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Speaker 1: You've got to wait.

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Speaker 2: Freads show is on the hottest morning show.

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Speaker 3: Listen to this kid. Listen to this kid?

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Speaker 4: Whose kid do you think it would be making his

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Speaker 4: own TikTok video talking about how he's the Fred Show.

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Speaker 4: I'm not the Fred show. He's the Fred Show? How true?

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Speaker 5: What are you doing right now?

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Speaker 6: That said the Friend Show? Yeah show, you're on the show. Sorry, yeah,

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Speaker 6: what about Uncle Fred?

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Speaker 1: He's not the thread.

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Speaker 7: That show.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, there you go. I'll be honest with you.

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Speaker 4: I think people would listen to that before they listen

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Speaker 4: to Yeah. Yeah, I love that, I love you.

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Speaker 3: I love that kid. He show I had the Friend Show.

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Speaker 8: I didn't know where he started saying that. He was

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Speaker 8: just he just like he'll take justice phone all the time.

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Speaker 8: Fortend he's making videos like hey guys, it's a freend show.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, what did you say?

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Speaker 9: Because when I'm over there, I whisper in his ear.

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Speaker 8: Instagram exactly like you be watching too many tiktoks.

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Speaker 4: Me he's been watching. He learned how to sell promote. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: it's the Fread Show. This is what's trending. I just

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Speaker 4: pulled up this news story in this like video of

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Speaker 4: a news anchor. I'm doing some story about Ron de

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Speaker 4: Santis and Disney or something bopped up and this woman.

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Speaker 4: I almost took a job working with this one. It

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Speaker 4: was very random and Tampa, Florida. I was going to

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Speaker 4: be a news anchor. Can you imagine that that's here,

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Speaker 4: let's here. Well, nobody wasn't gonna be like serious news.

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Speaker 3: It was like this.

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Speaker 4: The whole idea was that this woman was going to

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Speaker 4: do the serious news and I was going to be

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Speaker 4: like the you know, moron or something. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I was going to be like the comic for yeah right,

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Speaker 4: oh yeah, Like she would talk about something that I'd

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Speaker 4: say what I thought about it or whatever. It was

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Speaker 4: pretty unconventional, and I remember I went to this. I

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Speaker 4: went to Tampa for the interview, and the guy that

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Speaker 4: ran the TV station was like, yeah, this is unconventional,

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Speaker 4: but dude, I've been here for thirty years. I'm not

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Speaker 4: going anywhere, man, so you know, you got no risk here,

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Speaker 4: nothing to worry about.

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Speaker 3: I didn't take the job. A week later they fired

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Speaker 4: Oh no, and not for that, but I'm saying, like,

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Speaker 4: if I had taken this job to do this like unconventional,

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Speaker 4: the next person would have come in and been like

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Speaker 4: it was I would have quit my other job, you know,

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Speaker 4: move to Tampa, only for these people to be like

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Speaker 4: taxes or something. I don't know whatever news I was

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Speaker 4: talking about it, and I don't think that would have

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Speaker 4: worked out too well. Yeah, everything happens for a reason.

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Speaker 4: You know, I'm not a news anchor, after all, I

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Speaker 4: get to pretend to be one. And what's trending you

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Speaker 4: every day? But the purpose of the story. Oh another thing,

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Speaker 4: I've been meaning to bring this up. Yeah, I found

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Speaker 4: out this amazing thing. Okay. So I was watching a

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Speaker 4: It was like a clip talking about top Gun Maverick, okay,

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Speaker 4: and they were talking about the pilot. So in the movie,

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Speaker 4: Tom Cruise sits in the back seat of it at eighteen,

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Speaker 4: and there's a former Blue Angel that sits in the

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Speaker 4: it look like it was Tom Cruise, like he wore

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Speaker 4: his head, and a whole thing. That's the dude I

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Speaker 4: flew with when I flew with the with the Blue Angels.

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Speaker 4: So the dude that flew the airplane in Top Gun

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Speaker 4: Maverick is the same dude that I got a ride

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Speaker 4: Lieutenant blide On what he is now commander or something.

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Speaker 4: Frank Wiser is a guy's name. But I was like, dude,

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Speaker 4: that's a guy's a movie star. He flew Tom Cruise

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Speaker 4: around and he was Tom Cruise. Yeah, that's a fun fact,

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Speaker 4: French fun fat. So there's two news stories in a row.

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Speaker 4: I should have saved him. I should have strung out

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Speaker 4: the new stories course of the whole show. You know,

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Speaker 4: well you're not a news anchor, so no, no, exactly,

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Speaker 4: I'm not. I know it could have been. Yeah, I know,

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Speaker 4: well there's nothing in it. There's never anything in a teleprompter.

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Speaker 3: Trust me.

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Speaker 4: I'm looking at it all the time, like this is

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Speaker 4: something like something funny. You should pop up for me

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Speaker 4: to say. Nothing ever happens all of this though, because

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Speaker 4: of this story, I guess this is in Miami, Florida,

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Speaker 4: a guy is accused of pulling an eighteen inch machete

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Speaker 4: at a bar after being denied another karaoke song. He

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Speaker 4: just wanted one more song. Guy named Travis Jordan looks

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Speaker 4: a little bit like low Wayne Connam. He has got

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Speaker 4: some face tattoos and those are lovely. He faced a

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Speaker 4: breach of piece due to disorderly conduct in connection with

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Speaker 4: the incident which occurred at Kennedy's Lamp Post tavern in

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Speaker 4: Cape Canaveral. So they responded at the bar before two

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Speaker 4: pm on Sunday and found him unsteady on his feet,

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Speaker 4: probable because apparently he just wanted one more karaoke song

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Speaker 4: and they said no, and so he pulled out a knife.

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Speaker 4: Have you ever felt that aggressive about much of anything,

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Speaker 4: not to mention a karaoke song?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I didn't do it. I felt it, but

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Speaker 1: I didn't.

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Speaker 4: You really wanted one more? Oh my god?

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Speaker 9: Yeah, you know, I'm serious about everything I do, but

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Speaker 9: I would never pull out a knife.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, not very nice.

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Speaker 3: What's your go to karaoke song?

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Speaker 9: Changes by Tupac And usually I like do it as

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Speaker 9: a duot with one of my friends.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, okay, all right, you guys karaoke people. Oh

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Speaker 4: you know, I'm a karaoke bag.

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Speaker 4: Well, I mean I've heard you on the radio, but

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Speaker 4: I didn't know if you liked it, was that was

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Speaker 4: just something that was exclusive to our show, or if

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Speaker 4: you were out there doing it in the streets. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 4: it's a tour coming this summer. But yes, you get

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Speaker 4: the street to Calumet City and is there a karaoke

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Speaker 10: No, No, there's not one that I frequent But you know,

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Speaker 10: I take karaoke very serious.

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Speaker 4: We have to aspeak to him because he's the one

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Speaker 4: who eats out for dinner every night. Yeah, he knows,

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Speaker 4: he knows which which bars. Alrighty you a karaoke guy, Jason.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. I usually did some like Anaconda or asked is

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Speaker 4: fun to do with big?

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah yeah.

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Speaker 4: I had no idea that there was this much enthusiasm

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Speaker 4: for karaoke in this room. But I should I should

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Speaker 4: have done this. I should have known because you're you're

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Speaker 4: You're the star. You know, when you're you and karaoke,

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Speaker 4: you're right there center stage. Everyone has to look at you.

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Speaker 4: I should have known that.

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Speaker 3: That was That's the reason I don't like karaokes, believe

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Speaker 4: I don't want to know.

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Speaker 8: When Jason does, he's like, I don't need any words.

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Speaker 8: That's great.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I know. You don't look at me for karaoke.

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Speaker 4: Last time I was in a.

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Speaker 12: Karaoke room, one of those rooms that you rend, my

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Speaker 4: Oh No. The people who like karaoke, they like to

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Speaker 13: They like.

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Speaker 1: No, that's not why we like at all.

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Speaker 9: I like to do it with like friends on stage

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Speaker 9: and like everybody gets in like.

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Speaker 4: I want to look at me. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: How could you like karaoke because and not like everyone

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Speaker 4: staring at you. That's the entire point of it, because.

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Speaker 1: We like the music.

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Speaker 14: Yeah, give me.

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Speaker 3: Everyone else has.

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Speaker 4: I don't know if you're aware of this, but the

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Speaker 4: whole bar has to hear.

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Speaker 1: It's not just in your rooms you have everyone up

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Speaker 4: They read the whole room just well that we would

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Speaker 4: have fun.

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Speaker 1: We don't need any of you.

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Speaker 4: That's the only one I would do karaoke if I

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Speaker 4: I'd run my own karaoke machine. I don't know what

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Speaker 4: did I call it? Whatever, I prefer karaoke master man.

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Speaker 4: I run my own machine up, pour my own drinks.

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Speaker 4: No one can hear.

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Speaker 9: I did karaoke like when it was still during COVID

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Speaker 1: That's funny, and you had to keep your mask on.

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Speaker 3: That sounds legal.

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Speaker 4: Minnesota, So yeah, I'm sure they were fun all the regulations.

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Speaker 1: At least they were covering the moment.

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Speaker 4: Had our master on.

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Speaker 4: Not only is the borrow open, but we're going to

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Speaker 4: and your little particles go all over the budlets everywhere,

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Speaker 4: But no more than coffee filters here to save the day.

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Speaker 4: And nothing goes through a coffee filter. Calin's entertainment report

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Speaker 4: is on The Bread Show.

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Speaker 9: In her new Netflix special, Monique seemingly came out.

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Speaker 1: As bisexual, and she shared the.

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Speaker 9: Story of what it was like when she told her

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Speaker 9: husband and business manager, Sidney Hicks, too, so she was

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Speaker 9: she was she had tears, I mean she was crying.

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Speaker 9: She made a joke out of it. He said, you know,

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Speaker 9: be me too. She did add, though, that she has

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Speaker 9: a gay uncle who was rejected by her family, including

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Speaker 9: her beloved grandma, who refused to accept that her son

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Speaker 1: So when she saw that she got scared.

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Speaker 9: Monique said through tears that she had secret thoughts and

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Speaker 9: fantasies for years, didn't share them out of fear of

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Speaker 9: disappointing her late grandma, who was a devout Christian. My

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Speaker 9: name is Monique is out now on Netflix if you

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Speaker 9: do want to watch. And she said she's not all

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Speaker 9: the way. Lets me and she's just a little bit,

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Speaker 9: so she's by.

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Speaker 4: Would that hurt your feelings if you were dating a

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Speaker 4: man or married to a man, Caitlin and he came

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Speaker 4: to you or Kiki or Paulina and was like, I

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Speaker 4: want to include a man and in this relationship, or

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Speaker 4: I want to include another woman or something, would that

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Speaker 4: hurt your feelings?

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Speaker 5: Like?

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Speaker 4: Would you feel less than you would what if it

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Speaker 4: were I want to include a man. The woman part

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Speaker 4: I could see because because you're saying you could be

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Speaker 4: saying I'm not completely fulfilled by you as a woman.

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Speaker 4: I want another woman. But if someone were to say

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Speaker 4: I want to include a man, really, what they're telling

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Speaker 4: you is that that's what's inside of them, you know

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Speaker 3: Like them.

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Speaker 1: I've never done it.

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Speaker 4: I have to do it. It's not quite like that,

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Speaker 9: People say that, yeah, Sticky has it.

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Speaker 4: I've never tried.

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Speaker 3: I'm making this up.

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Speaker 4: Of course. Are you as hurt or the same, hurt

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Speaker 10: Like you go find your man, I'm gonna go find

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Speaker 4: Like? Do you really? Do you really this man?

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Speaker 4: I can hardly maintain one relationship. I don't need to

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Speaker 4: Why is it more insist another text? Why is it

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Speaker 4: No one said that, literally, nobody said that. Yeah, I

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Speaker 4: So you know the whole Monique story this morning about

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Speaker 3: How do you relate to that?

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Speaker 16: So well, first of all, love you guys, love your show.

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Speaker 4: Thank you Tom.

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Speaker 17: I am actually a bisexual male and my wife was

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Speaker 17: I felt like that it was one hundred percent cheaty.

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Speaker 17: But it's just something that I want to explore every

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I love that you can be honest with her.

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Speaker 4: I love that.

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Speaker 18: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and are not honest? Yeah, I agree, I agree,

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Speaker 4: And I guess that's what I'm getting at, is like,

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Speaker 3: But thank you, John, have a great day, man.

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Speaker 5: You do the same.

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Speaker 4: Thanks, thank you for listening. Hey, Kayla, good morning, Kayla.

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Speaker 4: How are you okay? Kayla? Okay, Now be careful here

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Speaker 19: My point for the whole situation with the threesome.

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Speaker 20: I've actually had a.

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Speaker 19: Husband that wanted that and I kept telling him, like

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Speaker 19: I kept sending him off, but I I wanted.

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Speaker 5: To say no.

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Speaker 19: phone her account on my.

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Speaker 4: Phone, so I have no wait minute, so he didn't.

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Speaker 4: This wasn't discussed with you previously, So no, no, no, no,

444
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Speaker 4: that's shenanigans, like he's up, he's up.

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Speaker 1: It was.

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Speaker 19: It was, though, But the thing is is that what

447
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Speaker 19: happened and the relationship.

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Speaker 4: I kind of did a little bad thing because I

449
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Speaker 4: was tired and over him.

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Speaker 1: But once he found out.

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Speaker 19: About that situation, he said, all you had to do

452
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Speaker 19: was just tell me and we could have had this.

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Speaker 4: All you had to do is just ask me to have,

454
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Speaker 4: you know, have an open Basically, he's saying you could

455
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Speaker 4: have asked for an open relationship because he's saying he

456
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Speaker 4: wants one with your friend.

457
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Speaker 10: Yeah, he crazy girl, send him back to the streets please.

458
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Speaker 19: Yeah, papers everything was gone. I had could not deal

459
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Speaker 19: with him. But then like years later, after I'm done

460
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Speaker 19: with him, I could have though about it.

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Speaker 21: I'm like, let me have let me have one of

462
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Speaker 21: your friends.

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Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, wow, right do it.

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Speaker 4: Let's put the game on two players. If I'm dating somebody,

465
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Speaker 4: she hollers at my friends, we got problems. I'm with you,

466
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Speaker 4: we got problems.

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Speaker 1: That sounds like they have.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, God, yeah for real?

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Speaker 16: Like why would you.

470
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Speaker 1: At work?

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Speaker 19: I was at a toilet at work when I saw this,

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Speaker 19: and I told my friend, I said, Yo, what is

473
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Speaker 19: going on?

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Speaker 16: He was cracking up.

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Speaker 17: Right.

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Speaker 4: Thank you for all those details. I appreciate that. That

477
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Speaker 4: really makes the story. Have a great day. Okay. I'm

478
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Speaker 4: still calling you anytime you want, Kayla, and you are

479
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Speaker 4: welcome here all the time. Thank you. Hey Sarah, Hello.

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Speaker 3: Hi Sarah, good morning, Welcome. What do you want to say?

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Speaker 16: I am a bisexual woman, and I think that the

482
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Speaker 16: whole wanting to be with the opposite sex is a

483
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Speaker 16: big stereotype and a stigma with the LGBTQ community. Like

484
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Speaker 16: I like monogamy. If I'm with a woman, I'm monogamous.

485
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Speaker 16: If I'm with a man, I'm monogamous. There's there's no

486
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Speaker 16: reason to go outside of the relationship just because you're bisexual.

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Speaker 4: I see what you're saying so like, there's the there's

488
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Speaker 4: the concept from those of us who aren't or don't

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Speaker 4: know much about it, that you somehow need to be

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Speaker 4: fulfilled by both all the.

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Speaker 16: Time, right, and that is not true?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, now that's fair.

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Speaker 4: I guess. Yeah, I guess I've never really thought about it.

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Speaker 4: I I don't assume that you're all like, because you're

495
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Speaker 4: by sexual, you're ravenous and you.

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Speaker 1: People do though.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I know I believe that.

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Speaker 16: Yeah, we like and a lot of lesbian women do

499
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Speaker 16: not like to date bisexual women because they are scared

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Speaker 16: that they're gonna yes what a man can offer.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I would be intimidated by the connection

503
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Speaker 4: that women have with other women. I'm being really ho it.

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Speaker 4: I know this makes me sound insecure, but I mean,

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Speaker 4: if I'm being honest, I guess I figure that you

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Speaker 4: guys connect in a way that I don't with you.

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Speaker 4: But then again, you know, in this case, I don't.

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Speaker 4: I guess you don't have to have both. It could

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Speaker 4: be one or the other. You love love is.

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Speaker 16: Love is love lived emotionally with a man or a woman.

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Speaker 4: That's what he was talking about in Hamilton, was bisexuality.

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Speaker 4: When he was like, love, his love, his love. He's

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Speaker 4: talking about swapping and seeing him. You should dissect it a

514
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Speaker 4: little further. That's what he was getting out.

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Speaker 5: Great.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you, Sarah, have a good day.

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Speaker 16: Thank you, Love you guys, I love you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. Hamilton is you know, I've never seen it, but

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Speaker 4: that's I'm just my interpretation. But that's what you're talking about. Yeah, no,

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Speaker 4: never see. You know, musicals make me uncomfortable. It makes

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Speaker 4: me uncomfortable.

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Speaker 1: For dear Evan Hanson, the sad One.

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Speaker 4: I got drug to that, and I just I didn't.

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Speaker 4: I didn't hate it. I got dragged. Is it drug

525
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Speaker 4: or dragged?

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

527
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Speaker 1: But I thought you're gonna see you got drugged.

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Speaker 3: I was like, well that's not too Yeah I did.

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Speaker 3: But it was good.

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Speaker 1: It was up at Hamilton. I didn't know what was

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Speaker 1: going on.

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Speaker 4: It was good. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: They hold the whole like and and they.

534
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Speaker 4: You don't like theatric the best, the best of the best, right,

535
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Speaker 4: it was Broadway. They're really good, but like, I don't know,

536
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Speaker 4: sometimes it's like the overact. Oh, it's everything so like overdone.

537
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Speaker 4: I'm like, I don't know. It makes me uncomfortable. Ben

538
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Speaker 4: Prett Platte. Sorry, no, everybody but him. He had just left.

539
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Speaker 4: It was his understudy, was the one with Jordan Fisher. No,

540
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Speaker 4: but we don't know. I don't know. Anyway, my sister

541
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Speaker 4: wanted to go and cried the whole time and it

542
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Speaker 4: was whatever.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: For some reason she found that fun. Hey Megan, Yes,

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Speaker 4: Hi Megan, good morning, Welcome. What do you want to say?

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Speaker 17: So?

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Speaker 21: I listen to you guys every morning and love the show,

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Speaker 21: But a lot of your viewpoints are very monogamous, and

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Speaker 21: I come from a non monogamous world, and I just

550
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Speaker 21: would love to make it more known that non monogamy

551
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Speaker 21: is a very acceptable relationship format. It's worked better than

552
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Speaker 21: any monogamous relationship I have ever been, and we are

553
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Speaker 21: the healthiest couple. We have open communication about everything.

554
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Speaker 1: It's it works. I love that for you.

555
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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, we're just monogamous, but we we totally get I'm

557
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Speaker 9: aware of it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, has explored that really, So I think that's where

559
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Speaker 4: we're coming from.

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Speaker 3: It's just our own personal perspective.

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Speaker 21: People about that and the way we come about it,

562
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Speaker 21: and we explain it is like, Okay, you like your

563
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Speaker 21: favorite food, so you like cake.

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Speaker 16: Do you want to eat that.

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Speaker 21: Every day for the rest of your life and it's

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Speaker 21: the only thing you ever get to eat?

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Speaker 1: Not really, honestly, No, Right, I love my husband.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean what flavor is?

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Speaker 22: Right?

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Speaker 3: What are we talking about? A? Yeah?

571
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Speaker 21: Gets a good one?

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Speaker 19: Right?

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Speaker 3: Where where is it from? I mean, let's talk about

574
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Speaker 3: this from you.

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Speaker 18: I love it.

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Speaker 1: That's that's working for you.

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Speaker 4: That's awesome.

578
00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:17,239
Speaker 3: No, I appreciate you that perspective too.

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Speaker 4: I don't.

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Speaker 3: I don't think anyway. It's just because none of us

581
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Speaker 3: really know that perspective.

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Speaker 21: So but I didn't either until I met my husband

583
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Speaker 21: and he had been in that world before me, and

584
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Speaker 21: he's like, here's my lifestyle. You can take it, you

585
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Speaker 21: can leave it, but I'm the way I am. And

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Speaker 21: I was like, all right, let's explore this.

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Speaker 23: Will you call us and you speak for that perspective? Absolutely?

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Speaker 23: The one Megan, somebody was trying to pitch me on

589
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Speaker 23: this thing. And I don't know if she made up

590
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Speaker 23: the term, but it was called I think she did.

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Speaker 4: Actually the kitchen table. Uh, non monogamy. Have you heard

592
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Speaker 4: about this?

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Speaker 21: Yes, there are different types of monogamy and kitchen tables

594
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Speaker 21: where everybody in the relationship comes together and it's down

595
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Speaker 21: a talks where there's other types of monogamy where it's

596
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Speaker 21: like I have a girlfriend and my husband and my

597
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Speaker 21: girlfriend don't talk, or kitchen tables everybody is in it together.

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Speaker 4: I'm I'm eating cake. Everyone's eating cake. Everybody's eating cake.

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Speaker 4: You know, Yes, non monogamy is one thing, but I'm

600
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Speaker 4: not necessarily sure for me that I need to sit

601
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Speaker 4: down and have brunch with you, you know, or like

602
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Speaker 4: like is it like child like joint custody where you

603
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Speaker 4: would like you drop the kids off and make an exchange,

604
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Speaker 4: like you get to spend the night with me and

605
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Speaker 4: then we have brunch and then it's like, oh, I

606
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Speaker 4: guess it's your night. Sea. I mean, I don't, I

607
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Speaker 4: don't know, like to me that I don't. I don't

608
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Speaker 4: need to necessarily look the guy in the eye or

609
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Speaker 4: girl or whatever.

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Speaker 3: But that's just me.

