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Speaker 1: they have a zeal for something, but they're afraid to

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Speaker 1: start because if it can't start at a then I'm

427
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Speaker 1: not going to start. I can't put the CEO in

428
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:39,840
Speaker 1: my bio the second I think of the idea for

429
00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:44,480
Speaker 1: the business, then no. And it's so toxic because it

430
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 1: cost us because if if you know, like I understand,

431
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Speaker 1: if I want to play the piano, I've got to start,

432
00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:52,720
Speaker 1: and I've got to practice, and I'm gonna get better

433
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:55,440
Speaker 1: and better and better, and it's gonna take practice every day.

434
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:59,000
Speaker 1: And I'm I'm not going to be a concert pianist overnight. Right,

435
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:04,199
Speaker 1: every thing is like that. We understand, but everything is

436
00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:08,159
Speaker 1: like that. But we've created this space where people feel

437
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 1: just perpetually inadequate. And I know if it's sustainable we

438
00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:16,880
Speaker 1: go from here. It's not. But yeah, and and and

439
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 1: I think that kind of ties into two. Like when

440
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:21,520
Speaker 1: we were talking about this nine to five shaming that happens, like,

441
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:24,399
Speaker 1: let's be clear, if the entire world were made up

442
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:29,520
Speaker 1: of entrepreneurs, this society is not sustainable, especially like think

443
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 1: about right now, Like if you have your business and

444
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:33,679
Speaker 1: you need to scale your business, you need to be

445
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:37,000
Speaker 1: able to hire employees. But according to your theory, if

446
00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:39,320
Speaker 1: someone has a nine to five and is an entrepreneur

447
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 1: and their own boss, then their life sucks. So who's

448
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:45,000
Speaker 1: going to be your employees? You know, it's just But

449
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:47,880
Speaker 1: also outside of that, it's like when you when you're

450
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:51,119
Speaker 1: growing as yourself and you understand that you are valuable

451
00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:55,639
Speaker 1: merely because you exist and that's enough, then you won't

452
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 1: feel the need to try to elevate yourself above other people,

453
00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 1: and you also won't all the need to recoil if

454
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:06,240
Speaker 1: you don't think you're perceived as good as someone else. Um. Yeah,

455
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,120
Speaker 1: I think from for me when I think about kind

456
00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:14,479
Speaker 1: of the mythology of our culture. Every we are a

457
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:18,919
Speaker 1: series of myths, right, That's what we are. Um. And

458
00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 1: we're at a stage in history where we've got to

459
00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 1: test every single myth is it true? Every single one,

460
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:33,879
Speaker 1: every single one of us has to test is it true.

461
00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:38,359
Speaker 1: I'll give you a couple of examples. Um. Rapunzel, do

462
00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:43,119
Speaker 1: you remember Rapunzel, super ridiculously long hair, stuck in the tower,

463
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 1: trapped quote unquote trapped. She helped her mother get in

464
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 1: and out of the tower for years, help the prince

465
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 1: get in and out of the tower. Girl, it was

466
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Speaker 1: your hair. Why didn't you help yourself get out of

467
00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 1: the tower? Like, why didn't you use your giftedness, your abilities,

468
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:02,919
Speaker 1: your uniqueness to help yourself? Right? So here's a subtle

469
00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:06,320
Speaker 1: little message of use your gifts to help other people,

470
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:11,679
Speaker 1: not to help yourself. A little mermaid, you can have

471
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 1: the man of your dreams. Oh you have to do

472
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 1: is give up your voice. I mean, really, we play

473
00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 1: that far our children. Beauty and the Beast, Oh god,

474
00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 1: I know, I know it. Beauty and the Beast, my

475
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 1: favorite dis the movie of all time. Remember how the

476
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:33,440
Speaker 1: movie starts, Bell is in the dungeon. The Beast put

477
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Speaker 1: her father in the cold dungeon. Bell comes in and

478
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 1: sacrifices herself to be his prisoner. So right, yeah, I mean,

479
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:47,560
Speaker 1: do I have the story? And then she wins him

480
00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 1: over right? I mean it's like Stockholm syndrome. He yells

481
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:53,960
Speaker 1: at her, he terrorizes her. She even runs out in

482
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Speaker 1: the night in the night one of the in the

483
00:28:56,520 --> 00:29:00,280
Speaker 1: movie because he scares her so badly. But does the

484
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:05,000
Speaker 1: message you true love will make a beast a prince

485
00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 1: and you should tolerate all of this bad behavior until

486
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 1: he transforms. No, no, and he only transforms if you

487
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:16,480
Speaker 1: love him. If you love him. Oh girl, that's some

488
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 1: toxic mess. And we really literally play that. We've all

489
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:26,880
Speaker 1: been raised on that, And I always want to tell people, like,

490
00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:29,000
Speaker 1: we're at a point where so many of us have

491
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 1: embodied that archetype of without even realizing, without realizing, we're

492
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 1: co creating a new reality. And some of this stuff

493
00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 1: it just has to go. It just has to go.

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00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 1: We have to look at it objectively, even if we

495
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 1: love it. It's like vix vapor rub. They have been

496
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 1: seven thousand reports that tell you it does not work.

497
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 1: It isn't how many houses in America because people still

498
00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 1: believe you gotta cold put some vix on your chest.

499
00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 1: It doesn't work. But we love to hold onto and

500
00:29:57,440 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 1: grasp our mythology. So my favorite myth that is giving

501
00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:06,320
Speaker 1: me life right now is the college cheating scandal. It's

502
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 1: giving me life. It's giving me life in my soul

503
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:12,840
Speaker 1: because one of the biggest myths in the world is

504
00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:16,680
Speaker 1: if you go to the Ivy League, you're better. They're

505
00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:21,720
Speaker 1: just better. Well, if of the school is legacy kids

506
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 1: who just got in because their parents went there, how

507
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 1: could it possibly be better. It's like, it's not possible

508
00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:31,960
Speaker 1: for it to be better, right, But we we sustained

509
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:35,080
Speaker 1: those stories and those myths, and so now here we

510
00:30:35,200 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 1: have this child college cheating scandal and it's cracking it

511
00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 1: wide open and we get to see, wait, maybe this

512
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:49,280
Speaker 1: isn't true. Maybe that young lady who um stepped over drugs,

513
00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 1: dodged um gangs, ended up graduating top of her class,

514
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:57,400
Speaker 1: but she went to University of Houston instead of Harvard.

515
00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:01,920
Speaker 1: Maybe she's valuable too, Maybe she doesn't have great internships

516
00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:07,840
Speaker 1: or great correctra extracurricular activities because she was working two

517
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:11,000
Speaker 1: jobs to pay for her younger siblings. You mean you

518
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 1: can't use her in your company because she didn't go

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00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 1: to Brown, because she didn't go to Princeton. Of course

520
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 1: you can. So we're seeing what I think of as

521
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:25,320
Speaker 1: a great unlearning, a great cracking open of peeling the layers. Yeah,

522
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 1: and just throwing away stuff that doesn't serve us. And

523
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:32,400
Speaker 1: one that I'm I'm personally struggling with as a black woman.

524
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:34,960
Speaker 1: You have to be twice as good. You have to

525
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 1: jump twice as high, you have to be twice as

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00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, I'm enough. I don't even have to

527
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:46,880
Speaker 1: be twice of anything. What if I'm just enough? Just

528
00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 1: as I am. You take me or you leave me,

529
00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 1: but I am enough. Think of the message, and I

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00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:57,400
Speaker 1: get the intention of pushing you to strive and to

531
00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 1: work harder and to understand limitations. But I don't want

532
00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:04,720
Speaker 1: to teach my daughter limitations. I don't want to tell

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00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 1: her that she's not enough just being herself. Right. So,

534
00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:16,120
Speaker 1: so my biggest challenge to people is to test your beliefs,

535
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:20,800
Speaker 1: think about what you think about, think about what you consume,

536
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 1: feed yourself correctly. That's why I love the work that

537
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:28,520
Speaker 1: you do, because what you feed is what grows what

538
00:32:28,680 --> 00:32:33,080
Speaker 1: you put into your psyche. I always say you have

539
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:37,200
Speaker 1: to protect your magic, right, and we don't protect our magic.

