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Speaker 1: I refuse to go to my husband's friend's house. Then

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Speaker 1: he went without me. No fair, I wanted to go.

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Speaker 3: I twenty six female, and my husband, twenty seven male,

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Speaker 3: have a toddler to female. I don't know how everyone

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Speaker 3: else has it, but our toddler creates so much chaos

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Speaker 3: wherever she is. She's so curious, she explored everything all

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Speaker 3: the time, loves to rearrange stuff, and she runs wherever

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Speaker 3: she needs to go.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like a two year old.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, basically she is like what I've seen most two

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Speaker 3: year olds be like.

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Speaker 1: Yep.

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Speaker 1: I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia, I'm Keon, and we are here

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Speaker 1: to give some good advice. But we're gonna do it

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Speaker 1: in a goofy fashion, suh.

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Speaker 3: And so we want to know what you would do

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Speaker 3: in a goofy fashion in the comments as hope, he

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Speaker 3: says at home, it's fine. Of course I try to

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Speaker 3: keep her in check, but we have, of course child

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Speaker 3: proofed our entire home. The problem here is that one

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Speaker 3: of my husband's friends and his girlfriend lived just five

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Speaker 3: minutes away from us. My husband and I get invited

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Speaker 3: there almost every weekend, whether it's for food or just coffee.

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Speaker 3: They're lovely people, but their house is filled with stuff.

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Speaker 3: It's messy and overall the opposite of our home. No problem,

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Speaker 3: they don't have children and they like to have stuff around.

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Speaker 3: Problem is that every weekend I spend three hours running

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Speaker 3: after her, comforting her when she trips, making sure she

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Speaker 3: doesn't break stuff or puts things in her mouth.

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Speaker 1: It's honestly tiring.

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Speaker 3: And the fact that my husband just sits at the

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Speaker 3: table and chats while I run around like crazy for

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Speaker 3: so long irritates me.

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Speaker 1: And there's the problem.

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Speaker 3: Yep, it's not your friends, So it's not chup, baby,

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Speaker 3: it's your husbging ding dinging.

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Speaker 4: I think you put a time I'm on, and after

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Speaker 4: the timer goes off, you switch, And that's my solution.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh yeah.

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Speaker 3: When we got invited over two weekends ago, I told

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Speaker 3: him I wouldn't tag along. I explained my reasons, and

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Speaker 3: he told me that I was overreacting and that it's

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Speaker 3: a normal part of parenting. I told him that either way,

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Speaker 3: I wasn't coming. If he wanted our daughter to tag along,

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Speaker 3: he could bring her. So he did, and he came

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Speaker 3: back after just an hour and was in a bad

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Speaker 3: mood the rest of the day.

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Speaker 1: Oh that was so hard. Yeah, it was hard hard.

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Speaker 4: I had to run after the whole time.

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Speaker 3: I asked him how it went, and he asked me

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Speaker 3: if I felt happy with myself.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, if he's sitting there, she's like sipping in

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Speaker 4: glasses and she's sitting in a couple of coppee, like yeah.

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Speaker 1: He's like shut up, yeah, literally shut up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't it horrible? I told you, I told you. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: This last weekend we got invited over once again. I

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Speaker 3: went there himself. He's been off with me the whole week,

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Speaker 3: making passive aggressive remarks about my insane need to always be.

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Speaker 1: Right and yeah other stuff.

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Speaker 3: I don't think it's an insane need to be right?

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Speaker 3: I think it's just yeah. I Like he's like, oh no,

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Speaker 3: like I'm not doing that, you know, like this is

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Speaker 3: just part of parenting. It's like, oh it is. Well,

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Speaker 3: then you try it and they and he's like, oh

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Speaker 3: this is horrible.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he got in your shoes.

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Speaker 4: Is it an insane need to be right?

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Speaker 1: Or is she just right?

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Speaker 3: True? I'm starting to feel like maybe I went overboard

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Speaker 3: because I know he has a much harder time keeping

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Speaker 3: the whole time? No, then coming to us isn't an option.

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Speaker 3: I don't know why, because before his girlfriend moved in,

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Speaker 4: You're not the a hole. Don't let him make you

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Speaker 4: it right for when we go over to our friends,

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Speaker 4: I look after our child the whole time. You the

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Speaker 4: watch the child. Yeah, Well, he gets to.

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Speaker 3: A lot of gag no, sir no, a lot of

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Speaker 3: gagging for him, No, sir, no gaging.

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Speaker 4: You get twenty minutes log lotigagging and then you swap.

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Speaker 3: I think it's just he just didn't realize what he

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Speaker 3: and then you try it, it's like, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: I am a baby sat year.

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Speaker 4: Old and insane two and a half year old. She

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Speaker 1: And I'd be like, do you want to watch TV?

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Speaker 5: That was me the other night and I was watching

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Speaker 5: and they have a little like seesaw that like spins

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Speaker 3: Like again again and I'm like I'm just alone time.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like my little my little baby cous or

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Speaker 4: my cousin's kids. Whenever I visit them. They love Sam

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Speaker 4: love when we spin them around, you know, like when

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Speaker 1: Just go again again.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, it's like, once you do something that's fine,

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Speaker 1: To be like I'm gonna go help.

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Speaker 4: Like the parents are like okay, but come back. I'm like, yeah, yeah, anyway,

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Speaker 1: Dude. There's an update.

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Speaker 3: We've talked pretty short about it this morning, and it

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Speaker 3: turns out he got pretty embarrassed at his friend's house.

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Speaker 3: We will probably talk more about it, but yeah, he

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Speaker 3: post if people want it, and if something changes or anything,

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Speaker 3: I will probably if not, Thanks for all the comments.

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Speaker 3: I've tried to read both the top comments and the

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Speaker 3: ones who got downloaded, and I think both were pretty

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Speaker 3: helpful for what points I will bring up. That's the

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Speaker 1: Well, there you go. Good luck O P. Yeah, good luck,

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Speaker 1: go pee. And that's the end of the story. We're

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Speaker 2: I caught my best friend dating my ex girlfriend. He

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Speaker 2: hit it for months.

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Speaker 1: That breaks bro code.

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Speaker 2: Cassie twenty four female and I twenty three mail were

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Speaker 2: together for five years. We started dating in high school

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Speaker 2: and stayed together through college, moved in together after graduation.

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Speaker 2: I've been in love with her since before our first date.

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Speaker 2: She's amazing and I still think so. By the way,

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Speaker 2: sup read it. I'm ke On, I'm Carly, and we're

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Speaker 2: here to give good advice. Gooflely. We don't have all

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Speaker 2: the answers. We only know what we do, so let

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Speaker 2: us know what you do in the comments. As Opie says,

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Speaker 2: we were talking about marriage and starting a family soon.

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Speaker 2: Then one day, a few months ago, Cassie wanted to talk.

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Speaker 2: She sat me down and said she decided she doesn't

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Speaker 2: She talked a lot about overpopulation or climate change or whatever.

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Speaker 2: I was still a kid myself. When she finished talking,

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Speaker 2: I told her it was over. She started crying and

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Speaker 2: else can I do? She said, she's been thinking this

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Speaker 2: Well what was a something that came up? Was it

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Speaker 1: No, I think it's additional, really crappy friend behavior.

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Speaker 2: Yes, crap got dark. I'm not ashamed to say I cried.

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Speaker 2: There were reasons I didn't want to be alone that day.

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Speaker 2: Almost midnight last night, Ryan finally came home and was

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Speaker 2: at a school that just reopened. But no, Ryan sits

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Speaker 2: secretly dating Cassie since a few weeks after we split. Wow, Ryan,

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Speaker 2: way to be the scum of the earth. Way to

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Speaker 2: Ryan says they're in love already and that she needs

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Speaker 1: Alone girl fresh out of a really long relationship.

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Speaker 1: I'll be there for you. I'll make sure you get

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Speaker 2: I think they're both equal. I mean, Ryan definitely is

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Speaker 2: I still think that period we just wanted different things,

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Speaker 2: days after I posted this, guy TJ hit me up

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Speaker 1: Shocked.

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Speaker 2: Apparently, he hooked up with Cassie the first time about

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Speaker 1: What friends believe that you're just cool with after best

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Speaker 2: Years a week after you broke up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and Ryan is even getting worse in work. He's

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Speaker 2: Moving from TJ's happens this weekend. I mean, they is,

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Speaker 2: I'm happy for you, But yeah, this is this is

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Ryan's definitely not your friend anymore. It seems like

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Speaker 2: Maybe I know you're putting one hundred percent of your

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Speaker 2: But Cassie also did this to you, and she knew,

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Speaker 2: like I'm gonna hook up with OPI's best friend that

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Speaker 2: he's moving.

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Speaker 1: I mean, the thing is, like Cassie doesn't matter anymore.

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Speaker 2: Cases broke up with her.

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Speaker 1: We don't care about Cassie anymore. They just can still

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Speaker 1: be really upset with Ryan for a bit. I feel like,

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Speaker 1: but like you did break up with Cassie, is it

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Speaker 1: still a betrayal that she immediately went with your friend. Yes,

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Speaker 1: but like ultimately if you broke up with her, like

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Speaker 1: But that brings me back to Ryan just being like

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Speaker 2: He also probably lied to Cassie saying, yeah, you know

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Speaker 1: Oh he sent me over Here's a week with ho Goo?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, why do you think you sent me over here?