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Speaker 4: Thank you, Megan, have a good day.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she was telling me this.

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Speaker 4: She's like, yeah, you know, we we would go out

614
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Speaker 4: with our own people and then we'd all hang out together.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, no, did she know you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? No, No, clearly she's.

617
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Speaker 4: Been inviting you, like, oh, to the kitchen table.

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Speaker 3: She's like, well, if we date, I just want you

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Speaker 3: to know that I'm non monogamous. I'm like, okay, all right, well,

620
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Speaker 3: so be it.

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 4: I basically I think anybody on a dating app is

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Speaker 4: non monogamous until you honestly like I don't. I don't

624
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Speaker 4: assume that anyone is only seeing or doing anything with

625
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Speaker 4: me until we decide that we're not. I just assume

626
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Speaker 4: that single till you're married. But what I don't need

627
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Speaker 4: to do is hang out with the other folks that

628
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Speaker 4: you're evaluating, you know, and like compare notes and people

629
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Speaker 4: are listening now, they're probably mad you're making fun of it.

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Speaker 4: I'm not making fun of it. It's not for me.

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Speaker 4: I would not like that. I'd be sitting there eating

632
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Speaker 4: my pizza or whatever. Be like, you and I know

633
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Speaker 4: the same thing, and I don't need to know that.

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Speaker 4: We don't need to talk about that. Yeah, yeah, not

635
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Speaker 4: for you, Kiki. No, No, not for me, not even

636
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Speaker 4: over some nice air fried salmon, as long as it's

637
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Speaker 4: not cooked for twenty minutes.

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Speaker 14: The Yeah, they talk better than they say. These are

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Speaker 14: the radio blogs on The Fred Show. Okay, Jason Brown,

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Speaker 14: please thank.

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Speaker 11: You so yesterday I did something that I don't normally

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Speaker 11: do but I'm trying to work on with myself, is

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Speaker 11: asking for help from people. So I know that like

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Speaker 11: everyone in this room and a lot of people in

645
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Speaker 11: my life will just help me at the drop of

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Speaker 11: a hat.

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Speaker 1: Too, aus I surround myself.

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Speaker 4: Yes, okay, so it's a joint blog.

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Speaker 3: Blogs.

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Speaker 11: So yesterday I had to we did this promotion where

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Speaker 11: we had to send out a bunch of prizes all

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Speaker 11: at once, and so yesterday I was like, I have

653
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Speaker 11: these two heavy boxes. I can't do it myself, Like

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Speaker 11: I have to walk downstairs. It was a two man job, right,

655
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Speaker 11: But again I'm by myself. So I went over to Kaylin.

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Speaker 11: I was like, Hey, do you mind coming down with

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Speaker 11: me and coming to FedEx and we're going to package

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Speaker 11: all these prizes up and send them out whatever, And

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Speaker 11: with not even thinking, she was like, Yeah, where we

660
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Speaker 11: gotta go, what we gotta do?

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Speaker 4: Whatever?

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Speaker 11: And it just made me feel really good because people

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Speaker 11: will help you if you just ask for it. Like

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Speaker 11: a lot of times I and it felt weird, not

665
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:50,199
Speaker 11: just to you, but just asking anyone to help me

666
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 11: do something that I should do myself. Right, So I

667
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:56,159
Speaker 11: think that's like a lot of self I don't know.

668
00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:59,120
Speaker 11: Reflection work that I'm trying to do is like depend

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Speaker 11: on people because you can, because I surround myself with

670
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:01,880
Speaker 11: really good people.

671
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Speaker 4: So we went downstairs, we went.

672
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Speaker 11: To fedhiks, we figured out how to ship stuff. We

673
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 11: lived our best you know, radio pro emotions, intern life,

674
00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:11,879
Speaker 11: baggaging and sending stuff out. So kudos to Kalin, and

675
00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:16,120
Speaker 11: thank you for helping me with a big task yesterday.

676
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Speaker 3: Really, actually, most.

677
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:19,359
Speaker 4: It's kind of selfish, I guess, but I feel like

678
00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 4: most people in your circle that care about you would

679
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:27,119
Speaker 4: rather that you ask for help than sort of be

680
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 4: anxious and I don't know, a little edgy because you're busy,

681
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:32,400
Speaker 4: but you didn't ask for help, you know what I mean?

682
00:28:32,440 --> 00:28:33,920
Speaker 3: Like, oh yeah, it happens all the time.

683
00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:35,920
Speaker 4: I think where people they're like, well, I don't I'm

684
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:37,680
Speaker 4: going to take this all on myself, and I don't.

685
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:38,120
Speaker 3: I don't.

686
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 4: I'm not going to inconvenience anybody else by asking, you know,

687
00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 4: for assistance. But then that person's kind of like short

688
00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 4: and stressed and not all that pleasant to be around.

689
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:50,240
Speaker 4: And it's like, but if you need help, want to

690
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:52,960
Speaker 4: just ask for it. That makes everybody's life better. Might

691
00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 4: be a little extra work for me, but then you know,

692
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:57,280
Speaker 4: maybe maybe that takes some of the stress off of

693
00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 4: you and you're more pleasant to be around.

694
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Speaker 11: For myself, I never want to feel like I'm burdening

695
00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 11: people with my stuff or like I'm not competent enough

696
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 11: to like take care of something.

697
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 3: But what are you talking about?

698
00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 4: You make me approve all of your nude shots for

699
00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 4: grinding all the time, but you're only.

700
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 3: Whoa, what are you talking about that you're talking You're

701
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 3: asking me an airbrush all the time.

702
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Speaker 4: It's like, you know, yeah, I mean because it's stuff

703
00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:22,640
Speaker 4: I don't know how to do.

704
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 11: You just have such a good skill at picking out

705
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 11: my best angles that.

706
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:29,280
Speaker 4: Like photoshop, queen, I mean, you wouldn't be You can't

707
00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 4: when you look at our photoshops. You can't even tell

708
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 4: their photoshop like it's so good.

709
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Speaker 11: Yeah, I don't know if put It is ready to

710
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 11: see all this, you.

711
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 4: Know, I don't know when you're ready.

712
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 9: I'm ready, okay, Yeah, So Jason, So this is what

713
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:42,960
Speaker 9: I'm working on in therapy right now, and I write,

714
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 9: this is so crazy that you just brought that up

715
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:48,520
Speaker 9: because I had therapy yesterday and she like wants to me,

716
00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:50,960
Speaker 9: I'm just like a natural caretaker, but like I spread

717
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:53,440
Speaker 9: myself thin and then I don't ask for help. And

718
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:56,760
Speaker 9: she said when she like, she gives me little challenges

719
00:29:56,840 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 9: or thing to try, and she goes and next, I

720
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Speaker 9: want you to ask someone for help when it comes up.

721
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 9: And she said she's never never gotten a quicker reaction

722
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Speaker 9: from a patient of just a look of disgust like

723
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:07,640
Speaker 9: I was like asking for help.

724
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Speaker 1: I said that audibly. I'm like, I don't do that,

725
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 1: and she's like, what.

726
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 4: Do you mean?

727
00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 9: And I said, but then I started to think about it,

728
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 9: and there's only really two people in my life that

729
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 9: I feel comfortable asking for help, and you were one

730
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 9: of them, because I feel like we are similar. And

731
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 9: also there's like a like a reciprocal nature, like I

732
00:30:25,080 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 9: feel like, well, I feel like we both hate it,

733
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 9: but I feel like you, like I know you're down

734
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:32,120
Speaker 9: to help, like I know that, like you'll get me later,

735
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:34,840
Speaker 9: and vice versa. And it was you and my friend Hillary,

736
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Speaker 9: And I don't know why that is, but I'm like

737
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:40,640
Speaker 9: really really uncomfortable, but I'm glad there's I at least

738
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 9: have people that because I can't I can't ask for

739
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Speaker 9: help like I don't.

740
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Speaker 4: I don't want it. I don't Rufio West for whatever

741
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 4: he wants. You just got to be more like him.

742
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Speaker 1: I wish I would.

743
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Speaker 4: I don't ask for help a lot either. No, but

744
00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:56,320
Speaker 4: he'll ask for stuff though, That is what I'm saying. No,

745
00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:58,080
Speaker 4: but I'm just saying, you've got to just be more

746
00:30:58,120 --> 00:30:59,920
Speaker 4: like Rufio and just just I want to be.

747
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 9: I want to be because I do spread myself really

748
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 9: thin and I don't ask for help from people until

749
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 9: I'm like hanging by a thread, like it were scary territory,

750
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 9: Like if I'm asking for help or emotional support, like

751
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 9: we should be worried.

752
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:14,840
Speaker 4: So well, that's bad for you and it's bad for

753
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,200
Speaker 4: whatever the task is very much, you know, like so

754
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:18,800
Speaker 4: nobody really wins in there very much.

755
00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:21,000
Speaker 9: So but I mean, I'm really messed up and I'm

756
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:21,920
Speaker 9: working on it.

757
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:25,640
Speaker 3: But to the club, but yeah, really messed up.

758
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 4: Yeah.

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00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 9: I just I want to like start asking people for help,

760
00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 9: but I just don't really know how.

761
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 4: Who's the most well adjusted on the show, would you say, Kiki? Oh,

762
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 4: thanks to what? I don't know.

763
00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 3: I'm just saying in general, like roof, I mean, no, no,

764
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Speaker 3: you're kind of messed up.

765
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Speaker 4: Like, who has the best mental health? I would say, yes,

766
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Speaker 4: I would.

767
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Speaker 10: I would have the man who cried on the floor

768
00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:49,080
Speaker 10: because he lost the throat down.

769
00:31:49,520 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 8: Yeah, he has like I'm able to like, I don't

770
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:56,000
Speaker 8: know what's compartmentalize or whatever it's called them, Like, I

771
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 8: don't like it'll bind me one second, then I could

772
00:31:58,400 --> 00:31:59,160
Speaker 8: just forget about it.

773
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 9: Next, doesn't know what like anxiety feels like. He doesn't

774
00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 9: know what depression feels like. It's a beautiful life over.

775
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 4: There for that, it feels beautiful life.

776
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 3: You have a temper though, don't which would y?

777
00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:11,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, that one's in my family.

778
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 3: You have a temper.

779
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 4: And I'm not saying critically, We're just talking about who's

780
00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 4: the most messed up in the room.

781
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 9: So in terms of struggling though, internally he's like he's good,

782
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 9: he's gucci. His parents had a real nice marriage, you know.

783
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:23,440
Speaker 1: Beautiful life.

784
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:28,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, years the same loved you and they.

785
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 1: Loved each other.

786
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, I love that. Great. You know, it's all making

787
00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 4: sense now.

788
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:48,280
Speaker 2: More Fread Show. Next, the Freads.

789
00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:52,520
Speaker 4: Show is on Talk is being shamed for the size

790
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:56,040
Speaker 4: of her diamond ring, her engagement ring. So I guess.

791
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 4: She posted a video on TikTok and she was talking

792
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 4: about how how she was now engaged and she was

793
00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 4: constantly thrown off by looking at her finger and seeing

794
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 4: that there was a ring on it. Now, I think

795
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:08,719
Speaker 4: that was the point of the video, which I think

796
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 4: a lot of people can relate to. You know, you

797
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:12,440
Speaker 4: don't wear a ring on that finger your whole life,

798
00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:14,200
Speaker 4: you know, for the most part, and then you get

799
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 4: engaged and now there's a ring. I think men talk

800
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 4: about this all the time. You know, a lot of

801
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 4: men don't wear rings, and then they get married and

802
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 4: they wear a ring and they're like, whoa, this is weird.

803
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 8: Yeah, it's very like it when you first put like

804
00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 8: like see my wedding day, Like it's trying to come off,

805
00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:30,200
Speaker 8: like you're just playing with it the whole time, like

806
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 8: you're spinning in and stuff like that, because this is

807
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:34,600
Speaker 8: the first and only ring I've ever worn. So yeah,

808
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:36,760
Speaker 8: like our wedding day, you just see videos of me

809
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:39,400
Speaker 8: just like the whole time.

810
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:42,600
Speaker 3: And so that was the point of the video, I guess.

811
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:45,560
Speaker 4: And then people start going in on how small the

812
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:49,240
Speaker 4: diamond is, like making fun of it, and it is small,

813
00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:51,760
Speaker 4: but like why would you ever say that to someone

814
00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:54,560
Speaker 4: that's their engagement ring, Like you don't know that, you

815
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 4: don't know anything about it. Maybe that's an heirloom, Maybe

816
00:33:57,320 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 4: that was somebody else's ring. Maybe that's all they can afford.

817
00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:03,280
Speaker 4: Maybe maybe they made a smart financial decision and they

818
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 4: bought the ring they can afford, as opposed to the

819
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:08,280
Speaker 4: ring that they want everyone to see, you know, to flex.

820
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:10,759
Speaker 4: And so here was her response to that.

821
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:13,160
Speaker 22: So I wasn't going to reply to any of these comments,

822
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:17,560
Speaker 22: but there's actually been quite a few, and it's not okay.

823
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:19,920
Speaker 1: Really, this is my.

824
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:24,239
Speaker 22: Room that I chose, my things they proposed to me with.

825
00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:30,160
Speaker 22: And here's a close up, as you can see, diamond

826
00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:36,280
Speaker 22: on the front, diamonds on the back, diamonds.

827
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 4: It's twenty twenty three.

828
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 22: Let's stop judging people for their choices of jewelry, clothes, anything.

829
00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 1: I chose this room.

830
00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 22: It's timeless, it's classy, it's elegant. It's my style and

831
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 22: I love it. You don't have to wear it. It's

832
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 22: not yours. So let's stop making comments like this on

833
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:57,719
Speaker 22: people's videos.

834
00:34:57,960 --> 00:34:59,920
Speaker 4: And if you don't like the room, if you don't.

835
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 22: Like the TikTok, just move on see because there's just

836
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:04,319
Speaker 22: no need for it.

837
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 3: I love it. Like, what are you gonna do?

838
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:07,759
Speaker 4: You're gonna make fun of somebody whose engagement ring and

839
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:09,200
Speaker 4: when they get to run out and buy another one.

840
00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:11,360
Speaker 3: I mean, I guess some people might, but that's awful.

841
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:13,160
Speaker 3: But that's the sentiment right there.

842
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:15,880
Speaker 4: You don't like something, you don't like something, move right along,

843
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:18,080
Speaker 4: Like why do we need to know that you don't

844
00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:20,480
Speaker 4: like it unless you spend your money or it hurt

845
00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 4: your family or your life. Why do we need to

846
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 4: know that you don't like someone else's ring? Yes, Paulina,

847
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:25,480
Speaker 4: I was.

848
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:27,280
Speaker 12: Just gonna say, like, when I was younger, I watched

849
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 12: the movie bamb I'm sure we all have right and

850
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 12: I believe there's a quote, I'll really.

851
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:32,439
Speaker 4: Do it kids, No, you want to test to see

852
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:34,400
Speaker 4: if I can still cry? That might do it? Anything

853
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:37,800
Speaker 4: involving mommy's and yeah.

854
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:38,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, no.

855
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:40,920
Speaker 1: Our movies were really like messed up and.

856
00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:43,760
Speaker 4: Hunting, by the way, I have bad memories of hunting anyways.

857
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:44,760
Speaker 4: But what was the quote?

858
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:47,400
Speaker 12: The one thing I took away was if you have

859
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:49,440
Speaker 12: nothing nice to say, don't say nothing at all.

860
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:51,759
Speaker 4: I think Humper says. That's what Barbie said, if you

861
00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 4: got nothing nice, if you have nothing nice to say,

862
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:56,120
Speaker 4: don't say nothing at all.

863
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 12: Correct, And that's always just stuck with me so hard,

864
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:01,200
Speaker 12: like so hard. Yeah, how are you gonna shame somebody

865
00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:02,759
Speaker 12: for their ring? You don't know the story behind it?

866
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 12: Plus who cares?

867
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 4: That's not your ring? Like, if I could, honestly, can

868
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:06,799
Speaker 4: I be.

869
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:08,719
Speaker 12: Real, if I can go back and pick my ring,

870
00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 12: I would have picked a smaller ring, just to be

871
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:13,360
Speaker 12: completely honest. I don't think the whole show and Pony

872
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:14,719
Speaker 12: matters as much people think it does.

873
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:15,360
Speaker 3: The whole show and.

874
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 4: Whole Pony Show, the whole damn pony and the show. Yeah,

875
00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:22,359
Speaker 4: wow you, I mean you've had it to really nail

876
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 4: some important quotes this morning today guys, if you don't,

877
00:36:25,960 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 4: you don't have nothing Nicesta, they don't say nothing at all. God,

878
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:32,760
Speaker 4: I love you. I agree.

879
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 3: That's our positive message of the morning.

880
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:34,799
Speaker 1: Thank you.

881
00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:40,080
Speaker 4: Amen. The show and pony showing pony, How does that

882
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:44,120
Speaker 4: even remotely make sense to you? Pony show?

883
00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:49,800
Speaker 14: It's a dog and pony shows. Forgot the dog? Where's

884
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:54,040
Speaker 14: the dog? The frend show is on? It's stay or go?

885
00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:56,320
Speaker 4: Jacob?

886
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 5: Hi?

887
00:36:57,400 --> 00:36:57,959
Speaker 3: How you doing?

888
00:36:58,880 --> 00:36:59,040
Speaker 5: Hi?

889
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 4: Good morning Jacob so this is called starego. And normally

890
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 4: we are are debating someone's relationship issue and then and

891
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:11,000
Speaker 4: then you know, we all sound off on whether you

892
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:14,759
Speaker 4: should the direction your life should say and h we're

893
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 4: always right and so, but today is before I understand

894
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:21,279
Speaker 4: this is not as much of a of a go,

895
00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:23,360
Speaker 4: stay or go kind of debate.

896
00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:29,160
Speaker 15: Right, I'm calling for a relationship advice, but I'm not

897
00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:32,840
Speaker 15: the one who's considering leaving at all. Okay, I just

898
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 15: kind of want to get your opinion that what do

899
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 15: you think that I should do in this situation?

900
00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 4: Right? Because that's yeah, why would you not call a

901
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:42,600
Speaker 4: morning radio show to ask what's we love that you do?

902
00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:43,719
Speaker 3: We love that many people do.

903
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:46,800
Speaker 4: So let's hear a Jacob explain what's going on, Paulina

904
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 4: the mentor fread the mentor, the relationship mentor. Okay, because

905
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:55,400
Speaker 4: when it comes to relationships, this guy knows what to do.

906
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:56,320
Speaker 3: Go ahead, please.

907
00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 4: Now go go go shut up? What you're talking about jobs,

908
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:08,560
Speaker 4: Jacob turn Yeah.

909
00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:13,760
Speaker 15: So recently I'm at this work conference with me and well,

910
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:16,879
Speaker 15: a bunch of my coworkers and I we we got

911
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:19,319
Speaker 15: pretty drunk and then we ended up going back to

912
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 15: my room and you know, we just had a nightcap

913
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:22,719
Speaker 15: or two.

914
00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:26,360
Speaker 4: It happens all the time. How many people are we

915
00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:30,320
Speaker 4: talking about in this room? It was about eight of us. Okay,

916
00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:32,359
Speaker 4: all right, a little room party going on. All right,

917
00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:32,799
Speaker 4: I got it.

918
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:38,799
Speaker 15: And one of my female co workers she just passed out,

919
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:44,000
Speaker 15: like in my room. So I actually told everyone to go,

920
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:47,319
Speaker 15: and then I was pretty drunk, but I slept on

921
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:52,359
Speaker 15: the couch and I gave her my bed. So absolutely

922
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 15: nothing happened between us. We're just friends. But now I'm

923
00:38:57,120 --> 00:38:59,400
Speaker 15: kind of wondering if I should tell my girlfriend no

924
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:00,759
Speaker 15: or not.

925
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 4: No, no, no, there is nothing good that will come

926
00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:06,560
Speaker 4: from that. You're telling me right now, Jacob safe place.

927
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:10,719
Speaker 4: You did not nothing happen, nothing, nothing inappropriate. There was

928
00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:13,080
Speaker 4: no nudity, there was no touching, there was no JTC.

929
00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:13,920
Speaker 4: There was nothing.

930
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:14,880
Speaker 5: No.

931
00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:16,839
Speaker 15: No, I wouldn't call into the radio to like put

932
00:39:16,840 --> 00:39:17,680
Speaker 15: myself on blast.

933
00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:19,840
Speaker 3: Well if something did happen. We've heard a lot of

934
00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 3: things nobody.

935
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, I am.

936
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:26,240
Speaker 15: I'm always honest with well, I'm usually honest with my girlfriend.

937
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:28,799
Speaker 15: But I'm worried that she's not going to believe that

938
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 15: nothing happened like you just said, and.

939
00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:35,360
Speaker 4: That no, no, No, there's nothing good that's going to

940
00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:38,680
Speaker 4: come from revealing this. If you're telling me nothing happened,

941
00:39:38,719 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 4: If that's really what happened, then then then then we

942
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 4: move right on. Don't Why would he Why would he

943
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:54,960
Speaker 4: talk about this friend? What is the game? I tell you,

944
00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:59,319
Speaker 4: I have no go ahead, khad, I mean, what is

945
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:00,040
Speaker 4: your o?

946
00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 10: Friend just happens to be in the same room with

947
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 10: the co worker at a Christmas party or something.

948
00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:06,920
Speaker 1: And then she goes, oh, thank you so much for

949
00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:07,399
Speaker 1: letting me.

950
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:10,399
Speaker 10: Crash in your room, gonna come out, it's gonna go up,

951
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 10: Like what do not take the risk?

952
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:14,080
Speaker 4: You have to tell her and that.

953
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 9: Yeah, somebody's gonna get a talk about the hotel party

954
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 9: have to come up.

955
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:25,360
Speaker 4: That doesn't necessarily have to come up. It doesn't have to,

956
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:29,600
Speaker 4: but you will. Nothing happened. This guy says, nothing happened,

957
00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 4: And you know what, This goes back to a debate

958
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 4: that we've had many times on this show. Even if

959
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 4: something did happen, which it didn't, but he gets to

960
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 4: live with that, He gets to live with that, but

961
00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:42,279
Speaker 4: she doesn't. He doesn't have to mess up her life

962
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:44,359
Speaker 4: too because he screwed up on a business trip. But

963
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 4: that didn't happen. So we're not even talking about this.