540
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:41,960
Speaker 1: We take all kinds of nonsense into our spirit. And

541
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 1: they were surprised that we get nonsense out of it.

542
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:47,719
Speaker 1: And must be clear to like what magic is, right

543
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 1: because a lot of people think that magic is that

544
00:32:51,800 --> 00:32:55,080
Speaker 1: they're attractive, or that you know they have the latest

545
00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:58,640
Speaker 1: this or the latest that, or their popular magic is

546
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:03,560
Speaker 1: self awareness. So magic is being so deeply in acceptance

547
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:07,480
Speaker 1: of yourself that you are unmovable, or as I like

548
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:10,560
Speaker 1: to say, you are unfatable, because no matter what is

549
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:13,480
Speaker 1: happening around you, you accept yourself and you're honest with

550
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:16,640
Speaker 1: yourself about who you are, and you're being of service

551
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:19,560
Speaker 1: on your terms. Like that to me is magic, you

552
00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 1: know absolutely, Because I think that we've gotten to a

553
00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 1: space where we have a short list of what's great.

554
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:32,840
Speaker 1: M So many things are great. Oh that's good. So

555
00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:36,160
Speaker 1: many things are great. There's so many gifts that we

556
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 1: overlook or we squander, you know, and I call it

557
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 1: the Michael Jordan's principle. Right, the person that can dance

558
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 1: wants to be able to sing the purple, that person

559
00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 1: that can see wants to be able to write the

560
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:55,240
Speaker 1: person we naturally covet other people's gifts. When you are

561
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 1: in the fullness of yourself, you are crystal clear what

562
00:33:58,960 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 1: your gifts are and what you bring to the world.

563
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 1: Michael Jordan, the greatest basketball player in the world, wants

564
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 1: to play baseball. That's just how we are as human nature.

565
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 1: We want to push into something else. But if you

566
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 1: learn how to find your gift and you own it

567
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 1: and you share it unapologetically, unrestrictedly, just you're clear about

568
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:27,359
Speaker 1: what your magic is, who can stop you? Who can

569
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:33,160
Speaker 1: stop you? You know? Um, that's so beautiful. Like Martha

570
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:38,719
Speaker 1: Stewart is very interesting to me. Randomly. Martha Stewart got

571
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:43,960
Speaker 1: famous for organizing plates and having chickens and pick and

572
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 1: paint colors. Stuff that was nothing. Really, people discarded it

573
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:53,799
Speaker 1: as nothing housework. Housework is nothing. She made a multi

574
00:34:53,800 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 1: billion dollar industry off of plates and cupcakes. It recipes

575
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 1: things that people thought of as nothing. Right, and so

576
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:07,759
Speaker 1: if you just work in your giftedness. I don't even

577
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:10,359
Speaker 1: know what. I don't even know where you can end up,

578
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:16,800
Speaker 1: especially now where there's people on YouTube that are doing

579
00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 1: some small, tiny, little niche of something, but everybody in

580
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:22,720
Speaker 1: the world that cares about that little niche of something,

581
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 1: watches them, has found them. Yeah, and you know what

582
00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 1: I love about that? I think that also speaks to

583
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 1: if your intention is only to elevate yourself above other

584
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:38,960
Speaker 1: people to serve your ego, or if your intention is

585
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 1: only right to be like really popular or really I

586
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:47,319
Speaker 1: guess I keep coming back to, like this idea of

587
00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 1: you want to be compared or you want to be

588
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:55,240
Speaker 1: better than this, then that that is not what's standing

589
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:58,799
Speaker 1: in your purposes. That is not how you're really going

590
00:35:58,920 --> 00:36:02,279
Speaker 1: to have what you just described, you know, like being

591
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:05,839
Speaker 1: in the fullness and the full authenticity of who you are.

592
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 1: Like that's true success. If I have to wear a

593
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:12,760
Speaker 1: mask to do it, I don't want it. It's funny.

594
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 1: I my stylist M one of my girlfriends that helps

595
00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:18,239
Speaker 1: me put together outfits now that I've been doing a

596
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,720
Speaker 1: lot more speaking and a lot more on camera stuff,

597
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 1: because if you leave me to my own devices, I

598
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:26,239
Speaker 1: am in a wife beater with some crystal necklaces and

599
00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:30,960
Speaker 1: my Zara sweatpants and probably some fire Nikes. That's my

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00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 1: day to day, right, But so she's been helping me

601
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:36,279
Speaker 1: plug together pieces. I'm someone that does not wear the

602
00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:38,800
Speaker 1: clothes in their closets. I buy all the cute stuff,

603
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:40,880
Speaker 1: and then when it's time to get dressed, I'm like, no,

604
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:42,840
Speaker 1: let me just put on my cute little tea and

605
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:46,040
Speaker 1: tuck it into my jeans. Um. So, anyway, long story

606
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:48,680
Speaker 1: short is um. She she's phenomenal what she does. She

607
00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 1: has an artistic eye. But when she dresses me sometimes

608
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 1: she pulls clothes for me that just really don't feel

609
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:57,120
Speaker 1: like me, or like it'll be like a six inch

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00:36:57,160 --> 00:36:59,279
Speaker 1: heeld right or you know, and she'll be like, but

611
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 1: dev like pain is beauty, like commit to the moment,

612
00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:05,399
Speaker 1: you know. And a lot of people are down with that.

613
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:07,840
Speaker 1: That's cool. I have flat feet. I don't like wearing

614
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 1: heels at all, like that are like over four inches

615
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 1: at most, right. But I especially know myself and the

616
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:16,920
Speaker 1: work that I'm doing right now at this moment in

617
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:20,760
Speaker 1: my life requires that I show up as such a full,

618
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:25,400
Speaker 1: authentic version of myself in all moments. So if I

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00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:29,359
Speaker 1: wear those six inch stiletto heels and this outfit that

620
00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:33,839
Speaker 1: feels uncomfortable but looks killer in a picture for my

621
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:37,399
Speaker 1: from my grid for my Instagram, I can't be who

622
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:40,600
Speaker 1: I really am, right because I'm gonna be on that

623
00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:46,400
Speaker 1: stage talking to people about real soul lessons, about states

624
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 1: of higher consciousness, about the depths of myself with an

625
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 1: openness and and authenticity that can allow them the freedom

626
00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 1: to be themselves. If for one second I am trying

627
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 1: to speed through it because as my feet hurt or

628
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:03,919
Speaker 1: I'm uncomfortable or I can't move my body the way

629
00:38:03,960 --> 00:38:07,319
Speaker 1: that I am, that I am limiting my purpose. So

630
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:09,960
Speaker 1: I know myself that well you know what I mean.

631
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:11,520
Speaker 1: So it's like me and her will kind of go

632
00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 1: at it sometimes and I'm like, I need you to understand.

