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Speaker 1: just been very purposeful about be even present and like

428
00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:30,600
Speaker 1: leaning into that he I know that he started listening

429
00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:35,440
Speaker 1: to this, so he's probably going to listen like even

430
00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:38,959
Speaker 1: just our conversation, and it's it feels so much more

431
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:42,639
Speaker 1: purposeful than it's ever felt, especially this early on in

432
00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:46,680
Speaker 1: our relationship. So um yeah, yeah, but you probably don't

433
00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:49,879
Speaker 1: even know how not present you were before, do you

434
00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:53,199
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Yeah, Like you're actually setting so

435
00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:56,439
Speaker 1: much intention by putting your phone down saying I'm not

436
00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 1: going to do work right now and it's been time

437
00:23:58,280 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 1: with him. I'm going to focus on him. That's what

438
00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:02,040
Speaker 1: i want to do. And so like it's like your

439
00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:04,200
Speaker 1: energy is just geared towards that, so it can take

440
00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 1: your relationship and your intimacy so much deeper. Yeah, And

441
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:11,119
Speaker 1: you know what's funny is it's like some of the

442
00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:16,280
Speaker 1: people that um not I mean that's our jobs are weird,

443
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:18,119
Speaker 1: but like if if it were like a normal job,

444
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 1: the people that I report to like clients and people

445
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,560
Speaker 1: that are like I work under like there are some

446
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:25,520
Speaker 1: of the ones who are most excited about me being

447
00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:28,920
Speaker 1: in this relationship too. So it's like yeah, but it's

448
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:33,200
Speaker 1: like it it helps give me license to be promiseful

449
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 1: in that way too, um, because it can be really scary.

450
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:39,199
Speaker 1: It's like you never want your personal life to like

451
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:41,399
Speaker 1: get in the way of your work. But in the

452
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:44,159
Speaker 1: same breath, like you should never want your work to

453
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:46,240
Speaker 1: get in the way of your personal life either, Like

454
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:49,240
Speaker 1: there should be a very healthy balance. And I don't

455
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:52,199
Speaker 1: think I've ever had that, you know, um, because I

456
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 1: do love what I do. So I've been able to

457
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 1: tell myself probably like a codependence with work, you know,

458
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:00,480
Speaker 1: Like I've been able to tell myself like I don't

459
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:02,960
Speaker 1: need that because I have this, but like the truth

460
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 1: is this human being Like we need that sort of

461
00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:10,399
Speaker 1: connection and you know, and right now I feel like

462
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 1: it's really weird, like hand motion. I'm like, what is

463
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:17,200
Speaker 1: that organism? Like what it's just like hand motion thing

464
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 1: we're doing here. We just need like the collection of

465
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:25,520
Speaker 1: human beings. Yeah, And I was gonna say too, it's

466
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 1: so interesting because I think we all convince ourselves like,

467
00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:30,239
Speaker 1: I've had so many seasons of life like this too,

468
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 1: where I was like I'm so all my ship. I

469
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:36,440
Speaker 1: am like killing it at work. But it ends up

470
00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:39,280
Speaker 1: that you're not really showing up as a full person

471
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:42,679
Speaker 1: because you're only working. And so I think we lose

472
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:47,080
Speaker 1: like parts of ourselves in that way and in that realm.

473
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:49,639
Speaker 1: And so you might be actually showing up better for

474
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 1: work too, because you're being more intentional with your time,

475
00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:55,479
Speaker 1: more purposeful. You're going and filling your cup up and

476
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:58,200
Speaker 1: like taking care of yourself and your personal life as well,

477
00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:01,160
Speaker 1: and so when you show up, you're like more excited

478
00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 1: and have a better energy towards work too. I want

479
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 1: to know what. Okay, Well, my word for the year

480
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:09,680
Speaker 1: is dare, which is also one that we made. We

481
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:11,439
Speaker 1: just made this month our words for the year, so

482
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:16,439
Speaker 1: dare and purpose and um, there was one moment at

483
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:18,439
Speaker 1: the beginning of the month where I was like I

484
00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:24,679
Speaker 1: want to quit everything. I just got scared again, and um.