964
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 1: Trust.

965
00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 9: Wouldn't you believe your partner if they told you the

966
00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:51,720
Speaker 9: full story? Like I would literally text right away, like, yo, babe,

967
00:40:51,920 --> 00:40:52,719
Speaker 9: I'm asking out.

968
00:40:52,760 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 1: She's in the bed. I just want to let you

969
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:54,879
Speaker 1: know what's going on.

970
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 4: How I be on FaceTime?

971
00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:56,839
Speaker 5: Right?

972
00:40:56,920 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, for sure?

973
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 1: Well in the morning that I would say, I mean,

974
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 1: you were.

975
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:06,640
Speaker 10: Too drunk, So are you sure? Because how drunk are you?

976
00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:10,040
Speaker 4: I am not condoning cheating at all. Cheating is not good.

977
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:12,360
Speaker 4: No one should ever cheat. He's saying he didn't cheat.

978
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:15,440
Speaker 4: That it was two people passed out in separate spaces

979
00:41:15,480 --> 00:41:17,359
Speaker 4: in one room. Nothing good is going to come from

980
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:21,239
Speaker 4: that conversation. I think sometimes we look the other way.

981
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 4: She is none that your girlfriend is none the wiser. Fred,

982
00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:29,200
Speaker 4: what if you had a girlfriend? I don't want to know.

983
00:41:29,560 --> 00:41:31,319
Speaker 4: I guess that is what it comes down to. She

984
00:41:31,360 --> 00:41:33,359
Speaker 4: didn't cheat on me, I don't want to know.

985
00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:35,080
Speaker 12: I understand that, and she didn't cheat on you in

986
00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 12: the scenario either, So the one.

987
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:38,000
Speaker 4: That I'm making up.

988
00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:41,080
Speaker 12: So here's my thing about that. Though it comes up later,

989
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:42,600
Speaker 12: you're the only person in the room that didn't know

990
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:44,320
Speaker 12: about this party, I didn't know people crashing.

991
00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:45,239
Speaker 4: You're the only one.

992
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:46,839
Speaker 3: Well, then it comes back to that trust that candle

993
00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:47,879
Speaker 3: was just referring.

994
00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:49,239
Speaker 12: To, Well, don't you feel little goofy like you could

995
00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 12: have just told me, babe, I could have just spend like, oh,

996
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:53,600
Speaker 12: nothing happened, like you you know, there's a way a

997
00:41:53,600 --> 00:41:55,400
Speaker 12: mile to make yourself not look shady.

998
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:57,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's transparency.

999
00:41:58,000 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 4: Everything comes back around.

1000
00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 9: I would be so appreciative if if my boyfriend was like, hey,

1001
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 9: this is the situation.

1002
00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:04,359
Speaker 1: I'm good, babe, this.

1003
00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:06,239
Speaker 4: Is I think it could also start a whole fight.

1004
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 3: That's not necessary.

1005
00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:09,400
Speaker 4: It's gonna start.

1006
00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying, Just.

1007
00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:14,399
Speaker 10: FaceTime in the moment, maybe go okay, she's sleeping your room. Okay, great,

1008
00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 10: go sleep in a lobby.

1009
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:18,479
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. That's what i'm saying.

1010
00:42:19,080 --> 00:42:20,960
Speaker 4: Let her have the room, Go get another room, Go

1011
00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:22,719
Speaker 4: get another thing, Go sleep in your buddy's room. I

1012
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 4: don't you know what. It's just just just not happen.

1013
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:29,879
Speaker 1: Lie, right, lie, it's a lie.

1014
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:31,240
Speaker 4: How are you lying?

1015
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:32,240
Speaker 3: How are you lying?

1016
00:42:34,239 --> 00:42:35,040
Speaker 1: It was lions?

1017
00:42:36,400 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 4: Nobody knew to ask you. If it never comes up,

1018
00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:41,320
Speaker 4: how is it alive?

1019
00:42:41,400 --> 00:42:42,080
Speaker 3: It's not a lie.

1020
00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:45,320
Speaker 4: My god, omitting it's such a lie's.

1021
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:46,360
Speaker 5: It?

1022
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 4: Then it's a lie.

1023
00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:49,719
Speaker 8: I would rather have a conversation with that coworker be like, hey,

1024
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:51,840
Speaker 8: we know the situation, nothing ever happened.

1025
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:55,160
Speaker 3: Please don't bring us up. I think I think that's fair.

1026
00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:59,120
Speaker 8: Why it happens now you have I don't want to

1027
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:01,200
Speaker 8: have this conversation with my girlfriend, like, I know it's

1028
00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:02,400
Speaker 8: gonna probably start to fight.

1029
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:04,759
Speaker 4: Because you know your you know your significant others. Like,

1030
00:43:04,880 --> 00:43:06,440
Speaker 4: I know this is probably gonna start a fight. I

1031
00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:09,040
Speaker 4: know nothing happened. You know nothing happened. Let's just keep

1032
00:43:09,080 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 4: it that way.

1033
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:13,839
Speaker 1: You're making secrets with your coworker.

1034
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:15,839
Speaker 4: I just I just think to look, it's not an

1035
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:20,040
Speaker 4: ideal situation, right, it's not ideal, But nothing happened. He's

1036
00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 4: saying nothing. Now, now it's a different story. If they cheated.

1037
00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:26,800
Speaker 4: Now you have to have the debate do I tell,

1038
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:29,319
Speaker 4: do I not tell? Whose life? Do I mess up

1039
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 4: hers mind? Both of ours? That's a whole different conversation.

1040
00:43:32,800 --> 00:43:36,280
Speaker 4: And if you cheat in itself, that's deception. That's a lie.

1041
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 4: So then you're lying by omitting. There's nothing to omit

1042
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:43,120
Speaker 4: here because nothing happened. Right, Oh my god, How is

1043
00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 4: it any different than if we both fell asleep in

1044
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:47,439
Speaker 4: the backseat of a car on a road trip. How's

1045
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:50,960
Speaker 4: that any different? We fell asleep next to each other,

1046
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:55,160
Speaker 4: nothing happens. It's a big different. However, how your ahead.

1047
00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:55,319
Speaker 3: Was on friend?

1048
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:58,120
Speaker 1: My friend would know that I'm in a car with Fred.

1049
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:01,480
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, your boyfriend knew that his girlfriend knew he

1050
00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:02,279
Speaker 4: was on a business truck.

1051
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, not in the hotel with Lisa or whatever.

1052
00:44:06,360 --> 00:44:11,760
Speaker 4: I just now that you say it was Lisa, that Harlot.

1053
00:44:12,840 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 4: All right, Jacob, let me take some phone calls on this.

1054
00:44:14,800 --> 00:44:19,480
Speaker 4: Don't say a word. Yeah, do you walking into You're

1055
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:20,400
Speaker 4: walking into a bus?

1056
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:20,799
Speaker 3: Saw here.

1057
00:44:20,840 --> 00:44:23,480
Speaker 4: No, don't listen with a woman. Listen to the way

1058
00:44:23,480 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 4: I'm telling you.

1059
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:27,040
Speaker 8: He'll be calling back a few weeks later, be like, hey,

1060
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:28,360
Speaker 8: it's like, thanks for the advice.

1061
00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:29,960
Speaker 3: Guys. It's not worth it.

1062
00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:30,279
Speaker 14: Nothing.

1063
00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:32,440
Speaker 4: If nothing happened, it's not worth it. Thank you, Jacob.

1064
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:36,200
Speaker 4: Have a good day eight five five five, one one

1065
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:41,640
Speaker 4: o three five. Some things are just better like I do, Yes,

1066
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:43,719
Speaker 4: I do. Hey, babe, I'm really drunk, but there's a

1067
00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:45,839
Speaker 4: girl in my room. I'm going to bed exactly that's

1068
00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:48,839
Speaker 4: gonna go great, that's gonna go really well.

1069
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:50,719
Speaker 1: Your night.

1070
00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:57,160
Speaker 4: On a second, let me ask you an honest question. Yes, boy,

1071
00:44:57,320 --> 00:44:58,720
Speaker 4: and I want to be honest.

1072
00:44:58,760 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 3: Answer.

1073
00:44:59,120 --> 00:45:01,800
Speaker 4: Okay, thank you? You love him, you trust him. Yes,

1074
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:05,799
Speaker 4: he facetimes you drunk from a room in Toledo where

1075
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:08,759
Speaker 4: he's on a business trips, you know, for it's a

1076
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:11,920
Speaker 4: tougherware convention. Yes, and he's there to buy the latest

1077
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 4: and greatest in temperware. And he facetimes you from a

1078
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:16,879
Speaker 4: room and says, hey, this check back.

1079
00:45:16,920 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 5: Here.

1080
00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:19,880
Speaker 4: Fell asleep in my room. Yes, we were having a

1081
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:22,399
Speaker 4: quote unquote room party. She just happened to pass out

1082
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:24,840
Speaker 4: in my bed over here. I'm just gonna sleep on

1083
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:27,399
Speaker 4: the couch. You ain't. You are not going to go.

1084
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:31,319
Speaker 4: That's okay, no worries. See tomorrow you're gonna You're gonna go.

1085
00:45:31,480 --> 00:45:34,200
Speaker 4: Why was she in your room? Why is she's nobody else?

1086
00:45:34,320 --> 00:45:37,399
Speaker 4: Where's everybody else? Why are you drunk? Who is she?

1087
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:41,759
Speaker 4: What's going on? Have you done this before? It's gonna

1088
00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:45,960
Speaker 4: become this whole thing, and it's indefensible. It's because a

1089
00:45:45,960 --> 00:45:47,920
Speaker 4: lot of what you a lot of words gonna go

1090
00:45:48,480 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 4: There is no answer because it's irrelevant. No, it's not irrelevant.

1091
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:54,360
Speaker 10: You need to tell me, and you surely do not

1092
00:45:54,520 --> 00:45:57,400
Speaker 10: need to be making secrets with other people. And if

1093
00:45:57,480 --> 00:46:00,400
Speaker 10: my man called me from Toledo, Paulina, char jump the

1094
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:02,120
Speaker 10: car because you're going up there.

1095
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 3: You won't make it because it won't be anywhere near

1096
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:05,399
Speaker 3: charging episode.

1097
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 4: Been my car. I got you. We'll stop a lot.

1098
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:12,479
Speaker 1: We better take mine.

1099
00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:13,360
Speaker 3: I'll be honest.

1100
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:15,879
Speaker 4: In this day and age where we're at right now,

1101
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:17,960
Speaker 4: I would probably get another I'd probably just go get

1102
00:46:17,960 --> 00:46:19,360
Speaker 4: another room the same.

1103
00:46:19,440 --> 00:46:19,680
Speaker 16: Yeah.

1104
00:46:19,760 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 4: I mean, I really would just avoid the whole situation.

1105
00:46:22,000 --> 00:46:24,440
Speaker 4: But just for a lot of reasons. One because I'm

1106
00:46:24,440 --> 00:46:26,759
Speaker 4: in a relate if I were in a relationship too,

1107
00:46:26,920 --> 00:46:29,120
Speaker 4: because I don't want there to be any sort of

1108
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:31,319
Speaker 4: rumor about what. Because here's the other thing. All those

1109
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:34,360
Speaker 4: other people left the room party and it's just the

1110
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:36,200
Speaker 4: two of you, so people are gonna say stuff. So

1111
00:46:36,239 --> 00:46:38,080
Speaker 4: I would just be like, you know what, I'm sleeping

1112
00:46:38,120 --> 00:46:40,160
Speaker 4: in my my cowork whatever. I would just get out

1113
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 4: of that situation. But but but but nothing happened. And

1114
00:46:44,560 --> 00:46:46,800
Speaker 4: if we believe this man when he says nothing happened,

1115
00:46:46,800 --> 00:46:48,800
Speaker 4: then I don't know what the point is in telling

1116
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:49,360
Speaker 4: on yourself.

1117
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:52,560
Speaker 3: I really don't know what the point is.

1118
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:57,319
Speaker 4: You're you're you're walking into an armageddon them you're walking

1119
00:46:57,400 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 4: into a fire for no reason, because everyone's brain is

1120
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:04,880
Speaker 4: going to go a million different directions and it's not

1121
00:47:04,920 --> 00:47:07,240
Speaker 4: even necessary. It's going to be a fire.

1122
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:09,680
Speaker 1: If your coworker happens to tail me this year, was.

1123
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:10,320
Speaker 4: In your room.

1124
00:47:10,640 --> 00:47:13,240
Speaker 1: You didn't tell me, Okay, he's going to be some smoke.

1125
00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:13,520
Speaker 14: In the city.

1126
00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:16,160
Speaker 4: I don't even know why a person would say that, though,

1127
00:47:16,440 --> 00:47:18,360
Speaker 4: especially if they know you're in a relationship.

1128
00:47:18,360 --> 00:47:19,799
Speaker 3: But nothing happened. I don't know why.

1129
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:22,120
Speaker 4: At the holiday party the next year, she'd walk up

1130
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 4: and go, hey, thanks again for letting me say in

1131
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:25,319
Speaker 4: your hotel's.

1132
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:27,960
Speaker 9: Done it, Tobaulina, He said the wrong name about people

1133
00:47:28,080 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 9: like people get drunk and get loose.

1134
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:32,560
Speaker 4: Lived happens every day, I know. I don't. Yeah, thrown

1135
00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:37,719
Speaker 4: under the bus, Jim, good morning, welcome. Whoa that's the

1136
00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:42,160
Speaker 4: buzz saw? I was worried about right there, my god,

1137
00:47:42,360 --> 00:47:44,680
Speaker 4: are you in prison? Guard or are you in prison? Kim?

1138
00:47:44,719 --> 00:47:49,799
Speaker 4: Which one is it? Okay, you're in the car, So

1139
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:52,279
Speaker 4: what do you do in this situation? Do you do

1140
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:54,879
Speaker 4: you come clean that your coworker slept in your room

1141
00:47:54,920 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 4: but nothing happened, or do you just.

1142
00:47:58,760 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 13: I just let it go because people only admit to

1143
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:04,360
Speaker 13: things if they've done something wrong and they want to

1144
00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:05,120
Speaker 13: feel better.

1145
00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:08,080
Speaker 4: Yes. See, I would think if a woman came to

1146
00:48:08,080 --> 00:48:09,480
Speaker 4: if I'm dating a girl, she comes to me and

1147
00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:11,880
Speaker 4: she tells me this convolated story about whatever, I'd be like,

1148
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:14,000
Speaker 4: I don't know the whole story, Like this is a

1149
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:17,040
Speaker 4: cover up, Like exactly Kim's point. You're telling me part

1150
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:19,920
Speaker 4: of the story so that if it ever comes up,

1151
00:48:19,960 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 4: then that's the explanation. But nothing happened, so there's nothing

1152
00:48:23,160 --> 00:48:25,480
Speaker 4: to talk about. That's why you face time in the moment.

1153
00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:28,279
Speaker 4: It's not doing it part of the Thank you, Kim,

1154
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:32,920
Speaker 4: have a great day. Yeah you don't, don't. Hey, Lewis,

1155
00:48:33,040 --> 00:48:36,600
Speaker 4: good morning, Your morning, Lewis, What do we do here?

1156
00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 5: It's a double edged sword.

1157
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:42,560
Speaker 24: She's gonna she's gonna flip out, and he doesn't tell

1158
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:43,959
Speaker 24: her it's gonna be even worse later.

1159
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:46,160
Speaker 5: He damned he does, damn that he doesn't.

1160
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 4: Yep. So I say, we avoid the conflict at old

1161
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:50,160
Speaker 4: costs because there's nothing to fight about.

1162
00:48:51,880 --> 00:48:53,839
Speaker 5: Can avoid it and hope it don't, but if it does,

1163
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:55,000
Speaker 5: it's gonna be even worse.

1164
00:48:55,080 --> 00:48:57,200
Speaker 4: Yes, it is like why would ever, why would it

1165
00:48:57,200 --> 00:48:59,640
Speaker 4: ever come up? That's what I'm saying to you an example,

1166
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:05,160
Speaker 4: when you did that. Yeah, that's way different. He mistook

1167
00:49:05,160 --> 00:49:08,000
Speaker 4: a name. He mistook a name in your example because

1168
00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:09,839
Speaker 4: Paulina was dating more than one guy at the time.

1169
00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 1: True, he didn't know that the day didn't know that.

1170
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 4: Lou slips over here.

1171
00:49:13,200 --> 00:49:14,080
Speaker 1: He doesn't have to say a name.

1172
00:49:14,680 --> 00:49:17,759
Speaker 4: That's different than being like, hey, thanks so much for

1173
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:19,600
Speaker 4: letting me sleep in your room, in your bed that

1174
00:49:19,640 --> 00:49:21,800
Speaker 4: one time we got really drunk after the room party

1175
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:23,480
Speaker 4: at the hotel, Merry Christmas.

1176
00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 5: If the coworkers attracted to him, and.

1177
00:49:31,719 --> 00:49:34,240
Speaker 4: This is what I'm saying, This is what I'm saying.

1178
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:37,200
Speaker 4: Here we go, stretch himself, here we go. See now

1179
00:49:37,239 --> 00:49:39,759
Speaker 4: we've just spun it into this whole other scenario where

1180
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:43,360
Speaker 4: there are no answers because nothing happened. Lewis thank you,

1181
00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:46,279
Speaker 4: thank you as you called it, and people were like,

1182
00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:49,120
Speaker 4: this is why you're single. Fred. I'm like, no, I'm

1183
00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:52,040
Speaker 4: single because I don't want to deal with this. I

1184
00:49:52,080 --> 00:49:57,879
Speaker 4: didn't do anything. Hey, Amanda, by a man, you were saying, hey,

1185
00:49:57,880 --> 00:49:59,240
Speaker 4: love you to you're saying tell.

1186
00:50:01,280 --> 00:50:02,600
Speaker 1: Yes, Oh my gosh.

1187
00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 25: So because it's gonna be so so so much worse

1188
00:50:06,239 --> 00:50:09,760
Speaker 25: if like in passing at like a future company party

1189
00:50:09,880 --> 00:50:12,880
Speaker 25: or something, somebody that was at that hotel room says

1190
00:50:12,880 --> 00:50:16,400
Speaker 25: something just like really innocent and passing about her getting

1191
00:50:16,400 --> 00:50:19,480
Speaker 25: so drunk that she passed out, and like the girlfriends

1192
00:50:19,560 --> 00:50:21,520
Speaker 25: just sitting there like, wait, what happened?

1193
00:50:21,840 --> 00:50:25,480
Speaker 4: Why do I have rat ass employee coworkers? Why this

1194
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:26,880
Speaker 4: rat ass?

1195
00:50:26,920 --> 00:50:28,880
Speaker 9: I did it to a coworker the other day he

1196
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:29,640
Speaker 9: went on a trip.

1197
00:50:29,680 --> 00:50:30,960
Speaker 1: I didn't know it was a secret.

1198
00:50:31,280 --> 00:50:33,759
Speaker 9: I threw him under the bus because he told me

1199
00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:34,960
Speaker 9: he went, but I didn't know it was.

1200
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:38,239
Speaker 1: A secret, and he got in trouble the other day.

1201
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:41,800
Speaker 4: Well I want to hear that story later. But anyway, okay,

1202
00:50:42,040 --> 00:50:42,840
Speaker 4: you're gonna get.

1203
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:44,640
Speaker 24: In a fight either way, so just like, get in

1204
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:45,239
Speaker 24: the fight now.

1205
00:50:45,600 --> 00:50:46,439
Speaker 4: I love I.

1206
00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:47,360
Speaker 3: Guess all right, Amna?

1207
00:50:47,440 --> 00:50:50,360
Speaker 4: Thank you? Yeah, I don't know.

1208
00:50:51,160 --> 00:50:52,759
Speaker 3: Hey Lenny, how you doing, Lenny?

1209
00:50:52,760 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 4: Good morning?

1210
00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:54,920
Speaker 16: Yes, I'm good morning.

1211
00:50:54,920 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 4: How are you great? Thank you for listening, for calling?

1212
00:50:57,160 --> 00:50:59,520
Speaker 4: What what do we do here? Stayre goo not really a stairgo,

1213
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:01,920
Speaker 4: But do you tell about the coworker who passed out

1214
00:51:01,920 --> 00:51:04,399
Speaker 4: in your room and nothing happened? Or do you uh?

1215
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:07,000
Speaker 3: Or do you kind of pretend nothing it never happened.

1216
00:51:08,320 --> 00:51:10,359
Speaker 13: Well, I think one of the questions would be how

1217
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:11,640
Speaker 13: long ago did this happen?

1218
00:51:12,200 --> 00:51:15,160
Speaker 4: I'm assuming relatively recently, if it's on his mind. I

1219
00:51:15,160 --> 00:51:17,360
Speaker 4: didn't ask, but I'm assuming somewhat recently.

1220
00:51:18,760 --> 00:51:21,600
Speaker 13: If it was not that long ago, I would say tell,

1221
00:51:21,800 --> 00:51:25,839
Speaker 13: because just coming clean, I agree, is probably better. But

1222
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:28,720
Speaker 13: if it happened a while ago, that's going to cause

1223
00:51:28,800 --> 00:51:32,000
Speaker 13: a huge fight, because Okay, if it happened two months ago,

1224
00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:32,880
Speaker 13: why didn't you tell me?

1225
00:51:32,960 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 15: Then?

1226
00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:36,800
Speaker 13: Are you worried because something happened? And I'm going to

1227
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:38,120
Speaker 13: find out when I shouldn't.

1228
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:41,799
Speaker 4: I can't even imagine anyone i've dated calling him and going, yeah,

1229
00:51:41,800 --> 00:51:44,600
Speaker 4: there's this strong girl passed out in my bed, but

1230
00:51:44,680 --> 00:51:46,759
Speaker 4: nothing happened, And I'm just gonna see when the catch tall?

1231
00:51:46,840 --> 00:51:51,000
Speaker 4: Good good night? What how in the morning? A million questions?