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Speaker 2: Do you think I'm a I want to just help

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Speaker 2: move his stuff. No, I want you. There's a little

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Speaker 2: I probably forgot some of my stuff at either his

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Speaker 2: I can get new friends more than anything else. The

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Speaker 2: all I've got. It's nothing dramatic. I guess no one

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Speaker 2: taking a break on the dating front. And that is

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Speaker 2: the end of that story. Yeah, I mean this does suck.

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Speaker 2: It does suck for Op because now his trust issues.

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Speaker 2: Like he's God, you're not gonna have trust issues. But

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling better. I do think Cassie and Ryan are

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Speaker 2: I wonder what Ryan's mom thinks, because like, again, that's

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Speaker 2: like obviously Ryan's mom, but Opie's mother figure probably lied.

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Speaker 2: I mean, she'll be like, why are you dating Op's

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Speaker 2: How can you do that? Op? He was cool with it. Mom, No, good,

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Speaker 2: good for you. Op. You know, go out there, you know,

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Speaker 1: I thought I knew my boyfriend until one contact changed everything.

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Speaker 2: Was it Pizza hud or Dominoes?

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Speaker 1: I twenty one female caught my boyfriend twenty three male

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Speaker 1: this comes from correct Witness thirty fifty two and if

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Speaker 1: r slash Okay storytime subreddit I'm Carly, I'm ke On,

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Speaker 1: What? Yes? It is? And then fast forward to a

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Speaker 1: I was also not perfect in this relationship. I don't

438
00:21:04,800 --> 00:21:06,640
Speaker 1: want to make it seem like he's the bad guy

439
00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:10,399
Speaker 1: and I'm the innocent victim. However, this I feel is

440
00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:16,000
Speaker 1: next level. Doing this takes serious dedication, and honestly it's scary.

441
00:21:16,600 --> 00:21:19,240
Speaker 1: I would have forgot to text myself back within two

442
00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:22,680
Speaker 1: to three days. In one of the messages, he expressed

443
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:25,760
Speaker 1: to his supervisor that he was sick and I remember

444
00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:28,240
Speaker 1: being with him and taking care of him during this time.

445
00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:33,840
Speaker 1: His supervisor him replied and said, I hope you feel better.

446
00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:37,000
Speaker 1: Make sure you stay hydrated and get rest. My brain

447
00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:40,880
Speaker 1: cannot comprehend this. I asked him why he did this.

448
00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:44,440
Speaker 1: His reasoning was that his parents don't believe that he's

449
00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:47,480
Speaker 1: at work when he tells them, so he fakes messages

450
00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:49,159
Speaker 1: so that he could show them as proof.

451
00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:53,840
Speaker 2: That still doesn't mean it's proof. Are you at work?

452
00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:57,679
Speaker 1: Sounds like BS to me. That excuse would have just

453
00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:01,480
Speaker 1: barely been believable if he didn't include me in the lies.

454
00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:04,720
Speaker 1: He apologized for including me in it and says he

455
00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:07,560
Speaker 1: wants another chance to do better. But I'm afraid that

456
00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:11,320
Speaker 1: this other chance will just be another cycle full of lies.

457
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:15,199
Speaker 1: If he's willing to go this far with little to

458
00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:17,640
Speaker 1: no motive, how far is he willing to go when

459
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:20,960
Speaker 1: he has something worth trying to cover up. He also

460
00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:23,399
Speaker 1: admitted that he'd do things to try to impress me.

461
00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:26,520
Speaker 1: I think he may be having an identity crisis. I

462
00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:29,320
Speaker 1: don't know. He makes me feel bad for choosing to

463
00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:31,720
Speaker 1: walk away, but I keep trying to explain to him

464
00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:34,760
Speaker 1: that this isn't a normal situation that people go through

465
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 1: all the time. My brain cannot find a reason to

466
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:39,200
Speaker 1: validate this behavior.

467
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:41,640
Speaker 2: I'm still like, I know oth he's trying to wrap

468
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:43,159
Speaker 2: their head around it. I'm still trying to wrap my

469
00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:46,120
Speaker 2: head around it too. What is what the heck?

470
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Speaker 1: In such a quick story too?

471
00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:48,880
Speaker 2: Yeah? Well, what the heck?

472
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Speaker 1: Let's see what other details we get and that we

473
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Speaker 1: can discuss. I'd also like to note before all of this,

474
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Speaker 1: I also caught him posting a video on social media

475
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:02,040
Speaker 1: pretending like it was him, and it really wasn't, but

476
00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:04,760
Speaker 1: I chose to move on from that situation. I feel

477
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:08,160
Speaker 1: very disrespected. I feel like I welcome to stranger into

478
00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:11,159
Speaker 1: my life. I feel like he knows everything about me,

479
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:14,479
Speaker 1: but yet I don't know anything about him because I

480
00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:17,199
Speaker 1: don't know what was real and what wasn't. If this

481
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,439
Speaker 1: were you, would you stay with this person? He seems

482
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:23,800
Speaker 1: very apologetic and he's an amazing man aside from all

483
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:28,040
Speaker 1: of this, but this really really threw me off. U.

484
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it looks like this guy has like either multi

485
00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:39,880
Speaker 2: personality disorder or something, because he's like it wasn't even

486
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:42,480
Speaker 2: for like any really good reason. It was just to

487
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:47,359
Speaker 2: like give proof to people that like to validate him.

488
00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:48,800
Speaker 2: Like he's like, oh yeah.

489
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:52,560
Speaker 1: Like the weird thing too, is like if he did

490
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:56,600
Speaker 1: have multiple personalities like that would at least make more sense.

491
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Speaker 1: But I don't think he'd remember like planning to text

492
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Speaker 1: himself back.

493
00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:05,439
Speaker 2: I do not know. This is very very weird, Like

494
00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:07,440
Speaker 2: if it was like I'm doing this to get out

495
00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 2: of work, or like I'm doing this to just show

496
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 2: that I got a fake promotion, or like to be

497
00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:17,080
Speaker 2: the supervisor, the supervisor, like the supervisor sself was like, yeah,

498
00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,600
Speaker 2: supervisor said I can take the day off, or the

499
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 2: supervisor said, right, the train, the train is delayed because

500
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:23,479
Speaker 2: of this.

501
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:28,119
Speaker 1: The train one was weird because like you didn't need

502
00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:30,240
Speaker 1: that answer. You were just like, huh, I wonder what's

503
00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:30,760
Speaker 1: holding the train?

504
00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:33,320
Speaker 2: And it wasn't even until like it wasn't even cheating.

505
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 2: He wasn't even cheating. It was just like, I do

506
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:41,080
Speaker 2: not know how to go about this. This is one

507
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:43,199
Speaker 2: of those ones where I'm like, huh.

508
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:45,159
Speaker 1: I mean sounds like she already broke up. You think

509
00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:48,080
Speaker 1: that if that's really gonna throw you off, like to

510
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:50,000
Speaker 1: the point where you wouldn't believe what's true or not,

511
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:50,879
Speaker 1: Like that's really the only thing.

512
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:54,040
Speaker 2: Yeah about that, you're second guessing everything he says now

513
00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:56,440
Speaker 2: and like everything that's been like you're living a lie

514
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:58,919
Speaker 2: pretty much. Yeah, I don't blame you for breaking up

515
00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:01,679
Speaker 2: with him, No, I'm it's like very confused, and like

516
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:05,159
Speaker 2: his true motive of it was just to do it to,

517
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:08,320
Speaker 2: you know, solidify things.

518
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:09,239
Speaker 1: I don't even know.

519
00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 2: Very weird. You you got out of a very weird

520
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:17,159
Speaker 2: situation there, op, But I would tell him maybe you

521
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:23,200
Speaker 2: should get help because that's some interesting behavior and that's

522
00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:25,080
Speaker 2: the end of this story. We're going on to the

523
00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:28,199
Speaker 2: next one. My girlfriend gave me an ultimatum, so I

524
00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:29,080
Speaker 2: gave her one back.

525
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Speaker 1: Oh double not healthy.

526
00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,479
Speaker 2: I thirty two male and my girlfriend Ellen, thirty three

527
00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:37,359
Speaker 2: female have been together for two years seven months and

528
00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 2: have been living in the same my house for eight months.

529
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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user awkward Crow four

530
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Speaker 2: oh one. And if you want to submit your own stories,

531
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Speaker 2: go to the r slash Okay story time suburt it.

532
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Speaker 2: I'm key On, I'm car and we're here to give

533
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:51,919
Speaker 2: good advice. Goofy. We don't have all the answers, We

534
00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:53,800
Speaker 2: only know what we do, so let us know what

535
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:56,919
Speaker 2: you do in the comments. Please. As Opie says, the

536
00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 2: issue in question arose when my dad fifty eight male,

537
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:04,720
Speaker 2: gave me his dog, Mila or Mela six female. She

538
00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:07,359
Speaker 2: was a rescue so we don't know her exact age

539
00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:10,120
Speaker 2: so close to my dog's day. Before I had even

540
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:12,119
Speaker 2: met Ellen, I made a promise with my dad to

541
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:14,600
Speaker 2: take Mela in if he couldn't take care of her,

542
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:17,240
Speaker 2: which is something I had discussed with Ellen before she

543
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:21,240
Speaker 2: even moved in, and she had no complaints. Then my

544
00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 2: dad fell ill four months ago, and of course I

545
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 2: took Mela in. He is not getting better, so he

546
00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:31,560
Speaker 2: asked me to officially adopt her, and I agreed. Ellen

547
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 2: was furious that I made this decision without consulting her,

548
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,479
Speaker 2: despite me having told her about the arrangement in the past.

