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Speaker 2: Melissa is on the phone today for our first Date
Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Austin.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and
Speaker 2: see if you'll tell us why he's ghosting her and
Speaker 2: maybe get her another date. But first, Melissa, how long
Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Austin.
Speaker 3: It's been about a week.
Speaker 4: So did you try to reach out to him?
Speaker 3: I have, Yeah, I mean I just kind of distinct
Speaker 3: him for a wonderfull time and I would love to
Speaker 3: do it again soon. And I hadn't heard of anything,
Speaker 3: but I thought, you know, our date was really solid,
Speaker 3: so I'm I'm really surprised.
Speaker 4: Sure, why don't you tell us about the date?
Speaker 3: Sure? Okay, Well we met on bumble. You know, I
Speaker 3: was instantly attracted to him, just to set you up,
Speaker 3: you know, just to know the backstory a little bit
Speaker 3: before the date, Like, you know, we had talked for
Speaker 3: a couple of weeks and you know, we had some
Speaker 3: really great phone conversations, so like then take a pation
Speaker 3: to meet in person was like super high. We met
Speaker 3: at an indoor mini golf arcade place and we like
Speaker 3: kissed right away. It was it felt like we were magnets.
Speaker 4: Okay, that's hot.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I really haven't felt like something like this before.
Speaker 3: It starts for flying. The date was just super hot
Speaker 3: and exciting, so yeah, I didn't want the night to end.
Speaker 3: And we went back to Austin. We started talking about
Speaker 3: life flowers staring at the sky from the falcony and
Speaker 3: we hooked up.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 3: So yeah, like the chemistry was just crazy.
Speaker 4: When you kissed right away, describe like what what happened there.
Speaker 3: So, since we were talking for a couple of weeks
Speaker 3: and it was building up, I already felt really familiar,
Speaker 3: like I've known him. So when I saw him waiting
Speaker 3: for me at the front, I just like instantly like
Speaker 3: ran up to him and he like scooped me up,
Speaker 3: and it was like out of a movie.
Speaker 5: Like oh wow, okay, sounds like yeah, it was.
Speaker 3: Like that dirty dancing scene, you know, like were you
Speaker 3: you know, and it just felt so spontaneous and we
Speaker 3: just instantly felt super comfortable.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 3: It was really sweet. So anyway, I left in the morning,
Speaker 3: and you know, I told him verbally like I can't
Speaker 3: wait to see him again, and you know, I joked that,
Speaker 3: you know, he better call me and he said, of course,
Speaker 3: and that was it. And I'm so confused.
Speaker 5: Did anything happen like that would have made him not
Speaker 5: call you back?
Speaker 3: I mean, the only thing that I can think about
Speaker 3: was like, I do have a kid, and I wasn't
Speaker 3: completely upfront with him, but like I needed to know
Speaker 3: like that something was really there, that it really was
Speaker 3: real and human being met like I knew that it was.
Speaker 3: It's just like a hard thing to slip in when
Speaker 3: you're on an amusing leet. But as I was leaving,
Speaker 3: I told him I I need to get home.
Speaker 4: To my kid, and okay, and that's.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, And I kept it light. I didn't like
Speaker 3: really want to get into it, just because I really
Speaker 3: was in a rush. But I felt like maybe he
Speaker 3: was like processing that news as I was leaving. I
Speaker 3: don't know, he seemed like he internalized it, but it
Speaker 3: seemed like we you know, I did say, let's talk
Speaker 3: about it next time, and it seemed like that was
Speaker 3: definitely a conversation like I'm open to have being NFL
Speaker 3: Like he's someone that would also be open having that conversation.
Speaker 3: That's just why I'm just surprised, because he seems like
Speaker 3: a really open person.
Speaker 5: Well, you could be processing though, because you know, if
Speaker 5: real feelings are starting to develop at that point, then
Speaker 5: you really have to ask yourself, like, Okay, you know
Speaker 5: what role am I going to play with somebody that
Speaker 5: has a child?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 4: How does that work? We'll see.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song come Back, and then call him
Speaker 2: and seefa tell us why he's ghosting, maybe get you
Speaker 2: another date?
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, all right, that sounds good.
Speaker 2: All right, we'll play a song come back. Get your
Speaker 2: first date follow up.
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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your first Date follow up
Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Melissa is on the phone
Speaker 2: and Melissa is getting ghosted by Austin. So we're about
Speaker 2: to call him and see if he'll tell us why
Speaker 2: he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date. But first, Melissa,
Speaker 2: why don't you catch us up on your situation?