1232
00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:53,319
Speaker 4: Why is she in your bed? How did she get

1233
00:51:53,320 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 4: in your room? Why did you think that was appropriate?

1234
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:57,319
Speaker 4: And then it becomes a whole sight about a bunch

1235
00:51:57,320 --> 00:51:59,520
Speaker 4: of stuff when nothing happened and nobody was harmed.

1236
00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:01,880
Speaker 3: Let me thank you?

1237
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:03,240
Speaker 13: Remember if nothing happened?

1238
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:05,759
Speaker 3: Well, see that we're really this is it?

1239
00:52:06,200 --> 00:52:06,279
Speaker 14: Now?

1240
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:08,520
Speaker 3: This is exactly why you don't say anything.

1241
00:52:08,880 --> 00:52:11,000
Speaker 4: This is exactly why you don't say anything because because

1242
00:52:11,000 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 4: it's a bunch of different scenarios. Well, how do you

1243
00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:14,960
Speaker 4: know nothing happened? Do you remember? And now you're mad

1244
00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:16,720
Speaker 4: because it could have happened. How did you put yourself

1245
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:18,799
Speaker 4: in that situation? How do you go to yet? There's

1246
00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:20,880
Speaker 4: a million different reasons why you could walk into a

1247
00:52:20,880 --> 00:52:23,520
Speaker 4: buzzsaw on this. But let me thank you, have a

1248
00:52:23,520 --> 00:52:26,040
Speaker 4: good day. I'm glad you called you two thanks. I

1249
00:52:26,120 --> 00:52:26,600
Speaker 4: don't like it.

1250
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:32,279
Speaker 3: Hey, Jessica, Hey, how's it going? Hey Jessica, good morning?

1251
00:52:32,320 --> 00:52:33,040
Speaker 4: What say you?

1252
00:52:34,520 --> 00:52:38,280
Speaker 18: I'm honestly conflicted, but I'm leaning towards not saying anything

1253
00:52:38,360 --> 00:52:41,040
Speaker 18: because I was in a similar situation with my boyfriend.

1254
00:52:41,320 --> 00:52:43,879
Speaker 18: He used to travel for work all the time, and

1255
00:52:44,719 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 18: there was an incident where a girl was and she

1256
00:52:48,080 --> 00:52:50,319
Speaker 18: didn't end up sleeping in his room, but they were

1257
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:52,759
Speaker 18: in the room together alone for a while, and he

1258
00:52:52,880 --> 00:52:54,680
Speaker 18: did tell me. And now it's two and a half

1259
00:52:54,760 --> 00:52:57,719
Speaker 18: years later and I still don't trust him. So I

1260
00:52:57,719 --> 00:52:59,680
Speaker 18: don't know if you want to create long last wi

1261
00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:02,920
Speaker 18: something that never even really happened.

1262
00:53:03,080 --> 00:53:05,080
Speaker 4: I mean, that's the same as I don't know saying

1263
00:53:05,120 --> 00:53:07,360
Speaker 4: that the co worker, my co worker flirts with me,

1264
00:53:08,000 --> 00:53:09,640
Speaker 4: you know, or something you come home my co worker

1265
00:53:09,640 --> 00:53:11,920
Speaker 4: flirts with me. It's like that could be totally innocent.

1266
00:53:12,000 --> 00:53:14,000
Speaker 4: But now every time you go to work, I'm thinking

1267
00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 4: in my head, I'm just thinking of different scenarios where

1268
00:53:16,200 --> 00:53:19,160
Speaker 4: it's like, sometimes I don't need to know everything because

1269
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:21,640
Speaker 4: it doesn't help me. Oh so someone still likes you

1270
00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:24,040
Speaker 4: at work. That's great. So every day you go to

1271
00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:26,319
Speaker 4: work and have meetings with this person. This person likes you,

1272
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:30,040
Speaker 4: and your significant other may have zero interest and may

1273
00:53:30,040 --> 00:53:31,520
Speaker 4: never cheat on you. But now in the back of

1274
00:53:31,520 --> 00:53:33,680
Speaker 4: my mind, it's like Chee's you get a new job,

1275
00:53:33,800 --> 00:53:36,120
Speaker 4: get a new job, she can't go work there anymore.

1276
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:38,239
Speaker 4: I don't like it that kind flirts with you every day,

1277
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:39,880
Speaker 4: and so now every day I'm tortured when you go

1278
00:53:39,880 --> 00:53:42,120
Speaker 4: to work. And I didn't need to know because that

1279
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:45,320
Speaker 4: doesn't mean that I'm gonna get cheated on. Thank you, Jessica,

1280
00:53:45,320 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 4: I have a great day, Chris.

1281
00:53:49,360 --> 00:53:50,240
Speaker 3: I Chris, good morning.

1282
00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:56,040
Speaker 4: Hey, what do you think should should he tell his

1283
00:53:56,080 --> 00:54:00,880
Speaker 4: girlfriend that a woman from a business trip room party

1284
00:54:01,040 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 4: fell asleep in his in his bed, or and he's

1285
00:54:05,560 --> 00:54:08,000
Speaker 4: all asleep on a couch. Or should he just pretending

1286
00:54:08,040 --> 00:54:08,800
Speaker 4: it never happened.

1287
00:54:10,480 --> 00:54:13,440
Speaker 24: The well, the thing is that they already happened, like

1288
00:54:14,320 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 24: a few weeks ago whatever, and he hasn't already told her.

1289
00:54:18,040 --> 00:54:20,279
Speaker 24: I would just leave it alone.

1290
00:54:20,760 --> 00:54:23,000
Speaker 26: If it would have happened like right down there, I

1291
00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:26,680
Speaker 26: would have just told my girlfriend, look, just so you know,

1292
00:54:27,520 --> 00:54:30,320
Speaker 26: she's sunk, she's pack on a bed, there's no fishing

1293
00:54:30,400 --> 00:54:31,200
Speaker 26: business going on.

1294
00:54:31,920 --> 00:54:32,480
Speaker 13: But in this.

1295
00:54:32,480 --> 00:54:36,040
Speaker 24: Situation, I mean, and plus on top that he can

1296
00:54:36,719 --> 00:54:38,919
Speaker 24: if we're brought up in the future, he had full

1297
00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:41,319
Speaker 24: common say look, I didn't do anything to this girl,

1298
00:54:42,000 --> 00:54:42,920
Speaker 24: so what the problem.

1299
00:54:43,520 --> 00:54:45,160
Speaker 4: Well, and then if it did come up, the girl

1300
00:54:45,200 --> 00:54:47,520
Speaker 4: would would would recount the same story. The girl wuld

1301
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:48,960
Speaker 4: be like, oh no, nothing happened. I was just a

1302
00:54:49,040 --> 00:54:51,120
Speaker 4: drunk idiot, you know. I mean, So if it did

1303
00:54:51,160 --> 00:54:53,680
Speaker 4: come up, then she can tell the truth too, because

1304
00:54:53,680 --> 00:54:54,400
Speaker 4: it's the truth.

1305
00:54:55,840 --> 00:54:56,080
Speaker 15: Right.

1306
00:54:56,840 --> 00:54:59,239
Speaker 4: I'll thank you, Christ, have a good day. Glad you called. Man,

1307
00:54:59,360 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 4: appreciate you, thanks for listening. People are like getting on

1308
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:05,040
Speaker 4: me to like Fred just hates confrontation. Fre It's not

1309
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:07,360
Speaker 4: like you to run from accountability. No, if it's me,

1310
00:55:07,600 --> 00:55:10,040
Speaker 4: I would probably try and get myself out of the situation,

1311
00:55:10,480 --> 00:55:13,000
Speaker 4: like I physically would would try and remove myself from

1312
00:55:13,000 --> 00:55:16,000
Speaker 4: that situation. But if I didn't for some reason and

1313
00:55:16,040 --> 00:55:18,799
Speaker 4: nothing happened, I just don't know what the hell I'm doing.

1314
00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:25,120
Speaker 4: Come and clean about something I didn't do. Sometimes the

1315
00:55:25,320 --> 00:55:28,680
Speaker 4: truth is too truthy.

1316
00:55:30,360 --> 00:55:30,480
Speaker 18: Now.

1317
00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:36,120
Speaker 4: Sometimes yes, yes, put that on a pillow, knit that

1318
00:55:36,239 --> 00:55:40,799
Speaker 4: in there, sell it on that seat. Jason, why on

1319
00:55:40,880 --> 00:55:43,240
Speaker 4: my little sheet here you've got. You were talking about

1320
00:55:44,200 --> 00:55:47,799
Speaker 4: how you had some recollection or some epiphany about how

1321
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:52,680
Speaker 4: old Mike the Mechanic was when he bought the house

1322
00:55:52,719 --> 00:55:55,160
Speaker 4: that you live in, versus what you were doing at

1323
00:55:55,160 --> 00:55:56,080
Speaker 4: that exact same time.

1324
00:55:56,120 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 3: What led to this epiphany?

1325
00:55:57,200 --> 00:55:57,840
Speaker 4: Please explain?

1326
00:55:58,080 --> 00:55:59,799
Speaker 11: So this is sort of like my party trick when

1327
00:55:59,840 --> 00:56:02,400
Speaker 11: I'm trying to explain like how my relationship works, and

1328
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 11: like the creepy ways it is, I guess it exists.

1329
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:08,920
Speaker 11: So he's fourteen years older than me and the house

1330
00:56:08,960 --> 00:56:10,720
Speaker 11: that we currently live in, the house that he bought

1331
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:15,279
Speaker 11: is right near in downtown tin Lee, near the roller rink.

1332
00:56:15,640 --> 00:56:21,479
Speaker 11: And the year he bought this house, like working can't

1333
00:56:21,480 --> 00:56:26,120
Speaker 11: afforda house, like not in school, like real big boy job, right,

1334
00:56:26,920 --> 00:56:31,560
Speaker 11: I'm in junior high being driven to the roller rink

1335
00:56:31,640 --> 00:56:34,640
Speaker 11: across the street for our skating party.

1336
00:56:34,320 --> 00:56:36,239
Speaker 4: That we would do it for the record.

1337
00:56:36,080 --> 00:56:38,760
Speaker 3: Mike did not like court you in said parking.

1338
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 4: You waited like twenty ten, twenty years. Yeah, but yeah,

1339
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:48,400
Speaker 4: so you were going, Yeah, you're thinking back on the

1340
00:56:48,440 --> 00:56:50,799
Speaker 4: age diffrench, Like, you know, when I was going to

1341
00:56:50,840 --> 00:56:53,120
Speaker 4: that roller skating rink, you were living here with other men.

1342
00:56:53,320 --> 00:56:56,080
Speaker 11: Yeah, well, at definitely I think he was living solo.

1343
00:56:56,120 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 4: But hey, I don't know. I was like twelve, so

1344
00:56:57,920 --> 00:56:59,000
Speaker 4: I don't know what he was doing.

1345
00:56:59,040 --> 00:57:02,400
Speaker 11: But yeah, when he bought his house, I was going

1346
00:57:02,440 --> 00:57:07,720
Speaker 11: to roller skating parties in sixth grade.

1347
00:57:08,400 --> 00:57:13,160
Speaker 4: I'm curious eight three, five, anyone listening now if you

1348
00:57:13,160 --> 00:57:16,360
Speaker 4: could if this resonates with you, because it's a massive

1349
00:57:16,480 --> 00:57:20,600
Speaker 4: age gap between you and your significant other. But that's

1350
00:57:20,680 --> 00:57:23,240
Speaker 4: kind of funny to think about, Like ten years makes

1351
00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:25,560
Speaker 4: a big difference. Yeah, it's like with us.

1352
00:57:25,640 --> 00:57:29,120
Speaker 9: Yeah yeah, yeah, Like I the last person I dated

1353
00:57:29,240 --> 00:57:31,400
Speaker 9: would have been in college when I was born.

1354
00:57:31,760 --> 00:57:34,360
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, he graduated eighth grade when I was born.

1355
00:57:34,920 --> 00:57:37,440
Speaker 9: Yeah, Okay, yours is a little not as.

1356
00:57:37,320 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 4: Bad as mine.

1357
00:57:43,520 --> 00:57:44,880
Speaker 3: The girl I was talking to.

1358
00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:47,320
Speaker 4: Would have been, don't look at me like that.

1359
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:51,640
Speaker 1: I'm doing mad twenty years older than six.

1360
00:57:51,840 --> 00:57:53,560
Speaker 3: There's a whole side conversation going on here.

1361
00:57:53,560 --> 00:57:56,920
Speaker 8: I'm listening for thank you, Literally an entire side conversation

1362
00:57:57,080 --> 00:58:02,520
Speaker 8: going twenty sixteen years. Oh, it's more so like I'm

1363
00:58:02,520 --> 00:58:04,439
Speaker 8: trying to I'm not good at maths, So I would

1364
00:58:04,440 --> 00:58:04,760
Speaker 8: have been.

1365
00:58:05,960 --> 00:58:07,840
Speaker 4: I thought we were just working your math, want us

1366
00:58:07,840 --> 00:58:08,280
Speaker 4: to get a coup.

1367
00:58:08,440 --> 00:58:12,800
Speaker 11: You were born and she would be getting her driver's license, Yeah, right,

1368
00:58:12,840 --> 00:58:15,320
Speaker 11: right as you get your license on your sixteen Yeah.

1369
00:58:15,360 --> 00:58:17,800
Speaker 4: Well but basically, yeah, basically I was like a senior

1370
00:58:17,800 --> 00:58:25,680
Speaker 4: in high school and when she was born food you

1371
00:58:25,720 --> 00:58:29,400
Speaker 4: know somebody, Yeah, you know somebody.

1372
00:58:29,680 --> 00:58:29,880
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1373
00:58:29,880 --> 00:58:33,880
Speaker 4: I think, what's the largest age differential that you've Jess

1374
00:58:33,920 --> 00:58:35,840
Speaker 4: and I were six years apart.

1375
00:58:35,920 --> 00:58:39,920
Speaker 8: I think, okay, yeah, so, but yeah, I don't know what,

1376
00:58:40,680 --> 00:58:44,080
Speaker 8: Like I graduate high school, she was probably still in middle.

1377
00:58:43,880 --> 00:58:47,480
Speaker 4: School, right, yeah, yeah, I guess so, which seems like

1378
00:58:47,480 --> 00:58:49,360
Speaker 4: a huge gap when you think about it, but then

1379
00:58:50,080 --> 00:58:53,400
Speaker 4: you know, once you get older, then it started I

1380
00:58:53,440 --> 00:58:55,520
Speaker 4: feel like that gap starts to sort of close in

1381
00:58:55,720 --> 00:58:56,680
Speaker 4: as much.

1382
00:58:56,800 --> 00:58:59,600
Speaker 11: And we went out to dinner with some of his friends,

1383
00:58:59,600 --> 00:59:04,240
Speaker 11: a couple that are his age. And I was always

1384
00:59:04,280 --> 00:59:07,280
Speaker 11: like the young one right because like they're all the

1385
00:59:07,320 --> 00:59:09,200
Speaker 11: same age. But now they have a kid, so I

1386
00:59:09,280 --> 00:59:11,200
Speaker 11: was Monday, I was like, well, I'm not the youngest

1387
00:59:11,200 --> 00:59:13,560
Speaker 11: here anymore because you guys have a kid together.

1388
00:59:14,280 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 3: How old is Tim?

1389
00:59:16,000 --> 00:59:17,240
Speaker 4: He's three years older than me?

1390
00:59:17,440 --> 00:59:19,439
Speaker 3: Okay, is that the old the biggest age cap?

1391
00:59:19,680 --> 00:59:19,919
Speaker 4: Yes?

1392
00:59:20,080 --> 00:59:23,200
Speaker 1: Yes, I yes, you ever did a younger No?

1393
00:59:23,400 --> 00:59:25,520
Speaker 10: I don't ever want to date a younger man, but

1394
00:59:25,600 --> 00:59:27,880
Speaker 10: I have learned recently I am a hit with the

1395
00:59:27,880 --> 00:59:28,680
Speaker 10: older gentleman.

1396
00:59:28,960 --> 00:59:32,120
Speaker 3: So long. Yeah, you just learned that I could learned.

1397
00:59:32,240 --> 00:59:34,080
Speaker 3: Actually yesterday. It doesn't surprise me at all.

1398
00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:34,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was some.

1399
00:59:34,840 --> 00:59:37,000
Speaker 10: It was some older guys actually looking for me here

1400
00:59:37,040 --> 00:59:39,160
Speaker 10: in the building. Oh yeah, how much older?

1401
00:59:39,720 --> 00:59:43,160
Speaker 1: Like older like my dad maybe grandfather.

1402
00:59:43,280 --> 00:59:46,920
Speaker 4: Did they have a minivan with no windows? They like

1403
00:59:46,640 --> 00:59:55,680
Speaker 4: them looking for you? Yes, looking for you because they

1404
00:59:55,760 --> 01:00:05,240
Speaker 4: work a job. Hey married? Yeah he was looking for you,

1405
01:00:05,280 --> 01:00:06,840
Speaker 4: but not in the way you think they were on

1406
01:00:06,920 --> 01:00:11,560
Speaker 4: the rid. Hold on Mary, Hi, good morning, Hi, good morning,

1407
01:00:11,600 --> 01:00:11,920
Speaker 4: how are you?

1408
01:00:12,160 --> 01:00:12,400
Speaker 2: Hey?

1409
01:00:13,040 --> 01:00:13,400
Speaker 4: Very well?

1410
01:00:13,400 --> 01:00:13,760
Speaker 3: Thank you?

1411
01:00:13,640 --> 01:00:16,240
Speaker 4: You dated somebody twenty years older? How old were you

1412
01:00:16,280 --> 01:00:17,040
Speaker 4: and how old were they?

1413
01:00:18,360 --> 01:00:20,200
Speaker 13: I was twenty four and he was pretty good.

1414
01:00:20,320 --> 01:00:23,840
Speaker 4: We met whoa and he was forty four? Forty four

1415
01:00:23,880 --> 01:00:26,439
Speaker 4: because twenty so twenty four and forty four?

1416
01:00:26,480 --> 01:00:26,720
Speaker 5: Wow?

1417
01:00:26,840 --> 01:00:28,840
Speaker 3: And how did that? I mean, are you still with him?

1418
01:00:28,840 --> 01:00:29,440
Speaker 3: How did that go?

1419
01:00:30,680 --> 01:00:30,919
Speaker 10: Now?

1420
01:00:31,080 --> 01:00:34,080
Speaker 7: We are actually still friends to this day though, But

1421
01:00:34,720 --> 01:00:38,880
Speaker 7: we worked together and he would always come in at

1422
01:00:38,960 --> 01:00:41,400
Speaker 7: where I worked, and I thought he was very good looking.

1423
01:00:42,080 --> 01:00:45,200
Speaker 7: And we were walking out to the car one day,

1424
01:00:45,240 --> 01:00:46,800
Speaker 7: I was saying good bye home and just ran up

1425
01:00:46,800 --> 01:00:48,200
Speaker 7: and gave him a kiss on the cheek. And that

1426
01:00:48,320 --> 01:00:51,600
Speaker 7: was kind of it. And it was weird at first

1427
01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:53,880
Speaker 7: because you know, obviously the age gap.

1428
01:00:53,960 --> 01:00:55,080
Speaker 17: He was five years.

1429
01:00:54,840 --> 01:00:55,640
Speaker 16: Younger than my dad.

1430
01:00:56,360 --> 01:00:57,080
Speaker 8: Oh wow.

1431
01:00:57,360 --> 01:00:57,720
Speaker 21: Parents.

1432
01:00:58,000 --> 01:01:01,680
Speaker 7: Parents didn't like it very much, you know, because I

1433
01:01:01,720 --> 01:01:05,840
Speaker 7: was so young, and all his friends are like, oh,

1434
01:01:05,880 --> 01:01:07,960
Speaker 7: what's it like dating a twenty year old, like, you know,

1435
01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:08,920
Speaker 7: how is that going?

1436
01:01:09,640 --> 01:01:12,960
Speaker 4: But it was, it was, it was.

1437
01:01:13,040 --> 01:01:15,840
Speaker 16: It was different than I think.

1438
01:01:17,400 --> 01:01:19,240
Speaker 1: We dated for about.

1439
01:01:20,200 --> 01:01:22,920
Speaker 7: Five years until he got engaged to one of my friends.

1440
01:01:22,920 --> 01:01:28,600
Speaker 4: Oh okay, who is also around the same age as you.

1441
01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:28,720
Speaker 16: Now.

1442
01:01:28,920 --> 01:01:32,680
Speaker 4: Actually she was about five years younger than oh wait,

1443
01:01:32,720 --> 01:01:33,880
Speaker 4: five years younger than you were.

1444
01:01:33,840 --> 01:01:36,440
Speaker 7: Him, No, five years younger than him.

1445
01:01:36,520 --> 01:01:38,680
Speaker 4: Okay, all right, that's a little more. I thought he

1446
01:01:38,800 --> 01:01:41,280
Speaker 4: wasn't even younger. He's like, no, Mary, he's not young enough.

1447
01:01:41,520 --> 01:01:43,320
Speaker 4: You get an eighteen year old out there somewhere. Yeah,

1448
01:01:43,400 --> 01:01:46,840
Speaker 4: Leonardo DiCaprio style. Oh wow, wow, Mary, thank you have

1449
01:01:46,880 --> 01:01:48,440
Speaker 4: a good down. It was going on with our phones.

1450
01:01:48,480 --> 01:01:48,840
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1451
01:01:49,000 --> 01:01:51,280
Speaker 4: It sounds like we're like shocking people to ride with,

1452
01:01:51,840 --> 01:01:56,000
Speaker 4: Like tell us the story.

1453
01:01:54,920 --> 01:01:57,040
Speaker 3: Better story, more stories.