633
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:16,719
Speaker 1: I get it, and I love what you're able to

634
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:20,000
Speaker 1: create for yourself and for other people that can own

635
00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:23,319
Speaker 1: that space. But I also really know me, and I

636
00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:29,480
Speaker 1: would rather be cute, becomfortable first. I have to feel

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Speaker 1: like me to do the work that I'm doing in

638
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:33,680
Speaker 1: this moment in my life, you know, or in this

639
00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 1: time when it's more important to look good than to

640
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:45,319
Speaker 1: be good. Yeah, well, let's let's sit here, let's talk

641
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:49,600
Speaker 1: about this. I love social media, it's awesome, but it

642
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:56,360
Speaker 1: has become a cage. Masterpieces take time to create. Michael

643
00:38:56,360 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 1: Angelo didn't do the Sustaine Chapel on television. I'm sure

644
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:02,440
Speaker 1: you had to make a lot of corrections, you had

645
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 1: to fix a lot of stuff. This is the first

646
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:12,280
Speaker 1: time in history where the creative process happens in real time. Yeah,

647
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:18,800
Speaker 1: I worry how many Sistine Chapels are we going to get? Yeah? Yeah?

648
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:23,360
Speaker 1: And it really brings up so much self sabotage because

649
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:25,800
Speaker 1: of the pace of life in this moment, right, because

650
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 1: you know, typically it's like when you think of this journey,

651
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 1: we all have unpacking to do. Um, we all have

652
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 1: trauma to work through. Some people's trauma is more severe

653
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:39,360
Speaker 1: than others, right, Some people's resilience is a little less

654
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:42,520
Speaker 1: than other people's, so their process is different. Um. But

655
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:45,240
Speaker 1: typically you're able to move at a certain pace where

656
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 1: life unfolds for you in such a way that you're

657
00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:51,760
Speaker 1: learning and more bite sized pieces, and you're you're putting

658
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:54,839
Speaker 1: yourself together in a way that maybe a little bit

659
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 1: more comfortable. And right now, we really are in the

660
00:39:57,440 --> 00:40:00,839
Speaker 1: Age of awakening, Like the frequency we're all operating on

661
00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:04,719
Speaker 1: is happening so fast in every aspect, not just with

662
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:09,279
Speaker 1: this comparable Instagram world, or with career or with you know,

663
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 1: how you're curating yourself, but really the lessons and the

664
00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 1: access we're of information that we're able to have to

665
00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 1: like soul lessons and healing lessons, is coming so fast

666
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:22,359
Speaker 1: that the work is happening fast, which means your level

667
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 1: of discomfort and sometimes suffering is a lot deeper, you know.

668
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:30,839
Speaker 1: And so when you are rushing through life and all

669
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:34,359
Speaker 1: the other aspects and all the other facets, you were

670
00:40:34,400 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 1: going to face more inner turmoil then you might have

671
00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:42,200
Speaker 1: if you slow down, especially if what you're consuming is

672
00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:48,720
Speaker 1: all milk, it's all basic, it's all surface surface, Yeah, yeah, yeah,

673
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:52,719
Speaker 1: you have to challenge yourself and seek out depth. And

674
00:40:52,760 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 1: that's hard. Admittedly, that's hard. In our culture. It's so hard,

675
00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:00,520
Speaker 1: and you know it's it's too It's just I don't know,

676
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:02,360
Speaker 1: I think so much of it really comes back to

677
00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:06,680
Speaker 1: some themes we've already hit on, which is just focus

678
00:41:06,719 --> 00:41:10,040
Speaker 1: on accepting yourself first, right, like a prayer that I

679
00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:11,960
Speaker 1: share my meditations and I know I've said it on

680
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 1: this show before, but if you really ask yourself every

681
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:19,560
Speaker 1: single day, for thirty days throughout the day, you got

682
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 1: still and you said, God, please show me the truth

683
00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 1: of who I am, your life would be radically changed.

684
00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:29,640
Speaker 1: When you look up in a month, your life would

685
00:41:29,719 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 1: be radically changed to some people. You would change, You

686
00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:38,399
Speaker 1: would change some major elements of your life. You would

687
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 1: transform yourself. You would come into acceptance with yourself because

688
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:44,560
Speaker 1: the truth of who you are is that you possess

689
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:47,480
Speaker 1: both light and dark. The truth of who you are

690
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:50,440
Speaker 1: is that, yeah, you're a really good person, you know,

691
00:41:50,480 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 1: on a soul level that's worthy of love and compassion.

692
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 1: But also you probably got your ship with you and

693
00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 1: you've also probably been damaging in some aspects of your life. Right,

694
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 1: But you're both, and you're still worth be and you're

695
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:05,040
Speaker 1: still enough, and you're still worth giving love to, you know.

696
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:08,279
Speaker 1: But we have to stand in the fullness of both

697
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 1: those sides. None of us are perfect. If you're looking

698
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:15,640
Speaker 1: at me and my story and you're thinking I'm perfect,

699
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:17,640
Speaker 1: I will be the first to tell you I'm not.

700
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:21,360
Speaker 1: I face many challenges, I've gotten it wrong a lot

701
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 1: of times, but at this moment in my life. Something

702
00:42:24,239 --> 00:42:27,920
Speaker 1: I'm committed to is giving my best effort to myself

703
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:30,319
Speaker 1: in the world, whatever that looks like, from each day,

704
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:34,080
Speaker 1: and loving myself that I mean, I am in full

705
00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:37,400
Speaker 1: acceptance of all the facets of who I am, you know,

706
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:39,920
Speaker 1: And that's the only way to be None of us

707
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 1: will ever be perfect because we were brought to this

708
00:42:42,640 --> 00:42:48,800
Speaker 1: earth as souls to experience humanity. The human condition is flawed,

709
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:53,240
Speaker 1: and I think it's really important who we emulate. Yeah,

710
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 1: follow who we you know, That's that's what social media is, Right,

711
00:42:57,200 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 1: it's follow culture. Who do you follow? Who are you

712
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 1: listening to? Right? You can sit and listen to the

713
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 1: You have access now to the deepest philosophers, the most

714
00:43:09,680 --> 00:43:13,759
Speaker 1: amazing minds, the most incredible spiritual leaders. You can just

715
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:18,919
Speaker 1: get on YouTube. But is that what we watch? Yeah,

716
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 1: you're watching these quick little potentially you know, quick little

717
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,719
Speaker 1: like motivating videos from someone whose story you don't know,

718
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 1: that doesn't necessarily have experience on what they're talking about.

719
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:32,839
Speaker 1: I came in this environment to win. What does it

720
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:35,759
Speaker 1: take to do that? And why is my ego so

721
00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:39,520
Speaker 1: fragile that what somebody who doesn't have anything to do

722
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:42,880
Speaker 1: no bearing on my success or failure. He says something,

723
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 1: and I'm off to the races. I work very hard

724
00:43:47,719 --> 00:43:53,279
Speaker 1: to never allow anyone to weaponize my responses. I have

725
00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 1: to keep my cool. I fight fire with water. I

726
00:43:56,719 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 1: try to stay so lazy or focus on what I'm

727
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:02,080
Speaker 1: trying to accomplish. And if you're aligned with that and

728
00:44:02,160 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 1: you want to get down with that, great and if

729
00:44:04,520 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 1: you don't, thank you so much, just stay over there.

730
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 1: I do not feel like I have to fight every

731
00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 1: battle and convert every soul. I have been in some

732
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:16,880
Speaker 1: of the most hostile work environments. I've been the only

733
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:19,799
Speaker 1: black person, the only woman, the first black person, the

734
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:25,320
Speaker 1: first woman, so many times, and people underestimate you. Okay,

735
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 1: that's that's part for the Cords, that's the gig, that's

736
00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:31,279
Speaker 1: the game. I know that when I'm walking into that situation.

737
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 1: If I wanted to be an all female environment, I

738
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 1: would work in a hair salon. That's not what I chose.

739
00:44:37,600 --> 00:44:41,880
Speaker 1: I chose. It's kind of like you're climbing um Everest

740
00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:45,320
Speaker 1: and you don't bring a coat, like it's a harsh environment.

741
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:49,040
Speaker 1: Pack your coat here, complaining about the climb, and it's

742
00:44:49,080 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 1: like you know where you were going you knew where

743
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:54,359
Speaker 1: you were going. And that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt.