549
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:42,880
Speaker 2: Although I feed, walk, groom and manage all of Mela's

550
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:46,440
Speaker 2: needs financially and otherwise, Ellen said she had to put

551
00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:49,320
Speaker 2: her foot down on the issue. I asked Ellen if

552
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:51,879
Speaker 2: there were any specific reasons she was so opposed to

553
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:55,399
Speaker 2: keeping Mela, and she stated the following. She said that

554
00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:58,080
Speaker 2: since she works from home full time, whereas I'm closer

555
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Speaker 2: to fifty to fifty, that I can't understand how much

556
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:04,720
Speaker 2: having a dog around affects her work. She makes clay art, crockery,

557
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:08,560
Speaker 2: that sort of thing. Having a dog is expensive and

558
00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:11,000
Speaker 2: it will be a drain on our finances, which are

559
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:13,920
Speaker 2: not jointed, I'll note, and I've paid for everything so far.

560
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 2: It will make it more difficult for us if we

561
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:19,520
Speaker 2: ever have or ever want to have a child. Our

562
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 2: house is not huge, so it doesn't make sense to

563
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,720
Speaker 2: have a big dog like Mela. She has friends who

564
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:27,480
Speaker 2: have severe dog hair allergies. She doesn't want them to

565
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:30,400
Speaker 2: feel that they can't visit anymore. None of her complaints

566
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:32,919
Speaker 2: had anything to do with any bad behavior. Mila does

567
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 2: not jump on people or furniture, bite, bark at visitors.

568
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 2: She will follow commands to leave a room if they're

569
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 2: given to her, et cetera.

570
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:43,760
Speaker 1: That's tough, though, because those were some like valid reasons.

571
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:46,800
Speaker 1: But you laid up front that you would have the dog.

572
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:51,040
Speaker 2: Essentially, this was a discussion forefront.

573
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I mean I can understand that if you're

574
00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 1: the one that's home all the time with the dog

575
00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:59,840
Speaker 1: doing something that involves like not that it starts in,

576
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 1: but like something that involves like hands on making stuff

577
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:06,760
Speaker 1: and you have a dog, that's like potentially running around

578
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:09,320
Speaker 1: or getting dog here in that. Yeah, I have a cat,

579
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 1: and a lot of my friends are allergic to it,

580
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 1: and they don't come over to my house because they're

581
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:15,040
Speaker 1: allergic to cats.

582
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Speaker 2: It's just so hard matter how much I clean, especially

583
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:22,160
Speaker 2: with everything going on. I feel like Ellen should try

584
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:24,439
Speaker 2: to understand at least maybe like a little bit of

585
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 2: time in leeway before she's like no, no, no, I get

586
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 2: it this. This this was like last minute, like right, I.

587
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:36,120
Speaker 1: Think like things could settle and she's gonna realize, like.

588
00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 2: Is she doing like that?

589
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:39,400
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, it was just a lot upfront. We're getting

590
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 1: this dog that I've been dealing with all the time.

591
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:44,120
Speaker 1: So I feel like if if we can change up

592
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 1: some things of just like, let's make you your own space, Like,

593
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:50,240
Speaker 1: let's make you an area like away from the dog. Yeah,

594
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:52,200
Speaker 1: maybe you guys can make one room in the house

595
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 1: the dog free, and then your friends can come over. Still,

596
00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 1: yeah kind of thing.

597
00:28:56,800 --> 00:29:01,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, just something not just up front. No, she should

598
00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 2: understand where you're coming from, and she shouldn't be taking

599
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:06,600
Speaker 2: out on the dog or you like, should be a

600
00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 2: compromise in working this out, especially again when you've voiced

601
00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,520
Speaker 2: up front. If this were to happen, it would come

602
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 2: to this. Back to the story. I see that these

603
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:18,840
Speaker 2: are reasonable objections to not taking Mela in, but I

604
00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 2: stayed firm in my position. Ellen said that if I

605
00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:24,960
Speaker 2: loved her, I would make other arrangements, and at this

606
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 2: stage I was getting a bit angry, so what I

607
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:30,800
Speaker 2: said next may have been a little harsh. I told

608
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:34,520
Speaker 2: her love has nothing to do with this. My first

609
00:29:34,560 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 2: responsibilities are my dad and Mela, and nothing you say

610
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 2: will convince me to send her away. If you seriously

611
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 2: can't cope with that, you can get out of my home.

612
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 2: Ye Okay, that was aggressive.

613
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:55,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it does seem like both sides are just

614
00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 1: kind of getting pretty riled pretty quick. Like I think

615
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 1: there's compromises from both sides. I think that could be

616
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 1: had obviously, Like though you told her a front about

617
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:07,600
Speaker 1: Mela like Mila's stan and.

618
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 2: I also agree that love, I mean, yes, love has nothing.

619
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Speaker 2: It's not your relationship with Ellen. This is your relationship

620
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:15,880
Speaker 2: with your dad and Mela and your arrangement and agreement

621
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 2: to what was going to happen at this point. She

622
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 2: should respect that, and again, I should be a compromise

623
00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:25,760
Speaker 2: of how to work things through and work this out.

624
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:30,000
Speaker 2: But I see both of you just sticking to no

625
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:32,840
Speaker 2: or yes, not like, hey, what can we do to

626
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 2: make this work for all of us, especially Mela. Ellen

627
00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 2: burst into tears at this and left to go stay

628
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:40,760
Speaker 2: with her mom, citing that I clearly need time to

629
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 2: think this over. A bunch of her friends who know

630
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 2: me have been telling me that I'm a total a

631
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:49,280
Speaker 2: hole for prioritizing a dog over my girlfriend of nearly

632
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Speaker 2: three years, but my own friends have been telling me

633
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 2: to stand my ground. Ellen has been radio silent, has

634
00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 2: not come home, and is not responding to my texts.

635
00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 2: So I guess I'm looking for some unbiased opinions on

636
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 2: the matter. Would I be the a hole if I

637
00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 2: kept Mila?

638
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 1: No? From that question, No, But I do think, like,

639
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:13,479
Speaker 1: like I said, like, I do think there can be

640
00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:17,120
Speaker 1: other changes and compromises to help on both ends, because

641
00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:18,960
Speaker 1: you're not the one that's there taking care of Mila

642
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 1: all day.

643
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:21,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's fifty to fifty, but right, and.

644
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:23,760
Speaker 1: She's I mean, she's already been doing a lot. Then

645
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,320
Speaker 1: if she's been the one home, letting me out, maybe

646
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 1: taking her sorry Mia, maybe taking Mela on walks.

647
00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:32,400
Speaker 2: Like that kind of thing like that is the sacrifice

648
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:33,840
Speaker 2: of having a pet, and I think she just doesn't

649
00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 2: want a pet. So, but we have an update. It's

650
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 2: only been a few days, but a lot has happened.

651
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 2: Ellen finally agreed to meet up earlier today. Nice Ironically,

652
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 2: though people were telling me to break up with her,

653
00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:49,400
Speaker 2: she beat me to it. We talked over coffees for

654
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 2: a few hours, and what many of you suggested was true.

655
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Speaker 2: Her real reason for not wanting to keep Mila was

656
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Speaker 2: separate from all of the other ones she offered me.

657
00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 2: She just said she thinks I've changed too much since

658
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 2: we got her, And when I asked her what she meant,

659
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 2: she stated that I'm less passionate and engage with her

660
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:17,000
Speaker 2: than before. Ellen, your partner, Your partner's dad is ill

661
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 2: and has to figure this all out. And he what what.

662
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:30,040
Speaker 1: Hey, well he can keep me a little much easier now, Yeah,

663
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 1: no problems there.

664
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Speaker 2: I'm not getting the attention I want or deserve. It's

665
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 2: because of this dog. This dog. I don't really know

666
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 2: if I could do anything with that, whether it's to

667
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:42,240
Speaker 2: do with the stress of my father's condition or not.

668
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 2: But she basically said, I'm not the person she fell

669
00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:47,280
Speaker 2: in love with anymore. She's packing up her things even

670
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 2: as I type this. It's hard in a way I

671
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,520
Speaker 2: can't describe, like all of a sudden, I'm losing all

672
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 2: of the people I love. But I also know that

673
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:57,640
Speaker 2: I can't control her decision to leave if that's what

674
00:32:57,680 --> 00:33:03,120
Speaker 2: she wants. It suck. This does suck, op, But if

675
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:06,800
Speaker 2: she really you can't change your mind, You can't change

676
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 2: her emotions like that, and you weren't gonna change yours either.

677
00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 2: Miela was staying no matter what one person had to go,

678
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 2: what one had to go and had to stay. It

679
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 2: does suck that you guys can find like a middle ground,

680
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 2: but sometimes that's it. In brighter news, Miela is doing well. Yea.

681
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:29,760
Speaker 2: Some of you were concerned that Ellen might spirit her away,

682
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:33,960
Speaker 2: but she's still very much around. I brought her to

683
00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 2: the Hospital Park area to see my dad and she

684
00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:38,640
Speaker 2: was over the moon to be with him again, so

685
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 2: I'll probably keep that up as long as he's able.

686
00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:44,040
Speaker 2: I've also taken up the recommendations to find a doggy

687
00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 2: daycare for the days I'm in the office. I'll start

688
00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 2: dropping her off there next week, and if all goes well,

689
00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:53,480
Speaker 2: I'm sure she'll make plenty of friends. There isn't much

690
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:55,920
Speaker 2: else to say other than thank you. There's been an

691
00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:58,680
Speaker 2: enormous amount of love and support coming from this subreddit.