1454
01:01:58,600 --> 01:02:00,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, we'll have to get someone be on there to

1455
01:02:00,880 --> 01:02:03,600
Speaker 4: fix the wires or something. My best friend's parents is

1456
01:02:03,640 --> 01:02:07,360
Speaker 4: a text are twenty years apart. Her mom was the

1457
01:02:07,480 --> 01:02:14,040
Speaker 4: flower girl at her dad's first wedding. No stop right

1458
01:02:14,240 --> 01:02:18,680
Speaker 4: whoa nine years apart? Twelve years apart. My ex husband

1459
01:02:18,760 --> 01:02:20,919
Speaker 4: was twelve years older than me. Obviously going back some time,

1460
01:02:20,960 --> 01:02:23,280
Speaker 4: but when I was in first grade he was legal

1461
01:02:23,320 --> 01:02:28,360
Speaker 4: at the bar. Yeah, that's messed up that. I What

1462
01:02:28,400 --> 01:02:31,280
Speaker 4: did I see the other day? The year is this right?

1463
01:02:31,320 --> 01:02:36,600
Speaker 4: The year I graduated? The year that I turned twenty one?

1464
01:02:37,480 --> 01:02:40,560
Speaker 4: You can now if you were born that year, you

1465
01:02:41,000 --> 01:02:43,400
Speaker 4: can now drink? Does that make sense? I saw one

1466
01:02:43,440 --> 01:02:46,200
Speaker 4: of those signs in the bar where it's like and

1467
01:02:46,240 --> 01:02:48,280
Speaker 4: this I guess would have been last year. But yeah,

1468
01:02:48,320 --> 01:02:50,840
Speaker 4: so it's like if you're if you were born on

1469
01:02:51,760 --> 01:02:53,400
Speaker 4: if you were born in two thousand and one, then

1470
01:02:53,440 --> 01:02:55,320
Speaker 4: you can now drink. Well two thousand and what was

1471
01:02:55,360 --> 01:02:59,040
Speaker 4: the year that I could drink. So it's not right,

1472
01:02:59,240 --> 01:03:03,720
Speaker 4: It's not okay, man should be ten years older because

1473
01:03:03,760 --> 01:03:06,960
Speaker 4: women age faster. Somebody said, I don't know who said that.

1474
01:03:07,200 --> 01:03:10,000
Speaker 4: Oh what, my god, I don't know if that's true

1475
01:03:10,080 --> 01:03:12,600
Speaker 4: or well. Danda de Man twenty three years older than me,

1476
01:03:12,720 --> 01:03:15,400
Speaker 4: same age as my dad. He was wonderful, very sensitive

1477
01:03:15,400 --> 01:03:17,560
Speaker 4: and nurturing, tons of energy. We were together for about

1478
01:03:17,560 --> 01:03:20,320
Speaker 4: a year. My folks loved him. Believe it or not.

1479
01:03:20,440 --> 01:03:24,600
Speaker 4: I couldn't keep up with him. He's ninety and still

1480
01:03:24,600 --> 01:03:27,320
Speaker 4: climbs mountains. When I met him, he was forty five

1481
01:03:27,360 --> 01:03:29,120
Speaker 4: and I was or excuse me, I was forty five

1482
01:03:29,120 --> 01:03:31,960
Speaker 4: and he was sixty eight. I mean, here's the thing

1483
01:03:32,160 --> 01:03:35,160
Speaker 4: that sounds really old. But what I was saying before,

1484
01:03:35,240 --> 01:03:38,800
Speaker 4: the older that we get, I think, the less that

1485
01:03:38,880 --> 01:03:42,480
Speaker 4: that age differential really matters. Like somebody who's fifty and

1486
01:03:42,560 --> 01:03:45,320
Speaker 4: somebody who's seventy I think could very easily get along

1487
01:03:45,520 --> 01:03:47,720
Speaker 4: because you both have at least, you know, a fair

1488
01:03:47,720 --> 01:03:51,000
Speaker 4: amount of life experience you wouldn't necessarily relate to all

1489
01:03:51,000 --> 01:03:53,200
Speaker 4: the same things. But you both have lived a long

1490
01:03:53,280 --> 01:03:56,560
Speaker 4: life as But think about that twenty years, the twenty

1491
01:03:56,640 --> 01:03:59,960
Speaker 4: years between, like twenty and forty, that's a much bigger difference.

1492
01:04:00,360 --> 01:04:03,560
Speaker 4: I feel like after thirty it starts to matter less. Yes,

1493
01:04:04,000 --> 01:04:06,200
Speaker 4: in my opinion, I get what you're saying. I agree.

1494
01:04:06,280 --> 01:04:09,120
Speaker 4: How low would you go? How how long can you

1495
01:04:09,200 --> 01:04:12,000
Speaker 4: do like older and younger?

1496
01:04:12,040 --> 01:04:14,480
Speaker 3: Howe range? What do you think you're comfortable with?

1497
01:04:14,640 --> 01:04:16,400
Speaker 4: You're talking hooking up or having a series.

1498
01:04:16,960 --> 01:04:19,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you. It's an important distinction.

1499
01:04:19,800 --> 01:04:25,200
Speaker 8: Yes, hooking up like dating somebody whatever, hooking up plus

1500
01:04:25,240 --> 01:04:26,800
Speaker 8: or minus fifteen?

1501
01:04:28,240 --> 01:04:30,560
Speaker 4: Hey, either way, either way, plus or minus fifteen. So

1502
01:04:30,600 --> 01:04:36,560
Speaker 4: twenty five, six, fifty four or five, I think, yeah, yeah,

1503
01:04:37,240 --> 01:04:38,760
Speaker 4: And Caitlin, we know is plus forty.

1504
01:04:39,040 --> 01:04:42,280
Speaker 9: So just plus twenty was my most I've done, and

1505
01:04:42,320 --> 01:04:43,120
Speaker 9: that is my limit.

1506
01:04:43,280 --> 01:04:46,440
Speaker 1: I have decided plus twenty times.

1507
01:04:46,200 --> 01:04:47,280
Speaker 3: Two, So plus forty.

1508
01:04:49,160 --> 01:04:51,720
Speaker 1: He was a young fifty one.

1509
01:04:52,000 --> 01:04:55,160
Speaker 4: I'm in the retirement. They're going to drive those little

1510
01:04:55,160 --> 01:04:58,040
Speaker 4: short buses up here wait for even me?

1511
01:04:58,760 --> 01:04:59,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, well there you go.

1512
01:04:59,880 --> 01:05:05,280
Speaker 2: H more Fred's show next right here.

1513
01:05:05,280 --> 01:05:10,600
Speaker 4: The Fred's Show is on Good morning everyone. The Fred

1514
01:05:10,600 --> 01:05:12,960
Speaker 4: Show is on. Glad you're here. Another text eight five

1515
01:05:13,040 --> 01:05:17,400
Speaker 4: five five one three five. This is from Robert. Our

1516
01:05:17,440 --> 01:05:19,240
Speaker 4: phones are screwed up today, but he tried to call.

1517
01:05:19,520 --> 01:05:23,240
Speaker 4: My fiance is twenty four years younger. I'm fifty one,

1518
01:05:23,280 --> 01:05:25,960
Speaker 4: she's twenty eight. We met during the pandemic, and we

1519
01:05:26,600 --> 01:05:30,400
Speaker 4: had our first child, named Archer. It's been a great

1520
01:05:30,520 --> 01:05:33,720
Speaker 4: ending to the pandemic. See oh, my dad and his

1521
01:05:33,760 --> 01:05:35,680
Speaker 4: girlfriend are sixty seven and twenty five.

1522
01:05:35,920 --> 01:05:38,680
Speaker 3: Good lord, hello man.

1523
01:05:39,080 --> 01:05:41,480
Speaker 4: That's the thing though, I'm forty two, and at this

1524
01:05:41,520 --> 01:05:43,360
Speaker 4: point I think it would be unfair for me to

1525
01:05:43,360 --> 01:05:45,200
Speaker 4: have a kid if I don't marry somebody who's like

1526
01:05:45,240 --> 01:05:48,320
Speaker 4: twenty five. Now, a lot of people are going to

1527
01:05:48,360 --> 01:05:50,400
Speaker 4: disagree with me on that, and I'm not saying that

1528
01:05:50,440 --> 01:05:55,600
Speaker 4: you shouldn't. But for me, let's say I met someone today.

1529
01:05:55,600 --> 01:05:57,200
Speaker 4: I've done this math on the show before, but let's

1530
01:05:57,200 --> 01:05:58,800
Speaker 4: say I met someone today, fell in love with them,

1531
01:05:58,800 --> 01:06:01,560
Speaker 4: and we expedited and we got married within a year.

1532
01:06:01,720 --> 01:06:03,800
Speaker 4: And let's say we did everything in order not to

1533
01:06:03,800 --> 01:06:05,160
Speaker 4: say that you have to do that either. I have

1534
01:06:05,200 --> 01:06:07,200
Speaker 4: no issue with people who have kids and never get married.

1535
01:06:07,200 --> 01:06:09,320
Speaker 4: I have no issue with any of it, no judgment.

1536
01:06:09,320 --> 01:06:11,040
Speaker 4: But let's just say, just for the sake of the

1537
01:06:11,080 --> 01:06:15,280
Speaker 4: math argument, Okay, I meet her today, I fall in

1538
01:06:15,280 --> 01:06:18,120
Speaker 4: love today. One year from now, we get married. Now

1539
01:06:18,120 --> 01:06:21,320
Speaker 4: I'm forty three, okay, and then let's say we instantly

1540
01:06:21,320 --> 01:06:23,160
Speaker 4: get pregnant. None of this is going to happen like this,

1541
01:06:23,240 --> 01:06:25,960
Speaker 4: by the way, So then I'm basically forty three, maybe

1542
01:06:26,000 --> 01:06:29,600
Speaker 4: forty four when the kid comes out, which means I

1543
01:06:29,640 --> 01:06:33,080
Speaker 4: would be sixty four at.

1544
01:06:32,960 --> 01:06:36,600
Speaker 3: The kids graduation. Now wait a minute, that's notes the're

1545
01:06:36,600 --> 01:06:37,040
Speaker 3: wrong with that.

1546
01:06:37,120 --> 01:06:40,919
Speaker 4: Now I will say, versus never having a kid, I'll

1547
01:06:40,920 --> 01:06:43,280
Speaker 4: take sixty four. I intend to be alive at sixty four.

1548
01:06:43,320 --> 01:06:45,360
Speaker 4: I intend to be working and youthful at sixty four.

1549
01:06:45,560 --> 01:06:47,479
Speaker 4: It happens all the time. I have friends whose parents

1550
01:06:47,520 --> 01:06:52,919
Speaker 4: are that old or older. It's not for me. It's

1551
01:06:52,960 --> 01:06:56,160
Speaker 4: not ideal. It's not ideal. And Nope, I wish I

1552
01:06:56,200 --> 01:06:58,960
Speaker 4: had started twenty years ago. I really do. Okay, that

1553
01:06:59,120 --> 01:07:02,000
Speaker 4: being said, I didn't know anyone twenty years ago who

1554
01:07:02,000 --> 01:07:04,360
Speaker 4: I should be having kids with, And if it had

1555
01:07:04,400 --> 01:07:07,000
Speaker 4: happened that way, maybe I wouldn't be sitting here doing this.

1556
01:07:07,440 --> 01:07:11,040
Speaker 4: So everything I think is a compromise. In that I

1557
01:07:11,120 --> 01:07:13,040
Speaker 4: was able to take risks in my career, in my

1558
01:07:13,080 --> 01:07:14,800
Speaker 4: life that I wouldn't have taken if I had a

1559
01:07:14,840 --> 01:07:18,080
Speaker 4: family that got me to this great place. That the

1560
01:07:18,120 --> 01:07:22,520
Speaker 4: trade off is I don't have a family necessarily. Maybe

1561
01:07:22,560 --> 01:07:24,440
Speaker 4: I could still have both. I don't know, but I

1562
01:07:24,480 --> 01:07:27,200
Speaker 4: will say that that does come into my mind. It's

1563
01:07:27,200 --> 01:07:30,040
Speaker 4: an insecurity that before you at me and write me

1564
01:07:30,080 --> 01:07:32,280
Speaker 4: fifty emails about how you did it and it worked out,

1565
01:07:32,560 --> 01:07:36,919
Speaker 4: it's wonderful. But for me, it's an insecurity about being

1566
01:07:37,040 --> 01:07:40,320
Speaker 4: too old. Same here, I'm sorry, what do you mean?

1567
01:07:40,400 --> 01:07:40,800
Speaker 4: Same here?

1568
01:07:40,840 --> 01:07:43,160
Speaker 10: No, I feel that way too, Like I had old parents,

1569
01:07:43,480 --> 01:07:46,000
Speaker 10: like they waited to have me, and they're both dead.

1570
01:07:46,040 --> 01:07:47,560
Speaker 4: Now I feel like I was cheated.

1571
01:07:47,720 --> 01:07:50,120
Speaker 10: So like, when I'm thinking about having kids, I'm giving

1572
01:07:50,160 --> 01:07:52,520
Speaker 10: myself like, okay, girl up, it don't happen about thirty five.

1573
01:07:52,800 --> 01:07:55,440
Speaker 10: Then you need to weigh options. I might need to

1574
01:07:55,440 --> 01:07:57,480
Speaker 10: get a young man, Lisa, he'll be around. That's how

1575
01:07:57,520 --> 01:07:57,880
Speaker 10: I feel.

1576
01:07:58,320 --> 01:07:59,440
Speaker 4: No, I really think about it.

1577
01:08:00,600 --> 01:08:02,840
Speaker 10: It's not you know, everybody thought my mom was my

1578
01:08:02,920 --> 01:08:06,840
Speaker 10: grandmother my whole life, but was like, no, it's my mom.

1579
01:08:07,000 --> 01:08:09,439
Speaker 4: She just waited. So I feel you when you say

1580
01:08:09,480 --> 01:08:11,760
Speaker 4: that yeah. I mean my mom is I think she's

1581
01:08:11,800 --> 01:08:16,559
Speaker 4: sixty five and she has a forty two year old,

1582
01:08:17,280 --> 01:08:21,280
Speaker 4: a thirty five year old, and now a two and

1583
01:08:21,320 --> 01:08:24,679
Speaker 4: a half year old granddaughter. I mean she's seeing it all,

1584
01:08:24,800 --> 01:08:28,120
Speaker 4: you know. I mean she's got grown and you know,

1585
01:08:28,240 --> 01:08:31,400
Speaker 4: all goes well. I'll be I mean, let's say she

1586
01:08:31,400 --> 01:08:32,920
Speaker 4: lives to be I hope she lives to be ninety

1587
01:08:32,960 --> 01:08:37,599
Speaker 4: plus I'll be almost seventy when she, you know, someday

1588
01:08:37,600 --> 01:08:39,160
Speaker 4: goes to heaven and lives a full life.

1589
01:08:39,200 --> 01:08:39,920
Speaker 3: That's amazing.

1590
01:08:40,000 --> 01:08:43,040
Speaker 4: That's I mean, how ideal is that in a perfect world,

1591
01:08:43,120 --> 01:08:43,640
Speaker 4: right right?

1592
01:08:44,200 --> 01:08:44,400
Speaker 5: You know?

1593
01:08:44,560 --> 01:08:47,320
Speaker 4: And I think that's great, and I guess I get it.

1594
01:08:47,360 --> 01:08:50,120
Speaker 4: I don't think it's unfair because you know, you hope

1595
01:08:50,120 --> 01:08:52,360
Speaker 4: that and who knows. I know some people that had

1596
01:08:52,439 --> 01:08:54,519
Speaker 4: kids when they were older and it kept them young,

1597
01:08:54,800 --> 01:08:56,880
Speaker 4: it gave them a reason to stay on top of

1598
01:08:56,920 --> 01:08:59,200
Speaker 4: their health, and it gave them kind of like a

1599
01:08:59,240 --> 01:09:02,439
Speaker 4: new start in a lot of ways. And so that's

1600
01:09:02,479 --> 01:09:06,040
Speaker 4: possible for me too. I just for me, I understand,

1601
01:09:06,040 --> 01:09:07,200
Speaker 4: I'm self conscious about it.

1602
01:09:07,280 --> 01:09:09,040
Speaker 12: I think we're seeing that more often though, to like

1603
01:09:09,080 --> 01:09:11,400
Speaker 12: people who are family planning, they are pushing it off

1604
01:09:11,439 --> 01:09:13,599
Speaker 12: a little bit, you know, to the future, whether that's

1605
01:09:13,840 --> 01:09:16,479
Speaker 12: through like you know, egg freezing or even like shout

1606
01:09:16,520 --> 01:09:18,679
Speaker 12: out IBF all these all these other options that people

1607
01:09:18,760 --> 01:09:21,360
Speaker 12: have that they can do. And I'm kind of seeing

1608
01:09:21,360 --> 01:09:24,200
Speaker 12: that the new trend is like older parents, and I'm

1609
01:09:24,200 --> 01:09:25,280
Speaker 12: not you know, like discrediting that.

1610
01:09:25,320 --> 01:09:25,519
Speaker 3: Either.

1611
01:09:25,560 --> 01:09:27,640
Speaker 12: I understand people have their fears. If I do, you

1612
01:09:27,640 --> 01:09:29,880
Speaker 12: want experiences, and I respect that one hundred percent. But

1613
01:09:29,880 --> 01:09:31,760
Speaker 12: I also think it's okay if you become a dad

1614
01:09:31,800 --> 01:09:34,240
Speaker 12: at forty three, forty four, forty five, I think that's okay.

1615
01:09:34,520 --> 01:09:36,760
Speaker 9: My stepdad was to my mom or my sister at

1616
01:09:36,760 --> 01:09:38,800
Speaker 9: forty one, and my mom is healthier than I am.

1617
01:09:38,960 --> 01:09:42,360
Speaker 1: Like she's like, I'm that damn bike vicress, fine as hell.

1618
01:09:42,600 --> 01:09:46,400
Speaker 3: Yes, weirdful wow, But.

1619
01:09:46,479 --> 01:09:49,120
Speaker 9: Like you know, like I'm sure she felt weird, but all.

1620
01:09:49,080 --> 01:09:51,320
Speaker 1: The moms like we're younger, you know, like picking her out.

1621
01:09:51,400 --> 01:09:53,439
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that's just like if let's say I

1622
01:09:53,439 --> 01:09:55,320
Speaker 4: have a kid, and in five years that kid is

1623
01:09:55,360 --> 01:09:56,880
Speaker 4: in you know, I don't know, five six years in

1624
01:09:56,920 --> 01:09:59,559
Speaker 4: t ball or whatever, the average age of the dad

1625
01:09:59,680 --> 01:10:02,600
Speaker 4: is going to be probably late twenties, early thirties, and

1626
01:10:02,640 --> 01:10:04,920
Speaker 4: I'm going to be mid forties. I mean, that's that's

1627
01:10:04,920 --> 01:10:08,240
Speaker 4: a little weird. But here's the other thing. I wouldn't

1628
01:10:08,280 --> 01:10:10,479
Speaker 4: have been a good father. I don't think I wouldn't

1629
01:10:10,520 --> 01:10:12,880
Speaker 4: have been as good of a father then as I

1630
01:10:12,920 --> 01:10:13,280
Speaker 4: would be.

1631
01:10:13,360 --> 01:10:15,479
Speaker 3: Now, Yeah, that's true, and that's that's me.

1632
01:10:16,200 --> 01:10:16,559
Speaker 4: That's me.

1633
01:10:16,760 --> 01:10:18,400
Speaker 3: Will it is true you tell you about me?

1634
01:10:18,520 --> 01:10:20,639
Speaker 10: Well, yeah, I'm just saying in general, like I think

1635
01:10:20,640 --> 01:10:23,400
Speaker 10: about my friends who have who had kids very young,

1636
01:10:23,600 --> 01:10:25,600
Speaker 10: and now I'm like, now, if I have one, I

1637
01:10:25,600 --> 01:10:27,600
Speaker 10: feel like I'm in a much better place to have

1638
01:10:27,680 --> 01:10:28,920
Speaker 10: a kid now than.

1639
01:10:28,800 --> 01:10:30,240
Speaker 4: If I had. I thought you were saying that's true

1640
01:10:30,240 --> 01:10:33,280
Speaker 4: about me, kid, I'm like, oh, hell yeah, I should

1641
01:10:33,320 --> 01:10:36,559
Speaker 4: have been doing that. I was saying that too. You

1642
01:10:36,560 --> 01:10:39,840
Speaker 4: were whiling. No, I was. I was immature. I was

1643
01:10:39,920 --> 01:10:42,840
Speaker 4: behind and a lot of things. I mean, first of all,

1644
01:10:42,880 --> 01:10:44,400
Speaker 4: I wouldn't have even had the opportunity to have a

1645
01:10:44,439 --> 01:10:46,920
Speaker 4: kid till I was twenty one, because then there's that

1646
01:10:47,080 --> 01:10:50,400
Speaker 4: wasn't getting it in. So I was way behind it.

1647
01:10:50,479 --> 01:10:51,679
Speaker 4: A lot of things. I had a lot of catching

1648
01:10:51,720 --> 01:10:53,040
Speaker 4: up to do. I had a lot of a big

1649
01:10:53,080 --> 01:10:54,559
Speaker 4: chip on my shoulder in my career. I had all

1650
01:10:54,640 --> 01:10:56,439
Speaker 4: kinds of stuff. So I don't think I would have been.

1651
01:10:56,640 --> 01:10:58,280
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm sure I would have stepped up, but

1652
01:10:58,360 --> 01:11:00,400
Speaker 4: like I don't it wouldn't be as good as it

1653
01:11:00,439 --> 01:11:01,920
Speaker 4: is now. I wouldn't be able to provide the same

1654
01:11:01,960 --> 01:11:03,679
Speaker 4: life and the same stability that I can now.

1655
01:11:03,760 --> 01:11:06,360
Speaker 3: But the trade off is old.

1656
01:11:06,479 --> 01:11:07,720
Speaker 4: Hell yeah.

1657
01:11:07,760 --> 01:11:10,200
Speaker 10: I mean I think, like, there's no wrong way you

1658
01:11:10,320 --> 01:11:13,559
Speaker 10: had kids whenever Lord says you should, because like, my

1659
01:11:13,600 --> 01:11:15,640
Speaker 10: mom was a much better mom to me than she

1660
01:11:15,760 --> 01:11:18,000
Speaker 10: was to my sister, who she had at like eighteen,

1661
01:11:18,200 --> 01:11:20,000
Speaker 10: you know, so it was like a whole other person,

1662
01:11:20,000 --> 01:11:21,479
Speaker 10: and my sister's like, I don't even know this, lady.