485
00:26:24,800 --> 00:26:27,199
Speaker 1: I actually was talking to my friend Amy, she's on

486
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:29,680
Speaker 1: the Bobby Bones Show, and she she's been on the

487
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 1: podcast multiple times. She actually put up an episode about

488
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 1: this on her podcast this week or month. It was

489
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 1: about Um, this kind of neurofeedback therapy that I started doing,

490
00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:45,679
Speaker 1: and it is like basically brain I call it my

491
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:47,960
Speaker 1: brain doctor. But she go and like they hook you

492
00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:52,560
Speaker 1: up to this electro magnetic force field energy thing. I'm

493
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:54,640
Speaker 1: making it sound way more woo than it is. It's

494
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 1: very scientific. But um, when I went in, I found

495
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: out that nine percent of my brain is asleep or

496
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,760
Speaker 1: hasn't been asleep, which is why I'm having such a

497
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:10,679
Speaker 1: hard time like overcoming such like some obstacles, especially with work. Um,

498
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:13,040
Speaker 1: because I've had some trauma around that recently, and I've

499
00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 1: had COVID multiple times, which they said can really make

500
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 1: your brain kind of react like PTSD. And so when

501
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 1: she hooked me up and I found that out, it

502
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 1: was very relieving. Um. But then you start into the

503
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:28,639
Speaker 1: process and it's actually really easy there. But you just

504
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:32,600
Speaker 1: sit there. It's not like anything happened, but being hooked

505
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:36,159
Speaker 1: up to that, and like when she hits certain points

506
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,600
Speaker 1: in my brain, like I'll literally just physically start crying.

507
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 1: It's so weird. But having a word and like having

508
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:44,919
Speaker 1: someone say to you, yeah, this is PTSD, this is

509
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 1: why you don't feel like yourself or this is why

510
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:50,320
Speaker 1: you can't get over this thing. Um, I don't know.

511
00:27:50,359 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 1: It was like so freeing to me. And I've only

512
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 1: done two sessions so far, but I'm finding that my

513
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:57,800
Speaker 1: brain is opening back up. And like I told you,

514
00:27:57,880 --> 00:27:59,440
Speaker 1: it's been hard for me to even think of words

515
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:02,200
Speaker 1: sometimes on the podcast, like or if my brain gets

516
00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 1: too tired, I cannot like you said, you said it

517
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,000
Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago. Has she even making up

518
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 1: words this whole time? And I probably was, but um,

519
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:16,680
Speaker 1: I'm feeling like myself and just like coming back. And

520
00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:20,439
Speaker 1: one of the ways that I felt like just really

521
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:23,959
Speaker 1: blocked was social media because I had some stuff happened

522
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 1: a couple of years ago around that where I was

523
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 1: just getting so much hate and death threats and all

524
00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:31,200
Speaker 1: this stuff and I just couldn't really like exist that way.

525
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 1: And like it made me be like, how I'm maybe

526
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 1: I just need to not do social media, And that's

527
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 1: essentially what I've done over the past couple of years.

528
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 1: But it was a huge part of my business that

529
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 1: I built, and um, it was a really great way

530
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 1: that I got to connect with the listeners and um,

531
00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:50,240
Speaker 1: just the followers on Instagram is main my main thing,

532
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 1: but um, it's actually the only one I do. I

533
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 1: don't know, I said, I'm anything. Um anyway, I just

534
00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 1: missed that piece of it. And I also was like,

535
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 1: I don't want to just waste the stuff that I've built.

536
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 1: It's also how people find out what podcasts we're doing,

537
00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 1: you know. And so anyway, I've really been working this

538
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:12,000
Speaker 1: month at just opening back up and like putting myself

539
00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 1: out there. And there was a day where I posted

540
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:16,440
Speaker 1: something and I just started sobbing. I think I texted you.

541
00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 1: I was like, this is It's nothing. It's not like

542
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:24,840
Speaker 1: I'm posting anything crazy, but it can be so triggering

543
00:29:24,880 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 1: and scary to me still, and that's just me being honest.