692
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 2: People were sending does of heartfelt messages. I even had

693
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:04,360
Speaker 2: to turn my phone off because all the notifications were

694
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 2: too much of a distraction at work. It's a strange

695
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:10,160
Speaker 2: and difficult time all around for Mela and I, but

696
00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:12,759
Speaker 2: we'll try to navigate it as best as we can.

697
00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:16,200
Speaker 2: That's all I suppose and that's the end of that story.

698
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:18,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, and Mela will have fun.

699
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:22,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's cute. Like you, no Ellen should have

700
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 2: under understood, like you're you know, it's a tough spot.

701
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:27,719
Speaker 2: It's not like, ay, this is the best thing, but

702
00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 2: like this is what has come to and we have

703
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 2: to work around this, not just and I probably should

704
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:35,440
Speaker 2: just cann work around it. She had to walk away.

705
00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:38,399
Speaker 2: But you have Mila, and I hope your dad does

706
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:43,359
Speaker 2: get better. And uh, you know, you find someone that

707
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:45,799
Speaker 2: enjoys Mela's presence as much as you do.

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00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, someone will, Yes.

709
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story. We're going on

710
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Speaker 2: to the next one. Hey, it's key on your favorite

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Speaker 1: I put myself out there for the first time and

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Speaker 1: it changed my life.

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Speaker 2: If you're not first your last.

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Speaker 1: I am a single gal and live in a one

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Speaker 1: bedroom apartment and I've seen my neighborhood guy who was

718
00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 1: also single, and last night got the balls to chat

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Speaker 1: with him and now have a huge crush. By the way,

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Speaker 2: I'm Carly, I'm Keon, and.

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Speaker 1: We're here to give good advice Goofily, but we don't

724
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:30,160
Speaker 1: have all the answers. We only know what we would do.

725
00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:31,720
Speaker 1: Let us know what you would do in the comments.

726
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 1: As Op says, last night, I was doing laundry while

727
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:39,400
Speaker 1: kind of wasted, and he came in at the same time.

728
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 1: So I was like, I forgot my quarters. Do you

729
00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: have a few? I'll pay you back. I had plenty

730
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:46,160
Speaker 1: of quarters, by the way.

731
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Speaker 2: Sneaky o pie sneaky.

732
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:51,280
Speaker 1: Without hesitation, he handed me the ziploc bag of quarters

733
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 1: and said, no worries, take what you need. I see

734
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 1: him all the time and he says hi. So I

735
00:35:56,360 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 1: formally introduced myself and then I left during the drying cycle,

736
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 1: I came back and saw him and could tell he

737
00:36:04,080 --> 00:36:06,759
Speaker 1: was kind of buzzed, and we actually chatted for a

738
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:09,680
Speaker 1: long time and he was super friendly and really easy

739
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:12,239
Speaker 1: to talk to. He is an in shape dude, and

740
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 1: I'm a fat girl, so intimidated to talk to him,

741
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:17,879
Speaker 1: but he's super friendly. At one point he said, if

742
00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 1: you ever get bored, come by for an adult soda.

743
00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:22,480
Speaker 1: I don't have a lot going on.

744
00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 2: Oohooooo, that's interesting.

745
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 1: My plan is I just baked some cookies and want

746
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 1: to bring them to him with a few beers and

747
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 1: see how he reacts.

748
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:36,280
Speaker 2: I'm sorry if I think any guy, I might speak

749
00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:38,359
Speaker 2: for every guy, but a lot of people would be

750
00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 2: stoked to have adult beverages and baked fresh cookies, like hey,

751
00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:44,839
Speaker 2: it's what I got.

752
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 1: But part of me thinks that is super creepy and

753
00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:49,759
Speaker 1: I don't want to embarrass myself. And we have some

754
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 1: top and relevant comments, but I think you should do it.

755
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:55,719
Speaker 1: Do it as long as you know that he's actually single, too,

756
00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:56,520
Speaker 1: I think you should do it.

757
00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:59,440
Speaker 2: Or if he is single, I mean, if he is

758
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 2: in a relationship, you have a friend in the apartment complex,

759
00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 2: it's just like a cash.

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00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 1: She's doing this. I the motives of flirting. So I

761
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:09,399
Speaker 1: don't think you should do it if you don't know

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00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 1: that he's single.

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00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 2: But also if he were in a relationship, I don't

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00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:15,600
Speaker 2: see why he would be like, hey, if you ever

765
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:17,800
Speaker 2: want to have an adult beverage, come over to my place.

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00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:20,920
Speaker 2: People are icky, fair fair.

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00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:24,360
Speaker 1: I'm just saying to look out for yourself relevant and

768
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,960
Speaker 1: top comments. Commenter one. The way to a man's heart

769
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:31,720
Speaker 1: is through his stomach. Commenter two, Yeah, that's not creepy.

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00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:36,280
Speaker 1: He invited you over. If you came by uninvited, maybe creepy.

771
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 1: He also gave you the change you needed for the laundry,

772
00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:43,360
Speaker 1: so bring cookies and adult soda is totally acceptable. Just

773
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:46,319
Speaker 1: be tactful. If he hasn't given you any indication then

774
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:49,080
Speaker 1: he's interested, then maybe don't try to kiss him or anything.

775
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:53,080
Speaker 1: Perhaps his intentions are purely platonic and it could get

776
00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:56,239
Speaker 1: weird or embarrassing. I don't know about you, but for me,

777
00:37:56,520 --> 00:37:59,760
Speaker 1: usually when both people are into each other, the situation

778
00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:04,239
Speaker 1: of organically into hooking up compliments lead differently touches to

779
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:08,200
Speaker 1: more intimate ones, to spicy sleep slash whatever. Just go

780
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:11,759
Speaker 1: with the flow, Opie says. See, my idea was to

781
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 1: bring the cookies and be like, this is repayment for

782
00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:16,879
Speaker 1: the change, which I think is pretty smooth. I don't

783
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 1: plan on hooking up or anything. I just want to

784
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 1: get to know him better.

785
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 2: See it's great. I think the best thing you can

786
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 2: do is if you ever see him again, like hey,

787
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:28,640
Speaker 2: I'm doing this, or again you can just knock on

788
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 2: his door. You got this, Opie.

789
00:38:32,200 --> 00:38:35,239
Speaker 1: Commondred three says, just do it. You just gotta gritch

790
00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 1: your teeth and do it. You don't need the perfect

791
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:40,279
Speaker 1: plan or the perfect outfit. You just have to go

792
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 1: knock on his door. Worst case scenario, you get rejected.

793
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: That's staying for a minute. But even then you get

794
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 1: to say to yourself, I knew I could do it,

795
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:51,120
Speaker 1: which is way better than letting your life pass you

796
00:38:51,160 --> 00:38:53,839
Speaker 1: by and wondering what would have happened if you had

797
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:54,479
Speaker 1: only tried.

798
00:38:55,040 --> 00:38:55,360
Speaker 2: Love it.

799
00:38:55,760 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 1: Do it. But here's the thing. You're probably cool af.

800
00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:01,960
Speaker 1: He'll probably be so stoked that you took him up

801
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:04,719
Speaker 1: on his offer. He's probably going to think that those

802
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 1: cookies are the sweetest thing anyone's ever done. You're probably

803
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 1: going to have an awesome time again. Take the shot.

804
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 1: You've got this. Opie says, this actually gave me confidence.

805
00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:18,600
Speaker 1: My thing is we have lived here for years and

806
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:20,880
Speaker 1: just now got to know him, so I agree nothing

807
00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:23,560
Speaker 1: to lose. But also, I'm five to one and two

808
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 1: hundred and ten pounds. But this dude is like legit hot,

809
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:29,960
Speaker 1: but I never see a girl with him. Part of

810
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 1: me has the effet attitude. But also I have low

811
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,480
Speaker 1: self esteem, so I'm conflicted, Like I just don't want

812
00:39:35,480 --> 00:39:38,040
Speaker 1: to show up and have him put off. That would

813
00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 1: not help my case. But also I think he would

814
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:42,520
Speaker 1: be cool with it, So that's why I'm asking. I

815
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:45,319
Speaker 1: guess we have an update later that day.

816
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 2: This update better be so I'm knocked on his door.

817
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:54,040
Speaker 2: I brought the adult beverages. I brought the baked goods.

818
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:57,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have invited you over. If he didn't want

819
00:39:57,480 --> 00:39:59,320
Speaker 1: you to actually knock on his door.

820
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:03,960
Speaker 2: Genuinely, and you guys were sitting in the laundry room

821
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:05,880
Speaker 2: chatting it up. If he didn't want to talk to

822
00:40:05,920 --> 00:40:07,640
Speaker 2: you or invite you, he wouldn't have done that.

823
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:11,800
Speaker 1: So update later that day. Ope, he writes an update

824
00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:15,360
Speaker 1: in the comments. All right, so I'm kind of buzzed,

825
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:18,000
Speaker 1: and after the support of replies, I'm just gonna go

826
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:20,799
Speaker 1: for it and see what happens f it. And we

827
00:40:20,920 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 1: have some more comments. Comment to one says get him

828
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:28,160
Speaker 1: girl ruin for you. And we have another update the

829
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:31,919
Speaker 1: day after. Another update in the comments. Update two day

830
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:36,319
Speaker 1: after update. So, first of all, I have crap confidence,

831
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:39,320
Speaker 1: and when I posted this, I was secretly hoping people

832
00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:41,520
Speaker 1: would be like, don't do it, girl, but I just

833
00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 1: put myself out there and f I'm glad I did.