Speaker 3: Yeah? So I met this incredible guy off of bumb
Speaker 3: We talked for a couple of weeks. We went on
Speaker 3: this like mind blowing date we hooked up. The chemistry
Speaker 3: was off the charts, and lo and behold, I flippen
Speaker 3: when I'm walking out the door, I tould get home
Speaker 3: to my kid, and I feel like I sleeked him
Speaker 3: out and I haven't heard from him since, and it's
Speaker 3: been a week.
Speaker 5: Because that was the first time that you told him
Speaker 5: that you had a kid, was when you were leaving.
Speaker 3: Yes, but I do feel like we, you know, coming
Speaker 3: in hot with our chemistry. I just felt like it
Speaker 3: wasn't ever the right time to really unpass that. But
Speaker 3: I feel like that's what a second seat would before.
Speaker 4: Okay, well, are you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 4: Please, Okay, here we go. I man speak to Austin. Please, Austin.
Speaker 4: What's up?
Speaker 2: Man?
Speaker 4: This is Jewbil. I'm calling from a radio show. It's
Speaker 4: called the Jewbil Show. Kay, Austin. I'm Nena also on
Speaker 4: this I'm Victoria.
Speaker 5: Wow.
Speaker 6: That's overwhelming.
Speaker 4: How are you good?
Speaker 7: Good?
Speaker 6: So I'm on the call with three people here.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Have you ever listened to the Jubil Show before?
Speaker 6: I believe so. Well.
Speaker 2: We do a segment on the show it's called the
Speaker 2: First Aid follow Up. That's where if you go out
Speaker 2: on a day with somebody and then you end up
Speaker 2: ghosting them, that person can ask us to email you
Speaker 2: and ask why you're ghosting. And we got an email
Speaker 2: about you, Austin, you have any idea who it would be?
Speaker 4: If I feel like you do.
Speaker 6: I feel like it's probably Melissa.
Speaker 4: You are correct, sir, So you're intentionally ghosting her.
Speaker 7: I don't know if I would use the word ghosting.
Speaker 7: I kind of yeah. I did put some space there
Speaker 7: and then call her.
Speaker 4: Do you mind telling us why she wants to know? Oh?
Speaker 7: Man, it's kind of complex. I feel like when people
Speaker 7: want to get together that they should have a clean
Speaker 7: space for each other.
Speaker 6: You know what I mean?
Speaker 4: Please space?
Speaker 6: So she's she's got a whole situation going on with her. Really,
Speaker 6: I don't know if she's if she lives with her
Speaker 6: she has, if she had a kid. I always say
Speaker 6: this without putting any story in.
Speaker 7: So we we stay stayed together at my place, and
Speaker 7: it was like in the morning, I'm half asleep because
Speaker 7: we you know, we have some drinks. We had a
Speaker 7: good time, and her phone's going off but constantly, and
Speaker 7: I'm and I'm like, is that my phone? No? No, no, Oh,
Speaker 7: it's hers, okay, and you know, she's texting and doing whatever,
Speaker 7: and then she picks up the phone. She thinks I'm asleep,
Speaker 7: I'm sure, and she's like whispering, but she's like she
Speaker 7: sounds really tense, like someone's barking at her on the phone,
Speaker 7: and I hear her saying like, oh, no, no, no, I
Speaker 7: have too much to drink, so I'm staying at her
Speaker 7: friend's house.
Speaker 6: I'll be home soon.
Speaker 7: And I was like, like what, And then before she
Speaker 7: hangs up, I could hear it be like you two,
Speaker 7: which to me was like somebody just said I love you, right,
Speaker 7: And so I'm standing there like like what up.
Speaker 6: I don't know if I can come.
Speaker 7: From the radio, but like, you know, waiting for her
Speaker 7: to maybe tell me something. And then she chance to
Speaker 7: get home to her kid, which, okay, you have a kid.
Speaker 7: I don't know why you're telling me now, and you
Speaker 7: can tell me earlier, but I mean, it's not going
Speaker 7: to make me ghost you.
Speaker 6: But I'm waiting there for.
Speaker 7: Her to explain further. But then she just leaves, and
Speaker 7: I'm like, is she's going home to my husband and
Speaker 7: I a baby daddy?
