between your dad.

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Speaker 3: I remember one time my dad got really mad at me.

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Speaker 3: I can't remember about something, and I was like it

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Speaker 3: was probably about like cleaning up around the house or

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Speaker 3: something like that, and I said something like I used

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Speaker 3: to think you were.

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Speaker 2: A god and now I know you're just a man.

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Speaker 2: And I was like eleven or something. That's amazing, Oh my.

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Speaker 3: Gosh, and uh uh yeah, I think I think that's the.

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Speaker 2: One that comes to mind. Did you use that exact line?

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Speaker 2: Do you know?

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Speaker 3: Was it was like it was like basically that exact line, right,

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Speaker 3: I mean, something to.

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Speaker 1: Be like my superhero and now you're just a mad.

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Speaker 3: I think I used I used god and man. I

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Speaker 3: was I was a very philosophical.

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Speaker 1: Very eleven year old. Good I was not philosophical at

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Speaker 1: all as a live year old. Oh my goodness. Wow,

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Speaker 1: that's funny. Yeah, I think I was trying to remember. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Like I think one time when I was like, I

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Speaker 1: mean young, like maybe five or so. I was a

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Speaker 1: pretty well behaved kid for the most part, but there

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Speaker 1: was a few instances where I acted out. And I remember,

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Speaker 1: like there was like my legs were too short to

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Speaker 1: you know how you could like kind of sit and

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Speaker 1: like press your feet against door to like keep someone

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Speaker 1: from opening it. I was too short between the distance

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Speaker 1: from like that wall and the door, like my feet

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Speaker 1: couldn't reach. So I remember getting a little chair and

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Speaker 1: then pressing my feet on the chair as hard as

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Speaker 1: I could so he couldn't open the ye I don't

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Speaker 1: want you, But I mean, did he hold him back.

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Speaker 1: I think he was just like, Okay, I'm just gonna

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Speaker 1: let you deal with it. I think it was like

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Speaker 1: at first he was trying to go in, and then

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Speaker 1: after like two seconds, he was like, I'm just gonna

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Speaker 1: let him tire himself out of like deal with this

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Speaker 1: situation later.

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Speaker 2: But you know, they're not Those aren't great.

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Speaker 1: Situations, I would say, but they kind of pale in

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Speaker 1: comparison to the situation that we're about to get into.

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Speaker 2: To that let's hear it.

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Speaker 1: My father is forcibly inserting himself into my therapy sessions.

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Speaker 3: Do you don't want your father forcibly inserting anything into anywhere?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Good gravy, you do not, Oh goodness, So god, I

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Speaker 1: sixteen female, have pretty much been shoved into therapy despite

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Speaker 1: my wishes. I understand that therapy is supposed to help,

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Speaker 1: but I just don't.

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Speaker 2: Think it's for me.

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Speaker 1: I also think my feelings may change one day, apps

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Speaker 1: when I start adulthood officially, which is such a funny,

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Speaker 1: like sixteen year.

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Speaker 3: Old essentially adulthood. What is official adulthood? Eighteen?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess that's when you're like not a minor anymore.

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Speaker 1: I don't feel like an official adult. I also don't

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Speaker 1: feel like.

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Speaker 2: I feel like a little child.

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Speaker 1: Still, definitely for some a lot of needed context about me.

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Speaker 1: I've lived with my father and disabled sister for a

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Speaker 1: few years now after my mom pretty much left us

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Speaker 1: and chose drugs.

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Speaker 2: I'm not really torn up about it.

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Speaker 1: We never saw eye to eye, and she pretty much

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Speaker 1: just liked to play video games and leave messes, which

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Speaker 1: is also like what like I feel like a kid

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Speaker 1: would do. Yeah, you know, the biggest issues I have

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Speaker 1: gone through since she's left.

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Speaker 2: Are these one.

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Speaker 1: Since mom left, there are even less funds for basic needs.

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Speaker 1: We all have some form of disability in my family,

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Speaker 1: and I don't know how much each of us makes,

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Speaker 1: but all the money goes towards the house. I'm not

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Speaker 1: because my disability would be taken back by the government.

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Speaker 3: I guess, so it seems like actually does happen. Sometimes

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Speaker 3: disability actually encourages people to not.

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Speaker 1: Work right right, Yeah, and especially like I guess she's

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Speaker 1: and my dad keeps blaming me for every little thing

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Speaker 1: work as a sixteen year old, and you're like blaming

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Speaker 3: Year old can barely take care of themselves, Like for real,

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Speaker 3: Like I'm count having me that would be insane.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I'm tired all the time, I'm failing

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Speaker 1: I used to be a very motivated overachiever, but ever

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Speaker 1: since the separation, I zone out constantly and just daydream

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Speaker 1: the hours away. I feel like I lost a part

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Speaker 1: of me that I'll never get back. Wow, this is sad, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: really intense. I also have depression, ADHD and anxiety. A

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Speaker 1: few months ago, not long after Thanksgiving, my dad told

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Speaker 1: me that I have to go to therapy place near

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Speaker 1: my school every Tuesday. I was not happy about this,

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Speaker 1: but had little choice. Talking about my problems does not

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Speaker 1: get rid of them, so why bother?