1663
01:11:21,520 --> 01:11:23,280
Speaker 1: What's the age difference between you and your sister?

1664
01:11:23,360 --> 01:11:23,920
Speaker 4: Nineteen years?

1665
01:11:24,000 --> 01:11:25,679
Speaker 1: Okay? And is she your oldest sibling?

1666
01:11:25,800 --> 01:11:26,040
Speaker 14: Yes?

1667
01:11:26,200 --> 01:11:29,160
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah. Wow. See someone just texted, I think it's

1668
01:11:29,160 --> 01:11:30,760
Speaker 4: selfish to have kids later in life.

1669
01:11:30,800 --> 01:11:31,880
Speaker 3: There's more to the story here.

1670
01:11:32,200 --> 01:11:34,719
Speaker 4: My parents had me old and they were not good parents,

1671
01:11:34,760 --> 01:11:37,160
Speaker 4: no patients, no fun. We were never close at all.

1672
01:11:38,400 --> 01:11:39,920
Speaker 4: I can see that. But I think i'd be the

1673
01:11:40,040 --> 01:11:43,639
Speaker 4: opposite in some ways. I think I would be a

1674
01:11:43,640 --> 01:11:50,240
Speaker 4: better parent, more patient, more grateful, and better suited not

1675
01:11:50,280 --> 01:11:54,120
Speaker 4: only emotionally but financially and otherwise to provide a better life.

1676
01:11:54,439 --> 01:11:57,439
Speaker 4: In fact, I would argue my mom was way more

1677
01:11:57,439 --> 01:12:00,240
Speaker 4: attentive to me when she had me at twenty three

1678
01:12:00,439 --> 01:12:03,519
Speaker 4: than she was to my sister at thirty one or

1679
01:12:03,560 --> 01:12:06,479
Speaker 4: two or whatever it was. Because now, granted, my sister

1680
01:12:06,640 --> 01:12:09,360
Speaker 4: got a lot more leeway than I did because they

1681
01:12:09,360 --> 01:12:11,680
Speaker 4: were just they'd already done it for eight years and

1682
01:12:11,680 --> 01:12:14,600
Speaker 4: they're like, get out of here, you know whatever. But

1683
01:12:15,200 --> 01:12:17,320
Speaker 4: I would also argue, on the flip side, my mom

1684
01:12:17,439 --> 01:12:19,160
Speaker 4: and I have a bond that my sister and my

1685
01:12:19,200 --> 01:12:21,360
Speaker 4: mom don't have, and they love each other and they're great,

1686
01:12:21,360 --> 01:12:24,200
Speaker 4: but we have a bond that they don't have because

1687
01:12:24,240 --> 01:12:26,040
Speaker 4: she was so young and because for so long it

1688
01:12:26,080 --> 01:12:28,519
Speaker 4: was just she and I. So I don't know, you know,

1689
01:12:28,560 --> 01:12:32,160
Speaker 4: you can argue both ways. Doesn't matter the age, your

1690
01:12:32,240 --> 01:12:34,960
Speaker 4: kids will always keep you young well. And the suits

1691
01:12:34,960 --> 01:12:37,000
Speaker 4: always yell at me when I call myself old. They're like,

1692
01:12:37,000 --> 01:12:38,800
Speaker 4: you know, you're gonna be unmarketable with whatever, saying I know,

1693
01:12:38,800 --> 01:12:42,080
Speaker 4: I'm forty two and I'm not old, but I'm being

1694
01:12:42,120 --> 01:12:44,599
Speaker 4: honest about how I feel as it pertains to what

1695
01:12:44,640 --> 01:12:46,800
Speaker 4: other people in the life group that listen to our

1696
01:12:46,880 --> 01:12:49,120
Speaker 4: show are doing, you know, and the reality is there

1697
01:12:49,160 --> 01:12:51,439
Speaker 4: people listen to our show who are twelve, and there

1698
01:12:51,479 --> 01:12:53,280
Speaker 4: are people who listen to our show who are seventy.

1699
01:12:53,600 --> 01:12:54,680
Speaker 3: And that's what I love about it.

1700
01:12:54,680 --> 01:12:56,439
Speaker 9: And I say, right in the middle, I respect that

1701
01:12:56,479 --> 01:12:58,400
Speaker 9: about you because I know there are shows where like

1702
01:12:58,439 --> 01:13:00,599
Speaker 9: people try to act like they're way younger than they

1703
01:13:00,640 --> 01:13:03,400
Speaker 9: are and like or they won't ever say their age.

1704
01:13:03,400 --> 01:13:05,960
Speaker 9: That gets the biggest no no, And it's like, why

1705
01:13:06,800 --> 01:13:07,720
Speaker 9: why would you do that?

1706
01:13:07,760 --> 01:13:09,639
Speaker 4: I mean, do the math. I've been on the radio

1707
01:13:09,640 --> 01:13:11,320
Speaker 4: math thirteen fourteen years or whatever.

1708
01:13:11,360 --> 01:13:13,120
Speaker 12: It's like they don't care. We'll still do math on

1709
01:13:13,160 --> 01:13:14,840
Speaker 12: other people. And they're like still trying to play it

1710
01:13:14,840 --> 01:13:16,000
Speaker 12: off there twenty five, right, I.

1711
01:13:16,360 --> 01:13:21,280
Speaker 9: Don't you know, I don't know somewhere right here, I

1712
01:13:21,280 --> 01:13:22,000
Speaker 9: I know I.

1713
01:13:23,520 --> 01:13:26,880
Speaker 4: Appointing everywhere. You guys, that's the thing, Like I don't

1714
01:13:26,920 --> 01:13:28,960
Speaker 4: have to be cool and I'm not cool. You guys

1715
01:13:29,000 --> 01:13:31,439
Speaker 4: are all cool, and that's why you're here. That's why

1716
01:13:31,479 --> 01:13:33,320
Speaker 4: you're here, and you're all mostly younger than me too,

1717
01:13:33,400 --> 01:13:35,599
Speaker 4: so perfect that's what boom. That's what's going to keep

1718
01:13:35,640 --> 01:13:37,639
Speaker 4: me relevant for another ten to fifteen years. And that's

1719
01:13:37,680 --> 01:13:38,120
Speaker 4: all I need.

1720
01:13:38,160 --> 01:13:40,519
Speaker 1: I'm all right, Yeah, with the pulse of the street.

1721
01:13:40,600 --> 01:13:44,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, the pulse of the street are.

1722
01:13:44,880 --> 01:13:45,360
Speaker 8: The streets.

1723
01:13:46,280 --> 01:13:48,360
Speaker 4: I guess that was that's gonna be my blog. But whatever,

1724
01:13:48,400 --> 01:13:50,320
Speaker 4: I have a blog, but we'll do it later. Like

1725
01:13:50,439 --> 01:13:52,639
Speaker 4: I didn't mean to keep going on that, but yeah, whatever,

1726
01:13:53,040 --> 01:13:54,200
Speaker 4: why would we have any direction?

1727
01:13:54,280 --> 01:13:54,760
Speaker 3: We never have.

1728
01:13:57,479 --> 01:14:00,679
Speaker 14: I've ever been left waiting by the phone.

1729
01:14:01,120 --> 01:14:04,160
Speaker 4: It's the Fred Show. Good morning Angelo, Yes, good morning. Yeah, Hey,

1730
01:14:04,200 --> 01:14:05,880
Speaker 4: welcome to the show Man. Waiting by the phone is

1731
01:14:05,920 --> 01:14:09,040
Speaker 4: what we called. Is So, what's going on with a

1732
01:14:09,080 --> 01:14:10,960
Speaker 4: woman named Vicky? I have your email here, but I

1733
01:14:11,000 --> 01:14:13,160
Speaker 4: want you to explain. You met Vicky on match dot

1734
01:14:13,160 --> 01:14:15,320
Speaker 4: com and then what Well, Yeah.

1735
01:14:15,160 --> 01:14:18,280
Speaker 5: I asked throughout for a date week a week later

1736
01:14:18,360 --> 01:14:21,840
Speaker 5: after some good conversation, and I liked her.

1737
01:14:21,880 --> 01:14:22,280
Speaker 17: I mean, I.

1738
01:14:22,280 --> 01:14:24,759
Speaker 5: Thought she was really nice. She was very pretty in person.

1739
01:14:24,920 --> 01:14:28,800
Speaker 5: The call went great, to be honest, the date was

1740
01:14:29,280 --> 01:14:31,960
Speaker 5: on the shorter side, was it was not very long.

1741
01:14:32,640 --> 01:14:34,960
Speaker 5: She had to be up early in the morning for

1742
01:14:35,080 --> 01:14:38,360
Speaker 5: work the next day. Boy, it's kind of just scrambled

1743
01:14:38,360 --> 01:14:42,000
Speaker 5: out and I thought we'd go out again. But now

1744
01:14:42,040 --> 01:14:46,519
Speaker 5: she's like completely fia and I'm clueless. I mean, I

1745
01:14:46,520 --> 01:14:48,840
Speaker 5: don't know if it's something work related or something with

1746
01:14:48,880 --> 01:14:51,960
Speaker 5: me or something that happened in the morning. I don't know.

1747
01:14:52,080 --> 01:14:55,880
Speaker 4: You go up early the next day one, yeah, I

1748
01:14:55,920 --> 01:14:57,760
Speaker 4: mean I guess that could be true, you know, if

1749
01:14:57,800 --> 01:14:59,960
Speaker 4: you went out on a weekday or something, but the

1750
01:15:01,040 --> 01:15:04,120
Speaker 4: I don't know. You look back on this date though,

1751
01:15:04,120 --> 01:15:06,840
Speaker 4: and you really thought, Hey, this went well. We we

1752
01:15:07,320 --> 01:15:10,759
Speaker 4: had good communication, no weird topics. I mean, everything was cool.

1753
01:15:12,280 --> 01:15:14,840
Speaker 4: And so you're a little confused. It's like, well, why

1754
01:15:15,479 --> 01:15:19,400
Speaker 4: why is she now unable to be reached? All right, well,

1755
01:15:19,479 --> 01:15:21,360
Speaker 4: let's call her. We'll see if we can get her

1756
01:15:21,360 --> 01:15:22,960
Speaker 4: on the phone. We'll ask these questions and you'll be

1757
01:15:23,000 --> 01:15:24,840
Speaker 4: on the phone as well, and hopefully whatever's going on,

1758
01:15:25,000 --> 01:15:27,240
Speaker 4: we could straighten it out, set you guys up another

1759
01:15:27,280 --> 01:15:28,000
Speaker 4: date and pay for that.

1760
01:15:28,040 --> 01:15:30,240
Speaker 5: All right, Yeah, that sounds great.

1761
01:15:30,320 --> 01:15:33,000
Speaker 4: I'm gonna play one song, will be right back. Let's

1762
01:15:33,000 --> 01:15:34,800
Speaker 4: see what happens next. Part two of Waiting by the

1763
01:15:34,800 --> 01:15:37,760
Speaker 4: Phone After this song on The Fred Show. Good morning,

1764
01:15:37,800 --> 01:15:41,600
Speaker 4: It's the Fred Show. Part two of Waiting by the Phone, Angelo,

1765
01:15:42,320 --> 01:15:42,880
Speaker 4: welcome back.

1766
01:15:42,960 --> 01:15:44,240
Speaker 3: Let's call Vicki.

1767
01:15:44,600 --> 01:15:47,200
Speaker 4: You guys met on match dot com, chatted, then you

1768
01:15:47,240 --> 01:15:49,160
Speaker 4: went on a date. You felt like the date went great,

1769
01:15:49,600 --> 01:15:51,679
Speaker 4: except now she's ghosting you. You can't get a hold

1770
01:15:51,720 --> 01:15:53,360
Speaker 4: of her, and you want to know why.

1771
01:15:53,720 --> 01:15:57,080
Speaker 5: I just feel that things went well. I deserve an answer.

1772
01:15:57,200 --> 01:16:00,799
Speaker 3: You just answer, Get me out.

1773
01:16:00,680 --> 01:16:01,000
Speaker 5: Of the dark.

1774
01:16:01,479 --> 01:16:02,000
Speaker 3: Good luck.

1775
01:16:07,560 --> 01:16:07,840
Speaker 16: Hello?

1776
01:16:08,439 --> 01:16:09,240
Speaker 3: Hi is his VICKI?

1777
01:16:10,080 --> 01:16:10,240
Speaker 21: Hi?

1778
01:16:10,280 --> 01:16:13,360
Speaker 3: Yes, Hi Vicky. It's Fred from the Fred's Show. The

1779
01:16:13,360 --> 01:16:15,200
Speaker 3: whole crew is here. I'm sorry to bother, but I do.

1780
01:16:15,200 --> 01:16:16,519
Speaker 4: Have to tell you that we are on the radio

1781
01:16:16,640 --> 01:16:18,919
Speaker 4: right now and I would need your consent to continue

1782
01:16:18,920 --> 01:16:19,360
Speaker 4: with the call.

1783
01:16:19,400 --> 01:16:19,960
Speaker 3: Is that okay?

1784
01:16:21,040 --> 01:16:21,920
Speaker 27: Yeah, big fan?

1785
01:16:22,120 --> 01:16:22,320
Speaker 16: Hi?

1786
01:16:23,400 --> 01:16:25,360
Speaker 4: Well, thank you? Well then, I don't you know, I

1787
01:16:25,360 --> 01:16:27,000
Speaker 4: don't really have to tell you much. You probably know

1788
01:16:27,080 --> 01:16:29,280
Speaker 4: why we're calling. It's waiting by the phone and you're

1789
01:16:29,360 --> 01:16:32,240
Speaker 4: on and we're calling on behalf of a guy that

1790
01:16:32,520 --> 01:16:34,160
Speaker 4: says he met you on match dot com. His name

1791
01:16:34,200 --> 01:16:39,240
Speaker 4: is Angelo. Yes, right, so Angelo. We chatted with him

1792
01:16:39,280 --> 01:16:41,040
Speaker 4: briefly and he said that he met you and you

1793
01:16:41,040 --> 01:16:43,519
Speaker 4: guys talked and then went out, and he said that

1794
01:16:43,560 --> 01:16:46,200
Speaker 4: the day was kind of short, that you had to

1795
01:16:46,200 --> 01:16:48,360
Speaker 4: get up or something like that work the next day

1796
01:16:48,439 --> 01:16:50,559
Speaker 4: or whatever, but he felt like they went really well

1797
01:16:50,880 --> 01:16:54,080
Speaker 4: and he's tried to schedule another with you and you

1798
01:16:54,200 --> 01:16:56,120
Speaker 4: are nowhere to be found. So what's going on.

1799
01:16:59,120 --> 01:17:02,679
Speaker 27: So during the day I asked Angelo if I could

1800
01:17:02,680 --> 01:17:04,600
Speaker 27: see his ID so I should send a picture to

1801
01:17:04,720 --> 01:17:08,160
Speaker 27: my family and friends for safety purposes, and he freaked out.

1802
01:17:09,040 --> 01:17:11,800
Speaker 4: Okay, hold on, hold on, hold on, I've not heard

1803
01:17:11,840 --> 01:17:14,519
Speaker 4: of this one before. But so you you sit down

1804
01:17:14,520 --> 01:17:17,960
Speaker 4: with him in person and and you're like, well, just

1805
01:17:17,960 --> 01:17:20,320
Speaker 4: to confirm your identity and if anything weird were to

1806
01:17:20,360 --> 01:17:23,519
Speaker 4: happen or something, I I want your ID and then

1807
01:17:23,560 --> 01:17:27,200
Speaker 4: you send it to like a group chat of trusted people. Yees,

1808
01:17:27,200 --> 01:17:28,840
Speaker 4: this is not an uncommon thing.

1809
01:17:28,880 --> 01:17:30,640
Speaker 27: Actually, I think it's something more and more of a

1810
01:17:30,680 --> 01:17:31,280
Speaker 27: regular thing.

1811
01:17:31,600 --> 01:17:33,240
Speaker 3: I don't think it's a terrible idea. I've just never

1812
01:17:33,280 --> 01:17:33,479
Speaker 3: heard of.

1813
01:17:33,680 --> 01:17:36,880
Speaker 27: But okay, especially like when you meet people online where

1814
01:17:37,000 --> 01:17:39,599
Speaker 27: like there are no friends in common or anything like that,

1815
01:17:39,640 --> 01:17:42,080
Speaker 27: it's like I am with a total stranger and.

1816
01:17:42,200 --> 01:17:45,400
Speaker 4: You know, yeah, no I don't so okay, so you

1817
01:17:45,400 --> 01:17:46,920
Speaker 4: you say, this is what we're gonna do?

1818
01:17:47,360 --> 01:17:51,680
Speaker 27: Yeah, he uh like got so so angry, which you know,

1819
01:17:51,840 --> 01:17:55,400
Speaker 27: red flags galore, and like, you know, it's not like

1820
01:17:55,439 --> 01:17:57,840
Speaker 27: I did it before I met him. You know, I

1821
01:17:58,040 --> 01:18:01,479
Speaker 27: actually kind of forgot at the beginning. It is weird,

1822
01:18:01,520 --> 01:18:03,720
Speaker 27: It is awkward, but it's like, you know.

1823
01:18:04,240 --> 01:18:06,920
Speaker 4: Rather sorry, Yeah, you got to look out for yourself. Okay,

1824
01:18:06,960 --> 01:18:08,360
Speaker 4: So you say to him, let me have your idea.

1825
01:18:08,360 --> 01:18:10,599
Speaker 4: I'm going to take a picture of it and whatever.

1826
01:18:10,680 --> 01:18:13,400
Speaker 4: He freaks out, and at that point you're turned off

1827
01:18:13,400 --> 01:18:15,080
Speaker 4: by this whole thing because it's like, well, what, why

1828
01:18:15,080 --> 01:18:17,640
Speaker 4: wouldn't you want me to look out for myself here?

1829
01:18:17,640 --> 01:18:19,920
Speaker 4: Why wouldn't you What are you hiding? What is someone

1830
01:18:19,920 --> 01:18:21,880
Speaker 4: going to find out with his information kind of thing?

1831
01:18:22,160 --> 01:18:24,559
Speaker 27: Yeah, exactly, Huh.

1832
01:18:24,080 --> 01:18:26,000
Speaker 4: Let me bring Angelo And I forgot to mention Vicky

1833
01:18:26,000 --> 01:18:27,840
Speaker 4: that angels here, but you probably already knew that since

1834
01:18:27,840 --> 01:18:30,840
Speaker 4: you listened. But Angela, what's the deal? So I don't

1835
01:18:31,080 --> 01:18:33,000
Speaker 4: this is not a horrible idea. I mean, it's something

1836
01:18:33,000 --> 01:18:35,880
Speaker 4: that maybe we're unfamiliar with the in the dating world,

1837
01:18:35,880 --> 01:18:39,160
Speaker 4: but I mean I've heard of people sharing locations while

1838
01:18:39,160 --> 01:18:41,720
Speaker 4: they're out and doing all kinds of things to protect themselves.

1839
01:18:41,920 --> 01:18:44,000
Speaker 4: I watched Dateline. I know what can happen.

1840
01:18:45,560 --> 01:18:48,000
Speaker 5: But yeah, I do too. I'm a huge true crime fan,

1841
01:18:48,120 --> 01:18:51,160
Speaker 5: but I've never in my life, and I mean I

1842
01:18:51,200 --> 01:18:53,439
Speaker 5: can't believe. First off, I didn't think it was a

1843
01:18:53,439 --> 01:18:56,760
Speaker 5: big deal. I mean, I probably just agreed to disagree,

1844
01:18:56,840 --> 01:19:00,360
Speaker 5: because I think the idea of having a background check

1845
01:19:01,320 --> 01:19:05,559
Speaker 5: for a first few dates is kind of ridiculous. I'm

1846
01:19:05,600 --> 01:19:08,360
Speaker 5: not the person who I'm not going to share my

1847
01:19:08,479 --> 01:19:11,280
Speaker 5: idea in medicication. He said for friends and family like

1848
01:19:11,680 --> 01:19:17,040
Speaker 5: that immediately like throws that immediately throws in suspicion out there.

1849
01:19:17,160 --> 01:19:20,559
Speaker 5: And I don't trust my information with people. I mean,

1850
01:19:20,760 --> 01:19:24,040
Speaker 5: people pray on that information and they weaponize it. So

1851
01:19:24,439 --> 01:19:27,240
Speaker 5: I don't know. I mean maybe, Vicky, you know, you

1852
01:19:27,320 --> 01:19:29,479
Speaker 5: say for friends and family, I got to think your

1853
01:19:29,520 --> 01:19:32,200
Speaker 5: friends and family, cops, and then if someone out.

1854
01:19:32,080 --> 01:19:35,960
Speaker 4: There, like, are they going to find out? If someone

1855
01:19:35,960 --> 01:19:37,439
Speaker 4: doesn't search on you, what are they going to find?

1856
01:19:37,520 --> 01:19:38,160
Speaker 1: What's the problem?

1857
01:19:38,320 --> 01:19:40,559
Speaker 5: Well, they can find or they can plant you know,

1858
01:19:40,600 --> 01:19:41,360
Speaker 5: I don't trust.

1859
01:19:41,160 --> 01:19:45,800
Speaker 4: Anymore plant what I mean, to play Devil's advocate. I

1860
01:19:45,840 --> 01:19:47,960
Speaker 4: don't hate this idea at all. I've said that to

1861
01:19:47,960 --> 01:19:52,040
Speaker 4: play Devil's advocate, though, Vicky, I'm not certain that I

1862
01:19:52,080 --> 01:19:54,840
Speaker 4: would want to give someone with whom I just sat down,

1863
01:19:55,680 --> 01:19:57,240
Speaker 4: we just sat down. I'm not sure I would want

1864
01:19:57,240 --> 01:20:01,120
Speaker 4: to give them potentially my addres, you know, I mean

1865
01:20:01,280 --> 01:20:04,240
Speaker 4: those kinds of things. I mean, you know, yes, it's possible.