834
00:40:44,760 --> 00:40:47,319
Speaker 1: I brought a plate of homemade peanut butter cookies and

835
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Speaker 1: to Sierra, Nevada to this dude's door.

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Speaker 2: Nice.

837
00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:53,960
Speaker 1: When I knocked, he immediately said, what's up, Sarah, And

838
00:40:54,040 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 1: the fact that he remembered my name went a long

839
00:40:56,520 --> 00:40:59,759
Speaker 1: way and I was caught off guard. I presented the

840
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 1: game and he actually invited me in and was an

841
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 1: effing gentleman to say the least, since, as he said,

842
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 1: there's two of us and two of those. It was

843
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:10,879
Speaker 1: only like an hour since I didn't want to wear

844
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:12,920
Speaker 1: out my welcome, but we had an e fing awesome

845
00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 1: chats and had a really good time. I fed up

846
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:18,880
Speaker 1: and did the why is a guy like you single?

847
00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 1: He pretty much said he goes to bed and at

848
00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 1: eight every night and doesn't get out much. Then my

849
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:27,960
Speaker 1: answer was I have a good job, but everything physical,

850
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:30,960
Speaker 1: and he said I'm effing hot, but we don't need

851
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:34,320
Speaker 1: to get ahead of ourselves. He then said, I'm welcome

852
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 1: over anytime, and we have a date planned for Thursday,

853
00:41:38,719 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 1: and I'm really effing excited, like really bad.

854
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:46,759
Speaker 2: You're good to kiss. On Thursday, You're probably gonna kiss,

855
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 2: maybe kiss. Good job, Op didn't already? Good job, Op,

856
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 2: you did it. I'm so proud of you and pat

857
00:41:55,200 --> 00:41:57,959
Speaker 2: yourself on the back for pushing yourself and you getting

858
00:41:57,960 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 2: all the support to do it. Good job.

859
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 1: I have never once put myself out there like this,

860
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 1: but honestly, this threat gave me the confidence. Even if

861
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 1: I just get a new friend, that's cool, but I

862
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 1: feel like this is an emotional level since he doesn't

863
00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:13,799
Speaker 1: care about my looks. Girl, he called you hot and

864
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:14,799
Speaker 1: asked you on a date.

865
00:42:14,960 --> 00:42:17,680
Speaker 2: He also remembered your name and knew that it was

866
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:21,440
Speaker 2: you when you knocked. I probably like hit you like

867
00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 2: a gust of wind.

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Speaker 1: You're like, he remembers relevant. In top comments, comment to

869
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 1: one so effing Stoked for you, Opie says, I have

870
00:42:29,719 --> 00:42:31,919
Speaker 1: never once had a guy ask me out on a date.

871
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:35,240
Speaker 1: I'm feeling really good about what I did. I'm literally

872
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:38,600
Speaker 1: crying with joy. Commentar two says this brings me so

873
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:41,680
Speaker 1: much joy. I'm so happy that you're happy. I'm a

874
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 1: very forward gal myself, and I love telling other ladies

875
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 1: to just go and tell the dude they think is

876
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:50,959
Speaker 1: hot that he's hot. Well done, my dude, Opie says, yes,

877
00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:53,960
Speaker 1: I have never been in this situation, so I'm really

878
00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 1: really effing happy. I'm really hoping this works out with him,

879
00:42:57,360 --> 00:42:59,919
Speaker 1: but even if not, I'm gonna put myself out there

880
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 1: more often. And that's the n ands story.

881
00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:05,759
Speaker 2: Yay, let's go pe. Congrats.

882
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:07,320
Speaker 1: Oh a good story.

883
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:11,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I agree. If things, I mean hopefully they

884
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:14,280
Speaker 2: work out. But if things don't, you have a friend

885
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:18,359
Speaker 2: like great. And that's the end of this story. We're

886
00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 2: going on to the next one. My partner ate my

887
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 2: leftovers and called me selfish for being upset.

888
00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:25,719
Speaker 1: Hey, that's not good.

889
00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:29,480
Speaker 2: I have much lower calorific needs than my partner. I

890
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 2: am thin and I have ibs and I cannot handle

891
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:35,799
Speaker 2: a lot of food. He is slightly overweight and more

892
00:43:35,840 --> 00:43:38,239
Speaker 2: active than me and eats double the food I do.

893
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user sue gun too.

894
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 2: And if you want to submit your own stories, go

895
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:47,280
Speaker 2: do their r slash. Okay, story time suppurate it. I'm Keon,

896
00:43:47,560 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 2: I'm Carly, and we're here to give good advice. Goofly.

897
00:43:50,360 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 2: We don't have all the answers, we only know what

898
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:54,239
Speaker 2: we do, so let us know what you'd do in

899
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 2: the comments, pretty please. I don't want to please a

900
00:43:57,640 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 2: grown man's food. I'm okay with him eat more. I

901
00:44:01,120 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 2: do try to make it so we eat healthy, But

902
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:05,919
Speaker 2: the problem is that I feel I have to eat

903
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:09,680
Speaker 2: the cost of his eating more, be it financial or labor.

904
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:13,360
Speaker 2: If we eat out, we split equally, We split equally

905
00:44:13,400 --> 00:44:16,680
Speaker 2: for groceries, we split kitchen duties. In fact, I cook

906
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:19,160
Speaker 2: more because I like to eat healthy, and he makes

907
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 2: meals that don't suit my stomach. So sometimes when I

908
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:25,560
Speaker 2: make tortillas, I get upset because I just made ten,

909
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 2: which would last me five meals alone. But if he

910
00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 2: is over, he will eat four, four now and four

911
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 2: in the morning, and I just got one meal out

912
00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 2: of it. Girl, he's eating like eighty percent of the food.

913
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 2: I thought it'd be like sixty forty or like seventy,

914
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 2: maybe like sixty five percent, But that's like eighty to

915
00:44:45,080 --> 00:44:48,000
Speaker 2: ninety percent of your food. What I frequently get leftover

916
00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:50,800
Speaker 2: some restaurants to go because I cannot finish my meal,

917
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:53,360
Speaker 2: and in the morning I wake up and he has

918
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:56,800
Speaker 2: finished them all. It has come to a head recently

919
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 2: because my mom just made me a special meal and

920
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:00,879
Speaker 2: he ate most of it.

921
00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:02,360
Speaker 1: And we told him to stop.

922
00:45:02,719 --> 00:45:04,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is at.

923
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:05,760
Speaker 1: A point, that's my food.

924
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:09,840
Speaker 2: At this point, this man doesn't care like what he

925
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:10,319
Speaker 2: should know.

926
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:12,359
Speaker 1: I mean if you've told him yeah.

927
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:15,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, But also does he also ask you to eat

928
00:45:15,719 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 2: the food or he just likes oh food mine?

929
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 1: Yeah. I still feel like it's something that we should

930
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:22,080
Speaker 1: at least try to be like, hey, you know, like

931
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:26,000
Speaker 1: that's my food. Listen and then maybe you could be like,

932
00:45:26,680 --> 00:45:29,799
Speaker 1: I'll keep cooking your meals, but like you got to

933
00:45:30,239 --> 00:45:32,400
Speaker 1: pay for the ingredients.

934
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:36,200
Speaker 2: Ope, he says. Whenever we talk about this, he says

935
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:39,319
Speaker 2: he cannot help eating more, which I get it is

936
00:45:39,360 --> 00:45:42,640
Speaker 2: what his body needs. He can also make his own food.

937
00:45:43,320 --> 00:45:45,560
Speaker 2: I feel guilty asking him not to eat my meals

938
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 2: or food my mom made, because he says we are

939
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:51,400
Speaker 2: equals in a relationship and I should not be selfish.

940
00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 1: Does he realize the imbalance there? Hey, this is like

941
00:45:56,280 --> 00:46:00,359
Speaker 1: he realized he's eating more, So that's not this same?

942
00:46:01,840 --> 00:46:05,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is what. But I cannot help but feel

943
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:09,359
Speaker 2: bad and mad. Please help? Do you keep a track

944
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 2: of things like this in a partnership? Maybe you should

945
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:15,760
Speaker 2: truly be equals and I should not think this way, no, op,

946
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:18,439
Speaker 2: stop thinking like that.

947
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 1: He's out here being like no, like, you should let

948
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 1: me eat your leftovers because we're equal, But then he

949
00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 1: eats all of your food.

950
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:31,239
Speaker 2: It's very simple math. I make ten meals for me,

951
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 2: I will give you two meals. The rest are for me. Done,

952
00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:40,840
Speaker 2: make your own meals. You know this needs to be

953
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 2: a full on conversation. If he's calling you selfish for

954
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:48,399
Speaker 2: I don't know, making food, for eating your mom's meal. Yeah,

955
00:46:48,480 --> 00:46:50,319
Speaker 2: for the meals that are made for you and he

956
00:46:50,360 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 2: eats them, that's interesting logic. You know what you should do,

957
00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:57,160
Speaker 2: just don't have food in your fridge. See what he does.

958
00:46:57,200 --> 00:47:00,160
Speaker 2: He's probably a complaint and it's an add to clarify.

959
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:02,640
Speaker 2: At the time of the tortilla incident, we live separately,

960
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 2: but now have started living together. We decided to split

961
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 2: finances equal, hence the split of groceries and dining out.