744
00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:57,000
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean it doesn't matter. It doesn't mean it's

745
00:44:57,040 --> 00:45:02,360
Speaker 1: not wrong. It means it doesn't matter. You have a goal,

746
00:45:03,040 --> 00:45:05,920
Speaker 1: focus on their goal and reach it, and don't let

747
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 1: people who don't matter pull you off. Course. The little

748
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:13,880
Speaker 1: battles and the little engagements I see people get into,

749
00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 1: I'm just like, why why Yeah, like what what does

750
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 1: it really serve your ego? I told him, he's not

751
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:25,759
Speaker 1: gonna talk to me like that. Okay, Okay, now you're

752
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:29,279
Speaker 1: angry black woman in office and not even that, like

753
00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 1: but so so so what more like that? Because especially

754
00:45:34,040 --> 00:45:37,640
Speaker 1: if you because I think people's desire sometimes when they

755
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:40,400
Speaker 1: when they get into it with other people on a

756
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:44,560
Speaker 1: soul level, it's really a desire for them to change

757
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 1: the way they're being treated or changed the way that

758
00:45:47,719 --> 00:45:50,440
Speaker 1: someone is treating them or living their lives. Right, telling

759
00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:54,720
Speaker 1: someone off, there might be a ten percent window there. Listen,

760
00:45:54,840 --> 00:45:58,319
Speaker 1: I have my stories in my past, but it is

761
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:01,359
Speaker 1: nothing is going to change that person. So there there

762
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 1: are other ways that you can pivot um if you

763
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:06,360
Speaker 1: want to see real change, but it has to be

764
00:46:06,480 --> 00:46:10,840
Speaker 1: led by your soul by compassion and not by ego.

765
00:46:11,040 --> 00:46:15,799
Speaker 1: Absolutely change only happens without ego. Real lasting change and

766
00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:20,520
Speaker 1: energy is finite. Yeah, it's finite. I don't have the

767
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:24,480
Speaker 1: energy to raise all of these people in this environment

768
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:27,439
Speaker 1: who may not think I'm worthy of being here, right,

769
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 1: I don't have to prove to you that I am.

770
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:32,799
Speaker 1: Gonna know I am. It's gonna take every drop of

771
00:46:32,840 --> 00:46:36,520
Speaker 1: my energy to accomplish my goals. I don't have it

772
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 1: to give you, and we just give it away. Fight

773
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:46,800
Speaker 1: fights that don't have to be fought. There are real fights.

774
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:49,359
Speaker 1: There are places where you need to stand up, there

775
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:51,400
Speaker 1: are places where you need to and you have to

776
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:54,319
Speaker 1: build your currency first, because are you trying to win?

777
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:56,640
Speaker 1: Are you trying to be heard? I don't want to

778
00:46:56,680 --> 00:47:00,760
Speaker 1: just be heard. I want to affect change. Yeah, right,

779
00:47:00,840 --> 00:47:03,920
Speaker 1: So what does it take to do that? And I

780
00:47:03,960 --> 00:47:06,799
Speaker 1: think that, Um, there's so much advice. I mean to

781
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 1: your example earlier of just you gotta go in there

782
00:47:09,560 --> 00:47:11,680
Speaker 1: and tell him that he's gonna give you that raise

783
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 1: because you deserve it, because you are that is not

784
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:18,680
Speaker 1: You have to learn how to operate in every environment

785
00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 1: and be careful who gives giving you advice about what

786
00:47:22,680 --> 00:47:25,560
Speaker 1: you should do and how you should do it? Yeah, yeah,

787
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:30,080
Speaker 1: especially check the pedigrees, right, because not everybody should be

788
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:33,959
Speaker 1: able to speak life into your world. Would you share

789
00:47:34,000 --> 00:47:37,720
Speaker 1: with me, especially because this episode is so career focused

790
00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 1: And when I tell you, guys, I really hope you

791
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 1: take time to follow Denise because she is so powerful

792
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:47,880
Speaker 1: about so many subjects. Today only because we have a

793
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:51,560
Speaker 1: tight schedule, we're focusing on career, but she's a bar

794
00:47:51,840 --> 00:47:54,799
Speaker 1: in so many aspects. Um. But this is definitely like

795
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:58,520
Speaker 1: the career episode. But so would you talk to Denise

796
00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:04,200
Speaker 1: a little bit too? Investing in yourself in business? Because

797
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:06,440
Speaker 1: and I want to share with everybody a little bit

798
00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:10,400
Speaker 1: of my own entrepreneurial story. Obviously, everyone who is maybe

799
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:12,960
Speaker 1: on this episode is familiar with the fact that I

800
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:15,759
Speaker 1: worked for many, many years in radio and broadcasting in

801
00:48:15,840 --> 00:48:18,960
Speaker 1: some TV, and now I am fully a hundred percent

802
00:48:19,120 --> 00:48:21,360
Speaker 1: in the wellness world. I might still reach back for

803
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 1: a couple of gigs, but this is the space that

804
00:48:24,320 --> 00:48:27,880
Speaker 1: I'm committed to for my life's work. Um. But I

805
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:30,960
Speaker 1: want to tell people I didn't just wake up and

806
00:48:31,080 --> 00:48:33,640
Speaker 1: say I'm gonna quit my job and yeah, let me

807
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:36,439
Speaker 1: just start a business over here and it's all good. Like, Yeah,

808
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:40,200
Speaker 1: I'm getting a lot of beautiful opportunities I am so

809
00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:42,520
Speaker 1: grateful for right now, and I'm able to still dabble

810
00:48:42,600 --> 00:48:45,040
Speaker 1: in in something that fulfills me, like doing this podcast

811
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 1: and using my skill set there. But I've I did

812
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 1: a lot of work to be able to stand in

813
00:48:50,120 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 1: this field and command a certain amount of money and

814
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 1: get into the rooms that I'm in and be trusted

815
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:59,280
Speaker 1: by the women who trust me in doing this work.

816
00:48:59,480 --> 00:49:04,799
Speaker 1: You know, I have spent thousands of dollars investing in

817
00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:07,920
Speaker 1: myself to show up in the exact ways that I

818
00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 1: need to. I'm certified in many different things. I don't

819
00:49:11,600 --> 00:49:15,640
Speaker 1: particularly like going to school. I don't particularly like sitting

820
00:49:15,719 --> 00:49:20,480
Speaker 1: in class for twelve hours a day for three days

821
00:49:20,520 --> 00:49:26,879
Speaker 1: in a row every month. I don't particularly like it,

822
00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:29,879
Speaker 1: but I'm doing it because something I've realized is do

823
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 1: I have my own story and testimony that can help people? Absolutely? Do.