1866
01:20:04,240 --> 01:20:05,920
Speaker 4: The day goes really well, then we wind up at

1867
01:20:05,960 --> 01:20:08,080
Speaker 4: my house and at which point, you know, this person

1868
01:20:08,120 --> 01:20:10,439
Speaker 4: knows my address, but like off the top so that

1869
01:20:10,479 --> 01:20:12,120
Speaker 4: you could share with your friends. I don't know that.

1870
01:20:12,160 --> 01:20:14,759
Speaker 3: I you know, someone could do something with that information.

1871
01:20:15,040 --> 01:20:17,720
Speaker 5: I mean, if she wanted it for her, if you

1872
01:20:17,800 --> 01:20:20,719
Speaker 5: wanted it for you, that's totally cool. But the fact

1873
01:20:20,760 --> 01:20:23,080
Speaker 5: that it's like you want to share like information on

1874
01:20:23,200 --> 01:20:26,000
Speaker 5: my ID with friends and fair. I mean, it could

1875
01:20:26,000 --> 01:20:27,960
Speaker 5: be any type of scenario. They can see that I'm

1876
01:20:28,000 --> 01:20:30,240
Speaker 5: an organ donor and the next thing you know, I'll

1877
01:20:30,240 --> 01:20:31,400
Speaker 5: wake up without a kiddie.

1878
01:20:31,560 --> 01:20:33,400
Speaker 4: I don't think they. I don't think people sealing your

1879
01:20:33,479 --> 01:20:35,400
Speaker 4: organ's care if you're an organ donor.

1880
01:20:36,160 --> 01:20:38,640
Speaker 8: I do like the idea of women being safe and

1881
01:20:38,680 --> 01:20:41,120
Speaker 8: taking a picture of the ID, but my problem with

1882
01:20:41,160 --> 01:20:43,639
Speaker 8: it is that everything on my idea is a lie.

1883
01:20:43,760 --> 01:20:46,880
Speaker 8: Like the picture's bad, my weight's off, my height is off,

1884
01:20:47,120 --> 01:20:51,440
Speaker 8: like I'm five to ten. You know what I'm saying.

1885
01:20:52,320 --> 01:20:56,080
Speaker 4: I'm five ten, you know what I'm saying. He put

1886
01:20:56,120 --> 01:21:01,719
Speaker 4: the radio station a dress, so it's not even real.

1887
01:21:03,800 --> 01:21:08,120
Speaker 4: I mean, I guess I understand what you're trying to do. Vicky.

1888
01:21:08,200 --> 01:21:10,439
Speaker 4: I wonder if on the first date, though, maybe you

1889
01:21:10,479 --> 01:21:14,680
Speaker 4: don't keep your friends updated on your location yourself. You

1890
01:21:14,720 --> 01:21:16,880
Speaker 4: know what I mean as to not necessarily include his

1891
01:21:16,960 --> 01:21:20,400
Speaker 4: personal information. I mean, his full name isn't unefair, that's true.

1892
01:21:20,479 --> 01:21:24,679
Speaker 27: I mean, he gives all information to the dating website

1893
01:21:24,680 --> 01:21:27,519
Speaker 27: we were on, and they checked his ID at the bar, so,

1894
01:21:28,360 --> 01:21:29,960
Speaker 27: I know, it just seems a little sketchy to me

1895
01:21:30,040 --> 01:21:32,600
Speaker 27: that he's so against it, And like, did you just

1896
01:21:32,680 --> 01:21:36,120
Speaker 27: hear all just like, you know, well, crazy theories about stuff.

1897
01:21:36,360 --> 01:21:39,160
Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, there are plenty of apps for that, you know,

1898
01:21:39,280 --> 01:21:41,240
Speaker 8: like that your friends can keep track of you even

1899
01:21:41,680 --> 01:21:42,960
Speaker 8: when you take an uber you know what I'm saying.

1900
01:21:42,960 --> 01:21:45,000
Speaker 4: Your friends could keep track you that way as well too. Yeah,

1901
01:21:45,120 --> 01:21:47,080
Speaker 4: I'm all for the safety element here. I mean, I

1902
01:21:47,120 --> 01:21:49,920
Speaker 4: can see you're right, he seems a little defensive about it.

1903
01:21:49,960 --> 01:21:51,800
Speaker 4: But I also I'm not sure that I would fork

1904
01:21:51,840 --> 01:21:56,040
Speaker 4: over all that information to a stranger. But I assume,

1905
01:21:56,120 --> 01:21:58,400
Speaker 4: though VICKI the base on his reaction, you're not interested

1906
01:21:58,439 --> 01:21:59,200
Speaker 4: in another date?

1907
01:21:59,360 --> 01:22:01,760
Speaker 27: Oh no, not at all. Red flags, red slags, more

1908
01:22:01,800 --> 01:22:02,800
Speaker 27: red flags.

1909
01:22:02,479 --> 01:22:03,400
Speaker 3: Angelo, I don't know.

1910
01:22:03,439 --> 01:22:07,559
Speaker 5: I mean over here too, I'm worried about murders too.

1911
01:22:07,760 --> 01:22:09,519
Speaker 4: I mean, if you still my identity. But I'm dead,

1912
01:22:09,680 --> 01:22:11,639
Speaker 4: I guess I don't have to deal with Yeah.

1913
01:22:11,439 --> 01:22:13,320
Speaker 8: What if she's using that picture for like a you know,

1914
01:22:13,439 --> 01:22:14,960
Speaker 8: scrap book of for people she murders.

1915
01:22:15,280 --> 01:22:17,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I won't have to stand a lot

1916
01:22:17,200 --> 01:22:19,680
Speaker 4: for a diverse certificate if I'm dead. So do your

1917
01:22:19,680 --> 01:22:20,519
Speaker 4: friends judge?

1918
01:22:20,560 --> 01:22:22,160
Speaker 8: Like when you said a picture like that's the guy

1919
01:22:22,160 --> 01:22:24,760
Speaker 8: you're on a date with, Like that's the.

1920
01:22:24,680 --> 01:22:28,240
Speaker 4: Other thing is ID pictures are never good anyway, I'll

1921
01:22:28,240 --> 01:22:32,759
Speaker 4: give you my glamour shine, give you a fingerprints stead

1922
01:22:33,400 --> 01:22:34,640
Speaker 4: All right, guys, thank you for your time.

1923
01:22:34,720 --> 01:22:36,520
Speaker 3: I selected both of you.

1924
01:22:37,280 --> 01:22:40,040
Speaker 4: I just had the biggest yawn, the biggest yawn right

1925
01:22:40,040 --> 01:22:42,360
Speaker 4: before I was supposed to talk, like like the biggest yawn,

1926
01:22:42,880 --> 01:22:45,280
Speaker 4: like the kind of yawn where you want to go, ah,

1927
01:22:45,320 --> 01:22:46,920
Speaker 4: you know that kind of ya do you scream when

1928
01:22:46,920 --> 01:22:48,639
Speaker 4: you yawner? Am I the only one has to make

1929
01:22:48,640 --> 01:22:49,040
Speaker 4: a noise?

1930
01:22:49,479 --> 01:22:51,320
Speaker 1: I mean, not as dramatic as what you just did.

1931
01:22:53,520 --> 01:22:53,840
Speaker 18: You know.

1932
01:22:58,000 --> 01:23:00,640
Speaker 4: That's me yawning. Yeah, and then you know I've been

1933
01:23:00,640 --> 01:23:02,400
Speaker 4: with my knees all weekend. So it's nice if you

1934
01:23:02,439 --> 01:23:04,920
Speaker 4: comment on the yawn like big yaw, you know, something

1935
01:23:05,000 --> 01:23:07,080
Speaker 4: like that or like you would do with your dog,

1936
01:23:07,240 --> 01:23:09,720
Speaker 4: same visiness. For some reason, with dogs no matter of

1937
01:23:09,880 --> 01:23:12,800
Speaker 4: their age, and children it's the same sort of thing, like, oh,

1938
01:23:13,400 --> 01:23:16,280
Speaker 4: if they yawn and you don't acknowledge the big yawn,

1939
01:23:16,760 --> 01:23:22,200
Speaker 4: I don't know what you're worth to them really like yeah,

1940
01:23:22,439 --> 01:23:24,519
Speaker 4: like they need to be acknowledged for that.

1941
01:23:24,600 --> 01:23:26,240
Speaker 3: You don't do that with lux I love.

1942
01:23:26,479 --> 01:23:28,920
Speaker 10: I do it when he stretches like he always stretches

1943
01:23:28,920 --> 01:23:30,440
Speaker 10: and he lays his back legs.

1944
01:23:30,160 --> 01:23:31,479
Speaker 4: And I think that is the funniest thing.

1945
01:23:31,880 --> 01:23:36,799
Speaker 10: Yeah, you just got your kahunas all on the ground like.

1946
01:23:35,280 --> 01:23:46,160
Speaker 20: So like not the kahunas. Yeah, okay, goodness. The word

1947
01:23:46,160 --> 01:23:49,880
Speaker 20: of the day is cahunas. I don't know if that

1948
01:23:50,000 --> 01:23:50,479
Speaker 20: is the word.

1949
01:23:51,320 --> 01:23:51,640
Speaker 3: I think it's.

1950
01:23:53,320 --> 01:23:55,640
Speaker 4: That's what I'm doing, my girl rebranding.

1951
01:23:56,680 --> 01:23:58,280
Speaker 3: It's all good, you know. We just that's what we

1952
01:23:58,320 --> 01:23:59,679
Speaker 3: do right here and make up our own words.

1953
01:23:59,720 --> 01:23:59,920
Speaker 15: Fine.

1954
01:24:00,320 --> 01:24:05,479
Speaker 2: More Pread Show. Next, The Fread Show is on Fread's

1955
01:24:05,560 --> 01:24:06,480
Speaker 2: Fun Fact.

1956
01:24:06,800 --> 01:24:16,439
Speaker 4: Fred's Fun.

1957
01:24:13,840 --> 01:24:14,439
Speaker 5: So much.

1958
01:24:16,320 --> 01:24:21,120
Speaker 4: Guys, are you ready to learn already? Fred?

1959
01:24:21,160 --> 01:24:23,040
Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Thank you for that enthusiasm. I

1960
01:24:23,040 --> 01:24:23,640
Speaker 3: appreciate them.

1961
01:24:26,120 --> 01:24:32,720
Speaker 4: There was once a successful tinder match in Antarctica.

1962
01:24:33,720 --> 01:24:35,880
Speaker 3: Whoa Whoa happened in twenty fourteen.

1963
01:24:35,920 --> 01:24:38,040
Speaker 4: The dating app is popular across the globe, but it

1964
01:24:38,080 --> 01:24:41,000
Speaker 4: didn't have a connection on the least inhabited continent until

1965
01:24:41,000 --> 01:24:43,559
Speaker 4: twenty fourteen with a pair of research scientists, a man

1966
01:24:43,640 --> 01:24:48,160
Speaker 4: working at Antarctica's McMurdo station and a woman camping a

1967
01:24:48,200 --> 01:24:51,880
Speaker 4: forty five minute helicopter right away found that they had matched.

1968
01:24:52,080 --> 01:24:55,719
Speaker 4: No word if it was love, but you know, slim pickings,

1969
01:24:55,880 --> 01:24:58,920
Speaker 4: I would think, And the world's least inhabited continent. So

1970
01:24:59,040 --> 01:25:00,600
Speaker 4: you know, you can imagine who you match with. You

1971
01:25:00,640 --> 01:25:02,760
Speaker 4: get what you get, I guess, right, But there you go.

1972
01:25:03,720 --> 01:25:05,679
Speaker 4: I would have expected, like maybe match like a polar

1973
01:25:05,720 --> 01:25:08,560
Speaker 4: bear or something. You know what I mean, you have

1974
01:25:08,560 --> 01:25:10,920
Speaker 4: a polar bear to eat you and not in a

1975
01:25:10,920 --> 01:25:11,320
Speaker 4: good way.

1976
01:25:11,479 --> 01:25:11,880
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1977
01:25:12,040 --> 01:25:14,599
Speaker 4: I'm like on your vibe with that, Like I could reason.

1978
01:25:15,360 --> 01:25:18,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'd like, I'd like to believe that, I really would.

1979
01:25:19,560 --> 01:25:22,000
Speaker 1: Is there skin really black or something like? Isn't there

1980
01:25:22,040 --> 01:25:23,759
Speaker 1: like a crazy color clear?

1981
01:25:23,880 --> 01:25:25,920
Speaker 4: Something like their furs clear or something like that?

1982
01:25:25,960 --> 01:25:26,160
Speaker 18: Yeah?

1983
01:25:26,439 --> 01:25:31,439
Speaker 3: Okay, free fact tomorrow, sorry google it.

1984
01:25:31,920 --> 01:25:34,479
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know if you're saying there's like a like

1985
01:25:34,560 --> 01:25:38,240
Speaker 4: under their fur something or they're a different color. I'm looking. Yeah,

1986
01:25:38,280 --> 01:25:41,640
Speaker 4: something you know match more than one fact, Kalin. Honestly, so,

1987
01:25:41,760 --> 01:25:42,120
Speaker 4: I don't know.

1988
01:25:42,280 --> 01:25:44,760
Speaker 9: They have jet black skin beneath all that thick fur.

1989
01:25:44,800 --> 01:25:47,839
Speaker 9: The polar bear's fur is also translucent and only appears

1990
01:25:47,880 --> 01:25:49,840
Speaker 9: white because it reflects visible light.

1991
01:25:50,080 --> 01:25:50,439
Speaker 3: Boom.

1992
01:25:50,520 --> 01:25:53,240
Speaker 9: That's the only reason they're white. Wow, is because they're

1993
01:25:53,280 --> 01:25:55,599
Speaker 9: really black on their skin. Okay, all right.

1994
01:25:55,439 --> 01:25:57,600
Speaker 4: It's interesting. Let's go to Antartica and see if we

1995
01:25:57,600 --> 01:25:58,679
Speaker 4: can reason with a polar bear.

1996
01:25:58,720 --> 01:25:59,439
Speaker 1: I would love to.

1997
01:25:59,680 --> 01:26:01,519
Speaker 4: Yeah, I just need to get some good running shoes.

1998
01:26:02,120 --> 01:26:09,599
Speaker 4: Why imagine someone in Antarctica rods are pretty good. You're

1999
01:26:09,640 --> 01:26:11,040
Speaker 4: the only one here. I'm the only one here. I

2000
01:26:11,080 --> 01:26:14,519
Speaker 4: guess we're doing it. So more bread.

2001
01:26:14,360 --> 01:26:22,680
Speaker 2: Show next, got fread show is on.

2002
01:26:24,240 --> 01:26:25,000
Speaker 20: This morning show.

2003
01:26:27,760 --> 01:26:30,000
Speaker 4: And I'm a crazy person. You guys know this. But

2004
01:26:30,200 --> 01:26:32,920
Speaker 4: I got into an argument with someone a couple of

2005
01:26:33,000 --> 01:26:35,760
Speaker 4: nights ago, and I was in the wrong in this

2006
01:26:35,920 --> 01:26:46,080
Speaker 4: argument for the most part of block. You're well, hold on, listen,

2007
01:26:46,160 --> 01:26:46,800
Speaker 4: don't hear me out.

2008
01:26:46,800 --> 01:26:47,840
Speaker 3: They'll hear me out.

2009
01:26:48,080 --> 01:26:51,880
Speaker 4: I had wrongdoing in the scenario in that, in a

2010
01:26:52,120 --> 01:26:56,080
Speaker 4: in a tense conversation, I apparently made a comment that

2011
01:26:56,240 --> 01:27:02,280
Speaker 4: was hurtful. Now, in fairness, I repeated, essentially repeated back

2012
01:27:02,320 --> 01:27:04,680
Speaker 4: to this person what they had already said to me.

2013
01:27:05,120 --> 01:27:08,080
Speaker 4: But when I said it, it was mean spirited apparently

2014
01:27:08,120 --> 01:27:09,040
Speaker 4: and very very hurtful.

2015
01:27:09,360 --> 01:27:10,840
Speaker 3: It doesn't matter. I own that.

2016
01:27:11,200 --> 01:27:13,479
Speaker 4: I own that I said something I shouldn't have said

2017
01:27:13,520 --> 01:27:17,559
Speaker 4: in the course of an argument with someone, and I've

2018
01:27:17,600 --> 01:27:21,400
Speaker 4: apologized profusely for that. But do you ever find yourself

2019
01:27:21,400 --> 01:27:24,000
Speaker 4: in a situation and this is me, like, this is

2020
01:27:24,040 --> 01:27:26,080
Speaker 4: my problem, but do you ever find yourself in a

2021
01:27:26,120 --> 01:27:30,400
Speaker 4: situation where you're arguing with somebody who is not at

2022
01:27:30,439 --> 01:27:34,360
Speaker 4: all willing to see your side? Yes, like all the time,

2023
01:27:34,479 --> 01:27:38,400
Speaker 4: like not even slightly willing to There's it's almost like

2024
01:27:38,439 --> 01:27:41,840
Speaker 4: this person just wants to be angry, yes, because they're

2025
01:27:41,880 --> 01:27:46,760
Speaker 4: completely unwilling to accept that where you were coming from.

2026
01:27:46,800 --> 01:27:49,559
Speaker 4: And again I wasn't like I didn't apologize. I said

2027
01:27:49,680 --> 01:27:52,320
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, but let me explain to you. And then

2028
01:27:52,360 --> 01:27:56,080
Speaker 4: apparently like facts and context have been completely removed, and

2029
01:27:56,120 --> 01:28:01,120
Speaker 4: so it's like it's basically I'm arguing position from what

2030
01:28:01,200 --> 01:28:05,400
Speaker 4: I believed to be facts after already apologizing and acknowledge

2031
01:28:05,600 --> 01:28:08,040
Speaker 4: I'm trying to disarm the situation. But I also want

2032
01:28:08,040 --> 01:28:10,680
Speaker 4: this person to realize that's not what happened, Like what

2033
01:28:10,720 --> 01:28:14,240
Speaker 4: you're saying happened, that's not how it happened. And for

2034
01:28:14,240 --> 01:28:16,519
Speaker 4: some reason, I can't just give up with the fact

2035
01:28:16,560 --> 01:28:18,720
Speaker 4: that I'm not gonna get it's not gonna be a

2036
01:28:18,760 --> 01:28:23,479
Speaker 4: fair argument. I can't stop, and so like, like two

2037
01:28:23,520 --> 01:28:27,040
Speaker 4: hours later, I'm still arguing my side of it, only

2038
01:28:27,080 --> 01:28:29,839
Speaker 4: to find out that this person just wants to be pissed.

2039
01:28:30,120 --> 01:28:30,360
Speaker 5: Yeah.

2040
01:28:30,400 --> 01:28:33,479
Speaker 4: Like, and then as soon as I slipped up again

2041
01:28:33,520 --> 01:28:36,200
Speaker 4: in the argument, I'm right the last two hours because

2042
01:28:36,200 --> 01:28:38,439
Speaker 4: then I said something else to be funny to like,

2043
01:28:38,439 --> 01:28:40,439
Speaker 4: because I thought we were like result, it was a text.

2044
01:28:40,760 --> 01:28:42,400
Speaker 3: I thought we had resolved the argument.

2045
01:28:42,600 --> 01:28:45,680
Speaker 4: So I called back to something earlier in the conversation

2046
01:28:45,880 --> 01:28:48,800
Speaker 4: to make it like silly. And then I was like,

2047
01:28:48,880 --> 01:28:50,920
Speaker 4: and she I was right back in the doghouse where

2048
01:28:51,760 --> 01:28:53,040
Speaker 4: right right back where I started.

2049
01:28:53,080 --> 01:28:55,599
Speaker 1: We got to talk offline because I gotta know, well.

2050
01:28:55,439 --> 01:28:57,759
Speaker 4: No, it's just my point is, like I should know better,

2051
01:28:57,960 --> 01:29:02,160
Speaker 4: like I walked into the trap. This person would rather

2052
01:29:02,320 --> 01:29:07,599
Speaker 4: hold on to whatever she believes happened even though.

2053
01:29:07,439 --> 01:29:08,800
Speaker 3: I acknowledged I was wrong.

2054
01:29:09,080 --> 01:29:10,640
Speaker 4: You know, That's the thing, Like I get it when

2055
01:29:10,720 --> 01:29:13,200
Speaker 4: people argue their side and they're unwilling to admit the

2056
01:29:13,240 --> 01:29:15,920
Speaker 4: part where they were wrong. That's frustrating, and I'll hold

2057
01:29:15,920 --> 01:29:18,680
Speaker 4: my ground. But I started and I rarely do this,

2058
01:29:19,040 --> 01:29:21,479
Speaker 4: but I started with that was my bad.

2059
01:29:21,720 --> 01:29:22,240
Speaker 3: However.

2060
01:29:22,560 --> 01:29:25,040
Speaker 9: Oh see, maybe the however upset them, Like when you

2061
01:29:25,080 --> 01:29:26,360
Speaker 9: apologize their shy.

2062
01:29:26,400 --> 01:29:30,959
Speaker 4: I'm paraphrase, But the thing is, I'm apologizing. I'm admittedly

2063
01:29:30,960 --> 01:29:34,200
Speaker 4: apologizing because this relationship mattered to me as a friend,

2064
01:29:34,760 --> 01:29:37,759
Speaker 4: but I'm also not completely giving in on this version.

2065
01:29:37,760 --> 01:29:41,680
Speaker 4: I mean, like, this person's version of events is not

2066
01:29:41,840 --> 01:29:42,479
Speaker 4: what happened.

2067
01:29:42,479 --> 01:29:43,120
Speaker 3: It just isn't.

2068
01:29:43,600 --> 01:29:47,640
Speaker 4: But for some reason I need I needed that validation,

2069
01:29:47,800 --> 01:29:50,640
Speaker 4: Like I needed that person to be like, Okay, you

2070
01:29:50,720 --> 01:29:53,120
Speaker 4: were wrong for that, but I understand how we got here.

2071
01:29:53,560 --> 01:29:56,080
Speaker 4: That's what I think people who care about each other do,

2072
01:29:56,280 --> 01:29:58,759
Speaker 4: especially when the other person dives right from the beginning.