962
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 2: He knows what he's doing. He knows he'll be like,

963
00:47:13,280 --> 00:47:15,600
Speaker 2: I'm gonna get the Ribby steak and oh he's getting

964
00:47:15,600 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 2: a salad. Split it right down the middle. He is

965
00:47:18,200 --> 00:47:21,000
Speaker 2: not a thoughtless or unkind person. In general. Food just

966
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,160
Speaker 2: seems to be a blind spot. I'll try to have

967
00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:25,560
Speaker 2: this conversation again now that I know I'm not being

968
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:29,000
Speaker 2: unreasonable about this, and that is the of that story. Yeah, no,

969
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:32,520
Speaker 2: this is insane. You should also be like, you know what,

970
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:34,719
Speaker 2: I'm gonna get all these snacks in food for me,

971
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:37,279
Speaker 2: but we're gonna split it right down the middle where

972
00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:40,239
Speaker 2: you got like one thing, Well, he'd probably still eat it,

973
00:47:40,520 --> 00:47:42,160
Speaker 2: and he probably still would eat it. He's like, oh,

974
00:47:42,160 --> 00:47:45,000
Speaker 2: that's for me, right, Like, I get you. Can you

975
00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:48,400
Speaker 2: split the equal cost of living, sure, but when it

976
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:52,400
Speaker 2: comes to the groceries and food, I think you guys

977
00:47:52,400 --> 00:47:53,960
Speaker 2: can share it from time to time, but he can't

978
00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:55,640
Speaker 2: eat all of it. But I think you need to

979
00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 2: separate the finances on that because that is not fair,

980
00:47:58,719 --> 00:48:00,759
Speaker 2: especially how he goes about it and how you go

981
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:04,360
Speaker 2: about it. So hopefully it works out for you guys,

982
00:48:04,360 --> 00:48:08,439
Speaker 2: and he understands and doesn't call you selfish anymore, because

983
00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:12,200
Speaker 2: that's insane. And that's the end of this story. We're

984
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 2: going on to the next one. I finally found a

985
00:48:14,560 --> 00:48:17,040
Speaker 2: clothing store with my size, but my friend refused to.

986
00:48:17,080 --> 00:48:19,200
Speaker 1: Let me go in leave her outside.

987
00:48:19,320 --> 00:48:22,080
Speaker 2: Me twenty two female and my twenty two female friend.

988
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:25,120
Speaker 2: We're out shopping last week. I usually don't like shopping

989
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 2: much because I rarely find anything in my size. Due

990
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:31,239
Speaker 2: to my height and body shape, finding clothes is really difficult.

991
00:48:31,840 --> 00:48:34,360
Speaker 2: By the way, This comes from user expert Dapper fifteen

992
00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 2: twenty three and if you want to submit your own stories,

993
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 2: go to the r slash Okay storytime, supread it. I'm

994
00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:41,400
Speaker 2: key On, I'm car and we're here to give good advice. Goofly,

995
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:43,080
Speaker 2: we don't have all the answers. We only know what

996
00:48:43,080 --> 00:48:44,680
Speaker 2: we do, so let us know what you do in

997
00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 2: the comments. Please. As Opie says, I'm short and thin

998
00:48:48,760 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 2: but curvy, if that makes sense, it's not that I

999
00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:54,400
Speaker 2: never find anything my size. It's just that on the

1000
00:48:54,440 --> 00:48:57,400
Speaker 2: off chance that I do, it's not really my style.

1001
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:00,160
Speaker 2: So whenever my friend and I go out shopping, I

1002
00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:02,239
Speaker 2: kind of just tag along wherever she wants to go,

1003
00:49:02,880 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 2: mostly because I don't really expect to find anything. The

1004
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 2: other week, however, we came across the new store that

1005
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:11,879
Speaker 2: had just opened. I'm not going to name said store

1006
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:14,720
Speaker 2: for privacy purposes. The wind did it clearly showed sizes

1007
00:49:14,760 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 2: that were for smaller and thinner people, so I thought

1008
00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:20,000
Speaker 2: I'd give it a go. But my friend said it'd

1009
00:49:20,000 --> 00:49:22,200
Speaker 2: be a waste of time because they didn't seem to

1010
00:49:22,239 --> 00:49:26,600
Speaker 2: carry her size. I thought she was being kind of unreasonable,

1011
00:49:26,600 --> 00:49:28,200
Speaker 2: so I asked if she could just come with me,

1012
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:31,160
Speaker 2: just really quickly, but she said that she didn't like

1013
00:49:31,200 --> 00:49:34,040
Speaker 2: the idea that I was purposely going into a store

1014
00:49:34,480 --> 00:49:38,279
Speaker 2: that fat shamed people. Mind you, this store isn't a

1015
00:49:38,360 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 2: chain or anything. I've never even heard of it before,

1016
00:49:41,320 --> 00:49:44,720
Speaker 2: and it's just named something French, so I was surprised

1017
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:47,359
Speaker 2: when she brought up fat shaming. But when I told

1018
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 2: her it had nothing to do with it and that

1019
00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:51,520
Speaker 2: I just wanted to find stuff for myself, she made

1020
00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:53,320
Speaker 2: a really big deal out of it and told me

1021
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:57,600
Speaker 2: I was being selfish for not considering her feelings. I

1022
00:49:57,640 --> 00:49:59,680
Speaker 2: told her she could either come with me and help

1023
00:49:59,719 --> 00:50:02,920
Speaker 2: me out or wait outside. She just asked me if

1024
00:50:02,920 --> 00:50:05,799
Speaker 2: I was serious, so I went inside anyway. When I

1025
00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:09,400
Speaker 2: came outside, she was just gone. She'd seriously ditched me,

1026
00:50:09,560 --> 00:50:13,440
Speaker 2: and I tried texting and calling, but she hasn't been answering. Noe.

1027
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 2: We've been friends for about six years, and I used

1028
00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:17,319
Speaker 2: to be mid size around the time we met, when

1029
00:50:17,320 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 2: we were both fifteen or so, but I picked up

1030
00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:23,040
Speaker 2: a diet and exercise before college and did get quite

1031
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:25,839
Speaker 2: fitter and thinner. I've also never told her off about

1032
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:28,719
Speaker 2: her weight or shamed her in any way. Plus, it's

1033
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:31,200
Speaker 2: not as though as she as fat or anything. She's

1034
00:50:31,320 --> 00:50:32,960
Speaker 2: mid sized to large sized.

1035
00:50:33,560 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, sounds like she's just a little jealous that you

1036
00:50:36,200 --> 00:50:39,480
Speaker 1: could fit in the clothes. I'm not surprised she left, though,

1037
00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:42,320
Speaker 1: if you went in like she wasn't gonna wait for you.

1038
00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:46,960
Speaker 2: I mean, but like she did say that Ope always

1039
00:50:47,000 --> 00:50:50,120
Speaker 2: goes with her in the stores, you know, because she

1040
00:50:50,120 --> 00:50:52,480
Speaker 2: can't find anything for her size. So the one time

1041
00:50:52,520 --> 00:50:54,400
Speaker 2: it happens for OP, it's.

1042
00:50:54,320 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 1: Like, oh, I agree with you that she should.

1043
00:50:56,800 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 2: Have Oh yeah, yeah, I.

1044
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:01,200
Speaker 1: Fully agree that she should have not shocked at all

1045
00:51:01,239 --> 00:51:03,600
Speaker 1: that she wasn't there when you came out. Yeah, she

1046
00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:06,840
Speaker 1: wanted to throw a little fit, like she wanted to

1047
00:51:06,840 --> 00:51:08,840
Speaker 1: throw a fit, but not try on the fits.

1048
00:51:08,960 --> 00:51:10,080
Speaker 2: Uh huh huh.

1049
00:51:10,560 --> 00:51:13,120
Speaker 1: Yeah. She sounds just terribly jealous, and I.

1050
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:15,239
Speaker 2: Don't really see her point of view when I've gone

1051
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:17,880
Speaker 2: to a lot of stores for her sake without buying

1052
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:21,000
Speaker 2: anything for myself. But I guess I could have gone

1053
00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:24,080
Speaker 2: about it differently. Somehow. I don't know, But am I

1054
00:51:24,120 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 2: the A hole? And there's an edit here, but before

1055
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:29,680
Speaker 2: we get in the edit, No, this is the first

1056
00:51:29,760 --> 00:51:32,640
Speaker 2: time you it's been so hard for you to find anything.

1057
00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:35,880
Speaker 2: And again, like you said, every time you guys go

1058
00:51:35,960 --> 00:51:38,920
Speaker 2: out shopping, it's for her. She wants to go buy clothes.

1059
00:51:38,960 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 2: You never really buy clothes because you don't have anything

1060
00:51:41,040 --> 00:51:44,200
Speaker 2: in your size. And the one time, literally the one

1061
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:46,759
Speaker 2: time you find something and it'll probably be like, you know,

1062
00:51:47,239 --> 00:51:50,520
Speaker 2: really quick, not even really quick, just to check it out,

1063
00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:54,399
Speaker 2: she gets really upset because they don't have anything for her.

1064
00:51:55,200 --> 00:51:59,160
Speaker 2: I think that's uh crazy. You know, that's not fair

1065
00:51:59,200 --> 00:51:59,400
Speaker 2: to you.

1066
00:52:00,520 --> 00:52:02,839
Speaker 1: Doesn't always have to be a shopping trip for her.