824
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:39,440
Speaker 1: I have a huge life full of lots of multidimensional

825
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:42,640
Speaker 1: experiences and have I had a lot of success. Absolutely,

826
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:46,120
Speaker 1: But if I want to help people heal, just applying

827
00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:48,360
Speaker 1: the ways I healed aren't going to be enough, right,

828
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:50,240
Speaker 1: because that's only going to get to a certain amount

829
00:49:50,239 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 1: of people. So I also need to quit myself and

830
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:55,200
Speaker 1: tighten up on the areas that I don't know by

831
00:49:55,239 --> 00:49:58,480
Speaker 1: heart already. So I've invested in myself over the last

832
00:49:58,520 --> 00:50:01,520
Speaker 1: several years of doing lots different programs, doing lots of

833
00:50:01,560 --> 00:50:05,720
Speaker 1: psychology training, is doing lots of spiritual work and retreats

834
00:50:05,760 --> 00:50:07,960
Speaker 1: and all those things grow me as a person. But

835
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:11,120
Speaker 1: it also grows my ability to be of service to

836
00:50:11,160 --> 00:50:13,839
Speaker 1: the people I want to serve. But I didn't just

837
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: wake up and say listening to me because I know

838
00:50:17,080 --> 00:50:21,759
Speaker 1: how to curate myself for you. I'm sharing with you

839
00:50:21,840 --> 00:50:28,120
Speaker 1: stuff that I know works. And it's so tempting today, right, um,

840
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 1: Because the truth of the matter is, when you have

841
00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:39,240
Speaker 1: a goal, it's not really the difficulty of the path

842
00:50:39,320 --> 00:50:44,480
Speaker 1: to the goal that stops us. It's the ease of

843
00:50:44,520 --> 00:50:49,560
Speaker 1: the path to a lesser goal. I would say that

844
00:50:49,560 --> 00:50:53,400
Speaker 1: one more time. That is good. It's not the difficulty,

845
00:50:53,520 --> 00:50:56,160
Speaker 1: it's not the hurdles, it's not the challenges of getting

846
00:50:56,200 --> 00:51:01,200
Speaker 1: to the goal. It's that the alternatives are so much easier.

847
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 1: Why would I sit in class for twelve hours if

848
00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:08,040
Speaker 1: I mean nobody's asking me to do that. I can

849
00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:10,400
Speaker 1: just slap up a logo and say I got this

850
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:13,720
Speaker 1: and started. You know, nobody's asking me to learn these skills.

851
00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:17,239
Speaker 1: They're always pushing me to develop myself and develop the

852
00:51:17,280 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 1: skill set. They'll accept me however I present myself. That's tempting, man,

853
00:51:24,120 --> 00:51:26,440
Speaker 1: And that's what it feels like the whole world is doing.

854
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:32,799
Speaker 1: It's tempting to take your your portion and instead of

855
00:51:32,880 --> 00:51:37,920
Speaker 1: multiplying it, slap it on lunchbox and start selling it. Right,

856
00:51:38,239 --> 00:51:41,880
Speaker 1: But you have to have a commitment to continued growth,

857
00:51:42,600 --> 00:51:47,440
Speaker 1: even though there are such great alternatives. It's easy. So

858
00:51:47,480 --> 00:51:50,839
Speaker 1: I could sit on panels all day long, right, I mean,

859
00:51:50,880 --> 00:51:53,239
Speaker 1: I know you could do the thing. I'm invited to

860
00:51:53,239 --> 00:51:57,400
Speaker 1: speak all over the world. Um, but there's some stuff

861
00:51:57,400 --> 00:51:59,880
Speaker 1: that I want to accomplish in the world. There's something

862
00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:03,480
Speaker 1: someone to build and they're not as quick and it's

863
00:52:03,520 --> 00:52:08,239
Speaker 1: not as easy, and it's not as quite frankly, ego gratifying.

864
00:52:09,000 --> 00:52:12,560
Speaker 1: It's when they call you know, like, um, you know

865
00:52:12,600 --> 00:52:15,359
Speaker 1: I have a spot running on Lifetime TV right now.

866
00:52:15,640 --> 00:52:18,279
Speaker 1: It was cool when Lifetime calls me and says, hey,

867
00:52:18,320 --> 00:52:20,719
Speaker 1: we want you to be the coach on Project come back.

868
00:52:21,040 --> 00:52:24,840
Speaker 1: Well doing you now? Right? It's validating and it's cool

869
00:52:24,880 --> 00:52:27,400
Speaker 1: to do all these great activities. And I know you

870
00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:28,839
Speaker 1: do a lot of great stuff. I do a lot

871
00:52:28,840 --> 00:52:31,960
Speaker 1: of great stuff, but never lose sight of your goal

872
00:52:32,880 --> 00:52:36,400
Speaker 1: and never um, you're cheating the whole world if you

873
00:52:36,440 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 1: don't sharpen your saw, if you don't harness yourself. I mean,

874
00:52:43,200 --> 00:52:46,360
Speaker 1: think of athletes that shoot a million free throws just

875
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:49,880
Speaker 1: even though they're great and rebounds, they're great, they what

876
00:52:50,000 --> 00:52:52,480
Speaker 1: am my week at? They still work on developing that

877
00:52:52,640 --> 00:52:57,360
Speaker 1: skill because I cheat the world out of the fullness

878
00:52:57,360 --> 00:53:01,040
Speaker 1: of my magic if I don't hold and sharpen and

879
00:53:01,160 --> 00:53:06,520
Speaker 1: harness every gift that lies in me. And that might

880
00:53:06,520 --> 00:53:09,560
Speaker 1: take money, it might take time, It might take um,

881
00:53:09,560 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 1: it might take um subordinating yourself going into environment where

882
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:15,640
Speaker 1: you're an intern and they treat you like trash for

883
00:53:15,680 --> 00:53:18,200
Speaker 1: a couple of years. It may take that to learn

884
00:53:18,239 --> 00:53:20,200
Speaker 1: what you've got to learn to do the big thing

885
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:25,120
Speaker 1: that you want to do. So it's it's you know,

886
00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:28,960
Speaker 1: I am so proud of you. I'm proud of you

887
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:34,160
Speaker 1: because you know, it's it's hard to do stuff you

888
00:53:34,160 --> 00:53:36,880
Speaker 1: don't have to do. You don't have to do it.

889
00:53:37,160 --> 00:53:41,120
Speaker 1: Nobody's you know, nobody's like standing over when you're ten

890
00:53:41,200 --> 00:53:43,160
Speaker 1: years old and you know you got to go to

891
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:45,759
Speaker 1: school today and you've gotta do this, You've gotta clean

892
00:53:45,800 --> 00:53:48,839
Speaker 1: your room. There's there's no mom now. Now it's all

893
00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:52,440
Speaker 1: us choosing each and every day, like how we're going

894
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:55,640
Speaker 1: to operate in the world and who we're gonna be.

895
00:53:56,520 --> 00:53:59,880
Speaker 1: And it's easy to just stay at three when everybody

896
00:54:00,040 --> 00:54:03,680
Speaker 1: like three. Everybody loves your three. And I'm just watching

897
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:06,640
Speaker 1: you committed to go to ten and it's beautiful to

898
00:54:06,880 --> 00:54:10,479
Speaker 1: thank you for saying that. I really appreciate that. Yeah,

899
00:54:10,600 --> 00:54:12,840
Speaker 1: I think, and for each of us, we have whatever

900
00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:15,680
Speaker 1: version that is. Like, it is like if I stayed

901
00:54:15,680 --> 00:54:18,400
Speaker 1: at a three, I would I've kind of built my

902
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:22,760
Speaker 1: life celebrated at three. I would still go get invited

903
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:24,960
Speaker 1: to all of the things and do this and that

904
00:54:25,080 --> 00:54:27,840
Speaker 1: and have a fun life if I stayed at three.

905
00:54:27,960 --> 00:54:34,880
Speaker 1: But I know I can exist at a ten. I

906
00:54:34,920 --> 00:54:37,000
Speaker 1: know I am a ten, I'm a twenty, I'm all

907
00:54:37,040 --> 00:54:40,680
Speaker 1: these things right, and so you know, I don't know

908
00:54:40,719 --> 00:54:44,080
Speaker 1: the I think for for everyone listening, what I really

909
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:47,239
Speaker 1: hope you take away is if you know that you

910
00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:50,480
Speaker 1: have a calling on your life, if you know you're

911
00:54:50,680 --> 00:54:56,120
Speaker 1: called to do something. Don't just settle for entry level mediocre.