544
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:30,400
Speaker 1: And people might think I'm crazy, but I think it's

545
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 1: just yeah, PTSD and it's finest and so the brain

546
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:37,120
Speaker 1: therapies help and clear that out. Basically, it's like our

547
00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 1: brains are crazy. They have these neuropathways, and when something

548
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 1: traumatic happens, it um you stuff it like to get

549
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: yourself out of the paint. Your brain like tries to

550
00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 1: cover it, and then it goes around that wound, so

551
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 1: it starts operating on a different pathway, which then makes

552
00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 1: you not able to like function normally and so that

553
00:29:56,960 --> 00:29:58,480
Speaker 1: was why I just felt like I couldn't be myself.

554
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:01,360
Speaker 1: So I'm really excited about that, and it's helping me

555
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 1: be very daring, which is a small, one small step

556
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:11,080
Speaker 1: for you know, it's sucking step from me. Um, And

557
00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:15,400
Speaker 1: so yeah, I'm back back on Instagram. Bitches watch that

558
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 1: this is neuropathway therapy, Like does it clear those blocks?

559
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:27,280
Speaker 1: So base, it's so crazy because hook up certain points,

560
00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 1: like in my last session, we did nine, which I

561
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:31,800
Speaker 1: think is a lot, Like I'm exhausted for days after.

562
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 1: It's really weird. But um, she'll put like there's an

563
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 1: O C D point that when she even put her

564
00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 1: finger on that on the top of my head, I

565
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:44,680
Speaker 1: started to like panic. So it's obviously something I'm gripping

566
00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:47,479
Speaker 1: too because I'm trying to like control things because I'm scared.

567
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 1: Our brains are just like trying to protect us. So

568
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 1: I've been living in fight or flight, which I think

569
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 1: a lot of people probably have after COVID because it

570
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,560
Speaker 1: was just such a collective trauma and so many people

571
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:01,920
Speaker 1: lost their jaw observe, you know, like crazy shit happened

572
00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 1: during that time in the last couple of years, and

573
00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:06,960
Speaker 1: so I think we're all just in survival mode trying

574
00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 1: to get by, but our brains learned that, and so

575
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:14,200
Speaker 1: like the path that it would go, it goes around it.

576
00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 1: And so basically when you hook up it, you watch it,

577
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:20,360
Speaker 1: it's like on the map. It's going up and down

578
00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 1: and all around and all these things. And then it

579
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 1: evens out it like finds the path again. And then

580
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 1: a couple of days went by and I was like,

581
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 1: oh my god, I literally feel more clear headed. Also,

582
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:34,360
Speaker 1: if you've had COVID a bunch of times, you know,

583
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:37,480
Speaker 1: or even once and you just had a really bad case,

584
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:40,640
Speaker 1: the brain fog is real like that. It's so real.

585
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 1: It really took me out. And I've had it five times,

586
00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 1: which I'm laughing about, but it's really probably pretty bad

587
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:50,240
Speaker 1: for my body. Um, and this is one of the

588
00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 1: things that like long term brain effects, Like they're finding

589
00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 1: this to be a real thing. It's called lens l

590
00:31:57,840 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 1: eaten s if you guys look it up. But I

591
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:03,240
Speaker 1: think that's the kind of therapy or nearer feedback therapy

592
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,320
Speaker 1: would be another thing to look up. I got to

593
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:08,720
Speaker 1: Harmonized Brain Center in Nashville and it's I love them,

594
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:11,480
Speaker 1: So go check out. You can go check out Amy

595
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 1: Brown's um four Things podcast. She did a podcast with

596
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 1: our therapist, the Sherry, and they totally like break down

597
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 1: the actual way to describe this. But for me, it's

598
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 1: like going in there and doing more therapy, but it

599
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 1: feels like different kind of therapy, but opening myself up

600
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:30,600
Speaker 1: to that and then taking some action steps and really

601
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 1: being like, I really want my life back. I want

602
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:37,720
Speaker 1: myself back, and I want to keep evolving and growing obviously,

603
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 1: but I just want to like be in control of