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 7: She said something about a baby daddy, like I'm oh,
Speaker 7: I'm so sorry my baby daddy were waking you up
Speaker 7: or whatever. She kind of briefed it out like it
Speaker 7: meant nothing, and I'm like, you're telling me that you're
Speaker 7: answering the phone from your baby daddy. Clearly you're going
Speaker 7: home to him, and that's a whole situation.
Speaker 5: Though.
Speaker 6: No, the conversation that.
Speaker 7: She was happy, I couldn't make out exactly what she
Speaker 7: was saying, but clearly there's this guy who's borderline yelling
Speaker 7: at her and she's like, no, I'm sorry, I don't know.
Speaker 7: I just got drunk. I'm staying at her friend's. I'll
Speaker 7: be home soon. I heard her say i'll be home soon.
Speaker 7: That's really messy.
Speaker 6: And I had a.
Speaker 7: Great time with her, and it was a very passionate
Speaker 7: date and we really hit it off. Shockad, Wow, so
Speaker 7: you're getting involved with me. It's so intense, but you
Speaker 7: have a whole situation here.
Speaker 4: Well, thanks for telling us. I appreciate it.
Speaker 2: And now I'll let you know that she's actually on
Speaker 2: the phone listening and wants to stop to you.
Speaker 3: Hi, Austin, Yeah, happy to hear it. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 3: this was my idea to have you on the radio,
Speaker 3: so I wanted to hear your side of the story.
Speaker 3: All I can say is that, yes, my child's father.
Speaker 3: You know, he is still in love with me, and
Speaker 3: I just felt like it's best right now to keep
Speaker 3: him happy while you know, we have our son, so
Speaker 3: I play along, but we are definitely not together.
Speaker 4: So he thinks you're together.
Speaker 6: Yeah, but for our.
Speaker 3: Kids, you know, because we want to have a family
Speaker 3: unit for him, and it's not fair to a kid
Speaker 3: just because we didn't work out that we have a
Speaker 3: divided family, that.
Speaker 4: You're with him. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, like I said, like it's for our kid
Speaker 3: right now, it's a temporary situation until it changes.
Speaker 6: Well listen, listen.
Speaker 7: Obviously, we had a great time and we connect at
Speaker 7: a very deep level physically, We're drawn to each other,
Speaker 7: like I can't even explain it with words. It's very
Speaker 7: noble that you put your child first, but at the
Speaker 7: end of the day, you basically have a boyfriend. He
Speaker 7: thinks that all he has to do is work harder
Speaker 7: to get you if he's not all the way there.
Speaker 7: It is just so dramatic.
Speaker 3: It's like, like, for what it's worth, he knows.
Speaker 7: That that's what you say. That's what you say, And
Speaker 7: with all due respect, men don't.
Speaker 6: See it like that.
Speaker 7: They see it as you're just adjusting and he's going
Speaker 7: to eventually get you.
Speaker 6: And at the end of the day, you know, I know.
Speaker 7: You say you're playing along, but obviously he said I
Speaker 7: love you and you said you too.
Speaker 3: So no matter what you yeah, I do the person I'm.
Speaker 5: Lovely, So that's going to be an awkward thing to hear. Anyway,
Speaker 5: you're laying next to somebody else.
Speaker 7: I think if you clean up your situation, it takes
Speaker 7: a little bit of growing and you make final what
Speaker 7: the relationship is with him, Like if you're not with him,
Speaker 7: he has to know that, and he can't think there's
Speaker 7: a chance and hit me up sometimes. But Melissa, let
Speaker 7: me ask you, what do you do you sleep in
Speaker 7: the same bed.
Speaker 3: With him, Melissa, I'm not gonna lie to you. Yes,
Speaker 3: but it's for our kids.
Speaker 7: Okay, So you have no business even talking to me.
Speaker 7: And that sucks to say because I had a great
Speaker 7: time with you, but you have nobody too.
Speaker 3: I just know that I won't find chemistry like we
Speaker 3: have ever again. And I hate to see that guy
Speaker 3: and I feel like, I you know how to shoot
Speaker 3: my shot? I guess you know. So you know I tried.
Speaker 2: Well, Austin, would you like to go out with and
Speaker 2: Melissa again? We'll pay for it.
Speaker 6: I can't do that right now. I mean, in a year,
Speaker 6: if things change, call me back up, give us a
Speaker 6: free date.
Speaker 3: But right now I respect that, and you know, I'll
Speaker 3: clean up my situation and I hope you don't meet
Speaker 3: someone else, and I'll call you however long it takes.
Speaker 3: You know, I'll circle back.
Speaker 4: Good luck, guys, Thank you.
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