912
00:54:56,960 --> 00:55:03,759
Speaker 1: Don't just settle for the popularized bag right for the

913
00:55:03,840 --> 00:55:07,799
Speaker 1: quick payday, Because life truly is a marathon. What are

914
00:55:07,880 --> 00:55:11,640
Speaker 1: you building? I, at least hope my desire is that

915
00:55:11,800 --> 00:55:15,359
Speaker 1: what I am building right now, with my head down

916
00:55:15,400 --> 00:55:18,440
Speaker 1: and tunnel vision being kind of quiet in some aspects,

917
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:21,120
Speaker 1: is going to be what I am blessed to be

918
00:55:21,160 --> 00:55:24,200
Speaker 1: able to do for the rest of my life. You know,

919
00:55:24,920 --> 00:55:27,960
Speaker 1: take some money and invest in the process of creating

920
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:32,320
Speaker 1: something proprietary that will be yours, that has a quality

921
00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:35,160
Speaker 1: that people can trust, and they'll come back for the

922
00:55:35,239 --> 00:55:37,960
Speaker 1: second sale and the third and the fourth. You know.

923
00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:42,120
Speaker 1: It's that oven mentality, it really is. It's if you

924
00:55:42,520 --> 00:55:45,480
Speaker 1: what are you building? What is your end game? You know,

925
00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:48,720
Speaker 1: hustle mentality. I was addicted to it for so long.

926
00:55:49,320 --> 00:55:52,120
Speaker 1: I live my life in the grind for so long,

927
00:55:52,239 --> 00:55:56,080
Speaker 1: and that you know, hashtag boss, bitch, girl boss, all

928
00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:58,640
Speaker 1: of the things right, I lived and breathed it. I

929
00:55:58,680 --> 00:56:02,080
Speaker 1: was a stress addict. But where was it really taking

930
00:56:02,120 --> 00:56:04,279
Speaker 1: me and what was the what was the quality of

931
00:56:04,280 --> 00:56:07,200
Speaker 1: my life going to be and look like and feel like?

932
00:56:07,960 --> 00:56:10,759
Speaker 1: So take the time, you know, starting and I know

933
00:56:10,840 --> 00:56:13,680
Speaker 1: you you completely stend alignment with this, with the building

934
00:56:14,160 --> 00:56:17,160
Speaker 1: of watch your work. It's like I had to take

935
00:56:17,200 --> 00:56:19,640
Speaker 1: on a lot of humility to start this new business.

936
00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:22,640
Speaker 1: I had to learn a lot about myself. It It

937
00:56:22,719 --> 00:56:25,319
Speaker 1: was not easy giving up some of the glitz and

938
00:56:25,320 --> 00:56:29,200
Speaker 1: glamor of working in entertainment seven and what I had

939
00:56:29,280 --> 00:56:33,200
Speaker 1: spent over a decade building there to start from scratch

940
00:56:33,239 --> 00:56:35,720
Speaker 1: in a new world that I didn't have an audience

941
00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:37,719
Speaker 1: in that world. You know, like if I put out

942
00:56:38,280 --> 00:56:40,280
Speaker 1: if I put out a YouTube video with a rapper,

943
00:56:40,680 --> 00:56:43,799
Speaker 1: I guarantee you it would go viral. All of my

944
00:56:43,880 --> 00:56:47,640
Speaker 1: content went viral, or I would instantly within the first

945
00:56:47,680 --> 00:56:51,480
Speaker 1: hour on said YouTube video have a hundred thousand views

946
00:56:51,719 --> 00:56:53,960
Speaker 1: because I'm talking to a rapper about his music. Right

947
00:56:54,880 --> 00:56:57,480
Speaker 1: when I first launched Karmel Bliss and I put a

948
00:56:57,560 --> 00:57:03,439
Speaker 1: video on YouTube meditating five views, right a year later

949
00:57:03,600 --> 00:57:06,879
Speaker 1: was only at a hundred because the world that I'm

950
00:57:06,880 --> 00:57:11,759
Speaker 1: operating in is not as accessible for people. Not everybody

951
00:57:11,840 --> 00:57:13,720
Speaker 1: is ready to do the work or learn the tools.

952
00:57:14,040 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 1: But I knew that walking in and signing up, and

953
00:57:16,160 --> 00:57:19,400
Speaker 1: that's the audience I want anyway, you know, so it's

954
00:57:19,400 --> 00:57:22,080
Speaker 1: like even in, don't be afraid to do the hard work.

955
00:57:22,120 --> 00:57:26,600
Speaker 1: Now identifize yourself, be a beginner. And that's that's the niece.

956
00:57:26,720 --> 00:57:28,360
Speaker 1: I love that you said that, because that's what I

957
00:57:28,400 --> 00:57:32,200
Speaker 1: surrender to. My ego fought it. Like the first year

958
00:57:32,200 --> 00:57:34,720
Speaker 1: of becoming out entrepreneur, my ego fought it, and I

959
00:57:34,760 --> 00:57:36,800
Speaker 1: was trying to stay one foot in this world, one

960
00:57:36,800 --> 00:57:39,920
Speaker 1: foot in my old life, and I couldn't be clear

961
00:57:40,200 --> 00:57:43,720
Speaker 1: on my vision being in that space. When I surrendered

962
00:57:43,720 --> 00:57:46,080
Speaker 1: to the fact that I don't have to keep up

963
00:57:46,120 --> 00:57:50,440
Speaker 1: any looks or appearances for anybody, I can be a beginner,

964
00:57:50,480 --> 00:57:53,240
Speaker 1: and it's okay because I know this is my calling.

965
00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:57,320
Speaker 1: And not only is it okay, it's what has to happen,

966
00:57:57,520 --> 00:58:00,479
Speaker 1: because you cannot be great if you don't them through

967
00:58:00,520 --> 00:58:03,600
Speaker 1: a journey. And then I look up three years later,

968
00:58:03,640 --> 00:58:06,400
Speaker 1: I have a thriving business. We're in department stores, I

969
00:58:06,400 --> 00:58:10,240
Speaker 1: have I'm booked out for the next year of speaking,

970
00:58:10,320 --> 00:58:12,840
Speaker 1: I'm traveling every week, I'm writing my second book. And

971
00:58:12,880 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 1: guess what if I didn't embrace being a beginner, I

972
00:58:15,840 --> 00:58:17,800
Speaker 1: would have none of this right now. I would be

973
00:58:17,800 --> 00:58:21,160
Speaker 1: stuck in the exact same spot suffering inside because I'm

974
00:58:21,160 --> 00:58:23,720
Speaker 1: trying to keep two worlds together because I'm not fully

975
00:58:23,760 --> 00:58:27,200
Speaker 1: committing to what my calling is. And the time, as

976
00:58:27,240 --> 00:58:31,280
Speaker 1: I've said before, everybody listening, the time passes anyway. So

977
00:58:31,320 --> 00:58:33,240
Speaker 1: I could have looked up three years later and had

978
00:58:33,320 --> 00:58:36,480
Speaker 1: nothing to show for it, you know absolutely. I know

979
00:58:36,520 --> 00:58:39,680
Speaker 1: when I started UM watch your work, there was there

980
00:58:39,680 --> 00:58:43,320
Speaker 1: were so many stats thrown around, like black women get

981
00:58:43,560 --> 00:58:46,440
Speaker 1: UM point Over the last ten years, black women have

982
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:51,280
Speaker 1: gotten point o o six percent of all VC funds,

983
00:58:52,480 --> 00:58:57,080
Speaker 1: not even one half of one percent? Right, I can

984
00:58:57,200 --> 00:59:01,600
Speaker 1: decide is that gonna define me? Am I not going

985
00:59:01,640 --> 00:59:03,600
Speaker 1: to try this? Am I not going to put my

986
00:59:03,880 --> 00:59:08,000
Speaker 1: toe in this water? Or I can say you never

987
00:59:08,040 --> 00:59:12,800
Speaker 1: step in the same river twice, that tomorrow can be

988
00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:16,640
Speaker 1: better than yesterday? Can I Can I step out onto

989
00:59:16,680 --> 00:59:20,320
Speaker 1: a bridge that isn't yet built. Literally, That's what I'm doing.