604
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 1: my own brain. I guess wouldn't be the way to

605
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:47,720
Speaker 1: say that, So that's the way I'm doing it, one

606
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 1: step at a time. It's so wild how smart people

607
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 1: are and they can figure this sh out. I think

608
00:32:54,760 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 1: it's wild how our brains work. Like I'm just like fascinated. Anyway, Um, okay, quickly,

609
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:06,920
Speaker 1: we got so many messages from you guys with your words,

610
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 1: and so I'm gonna go through as many as I

611
00:33:08,320 --> 00:33:12,000
Speaker 1: possibly can really quickly. If you haven't created a word

612
00:33:12,040 --> 00:33:15,080
Speaker 1: for the year, it's something like, I just think it's

613
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 1: really helpful and ship and I really break down how

614
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 1: it worked in our lives last year, and it is

615
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:22,800
Speaker 1: really interesting to look back and see that your year

616
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:25,480
Speaker 1: was really affected by it. Um that if you haven't

617
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:27,800
Speaker 1: done it. To me, it's way better than a resolution.

618
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 1: Highly recommend it um. Here are some of the words

619
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 1: that I got live consistency, confidence, patience, intentional, thankful, understanding, patience. Uh,

620
00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:47,120
Speaker 1: that's the ones that just gratitude, persevere health, movement, grit um,

621
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:53,959
Speaker 1: everything will work for me self, freedom, water, intentionality, confidence, power, present,

622
00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 1: winning comes together. No, no, I love that one presence

623
00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 1: into self care, release, liberated peace, recovery, abundance, balance, awake, expansion, love,

624
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:13,840
Speaker 1: home creation, release, he'll calm, intention another, abundance, purge. I

625
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:15,799
Speaker 1: could go on, but you guys get the picture. It

626
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 1: can be anything, well whatever, Like just sit with yourself,

627
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 1: get quiet with yourself, and like ask your body in

628
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 1: your mind what it is you want for the year

629
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 1: and set a word and just picked the word and

630
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:29,839
Speaker 1: take steps to live in it. Every month. I think

631
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 1: that's what we did this month. Do you feel like

632
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:38,799
Speaker 1: you come from it? I think I did, sweatshirt. I did,

633
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:43,080
Speaker 1: I got my purpose sweatshirt. Yeah, I mean I definitely

634
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:47,319
Speaker 1: feel like I have been following my word a lot

635
00:34:47,360 --> 00:34:49,520
Speaker 1: better in this month than I did the whole last year,

636
00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 1: like when we talked about at the top of the year,

637
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:56,319
Speaker 1: like it was it felt a little bit more hot

638
00:34:56,360 --> 00:35:00,240
Speaker 1: in the hindsight, which maybe is a good lesson, like, um,

639
00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 1: you know, for us to not beat ourselves up about

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Speaker 1: like feeling like we're like just drilling that word all

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Speaker 1: the time. Like maybe just setting the word and doing

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Speaker 1: your best to remember it and yeah, because I feel

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Speaker 1: it wasn't like and I was like, oh, it was clarity. Um.

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Speaker 1: I think that even by just setting it, like there's

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Speaker 1: probably you know, some sort of goal that um, you know,

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Speaker 1: at least your subconscious is aware of it. So will

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Speaker 1: you set the insition you put it out there and

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Speaker 1: it still happens. I think it's interesting that your word

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Speaker 1: is purpose and you felt like you're living in it

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Speaker 1: more because connected right yep? Okay, yeah, do you have

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Speaker 1: anything you can leave the listeners with? Just like that

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Speaker 1: question not a mess I'm gonna kill you. That's not

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Speaker 1: a real death threat, you guys. I don't know of those. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm going back to the brains and are like now

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Speaker 1: I guess I gotta pay for this at the point,

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Speaker 1: we're wishing you a happy album. Really this week with

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Speaker 1: hope you keep your head on straight. And as you

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Speaker 1: guys are going into the weekend and you're living on

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Speaker 1: the edge, I hope you always remember too. Casuo pretty

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Speaker 1: seamless on my end. We did. We did a great job.

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