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Speaker 3: I thought, Although therapy can be good, so maybe that's

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Speaker 1: I would agree, But you know ops that have a

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Speaker 1: little bit of a you know, the teenager mindset, I

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Speaker 1: would say here, school is awful, home is awful. Life

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Speaker 1: sucks and won't get better, especially with this pandemic. So

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Speaker 1: I start going, and then I began opening up more

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Speaker 1: and more about my feelings and my sadness. Without going

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Speaker 1: into too much detail. I told my therapist about my

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Speaker 1: lack of motivation and the separation, and then I talked

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Speaker 1: about life at home. I didn't go into heavy details,

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Speaker 1: but I did mention I'm cleaning up after my siblings

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Speaker 1: and I feel like my dad doesn't even love me. Well,

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Speaker 1: a couple of days or so after my appointment, there

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Speaker 1: was a visit from Child Protective Services.

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Speaker 2: Oh what.

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Speaker 1: They wanted to talk to me and my dad and

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Speaker 1: they asked a lot about my sister and well, my

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Speaker 1: dad put two and two together and knew that somehow

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Speaker 1: it was my faults and when CPS left, I was

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Speaker 1: grounded until further notice. He sold my phone and Nintendo

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Speaker 1: three DS to a pawn shop and told me I

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Speaker 1: and bathroom breaks, and canceled Christmas.

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Speaker 2: Oh my, this is prison insane, Like I canceled Christmas?

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Speaker 2: See for real.

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Speaker 1: He told me that I made him look bad and

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Speaker 1: put the family at risk. I could have made him

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Speaker 1: lose custody of my sister and me, But I was

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Speaker 1: told not to talk about the lives or problems at

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Speaker 1: home or I would regret it. Yeah, so it's like,

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Speaker 1: go to therapy, but don't talk about any actual problems

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Speaker 1: in your life. Like, just go to therapy and say

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Speaker 1: everything's fine. I attend school, I drank water, like literally.

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Speaker 1: I actually felt like I was in the wrong for

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Speaker 1: telling my therapist of all these problems. I questioned if

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Speaker 1: I didn't talk about the good stuff because not too

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Speaker 1: much of that was happening. I was very angry and confused.

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Speaker 1: services to come back again. So at my next therapy appointment,

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Speaker 1: I just shut down and didn't divulge anything. I felt

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Speaker 1: didn't want to put my family at risk. Well, I

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Speaker 1: guess I went about it wrong because she told my

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Speaker 2: How is that helpful? Also, like therapy is so private,

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Speaker 3: And especially when like the dad is causing most of

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Speaker 3: the problems in the therapy exactly. Yeah, even like a

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Speaker 3: virtual therapy, Yeah, yeah, they do talk space talk space

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Speaker 1: He even makes me leave the room and go to

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Speaker 1: to make my therapist believe him over me. I feel

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Speaker 1: get Child Protective Services involved. I didn't even know that

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Speaker 1: I'm not mad at the therapist, because I do think

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Speaker 1: she was genuinely worried about me. But ever since he

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Speaker 1: and rants, and I'm not allowed to call him out

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Speaker 1: on any of it. He'll do things like extend my

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Speaker 1: grounding and not even let me use things like catch

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Speaker 1: up and mayonnaise a dinner ridiculous. He has taken everything

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Speaker 1: this is a lot to unpack. I just don't think

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Speaker 1: it makes sense without all the context. Currently borrowing a

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Speaker 1: friend's old phone and using the public Wi Fi across

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Speaker 1: the street to Texas because my father also shut the

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Speaker 1: Wi Fi off. Oh my god, also borrow my friend's

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: Wow, man, that's an insane situation.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, I being being sixteen or just being under

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Speaker 3: your parents roof is tough, like just like I mean,

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Speaker 3: being in that situation sucks.

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Speaker 1: And just all the things, like just the myriad of

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Speaker 1: things that Op is having to deal with, which also

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Speaker 1: like it sounds like Op was like good in school

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Speaker 1: and everything, you know, for all this happened.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think the dad needs to take a hard blok.

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Speaker 3: It's like, what definitely, you know, what am I actually

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Speaker 3: trying to do about trying to help my daughter? I'm

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Speaker 3: just trying to make her more miserable. It seems like

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Speaker 3: it's just trying to make her more miserable.

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Speaker 1: Like selling her phone and her three DS to a

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Speaker 1: pawnshop like that's like, yeah, ridiculous, and then cutting.

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Speaker 2: Off the internet like what the internet?

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Speaker 1: The Internet?

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Speaker 2: Like yeah, like what's doing on here? Jeez? Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if there's there's a right answer what

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Speaker 3: to do next, but I do have a right answer

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