990
00:59:20,360 --> 00:59:23,120
Speaker 1: I'm walking out and they're building the bridge as we

991
00:59:23,200 --> 00:59:28,160
Speaker 1: go along. Right. But if you if you don't approach

992
00:59:28,200 --> 00:59:32,240
Speaker 1: the world with the optimism that you can start small

993
00:59:33,160 --> 00:59:36,960
Speaker 1: and build, then what are you doing? I just don't know,

994
00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:40,000
Speaker 1: Like that's the only way to approach it. You have

995
00:59:40,160 --> 00:59:43,919
Speaker 1: to believe that it's worth investing the time to learn

996
00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:47,240
Speaker 1: the skills. It's worth investing the time to master the

997
00:59:47,320 --> 00:59:50,160
Speaker 1: information and the content. You have to believe that and

998
00:59:50,240 --> 00:59:52,959
Speaker 1: go into the situation and you're gonna pivot, You're gonna

999
00:59:53,000 --> 00:59:56,120
Speaker 1: have things you have to change, or you're gonna refine things.

1000
00:59:56,280 --> 01:00:01,080
Speaker 1: But diamonds are made overnight. We we all want diamonds

1001
01:00:01,120 --> 01:00:05,320
Speaker 1: that we don't want the pressure, and that's just not

1002
01:00:05,400 --> 01:00:08,600
Speaker 1: how it happens. Trust the calling on your life and

1003
01:00:08,680 --> 01:00:11,600
Speaker 1: do the work necessary to honor that calling. And I

1004
01:00:11,680 --> 01:00:13,640
Speaker 1: also want to talk a little bit about people who

1005
01:00:13,760 --> 01:00:16,320
Speaker 1: don't have a calling, yes, because there's a lot of

1006
01:00:16,320 --> 01:00:19,800
Speaker 1: people who are really struggling. Well they haven't identified their

1007
01:00:19,840 --> 01:00:25,960
Speaker 1: calling yet. Well, but calling is is misused and purpose

1008
01:00:26,120 --> 01:00:30,440
Speaker 1: is misused. Right. Not every calling or purpose has to

1009
01:00:30,440 --> 01:00:34,320
Speaker 1: be quantified by a career path. Absolutely, Yeah, So everybody

1010
01:00:34,360 --> 01:00:38,080
Speaker 1: has a calling, Like everybody's calling is to use your

1011
01:00:38,160 --> 01:00:41,200
Speaker 1: unique gifts to be of service. But for everyone it

1012
01:00:41,240 --> 01:00:45,720
Speaker 1: doesn't have to or just may not translate into everybody

1013
01:00:45,760 --> 01:00:48,480
Speaker 1: knowing who you are, or you having a big social

1014
01:00:48,520 --> 01:00:52,520
Speaker 1: media presence, or you having you know, billions of dollars, right,

1015
01:00:52,560 --> 01:00:54,919
Speaker 1: because that's not any of the things that God cares

1016
01:00:54,960 --> 01:00:57,880
Speaker 1: about he called. He cares that you honor the calling

1017
01:00:57,920 --> 01:01:00,600
Speaker 1: he put on your heart and whatever way you're able

1018
01:01:00,720 --> 01:01:04,240
Speaker 1: and in whatever way unfolds for you without that connection

1019
01:01:04,280 --> 01:01:07,880
Speaker 1: to ego about how you're being perceived or treated. Yeah. Yeah,

1020
01:01:07,960 --> 01:01:10,960
Speaker 1: I just started working with a group in a in

1021
01:01:11,000 --> 01:01:19,080
Speaker 1: Texas that their focus is young people nineteen who have

1022
01:01:19,280 --> 01:01:23,400
Speaker 1: opted out? What does that mean? They have They're they're

1023
01:01:23,440 --> 01:01:27,680
Speaker 1: living in their parents basement, they're playing video games all day.

1024
01:01:27,800 --> 01:01:31,760
Speaker 1: They've checked out. They they're not looking for jobs. And

1025
01:01:32,120 --> 01:01:35,400
Speaker 1: the percentage of the people that are in that situation

1026
01:01:35,560 --> 01:01:39,360
Speaker 1: in the US is steadily growing. And I think it's

1027
01:01:39,360 --> 01:01:44,439
Speaker 1: because of a couple of things. First, this comparison thing

1028
01:01:44,600 --> 01:01:47,919
Speaker 1: that we're talking about, what is an honorable job? What's

1029
01:01:47,920 --> 01:01:51,560
Speaker 1: a good job? Right? If it's not paying six figures

1030
01:01:51,560 --> 01:01:53,640
Speaker 1: and I can't buy lambo, it's not a good job.

1031
01:01:54,040 --> 01:01:56,000
Speaker 1: Am I willing to start at the beginning and work

1032
01:01:56,080 --> 01:01:57,720
Speaker 1: my way up? Well, No, I need to be a

1033
01:01:57,800 --> 01:02:00,080
Speaker 1: VP of a blah blah blah. If I can't do

1034
01:02:00,120 --> 01:02:02,080
Speaker 1: it at this level, I just won't do it at all.

1035
01:02:02,920 --> 01:02:06,480
Speaker 1: And then there's a I think that and I'm seeing

1036
01:02:06,480 --> 01:02:08,680
Speaker 1: it a lot in the young women that wait to

1037
01:02:08,720 --> 01:02:13,640
Speaker 1: talk to me after I speak. Uh, they're kind of

1038
01:02:13,720 --> 01:02:17,880
Speaker 1: lost where they They really don't know what they want

1039
01:02:17,920 --> 01:02:21,640
Speaker 1: to do because they get so many images. It's so

1040
01:02:22,240 --> 01:02:26,360
Speaker 1: much pressure that they don't really And what I challenged

1041
01:02:26,400 --> 01:02:31,080
Speaker 1: them to do is to quiet themselves. Turned down the noise.

1042
01:02:31,800 --> 01:02:34,800
Speaker 1: Here your own voice. Two of the people we think

1043
01:02:34,840 --> 01:02:40,560
Speaker 1: of of of greatest scientists of our time, Einstein and

1044
01:02:40,600 --> 01:02:47,240
Speaker 1: Srisie Newton. Einstein theory of relativity, Srisie Newton gravity. Both

1045
01:02:47,240 --> 01:02:52,000
Speaker 1: of them did it in chill time. Hm Einstein was

1046
01:02:52,120 --> 01:02:55,800
Speaker 1: under employed, he was a patent clerk. He was way underemployed.