2073
01:29:59,120 --> 01:30:00,840
Speaker 4: I mean, I didn't come in armed to be like

2074
01:30:00,920 --> 01:30:05,479
Speaker 4: you're in you're a mean, spirited, deep deeply rooted anger

2075
01:30:05,760 --> 01:30:06,800
Speaker 4: issues person. I didn't.

2076
01:30:06,840 --> 01:30:08,800
Speaker 3: I didn't like come in with that, but but you

2077
01:30:08,840 --> 01:30:09,320
Speaker 3: know what I mean.

2078
01:30:10,280 --> 01:30:13,559
Speaker 4: But what I'm saying is like when I care about

2079
01:30:13,560 --> 01:30:17,280
Speaker 4: somebody and I think we're friends, I give them the

2080
01:30:17,320 --> 01:30:21,160
Speaker 4: benefit of the doubt because intent matters. Yes, Like, it

2081
01:30:21,200 --> 01:30:24,559
Speaker 4: turns out that what I said, which is literally almost

2082
01:30:24,640 --> 01:30:27,600
Speaker 4: repeating exactly what she said to me about herself, was

2083
01:30:27,760 --> 01:30:31,639
Speaker 4: very very personal for her and hurtful, and I didn't

2084
01:30:31,720 --> 01:30:34,040
Speaker 4: know that. Like when I said it, I was simply

2085
01:30:34,640 --> 01:30:37,840
Speaker 4: voicing frustration. It doesn't mean what I said was right.

2086
01:30:37,880 --> 01:30:40,680
Speaker 4: It wasn't. But apparently I was supposed to know that

2087
01:30:40,800 --> 01:30:42,519
Speaker 4: was the worst thing I ever could have said to her,

2088
01:30:42,560 --> 01:30:45,599
Speaker 4: and I was supposed to just know that in my head.

2089
01:30:45,640 --> 01:30:47,519
Speaker 1: Well, that's not fair to put on you at all.

2090
01:30:47,560 --> 01:30:49,240
Speaker 9: But I do think like when we say sorry, like

2091
01:30:49,240 --> 01:30:50,600
Speaker 9: I don't know if someone says sorry to me, and

2092
01:30:50,640 --> 01:30:53,640
Speaker 9: then like there's stuff that comes after it, like explaining

2093
01:30:53,720 --> 01:30:55,760
Speaker 9: why or what I like, I feel like sometimes it

2094
01:30:55,800 --> 01:30:58,360
Speaker 9: doesn't feel genuine, like it might be genuine, but like

2095
01:30:58,439 --> 01:31:02,040
Speaker 9: sometimes the explanation makes me feel like someone really isn't sorry.

2096
01:31:02,360 --> 01:31:05,240
Speaker 4: So maybe that's where maybe maybe I just think it's

2097
01:31:05,320 --> 01:31:09,360
Speaker 4: like if we care about each other and we're communicating, Yeah,

2098
01:31:09,400 --> 01:31:12,080
Speaker 4: I'm acknowledging my wrongdoing, but that's kind of where you

2099
01:31:12,120 --> 01:31:15,200
Speaker 4: step in as somebody who actually cares if you do,

2100
01:31:15,439 --> 01:31:18,880
Speaker 4: which this person could does not and says, okay, I'm

2101
01:31:18,880 --> 01:31:21,840
Speaker 4: off my high horse now, like right, you said, you

2102
01:31:21,880 --> 01:31:24,360
Speaker 4: said you were wrong. I get it. Here's where this

2103
01:31:25,160 --> 01:31:27,080
Speaker 4: and maybe give a little to the person who just

2104
01:31:27,120 --> 01:31:28,719
Speaker 4: did the thing that you want them to do, because

2105
01:31:28,760 --> 01:31:31,679
Speaker 4: it's not that common. Not that it shouldn't, apologies should

2106
01:31:31,680 --> 01:31:33,719
Speaker 4: be more common, but for whatever reason, it's not easy

2107
01:31:33,720 --> 01:31:35,920
Speaker 4: for humans to apologize to each other. And I'm willing

2108
01:31:35,960 --> 01:31:38,920
Speaker 4: to admit where I screwed up. But if my friend

2109
01:31:39,000 --> 01:31:42,120
Speaker 4: comes to me and says I'm sorry, uh, and I

2110
01:31:42,160 --> 01:31:44,559
Speaker 4: care about them, I like them, I'll usually extend some

2111
01:31:44,640 --> 01:31:46,559
Speaker 4: grace on my side too and be like, you know what,

2112
01:31:46,640 --> 01:31:49,320
Speaker 4: thank you for doing that. I appreciate that. Andre's where

2113
01:31:49,439 --> 01:31:51,639
Speaker 4: here's where things could have gone awry on my end too.

2114
01:31:51,920 --> 01:31:53,720
Speaker 4: But instead there was none of that. And for some

2115
01:31:53,800 --> 01:31:56,040
Speaker 4: reason I kept going for two hours waiting for that

2116
01:31:56,280 --> 01:31:58,840
Speaker 4: oh wow. And I'm the idiot because I was never

2117
01:31:58,920 --> 01:32:00,760
Speaker 4: and am never going to get it because it's much

2118
01:32:00,800 --> 01:32:03,160
Speaker 4: easier to be like, you're a prick and you'll always

2119
01:32:03,160 --> 01:32:05,720
Speaker 4: be a prick. But for some reason in my mind,

2120
01:32:05,760 --> 01:32:07,680
Speaker 4: I'm like, no, no, no, she's going to come to

2121
01:32:07,720 --> 01:32:09,640
Speaker 4: my side because we've been friends for like five or

2122
01:32:09,680 --> 01:32:12,920
Speaker 4: six years, like clearly you know. And that's another thing

2123
01:32:12,920 --> 01:32:16,559
Speaker 4: that drives me absolutely crazy is when somebody decides they

2124
01:32:16,640 --> 01:32:19,320
Speaker 4: know you, they know you to the core, like they

2125
01:32:19,360 --> 01:32:21,640
Speaker 4: know you as well as anyone would know you, and

2126
01:32:21,680 --> 01:32:24,000
Speaker 4: they take one statement that you've made and now all

2127
01:32:24,040 --> 01:32:25,920
Speaker 4: of a sudden, you're the worst person in the world.

2128
01:32:26,200 --> 01:32:28,280
Speaker 4: And it's like, so we're just throwing out everything you

2129
01:32:28,360 --> 01:32:28,920
Speaker 4: know about me.

2130
01:32:29,439 --> 01:32:31,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, that I don't agree with. If you know where

2131
01:32:31,760 --> 01:32:32,360
Speaker 1: my heart is.

2132
01:32:32,439 --> 01:32:34,360
Speaker 3: You know, the kind of person i'm I am.

2133
01:32:34,439 --> 01:32:37,719
Speaker 4: People say stupid things when they're disappointed or upset, which

2134
01:32:37,760 --> 01:32:41,240
Speaker 4: I did, and I own that, but like, I don't know.

2135
01:32:41,280 --> 01:32:43,760
Speaker 4: I think about my relationship with my mom, Like growing up,

2136
01:32:44,000 --> 01:32:47,559
Speaker 4: we got along great, but she would sometimes, you know,

2137
01:32:47,720 --> 01:32:49,799
Speaker 4: when she wanted to end an argument with me, she'd

2138
01:32:49,880 --> 01:32:51,800
Speaker 4: hit me with a barb and she knows, she knew

2139
01:32:51,840 --> 01:32:54,160
Speaker 4: exactly what to do, and it would shut me up

2140
01:32:54,200 --> 01:32:56,479
Speaker 4: like that. It worked, but then about fifteen minutes later

2141
01:32:56,520 --> 01:32:58,439
Speaker 4: she'd come back and say that was unfair and I'm sorry,

2142
01:32:58,520 --> 01:33:01,040
Speaker 4: and it's my mother and so I and I know this.

2143
01:33:01,160 --> 01:33:03,320
Speaker 4: She didn't mean that the way that it could be taken,

2144
01:33:03,360 --> 01:33:04,960
Speaker 4: So like, yeah, was I mad for an hour? Or

2145
01:33:05,000 --> 01:33:06,759
Speaker 4: two and then just to go right back to normal

2146
01:33:07,000 --> 01:33:11,000
Speaker 4: because I know, I know she didn't mean that that way. Yeah,

2147
01:33:11,360 --> 01:33:12,880
Speaker 4: and this person's not going to give me that. And

2148
01:33:12,960 --> 01:33:15,400
Speaker 4: for some reason, I just couldn't stop, like I had

2149
01:33:15,439 --> 01:33:17,880
Speaker 4: to keep going because I just wanted this person to

2150
01:33:17,920 --> 01:33:21,080
Speaker 4: be like, yeah, you know what, I can see your side.

2151
01:33:21,360 --> 01:33:21,799
Speaker 1: Yeah.

2152
01:33:21,880 --> 01:33:23,360
Speaker 9: I mean, my friends and I were talking about this

2153
01:33:23,400 --> 01:33:25,840
Speaker 9: at dinner the other night, and everyone's going around saying like,

2154
01:33:25,880 --> 01:33:27,960
Speaker 9: do you hold grudges or not? Because my one friend asked,

2155
01:33:28,000 --> 01:33:30,120
Speaker 9: she was like, oh, I hold them. I hold them,

2156
01:33:30,120 --> 01:33:32,479
Speaker 9: And she asked me if I did, and I said, honestly, like,

2157
01:33:32,680 --> 01:33:36,000
Speaker 9: if someone has the kahones to come to me and

2158
01:33:36,080 --> 01:33:38,600
Speaker 9: have like a face to face conversation and apologize, I

2159
01:33:38,680 --> 01:33:41,280
Speaker 9: let everything go because I know how hard that is

2160
01:33:41,320 --> 01:33:44,200
Speaker 9: for people to do. So really, like I once I

2161
01:33:44,280 --> 01:33:46,400
Speaker 9: get that, I'm like over it one hundred percent because

2162
01:33:46,400 --> 01:33:48,640
Speaker 9: I know that it's like, you know, not common so

2163
01:33:48,840 --> 01:33:51,599
Speaker 9: and if you know someone in their hearts.

2164
01:33:50,920 --> 01:33:52,439
Speaker 3: And that's the part that frustrated me the most.

2165
01:33:52,439 --> 01:33:54,320
Speaker 4: I'm like, so we're really gonna we're gonna ride with that,

2166
01:33:55,680 --> 01:33:57,720
Speaker 4: which I hate to say this about. And again now

2167
01:33:57,760 --> 01:33:59,960
Speaker 4: it sounds like I'm backing down on my apology, which

2168
01:34:00,040 --> 01:34:04,040
Speaker 4: I'm not, but like, if that's your position, I should

2169
01:34:04,040 --> 01:34:06,360
Speaker 4: have just known, like you don't want this to be right,

2170
01:34:06,520 --> 01:34:08,240
Speaker 4: Like you don't want this to end, you don't want it,

2171
01:34:08,400 --> 01:34:10,840
Speaker 4: you want to be angry. You're looking for reasons to

2172
01:34:11,600 --> 01:34:13,519
Speaker 4: be a victim or for me to be a villain.

2173
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Speaker 4: And that's not what friends do to each other. And

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Speaker 4: so guess what are you done?

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Speaker 23: I have to be like with the friendship. Yeah, oh wow, okay, yeah,

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01:34:22,640 --> 01:34:25,880
Speaker 23: because I don't think that was fair. If I had

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Speaker 23: come to her and been like, I'm not going to

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Speaker 23: apologize because I didn't mean it, because I didn't mean it.

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Speaker 3: I certainly didn't mean it. It was as it was interpreted.

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01:34:34,320 --> 01:34:36,040
Speaker 4: If I had come to her like that and then

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01:34:36,080 --> 01:34:39,200
Speaker 4: she's on the defensive, then I would say, then that

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01:34:39,640 --> 01:34:41,919
Speaker 4: is what you're talking about. That's not really an apology.

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01:34:42,280 --> 01:34:45,400
Speaker 4: But I said probably twenty times that was my bad.

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01:34:45,600 --> 01:34:46,439
Speaker 1: Okay, that's fine.

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01:34:46,520 --> 01:34:49,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, but on the flip side, I need you to

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01:34:49,320 --> 01:34:52,559
Speaker 4: acknowledge that's not how it happened. And then what's funny

2187
01:34:52,600 --> 01:34:55,240
Speaker 4: is like this new details started emerging, I'm like, wait, what,

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01:34:55,439 --> 01:34:57,960
Speaker 4: like you know what? But I just kept going I

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01:34:58,000 --> 01:35:01,000
Speaker 4: couldn't help myself. Like I shoul have known about fifteen

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01:35:01,040 --> 01:35:03,519
Speaker 4: minutes in, this wasn't going to go my way. I

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01:35:03,600 --> 01:35:06,599
Speaker 4: wasn't going to get any understanding, and I was wrong,

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01:35:06,680 --> 01:35:08,320
Speaker 4: and that's and that's the end of it. But then

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01:35:08,479 --> 01:35:10,280
Speaker 4: this person's like, well, maybe we can still be friends,

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01:35:10,320 --> 01:35:11,240
Speaker 4: and I'm like, but I don't know that I can

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01:35:11,280 --> 01:35:13,800
Speaker 4: be friends with you because you can't forgive me. You

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01:35:13,880 --> 01:35:16,320
Speaker 4: say you can, but you are so angry, you know

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01:35:16,320 --> 01:35:18,800
Speaker 4: what I mean. So like, I don't have that many friends,

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01:35:18,840 --> 01:35:22,160
Speaker 4: and the ones I do have are unconditional. I might

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01:35:22,200 --> 01:35:26,000
Speaker 4: piss you off, but the people I'm friends with will

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01:35:26,040 --> 01:35:28,880
Speaker 4: eventually come back to the person that they know who's

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01:35:28,920 --> 01:35:31,439
Speaker 4: a person who wouldn't want to intentionally hurt them. That's

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01:35:31,439 --> 01:35:33,599
Speaker 4: not to say that words don't matter and that people

2203
01:35:33,640 --> 01:35:36,479
Speaker 4: who care about each other can't hurt each other, But ultimately,

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01:35:36,520 --> 01:35:38,479
Speaker 4: I think when there's equity in a friendship and somebody

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01:35:38,520 --> 01:35:41,960
Speaker 4: really knows you, for them to just decide that you're

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01:35:41,960 --> 01:35:45,240
Speaker 4: not worth it says something about what they really think

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01:35:45,280 --> 01:35:45,519
Speaker 4: of you.

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01:35:45,920 --> 01:35:47,639
Speaker 1: In my opinion, try to call one another.

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01:35:47,680 --> 01:35:49,720
Speaker 9: I mean sometimes with texting it so no it was

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01:35:49,760 --> 01:35:51,960
Speaker 9: all text Okay, maybe yeah, but.

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01:35:51,920 --> 01:35:54,040
Speaker 3: The point is I couldn't help myself. I just couldn't.

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01:35:54,040 --> 01:35:56,400
Speaker 4: I couldn't blame you. I couldn't just give in.

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01:35:56,560 --> 01:35:58,840
Speaker 10: I can't live in delusion with you. Like if that's

2214
01:35:58,880 --> 01:36:00,479
Speaker 10: not how it happened, then I'm I'm not going to

2215
01:36:00,600 --> 01:36:03,760
Speaker 10: change what actually happened just to coddle you, like.

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01:36:03,760 --> 01:36:06,200
Speaker 4: No, and it's something. At one point, this person's like, well,

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01:36:06,200 --> 01:36:08,040
Speaker 4: do you do I owe you a thank you for

2218
01:36:08,080 --> 01:36:09,920
Speaker 4: your apology, and I'm like, that's not what I'm saying.

2219
01:36:10,680 --> 01:36:13,400
Speaker 4: I'm just saying, can you please acknowledge how difficult it

2220
01:36:13,520 --> 01:36:15,680
Speaker 4: is for someone to say they're wrong, especially when they

2221
01:36:15,680 --> 01:36:18,080
Speaker 4: don't entirely agree about how it happened. But I did

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01:36:18,120 --> 01:36:20,200
Speaker 4: it anyway because it was worth it to me. But

2223
01:36:20,240 --> 01:36:22,920
Speaker 4: it is not worth it to you. Apparently on the

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01:36:22,920 --> 01:36:26,200
Speaker 4: other side, it's too bad. But like it is what

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01:36:26,240 --> 01:36:28,559
Speaker 4: it is. I just it would be one thing if

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01:36:28,720 --> 01:36:31,760
Speaker 4: I were unwilling to admit any wrongdoing. I have no

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01:36:31,840 --> 01:36:34,680
Speaker 4: problem saying that was messed up on me. But then

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01:36:34,720 --> 01:36:38,240
Speaker 4: it's like, oh, that was I don't I'm not patting

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01:36:38,320 --> 01:36:39,080
Speaker 4: myself on the back.

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01:36:39,240 --> 01:36:39,880
Speaker 3: I guess I am.

2231
01:36:40,120 --> 01:36:42,879
Speaker 4: But there aren't too many people I am often unwilling

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01:36:42,920 --> 01:36:45,000
Speaker 4: to do that even when I should. But I did

2233
01:36:45,080 --> 01:36:46,160
Speaker 4: it here because it mattered.

2234
01:36:47,760 --> 01:36:50,960
Speaker 3: But the end of result is I don't know that.

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01:36:51,000 --> 01:36:52,640
Speaker 4: I don't know that I want to socialize with this

2236
01:36:52,640 --> 01:36:56,040
Speaker 4: person because it's like, apparently there's no there'll never be

2237
01:36:56,080 --> 01:36:58,639
Speaker 4: any grace given. Apparently if I say the wrong thing

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01:36:58,920 --> 01:37:01,840
Speaker 4: at any time, and for some reason, I don't know

2239
01:37:01,880 --> 01:37:04,160
Speaker 4: the exact context and the exact way you're going to

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01:37:04,160 --> 01:37:06,120
Speaker 4: interpret that, which nobody ever will no.

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01:37:06,240 --> 01:37:08,720
Speaker 3: Well that I'm out, I'm out. I'm just I'm just

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01:37:09,040 --> 01:37:09,639
Speaker 3: you know what I mean.

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01:37:09,680 --> 01:37:11,800
Speaker 1: But they you said they still want to be your friend.

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01:37:11,760 --> 01:37:13,920
Speaker 3: Well, at one point that was a suggestion, but I'm like,

2245
01:37:14,720 --> 01:37:15,120
Speaker 3: you're done.

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01:37:15,360 --> 01:37:17,200
Speaker 1: I'm like, maybe they're just mad in the moment, you know.

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01:37:17,360 --> 01:37:21,360
Speaker 4: I'm like, how can I be your friend when you you?

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01:37:21,400 --> 01:37:21,720
Speaker 14: This is?

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01:37:21,760 --> 01:37:23,599
Speaker 4: This is this is the playing field that you know,

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01:37:23,880 --> 01:37:27,080
Speaker 4: I'm supposed to read your mind. I'm supposed to not

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01:37:27,120 --> 01:37:29,000
Speaker 4: apparently have any emotion about things that you say.

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01:37:29,000 --> 01:37:29,320
Speaker 3: I'm not all.

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01:37:29,400 --> 01:37:31,240
Speaker 4: I guess I'm not allowed to have feelings or act out

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01:37:31,280 --> 01:37:32,760
Speaker 4: at any at any point, which I think is a

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01:37:32,760 --> 01:37:34,840
Speaker 4: normal thing to do in a friendship, in a relationship.

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01:37:35,560 --> 01:37:37,400
Speaker 4: And when I do those things, and I say, I'm sorry.

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01:37:37,439 --> 01:37:37,840
Speaker 3: I guess.

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01:37:39,080 --> 01:37:41,280
Speaker 4: I guess that doesn't I guess, you know, I guess,

2259
01:37:41,280 --> 01:37:43,479
Speaker 4: so so what, I'm still hurt, You're still in a whole.

2260
01:37:43,600 --> 01:37:46,280
Speaker 4: It's like your emotions apparently you're everything about you is

2261
01:37:46,320 --> 01:37:47,479
Speaker 4: more important than everything about me.

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01:37:47,560 --> 01:37:47,960
Speaker 3: I guess.

2263
01:37:48,400 --> 01:37:51,240
Speaker 4: And it's like, I don't know, give me something. Yeah,

2264
01:37:51,280 --> 01:37:53,439
Speaker 4: but I'm the idiot who couldn't stop. I probably dug

2265
01:37:53,479 --> 01:37:55,920
Speaker 4: a deeper hole because now I'm like, no, wait a minute.

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01:37:55,640 --> 01:37:56,559
Speaker 1: No, whoa whoa whoa?

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01:37:57,080 --> 01:37:58,759
Speaker 4: No, whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa.

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01:37:58,760 --> 01:38:01,160
Speaker 1: Two hours is a long time. We're talking to your

2269
01:38:01,160 --> 01:38:05,360
Speaker 1: phone to do the text or like the apartment.

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01:38:05,720 --> 01:38:05,800
Speaker 5: No.

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01:38:06,080 --> 01:38:09,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was pissed because my small cheval had just

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01:38:09,240 --> 01:38:11,439
Speaker 4: shown up too, and I didn't eat it because I

2273
01:38:11,479 --> 01:38:14,720
Speaker 4: was too busy trying to believe it or not. I

2274
01:38:14,760 --> 01:38:17,160
Speaker 4: really wanted to make this right, but I also want

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01:38:17,200 --> 01:38:20,160
Speaker 4: to give me something, give me something, you know, but

2276
01:38:20,200 --> 01:38:23,320
Speaker 4: not my small chaval got cold? Oh no, but you

2277
01:38:23,360 --> 01:38:25,080
Speaker 4: know what, On the flip side, I only ate about

2278
01:38:25,080 --> 01:38:26,800
Speaker 4: a quarter of it because it was cold and the

2279
01:38:26,800 --> 01:38:29,320
Speaker 4: fries were cold, and so I saved myself probably a

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01:38:29,360 --> 01:38:31,799
Speaker 4: thousand calories in that fight. So that was really exciting.

2281
01:38:31,880 --> 01:38:34,760
Speaker 4: Now I want to hear the real story. Thank you

2282
01:38:34,800 --> 01:38:36,840
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01:38:36,880 --> 01:38:39,320
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01:39:02,200 --> 01:39:05,320
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