1067
00:52:03,280 --> 00:52:06,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, here's more context. Like I mentioned before, we've been

1068
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:09,000
Speaker 2: friends for about six years, and I'd really hate to

1069
00:52:09,000 --> 00:52:12,680
Speaker 2: lose a friend to something like this. Also, I saw

1070
00:52:12,719 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 2: some you're the a hole in relation to my proportions,

1071
00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:17,560
Speaker 2: and yes, I guess I will just say it. I

1072
00:52:17,640 --> 00:52:20,279
Speaker 2: do have a large chest and big hips, but I'm thin.

1073
00:52:21,080 --> 00:52:23,799
Speaker 2: Because of this, Jeans that are bigger than two don't

1074
00:52:23,800 --> 00:52:26,520
Speaker 2: fit my waist, and shirts that are not small will

1075
00:52:26,520 --> 00:52:29,319
Speaker 2: go over my chest and fall directly down, if that

1076
00:52:29,480 --> 00:52:33,640
Speaker 2: makes any sense. I see this style around, but personally

1077
00:52:33,640 --> 00:52:35,720
Speaker 2: I do not prefer this. I'd rather have my clothes

1078
00:52:35,800 --> 00:52:38,720
Speaker 2: not be so loose. I was able to find jeans

1079
00:52:38,719 --> 00:52:41,040
Speaker 2: that I got tailored shorter, and lots of tops and

1080
00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:44,399
Speaker 2: skirts that fit me perfectly, so I am happy about that.

1081
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:46,799
Speaker 2: I am just really upset that my friend still has

1082
00:52:46,840 --> 00:52:50,480
Speaker 2: not responded to me. I tried on different social media too.

1083
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:52,919
Speaker 2: I hope it's not a lost cause and we have an.

1084
00:52:52,840 --> 00:52:55,160
Speaker 1: Update, i'd say, I say, let's hear it.

1085
00:52:55,360 --> 00:52:57,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's go strain through the update. I didn't expect

1086
00:52:57,719 --> 00:53:00,319
Speaker 2: this to gain as much attention as it did. Some

1087
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:02,600
Speaker 2: things I wanted to clarify is that I can't always

1088
00:53:02,600 --> 00:53:05,399
Speaker 2: get items taken in because I live kind of far

1089
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:08,719
Speaker 2: away from the shops. It would require a lot of

1090
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:12,200
Speaker 2: time and money. Another point is that I have previously

1091
00:53:12,239 --> 00:53:14,600
Speaker 2: told my friend when we were walking into the stores

1092
00:53:14,880 --> 00:53:17,440
Speaker 2: she took me to that I can't fit the items

1093
00:53:17,440 --> 00:53:19,640
Speaker 2: that are there. She would just say to help her

1094
00:53:19,680 --> 00:53:21,919
Speaker 2: out instead, which is the same thing I said when

1095
00:53:21,920 --> 00:53:25,680
Speaker 2: she refused to come inside the store with me. Anyways,

1096
00:53:25,920 --> 00:53:28,200
Speaker 2: the update is I went to a party the other

1097
00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:30,719
Speaker 2: night and she was there too. We didn't talk for

1098
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:32,520
Speaker 2: most of the time, but I went over by the

1099
00:53:32,640 --> 00:53:35,480
Speaker 2: end and tried to apologize, but she just called me

1100
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:37,200
Speaker 2: a lot of different names. I don't think I should

1101
00:53:37,200 --> 00:53:41,600
Speaker 2: say here. She found new best friends or something, and

1102
00:53:41,640 --> 00:53:44,279
Speaker 2: they seemed really close at the party. They were all

1103
00:53:44,280 --> 00:53:46,439
Speaker 2: giving me weird looks and stuff. But I don't really

1104
00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:49,080
Speaker 2: mind so much, seeing that I am not the ale

1105
00:53:49,120 --> 00:53:53,359
Speaker 2: here for the most part. Yeah, it seems like your friend.

1106
00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:56,880
Speaker 2: Like again, it's you. You didn't nothing wrong. This is

1107
00:53:57,000 --> 00:53:59,600
Speaker 2: the one time you wanted to do something for you,

1108
00:54:00,280 --> 00:54:02,239
Speaker 2: because every time you go it was for her.

1109
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:06,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's not your friend. She has just sounds so fast.

1110
00:54:06,680 --> 00:54:08,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, she was just it seems like it was one

1111
00:54:08,520 --> 00:54:12,239
Speaker 2: of those like using you friends kind of thing, like oh, yeah,

1112
00:54:12,280 --> 00:54:13,720
Speaker 2: I need you to come with me to the store,

1113
00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:16,279
Speaker 2: but like nothing for you, but for me. It's only

1114
00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 2: for me.

1115
00:54:16,600 --> 00:54:19,680
Speaker 1: You used to even talk to you to talk it out. Nah.

1116
00:54:19,760 --> 00:54:22,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, And she's probably twisting these lies and she's already

1117
00:54:22,640 --> 00:54:26,799
Speaker 2: found new best friends that quickly. You know what keep them?

1118
00:54:27,600 --> 00:54:30,440
Speaker 2: What is the six years down the drain for you? Huh?

1119
00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:33,040
Speaker 2: Which is crazy? It does suck, but you know, you

1120
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:36,040
Speaker 2: can't change people's minds. And you know you can't change

1121
00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:38,200
Speaker 2: their how they feel if you really, if you know,

1122
00:54:38,320 --> 00:54:41,239
Speaker 2: that's really what their mind is set on. So I

1123
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:43,560
Speaker 2: guess time for you to find you best friends too,

1124
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:47,319
Speaker 2: which sucks, but it's better than trying to rely on her.

1125
00:54:47,640 --> 00:54:50,640
Speaker 2: We have a little bit left Herepey says. I do

1126
00:54:50,719 --> 00:54:53,839
Speaker 2: have other friends than her, and even though they were

1127
00:54:53,880 --> 00:54:56,239
Speaker 2: not with me for so long as she was, I

1128
00:54:56,280 --> 00:54:59,040
Speaker 2: think they are much better. Even my sister thinks so too,

1129
00:54:59,400 --> 00:55:02,440
Speaker 2: and she also used to be friends with that girl. Anyways,

1130
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:05,200
Speaker 2: we aren't not friends anymore or anything like that. I

1131
00:55:05,239 --> 00:55:07,000
Speaker 2: just think we need some time apart from each other

1132
00:55:07,040 --> 00:55:10,759
Speaker 2: to reflect. Haha. I also realize this problem really isn't

1133
00:55:10,760 --> 00:55:13,360
Speaker 2: that deep. I guess I was just really upset in

1134
00:55:13,400 --> 00:55:16,359
Speaker 2: the moment. Thank you everyone for helping me with my dilemma,

1135
00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 2: even if you said I am the ahle. I think

1136
00:55:18,480 --> 00:55:20,279
Speaker 2: I have learned a lot and I'll continue to better

1137
00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:24,400
Speaker 2: myself and move on from this and be happier. I

1138
00:55:24,400 --> 00:55:27,480
Speaker 2: think people will probably say like, oh, you can go

1139
00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:30,239
Speaker 2: on your own time, your own accord, all this, YadA,

1140
00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:33,040
Speaker 2: YadA YadA, But this was like the one time eve.

1141
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:37,400
Speaker 2: It was like consistently and you know, your friend. Your

1142
00:55:37,440 --> 00:55:39,080
Speaker 2: friend could even give you fifteen minutes to go in

1143
00:55:39,120 --> 00:55:42,200
Speaker 2: the store that you really wanted to check out, which sucks.

1144
00:55:42,600 --> 00:55:44,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, especially when you go in all of them for her.

1145
00:55:45,320 --> 00:55:47,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that is the end of that story, and

1146
00:55:47,440 --> 00:55:48,719
Speaker 2: we got another one coming right up.

1147
00:55:49,360 --> 00:55:51,719
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Carly, your favorite Jersey girl.

1148
00:55:51,760 --> 00:55:52,000
Speaker 5: Here.

1149
00:55:52,160 --> 00:55:54,200
Speaker 1: We're going to get back to the stories. But here's

1150
00:55:54,280 --> 00:55:58,120
Speaker 1: three minutes of ads from our sponsors. My friend invited

1151
00:55:58,160 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 1: me to a party, but I.

1152
00:55:59,680 --> 00:56:02,520
Speaker 2: Was invoiced after how much was it?

1153
00:56:02,680 --> 00:56:05,920
Speaker 1: My thirty five female, best friend, thirty four female and

1154
00:56:06,080 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 1: her roommate thirty five female hosted a small Christmas dinner

1155
00:56:09,760 --> 00:56:13,120
Speaker 1: about six of us. They cooked a full roast. I

1156
00:56:13,200 --> 00:56:15,959
Speaker 1: have allergies, so I couldn't eat everything, but they made

1157
00:56:15,960 --> 00:56:18,680
Speaker 1: sure I had a full meal. I don't drink, so

1158
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:21,480
Speaker 1: I brought my own flavored water and didn't have any

1159
00:56:21,520 --> 00:56:25,040
Speaker 1: of the booze provided. I also brought a bottle of

1160
00:56:25,040 --> 00:56:28,320
Speaker 1: prosecco as a hostess gift, because I know hosting is

1161
00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:31,080
Speaker 1: a lot of work. By the way, this comes from

1162
00:56:31,880 --> 00:56:35,759
Speaker 1: Leo in Saint Tropez. Three And if you want us

1163
00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:37,480
Speaker 1: to make your own stories, go to the r slash

1164
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:40,799
Speaker 1: Okay Storytime subreddit. I'm Carly, I'm Keon, and we're here

1165
00:56:40,840 --> 00:56:43,239
Speaker 1: to give good advice. Goofily, but we don't have all

1166
00:56:43,239 --> 00:56:45,440
Speaker 1: the answers. We only know what we would do. Let

1167
00:56:45,520 --> 00:56:47,759
Speaker 1: us know what you would do in the comments, and

1168
00:56:47,840 --> 00:56:51,600
Speaker 1: Opie says. A few days later, her roommate texted asking

1169
00:56:51,719 --> 00:56:56,120
Speaker 1: for seven eighty as my share of the party costs.