1047
01:02:56,320 --> 01:02:58,440
Speaker 1: He did all of his theories and letters to his

1048
01:02:58,520 --> 01:03:03,320
Speaker 1: friends and his free time. Sir Isaac Newton was sequestered

1049
01:03:03,360 --> 01:03:08,080
Speaker 1: because of the plague, so he was bored. Oh let

1050
01:03:08,120 --> 01:03:11,520
Speaker 1: me do this theory of gravity. When was the last

1051
01:03:11,520 --> 01:03:15,280
Speaker 1: time you were bored? When was the last time things

1052
01:03:15,320 --> 01:03:20,720
Speaker 1: were quiet so that you could hear the voice of

1053
01:03:20,720 --> 01:03:22,880
Speaker 1: of what is supposed to happen in your life and

1054
01:03:22,880 --> 01:03:28,600
Speaker 1: what's next. We have a portion of our young people, specifically,

1055
01:03:29,000 --> 01:03:35,000
Speaker 1: that are so deluged with other people's senses of who

1056
01:03:35,080 --> 01:03:38,840
Speaker 1: they're supposed to be that they can't find themselves. So

1057
01:03:38,920 --> 01:03:42,160
Speaker 1: the challenge that. And the encouragement I would give to

1058
01:03:42,280 --> 01:03:46,040
Speaker 1: that group that might be listening right now is turn

1059
01:03:46,120 --> 01:03:51,680
Speaker 1: it off, turn it down, step away, put it down,

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Speaker 1: find some quiet, find some softer voices. Right there are

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Speaker 1: voices that get Let let somebody run. She rack is crazy,

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Speaker 1: do something everybody knows about it, right, But find some

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Speaker 1: softer voices that aren't as loud. But feed your spirit,

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Speaker 1: and feed you deeply. Because we can't afford to waste genius,

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Speaker 1: we can't afford to squander a generation. And I don't

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Speaker 1: want anybody to feel lost. I don't think there's a

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Speaker 1: worse feeling than really not having any idea what your

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Speaker 1: next step is because you don't feel passionate about anything,

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Speaker 1: because society around you demeans what you feel passionate about,

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Speaker 1: or what you care about, or what you like. It's

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Speaker 1: not cool to tell your friends that you want to

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Speaker 1: be an accountant. Nobody right, Nobody wants to say that

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Speaker 1: I really like numbers. I'm good numbers. That's corny. You

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Speaker 1: should be you know what I'm saying. Like, you have

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Speaker 1: to quiet that noise. You have to silence it and

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01:04:52,440 --> 01:04:56,960
Speaker 1: stop stop over filling your time, over booking yourself and

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01:04:57,000 --> 01:05:02,840
Speaker 1: stop over stimulating your consuming. Stop And it's hard. That's so.

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Speaker 1: It's easy to say that it is so. It takes work.

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Speaker 1: It takes work. But I believe that you have to

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Speaker 1: build new neural pathways. You have to shift things. You

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Speaker 1: have to do things that are new and fresh, and

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01:05:17,520 --> 01:05:20,160
Speaker 1: turn things off and turn some things on, you know,

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Speaker 1: and shake it up, because, um, there's a lot of

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Speaker 1: people who didn't get their purpose until they were forty

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Speaker 1: fifty six, seventy. They didn't find it. It's the quest. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's not. It's not a race. It's not a race.

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Speaker 1: It's not and you should enjoy it. You should be

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Speaker 1: exploring things. That's how you're gonna find it. It's not

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Speaker 1: coming to your house. Yeah, that's how you're gonna find it.

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Speaker 1: You have to kick the tires on other experiences. You

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Speaker 1: have to talk to different people, you have to go

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Speaker 1: different places. That's how you're gonna find a purpose. Caring

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Speaker 1: what people think. You have to stop caring what people think,

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01:06:02,000 --> 01:06:05,120
Speaker 1: the praise and the criticism. You have to find that

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01:06:05,200 --> 01:06:08,480
Speaker 1: authentic voice inside that leads you and that lets you

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Speaker 1: know you're in the right place and that you matter.

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Speaker 1: And I hate to break it to you. Sometimes those

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Speaker 1: people are the people that love you the most. There's

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Speaker 1: no greater there's no smaller cage in the cage of

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Speaker 1: the people that love you. Yeah right, no smaller cage homeostasis.

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Speaker 1: They are trying to keep a normal and it's like,

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Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't want to be normal. I want

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Speaker 1: to be abnormal. I want to be extraordinary. And sometimes

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Speaker 1: the people that love you, you know, because in in

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Speaker 1: the they want to protect you, they want to keep

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Speaker 1: you safe. But you're not built to be safe. You're

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Speaker 1: built to do incredible, amazing, unbelievable things if you let yourself.

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Speaker 1: I my heart hurts that I have to wrap the

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Speaker 1: show up. But part of being a working new mom Um,

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Speaker 1: I got a few quest dinner right now, So it

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Speaker 1: just is um, Denise, I absolutely adore you. I we

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Speaker 1: didn't get the chance to unpack this on the show,

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01:07:11,920 --> 01:07:14,760
Speaker 1: but Denise and I originally met because we were both

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Speaker 1: brought on to speak on a panel many years ago

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Speaker 1: that was put together by the Route and by Toyota,

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Speaker 1: and we met on that panel and we were both

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01:07:23,760 --> 01:07:26,440
Speaker 1: really into what each other had to say, and at

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Speaker 1: the end of the panel, both of us were cornered

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01:07:30,880 --> 01:07:36,200
Speaker 1: in opposite corners of the room with lines that went outside. Um,

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Speaker 1: you know, if people just trying to deepen their understanding

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Speaker 1: of some of the things that we said. And so

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Speaker 1: she and I connected, We exchanged numbers, then we started hanging,

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01:07:44,200 --> 01:07:47,080
Speaker 1: we started bouncing ideas off each other, we started co

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Speaker 1: working together. You know. Um, we were very much organically

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Speaker 1: brought together and then grew our friendship. And I just

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Speaker 1: you're a treasure. I just adore you. I stand for

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01:07:57,680 --> 01:08:00,920
Speaker 1: all the things that you do. You guys have to

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Speaker 1: go on the Instagram, watch her work at watch her

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Speaker 1: work TV and at official dam and watch her work

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Speaker 1: dot com. Um has some really phenomenal content. And I'm

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Speaker 1: really I really really want to stress this to you.

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Speaker 1: It's not just the kind of site that permeates the

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Speaker 1: market right now of like career motivation and and hashtag

1134
01:08:23,760 --> 01:08:26,599
Speaker 1: boss babe and you know all of those things. Like

1135
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Speaker 1: the site is very, very intensive, and it has so

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Speaker 1: many different categories for all types of things you could

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Speaker 1: be running into in the workplace, and the content is

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Speaker 1: just absolutely invaluable. It's over seven thousand videos, that's thousands

1139
01:08:43,960 --> 01:08:48,680
Speaker 1: of women of all walks of life from obscure careers

1140
01:08:48,720 --> 01:08:53,519
Speaker 1: to mainstream careers sharing their hard earned wisdom um that

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01:08:53,600 --> 01:08:56,400
Speaker 1: you can really pull from. So definitely, like, if you're

1142
01:08:56,439 --> 01:09:00,280
Speaker 1: looking to expand in any capacity, in any career field

1143
01:09:00,320 --> 01:09:03,439
Speaker 1: that you're in, look for areas that you can invest

1144
01:09:03,479 --> 01:09:07,800
Speaker 1: in yourself free and monetarily. Look for the real meat

1145
01:09:08,080 --> 01:09:11,519
Speaker 1: and don't just sit in the surface level stuff. It

1146
01:09:11,560 --> 01:09:13,920
Speaker 1: will not take you where you really want to go,

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01:09:14,560 --> 01:09:16,880
Speaker 1: and it will not take you to a lifestyle that

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Speaker 1: is sustainable for the rest of your life. So I

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Speaker 1: I love you, Denise, Thank you so much for coming

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Speaker 1: on the show girl. I loved every minute of it.

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Speaker 1: Catch you guys next time. Peace, big thank you for

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01:09:30,760 --> 01:09:33,800
Speaker 1: listening to this episode of the Dropping Gyms podcast. This

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Speaker 1: show is executive produced by Adrian Scott and me Debbie Brown.

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Speaker 1: Our theme music was created by producer Day one and

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Speaker 1: the poem that you heard at the beginning of the show,

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Speaker 1: well that was created especially for us by award winning

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Speaker 1: poet and I'mbieca for If you have a quick moment

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Speaker 1: right now, please hit subscribe on the show and if

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Speaker 1: you like what you heard, take it a step further

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Speaker 1: and give us a five star rating. Until next time

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Speaker 1: you connect with me on I G at Debbie Brown

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Speaker 1: or my website debbie brown dot com. Be blessed, M.