WEBVTT - Just Because It’s “Normal” Doesn’t Mean It’s Right for You

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<v Speaker 1>Just because something is normal doesn't mean that it's healthy. Today,

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to stop confusing what everyone else does

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<v Speaker 1>with what's actually best for you. You found your way

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<v Speaker 1>here to Waking Up With Ryan. I'm so glad that

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<v Speaker 1>you pushed play. This is the place you and I

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<v Speaker 1>come to wake up together So let's take a deep

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<v Speaker 1>breath and begin. Good morning, my love. In this world,

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<v Speaker 1>what is normal are things like stress and rushing and

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<v Speaker 1>reactivity and competition. But what's optimal is presence and slowness

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<v Speaker 1>and honesty and self-care and vulnerability. And You and I,

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<v Speaker 1>because we're on a path of working on ourselves and

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<v Speaker 1>waking up, it can feel quite lonely often because sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>it feels like nobody lives the way you're trying to live.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's because most people are living based on what

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<v Speaker 1>is normal and standard. And bless that. That's okay. You're not.

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<v Speaker 1>You are studying and working on yourself and slowing down

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<v Speaker 1>and becoming more aware of the activity of your mind

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<v Speaker 1>and finding places where you can choose love over fear

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<v Speaker 1>and finding the places where you can forgive and have

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<v Speaker 1>compassion rather than losing yourself in blame and resentment because

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<v Speaker 1>you're choosing you. And that is what is optimal and

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<v Speaker 1>I celebrate you for that. I'm so glad. But it

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<v Speaker 1>can feel really isolating because it's abnormal. So waking up

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<v Speaker 1>to who you really are can feel really lonely. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's not because there's anything wrong with it. It's only

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<v Speaker 1>because it's very different. from what it seems like the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of the world is doing. And so I'm so

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<v Speaker 1>glad that you and I have places like this where

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<v Speaker 1>we don't have to feel so alone, where we can

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<v Speaker 1>remind each other that this path that is being illuminated

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<v Speaker 1>for us toward your awakening needs to become the new normal.

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<v Speaker 1>But that doesn't mean that you and I should be

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<v Speaker 1>out in the world proselytizing. It doesn't mean that when

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<v Speaker 1>you are interacting with somebody who you may love so

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<v Speaker 1>and care for so deeply. It doesn't mean that your

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<v Speaker 1>job is to try to enlighten them and get them

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<v Speaker 1>to see that what they're doing is like the stereotypical

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<v Speaker 1>normal thing and that there's this other way of doing

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<v Speaker 1>it that's more optimal and more contributory toward their awakening.

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<v Speaker 1>They might not be interested in that or ready for

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<v Speaker 1>that at all. That's not up to you. What is

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<v Speaker 1>up to you is noticing the temptation to return to normal,

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<v Speaker 1>noticing the temptation to to go back into old patterns

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<v Speaker 1>and smaller self when the world and circumstances are tempting

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<v Speaker 1>you to do so, and pausing so that you can

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<v Speaker 1>choose again optimal, so that you can choose again deep presence, slowness, honesty, self-care, forgiveness, compassion, empathy.

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<v Speaker 1>That's your job. In the moment... of the trigger, optimal

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<v Speaker 1>is choosing to pause, to ask, what is it that

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<v Speaker 1>I truly want right now? What is it that my

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<v Speaker 1>highest self would do or say right now? And act

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<v Speaker 1>from that place. And as you do that, your life

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<v Speaker 1>will be a demonstration in what is optimal. And that

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<v Speaker 1>is the best teaching that you can offer others. So,

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<v Speaker 1>let's take a few moments for ourselves this morning. If

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<v Speaker 1>you can, gently resting the eyes closed. Drawing a breath

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<v Speaker 1>in through your nose and out through your mouth. Finding

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<v Speaker 1>some gratitude that you are not normal. And finding some

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<v Speaker 1>gratitude that you are not alone. In your or on

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<v Speaker 1>your path to remembering who you are. Take a deep breath.

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<v Speaker 1>Acknowledging that being different from the crowd feels uncomfortable. But

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<v Speaker 1>also acknowledging that fitting in to what is normal is

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<v Speaker 1>so not just uncomfortable, it's painful for you. And so

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<v Speaker 1>being willing today to take another step to expand more

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<v Speaker 1>the knowing of who you really are and being willing

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<v Speaker 1>to allow our divine universe to remind you, to guide you,

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<v Speaker 1>To help you pause in the moments when an old

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<v Speaker 1>you wants to react and choose another way. Choosing to

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<v Speaker 1>continue this leap into the unknown, trusting that you will

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<v Speaker 1>always be caught. Let's take a deep breath in and

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<v Speaker 1>let it go. Offering yourself some gratitude, some thanks, for

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<v Speaker 1>breaking free from normal and allowing yourself to pursue what

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<v Speaker 1>is true, what is aligned for you, even though there

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<v Speaker 1>are people in your life who may never understand, who

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<v Speaker 1>may never be able to meet you there, And still

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<v Speaker 1>choosing yourself instead. Let's take a deep breath in. And out.

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<v Speaker 1>The deepest question here Do you want to fit in

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<v Speaker 1>or would you rather wake up? Choose waking up. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>blink our eyes open. Beautiful. You don't need to measure

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<v Speaker 1>your life against what's normal. Instead, measure it against what

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<v Speaker 1>helps you come alive. Loving you from here. Hi, I

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<v Speaker 1>hope you're feeling even just a little bit more prepared

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<v Speaker 1>to take on the day. But before you go, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to share a few quick things with you. I

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<v Speaker 1>really want this show to reach the people in your

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