1170
00:56:56,400 --> 00:56:58,319
Speaker 1: It's not a lot of money, so I transferred it

1171
00:56:58,320 --> 00:57:00,960
Speaker 1: straight away, but it didn't sit rite with me. If

1172
00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:04,040
Speaker 1: I'd known in advance we were splitting costs, I would

1173
00:57:04,080 --> 00:57:07,400
Speaker 1: have just brought my own food, which I often prefer anyway,

1174
00:57:07,480 --> 00:57:10,120
Speaker 1: due to cross contamination worries and the fact that I

1175
00:57:10,160 --> 00:57:13,480
Speaker 1: don't really like roasts. I only ate what was served,

1176
00:57:13,520 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 1: because when friends invite you to celebrate a holiday, you

1177
00:57:16,240 --> 00:57:20,640
Speaker 1: say yes and are appreciative for context, I've hosted multiple

1178
00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:23,840
Speaker 1: parties where my best friend and her roommate were invited,

1179
00:57:24,240 --> 00:57:28,040
Speaker 1: with food and booze provided, and I've never charged anyone.

1180
00:57:28,120 --> 00:57:30,840
Speaker 1: I've also had her over plenty of times and provided

1181
00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:34,160
Speaker 1: drinks and snacks. I've never kept track. It's just how

1182
00:57:34,200 --> 00:57:36,760
Speaker 1: I see friendship. If I invite you, I host you.

1183
00:57:37,520 --> 00:57:39,760
Speaker 1: I sat on my feelings for months to see if

1184
00:57:39,760 --> 00:57:42,320
Speaker 1: I'd get over it, but I didn't for months.

1185
00:57:42,800 --> 00:57:45,440
Speaker 2: How much was it a seven eighty yeah? Like seven

1186
00:57:45,480 --> 00:57:48,760
Speaker 2: point eighties? Okay.

1187
00:57:48,800 --> 00:57:51,760
Speaker 1: After not replying to several of her messages, I finally

1188
00:57:51,800 --> 00:57:55,600
Speaker 1: told her that being asked retrospectively made me uncomfortable, and

1189
00:57:55,640 --> 00:57:58,720
Speaker 1: then expectations to split costs should have been communicated in

1190
00:57:58,800 --> 00:58:02,320
Speaker 1: the invite. She said it's the norm within that friendship group,

1191
00:58:02,360 --> 00:58:04,600
Speaker 1: but agreed that she should have mentioned it beforehand.

1192
00:58:04,960 --> 00:58:06,920
Speaker 2: This has happened to me in the past where I'm like, yeah,

1193
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:07,560
Speaker 2: it's annoying.

1194
00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:09,640
Speaker 1: I get the one time being like, oh, hey, I

1195
00:58:09,640 --> 00:58:11,360
Speaker 1: can give me heads up next time, which it sounds

1196
00:58:11,400 --> 00:58:13,920
Speaker 1: like she agreed to do so yeah, easy peasy, or

1197
00:58:13,960 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 1: if you know that that's how their group works, now.

1198
00:58:16,880 --> 00:58:17,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, expect it.

1199
00:58:18,160 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 1: I said, that makes sense if that's how their group operates,

1200
00:58:21,000 --> 00:58:23,200
Speaker 1: and I'd keep in mind in the future. So that's

1201
00:58:23,240 --> 00:58:26,600
Speaker 1: not how me and my friends function. We regularly buy

1202
00:58:26,600 --> 00:58:30,240
Speaker 1: things for each other without splitting or charging back. She's

1203
00:58:30,280 --> 00:58:32,640
Speaker 1: been to my parties and to my home many times

1204
00:58:32,880 --> 00:58:37,000
Speaker 1: without ever contributing financially. So while maybe that's normal for them,

1205
00:58:37,160 --> 00:58:40,280
Speaker 1: it's not something that I'm used to. She got defensive

1206
00:58:40,280 --> 00:58:43,040
Speaker 1: and said I was attacking her character. My best friend

1207
00:58:43,080 --> 00:58:44,760
Speaker 1: says she doesn't want to be in the middle and

1208
00:58:44,800 --> 00:58:47,720
Speaker 1: won't discuss it with either of us. She says she

1209
00:58:47,760 --> 00:58:49,960
Speaker 1: sees both sides. Am I the a hole? And what

1210
00:58:49,960 --> 00:58:56,080
Speaker 1: would you do? Now? I cannot emphasize that this feels

1211
00:58:56,120 --> 00:58:57,960
Speaker 1: like such a non issue that should have just been

1212
00:58:58,040 --> 00:59:00,520
Speaker 1: over already. Why are we talking about this months later?

1213
00:59:00,680 --> 00:59:04,200
Speaker 2: Like I yeah, like I said, it's ten bucks, maybe

1214
00:59:04,240 --> 00:59:07,040
Speaker 2: a little bit more, a little bit less maybe maybe yeah,

1215
00:59:07,040 --> 00:59:08,920
Speaker 2: and maybe that's hard, Like yeah, I think.

1216
00:59:08,760 --> 00:59:10,360
Speaker 1: It's totally fair to be like, oh my god, I

1217
00:59:10,400 --> 00:59:13,000
Speaker 1: wasn't expecting that. Hey, next time, if it's gonna be

1218
00:59:13,000 --> 00:59:14,440
Speaker 1: the same group, can you give me a heads up?

1219
00:59:14,720 --> 00:59:17,040
Speaker 1: Like I'm not always willing to spend just like ten

1220
00:59:17,080 --> 00:59:19,520
Speaker 1: bucks twenty bucks, yeah, out of the blue for this

1221
00:59:19,600 --> 00:59:21,120
Speaker 1: kind of stuff, Like maybe I'll just bring my own

1222
00:59:21,160 --> 00:59:24,880
Speaker 1: food or maybe I can like bring you something in

1223
00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:28,360
Speaker 1: exchange for the food kind of thing. But bringing it

1224
00:59:28,480 --> 00:59:31,040
Speaker 1: up and having like a full blown argue about it,

1225
00:59:31,520 --> 00:59:34,000
Speaker 1: argument about it months later is a little cuckoo.

1226
00:59:34,080 --> 00:59:36,640
Speaker 2: Ten bucks is yeah, I get it. You may not

1227
00:59:36,680 --> 00:59:38,960
Speaker 2: have the money, but like you paid it within months,

1228
00:59:40,120 --> 00:59:41,720
Speaker 2: you also bought you know what I would have said.

1229
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:45,280
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, hey, I bought a bottle of prosecco, right,

1230
00:59:45,440 --> 00:59:48,000
Speaker 2: could I just subtract that from you know, the things

1231
00:59:48,000 --> 00:59:49,880
Speaker 2: because you guys all drank it, or you guys you

1232
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:50,680
Speaker 2: know I gave it to you guys.

1233
00:59:51,040 --> 00:59:52,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't have the drinks you brought. I brought

1234
00:59:52,880 --> 00:59:56,560
Speaker 1: you prosecco. I brought my own drinks to drink. Like,

1235
00:59:58,120 --> 01:00:00,000
Speaker 1: just give me an up, give me a heads up

1236
01:00:00,120 --> 01:00:02,400
Speaker 1: next time. It'd really be appreciative. This isn't how my

1237
01:00:02,440 --> 01:00:03,560
Speaker 1: friend group works.

1238
01:00:03,920 --> 01:00:06,840
Speaker 2: Like I said, if it was like twenty bucks, fifty bucks,

1239
01:00:06,880 --> 01:00:09,160
Speaker 2: one hundred bucks, what have you? Ten bucks, maybe some,

1240
01:00:09,440 --> 01:00:13,320
Speaker 2: maybe a lot for you. But I agree again.

1241
01:00:13,280 --> 01:00:15,440
Speaker 1: I agree that like I would always be thrown off

1242
01:00:15,440 --> 01:00:17,400
Speaker 1: by it. Still, I would be like, oh, dang, okay,

1243
01:00:17,400 --> 01:00:19,600
Speaker 1: you didn't realize we're doing that kind of thing. I'd

1244
01:00:19,640 --> 01:00:21,480
Speaker 1: pay the ten bucks. I'd probably be like, oh my god,

1245
01:00:21,520 --> 01:00:23,520
Speaker 1: I can't believe that they didn't give me a heads

1246
01:00:23,600 --> 01:00:25,880
Speaker 1: up about it. And the next time it were to happen,

1247
01:00:25,920 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 1: I'd be like, hey, like, is this like a splitting thing?

1248
01:00:28,920 --> 01:00:29,960
Speaker 1: Should I bring something?

1249
01:00:30,080 --> 01:00:32,760
Speaker 2: I'll give it the one time benefit one time if

1250
01:00:32,800 --> 01:00:35,200
Speaker 2: it's ten bucks. If it's like one hundred bucks, I'd

1251
01:00:35,200 --> 01:00:37,760
Speaker 2: be like, yo, no, no, I'm not doing that.

1252
01:00:37,840 --> 01:00:38,560
Speaker 1: Good God no.

1253
01:00:39,520 --> 01:00:40,880
Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story.